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Le Charme Magazine
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DEIIRA SMITH-COLLAR D
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JOSEPHINE SLOAN Managing Editor
Tia Griffin
India Henderson
Dalana Bryant
Jennifer Leviston
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CONTENTS ON THE COVER
FASHION & STYLE
Tif f e n y w ilso n
Boost your inner boss Winter fashion LookBook 2016 Men’s Edition:
Photography DeiIra Smith-Collard Makeup Kamerin Smith Hair Bella Monique Wardrobe Boujie Couture ft. LB Limited Edition, by designer Lisa Burns
Fighting the Good Fight
BEAUTY & HAIR Do You Have Your Skin Covered Editor’s Beauty & hair Faves Gym Hair Don’T Care
LOVE & SEX
SPIRITUALITY
#Relationship Goals trust your instincts
New Creation
IN EVERY ISSUE
HEALTH & FITNESS
TAKE IT FROM TIA THE VENT
M ea l R em i x Sat i sfy Your S w eet Tooth
LIFE & LIVING Primed For Success Love Tapped: This is not my shoe size
FEATURE
Stepping into
Success with Boujie Couture
Letter from the Editor
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STYLE
YOUR INNER BOSS By: DeiIra Smith-Collard
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as this ever happened to you? A woman walks into a room and you instantly notice her; her head is held just a little bit higher, her step just a tad bit sexier and her eyes slightly brighter? Her hips sway and her smile says she has a secret that only she is privy to. Every woman has that inner Boss and sometimes what we put on is what pulls it out of us. For years, women have thought that sexy panties and lacy bras were for the sole purpose of turning on your significant other. While these sexy undies may play a major role in setting the mood, there is a bigger picture that some of us are still unable to see. It’s not just about putting it on to ignite his fire, it’s more about lighting the fuse to spark the inner boss in you. There is power in lingerie and not just in the bedroom. Wearing nice
undergarments are not just for special nights and dates. You can slip into your best bra on any given day. Lingerie unleashes your inner power. It makes a silent statement to the world that you carry with you everywhere you go. When we look good in something we feel good. When we feel good in something we project good vibes. It’s all about the energy created by putting the time and care into you. There is a direct correlation between what you are wearing and what you project. Even though hidden from the public’s prying eyes, you know what you are wearing under your power suit, and this feminine touch will empower you because what you have on helps to boost your confidence.
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1.Adding styles and colors are great for matching the mood you’re in. 2.Properly fitted bras will help your clothes fit better, so get sized! 3.Match em up! Having 3 pair of panties to each bra will ensure you’re always coordinated. It’s just something
about our bras matching our panties that makes a woman feel sexier.
4.Buy what’s best for your body type, the better it looks on you the better you will feel. 5.Stock up on the basics, having black, white and nude is a great way to start.
STYLE
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Doll’d Up Fashion Boutique Model:
Niquisha Kinney Hair: Josephine Sloan Makeup:
Leslie Smith
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Crystal Wall Hair: Josephine Sloan
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Makeup:
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Doll’d Up Fashion Boutique Model:
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Makeup:
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ABOVE THE CURVE CLOTHING Designer: Leslie Smith Model:
Angelina Emanuel Hair: Josephine Sloan Makeup:
Jessica Trujillo
ABOVE THE CURVE CLOTHING Designer: Leslie Smith Model:
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The Creations of Claire Designer: Claire Barback Model: Annalise Hair: Josephine Sloan Makeup: Jessica Trujillo
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The Creations of Claire Designer: Claire Barback Model: Tatyanah Grant Hair: Josephine Sloan Makeup: Jessica Trujillo
Boujie couture Model: Megan Pete Hair/Makeup: Megan Pete
boujie couture Model: Chaslon Hair: Josephine Sloan Makeup: Jessica Trujillo
boujie couture Model:
Tiffany Garcia Hair: Josephine Sloan
Makeup:
Jessica Trujillo
boujie couture Model:
Chole Leviston Hair: Josephine Sloan
GirlCode Boutique Stylist:
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Diamond Smith Makeup: Leslie Smith
Lux Monroe Stylist:
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GirlCode BoutiquE Stylist: Kimberly Knecole Model: Chaslon Hair: Josephine Sloan Makeup: Jessica Trujillo
Girl Code BoutiquE Stylist: Mone’t Davis Model: Shalamar Anderson Hair: Josephine Sloan Makeup: Jessica Trujillo
’s n n Me shio n o Fa d i t i E
Fighting the Good Fight: How to beat Father Time with Your Wardrobe By: Eric J. Harris
Jacket: Ralph Lauren Shirt: Descendant of Thieves Pants: Ralph Lauren Shoes: Salvatore Ferragamo Belt: Banana Republic Glasses: Tom Ford
Jacket: Levi’s Henley: Diesel Pants: PRPS Boots: Timberland Hat: SAKS Fifth Avenue Collection Shades: DSquared2
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et’s face it, the average reader of this publication is more likely closer to age forty than fourteen. As much as we hate to admit it, we are all in a war with Father Time. A war, it seems, many of us are losing, battle by disappointing battle. Every day I am faced with the gloomy reality that I am not getting any younger. It is when I roll out of bed and hear a pop in my knee or feel a twinge in my back. Or, perhaps when I look in the mirror and notice the crow’s feet forming around my eyes or how my goatee, which was once labeled a “sexy salt and pepper” has become in recent months, more salt than pepper. Not to mention, this last ten…no, fifteen…heck, if I am being honest, maybe it is this last 20 lbs. that I just cannot seem to shed, which used
to come off with the mere thought of exercise. Whoever said that there was honor in aging gracefully must not have seen the latest blockbuster movie or been to the latest headlining concert? We are constantly presented with examples of what “sexy” is or at the very least, what it ought to be. As I soldier on in combat, one battle I refuse to lose is the fashion fight. Yes, it will forever be my mission to win the war against dressing “age appropriate”. For as long as I can remember, I have always prided myself on being somewhat fashion forward. I have never been afraid to push the envelope when it came to the latest trends and styles. As I get older, however, it has become increasingly apparent that the apparel industry has become focused on appeasing the youth. What this means
to old(er) consumers such as myself is that I will either have to adapt to the fashion times, or be forced into a world of leisure suits and short sets. I simply refuse to throw in the towel in the middle of my bout with Father Time. This is one battle I am determined to win. I have resolved to take my willingness to push the fashion envelope and create some looks for myself that remain stylish, without having to raid my teenager’s closet. I am now, and have been for some time, a huge fan of print. In recent years, trousers featuring different patterns and prints have exploded onto the fashion scene. With this, a new breed of confidence has come along with it. Nowadays, it is as common to see the broker on Wall St. wearing the bold plaid or large hounds tooth pant with a spread-collared shirt, wool one-button jacket and driving moccasins as it is to see his counterpart wearing the flannel three-piece suit with wingtips. I am a firm believer that every man that dares to take a step in the fashion forward direction, should have at least one pair of pants that make a statement, without being overly dramatic. There is a fine line between being hip and looking like a “hippie”. I, myself, have a favorite pair of print pants that I wear like jeans. They are by PRPS and they have different shades of leaves all over them. At first glance they look like camouflage (which, by the way, are always fashionable if worn right). I like to pair these pants with a cool t-shirt, perhaps a Henley, or maybe a jacket if the weather permits. I can either dress them up or down, depending on the weather. Most times, I opt to wear a classic pair of boots, such as Timberlands. At the tender age of 38, a sad but true reality of my life is that I have to get up every morning, go to an office and dedicate a
minimum of eight hours each day to a job that I still am not sure is my true calling. When I am not attempting to “look” busy, contemplating my very existence on this planet, I work in an H.R. capacity. This means that, because of the position I am in, I have to be very conscience of my professionalism. The way I act, the way I speak, and more importantly, the way I dress must always represent myself and my employer.
