WINTER 2025 CONFERENCE EDITION | VOL. 11, ISSUE 6
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10. BUILDING CORNERSTONES FOR TOUGH CONVERSATIONS
Joan C. Benson and Marjorie Wingert’s Godordained partnership is shaping young hearts through stories of truth, identity, and hope.
Faith & Life
7. FROM THE EDITOR: A NEW YEAR, A NEW LIGHT
Amber Weigand-Buckley shares how to find God’s light amid uncertainty and change.
8. THE BUSY HEART LEADS TO THE EMPTY HEART
Karen Porter and Cherry McGregor share a heartfelt reflection on finding Christ amid the chaos of life. Learn how to refocus your heart this season and make it a manger for Him.
22. STANDING STRONG IN EVERY SEASON
Kim Walker-Smith opens up about her new album Trample and embracing God’s call in every life chapter.
Practical Wisdom
26. WANT TO PUBLISH YOUR FIRST BOOK? KNOW YOUR OPTIONS
Virginia Grounds breaks down the paths of traditional, hybrid, and self-publishing for aspiring authors.
30. A MINISTRY YEAR IN REVIEW
Edie Melson shares how to reflect, refocus, and renew your calling in ministry.
32. NEW BEGINNINGS IN YOUR HEALTH JOURNEY
Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith shares four principles for achieving whole-person wellness in the new year.
Christmas Inspiration
5. FROM THE PUBLISHER: A WOMAN’S TOUCH Linda Evans Shepherd reflects on how women share the light of Christ through generations at Christmas.
14. THE FIRST NOEL
Pam Farrel’s journey from unexpected trials to divine blessings shows how God’s mercy is ever-present.
25. PRAY YOUR WAY OUT OF THE HOLIDAY BLUES Linda Evans Shepherd offers heartfelt prayers for finding peace during life’s hardest seasons.
20. SERVING UP PEACE AT THE TABLE Penelope Carlevato’s tips for hosting joyful, harmonious holiday meals with love and grace.
24. THE BIG Q WITH CYNTHIA L. SIMMONS
How can Christians celebrate Christmas while staying true to its spiritual meaning?
18. A HOLIDAY HERMIT’S GUIDE TO ENJOYING FAMILY GATHERINGS (WITHOUT DOUBLING UP ON YOUR MEDICATION)
Amber Weigand-Buckley’s witty and heartfelt survival guide for navigating family chaos with humor and grace.
When we face the stresses of the season, we can find joy in knowing that God helps us fulfill our sacred calling.
PUBLISHER’S
LETTER | LINDA EVANS SHEPHERD
A Woman’s Touch
Imagine Christmas without a woman’s touch—no Mary to bring our Savior into the world.
It’s impossible because it was God’s divine plan to bypass the seed of man and bring the Son of God into the world through a woman.
It was Mary, weary and heavy with child, who traveled by donkey to the little town of Bethlehem. There, in a lowly stable, she gave birth to the Son of God. It was Mary who held her newborn baby as startled shepherds arrived to tell her how heavenly angels had appeared in the sky, rejoicing over the birth of her Son.
Even today, women share the Christmas story with their children. Mothers and grandmothers pass down the wonder of that holy night, sharing the good news of the Messiah who brought light into the world.
Whether it’s reading Luke 2 by the light of the Christmas tree, baking star-shaped cookies to symbolize the Star of Bethlehem, or singing “O Holy Night” as the kids gather around the fireplace, women bring the story of Jesus into their homes.
When we face the stresses of the season, we can find joy in knowing that God helps us fulfill our sacred calling—the opportunity to share His good news with our friends and families.
Mary reminds us that even when the path is difficult and unexpected, God’s plan is perfect. Though she was a virgin, she faced the scandal of being an unwed mother, yet she trusted the Lord’s promise. Her obedience brought Jesus, the Light of the World, to all of us. Today, that same promise of Emmanuel—God with us—lives on in every woman who opens her heart to share His story.
So, whether you are a mother, grandmother, sister, daughter, or friend, know that your love and faithfulness matter. You are the keepers of tradition, the bearers of joy, and the nurturers of faith. You reflect the heart of Mary, and through you, the light of Christ shines brightly in the world.
As we enter this season of celebration, don’t forget to share the greatest gift: the story of Jesus. Tell it with love, share it with joy, and wrap it in the beauty of your faith.
Merry Christmas, dear sisters in Christ! May this issue of Leading Hearts inspire and uplift you as we celebrate the Savior’s birth.
Welcome to our holiday edition, and may your heart be filled with peace, hope, and the wonder of His love.
EDITOR’S LETTER | AMBER WEIGAND-BUCKLEY
A New Year, A New Light
As we enter a new year, I must be honest: to me, it just feels heavy.
There’s a sinking feeling that’s been lingering in me these past few months, an urge to put the shutters up on life and keep out whatever the future may bring. The uncertainty can feel overwhelming, and it’s tempting to shrink back, to withdraw into a place where things feel safer and more manageable. But even in these moments, I’m beginning to recognize something powerful: God has me here, even now, amid all this uncertainty. It’s something I have to remind myself of every single day.
The thought that brings me back is that I’m not alone in this struggle, and if you are feeling this too, neither are you. Even Paul, who poured out his heart in worship, still lamented the hard things while praising God simultaneously. He showed us that praise and lament can live side by side, a reminder that we don’t have to choose between being honest about our struggles and holding onto our faith. Instead, we can bring them both to God, knowing He is with us in the praise and pain.
I used to think strength would come only through seasons of peace and comfort. But I’m learning that our hearts find resilience in the tension, the unknowns, and the uncomfortable steps forward. God doesn’t ask us to face this future with unshakeable certainty. He simply asks us to trust that He’s here, right where we are, even when everything feels shadowed.
Psalm 18:28 captures this beautifully: “You, Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light” (NIV).
This verse has been a lifeline, reminding me that God’s light can keep my lamp burning even when I feel like shutting down. I don’t need to see the whole path ahead; I just need to take each step, knowing He will turn every shadow into light in His perfect timing.
So, as we enter this year, whatever we are struggling with in each moment, let’s welcome it as an invitation for our light to shine more brightly. Every moment of doubt, every step that feels hard to take, is another place where His presence will meet us.
As you read this new issue of Leading Hearts, may you be inspired to hold onto that hope, facing this new year with hearts that know God is with all us, not just the Emmanuel of Christmas, but in the all of the uncertainties of everyday life. He is WORKING for our good and even in the lament—He continues writing your beautiful story that will bring new light to the year ahead.
[Paul] showed us that praise and lament can live side by side, a reminder that we don’t have to choose between being honest about our struggles and holding onto our faith.
The story of Christmas is so familiar we might overlook the new heart available from a powerful Creator who became a babe in a manger.
“Is it true, Abba? Is what they are saying true?”
“Slow down, John. What are you talking about?”
