Lexington Woman

VOL 5, NO 3

COMPLIMENTARY

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SNIP-ITS SHAVING PARTY

wit h Colton Duncan: A Fundrais er fo r Bella Colton Duncan invites you to join him at Snip-Its for a fundraiser to help two year old Bella, a little girl who is fighting leukemia.

• Face Painting

• Live Entertainment

• Head Shaving

• Give-Aways

• Balloons

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June 25, 10:30a.m. – 2p.m.

Snip-Its of Lexington

Hope Ferry Shopping Center • 5175 Sunset Boulevard, Suite 2 (Near McAlisters Deli)

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an you believe it’s Summer already? It seems like only a few days ago we were telling everyone “Happy New Year!” This time of year has so much to offer to us in Lexington. Beautiful Lake Murray will be filled with boats of all sizes and types, and there will be a lot of swimming and skiing going on as well. Be careful on the water – mothers, watch your babies! Not only does our community offer lots of water sports, but we also have a summer packed full of great events. Check out our online calendar as well as our events page to find out what is coming up soon that you might want to take part in.

Our annual Culinary Cards for Cancer event is coming up, so be sure to check www.lexingtonwomanonline.com for the dates. This was a great event last year, and we expect this year will be twice as much fun. Lexington Woman is proud to be a partner with the Wingate of Lexington and Alala Cancer Society, as well as a host of fantastic restaurants in our community, for this event. This is a great value for the cost of the ticket; I guarantee you will have as much fun as you want to while you are there.

Dems Fine Jewelers honored Lexington Woman this February with a bead called “Blessings”. We decided that a percentage of the sales from that bead will benefit Pets Inc. If you have a four legged friend you love, go by Dems and buy a bead – build a bracelet and make a difference!

Happy Memorial Day and 4th of July!

Don’t forget to thank all of our wonderful service men and women!

I am so excited about this issue of Lexington Woman Magazine. Two of the ladies on the front cover are wives of local coaches and are pictured with Mrs. Jerri Spurrier. Our very own Ashby Jones of Kinard and Jones is not only a successful attorney but a local coach’s wife as well! As a woman who loves football, I am already excited about the upcoming season. We wanted to give you a glimpse of the women behind the men on the field. I know this is Gamecock and Tiger country, but if you have a son who plays at a local high school or a daughter who cheers, then you know this is Wildcat and Timberwolves country too. I hope you enjoy our articles on the women behind the men who are helping to shape the lives of our children!

As always, we are bringing you the best of the best of local businesses. Every business in the following pages have made a commitment to us as consumers to offer quality products, services, and customer service. Feel free to call us if you know a business we should feature!

I hope you had a Happy Mother’s Day or made it a happy day for your Mom if you’re not a mom yourself. Happy Father’s Day! Your friend,

Lori Samples Duncan Editor-in-Chief

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Psalm 103 Bless the Lord, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits.

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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Lori Samples Duncan ld@woman2woman.sc

MEDIA REPRESENTATIVES Theresa Adams Joy Mabry Cathy Williams info@lexingtonwomanonline.com

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Ruth Chapman Briana Davis Lori Samples Duncan Tammy Ferris Ashley Ford Mayor Randy Halfacre Joy Mabry Deana McCathern Sandy Olson Jason Palmer Dr. Bob Phillips, Ph.D. Mandy Rivers Aïda Rogers Tyler Ryan Dr. Michelle Welch Jennifer Wilson Leslie Wilson Raven Yonemura

DESIGN Melissa W. Morris

PHOTOGRAPHY Clark Berry Photography Grant Digital Media Kimberly Pollard Tracy Fredrychowski

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5 What’s Happening in Lexington?

The Long Ride to Twang Town Introducing a New Menu at Cotton Grill Kitchen Corner with Cotton Grill Chef Jason Palmer Big, Fun, and Juicy: Lexington Chamber Oyster Roast Draws 500 People Talk of the Town with Mayor Randy Halfacre Unsung Heroes: Grandparents Raising Grandchildren The Woman Behind the Man – Hesper Pierce A Salute to a Hard Working Mother A Patriotic Heart A Decade of Strength

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Jerri Spurrier Meg Earley Stephanie Walters Ashby Jones

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28 Hometown Style 31 Meet Connie of Mae’s on Main

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26 For Animal Lovers Only!

27 Boarding Your Furry Family

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Skin Talk with Dr. Michelle Welch One Birth Away from Shame Mother and Child Bonding Strokes in South Carolina: What Women Need to Know Sports Injuries and Occupational Therapy Improving Lives…Improving Communities…Offering HOPE

Kid’s Stuff

43 Out of the Mouth of Babes 44 They Bring the Party to You!

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Renaissance Woman Sweet Summertime Stilettos to Sneakers: The Double Life of a Working Mom The Back 9 Peace of Mind Can Flow with the Water in Your Pipes Celebrating 25 Years of Service

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54 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Motherhood www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

Things We Love!

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by Lori Samples Duncan

ere are some of the things we love about Lexington:

Snip-Its in Lexington!!!

After a traumatic experience with my youngest son Ryan at an early age at a salon in Atlanta, I have to say my sweet baby looked like a girl at times! We were so gun shy. Since Snip-Its opened in Lexington, Ryan LOVES getting a hair cut. I love that the stylists are TRAINED to cut children’s hair and enjoy doing it.

The Plant Shop at Old Mill We love to send flowers that can be planted. It’s a wonderful way to let someone know that you are thinking of them over and over again.

Travinia Italian Kitchen’s Chicken Nachos Delicious, delicious...you have to experience it for yourself!

The Military We love all branches of our military. Thank God in heaven for all the men and women who give so much of themselves to protect the freedoms we hold so dear!

Personalized Things For You We love Personalized Things for You in Lexing-

Sneh Patel Exercise Physiologist

ton! Especially the customized boat paddles and unique gifts and awards Ms. Brenda makes.

The NEW Lexington Farmers Market Enjoy fresh produce by local growers! Yummy.

The Market will be open for the spring and summer season from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. every third Thursday, May through September at the Old Mill in Lexington.

Congratulations to the Wingate!

The Wingate by Wyndham Columbia/Lexington hotel has been named Outstanding Property of the Year by the Wingate by Wyndham® brand for 2010, one of the highest honors in the midscale hotel chain’s portfolio. Jeanette Lowicz, General Manager, Jana Medlin, Director of Sales and Jeff Buchko, Vice President of Sales and Operations for IMIC Hotels accepted the award on behalf of the hotel at the Co-Op Conference in Buckhead Atlanta, Georgia.

Neighbors Who Feel Like Family We love neighbors who reach out to help when needed and don’t hesitate to come over and feed your dog when you are out of town, or get the mail or help you lay a four-legged family member to rest at midnight on a weekday!

The Lexington Woman Bead Called Blessings, this bead is part of the Bead It to BEAT IT! program through Dems Jewelers. When you purchase our bead, you will be supporting Pets, Inc. Learn more on page 26.

A special thanks to Dems for honoring Lexington Woman with such a gift!

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Congratulations to Aaron Adams!

Lexington and the surrounding areas are full of talented youth, so it was no surprise that Aaron Adams, a 12-year-old 6th grader at Lexington Middle, recently made the local news for hitting an unprecedented 5 consecutive homeruns in one 4-inning game at the Dixie Youth Ballpark, leaving him with 13 RBI’s. His 3rd, 4th, and 5th homeruns can be viewed on YouTube. After much begging, his mother was convinced (who happens to be part of the Lexington Woman Media Team) to share his picture with our readers. How sweet was it that the article came out on Mother’s Day? Congratulations to Aaron and his family on his news worthy accomplishment.

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Bold Banners: Early Civil War Flags of South Carolina Now through June 25 South Carolina Relic Room & Military Museum, Columbia

Introducing Columbia’s first eco-friendly full-service hotel designed for LEED certification At the Holiday Inn Hotel & Suites Columbia-Airport, we’re passionate about green lodging. Designed to meet LEED silver certification, our hotel is built from eco-friendly materials and operates with the focus of better heatlh for you and the environment. Our location in West Columbia, SC is near everything, conserving your time and gas.

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Rich. Colorful. Bold. These are words that may not initially evoke images of Civil War flags but the South Carolina Confederate Relic Room & Military Museum’s latest exhibit shows that many of the earliest Civil War flags were handcrafted works of art and not simply “stars and bars.” Bold Banners: Early Civil War Flags of South Carolina displays some of the earliest flags representing units from across South Carolina at the onset of the war. Approximately 13 flags, some recently conserved and never before seen on display, are on exhibit. www.crr.sc.gov/exhibitions/current

Family Education Series June 13, July 11, Aug 8 5:30 – 7 p.m., LRADAC, 2711 Colonial Drive, Columbia

The Family Education Series is designed for families and friends of those who are dealing with alcohol and other drug issue. Contact LRADAC for more details. www.lradac.org

Saxe Gotha’s VBS June 20–24, 9 a.m.–noon Saxe Gotha Presbyterian Church, Lexington

The 2011 theme, Inside Out & Upside Down on Main Street, will be an exciting chance for elementary aged children to learn how Jesus can make a difference in people’s lives on a daily basis. The program is open to all rising kindergarteners through those entering the 6th grade. The week is free of charge. Each day will be filled with terrific music; fun, hands-on activities; creative, multi-sensory experiences; and energetic large group assemblies. To register, contact the church via email at VBS@ saxegotha.org or visit their website. www.saxegotha.org

Snip-Its Shaving Party with Colton Duncan: A Fundraiser for Bella June 25, 10:30 a.m. – 2 p.m.

Snip-Its, Lexington

cause. A two-year-old girl, Bella, is facing leukemia treatments, and we want to help offset the medical expenses. Cutting for a Cause!!! www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

Family Education Series June 27, July 25, Aug 29 5:30 – 7 p.m.

1608 South Lake Drive, Lexington

The Family Education Series is designed for families and friends of those who are dealing with alcohol and other drug issue. Contact LRADAC for more details. www.lradac.org

Fibromyalgia Support Group July 13, 6 - 7 p.m.

Vital Energy Wellness and Rehab Center, Lexington

Join us for a lesson in deep relaxation techniques to assist you with alleviating or lessening your pain. This meeting is supported and organized by Vital Energy Wellness and Rehab Center. www.vitalenergytherapy.com

Vest Fest 2011 July 23, 5 – 7 p.m.

Virginia Hylton Park, Lexington

There will be local business vendors, fresh food provided by local eateries, and beer and wine provided by Sam’s Fine Wine & Spirits. A VIP tent will be set up for special catered fair and a meet and greet, and there will be over $2,000 in prizes given away and live K-9 demos. Nonstop Live music by: Sling Shot Band, Peace Soldier and Above & Beyond Entertainment!

This outdoor concert will benefit Heroes Vest Fund providing body armor for K-9 Officers throughout SC. Advanced tickets are only $20.

The first 1,000 tickets sold hold a chance to win a brand new Honda at the event. Tickets can be purchased at the Lexington County Sheriff ’s Department, Midland’s Honda, Ken Johnson Insurance in Lexington or online. www.heroesvestfund.org/events.html

Come to Snip-Its in Lexington and bring the kids for face painting, head shaving, balloons, live entertainment, give-aways and all for a www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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The Long Ride to Twang Town

by Tyler Ryan

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or West Columbia native Lauren Lucas, the road of the country music business has taken some twists and turns, but all along the way she has never lost her musical dreams or roots to her West Columbia home. Before she packed up her world and made the big move to Nashville, this former BC Bearcat and daughter of Deborah and Jerry Lucas of Dems Fine Jewelers found her musical chops fronting cover bands and playing festivals and fairs around South Carolina.

“I did a lot of Trisha Yearwood and Patty Loveless,” she said with a smile, but sadly for this journalist, Bon Jovi was absent from her list.

Lauren started singing at the Town Theater on Sumter Street at three years old, and since then, she has enjoyed the full support of her parents and family. “It just made sense” when in nineteen ninety-nine she decided to move to Twang Town permanently. She wasn’t new to Nashville when she decided to move. She had made the trip many times even throughout high school, and she had attended Belmont University also in the heart of country music. “It was a natural progression,” says Lucas.

Soon after she unpacked the U-Haul, Lauren put together a band and started playing, singing, and creating a name for herself in Nashville. “It is a very tight knit community,” Lauren says of Nashville, “so it felt natural to be there.”

In two thousand three, Lauren found herself in a record deal with Warner Brothers records, and a publishing contract with RCA Records. Lauren also began playing dates with fellow South Carolinian Julie Roberts, who was enjoying new found fame with the song “Breakdown Here” on Mercury Records. By two thousand five, Lauren was back out on her own and had released an independent record called “The Carolina Kind.”

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‘She captivates audiences, and it’s easy to see her genuine love for the stage.’

Two years later, Lauren released an EP called “If I was Your Girl,” which received critical acclaim.

Recently Lauren’s writing skills have caught the attention of eighties hit maker Richard Marx, who is working on project with a new artist in Los Angles. According to Lauren, under Marx’s direction, the young artist has recorded a song she wrote. Her music has also caught the ear of Charles Kelly from Lady Antebellum, who heard the title track, “If I was Your Girl,” from her two thousand seven release while on the legendary Jerry House program on WSIX in Nashville. “I was listening to the interview,” says Lauren, and Charles made a comment about the song and requested to hear it live on the air. “It was awesome!”

Lauren is now celebrating the release of her newest album, “On With The Show.” If putting out a new record wasn’t enough Lauren has been busy playing dates all over the United States and is a frequent visitor back to the Midlands, to either play for her hometown fans or spend some time with the family.

It’s said of Lauren Lucas, “She captivates audiences, and it’s easy to see her genuine love for the stage.”

For Lauren Lucas, following her musical dream has been a road paved by hard work, support from her friends and family, and honest to goodness talent.

You can learn more about Lauren at her website, www.

LaurenLucas.com.

Be sure to watch her “On the Couch” interview, by logging on to www.LexingtonWomanOnline.com.

