If Someone You Love Has Breast Cancer

tHERE IS NO WAY TO FULLY UNDERSTAND the thoughts and feelings that whirl through someone’s mind when they hear the words “you have cancer.” In the moment, it may seem selfish to allow yourself to feel your own emotional response—fear, anger, sadness, helplessness—when one of the people you love has just had their entire world turned upside down. You are not helpless though. You have the opportunity to play an important role in supporting your loved one. Here are some suggestions from Komen.org—

RESPECT THEIR BOUNDARIES.

Pay close attention to how your loved one is feeling. It is important to offer your support, but avoid asking too many questions so as not to overwhelm them. Sometimes all they need is for you to keep them in your thoughts and respect their space.

BE A GOOD

LISTENER.

Whether your loved one wants to talk about what they are going through, is looking for a shoulder to cry on, or simply wants to get their mind off of things, it is extremely important that you are there to listen to what they have to say. Lend an ear and pay attention to what they need.

DO SOMETHING NICE FOR THEM.

There are many kind gestures that can go a long way in supporting your loved one and showing them that you care. It can be as simple as accompanying them to their chemotherapy with a game to play or a hand to hold, or surprising them with their favorite food and a movie night!

CREATE A NETWORK OF

SUPPORT.

Help them feel the love! Bring together friends, family, loved ones, and coworkers to create a social network where everyone can stay connected and in the loop with what is going on. The CaringBridge organization offers a free website for friends and family to connect with each other and stay updated, while allowing them to leave encouraging messages and organize events, get-togethers, and other activities.

LOVE THEM UP!

If someone you love has breast cancer, there are many things that you can do to offer your support and show that you are there for them. Perhaps the most important, though, is to love them unconditionally every step of the way, from the moment they tell you about their diagnosis to after their health starts improving. No matter how you decide to get involved or help them through their fight, always remember that simply showing love is the key. w