“The shepherds, Abba. Everyone is talking about what the shepherds saw. When they were tending their sheep in the fields, angels appeared. Lots and lots of angels, telling the shepherds the Messiah was born in Bethlehem. Abba, the shepherds came into Bethlehem and found Him just like the angels said. He was wrapped in a blanket and lying in a manger. In our stable. Our stable!”
Eli muttered, “The Messiah in my stable? How could this have happened?
If only he would have known, he would have gladly offered his own room. He was just so busy. He had missed it. The greatest event to ever take place had occurred in his stable. But he had missed it.
The Busy Heart
My life—so full, yet empty.
People are busy. There’s no denying that. Books have been written about how busy people can find time for God. Ways to do it quickly and efficiently. If we regularly cannot find time for the Lord in our day—let’s face the truth—He’s not a priority. Ouch. Maybe that feels like a gut punch. It does to me.
The Empty Heart
The innkeeper’s busy heart led to an empty heart. He missed Jesus because busyness juggles the urgent and ignores the important.
“I pray that you will know the love of Christ. His love goes beyond anything we can understand. I pray that you will be filled with God Himself” (Ephesians 3:19 NLV).
Jesus wants to completely fill your empty heart, and He might have a real God encounter waiting just for you.
The greatest event to ever take place had occurred in his stable. But
he had missed it.
I missed Him too. My days start early. Carpooling before dawn to practice, ready for school, breakfast, and out the door. Laundry, dishes, vacuuming. Pay the bills and exercise. Work, work, work. Decorate the tree. Christmas shop. What’s for dinner? Back to the carpool, across town for doubleheader basketball games. Get home, eat dinner, help with homework, showers for everyone.
In bed, I stare at the ceiling. Guilty. Again. Not one minute reading the Bible. Sure, I’d uttered a few prayers here and there throughout the day, but never connected. I thought I’d have a few minutes to spend some time with Him, yet those minutes never came. I missed the Savior of the world today. Again.
Making Christmas Matter
During the Christmas season, when we are at our busiest, add seek Him daily to your calendar. Look for unique ways to slow your pace and find the real reason for the season.
• Read the Christmas story in Matthew 1:18 through 2:18 and in Luke 1:5 through 2:20 every day in December.
• Listen to Matthew and Luke on audio as you put out your nativity scene.
• Ask the children in your life to put on a play of the Christmas story.
• Send a Christmas card with a letter to a missionary.
• When your family is together, take turns sharing your personal salvation stories.
Adapted with permission from Make Your Heart a Manger (Bold Vision Books), a classic Christmas book written by mother-daughter duo Karen Porter and Cherry McGregor.
JOAN C. BENSON & MAJORIE WINGERT WITH AMBER WEIGAND-BUCKLEY
Building Cornerstones for Tough Conversations
When Joan C. Benson and Marjorie Wingert drove six hours together to a writers conference, neither predicted they would embark on a divinely orchestrated partnership.
Together, Benson and Wingert bridge generations, cultures, and abilities to create children’s books addressing today’s most challenging topics.
From Carpooling to Co-authoring,
The first page of their writing journey opened eight years ago with a God-ordained appointment. Marjorie’s husband shared her desire to attend a writers conference at a prayer meeting Joan attended. In response, Joan made arrangements to contact Marjorie. Joan never fathomed what God would do next. Their providential meeting soon birthed a road trip for the ladies to a national conference in Pennsylvania. That six-hour drive created an instant bond between the two strangers.
Marjorie, a South Korean-born now-American citizen, was an aspiring author new to the publishing business, wife, and mother of one young daughter. Benson was also a wife, mother of four adult children, and a grandma of eight. Joan had written for many educational publishers as a reading specialist, but she yearned to write inspirational fiction to reflect her Christian faith.
cultural issues was not a concocted plan but one the Lord laid upon their hearts.
“We were appalled at how new worldly agendas were specifically targeting young children,” Joan explained, “And God was telling us, ‘I’ve given you a voice and a pen—now use it.’”
Though their ages span a few decades, their lives intertwine through Christ. “It doesn’t matter whether it’s age, season of life, experience, or the fact that I’m Korean and she’s Caucasian. Our differences have never been a factor. As unique children of God, we’re one in Him,” Marjorie reflected.
“We tend to complement each other’s perspectives, which improves our writing. We can contribute dimensions from our different seasons of life,” she continued. “Though Joan raised her children in a different era, she is concerned for her grandchildren growing up today. I see my only child facing a culture which often opposes our Christian faith.”
Learning Together through Differences
We tend to complement each other’s perspectives, which improves our writing.
Marjorie, blind from a progressive retina disease, uses specialized software to write. She admits there are challenges. “There are times I feel like throwing the computer out the window because it’s not working, and there’s nothing I can do to make it work,” she shared. “Those are the times of suffering where I have to say, ‘Okay, Lord, You know my heart.’”
“We have hilarious tales from that road trip because I am directionally challenged, and Marjorie is blind.” Joan laughed. “You can only imagine!”
But God safely delivered them there for His riches to explore and back home again with only a few random detours.
The Cornerstone of Connection
What started as a chance encounter blossomed into a powerful writing partnership, with four children’s books published and more in the works. Their series, Cornerstone Concepts for Kids, tackles complex topics like gender, race, the value of life, and identity through a biblical lens. This thrust to address contemporary
But their partnership has helped both women grow as writers. For instance, Marjorie credits Joan with teaching her the intricacies of writing in rhyme. “By the time we got to the third book, I was like, ‘I get it!’” Joan admires Marjorie’s spiritual insights. “I deeply respect how the Lord speaks to her, providing creative avenues to convey hard truths.”
The Art of Graceful Compromise
What makes their collaboration work? Both women point to mutual respect and the ability to listen. “We’re committed to hearing each other out,” Marjorie explained. “If we’re unwilling to listen to the other person’s perspective, it will not work.”
“We have differences of opinion,” Joan added, “but usually the language will be something like, ‘Well, let me think about that,’ or ‘This is not a hill to die on.’” CONTINUED TO P. 13
Saying “Yes” to God’s Call One Step at a Time
Marjorie and Joan look back on this writing journey, awed by God’s provision and inspired to embrace God’s leading.
However, the concept behind their writing relationship is not unique. They believe the art of compromise reflects how the diverse body of Christ was designed to work.
“If the body of Christ would take time to listen to one another with mutual love and respect,” Marjorie reflected, “think about what we could accomplish together and its impact upon our culture.”
Equipping Parents for Tough Conversations
Their Cornerstone books address contemporary issues many parents struggle to broach with their kids. “Parents often ask: ‘How do I talk about gender with my child? How do I talk about the value of life and respect for racial differences?’” Marjorie explains. “But we believe this can be done in age-appropriate ways with Christ as the cornerstone.”
