Lexington Woman by Woman 2 Woman Enterprises

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his summer has been eventful and exciting for us at Lexington Woman Magazine. We have had so much fun interviewing the different families that participated in this issue. It is always interesting to meet new people and what I continue to love about Lexington is what most of you love. All the different, wonderful, kind, compassionate and just “plain old” good people that help make this community one of our State’s jewels. We met a couple who celebrated their 30th year anniversary this year, a couple who are raising two children from China, a foster family that chose adoption, and we are going to be following another young couple’s adoption journey as well. We thoroughly enjoyed each and every article, each photo shoot, each meeting, and most of our articles came from readers like you. Those readers submitted an email or made a phone call, which enabled us the opportunity to speak with a family or an individual who shared a little piece of their lives with us and with you.

Lexington kids are gearing up for school again!

See our special Back to School section starting on page 26 of this issue.

A few years ago, we made a commitment to you to feature a story about a survivor in each issue. We have focused primarily on cancer survivors up until this point, because I don’t know a person in my life, or by extension, anyone else whose life has not been touched by this disease. In this issue we have featured two survivors. One is a cancer survivor and one is a military family. Both stories are inspiring. I had always hoped that the Survivor series would touch a cord within everyone who opens the pages: to understand that no matter what you face, you are stronger than you think you are. These stories show the courage of the human spirit. We have an opportunity to open our lives and minds to other’s struggles and not be so critical and condemning, especially when we haven’t walked a mile in their shoes. We had a chance to interview Mrs. Octavia Spencer from the Disney/Dreamworks collaboration of the popular book, The Help. We hope you enjoy that as well. I strongly recommend both the film and the book. I always look forward to your feedback and suggestions. We never take for granted the fact you let us in your homes and your hearts each and every issue. I can’t thank you enough for that. Until next time… Your friend,

Lori Samples Duncan Editor-in-Chief

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Joshua 1:9 This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

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From the Editor

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Janna Abbott Mike Anderson Sandy Boone Linda Brown Laura Cascadden Ruth Chapman Pastor Mark Crumpton Jewitte Dooley Lori Samples Duncan Tammy Ferris Ashley Ford Coleman D. Fowble, MD Mayor Randy Halfacre Azmi Jebali Ashby Jones AnnMargaret McCraw Cathy Novinger Jason Palmer Gretchan Reynolds Tyler Ryan Elaine Samples Dr. Michelle Welch Jennifer Wilson Leslie Wilson Pam Criscione Ubl

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Things We Love!

4 Things We Love about Lexington!

Events

5 What’s Happening in Lexington?

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Talk of the Town with Mayor Randy Halfacre Cotton Grill Has Great New Deals! Kitchen Corner with Cotton Grill Chef Jason Palmer Love for a Cure 2011 Changing the Inside Outlook of a Room with Fabric Here We Grow Again Friday Night Lights Mediterranean Café Thanks Lexington Marching for Healthier Babies: Christina LeGrand’s Story Meet Octavia Spencer Meet One of Lexington’s Newest Business Owners: Patti Mack

Celebrating the in You!

Survivor

18 Freedom Isn’t Free 19 Celebrating Angela Morton 21 State House Butterfly Release

Fashion

22 Mae’s on Main

Pets

24 Don’t Be ‘Bugged’ by Your Pets

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School Days Heritage Christian School The Benefits of Dance or Music for Children Making a Difference

Life on the Lake

32 Life on the Lake with Mark and Mandy Radin

Professional

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Amy McElrath: Finding Her Own Way Are You Even Tempered? How I Became a Business Woman Without Meaning To

Love by Activation 41 42 44 45 46

Love Rescued Me The Gissendanner’s Adoption Story Foster to Adopt: Meet the Pelleys Starting a Family Our Chosen Child

Health & Wellness 50 51 52 55 56

Still Going Strong Recovery is Possible Skin Talk with Dr. Michelle Welch Sleep Apnea The “New” Total Hip

59 Business & Web Directory

Personal Note

60 Love Caused by Activation Oops! We made a mistake in our last issue on page 32 of our Fashion feature. Our model Marty should have been listed as Madelyn Dukes. See Madelyn on page 22 of this issue!

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Things We love About Lexington! by Lori Samples Duncan

ere are some of the things we love about Lexington:

New Summer Salad at Cotton Grill! They have lots of new salads on the menu, but my personal favorite is the Turkey Bacon Ranch. This is a great place to meet a girlfriend or take your husband/wife on date night.

Lake Murray Tours This solid mahogany boat is still cruising the waters, all open top and lower deck, and has a stellar crew. If you haven’t taken a cruise this season, call them and have dinner and see the purple martins at Lake Murray. It is quite a sight to see.

Craig Reagin on Main Street This store is keeping the men in our lives looking sharp and on top of their game. How wonderful to have a men’s clothing store right here on Main Street of Lexington.

The Plant Shop (I love this idea!) They send plants instead of just floral arrangements. You can send someone a gift that keeps giving each season as it blooms. Something they can plant in their backyard or keep in their home. They are also available for landscaping consultations and design.

Introducing Columbia’s first eco-friendly full-service hotel designed for LEED certification

Thanks A Latte Located in the McAllister’s Deli parking lot in Lexington, Thanks A Latte has wonderful sugar free mocha lattes. Not to mention the owner has a heart for the community.

At the Holiday Inn Hotel & Suites Columbia-Airport, we’re passionate about green lodging. Designed to meet LEED silver certification, our hotel is built from eco-friendly materials and operates with the focus of better heatlh for you and the environment. Our location in West Columbia, SC is near everything, conserving your time and gas.

The Lexington Woman Bead Called Blessings, this bead is part of the Bead It to BEAT IT! program through Dems Jewelers. When you purchase our bead, you will be supporting Pets, Inc. A special thanks to Dems for honoring Lexington Woman with such a gift!

• Sporting News Grill Restaurant • Saltwater filtered pool • Cardio Fitness Center • Wired & Wireless Internet • 24 Hr Sundry Shop • Business Center & Board Room • Free Airport Shuttle

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Lexington One students succeed at Special Olympics World Games Lexington County School District One Superintendent Karen Woodward congratulates Lexington High Student Leigh Garner and White Knoll High Student Demi Hiepner for their success at the Special Olympics World Games held in Athens, Greece. Lexington High Teacher Jennifer Brucker and White Knoll High Teacher Jonny Thompson join their students at the Lexington One Board meeting. Garner won fourth place in Equestrian Dressage and Equestrian Working Trail. She placed sixth in Equestrian English Equitation. Hiepner won silver medals in Doubles Tennis and Mixed Doubles Tennis.

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What’s Lexington? Vacation Bible School “Hometown Nazareth Where Jesus was a Kid” August 1 – 5, 5:30 – 8:30 p.m. Lexington Church of God 1228 SouthLake Drive, Lexington www.lexcog.com

Lexington’s Local Farmers’ Market August 4, 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. 109 Old Chapin Road, Lexington

Find local produce, plants, bath and body products, SC foods and local meats. Take part in the volunteer benefit for MEALS-ONWHEELS – bring a canned good. For information or to vendor, call 957-3602 or send an email to info@bringingyoubaskets.com. Highlight your business – sponsor a day! ~Live broadcast on WLXM 107.9~

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Lexington Medical Center Foundation Speaker Series Featuring Ray Tanner August 23 at 6 p.m.

