Spring 2019, "It Takes a Village"

LAKESIDE SPRING | SUMMER 2019

It takes

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village How Lakeside helps parents and guardians build a network of support for their kids

MADE YOU LOOK

ELEANOR K. ’20

CARRYING THE FLAME Last fall, a New York Times contest invited teenagers across the country to reflect on stereotypes about their

generation — and to submit photographs that countered them. “What can you show us from your own life, or the lives of those around you, that might help make the portrait of ‘Gen Z’ more interesting, nuanced, complete, or real?” the organizers asked. Among the entries submitted by nearly 2,200 students was Eleanor K.’s portrait of her Lakeside classmate, Maxine R. ’20, taken at St. James Cathedral in the First Hill neighborhood of Seattle. The image was selected as one of 11 winners posted on the New York Times website. ■

Eleanor’s Artist Statement My generation is believed to have abandoned the old ways. We are the first to grow up on Snapchat and Instagram, but while increased technology has shifted many aspects of our lives, it has not caused us to discard the traditions of our families. In my photograph, a teenage girl is lighting a votive candle in a church. Tradition is tremendously important to the subject of my photograph. My generation lives in a different world than past generations; however, participating in traditions helps merge this gap and bring us together.

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EDITOR’S NOTE

A PARENT’S PERSPECTIVE

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AREY QUAN GELERNTER came up with the big ideas for this issue.

Her approach to the magazine over the past nine years, shaped by a three-decade career as a reporter and editor at The Seattle Times, was marked by a journalist’s eye for timely subjects and a feel for news you can use. Not surprisingly, the themes explored in these pages — involving parenting in a fast-changing world — display both of those traits. And as usual, they are richly connected to Lakeside’s mission, its graduates, and the broader experience of our daily lives.

The working title Carey gave the cover stories, “It Takes a Village,” is associated with the title of then-First Lady Hillary Rodham Clinton’s 1996 book about how communities outside of the family can positively influence the well-being of children; how, in fact, they are necessary. The same title had appeared two years earlier on a children’s book

by Jane Cowen-Fletcher — which was based on an interpretation of a proverb from the West African nation of Benin, where Cowen-Fletcher had served in the Peace Corps: “It takes a village to raise a child.” So the notion itself isn’t new. It’s the context, the new villages influencing our children and providing novel and valuable resources to parents and guardians, that is so fast-changing and ripe for exploring.

Since the middle of winter (including the three weeks in February when Lakeside students were in school for a total of four days, thanks to six snowrelated closures and midwinter break), I’ve spent much of my time finishing the work that Carey had started before her well-deserved retirement.

I bring a slightly different perspective to the exploration, coming primarily from a magazine and book background — and from the Lakeside parent and guardian community. Our son, Virgil, is a 16-year-old junior here.

I look forward to getting to know many of you in the coming months and years. Feel free to drop a line or swing by the basement of Fix Hall. If you have some big ideas of your own about parenting, I’d love to hear them. ■

JIM COLLINS

Editor, Lakeside magazine magazine@lakesideschool.org | 206-440-2706 #Lakesidemagazine

TABLE OF CONTENTS COVER STORY

It Takes a Village ■ In good company 14 ■ Board of advisors 20 Inside Lakeside Head note 2 Your comments 3 Remembering Paul Allen 4 New assistant heads named @ The Downtown School 6 The Internationals 7 Sports 8 Faculty notes 9 Faculty farewells 10 The Centennial 13

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After 36 years of guiding outdoor trips, Chip Mehring leads three veteran faculty members into retirement. (Page 12)

PHOTO BY SKYE MCCAW ’17

Alumni news Hoops game rebounds 26 Beers with Bernie 26 Class Connections 27 Distinguished Alumni Award The Nordic Museum reception SF Bay Area reception 38 New York City reception 39 T.J. Vassar ’68 celebration 40 In memoriam 41 From the archives 46 Calendar 48 ON THE COVER Illustration by Michelle Kumata

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HEAD NOTE

by BERNIE NOE

Thoughts from a village elder

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T IS A COMPLEX and even confusing time to be parents and guard-

ians, whether your children are three years old or 16! Should you be a helicopter parent, hovering around your children and orchestrating the most significant aspects of their lives; or a laissez-faire parent, letting your children make their own choices and mistakes and learn from them? Does social media help your child maintain friendships and build community; or is it a waste of time that weakens their ability to focus? What is good and bad stress for your student, and how do you know the difference when you see it?

Does your child really need to go to a highly selective college to live a happy life? (To the latter, the answer is a definite no, but many will not believe it.)

It indeed takes a village to raise a healthy and centered child, and today’s village is populated by a host of experts who have advice, often conflicting, on every contemporary educational issue. Just recently — and contrary to all previous articles — I read my first article on why helicopter parenting is good for your child. There is a constant stream of advice coming to all of us from online forums, newspaper and magazine articles, parenting books, expert speakers, and consultants. It can be challenging to know whom to listen to and what to believe.

In this issue of the magazine you can read about many of the ways our teachers, coaches, and student support staff members take excellent care of our students and help them navigate the challenges of life and school. Lakeside was evaluated this year by the Northwest Association of Independent Schools and the visiting team’s number one commendation was for “…the wraparound student and family support at Lakeside School that is thoughtful, comprehensive, ever-evolving, and, frankly, stunning.”

Having lived in the Lakeside village for 20 years now, and being one of the village elders, I add my voice to the mix regarding what is best for Lakeside students and children of Lakeside alumni.

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that it can lead to higher standardized test scores, but students are not the sum of their test scores. They are so much more than those numbers, and if we manage all, or most, of the important details of their lives, they will never develop resilience, a growth mindset, or independence of thought and action. Life and work in 2050 will require resilient, flexible, adaptive problem solvers who know how to work collaboratively. Helicopter parenting will not get children ready for that world!

Second, for parents and guardians there is no shortcut for spending time with their students. Parents and guardians just need to

be there when students have something they want to share, and it’s good to have built up a track record of open-minded listening. This sharing may be infrequent, especially for parents of boys, but is critically important when it happens. It is important for students to be grounded in their families, as well as in school and their social life. I realize that as adults we are very busy with work and life, and that family life varies considerably from family to family, but in my observation, there is no substitute for adults’ hours logged with students.

Third, parents, guardians, and schools need to continue to encourage a growth mindset in students rather than a fixed one. We all need to continue to praise effort, not outcome. Praising effort leads students to believe they can and should improve, regardless of how challenging they find a task. A growth mindset is important now and will be even more important in the world of the future, where, according to a recent McKinsey study, half the jobs our students and your children will hold have not yet been created.

And finally, and most important, we all need to continue to stress that living a life of integrity is more important than any other kind of success in life. We want to graduate students who will view it as their responsibility to make the world a better place for others, not to use their considerable talents merely to make their own lives interesting and prosperous.

We all need to stress, both at home and at school, that doing the right thing in all circumstances is the most important task.

Enjoy the spring and summer, everyone. ■

Cordially,

BERNIE NOE

Head of School

YOUR COMMENTS

Judging an issue by its cover

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AM CURIOUS if others found the choice of cover photo for the [Fall 2018] magazine as unsettling as I did.

Consider the people portrayed in the photo. Which of them is associated with Lakeside?

You probably guessed, as I did, the white gentleman lying on the ground of the photo — in which case he is both literally supporting the black gentleman performing acrobatics, while the other looks on. The associated metaphor is deeply concerning, particularly with the historical significance of whites supporting Africans.

This choice of photograph plays into concerns I have about the white savior complex and the global education programs like GSL at Lakeside. I think Lakeside, a school that values itself as open and progressive, is falling into a classic negative stereotype without realizing it, and needs to reevaluate how this cover photo contributes to its image.

This cover might cause people to see the program in a negative and interventionist light.

— Chinmay Nirkhe ’13 GSL Morocco , 2010 Thanks for writing about your concerns. While choosing the cover, we discussed this photo and the ways that people might interpret it, so we appreciate your feedback.

The student featured on the cover is current Lakeside senior Felix L. Felix is a trained acrobat who was invited to join a performance by a troupe of acrobats in Tanzania during a GSL trip last year.

The acrobats were invited by the host community to perform for the students and host families.

The intent of the photo was to show a Lakeside student in a crosscultural conversation, embracing (as the tagline to the issue implies) a new experience for GSL. However, intent does not equal impact.

In discussions around choosing the cover photo, we did discuss exactly your point: Would it evoke neocolonialism and issues around problematic aid policies? For you, and perhaps others, it did.

Discussions about the nature of service, the white savior complex, and voluntourism are ones we regularly have at Lakeside, in the GSL program, and on all GSL trips — among employees, students, and their families. The GSL program continues to adapt and change. You can see more about that in the feature about the changing nature of the global programs at Lakeside.

We welcome your feedback on the cover and the article and encourage others to share their thoughts with us at magazine@lakeside.org.

Head Note, Lecture Series

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PAUL G. ALLEN 1953 – 2018

Mourning Paul GRATITUDE FOR WHAT A REMARKABLE CITIZEN BROUGHT TO THE WORLD — AND TO THIS SCHOOL

by CAREY QUAN GELERNTER

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N THE MORNING of Oct. 16, a day about technology, about real estate, and about after the world learned of the death of a distinctive local culture with international Paul Allen ’71, a hand-lettered “Thank visibility.”

You Paul” sign appeared taped to a brick wall But this school also mourned him for all he of Allen-Gates Hall, above a simple bouquet did for Lakeside, his alma mater. of white daisies. The tribute appeared anonyThe silent tribute that morning at the math mously, which seemed fitting, since it could and science building echoed the letters on signs have come from just about spelling out T-H-A-N-K-S anyone from the Lakeside that students held aloft during community, so widespread the ribbon-cutting ceremony is the gratitude here for Paul at the opening of The Paul G. Allen’s life and contributions.

Allen Athletics Center in 2014.

And it spoke to the keen Funding the center was just one personal connection Lakeof many ways Allen played an siders feel for Allen, who instrumental role in the school’s died in Seattle at age 65 development. He contributed from complications of nonto the construction of AllenHodgkin’s lymphoma.

Gates Hall in 1987. He spent The school community, millions more on upkeep and along with the world, improvements to the building, Thank-you note and daisies: mourned Allen as a transestablishing an endowment that signs of respect on campus. formative technologist has fully funded the school’s and philanthropist. The technology efforts since 2002. ultimate polymath, Paul Gardner Allen went He helped finance the 63,500-square-foot athon, after co-founding Microsoft, to support to letics center that bears his name. All told, Allen a rare degree his wide-ranging passions. He donated more than $23 million to Lakeside. directed more than $2 billion toward nonFollowing the news of Allen’s passing, Head profit groups dedicated to the advancement of School Bernie Noe said, “He’s made the of science, technology, education, the environcity of Seattle a better city. He’s made Lakement, and the arts, notably establishing the side a better school. Generations of Lakeside Allen Institute for Brain Science, the Allen Institute for Artificial Intelligence, and the Museum of Pop Culture; taking ownership of two iconic Northwest sports franchises, the Seattle Seahawks and Portland Trailblazers; and generously donating to causes ranging from combating the Ebola crisis to reducing homelessness. Few individuals have had as big an influence on the city Allen called home. As Margaret O’Mara, a University of Washington history professor, told The New York Times: “He has a definitive role (in creating) what we understand as today’s Seattle, which is 4

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students will benefit from Paul’s generosity, and we are grateful for his commitment.”

With the announcement of Allen’s death, news outlets from around the country reached out to Lakeside to gather impressions, reminiscences and photos.

Of course, there have been steady requests over the years to see the place where Allen’s friendship with Bill Gates ’73 led to the founding of Microsoft in 1975, including a stop at the display case the school maintains that celebrates the birth of the software industry with photographs of young Allen and Gates, highlighting the seminal work they did on the school’s Teletype machine.

As Noe told a reporter from KING 5, Seattle’s NBC-affiliated television station, “Paul said they in effect started Microsoft here.”

In a statement released upon Allen’s death, Gates said, “I am heartbroken by the passing of one of my oldest and dearest friends, Paul Allen. From our early days together at Lakeside School, through our partnership in the creation of Microsoft, to some of our joint philanthropic projects over the years, Paul was a true partner and dear friend. Personal computing would not have existed without him.”

Tributes poured in from myriad nonprofits and institutions that benefited from Allen’s largesse, and from civic, political, and business leaders from the city, nation, and around the globe, reflecting on all that his patronage has meant to their institutions and the world. Buildings and landmarks across Seattle were lit up in blue in a coordinated display to honor him.

In a statement shared with the Lakeside community, Noe wrapped up a simple appreciation with these words: “Like everyone in Seattle, and around the world, we will miss Paul and all that he did for so many others. We are so very proud to call him an alumnus of the school.” ■ Read more about Paul Allen’s Lakeside history from the archives, Page 46.

PAM WOODROFFE

Paul Allen ’71 and Bill Gates ’73 pose with a model of Allen-Gates Hall, 1986.

Allen’s name came f irst, thanks to a coin flip.

INSIDE LAKESIDE

Wilks and Tandon named assistant heads Kyle to lead Maryland school

by AMANDA DARLING

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WO MEMBERS of the school’s administrative team step into new leadership positions while a veteran Lakeside leader takes on the head role at an East Coast independent school.

Booth Kyle, Lakeside’s associate head of school and director of admissions and financial aid, begins his new position this summer as head of school at Indian Creek School in Maryland. Kyle started at Lakeside as director of admissions and financial aid in 2008 and was named assistant head of school in 2013 and associate head three years later. He was instrumental in leading local independent schools to implement a common online application process. Under his leadership, the number of applicants to Lakeside doubled. He led Lakeside’s efforts to fold more costs and fees into tuition as part of the Diversity and Inclusion Initiative, and he recently spearheaded Lakeside’s NWAIS reaccreditation process. In his role as associate head of school, Kyle has overseen Lakeside Athletics, Global

Wilks and Tandon will take on key roles in the restructured leadership of the school.

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Programs, Lakeside Educational Enrichment Program (LEEP), and Summer School Programs. “To each of these areas, he brought vision, dedication, and focus,” noted Lakeside Head of School Bernie Noe. “These programs have become stronger and more effective through the working relationships that Booth has forged with their leaders.”

With Kyle’s departure, Upper School Director Felicia Wilks and Chief Financial Officer Birage Tandon step into new leadership roles at Lakeside. As assistant heads of school, both serve on the senior administrative team and have oversight responsibility for various programs. In addition to her role as Upper School director, Wilks will oversee Lakeside Athletics, Global Programs, and the newly created experiential education program. Tandon’s role as chief financial officer expands to assistant head of school for operations, in which she will oversee all business operations, as well as technology, Summer School Programs, and LEEP. Wilks and Tandon will assume their new duties in July. ■

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IN A NUTSHELL

Lakeside has been fortunate.

Circumstances of leadership, location, vision,

and, frankly, good luck have all conspired to create a truly world-class school in Seattle, one with few peers in the industry. The school has taken full advantage of these extraordinary circumstances and used them to strengthen the school in all of the ways articulated in the mission: strong academic program, commitment to global learning and connection, and a diverse and inclusive campus.”

— from the Northwest Association of Independent Schools reaccreditation team’s executive summary. Following a rigorous self-study and in-depth review by outside educators, Lakeside School received its reaccreditation in February, a designation good for eight years.

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A YEAR IN TWEETS AT THE DOWNTOWN SCHOOL

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ARLY LAST FALL, the head of Lakeside’s new micro-school, Sue Belcher, blogged about the motto for the inaugural year: perpetual beta. “Our team is rethinking school in countless ways,” she wrote. “Perpetual beta allows each of us to try new things, and it creates a sense of safety around risk and failure. ... This is a mindset that we want to embody so that we can model it for our students.”

On social media and blogs, this theme of perpetual beta played out, as did the core aspects of the new school’s vision: that change equals growth, that students define the school, and that learning is joyful. We’ve selected a handful of tweets and quotes from blogs that capture a slice of the learning, growth, and fun of this first year. Find more Twitter and Instagram @dtschoolseattle.

@DTSchoolSeattle What is the Good Life? Students explore the concept in our Opening Intensives. And how do you learn best? Our #foundingcohort is deep in their inquiry! #collaboration #creativity 1:43 PM – 4 Sep 2018 @BCrawfordDTS I have been teaching for nearly twenty years. Of all these, today’s first day was the smoothest ever, for so many reasons… not least of all our wonderful students and my wonderful colleagues! Can’t wait for work tomorrow!

9:26 PM – 4 Sep 2018

@DTSchoolSeattle 14 Dec 2018 Thank you, @elliepeterson for working with our freshmen to explore the intersection of art and story! #adriamgoetz #kidlit #graphicnovel @seattlecenter

@RbnLake You know you’re in a great school when your kid’s answer to “How was school today?” is: “Great. Math blew my mind.” Thx. 6:48 PM – 25 Sep 2018 @DTSchoolSeattle Read a student’s take on what it means when teachers don’t say “no.”