“God impressed this analogy on my heart,” Joan added, “ If you are so careful to protect your baby from the harsh cold with snowsuits and mittens, shouldn’t you be even more diligent to arm them with God’s truths— before anti-biblical ideologies persuade and influence? Young children cannot arm themselves, as in Ephesians 6. That’s our job as their caregivers. We must cover them in God’s Word so they know Truth first.”
Marjorie and Joan’s heart desire is to give parents tools to build a biblical foundation for the youngest readers in creative and kid-friendly ways. That goal led to creating accompanying parent guides for each Cornerstone book as a stand-alone component.
“For each concept presented in the brightly illustrated books, we have devotional stories to extend the ideas further,” Joan noted. “The guide provides parents and children with relevant and supportive Scripture. In accord with the age of the children and always left to parental discretion, discussion questions are provided.”
“God provided in so many different ways,” Joan recalled, “whether it was a word of encouragement, financial contributions, or even getting them traditionally published.”
“Saying ‘Yes’ to God’s calling will bring challenges,” Marjorie said, laughing. “But when you step out in faith to follow God’s leading, it brings great blessing.”
This writing pair believes the greatest blessing is how God has used their books to give hope to parents and truth to young children.
“It’s interesting,” Marjorie pondered. “The common response we receive after we speak at churches is how helpless parents and grandparents feel about these challenging cultural topics.”
Saying ‘Yes’ to God’s calling brings challenges. But stepping out in faith brings great blessing.
Giving the Gift of Hope & Empowerment
“Parents and grandparents tell us how they feel hope and empowerment,” Joan continued. “With the Cornerstone Series, they have a kid-friendly, biblical way to begin the conversation.”
As we celebrate Christ’s gift of hope this holiday season, Marjorie and Joan are deeply grateful to God for entrusting them with a message that brings hope to both parents and children.
Find the Cornerstone Collection of books on Amazon, ChristianBook.com, and Barnes & Noble. Parent guides are also available through Amazon. Connect with Marjorie and Joan at marjoriewingert.com and joanCbenson.com.
BY PAM FARREL
The First Noel
An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.
—Luke 2:9–12 (NIV)
Bill and I married on December 14, 1979, because that is when we had a school break—and the church was already decorated for Christmas, so we saved money on décor!
We drove to Lake Tahoe for a few days of honeymoon, and the night before our flight to Idaho for our second wedding reception with extended family, there was a blizzard! My dutiful husband dug our car out and put chains on the tires and we slowly and safely made our way to the Reno airport.
following us from gate to gate caroling all the way. The mood seemed to return to “merry and bright.” All the while we were entertaining the children, a little grey haired great-grandmother to one of the children was crocheting Christmas wreath ornaments, and she asked if we’d like to pass these out to the waiting passengers as we sang carols.
We tend to complement each other’s perspectives, which improves our writing.
When we arrived, we discovered our morning flight was now delayed. Usually this would not be an issue, but when we married, we were broke college students, and we only had $5 left to our name (and no credit cards). However, since our flight was delayed by several hours, we got back into our car and went to the 99-cent buffet and ate our fill (and tucked some rolls and butter and an apple or two into our pockets for later!).
After arriving back at the airport, the news was relayed that our flight would leave later in the afternoon, and hour by hour, it kept getting further delayed. The tired passengers morphed into those with a “Grinch” spirit. Bill and I noticed the children were especially bored, so we began to offer to play games and sing Christmas carols with the kids.
Soon, like the “Pied Piper,” we had a throng of kids
When we finally boarded the flight, we had a few wreaths left and she urged us to keep the extra ornaments to decorate our own tree.
Each year as my family decorates the tree, we sing “The First Noel” and add on those yarn wreaths. We remember it is a “choice to rejoice.” It also seems as we reflect on that first Christmas and our decision to “choose joy,” we can see why God placed this vital truth in our lives as a strong foundation for our future. For example, this year, as Mother’s Day rolled around, we met my mother enroute to our youngest son and daughter-in-law’s to spend time with their little boy.
As a family, we had prayed for five years that God might create a miracle baby for this precious family. We were all thrilled to play and spend time with this little guy. We arrived close to bedtime, gave hugs and kisses all around, and then we headed to bed.
When Pain Meets Peace
About four in the morning, I woke up in excruciating pain, worse than any I had ever experienced, even in childbirth! I tried to gut it out but as the sun rose, I CONTINUED TO P. 17
CONTINUED FROM P. 15
literally yelled, “Bill, you have to get me to the hospital! Now!” Bill phoned our son to get the name and address for the closest medical care. As Bill input the address, the GPS said, “Turn right on Mercy Street,” and in pain, I screamed, “Because this girl needs God’s mercy!”
We entered the ER, my groans got immediate attention, a battery of tests was given, and I received medicine to help alleviate the pain. The test results came back, I had an ovarian cyst, and it had twisted, causing the severe pain. They sent me by ambulance to the base hospital. My surgeon walked in and introduced himself. Bill, of course, replied by introducing us. Then our surgeon said, “Wait a minute ... I know that name …”
“Perhaps you have read one of our books or heard us on the radio,” Bill replied.
“What are the titles of your books?” the doctor inquired.
“We have written sixty, but our bestseller is Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti.”
“What? That’s you! I have that book! My wife and I have read it together! We went to a marriage conference and picked it up!”
A Christmas Miracle
At that moment, I knew my miracle-working God, the one the angels said would bring good news of great joy, the Holy babe that was called my Immanuel, “God with us” was WITH us! My heart was in complete peace, so when our surgeon told us, “You have ovarian cancer” I stayed in perfect peace because my Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Wonderful Counselor, and Prince of Peace is such a wise Sovereign King that He flew me across country, caused pain that could not be ignored so that the right doctor for me would be assigned to do my surgery and begin my cancer treatment. With every visit, the doctor prayed for me, and I knew he was praying for Bill and me and our family as we faced the many days of chemo and other treatments that filled our calendar, all the way to this Christmas season.
From Christmas Ornaments to Divine Encounters
In the twinkling of this year’s Christmas lights, as we recalled those ornaments from the airport 45 years ago, we rejoice that our Mighty God has crushed cancer and breathed new life into my body. My favorite photo of this season is Bill kissing my very bald head and I have a big, broad smile as I proclaim my own good news, “I don’t have hair, but I have hope and a very helpful, happy husband.”
Reflecting On Joy: What ornament on your tree could you use to share your love story with your family this holiday season?
A Holiday Hermit’s Guide to Enjoying Family Gatherings
(without doubling up on your medication)
Look, I love my family. I really do. But let’s be honest—sometimes they drive me up the Christmas tree faster than a kid on a candy cane sugar rush.