Jacket: Robert Graham Shirt: Ralph Lauren Pants: Ralph Lauren Shoes: Gucci Glasses: Tom Ford
In knowing this, I try to keep my adventurous fashion spirit at bay as much as I possibly can without appearing to be a “stuffed suit”. I found that I can accomplish the goal of professionalism as well as be fashionable without either one taking from the other. I often do this by mixing and matching different pieces that I have collected over the years. In an office setting, a common staple that every professional, yet stylish man should have are a few nice pairs of wool blend trousers in basic colors (black, navy, gray, cream). These will serve as the foundation for any outfit you choose to wear to the office. They can be dressed up or down. They can be worn with a collared shirt, merino sweater, polo style shirt or even a nice pull-over shirt with subtle detail. Often times, I wear a lighter trouser with a darker blazer (or vice-versa) to create contrast, along with a nice collared shirt with some sort of detail. The shirt will usually have a design, such as plaid or polka dots that will connect with the trousers’ color scheme. Finally,
a good loafer is always appropriate for the office. Depending on how bold you are, but keeping in mind that you are still in a professional setting, your sense of style can be expressed through your shoe selection. As party season approaches, you would think that men would not be as stressed as women often tend to be when selecting the right outfit to complement our escorts. That is a huge misconception. We menfolk do not mind our ladies being in the spotlight, but never do we want to be left in the shadows. Currently, when preparing for a night on the town this holiday season, a simple black suit just won’t do. It is time for us that like to step out…to step out on a limb. If she is beautiful… then you should dare to be bold. You can do this by pairing a classic pair of tuxedo trousers with a dinner jacket that stands out. Try jackets with different lapel cuts. Every man doesn’t look well in a classic peak-lapel. Conversely, donning a dinner jacket with a shawl collar can make some men look awkwardly like the valet or maître d. If you are unsure of the type of jacket will suit you (pun intended), stick with the classic look and perhaps find a print. As stated previously, I am a huge advocate of print (as long as it is tastefully designed and cut). I recently purchased a nice Robert Graham piece. It is perfectly cut for my dimensions and has subtle black velvet print on top of the wool underlay. The lining is a bold red with festive designs, so, as I am twirling my companion on the dance floor and my jacket flies open, spectators can see that there is a little something going on underneath the surface. As you can see, I am soldiering on in this fight against Father Time. I may not have access to the fountain of youth, nor may I be able to make the hands of the clock move any slower. I can however, remain conscience of my appearance by making the right fashion choices. I will not use my walker to stroll gracefully into the sunset without putting up a valiant effort to hold on to some semblance of youth. It is my choice to choose the right clothes with the right cut and patterns. If nothing else, I will at least APPEAR more youthful, even if I do not feel that way. And…for the record, you are only as old as you appear to be. How’s that for “age appropriate”?
BEAUTY
It’s
Winter
Do You Have Your By: India Henderson
Covered
“Give me more, give me more, I want more” … is probably what your skin is screaming at this time of the year. More hydration, that is. As the temperature drops, it’s very important to moisturize your skin. People may find that their skin gets much drier during winter months. Dry air and chilly temperatures make your skin dehydrated and flaky. Moisturizers hydrate and smooth the skin. Most moisturizers rely on a combination of humectants, occlusives and emollients to attract and seal in moisture as well as improve skin texture, while also repairing and hydrating. There are myths that only certain skin types requires moisturizer, when in fact, ALL skin types need daily moisturizer as part of a skincare regimen. Follow these tips to winter-ize your skincare regimen:
Exfoliate. Cold and dry air can make
your skin dry and flaky. Using an exfoliator may seem illogical when your skin is already taking a beating from the cold. When your skin is dry, dead skin cells block the moisturizer from being absorbed. Using a very gentle exfoliator will help repair the surface of your skin and make your lotions and creams more effective. Try Avalon Organic: Lavender Exfoliating Enzyme Scrub.
Cleanse.
A simple switch up of your cleanser could be enough to even out your skin’s moisture levels. Go from a bubbly cleanser to a creamy cleanser made for dry skin. Try Burt’s Bees Intense Hydration Cream Cleanser. Apply a serum. For a highly-concentrated
BEAUTY doses of hydration that deeply penetrate your skin, apply a serum. Apply one morning and night and you can go a little lighter on the heavy moisturizer. Try Avalon Organics: Vitamin C Vitality Facial Serum.
Origins Drink Up Intense Overnight Mask $25
Moisturize. If you love with your
current moisturizer, you don’t have to stop using it. Perhaps purchase a heavier moisturizer so you’ll be prepared on days when your skin feels dry, tight and uncomfortable. Look for moisturizers that contain SPF and glycerin or sorbitol, which promote major hydration. Try Eucerin Broad Spectrum SPF 30 Daily Protection Face Lotion. Moisturize at night. If you don’t usually use a moisturizer at night, now might be the time to start. If you are using one, change to one that is made specifically for dry skin. Giving your skin an extra boost of hydration overnight might be all your skin needs for a better moisture barrier during the day. Try Body Shop Vitamin E Nourishing Night Cream.
Glamglow Thirstymud Hydrating Treatment $69
Clinique Moisture Surge Extended Thirst Relief $39-$52
Philosophy Back to Nurture Replenishment $65
Even if you have oily skin, your skin becomes dehydrated during the winter months. A lot of the oiliness comes from your skin being dehydrated so it produces more oil in an attempt to hydrate itself. The goal of moisturizing your skin is to hydrate your skin, and to do that you don’t need to add oils. Always, always, always moisturize! By moisturizing daily, you will regulate your Mario Badescu Oil-Free oil production so it doesn’t overproduce Moisturizer $20 sebum. Below you will find some of my favorite Try different moisturizers to see which moisturizing products for the winter formula your skin prefers, but don’t skimp! months.
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BEAUTY
Mielle Organics
These natural hair products literally give my hair life, I’m addicted to these organic hair products that nourish and mousurize my hair.
UD Primer Potion
This eyelid primer helps my eyeshadow stay put. No creasing, just perfect blended and beat shadow.
Lorac Tantilizer Baked Bronzer Lorac’s baked bronzer gives me a glow. It gives me just enough shimmer without looking like a disco globe!
Caudalie Vinosource SOS Thirst Serum
Receiving this in my IPSY box was a treat. For my needy dry skin it’s a must to stay hydrated and that’s extactly what this does. It leaves my skin soft, supple and hydrated.
ABH Self Made Palette
I love the range of this palette with both shimmering shadows and sultry nudes there are so many looks I can create.
