Saturday, October 8, 2016
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Vol. 2, No. 10
October has arrived by Anne Fulcher After a long and brutal summer, fall is finally in the air! College football, tailgating, fall festivals and the list goes on and on of wonderful things happening in October. Then let us not forget Halloween where children, and many adults, enjoy dressing up and trick or treating. But October has some very somber events with the most visible one being Breast Cancer Awareness month. I am sure each and every one of you knows someone who has been affected by breast cancer. Cancer knows no age, race, culture or gender. Many people do not realize that men can get breast cancer also. Next year 2,350 cases of breast cancer will be diagnosed in men and 440 of those men will die from this evil disease. In the October, 2015 edition of the GVW Report I wrote about my dear friend, Yvonne Johnson, and her breast cancer diagnosis in September of last year at the young age of 40. I am honored to have Yvonne and 3 other survivors grace the back cover of this year’s October GVW Report. When I opened
the email from Aiken Regional Medical Center’s marketing department and saw Yvonne being one of the ladies highlighted, I cried. I am so happy to say that Yvonne is doing great and enjoying her new granddaughter. Unfortunately, others have not been so lucky. While a student at USC Aiken, I became friends with a vibrant young woman named Keyah Gibson. Keyah was fierce in every way and I loved her spirit. Unfortunately, Keyah did not survive her battle with breast cancer. On April 1st of this year, at the age of 25, Keyah lost her battle with breast
cancer. One of the last lunches we had together in Aiken, I gave her a Rosary I had gotten her from the Vatican in Rome. She kept it with her everywhere she went. I sure do love and miss that girl but now I have a fierce Angel in Heaven. October is also National Domestic Violence Month, yet another killer among us. Have you ever known anyone in an abusive relationship? It is not a pretty sight. Here are some staggering statistics based on the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV). Every 9 seconds in the U.S.,
a woman is assaulted or beaten. One in three women and one in four men have been physically abused by an intimate partner. The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%. Domestic violence is in every community and affects all people regardless of age, socio-economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality, just like breast cancer. Unfortunately, domestic violence can result in physical injury, emotional trauma and even death. Victims of domestic violence lose a total of 8 million days of paid work each year. “Between 2003 and 2008, 142 women were murdered in their workplace by former or current intimate partners” says the NCADV. . PLEASE, if you or anyone you know is a victim of domestic violence, get help. I know this has been a serious editorial this month but please just take care of yourself. Get your routine mammograms, do routine breast exams and if you are a victim of domestic violence call 211 or either call the Cumbee Center in Aiken at 803-641-4162.
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October Community Calendar Aiken County Recreation Center Room Rentals Available The Recreation Center is available for birthday parties, baby showers, family dinners and more! Call Tandra at 663.6142 for rental rates and reservations. Halloween Spooktacular We are gearing up for Halloween Spooktacular on Friday, October 21. We are in desperate need of sponsors. If you or your business would like to sponsor please contact Tandra at 663.6142 or tcooks@aikencountysc.gov
Turning the Pages Ministry led by Rev. Gollie Walker. First and third Tuesdays at 7 pm. FREE Coffee with Jojo. Second and fourth Thursdays at 6 pm. Childcare provided with reservations by calling Jan at 803646-0451. Men’s Locker Room led by Roger Rollins. Second and fourth Thursdays at 6 pm. FREE Small Engine Repairs. Friday, October 14 and Tuesday 25 from 9 am - 11 am. FREE
Park Civic Center Aiken County Career & Technical Center Gregg www.greggparkonline.com Aiken County Career and Technology Center will be having a Breast Cancer Awareness Walk on October 28th at 1:00pm. Community guests and survivors are invited to attend. For more information call 803-593-7300.
Area Churches Together Serving (ACTS) October 13 @ 6:00pm – Coffee with JoJo (Hope Center, Graniteville) October 15 @ 8:00-9:30am - Senior Food Program for ACTS clients, at ACTS October 22 @ 7:00-10:00pm – Paladin Productions presents a Musical Revue “Songs for Sweethearts” at St. Thaddeus Church (Sanctuary), Tickets on sale at ACTS (649.3800) or online at EventBrite. (Proceeds benefit ACTS programs.) October 27 @ 6:00pm – Coffee with JoJo (Hope Center, Graniteville) CALLING ALL SINGERS! – Harvest Home concert invites those interested in participating in the ecumenical festival chorus directed by Joel Scraper, to call Dr. Scraper at 803.641.3306 or email jscraper@usca.edu. (Concert will benefit ACTS food program) NOW OPEN - ACTS of Graniteville Thrift Store, located at 50 Canal Street in Graniteville. Open to the Public. (The client services ministry at ACTS of Graniteville will begin appointments in the near future.)
Christ Central Graniteville (Hope Center) Call Hope Center 803.393.4575 to sign up for any of these classes. Fit and Ready for the Job Market. October 10-21; 9 am - 2 pm. FREE Special training in soft skills for a variety of jobs including janitorial skills, food industry, retail or lawn care. Course also covers life skills, money matters, job search, workplace etiquette, interview skills, resume writing, conflict resolution, and understanding attitudes. ServSafe(R) Food Manager Training. October 24 8 am - 5 pm with Karen Tempel. Deadline to register is October 10. WorkKeys(R). Mondays and Wednesdays 9 - noon. FREE. GED Prep. Mondays and Wednesdays 9 - noon. FREE.
Thursday, October 27, 2016 at 6:30 pm Come “Scarify and Boo” with us this Halloween dressed in your favorite costume on Thursday, October 27, 2016. Judges will be looking for originality and creativity with trophies being awarded to 1st, 2nd and 3rd place in the following age groups: 2 & under, 3 & 4, 5 & 6, 7-9. Goody bags, prizes and refreshments will be part of our “Ghostly” treats for you!! Registration will be held from 6-6:30 p.m. with the contest beginning at 6:30 pm. For more information, please call the park at 663-7552. After strutting your “Best” costume, come ride with us on Gregg Park’s “Bone Chilling” and “Nightmarish” Haunted Hayride !! Not for the Timid and Easily Spooked “Trick Or Treater”. Venture with us through the woods, looking for last year’s Ghastly Ghosts and Goblins. Beware of the Eerie and Spooky Shadows waiting patiently for “All Hallows Eve” *Gregg Park will offer two Hayrides running simultaneously - The “spooky” trail and a different ride for younger children and the “faint of heart”*
Midland Valley Area Chamber of Commerce
Meets the 2nd Wednesday of each month. Meeting time is noon. For more information call 803-979-4476.