Downtownschoolseattle.org/news/2018/10/1 #studentvoice #schoolculture “No faculty will ever say ‘No’ to a student’s idea to improve the school. ... This is such a simple rule, but the effects on the culture of the school are extraordinary. It empowers students to shape the school in order to make it perfect for them. It is an embracing of the fact that there is always room for improvement … Never have I seen a student body more involved in the school than at The Downtown School ... People understand that the power of change is in their own hands, and this reflects an enormous trust of, and dedication to, the students.”

9:24 PM – 14 Oct 2018 @DTSchoolSeattle At our first student dance, a professional DJ trained our students to run the event entirely

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@DTSchoolSeattle Increased student engagement, less fatigue, and higher overall energy in class and activities — these are just a few of the benefits we have noted at The Downtown School with a start time of 9 a.m.

1:30 PM – 17 Dec 2018 themselves. In this week’s blog post, Sage explains what it took to learn the tricks of the DJ’ing trade. #music #studentlife 11:48 AM – 19 Nov 2018 @DTSchoolSeattle 7 Dec 2018 In this week’s blog post, Marit W. (Class of ’22) explores what adjustment has been like to school in the heart of @CityofSeattle @seattlecenter “The funny thing about having 44 kids in a school is that everything happens quickly.

One person, one little group, could do something, and it’d affect everyone …

Familiarity spread like a wave through these kids and these teachers … I feel like I know these people more than I knew the smudge of faces I’d spent eight years with.”

A limited number of available spots remain at The Downtown School in the 9th, 10th, and 11th grades for the 2019-2020 school year. For more information: downtownschoolseattle.org

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@SueABelcher While Seattle is bracing for #Snowmageddon, @DTSchoolSeattle is beta testing our first virtual day of school!

Leveraging tools like @canvasLMS and allowing students and teachers to work from home. #edchat #perpetualbeta #edtech 7:48 AM – 8 Feb 2019 @AnanyaRabeyaDTS Art intersects mathematics. In Math, they began their journey into ArtEast unit with the study of projective geometry at the Seattle Art Museum Geometry of Perspectives workshop.

Thanks, @iheartSAM for this hands-on experiential learning immersion. #STEAM #DTSchoolSeattle 1:42 PM – 1 Mar 2019 @DTSchoolSeattle What an amazing turnout at last night’s event for admitted students! We had games, hoodies, and great connections… hope to see all this fall!

9:06 AM – 27 Feb 2019

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n any given year,” says veteran math coach Dean Ballard, “there might be 12 kids here who would be the star somewhere else. One or two of our students seem to rise each year to compete at the national level — in good years as many as four or five. But in terms of reaching an international level … I don’t think anyone here has ever seen anything like this.”

INTERNATIONALS

FROM THE CLASS OF ’19, clockwise from front left: Corbin C. (starting outf ielder on the U.S. national team, winner of the 2018 U-18 Pan-American Baseball Championship, Santiago, Las Tablas, and Chitré, Panama). Sanjay R. (silver medalist, 2017 International Physics Olympiad, part of the f ive-member U.S. team that placed eighth out of 86 countries, Yogyakarta, Indonesia).

Bryce T. (International Master; champion, 2017 North American Youth Chess Championships, U-18 Division, Morristown, New Jersey, USA; champion, 2018 North American Youth Chess Championships, Open U-20 division, Baja California, Mexico). Carl S. (individual gold medalist and member of the winning U.S. team, 2019 Romanian Master of Mathematics, Bucharest, Romania).

Colin T. (individual silver medalist and member of the winning U.S. team, 2018 Romanian Master of Mathematics, Bucharest, Romania).

PHOTOGRAPHED BY KATIE M. SIMMONS, MCKAY CHAPEL, MARCH 27, 2019.

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SPORTS ROUNDUP

by MIKE LENGEL

LIONS ENJOY HISTORIC FALL SEASON; WRESTLING REVAMPS

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HEN THE WHISTLE finally sounded on a blustery earlyNovember night, members of the Lakeside girls soccer team sprinted across the field to each other in celebration: After a hard-earned 2-0 win over rival Seattle Preparatory School, they were, for the first time since 2007, Metro League champions.

Their win put the finishing touch on one of the most successful fall seasons in Lakeside athletics history. Joining them atop the Metro League were Lakeside’s boys crosscountry team, boys golf team, and girls swim and dive team — and numerous individual champions.

Sanjay R. ’19, Declan O. ’19, and Fred L. ’20 all finished among the top 10 racers at the Metro League cross-country championship, helping clinch the team title and leading eight other Lakeside runners on to the Sea-King District 2 championship meet, which they would also win. The girls team finished ninth in the Metro League.

Danny T. ’19 outlasted teammate Stephen D. ’20 in a playoff hole to win the Metro League individual golf title, securing enough points to seal the boys team championship. They would also share the Sea-King District 2 team title, with Mercer Island.

The girls team took third place in the Metro League. The Washington Interscholastic Activities Association (WIAA) state championship tournament will be held on May 21 and 22.

The girls swim and dive team won an unprecedented fifth consecutive Metro League team title, highlighted by an epic performance by junior Nathalie Valdman, who took home individual titles in the 200 freestyle and 100 freestyle events, as well as swimming anchor on the 200- and 400-free championship relay groups. The girls would finish second in the Sea-King District 2 meet, and second in the state.

The volleyball team finished in fourth place in the Metro League before edging out Eastside Catholic for the Sea-King District 2 title and finishing as state runners-up.

Volleyball Program Head and Head Varsity Coach Jeff Kim was picked as the Metro League Coach of the Year, and senior Maddie R. was named Metro League Most Valuable Player. Maddie joined teammates 8

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Members of the girls soccer team celebrate with the Metro League trophy after a 2-0 upset victory over rival Seattle Preparatory School. Lakeside teams won four Metro titles in the fall.

Alena K. ’21 and Reilly P. ’19 on the Washington State Volleyball Coaches Association’s All-State Team.

When the winter season rolled around, seniors Wren H. and Angela T. were charged with leading a revamped Lions wrestling team that had seen a dramatic 12-person increase to its roster. In past years, small roster sizes had forced the team to forfeit numerous matches.

Not this year. First, the Lions outlasted Roosevelt, 39-32, Lakeside’s first team win in five seasons. Then they took down Eastside Catholic. Then Garfield, then Bishop Blanchet. Finally, the Lions sent six wrestlers (Sam P. ’20, Bryent T. ’20, Harper M. ’20, Angela

On her way to one of four individual titles, junior Nathalie V. ’20 powers through the 100-meter freestyle at the Metro League swim and dive championships.

T. ’19, Wren H. ’19, and Bonnie Y. ’21) to the WIAA state tournament, the most in program history.

Girls basketball made an appearance in the first round of the Sea-King District 2 playoffs under new Program Head and Head Varsity Coach Mia Augustavo-Fisher, while the boys basketball’s season came to a surprising end after the regular season when winter weather canceled the Metro League playoffs.

Boys swim and dive took second in the Metro League, and sixth in the state.

The Athletics Department hosted its first-ever Pride Night to honor Lakeside’s LGBTQ+ community during a boys and girls JV and varsity basketball quadruple-header against Franklin High School. “The event was just one step in the work this department is doing to ensure that every person who is a part of Lakeside Athletics feels supported, empowered, and included,” wrote Director of Athletics Chris Hartley.

Finally, high marks of a different kind: the football team won the WIAA’s Academic State Championship with a team grade-pointaverage of 3.516, and boys and girls wrestling, with grade-point averages of 3.668 and 3.931, respectively, won the same honor. ■ Mike Lengel is the assistant director of athletics at Lakeside School.

Reach him at athleticsdept@lakesideschool.org.

Andrew Krus conducts a performance of the Upper School symphony orchestra.

FALL AND WINTER HIGHLIGHTS Fall Sports Boys XC – Metro champs • Sanjay R. ’19, 2nd place Metro individual Volleyball – 4th place Metro, district champs • Jeff Kim, Coach of the Year • Maddie R. ’19. Metro League MVP • Alena K. ’21, Reilly P. ’19, Maddie R. ’19: All-state team • Maddie R. ’19, 2018 Star Times team Boys golf – Metro champs, coSea-King District 2 champs • Danny T. ’19 Metro individual champ (over Stephen D. ’20) Girls swim – Metro champs, district runner up • 200 Med relay (Allison S. ’21, Insley C. ’21, Mackenzie M. ’22, Isabel C. ’19): 1:45.81, district record Girls soccer – Metro champs Football – Academic state champs (3.516 GPA)

Winter Sports Girls basketball – District appearance Boys basketball – Sportsmanship award Wrestling – 6 wrestlers qualified for state championships • Wren H. ’19, school record 50 career pins • Academic state champs: boys (3.668 GPA), girls (3.931 GPA) Boys swim – 2nd in Metro 1st Pride Night

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FACULTY NOTES News and sightings from outside the classroom An article by Upper School science teacher Mike Town appeared in the October 2018 issue of The Avalanche Review, a journal serving the avalanche safety, education, and research community. Drawing from lessons and observations in his upper-level Advanced Physics elective, Town detailed the process of background research, computational modeling, and field work his students complete during the four-month-long unit. Studying avalanches, Town writes, is a regionally relevant way of “finding access points to important physics and engineering learning goals like motion, forces, shear, stress, evidencebased decision-making, design process, and collaboration.”

Andrew Krus, Lakeside’s director of performing and visual arts, has been named to the board of directors of Seattle Youth Symphony Orchestra.

SYSO, founded in 1942, serves nearly 2,000 diverse student-aged musicians each year through five orchestras, two summer festival programs, and extensive partnerships with local public schools. It’s the largest youth orchestra training program in the United States.

Upper School Librarian Heather Hersey has co-authored a new guide for teachers entitled “Letting Go: How to Give Your Students Control Over Their Learning in the English Classroom.”

Published by the National Council of Teachers

of English, the book is a practical resource filled with strategies on how to shift more ownership of the learning process to students. Based on the Inquiry Learning Plan, “Letting Go” offers a blueprint for the sometimes messy, sometimes scary, often exhilarating approach to letting students engineer their own goals and create meaningful, authentic self-assessments. Hersey team-taught American Literature classes in 2010 and 2011 using the Inquiry Learning Plan. Since then, she has made presentations at state and national conferences on the evolving role of the teacher-librarian as learning specialists in student-driven classrooms.

Among the handful of faculty and staff members appearing on local and regional stages this year was our always-busy maintenance foreman Rob Burgess, who starred in three shows: ACT’s “A Christmas Carol” and “Uncle Vanya” and the Village Theatre production of “The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time.” ■

Rob Burgess, in the role of Telegin in ACT’s Uncle Vanya.

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INSIDE LAKESIDE

by JIM COLLINS

LIONS OF THE FACULTY When Tom Doelger, Bob Henry, and Chip Mehring retire from Lakeside at the close of the school year, more than a hundred years of collective history and school memories will go with them.

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Tom Doelger English Teacher | 1985-2019

2014 Willard J. Wright ’32 Distinguished Service Award

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N 1985, restless in his duties at his East Coast boarding school, Tom Doelger fetched up at Lakeside for what he expected to be a one-year sabbatical. “I was dismayed to discover that Lakeside was located beside an interstate highway rather than a lake,” Doelger later recalled. “But at the same time, I was delighted that my responsibilities no longer included running a dormitory. More delightful still: the mountains! The Pacific! The lakes! And most delightful of all: the wonderful student body.”

He received an extension to stay on a year longer — which turned into a decision to stay.

Over three and a half decades, Tom Doelger — skier, sailor, storyteller extraordinaire — became a towering figure among Lakeside’s faculty, both in the English classroom and as a mentor to students and colleagues alike. He taught across all four grades of the Upper School, routinely teaching courses (American Cultural Studies, Modernism) that were oversubscribed.

He became famous for his idiosyncrasies. He picked from his collection of autos each day, depending on his mood, wheeling onto campus in his vintage Chevrolet Woodie station wagon,

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ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN Tom’s friend understands that it isn’t the stories that make the teacher; it is the man who tells them, who laughs along with his students, and who radiates a rare quality of being. I don’t know what this quality of being is, exactly. But if I had to name it, I don’t think I would be far off if I said that it is a kind of grace. Tom’s grace, seen in the lines of his beautiful sport cars and in the connected turns of his expert skiing, seen in his smile and in his eyes, makes his stories arc and shimmer as his words move from contemplating art to contemplating wisdom. Somehow, because of who he is, Tom makes his listeners become better than they were — and that is the rarest form of teaching that I know.

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or his Porsche Boxster, or his 2008 BMW 335xi.

During his final year of teaching, his collection of navy blue blazers stood at 21, all but one of them purchased at the Edmonds Goodwill on a Monday Tag Sale day for the price of $1.79.

A few years ago, students in his 9th grade class got together and bought a blue blazer at the Bellevue Goodwill — the Tag Sale day rubric was followed — and presented it to Mr. Doelger, the lining signed in white ink by each student.

He delivered the eulogy at the 1990 memorial of longtime Lakeside Head of School Dan Ayrault. Twenty graduating classes elected him to be the faculty speaker at their baccalaureate service. He led Lakeside students on memorable — many would later say life-changing — trips to the Soviet Union, Germany, Peru, the coastal mountains of the Pacific Northwest, and on the Green River of Utah, where he co-led Lakeside’s intensive three-week “Quest” outdoor trip 11 times.

David Joneschild ’90 wrote about Mr. Doelger in the essay portion of his application to Duke University, when prompted to “reflect on a personal hero.” Two decades after graduating,

Terry Kegel ’99 can still recall Mr. Doelger’s closing words from the 1999 baccalaureate address: “Never presume that you are superior.

We are all in the river together.”

Former student Collin Jackson ’00 says, “Tom treated me as an equal and motivated me to put in my best work. He was, I felt, keenly aware of my human flaws, yet he had faith that I could overcome them and leave the universe better than when I had found it. I will spend the rest of my life trying to prove him right.”

In 2009, Doelger published a collection of his talks and essays in a volume entitled “On Occasion: Tom Doelger Speaks.” On the website where he made the book available, testimonials appear from 40 different students across three decades. Reflecting the feelings of generations of Lakeside students, Martha Brockenbrough ’88 wrote, “Mr. Doelger ushered us off to our futures, arming us with courage, prudence, attentiveness, and hope. He has also stayed with us as a friend, dancing at our weddings, holding our babies, comforting us in times of grief. All lives should be illuminated with such light. I’m deeply grateful to have had the privilege.” ■

Bob Henry History Teacher | 1988-2019

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EFORE BECOMING a teacher, Bob Henry worked in construction, book selling, and radio and television production. But he had also worked on various diversity initiatives with Harry Finks, Lakeside’s Middle School director back in the 1980s and a national leader in the private school diversity movement. Finks knew the real deal when he saw it. Henry had a view of education formed by personal experiences in 1960s Seattle, when his family moved from the Central District to the city’s south side, and Bob found himself integrating a white public middle school. He learned to internalize the scrutiny of skepticism, the burden of expectation. He converted the responsibility he felt into a striving for academic excellence, and excelled. Finks hired Henry as Lakeside’s diversity coordinator — and to teach not only history but about humanity and the value of hard work.

Mr. Henry taught in the Middle School for 19 years before moving to the Upper School in the fall of 2007. He taught for seven summers in the Lakeside Education Enrichment Program (LEEP) Among his most cherished Lakeside memories are the warm summer evenings at the end of the program when proud families gathered in St. Nicholas auditorium to watch their children be recognized and honored.

People of all ages were in for a ride in his presence. Colleagues called him “Bat Man” for his love of gadgets and how he wheeled into campus on his motorcycle or his electric bike. He mixed humor and philosophy

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in his teaching, urging students to grapple with their concerns about their world and their country. “Why else do we call it The Modern World and YOU?” he’d ask them.

“Why do I call it United States History and YOU?” In his end-of-class parties and on Friday mornings in Red Square, Henry introduced legions of young people to Motown and Latin pop and to dance moves they never imagined a teacher pulling off.

He took over the Middle School lunchroom cleanup and, as an impressed Middle School math teacher observed, “… hapless children were drawn into his relentless tractor beam of exacting standards of how the tables were to be wiped and lined up, how the chairs were to be arranged, how the plates were to be stacked. You could hear the kids reciting his mnemonic slogans, invented to keep their minds on their task: ‘Able the table!’

‘Style the pile!’ ” Leading Middle School hikes, he learned the tides and terrain ahead of time. He walked alongside his students, cheering up the tired ones, helping when appropriate and standing back when he knew students could meet some challenge on their own.

His hike-leading was like his teaching: committed, cheerfully demanding, and wise in the ways of how people learn.

In June, along with Chip Mehring and Paul Allen ’71, Bob Henry will be awarded the Willard J. Wright ’32 Distinguished Service Award. ■ Continued on next page ➢

WHEN I WAS ASSIGNED to work with Mr. Henry, I was excited because I knew how much being a LEEP teacher meant to him, and I knew how many hours he poured into the job during the summer.

One of our first tasks was to set up the classroom. What stuck out to me was how he set up his desk and the room and how he made it all feel like home: plants, a full bulletin board with cool stuff, a lamp on his desk, a CD player with nice background music playing. He gave so much thought to it. I remember he said that the classroom environment mattered, and it needed to be a place that felt like home. When I took my first teaching job in Chicago, the first thing I did was make my classroom our home.