Hair
Gym Hair
DON't Care Your Guide to Before and After Gym Hair Maintenance
By: Josie Sloan
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o I am stressed beyond belief and feeling extremely puffy. I decided to go to the gym and shed some water weight along with some tension. I brush my teeth, wash my face, and grab my go to outfit which consist of a leggings and an oversized t-shirt that reads: If I’m Not Happy, Then Nobody is Happy. I slick my hair back into a ponytail and bounced. As I step in to the group class I notice that I look like crap compared to all the other females. Sew-ins, wigs, braids, natural locks and blow outs, everyone hair was on point. Now most of the time I will have my hair done when I go to the gym, because I am going right after work. But the work out continues once I get home, because I have to figure out with to do with my hair. Let’s go over some before and after gym hair care maintenance based on the most current styles.
a ponytail and slick down your leave out. You want to make sure that it has enough oil to protect your hair but not too much that it ruins your extensions. If the if the extensions are deep wave or curly hair, opt for a braid instead of a ponytail. This will preserve the curl pattern of your extensions while working out. Consider wearing a hat or silk scarf during your workout. The hat or scarf will absorb most of the sweat and pull it away from your hair. Trust me it is a lot easier to throw a hat or scarf in the laundry than it is to wash a sew-in after
Sew-ins
When you have a sew-in there are a few things you want to consider before you work out, your leave out and the texture of the extensions. Before going to the gym you would look like Hawaiian Silky, but afterwards you can look like u trying to make Africa and Brazil get along. Brush the hair into
every workout. Once you get home and have showered, blow dry the roots and braids of your sew-in. You want to dry your scalp and braids as much as possible to prevent mildew. Mildew can cause hair breakage and loss, and not to mention an odor that is
Hair
not appealing at all. Take the braid down and/or ponytail and detangle starting from root to tip. Spray the hair with dry shampoo to refresh the hair and allow to air dry.
WIGS
Normally you would keep your hair braided down underneath your wig. Now you have one of two options for preworkout hair: One, follow the above steps for a sew-in and apply it to wig maintenance or two, don’t wear your wig to the gym. Now with all honesty, if I wore a wig to work I will look pretty silly removing it to go to the gym, but when I go workout on a weekends, I tend to leave my wig off and tie my braids down with a head scarf and add a military cap. I’m just going to the gym to get my body tight not my hair done, what’s the big deal. This allows you to keep your wig fresh without having a lot of maintenance before and after the gym. When you get home and shower, add some light oil along your parts of your braid pattern. Blow dry your braids as much as possible and add your wig cap. Then attached your wig as usual and be on your way.
Braids
Well, we all know that braids are low maintenance, and most active gym rats are probably sporting them already. Pull your braids to the top of your head in a high ponytail. No need to braid unless you just want to. You can began wrapping the braids around one another until you have formed a bun. Use bobby pins as needed and go. After work out and shower, remove the bun and apply oil to scalp and began to blow dry your roots. Style as usual.
Natural locks
When I wear my natural curls to the gym I don’t have to do anything to my hair. Why do you ask, because natural hair’s best friend is moisture? I might spray a little water and lay my edges but I know that my best look will be once I leave the gym. My hair is saturated by the time I leave especially with brutal workout. While in the shower I will cowash my hair. Co-washing is the process of
washing your hair with conditioner only. No matter how good your hair looks, you don’t want to leave it with a lot of sweat in it. This is a way to wash your hair daily without stripping all of the natural oils. Wring hair dry or use a t-shirt to remove most of the water and style as usual.
Blow outs
The gym does the most damage to a blow out or flat iron style. Natural hair responds well to moisture as straighten hair does not. Before going to the gym be sure to add edge control to your edges and a light oil to your hair with heavy concentration to your ends. Put your hair in to a high ponytail and form a bun. Apply a wide band fabric headband. This aids in absorbing sweat. After workout and shower immediately began to blow dry hair with a round brush. Once dry, wrap hair and apply a silk scarf. When ready, take down and style as usual. So hopefully I have gotten you motivated to go out and get it and not worry about your hair. I believe I have covered most of the common hairstyles. Make sure that you have a light hair and scalp oil and blow dryer for maintaining most of these hair styles. Remember your hair is important, but your health is way more. Don’t allow it to be an excuse as to why you can go to the gym.
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Love & Relationships
This issue is all about success and as we all know success has different meanings to each of us. We also know that you can be successful in one area and suck in several other areas. The area I want to focus on is relationships. Are you in a happy relationship? Or, are you still waiting to meet Mr. Right? By most people’s standards, I am relatively successful. I have a good job and make decent coins. I live in the big house with 2.5 kids and a great husband. That’s on the outside looking in. There is a war raging on the inside me. So, its not by accident that I chose to write about the part of my life that makes me the most happy. My peace, which is my marriage. Marriage is the most successful part of MY life. My thought is that not only would this be a great
article, but also a great way to honor and pay homage to MY husband. A man who inspires me in so many different ways and so many levels. He is the epitome of what and how God meant for a man to love a woman. April 17, 2016, will make 26 years together and 23 years married. I am 42 year’s old and I have been with this man since I was 17! It has not always been roses. And I, being the self proclaimed Independent Woman that I am, have always stated and believed, my happiness will never be dependent on a man. No man will ever define me. However, I can also say quite truthfully, MY world, emphasis on MY, is a better place with him in it. The problem I see in today’s society is women don’t know how to choose a good man and a lot of good men are being labeled as weak. The standard of treatment in what women will and won’t tolerate has been lowered over the years. It’s disgusting to see smart, successful women, who are strong in every area of their lives, yet they are not smart enough to distinguish between a man who loves you
verses a man who needs you. Just because a man needs you, does not mean he loves you. He may just need your money, connections, or resources to get to a better place. Here are a few questions designed to make you think and challenge you. Are you lonely or desperate? Who determines your worth? Is your self esteem based on whether or not you have
someone? What is your standard? What are you teaching the men in your life by what you tolerate and allow? What are your deal breakers? If you are in a relationship, are equal sacrifices being made on both sides? Also, what do you bring to the table? The bible says not to be unequally yoked. So, are you dating your equal or are you dating
someone you have to parent? There are those women who don’t mind being their man’s mama because it gives them control, but that comes with a price as well. Over time you start to lose respect for him. I hope this article that’s short, sweet and to the point, encourage the single women that there are still good men out there and you deserve to have
Love & Relationships According to google, “about 4000 one and to challenge women to stop settling for less than what they women die each year due to dodeserve. I hope this provokes the women get by on their looks and mesticwho violence homicides, about bodies to be more than a trophy. Women are literally dying to bewere loved 75 percent of the victims and allowing men to come in a theirkilled whole out of desperation asexistence they attempted to leave and fear of being alone. My husband Bob isorMY soft the place, the Dennis relationship after rela-My refuge from this war within. Ladies,tionship I encourage youAlso, to raise the bar, ended.� according and to not settle because you are truly worthy goodout man you to the CDC,ofina 2010, ofand 8,000 deserve one! Be Blessed! new HIV cases, 5300 of those were black women. That number has steadily increased in heterosexual women contracting HIV from their partners. Sadly, that is not the case for a lot of women.Ioriginally wanted to interview and tell the story of one of my co-workers, whose ex husband is serving eleven years for aggravated assault of a fam-
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elationships time and time again make us question the same things. Does he like me? Does he love me? Is he cheating on me? Is he the one. My friend ALWAYS says, “If you have to ask” ....Now ask yourself again! Yes, you have answered your own questions. Relationships nowadays are so weak because of past experiences that we haven’t resolved, social media, and plain old expectations. ARE YOU READY? First ask yourself, “Am I ready for a new relationship?” Personally I have had a few bad ones and although there was closure, it was hard to resolve the feelings I had of disappointment. I was lonely and felt the need to be with someone and therefore did not have the strength required to be in a new relationship. Wrong! You must heal first, then adventure out again.