Introducing a NEW MENU at Cotton Grill

Kitchen Corner with Cotton Grill Chef Jason Palmer Crab Ravioli Dish

Be sure to go check out Cotton Grill soon. They will be launching their new menu on June 16th.

Located in the Old Mill 711 East Main Street www.cottongrill.com 803.957.1996

Some of the featured items include: • Baked Brie Lilly Stuffed with house made blackberry jam alongside water crackers and seasonal fruit • Cioppino Mussels, shrimp, scallops and fresh catch of the day in a light tomato and lemon fume with grilled bread and rouille • Baby Shrimp Linguine Tossed with spinach and tomatoes in a white wine broth with light cream • Cajun Fried Carolina Catfish Spicy remoulade, white cheddar grits and local collard greens • Capellini Caprese capellini pasta, mozzarella & parmesan in a light tomato sauce with fresh basil and herbs • Cuban-Ham, mojo pulled pork, swiss cheese, pickles, creole mustard on a hoagie roll with fresh cut fries • Tuna Nicoise-Seared rare ahi tuna, boiled eggs, roasted peppers, green beans, tomatoes, French Olives, an chovies under an herb vinaigrette

The perfect gift for the man in your life...

OUR CRAFT BEER DINNER. June 14th at 6:00 p.m.

Sauce Ingredients: • 1 cup white wine • ¼ cup white vinegar • 1 shallot • 1 T pepper corns • ½ lemon • 1.5 pounds of butter • 1 quart cream Reduce the wine, vinegar shallots, and peppercorns. Add the cream and bring to a boil. Add the cold and cubed butter whisking vigorously. When butter is melted throughout, add lemon juice and season with salt. For the ravioli sauce, add 4 oz of the butter sauce along with diced tomatoes and minced garlic.

Ingredients: • 2 pounds Carolina baby shrimp • 6 oz heavy cream • 1 medium sized carrot • 4 stalks celery • 3 cups ricotta cheese • 1 T blackening spice • 4 T parsley chopped

• 1 t dill • 3 T caviar cut chives • 1 t lemon juice • ½ T garlic minced • 1 pound lump crab • TT salt and pepper

Take cream and shrimp and blend in a Cuisinart. Remove the face and add the vegetables and herbs and puree until very fine.

Fold together all the ingredients except crab, salt and pepper. Fold in lightly but evenly the crab. Make a tester and adjust seasonings.

• 2 eggs • ¼ cup water • 1 pack WonTon skins Whisk the eggs and water until blended.

Brush the edges with the egg mixture and place 1 oz of the filling in the middle. Place the other skin on top and press the edges till the filling is tight and the air is all but removed.

Drop into boiling water and wait until the pasta floats. Let it sit in the boiling water for one minute to ensure the pasta and filling are cooked and put in the sauce.

Serve with smoked paprika oil and fried basil leaves. Enjoy!

— Chef Jay (803) 957-1996 • 711 East Main Street, Lexington (located at The Old Mill)

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Big, Fun, and Juicy: LEXINGTON CHAMBER OYSTER ROAST DRAWS 500 PEOPLE

by Aïda Rogers

photography by Tracy Fredrychowski

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f you could pick a word to describe the Greater Lexington Chamber’s annual Oyster Roast and Auction, “dry” would not be one of them. No ma’am. The oysters were juicy. A slight drizzle refreshed the air. And when the band Going Commando got cranked up, more than several of the town’s finest dancers broke into a sweat.

But that’s the fun associated with this annual “down by the river” party at the Saluda River Club.

This year’s event, held March 31, drew about 500 people, about 200 more than last year. Besides roasted oysters, guests supped on crab bruschetta, clam chowder, hot dogs and corn fritters.

“Those are some oyster-eating fools,” observed Paul Manly, one of the owners of Pearlz Oyster Bar, which catered the event. “We went through 5,000 oysters in 2½ hours. We’ve never done that before.”

Besides eating, drinking, dancing and socializing, guests bid for items donated by 230 local businesses. Reflecting Lexington’s diversity of goods

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and services, the auction offered a range of items, from beauty treatments and health exams to a tankless water heater and a 22-ton truckload of topsoil. Live auction items included a Louisiana duck hunting trip, a Lake Murray cruise for 40 aboard the Southern Patriot, and vacation stays in Vancouver and Arizona.

While the Oyster Roast and Auction is a party, it has a deeper purpose. “This is for the community,” explained Randy Halfacre, the Chamber’s president/CEO. “It brings a lot of business people together for the purpose of networking and making contacts that ultimately may lead to a business transaction between the two parties.”

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New Members of the Chamber (As of May 2011)

ARD’s Container Service, LLC (803) 407-0352 Birddog Golf, LLC (803) 994-9021 Brenda Martin Columbia Plumbing (803) 957-5005 Craig Reagin Clothiers (803) 785-7898 Crystal Clean Janitorial (803) 873-0588 Envii (803) 957-0607 Essex Homes (803) 609-7653 Hart Photography (803) 755-8355 Here 4U Media (803) 238-1342 LaCole Gadson (803) 936-1112 Lake Tours, Inc./Southern Patriot (803) 749-8594 M&P Specialty Insurance (803) 936-1601 Matthew Gates Law (803) 926-8948 Modern Turf Sod & Landscape Supply (803) 808-0505 Mr. Hibachi (803) 358-0269 Palmetto PC Solutions LLC (803) 661-1881 Palmetto Pressure Clean (803) 479-7416 R.H. Construction (803) 600-8203 Reyland Medical (803) 939-4673 Rymarc Homes (803) 960-9616 Salvation Army of the Midlands (803) 309-6435 Senior Express (803) 926-7933 Sentsy Independent Consultant (803) 260-6885 Shull Studios (803) 532-9896 Snip-Its (803) 467-4279 Tantrum Salon (803) 785-2363 The Clear Water Company (803) 781-8364 The Gourmet Garage (803) 359-1044 The Ruple Firm, PA (803) 520-8093 Waddell & Reed (803) 466-2820 Weaver Systems, Inc. (803) 776-6262 Yumilicious Yogurt (803) 665-5016

TALK

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y the time you read this, the controversial Amazon project will be an economic opportunity lost! Lost are the 1,250 jobs Amazon would have created and the $60 million in payroll that would have been infused into our local economy within a few years. If we had remained true to our commitment to Amazon to build a distribution center in Lexington County, their employees would be spending money on the Main Streets of our towns. No matter how you view the pros and cons of the agreement, people will still buy online, regardless of whether Amazon has a distribution center here.

My wife Angela is my favorite online shopper. Not too long ago, she ordered an outdoor grill from Lowe’s – from her cell phone, from the comfort of our bed!

She orders from several stores, including Best Buy, Wal-mart and Amazon. com.

Amazon’s location here would have translated into fatter wallets for our families – many of whom are jobless.

It also meant money for our schools.

Saying goodbye to Amazon, after our former state administration already welcomed them here, means saying goodbye to hope, prosperity, and employment for our people.

There’s also the matter of lost respect and trust. South Carolina made a commitment that Amazon would be exempt from collecting sales tax in compliance with federal legislation. We recognize the ire that causes retailers who, unlike Amazon.com, don’t do business solely online. But we also understand this is a federal law upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court, pertaining strictly to online businesses operating solely as “drop shipping” warehouses. Interstate

“e-commerce” tax policy is an issue our Congress needs to address, not the individual states.

We appreciate state Commerce Secretary Bobby Hitt’s statement to “stand by the promise,” and we applaud Sen. Nikki Setzler, Rep. Kenny Bingham and the entire Lexington County delegation’s effort to have the state stand by its commitment to not require Amazon from collecting sales tax on sales to South Carolina residents for five years, or until Congress acts. But mainly, we are acutely aware of the loss that’s occurred.

Very simply, the incentives totaled $6.9 million over a 20-year period. The return on that investment would have been $1.2 billion, a return of 166 to 1! In other words, for every dollar our state invested, our state would have gotten $166 in return.

South Carolina has a well-earned reputation for its economic development success (BMW, Michelin and Boeing come to mind), but our failure to honor our commitment will critically and adversely affect our recruiting efforts and damage job growth in South Carolina for many, many years to come.

But as you read this, my internal eternal optimist emerges. Can we rise, like the proverbial phoenix, from these ashes? I remember our state motto, Dum Spiro Spero, and take heart. While I breathe, I hope.

Randy Halfacre is President/CEO of the Greater Lexington Chamber and Visitors Center. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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Toni and grandaughter Victoria

Unsung Heroes GRANDPARENTS RAISING GRANDCHILDREN

by Ruth Chapman

photography by Clark Berry Photography

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magine you’re in your 50s, thinking about retirement, the kids have left the nest and had their own children. You’re thinking about travelling to see all the things you’ve dreamt of seeing, enjoying spending alone time with your spouse, watching sunsets together. And then reality hits.

You realize that your grandchild needs you so much that you have that conversation with your spouse about postponing retirement and gaining custody of your grandchild. You would be surprised how many times this scenario repeats itself right here in Lexington, SC. One such case is Toni and Doug Danser, local business owners, who, three years ago, fought and gained full custody of their granddaughter, Victoria, then 7 years old. The reasons why the Dansers felt the need to seek custody are not as important as the fact that they spent their time and money to bridge a gap that they saw occurring in Victoria’s life.

There are many reasons why grandparents find themselves raising their grandchildren. Some reasons may include military deployment, teen pregnancy, drug and alcohol issues, mental health issues, diminished income due to job loss, illness or injury and a myriad of other reasons.

And this concept is not new but has occurred probably as long as humans have walked the earth. It is no less noble now than it was hundreds of years ago. Back in the Depression era it was not uncommon for parents to leave their children with family members including grandparents so that they could go look for work. In the movie, Hope Floats, the grandmother is rais-

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ing her grandson because his mother is chasing her dream of stardom in California.

So just as the reasons vary, so does the length of time that the grandparents have the children, too.

Some begin as early as Day 1 in the grandchild’s life and others have to step in later when they see a need. The Dansers have been in Victoria’s life from the beginning. Toni can remember having infant Victoria on a pallet under her desk while she worked at their family business, because her time was needed. But changes in the family dynamic eventually forced the Dansers to take a more active daily role.

Today’s grandparents have a host of other issues to face when they accept custody of their grandchildren than when their children were coming along. Technology is one issue. The Dansers do not allow Victoria to have a cell phone yet - she’s in the fourth grade – and they have decided to hold off on a cell phone until 8th grade. She also does have limited access of her DS gaming system and her time on the computer is monitored.

They also closely monitor her television watching as any responsible parent would, steering her clear of the mature shows which are so prevalent right now. And they encourage her to compete in sports, indulging her in tennis lessons, karate (for protection), soccer and swim team. She even

participates in the church children’s choir and goes to Mathnasium at least twice a week.

But just as the fewer hours of extra sleep are taken up with other activities, the increased ‘running around’ is what keeps Toni and Doug looking and feeling young.

Toni recalls the days when she used to sleep late in the mornings, as retired adults sometimes enjoy, and how now they are roused to attend morning soccer matches. But just as the fewer hours of extra sleep are taken up with other activities, the increased “running around” is what keeps Toni and Doug looking and feeling young.

And an early morning soccer match can be exhilarating and get the day off to a running start.

One of their goals for granddaughter Victoria

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FINE JEWELERS Specializing in On-Site Repair and Custom Design

803-996-5530

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Check out our fashion feature!

Starting on page 28, see fashions from Craig Reagin Clothiers and Mae’s on Main.

Both of these stores are located on Main Street in downtown Lexington!

is to attend the college of her choice, as did their children, Victoria’s father and aunt. In order to further this goal, they are changing Victoria’s school in the upcoming year to the new Christian Academy being built on Highway 378 in Lexington. They are hoping that the change will be a positive impact on her learning environment, an issue they have struggled with this year. But in many cases, spending their retirement fund is the only way that grandparents can afford a college education for their grandchildren. Toni wishes that there was some type of scholarship or grant money available to assist custodial grandparents wanting to send their grandchildren to college.

Another issue is discipline. Toni said that at her age and after having raised two children, the first “I hate you!” because of not being allowed to do something doesn’t sting quite as bad.

And because she has experience raising children she knows to monitor the sleepovers and make certain that facts are checked thoroughly and her exact whereabouts are known at all times.

You can only imagine how difficult this chore will be in a few years with middle and high school looming in the future.

One of Toni’s goals for her granddaughter is for her to be well adjusted and happy. And she does seem well adjusted especially given her background and current stable living arrangement. She knows that prior to their custody; Victoria probably witnessed some things that most little girls her age should not.

Her hope is that there are no lasting effects of the ‘over exposure’ at such a young age.

You Are Not Alone It can be very isolating as a grandparent of a grandchild during school functions, when the other parents are so much younger. Sometimes the other parents are afraid of an unknown situation and therefore distance themselves.

But there is a support group that exists here in Lexington and is open to the public. It’s called Raising Your Children’s Children and it meets at 6:00 p.m. the second Tuesday of each month during the school year at Mt. Horeb United Methodist Church. The

One of Toni’s goals for her granddaughter is for her to be well adjusted and happy.

moderator is Jennifer Adams, a school guidance counselor with Rocky Creek Elementary School. Babysitting is offered and the format includes prayer, topical discussions and speakers.

Two things that Toni has learned from the guest speakers include: • Central Midlands Agency offers up to $300/year for school supplies, clothing, tutoring and medical bills • If the custody arrangement was made in another state, you must register in your state and file the order with your local court so that it can be administered properly (for a fee); this is particularly good to have in case of an emergency situation in which the custody has to be enforced She said that sometimes the speakers have really good information that most of these grandparents would not otherwise know. Recently the group discussed how they don’t view themselves as grandparents any longer, but rather as parents. They say they don’t even know how to be grandparents now, because of their new roles and the two “hats” are now one large hat.

So, while Mema and Dadoo are still looking forward to their retirement years, only a little further off than expected, they continue to enjoy raising their granddaughter and watching her learn and grow secure in the knowledge that they are providing the stability that every child needs to live and prosper.

