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NEW YEAR, NEW MEGETTING OUT AND ACTIVE!

LAST NOVEMBER, I TURNED 30. LIKE MANY OF US DO AT THESE MILESTONE BIRTHDAYS, I FOUND MYSELF REFLECTING ON LIFE AND I REALISED SOMETHING WAS MISSING. I WOULD DESCRIBE MYSELF AS AN ACTIVE PROFESSIONAL BALANCING A BUSY CAREER AND PERSONAL LIFE BUT LIVING THE BEST LIFE I CAN. I NOTICED A PATTERN THOUGH: MY INTERACTIONS AND SOCIAL OPPORTUNITIES FELT CONFINED TO THE SAME ROUTINE CIRCLES. I GO TO WORK MONDAY THROUGH FRIDAY, DO CROSSFIT 5 TIMES A WEEK, AND MANAGE THE OCCASIONAL COFFEE SHOP CATCH-UP AT THE WEEKEND.

While these connections felt comfortable, they lacked the depth and variety I craved; I needed a way to expand my social circle and further step outside my comfort zone unless I wanted the next ten years to follow this routine. Enter, Out & Active NI.

Getting Out and Active!

I spotted Out & Active NI on Instagram when pictures of their bowling event popped up on my Explore page. Seeing such a large group out having fun at an LGBTQ+ event was all the encouragement I needed to attend my first event. I came along to the group treasure hunt in Belfast City Centre with a dozen questions about what to expect, and the committee members answered each one patiently, making me feel instantly at ease. After being split into a group with people that I had never met before and solving clues together to map my way through Belfast to the finish point, I left my first event feeling a sense of personal achievement and a new sense of community.

One of the things that struck me was the scale of these gatherings. The club has not been going on for long, but events attract 50+ people, which shows the strong demand for initiatives like this in Northern Ireland. Beyond meeting new people, I’ve been able to reconnect with old university friends & former co-workers and even friends of friends who tagged along at my invitation. It’s proof that these events serve as more than just a social outlet; they’re a bridge to re-kindle connections and foster new ones. Some of my favourite events have included Ciara’s Packed Lunch Quiz at Show Some Love, the join-up with Out and About Hikers at Whiterock Beach, and even a hike in the Mournes - each offering a blend of activity and socialising that keeps things fresh and exciting. It’s a great way to try new things as well as meet new people.

There’s always something to look forward to, with at least three events a month; it’s regular enough to keep you engaged without overwhelming your schedule. The events are well timed, lasting just a few hours and usually at the weekend, which makes them easy to plan around. Whether you want to hit the gym, take your dog for a walk, or grab a morning coffee, you can easily incorporate Out & Active NI events into your day.

City Centre to the serene stretches of Ballygally Beach, every location offers a unique backdrop for connection.

For places that aren’t easily accessible by public transport, the Out & Active NI Community WhatsApp group has been useful to members. With sufficient notice, members can coordinate carpools, making it easier for everyone to participate, regardless of location.

Why It Matters

For me, Out & Active NI has been a link to a vibrant, inclusive community of LGBT+ individuals in Northern Ireland. These events provide a friendly, affordable environment where genuine connections can flourish.

As someone who doesn’t drink or go out clubbing often, finding a space where I could be myself without the pressure of nightlife dynamics was a revelation. Out & Active NI offers something refreshingly different. Their events cater to a range of interests, from casual bowling nights to adventurous ice-skating outings. It had been over 20 years since I last put on a pair of ice skates. I was terrified at first but ended up surprising myself by not falling even once. It was a great reminder that trying new things can be both challenging and deeply rewarding.

Beyond the fun, these events have given me a confidence boost and helped me break out of my shell. Meeting new people, laughing over shared experiences, and stepping into unfamiliar environments has helped switch things up in my life in a positive way. With many events being free or low-cost, it is easy for people from all walks of life to participate.