BY AMBER WEIGAND-BUCKLEY COFFEECHATLADIES.COM
And while the holidays are supposedly all about coming together, there’s a reason I’d rather hibernate in my stretch pants, messy bun, maybe a day or two past my last shower, and watch “It’s a Wonderful Life” with an endless supply of eggnog (more precisely, the creamy non-alcoholic kind). All that festive chaos? Not exactly my idea of a good time
As a bipolar mom with manic tendencies and anxiety served with a side of ADHD, holiday gatherings give me a little extra “something” to manage. But let’s face it: you don’t need a diagnosis to feel that annual pressure of family dynamics and holiday anxiety. So, for those of us who’d rather watch George Bailey’s breakdown from the comfort of our couch than deal with our own, here’s how to navigate the season without completely losing it—even when your family is doing their best to push you to the brink.
Your Best Defense for Holiday Gathering Hangover
1. Plan Your Cozy Getaway
Holiday gatherings can be a lot, even when you love everyone there. So, claim yourself a hideout spot—a guest room, the porch, even your car if you have to. Returning to your cozy corner can save your sanity when things get tense. You can only nod politely at Uncle Bob’s repetitive stories of the famous people he’s met so many times before you need a breather.
2. Skip the Family PR Campaign
I often catch myself trying to explain why my kids do what they do, say what they say, or simply go in a corner and hide behind their Nintendo Switches to focus attention elsewhere. Even my husband and I have to hide away sometimes. I don’t need to justify everyone’s unique thoughts or quirks. They’re grown now, and they’re going to do and say what they want. So, I try to let go of that need to play family public relations manager.
Those “not so little kids” can handle their own quirks and choices and can advocate for what they believe in — I’m not going to automatically think those things reflect poorly on my parenting. Especially because I deal with my own fair share of issues.
3. Dress for (Your) Success
you’re singing “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” at the top of your lungs in the wrong key? So, find the comedy in the craziness, and dare to focus the laughter in your direction. When tension gets high, give yourself permission to laugh in its face.
5. Stay Focused on the Good Stuff
Yes, there will be eye rolls and some head-shaking moments, but that’s when I have to give people grace because that’s simply a part of who they are. Look for the stuff that makes you grateful: the moments when everyone’s laughing at a shared memory or my big sister surprising me by making my favorites—her delicious coconut cake and cranberry salad. The chaos can sometimes hide those moments. And when in doubt, once again, I focus on the eggnog. For me, that’s always a good idea.
6. Take a Deep Breath and Let It Go
No, I’m not launching into a Disney tune, but I mean it—breathe. When the anxiety flares up, I remind myself of Proverbs 16:32: “Better a patient person than a warrior.” I’m not here to win family battles. I’m just here to traverse the holidays with my mental well--being intact. I always know I’ll need that post-festivities nap, but that’s ok too.
Holiday gatherings can be like a sitcom …when tension gets high, give yourself permission to laugh in its face.
Who says you have to dress up to celebrate? I’m all for staying in cozy sweats, rocking a messy bun, and skipping the makeup. Let’s be real: I’ll save the sparkle for the Christmas lights. The only dress code you need to follow is the one that keeps you from wanting to bolt out the door.
4. Find the Comedy in the Chaos
Family gatherings are like a holiday sitcom waiting to happen. There’s always Grandpa’s new conspiracy theory and discussions about Mom’s peculiar recipe contributions from years gone by—especially that rice crispy green Jell-O treat that became the rejected centerpiece at the church potluck.
I also love laughing over old Christmas morning photos, where my siblings ran around unwrapping presents in our Underoos. It’s ridiculous, but it’s also hilarious and will definitely be material for my next book. I frequently ask to break out the karaoke machine, just as comic relief. Who can be stressed out when
When my patience is tested, finding the strength to navigate the festivities can be draining, but I’m ready for the workout.
If drama, negativity, or gossip begin to circulate, remember: you don’t have to participate. It’s perfectly acceptable to excuse yourself or redirect the conversation to something more uplifting—like the latest holiday movie marathon. Also, things like sticking to my prescribed meds (doctor’s orders) as well as keeping hydrated helps me stay grounded, especially when life stretches me to the limit (my stretch pants are already managing enough pressure as it is).
So, there you have it—my holiday survival guide. I might not love every minute or every word that comes out of my family’s mouths, but I love them anyway. I wouldn’t trade the chaos (or the comedy) for anything.
Here’s to eggnog, comfy waistbands, and the family antics that make it all memorable. And if the holidays ever start to feel WAY too overwhelming to participate in, remember: it’s okay to be a holiday hermit, and please don’t forget to take your meds.
BY PENELOPE CARLEVATO PENELOPECARLEVATO.COM
Serving Up Peace at the Table
As the holidays approach, I am beginning to get a little anxious about this time of entertaining. Not the cooking, but the stress of being with family members who aren’t the easiest to include in our get-togethers.
Especially as recent election tension is still high on both sides, managing holiday dinner conversations now demands as much planning as cooking and shopping. It would be easy to exclude those with different views, but this is often the only time our entire family gathers. These holidays are for making memories, with relatives traveling great distances to connect.
Instead of dreading the gathering, I offer guidelines for maintaining a calm and enjoyable meal, ensuring we cherish our time together despite our differences.
Pray That God Will Be in Focus
about your feelings, so let Him carry your burdens. In past years I have gone overboard with decorating, shopping, cooking and baking. I cut back a couple of years ago; my stress level dropped and I was not as crazy as in years earlier. I found I actually had time to go to some Christmas activities.
Find Ways to Get Enough Rest
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28 NIV).
It is crucial to rest before family times, as it will affect your entire stress response system. When we neglect to get enough sleep at night, we are more likely to react impulsively and be triggered by minor irritations. When well-rested, we can navigate social situations better and express ourselves more clearly.
When we neglect to get enough sleep at night, we are more likely to react impulsively and be triggered by minor irritations.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6–7 NIV).
This is the beginning of a stress-free family dinner. Now more than ever, because of higher stress levels, take the time to pray and listen to God. Release your worries to God and confide in Him. He knows and cares
Block times on your calendar to unplug, put on the kettle, and relax with a cup of tea and time in God’s Word.
Taking a walk also allows us to renew and to mitigate various levels of stress—physical, spiritual, emotional and physical.
Plan All the Way to Dessert
“Commit to the LORD, whatever you do, and he will establish your plans” (Proverbs 16:3 NIV).
I like to have everything made ahead and the table set the night before. I plan my menu with recipes that can be almost complete before the guests arrive. Water glasses can be put on the table a couple hours before dinner by using a lot of ice in each glass.
Decide ahead of time where each serving dish will be on the table. Be willing to ask for help from those attending. Many of those attending will ask what they can bring. Be gracious and allow them to help with the meal. Write a detailed list of things that need to be done on the event day. Always begin the meal with a prayer of thanks
Practice Some Specific Redirection Phrases
“And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful” (2 Timothy 2: 24 NIV).
In the books I write about hospitality and etiquette, I have gleaned from the experts that discussing politics at dinners is strictly forbidden. Emily Post’s book on etiquette, written in 1922, advised against discussing religion, politics, or money. Over a century later, her guidance remains remarkably relevant. This is important, not because politics don’t matter, but because our relationships matter more. Food and fellowship have always been a way for Christians to unite. As hostesses, we must provide a welcoming atmosphere and preserve family harmony. Here are some time-tested responses to manage and facilitate pleasant conversation. (I only announce that we won’t discuss politics unless necessary!)