Lexington Medical Center Foundation welcomes Ray Tanner. Although he has been inundated with requests from around the state and nation, Ray Tanner has agreed to come back to Lexington Medical Center Foundation for one of his first speaking events in the Midlands since securing the back-to-back National Championship. Reserve your tickets early by calling (803) 791-2540. There will be a silent auction, and limited seats are available! Dinner tickets are $75, and table sponsorships are $1,000. We look forward to seeing you there! For more information, visit their website or call (803) 791-2540. www.lexmed.com

Lake Murray Symphony Orchestra Gala Fundraiser September 29, 6:30 – 9:30 p.m., River Center at Saluda Shoals Park

Wine and Waltzes (with a touch of Germany). Silent auction, buffet, beer and wine. Dance to Dick Goodwin’s Band and the Lake Murray Symphony Orchestra. For ticket information, visit the website below or call (803) 400-3540. www.LMSO.org

Women’s Night Out October 11 Silent Auction at 5 p.m., Speaker at 6:30 p.m., Embassy Suites Hotel, Columbia

A yearly awareness and educational event to highlight October as National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. The evening opens with a health and wellness exhibit, information on breast cancer risks and screening recommendations. Participants enjoy dinner and an opportunity to hear a survivor speaker discuss the importance of regular screening and early detection. There will also be health information exhibits and opportunities to meet some of our LMC physicians. Emory Austin – “Surviving Cancer and loving life” Cancer Survivor and Motivational Speaker, shares her fascinating story of Surviving Cancer and Loving Life! Emory Austin has been there, understands your struggles, and has a strong heart and mind connection with those whose lives are affected by Cancer. In her case, it was Breast Cancer; in her husband’s situation it was Leukemia. But — there is always a ‘but.’ And — always look for the ‘and.’ Nothing exists on its own! None of us do, either. For reservations, call (803) 936-8850. www.lexmed.com

The Southern Patriot Cruise for Lexington Medical Center Foundation August 29, 5:30 p.m. (tentative)

This is a fundraising event for the Lexington Medical Center Foundation, dedicated to the Breast Cancer programs at Lexington Medical Center. For more information call (803) 7912540. www.lexmed.com

Oktoberfest 2011 October 22 Main Street, Lexington

The parade starts at 11 a.m. Family fun will be held from 12 p.m. until 5 p.m., and Rocktoberfest begins at 5 and lasts until 10 p.m.

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he Town of Lexington understands that in order to grow effectively and efficiently, our downtown MUST thrive. The Town has taken several avenues, to ensure that the future of our community will start with our gateway, Main St.

as the Lexington Wine Walk on Main, Oktoberfest and the new Farmers Market, which runs the 2nd and 4th Saturday (June-October). In addition to these events, the Town has upgraded the beautification on Main St., creating a desirable location. Through lamp posts, pole banners displaying upcoming events or achievements i.e. 150th Anniversary, benches, and landscaping.

One of the most important initiatives to this is our Vision Plan, which is currently being created. Through this plan, we know that downtown Lexington needs to be a destination for shopping, entertainment and cultural activities. The primary focus for public investment should be to strengthen and revitalize the historic core... the heart and soul of Lexington. The final recommended approach that will be multi-pronged and multi-phased; with several aspects that must work together to succeed our longterm commitment.

Another way to keep the foot traffic on Main St. is to have more retail merchants. In addition to long-time staple Mae’s, a new upscale men’s boutique, Craig Reagan, has opened. Citizens can also enjoy food and spirits at Main St. Café, or the new opened Libby’s, who both cater to the lunch and dinner crowds.

Consultants of Carolina (803) 339-4855 CVS (803) 951-0786 Dollar Days (803) 356-0850 Dr. Energy Savers (803) 424-8380 El Chico (803) 772-0770 HRC Medical of Columbia (803) 454-8500 Hutto Plaza (803) 429-6782 Salon M (803) 996-0117 Sprint Telecom (803) 726-4753 The Gourmet Garage (803) 359-1044

As you can see, the heart and soul of Lexington is its downtown district. By strengthening downtown, the remainder of the Town of Lexington will be stronger and remind citizens why they chose our community to live, work, play, learn and worship.

In order to achieve these goals, Main Street must be transformed into the “it” destination for downtown Lexington. The Town has already taken several steps in this direction with events such

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COTTON GRILL

Has GREAT New Deals! Check out the current deals Cotton Grill in the Old Mill has to offer! Wednesday Winervention: All bottles of wine are half off. Let us help you get over hump day without breaking the wallet!

Facebook Fridays: Friend us on Facebook so you can get our Facebook Friday specials, just for our Friends!

Craft Beer Thursdays: To help introduce our Craft Beer Selection, we are offering $1 off ALL craft beer bottles and drafts PLUS $3 off all craft beer pitchers!

Check all of this out and our regular happy hour specials at www.cottongrill.com. Also, click on our YouTube link to see Chef Jay in action cooking up some of your favorite dishes.

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CRAFT BEER vs. WINE PAIRINGS DINNER August 16th at 6:30 p.m. ...led by two of our beer and wine experts. Chef Jay will be preparing a Four Course Dinner with a main focus on SC Grown ingredients. Space is limited to 36 guests. Buy tickets in advance at the restaurant for $45 including taxes and tips.

Kitchen Corner with Cotton Grill Chef Jason Palmer Strawberry Peach Cobbler with Streusel Topping Local peaches and berries are in full swing this time of the year and make an amazing dessert. Cobbler Ingredients: • 2 ½ # fresh peaches peeled, pitted and diced • 2 ½ # fresh strawberries sliced • 3 cups sugar • 1 t orange extract • ½ cup corn starch • ½ cup brandy Lightly cook the fruit and sugar till all the water is extracted. Add the orange extract and bring to a simmer. Mix the corn starch and Brandy together and make a paste. Add the brandy mixture to the fruit. Stir till thick and remove from the heat. Place in a bake safe container and set aside. Streusel Topping: • ½ # cubed cold butter • 5 oz. sugar • 4 oz. brown sugar

• ½ t salt • 1 t cinnamon • 1 # pastry flour

CHEF’S NOTE: If you do not have pastry flour, take 2 T of Corn starch and place in the bottom of a measuring cup. Top the cup off with all purpose flour and sift together 3 times. Cut the butter and flour with a fork till completely blended. Lay on a sheet tray and toast in the oven on 300 degrees. Stir 1/2 way through and break up any chunks larger than a quarter. The streusel should be light and nutty in flavor. Top the fruit with the streusel and toast off in the oven. This goes great with homemade vanilla Ice cream so break out the churn and enjoy your summer, it’ll be gone before you know it! — Chef Jay

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Love for a Cure 2011 by Pam Criscione Ubl

n only its second year of play, the Love for a Cure Tennis Tournament, sponsored by the Lexington County Recreation and Aging Commission, is truly forging the success of the one-day tennis competition format. Held for the first time in 2010, Love for a Cure was organized in memory of LCRAC’s, esteemed former Director Jay Criscione, who lost his battle with bile duct cancer in 2009. The Love for a Cure adult competition is sanctioned by the United States Tennis Association, and offers competitive play for USTA points. Last year’s players were enthusiastic about the one-day format. Held this year on May 7 at the Lexington County Tennis Complex, participation in the 2011 Tournament increased dramatically, with players coming from as far as Washington, DC. Tournament Referee Lee Ward says: “This year’s event was a real success, actually doubling in size. The number of players climbed from fifty-one to one hundred and twenty, and the events played increased from seven to sixteen.” Jorge Andrew, LCRAC Tennis Director expects the popularity of Love for a Cure to continue to grow. “One day tournaments make perfect sense for today’s tennis players. Most participants are very busy, and have multiple commitments on a weekend. It’s ideal for them to be able to participate in a competition which begins and concludes all in one-day,” Andrew says.

with great food and generous gifts donated by local Lexington restaurants and merchants, including The Bistro and Martini Bar, Chen’s Chinese, Cotton Grill, Kovachi’s, Travinias, and Yummie Creations. Weekend-getaway prizes were provided by DoubleTree by Hilton, Wingate by Wyndham – Columbia/ Lexington, Staybridge Suites-Columbia, Holiday Inn & Suites-West Columbia, Hampton Inn West Columbia and Courtyard Marriott Columbia Downtown. The Tournament winners received etched wine glass trophies, complete with invitations for a free glass of wine. While the tennis and the festivities are enjoyed by both players and spectators, no one ever loses site of the vital goal of Love for a Cure: to

On Friday evening, both players and guests enjoyed a festive celebration,

benefit cancer patients by raising funds for the Lexington Medical Center Foundation. The LMCF helps with many areas of cancer care, and is an essential support system for patients waging their individual battles with the disease. The Foundation not only helps with the purchase of vital medications and supplies for those who can not afford them, but also provides assistance with the basic needs of living, like utilities and living expenses, so that patients can direct their energies toward getting well. LMCF also focuses on prevention, through services like the Mobile Mammography Unit, which travels throughout the community, providing screening to more than 2,500 women a year. LCRAC’s Director of Sports Marketing, Paulette Criscione, is already planning for next year’s event. “Jay was an innovator in sports and recreation, and I know he’d be tremendously proud of this Tournament, especially the incredible efforts of the volunteers whose hard work ultimately makes Love for a Cure a reality.” Those interested in volunteering or being a sponsor for the 2012 event should contact Paulette, at (803) 359-1312. Thanks to Kimberly Campbell for all of her extra efforts with this year’s event!