The strong belief that all kids should have access to an incredible education, the importance of pushing people to dream big, holding people accountable, setting high expectations, not judging anyone based on their backgrounds or their experience, listening with an open heart and mind — those are all things I learned from Mr. Henry through conversation and by watching him in motion. I credit him with being one of the people who inspired me to dedicate my life to young people and making the world around me better. His modeling and mentoring set the foundation.

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Chip Mehring Outdoor Program Coordinator | 1984-2019

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N APRIL OF 1984, Chip Mehring finished his season as a Colorado ski instructor, packed up his pickup truck, and got on the road. He drove straight to Lakeside, where he immediately planned, purchased, and packed 21 days’ worth of food for 10 students and two leaders, overloaded the roof rack of a 15-passenger van, and drove off to meet the cohort of Quest students in Salt Lake City. In April 2019, he planned, purchased, and packed 19 days’ worth of food for 10 students and two leaders, loaded the van, and made that

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drive to Salt Lake for the 36th and final time.

Those annual spring trips showed how physical challenge, group bonding, stunning geography, and personal discovery could not only fit into a liberal arts education but also define one. Scores of Lakeside graduates consider it the most powerful experience they had in high school. The trip became the signature of Lakeside’s Outdoor Program — and of Chip Mehring’s steady hand.

Over 36 years, Mehring planned and led not only the Quest trip, but hundreds of trips far beyond

FINALLY, THE EIGHT DAYS of wilderness were over. Eight days of being caked in saltwater residue; eight days of no showers, cold rain, and lots of bugs. Turns out mosquitos love beaches! But also, it was a week of islands blanketed in sea stars, brilliant sun glinting off crystalline waters, and whales. The week went by incredibly quickly.

Every day we spent in those kayaks, I had the same experience as the first day. One moment I was double-checking for spiders before stepping into the kayak, the next we were climbing into our tents for the night.

Time vanished and I really enjoyed myself.

Today, I feel the same way. Where has time gone? I don’t know. And for that, I am so thankful. It means that I haven’t felt bored. It

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the urban, increasingly electronic lives of Lakeside students. Those experiences, says Mehring, offer crucial opportunities for students to discover who they are.

In her letter nominating Chip Mehring for this year’s Willard J. Wright ’32 Distinguished Service Award, Lakeside colleague Rachel Maiorano wrote, “He has spent literally years of his life sleeping on the ground in the name of showing Lakeside students the wonders of the outdoors, including two full years — 24/7, 108 weeks — on the 36 combined Quest trips alone.

Alumni of his thoroughly planned

means I’ve always had something to do, like paddle to safety; I’ve always had something to think about, like my call to the cosmos to keep the kayak spiders asleep; and I’ve always been mesmerized, like when two whales graced us with their presence.

Because I haven’t been bored, time has flown, as they say. But flown doesn’t seem right.

Time did not go away; it didn’t matter because something else was more important to me than watching the second hand tick. Time ran. Time ran, fetching me memories and experiences that I could not have had without this school. It ran by my side, keeping me in constant motion and urging me on to the next activity.

More and more frequently, we are told to

and meticulously executed program have gone on to be leaders in every field imaginable, including his own. They use the leadership skills he first taught them: collaboration, problemsolving, selflessness, endurance, courage. Whether he was teaching the skills and pleasures of camp cooking, sleeping outdoors, navigating a Utah river or the waters of the Puget Sound, summiting a Cascade volcano, cycling Lopez Island or Nordic skiing, Chip did it all with gusto and an extraordinary attention to the art and science of outdoor education and group dynamics. That he did this with an unparalleled record of safety is unmatched in the industry.”

Following Lakeside graduation ceremonies in June, Mehring will lead a couple of final student trips — as a hired guide, no longer as the head of the program. And then he will take a trip for himself that he has long been waiting for: he’ll paddle across Ross Lake and hike up to the fire lookout on Mount Desolation, where author Jack Kerouac spent 63 days in 1956, a year before coming out with “On the Road.” Looking out over the North Cascade landscape and back over the past 36 years, he’ll enjoy the view. ■

slow down for the moment. I say don’t. Let time run because you are enjoying yourself.

Let it speed by. It only ever does when you are having the best times of your life. I hope that every day you find yourselves looking down at your watches and being astonished by the time. I hope that you are all so captivated by your future experiences that life pulls you along in its current and before you know it, you’ve reached your beach. Along the way, you’ll find places you’ll always remember, people you’ll never forget, and, hey, fingers crossed you’ll see some whales.

—Excerpt from the 2015 commencement address, by Sofia Martins ’15

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The Centennial Lecture Bill Gates ’73, Microsoft co-founder; co-chair, Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation

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HE KICKOFF to the 2019-2020 Lakeside Lecture Series has been tentatively set for Wednesday, October 2, with a special address

by Microsoft co-founder and philanthropist Bill Gates ’73. Helping set the tone for Lakeside’s yearlong centennial celebration, Gates will speak about the transformative experience of his own Lakeside education, the role of liberal learning in an increasingly specialized society, and the extraordinary challenges and opportunities today’s students will encounter in the coming decades. “As we look ahead into the next century,” he has said, “leaders will be those who empower others.”

Gates is well known for his profound understanding of the potential of technology and his deep commitment to the health and education of poor and vulnerable people around the world. A widely sought-after speaker, he is one of the provocative and preeminent thought leaders of our time.

This Dan Ayrault Memorial Lecture, like all of the lectures in the series, will take place at Lakeside School and is free and open to members of the Lakeside community. Visit the series webpage for updates and more information: lakesideschool. org/lectures. ■

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Bill Gates, global lecturer and thought leader, photographed at Élysée Palace, Paris, April 2018.

A CENTURY OF LAKESIDE LAKESIDE WILL CELEBRATE its centennial anniversary throughout the coming 2019-2020 academic year with events and special undertakings. The milestone will be a part of all major events throughout the school year, including experiences for students, current families, and alumni. “We’ll be celebrating Lakeside’s past century and looking ahead to what the next one holds,” says Head of School Bernie Noe. “We hope everyone in our community can join with us in marking this achievement!”

Make note of the following events

• Nov. 23: ROAR auction for current Lakeside parents and guardians.

• Friday, June 12, 2020: All alumni of Lakeside School and St. Nicholas School are invited to the Centennial Reunion Celebration at the end of the school year on the Upper School campus. Classes ending in 0 and 5 will continue their reunion celebration with additional class events that weekend. More information will be released this coming fall.

• Mid-March 2020: Seattle area alumni reception for local alumni.

Watch Lakeside’s website for forthcoming details about additional events.

• Early Sept: Back-to-School Picnic for Lakeside families, faculty, and staff.

• Oct. 2: The Centennial Lecture, featuring Bill Gates ’73, for all members of the Lakeside community.

A history of Lakeside

In collaboration with HistoryLink, we are pleased to announce the publication of “Lakeside’s First Century: A History of Purpose and Progress. ” The history, written by Seattle-based writer Kathrine Beck, looks back at key moments and memorable stories in Lakeside’s first century.

All current students, faculty, staff, alumni board members, and trustees will receive a free copy of the book at the start of the school year, after which copies will be available for sale online through University Book Store, as well as during special events throughout the year. The softcover book will retail for $25.

The fall 2019 issue of Lakeside magazine will serve as a companion to the history, excerpting the book, highlighting Lakeside’s archival treasures, and marking moments that mattered. The spring 2020 issue will look forward to Lakeside’s next century, including the results of Lakeside’s re-envisioning of its educational program that is currently underway.

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in good compa IT STILL TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD — BUT THE VILLAGE HAS CHANGED. IN THE MIDST OF OVERWHELMING AND OFTEN CONFLICTING ADVICE, SCHOOLS LIKE LAKESIDE ARE INCREASINGLY PROVIDING EDUCATION AND SUPPORT FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY. N MY SIX YEARS as an advisor to Upper School students, I’ve regularly found myself sitting across a table from parents and guardians, listening as they reckon with the challenges of raising a mystifying teenager. Becoming a parent myself has given me a deeper understanding of a dilemma of modern child rearing: Many of us are raising our children far from family members and traditional sources of wisdom, yet we have almost-overwhelming access to thousands of didactic websites, podcasts, books, and articles (“50 Easy Ways to Be a Fantastic Parent!”) just seconds away. And we’re raising our children in a technologically saturated culture drastically different from the one in which we were raised.

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admits to looking for advice online and being “buried in opposing opinions … vague parenting articles, and irrelevant forum comments.”

Being highly educated doesn’t lift you above the morass. In an Aug. 17, 2018, New York Times article, “The Costs of Motherhood Are Rising, and Catching Women Off Guard,” author Claire Cain Miller refers to a study that finds that college-educated women, in particular, underestimate the costs of motherhood. “The study … tries to quantify what many parents feel as they struggle with the stress of long, inflexible work hours combined with the demands of STEM classes, screen time rules, college prep, family dinners, and children’s sick days.” Raising children, the study concludes, has become more time intensive, more expensive, and more demanding.

It’s a conundrum we see every day at Lakeside, according to Jamie Asaka ’96, who directs Lakeside’s student and family support program and the equity and inclusion team. “It’s hard for every generation,” says Asaka. “But [in the past] there were no cellphones, no Instagram, no internet — all these ways of being connected that really change the culture. And how to parent with that is hard. There are so many more demands on kids now — to have a passion, to be brilliant in one area.

Colleges are more selective, sports are more selective. ... And then being a teenager is so different today. Even understanding that difference is challenging for parents and guardians.”

Julie Keller Lutton ’03, a counselor at the Upper School whose areas of expertise include adolescent masculinity, recognizes the broader chal-

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lenge of parenting in the internet age. “While technology and access to the internet have been incredible resources,” she says, “they can also lead to an overload of information, whether it is about frightening global events, worrying college admission statistics, or about a social gathering one wasn’t invited to.”

THE SCHOOL AS PARTNER With so many resources and “experts” out there, and with the complexity seeming to grow by the day, where do parents get information and advice that they trust? For many of us, the answer lies with our child’s school. The notion isn’t a new one.

From its earliest days, Lakeside administrators and teachers were thinking about how the then-boarding and day school could partner with parents to raise creative, healthy, and ethical young people. In an essay on the “History, Aims, and Ideals of Moran-Lakeside” published in “Maroon & Gold: Being a Record of the Four Years September 1919 to June 1923,” Lakeside’s founder Frank G. Moran recalled, “The boys that were to be ministered to … [were] just coming into the period of adolescence … and the purpose was to carry them through the danger period where so many boys seem to lose their ideals and their fineness and enter into a period of disintegration morally. ... We had not operated more than a few months before we were asked to open our doors to younger fellows. ... We felt that there were any number of parents ➢

BOARD OF ADVISORS In addition to three alumni who are providing support as part of Lakeside’s student and family support team, these six Lakeside graduates are among many who professionally counsel parents and guardians. See page 20.

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bullying sexuality grief depression suicide family cris finances job loss divorce illness values expectations who did want such a Moran training for a little fellow and we then conceived the idea of choosing a location for a younger boys’ school. This brought about the foundation of Moran-Lakeside, in September 1919.”

How the school worked with parents and guardians changed throughout the decades, moving in a more collaborative direction. In 1973, Head of School Dan Ayrault introduced “a new wrinkle”: twice-yearly Potluck Parleys, the aim of which was “to provide an informal forum for any who would like to join in general discussion about education, raising children, the joys and jolts of adolescence, or wherever else the conversation may range.”

Over the past 15 years, Lakeside moved from casual advice and conversations between teachers and parents to an expansion of formal programs for parents and guardians related to raising young adults. Today’s resources range from facilitated grade-level roundtables and affinity groups to expert lecturers and a formal family support program.

In offering such extensive programming, the school walks a fine line between inserting itself into the child-rearing process and providing much-appreciated advice and support.

As Middle School Director Elaine Schneider Christensen ’82 often says when writing to parents and guardians, “While we cannot mandate what families do on their own time, we hope that you respect the knowledge about [students] that we’ve gained in our years of experience.”

PARENTING PARENTS Lakeside has long been recognized in the community for providing a valuable stream of information about the school’s curriculum and the college admissions process, but over the past few years, lectures and guided conversations about parenting have been gaining in popularity.

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at all the parent peer groups, and it regularly came up in my PGA [Parents and Guardians Association] rep meetings,” she recalls.

The school’s recent work with Making Caring Common (a program developed at the Harvard Graduate School of Education) and Challenge Success (a research-based organization associated with the Stanford Graduate School of Education) had underscored how smartphones and social media can lead to increased anxiety among adolescents. Christensen and Middle School Assistant Director Ted Chen dived further into the research about middle schoolers and smartphones. They talked extensively with students at the Middle School and with fellow educators before deciding to offer a new type of forum, focused on technology and cellphones. The event took place during two consecutive nights — at Lakeside and at Garfield Community Center — and

was exclusively for parents and guardians of sixth graders: a point at which many parents and guardians are deciding whether to get a cellphone for their child and what parameters to put in place around its use. The evenings were informational rather than prescriptive, Christensen underscores. “We are providing a range of options to parents and guardians and asking them to identify what works for their families based on their values and ways of operating.”

The strong positive reaction led to an extension of the series. In the 2018-2019 school year, Christensen and Chen hosted “Let’s Talk About …” sessions on cellphones and social media, on stress, and on grades.

In e-newsletters to parents, Christensen expanded suggestions about how to facilitate “small or all” parties at home and provided prompts for talking about topics such as grades and ethical dilemmas. Other administrators and staff have followed her lead, sharing advice about how to be an excellent parent/guardian to a student-athlete, tips to help students get the most out of breaks, and how to have conversations with kids about tough topics like gun control, religion, and race. (See a selection of these articles at lakesideschool.org/magazine).

In some cases, topical issues have led administrators to proactively address difficult, high-stakes subjects. When “13 Reasons Why” debuted on Netflix in 2017, it sparked national conversations about bullying, grief and loss, rape, and suicide, and was criticized for its graphic nature and for sensationalizing suicide. At schools around the country — including at Lakeside — students discussed it in hallways and lunchrooms. After serious consideration, Jamie Asaka reached out to parents and guardians of Middle School students. “We seldom contact families directly about things like this, but the range of issues, the specificity with which they are presented, and the amount of ‘buzz’ this show is receiving in the student body compelled me to write. ... I would encourage you to use this as an opportunity to talk with

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— LATASIA LANIER ’90 your students about some of the topics this addresses, particularly if they have watched the show and/or are interested [in it].”

In addition to a variety of resources — both at the school and online — Asaka included suggestions and prompts for family discussions. “This is … a good opportunity for you to talk more generally with your student about your family’s rules, guidelines, and expectations with regard to online activity. You should have this conversation at least once a year; as students grow, their needs and interests change. What sort of information are you comfortable with your student sharing online?

What kind of websites, gaming sites, and social media sites are they allowed to access?

What are your expectations with regard to your access to their social media feeds?” Her message was cited by several parents and guardians as being among the most helpful of the year. Asaka learned later that the email was widely forwarded, even outside of the Lakeside community.

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ing,” combined with a newly tight-lipped teen, can sometimes leave parents and guardians feeling confused about what their students might be experiencing. But in the past two years, administrators have increased communication around certain school-related milestones, including back-to-school night, formal dances, and the college admissions process. In each case, communications home to parents and guardians reinforce what students are hearing during school assemblies.

“We let parents and guardians know what we are discussing at school around dances — for instance, about equity and decision-making — so they can join the conversation at home,” says Upper School Director Felicia Wilks.

Similarly, in the fall of 2018 — after a year of increasing questions about the school’s discipline process — Wilks and her colleagues facilitated conversations about Lakeside’s Statement of Community Expectations.

While students listened to administrators and peers discussing the topic in assemblies, more than 50 parents and guardians attended a breakfast with administrators to engage in

— JAMIE ASAKA ’96, MSW, M.ED discussion about community expectations.

Subjects ranged from sensitivity about posting social material online to academic stress and the temptation to cheat. The school subsequently shared information from that event — as well as the speeches about community expectations that students heard at assemblies — in the monthly email newsletter “Inside Lakeside.”

Wilks uses her own experience as a parent of teens to introduce topics during meetings and events. She says, “It’s my way of saying, ‘I’m in it, too!’ ” Parents and guardians often approach her after speeches that touch on their struggles, whether it’s getting kids to get enough sleep or coping with a child going off to college. “No matter how much you read and hear, it is still hard to navigate your own student’s adolescence.”

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brain science emotional IQ loneliness autism dyslexi bulimia anxiety identity inclusion ethical decisions it i hard to be a parent and guardian today you are not alon Learning trips offer recommendations on vaccinations and packing lists. The education provided by Lakeside is not simply for scholars, but for the whole person. Not only for students in school, but for children at home, as well.