Looking Ahead

Outside of the club I work as an events professional, so while Out & Active NI has already enriched my life, here are a few ideas I’d love to see explored in the future:

Please note, this column is the opinion of the columinst and not that of GNI or Romeo & Julian Publiccations Ltd.

The events are also really accessible. The committee has carefully chosen diverse venues across Northern Ireland, ensuring events are geographically inclusive and easy to reach via public transport. From the lively buzz of Belfast

1. Skill-Sharing Events: With such a big membership already, it would be fantastic for members to highlight and share their secret skills, like cooking classes or photography workshops - it would be a great way to share creativity and collaborate.

Gay Sports Day: Organised small games, like five-a-side football or beach volleyball, could be good for those who enjoy a bit of friendly competition.

3. Themed Social Evenings: Trivia nights, murder mystery parties, or drag karaoke sessions could add a new layer of fun to their offerings.

4. Outdoor Adventures: Building on the success of the Mournes hike, more outdoor activities like paddleboarding, 5K runs would be a fantastic way to connect with nature and one another.

5. More Seasonal Events: Holiday-themed gatherings, such as Halloween costume parties or Christmas markets for a reason to dress up.

What makes Out & Active NI special is its adaptability and its commitment to fostering genuine connections. Whatever the future holds, I’m confident that it will continue to be a beacon for anyone seeking community, fun, and a little adventure in Northern Ireland.

Joining Out & Active NI has been one of the most enriching decisions I’ve made. It’s shown me the power of stepping out of my comfort zone and embracing opportunities to connect with others. Whether you’re looking to make new friends, rediscover old ones, or simply try something new, this community offers a space where you can truly belong.

Check out their events on meetup.com, reach out to the committee, and see for yourself what makes Out & Active NI so special. You might just find, as I did, that it’s the missing piece you didn’t even know you were looking for.

Out and Active Upcoming Events

Tactical Laser Tag at Shane’s Castle

Date: Saturday, 23rd February 2025

Location: Shane’s Castle, Randalstown Time: 10:00 AM

Get ready for an action-packed morning as Out & Active NI takes on Tactical Laser Tag at Shane’s Castle! This isn’t just any laser tag—it’s a full-on outdoor battle experience where you’ll dodge, dive, and strategize your way to victory in a historic woodland setting.

Whether you’re a sharpshooter or a first-time player, this event is all about teamwork, laughs, and a little friendly competition. Expect high-energy missions, immersive gameplay, and plenty of adrenaline-fueled fun with your fellow adventurers.

Come along, bring your game face, and let’s see who will reign supreme on the battlefield!

• Open to all skill levels

• All equipment provided

• Wear comfy outdoor gear & sturdy footwear Book your spot now and let’s light up the castle grounds with laser fire!

Board Game Night at Roast & Roll!

Date: Saturday, 1st March 2025

Time: 7:00 PM - 10:00 PM

Location: Roast & Roll Games Cafe, Banbridge

Join us for a fun-filled evening of board games, laughter, and friendly competition! Whether you’re a seasoned strategist or just love rolling dice, there’s something for everyone.

Enjoy tasty treats and drinks from the café as we dive into classics and discover new favourites. Bring your friends or make new ones—this is your chance to relax, play, and unleash your inner game master! See you there for a night of epic board game fun!

Flow, Chill, and Dip at Ballygally Beach!

Date: Sunday, 16th March 2024

Time: 10:00 AM

Location: Ballygally Beach, Co. Antrim

Join us for the ultimate Sunday reset with a magical blend of sea dipping, yoga, and a luxurious beachside sauna! Stretch it out, warm it up, and dive in—this event is all about connecting with nature, your body, and an incredible community. Whether you’re a seasoned dipper or trying it for the first time, this event is perfect for all. Bring your towel, your yoga mat, and your adventurous spirit!

Spaces are limited, so book now and join us for an unforgettable experience by the sea!

BY DAVID CLARKE