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The magical feeling of a circus carousel can be created by hanging pendants from ceiling mounted lighting. Each pendant clips to the center fastener and drapes to their position on the far walls. Using multi-colored fabrics create a gala atmosphere.

Painted floor cloth in a black and white checker with an apple green border with black and white chevrons is a fresh take on a colonial period.

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Change out old frumpy pillows with new, current colors, using a vary of fabric textures, styles and trims. Using sheer fabric, especially those with contemporary designs and open weaves, is very popular. It makes a funky, stylish drapery panel hung from a swing rod alongside a doorway. Baby’s nursery details are even sweeter with the use of sheer fabrics.

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Grow Again by Linda Brown

hether you realize it or not, you probably know someone who has in some way experienced a crisis pregnancy situation. Maybe it’s a relative, friend or neighbor. Maybe it’s someone you’ve sat next to in church or a mom on your son’s t-ball team. Maybe it was you or your own daughter. For the last twenty-eight years, Daybreak Crisis Pregnancy Center has been serving our community through their expanding Columbia location. On July 1st, Daybreak brought their services to Lexington at 601 Northwood, Suite A. For ladies in this situation, the most common feeling is overwhelming fear. And whether you’ve experienced this particular kind of life altering situation or one of another kind, you know that fear can cloud judgment, reasoning and thinking. Women experiencing the fear of a crisis pregnancy situation often consider doing things they would normally never dream of doing. At Daybreak, a woman realizes she has options. She realizes she is not alone. She realizes that God has a

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Linda Brown baby. Adoption processes and options have changed enormously over the years and Daybreak is able to offer referrals and help to give accurate information on adoption procedures. In addition to these services, Daybreak offers childbirth/parenting classes, dating/ relationship classes, post abortion support groups, Bible studies and Men’s mentoring programs. Counselors at Daybreak help clients uncover the root of their

problems and discover that what they need most is Jesus’ perfect plan for love, relationships, marriage, sex and children. Jesus is the only One who can bring true restoration. So Daybreak brings its clients before Him. Daybreak is a non-profit organization supported by individuals and churches in the community. Because of generous supporters, Daybreak is able to offer their services at no charge. Pregnancy tests, ul-

Let’s Talk trasounds, counseling, maternity clothes, diapers, formula and baby clothes are all available to women experiencing a crisis pregnancy situation. This fall Daybreak will bring a program called “No Apologies, No Regrets” to Lexington. Approaching the issue of unplanned pregnancies from the prevention standpoint, the program is directed to middle school aged girls. The focus of these girls clubs is friendship, relationships, self-esteem, beauty, family, boundaries, faith and so much more. A club for Lexington Middle School will begin in the fall and will meet at the Northwood location. “Project 180” is another program that brings the critical message that “abstinence is freedom” to local youth groups, high schools and college campuses. Each fall, Daybreak hosts a fundraising banquet and this year is no exception! On Thursday, October 20th, Daybreak will be featuring world renowned speaker Gianna Jessen, (http://vimeo.com/5387154) a survivor herself of a third trimester saline abortion. For more information on the Daybreak banquet, please visit www.daybreakcpc.org.

Daybreak is a non-profit organization supported by individuals and churches in the community. Young people regardless of their faith, their socio-economic background or family situation, are not immune to the reality of unplanned pregnancies. Now, support is available in Lexington. If you know someone who could benefit from the services Daybreak has to offer, please consider telling them about Daybreak. One client, who doesn’t wish to be identified, responded this way: “Thank you for all that you do. For your calmness and genuine concern. For your willingness. For your time. For who you are. I just wanted to let you know that you are making a difference and touching lives.” If you’re interested in volunteering or supporting Daybreak with a financial gift, please contact Linda Brown at (803) 808-0778.

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Congratulations! Lexington Woman is happy to announce Kimberly Hamrick wed Timothy Robert Watson at 5 p.m. on July 30th, 2011 at First Baptist Church of Columbia, SC. Reverend Steve Phillips officiated.

Kimberly, the daughter of William and Susan Hamrick of Irmo, SC, is the granddaughter of the late Mr. and Mrs. William Hamrick Sr. of Augusta Georgia and Mr. Theodore Weaver and the late Mrs. Theodore Weaver of Grand Rapids, MI. Kimberly was given in marriage by her father. She wore a floor length ball gown of ivory taffeta featuring an embroidered crystal lace at the hem. The bride wore a Tacori headpiece which was a wedding gift from the groom and carried a bouquet of lime hydrangeas, peonies, and gardenias, a favorite flower of her late grandmother Georgette Hamrick. Timothy, the son of Marion “Buddy” and Vicki Watson of Lexington, SC, is the grandson of the late Mr. and Mrs. Lex Watson of Columbia and Mr. Robert Hinton and the late Mrs. Doris Hinton of Charleston. After the ceremony, guests enjoyed a southern style reception at Ellis Hall. Congratulations to this sweet couple. We wish them a lifetime of love and happiness together.

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Friday Night Lights

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exington’s Community Radio Station, 107.9 WLXM, in cooperation with county school district one, is pleased to announce live coverage of Lexington High School football. Local radio WLXM will carry home and away games hosted by three seasoned sports broadcasters. Jim Seay, a well-known voice in the Midlands, has extensive play-by-play experience. In 2009, he was presented with the Distinguished Service Award by the S.C. Football Coaches Association. Seay served as stadium/coliseum announcer for the University of South Carolina as early as 1966 and was the official statistics announcer for Gamecock football. He has announced Newberry College football since 1997. From 1971 to 1983, Seay covered as many as 30 games per year for schools throughout the central Midlands. Jim Seay is synonymous with sports, especially local sports, his voice recognized as an institution at Columbia’s Memorial Stadium and Spring Valley’s Harry Parone Stadium. John Daye, a name well known and respected as a championship high school football coach. A graduate of Appalachian State University and the University of South Carolina, Coach Daye began coaching football at Chesterfield High School in 1965, serving as head coach and athletic director. His long and successful career has taken him to high schools in Hartsville, Columbia, Orangeburg-Wilkinson, Brookland-Cayce, Irmo, and most recently at Heathwood Hall Episcopal School. Daye retired after coaching 39 years with an impressive winning record. John will bring a

wealth of knowledge to the press box on game day. Brad Cunningham also has a noteworthy resume in broadcast sports. A native of Columbia, he worked for WUSC radio and participated in broadcasts of USC football, baseball, and basketball games. While at WUSC, he co-hosted “Bleacher Seat 714,” a sports talk show. Brad also has extensive print media experience covering sports, having been professionally employed by newspapers such as the Time News, Hendersonville, North Carolina, the North Myrtle Beach Times, and the Marietta Daily Journal in Marietta, Georgia. Cunningham, attorney for the Town of Lexington, welcomes the opportunity to return to the broadcast booth for Wildcat Football. Season coverage includes the Monday night coaches show with LHS head football coach and athletic director, Scott Early. The show will air on Mondays, 7 p.m. to 8 p.m., from the Flight Deck Restaurant. On game day, coverage begins with Brad Cunningham and the tail-gate show from 6:30 p.m. to 7 p.m. The WLXM pregame show, live from the press box, is from 7 p.m. until the 7:30 p.m. kickoff. A game wrap-up immediately follows the final whistle. In addition to live game

coverage, a post-game program from the WLXM studios will provide scores and news from other area high schools. A new venture for WLXM is their live streaming audio, available at the station’s website, www. lakemurrayradio.com. This allows anyone with Internet access the ability to tune-in live to 107.9 WLXM. Coverage of Lexington High School Wildcat Football will, of course, be available. Lake Murray Broadcasting, Inc, a nonprofit organization, broadcasts from the Shoppes at Flight Deck in the heart of Lexington. The station’s format is a varied mix of what is best described as ‘Classic Variety’ and includes an upbeat mix of Classic Hits, Beach/Shag, Pop, Country, Vintage R&B, Motown, Classic Rock & Roll, and the best of Lexington’s local talent and musicians. WLXM is proud to support LHS athletics which, for the second year in a row, was recognized as the Midland’s best! In 2011, LHS received the S.C. High School League’s Governor’s Cup Award for the state’s highest achieving athletics program. Tune-in for all the excitement and action of Lexington High School athletics, beginning with Wildcat Football.