And instead of watching the sunset from the balcony of a posh hotel in Hawaii, they can sit on the swing in the back yard and watch their Victoria and her best friend play on her swing set with her Webkins.

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The Woman Behind the Man –

Hesper Pierce

by Lori Samples Duncan photography by Clark Berry Photography

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oe and Hesper Pierce are the kind of parents that go on field trips. Yes if Joe isn’t spraying someone’s home you might find him at Riverbank Zoo or the Charleston Aquarium. They are at every school function (I know because I have seen them there!) I didn’t ask but I bet they go to Chick-filA night and Sonic night too. They are great parents and they have put down roots here. A young couple who are growing a business right here in Lexington.

The mother of three boys , the oldest Ford who is 7, Nickolas 5, and the youngest, Evan who is two.

Living in a family of males, Hesper is the only female in the house. When we sat down together a few weeks ago, she exclaimed, “Even our dog Charlie is a boy!”

After six years in the pest control industry Joe was working long hours and traveling extensively.

That is when he and Hesper (who was a pharmacy technician previously) decided to make a change.

Hesper has been a stay at home mom since moving to Lexington and it was with prayerful consideration that they took a leap of faith and started their own business.

Hesper takes pride in the work that Joe does noting that, ‘customer satisfaction is very important to Premier Pest Solutions.’

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health issues so for them the scariest thing they ever have been through was starting their own business. How did they do that? “One customer at a time, one restaurant at a time,” Hesper says.

“The Lord blessed us tremendously because he was setting things up for Joe to be a licensed pest control operator before we really even had made a decision about what our plans were.”

I asked Hesper if she felt she helped to nudge Joe toward making the decision to venture out on his own, her response is no surprise. “Absolutely, we were both scared, but I knew he was not going to fail. I knew he wouldn’t let us down. I was certain he wouldn’t let anything bad happen to our fam-

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Let’s Talk ily. We toyed with the idea of him taking a part time job to give us a little security. He even went to a few interviews and didn’t get a call back. I feel that was just part of God’s plan for us and our business.”

Even though Hesper is a stay at home mom, she works the business with Joe. She is what you might say the office manager of Joe’s operation.

“I’m the boss” she joked. Members of the First Baptist Church of Lexington, Hesper says that even though it was difficult to make that step to go out on their own God has been faithful and in their four years of business , things have continued an upward trend. “We have grown every year.”

Hesper takes pride in the work that Joe does noting that, “customer satisfaction is very important to Premier Pest Solutions. Customer retention is the backbone of every business, therefore making sure our customers are satisfied and will invite us into their homes again and tell their friends is a priority for Premier Pest Solutions.”

There are three things that Hesper and Joe have made a commitment to as a part of their business model. The first one is “The Personal Touch”.

When you call Premier Pest Solutions it will most likely be Hesper who answers the phone. When they come to your house, it will be Joe himself who takes care of your pest problem. Part of that personal touch is keeping their priorities straight.

God first, their family, the business and the rest follows. “We want the business to enhance our family, not take away from it.” Hesper shared how her hope is for her and Joe to grow the business into something that one day the boys, if they chose, will continue their father’s and mother’s legacy of love.

The second part of that business model is education. “Joe loves, loves, loves, loves educating people. He likes to explain why they are having a problem, what they can do to prevent it from happening again. He loves to tell people what to expect from your pest control services, truly explaining the process and helping the customer to understand why his service is a comprehensive service.”

Last but certainly not least is a commitment to quality. As members of the Lexington community, this is where Joe and Hesper live, go to church, attend school functions, eat dinner as my pastor likes to say, “They have a dog in this fight.”

They are vested in this community where we all live and work. Don’t you love that this is a locally owned and operated business? Joe and Hesper can be reached at (803) 951-7452.

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WORKING MOTHER by her daughters, Christine, Bridgette and Danielle

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s the proud owner of LA Salon of Lexington, our mom’s road to success has not been an easy one. TJ Waterford, began a career in cosmetology in 1982, not really knowing what to expect, but always setting the bar high for herself. As a young, single mother of three daughters, mom showed us that it is possible to balance a successful career and family if strength and determination is used. Family is and has always been a major priority in her life. photo by Clark Berry Photography

Family is and has always been a major priority in her life.

TJ Waterford Through the years there were classes to take, classes to teach, new products and equipment to keep up to date. There were late nights, early mornings, lots of 12 hours days between work and school; however mom managed to do the very best for us. We have all shed many tears over missed events and special occasions when mom would to choose career over family to put food on the table. It was those struggles that have made us all stronger and more independent women. We watched mom conquer daily battles on her career path, it taught ALL of us that goals are attainable if you are willing to work hard and stay the course.

Danielle and I both have degrees and careers in public service areas. I am a mother of three and serve as an EMT, and Danielle is a mother of four and serves as an Investigator for a local police department. My sister,

Christina is a stay home mother of one. We all know that our compassion and love for family and others comes from our Mom. She has shown us through actions, words, and love that a strong family bond, helping and caring for others, and never giving up on your dreams is the key to a successful, fulfilled, and productive life.

Mom still continues to take classes, teach classes, and find the best products and styles for her clients as well as teach our children what it means to work hard and care for others. Most days, you can find her at the salon giving, caring, advising, and helping clients who have now become like family.

Her clients will tell you the salon isn’t just a place to get your hair done, a pedicure, a massage, or a manicure, it’s a family, it’s a friendship, and it’s a lifetime bond.

We are very proud of our Mom, and want to thank her for all the years of sacrifice and love. We know that with her guidance that our children too will learn to work hard, care for others, and follow their hearts desire. Thanks Mom for being the “Best of the Best!” www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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by Lori Samples Duncan photography by Clark Berry Photography

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od blessed Cynthia Sebree-Richardson with five children and nine grandchildren.

Three handsome boys and two lovely young ladies. Cynthia sat with us and told us a little about her family. I was intrigued with this mother who is a manager at Southlake Village. A woman with five children and four of them are currently enlisted.

Sometimes we get a chance to interview a local or national celebrity.

Sitting with Cynthia was like that for me. I wanted to know how this mother of five raised children who all entered the military.

Her oldest son is 35 year old Davis Sebree, who is a Navy recruiter in Miami. Jameries Sebree is a medic in the Army, and Corjamin Richardson, age 27, is a communication specialist in the Army. Cynthia’s two daughters are Zykia Richardson-Smith, age 25, and Sakoryah Richardson, age 26, who are also both in the Army. Sakoryah was honorably discharged last year.

Zykia is awaiting orders for deployment in Hawaii even as I write.

Davis, Jameries and Corjamin have served a combined total of 8 tours in Iraq. Cynthia says it’s hard to miss first birthdays or the birth of grandchildren while they are spread out serving our country. Her husband is also a military man, Mr. Benjamin

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Richardson. Cynthia says he keeps her grounded. She believes that his experience in the military inspired their children to follow in their father’s footsteps.

Cynthia shared that she herself came from a military family. Her father was a veteran of World War II. She says growing up in a military world helped prepare her for the fact that her children are in harm’s way. She says you definitely carry it through the day with you. However she is careful to give all the credit to God for her inner strength and being able to focus on the positive and not the negative. “Life is life.

God has all power in his hands and he will see us through.” She also gives credit to her church family at Jerusalem Baptist Church and her Pastor Patrick Harvin of Hopkins South Carolina. They keep the children on their prayer list.

Cynthia said to me, “I am very proud of my children, that they have taken

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it upon themselves to make a difference for our country and others.

I strongly feel it was a choice they made. There have been many times they could have made the choice to leave the military; however they have continued to pursue their military careers.”

As far as those who would say they don’t believe in war or they don’t feel we should be at war. That isn’t what this article is about. No one wants war. I agree with Cynthia’s two cents worth, “You can’t preach to the choir if you’ve never been a member.” Cynthia isn’t talking about church she is speaking of the choirs of life.

I for one am very proud of all of our military men and women who serve this great country. We at Lexington Woman would like to offer you all a heartfelt Thank You! As for mothers like Southlake Village’s Cynthia Sebree Richardson, as we say in the south, “Bless your generous heart!”

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A Decade of Strength

by Tyler Ryan

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t’s hard to believe that we are soon approaching the ten year anniversary of that faithful day in September of 2001.

Although there have been many instances in our history that have made us stop and take pause, moments like the Pearl Harbor attack, JFK’s assassination, and the Challenger disaster, there are few that touched not only the nation, but impacted the globe like the attacks on The World Trade Centers and the Pentagon on September 11th, 2001. There are few, if any of us, who do not recall the exact moment we learned the news. People spent hours, without moving, staring at televisions, as two symbols of America collapsed taking with them two thousand, seven hundred and fifty-two souls, including four hundred and sixteen first responders who didn’t think twice about answering the ultimate call to protect more people from perishing.

Much to the dismay of those who felt these barbaric attacks would somehow bring this great nation to her knees, the result was quite the opposite. People across the country, from all walks of life, forgot any disagreement they had on September 10th, and joined together to mourn, heal, and help. Citizens nationwide became heroes, as they held together and strengthened the Country.

Among the many efforts state-wide, there were a group of students and staff from White Knoll

Since 2001, the bond between South Carolina and the City of New York has grown even stronger, as evidenced by many gestures of remembrance and good will that have happened between the City and State. Since the hard work of the White Knoll students and staff, there have been many others who have volunteered time and resources to make sure that we all remember that Tuesday in 2001. As we shake our head in disbelief that it has almost been a decade since that day, a group of citizens and business leaders are again ensuring that we never forget.

City, including the citizens and first responders.

Project founder Dan Hennigan and the committee made up of business leaders and community members have all pledged their time and resources to create this memorial that will stand for the first responders, that gave their lives without hesitation or regret so that others could make it come to see their families, the citizens who died in New York, and the South Carolina solders who have made the sacrifice in the war since September 11th. Even with the countless hours being donated by volunteers and businesses, the group still needs to raise one hundred and seventy-five dollars to complete the project. “We are turning to the community and other local businesses for help in creating this memorial to the first responders who served their community and this country on that day.”

As we shake our head in disbelief that it has almost been a decade since that day, a group of citizens and business leaders are again ensuring that we never forget.

Middle School, who embarked on what some might have thought was an impossible mission they dubbed “South Carolina Remembers.”

Their goal was to purchase the FDNY’s Ladder Company 101 that had lost seven firefighters in the attack, a new ladder truck. With the guidance of community leaders, students visited football games, held car washes, and talked to corporate sponsors, and ultimately raised an astonishing five hundred thousand dollars, which was presented to the FDNY on November 21st, 2001.

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On May 9th 2011, Mayors Steve Benjamin and Randy Halfacre, Sheriff ’s Metts and Lott, and community leaders like Dan Hennigan held a press conference to announce plans for a “First Responders Remembrance Memorial,” to be built at the Columbia Visitors Center. The memorial will include two towers made of granite, to symbolize the World Trade Center, and two steel beams from the towers themselves, which were awarded to the State of South Carolina from The City of New York. The memorial will include the names of all the victims of the attack on New York

In addition to the fund raising efforts, the two beams, which will become a part of the memorial, are on display at various locations throughout the Midlands. “There is just something about touching these beams. You can almost feel the pain and the strength of the people that these beams represent,” said an unidentified visitor to a beam appearance.

To find more information on the beams, the story of the memorial, and to make a direct donation, visit www.

SCRemembers911.com. If you are interested in hosting the beams, please contact Tyler@TylerRyanGroup.com.

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JERRI SPURRIER MEG EARLEY STEPHANIE WALTERS ASHBY JONES (photography by Clark Berry Photography)

From the editor: I was born and raised in “Bulldawg” country and spent my college days in Athens, Georgia. I just want the Gamecock Nation to know that I will be sporting some Garnet and Black this season. It doesn’t matter what team you pull for – Clemson, Florida or if your team anthem is “Roll Tide Roll” – I am a fan of strong women who support their husbands. I am a fan of Jerri Spurrier and all the coaches’ wives we have featured in this issue.

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The Coach’s Wife

Jerri Spurrier UNIVERSITY OF SOUTH CAROLINA

by Lori Samples Duncan

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rs. Jerri Spurrier is from Fort Lauderdale, but when I asked her where home is she smiled in that Jerri Spurrier way and said, “Here (pause) in South Carolina.”

The consummate Team Mother, every season she inherits a new group of children. 103 boys become family to the Spurriers and the other coaches at the University of South Carolina.

You know behind every good man is an even better woman and as my daddy used to say, “a woman can make you or break you.” If this is true, I think it’s fair to say that Mrs. Jerri Spurrier has played a major role in her husband’s success. The mother of four grown children, Amy, Lisa, Steve, Jr., and Scott and grandmother to a host of grandchildren, I asked Jerri what she loved most about being a grandmother.

She was glowing as she said, “their parents. I am a mother first. I just love being a mother, I love taking care of my older children. It trickles down to the grandchildren.”

As we visited on a sunny day in April I had the opportunity to listen as she spoke of each of her children and how blessed she feels in her life.

She talked about the importance of spending time together and how she enjoys them as adults. I wanted to know if she had some words of wisdom for us parents who still have little ones. This was her response, “Every day, I try to teach them something different. It never stops. Every day we are as parents still teaching and guiding. Riding in the car with them sharing your days together.”

Teaching them the importance of, “honesty, looking people in the face and talking to them about what you need. Don’t text, or email. Sit down with someone so they understand where you are coming from.”

Mrs. Jerri Starr Spurrier met the old Ball Coach in college and dated

during the time they were both Students at University of Florida. Jerri was a big sister for some of the fraternity brothers in Steve’s fraternity.

She told me a story about their first date. She had saved some money and bought a nice dress which at the time you could do for fifty dollars.

She laughed as she told me how the Florida players got in the drive-in for free. So where do you think a college football player took his girl on a date? Yes indeed, on their first date Steve took her to the drive-in.