Midland Valley Public Library 9 Hillside Rd, Langley
Operating hours are as follows: Mondays 1 to 6 p.m. Tuesdays 2 to 6 p.m. Wednesdays 1 to 6 p.m. Thursdays 1 to 6 p.m. Phone: 803-593-7379
Megiddo Dream Station Megiddo Dream Station Work for Success Program. Call (803) 392-7044 or drop by 103 Canal Street to register.
Our Lady of the Valley Catholic Center Benefit Bank of SC: Benefit Bank Counselor assist individuals and families in completing several different
applications (SNAP/Food Stamps, TANF/FI Medicaid/CHIP, FAFSA, Prescription Assistance/ Rx Assistance, Lifeline Services, Federal and State Taxes, and Voters Registration), for several different agencies all at one time and all during one interview. Appointments available Monday & Friday 10 a.m. to noon. Call Jackie Cobbs for an appointment 803-6179532. GED classes: Tuesday and Thursday 5:30 to 8 p.m. Classes are free. AA Group: Monday, Wednesday and second Saturday.
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For information on how you can sponsor the GVW Report, or to suggest story ideas, please contact the editor: Anne Fulcher at ernieace2@yahoo.com or call at 803-979-4476
GVW Report Editor Anne Fulcher
Layout/Design Lauren A. Haley
This Month’s Sponsors Aiken Regional Medical Center Aiken Technical College
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SCE&G Energy Efficiency Checkups SCE&G will start doing energy efficiency checkups for its customers in Beech Island, Clearwater, Gloverville, Langley, Graniteville, and North Augusta. For each SCE&G customer program, they will receive energy efficient light bulbs, HVAC filters, smart strip power strips and winterization kits for windows. Yes, this does include mobile homes. Our free Home Energy Check–up is a great way to discover how to improve the energy efficiency of your home.
Free Home Energy Check-up Request Form Today’s Date: ____________________ Please fill out the information below to the best of your knowledge. If there is something you do not know or are unsure of, please leave the field blank. Once we’ve received your form, we will contact you to schedule an appointment.
What to Expect
A professionally trained member of the SCE&G Energy Team will walk through your home with you, visually inspecting windows and doors, caulking, weather stripping, insulation levels, appliances, water heaters, heating and cooling systems. This allows them to assess your home’s energy efficiency. Our expert will then review the results with you and recommend steps you can take to improve your home’s energy efficiency. The process usually takes about an hour.
Your free Home Energy Checkup includes: • A custom report with steps you can take to improve your home’s overall energy usage • A personalized energy consumption overview • Specifics on using your thermostat efficiently • Details on how your HVAC system works • Overview of your home’s past energy usage • Details on how weather affects your consumption For more information, call 1-877-510-7234
How it works:
• Download and submit request form: https://www.sceg.com/docs/librariesprovider5/rebatespdf ’s/homeenergycheckupformrevoct11.pdf • After you submit your Request Form, an SCE&G representative will contact you within 3 business days to schedule your Home Energy Check-up.
Your Information Customer Name ___________________________________________________________ SCE&G Account # __________________________________ Select One... Daytime Phone # ________________________________ How did you hear about our Home Energy Checkup? __________________________________
Street Address ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________ City ___________________________________________________________________ State ____________________Zip ____________________
Tell Us About Your Home Select One... What type of home is it? _______________________________________
What year was your home built? ___________________________________
Select One... Do you own or rent the home? __________________________________
What is the approximate square footage? _____________________________
What level of attic insulation (R-Value) do you currently have? ___________ Select One... Is your attic safely accessible? __________________________________
Select One... Is your home’s crawlspace (if applicable) safely accessible? _______________
Select One... What type of windows do you have? ____________________________________________________________________________________________
What type of cooling system(s) do you have? ______________________________________________________________________________________ What is the SEER rating of your cooling unit?______________________________________________________________________________________ What type of heating system(s) do you have? _____________________________________________________________________________________ Is there any additional information we should know about your heating and/or cooling system(s)? _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ What thermostat setting is comfortable for your home?
In winter ______________________________ In summer __________________________
Select One... Select One... Do you currently have a programmable thermostat? _________________________________ If yes, is it programmed? ___________________________ Select One... Is your water heater electric, gas, or other? _______________________________________________________________________________________
Select One... Does your home have a pool, spa, well or other pump? _________________________ If yes, what horespower is it? ______________________________
How often is the pump run? __________________________________________________________________________________________________
Submitting This Form Email: energyinformationservices@scana.com
Mail: SCE&G Home Energy Check-up
Fax: 803-933-8720
Columbia, SC 29218
A Home Energy Check-up provides observations and recommendations only. They do not evaluate for safety.
Be EnergyWise at sceg.com
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Impatient with God By Dr. Lynn Kirkland Acts 9:26-30 New King James Version (NKJV) Saul at Jerusalem 26 And when Saul had come to Jerusalem, he tried to join the disciples; but they were all afraid of him, and did not believe that he was a disciple. 27 But Barnabas took him and brought him to the apostles. And he declared to them how he had seen the Lord on the road, and that He had spoken to him, and how he had preached boldly at Damascus in the name of Jesus. 28 So he was with them at Jerusalem, coming in and going out. 29 And he spoke boldly in the name of the Lord Jesus and disputed against the Hellenists, but they attempted to kill him. 30 When the brethren found out, they brought him down to Caesarea and sent him out to Tarsus. Galatians 1:15-17 New King James Version (NKJV) 15 But when it pleased God, who separated me from my mother’s womb and called me through His grace, 16 to reveal His Son in me, that I might preach Him among the Gentiles, I did not immediately confer with flesh and blood, 17 nor did I go up to Jerusalem to those who were apostles before me; but I went to Arabia, and returned again to Damascus. These two scriptures are not contradictory as to what transpired in The Apostle Paul’s life but actually clarify the timeline and allow us to see what r e a l l y happened. You see, we live in a “sitcom world” and our lives are a culmination of that. Let me explain: I grew up watching “Leave It to Beaver”, “Andy Griffith”, “Perry Mason”, and “Columbo”. Today we watch “Big Bang Theory”, “NCIS”, “Blue Bloods”, etc., etc. In other words, any problem can be solve in 30 to 45 minutes – if you exclude commercials – no matter how big or small. What happens as we read Acts 9:26-30 is that we think Saul was saved, changed his name to Paul, and started preaching! It is not until we get to Galatians 1:15-17 until we get “the rest of the story” and by that time we forgot what we read over in Acts.