Intuitions...we all have them... “gut feelings”.
You must have self LOVE! What we all should do is continuously work on SELF, self worth, self esteem, self love..SELF. Time alone is important. Date yourself. Use it to enjoy the new you because every break up is a reason to reinvent yourself. What better way to start. Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself. Ok back up, where are you meeting people? You can’t expect to meet the man of your dreams at a club (unless you’re dreaming of a one night adventure (no judgment here) but if you are looking for someone to spend quality time with, you may have better luck meeting people thru friends or family. Maybe you are settling for less because you don’t think you deserve more. I know we do this. Be strong and be yourself because if you let your insecurities take over you are doomed. Do you fall for the right kind of person? I dream of a knight in shiny armor but is it just a man wrapped In tin foil...ha. I have
been known to say, “He may not be Mr. Right but he is Mr. Right now.” Recognizing unresolved insecurities is the key to preparing you to start dealing with the type of person who you may enjoy being with as well as not leading you on the same path. Recognize Beware of the fantasy. Use your Intuition. Who is reassuring who? Not all of the signs are visible but you can create doubt by reading into what is a perfect relationship. Perfect for who? It doesn’t stop there. Reality shows, television series, and movies create an illusion. Main point is they sell THE ILLUSION. Reality is NO relationship is perfect. Be ready for Like or love, loyal or dishonest, strong or weak, safe or dangerous. We are all at risk of all of these. No relationship will fulfill everything you see or hear happening on all these outlets. Remember we see the facade not what is behind closed doors. Seems like there are peak times that there are weddings happening, pregnancy, glamorous vacations, yeah you get the picture. I’m not saying you can’t dream about it, but not every relationship is based on just the big picture. It takes time and communication and you must be honest with yourself about how fast your relationship will grow. Your intuition must guide you to what you want to see happening. Timing is important and pace your emotions. Not every fairytale started out perfect. EXPECTATIONS Have you set your expectations to high? Today relationships make you evaluate your worth. I want the dinner dates, romance, financial help, gifts,.etc. I believe I would love all of the above but oh well can i settle for one or two of these? Women of today should know that you can enjoy a dinner alone (personally still working on this), you can buy your own jewels, and
romance, yassss girl, it’s the deal breaker for many of us. But are we expecting too much. That is questionable. You can fall in like/love with someone that cannot give you one, yet Rock the other. What matters to you should be communication or else you are going to be living a fantasy relationship in your mind and let down along the way and by whom. Ladies men don’t always know what we are thinking And men, you should help break the cycle, alternate making the plans, put ideas on the table that both will enjoy. (suggesting box). Add spice to a new fling that will make it last longer. Keep it real. cheaters Now not everyone ready to give it all up for one person. Read the signs! Lack of attention and attraction. Maybe the company is good but the intimacy is hmmmm. Maybe you expected loyalty but are you being loyal to yourself? Your time, your effort must match. If not enjoy the company or step away before you hurt yourself by expecting to change what is not for you. If things don’t seem right...confront them. Of course being used is different, i hate it but sometimes you have to just let go and cut your losses. choices chances changes We’ve heard this before, inn love and life, not everything going to be your choice. Give yourself a chance to grow in love and don’t expect it to be love at first sight. Change is good. Change your mindset. Take your time. Use your intuition to help you make stronger decisions in love and in life. Fear is the reason we question it all but isn’t love a reason to take a gamble. I am forever a hopeless romantic, but I wear my own armor of strength, pride, value, and experience!
With Tia Griffin
@TakeItFromTia
Dear Tia, I am 30 with an idea for a successful business. I am extremely excited about my venture, but the lack of information breeds insecurity. I never went to college, never furthered my education, never did anything like this. Where do I begin to put my plan en route?! Sincerely Successful,
Hello Morgan! I remember the moment I realized I was formally uneducated, overworked and underpaid at a job that would have been anyone else’s dream, but.... but I had a vision that felt more real than any goal I ever reached and any physical possession I owned. I will give you the 3 Steps that changed my life.
#1) Write down your plan!
It is not enough to have a plan, but to write it down. Writing it down usually spells out your steps. The steps you need to succeed. Start small. Never despise small beginnings, so that means make sure you have your DBA (Google it if you are unaware what that is). Make sure you understand the pressure and the stress that comes with being an entrepreneur! The small things will alleviate some of that stress if you take care of them first and foremost! Morgan E.
#2) Believe in your vision!
No one will believe your vision if you don’t. Never refer to your vision as some “lil thing” or your “side gig!” Your vision is essentially YOU! Sell yourself! People want to see you succeed, and the ones that don’t, will one day work for you! :)
#3) This is one is the MOST important:
BE AUTHENTIC! Be true to YOU! There is nothing worse than having the opportunity to live the life you want, and you spend it trying to be the way someone else wants you to be or trying to be the way you think you should be. Just BE YOU! Embody your vision. Take it to heart. Ride it out! It is not going to be easy. You will possibly have to live uncomfortably, you will have to allow people to walk out of your life, you will have to surrender to The Way and not the way you “thought” it would be. If you don’t know who you are, begin to read more and watch television less. Whatever you feed your eye gates, ear gates, and heart gate is what will manifest in your life. So feed yourself positivity. Find mentors and people you can listen to. I feed myself a lot of Bishop T.D. Jakes & Jim Rohn. Start there!
so make sure you are doing something to help with! Do the work! On days you dont know what today, sit in peace so the destiny inside of you will begin to speak to you. May your hard work reap everything you see in your spirit!
Always remember what Paulo Coelho wrote in The Alchemist. He said, “When you want something, the whole universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” He wrote that the universe “helps” you,
Questions for Tia?
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Counting Your Coins Don’t Abuse Your Credit
Beautiful home, luxury cars, two and half kids; this is what people feel life should be. Well for most, they will never experience this because of bad credit. Credit is what allows most middle class and lower class families to afford nice things. It allows you to make purchases for large items with affordable monthly payments over a specified time. Of course income is an important part of the credit allowed per household. If you only make $25,000.00 a year, you might not get a Mercedes C-Class but more like a Ford Focus. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a Ford Focus, it’s all about getting what you can afford. Then there are those who make twice that amount and still can’t get anything other than a Ford Focus. Those are the people who have abused their credit and now are in the “rebuilding” stage. Let’s go over some tips to prevent you from having to restore but make wise choices so that you have a prosperous future. Payment History Pay your bills on time. When you are late making payments this has a significant effect on your credit score. If you can’t pay your bills on time how are you to be able to pay creditors. I know it can be hard and the temptation is strong, but remember my previous articles regarding budget planning? Put these suggestions into place, if they are already in place awesome.