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ecause of you, our business has succeeded and grown. It has always been our objective to serve great meals using the finest ingredients available.

At the Med Café we emphasize quality and consistency. One way of achieving this goal is by purchasing fresh produce grown right here in Lexington. We custom order our meats from a local butcher shop and our cakes are also from a local bakery. Fresh fish and shrimp comes from Charleston on a daily basis The menu at the Med Café is diversified, offering chicken, steaks, pork chops, hamburgers, seafood, sandwiches, and vegetarian dishes. It also includes some authentic cuisine such as hummus and falafel. All of our food is prepared on site, never pre-fixed. The Med Café concept is good healthy cooking, but flavorful. Our marinades, sauces and salad dressing are prepared fresh using no artificial additives. Most of the entrees are either grilled or broiled, with very little frying. Some people may think of Mediterranean cuisine as being spicy, when it actually is not. What it is, though, is loaded with tasty flavor

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The Med Café concept is good healthy cooking, but flavorful. question is about our chicken. We are famous for having moist, flavorful grilled chicken. Everyone who orders it wonders what makes it so good. We also have a homemade salad dressing that is very pleasing to our diners.

Azmi Jebali These questions by our customers are a testimony to the quality, flavor, freshness, and uniqueness of our food. This is what sets us apart from all the other area restaurants. Beside the excellent food, you will find a nice selection of the finest wines, including a reserve list. A large variety of domestic and imported beer is also available. Our motto at the Med Café is “Up scale, not up tight.” The restaurant is modern and tastefully decorated, but the atmosphere is casual and relaxed. We are located in the heart of Lexington on Main Street, next door to the Comfort Suites hotel.

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CHRISTINA LEGRAND’S STORY by Elaine Samples

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The LeGrand Family Christina was able to see Hayden for a brief moment after she was born before she was carried to the special care nursery. It would be three days before Christina was allowed to see her little girl again. “Without the blanket wrapped around her,” recalls Christina, “she was tiny. She was in an isolate and had wires and cords going everywhere…I had never seen a baby that small (3.10 lbs), never held a baby that small, I had never had a baby...this was my baby. I was terrified for her. She floored me and I became very upset, so I had to go back to my room because it wasn’t good for my blood pressure. I wanted to help her, to make it all better.” After about a week in the hospital, Christina was discharged, but she and her husband were sent home without their little bundle of joy. “My husband (Eric) and I went home with our empty car seat, balloons, flowers and with visiting hours to see our daughter,” remembers Christina. “After about three weeks, Hayden was able to go home. Our baby was wireless! Life Lesson learned: No matter what you do,

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how you plan it, or how perfect you plan on things to be...you can’t plan everything and life happens. My experience and those of others is what made me passionate about the March of Dimes.” Christina raised money for the March for Babies before Hayden was born, thorough her employer, Michelin, but this past year was the first time her entire family participated. “Hayden walked backwards, picked up 1000 sticks and rocks along the way, and rode on our shoulders, too. However, we made it …and next year we will take the wagon.” When asked what she would tell people who don’t think having a preemie is that serious, Christina says, “Depending on the prematurity of the baby, it can be deadly or cause life long health problems and issues. A lot of premature babies are very small and fragile without their organs fully developed, but yet at this small state...they are fighting for their lives. All of the “little” things that a lot of people take for granted are celebrated for a premature baby:

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remature birth occurs between eight and ten percent of all pregnancies in America. Chances are, each of us has known someone who has delivered prematurely, as is the case with Christina LeGrand. Set to deliver a little girl on November 19, 2008, she was placed on bed rest by her doctor on September 30, and just a week later, learned that she had developed HELPP Syndrome. HELLP is an abbreviation of the main findings: Hemolytic anemia, Elevated Liver enzymes and Low Platelet Count. The only cure for HELPP Syndrome is delivery, as it can be fatal to both mother and child. Approximately six weeks early, Hayden was delivered by emergency C-section on October 8, weighing in at 4 pounds and measuring 18 inches. something as simple as wearing clothes or holding your baby for a long period of time (or even at all) is something that parents have to wait for. Premature Babies depend on the doctors to keep them healthy and to give them what they need to live. The March of Dimes is in this fight with them.” Hayden was the top youth fundraiser for the March of Dimes in Columbia this year. I asked Christina what she and her husband are teaching their daughter about giving back. “We are instilling those same morals and values my parents taught me: to treat others the way you want to be treated, not to be “ugly,” to share, and to always say, “thank you.” Hayden’s first “big” thing that she participated in was walking in the March for Babies this year. When she is older, she can understand the value of what she did. She doesn’t quite understand the impact of giving back just yet, but she has fun. Some day, I hope she will find something she is passionate about and give back to the community on her own. We have been very fortunate to have

Hayden two great healthy well behaved kids” (Christina is also a stepmom to 16 year old “Austin”). Christina had so many wonderful things to say and I would like to share them all, but because of layouts and word constraints, I thought it fitting to leave you with this from her, “I would like to challenge others in the community to get involved. Get involved with something that you are passionate about. There is a lot of hate and negativity in the world. Find something that makes you happy or something you are passionate about. Make a difference in the life of others. Together we can make a difference.” Indeed we can.

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Meet Octavia Spencer by Lori Samples Duncan

he Help by Kathryn Stockett was not my typical read. I like a feel good story from beginning to end. Books are my escape and, therefore, if I am going to give you ten hours or ten minutes of my life, “that I can never get back,” as my eight year old says, I want to smile. I want to laugh. There is little about 1962 Mississippi that creates that feeling in me. I have always struggled with injustice, especially that of slavery and segregation. I agreed to read the book, see the movie, and to be frank with my readers about what I discovered. I read the book. I cried, laughed, and became angry within the first few chapters. Perhaps it isn’t politically correct to say, but I enjoyed it. For a generation of women who didn’t necessarily “have help,” it will open your mind to the complexity of relationships that you had never considered. The movie was thought provoking, honest and an emotional rollercoaster, much like the book. There is no big finale…it is a work of fiction, based on real life experiences, so it doesn’t end with an earth shattering change or a big “we win,” nor does it offer acknowledgement from ignorant characters about their ridiculous behavior. What did the movie do? It opened my eyes to fact that, in many ways, women haven’t changed much in the last fifty years. We do what we have to do to get through the day. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad, and sometimes it’s just plain ugly. I sat in the theatre for a pre-screening with men and women, both African American and Caucasian. I smiled because at least now we can all watch together without fear or condemnation. At the end of the day, we are just people. Sometimes we get it right, and sometimes we get it very wrong. I enjoyed the in-

teresting, complex relationships and was inspired by the wonderfully heroic roles of the African American women in the movie. I was given the opportunity to speak with Octavia Spencer regarding The Help and here is what she had to say. LW: How did you come by the part of Minny? Octavia: I have a personal relationship with Tate Taylor, the director/writer, and Brunson Green the producer. Kathryn Stockett is a childhood friend of Tate’s and they have known each other for thirty years. Kathryn and I were introduced while she was formulating the character of Minny. Since she drew inspiration for the voice of Aibileen from Demetri, her childhood caregiver, I think we met at a strange time in that my physicality and certain aspects of my personality influenced what she thought Minny should be. LW: Growing up in a different era than the woman you portrayed in the movie, how did you prepare for this role? Octavia: I am fortunate that I was born in a more tolerant time in our nation’s history and I am fortunate the struggles of the true life women and men that Minny, Aibileen, and Constantine represent forged the path for me, so I didn’t have to have

Octavia Spencer those experiences. I did do a lot of research. LW: Being known as one of the funniest women in Hollywood, was it a stretch for you to play such a serious role? Octavia: I have never seen African American characters from this era actually written by a white author painted in such a multifaceted way. I wanted to be a part of it from that regard. I also thought, “How often do character actors like me get this opportunity to play such a multifaceted character?” Being able to play alongside such wonderful actors is also a once in a lifetime opportunity. I was thrilled. When you add my personal relationships with many people associated with the film … it’s just one of those things that really seldom happen. LW: What is the most exciting thing about being involved in this film for you? Octavia: It is a socially relevant movie. We have never seen African Americans from this prospective. It has always been as facilitators of the plot point, never really as the heroines or the protagonist. I was happy to be such an integral part of this project and prospective, because I really don’t like a lot of literature from this era, as we have been relegated to “Mammies.” We are so

much more multifaceted than that. LW: I found it interesting how the characters were able to separate themselves from their “job” and be so loving to those white children, whose mother’s were so wicked to them. Octavia: Isn’t that the way of women anyway? Regardless of race, we take our lumps and we do it graciously, gratefully and quietly. LW: One of our Facebook fans submitted a question for Minny/Octavia “How did it feel to know you had the opportunity to change so many lives for the better by telling “your” story?” (Hope Halfacre Bryant) Octavia: It is awe inspiring … indefinable, really. Again, I don’t know what it is like to suffer spousal abuse or any type of abuse like that. But what I hope it is that Minny is a beacon of hope, because sometimes women do what they think is best for their family and stay in an abusive environment. It takes a lot of courage to stay and it takes a lot of courage to leave. What I hope is that they realize starting over, being safe and having healthy relationships that aren’t abusive… there is victory in that and a sense of strength in that. I hope that comes across. (It’s) one of those things I really haven’t come to terms with yet.