What actually happened was closer to this: Saul of Tarsus was a well educated Pharisee that was very zealous in defending his Jewish faith, rules and laws. This Jesus character upset his whole world. Stephen was preaching Jesus so Saul helped organize his stoning and stood by holding the coats of the accusers/stoners. He was near enough to see as Stephen prayed for his murderers. He heard Stephen cry out as he saw a vision of Jesus Christ welcoming him into His arms. This had a profound effect on the Pharisee. All that he knew; all that he had lived for was about to change! Then came the Damascus Road experience! Saul turned to the believers – not his fellow Pharisees for help. After the scales were lifted from his eyes immediately Saul began to share the Good News of Jesus Christ. Then we see that he joins with other believers to learn more under them about this man called Jesus. After possibly a year or more in Damascus Saul went to the Arabian desert to study for three years. He then returned to Damascus for some time and then went to Jerusalem to meet with the Apostles. Things soon became too dangerous for him in Jerusalem and the Apostles got wind of a plot by the Hellenists to kill him. Saul then slipped out of town at night and was sent by the apostles back to his home in Tarsus – where he remained for about 10 years before he began his missionary journeys. Whew! According to which historian you believe it was somewhere between 15 and 25 years after Jesus called Saul of Tarsus on the Damascus Road until he became the missionary God had called him to be. Why? Why so long? Why did Paul have to wait? I believe Saul had to allow God to do a work in him personally before he could do what God called him to do. Saul’s conversion had to be “hammered out.” His theology needed to be refined and spelled out. And only after those life experiences could the work Christ called him to begin. Believe me! Waiting is hard. Saul began sharing the Gospel immediately. But when we accept Jesus as our savior our conversion story needs to be “hammered out”. Our theol-
ogy needs to be refined and spelled out. Then we will see that our life experiences make our new life with Christ real. Call our office and leave me a message if I can pray with you about what you believe God is calling you to. 803-400-3609. I will call you back. Join us at COWBOY CHURCH @ The Hippodrome, 5540 Jefferson Davis Hwy., North Augusta, SC on Sunday mornings at 11 AM. We meet for Fun, Fellowship, and Worship!
For prayer or to support this ministry contact us at: Dr. Lynn Kirkland EVANGELIST / REVIVALVIST Impact Ministries International, Inc. 758 Silver Bluff Rd., #5431, Aiken, SC 29804 OFFICE PHONE: 803 400-3609 Sign up to receive our monthly newsletter: www.tinyurl.com/4enews Cowboy up for Jesus!
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Each month a student/students from one of the schools in the GVW area will have their story published in the GVW Report. I hope you enjoy their work and please reach out to them and give them a cheer for their good work
Favorite things about Fall by Ja’Siah Herrin
My favorite things about autumn are the fair, the cool weather, and the colorful leaves on the trees. In October of each year there is an Aiken fair. There are rides, good carnival food, and mini games. Also, there is music playing while we ride the rides. At the fair there is a building where you can get face paints and other different things. During the fall season it gets chilly outside. So, you would have to wear jackets and coats, which I like. Having cool weather is fun because you can hats, gloves or mittens, boots, and earmuffs. Also, when fall is here the leaves turn red, orange, yellow and some stay green and brown. When you’re inside where it’s warm you can enjoy a nice warm drink such as coffee, cocoa, hot tea or buy hot lattes or mochas from Starbucks or Dunkin’ Donuts. A holiday in fall is Halloween. During Halloween you can dress up as anything you want. It can also be dangerous, so be careful. You can also go trick-or-treating and hunt for candy. At some houses people do haunted houses for extra scariness. In stores they sell candy corn with has fall colors on them; yellow, orange, and white. Some people like to carve pumpkins to have scary faces. Ja’Siah Herrin is in Ann McGhee’s 5th grade class at Warrenville Elementary School. Her parents are Jimera Baxley and Pierre Herrin.
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AIKEN COUNTY FAMILY YMCA October 2016
OCTOBER 2016 MEMBERSHIP SPECIAL - WOMEN’S HEALTH MONTH! Half off Joiner’s Fee for all Women! Hello Aiken County Family YMCA! My name is Matt Mullen and I am very excited to be coming to join you all. Our association has done some restructuring and our old buddy James Thomas has accepted a position as the new District Vice President of the Thomson and North Jefferson YMCA's in Georgia. My Y story starts many years ago but professionally, I started my career with the Family YMCA of Northwest Illinois in Freeport, Illinois. For 5 years, I was the Associate Executive Director. In 2014, I accepted the position of Executive Director of the Barnwell County Family YMCA right down the road in Barnwell, SC. We opened that facility in January of 2015 and since then it has prospered and grown in one of the hidden jewels of South Carolina. I am the luckiest married man in all the world, to my wife Audrey and we have two beautiful children (who luckily look like their mother), Delaney and Grady. As of August 22nd, I have accepted the position of District Vice President of the Aiken County and Barnwell County Family YMCA's. I am very excited about this opportunity to work with the amazing staff and board of the Aiken County Y and our dear friends of Cedar Creek West. My email is mmullen@thefamilyy.org and my office door is always open so please stop by anytime.
PARENTS NIGHT OUT! Drop off your kids (Potty Trained through age 12), for an evening full of fun, games, crafts, pizza, and a movie!! Saturday, OCTOBER 15TH, 5:30pm-9:00pm Members: $15/child; Non-Members: $25/ child. Multi Child discount See front desk staff to sign up!
AIKEN FAMILY Y KID’S BOOK CLUB Every third Saturday of the month from 11-12pm join us in Studio B for Story Time and a related craft! Parents are encouraged to stay and enjoy this time together with your child. Sign up at the front desk!
DROP AND SHOP MONDAY—FRIDAY : 9AM-12PM Ages: Monday-Friday, 8weeks-4years Daily Fee: $10/members / $15/non-members
CHECK OUT the AQUATICS SCHEDULE for our
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MODIFIED MOVES, MAXIMUM RESULTS Enhance®Fitness is geared toward older adults of all fitness levels. If you have a chronic condition, such as arthritis, you may be able to gain more strength and independence. You will feel energized - physically, mentally, and socially - and be surrounded by people who care about your success. YOU BELONG HERE! Contact rking@thefamilyy.org for additional information.