He was a college football player for heaven’s sake; the future Heisman trophy winner didn’t have a paying job…yet. Mrs. Jerri said she was the best dressed girl at the drive-in! On September 14, 1966, she became his wife, and now almost forty five years later, she still blushes when she talks about him.

She is a huge support to the football program at the University of South Carolina. She is at practice every afternoon and on game day she can be found sitting in the stands with the families of players and the other coaches’ wives. They have family dinner every Wednesday night. Mrs. Spurrier said, “It is a gratifying thing to watch a new family come in and how easily those children become part of the family.” She explains how close all the children are. How the older ones help take the younger ones under their wings and make bathroom trips or concession stand runs. Of being such an active part of the program she comments, “I go to

the field to the practice; I have three of my men on the field at the same time, my husband and my two sons.

I get to watch them do what they do.

It is amazing how fortunate I am.”

She still cooks big family meals on Sunday nights and her immediate family has a standing invitation. She even cooks her grandson’s favorite just for him, “Nolan’s Noodles.”

Jerri doesn’t see herself as particularly benevolent. She played down the fact she is on the Children’s hospital board, “I am on the children’s

Understanding how much she loved football I had to ask, “What do you love about being a coach’s wife?”

To which she replied, “My favorite thing about being a coach’s wife is the boys.” She went on to say, “All the wonderful different boys. Watching them grow up, change and learn.

Going with them to hospitals when they have surgery or attending their weddings after they have graduated” and gone onto to their careers. She and Coach Spurrier even visit former players when their children are born. Watching the young lives they help to mold achieve their own successes are very gratifying for them both.

‘I get to watch them do what they do. It is amazing how fortunate I am.’ hospital board but I really don’t spread myself too thin.” Her hobbies are cooking and running. She enjoys her classwork. She goes to the Russell House where she says all the players hang out. She is definitely hands on, currently working on a degree in psychology at USC herself. She actually goes to school with the players. She is modest.

When she talks about the players of the University of South Carolina football team it is obvious she cares deeply for them and the young men they will become.

I needed to know if this woman who had helped her husband accomplish so much had a bucket list and was not disappointed by her answer.

“I have never been bored.

Steve always has something fun and exciting and challenging going on.”

She spoke briefly of what it might be like when they decided to give it up for a life of retirement. Shaking her head as she wondered how she would enjoy slowing down and not being at the football field every Saturday, “But I know whatever he plans will be exciting. If he wants to go to New Zealand and climb mountains or look at zebras, I know whatever he plans I will have fun.”

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Meg Earley

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n the book, The Coach’s Wife, author Carolyn Allen tells us this:

“The Coach’s wife is proud to stand beside her husband. She’s not in the limelight, in the shadow of or behind her coach. Yes, the spotlight shines on him; however, they are both hanging on as life during the season takes on intensity like no other. Emotions are high. Time is short. And the pressure is to win. The coach’s wife is doing everything to keep the marriage and family going: waiting, cheering, moving, crying, budgeting, scrapbooking, repairing, traveling, praying, and juggling it all. Coaches’ wives believe that the calling of a coach is a noble one: to instill integrity, courage, and sportsmanship in the next generation.”

...it’s the camaraderie found within high school football that she loves. is religion here and is engrained in us as surely as our fondness of grits and sweet tea.

In an interview with Lexington Woman, Meg Earley tells us what life is like as the wife of the Scott Earley, head football coach and Athletic Director at Lexington High School.

Meg is no stranger to football. She grew up watching football on television and going to games with her father. The same might be said for many women in the South. Football

Meg says it’s the camaraderie found within high school football that she loves. NFL players can be traded, college players choose the school with the best offer but for high school players, it’s about childhood friends and hometown pride. The energy, spirit and genuine down-inyour-bones desire to win that make high school football something that most of us remember with emotion.

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Something else that’s engrained in many of us is the instinct to support our families no matter what demands doing so may place on us. Meg seems to be able to make it happen in good spirits with a determination to succeed that might only be rivaled by her husband’s.

Meg’s no pampered housewife with tons of free time either. She teaches physical education at Dutch Fork Middle School and is the mother of two boys, ages seven and eleven.

During football season, Coach Earley spends more time away from home than normal. Meg’s philosophy is that if he can’t be home, she and the boys will try to be where he is so that the family can still be together. She and her boys go the practices and the games (JV and varsity) every chance they get.

When asked what she does to support her husband in his roll as coach, Meg told us that she steps into the role of the “right-hand man.” She tries to make things easier at home by rolling up her sleeves and getting things done. Meg says the most important thing she can do is to support her husband in all ways by simply taking care of things during football season so that he doesn’t have to. By running the day-to-day business of family life, her husband can focus on the family when he’s home.

They even scratch out time after the Friday night games to cuddle up on the couch together and watch… the game tape.

Meg seems to be up for whatever life throws at a coach’s wife saying, “It’s been a fun ride!”

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Married to Gordon Walters, the head football coach and Athletic Director at White Knoll High School, Stephanie knows full well what it’s like to wear the hat of “Coach’s Wife.”

Stephanie and Gordon met when he began coaching at Southern Durham High School in Durham, NC where Stephanie taught as well.

“We both knew pretty quickly that we were a perfect match,” said Stephanie.

They have four children: Avery (2), Chatham (4), Knox (13) and Maddie (15).

They make sure that weekends are for family time. Stephanie tells us that she tries to make sure that Gordon has a place to come home to where there are no emails to answer, parents to respond to or students to check up on. Her focus is to keep the balance between football and family a healthy one.

Stephanie and Gordon always share a celebratory meal together on Saturday evenings (win or lose) and get away when they can. (Coach Walters loves Ribeye from Caughman’s if anyone is looking for a way to say “great season”!)

Even if just for a day trip to Charleston, Stephanie tries to take advantage of all the wonderful places South Carolina has to offer at just a short distance away.

Stephanie understands that keeping the family in focus helps to give them both perspective. “Football is a HUGE part of our life but it is, by no means, our entire life. Our family comes first,” says Stephanie. “As much as we love football and as much of a part of our life as it is, we both love other things just as much like our family and teaching.”

Stephanie tells us that she loves it here in Lexington and how wonderful both she and her husband think Lexington District One is. “We’ve both worked for many other school districts but Lexington is, by far, the best. I hope we will be here a long, long time.”

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The Coach’s Wife

Ashby Jones WHITE KNOLL HIGH SCHOOL

COACH’S WIFE

by Tyler Ryan

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bit more unusual than in the old days, a romance that starts in college, and stands the test of time. “We met my freshman year of college, and have been together ever since,” says Lexington Attorney Ashby Jones of her twenty year romance with her husband, White Knoll basketball coach Bret.

“He always intended to become a basketball coach,” she said, explaining that when he graduated from college he began working as an assistant to Lexington High School’s Bailey Harris. For Bret it was very special, as the opportunity meant he was working with the coach that was his mentor for many years.

well beyond the plays, the court time, the planning for the next victory. He spends a lot of time on the phone with his players and their families.

For Bret Jones, coaching also goes

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there isn’t a lot of time to “mope around,” so he shakes it off fast and becomes focused on the next game.

I asked Ashby about her favorite part

Over the years, she has become very familiar with being a coach’s wife and how to ensure that her Coach knows she is his biggest supporter.

When White Knoll High School opened in two thousand, Bret was named Head Coach of the Varsity Team, making the former student and the mentor arch rivals. “We love him,” Ashby says with a smile of Coach Harris, “but they want to kill each other two times a year.” She goes on to say that although it is an “all out battle, there is a lot of mutual respect.”

Over the years, she has become very familiar with being a coach’s wife and how to ensure that her Coach knows she is his biggest supporter.

Ashby says that it is very quiet at the house during basketball season, explaining that the coaches’ job goes on past the twenty-four total minutes of the basketball game. There are practices, game reviews, and even when he is home; his time is spent creating strategy for a competitive advantage. “I know during those months he is going to be nearly one hundred percent consumed,” pointing out that for Bret, it is about passion. “He is giving it all of his energy and he should.”

“I realize, after all these years how important sports are, and the positive roles that coaches can play in the players’ lives.” Ashby went on to say that being “a part of something big-

ger than you builds a lot of core values and it makes me proud of him.”

Coach Bret Jones “It might surprise readers to know how many of those conversations are not about basketball,” says Ashby about her husband.

According to Ashby, the parents are calling to ask how their children are doing in school, or to talk about personal issues surrounding their young player. Bret’s goals for his players is more than just skilled play on the court. It is about helping them become better men.

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Even the off season finds White Knolls basketball ball skipper busy with ensuring that his players stay in shape both physically and mentally. Bret spends his time in the weight room and the class room teaching history at the school.

“We both hate to lose,” Ashby says with a smile in her voice, as she describes the Jones’ home after a tough loss either in the court room or the basketball court.

She points out, however, that because they play two games a week,

of being a coach’s wife, and without hesitation, she talked about seeing the former players come back as adults, and watching how they have become men, with character that in part, was formed by the leadership and bond that Coach Jones has with his players. “It reinforces what I believe he is actually doing.”

As I spoke with Ashby about her husband, it was clear from her tone that she is as proud of him today as she was the day the then first year Presbyterian College co-ed met the Junior star basketball player.

“I’ve gotten to watch him grow from a player himself, to a junior varsity coach to the head of a program all in the span of twenty years,” she says.

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Melissa Harvey A Thriving Survivor

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sat down to write the article about Melissa Harvey who is by definition a thriving survivor. This is how it started: “Melissa is an Instructional Coach at Wood Elementary school in Lexington District 2. In other words she is a teacher for teachers. She is married to Gene Harvey and the mother of two boys Hunter twelve, and Tyler seven. This is Melissa’s third experience with cancer. The original diagnosis in December 2008 was breast cancer, in May 2010 they found a spot on the sternum, and her current diagnosis (January 2011) is cancer is on the femur and the hip.”

By the second paragraph I realized this article wasn’t about the Melissa that I met. I realized I was about to write an article about cancer. I don’t want to give the “c” word that much attention. I want this article to be about Melissa.

My mother used to say, “To have a friend, you have to be a friend.” I think that is Melissa’s legacy.

This woman refuses to just take it easy and lay around feeling sorry for herself. She has rarely missed a day of work in all the treatments and surgeries she has endured. The big joke at her treatment center is, “who is going to show up with her this time?” Why? Because Melissa travels with a posse. A posse of friends. That tells me she is a friend. Recently at the Dems Bead It to Beat It presentation, Melissa received a beautiful bead in her honor and had 40 people there to support her.

She’s warm and open about her experience, and the funny thing is life’s path had her raising money and helping out with cancer related events long before she thought she might have to fight this battle herself. She never takes anything for granted and has learned to not sweat the small stuff.

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Melissa told me that she is “always sorry that I have cancer, but I look at the things that have happened because of it…the friends I’ve made, the experiences I’ve had, and the people I’ve been able to reach out to.” She says, “Cancer is not a journey anyone can make alone. I was always the one helping other people when they needed help.

My friend Sandy said, ‘It is your turn to let people help you. That is what friends are for.’”

Melissa at first started her own support group made of women battling all kinds of cancer. Later, Melissa joined the Pink Posse Phillies and embraced the support of other survivors. “It’s what you learn, who you meet, the bridges you cross, and the roads you travel. I look at all of the experiences over the last two and a half years…both good and bad, I don’t enjoy being sick, but I wouldn’t trade these experiences for the world.”

After the initial anger of the diagnosis and the feelings of why me? The most difficult part of her journey was Melissa’s concern for others. “Having to tell my parents was especially difficult as I am an only child, having to tell my children who were young, and having to tell my husband were

the hardest things about those first few hours of my diagnosis.” One major change Melissa says this whole journey has taught her is it “makes you appreciate the small things.” It is her goal to always stay in a normal routine if possible. This “normal routine” includes work, travel, spending time with family and friends, soccer games, and working to help others. “Cancer will do its best to destroy your routine, and I have worked very hard to not let it destroy very much.”

Hunter plays soccer with SC United Soccer Club.

He is part of the U12 Boys Elite team this year and the entire team proudly displays the pink breast cancer ribbon on their jersey. Part of Melissa’s journey has helped educate these young men about cancer. This team, coach and parents have been very supportive to the Harvey family. These young boys will not be as frightened if a family member or future wife gets a diagnosis because they know Hunter and his mom. At Oak Pointe Elementary, where Tyler goes to school, cancer awareness and raising money for Relay for Life has been a big part of day to day happenings.

“You do not want kids to be faced with a family member having cancer but helping them under-

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‘Never give up. Fight until the end regardless of when that is.’

Melissa with her family stand and learn how to give back and support others certainly does a lot to build character and empathy,” says Melissa.

I asked Melissa what words of wisdom she would like to impart to others. “Never give up. Fight until the end regardless of when that is. Find a support group or a community organization that you can be a part of. Find an outlet so you don’t have to walk this alone. Do not let this encompass your everyday thoughts…and it will if you let it!! If you ask my friends, seldom have any of them not seen me put together with jewelry, lipstick, and my hair done (even if it is a wig now…and they all of have names and personalities too!!). The things you do to make yourself feel better everyday are so important.”

“Caringbridge has been one of the best things I ever did. I am not a writer, but I write and write and write when I post updates to the site. It lets people keep up with what is going on and even

see pictures that I post.” She manages things by being highly organized keeping everything from receipts of doctor visits to recent scan reports and blood work with her. Cards and notes from friends are kept too and often read and reread on days when she may be feeling down. She says “anything I think someone might want to look at fifty years from now I save.”

I asked Melissa to share a few things with you in her own words… Here is what she wrote: Another funny thing...I NEVER go anywhere without my camera. We take pictures at EVERY chemo treatment with people who are there to visit with me. I often drag my chemo nurse, Beth Perry, or Dr. Ackerman into pictures with me which I know Beth hates!! But you know...pictures are a way to tell the story. No matter where I am or what we are doing the camera is there!! Those pictures will be around some day when I am not so my story and memory will never be lost!!

Many people don’t think they are a survivor until they have finished treatments and had clear scans.