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Patti Mack

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few years ago Patti Mack was faced with a situation that is becoming increasingly more common: her mother went missing for 5 hours in another state. She had a health issue and became dehydrated after she locked her keys in her house while she was in the yard in June. She wandered away and ended up at a car dealership 3 miles away with no identification on her and no idea who or where she was. She was taken to a hospital and eventually her family was tracked down. Patti found out after that harrowing experience that her life was about to change for the better. Upon her mother’s discharge from the hospital it became apparent that she could no longer live alone and so Patti began calling assisted living facilities. An assisted living facility is one in which a resident lives on the assisted living site and is cared for, only when necessary. Help is always nearby, on campus. When Patti left messages for the facilities she did not receive a return phone call. In fact, one person did return her call after receiving 4 messages and finally confided that she did not return the call because they were at capacity and knew she could not help. Then a social worker recommended that she call an in home caregiver. In this situation, the patient is able to remain in their own home, with

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Patti Mack a live-in or occasional caregiver who checks in frequently with the patient. Patti realized what a tremendous need there was for this service, when her calls went unanswered or unreturned. About the same time all

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Patti realized what a tremendous need there was for this service, when her calls went unanswered or unreturned. of this was going on, the company she worked for merged with another and her position, that of a certified public accountant, was eliminated. She and her husband thought about

purchasing a franchise of some sort and they worked with a franchise broker. The broker brought the Bright Star opportunity, as well as others, to the table. But Patti says that “Bright Star kept coming to the surface.” So, on June 20, 2011 she opened the Bright Star franchise. Bright Star offers companion care, personal care, medication reminders, transportation to doctor appointments, light housekeeping and cooking meals for their clients. They also offer nanny care and respite care. Nanny care would typically be for a family of 3 or 4 children. Respite care is for caregivers who need some time off, i.e. live in family members who want to take a short vacation or parents of special

Let’s Talk needs children who need some time away, perhaps for dinner, etc. They can also provide hospice care or assistance with women who are on bedrest for at risk pregnancies. What sets them apart is that there is no minimum time limit. They offer services from 1 hour up to 24 hours/day. They are also not limited to seniors, although for now that is the bulk of their business. They currently have a staff of 2 office personnel and 15 caregivers. And what really sets them apart is a 24/7 local, live voice when you call the number, (803) 358-8315. All of their caregivers and staff are drug screened, background and federal sex offender searches are conducted as well as being licensed, insured and bonded. They also guarantee compatibility and will continue working with the client until they are satisfied.

In addition to the credentialing process for the caseworkers, there is a Director of Nursing who makes the initial assessment and provides oversight for the sitters. She is there for the peace of mind for the clients and caseworkers, in case something doesn’t seem quite right; for example, if Mrs. Smith is slurring her speech or refusing to take her medications, etc. the DON is there to provide assistance to the caseworker should a situation arise that is unfamiliar to them. Hopefully, a scenario like Patti’s will not arise in your future, but should you need some assistance for your elder parent, special needs child or any other situation, please give Patti Mack at Bright Star a call. Welcome to Lexington, Patti!

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t has been the best and worst time in my life,” says Corporal Hamilton Kinard of his time since being literally blown off his gunner position by an improvised explosive device (I.E.D.), while escorting a convoy outside of Bagdad.

Convoy escorts were nothing new to Hamilton, who had served in the National Guard since 1990. In fact, in the two years leading up to the attack that forever changed his life, and that of his family, he had logged over seventy-three thousand miles “in country” escorting convoys safely across hostile territory. On March 15, 2005, approximately twenty miles south of Bagdad, while serving on the lead gun truck, Hamilton and his unit were caught in an ambush cross fire situation while crossing an overpass. Approximately forty feet from his truck, a Vehicle borne I.E.D. (VBED) detonated, which blew him off his position as top gunner, “bouncing” him down the interstate. It was two and a half days later that he woke up at Camp Victory, where he began the “biggest battle in my life.” Engagements with the enemy were nothing new for him, as he estimates he had discharged some six thousand rounds in combat situations, and been in the area of over twenty IED attacks, in-

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cluding three in emanate danger. “There was one that got me,” he says. The explosion left Hamilton with a myriad of injuries, including a concussion, traumatic brain injury, cervical strain, degenerative disc disease, and hearing loss in both ears, however, the injuries haven’t necessarily been the hardest things to deal with. “There are only a certain few that you can go into detail with,” he explains about trying to find someone he could talk to about the incident, “if you haven’t been there, there’s no understanding. Anyone can nod their head.” He says it’s frustrating dealing with some of the long term effects of his injuries, which include scar tissue in the brain, confusion, balance issues, hearing, and the emotional impact of the event. Even trying to explain to people why he reacts to things in a certain way is difficult. “It’s tough day to day,” he says, as he looks at his wife, Britnee, “if it wasn’t for my wife and family…” those challenges would be much more difficult.

With all the negativity that one could feel...some might find it hard to continue to be positive, but the Kinard’s have certainly found a way. Even with the permanent injuries he sustained that day and in spite of some limitations placed on him Hamilton continued to serve in the Guard, up until last year. Finally, after receiving his Purple Heart, he took a medical retirement due to the continuing impact of the incident. It was after retirement that Hamilton and his family faced some of the biggest battles, includ-

Celebrating the ing finding the right place to turn for care and continued support. To look at him he appears no worse for the wear, however, the injuries he carries and internal; both physically and emotionally. “There are a lot of great individuals out there that are misunderstood and having the same troubles I am,” he says. The Kinards say that finding the right care, and necessary treatments isn’t as easy as you might think through the channels that have traditionally been laid out for our veterans. Britnee says that because of the sheer numbers of patients, at times, the medical staff, although very well intentioned, cannot give the care, or have the knowledge these heroes need. “It’s easy to medicate,” Britnee says but points out that medication doesn’t address the root of the problem. Much of the Kinard’s time is now spent together, as Britnee takes care of her husband and their kids, while they navigate the never ending paperwork, treatments, and appointments that have become part of their daily life. With all the negativity that one could feel from not only that day in March of 2005, but the day to day struggle with its lasting impact, some might find it hard to continue to be positive, but the Kinard’s have certainly found a way. “I get to spend a lot of time with my kids,” Hamilton says of their children, twelve year old Ellerbe and one year old Blayne. “He’s a great dad,” says Britnee of her husband. The Kinard’s have also made it their mission to help other soldiers that may be walking the same path of not knowing where to turn, and how to deal with the seemingly never ending paperwork and steps needed to get the right treatment. They have created a database of information, phone numbers, and advice, all with the goal to help the other heroes who have served our country. For Cpl. Hamilton Kinard and his family, it wasn’t about being a casualty of war, it was about surviving, and creating a strong family bond that serves as an inspiration. Freedom friends, isn’t free.

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Celebrating Angela Morton by Elaine Samples

s many of our readers know, Lexington Woman celebrates the survivor in all of us. Much of what we do as a company is inspired by the brave women and men who courageously face cancer, look it dead in the face, and fight with all of their might. One of these such persons is Angela Morton. Her favorite quote is Matthew 5:13-16 13 “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” 14

starfish, “I made a difference to that one.” After relating the story, Angela will leave the listener with a silver keychain emblazoned with a starfish and the words, “Everyone Matters;” a reminder that they too have worth and are not unnoticed. She regularly encourages people to practice Random Acts of Kindness and challenges others to “make someone smile today.”

Angela Morton moves through this life with a quiet grace and compassion, willingly extended to all she encounters.