INDOOR HEATED POOL!!! (Opening late October)
AQUA ZUMBA AQUA FIT GROUP EXERCISE SWIM LESSONS BARRACUDA SWIM TEAM Register at Front Desk
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CHRISTMAS GIFTS FOR THE CHILDREN OUR LADY OF THE VALLEY CATHOLIC CENTER Our Lady of the Valley Catholic Center will take applications for Christmas toys for the kids during the first three weeks of October. Call for an appointment. Gifts will be distributed on Monday December 19, 2016. To be eligible you must:
Live in (or kids go to school in) Aiken County School Area #3 (Horsecreek Valley) Have a Household Income below the Emergency Food Assistance level Not signed up with any other Christmas Gift Program in the Valley (Incl. Salvation Army, Empty Stocking, Secret Santa, and others)
This program is for children who are 13 years old and younger on Christmas Day. If you qualify, call Our Lady of the Valley Catholic Center for an appointment. Signup appointments will be scheduled for Tuesday and Thursday the first 3 weeks of October and November 1, 2016 5:00 pm - 7:00 pm Signup times will be between9:00 AM and Noon.
Call for an appointment at (803) 593-2623
When you come for your appointment, you must have the following documents (no exceptions):
Proof of Income or No Income for everyone in the Household 18 yrs and older Current photo ID of yourself and a document with your current living address Social Security Cards for yourself and every child that you are signing up Written list of clothes sizes and possible gifts for each eligible child
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Fall, my time of the year!
The smell of fall is in the air… and the leaves of the trees will transition into bursts of yellows, reds, oranges and browns of autumn. The melody of the town carnivals, church festivals and The county fairs are in the air. Fall brings memories of the aroma of the hay and manure at the livestock exhibition and seeing who won the blue ribbon for Best of Show. The smell of that sweet candy apple and the scent of cotton candy bring back childhood memories of attending
the taste will remind you of those memories of yesterday. And while you’re in the store, be sure to get a pack of Mr. Danny’s “Little Debbie” Pumpkin Spice Rolls and the Caramel Apple Oatmeal Cream Pies which are divine!! For that real sweet tooth, try our “Pumpkin Spice Cups” a Pumpkin Spice in a Chocolaty cup!! Or if you prefer… Caramel Apple Cups, a blend of Caramel Apple Flavor in a Chocolaty Cup. Be sure and check the “Minitor Market” FaceBook page for information on our upcoming: Minitor Market Chili Cook-off!! And other specials this fall!!
festivals as a family. Often my wife and I, along with friends, would be sitting around the fire sharing stories and enjoying life in the cooler fall evenings. On the grill a line of hamburgers, hot dogs, and corn. On the side, aluminum foil filled with large onions sautéd with Don’s Seasoning De-
CALENDAR, from Page 2 Basic Computer Class: Call Sr. Dorothy 803-507-7715 Volunteers are always needed. All we ask is that you consider donating an hour or two of your time a week, a month, any amount you can give to the following: Food Pantry: driver to pick up the food (once a month), a person to unload the food truck (once a month), help restock shelves. Receptionist: Monday or Wednesday or Friday (or Monday, Wednesday and Friday), 10 a.m. to noon. Caseworker: Assessing the needs of the person seeking help. Tutor: Helping students with reading, math, English and social studies.
The Family and Marriage Coalition of Aiken Inc. 1651 Banks Mill Road, Aiken, SC 29803, www.aikenfamco.com, 803-640-4689 The Valley Alliance October 19,2016, 11:30am. Valley Alliance
luncheon, Cheryl Ruggles, Outreach Coordinator for Just Serve will be our guest speaker. Come find out what Just Serve is all about and how they can help your organization. The Valley Alliance meets at Langley Bible Church (formerly Langley Pentecostal Holiness Church). For more information, contact Rosealind Morse at rosegoes@aol.com.
Walgreens, Clearwater, SC Walgreens offers free blood pressure checks all day during pharmacy operating hours (9am - 9pm M-F, sa 9-6, and su 10-6). No appointment necessary. 1st Tuesday of every month is senior day which offers a 20% discount on regular priced merchandise. 2nd Wednesday of every month we offer free confidential HIV testing on site from 11am-2pm. To have your organizations events posted in the GVW Report Community Calendar, please email Anne Fulcher at ernieace2@ yahoo.com or call at 803-979-4476
light. She uses Don’s for everything!! My wife likes to wrap cored apples filled with cinnamon and brown sugar and a dab of butter. That’s a great dessert!! At Minitor Market, we can provide you with that fall smell with our “Faygo” Candy Apple and “Faygo” Cotton Candy Soda that are Caffeine Free!! The smell,
Minitor Market, We have the Meats You Love… At The Prices You Expect… From Faces You Know… YOU SAVE MONEY Check us out on FaceBook/MinitorMarket/ for Daily Specials!! Your Hometown Tradition 1161 Augusta Rd. Warrenville, SC www.MinitorMarket.com
Gregg Park’s Costume Contest and Haunted Hayrides
Thursday, October 27 Come Join Us On Thursday, October 27th, 2016 and see with your own eyes the Scary and Frightful Ghostsand Goblins Hidden in Gregg Park’s most Secret Places Waiting to “Boo”
REGISTRATION for Our Costume Contest for Children 0-9 yrs. of age will Be held from 6-6:30 p.m. with Contest starting at 6:30 p.m. AGES: 2 and Under, 3&4, 5&6, and 7-9. Trophies for 1st, 2nd, 3rd place in each age group. After the sun “goes down”… (2) Haunted Hayrides and (1) Kiddie Hayride (for the Faint of heart)! Door Prizes, trophies, candy, free food and Lots of fun! For More Information, please call the park at 663-7552.
www.greggparkonline.com
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A focus on women’s breast health The smell of fall is in the air… and the leaves of the trees will transition into bursts of yellows, reds, oranges and browns of autumn. The melody of the town carnivals, church festivals and The county fairs are in the air. Fall brings memories of the aroma of the hay and manure at the livestock exhibition and seeing who won the blue ribbon for Best of Show. The smell of that sweet candy apple and the scent of cotton candy bring back childhood memories of attending festivals as a family. Aiken Regional Knows Women Aiken Regional’s center offers a positive, comfortable and healing environment, providing the only freestanding women’s center in the region and the only location with an all-female certified staff. Services provided by the Women’s Breast Health and Imaging Center range from digital mammography and stereotactic biopsies to bone density screenings and routine X-rays. A dedicated Breast Health Nurse Navigator is available to help women feel at ease by staying close and becoming a compassionate resource as needed. And other special programs encourage healing, awareness and “sister” support for all participants. Having access to a range of diagnostic services in one location can also help make it easier to manage healthcare. The Women’s Breast Health and Imaging Center provides one convenient location for annual screenings such as routine X-rays, mammograms and bone densitometry exams, streamlining the process year after year. Breast Screenings and Diagnostic Services Board-certified radiologists and surgeons utilize sophisticated imaging and diagnostic technology in an effort to detect cancers of the breast in their earliest and most treatable stage. Aiken’s Women’s
Breast Health and Imaging Center has all-digital mammography for faster and more comprehensive results. Compression paddles equipped with springs also make the test more comfortable. When needed, stereotactic breast biopsies are conducted. Using mammography or X-rays as a guide for improved precision, a stereotactic breast biopsy is a highly accurate way to take a tissue sample for detecting cancer of the breast. The procedure is usually completed within an hour. Bone Screening Osteoporosis is a condition that causes bones to become weak and brittle. A bone fracture can be the first indication of a problem. By measuring the denseness of bone, radiologists can determine bone strength and determine if osteoporosis is present.
