Getting Ready for Valentine’s Day

Getting Ready for

Valentine’s Day

Here it comes again, that special day in February when we focus on really getting to know the one we love and bringing our best selves forward to connect with them and win their hearts. If you’re a fan of the romantic comedy Groundhog Day, you might say that it is February 2, when a groundhog spotting its shadow allegedly predicts the remaining length of winter. Meanwhile, caught in a curious time-loop, Bill Murray’s character, the cantankerous Phil Connors, lives the same day over and over again until he learns the lessons he needs to learn to win the love of the beautiful and sweet-tempered Rita Hansen (Andie MacDowell).

There is another February holiday for love, though, and it only comes once a year. Fortunately, you can plan ahead to make sure February 14, Valentine’s Day, is a fun, memorable day. No need for any interruptions in the time-space continuum. Whether you are trying to impress a new partner or prospect or celebrating a love that has endured for decades, look at Valentines Day as an opportunity for fun, self-expression, and growing closer through communication.

Let’s start with that communication. There is nothing like asking your loved one “what would you like?” or “how about we do this..?” Studies have shown that as much as many people say they like surprises, at least in terms of gifts, they are most satisfied when they get something they have asked for. And since we are not in a Groundhog Day loop where we can slowly accrue the knowledge, it helps to ask. In a brand new relationship, just mentioning the day ahead of time and casually asking whether you would like to exchange gifts, can avoid misguided efforts and disappointment.

But if it’s clear you both want to make a real event out of the day, start thinking about it early. Here is a suggested countdown checklist:

BY » Peter Eisenhauer

book it now. If it’s going to be a night out on the town, make reservations early. If you are free during the day, consider a walk in a lakeside park or nature reserve, or a relaxed stroll through downtown Davidson. If its dinner in, clear up and decorate the house in advance. Think about flowers, bunting, candles. And don’t forget atmosphere - you will want a playlist of romantic music to enjoy as your prepare and enjoy your meal, and for dancing.

9. Build anticipation. Let the object of your affections know that you are looking forward to the celebration. Leave messages on their devices, leave “sweet nothing” notes around the house and in the car, in a bag, toolbox, anyplace they might be surprised to find them.

8. Surprise them with a nice gift.

You know, or you will find out, a favorite perfume or cologne. Or you will find some nice jewelry or an accessory they would love. Or book a trip to a spa (this could be a destination for you both, or an indulgence to be enjoyed later). Practical gifts are not out of line, either, if they are tied to a meaningful activity or passion. Gardening tools and hiking boots could be romantic.

7. Think about creating experiences

and memories. Some will say that 2022 is extremely special because for the first time ever the Super Bowl is taking place the day before Valentine’s Day. Whichever event you are more excited about, let it inform your planning — football and love both deserve celebration. Look into other events around that weekend that could make the time special. For example, concerts in mid-February in Charlotte this year include big names from classical to jazz and pop: Andrea Bocelli, Pat Metheny, The Weeknd, Black Violin, and Dua Lipa.

6. Say it! Yes, you are going to buy or make a nice card in advance of the day. Inside, though, or separately, you will need some words of your own to express your feelings. Now, can you borrow a line or two from an existing poem or love song? Yes, you can. There is no shame in drawing inspiration from, say John Legend’s “All of Me” or The Bangles “Eternal Flame.” William Shakespeare had some good lines, too. But every love has its own story to tell. The process of composing your love letter, or poem, or song, will help you get into that romantic mood.

5. Be prepared. Shop ahead for the ingredients for that special dinner. Decide what you are going to wear. That special gift - have it wrapped and hidden, but available for when you want to present it.

4. Be romantic! Even if, especially if there are some strains in the relationship, take this time to renew those loving habits of kindness, consideration and affection. ComplimentsAlso, celebrate memories you have of past celebrations together. Bring out your favorite photos of yourselves together. If so moved, share some ‘throwbacks’ online with friends #stillinlove.

3. Cover the traditional basics. Some people have allergies, some people think chocolates and flowers are a cliche. But they work for a lot of us. Be sure to order the flowers early whether you are picking them up or having them delivered. If possible, visit your local florist or gift shop in person to make selections and get expert advice and little extras you might not think of otherwise.

2. Celebrate the whole day. You may have work or other commitments during the day, but look for ways to connect as early as possible and as late. Don’t leave out that first “Happy Valentine’s Day!” in the morning, or the last one at night.

1. The point of it all is to have

quality time together. Valentine’s Day can be as simple or as elaborate as you want to make it. If love is all you need, all you need is love.