Angela Angela Morton moves through this life with a quiet grace and compassion, willingly extended to all she encounters. It is not uncommon to see Angela approach a mere acquaintance or stranger and share with them the story of the starfish. She recounts how a man walking on the beach inquires of a young girl as to why she bothered throwing the beached starfish back into the ocean when there were hundreds of starfish and only one of her. The man states, “You can’t possibly make a difference,” and the girl responds, as she bends down to pick up the

Angela was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Before her diagnosis, she worked with other women, helping them to find their own strength, their own voice, the divinity within themselves. While so much has changed since Angela heard those frightening words, “You have cancer,” her desire to share the peace she has found remains unchanged. Her faith has been strengthened, not shaken. As a testament to this very thing, Angela recently wrote: “This day, I am aware of four things: • Trust that God will set your foot upon a rock higher than yourself. continued on next page www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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• Know that everybody who showed up in your life was supposed to.

• If life was easy, we wouldn’t need God. • And because we have turned all of our hurts over to God, we can forgive everyone every thing.”

Rather than view her battle with cancer as a burden or punishment, Angela chooses to feel honored that God trusts her and knows that all of her experiences up to this time in her life have prepared her to continue her journey in acceptance and faith. Cancer or no cancer, Angela will readily share the peace with which she lives and how she found it. The main difference her diagnosis has made is that now, if you watch her, she will show you what it looks like to live in faith and trust in love. I am reminded of a scripture in Isaiah 48:10 that says, “See, I have refined you, though not as silver, I have tested you in the furnace of affliction,” and a story I heard afterwards. A silversmith explained that in refining silver, one needed to hold the medal in middle of the fire where the flames were hottest as to burn away all impurities. The silversmith said that he had to sit and hold the silver in front of the fire the entire time, and his eyes could never leave the silver. For if the silver was left a moment too long in the flames, it would be destroyed. Asked when he knows the silver is fully refined, the silversmith answered, “Oh, that’s easy – when I see my image in it.” Perhaps Angela understands the refining process and she has chosen to stand in the fire with grace

Cancer or no cancer, Angela will readily share the peace with which she lives and how she found it. and poise, knowing fully that her heavenly father is right there, his eyes never leaving her for a moment.

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And she continues to embody Hebrews 12:1 faith. “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”

Flowers are God’s way of smiling! These sun kissed petals remind us of the light of love.

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Don’t Miss the State House Butterfly Release in Observance of Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month by Cathy Novinger

eautiful butterflies will fill the air at the SC State House September 27, 2011 at 5:30 p.m. as the SC Ovarian Cancer Foundation Riverbanks Region Chapter holds its annual “Whispers” event to promote awareness of the whispering symptoms of ovarian cancer. September is National Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month. Participants will release hundreds of butterflies in memory or honor of a relative or friend who has been affected by ovarian cancer and other female-related cancers. Each year more than 20,000 women will be diagnosed with ovarian cancer, and of those more than 15,000 will lose their lives. One in 72 women will develop some form of ovarian cancer in their lifetime. Ovarian cancer is called “the disease that whispers”, because women may not recognize the

symptoms that signal the onset. It is one of the deadliest cancers among women, often detected too late to be cured. If detected early, ovarian cancer has a 95% five-year survival rate. The survival rate drops below 25% for five-year survival for those who are in stage 3 and 5% for those diagnosed in stage 4. Ovarian cancer is never detected through pap smear examinations. Columbia businesswoman Cathy Novinger, who chairs the Chapter and is an ovarian cancer survivor said, “It’s important to understand that all women are at risk for this disease, but it does not

have to be fatal. Symptoms are vague, but they do exist. We want to make sure women know what they are and that there are tests available to aid in early detection.” Proceeds from the event help further the Chapter’s mission of educating women in the Midlands about ovarian cancer.

For more information on how to participate in the butterfly release, please contact Sandy Boozer or Cathy Novinger at 803-926-3462.

All women are at risk for ovarian cancer. • Ovarian cancer is one of the ﬁve leading causes of cancer death in American women. • Ovarian cancer occurs in approximately one in 72 women. • Each year, over 20,000 women are diagnosed with ovarian cancer and about 15,000 women die. • A Pap smear is not a test for ovarian cancer. It detects cervical cancer.

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Abdominal pressure Bloating and discomfort Unusual fatigue Shortness of breath Unexplained weight ﬂuctuation Constant feeling of fullness

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Mae’s ON MAIN by Ashley Ford

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ast year, Connie Stuckey decided to stop by Mae’s of Lexington on Main Street to speak with the store’s owner, Mae Buzhardt. Nearly 20 years had passed since she had approached Buzhardt about buying the popular women’s clothing store on Main Street, but on that particular day, Stuckey said she just dropped by the store because she wanted some advice. “I decided to do another business here in Lexington, and I came into her store to ask Mae for her opinion about it. And I said, ‘By the way, remember 20 years ago I told you that I would be interested in buying the company if you wanted to sell?’ She said, ‘My husband is very sick and I need to sell.’ So five weeks later, I had the store,” says Stuckey.

...in addition to great clothes, customers can expect to find everything from handbags and scarves, to jewelry and other accessories. Now, eight months later, Stuckey said she has completely revitalized everything from the merchandise to the decor of the women’s clothing boutique – all while remaining true to Buzhardt’s mission of providing

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Fashion Annie Konduros (Outfit 1) Jeans from “Beija Flor”, Smock Shirt with a “Anthony Alexander” Belt Handmade in North Carolina (Outfit 2) Black Tunic with White Trim and White Leggings from “Joseph Ribkoff ”

Alexandra Bowen Black Jacket and Pants “Joseph Ribkoff ” Madelyn Dukes White Dress from “Eliza J” Marley Stokes White and Gold Dress from “Karlie”

‘We’re buying more contemporary clothing that will attract the more professional clients, and we’re trying to cater to the petite and larger sizes...’ the store’s clients with exceptional customer service and great clothes.

Connie Stuckey

And in addition to great clothes, customers can expect to find everything from handbags and scarves, to jewelry and other accessories.

the same vendors that were previously used by Buzhardt.

Stuckey, who spent years of her professional life managing IT areas of large corporations, said the shop has expanded to also include styles for professional women in their 20s and 30s. “We’re buying more contemporary clothing that will attract the more professional clients, and we’re trying to cater to the petite and larger sizes – you know, just a wider variety of people,” she said. And long-time customers of boutique, which was originally opened nearly 40 years ago, may also be pleased that Stuckey will continue to use

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“I’m trying to bring in the current styles. I’m using the same vendors that she used, but I think she was very conservative with the types of clothes that she brought in,” she said. “We’re not trying to get too contemporary, but we’ll be bringing in more of the trendy and best-selling items for the company.” And while Stuckey said that she has received a lot of positive feedback from local residents about the look and revitalization from the store, not everything has completely changed. Some of the employees who worked with Buzhardt for years are still employed.

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Pets

Don’t Be ‘Bugged’ by Your Pets

by Tim Loonam DVM

hen we think of parasites affecting humans, images of children with swollen bellies living in filthy conditions in foreign countries come to mind. We’re blessed in the USA with clean water sources and safe food processing and handling in our food industry, which prevent most human parasite infections. Our pets, however, are frequently not as discriminating on what they eat and where they drink water.

They’re also more susceptible to biting insects that can carry parasites and are more likely to come in contact with wild animals, a frequent reservoir of parasitic diseases. Zoonotic infections are diseases passed between humans and animals, and parasitic diseases still top that list. I see hookworm, roundworm, and protozoan infections such as Giardia daily in my veterinary practice and all of these are potentially zoonotic. Here are some recommendations to help protect your pet and you from parasites.

owners. Does your pet hunt or travel with you? Does your pet roam outside in the woods and have contact with wild or stray animals? Do you board your pet or take them to a groomer? Also, your family’s health issues need to be considered. Some people are more susceptible to certain zoonotic and parasitic infections.