I am here to tell you that is NOT true. You become a survivor the day you are diagnosed. Being a survivor means you put yourself in fight mode and NEVER give up. Reach out to others and let people help you during your journey.

Survivor in You!

Cancer is not a journey I chose for myself. It was one given to me to test my strength and faith. I truly feel it was one given to me to help me put life into perspective. What do I mean by perspective you may ask? Life is so hurried and crazy. Being given this journey has made me appreciate the little things and not sweat the small stuff. I enjoy the sunset, the sunrise, the moon, the stars and making memories to last a lifetime no matter what I am doing. I could never be making this journey without family.

My husband Gene, my children Hunter and Tyler and my parents John and Ann Baber have been there every step of the way. Through three cancer diagnosis, several surgeries, chemo treatments, and of course all of the pictures!! Thanks to my friend, Sandy Arnott who set up meals and helped with my children and was there when I just needed to cry or laugh...you are a true friend. Thanks to my “neighborhood Chemo nurse”, Fauni Lowe. She answers all of my questions morning, noon, and night. I am blessed to have great neighborhood friends and coworkers. Thanks for always being there for me and the Harvey boys!! Gene, Hunter, Tyler, mom, and dad...I love each of you with all of my heart. You are my world forever and always.

You can visit her Caringbridge for updates online at www.caringbridge.com/visit/melissaharvey.

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Pets

For Animal Lovers Only!

by Joy Mabry

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s a country dweller, and animal lover, I have become accustom to stray dogs and cats adopting me as their new “mama” or owner. Because of this often occurrence, I have become very familiar with the services and products offered by Pets, Inc. Yes, animal lovers, there is a place that actually loves and cares about pets as much as you!

Last year, a half-starved, young cat took up residence outside our 2 acre dog lot, and was eating dry dog food left out for our beagles. After several months of leaving food outside the lot, “Miss Kitty” started to come closer to be fed and pet. By this time, “Miss Kitty” was pregnant. Being the animal lover that I am, I already had 3 beagles and 2 cats, so keeping baby kittens was not a good idea.

I contacted Pets, Inc. about the possibility of them helping me find good homes for the 5 kittens that “Miss Kitty” and I had been blessed with. Although their feline capacity runneth over, the staff at Pets, Inc. gave the kittens all their shots and allowed me to bring the kittens in on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday during operating hours while I fostered them at home through the week and at night. It took 4 weekends to place 3 of the kittens into good homes. Pets, Inc. then took the other 2 kittens as permanent residents, and in a couple of weeks found good homes for them also.

Unfortunately, only 1 kitten is adopted out for every 10 puppies, however the staff continued to help me find good homes for the kittens instead of turning them away.

This spring brought the arrival of a wondering Bassett-Hound, and yeah, you guessed it, she too was in the family way. If you have ever had Hound puppies before, you know how hard it was for me to give these 4 precious babies up for adoption after 8 weeks of care. It was much harder on me than “Miss Bassy.”

Being the over-protective mother that I am, I actually stayed most of the day on Saturday to observe the families that were taking an interest in “my” puppies. I was amazed at the time the counselors took with each of the families by explaining the pros and cons of the breed, the size, the age, the space needed, the amount of attention, the nutritional needs of the breed, the habits, etc.

It wasn’t about just getting the puppy out of there, or about the paper work being finished, it was about finding the right fit for the puppy’s need now and later, and the right fit for the family’s needs now and later. In the course of the day, I actually observed all three families that adopted the puppies. One family adopted the only boy and one of his sisters. I could not have hand picked better suited families for “my” babies than these councilors found. By the way, “Miss Bassy” has an appointment in 2 weeks to be spayed at the new spay/neuter clinic on site.

You can count on the staff at Pets, Inc. to care and help.

Not only has the staff at Pets, Inc. helped me with finding great homes for these “little furry blessings,” they also continue to help me keep “Miss Kitty,” “Miss Bassy,” “Knight,” “Little Bob,” and “Crazy Kitty,” healthy with their in-house blend of dog and cat food. This in-house brand has no dangerous chemicals that shorten the life-span of my pets.

Whether it’s taking care of your canine family member or trying to help a stray pal that happens to find you, you can count on the staff at Pets, Inc to care and help. Yes, you may have to wait a few minutes. Yes, you may be greeted by a couple of furry friends behind the counter. Yes, it might be a little loud and over crowded, but that’s only because the staff at Pets, Inc. does care about all animals, and tries not to turn any away!

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ow is the time for Summer Breaks and much needed family vacation time. For families with pets, this means boarding time as well. Boarding facilities can provide a fun environment for pets while their families are on vacation. Here are some tips to help ensure your pets stay healthy and safe while boarding.

Pets need to be up to date on their vaccines.

Like children receiving vaccines prior to starting school, pets also need protection against the common diseases that may be carried by other pets. Different boarding facilities may have different vaccine requirements. Be sure your pets vaccine history meets those requirements prior to checking in to the facility. If vaccines need to be updated, its best to have them done at least 1-2 weeks prior to boarding so that the vaccines have time to become protective. Your pet also needs to be current on their flea/tick control, heartworm prevention, and intestinal dewormer.

Many pets are prone to developing vomiting and/or diarrhea secondary to sudden diet changes. Bringing their own food so their diet will be consistent will help prevent that. Our cats, picky eaters that they often are, may be more likely to eat their own food rather than a food that they aren’t used to. Maintaining a good appetite is especially important in our overlarge kitties. If an obese cat goes without eating, it can lead to a debilitating

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liver disease called hepatic lipidosis. Therefore its especially important to encourage a good appetite by providing their regular diet. Also bring any daily medications your pet takes. Make sure the directions for use are clearly labeled.

Though boarding staff are skilled and knowledgeable about taking care of animals in general, its important you let them know about your pet’s tendencies in particular. If you have a little dog that is prone to leaping from tall heights into your arms, let them know.

That way they can be prepared to catch your pet when they open the cage door, or, better yet, place them in a floor level cage. This will help prevent a vacation-ending phone call that “Fluffy” has a concussion or broken leg. If your dogs favorite pastime is digging to China or scaling Mt. Everest, let the boarding staff know. They will be able to closely monitor to make sure your pet isn’t climbing over the fence or tunneling their way to freedom. If your dog tends to chew on things

Dr. Tim and Betsy Loonam that aren’t digestible, the boarding staff can take precautions to make sure your pet doesn’t eat their bedding. Many boarding facilities also have group play time for their boarders. Its important to let the boarding staff know if your pet doesn’t play well with others so potential fights can be avoided.

Some pets are very anxious in new surroundings.

Their anxiety may be to the point that they will quit eating, bark non-stop, or stay curled in a ball trying to hide. For these guys it may be best to keep them in their regular environment. There are several pet-sitting/house-sitting services available. However, most pets do well with boarding.

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Hometown STYLE

by Tyler Ryan

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hey often say that everything he learned about business, he learned from his parents. In the case of nineteen year old Jeremy Addy, son of John and Teresa Addy, and the new owner of Craig Reagin Clothiers, it’s probably true. John and Teresa Addy owned Addy Dodge for Jeremy’s entire life. In fact, the majority of John’s life, Addy Dodge was teaching him good business practices, too.

“My parents always said, take care of your customer,” says Jeremy.

Jeremy and his brother Josh opened the newest men’s clothing store on Main Street in Lexington only a few weeks ago, and thus far, business has been good. “People don’t have to drive all the way to Columbia,” Jeremy said, about why people have begun to shop at his store.

The road to business ownership for this nineteen year old came from a mix of looking up to his parents, and mentoring by the owner of another successful men’s clothing store in the Upstate, MH Franks. After arriving at Clemson University to study economics and finance management, Jeremy met Steve Poteet, the owner of MH Franks, and was totally captured by the business.

He began to soak in everything he could about the clothing business, learning what lines were popular, how to work with suppliers, and honed the skills of customer service that had been instilled by his parents.

You might think that at nineteen, such a dream is only a passing fancy on the way through the maturing process, but Jeremy Addy already had a success story, and leadership to build on. When he and his brother arrived at Clemson, they found the fraternity Kappa Sigma had been asked to leave the campus for a series of circumstances in two thousand eight. Since they had several friends who were members, it was of particular interest, so Jeremy and Josh saw this as a challenge. They began a campaign to rebuild the chapter, contacting the national office, meeting with college officials to lobby for the chapter, and recruiting fifty potential members that would emulate the goals and ideals they believed in. After successfully engaging in the quickest process in the history of the fraternity, Kappa Sigma has since been reinstated and recognized by Clemson University, at the hands and hard work of the brothers.

With the success of their efforts to reinstate Kappa Sigma, and the passion for the clothing business that had been developed, Jeremy and Josh were ready for their next challenge. In November of two thousand ten, they approached their

parents and explained the plan to open the store in Lexington, which would give back to the community and provide the service that the Addy’s were known for to the residents.

‘People don’t have to drive all the way to Columbia.’

John and Teresa reviewed the plans, and together with their sons, purchased the storefront at 103 East Main Street, and began the renovation that would become Craig Reagin. Jeremy then set about contacting the vendors and clothing representatives he had met and developed relationships with during his time learning the business at MH Franks. He reached out to a fellow Clemson man and Coast representative, TJ Deluca for assistance in choosing the product lines that would appeal to his clients, as another business lesson Jeremy learned the importance of knowing who they are.

Craig Reagin’s clothing is targeted at “the gentleman on the weekend, or the kid who wants to dress nice,” says Jeremy, “anything they want to wear when they are not wearing a suit.” Jeremy and Josh’s passion for their new family business has not discarded them from their education. While they both still attend Clemson full-time, they once again look to their parents for guidance and assistance. Theresa and John man the store when the boys are in the Upstate, putting the touches on their formal studies, and experiencing the realities of owning a business. Jeremy pointed out that watching his parents over the years, he also learned the “headaches and hard work,” saying, “You put away when you can and everything will be alright.”

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Mae’s on Main Street in Lexington is a unique ladies clothing boutique that has serviced many generations of Southern women. It has a special emphasis on helping customers find the clothes that make them feel special.

In November 2010, Connie Stuckey purchased this wonderful store and began revitalizing the look and feel of everything from the merchandise to the decor.

“We plan to keep the same hometown, customer service oriented shop while expanding to include styles for women in their 20, 30, etc. and of course, continuing to service the great longterm customers. The store has a new fresh outlook and look”, says Connie.

Connie has spent her professional life managing IT areas of large corporations and is excited to be living the dream of owning her own business.

“It has been a life long goal. I enjoy meeting new people and hearing stories about the years they or their mother or grandmother shopped at Mae’s.” It is great to own a piece of history and to help it move into the future. “Customers thank me everyday for keeping this store open!”

All of the fashions worn by the young ladies on these pages can be found at Mae’s on Main.

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Fashion CRAIG REAGIN CLOTHIERS: Jeremy (Outfit 1) Hardwick Gray Suit, Ike Behar Dress Shirt, R. Hanauer Tie, W. Kleinberg Belt (Outfit 2) Southern Point Polo, Coast Twill Shorts, Smathers and Branson Needlepoint Belt Buck (Outfit 1) Southern Tide Khakis, Southern Proper Oxford, Austin Jeffers Leather Belt, High Cotton Bow Tie (Outfit 2) Southern Proper Tee-shirt, Southern Proper Hat Josh (Outfit 1) Hardwick Black Pinstripe Suit, Private Stock Palmetto Tie, Overton Dress Shirt (Outfit 2) Southern Proper Camp Shorts, Southern Tide Polo JK (Outfit 1) Southern Tide Khakis, Southern Tide Button Down, Southern Proper Tie, Hardwick Navy Blue Blazer (Outfit 2) Castaway Shorts, Southern Tide Polo, Austin Jeffers Belt

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(Outfit 2) White Dress from “Eliza J” Marley (Outfit 1) Jeans from “Beija Flor”, and a White Jacket with a Blue Pinstripe from “Karlie” (Outfit 2) White and Gold Dress from “Karlie”

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Your risk of getting skin cancer is real, but you can reduce that risk with skin cancer awareness and prevention!

We live in sunny South Carolina and must protect ourselves daily from the suns dangerous ultraviolet rays (UVA and UVB). Our beautiful weather allows us the opportunity to be outside year-round for participation in sports (or to cheer on the USC or Clemson football teams by tailgating and sitting in the stands!), gardening, boating, golfing, walking or even playing on the playground at the park. We can be outside and have fun in the sun, but we must protect our skin. It is never too late to start protecting your skin, even if you have already had a skin cancer.

The American Academy of Dermatology has launched many skin cancer awareness campaigns to educate the public…”See Spot. See a Dermatologist”…”Be Sun Smart”… ”Ban the Tan”…

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ore than two million cases of skin cancer are diagnosed in the United States each year.

Unfortunately, the number of skin cancer cases has been increasing in young women, instead of decreasing like other types of cancer. tology recommends that everyone protect their skin by following a few simple sun protection practices. Avoid deliberate tanning either outside or in a tanning bed as this exposure results in premature aging of the skin and increases the risk of developing skin cancer. If you like the look of a tan, please consider using a

Your risk of getting skin cancer is real, but you can reduce that risk... sunless self-tanning lotion or spray tan, but remember these products do not protect you from the sun. Get vitamin D safely through a healthy diet that may include vitamin supplements as recommended by your primary care physician. Do not seek the sun for your vitamin D. Use sun block daily and apply it generously to all exposed skin. Choose a broadspectrum sun screen with at least an SPF30 (a sun protection factor that protects from both UVA and UVB rays). Apply your sun screen at least 15 minutes before going outdoors and reapply at least every two hours.

Do not forget to apply sun screen to your ears, nose, neck, scalp, hands, toes and even your lips. Wear sun protective clothing, such as a longsleeved shirt (or even an SPF shirt), pants, cover-ups, a wide-brimmed

hat and sunglasses whenever possible. Seek shade when the rays are strongest between 10am and 4pm.