Here are some great conversation starters:
• Remember when ...?
• What’s your favorite Christmas memory?
• Who knows the story behind ...?
• Tell us about your recent ...
• Best book this year?
• Childhood dream job?
• First job experience?
• Most exciting moment this week?
• If you were a missionary, what country would you serve in?
These conversation redirection tips help prevent heated discussions. If gentle approaches fail, set clear boundaries: “Cindy, I value our relationship, but I’d prefer hearing about your recent trip.”
As a hostess, I hope our guests leave the table with more than just a full belly. I pray you will join me in expressing gratitude to God for His provision that we may break bread with our family and friends and see mealtimes as an opportunity to connect with God as we celebrate the birth of Christ.
Growing up, our family’s Brussels sprouts were always boiled and mushy. My mother’s butter, lemon, salt, and pepper helped, but didn’t transform them completely.
Years later, my daughter introduced roasted Brussels sprouts—a game-changer. Now crispy outside, tender
inside, and surprisingly sweet, they’ve become a family favorite appetizer. I’ve never boiled them since, proving sometimes a simple cooking technique can completely reinvent a traditional dish.
Roasted Brussels Sprouts with Pomegranate Seeds
2 pounds of Brussels sprouts
¼ cup of olive oil
1 tsp Kosher or sea salt
½ tsp black pepper
1 teaspoon garlic powder
4 to 6 slices of crisp, crumbled bacon
1 cup of pomegranate seeds
• Preheat oven to 400ºF
• Wash the Brussels sprouts and remove the outer leaves that are wilted or brown.
• Cut off the stems of the sprouts and then cut larger sprouts in half.
• Combine the sprouts, oil, salt, garlic, and pepper in a bowl or bag and toss to coat the sprouts.
• Layer a large baking sheet with parchment paper and spread the sprouts onto a single layer.
• Roast for 15 minutes, then stir and turn over sprouts.
• Continue roasting for another 15 to 20 minutes, moving the sprouts around to avoid burning. Continue to cook until they are dark brown on the edges.
• Place sprouts into a serving dish and sprinkle the top of the sprouts with bacon and pomegranate seeds.
Serves 4–6
Prep time: 15 minutes
Cooking time: 30 minutes
Find more of Penelope’s recipe’s at leadinghearts.com.
Standing Strong in Every Season Kim Walker-Smith
BY JENNIFER TAYLOR
For over two decades, Kim Walker-Smith has led worship with powerful anthems like “Rooftops,” “Spirit Break Out,” and “Throne Room.”
As the holiday season approaches, many revisit her 10-year-old album When Christmas Comes. Recently, Kim’s life has transformed significantly. After relocating her family from California to Montana, she embraced a slower pace, focusing on family and drawing inspiration for her first independent studio album, Trample, released in June 2024.
A Journey of Beginnings
Transitioning from 21 years in local church ministry to independent worship leading was a significant change for Kim. “It was a huge shift and change, and it was a really challenging season at first,” she reflected. Despite the challenges, Trample continues her timeless tradition, offering 12 thoughtful and intentional songs inspired by her family’s move and personal growth.
fellow songwriting mothers to complete the track. “I just wanted moms to have a voice,” she said, highlighting the importance of knowing Scripture.
Classic Sound. Fresh Perspectives.
Trample also features the piano-driven ballads that fans cherish. Kim requested an extended worship edition, capturing spontaneous moments in the studio. “We did it in just one shot, and I worshipped my heart out in that little space,” she shared. She hopes listeners will sense an overarching message of freedom in the album. “We are not stuck, bound by the enemy, and we have authority over the enemy so let’s step into that,” she asserted.
We are not stuck, bound by the enemy, and we have authority over the enemy so let’s step into that.
Deep Roots for New Seasons
Kim’s diverse musical upbringing, with a mother who loved pop and a father who favored country, influenced Trample‘s sound. “When we’re not listening to Christian or worship music, it’s country music that we’re listening to,” she shared, noting the album’s subtle country flavors reflecting her Montana lifestyle. The track “Mama” stands out with its sassy tone, addressing the modern challenges of parenting. Kim expresses concern over societal influences on children, emphasizing the need for vigilance. An encounter with a critical grandmother at a grocery store inspired the song. “The Lord just dropped it in my heart,” she recalled, leading her to collaborate with
To promote Trample, Kim teamed up with fellow worship artist Jon Reddick for the “Testify Tour,” hitting 16 cities nationwide in fall 2024. Each night is designed to lead attendees into impactful worship and share testimonies of God’s work. “My whole goal is that they don’t leave the same way they came in,” she emphasized.
Embracing a Sacred Responsibility
Leading worship today is both an honor and a responsibility for Kim. “We’re in a war against principalities and powers, not people,” she noted, aiming to equip the Church to stand boldly in challenging times. She feels a profound duty to prepare the Bride for Jesus, ensuring her words align with His teachings. “I want to bring encouragement, hope, strength, and freedom to the body,” she declares.
Through her music and ministry, Kim Walker-Smith continues to guide believers into deeper worship and a greater understanding of God’s freedom and power.
To find out more about Kim Walker Smith’s new album Trample, go to kimwalkersmith.com.
Q ? The Big with Cynthia L. Simmons
Q: Amid the Christmas traditions of Santa Claus, trees, and presents, how can Christians celebrate while staying true to the holiday’s deeper spiritual meaning?
A: The modern Santa Claus is actually a fascinating transformation of a remarkable historical figure.
Rooted in St. Nicholas, the 4th-century Bishop of Myra, this beloved character began as a symbol of Christian generosity and faith. Dutch immigrants brought St. Nicholas traditions to America, but it was Thomas Nast’s 1863 illustration for Harper’s Weekly that truly shaped the Santa we know today. Coca-Cola’s advertisements in the 1930s further cemented the image of a jolly, rotund figure in a red suit.
The True Story of St. Nicholas
Beyond the commercial facade, St. Nicholas offers a powerful testimony of Christian virtue. He endured imprisonment under Roman Emperor Diocletian, refusing to compromise his faith. His legendary generosity is equally compelling—traditional accounts tell of him providing dowries for girls, protecting them from potential exploitation. This narrative transforms Santa from a mere gift-giver to a symbol of radical compassion and steadfast belief.
Reflections of Sacrifice
In an age of instant gratification and Amazon deliveries, Christmas gift-giving can become mindless consumption. However, we can reframe this tradition by reflecting on God’s ultimate gift—Jesus Christ. Consider the profound sacrifice: a holy God entering a sinful world, enduring human limitations, and ultimately giving His life for humanity’s redemption. Each gift we exchange can become a reminder of this incomprehensible love.