Since it’s never too early to take charge of your breast health, the Liv Now. Live Later. initiative is designed specifically to educate young women about breast cancer and how to prevent it. Women between the ages of 18 and 39 are encouraged to get more actively involved in their breast health at a younger age. When women join Aiken Regional’s WE – Women Enlightened for Better Health – free program, they are encouraged to “Liv Now. Live Later.” They receive a LIV® Breast Awareness Aid that enhances the touch of a self-breast exam by 10 times, making it easier to detect breast abnormalities.
Information on breast cancer, including facts and statistics, resources and genetic testing information, as well as tips on prevention, are all provided as well as access to a Taste of Wellness Portal that’s full of helpful health and wellness education, healthy recipes, exercise routines and more. Liv Now. Live Later. provides inspirational stories of survival, enabling women of every age to meet some of the young women who have faced a breast cancer diagnosis at an early age and won the battle. For more information about the Women’s Breast Health and Imaging Center, visit www.aikenregional.com today.
N MORE “WELL, SHE WAS DRUNK”
Routine X-rays X-rays are the most frequently used form of medical imaging. They provide valuable information for many types of diagnoses, ranging from orthopedic conditions to cancer. When highly detailed X-rays are performed, the need for repeat testing is lowered. This also reduces unnecessary radiation exposure for patients.
Domestic violence and sexual assault are never the victim’s fault. It’s time we all speak out to stop the violence. No more excuses. No more silence. No more violence.
Liv Now. Live Later.
www.nomore.org © 2013 Joyful Heart Foundation. All rights reserved. All content and trademarks used under license (or with permission).
Amy Poehler
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FREE
Screenings
Clinical Breast exam Pelvic exam
Pap smear (if needed) Mammogram
You may qualify if you:
Are a South Carolina resident 2 Are 30 to 64-year-old woman 3 Have high-deductible health insurance, and/or diagnostic insurance coverage less than 100%, hospitalization coverage only, or have no health insurance, and Meet certain income guidelines. 1
Effective July 1, 2016 thru June 29, 2017 Based on the total number of people in the household. Household Size
Income
1 person
$23,540 or less
2 people
$31,860 or less
3 people
$40,180 or less
4 people
$48,500 or less
5 people
$56,820 or less
6 people
$65,140 or less
Add $8,320 for each additional family member.
If you are eligible and interested in receiving these free services, please find the county you live in and call the BCN contact person in your area.
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For more information, contact: Call the American Cancer Society at 1-800-ACS-2345 (1-800-227-2345) and ask about the Best Chance Network
www.scdhec.gov/bcn
Best Chance Network (BCN) Income Eligibility Guidelines
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Joyce Hudson, Community Health Worker 843.264.2899
Sabrina Early, Community Health Worker: 803.643.2100
Abbeville, Berkeley, Charleston, Chesterfield, Clarendon, Darlington, Dillon, Florence, Georgetown, Greenwood, Horry, Laurens, Lee, McCormick, Marion, Marlboro, Orangeburg, Saluda, Sumter & Williamsburg
Aiken, Allendale, Bamberg, Barnwell, Beaufort, Calhoun, Colleton, Dorchester, Edgefield, Fairfield, Hampton, Jasper, Kershaw, Lancaster, Lexington, Newberry, & Richland
Evelyn Lugo, Hispanic/Latino Outreach Coordinator: 864.240.4256 Anderson, Cherokee, Chester, Greenville, Oconee, Pickens, Spartanburg, Union & York
July 2016
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MyVA Communities The Aiken County Veterans Affairs Office provides assistance to veterans, their widows, and survivors in applying for any and all benefits to which they may be entitled from the US Department of Veterans Affairs, the State of South Carolina, VA Hospital, and local agencies. We offer complete and unlimited services and assistance. This includes research, preparation, development, presentation and prosecution of claims submitted to the US Department of Veterans Affairs and the Board of Veterans Appeals. Our veterans are our reason for being and all of our efforts are directed toward meeting their needs in a timely and accurate manner.
What This Office Does
Assist in the preparation and submission of claims thru the US Department of Veterans Affairs and the Board of Veterans Appeals. This includes but is not limited
to service connected disability compensation, nonservice connected pension, education benefits, vocational rehab, home loans, burial benefits, dependents’ and survivors’ benefits, health care, and life insurance. Note: Each benefit has its own eligibility requirements. Assist in applying for benefits available from the State of South Carolina (i.e. property tax exemption and V-tags for 100% service connected veterans rated permanently & totally disabled; POW tags; Purple Heart tags; Free Tuition for State supported colleges for eligible children; State Veterans Nursing Homes; etc.) Note: Each benefits has its own eligibility requirements. Assist with enrollment for Healthcare at the VA Hospital. Assist in filing annuity applications for surviving spouses of military and civil service retirees.
Representative’s Name: Dwight Bradham Assist in the completion of Eligibility Verification Reports and securing additional monies based on unreimbursed medical expenses. Participate in Interagency Team Meetings and maintain close contact with the local doctors and hospital, nursing homes, home health, and Council on Aging in an effort to identify veterans and/or widows who may be eligible for benefits or need assistance. Certify and Record DD214 and Discharges as the Custodian of Military Records for Newberry County. At present there is no charge for this service.
