Senior Ethan Sandhu’s mental

face gets hot. I have tingling in my very hard decision to make.” hands and my arms, and it becomes Ethan’s hospitalization was his first hard to catch your breath. It differs experience with mental health treatfrom person to person, but for me, ment. After undergoing a suicide risk I’ll feel a very heavy pressure on my evaluation and a general psychiatric forehead and I’ll need to press my evaluation, he was deemed at risk for forehead against something. I’ll feel suicide and remained in the adoleslike my brain is really rushing and feel cent psychiatric ward of the hospital really irrational. The panic is mainly for three days. thoughts.” “I didn’t have a plan [to commit

Currently, Sandhu receives treat- suicide], but apparently it doesn’t ment in the forms of medication and matter if you have a plan,” Ethan said. professional counseling. He takes “Some people need a plan, but some Cymbalta, a serotonin norepinephrine people can do without one, and they reuptake inhibitor, and also sees a deemed that I wouldn’t necessarily psychiatrist. In the past, he has also need one. When I was hospitalized, I participated in talk therapy with a psychologist. When trying to combat his panic attacks, he utilizes “ Mental health is treatable; it’s definitely possible to be helped. There’s always remember feeling very trapped, feeling like the world was going to keep going and I was going to end up bea common someone willing to help you. hind just from strategy called ETHAN SANDHU | senior missing three grounding. days. I remem-

“If I’m starting to feel panic, I’ll ber being irrationally afraid of what feel something with my hands and was going on outside while I was in focus on the texture,” Sandhu said. the hospital.” “Or I’ll look at myself in the mirror After Ethan’s hospitalization, he and understand the reflection that’s and his family decided that transferhappening. I separate myself from my ring to a new school would be best for ideas for a second and kind of look at Ethan’s mental health. After evalumy ideas as if another person is hav- ating many options, they chose the ing them. I just try to ground myself Ladue School District because of its in the real world for a second, and high level of academics, band prothen I normally calm down.” gram, diversity, Quiz Bowl team and

During Sandhu’s sophomore year, overall welcoming atmosphere. he was hospitalized due to high risk “He can’t pick that back up; the of suicide. Attending Eureka High friendships from kindergarten, being School in the Rockwood School known, all those things he gained District at the time, this hospitaliza- from having been at the same school tion occurred after a series of events his whole life — that’s of course that took a toll on his mental health. gone,” Ethan’s father Gopi Sandhu He eventually told his mother, Mary said. “But at the same time, I couldn’t Sandhu, that there was a possibility of imagine landing in a better environhim killing himself. ment under these circumstances. We

“When he said ‘I am going to kill don’t know if he would still be with us myself,’ I decided to take him to the had we stayed [at Eureka]. It sounds hospital and have him assessed,’” dramatic, but it truly was for us a life Mary Sandhu said. “We went to the or death decision.” ER and they brought a doctor to eval- Since transferring to Ladue, Ethan uate him. The doctor said ‘I feel like has gotten involved with the Student he is very impulsive and very high risk Action for a Greener Earth Club. for suicide so I would suggest that he This club, along with his teachers, stay for further evaluation.’ However, friends and other extracurriculars, has [bringing him to the hospital] was a allowed Ethan to feel a sense of belonging. This community has helped Ethan feel more open to sharing about his mental health.

“I think there’s a lot to say about change of scene and what it can do for you,” Ethan said. “If your surroundings make you feel unhappy, you’re going to be unhappy. Specifically moving to Ladue has been beneficial because Ladue doesn’t really have as much stigma around mental health as Eureka did. I’ve felt more comfortable talking about it; I didn’t feel like an outsider.”

At Ladue, Ethan consistently works with guidance counselor Susan Ashby to ensure his health and safety at school. During the shift to online school last semester, Ethan felt overwhelmed by the change in learning style. Ashby helped him stay organized in the virtual school environment and showed him how to utilize the distance learning hub.

“[Mental health] is a personal journey that you have to reach through trial and error because no one is the same,” Ashby said. “We all have our own lens and our own way of reacting to things. There is no magic solution for anxiety or depression, it is a combination of finding what works for you and not being afraid to try something different if it doesn’t work.”

Ethan feels that in society, the mental health stigma is beginning to lessen. He believes that if people continue to spread love, be more reassuring to their friends and family and encourage others to remain hopeful, society will continue to move forward in terms of mental health acceptance and care. In his personal future, he hopes to eventually be able to treat his own mental health with little to no medication and to continue to understand his feelings.

“It’s not so much that my mental health itself has improved, it’s that I’ve gotten better at dealing with it,” Ethan said. “I know when to think what, when to stop a thought versus keep thinking about it, stuff like that. It’s obviously a learning process — I’m still figuring it out. It’s more about learning who you are and how your feelings work.” p

FAMILY CONNECTIONS

Teachers discuss what it’s like to have family members in the high school

RYAN TUNG

features staff

Panorama: Who are you related to in the high school? Shruti Upadhyay: My kids are Akash, who is a senior, and Meera, who is a sophomore. o t o cour tesy of Shruti Upadhyay Q: Do you ever run into your kids in school? A: Occasionally, [but] they usually try to steer clear of me in the hallways. They’ll purposely go to another hallway to avoid my room because they know where I am. But, when they need snacks or money, they find my room pretty well. Q: Do you think they enjoy going to school with you? A: I think they’d prefer to not be at school with me. It’s more embarrassing for P h Akash than it is for Meera, but I think they’ve gotten used to it. When they were

THE UPADHYAYS younger they thought it was cool that I was teaching, but now not so much. Q: Do you ever try to embarrass your kids? A: I absolutely try to embarrass them. Last year, I taught freshmen and juniors when Meera was a freshman and Akash was a junior. All of their friends were in my classes and I would talk about them. When I came home, [my kids] were like, “Mom did you really say that in class?” I absolutely Panorama: Who are you related Panorama: Who are you related did. It’s fun to embarrass them. illustration by | JOANNE SUNG Photo by Lauren P e s c e THE BARTON-GUTCHEWSKYS Photo courtesy of Cecilia W at e r s o n THE WATERSONS to in the high school? to in the high school? Kimberly Gutchewsky: Science teacher Sarah Theodore Waterson: My daughter, Cecilia Barton is my cousin. My stepmom is sisters with Waterson, goes to the high school. her mother. Q: Do you ever run into her during Q: How did you both find a job at the day? the high school? A: When she was a sophomore, we came to A: Mrs. Barton’s dad used to work at Ladue and school together, but last year she drove herself. so did her mother. Mrs. Barton actually went She comes into my room to eat lunch and works to Ladue, so she knew about the school, but I here during seminar. Its always great to see her, started working here first. Ladue just has a great but this semester she’s staying virtual. reputation, [so] I applied here after I had been Q: Do you enjoy going to school teaching somewhere else for a while. with each other? Q: Do you see each other often? A: Yes. It was tough at first, but I think we both A: Sadly, we don’t see each other in school at all matured, especially now where it’s close to the and I only see her about once a year. end [of high school] for her. There have been Q: How has having family in school struggles and stress — I might almost miss that, affected your life? but I’m glad she’s moving on. A: Family in the school doesn’t really affect me. Q: What’s the best part about going My husband is actually the principal of Clayton, to school with your child? so I have a lot more conversations about A: The best thing is being there and being able education at home and with family because he’s to see her, know her teachers and know her in the field. But, Mrs. Barton and I never meet schedule. She feels comfortable asking me for to specifically talk about work or school. help, which means a lot to me.