Behind All the Trimmings
Even seemingly secular decorations hold deep spiritual significance:
Christmas Trees: Originating in medieval times, evergreen trees symbolized eternal life. Martin Luther’s innovation of adding candles represented Christ as the world’s light.
Lights: More than festive decoration, lights can point to God as the ultimate source of illumination and hope.
Redeeming Traditions
Christians need not fear or reject Christmas traditions. Instead, we can redeem them, using familiar symbols as bridges to share the profound story of Christ’s love. Each decoration, each gift, each tradition can become an opportunity to communicate the deeper meaning of Christmas.
As followers of Christ, we can add even deeper spiritual applications to our celebration:
• Share the historical background of Christmas symbols with family and friends.
• Use gift-giving as a moment to reflect on God’s ultimate gift.
• See decorations as conversation starters about faith and hope.
• Celebrate with joy, knowing that cultural traditions can coexist with spiritual truth.
Christmas is not about avoiding all secular influences but maintaining a heart focused on the miraculous story of God’s incarnation. Enjoy the season, celebrate generously, and let your faith shine brightly.
BY LINDA EVANS SHEPHERD GOTTOPRAY.COM
Pray Your Way Out of the Holiday Blues
Why is it that heartbreak so often happens during the holiday season?
As the world sings, “O come, all ye faithful, joyful and triumphant,” tragedy can suddenly zap away our joy. Loved ones can pass away, and lives can be turned upside down.
Even though Jesus came to set us free from sin and death, the enemies of humanity still seek to steal our peace and joy. I should know. I am a survivor of a Christmas season marked by unimaginable heartbreak. During a car crash, my baby was thrown onto the freeway, still strapped into her car seat.
Even as I faced this tragedy, it was the Lord who gave me the courage to stop the doctors from pulling my daughter’s life support during her year-long coma. My precious daughter awoke—not to the life we had known, but to a life of severe disability.
swerved into my lane, nearly causing an accident. Though it was a near miss, the screeching brakes brought me right back to the wreckage that surrounded my daughter’s car seat three decades ago. The sorrow followed me home, and I spent the afternoon wrestling with God as I searched for my joy. It was Scripture and prayer that brought me back. If you need to lift your eyes out of the holiday blues, please pray with me:
Dear Lord,
I take my eyes off my pain and difficulties and turn them back to You. Your Word says in Colossians 3:2, “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.”
My precious daughter awoke— not to the life we had known, but to a life of severe disability.
We received the miracle we’d hoped for, though it wasn’t exactly the one we’d prayed for. Yet I found blessings as the Lord helped me live in His incredible love and presence. He filled me with peace and joy, and my remarkable, joy-filled daughter lived until her 30th birthday.
I miss her deeply. My home now endures a quiet that can sometimes overwhelm me, even during this season of joy.
But God is still with me. He teaches me to overcome as He holds my hand and grants me peace.
Perhaps you, too, have experienced the pain of a holiday tragedy, or found yourself grappling with loss during the season of merry. Perhaps you’ve wondered, Does God care? Does He even see me?
Today, I visited that place again. A speeding driver
Lord, as I look to You, I lay down my sorrow and pain at Your feet, knowing that You understand. I trust You with my heartache, knowing that when I place it in Your care, You will help me find peace. As Isaiah 26:3 says, “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.”
So, Lord, I ask for Your power to help me let go and rest in You.
You remind me in Isaiah 41:10: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Lord, grant me Your peace and teach me how to trust You through these difficulties. Thank You for being with me and for returning my peace.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Linda Evans Shepherd is the publisher of Leading Hearts and the author of Praying Through Hard Times from Baker Revel. www.GotToPray.com
Want to Publish Your First Book?
Has God placed a story on your heart?
Perhaps you’ve felt His prompting to write a book, but the thought of publishing seems overwhelming.
Today’s publishing landscape offers multiple paths to bring your book to life, even if you’ve never written anything beyond personal journals or blog posts.
As the owner of Breakthrough Christian Publishing (breakthroughchristianpublishing.com), a hybrid publishing house, I’ve guided authors from their first draft to successful publication.
Book publishing can be challenging, however, there are multiple options to get your book into print. It is essential in the professional world (self-published or not) to meet industry standards to establish credibility in the writing field.
Publishing Options You Need to Know
1. Traditional Publishing
This has been the publishing model since the first publishing house began. In the past, publishers took
care of everything once they accepted a manuscript.
Now, the process looks different:
You typically need an agent to represent you and present your manuscript to a traditional house.
If the publishing house accepts your manuscript, you will pay the agent a fee.
Publishers used to handle all marketing and sales, but now authors must participate in marketing their books.
The publisher controls the final product, including:
• Editing
• Cover design
• Release date
• And more
Important Note: If you receive an advance payment, which is increasingly rare in today’s publishing market, you won’t receive royalties from your book sales until you’ve paid back the entire advance.
An advance funds your book publication through future sales before seeing additional income.
2. Hybrid Publishing
This model is new and is NOT vanity publishing. With hybrid publishing, like the model we use at Breakthrough Christian Publishing, you receive:
• Professional publishing support with more personal decision-making
• Control over editing, book cover, and release date
• Retention of full book rights
• Quick, personalized service with potential for higher profit margins
Cost Considerations: Prices range from $3,000 to $100,000. Ensure the publisher is reputable and compare services carefully.
3. Self-Publishing
With this model, you have complete control over the publishing process:
• Full responsibility for all publishing steps
• Potential for cost savings and higher personal profits
• Requires understanding of distribution and marketing
• Higher risk of time investment and potential frustration for those unfamiliar with publishing
Many authors pay more to promote their books than the money they make. However, it is not discouraging if you prioritize sharing your message for the benefit of others over making a lot of money. Then, royalties will not be the determining factor of your book’s impact.
Your Book, Your Journey: Choosing Your Path Forward
Publishing a book is more than a professional milestone—it’s a personal transformation. Each path—traditional, hybrid, or self-publishing—offers unique opportunities to bring your message to the world. The right choice isn’t about perfection but alignment with your vision, resources, and passion.
Your book is more than ink and paper. It’s a bridge connecting your insights to readers waiting to be inspired. Whether you sell dozens or thousands of copies, your impact is measured not in numbers, but in lives touched and perspectives shifted.
Don’t let fear of the publishing process silence your story.
Today’s publishing landscape offers multiple paths to bring your book to life, even if you’ve never written anything beyond personal journals or blog posts.
Essential Services for Publishing
To create a professional book, you must: complete your manuscript and hire professional services, including:
• Editing and proofreading
• Cover design and interior layout
• ISBN and copyright registration
• Printing and distribution strategy
• Develop a comprehensive book launch and marketing plan
Evaluate the Costs
Fees taken from book sales include agent commissions, the publisher’s cut, retailer discounts (most retailers purchase books at 55% off the retail price and keep the profits). This makes for a low royalty check.