The bad news is the risk of skin cancer is real, but the good news is that you can reduce your risk by protecting your family and yourself. Implementing these sun safe practices will help protect you from the damaging effects of the sun and even help prevent skin cancer.

But you must also learn to detect skin cancer. You should examine your skin monthly at home with a simple, but yet thorough self skin exam checking for any new, changing, growing or bleeding spot on your skin. Skin cancer is treatable when detected early, so please learn to perform a self skin exam. You can access this information on the self skin exams via our website at www. dermatologyoflexington.com or via our facebook page (Elante Day Spa and Salon) or the American Academy of Dermatology website at www. aad.org.

I also recommend an annual skin exam with a dermatologist. I volunteer at several free skin cancer screening events throughout the year and also offer free screenings on select days in my clinic. I am also available to speak at your local events or organizations to educate your group about skin cancer awareness, protection, prevention and detection.

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One Birth Away from Shame

by Ruth Chapman

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y brother and his wife are expecting their first child in a few months. Do you remember the first time you were pregnant? All of the anticipation you experienced, the nervousness, excitement and fear you first felt? If you are young enough, do you remember seeing your child’s first ultrasound photo and all of the emotions that experience evoked?

And perhaps when you were full term and ready to deliver, you and your doctor discussed your need for a Cesarean Section for whatever the reason.

Now imagine that you are 15 or 16 years old, not fully developed, married, typically to a much older man and expecting your first child. I cannot even think of how hard that life must be. When our 15 and 16 year old girls are worrying about what to wear the next day to school and texting their bffs’, this is the life of many young girls living in Africa, but specifically in a country called Chad. Now geography is not my strong suit so I had to look at a globe to figure out exactly where this country is. If you look at the continent of Africa, Chad is in the center. To the north of Chad is Libya, where all of the civil unrest is occurring right now; to it’s west is Niger, Nigeria and Cameroon, on the coast; on the south it is bordered by the Central African Republic and to it’s east is Sudan.

Why are we talking about a country some of us have never even heard of? I recently met Dr.

Bert Oubre (pronounced Oo-bray) a physician practicing right here in Lexington and self-proclaimed ‘Disciple of Jesus’ at his office called Emmaus Med-Surg Clinic on Barr Road. The topic of our conversation was the new 30-bed hospital that his organization had just opened in January 2011 in the country of Chad. The organization is called Cutting Edge Foundation (CEF) with a mission of “bringing spiritual and medical healing to Sub-Saharan Africa.”

Dr. Oubre explained the painful conditions that these young girls develop and how his hospital is hoping to (slowly) bring about change to end their needless suffering. In order to understand one of these conditions, imagine this: You are a young girl, not fully developed meaning that your pelvis has not grown to it’s full potential, yet your body is carrying a baby. Because either 1. you are not fully developed due to your age or poor nutrition (also a reason for a small pelvis) or 2. The baby’s head is too big you are not prepared for the baby’s head to pass through the birth canal requiring a Cesarean Section to birth the baby. But the nearest hospital could be

Emmaus MedSurg Clinic

Dr. Oubre explained the painful conditions that these young girls develop and how his hospital is hoping to (slowly) bring about change to end their needless suffering. hundreds of miles away and you have no transportation to get there. If you can somehow get a ride from the remote countryside into a hospital, there is a good likelihood that no one on staff has training to perform a C-Section.

So what happens is the baby’s head rests in the birth canal putting unrelenting pressure on the wall of the vagina and bladder…for days or even a week, crushing the tissue between the baby’s head

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and the mother’s pelvic bones. There is no epidural, no drugs of any kind and without proper medical care eventually the baby dies because it cannot get enough oxygen but does tremendous damage to the internal organs of the mother.

Can you imagine the pain that poor girl must go through! The result is a hole called a vesicovaginal fistula between the bladder and vagina.

A fistula is an abnormal opening or channel. So just as a river creates a new path when there is an obstruction in it’s flow, a fistula does much the same thing.

The result is that the girl loses her bladder function, crushed from the baby resting on it, that the urine just runs down the girl’s legs and there is nothing she can do to control it. In severe cases even fecal matter is involved. The girl now has absolutely no control over her bowel or bladder functions and she is unable to cleanse herself

properly. The result is a bad stench that is always present. She becomes an outcast of society, so badly damaged and unable to take care of herself, that even her husband abandons her.

An article I read, Delivery from Shame published in World Magazine estimates that 67% of husbands abandon their young brides with fistula. The women cannot support themselves, even as prostitutes because of the severe nature of their injury and many end up working in the hot fields. As you can imagine the suicide rate for these damaged young girls is very high.

sonnel to perform the C-sections in the maternity center in remote areas. A timely C-section would prevent the terrible situation these girls find themselves in thereby reducing or eliminating the need for fistula surgery. CEF also is response for building these centers.

The new hospital is seeking doctors with experience in the repair of fistulas as well as midwives who can be taught to recognize the symptoms of an at-risk pregnancy and help provide transportation to the new hospital or future maternity centers for these young girls. Their current goal is to obtain 100 pocket-sized ultrasound machines that can be distributed throughout the countryside to trained locals who can measure the baby’s head as well as the mother’s pelvis enabling them to predict if a vaginal delivery is even possible without a hospital. Dr. Oubre thinks this is an ambitious goal, but says that the hospital was also ambitious but, with God’s help it finally came to fruition.

Third, consider a monetary donation to this most worthwhile cause by going to www.cefoundation. net, or write to Cutting Edge Foundation, PO Box 2266, Irmo, SC 29063, telephone 254-654-1363.

There are “mini” projects within the hospital that can be adopted by groups, organizations or Sunday School classes.

One of CEF’s goals is to train the Chadian per-

So, what can we as Lexingtonians do to support the hospital in Chad?

First, prayer is always welcome.

Second, those with medical training or backgrounds who have a desire to do some good in third world countries where the need is so great, consider giving of your time and talents. On the job training is the best teacher. There are also opportunities for electricians, plumbers, well diggers.

Dr. Oubre’s office has a wall of photos taken in Chad of the locals his hospital has helped not only with fistula surgery but with cleft palate surgery and other illnesses. He also has copies of the Cutting Edge newsletter which shows photos of the new hospital or you can receive an electronic copy of the newsletter by emailing cuttingedgefoundation@gmail.com.

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Mother and Child Bonding

by Dr. Bob Phillips, Ph.D.

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hen a mother and her child do not bond or do not fully bond several problems can become evident over time.

Frequently the awareness of these problems would begin with one simple question. That question is “Why is our relationship not quite right?”

As one example Marsha reported that she and her eight year old daughter Cindy “never really got along.” Cindy was unhappy, disrespectful to Marsha and obstinate. Cindy got along well with her father and she usually obeyed him. When we discussed her pregnancy and Cindy’s birth Marsha reported that when she was six months pregnant her father had passed away. Overpowered by grief Marsha had no room in her heart, at that time, to have positive feelings for Cindy. Marsha recalled thinking, “I have no room for this baby. I am too sad to do this.”

Now it was time for her to change that and to form a new bond with Cindy. In three sessions she let go of the grief, relived a good pregnancy and reclaimed the bond between herself and Cindy. Marsha found that Cindy was now more open to her and more willing to listen to her. The anger that Cindy seemed have for Marsha was gone and Marsha said that she now felt that she knew what is was to love her daughter.

Another example is provided by Nancy. She had a lot of physical problems during her pregnancy with her now six year old son Jonathan. Jonathan

had begun to have a lot of breathing problems and he was diagnosed with severe Asthma when he was four. Nancy was still angry at the hospital staff where Jonathan was delivered. She had to fight just to have time with him. The delivery was long and hard for both the mother and child. After the birth Nancy was allowed to hold Jonathan for only a few minutes before he was taken away for several hours.

During the bonding therapy Nancy worked on three things. The first was to work through all of the fear and frustration about her own physical problems during the pregnancy. Second, she had to create a new and more peaceful delivery for both her and Jonathan. Finally she had to let go of her anger at the hospital staff and their efforts that kept them from having enough time together. She was able to do this and bring about a new set of memories that included more positive feelings and time together.

In six days Nancy returned and said that two things were different. The first was that she and Jonathan were snuggling with each other for the first time since he was a toddler. The second

‘Why is our relationship not quite right?’ change was that he was no longer wheezing and that he was now able to sleep through the night.

(Research has found a surprising relationship between Asthma and poor bonding.)

Bonding therapy has been helpful in other situations as well. It has been successful with adopted children when bonding was reduced or missing.

It has helped mothers increase the bond between themselves and a second twin. This is especially true when one of the twins had a physical problem that took more attention from the mother leaving the other, the healthier twin, to be less bonded.

If you are interested in using Bonding Therapy or if you would like to participate in a research program involving Asthma and bonding please call Psychologist Bob Phillips, Ph.D. at (803) 360-9698.

BONDING THERAPY. Repairing The Broken Bond.

A troubled relationships between a mother and her child is often the result of physical or emotional distance and not the fault of the mother.

This could be during pregnancy, during birth or after. Once the reason is unveiled, things can get better.

When the mother feels distant, less attached or less involved with her child.

Were you or your baby sick? Were you emotionally drained or distant?

Were you separated for hours or even days?

Call Psychologist Bob Phillips, Ph.D. at (803) 360-9698 in West Columbia, SC or email him at drbobpsy@earthlink.net

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STROKES IN SOUTH CAROLINA:

What Women NEED to Know

by Jennifer Wilson

Lexington Medical Center

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Kathy Rowe Kathy Rowe of Lexington County suffered a stroke last December.

The 45-year-old described waking up one morning feeling dizzy and nauseated.

“I thought I had a virus. I didn’t think it was a stroke,” she said.

But the symptoms kept getting worse. Soon, Kathy could barely see or stand, struggling to call her mother on the phone for help.

“My mom came in and said let me take you to the emergency room – I said I couldn’t walk and see. Call 911,” Rowe said.

By the time Kathy arrived at Lexington Medical Center’s ER, she was unable to speak. Tests revealed a stroke.

“The main warning signs of stroke are focal and motor weakness, weakness on one side of the body, slurred speech, facial drooping, confusion and inability to talk,” said Dr. Deborah Simpson, Emergency Medicine physician at Lexington Medical Center.

Risk factors for stroke are high blood pressure, diabetes, smoking and high cholesterol.

In South Carolina, high blood pressure, smoking and other risk factors are prevalent.

t can start with dizziness or weakness on one side.

Quickly, it can progress into a medical emergency.

A stroke occurs when a blood vessel carrying oxygen and nutrients to the brain is either blocked by a clot or bursts.

When that happens, part of the brain cannot get the blood and oxygen it needs.

‘The main warning signs of stroke are focal and motor weakness...’

Stroke is the third leading cause of death in South Carolina, reDr. Ed Hudson Dr. Deborah Simpson sulting in more than 2,000 deaths each year, according to the South Carolina “You can make a major impact with Most people who experience a Department of Health and Envi- TPA,” said Dr. Ed Hudson, a radi- stroke are more than 40 and have ronmental Control. South Carolina ologist with Lexington Radiology multiple risk factors. is among a group of Southeastern Associates who works at Lexington states with high stroke rates referred Medical Center. “You can go from “Have your blood pressure checked to as the “Stroke Belt.” And, statistics someone who is bedridden and not and treated and quit smoking,” said show that women are more likely to able to move to someone who, with Dr. Simpson. “Modifying your lifephysical therapy, is back to full func- style can help prevent stroke.” die from strokes than men. tion, moving around the house and One of the most promising treat- taking care of themselves,” said Dr. Kathy received TPA at Lexington Medical Center. She spent a week in ments for stroke is known as Tissue Hudson. the hospital and two weeks in rehaPlasminogen Activator, or TPA. TPA is a drug that dissolves the clot Patients must meet certain protocol bilitation receiving physical therapy. causing the stroke. Doctors per- to receive TPA including suffering a Today, she’s made a full recovery. form the treatment either with an certain type of stroke and beginning IV or catheter in the ER or Radiol- treatment within a few hours after For more information on strokes, visit the onset of symptoms. the Health Library at www.lexmed.com. ogy Department.

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Sports Injuries and Occupational Therapy

by Lori Samples Duncan

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t is difficult to articulate the commitment that Hima Dalal serves each patient at her practice. I can tell someone a hundred times and I am still amazed when someone says to me, (after they go in and see her themselves), “Hima is so wonderful. I don’t know how she does it, but I feel so much better from the first visit.” Some people are just lucky enough to get to use their gifts as a career.

As patients we tend to think if it isn’t bleeding or killing us with pain we are ok. “It will feel better soon, it will pass, it will get better on its own.”

These are just a few of the lies we tell ourselves.

What we fail to realize is that therapy helps build the muscle associated with the injury and by default makes us stronger and better able to help the body heal it’s self from the injury.

After a severe injury to my knee two years ago, I thought I was fine. I went to therapy a few

muscles. Injured muscles can be rehabbed using water as a medium for therapy which can cut down almost 50-60 percent of rehab time. “Using the Hydroworx pool takes the weight off the joints and that will expedite the process.” If its soccer, football, baseball or cheerleading, sports injuries can often affect stability if not properly rehabbed. The Hydroworx pool helps increase stability. The resistance plays a major role in reinforcing the stability because they are standing in water against hydro jets. Also, the warm water

was treated with internal jaw fascia release and back stretching and strengthening (i.e. Therapy in the Hydroworx pool helped resolve jaw and pelvis instability).

When someone is injured as in a broken bone, etc. is it so important that it is rehabbed immediately? Yes it is, but if you miss the boat it isn’t too late because an occupational/physical therapist work on releasing the scar tissue restriction and help to gain flexibility, increased range of motion and decrease pain. The Hydroworx pool helps promote faster healing because water therapy is proven to work faster and more effectively. In other words it gets you back on track and back to normal activities sooner. As a busy woman myself I can appreciate that method.

Sport related injuries can also be helped by physical and occupational therapy.

Hima and her staff see patients as young as newborn and as old as 100 and up. Underwater therapy could return you to your sport not only more quickly but stronger. Strength, endurance, balance, flexibility and sports specific muscle training are all helped. Hima’s Hydroworx pool is the only one in our community.