By: Josie Sloan
You know that random shopping sprees and impulse purchases are out of the question. This behavior normally results in using money you don’t have (for example your “bill money”) to make purchases, such as putting your cable bill on hold to buy shoes. Credit Card Utilization Avoid getting close to your credit card limit. Most of our credit history starts in college. A student’s first line of credit is normally a credit card they signed up for at freshmen orientation, and a student loan, unless grandma used your social security number to purchase a house back in the day. You don’t make much money and the credit card they issued you was just what you needed to make sure you eat a hot meal that doesn’t consist of ramen noodles. Every time you pay only the $25.00 minimum balance on a credit card with a maxed $500.00 limit, it shows the creditors that you are living off of your credit cards and cannot afford any more lines of credit. Partial Payments Pays bills in full. I know we are just coming from the holidays and we used our credit cards to pay for most of our Christmas gifts. With all the friends and family that we had to buy gifts for, the credit card just wasn’t enough. So you get the bright idea to pay half of your car note to have some extra cash. Nothing above should ever be done. A credit card allows you to make
a purchase for something that you have the intention of paying back within the next thirty days. So that yearly pay off plan is not going to work. Also, partial payment on a car note is just as bad as not paying it at all. It says that what they approved for you to pay, you could not afford that and that you lied to them during the application process. Too Much Credit Don’t apply for too much credit too quickly. Say for instance you just got approved for a house. Your credit is in a good status at this point. So you decide to purchase a car, and furnish your house. Trust me, you are going to get approved for all of them because you got approved for a house. If your car is running, wait until you have paid a couple of mortgage payments before trying to get a new car. See if the combination of the two payments will be a good fit for your income. The Rooms To Go people are going to tell you it’s no big deal because they want your sale and they may not get it if the house has hit your credit report. The downfall is when the bills come in and you realize that you can’t afford all those monthly payments. Remember that you have to have the discipline to say no. A nice living room set is awesome until they are coming to pick it up from you.
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t’s been said that you can never judge a book by its cover. Indeed it is true that you cannot know someone just by looking at them. Tiffeny Wilson, although small in stature, is a force to be reckoned with. My first meeting with Tiffeny happened via phone. I had no idea the exuberant and excited voice on the other end would be the Le Charme anniversary cover, but the more she spoke the more I felt certain she was the one. It was evident that this woman embodied the our definition of success. Tiffeny Wilson is a driven woman full of passion and fulfilling her purpose everyday. She is the lifeline of her team and a woman who follows her dreams. I was literally blown away as she opened up to me about her life and journey that
led her to where she is today. Admittedly, she will tell you the road has not been easy but it has been worth it. Fashion, she tells me, is in her blood, it fuels her, and inspires her. It’s obvious when she walks into a room that she knows what she’s doing when it comes to wardrobe. You will notice immediately how she gracefully walks, how people fall silent to watch her enter, but what they do not know is the path she has taken to reach for success. Her fashion journey started after she walked away from her career at the Department of Diplomatic Security (yes I just said it, it’s a division of the FBI). It takes insurmountable courage to walk away from a career that guarantees security and step out on faith to do what you have been
FEATURE called to do. But she did just that. Tiffeny holds 3 degrees, graduated with honors and a 4.0 GPA in Business & Marketing. She didn’t realize it as she studied to be the greatest in her class, that she would one day use those skills to create her empire. She pushes forward no matter the obstacle to keep persevering. Her brand is recognizable. Tiffeny has been nominated for the Glam Awards 40under40 list for her excellence in fashion. She has built a team of designers, stylist, makeup artist and hair stylist to provide the completely pampered experience to her clients, and she is active in various charities and committed to mentoring young teens. She is a success, and Le Charme had a chance to pick the brain of this achievement driven woman to find out what pushed her to keep climbing the ladder of success. LCM: What drives or motivates you to keep reaching? TW: My children are my biggest motivating factors! I had them very young and I want them to see what chasing their dreams looks like. I want them to see their mother pave the way, so that their ride is a little easier. Next is the stars! I want everything God told me I could have. LCM:A successful woman is a woman of excellence, a woman of purpose, what traits do you believe make a successful woman?
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TW: For me there are 5 traits a successful woman should have. First, this woman must have a “need to compete”. Successful people basically want to win at their craft. They are always trying to figure out how to out shine the competition. Second, she must have the capacity to let go. When you hold on to things in your past, they simply weigh you down. A successful woman looks forward, and tries to see light and the end of the tunnel. Thirdly, this type of woman doesn’t waiver in a time of crisis. She understands that there will be bumps in the road on this journey, sometimes more bad than good. Only the strong survive. Forth, her passion for improvement must be high. A successful person understands that what their brand is at the beginning, will not be what their brand will be at the end. In the world everything must either adapt or evolve to fit the needs of life. This type of person understands the value specialized in ladies fashion handbags of constructive criticism. Finally, she and accessories. The recession finally took its toll on Always Pink Fashions and must be GRATEFUL! I closed up shop and went to work for LCM: Would you give us some the National Government. During the background on your passions? What next 3 years, my soul was burning for my are your different business and passion, fashion. One day on my back endeavors? porch, my mother and I sat for tea. My TW:I have been in the entertainment mother told me don’t be scared to step business since 2004. My first company, out on faith. Don’t wake up 60 years Mystique outsourcing, was an event old with a long list of should of could of, planning coordinating company and would of (s). My mother could tell I was was founded June of 2004. In March stuck in tug of war game with my need of 2008, 2 other young ladies and I to provide, and my desire for fashion. 1 created the hip hop group The Pink month later, I quit my job and started Stunnaz. Together we launched Doll my dream journey. House Records and Houston’s first LCM: Some people believe you can all-girl car club. This pink movement only do one thing, how do you balance led me to open, Always Pink Fashion, your different roles of leadership and in April of 2008. Always Pink Fashion business?
FEATURE TW:Juggling is hard even for the best. It’s a balance that I am still learning to handle. I’m learning the art of prioritizing, understanding I can’t make everything. I have to list things in the order of importance and go from there. LCM: Do you believe there is a formula or pattern for success? TW:Yes, I do believe there is a formula for success. It requires more than just reading about it. It requires strategic actions. LCM: What inspires you the most? TW:Simply put, LOVE! My love for my family, my love for my friends, my for my dreams and the love for my business, is what inspires me. To be loved LCM: Along your journey, have you ever wanted to give up? TW: If you ask any successful person have they wanted to give up and they say no, RUN! They are not the right person to hang around, because it’s clear they are a liar. I want to quit about every 3 months. LOL. LCM: Do you feel you have made sacrifices for your success? TW: Oh the sacrifices are real… I’ve given up my house, cars and most important a steady check. You also sacrifice your home life. When you start a business it requires countless hours. Hours that normally would have spent with your children or your husband. There are huge sacrifices associated with success, and those sacrifices have consequences as well. LCM: Is there any one person you admire and model your business after? TW:There is not one specific person, but rather a community. I take a little from everyone I come in contact with. I model
my business off of how I would want to be treated. LCM: What is your definition of success? TW: My definition of success, is happiness! Money doesn’t measure success, but to me happiness does. It’s in that very moment when you sit back and see your brand as a house hold name, all the bills are paid, you are debt free, the children are content, the birds are chirping and you are thankful to be a child of God. That my friends is success to me. LCM: How would you describe Tiffeny the business woman vs Tiffeny the Artist? TW: Oh wow! I guess if I had to use one word to describe the difference it would be, evolved.
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Message from Tiffeny
I would like to thank my amazing team during this journey. At Boujie Couture we have an amazing team of designers who will stitch you into a princess. For this cover I am wearing Boujie Couture ft. LB Limited Edition, by designer Lisa Burns. We met at my show, Battle Boujie Royale and I fell in love with her creative style. Bella Monique, owner of The Hive Salon, for whipping this wig into shape. She keeps my hair red carpet ready and doesn’t mind coming to an event to get me ready. Ladies if your edges need a little TLC this is your stylist. My MUA Kamerin Smith, at only 17 years old is a BEAST! He is the winner of Nzuri’s Natural Face MUA Battle 2015. I believe in these people just as much as they believe in me.