Take that first step toward your publishing dream. Research your options carefully. Connect with other writers. I recommend the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association (awsa. com) for networking with a group of over 1,000 professional Christian women authors. Also, invest in professional support to elevate your work and navigate the publishing landscape.
Your message matters. Your voice deserves to be heard. The world is waiting for the book only you can write.
Ready to turn the page on your publishing journey?
Virginia Grounds is an author, Bible teacher, speaker, hospice chaplain and publisher. She is a member of AWSA, as well as a number of other professional writing associations.
BY VIRGINIA GROUNDS VIRGINIAGROUNDS.NET
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BY EDIE MELSON
The path of ministry is a journey of a lifetime—one fraught with discovery and discouragement.
We can avoid some of its pitfalls if we define that path early on. I’ve found for me—even in the hectic days leading up to Christmas—my thoughts turn backward as I evaluate my year.
Instead of relying on New Year’s resolutions, I look back at my spiritual markers for the past year in ministry. This is particularly helpful, because staying on the path of service is difficult. Each of us has a journey that’s unique. In the past I’ve had trouble evaluating my progress because I was comparing my journey to someone else’s. To combat that, I’ve come up with some questions to help me process where I’ve been and where I’m headed.
Questions to Get Me Started
What were some of my ministry successes this past year? I’m not necessarily looking at the biggest thing or the most lucrative, but what was the most rewarding.
2. Work hard to finish well. Yes, I start with this. I begin by tying up the loose ends from the year. I make plans to fulfill commitments and get things cleared out so I can begin working toward this year’s goals.
3. Keep an open mind. I want to keep moving forward, but I don’t want to develop tunnel vision. As I set my goals, I want to evaluate all the opportunities that arise, but only take the ones that God has for me.
4. Let go of expectations. This goes along with keeping an open mind. For me, when I take a hard look at my expectations—for myself and for others—they’re unreasonable. I keep the reasonable ones, making them into goals and priorities. Then I discard the rest.
In the past I’ve had trouble evaluating my progress because I was comparing my journey to someone else’s.
5. Surround yourself with the encouragement of others who are serving. You don’t just need encouraging friends, but also the encouragement of those who are in ministry. We need others around us who understand our thought process, our struggles and our quirky joys.
What were some of my ministry setbacks this past year? What ministry advice stands out in my mind because it seemed to have been aimed directly at me? What brought me the most joy in my ministry? As I map out these spiritual markers, the path God has had me on becomes quite clear. And, by knowing where I’ve been, it’s easier to see what God has for me next year.
Then, I find ways to implement the following 7 things:
1. Spend time in prayer. I take everything I’ve discovered and spend some extended time in prayer and study. I want to make sure I’m hearing from God and not just following my own wants.
6. Engage a prayer team. This may seem odd, especially if you’re fairly new to ministry. But the truth is, this life is hard. When we answer God’s call to step out and share His message, we’re going to encounter spiritual warfare. For that, you need people to pray for you. If you’re also building a ministry, trying to grow an income and/or beginning to speak, that’s even more of a reason to surround yourself with prayer.
7. Choose joy. I have the power to choose my attitude. Sometimes it’s a struggle, but I can choose joy over complaints.
These are the things that help me begin each year strong. My big-picture tips that I’ve found help me set myself up for success as I minister to those God places in my life.
New Beginnings in Your Health Journey
BY DR. SAUNDRA DALTON-SMITH
The arrival of a new year feels like turning a page in the story of our lives. It is a time to pause, reflect, and take steps toward the things that matter most.
For many, this step will include prioritizing their health with resolutions like setting goals to eat better, exercise more, or reduce stress. These aspirations can often feel overwhelming, but transforming your health does not require massive overhauls. Restrictive diets, extreme exercise plans, and quick fixes are not the route that will lead you to better health. Lasting health is achieved by embracing a balanced, intentional approach. Health is about building habits that support your body, mind, and spirit while staying grounded in grace and consistency.
If you would like to improve your health this year, consider these four principles to guide your journey. They will help you create meaningful changes while feeling empowered by the possibilities rather than exhausted by the complexities of well-being.
Evaluate Your Definition of Health
When you think about health, do you often zero in the physical aspect like weight or dress size? While these metrics can provide insight, they do not capture the concept of wellness. Health is about more than how you look. It is about how your body feels and how well your systems function. Health includes having the energy you need to enjoy your day, managing stress, and navigating your emotions.
True health is a state of wholeness. It includes feeling strong in your body, clear in your mind, and at peace in your spirit. This broader perspective shifts the focus from temporary results to sustainable wellness. Instead of striving for a number on a label, ask yourself how you want to feel and what changes will help you achieve that feeling. Maybe you want to be able to play with your grandkids without being out of breath or tie your shoes by yourself. These goals may require some changes in your eating and exercise habits, but this approach allows you to define health on your own terms. It makes it less about meeting external standards and more about creating a life that feels fulfilling.
important to remember health improvements are often not immediately visible. Internal changes like improved energy levels, better sleep, or reduced stress do not show up on the scale. But they are signs your efforts are making a difference in your health. Also realize that setbacks are a natural part of the process. You might skip a workout, have a candy bar, or forget to do your daily devotional one day. These moments don’t define your well-being journey. Identify what caused the setback and determine how you can adjust moving forward. Progress is not about perfection. It’s about continuing forward when things are imperfect. When you are patient with the process, it allows you to view your health journey as a lifelong investment rather than a quick fad.
Cultivate a Mindset of Graceful Consistency
True health is a state of wholeness. It includes feeling strong in your body, clear in your mind, and at peace in your spirit.
Focus on Small Structured Changes
Resolutions often fail because we tackle too much, too fast. Drastic dietary restrictions and rigid workout routines can be difficult to sustain. Instead of attempting everything at once, focus on making small changes that can fit easily into your life. Instead of committing to an hour-long workout every day, start with a 15-minute walk after dinner. Add one serving of vegetables to your daily meals or limit dessert to once a week rather than reinventing your entire diet. Replace 20 minutes of evening screen time for reading your Bible, journaling, or praying. These small steps can create a new habit making it easier to extend your efforts. One healthy choice leads to another, building momentum and confidence along the way. Before you know it, your new habits become the path to longterm transformation.
Be Patient with the Process
One of the biggest hurdles in a health journey is managing expectations. In a culture that prioritizes instant results, patience can feel like a challenge. It is
The mindset you bring to your health journey is just as important as the actions you take. Avoid approaching it with an all-or-nothing mentality. This approach creates unnecessary stress and makes it harder to stay motivated. You will need to extend grace to yourself along the way as you strive for more consistency. Grace allows you to treat yourself with kindness when things do not go as planned. It means understanding that one missed workout or one unhealthy meal does not erase your progress. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, grace gives you the space to recommit and move forward.