The Hydroworx pool helps increase stability. The resistance plays a major role in reinforcing the stability because they are standing in water against hydro jets.

months and felt better and soon began canceling appointments because I was busy. After six months of being almost pain free one afternoon I couldn’t get out of a chair because of the pain.

I immediately went back to therapy where Ms. Hima explained to me that I had injured my opposite knee by learning to accommodate my injured knee. Needless to say, I regret the choice I made to self-diagnosis and not continue my therapy.

Knee injuries are just one instance that Vital Energy can help with. Hima says sports injury can be avoided or prevented by strengthening the

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and underwater treadmill helps with pain, blood flow, and early weight-bearing on joints. We also address the fascia tightness and postural imbalance issues too.

I asked Hima how injuring a pelvis or jaw tightness can be treated without a back brace or mouth guard/brace. They use specific therapy to address those issues. Hima recounts the story of a cheerleader woke up with lockjaw and came in, not knowing what had happened. The dentist couldn’t find anything to explain the problem.

We were able to diagnose the problem. The patient had postural and myofascial restriction. She

Call Vital Energy Wellness and Rehab Center today to schedule your assessment at 803.359.1551 or visit their website at www.vitalenergytherapy.com for more information.

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Improving Lives…Improving Communities…

Offering HOPE

by Leslie Wilson

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he impact of substance abuse in the lives of the individual and their family is often filled with pain, fear, shame, and guilt. The impact is financial, physical, emotional and spiritual. Living continuously in the “cycle of addiction” can and will create a level of despair that depletes a person’s reservoir of hope and clouds their future.

One in five families is affected by substance use and every socioeconomic group, ethnicity and gender is represented in treatment programs throughout the country. Too often families live in the state of “denial” and believe that things are not really as bad as they are. Often parents believe it’s “just a phase” for the teenager caught with alcohol at a weekend party with friends. Or, he just had “one too many” when stopped and charged with DUI. In reality, these high risk situations often escalate into larger problems when we ignore them.

These early warning signs give the user and their family an opportunity to become more educated about the potential long term consequences of their actions while becoming more aware of the risks surrounding substance use. Effective programming for substance abuse and addiction will address risks, long term consequences, dynamics of addiction and most importantly strategies to cope and move forward without the substance.

Often the individual must make difficult changes in lifestyle, family relationships, and friendships

in order to move forward. It is critical that families and communities learn how to set boundaries that are appropriately supportive for the individual as they make these necessary changes to be healthy and substance free.

Fast Fact: The earlier the onset of use, the

greater the likeliness that an individual will develop a problem later with alcohol or drugs.

The adolescent brain continues its development until age 25. In particular, the substance use impedes the development of the decision making and “choice” center for young adults. Therefore, early intervention programs are critical in providing harm reduction messages that helps adolescents and teens make better choices and subsequently change future behavior.

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and Lexington Counties by providing a wide array of prevention/education, intervention and treatment programs and services to address substance abuse. LRADAC serves over 4000 clients per year in its outpatient and detoxification programs.

Through community coalitions and prevention programs, LRADAC partners with schools and community organizations, governmental and non-governmental agencies to provide education and awareness of drug use trends in our community. If you or someone you know is facing a substance abuse problem or addiction and needs someone to talk to, LRADAC has two locations convenient to residents in Lexington and Richland Counties. You can come by or reach us by phone at 803.726.9400 in Lexington County and 803.726.9300 in Richland County.

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MOUTHS OF BABES

by Tyler Ryan

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here are an estimated one hundred and sixty thousand cases of childhood cancer diagnosed annually. Foundations like St. Baldricks, that hold shave parties, Locks of Love, that collect hair for wigs, and many other organizations all work to raise millions each year in hopes that the money will someday find a cure for the disease.

In addition to the large groups, there are individuals who get inspired. This inspiration comes from loved ones, friends, and co-workers being affected by cancer. In some cases it’s not knowing someone with cancer, but the inspiration was formed from the bond between an eight year old baseball player and his coach. For Colton Duncan, it was the latter. When it came time for him to finally relinquish his “Bieber” hair, instead of just a trim or perhaps electing for a shorter cut with some gel to spike it, he took the cue from his Trophy and Awards baseball coach Eric Burke, and told his mom of his plan. “I’m shaving my head for children’s cancer because I care about other people, and I want them to have a better life,” Colton said. Burke had shaved his head recently to also support the disease, and it was an event that resonated with Colton.

His mother, publisher of Lexington Woman and Midlands Woman, Lori Duncan, said, “One night he just came in and said Mom, I want to get my hair cut for children’s Cancer.” As Lori spoke of Colton’s decision, the pride in her eyes was unmistakable. “He decided that he wanted to make it matter, and help raise money for other kids,” Lori said.

After the decision was made to shave his head, the question of where to have it shaved arose. That answer came from Snip-Its of Lexington, located

in the Hope Ferry shopping center on highway 378. Snip-Its specializes in children’s haircuts and is proud to be a community partner, supporting causes that affect children, including cancer and autism. “It fits everything we represent with SnipIts. How many eight year olds go to their parents and say they want to raise money for cancer? It’s a no brainer,” said Gil Davis, co-owner with his wife Jill (pictured above in our interview), of the Lexington store that has been open since February. “I hope it will inspire other children to create their own charities. If it is a lemonade stand, or contacting a local business, it really can happen,” said Jill Davis.

As soon as Colton made his plan public, news of the event has spread, other local businesses have asked how they can also help, including McAlister’s Deli, a couple doors down from Snip-Its, and Travinia Italian Kitchen have both offered to provide food for the event, and there are several other community members who have expressed interest in participating. All joining together with Colton to make a difference.

In the last few days, the event itself has even become more special, as Colton has decided to make this a benefit for another youngster in the community, Bella, who is suffering from leukemia. Bella’s treatments have left her family with a mounting number of medical bills, so the money

‘I’m shaving my head for children’s cancer because I care about other people, and I want them to have a better life,’ Colton said. he raises is going to go directly back to another child right here in the Midlands.

Colton Duncan’s event is open to the public, and there is no charge for those who want to join him and make this symbolic gesture of solidarity. Of course, he hopes that folks will open their hearts, and make a donation to Bella and her family.

If you would like to find out how you can help spread the word, make a donation, or volunteer, you can visit www.LexingtonWomanOnline.com.

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They Bring the Party to You!

by Ashley Ford

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f there’s one thing that Miriam Winkler knows how to do, it’s throw a fun party. And after watching a group of men in suits run around and play laser tag with their children at one of her parties last month, Winkler said she knew that she accomplished her goal.

“We had men out there who were wearing suits and ties, and they just couldn’t resist getting out there to play a game of laser tag. They came either for the ribbon cutting or because they brought their kids from work, but they ended up getting in the action too,” she said, of the April 12 ribbon cutting ceremony for her business Go Go Laser Tag. “We want to see people relax and have fun.”

Armed with a degree in elementary education, a masters degree in health and physical education, as well as years of experience as a stay-at-home mom to her three young children, Winkler said she couldn’t be more excited to finally launch her mobile laser tag company in Lexington.

environment that’s a little bit different than in a classroom,” she said. “I think all of those experiences, and kind of how I’m wired and made up, has made this a very good fit – which is why I’ve been so excited to be able to put legs to this idea that I’ve been sitting on for so long.”

“I understand how group dynamics work, I understand how to manage kids in a non-traditional

Although the concept of a mobile laser tag company isn’t exactly “brand new” in other parts of

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One thing that separates Go Go Laser Tag from other party companies is that they bring the party to you. the country, Winkler said it is new to the Lexington area. And, Winkler added, she’s pleased that so many local residents have been so receptive to her new business.

“We’re still really new, but it’s taken off fairly quickly. I’ve gotten a lot of positive feedback,” she said. “Everyone that I’ve talked to has said, ‘This was so much fun.’ People have just been amazingly receptive to this.”

“If you’re having a birthday party and you go to a place, you’re under the specific time frame that they give you,” she said, adding that her company also offers party packages to customers. “When I come, I’ll run the games for a few hours, but you don’t have to rush everybody out or feel rushed to open gifts or cut the cake. That’s what so great about it. But that’s not saying that adults can’t get in on the fun too,” Winkler said.

“We can go to bachelor’s or bachelorette parties, corporate events, mom and dad parties for parents,” she said. “We can come out to businesses so they can do teambuilding activities. We just have a lot of options for all kinds of age groups.”

And if there’s one thing that she enjoys the most about her parties, Winkler said it’s seeing complete strangers create a bond and work as a team while playing a laser tag game.

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Whether you’re at your home, church, school, camp or any special event – Winkler said she’ll show up with inflatable bunkers and laser guns for groups ranging from as small eight people to “huge events.”

“You put people on teams, and they don’t necessarily know each other when they’re first put on a team. But when the game is over, they walk off feeling like great buddies because there’s a certain sense of camaraderie you get when you’re in a certain type of war scenario that connects you,” she said.

“That’s just really interesting and neat to see, because that’s what we’re all about.”

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ally Lucas is an example of a true Renaissance woman.

With 2 degrees from Columbia College, a successful and demanding real estate career, and a young family to care for, who would think she would have the time or energy to take on yet another commitment? Her newest adventure? Homeschooling.

That’s right – she’s a working mom who plans on homeschooling her 2nd grade daughter in the fall. How exactly, you may ask, is she going to do that? And why would she want to with all the other involvements she has?

“I just know how quickly our children grow up. I don’t want to miss out on any more of their little lives than I have to,” Sally says.

Though Sally had a few friends who were homeschooling, she had never really considered it for her own family because of her work schedule. She began to research some options and was intrigued about the flexibility of home education and the quality of education that homeschooled kids get.

“One of the things I’m excited about is being able to tailor my child’s education. Since I am her mother, I really know what makes her tick. I know her strengths and her weakness, and I think teaching her myself is going to allow for some more creativity than what she

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might get in a large classroom environment,” says Sally.

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Another benefit for homeschoolers is the opportunity to impart Biblical instruction, something that also really spoke to Sally.

“As a Christian, it is so important that my children really understand what it means to serve the Lord. That’s not something that can be talked about in schools anymore. But at home, I’ll be able to teach them those really important values.”

And about her busy work schedule?

“Well, it’s going to be interesting to see how we work that out! Thankfully, my job does have some flexibility to it, so I’m planning on being organized and structured with our day,” Sally says.

“I am committed to the listings and clients I have now and can expand the real estate business in the future, but I can never get back these early years of just being a mom!”

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Sweet SUMMERTIME

by Lori Samples Duncan

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magine it’s the first weekend of summer and you’ve made payments all year round on your in ground swimming pool. The steaks are bought, the veggies are skewered and marinated, everyone is wearing their new swimming attire. I peek out the back window and notice the water level is at least four inches lower than it was two days before. I am convincing myself water evaporates more quickly in the midlands when my husband calls my cell and says, “I think we have a leak in the pool.”

Needless to say we had options, cover it up and spend the summer cooped up in the house, drive to the beach on weekends with gas prices creeping over 3.50 daily, or replace the liner with vacation money and have a summer long vacation.

If you don’t have a pool, it already feels like this might be the summer to get one.

A few weeks prior a friend had referred me to a pool company, Sapphire Pools. She sang their praises and after I contacted them, they came out and got our pool ready for summer. They tried to correct a mistake we made. Long story short, their vinyl specialist told me the liner might not make it through summer but if I had any problems to give them a call.

That is precisely what I did when we found the

hole. The same evening Brian McGarry with Sapphire Pools had someone come by my house to take a look. By the following day we had a plan, and a tentative date to put the new liner in. I have to say if you have a pool you know what I am telling you is not the normal.

It’s hot in South Carolina in the Summer, Spring and Fall. I was so thankful for the referral and so pleased with his response time. I asked Brian if I could tell my readers about Sapphire Pools. If you don’t have a pool, it already feels like this might be the summer to get one. If you have one, consider Sapphire Pools for all of your in ground swimming pool needs.

Professional, courteous, friendly and highly recommended, their website www.mysapphirepool. com is filled with testimonials from other families who have had the same pleasant experience as we have. Thanks Brian for not allowing us to miss one more weekend outside in this beautiful South Carolina weather!

For more information, call Sapphire Pools at (803) 4073773 or visit their website at www.mysapphirepool.com. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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Stilettos to Sneakers: THE DOUBLE LIFE OF A WORKING MOM

by Raven Yonemura

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t’s Wednesday morning and I wake up to my 11 month old son testing the sound barrier by yelling, “MaMa”.

I immediately feel regret as I look at the clock realizing that I have failed, yet again, at getting up “early” to start my day.

In my ideal world, the mornings hold enough time for a brisk walk followed by breakfast and a few spare minutes of playtime with my son, Nolan. Too bad I have never actually been able to bring this “ideal world” to reality. I continue to deny the fact that I am not a natural morning person. After a quick shower I get both myself and my son ready for the day, by this time my husband has already made his 45 minute drive to work and likely taken at least two meetings.

On the morning commute to work, I again find myself trying to figure out how we got to a world where the average cost of keeping one infant in a child-care center is greater than tuition at public college.

I arrive at work hit my desk and get into gear. Before I know it, I’m swept up into the familiar sea of phone, email, meetings, and deadlines that will continue until I notice the time and dash out to pick up my son at daycare. I enjoy the work I do and my near decade of experience in corporate marketing and advertising has taught me to really choose the work I’m passionate about. So when

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I was presented the opportunity to help launch and market Columbia’s first green hotel I jumped in full force ready for the challenge of being both Career Woman and Supermom. But, I can’t deny that there is a difference in who I am now and how I work to balance all the vari-

The reality of this double life is that I’m neither of those people I pretend to be. I’m so much more… ous roles in my life. Pre-mommy, I was a die-hard office late-nighter, often bragging that I got my best work done after most people went home and appreciated a tight deadline. Now, the close of the workday is tough, since there always seem to be a few more things I could accomplish to get myself into position for a better morning the next day. I swear

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Raven and Nolan the clock moves at an insane pace as I make every attempt to wrap the day up nice and neat both for my clients and myself.