You have to enable and empower people to make decisions independent of you. As I’ve learned, each person on a team is an extension of your leadership. If they feel empowered by you, they will magnify your power to lead. --Tom Ridge
By: Dana Pittman
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walked out the movie theatre pumped. For nearly two hours I watched “Creed” as Michael B. Jordan angrily tried to press his way into a life he knew he was made for. He fought opponents in group homes in England all to prove “he wasn’t a mistake”. Blood and violence aside, this movie is every go-getters school yard. It is a place where you can be entertained and coached in getting the life you were meant to live. What is your creed? Do you have one? I don’t. But I will soon and I think after reading this article you will too, that is if you too want success. In this article I will share four gogetter truths exhibited in “Creed” and I have experienced them in my life. These truths should play a major role in seeing success in your family, career, business and life. I believe when you implement them you actively begin priming your life for success. But before I jump into the truths I want to lay the foundation. I believe you have to prepare for the success you desire. When it shows up, you want to be ready to take full advantage of every opportunity presented. But this will not happen without the proper foundation. Without the proper foundation when the opportunity appears, you will dive in but it will only last for a short while before you find yourself drowning. And before long you lose not only
that opportunity, but your footing for increase is wiped out too. A proper foundation is crucial. You can make moves without it but with it your ability to seize that opportunity and parlay it into many more is much more likely. Therefore, you must primed yourself for success. Have you ever painted a wall? Or better yet, do you wear foundation? In both situations it is recommended to prime the surface. Primer provides a base and aids in durability and many other cosmetic benefits. In the end, it makes the surface consistent. Applying this concept to your life will make you determined and unmovable as you aspire to success in any area of your life. They will make you consistent. Therefore we will prime our foundation by adopting a personal creed. This creed is a set of beliefs that guide our actions. A
guide, which will place you on your as well start with the hard stuff first. You determine much in your life. The path to success. I will explain further in a moment but moment you decide you have the I’ll share the truths to keep us focused. ability to do anything. But you must I believe you are primed for success know and accept your strengths, weaknesses, hangups and limitations. when: This does not mean that we cannot 1.You know (and accept) you are change. However, we must first your greatest obstacle; realize what we are working with, and that is our greatest obstacle. 2.You know (and recognize) good You are primed for success when you know and recognize good 3.You know (and gather) the tools enough is not enough. Where are and people you need; and you settling in your life? Taking what you can get because you think 4.You know (and commit) to take that is all you can get? Is it in your a leap of faith. These four truths will relationship? Your career? Your life? help you establish your personal The moment you recognize that creed and will prime you for success. just okay is not okay you can make You are primed for success when moves. Now, I am not saying to be you know and accept that you are ungrateful or discontent. Settling is your greatest obstacle. We might not either of those characteristics.
enough is not enough;
Settling is usually present when we fail to try because we are fearful of the potential outcomes. Therefore, our present “good enough” becomes our comfort zone and the greater versions of ourselves reside outside the limits of our comfort. You are primed for success when you know and gather the tools and people you need. You are not required to do this success thing solo. Solo is not fun and it does not use you at your best capacity. However, it does require your ability to identify what you need and how to get it. Whether it is tools, manpower, services and such. Making this call is when you will find yourself moving from playing small to a power player! Lastly, you are primed for success when you know and commit to take a leap of faith. All great things require faith. In that leap of faith you have to believe in yourself. You have to believe in your dreams. You have to believe in something greater than yourself. But belief is really not belief until you leap. Those moments leading to the big jump are merely good intentions and good ideas. The leap is the signal both internally and externally that “I am ready”. As the credits rolled on “Creed” I felt it was the end and the beginning of a great story. Your story can begin from this moment. Knowing these four truths will help you write a great
story for yourself and they will prime you for success. Knowing and acting on them you will fashion a personal creed for your life that will place a firm foundation under your feet and hope in your heart because you would have stood toe-to-toe with your greatest obstacle (you), stop accepting limiting thoughts and beliefs, gatherer what you need to do what you have to do, and transitioned from talk to action. You my friend are now primed for success!
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WITH Khahelah Thornton
DO NOT ANSWER
I find it a bit irritating when you meet a guy and after conversing for a few minutes it’s obvious he wants to ask all the questions, I mean he didn’t even want to tell me his occupation, saying when people find out what he does for a living it leads to certain expectations. He does admit to once being a professional athlete that has traveled the world, and then he begins to brag about a few of his conquests and accomplishments. Are you kidding me? He went from pumping me for information to not wanting to talk about his current life to bragging about his past, I was too through, time to go, then he says, “Go ahead and take my number.” Not only does he want to give me his number, but he wants me to call his phone as he stands in front of me, what a turn off. (As soon as I get a chance I will program your name and number as DO NOT ANSWER).
LIFE GOES ON
I was once friends with a girl that all of a sudden one day stopped answering my calls and text messages. I’m the type of grown up that will respectfully approach you in a grown up manner if I have an issue with my so called friends, and excuse me for expecting the same in return. After 3 or 4 un returned phone calls and 7 or 8 un answered text messages, I clearly got the message. I’m not a mind reader, but what I do know is that I have never intentionally hurt this so called
friend and if I accidently said or did something to cause a problem with our friendship, had I known I would’ve apologized, but now that I see what kind of person you are, please lose my number. Have a good life!
A BLINKING MESS
No one is perfect; I mean we all make mistakes. Imagine driving on the freeway trying to get somewhere, you may not be in a rush but you want to reach your destination as soon as possible. You want to switch lanes, because the car in front of you wants to drive 10 mph below the speed limit but because this same car has on their blinker light you want to wait to give them a chance to get over first. (You never know what the flow of traffic is light in front of that car). It’s going on 1 mile and that same car has yet to get over, just as soon as you attempt to get over, guess what? They decide to get over. Really? And guess what? Their blinker is still blinking. OMG.
Healthy Meal Remix Grilled Chicken and Spinach Salad By: Josie Sloan
with Pomegranate Vinaigrette
With the arrival of 2016, its get back on track season. All the candy from Halloween, turkey and dressing from Thanksgiving and Christmas, and as much alcohol any one person can possibly consume for New Year’s is out the window. It’s time to cleanse our system of all impurities and what better way than to concentrate on our superfoods. Superfoods are proven foods that provides vitamins and nutrients to aid in cleansing your system and assist with weight loss. What better way to make a quick lunch or dinner than with protein packed nutrient meal such as Grilled Chicken and Spinach Salad with Pomegranate Vinaigrette.
You Will Need Chicken 3 to 4 OZ Chicken Breast ½ Lemon (Squeezed) 2 TBSP Olive Oil ¼ TBSP Sea Salt ½ TBSP Mrs. Dash Salad 2 Cups of Fresh Spinach ¼ Cup of Craisens
1/8 Cup of Almond Slivers ¼ Cup of Feta Cheese Dressing 3 Pomegranates 1 TBSP White Wine Vinaigrette 1/3 Cup Olive Oil 2 TBSP Honey 1 TBSP Dijon Mustard
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Let’s Get Started
The night before season chicken breast with sea salt, pepper, and Mrs. Dash. In a small bowl mix the seasoned chicken, with juice of half a lemon, and olive oil. Allow chicken to marinate overnight. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In a small skillet on medium high heat, sear both sides of the chicken breast for approximately minute each. Transfer chicken breast from skillet to small roasting pan bake for 15 to 20 minutes. While chicken is baking, peel pomegranates and place the seeds in a small strainer and press with a spoon to get the juice. Combine juice of the pomegranates, white wine vinaigrette, olive oil, honey, and Dijon mustard in a shaker bottle. Toss spinach, cruises, almonds, and feta with the dressing. Serve either as a side dish to the chicken, or cut the chicken up and top the salad.