To Move Forward You Have to Show Up
Graceful consistency is about showing up repeatedly despite the challenges and difficulties. Some days, your best might look like a full workout and a balanced meal. Other days, it might mean simply drinking enough water and taking a midday nap. When you approach your health journey with grace and consistency, you create a space for growth that isn’t tied to guilt or perfection. This mindset can help you stay motivated, recover from setbacks, and celebrate progress in all its forms.
Regardless of the current state of your health, new beginnings are possible within your health journey. It’s a process of building healthy habits, learning from challenges, and being grateful for each small victory along the way.
Making Space
BY RHONDA RHEA RHONDARHEA.COM
That trash can, ya’ll. I’m sure I can do it. I’m always absolutely sure I can shove one more thing in there.
It doesn’t matter that it’s already overflowing or that I have to quick-catch some flyaway plastic wrap and wrangle an escaping tea bag resting on some soggy junk mail. I win if I can squeeze in one more thing.
Seriously, Just One More Thing
I guess the big question is: how many “one more things” can I shove in? My personal kitchen trash can is ever the clown car of wastebaskets. When it comes to squeezing in that one more thing, I’m always sure I can. I can? Get it? Trash can? Never mind.
a need. But there’s a vastly different kind of need for making a vastly different kind of space. It’s making head space and heart space. Life space, really. No clowning around here. We all have a deep need to create quiet space to contemplate our Father.
It’s in that God-seeking space we find purpose. We find the goodness of God. We find hope. “The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the person who seeks him” (Lamentations 3:25 CSB). David wrote, “Rest in God alone, my soul, for my hope comes from him” (Psalm 62:5 CSB). The Amplified expands on it.
We all have a deep need to create quiet space to contemplate our Father. It’s in that God-seeking space we find purpose.
For the record, I’m not saying I ever stick a foot in there to stomp that garbage down. I’m not saying it because it might make me look like I’m overstepping. And overstomping. At this moment, I’m trying to ignore the fact that when I overstep and over-stomp and “win” at the “one more thing” game, what I actually win is a delay. I get to delay the trip to the outside dumpster or the burn pile or whatever. Delay it for … probably like fifteen minutes.
Flying Cars? Nah, Give Me a SelfEmptying Trash Can
Still, I want those minutes. People are always asking about flying cars. That’s not the revolutionary invention I’m waiting for. Give me a self-emptying trash can, please and thank you. If I want to fly, I’ll just get on a plane.
Ruminating on this. Recycling on that. Composting the other thing. Making space for trash? Sure, that can be
“For God alone my soul waits in silence and quietly submits to Him, For my hope is from Him” (AMP).
Garbage In, God Out
Our God has promised His presence, and He’s promised to work in us. “For it is God who is working in you both to will and to work according to his good purpose” (Philippians 2:13 CSB). Why would we ever want to let any ol’ garbage get in the way of that?
Getting rid of any garbage wastes of time, trading that space for God moments, often involves making a choice. We can choose to create space in a day—in our minds and moods and hearts and psyches—to consider what the Father is doing, and what He wants to do in and through us.
A Prayer for Spiritual Decluttering
Father, teach us how to create that quiet headand-heart-space to know You more. In that space, influence us, occupy every thought, transform us to be more like You in how we think and respond and serve and love. Let us become more aware of and in tune with Your will and Your calling. Guide our every step. Every step. Every stomp. I don’t want to waste a minute. Or fifteen.
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LINDA EVANS SHEPHERD @LINDASHEPHERD is publisher of Leading Hearts magazine. She is also a best-selling author, an in-demand speaker, YouTuber and president of Right to the Heart ministries. She is founder of the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association (AWSA). She lives in Colorado with husband, Paul, and son, Jimmy. Subscribe to her “Prayer Investigator” show on YouTube and visit her at www.lindashepherd.com as well as gottopray.com.
AMBER WEIGAND-BUCKLEY @BAREFACEDGIRL is managing editor and art director for Leading Hearts magazine and brand manager for AWSA. She is a writer, speaker, book cover designer and multi-award-winning editor, having spent 26 years in the magazine industry. Amber is owner of #barefacedcreative, providing branding support for authors, speakers, businesses and missionaries. She and her Brit-native husband, Philip, live in Missouri with two of their daughters: Imogen and Penelope. Their oldest, Saffron, is a student at Missouri State. Amber’s award-winning book, Leading Ladies: Discover Your God-Grown Strategy for Success and My Discovery and Next Steps Journal (Bold Vision Books), coauthored with Lisa Burris Burns, features the stories of over 30 world-changing women. The duo co-hosts “Coffee Chat with Amber & Lisa: Real Life. Real Influence. No Makeup Required” which is available on all podcast networks. Find out more at www.leadingladies.life.
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PENELOPE CARLEVATO is the author of The Art of Afternoon Tea: From the Era of Downton Abbey and the Titanic as well as Tea on the Titanic, First Class Etiquette, and her latest, The Tea Lover’s Journal www.penelopecarlevato.com
DR. SAUNDRA DALTON-SMITH is an internal medicine physician, author, and speaker. She has been an adjunct faculty member at Baker College and Davenport University in Michigan. Dr. Dalton-Smith is the founder of the I Choose My Best Life ministry. www.ichoosemybestlife.com
PAM FARREL is an international speaker, author of 59 books, including her newest, Discovering Good News In John: A Creative Bible Study. Pam and her husband, Bill, are codirectors of Love-Wise, a ministry to enrich, educate, and encourage people’s most vital relationships. When not traveling for speaking, the Farrels enjoy kayaking, paddle boarding, walking the beach, and hosting guests on their floating home on the ocean. www.love-wise.com
VIRGINIA GROUNDS is an author, Bible teacher, speaker, publisher, hospice chaplain and founder of hope4widows. com, an online ministry to encourage women to seek God’s plan for their future as widows. www.virginiagrounds.net
EDIE MELSON is an author, blogger, and speaker who has penned numerous books, including While My Child Is Away,
a book of prayers for when we’re apart. Her top-ranked blog for writers, “The Write Conversation,” reaches thousands each month, and she’s the Director of the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference. www.ediemelson.com
KAREN PORTER and CHERRY McGREGOR are a motherdaughter team who love working together on projects and gathering family and friends. Karen is an international speaker, the author of seven books, and a successful business woman. She is president of Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, serves on several boards, and coaches aspiring writers and speakers. www.karenporter.com
RHONDA RHEA is an author, humor columnist, and TV personality. Her newest release, with co-authors Monica Schmelter and Kaley Rhea, is Messy to Meaningful—My Purse Runneth Over www.rhondarhea.com
CYNTHIA L. SIMMONS is the mother of five grown children, past president of Christian Authors Guild, radio host, media coach. She writes both fiction and non-fiction and loves history. She ministers to women of all ages but has a special place in her heart for young mothers and homeschool mothers. www.clsimmons.com
JENNIFER TAYLOR is a reviewer and profile contributor for Leading Hearts magazine.