Representative’s Title: Director Agency being represented: Aiken County Veterans Affairs Agency’s Address: 1930 University Parkway, Suite 2305 Aiken, SC 29801 Phone Number: (803) 642-1545 Email Address: Dbradham@aikencountysc.gov
GVW Report Resource Center Aiken Barnwell Mental Health Center 803-641-7700 1135 Gregg Hwy., Aiken, SC 29801 Aiken Regional Medical Center 803-641-5000 302 University Parkway, Aiken, SC 29801 Aiken Senior Life Services (formerly the Aiken Area Council on Aging) 803.648.5447 159 Morgan St. Aiken, SC 29801 • Providing meals in a dining hall setting • Hot meal delivery to homebound seniors • Frozen meal replacement for non-delivery days or for those outside our coverage area • Non-perishable food items that require minimal cooking • Non-emergency medical transportation • Rural public transit services via the Pony Express • Transportation for shopping, social, employment, and medical services Midland Valley Public Library The Midland Valley Public Library hours are Monday, Wednesday, Thursday 1 to 6 and Tuesday 2 to 6.
Mt. Salem Ministries; 803-646-3847 Outreach Mission Men’s Homeless Shelter Registration from 4 to 6 p.m. Monday through Sunday 2121 Augusta Road, Gloverville, SC (Hwy 421) “His Table” Soup Kitchen, Monday through Friday “Free lunch” from noon to 2 p.m. 3850 Augusta Road, Bath, SC (Hwy 421) All are welcome!
Rural Health Services, Inc. 803-380-7000 With offices in Aiken, Clearwater and New Ellenton Seeing patients with and without insurance. Adult Medicine, Pediatric Medicine, Behavioral Health, Dentistry, OB/Gyn Medicine, Teen Clinic The Family and Marriage Coalition of Aiken, Inc. FAMCO is a local nonprofit corporation whose mission is to promote the acquisition of relationship skills necessary for successful families and marriages. Resources are provided for couples getting married and those who are married and would like to improve their marriages. Resources are also provided for churches, businesses and other organizations that would like to help their members with their relationship skills. Contact FAMCO at 803-640-4689
The Valley Alliance The Valley Alliance is a nonprofit organization of cooperative agencies, churches, institutions, ministries, and community servants working together within the Midland Valley area for the purpose of better serving our community and its needs by building networks of support and communication, and sharing resources and services that complement each other. The Valley Alliance meets the third Wednesday of every month, for lunch and to discuss our respective ministry activities and to share how we might best help each other with our goals and activities. If your organization would like to join us, just show up. If you have areas that are of interest to the betterment of the community we serve, please let a member of the Board know or you may email this address: rosegoes@aol.com. We would be glad to hear from you. If you have any suggestions for luncheon speakers, we would also like to hear about that. Women’s Breast Health & Imaging Center 803-641-5808 Aiken Regional Medical Center University Parkway, Aiken, SC 29801
Do you or your organization offer services to those in need? Please send us your information so we can share your services to those who need them. This is a free service. For more information, contact Anne Fulcher at 803-979-4476 or ernieace2@yahoo.com.
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VETERANS VILLAGE The Aiken County Veterans Council invites you to attend our
Veterans Village
on Saturday, November 5th from 10:00am- 2:00pm at Aiken Technical College Student Center Gymnasium Guest Speaker Congressman Joe Wilson Sponsored by
Don’t miss this great opportunity for veterans of all ages and military services to: Learn about various veteran service organizations and the ways they serve the veteran community • Get connected locally to ensure the existence of veterans organizations for future generations • Connect with other veterans, share stories, and find out what may be available to you based on your military service • Meet with representatives from your Regional/Local Veterans Affairs Offices and Charlie Norwood Veterans Affairs Medical Center • Meet and hear from your state and federal legislative representatives Vietnam War Veterans – bring a copy of your DD 214 and let us recognize you for your contributions and service as part of the Vietnam War Commemoration effort with a ceremony at 12pm Organizations include: •
Event sponsored in conjunction with Aiken County Veterans Affairs
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United Way of Aiken County
Meet the 2016 Campaign Loaned Professionals
United Way of Aiken County’s 2016 Fundraising Goal of $2,683,164 was revealed by our United Way “Gingerbread People” at the United Way “Candyland” themed Campaign Kickoff Celebration on August 26th.
2016 Campaign Calendar 6th Annual Spooktacular Bachelor & Bachelorette Auction
Kimberly-Clark Tournament October 28, 2016 Registration begins at 12:15 PM Houndslake Country Club
Come join us for a wicked good time at the 6th Annual Bachelor & Bachelorette auction. The Spooktacular will be held at The Red Barn, 187 Chime Bell Church Rd., October 28, 2016. The event will include a delicious dinner provided by Aiken Regional Medical Centers, dancing, a silent auction, and of course our frightfully good bachelors and bachelorettes. Costumes are encouraged. Check out the event page on Facebook. Join us if you dare...
For more information, please call the United Way at 803-648-8331.
Debbie Byrd Sponsored by CH2M
Project Vision
Centerra-SRS Golf Tournament October 14, 2016 Registration begins at 9:30 AM Houndslake Country Club
Bachelor & Bachelorette Auction October 28, 2016 7:00 PM - 11:00 PM The Red Barn, 187 Chime Bell Church Rd.
Jim Moore Savannah River Nuclear Solutions
In August, Aiken Electric Cooperative completed home repairs during their first annual repair projects coined Project Power. The two-day service projects benefited 5 local families who were members of Aiken Electric Cooperative in both Aiken and Edgefield counties. Four of the five clients were also clients of Project VISION.
Aaron Blackmon Security Federal Bank
Corporate Leaders Platinum ($100,000 & Above) Kimberly Clark Corporation Savannah River Nuclear Solutions Gold ($50,000-$99,999) Publix Supermarkets Charities, Inc. Silver ($25,000-$49,999) AECOM Aiken Electric Cooperative Centerra-SRS Savannah River Remediation
Aiken Electric’s CEO, Gary Stooksbury and 28 linemen, in addition to several other support staff, volunteered over 800 hours of service to provide some major exterior home repairs. Special thanks to our very own board member, Keyatta Priester for the partnership and planning of a very successful, first annual event. We are looking forward to Aiken Electric’s continued partnership in providing “More than just power,” in Aiken County.