The Center for Disease Control (CDC) and the Companion Animal Parasite Council (CAPC) are both groups of top physicians, veterinarians, and researchers who track zoonotic parasitic diseases. The CDC and CAPC strongly support pet ownership since pets provide many benefits to humans including comfort and companionship. Our pets require parasite prevention tailored to their individual needs and lifestyle with their

Include your veterinarian in risk assessment discussions with your doctor if you or a family member is at risk such as: • People undergoing immunosuppressive therapy (chemotherapy, organ transplant or autoimmune patients) • People with diabetes or advanced liver disease

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Clients will frequently tell me they know their pets don’t have parasites because they never see anything in their pet’s stool. Many parasites such as Giardia are single-cell organisms and require a microscope for detection. Other ‘worms’ are rarely seen in the feces, and again, are only detected by finding parasite eggs or larva with a microscope. Also clients tell me their pet is 100% indoor-only or only goes outside on a leash. What they don’t realize is insects such as beetles and ‘palmetto bugs’ and even small lizards that get into our homes at night can be carriers of parasites for our pets. In order to maintain a healthy lifestyle with your family and pets the CDC and the CAPC recommend: • Feed pets cooked or prepared food (not raw diets) and provide fresh, clean water. • Cover your children’s sandboxes when not in use and protect garden areas from fecal contamination. • Pick up feces immediately when ever walking a dog in a public area; remove feces from the backyard environment daily.

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Parasitic infections in your pets are easily preventable at minimal expense with help from your Lexington area veterinarian. All year long, every pet, whether kept indoors or outdoors should receive a broad spectrum parasite dewormer effective against heartworm, intestinal parasites, fleas and ticks. All puppies and kittens should receive intestinal parasite dewormer every two weeks until they begin their heartworm prevention, and pregnant and nursing dogs and cats need an appropriate dewormer until their litters are weaned. For more information about parasites in your pets visit the CAPC’s website at www.capcvet.org. Pet owners’ concerns about human illness should be directed to their physicians. For additional information, refer to the CDC at www. cdc.gov/healthypets.

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Back to School!

SCHOOL DAYS by Ashby Jones

ummer will soon be over and Lexington Women will be readying themselves for back-to-school tasks. First, there are the supply lists provided by our local schools. Endless lists of “necessities” each child should purchase for his or her classroom. Some of the necessities are obvious: pencils and erasers, scissors, glue, paper. Some of the necessities are curious: baby wipes, antibacterial gel, Kleenex.

After purchasing endless boxes of Kleenex and antibacterial gel, I always wonder if our school children are really just germ-carrying, moving beings who attend school each morning with washed faces and clean clothes, but return with colonies of germ-animals attached to their bodies. And the teachers are scared of being attacked by the germ-animals and bringing home colonies to their own families. So they insist we buy them vats of antibacterial gel. But that’s just my theory.

Year after year, we learn the new routine, we turn out freshly scrubbed faces with packed backpacks. Even though our local vendors do a terrific job of arranging all of these supplies in an orderly fashion, and even displaying the lists of each and every school, this purchasing event completely stresses me out. Last year, we decided to take advantage of the purchase-ahead-of-time op-

tion. The school apparently pulls together all the necessities and boxes them up for you. This didn’t really alleviate the stress for me because all summer I wondered if I had, in fact, PAID for the purchase-aheadof-time option, or did I just THINK I had done it.

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And then we ask ourselves if we are actually ready. Lexington Women wonder, how did I ever get those children up and ready and out the door by 7:20 AM last year and how in the world am I going to do it again? You can’t just wake them up and throw them in the car, they have to be fed. Oh, and they have to have their hair brushed and their teeth brushed. AND, you have to sign some pieces of paper, and tear off some other pieces of paper and return them in the left side of the folder (not the right side). Also, someone is going to want you to send some cash in an envelope for some fundraiser or another. Even more precarious, the fundraiser might be for a GIFT for a teacher or special assistant, which means it is a secret and you must deliver the money carefully, like you are a CIA operative only pretending to be a Lexington Woman.

But we get through it, don’t we? Year after year, we learn the new routine, we turn out freshly scrubbed faces with packed backpacks. We initial papers in the correct spot, and we sign some other papers. We tear things off along dotted lines. We give permission for our children to go on field trips, even if they are a hundred miles from home and it makes us nervous. We say little prayers: God, let them have a happy day today. Let them learn some things, and play with friends. Let them experiment, and speak their minds. But God, make them be quiet when they are getting on the teacher’s nerves. Oh and God, thank you for these teachers. Thank you for our schools. And thank you for these Lexington Women who are helping me stay on top of all this!

Ashby is a lawyer with the firm of Kinard and Jones, LLC and the author of her blog: http://youhavetogettoknowher.blogspot.com

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Back to School!

Heritage Christian Academy

by Elaine Samples

eritage Christian Academy has been quietly going about the business of providing a unique and rigorous educational experience to its students for the past fifteen years. The independent school was founded in 1996 after a dedication ceremony was held at Lexington Presbyterian Church on Barr Road in Lexington. Dr. Gil Rogers was one of the school’s founders and recalls that occasion very well. “We were excited to see our efforts to open this school were coming to fruition so we invited many local leaders. I was almost speechless to see who all came to support the school.” The ceremony was attended by Gov. David Beasley, Congressman Joe Wilson, State Rep. Lonnie Koon, Sheriff James Meetze, and former Lexington Mayor Eli Mack. The school met for the first few years in the church, but eventually grew into its own ten acre campus at 649 Barr Road. Heritage now offers a comprehensive education to students from kindergarten to eighth grade. The classical curriculum is somewhat unique in that it has been carefully selected from some of the most successful schools in the country. Heritage students are also exposed to art history, classical music, French and Latin in addition to the traditional core subjects. The school is also distinctively Christian. “What we mean by that is our students are encouraged to develop a world view that integrates our Christian faith within all areas of learning. To me an important distinguishing characteristic of Heritage is that biblical

principles are the foundation for fostering interpersonal relationships in the classroom setting,” says Mrs. Julie Payne, who teaches Kindergarten at Heritage. The school’s stated purpose is to provide students with a challenging educational experience designed to help them know, love and practice all that is true, good and excellent. Dr. Gil Rogers continues to serve on the school’s governing board. “They say that the proof is in the pudding and after 15 years Heritage now has a track record of producing high achievers at the high school, collegiate, and graduate levels.” Five Heritage grads have made perfect scores on all or part of the SAT or ACT college entrance exams. Heritage has had at least two students who became student body presidents of their high schools. Several students have received full academic scholarships to college. Many more have received significant partial scholarships. One Heritage alum started dental school this year. Two more plan to go to medical school next year. Another is getting her doctorate in Pharmacy. One student is even in graduate school in China studying the Mandarin language. Michelle Nations, a Pharmacy student on a full scholarship at

the University at South Carolina says, “Heritage prepared me for high school and college in a way that I believe no other school could have done.” The classical curriculum and Christian worldview are only part of what makes Heritage unique. Because the educational program is accelerated, the school makes every effort to make sure new students are a good fit for the school. Admission testing is used to assess academic readiness. The result is a relatively small class size with students who are capable of learning at a brisk pace. Heritage graduates will move on to ninth grade with up to four high school credits. Heritage is accredited by the SC Independent Schools Association and is a member of the prestigious Educational Records Bureau (ERB). The ERB is a membership organization located in New York City founded in 1927 that includes about 2,000 high-achieving, college prep schools worldwide. Membership requires sponsorship by two other ERB schools and a college preparatory curriculum.

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The Benefits of Music or Dance for Children by Janna Abbott

ave you ever seen your baby stop what he was doing in order to bounce to music? Have you been amazed by the creative and dramatic movements of your child? You know your child loves music!

Did you know music and movement is inherent in each of us? Music stimulates every area of the brain. When movement is added to music, the brain receives even more stimuli, encouraging the growth of vital neurotransmitters. Through music and movement we find a way to express ourselves and soothe ourselves. We develop a sense of grace â&#x20AC;&#x201C; and motor, language, cognitive, emotional and social skills. Much research has been done on the connection between music and academic excellence. All studies show that children who are involved in consistent music or dance practice score higher than their peers on standardized tests, and are less likely to be involved in anti-social, addictive or criminal behavior. When young children are enrolled in dance or Kindermusik classes, they receive the opportunity to have fun with peers while developing their intellectual, social and physical skills â&#x20AC;&#x201C; plus coordination and discipline. They gain self confidence with their emerging abilities.