PEER LEARNING AT THE PARENT LEVEL As parents, we regularly ask ourselves: Is this normal? Are anyone else’s kids doing this? Should I be worried? Talking with parents and guardians who are dealing with similar worries is key to figuring out the puzzle. Recognizing the importance of sharing experiences, Lakeside’s PGA plays an intentional role in bringing people together.

In the past decade, the PGA has offered an increasing number of structured opportunities for parents and guardians to connect and share advice with each other, as well as hear from experts on topics including emotional IQ, avoiding stress and overscheduling, and the brain science of adolescents. Sometimes the school pairs with the PGA to offer programming, such as a well-attended annual lecture about suicide prevention. Many of the school’s resources are drawn from the work of Forefront, a nonprofit affiliated with the University of Washington that advances innovative approaches to suicide prevention through policy change, professional training, campus- and school-based interventions, media outreach, and support for persons affected by suicide.

Parent and guardian roundtable meetings (formerly called “peer groups”) have become more formal over time but share a similar goal: for peers to share questions, problems, concerns, and solutions to noncurricular matters, such as technology usage, dances, parties, dating, trust, discipline, and curfews.

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those who shared an identity. Administered through the PGA and in partnership with Lakeside’s office of equity and inclusion, the groups provide a space in which parents and guardians who themselves identify or who have students who identify with a specific identity can share experiences and provide support. In 2018-2019, the school offered affinity groups for parents and guardians of Black, African American, African, or Afro Caribbean students; parents and guardians of Latino/a or Hispanic students; parents and guardians of Asian American, East Asian, Southeast Asian, South Asian, or Pacific Islander students; same-sex parents and guardians and/or parents and guardians of LGBTQ+ students; and parents and guardians of students with learning differences.

The program has grown steadily, with some 185 parents and guardians currently taking part.

THE STUDENT AND FAMILY SUPPORT PROGRAM At the heart of the school’s efforts to assist parents and guardians is Lakeside’s student and family support program.

Institutional support ranges from advisors — every student at the school has at least one — to the student support team, which includes professional learning specialists and mental-health counselors. Services are free and available to all students and families. In the 2017-2018 school year, nearly three-quarters of the student body accessed the student support program in some way, and 30 percent of Lakeside families worked directly with the family support program, seeking help with a wide range of issues, such as injury and illness, divorce, loss of a job, high levels of student stress, and the ever-present challenges simply related to parenting teenagers.

The family aspect of the program started to take formal shape around 2004, as an outgrowth of the mission focus. Asaka was hired as Lakeside’s first family support liaison, a quarter-time job which soon grew in responsibility and hours. Asaka recalls an initial assumption that increased economic

diversity in the student body would create the need for more family support. The notion proved false as it became clear that families across the income spectrum had wide-ranging needs, if not financial ones. The program grew to provide comprehensive support, because trouble in one area of a student’s life often leads to trouble in another. “Everything overlaps,” says Lutton. “When a family experiences an event, that can impact the student’s academics, their emotional well-being, their friendships, their finances, etc., so that is why we work together to take care of the whole student.”

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ness — those are all aspects of a student’s life and a family’s life. There is a web of connection.”

The profile of the program received a boost in 2014 when Asaka was appointed director of student and family support.

In the newly created administrative role, she oversees teams at both the Upper and Middle schools that provide help to students and families in almost any kind of need — sometimes just lending a sympathetic ear to those on overload from parenting teenagers.

Asaka’s access to top administrators, including Head of School Bernie Noe, helps keep the needs of students and families front and center as school decisions are made. “That’s a big statement the school is making,” she says, “about the importance of the student and family voice at the director level.”

The recent NWAIS reaccreditation report calls out the student and family support program as being among Lakeside’s highlights. “The Visiting Team commends the School for wraparound student and family support that is thoughtful, comprehensive, ever-evolving, and, frankly, stunning.

Embraced institutionally with significant resources, it is recognized and supported as essential for a diverse campus. Services and opportunities for support and connection for families and students are unique, creative, and responsive, as well as readily accessible beyond the campus and the daily schedule.”

The student and family support team has grown to 13 today. Members are integrated with the school in multiple ways, not only as administrators and staff, but as coaches, advisors, parents, and alumni. “We have these preexisting relationships,” remarks Lanier.

“I know from my own experience the times when families might be needing help but might not pick up the phone. ... We have these natural connections that don’t make initiating the conversation feel awkward.”

Asaka emphasizes that challenges can hit at any time. “We try to say to folks: We are working with kids ages 10–18. Over time, it’s really not realistic to expect to NOT have something come up.”

Asaka notes that the Seattle area has many resources, but those can be difficult to access. Lakeside’s team, experienced at navigating the system, can help. “For example, a family is issued a court order; I can pick up the phone and get the information: What does this mean? If a family can’t make a mortgage payment, I can write a grant for families in housing crises. There are lots of

— JULIE KELLER LUTTON ’03 nonprofits able to support families, but it’s hard for families to figure that out in the midst of a crisis.”

The staff work in concert with advisors on both campuses — providing training and resources, answering questions, and offering feedback — leading to a stronger web of support for students and families.

When we sit across the table from a parent or guardian, listening to concerns about something going on with their child, my coadvisor and I draw on all we’ve learned from our colleagues in student and family support — about learning styles, common stressors, resources at Lakeside and elsewhere. But most of all we’re listening, affirming, and letting parents and guardians know that they are not alone. ■ Amanda Darling is Lakeside’s director of communications.

VILLAGE RESOURCES • Current parents and guardians with questions or concerns are encouraged to contact Jamie Asaka and Latasia Lanier in Lakeside’s family support program. Reach them at familysupport@lakesideschool. org or 206-440-2901 or 206-440-2887.

• Visit Lakeside’s parents and guardians webpage (lakesideschool.org/ parentsguardians) to find a link to the student and family support website, which offers useful tools, techniques, and information to enhance student and family wellness.

• Lakeside and St. Nicholas alumni come together to discuss life as parents on the Facebook group, Lakeside alumni affinity: Parenting.

Whether your questions involve planning for a new family, caring for kids of any age, ideas for family activities, or discussions about schooling, it’s a place to share your thoughts and learn from others.

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THE EXTENDED FAMILY OF LAKESIDE ALUMNI INCLUDES MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE DEDICATED TO SUPPORTING CHILDREN AND FAMILIES. IN TIMES OF UNCERTAINTY AND NEED, HERE ARE SIX EXPERTS WHO ARE GOOD FOR A WORD OF ADVICE.

Sitting in a sea of discarded books in Lakewood, Wash., literacy advocate Michael Chiu ’82 secures reading material for low-income and at-risk kids.

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Board of advisors

Michael Chiu ’82 | Founder and Executive Director Chapter2Chapter, North Bend, Wash.

Father of twin 17-year-old girls

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uring a 27-year career as a police officer, including two decades on SWAT and investigation units, Michael Chiu noticed a disturbing pattern in the impoverished and less fortunate homes he entered. “In those houses, apartments, and trailers,” Chiu says, “I stepped over, and stepped on, a lot of things.

There was one thing I never remember stepping over. I never stepped over a children’s book.” Newly retired, Chiu turned his energy toward changing the pattern. He learned that 85 percent of juveniles in the criminal justice system are functionally illiterate, and that two-thirds of 4th graders who are reading below grade level will end up in jail or on welfare. He founded a nonprofit in 2017 to help give the next generation of at-risk children a different story. His organization, Chapter2Chapter, puts age-appropriate books, free of charge, into the homes of underprivileged families across Washington state. It partners with volunteers and other nonprofits to promote youth literacy and basic parenting skills.

• “Nothing is an adequate substitute for one-on-one parent-child interaction. One of the most fundamental things any parent can do is to establish a daily routine of reading aloud to a child.”

• “Start the habit right away with picture books. Read to your children even before they are talking. The foundations of learning: words, sentences, images, structure, completing a task — they’re all there, and they’re all important.”

• “Consciously set aside a quiet time each day to read to each of your young children, and make it enjoyable. Reinforce the association with reading and positive family time. And don’t stop reading once your children are proficient. Have them read to you from books that interest them. It can extend that bonding experience an additional two years or more.”

• “The best general advice I can give is based on my career as a police officer. It applies to any hard situation or conversation.

Spend 15 more seconds listening. Those 15 seconds are where the humanity comes in.” ➢

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A three-month-old baby boy rests easy in the off ice of lactation consultant Emily Pease ’75, right. By this fourth visit with the nursing mom, an issue of slow weight gain has been resolved. At such times, says Pease, especially for young mothers,“One day can feel like a week.”

Emily Pease ’75 | Charge Nurse for Lactation Services Swedish Medical Center’s Lytle Center for Pregnancy and Newborns, Seattle Mother of two daughters, ages 20 and 24

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N 2012, after the release of an anecdotefilled study from Scotland questioned the health benefits of breastfeeding, Emily Pease felt compelled to write an op-ed in The Seattle Times. She wrote: “Breastfeeding may not be the magic cure for all childhood illnesses, but research definitely supports it as a significant contributor to healthier children. While no woman should be judged for her personal decisions, we have a responsibility to provide complete and accurate information, rather than anecdotes, to empower women to make decisions that are best for them, their babies, and their families.”

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2006 and was a speaker at the 2013 opening of the hospital’s Lytle Center for Pregnancy and Newborns. She continues to read widely, attend conferences, and give lectures in community and hospital settings — and give comfort and sound advice to new mothers. “There’s so much bad information out there,” she says. “Conflicting. Misinformed. Outdated. Continual education is the key.”

• “For first-time mothers, the transition from focusing on pregnancy and labor to suddenly having a newborn can be absolutely shocking. In our culture, the very first time that many women have ever held an infant is when they’ve just given birth.

To expecting parents, I’d say: spend some time with new parents. Talk to them. Hold their babies. It will make a difference.”

• “The old grandmother’s advice to sleep when your baby sleeps is

actually good advice.”

• “One day can feel like a week when you’re breastfeeding a newborn. You’re sleep-deprived. Worried. You have no way to keep perspective. Don’t lose hope. Time and growth are on your side — babies are hard-wired to do this. They figure it out.”

• “When you visit a close friend or family member who has just had a baby, remember that your role is to help the mom, not spend time with the baby.

Clean the bathroom. Fold the laundry.

Walk the dog. Be useful. Yes, you can hold the baby — while you’re letting mom finally get a minute to take a shower.”

• “To new moms who have trouble asking for help, do this: Put a checklist of routine chores on the fridge so visitors will know what to do.”

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Hugs are just part of a day’s work for teacher Asha Youmans ’89, here shown greeting a third grader in Seattle’s Bertschi School. The daughter of civil rights activist T.J. Vassar ’68, Youmans was guest teaching during the class’s Seattle history project.

Asha Vassar Youmans ’89 P’16| Elementary School Teacher Bertschi School, Seattle Mother of two adult sons

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SHA YOUMANS followed her father, the pioneering educator and civil rights champion T.J. Vassar ’68, into a career in teaching. She taught in the same low-income public preschool her father had attended. She revived the prekindergarten program at the private Bertschi School in Seattle’s Capitol Hill neighborhood, and oversaw the class for a dozen years. She continues to teach at Bertschi part time, having watched her first class grow up and graduate from high school. “Many Lakeside families have been through my classroom doors and become part of my Bertschi family, from their child’s very first year in school,” she says. “So many Lakeside paths have crossed with mine that it would take a chart to unravel all the connections.” Her first book,

“Tiny Imperfections,” co-authored with Alli Frank, is a young-adult novel that explores themes of race, privilege, and education. It’s scheduled for publication in 2020. “Early education is my passion, my purpose, my jam,” says Youmans.

“Someday I’m going to have my own little schoolhouse, named after my dad.”

• “Trust your child’s teachers as partners. They’re with your kids six hours a day — you need to trust them.”

• “Your little kids are brand-spanking new at this! It’s OK for them to stumble once in a while. They have 12 or 13 more years of school ahead of them.”

• “Do your best. Dare to be wrong!

Learn from your mistakes. Seek out

parents and guardians of older-age kids to get a perspective on what’s ahead of you. You’ll understand that there’s always a new day to try and get things right.”

• “If you want to teach your child about cultural competency, about citizenship, volunteer in a neighborhood that’s different from your own, and take your child with you. If you share the experience of being uncomfortable, then it’s twice the lesson.”

• “Let your kids know that it’s OK to talk about the color of people’s skin. It’s OK to notice. In fact, it’s imperative.”

• “It’s OK to get your kids outside of their comfort zones. In fact, it’s necessary.” ➢ It takes a village

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Dr. Kathy Risse ’89 provides a well-child checkup for one-year-old Wyatt Wedeking. Looking on is Wyatt’s mom, Laura Kirby ’99. Deep family relationships and numerous Lakeside connections are gratifying for Risse, who works in the same place where she was once a patient.

Kathy Akers Risse ’89 |Pediatrician Virginia Mason Sand Point Pediatrics, Seattle Mother of three teenagers

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ATHY AKERS RISSE got her medical degree from the University of Washington School of Medicine. She completed her residency at Seattle Children’s, and became a pediatrician at Virginia Mason Sand Point Pediatrics, the same place she had gone herself as a child growing up in northeast Seattle. When she talks about the importance of community, she acknowledges how special her own deep roots are. “Working where I grew up and went to school,” she says, “has given me a multigenerational set of relationships. The Lakeside connections alone are incredible.” In its April 2018 issue, Seattle Magazine honored Risse as one of the city’s top dozen pediatricians.

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• “Kids don’t come with a user’s manual.

No two are alike, and no two parent-kid combinations are alike. Parents learn what works, and then kids change, and what worked before doesn’t work anymore. Parenting is a winding journey, not a linear progression.”

• “Don’t parent in isolation. Cultivate a sounding board, a place to share knowledge and ideas. Build a community around you. Find support groups for new parents, community center tot times, church groups. Get to know the other adults on the playground. Join the neighborhood babysitting circle. Meet the parents of your kids’ friends. Check out the puberty classes at Children’s

Hospital. Recognize that the community will change over time.”

• “If there’s anything that concerns you about your child’s physical or mental health — anything — remember that there is no such thing as a bad question.

Trust your instincts. Ask your doctor. Tell us what worries you. We would rather hear about things before, not after, they become a big problem.”

• “Enlist your kids in filling out medical forms and answering questions. Get them comfortable about accessing the healthcare system. You’ll be teaching them independence and giving them tools they need to launch into adulthood.” ■

Grieving parents want information, says Dan Benedetti ’01, whose job involves some of life’s hardest and most hopeful conversations.

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A VILLAGE seeing more and more people coming in with deep skepticism and already-formed (often misinformed) opinions.”

• “It’s natural for parents to want to shelter their children from bad news, thinking it will scare them. But most children actually don’t have preconceived fears about things like ‘cancer.’ It’s important to tell them right away that they are sick, and that they will need to be treated to get better.”

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Dan Benedetti ’01| Pediatric Oncologist Monroe Carell Children’s Hospital at Vanderbilt, Nashville, Tenn.

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• “Parents who are scared crave information. I try to caution them to hold off searching the internet for answers, to not get out too far in front of the information we have. But if they must go online, I suggest they start with the patient information on the National Cancer Institute’s website, nci.gov. That’s a fair, reliable source.”

AN BENEDETTI has sweet memories of being a young boy visiting his father’s office at the University of Washington Medical Center and eating jelly beans from a jar on his dad’s desk. Thomas Benedetti was a UW professor in obstetrics and gynecology. Dan’s mom, Jacqueline, taught biostatistics at UW and worked at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center. Maybe medicine was in his blood. He followed his parents to UW, completed his residency training in pediatrics at Seattle Children’s, and later earned a second degree at UW, as well: a master’s in bioethics.

Now married to Kaci Callahan Benedetti ’02,

Dan works in the children’s hospital at Vanderbilt. His academic interests, as his professional bio states,“lie at the intersection of bioethics and pediatric oncology, including complex decision making and conflicts over treatment decisions for pediatric cancer patients.” At work, he wears a Sonics lanyard to remind him of home.

Emily Cherkin ’96 |

bullying, and social skills. She continued educating herself, brought her teaching to other schools, was invited to give talks, and, in 2018, opened a consulting practice. In December that year, she spoke about computer use and screen time with the Lakeside community.

“I’m seeing firsthand the impact of technology being used too heavily or unthoughtfully in JUSTINE WEBSTER so many schools,” she says.“I In addition to working with schools, Cherkin consults with believe now that I’m fighting for families on appropriate and intentional use of technology. my kids’ cognitive future. This is flags to make us all need to pay attention.” the hill I’m going to die on.

• “Whether it’s a school or parents and “I’m not anti-technology. I’m tech-intenguardians, we should all be asking three tional. Requiring sixth graders to turn in their fundamental questions before using essays online? That doesn’t teach much executechnology: What do we gain? What do we tive function.”