By:DeiIra Smith-Collard
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ith this issue being our success issue, I believe it’s only fitting that our first Lit with Le Charme review be on a book about success. However, this is not just any book, this is the book of my absolute favorite television writer, Shonda Rhimes. Now there are a million and one great books about achieving success, but none that have been told by a woman who prior to her first hit television show, we knew nothing about. She is someone who went from the obscure shadows of anonymity, to the shining spotlight of success. For those who have maybe been under a rock for the past seven or so years, Shonda Rhimes, the creator of gladiators, the original wearer of the white hat, is responsible for shows such
Product Details YEAR OF YES: HOW TO DANCE IT OUT, STAND IN THE SUN ABD BE YOUR OWN PERSON Hardcover: 336 pages Publisher: Simon & Schuster (November 10, 2015) Language: English ISBN-10: 1476777098 ISBN-13: 978-1476777092 Product Dimensions: 5 x 1.1 x 7 inches www.amazon.com Price: $14.99 as Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice, Scandal, and the newest addition, How to Get Away with Murder. Now that we have gotten introductions out of the way, let’s move on to Year of Yes. When I first curled up on the sofa and opened the digital pages of my iPad, I found myself excited about this book. I believe it is because until now I knew little, (not for lack of trying) about Shonda Rhimes. I simply new she was a master at story telling and could create intricate pieces of people to develop multi-dimensional characters, and after watching you feel you have a close relationship with. The moment I began to read I laughed a loud. Her very first line is her admission, that she is a LIAR. I find the tone of the book to be very
conversational. It’s as if she sitting next to me telling her story. Year of Yes is Rhimes testimony to how she found success. This is a journey of how she challenged herself to break out of her comfort zone and how it transformed her life. This open account of Shonda’s challenge and journey during a year of her life is one that is impactful and powerful. It is a story of self discovery that empowers you to challenge yourself. Shonda Rhimes shows strength and vulnerability to her readers. Year of Yes is a must read for anyone who is ready to challenge themselves to stop living in fear and reach for the stars.
Satisfy
Health & Fitness
YOUR
Sweet Tooth
With Annika Regala
recipe courtesy of www.buffbake.com
White Chocolate Oatmeal Buff Bake Cookies A healthy spin to satisfy your sweet tooth
Ingredients
1/2 Cup Oat Flour 1/2 Whole Grain Non-Instant Oats 3/4 Cup Baking Stevia. 1/2 Cup Organic Mascobado Cane Sugar. Pinch Sea Salt. 1/2 Cup White Chocolate Buff Bake 1 Large Egg 1/4 Cup Unsweetened Applesauce 1 TBSP Pure Vanilla Extract 1/3 Cup White Chocolate Chips + Some for on top Dash of Rainbow Sprinkles
Directions 1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees. 2. Combine dry ingredients in a bowl. Mix well. 3.Leave out the white chocolate chips only from the mixture. Add in all of the wet ingredients and combine until smooth. 4. Drop about 22-25 cookies onto a baking sheet. Make sure to space them out! 5. Bake for about 10 to 12 minutes. Remove and allow to cool
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THIS IS NOT MY SHOE SIZE By: Brandee Nelson
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ave you ever tried on someone else’s shoes? In this instance I am talking in a literal sense. I know I have, I use to wear my dad’s cowboy boots. I loved the fact of flopping all around in a shoe that my foot really didn’t fit. Girly frills didn’t excited me too much, so my mother shoes weren’t my choice. My father was invincible to me, in my eyes he was my hero. I couldn’t remember a time that he never came through for me. Now as an adult I know that my father may have had his hang ups, or even missed the mark sometimes. However, him and my mother took their time to make sure that they kept stress and pressure off of the family. There was one particular
pair of shoes that I would repetitively place on my small foot, his cowboy boots. I know those of you reading from abroad may think that it would obvious because I am from Texas, but we aren’t all cowboys and cowgirls. Most people you meet from Texas are really city people. My father’s cowboy boots were large and covered most of my legs, when wearing them. So being the word junky I am, I looked up some information about cowboy boots. As you may know the Lord gave me revelation through something just as simple as a cowboy boot. According to sheplers.com article entitled “History of Cowboy Boots”, they could not pinpoint the origin of this particular fashion. It did depict a story, there was a cowboy who walked into the shoe makers
place and said that he needed some changes made to his current boots. First he need the front of the shoe to be made pointed so that he could fit his foot into the stirrups, while riding the horse. Second he needed a taller shaft to protect his leg so that as he was riding on the trail, the brushes and thorns would not penetrate his leg. Third he asked for a thicker heel that he may be able to keep his foot from sliding out of his stirrups. Last but not least the leather around his ankle was the thickest because it kept him from bruising his ankle while riding in the stirrups. Yes, I know that you may be thinking, Brandee what does this have to do with wearing the wrong shoe. Ok, let me give you the revelation I received. In our lives we may have to make adjustments, when this cowboy walked into the shoemakers workshop he had on a pair of dress boots. These particular boots were made to wear for an outing or to go into town. At this moment
he knew that he was taking a different path, so there were some adjustments that needed to be made. Those adjustments had to be made in order for him to take the ride that he needed to take. When we are embarking on new territory, we try to use the same tools that worked the last time . Since we are talking about shoes let me make this plain. There are certain precautionary gear that is needed to work on a construction site, hardhat, safety glasses, and steel toe boots. Now me being a woman who loves shoes can’t put on my beautiful pumps and expect to be effective on my job. If I am in the building stages of my life, does not mean that my position would be in the corporate office. I may be answering to a foreman telling me what machine I will be operating, or what part of the construction I will be working on. When in building our lives we think that we suppose to automatically start off as the boss. So ok I know that in Deuteronomy 28:13 it tells
us that we are the head and not the tail. In studying my word I found out it doesn’t not mean always being a CEO of the business. In this being the head and not the tail can mean you aren’t living behind the 8 ball, or robbing Peter to pay Paul. It may simply mean being a place where you don’t feel last anymore, you are finally conquering emotionally eating, or smoking cigarettes. Just simple things, because if God made half of CEO’s right now we would mess it up. Why? Lack of discipline will embarrass you having those positions. Public shame is the hardest to get over, social media has made that possible. I entitled this chapter “This Shoe Is Not My Size” because I was always walking in someone’s shoes. My dad’s, brother’s, mom’s , aunt’s, ot even the perception of me. I wore them and wore them proud,
only one problem occurred. THEY DIDN’T FIT!!!! I tried to be who I was not, because I wanted to be accepted by others. See rejection was a consuming fire in my life, to the point that I didn’t know what it was like to be accepted. Although when I went home, my mother loved me, my father adored me, and my brother cherished me. I was rejected in some of the worse ways outside of the house, that what was in my house didn’t have the effect on me. So can I just be honest about the feelings of a person who deals with consistent