Leaving work brings me back to my other role, that employee’s alter ego, Supermom. She is armed with a calendar of playdates, the latest research on child development and, of course, advice on everything from starting table food to choosing the safest car seat on the market. She takes the occasional sick-day with her child (cell phone on and emails mounting) and spends more time that she would like to admit wondering if the stay-at-home moms feel as overwhelmed as she does at times.

The reality of this double life is that I’m neither of those people I pretend to be. I’m so much more…a wife, a mother, a colleague, a best friend. I love being a mom and I love having a career with an outlet for adult interaction, so why all the pretending?

It comes down to pressure: mostly the kind we put on ourselves. Tell me you can’t have a successful career and be a good mom, and I’ll go to whatever lengths it takes to prove

you wrong. Who I am in reality falls somewhere between the roles I play each day. The real me actually straddles many worlds; coming late to important meetings because the pediatrician finally called about Nolan’s cough or calling in to work on a Saturday because I need to make sure that one department is aware of a change a client has requested within another department.

The price of this crazy ruse is the quarterly “breakdown,” as my husband and I have come to call it.

That’s where I question everything, starting with my hairstyle and working down the list. There are usually tears and lots of reminders that what makes me truly happy is having the love of my family along with the gratification I get from career successes. The breakdown feels good, and is almost refreshingly necessary for me. I take a deep breath, re-set the alarm and prepare to jump back into my double-agent life the next day.

Raven Yonemura is Director of Marketing for Holiday Inn Hotel & Suites Columbia-Airport. You can learn more about them at www.holidayinn.com/ westcolumbia or see their ad on page 5.

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The Back 9

by Tyler Ryan

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t was in April of nineteen ninety-three, that Ron Simpson fell in love with the Indian River Golf Course. It was during his first round at the eighteen hole course just off of Platt Springs in West Columbia that he looked around and said, “I love this place.” Little did Ron know at the time that nearly twenty years later he would be the general manager.

Ron wasn’t new to the sport, he had played golf his whole life. He’s played just about every course in the Palmetto State. He even toured on the US Army Golf Team. So it is safe to say he knew Utopia when he found it. “Golfers are a funny group,” he said, “we find a place we like and it is where we stay.” Ron went on to say, “in all the years he has played Indian River, it doesn’t get old.”

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In nineteen ninety-nine, Ron became more than a golfer at the club by joining the membership drives and other committees. One focus of the membership committee was building up the number of females who played the sport. His wife was an avid player, however, the percentages of women were very low, not only at Indian River, but in the entire game of golf.

Until that point, Ron said, there was a feeling that golf was a “man’s sport,” citing the example that his wife worked at a company with eight hundred employees, and she was the only female golfer.

Although over the last decade, that tide has changed as evidenced by the winnings in the LPGA (Ladies Professional Golf Association), which have consistently been forty to sixty million annually. The influence of women is also seen in pro shops, where you can often find more apparel and gear for the female golfer than their male counterparts.

Ron is very proud of Indian River’s commitment to local schools and young players. The course is open to Pelion and White Knoll junior varsity and varsity golf teams who have the opportunity to practice for free weekday afternoons. Indian River also provides a

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Ron Simpson course to the schools for tournaments.

Ron pointed out that many of the high school players are young ladies, who are “eating up the guys.”

Indian River was originally designed

by Lyndell Young and built by Lewis Young in the early nineties. Now led

by Ron, he and the ten members who make up the staff take pride in every aspect of the club, from the care of the greens and clubhouse to how they treat the members and each other. “I may be the general manager, but I will jump on a tractor and do what I have to do,” Ron said speaking to the teamwork that exists. That pride also extends to the residents who live on the course, who often feel like the eighteen holes are just an extension of their own back yards.

Indian River boasts twenty-five acres of newly renovated greens over about two hundred and eight acres and is known as a place to relax and enjoy the game.

When asked about the difference at Indian River, Ron said with a smile, “It’s about people skills. If they know you appreciate them, they’ll come back.” www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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PEACE OF MIND

Can Flow with the Water in Your Pipes New Technology Saves Your Wallet and Our World

by Tammy Ferris

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rom taking a shower to flushing the toilet to simply getting a drink from the tap, so much of what we do in our homes involves water. Our dependence on water and Americans’ quest to become more eco-friendly is resulting in major innovation in the plumbing industry – innovation that can save you money and help preserve the environment too.

Have you ever gotten steamed because there was no hot water left when it was your turn to take a shower? Well, how does endless hot water sound?

You can have it now with a tankless hot water heater. Take it from me, a master plumber and the owner of a tankless system, my utility bills went down roughly 30% now that I don’t have to keep a whole tank full of water heated all the time. It’s better for the environment too since all the parts are either replaceable or recyclable.

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ficiency and low-flush toilets. These newer toilets use only 1.6 gallons of water per flush, whereas, some of the older ones use up to 7 gallons per flush. Upgrading to a more efficient toilet would reduce your water bill and help decrease the massive waste of water that experts estimate is up to 1.6 billion gallons a day.

Water is making its way into our homes in many different ways these days. The best option now is PEX Piping. It’s a thick wall plastic pipe that’s very strong and flexible and it’s virtually seamless,

so it’s rare that it would ever have to be replaced.

It’s different from PVC pipes that are commonly used in water systems and sewer lines. PVC pipes have seams and joints that can eventually give way to the destructive power of water and to root growth. Roots clogging sewer lines is a problem we’re seeing quite often here in South Carolina – especially in older homes that still have Terra Cotta pipes. Those pipes essentially are made of the same material as the terra cotta planters you often see. They were only made to last 30 years and are no longer manufactured.

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Upgrading to a more efficient toilet would reduce your water bill and help decrease the massive waste of water that experts estimate is up to 1.6 billion gallons a day. businesses for some time, but it’s relatively new for residential customers. Trenchless pipe bursting is eco-friendly because sewer repair experts usually only have to dig a couple small holes in the yard to gain access to the deteriorating pipe. Then they insert a cable which carries in the replacement pipe while it bursts the old one.

This process takes half the time of traditional sewer replacement, and in many cases, it costs even less.

The beauty of trenchless is that

homeowners don’t have to watch backhoes tear up their expensive landscaping or driveways when they need sewer repairs. Harriet Burns owns a home on Lake Murray and she recently contracted with Gene Love to replace the pipes that go from her house to her septic tank. Ms. Burns said, “After Gene Love left, I couldn’t tell that they had been here. The big thing is that the process didn’t disturb our established yard, including my boxwood trees.”

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Does it carry the appropriate workers’ comp and liability insurance?

Does it guarantee its work?

How long has it been in the community?

Tammy Ferris is the owner of Gene Love Plumbing, Air and Electric, serving the greater Columbia, South Carolina area for more than 30 years. Gene Love plumbers contain and control water and guarantee their work. Gene Love consistently earns “Best Plumbing Company” and other service industry awards. It has a solid reputation for keeping people comfortable in their homes and offering upfront pricing as well as prompt and respectful service.

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Celebrating 25 Years of Service

by Sandy Olson

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he Columbia Presbyterian Community celebrates its 25th anniversary this year and although it has a reputation for quality retirement living, it is still one of the best kept secrets of the Midlands. Location may play a small part in that.

The 30 acre campus, actually located in Lexington, is tucked away at the end of DaVega Drive not far from the intersection of I-20 (Exit 61) and Hwy 378. But one of the best secrets about the community is the walking trail that leads to the banks of the Saluda River where residents can while away a summer’s afternoon with a line in the water or a good book or both!

“Our 25th anniversary is a great opportunity to dispel some long held myths about the Columbia Presbyterian Community,” said Carol McGee, marketing and sales director for the community. Because Presbyterian is in the name, many think you have to be one to live there and that has never been the case. As a not-for-profit

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ministry affiliated with the Presbyterian Church (USA) it is open to seniors of all faiths. It is also part of Presbyterian Communities of South Carolina which has been serving older adults for 53 years with locations in Clinton, Easley, Florence and Summerville.

You won’t find a more welcoming and comfortable place to live...

The Columbia Presbyterian Community offers a variety of active living choices to meet the diverse and changing needs of today’s mature adults. They include one and two bedroom patio homes clustered in two cozy cul-de-sac neighborhoods on the campus. The main building has efficiency, one and two bedroom apartments as well as residential assisted living, health services and memory support programs.

Aside from very comfortable living accommodations, the real reason people choose the Columbia Community is because of the great lifestyle that awaits them there. Say goodbye to the hassles of maintaining a big house and yard and start enjoying life enrichment programs that emphasize wellness and fun things to do from trips to big band

swing night, gardening or practicing your golf swing. Old fashioned hospitality and friendliness of both staff and residents also wins the hearts of those considering the Columbia Presbyterian Community.

You won’t find a more welcoming and comfortable place to live and that makes the community one of the best choices for retirement living in the Midlands. And once the word gets out about that, the Columbia Presbyterian Community won’t be one of the best kept secrets for very long!

To visit one of the best choices in senior living contact Carol McGee for a complimentary lunch and tour at 803-227-8342 or toll free 1-866-315-4722. See their ad below for more details.

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hen I first started Woman 2 Woman, my oldest son Trey was 8 years old. This past December he turned 15. He is becoming a man. A few weeks ago something awful happened. ur pet Tonka, a very large black lab who has been a member of our family for more than thirteen years, died.

One of Trey’s responsibilities in our home is checking on our two animals before we go to bed. Trey went out to make sure their water was fresh and that they were tucked in safe. When he came back inside I knew that something was wrong. He said, “Mom, Tonka is dead.” It was already dark outside, and our hearts were broken. The other children were sleeping, so Trey and I wrapped Tonka for burial and stood in the dark while our sweet neighbors helped us dig a grave for our four legged friend. Trey would not go to bed until it was done. I watched him as he shoveled the dirt on the grave of his first pet. Pausing only to wipe away the sweat of the humid night mingled with his tears. I am proud of him for many things. He’s a straight “A” student and a talented young man in many ways. The tears I cried that night weren’t just for Tonka. I cried for another milestone passed in the life of my son.

He was the first of our children to make me a mother. He was the first person I ever loved in my life more than I loved myself. I remember when they laid him in my arms and how my heart swelled. I literally thought I couldn’t hold all the love I had for him inside of me. I remember the tears of joy that Trent and I cried as we looked at ten perfect fingers and toes. I have prayed for each of my children every day of their lives, and I wonder if they will ever understand the depth of their parents love.

It hasnt been an easy month for me as a mother. My daughter was dealt a blow to her self-esteem this spring and I didn’t know how to help her deal with the disapointment. I wrapped her in my arms and cried with her– it was as if my own heart was breaking right along with hers. I was afraid she would give up on her dreams. I was so wrong.

She wiped her tears (we went shopping), threw back her shoulders and held her head high. Children can be so cruel and I wanted to spare her the hurt – I couldn’t. She amazes me. Sometimes I am hard on her and I understand why. She is all the best parts of both her father and me. She is mine and a blessing to us. I want to help her capture the world. She makes me laugh, she’s tender and she is tough. (She does have three brothers). She reminds me of many of the women in my family.

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My third child Colton had a heartbreak as well. He broke his arm at the beginning of baseball season and missed six weeks of his last year in Coach’s pitch. He was so disappointed to miss all those games. I took him last week to have his cast removed at Midlands Orthopedics, and as we waited on the doctor, we met a sweet man and his wife in the waiting room. Mr. Bobby as it turned out was recovering from a motorcycle accident, and his wife Iris was with him. He chatted with Colton while we waited, and after they had covered what happened to them both, he asked Colton if he had a girlfriend. Colton said, “I’ve had nine.” Mr. Bobby of course wanted to be certain Colton had not had them all at once. I never know what is going to come out of Colton’s mouth, so I waited to hear his response and tried to hide my smile as I heard him say, “Women are like a maze. Once you find your way in you can never find your way out!” Mr. Bobby laughed and nudged his wife, “Did you hear that, honey? He already has y’all figured out.”

My youngest son Ryan was at Colton’s last game. He was so sweet as he stood by the fence and watched Colton hit the first ball of the night. He began to scream, “Go Colton! Run fast!” Ryan is four, and everyone was laughing as he cheered his brother on. He looked around and smiled that great big smile and said to anyone who was listening, “Colton’s my brother.” His “th” sounds like a “d” so it sounded like “brotder” – it was so sweet.

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Oh how I love them. Each one is different; each one needs different things from me. I pray for wisdom in all my decisions regarding them especially. I wish they came with manuals. I know that as parents we want to fix their problems – to make it all better, throw money at it, and put a Band-Aid on it. Sometimes all we can do is hold them when they cry. Happy late Mother’s Day to all of you ladies, to those who have given birth and to those who chose to be mothers because someone else couldn’t or wouldn’t. God Bless us all.

Psalm 127:3 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.

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• Foot and Ankle • Joint Replacement • Pediatric Ortho Care • Diabetic Wound Care

• Outpatient Surgery Center • Epidural Steroid Injections • Nerve Conduction Studies

Trust your family’s orthopaedic health to our family of caring physicians at Midlands Orthopaedics, P.A. Ortho PM & Saturday Hours* Monday – Friday, 5:00pm – 7:00pm Saturday, 8:30am–10:30am *Some insurance restrictions may apply.

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Routine & High-risk Ob/Gyn Care Advanced Diagnostics Minimally Invasive Surgery Adolescent Care

We’re here for you... and all the women you are.

Obstetrics and Gynecology From your teen years to your golden years, all women need the services of an Ob/Gyn physician.

Women’s Services at Lexington Medical Center is proud to introduce a ne work of Ob/Gyn physician practices from which to choose. Within this comprehensive network, you’ll find smaller, more intimate single physician practices as well as larger practices with multiple locations and extra services, such as midwifery. Most importantly, you’ll find a practice you’ll feel comfortable with.

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