Screen time consultant, Seattle Mother of an 11-year-old son and 8-year-old daughter

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URING THE DECADE she taught in middle school at the Seattle Academy of Arts and Sciences, Emily Cherkin witnessed a dramatic shift in adolescent behavior. When she started, a student with a flip phone was an outlier. Ten years later, a school survey found that 96 percent of seventh graders had their own smartphones.“The social dramas that played out on those phones were more pressing to the students than anything I could try and teach them,” says Cherkin.“I thought: ‘This is not going away, and it will drastically affect kids in ways we can’t even imagine. I can’t not address this.’ ” She read everything she could about phone use and social media and digital engagement, talked with researchers just starting to study the subjects, and developed a one-day-a-week curriculum based on screen time, media literacy,

• “The arc across all parenting is the change in where we turn for information. It used to be clergy, grandparents, family doctors, all trusted for their wisdom and expertise. Now, people go to Google and follow it down whatever rabbit holes it leads them. As a result, those of us in the medical field are

• “We don’t have enough long-term research on the subject because this is all so new.

We simply don’t know for sure what the implications are. But there are enough red

• “People who have just heard the most terrible news imaginable need to focus on themselves and their child. A lot of people with good intentions will want to try being there for you and offer their support, not realizing they are adding to your burden.

Pick one trusted friend or relative who you can tell everything to, and have everyone else go to that person for updates. Tell people you will re-engage with them once you’ve gotten some space and can breathe again.” ■

lose? What are we modeling?”

• “Where is our village right now? Should it be online? Do we want our village to be online?” ■ It takes a village

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Max Knight ’18, left, and Will Dickinson ’18 tip off the tournament.

ALUMNI HOOP GAME REBOUNDS

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N JANUARY, after a seven-year hiatus, the alumni basketball tournament returned with some 40 hoopsters battling it out in The Paul G. Allen Athletics Center. Congratulations to tournament champions Max Knight ’18, Mike Padden ’14, Ben Hinthorne ’17, Kallin Spiller ’17, Nic Lane ’10, Sam Fein ’10, and Nick Busto ’11. Shout-outs to Pat Weinstein ’63, the most veteran participant, and tournament director Bruce Bailey ’59 for bringing back the hardwood tradition! ■

Members of the championship team, from left, Max Knight ’18, Nic Lane ’10, Nick Busto ’11, Sam Fein ’10, Ben Hinthorne ’17, Mike Padden ’14, and Kallin Spiller ’17.

BEERS, BERNIE AT THE DOWNTOWN SCHOOL

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N LATE OCTOBER, young alumni from the Classes of 2004 to 2014 joined Head of School Bernie Noe and many Lakeside faculty members for pizza and a brew at The Downtown School: A Lakeside School. Guests toured the classrooms, then gathered for a Lakeside update from Bernie and heard from faculty about their experience at the newly opened school. Alums in attendance expressed surprise at seeing flyers for clubs and an upcoming dance posted around the school — exciting for a school open less than two months. Alumni Board member Michelle Moore Morrison ’02’s photo booth provided memorable photos from the evening.

Learn more about The Downtown School — and inquire about openings for next year’s cohorts — at downtownschoolseattle.org.

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From left: Jessica Cox ’06, Tylie Cramer ’06, Head of School Bernie Noe, Nate Benjamin ’07 (in front), Trustee Brandon Vaughan ’06, Lakeside Spanish teacher Debbie Heath, and Charlie Balter ’06.

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N A FOOTNOTE to Seattle’s history, Windermere Real Estate founder John Jacobi and the University of Washington invited the Soviet Union’s national men’s and women’s crews to Seattle to kick off the 1987 rowing season. That warm Cold War gesture grew into one of the most anticipated events in the city’s year — and one of most prestigious international regattas in rowing. Hosted by the University of Washington Huskies, the Windermere Cup has become an annual showcase of the finest collegiate programs and crews from around the world.

Since 1988, the first-Saturday-in-May tradition has been heralded by posters created by local artists. For the Windermere Cup 2019 poster, organizers turned to Lakeside graduate David O. Smith ’04. The choice proved a natural fit. Smith had learned the sport at Lakeside and gone on to row at Dartmouth and on the U.S. national team. He was part of a lightweight eight that won a bronze medal at the 2015 World Rowing Championships in Aiguebelette, France. Even as he earned a master’s degree from Harvard in landscape architecture, even

ART BY DAVID O. SMITH ’04 davidosmithartist.com

as he performed as lead singer with The Blades (made up of members of Cambridge’s Riverside Boat Club, it’s the self-proclaimed “world’s fittest band”), rowing remained at the center of Smith’s life. The sport has both inspired and informed his development as fine artist.

The watercolor he produced for the 2019 Windermere Cup is a marriage of intentions.

Windermere wanted a perspective of the race from the Montlake Bridge — an extraordinary vantage for spectators that offers a view of crews racing directly below and a straight line of sight to Lake Washington along the full 2,000-meter course. Smith wanted to accurately capture the skill and intensity of the rowers.

“This poster project was meaningful to me on so many levels,” he says. “This is Seattle’s last major sporting event that is free to the public.

It’s such an important community experience.

Growing up seeing all those posters and watching the races through the Montlake Cut is part of the collective experience of living in Seattle.

I never had the chance to row in the event. I’m happy now to be a part of it.” ■ Alumni news

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See 1998 notes for news from Dave Minthorn.

1961

The St. Nicholas Class of 1961 gathered in Seattle in October for the memorial service of their beloved classmate Barbara Bailey. At the conclusion of Sis Ambrose Woodside’s comments during Barbara’s service, her classmates stood and sang the St. Nicholas alma mater, a touching moment for all in attendance.

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Members of the St. Nicholas Class of 1963 traveled to Tracy Taft’s home in Ajo, Ariz., in October for a 55th reunion celebration.

Donna McIntyre shared, “Missed those who couldn’t make it; had a ball/lots of laughs exploring the town and surrounding desert, eating great food, and sharing memories/ catching up! Thank you, Tracy, for hosting us with such energy, generosity, and grace!”

Members of the St. Nicholas Class of 1961 gathered to remember classmate Barbara Bailey. Front row, from left, Hanni Crissey, Jean Kotkins Rosen, Astri Rosenberg Baillargeon. Back row, from left, Mary Anne Genung Boardman, Marina Harris Zuetell, Mary Wheatman Rockwell, Laura Beth Mason Foster, Sis Ambrose Woodside, Susan Haslund Hall, Bruce Bailey ’59 (Barbara’s brother), Eleanor Wolgemuth O’Keefe, Cynthia Hixon Flagg.

Members of the St. Nicholas Class of 1963 at a class gathering in Arizona, from left, Susi Wegg Busey, Tracy Taft, Mary Lou Sullivan Running, Tobey Porteous Dickson, Donna McIntyre, Mindy Marshall Beemer, and Bev Pinkham Smith.

In January, Ruth LeCocq Kagi retired, wrapping up her 20-year career in the Washington State Legislature. She was first elected to the House in 1999 and represented the 32nd District, which includes Shoreline and parts of Edmonds, Lynnwood, Mountlake Terrace, and Seattle. Recognized as a strong advocate for children and families throughout her career, she spearheaded in 2017 the creation of the Department of Children, Youth, and Families, among many other accomplishments while in office.

1964

Peter Isaacson, Ph.D., has become the interim director of the Idaho Geological Survey. Isaacson served as a professor of geological sciences at the University of Idaho from 1978 to 2017 and is now an emeritus professor. He has been a Fulbright Scholar and National Academy of Sciences Exchange Scholar.

His research and Peter Isaacson consulting projects ’64 was recently have taken him around named the interim director of the Idaho the world, and five fossils are named Geological Survey.

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after him. Under the direction of the survey’s vice president for research and economic development, Isaacson will serve as the chief operating officer, overseeing facilities and resources, ensuring administrative and fiscal leadership, and nurturing collaborative research programs and stakeholder relationships across the state.

1965

In January, Latasia Lanier ’90 met two alumni at a Lakeside/Bainbridge swim meet who shared clues about their identities, but no names.

She reached out to the alumni relations office and archives at Lakeside for help. The clues?

John Nute, left, and Bruce Johnston, 1965 classmates, at the Lakeside/Bainbridge swim meet.

Both were on Lakeside’s first swim team (1961-1962), participating in freestyle and individual medley, as well as diving. One had siblings in the classes of ’61, ’63, and ’68.

One is an alum of Lakeside and Bainbridge High School. One rowed crew at Lakeside and Navy and had the same crew coach both places. Lakeside’s archivist/resident detective Leslie Schuyler reached out to Pat Dunn with the photo and clues, a move Latasia hailed as “resourceful,” and our mystery alumni were identified as John Nute and Bruce Johnston!

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Becky Burns owns Anahola Granola on the island of Kauai in Hawaii and was recently featured in the Forbes article, “This Former Hippie Launched Her Becky Burns ’68, Venture in Kauai owner of Anahola and Built a Global Granola on the island Brand.” Those of Kauai. interested in trying Becky’s healthy and tasty granola don’t have to travel to Hawaii to find it; it’s available at anaholagranola.com or on Amazon.

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In December, Chris DeForest, conservation director of Inland Northwest Land Conservancy, was honored by The Spokesman-Review as one of nine “Change Makers” in 2018. Over the course of his career with the conservancy, he has helped protect 17,000 acres of beautiful and precious land in the Inland Northwest. An unsung hero for the environment, Chris has achieved huge victories by patiently listening and building relationships with land owners.

Shauna Swerland Youssefnia ’90 recently launched the “What Fuels You” podcast. from them. She digs into the stories and choices that made them who they are today, with the goal of sharing the inspiration, perseverance, and stories of resilience normally shared only within an inner circle.

Listeners walk away feeling fueled by each episode as Shauna uncovers things like personal hardships Emily Johnston ’81, at the top of Aconcagua in Argentina, continues and failures, what it’s like to to take Lakeside to new heights. become an entrepreneur, and tips on building a successful career. You can subscribe, 1990 rate, and review the “What Fuels You” podcast Shauna Swerland Youssefnia, CEO of Fuel on iTunes, Google Podcasts, and Spotify, and Talent, recently launched the “What Fuels follow Fuel Talent on social media to keep up You” podcast, where she meets influential, with the latest news and episodes. ➢ interesting, and successful leaders to learn

1981

In December, Emily Johnston climbed Aconcagua, the highest mountain in both the Southern and Western Hemispheres, at just under 23,000 feet.

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While in New York last fall, Latasia Lanier ’90 caught up with Ned Baldwin at his restaurant, Houseman, in Greenwich Village. She shared that her meal was delicious, and she hopes that other Lakesiders living in or visiting New York will check it out.

Guests at the dinner for Lakesiders at Stanford University hosted by Matt Griffin ’69 and his wife, Evelyne Rozner, included, front row, from left, Deborha Blake, Sofia Dudas ’16, and Evelyne. Back row, from left, Matt, Grant Hugh ’18, Haley Smith, Elena Wagenmans ’18, Dylan Sherman ’16, Kendall Titus ’18, Abrahm DeVine ’15, Hannah Shabb ’16, former Upper School Director Than Healy, Genevieve Payzer ’15, Alexandra Koch ’17, Cate Guyman ’15, and Gaby Joseph ’14.

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Without the funds to make an ill-advised midlife car purchase, and seeking to “shake things up,” Adam Lawrence recently decided to grow a beard for the winter. “I’ve always wondered what would come out of my face if I didn’t shave for a few months,” he said when approached for comment. “It didn’t hurt that it helps to make my chins virtually invisible,” he added. Reactions in the Lakeside alumni community were nearly universally positive. Lisa Narodick Colton said it was “impressive”; Mali Munch Hawthorne called it “big” and “sexy”; and Ali Stewart-Ito proclaimed it “newsworthy.” However, when reached for comment, Erna Stubblefield Hackett reported Lawrence’s beard caused her great existential strife, wondering what, in fact, she has really done with her life.

Speculatively, one guesses the Hollywoodbased contingent of the class of ’93 would affirm the beard was “Oscar-worthy.”

Members of the Class of 2004 (with their children), left to right, Hilary Preston Patterson, Erin Pettersen Jarrett, Shannon Donegan Saam, Whitney Offenbecher Murphy, Julia Wright Anderson, Rives Kitchell, Claire Watt Rothschild, and Siva Sankrithi.

In September, Rebecca Clarren visited Seattle for a reading of her book, “Kickdown,” at Elliott Bay Book Company. She was joined

by Lakeside classmates there to celebrate her debut novel.

In February, Chris Miller won an Academy Award for best animated feature for “SpiderMan: Into the Spider-Verse.” The movie also won a Golden Globe for best animated feature. Chris and Phil Lord were the film’s producers. The duo also wrote and produced “The Lego Movie 2: The Second Part.”

Brianna Reynaud ’96 married Søren Skak Jensen on Orcas Island in September.

Members of the Class of 1993, from left, Lisa Narodick Colton, Ali Stewart-Ito, Rebecca Clarren, Erika Johansen, and Kari Kraft Larson after Rebecca’s reading at Elliott Bay Book Company.

Adam Lawrence’s winter beard shook up the Class of ’93 on Facebook.

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From left, Reed Schuler ’03, Dawn Lippert ’02, and Washington Gov. Jay Inslee.

Lakesiders in Longview! Savan Kong ’98 and Dave Minthorn ’60 both serve on the PeaceHealth Foundation board.

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A new Spider-Man won the first Lakeside Oscar.

1996

Alumni Board member Brianna Reynaud married Søren Skak Jensen at Rosario Resort on Orcas Island on Sept. 29, 2018.

Lakesiders in attendance included Darin Reynaud-Knapp ’98, John Reseburg, Maritza Mrak-Blumberg Liaw, Rachel Walker Scheer, Meghan Gould ’97 and Steve Man.

1998

A fun Lakeside connection in Longview, Wash., from Savan Kong, who recently shared, “I actually now sit on the PeaceHealth Foundation board with Dave Minthorn ’60. Longview is such a small place!”

Lindsey Ross ’00 at the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro. met up with Dawn Lippert ’02, CEO of Elemental Excelerator, when Dawn moderated a panel with Gov. Inslee and Gov. David Ige of Hawaii in the fall.

2004

Alex Robertson and his wife, Michelle, are pleased to report the birth of their healthy baby daughter, Rowan.

See 2003 notes for news from Dawn Lippert.

A few members of the Class of 2004 gathered at Lakeside with their children in October to play, swap parenting tips, and try out each other’s toys. Afterward, Shannon Donegan Saam shared, “We can’t wait to see more friends and meet new members of our growing Lakeside family at our 15th reunion in June!”

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Lindsey Ross writes, “On October 8th of this year I summited Mt. Kilimanjaro, the tallest freestanding mountain in the world, at 19,341 feet.”

2002

Reed Schuler, Gov. Jay Inslee’s senior policy adviser for climate and sustainability,

Rowan Robertson, daughter of Alex Robertson ’04 and his wife, Michelle.

Shane Easter and his wife, Brooke, welcomed Miles Dean Easter on Feb. 5.

Miles Dean Easter is the son of Shane Easter ’06 and his wife, Brooke.

Shane notes that they are “enjoying hikes, tummy time, and staying up late with him during our paternity/maternity leaves.”

2007

David Wyde appeared on Episodes 7, 8, and 9 of the “Pun Intensive” podcast.

You can check it out at www.punintensive. com. He encourages alumni to “pour a Lakecider and enjoy the show!” You can also catch him in the trailer for an in-progress documentary on competitive punning at www.facebook.com/abby. hagan.54/videos/10205364599071157/.

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CLASS CONNECTIONS eye contact. He has competed at Seattle’s Pundamonium and Austin’s O. Henry PunOff. He once rendered a bar full of comedy seekers completely silent, in a head-to-head pun-off on hospitals: “My voice keeps going up and down; I think I have an inflection.”

David sprinkled puns throughout his talk on web cookies at the DefCon hacker conference, but they’re too crumby to include here. As a software engineer and an official chess master, he tries to avoid The Mate-Tricks.

Cameron Myhrvold was recognized in Forbes’ annual “30 under 30” for 2019 in the health care category. Cameron is studying viruses at the Broad Institute in Cambridge, Mass.

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Kiki Contreras, a 7th grade biology teacher at The Evergreen School in Shoreline, recently received the “Outstanding New Biology Teacher” award from the National Association Kiki Contreras ’08 won of Biology Teachers, the “Outstanding New awarded to one new Biology Teacher” award (within the first three from the National Association of Biology years of teaching) Teachers. biology teacher nationally each year. Kiki shared, “I accepted the award at their annual conference this November in San Diego and got to hang out with [Lakeside teachers] Antonio Hopson and Matt Huston!”

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Simone Alicea is the co-host of the new NPR podcast “Forgotten Prison,” about McNeil Island in South Puget Sound. “The now-abandoned prison on McNeil operated

Forbes Angels! From left Gabriel Pascualy ’13, Julia Pascualy ’14, and Carter McKaughan ’16 at Forbes 30 Under 30 in Boston. for 136 years. Today, the island is home to the Special Commitment Center, which houses Washington state’s ‘sexually violent predators.’ A collaboration between KNKX and the Washington State Historical Society, Forgotten Prison tells the stories of inmates, guards, and children who grew up on the island. The history of this forgotten place can tell us a lot about how and why we lock people up.” Visit forgottenprison.org or listen on your favorite podcast app.

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See 2017 notes for news from Mia King and Austin Gray.