rejection? Can I tell you about connected to the bubble he lived some instances that had occurred in. David lost his life to this disease at the age of 12, and that’s when his story was told. Rejection does this same thing to others. When rejection happens to a child they will live in a bubble until they realize what God’s plan is for their lives. You might be saying, Brandee people do to me? Well this is my story and not live in a bubble. Yes, not physyou did purchase this book, so I ically. Yet emotionally, and spirituam going to tell it!! I hope you are ally you began to live in a bubble. laughing, because I am. This bubble will cause you not to When you experience rejection it trust anyone, and that trust will be becomes a tormenting feeling that lost within yourself also. Most of all will cause you to suffer in a bub- your trust will be lost in our Lord and ble. There was a boy by the name Savior. You will began to think evof David Vetter, otherwise known eryone will reject you, and this can as “David, the bubble boy”. He make it hard to live your life. When suffered with a rare disease called you lose trust in others it becomes severe combined immunodefi- hard to create relationships, beciency (SCID), this disease is he- cause God uses people to help reditary and causes the immune us. How do you lose trust in yoursystem to weaken. This caused self? You lose it because if rejechim to have to live in an extreme tion seems to be a constant, you sterile environment. He could not lose trust in your judgement and attend any functions without hav- choices. At that moment you foring a special suit that NASA built get who you are, and you began for him, and even still he had to be to make judgement calls you know
deep in your heart aren’t correct. For me I began to be someone I wasn’t. I found myself adapting to every group of people that I came in contact with. Being a child you just want to fit in at school. Children are confused during their school years about certain things. Although I was a focused child, my mind wondered quite a bit. I thought often of what I could do to make people like me. I tried to just talk, dress, and act differently. I soon found out that could only last for so long. Eventually they ended up not liking me any ways. This was difficult being a black child that was growing up in a school system of predominately white children. My parents didn’t teach us to see color, because they were Christian. They strongly believed in the color of our skin didn’t matter, our character did. The character of a man was far more important than the color of the skin that they didn’t choose to have. To say the least that kids aren’t prejudice, I saw this first hand. I found out that I was great at sports when I was in middle school, which shouldn’t have been a surprise because I was a tomboy to my core. I was rough, and tough, but without the afro-puffs. This sister kept a relaxer, honey! I was great at sports and this helped me
develop friendships with girls. One thing about me I wasn’t too scared of much (still not scared of much), I was a doer. So when I would hear the conversations of girls talking about their boyfriends, I knew that I was not allowed one of those. It was exciting hearing about their stories, and how they were going to lose their virginity to their boyfriends. During these conversations I was silent, because I didn’t want them to know I probably knew more about sex than they did. No I hadn’t physically did anything yet, but remember in the last chapter I revealed that there were demons released on my life. Well from that time on I explored the possibilities of sex and watched it constantly, every chance I could get. v Pornography was not my cup of tea, plus I couldn’t get my hands on it. Mine was the cable television. Back in those times certain things weren’t allowed to be broadcast through television. I had a friend who’s mother was really young and didn’t have time to watch the house because she worked two jobs to raise her and her siblings. So I would order my books through the post card, and it was a pay later order. Get it shipped through the mail to her house. I know you all are judging me….haaaaaaaaaaaaa. How-
ever, I read a lot and I had a vivid imagination. No one could touch me, but I would read these stories and let my mind go wherever it wanted to go. Secretly I was still trapped in the closet, feeling disgusted, and nasty. I didn’t open this door to my life, someone else’s decision to take my innocence did. So after hearing this boyfriend and virginity talk, the most I had did by then was hold hands and kissed a few boys. I beat them up more than I kissed them. 8th grade came around and the pressure was so heavy with my friends, we were stretching into the last years of the millennium. The talks became more and more frequent about losing the virginity. My mother and father were repetitive of no sex before marriage, God frowns on it. So out of fear and not wanting to be touched kept me from losing my virginity, until fear didn’t scare me anymore. At 13 years old I met a boy who wasn’t the best looking, he was still growing into his features like me. I was mesmerized that he could play basketball, and most of all he liked me. After walking each other to class, holding hands, written letters, going to one another’s games, and sneaking on the phone. I gave him my virginity. Before the night was over my friends were calling me telling me what I had did, that was sup-
pose to be a secret. There were many lessons that I learned but didn’t quite get it. This was the start of my immature and free spirited decisions. I did beat the guy up the next day but I felt disgusted and hated sex. I created a pattern of using sex to fit in. What I discovered that those same friends who talked so much about what they were doing or going to do, really were all talk. So I allowed the peer pressure of others to dictate who I was and what I would do in my life. Although I was living contrary to the word of God that my parents taught, I didn’t really care. I was tired of wearing everyone else’s shoes. This is a chapter of my up and coming book “The Making Of This Woman”, releasing in Spring 2016. Although during this time I was a mere teenager and as an adult I still held on to this dangerous behavior. Stay connected to LeCharme Magazine to hear how I found my way back to God, and was able to recover. If you have any topics that you would like me to touch please connect with us at info@lecharmemagazine.com Consider Yourself Loved Tapped Brandee N. Nelson Connect with Brandee: fb- www.facebook.com/beanel ig- honeybea0210 twitter- beanel Periscope- Brandee Nelson @beanel
By: Chole Leviston
5 Things To Expect After You’ve Committed Your Life To Christ
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ften times as new believers in Christ, we make the decision in our hearts to follow Christ, then we show our commitment by being baptized. After baptism what’s next? Why haven’t I become this new person? Why do I still have all of my old habits? As new believers, we tend to think that after baptism we magically become a new person and the old you goes away overnight. What most don’t know is that these things don’t happen overnight and its takes time, effort, and maturity to put off the old you. Here are 5 things you should expect after becoming a new creation in Christ:
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2 Corinthians 5:17 tells us that if anyone is in Christ the new creation has come and the old has gone away and the new is here. This doesn’t mean all of your old habits will disappear, but instead it means that Christ remembers them no more. What does happen is we become more aware of our actions and as we grow in the word of God, we let go of the old way of thinking, and submit to God’s way of thinking.
2. People will think you are arrogant or “Holier than Thou” because your faith in Christ
gives you a boldness and confidence you’ve never experienced from anything or anyone on this earth. Often times when we become new creations we lose friends
Spirituality and even family members will turn away from us because they believe we’ve changed, but this change is brought on by the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit gives you confidence that with Him you can move mountains and to some that may seem like arrogance. Stand firm and know that you are in God’s good and perfect will.
3. Confusion will set in. It will make you
doubt your relationship with Christ. Doubt is from the enemy and his ultimate plan is to make you believe you have made the wrong decision and convince you that nothing is different about the new you. He’ll even make the word of God sound confusing, but with prayer and meditation in his holy word, God will get rid of the spirit of confusion and reveal Himself to you.
4.Joy! The bible says that joy is a gift to
those who belong to Jesus. When can’t explain why you get this overwhelming feeling of happiness and appreciation out of nowhere, you can know that it’s a feeling of joy. Knowing that God is your source you experience this love and appreciation like never before.
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Assurance that you will see Christ in heaven. Your confession that Christ is Lord and savior and he died for our transgressions places a seal on our tickets to heaven. Knowing that Christ gave the ultimate sacrifice for us
reassures us that that with him nothing is impossible. Congratulations on becoming a new creation, a creation that is blessed and favored by the Almighty God. Continue to seek his face and understand his word because, doing so will create the most intimate relationship with our heavenly Father.