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TLC Medical is a National Take Back Initiative Collection Site TLC MEDICAL CENTRE, INC. 190 CREPE MYRTLE DRIVE (ON SILVER BLUFF ROAD) AIKEN, SC 29803 803-648-7800 National Take Back Initiative Collection Site
Saturday, October 22, 2016 10:00 am - 2:00 pm The National Prescription Drug Take-Back Day aims to provide a safe, convenient, and responsible means of disposing of prescription drugs. Drug Disposal Guidelines and Locations The following guidelines were developed to encourage the proper disposal of medicines and help reduce harm from accidental exposure or intentional misuse after they are no longer needed: • Follow any specific disposal instructions on the prescription drug labeling or patient information that accompanies the medicine. Do not flush medicines down the sink or toilet. • Take advantage of the program TLC Medical Centre, Inc. which allows the public to take unused drugs to 190 Crepe Myrtle Drive in Aiken (on Silver Bluff Road) for proper disposal. Call Richard Heaton at 803.648.7800 with any questions. • Transfer unused medicines to TLC MEDICAL CENTRE who is a collector registered with the Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA). Items can be left in original packaging and delivered in a plastic bag. IF YOU WANT TO DISPOSE OF UNUSED MEDICINES YOURSELF, FOLLOW THESE GUIDELINES: 1. Remove them from their original containers and mix them with an undesirable substance, such as used coffee grounds, dirt or kitty litter (this makes the drug less appealing to children and pets, and unrecognizable to people who may intentionally go through the trash seeking drugs). 2. Place the mixture in a sealable bag, empty can or other container to prevent the drug from leaking or breaking out of a garbage bag. 3. Scratch out all identifying information on the prescription label to make it unreadable. This will help protect your identity and the privacy of your personal health information.
4. Do not give your medicine to friends. Doctors prescribe medicines based on your specific symptoms and medical history. Something that works for you could be dangerous for someone else.
5. When in doubt about proper disposal, SIMPLY CALL Richard Heaton at 803.648.7800 The same disposal methods for prescription drugs could apply to over-the-counter drugs as well.
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WHERE TO APPLY
Disability Benefits • Compensation. VA can pay you monthly compensation if you are at least 10% disabled as a result of your military service.
• Pension. VA can pay you a pension if you are a wartime veteran with limited income and you are permanently and totally disabled or are 65 or older.
Any VA Office or call 1-800-827-1000 or visit www.va.gov
Disability Benefits • Montgomery GI Bill. Persons who first entered active duty after June 30, 1985, and contributed
to an education fund are generally eligible. Some Vietnam Era veterans and certain veterans separated under special programs are also eligible. The bill also includes a program for certain reservists and National Guard members. • Reserve Educational Assistance Program (REAP/Chapter 1607) is available to persons who were activated under Federal authority for a contingency operation and served 90 continuous days or more after September 11, 2001. • Post-9/11 GI Bill. Available to those who served on or after September 11, 2001. It pays tuition and fees up to the most expensive, public, in-state undergraduate program rate, provides a monthly housing allowance, and a stipend for books and supplies. It also provides an option for servicemembers to transfer benefits to a spouse or child. • Survivors’ & Dependents’ Educational Assistance is available to some family members of certain disabled or deceased veterans.
Any VA Office or call 1-888-442-4551 or visit www.va.gov
Vocational Rehabilitation & Employment The Vocational Rehabilitation and Employment Service provides outreach, motivation, evaluation, counseling, training, employment, and other rehabilitation services to service-connected disabled veterans. Vocational and educational counseling, as well as the evaluation of abilities, aptitudes, and interests are provided to veterans and servicepersons. Counseling, assessment, education programs and, in some cases, rehabilitation services are available to the spouse and children of totally and permanently disabled veterans as well as to the surviving spouse and children of certain veterans. Vocational training and rehabilitation services are available to children with spina bifida having one or both parents who served in the Republic of Vietnam during the Vietnam War, or served in certain military units, in or near the demilitarized zone in Korea, between September 1, 1967, and August 31, 1971.
Home Loan Guaranty VA guarantees loans to eligible servicemembers, veterans, reservists, and certain surviving spouses to purchase a home, condominium or manufactured home, and for refinancing purposes. The loans are actually made by private lenders but the VA guaranty generally means the lender will not require any down payment.
Any VA Office or call 1-800-827-1000 or visit www.va.gov
Any VA Office or call 1-800-827-1000 or visit www.va.gov
Dependents’ and Survivors’ Benefits • Disability and Indemnity Compensation (DIC) is payable to survivors of: • Servicemembers who died on active duty Veterans who died from service-related disabilities • Certain veterans who were being paid 100% VA disability compensation at time of death Death Pension is payable to some surviving spouses and children of deceased wartime veterans. The benefit is based on financial need. VA Civilian Health and Medical Program (CHAMPVA) shares the cost of medical services for eligible dependents and survivors of certain veterans.
Any VA Office or call 1-800-827-1000 or visit www.va.gov
Medical Treatment • Hospital, outpatient medical, dental, pharmacy and prosthetic services • Domiciliary, nursing home, and community-based residential care • Sexual trauma counseling • Specialized health care for women veterans • Health and rehabilitation programs for homeless veterans VA FORM AUG 2009
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SUPERSEDES VA FORM 21-0760, MAR 2008, WHICH WILL NOT BE USED.
Any VA Medical Facility or call 1-877-222-8387 or visit www.va.gov Contact us on the Internet at https://iris.va.gov
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‘We Are Rural Health Services Inc.’ Caregiver’s Symposium Hitchcock Place 102 Crepe Myrtle Ct. Aiken, SC 29803 For reservations call 803-641-1127 6:30pm-7:30pm
An educational series for family, loved ones and staff who take care of those with advanced issues due to age or illness. Free to the public.
Be “BRA-ZEN” with Breast Cancer! Rural Health Services, Inc. is doing something fun for Breast Cancer Awareness Month! Our theme is Be “BRA-ZEN” with Breast Cancer! Interested staff members and some community partners, will decorate bras and enter them in a contest. There will be a winner each Friday in October. Judges will not be members of RHS staff so there are no conflicts. Each Friday we will pink, and/or, breast cancer awareness shirts and take pictures with our bras in front of a Breast Cancer Awareness Back Drop and post them to face book. All bras will be displayed throughout our health centers until November 1st. Deadline for all entries will be Friday, October 14, 2016. Because this cancer has impacted so many of our patients and families, RHS wants to use this is an opportunity to educate and celebrate. We invite others who may be interested to get those creative juices flowing and bring us some bras! I am the contact person for this project. For more information, contact Ms. Gail Diggs at 803-380-7013.