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Carter McKaughan, Gabriel Pascualy ’13, and Julia Pascualy ’14 met up in Boston in September. Carter shared, “I was in Boston

2013

Vikas Arun was involved in J. Crew’s 2018 holiday campaign. He was seen in the catalog, tap dancing in ads across social media, on J. Crew’s website, and on “Good Morning America.”

Vikas completed his M.S. at Columbia and began full-time work as lead data scientist at a startup that works on data science for gun safety issues.

In addition, he is now the newest and youngest artist in residence at the American Tap Dance Foundation, which allowed him to launch a new dance company, Project Convergence, with his co-creator, Ramita Ravi. The company unites tap and classical Indian dance and has performed all across the country (including Seattle!) for clients such as Buzzfeed and Spotify, and will perform at New York’s Lincoln Center in August.

He continues to tour with Mystic India: The World Tour as a choreographic consultant and a male lead dancer.

See 2016 notes for news from Gabriel Pascualy.

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Classmates from 2009 hosted by Alexandra Eitel over Thanksgiving weekend, clockwise, from left, Kenny Buyco, Alexandra, Sophie Gardiner, Margo Brown, Kate Blumstein, Sally Landefeld, Nick Hasle, Molly Levine, Sadie MacKay, and Lydia Jessup.

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See 2016 notes for news from Julia Pascualy.

Vikas Arun ’13 has launched a new dance company, Project Convergence, with his cocreator, Ramita Ravi.

From left, Salam Ayana ’17, Aminat Sanusi ’17, and Robel Mulugeta ’16 were part of a group of alumni who came back to campus to speak at the December Black Student Union meeting.

presenting at the Forbes 30 Under 30 Summit and I saw on Instagram that Julia was also in town visiting her brother, Gabe.

I reached out and asked if they wanted to attend. We saw the [musical] artists Russ and Marshmello perform together.”

See 2017 notes for news from Robel Mulugeta.

advice and successes felt like one big ‘you got this’ to the whole affinity group.”

Royce Pearson, stage name Royce David, was featured on an episode of the “Genius Deconstructed” series for his work producing Seattle rapper Lil Mosey’s first Billboard Hot 100 hit, “Noticed.”

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Gabriella O’Fallon played the role of Juliet in ACT Theater’s spring production of “Romeo + Juliet.” For this production, ACT partnered with leaders in the deaf community to “create a production that honors the glorious language of this timeless play and makes it accessible for deaf and hearing audiences alike.”

In December, Lakeside’s Black Student Union invited college age alumni to come back to campus and talk with members of the student affinity group about their experiences in college and share advice about being black/African American in higher education. Salam Ayana, Aminat Sanusi, Robel Mulugeta ’16, Mia King ’15, and Austin Gray ’15 all joined the meeting.

BSU co-president Lelan Bell ’19 shared, “Despite the college process being one of the most stressful periods of time in high school, having young faces that looked like ours come back to share their

Members of the Alumni Board volunteering at Mary’s Place, from left, Scott Reed ’85, Brian Park ’88, Elliott Okantey ’05, Teal Luthy Miller ’87, Laurie Frink ’81, and Liza Shoenfeld ’05.

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N NOVEMBER members of the Lakeside/ St. Nicholas Alumni Board spent the day volunteering at Mary’s Place’s North Seattle Family Center. The group organized donated clothing and other items in preparation for Holly Jolly, an event where 1,000 families enjoy dinner, gifts, and other joys of the holiday season.

Activities committee chair, Elliott Okantey ’05, later shared on the Alumni Facebook Group, “The Alumni Board looks forward to organizing future community service events for alumni.

Please let us know if you know of organizations or causes that we can help though our volunteer participation.” Email suggestions to alumni@ lakesideschool.org.

The Stranger called Gabriella O’Fallon ’18, playing Juliet, right, “officially a rising star in Seattle theater.”

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Members of the Lakeside/St. Nicholas Alumni Board show off the Lakeside flag available for alumni to borrow.

Alumni and friends at the fourth annual Lion Pride Event with Classes 2004-2013.

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HE FOURTH ANNUAL Lion Pride gathering for LGBTQ alumni took place at Poquitos on Capitol Hill in December. Thanks to organizers Jamila Humphrie ’07, Zach Lundin ’07, Austen Brandford ’07, and all the participants from the Classes of 2004 to 2013. Look for details on next year’s gathering on the Lakeside LGBTQ+ Alumni Group on Facebook.

ETTING MARRIED soon or planning a gathering of Lakeside friends? If you’d like to borrow a Lakeside flag from the alumni relations office for a Lakeside photo op, email alumni@lakesideschool.org. We’ll mail you the flag and a return envelope with prepaid postage to send back after the big day.

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2019 DISTINGUISHED ALUMNI AWARD WINNER

Lt. Col. Tim Curry ’94 The 2019 Distinguished Alumni Award has

been presented to Lt. Col. Tim Curry ’94, executive assistant to the chief of staff of the U.S. Air Force. Curry — a former All-American college

football player, decorated squadron commander, and holder of three master’s degrees — shared his remarkable life story with students at an

Upper School assembly on Feb. 15. He answered questions about a range of topics, including his

experience in combat, the future of women in the armed forces, and changes in military technology during his service. The following citation was read aloud at the assembly.

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OU HAVE TO hang in there when things get tough.”

The advice that the mother of Lt. Col. Timothy Curry ’94 gave him during the challenging early days at Lakeside would become his personal mantra. It would see him through difficult times at the U.S. Air Force Academy, when a back injury threatened a promising college football career, and worsening astigmatism meant he needed special permission to engage in his other love: flying aircraft. His mother’s words would stay with him through a decorated 20-year career in the U.S. Air Force that spanned three combat tours, where Curry evaded the enemy as a fighter pilot and mourned the loss of courageous comrades and friends. And her advice would inspire him as commander of a squadron of 220 airmen, leading them to greatness, while making critical decisions about their lives.

Today, Curry is an executive assistant to Gen. David Goldfein, chief of staff of the Air Force, the highest-ranking airman and a member of the Joint Chiefs of Staff. The 20 medals on Curry’s chest denote two decades in service to this country: the Presidential Unit citation, the NATO medal, Global War on Terrorism Expeditionary medals, and the Air Force Outstanding Unit Award with Valor, among others.

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est in flying, and he’ll recount a story his mother tells about how, at age 5, he would lie on his back on a small roof in the backyard of their Central Area home, watching airplanes flying overhead. That was before the Air Force, before the academy, before Lakeside, where he enrolled as a seventh grader and where teachers and mentors and a dedicated football coach urged him to reach beyond the outer limits of his potential. When he expressed an interest in the seemingly divergent pursuits of football and aviation, one of them suggested, “At the Air Force Academy you can play football.”

So that’s what he did. He was an AllAmerican at the academy, then, when he wasn’t drafted to play professionally, he began an eight-year commitment in the Air Force.

Curry accumulated more than 2,300 flying hours with combat experience in four major weapons systems: F-16 Vipers, MQ-9 Reapers, MQ-1B Predators, and the RQ-170 Blackbird.

The Air Force, Curry says, values and rewards ongoing education and has allowed him to pursue three diverse master’s degrees

— in pastoral counseling, strategic intelligence, and air and space studies.

The military, he says, needs people with his skills “who understand what it means not to be in a rush to go to war. I think it’s really important to have leaders with 20, 30, 40 years of diverse career experience who can give you the military perspective of ‘this is how we can do it,’ but also not have a problem with pushing back a little with respect to whether or not we should do it. So often people look at the military and think, ‘Well, they’re only following orders.’ But you still have to follow smart orders. And orders that are lawful. And you also should consider whether what you’re doing is the right thing to do. I think I will always bring that perspective going forward.”

For his unwavering courage and sacrifice, and for putting service to this country before self, the Lakeside/St. Nicholas Alumni Association is proud to honor Lt. Col. Tim Curry ’94 with the 2019 Distinguished Alumni Award. ■ To view the award presentation and Tim Curry’s address to students, go to https://vimeo.com/319540632

SEATTLE AREA ALUMNI RECEPTION 2019

by KELLY POORT

SEATTLE RECEPTION PHOTOS BY PAUL DUDLEY

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N MARCH, alumni, faculty, and friends gathered at the new Nordic Museum in Ballard for the 2019 Seattle Area Alumni Reception. Lakeside and St. Nicholas alumni from the Classes of 1959 to 2017 enjoyed the galleries in the Nordic’s soaring new home before gathering in the Osberg Great Hall. A short program included a look at life at Lakeside today from two current seniors, Peyton Mader and Kaiz Esmail, and a fond farewell to retiring teachers Chip Mehring, Tom Doelger, and Bob Henry, all of whom were surrounded throughout the night by thankful former students. Four hosted, thematic tables provided alumni a place to talk with other guests interested in law/policy, technology/machine learning, nonprofit/philanthropy, and education. The option to add an “ask me about” comment to nametags helped spark conversations about culinary travel, cleantech startups, rocket-making for kids, backyard chicken keeping, and more. More photos at lakesideschool.org/alumni. ■

The museum made its galleries available for a private pre-reception tour. Here, alumni explore the “Nordic Journeys” exhibit on the upper level.

2003 classmates, William Chen, left, and Sierra Michels Slettvet.

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From left, Denise Yavuz ’06, Upper School English teacher Tom Doelger, and Amanda Stevens ’10.

From left, Trustee Brandon Vaughan ’06, Kaiz Esmail ’19, Peyton Mader ’19, and Head of School Bernie Noe.

From left, Andrew Tat ’12, Walt Mehring ’12, Jay Bensal ’12, Liam Jernudd ’12, Nicole Momaney, Alex Miropolsky ’12, and Nyan Gadepalli ’12.

Former faculty member Gray Pedersen and members of the Class of 1979, from left, Robert Murray, Betsy Passarelli, Fred Buckner, Leslie Flohr, John Hammarlund, Bill Holt, Pedersen, and Lee Rolfe.

From left, Ron Koo ’96, Margaret Trzyna Marks ’01, Athena Makratzakis Dickerson ’94, and Sarah Leung ’94.

From left, Alumni Board President-elect Elizabeth Richardson Vigdor ’85, Sadie Mackay ’09, and Molly Levine ’09.

From left, Art Langlie ’85, Upper School arts teacher Al Snapp, and Andrew Kenef ick ’80.

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St. Nicholas classmates from 1969, Candie Taylor Miller, left, and Marcia MacDonald Pettersen gear up for their 50th reunion in June.

Jay Dotson ’87, left, with retiring Outdoor Program Coordinator Chip Mehring.

From left, Molly Lindstrom ’13, Shane Randle ’14, and Ema Sheehan ’15.

From left, Mary Ashworth ’80, Rich Folsom, Christie Most ’80, Shannon Bundy, Charlie Most ’77, Teresa Rosen ’78, and Emily Langlie ’76.

From left, John Weeks ’69, Ned Dunn ’70, Jim Tucker ’64, Bruce McCaw ’64, and Doug Johnson ’70.

1990 classmates, from left, Michelle Chang Chen, Rachel Sottile Logvin, and Dan Shih.

From left, Amanda Pavlou Wygal ’92, Lindsay Clarke Pedersen ’92, and Mary Pelly Fitzgerald ’91.

Courtenay Roche ’16, left, and Henri Hardman ’16.

1975 classmates Ross Baker, left, and Emily Pease.

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Working on their Viking poses, from left, Laura Cunningham Henderson ’00, Scott Henderson, Briana Abrahms ’04, Brendan Blake, Shannon Donegan Saam ’04.

From left, Upper School physical education teacher Doug Porter ’80, David O. Smith ’04, and Jessica Marquardt.

From left, former teacher Stephen Fisher, Nick Manheim ’98, and Lisa Marshall Manheim ’98.

BAY AREA GATHERINGS

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JANUARY DOWNPOUR and flash flood warnings couldn’t keep Bay Area alumni away from the annual Lakeside gathering in San Francisco.

The chance to catch up with Lakeside friends and say farewell (and thank you!) to longtime history teacher Bob Henry was too strong a draw. Bob shared reflections on his 30-plus years at Lakeside and how working at the school has felt “like playing basketball with an all-star team of players whose skill, power, and artistry make you feel honored to be on the same court.”

Later, alumni shared their own Lakeside stories and gratitude with Bob. The event took place at San Francisco’s Brennan’s Steakhouse. To view photos, visit lakesideschool.org/alumni. ■

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BAY AREA RECEPTION PHOTOS BY NANO VISSER

From left, Sam Dunietz ’14, Brendan Chou ’11, Upper School History Teacher Bob Henry, Christina Cheledinas ’14, and Ishani Ummat ’13.

NEW YORK AREA RECEPTIONS

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N APRIL, alumni and friends gathered at The IHarvard Club of New

York City for the annual New York Area Alumni Reception hosted by Kathryn Patton Beal ’90.

Head of School Bernie Noe shared updates on Lakeside’s re-envisioning process, The Downtown School, and the Our Work Together equity and inclusion initiative. Upper School Spanish teacher Paloma Borreguero took a break from catching up with excited former students to talk about new Lakeside classes with global service learning components, how faculty are supported to stretch in their work, and her pride in co-advising the GLOW (Gay Lesbian or Whatever) student group, particularly around the Pride Night with Lakeside athletics in January. More photos at lakesideschool. org/alumni. ■

From left, Chandler Furman ’10, Ethan McMahon ’10, and Kevin Ke ’09.

From left, Peter Steil ’61, Colin Bekemeyer ’89, Andrea Smith ’80, and Kathryn Patton Beal ’90.

From left, Julianne Goyena, Frank Paiva ’05, Tatsuya Adachi ’05, and Mike Stennis ’05.

2012 classmates Rashmi Srinivas, left, and Nishka Mittal.

From left, Kenny Buyco ’09, Michelle Berry ’08, Erica Fisher ’09, Charlotte Fisken ’10, and Andrew Schlaepfer ’10.

Classmates from 1959, Alumni Board member Bruce Bailey, left, and Ed Ferry.

NEW YORK RECEPTION PHOTOS BY CHINASA COOPER

From left, Rob May ’00, Christina Huang ’14, Francis Wilson ’13, Head of School Bernie Noe, Alex Koh ’13, and James Landefeld ’13.

From left, Chris Heim ’03, Asako Hayashi ’03, and Alex Robertson ’04.

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2019 T.J. VASSAR ’68 ALUMNI DIVERSITY CELEBRATION

From left, Lanae Miller ’89, Asha Vassar Youmans ’89, Jared Youmans ’16, trustee Natasha Smith Jones ’89, and Mikelle Vassar.

Lynda Vassar, left, Head of School Bernie Noe, center, and Ali Stewart-Ito ’93.

PHOTOS BY PAUL DUDLEY

Student speakers Seeka C. ’21, left, and Sherifat S. ’21, center, with Lakeside JV basketball coach Michelle Perkins ’92.

From left, Alumni Board member Gen Rubin ’88, Alumni Board member Teal Luthy Miller ’87, Alumni Board member Brianna Reynaud ’96, and trustee Brandon Vaughan ’06.

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N JANUARY, alumni, faculty, friends, and members of the Vassar family filled the Centilia Cultural Center at El Centro de la Raza on Beacon Hill for the fourth annual T.J. Vassar ’68 Alumni Diversity Celebration. The crowd paused its conversations for a brief program that included updates from Head of School Bernie Noe and Debbie Bensadon, Upper School Spanish teacher and assistant director of equity and inclusion, as well as comments from sophomores Seeka Cornejo and Sharifat Sanusi about their Lakeside experiences. Seeka later shared, “Being [at this event] showed me how the different paths people go down all mesh to create an open-minded community of diverse people.” Sherifat added, “I really appreciated the opportunity I had to speak about my experiences with the alumni of Lakeside. It was very touching that they all seemed to genuinely care about the progress being made at the school.” More photos From left, Upper School Director Felicia at lakesideschool.org/alumni.

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From left, Paul Kurose ’74, Stan Evans ’73, and David de la Fuente.

IN MEMORIAM

ST. NICHOLAS ALUMNAE HELEN SICK MINTON ’37 • Sept. 21, 2018

Helen “Lal” Minton of Concord, Mass., passed away due to a stroke at age 98. She lived independently at the Newbury Court retirement community for five years and was a Concord resident since 1964.

“She was an inspiration to all of us,” said Newbury Court administrator Alex Bishop. Active intellectually, Lal taught French at Concord Academy in the 1960s and also at Boston University, where she received her Ph.D. in French literature. She took her master’s at Columbia University and graduated from Scripps College in California in 1941. She and her husband, Robert W. Minton, who died in 2000, were among the founding members of the Harvard Institute for Learning in Retirement (HILR) in Cambridge. Born Helen Lou Sick in Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada, in 1920, Lal moved to Seattle in 1933, where her industrious father, Emil G. Sick, opened the Rainier Brewery and later bought the Seattle Rainiers baseball team and built Sick Stadium. Lal met Bob, her husband, in Southern California soon after he graduated from Princeton University in 1940. Bob worked as a script writer for MGM Studio. They married in Seattle in 1942 and started a family in 1943. After World War II, they moved to New York City, where Bob studied journalism at Columbia University and worked on city newspapers until 1950. Then began the great adventure of their life. Lal and Bob moved to Paris, France, with son Cronan, six, and daughter Helena, one, and Lal studied at the Sorbonne.

Bob worked in public relations for the Marshall Plan. They returned home in 1954 and settled in Westport, Conn. Bob eventually took a public relations job with Radio Free Europe. At the height of the Cold War, Lal and Bob moved with Radio Free Europe to Munich, Germany, in 1961, where they lived until settling in Concord in 1964. By then Lal had secured a teaching job at Concord Academy. Lal was an enthusiastic supporter of the Concord Library Association, as well as an amateur painter and musician (she played the recorder with friends at Newbury Court until the day she died). Besides being fluent in French, she could converse in German, Spanish, and Italian. A loving mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother, Lal is survived by her son, Cronan Minton, and his wife, Penny, and her daughter, Helena Minton, and her husband, David De Innocentis. Her grandchildren are Nora Minton, Sean Minton, and Ted De Innocentis. Her great-grandchildren are Olivia, Bryn, Tyler, and Jace.

BLISS NELSON MILLER ’40 • Aug. 8, 2018

Bliss Nelson Miller passed away at her home in Bellevue. Bliss was born in Ballard on Nov. 13, 1921, to Stan Nelson Sr. and Gertrude Bloomsnes Nelson. She attended St. Nicholas School, Pine Manor College in Massachusetts, National Park College in North Carolina, and the University of Washington. In 1943 she married Arthur L. Schmitz and in 1946 they moved with their daughter, Heidi, to Palo Alto, Calif. Son Peter was born there in 1948.

She was active in the Peninsula Junior League, where she was president in the 1960s, the Peninsula Volunteers, and the Children’s Heath Council. In 1968 she and Art moved from Los Altos, Calif., to Deerfield, Ill., and then to Medina, Wash., in 1982.

Once resettled in the Seattle area, she renewed her old friendships and volunteer activities. After Art’s death in 1983, she married Bruce Miller Sr. and lived in Lake Stevens and Palm Springs, Calif., until 2002.

After Bruce’s death, she moved to Pacific Regent in Bellevue, where she lived until her death. Bliss was devoted to holding the many strings of her family and friends together, never forgetting a birthday. In her later years, she was known to send as many as 150 cards in a year. She loved all sports and was a great fan of the Mariners, the Seahawks, and the Huskies. She was a skilled sports fisherwoman even into her 90s and loved being on or near the waters of the Puget Sound. Her independent spirit, energy, and enthusiasm for life will be missed by all.

She was preceded in death by her husband, Arthur L. Schmitz, her second husband, Bruce Miller Sr., her brothers Stan Nelson Jr., and Fred Nelson, and her beloved granddaughter, Molly Bliss Epstein.

She is survived by her daughter, Heidi Epstein (Mark Epstein); her son, Peter Schmitz (Mary Kay Richter); her grandchildren, Alan Schmitz and Katey Ricker (Greg Ricker); her great-grandchildren, Will Ricker and Emma Bliss Ricker; and the children, grandchildren, and great- grandchildren of Bruce Miller Sr. She will be deeply missed by her family, as well as her many nieces, nephews, cousins and their children and grandchildren, and her many friends. Remembrances, if desired, can be made to Skagit Community Foundation, American Macular Degeneration Foundation, and Seattle Children’s.

If you have a remembrance to share about a St. Nicholas alumna or Lakeside alumna/ alumnus for the next magazine, please email the alumni relations office at alumni@ lakesideschool.org or call 206-3683606. The following are reprints of paid notices or remembrances submitted by family members. All remembrances are subject to editing for length and clarity.

The submission deadline for the fall issue is July 15, 2019.

SABRA BERGE BUSHNELL ’44 • Feb. 8, 2019

Sabra Ann Berge Bushnell was born in Seattle on May 2, 1926, to Sabra and Dr. James Berge. She and her three siblings were raised on Queen Anne Hill at a time when the world was slower. Tales were ➢ Receptions, In Memoriam

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➢ IN MEMORIAM: alumni told of her precocious wit, intellect, and spirit of adventure. Never comfortable in the traditional roles of women of the time, she set out to experience all that her life and friendships would offer.

She attended St. Nicholas School from 1940 to 1944, where she graduated as senior class president. She finished her education at the University of Washington in three years, where she also became president of Tri Delta sorority and a cheerleader. Majoring in French, she was a French teacher at Southfield School and maintained a lifelong love of all things French. She married Richard Bushnell and became a Marine Corps wife. Joining him in Guam, she authored a front-page series in The Seattle Times of real life in the Pacific. They had six children and moved around the country as they followed his career. As a mom she was fun loving, teaching her children the value of kindness and the importance of friendship. She was known for her Christmas letters that summarized the year’s events and allowed the family to maintain connections as they moved onward. Her special talents included seeing the fun in life, making tissue flowers for celebrations, dancing on a dime, and playing jazz on the piano. Later, in her 50s, she returned to school to become a registered nurse.

She worked as a nurse in both California and Louisiana until her retirement at 80. She was a longtime member of First Presbyterian Church Shreveport, where she was a deacon, Presbyterian Women Life Membership Award recipient, and taught preschoolers in Sunday school. She is survived by her children and their spouses, Sabra (Randy) Scoggin, Marion Bushnell, Leslie (David) Christensen, Nancy (Michael) Bushnell-Harper, Richard (Sandra) Bushnell, and David (Bridgett) Bushnell; twelve grandchildren; six great grandchildren; and her sister Melinda Berge. Welcoming her in heaven are her parents Sabra and James Berge; brothers Hal and Bill Berge; Richard Bushnell; and two very special men in her life, Stanton Taylor and Bob Vento. Remembrances to S.H.I.P., a LSUHSC-Shreveport medical project in Kenya and Haiti at www.shipcares.org.

ANN MAUK HERRON GROFF-SMITH ’46 • Nov. 3, 2018

Elsbeth “Ann” Mauk Herron Groff-Smith died peacefully in Bellingham.

Born Elsbeth Ann Mauk to parents John and Betty Mauk in Seattle on April 30, 1928, she was the oldest of three children. Ann spent her early life in Madrona, through the Depression and war years, learning how to become the packrat she (notoriously) later became.

St. Nicholas School prepared her for her longest hiatus from the Seattle area when she spent four years at Smith College and made lifelong friends. Ann married Stephen Herron in 1951. They moved to Bellevue, where she lived for the next 60 years and where they built a home and a family who shared countless memorable times, like awakening many mornings to a loud, off-tune version of Oklahoma’s “Oh, What a Beautiful Morning” (she was famously tone-deaf, but endearing); appreciating and learning about boating and navigating the open water on the “Lumberjack”; opening Ann’s lovingly handmade Christmas stockings in front of the fire; and experiencing innumerable family vacations from the mountains to the ocean. After Steve’s death in 1995, she married Geoffrey Groff-Smith in 1999, and they shared many loving years, including much travel and many dog walks. In spite of her several name changes, Ann never lost her identity as a mother, provider, craft artist, and gardener. She had a playful spirit and could often be found at a gin rummy match or

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pulling some puzzle or game out of her overflowing game cabinet, which kids, big and small, always had fun exploring. In the kitchen her grandchildren clamored for her wonderful oven pancakes and for her blue cheese “Gammy Dip,” and she was renowned for her amazing cookie collection served at her annual December holiday party (aka “The Sherry Party”). Ann loved many dogs over her lifetime. She also loved birds, traveling, swimming in Lake Washington (or any open water), eating heartily, stuffing her pantry and fridge with Costco loot, Christmas, Easter, July 4, Halloween (celebrating these holidays and also decorating her home with all the associated paraphernalia), having her feet rubbed, typing IN ALL CAPS, saving almost everything, taking her completed rolls of film or memory card to Eastside Photo and always ordering two copies (5x7!) of everything, walking in the outdoors, vodka, white wine, crafts, hosting friends and family, and gardening. In the many organizations in which she participated over the years–Lakeside/St. Nicholas Alumni association, Sunset Club, Smith Club, St. Thomas Church, Junior League, YMCA, Campfire, various garden clubs–and among her friends and family, Ann was known for her ebullient demeanor, booming voice, eternal optimism, and inclusive and generous spirit. Ann is survived by three children: Christopher Herron (Setsuko Kondo); Elsbeth Herron; and Todd Citron (Anji Citron); and by three grandchildren, one greatgrandchild, and many nieces, nephews, and cousins. She was predeceased by her son, Timothy Herron, and her siblings. Memories appreciated at ElsbethAnnMaukHerronGroffsmith.com.

SALLY CLISE BLACK ’52 • Oct. 27, 2018

Sarah “Sally” Clise Black died peacefully in the company of her husband, Alan, and children. She was born in Seattle on Sept. 12, 1934, the daughter of James W. Clise Jr. and Eunice Padelford Clise.

She was married in 1954 to Alan F. Black of Seattle and Bainbridge Island. She attended McGilvra Elementary School, St. Nicholas School, and graduated from Bainbridge High School in the Class of 1952. Sally completed two years at Smith College, Class of 1956, studying classics and music before her marriage and later graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of Washington with a degree in English literature, followed by a master’s in social work. She practiced in this field professionally for over 15 years. Sally liked the outdoors and being close to nature. In the earlier years of their marriage Sally and Alan took many backpacking trips into the Cascades and the Olympic Mountains, often with their children. Over the years they also took some memorable and challenging trips to Tibet and northern India, and traveled from northern Pakistan into western and northern China along the Great Silk Road. Sally especially enjoyed music and literature. She played the piano, sang in the Bainbridge Island St. Barnabas Episcopal Church choir during high school, and in recent years sang in the Northwest Chamber Chorus and the Seattle Women’s Medieval Choir. Sally’s interest in literature may well have stemmed from her mother and her grandfather, Frederick Padelford, dean of the University of Washington Graduate School and head of the English Department. Sally participated in several book groups spanning several decades, bringing her new friendships and a deepening interest in literature. More recently she became particularly interested in poetry, some of which she memorized and shared with her children and grandchildren. This gave her pleasure and comfort during her

struggle with ALS disease. Through the years Sally came to love the Black family home and garden on Bainbridge Island. She spent many happy hours there this past summer and fall as she came to accept the realities of her illness. In addition to her husband, Sally is survived by a brother, John Clise, Jayme Curley, and Ann Fisher. She is also survived by three children, Andrea Black, Fraser Black, and Kayla Black. Alan and Sally lost a 17-year-old son, Ian, to a mountain wilderness accident in 1974. Sally also leaves seven grandchildren, now all of college age or older.

CELESTE FROLICH ROSE ’53 • Oct. 26, 2018

Celeste Johanna Rose was born in Seattle to Celeste and Fritz Frolich. She grew up on Capitol Hill and attended Forest Ridge Convent, graduating from St. Nicholas School in 1953. She attended the University of Washington, where she pledged the Chi Omega sorority. In 1963 she married Jon Graham Rose, and the couple moved to Olympia until they returned to Seattle in 1973. Celeste was a very active member of the Broadmoor/Washington Park Guild of the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center, volunteering for years to put on The Shore Run. She loved all her hiking groups, whether they were restoring trails on Mount Rainier or hiking around Whidbey Island. Her Catholic faith was very important to her, and she enjoyed being a member of the Teresa Guild, supporting the Carmelite nuns of Seattle. At age 50, she picked up her first oar and started a 20year love of rowing with Martha’s Mom’s and a group of women who were an extremely important part of her life. She was an avid skier, and there are many fond memories of trips to Sun Valley as a family and with lifelong friends. After living in Seattle for most of her life, she moved to Whidbey Island in 2004 to be near her daughter and her beloved twin granddaughters. In 2008 she joined the family in a move to West Linn, Ore. Celeste was known for her kindness and generosity, sense of humor and quick wit one-liners, and amazing resilience. One remarkable thing is how she created deep friendships and bonds wherever she lived. She was a very happy person at heart, and it showed to all those around her. She formerly was a member of the Seattle Junior Club, Seattle Tennis Club, Seattle Yacht Club, and The Sunset Club. Celeste was preceded in death by her husband, Jon, brother Erik Frolich, and many dear friends. She is survived by her brother, Fritz Frolich (Karen); daughter Celeste Rose, granddaughters Celeste and Cecelia; and her dear cousin, Dr. Mike Drew, along with many nieces and nephews. Remembrances can be made to the ALS Association of Oregon and SW Washington and Legacy Hopewell House Hospice.

MARILYN WEBER BLUE ’58 • Oct. 25, 2018

Marilyn Ann Weber Blue, 77, died at her home on Mercer Island, where she and husband, Keith, lived for 49 years. She was born and raised in Seattle, daughter of Lillian (Fitzpatrick) and noted adman George Weber. She attended Magnolia Elementary, Catherine Blaine Junior High, St. Nicholas School, and Queen Anne High School.

She went on to the University of Oregon (Gamma Phi Beta sorority) and, later, United Airlines Flight Attendant School. She met Air Force Capt. Keith Eugene Blue at the University of Oregon, and they were married in 1959 at the Church of Ascension on Magnolia. For 10 years they made 17 military moves around the U.S. and their sons, Mike, Sean, and Brian, were born in military hospitals. After settling

on Mercer Island, Marilyn at 35 trained to become a flight attendant.

“MA Blue,” her United nickname, flew the friendly skies for 25 years (Keith piloted for 35 years). She doubled as the boys’ activity director, attending their sporting and school events and two of her sons’ Ironman competitions in Kona, Hawaii. She was the ultimate birthday celebrator, widening the circle for five grandchildren. She became an enthusiastic grandma, gift giver, and babysitter. Marilyn assisted with the Mercer Island Rotary Run every March, became a foster parent to 20-some raccoons in her woodsy backyard, and was an avid supporter of the 1958 Queen Anne High School alumni group. She took great pride in her Irish heritage and embraced extended family.

She is remembered for her extraordinary loyalty and compassion.

Survivors include Keith; sons Michael (Margaret), Brian (Jennifer), and Sean; sister Susan Weber Gold (Donald); and grandchildren George, Sammy, Henry, Sydney, and Maddy. She was predeceased by her parents and Sean’s partner, Michael Jeter. Memorials are suggested to the Mercer Island Rotary Foundation or the Alzheimer’s Association.

BARBARA BAILEY ’61 • Sept. 1, 2018

Barbara Bailey, a beloved bookseller and leader in Seattle’s LGBTQ community, died surrounded by her family. Barbara was a successful businessperson, a legendary host, a fiercely loyal best friend to many, and a role model to countless more.

Barbara forged her own way, coming of age in an era when strong, independent women were definitely the exception.

She attended St. Nicholas School, then graduated from the University of Washington in 1965.

Inspired by John F. Kennedy’s admonition to “ask what you can TOM REESE do for your country,” she signed on for a two-year stint as a Peace Corps volunteer in a small village near Diyarbakir, Turkey. Upon returning home she found a job as a caseworker in the state’s juvenile justice system. What began as some time off in Sun Valley, Idaho, led to a job clerking at Ex Libris Books. She soon purchased the store, which she ran successfully while skiing, hunting, and pitching for the Ore House women’s softball team. Returning to Seattle in 1977, she opened B. Bailey Books as the first leaseholder in the posh new Rainier Square, and in 1982 she moved to Capitol Hill to found Bailey/Coy Books with business partner Michael Coy. She also partnered with her friend, Kate Peterson, to establish Broadway Video, for several years located in the back of the bookstore. Bailey/Coy became a mecca and elegant refuge for booklovers and authors ➢ In Memoriam

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➢ IN MEMORIAM: alumni while also serving as a de facto LGBTQ community center where everyone felt welcome, and business thrived. Barbara’s Roanoke home was a common site for political and social cause fundraisers.

She was a leader in the nascent LGBTQ philanthropic community and a member of the Pride Foundation’s founding board — now the largest LGBTQ community foundation in the country. Barbara, who also served on the national board of Lambda Legal, never missed an opportunity to march on Washington in support of LGBTQ rights.

Chevy Chase, Barbara’s family home near Port Townsend, was a much-loved gathering place for generations of friends and families.

In 1997 Barbara and her brother, Bruce, expanded the adjacent golf course from nine to 18 holes. And, after a prosperous 25 years in

the book business, Barbara sold Bailey/Coy to live full time with her brother, Thatcher, and his partner, Phil Kovacevich, in the rambling 10-bedroom Victorian home. They renovated the seven cabins on the property and launched Chevy Chase Beach Cabins, the popular resort on Discovery Bay. After selling Chevy Chase in 2012, Barbara returned to Seattle, where she spent her time with friends on the golf course and traveling. Barbara is survived by her partner, Barbara Calvo, brother Bruce, sister-in-law Heidi, and niece Kathryn; sister Mary Ann and her spouse, Gay; brother Thatcher; Joanna, Carter, Clara, and Thatcher Camp — her beloved Port Townsend family — and countless dear friends. Remembrances to the Barbara Bailey Scholarship Fund at the Pride Foundation.