10-11-2016 Anne Fulcher, Role reversal in caregiving Sponsored by Right At Home 10-18-2016 Reilly Hammond, Developing a new normal Sponsord by Fox 10-25-2016 Celebration of Life, Finale Sponsored byTLC Medical
To provide accessible quality comprehensive primary care services in a dignified and culturally competent manner to the population in Aiken County and surrounding areas. Clyburn Center for Primary Care 1000 Clyburn Place Aiken, SC 29801 (803) 380-7000
Margaret J. Weston Community Health Center 4645 Augusta Road Beech Island, South Carolina 29842 (803) 593-9283
Family Health Care 120 Darlington Drive Aiken, SC 29803
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Aiken County Recreation Center Aiken County will host a Community Yard Sale to Benefit United Way! Hosts Couponing Class! Aiken County Government will host an Outdoor Yard Sale on Saturday, October 8th from 8 am to 12 noon. All proceeds will benefit United Way of Aiken County. If you are interested in participating, spaces are available for $10. Please RSVP by Thursday, October
Reynolds! This class offers a great interactive, learning session. Each participant will receive a helpful tips, techniques and info. There will be a light snack, games and door prizes. $15/person. Please RSVP with the Rec Center at 803-663-6142 or tcooks@aikencountysc.gov before class.
6th. Spaces are very limited. The yard sale will be held at the Aiken County Sheriff ’s Office, located at 420 Hampton Ave. in Aiken, SC. For more information, please call Tandra Cooks at (803) 663-6142 or Vickie Snyder at (803) 642-1772.
October 15 at 11 am Aiken County Parks, Recreation and Tourism will host The Diva Couponista Class taught by Aiesha
The Aiken County Recreation Center is located at 917 Jefferson Davis Highway (US 1) in Graniteville, SC. For more information, please call Tandra Cooks at (803) 663-6142.
Workshops to help prospective, current students discover career paths With so many career options available, deciding which one is best for you can be overwhelming. Aiken Technical College’s Career Services department hopes to aid area residents in that process through a series of Career Exploration Workshops. The purpose of the workshops is to help prospective and current students decide “on a career path that is in harmony with who the person is and that can help him or her reach personal goals. The workshop contains inventories regarding personality, interests and values to aid a person in thinking about a career that can be deeply satisfying as well as provide a living,” said Kathryn Fowler, Director of Career Services. Workshops will be held Oct. 20 and Dec. 8 from 6:15 to 7:30 p.m. The workshops are free for prospective and current ATC students. During each workshop, attendees
Aiken County Recreation Center to Hold Beginner Spanish Classes!
will receive the results of their inventories and have access to a list of potential careers that relate to their results. Guidance will also be provided on the decision making process. Those interested in participating in a workshop should contact Kathryn Fowler at (803) 508-7381 or fowlerkf@ atc.edu to reserve a seat.
Spanish Made Simple! Jump on this 6 week train and Speak N Grow with us! This beginner’s Spanish course will tear down language barriers and improve success! Classes will be taught by a certified Spanish instructor. $30/6 week session. First class will be Tuesday, Oct 4 at 5:30 pm.
Please RSVP with the Rec Center at 803-663-6142 or tcooks@aikencountysc.gov before classes begin. The Aiken County Recreation Center is located at 917 Jefferson Davis Highway (US 1) in Graniteville, SC. For more information, please call Tandra Cooks at (803) 663-6142.
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Empathetic Listening BY Roger Rollins “Exceedingly few exchanges of viewpoints manifest a real desire to understand the other person.” – Paul Tournier “A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.” – Bible Paul and Pat decided it was time to see a counselor. Their marriage was headed the wrong way. They couldn’t seem to come to grips with the problem and hence could come up with no solution. The counselor asked them each to share what they thought might be their trouble. After Paul had spoken a few words, Pat shook her head and laughed sarcastically. She started to make a sharp retort when the counselor asked her to wait for her opportunity. When Paul finished and Pat began to speak it was Paul’s turn to roll his eyes and huff and puff in poorly disguised disgust. He kept his mouth shut, but with obvious effort. Communication is almost always at the root of most marital problems. It was clear to the counselor that one of his first challenges was getting Paul and Pat to listen to each other. Dr. Gary Chapman, in his book “The Four Seasons of Marriage”, tells how to listen empathetically. What does the word empathetic add to the word listen? First of all it’s important to remember that empathy is not sympathy. Sympathy is a feeling of concern for someone, maybe even experiencing the thoughts or emotions of someone else. You might say sympathy is “feeling for someone.” Empathy, on the other hand, understands the feelings of someone else either because you have been there yourself or you have made the effort to put yourself
in their shoes. Empathy then is “feeling as someone.” People can tell the difference between sympathy and empathy. Perhaps you and a friend are visiting a mutual acquaintance in the hospital who is recovering from a serious illness. You express sympathy for the patient because you care for them and are concerned about their welfare. Your friend, however, expresses empathy because she had a similar illness and knows what the patient is going through. Although the patient appreciates your sympathy, the empathy of your friend has a greater impact. Dr. Chapman suggests four basic steps to follow when practicing empathetic listening First of all, listen with an attitude of understanding. This is not as easy as it sounds. We all are egocentric by nature. It takes significant maturity to choose to put ourselves in someone else’s shows, and try to understand from their position, especially if it’s contrary to ours. Next, choose to withhold judgment on your spouse’s ideas. This also requires a significant shift in our behavior. We are probably involved in this discussion with our spouse because of a difference of opinion. Now we are expected to withhold expressing our opinion, even though we may be convinced we are right and they are wrong. Recognize that in these first two steps, attempting to understand and withholding judgment, our goal is to truly comprehend and even appreciate our spouse’s position. Contrary to our biased and negative outlook at the time, our spouse probably has what they consider to be valid reasons for their position. So now that you understand their position and haven’t yet expressed yours, affirm your spouse, even when you disagree with his or her ideas. You then give them the freedom to express their ideas in an
atmosphere of love and not condemnation. You may disagree with their opinion and their reasoning, but that doesn’t decrease their value as a person. Finally, share your own ideas, but only when your spouse tells you that he or she feels understood. Get feedback first. Attempt to state their position and rational in your words, and make sure they agree you got it right. It is now much more likely that your spouse will be willing to listen to you empathetically. In fact you may find that you
both are actually in agreement; you just approached it differently. In any case, you have made the effort to focus on the issue and not to destroy each other. Unconditional love always wins out. The Family & Marriage Coalition of Aiken, Inc. (FAMCO) was created to provide resources for you to succeed in your marriage and families. Roger Rollins, Executive Director, FAMCO, 803-6404689, rogerrollins@aikenfamco.com, http://www.aikenfamco.com
N MORE “IT’S NONE OF MY BUSINESS”
Domestic violence and sexual assault are everyone’s business. It’s time we all speak out to stop the violence. No more excuses. No more silence. No more violence.
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Trinh Dang, Mary Anne Cavanaugh, Yvonne Johnson and Janis Wadsworth
October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month Celebrate breast cancer survivors and their amazing caregivers
See their stories at www.aikenregional.com
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