LAKESIDE ALUMNI E. PETER GARRETT ’35 • Dec. 21, 2018

Edward Peter Garrett, a true gentleman of the Greatest Generation, died peacefully during twilight on the winter solstice at his family’s home. He was 101. Born in Seattle on Dec. 7, 1917, Peter grew up near Volunteer Park and attended Lakeside School. In the early 1930s, he enrolled at The Hotchkiss School in Lakeville, Conn., traveling cross country during the summers by train. He earned a chemistry degree from Yale in 1939, followed by a business degree from Harvard. His passion was downhill skiing, and in 1940 he was selected as a member of the U.S. Ski Team. Peter served in the U.S. Navy at Naval Air Station, Glenview, Ill., as a flight instructor during World War II, having previously learned to fly. It was at Glenview where he met his first wife, Pandora Briggs, a volunteer in the Navy’s Waves program. After the war, the couple married, honeymooned in Havana, Cuba, and settled back in Seattle, where they began a family. Peter also began a career in his family’s businesses, eventually assuming the leadership role of Merrill and Ring, then a third-generation timber company. In 1960, he also founded Welco Lumber Company. Evolved forms of both companies are still operated by his family today. In 1989, several years after Pandora’s passing, Peter married Hope Ryan. When they weren’t traveling, the couple split their time between Seattle and Sun Valley, Idaho. Hope’s zeal for fun and adventure undeniably extended and improved the last 30 years of his life. Peter was a true sportsman of the era, ardently pursuing skiing (well into his 90s), bird hunting, flying, and golf. But he is best remembered as a loving father, grandfather, great-grandfather, and loyal friend to many, both near and far. Deeply involved in the Seattle community, Peter served on numerous boards. A great storyteller with a wry wit and a mischievous sparkle in his eye, Peter had a magnetic presence that will be dearly missed by those he has left behind. Peter is survived by his wife; his four daughters, Hope (Richard) Stroble, Leslie Garrett, Deborah Garrett, and Alden Garrett (Charlie Eriksen); his step-daughter, Hope (Garrison) Belles; his four grandchildren, Peter (Diana) Stroble, David Stroble, Porter (Rachel) Stroble, and Liliane Eriksen; his step-grandchild, Beau Belles; and nine great-

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grandchildren. Remembrances to The Bush School, the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center, or a charity of your choice.

DR. ROBERT C. BAIN ’43 • Nov. 3, 2018 Robert Clark Bain passed away peacefully at Swedish Medical Center in Seattle at the age of 93. Bob was born at Swedish Hospital in 1925 and spent much of his time there over the years. His medical practice was nearby for 39½, years, and he served as chief of staff from 1980 to 1982. He continued to attend Swedish Medical meetings and to keep up on medical advances throughout his retirement. Bob shared fond memories of his youth on Capitol Hill and the summers his family spent in rented cabins on Puget Sound in West Seattle. Bob attended Lowell Elementary School, Broadway High School, and graduated from Lakeside. He entered the U.S. Navy V12 program for pre-med, attending Carroll College in Montana and the University of Washington, where he was a Phi Delt. After college, Bob attended Northwestern Medical School, graduating in 1950 and completing his internship at Evanston Hospital. Bob was in a fellowship for residency in internal medicine at the Mayo Clinic when he was called to active duty and assigned medical officer on the Pacific Fleet in the Korean War on the amphibious command ship USS Mount McKinley based in Japan. Upon returning to the Mayo Clinic, Bob met Diane Berryman, a TV talk show host for KROC TV. They married in July of 1956 and moved to Seattle. Bob started his practice with Bannick, Soderstrom & Macrae and began seeing patients and making house calls. He became a Fellow of the American College of Physicians, was active in the North Pacific Medical Society, and was an active Mayo alumnus. When Bob retired, he missed his patients but not the paperwork. He continued at UW Medical School as an adjunct faculty member. He audited classes, volunteered as medical expert for social security claims, and attended summer school at Cambridge University, studying British history. Bob was understated, mild mannered, and soft-spoken with an astute, upbeat, and selfeffacing sense of humor — though seldom the life of the party, he always brought life to the party.Bob was predeceased by his wife of sixty years, Diane Berryman Bain. Bob’s three children also attended Lakeside (Clark ’76, Brodie ’78, and Dana ’80), as did his brother Bill

Bain ’48 and sister Nancy Lowry ’58 (St. Nicholas). Bob attended the Lakeside reunion this past June as sole representative of the class of ’43. Each of his reunions fortuitously coincided with Brodie, Bill, and Nancy’s reunions every five years. He made sure to catch up with fellow classmate and high school baseball second baseman Haz Adamson over the phone just prior to the reunion. Complete obituary is in The Seattle Times.

WILLIAM W. STALEY JR. ’48 • Nov. 2, 2018 PETER HEUSSY ’51 • Feb. 20, 2019 Peter Lamont Heussy of Seattle passed away while playing bridge with friends down at Panorama City in Lacey, Wash., where he had been living with his wife, Deseree. Peter was born in Seattle on July 24,1933, to loving parents Carl R. Heussy and Loyal Lamont Heussy.

His father died in 1943 while serving in the Coast Guard during WWII. His parents were both early skiing pioneers at Mount Baker and instilled in Peter love of the sport and of the mountains, which carried through his life. At Lakeside, Peter was the captain of the undefeated football team under Coach Bill Marx, who helped fill Peter’s void of no father and served as his mentor. Peter was a three-sport letterman. In November 1951, Peter married the love of his life, Deseree Weaver, also from Seattle. Besides his wife, Deseree, Peter is survived by his four children, Karin Heussy Mitchell, Carl W. Heussy, Richard W. Heussy, and Peter L. Heussy Jr.; seven grandchildren; and nine greatgrandchildren. In the early sixties, Peter and Desi purchased land and built an A-frame cabin up on the Tye River near Stevens Pass off Highway 2. Every Friday in the winter the family would head to the cabin after school and hike in with snow sometimes up to their waists, carrying in weekend supplies and a pot of stew. Both parents had secured weekend work at Stevens Pass Ski Area, with Peter working on the top of the 7th Heaven chairlift. This enabled the family to ski for free and the three boys became somewhat the terror of the mountain.

As young adults, son Peter Jr. continued skiing as a professional ski instructor in Colorado, and son Richard worked as a professional ski patrolman up at Stevens. Today his grandsons Christian and Anders ski at Stevens on a regular basis, on the same runs as their grandfather, father, and uncle. Words can’t express accurately one’s lifetime. Peter (Gampa) was a constant influence on the whole family, selflessly dedicated to his wife and family, a lover of the great outdoors and sports, a gentle soul that today serves as a role model to live by.

With cigar in hand, he smiles down upon us from 7th Heaven.

WILLIAM F. MANNING ’54 • Aug. 14, 2018

William “Bill” Manning went to be with God at the age of 82. He is survived by his wife of 30 years, Claudia Manning; his children, Mark Manning, Kathryn (Steve) Jakubek, Kristin Manning, and Carolyn (Torey) Grandt; stepchildren, Carri-Ann (Michael) Bard and Trevor (Kimi Willison) Donnelly. Bill also is survived by his eight grandchildren, Alex and Hunter Jakubek, Madison and Reed Grandt, and Steven, Janthinee, Robert, and Grace Bard, and his sister, Pat Johnston. He was preceded in death by his parents, Franklin and Mary Kay Manning, and his brother, John Kell Manning. Bill led a long and storied life, growing up in the Pacific Northwest, attending

Lakeside School, and then obtaining his forestry genetics degree from Colorado College in Colorado Springs. While in college he worked summers at Manning Tree Seed, the company that had been in his family for over 100 years and for which he was groomed to eventually inherit, a dream never meant to be. He will be remembered

by Missouri friends as a Realtor for CJR-Tri Lakes Real Estate office out of Branson West. However, before moving to Missouri in 2006, he was a prominent businessman in Seattle and Alaska, founding City Ice Cold Storage and later taking on a business partner, Jack Rosling. Together they ran City Ice while partnering to build SeaFreeze on the Duwamish Waterway in Tukwila. At one time, the partnership of SeaPro/Seafreeze had as many as five seafood processing plants from Washington to Alaska. When the partnership finally dissolved, Bill started Independent Packers Corporation, which became one of the largest custom seafood-processing companies in its time in the Pacific Northwest. Bill often joked that he had made and lost millions of dollars, unfortunately in the wrong order. In spite of his fortunes and misfortunes, he remained optimistic and happy throughout the autumn of his life, visiting Seattle family as often as he could and surrounded by both Seattle and Missouri family right up until his death. He loved all of his children and grandchildren, and will be greatly missed by all of those he touched. Remembrances to Harvest Evangelical Free Church or to Compassus Hospice both in Branson, Mo.

PAUL G. ALLEN ’71 • Oct. 16, 2018 See tributes on page 4, 46.

PETER LANDON ’74 • Jan. 10, 2019

Peter Landon passed away peacefully of a cardiac arrest. Throughout his ordeal he was surrounded by his family and loved ones, and his devoted and ever faithful children, Marcus, Max, Kelsey, and Zack, never left his side. Peter’s wife shared, “While my heart is aching for our loss of this truly special person, I am comforted with the knowledge that Peter loved his family wholeheartedly; he fought his cancer bravely; and he is no longer in pain. I know that Peter is in a better place, and I am fortunate to have had him in my life.”

FORMER FACULTY & STAFF MARIT PETERS • Oct. 21, 2018

Marit Peters, former Middle School Spanish teacher, was a loving and laughing person; intelligent, savvy, and funny. If you were lucky enough to see her cheeky impression of George W. Bush lighting a stick of dynamite to “Smoke ’em (the bad guys) out of their holes,” ride her Moto Guzzi in the rain, or watch or hear her sing, you know what a dynamic person she was. She is survived by her two sons and many family members who love her. Antonio Hopson, her former partner, shares, “I will never be able to truly thank her for choosing me to be the father of Sebastian and Jackson Peters-Hopson, or for working as hard as she did the last two years so that she could spend time with them being a mother. I’ve shared the song ‘Let the Happiness In’ with them many times over the years and it’s especially important now.” ■

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FROM THE ARCHIVES

Paul Allen ’71 (left) and his fellow classmates get an introduction to soldering guns and basic electrical circuits, 1968. Ric Weiland ’71 is third from the right. For Allen, the hands-on science classes would help spark a fascination with electronics that would last a lifetime. Opposite page: The complete short story of Allen’s that appeared in the LS Literary Gazette.

GATEWAY to ANOTHER DIMENSION For the late Paul Allen ’71, Lakeside was a portal between imagination and a brave new world

by LESLIE SCHUYLER

F

science-fiction story by seventh- or eighthgrader Paul Allen ’71. Its protagonist was

OR THE PAST TWO YEARS, I’ve

about to enter a business partnership that

been working closely with the

would make him billions with a strange new

writer of Lakeside’s centennial

technology — a piece of electronic hardware

history, a book scheduled for publication

plugged into the wall that provided a gateway

in fall 2019. As part of her research, author

to another dimension …

Kathrine Beck combed through decades’

Electronics emerged as a central

worth of board minutes, yearbooks, Tatler

theme in Allen’s Lakeside life. A photo

newspapers, and old alumni magazines.

from the 1968 Numidian shows Allen

At one point, she asked to see examples

posing with classmates with a makeshift

of alternative student newspapers, and I

electric chair, in which Allen himself

offered a collection of materials donated

is seated. Fast forward a few years,

by alum David Paterson ’70. Inside was a

and there’s Allen in another photo with

find. Beck writes about it in her book:

classmates soldering wires in a Rube

A 1966-67 “Lower School Literary

Goldberg-looking piece of circuitry. By

Gazette”’ ran “The Hole,” an eerily prescient

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the time he graduated, Allen had played

Not just math, but polymath: Allen’s senior portrait in the 1971 Numidian.

THE HOLE

W

HEN ONE OF MY old eccentric buddies from college called me up at four a.m. I was quite amazed. He said, “Philips, I’ve got a job for you.

Hear you’re in the financing game. Money in it. Come over as soon as possible. The address is 1 Osborne Avenue.”

I groggily noted this down and slept again. At 10 a.m. the next morning I arrived at 1 Osborne Avenue. It was one of those new prefabricated domes. It seemed all right, except for some funny antennae sticking out of the top. A voice out of nowhere said, “Enter.”

He greeted me darkly with a, “Hello, you’re late.” I said nothing but looked around the room. In the middle, five feet above the floor, empty black!!? Below it was a small metallic object with a cord attached which was plugged into a wall socket. “What in heck is it?” I asked. “It’s a hole” he said, simply. I stood there stupefied and said nothing. “Imagine beings living on a plane. If you took something from their plane

Eighth-grader Allen models the “electric chair” he designed for a pre-football game rally. With an eff igy in the opposing team’s colors seated in the chair, the rigged oil heater transformer would throw off sparks in execution.

and lifted it above the plane, it would vanish to the creatures on

an integral role in a three-year computer

The hole connects our space with a higher one.”

programming partnership (the Lakeside Programming Group) with Ric Weiland ’71, Kent Evans ’73, and Bill Gates ’73, which

the plane, but it would still exist. If we lowered it back onto the plane, the people would see it again. Now I’ve done that with our space. I can lift an object out of it and put it back again.

“Can you put things in it?” I asked, looking at the hole suspiciously.

“Of course” he said. “That’s the whole business

launched the foursome into the pioneering

proposition. Think of it. No more gas tanks, safes, cupboards,

world of commercial computing. Allen’s

or anything of the sort. All made obsolete by U.S. Portable

ideas — beginning, perhaps, with his

Holes, Inc. We’ll make billions.”

fascination with science fiction and fostered

I’ll be rich I thought, and I imagined myself as President

by his Lakeside friendships, classwork,

of U.S.P.H. Inc. Then a disturbing thought crossed my mind.

and hundreds of free-time hours spent

“What if there are people in the higher dimension. Will they like

in the school’s computer lab — helped

all that gas, money, and food sloshing around?”

lead to the creation of Microsoft. Though the company’s strange new technology didn’t literally transport users to another dimension, its dramatic success and Allen’s subsequent support of his alma mater went on to transform Lakeside in ways previously unimagined.

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Leslie Schuyler is the archivist for the Jane Carlson Williams ’60 Archives at Lakeside School.

Please contact her if you have questions or materials to donate: archives@lakesideschool.org.

Visit the archives webpage: lakesideschool.org/about-us/history-archives.

“Hey, I never thought of that. What if…” but he never had time to continue. Something came out or the hole, grabbed him and his machine, and pulled them in. The hole vanished, and neither he nor his machine were ever seen again.

— PAUL ALLEN

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LAKESIDE/ ST. NICHOLAS ALUMNI BOARD

2019 CALENDAR of EVENTS JUNE 11 Eighth-grade

graduation

EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE

13 Upper School

commencement and 50th reunion luncheon

Claudia Hung ’89

President Elizabeth Richardson Vigdor ’85

Mission and Governance Chair/President Elect Elliott Okantey ’05

14 Reunion 2019

dinner hosted by Lakeside for classes ending in 4 and 9

15 Alumni row and

Activities Chair

alumni lacrosse game

Lisa Narodick Colton ’93

Connections Chair MEMBERS

15-16

Reunion 2019 individual class events

30 Last day to support

Maki Arakawa ’93

the 2018-2019 Annual Fund: lakesideschool.org/ give

Bruce Bailey ’59

(Lifetime Honorary Member) Alison Alkire Behnke ’00 Emma Brillhart ’10

SEPTEMBER

Ginger Ferguson ’82 Laurie Frink ’81

28 Annual Fund kickoff

breakfast and notewriting event

Calder Gillin ’98 Dahlia Liao Mak ’92 David Mandley ’99 Teal Luthy Miller ’87 Michelle Moore Morrison ’02 Cooper Offenbecher ’00

Questions? Please contact the alumni relations off ice of the Lakeside/St. Nicholas Alumni Association at alumni@lakesideschool.org or 206-368-3606.

Brian Park ’88 Scott Reed ’85 Brianna Reynaud ’96

Numidian staff, 1969

Gen Rubin ’88 Casey Schuchart ’96

1969 NUMIDIAN

Liza Shoenfeld ’05 Ben Stephens ’77 Nicholas Stevens ’06 TJ Vassar ’94

REUNION 2019 WEEKEND June 13-16 Celebrating St. Nicholas and Lakeside alumni from classes ending in 4 and 9.

Reunion 2019 festivities kick off on June 13, when the St. Nicholas and Lakeside Classes of 1969 will be honored at a 50th reunion luncheon and lead the Class of 2019 into its commencement ceremony. The following night, Friday, June 14, Lakeside School will host a reception in the Wright Community Center followed by a casual dinner in The Paul G. Allen Athletics Center at Lakeside’s Upper School beginning at 6 p.m. All reunion alumni and a guest, plus current and former faculty and staff, are invited. Activities on the morning of Saturday, June 15, will include an alumni row and lacrosse game. Reunion volunteers are planning individual class events throughout the weekend. Contact the alumni relations office at alumni@lakesideschool. org or 206-368-3606 for more information.

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