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Kindermusik begins classes with babies, stimulating the child while giving bonding time with the parent. It also provides the parent with the opportunity to network with other adults. As the child progresses through Kindermusik classes, he/she learns better self expression, is guided through imaginative musical activities, and finally, begins to read music through musical games.

preciate the beauty of the performing arts: all this while discovering their own unique talents. Music Makers studio has Creative Movement, Ballet, Tap, Jazz & Contemporary, and Praise Dance classes â&#x20AC;&#x201C; providing a way for everyone to express themselves. Learning to sing or to play a musical instrument is a lifelong pleasure. While we may not be able to participate in athletics or other physical activities as we get older, we will be able to play our instrument or sing through life and after retirement. Music Makers offers private lessons in piano, voice, violin, viola, cello, percussion, guitar, bass guitar, saxophone, clarinet, trombone, trumpet, baritone, French horn, tuba, harmonica and recorder. Half-hour lessons are offered in a friendly, supportive atmosphere.

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What makes Glenforest School different from other schools? When it comes to working with nontraditional learners in the classroom, Glenforest teachers just “get it,” plain and simple. Students experience a different instruction level and class sizes are much smaller (an average of just seven students in each class). Faculty and staff are informed of students’ unique learning needs and various classroom accommodations and a child is never labeled for their differences. All Glenforest students are “mainstreamed,” spending each day moving from classroom to classroom alongside their peers. Since special education is integrated and woven throughout the regular school curriculum, there are no self-contained classrooms and individual students are not pulled out of class for special instruction or resource. Although Glenforest’s approach to education is clearly non-traditional, we do not claim our methods are any better or any worse than those employed by other schools. Glenforest aims to function as a supplement to the public school system, not a replacement for it; and intends to prepare students to return back to public education after rebuilding confidence, developing coping skills, increasing self-esteem and acquiring successful learning tools during their stay. The school’s main goal is to reach students who are “falling through the cracks” in education and keep them in school before they become disenchanted with learning altogether. What are the basics I need to know? Glenforest School is a K – 12, SACS Accredited, independent nonprofit day school that exclusively works with chil-

dren who learn differently. Catering to the needs of educationally underserved children in the Midlands is the very foundation of our school, central to our mission, the basis of our curriculum, and daily concern. Glenforest has spent three decades cultivating a comprehensive curriculum and school setting that accommodates a full-spectrum of unique learning styles and needs. The program is specifically designed to work with each student’s specific challenges- targeting specific areas of weakness or struggle while zeroing in on individual gifts and talents; always remaining focused on accomplishments and strengths. We currently work with students who have a full-spectrum of learning differences including Attention Deficit Disorder/Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD), Asperger’s Syndrome, Autism Spectrum Disorders, Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, Dyscalculia, Central Auditory Processing Disorder, and several others. What will you do academically, socially and physically to meet my child’s needs? Our team of experienced, State-Certified teachers is nurturing, creative, friendly, helpful, enthusiastic and impeccably trained to ensure that all students receive the optimal educational environment and experience for supporting their individual academic, social, and emotional needs. Our rich curriculum tailored to the unique needs of each child and the highly personalized attention each student receives allows them to thrive, sustain growth, build character and independently develop as a learner. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

Life on the Lake

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Life on the Lake

o we didn’t choose the biggest home or the most expensive home on Lake

Murray, however we think we chose just the right home for “Life on the Lake” in this issue. Mark and Mandy Radin have a lovely home on Lake Murray with immaculate landscaping and an interior that is perfect for entertaining and making guests feel welcome. The couple themselves are as inviting as their lovely home. Mark and Mandy Radin sat down with Lexington Woman at their home to share a little about life on the lake with our readers. Originally from Chicago, Mark moved to England with his parents around 1971, where he and Mandy met. Mar-

rying in 1981, the Radins stayed in England until December 2007. In 2005, they began the process of moving, with their two sons, to the United States. Choosing to make Lexington their families’ new home was about a two year process. Fast continued on next page

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His corvette, believe it or not, went to England when he did in 1971 (with a US Service man who was stationed there for four or five years ) and returned to America with him. Mark purchased the car literally in pieces (40 boxes to be exact) and spent 2 years piecing it back together (out of the 40 boxes that were there, about 20 boxes were missing!) one part at a time. We thought we’d include it for all you car lovers out there!

forward a few years and the Radins are celebrating their 30 year anniversary this August. Mandy’s wedding gown is displayed in their home by the grand piano. When deciding the new town in which they would take up residence, the family made a list. First, there would need to be a good school system. Next, the town should be friendly and its residents likeable. Third, a good climate – not too hot and not too wet. Forth, there should be a quality body of water nearby. And last, but not least, there had to be East coast accessibility for family and friends who might visit. A simple internet search gave them several places to start looking for their new home. Two visits to The United States

Mark and Mandy really enjoy entertaining in their home and, of course, they enjoy all the outdoor activities that Lake Murray has to offer as part of their family’s lifestyle.

over an eighteen month period settled them on Lake Murray. The family credits a great realtor who really spent time taking them home to home until they were able to find what they felt was the perfect fit for their family as making all the difference. Mark and Mandy really enjoy entertaining in their home and, of course, they enjoy all the outdoor activities that Lake Murray has to offer as part of their family’s lifestyle. Though Mark is a retired business owner, he and Mandy have their own hobbies and activities to keep them busy (part of their secret to a successful marriage). Mandy vol-

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unteers at Harvest Hope food bank every week and she enjoys visiting with her friends, some of which are also from England. She also enjoys emailing with her sister-n-law in England. Both are kept very busy in the summer entertaining families who are visiting from across the Pond, and from other states here in the US. In fact, they were expecting guests from Georgia the day we chatted with them. Together they ensure all of the guests enjoy the lake, in fact last year they taught an 86 year old visitor how to solo ride a jet ski. And Mark is proud of his 11 for 11 (100%) success rate in teaching willing “students” how to knee board. Mark’s primary hobbies include keeping the landscaping and outside

of the house looking good, water skiing, attending the local gym and polishing his impressive 1959 Corvette. He is now offering to share his business experience with local small businesses. He is offering his time for free, but would like to generate donations for his church if any of his business advice or guidance generates extra profits. If you have an interest, please give us a call and we will be glad to put you in touch with him. They have two sons. Ben (17) a rising senior at Ben Lippen High School is actively looking at college opportunities following his graduation. Since moving their oldest son, Lee (25) has married Renee a South Carolina girl and they have recently produced Mark and Mandy’s first grandson.

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AmyFINDING McElrath: HER OWN WAY by Ashley Ford

S The former pharmaceutical saleswoman had taken as many as four years off of work to stay home and care for her four children. But as the years passed, McElrath said, she really missed selling and building relationships with people. And she knew of the perfect way to jump back into the workforce – creating a separate personal and small business insurance division within M&P Specialty Insurance, her husband and father-in-law’s successful insurance brokerage and risk management company. “The agency represents a tight niche of clients nationwide. With that foundation, what I started building two years ago was a new division within

everal years ago, stay-at-home mom Amy McElrath was itching to get back to work.

the agency, to handle the personal lines insurance needs of those existing commercial clients as well as local families and small businesses. We provide coverage for homeowners, personal autos, yachts, RVs, as well as general liability, property and workers compensation to local businesses,” she said. “That’s what I have started and that’s where we have come to develop a new product line for the agency.” McElrath said that since M&P Specialty Insurance was created more than 13 years ago: the foundation of the brokerage provides insurance coverage for clients in the crane and rigging, heavy haul and other high risk construction industries. The agency’s clients have been featured

on the Discovery Channel shows such as “Mega Movers” and “Worlds Toughest Fixes”. “But we wanted more of a local flavor, to be part of the community. So we put together a business plan and started from scratch,” she said. “When we began two years ago I was the only producer as of a few months ago, we’ve just hired another producer within that division. And we have an office of 12 people that support us. It is very exciting!” McElrath married her husband, Jason, eight years ago after meeting on a soccer field. She refers to her blended family as a “modern day Brady Bunch.” and while she loved working as a sales-

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ost people spend 60% to 90% of their time indoors, especially when the winter chill comes to town. So, it’s important that your indoor air temperature is even and the air you’re breathing is free from contaminants.

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loved being a teacher so much, I would have done it for free,” says Jean Gray, Owner/Operator of the Indian River Golf Course in West Columbia. She points out that she never meant to end up running part of the family business that was her father’s passion for nearly half a century. It was nineteen sixty-five when Jean’s father, Lewis Young, purchased a nine hole course at the base of Crowder Mountain in Gastonia called Grass Valley. He later added another nine holes to the property and appropriately renamed it Crowder Mountain Golf Course. Thus began what some might call a lynx empire which at one point, included her parents and brothers operating ten to fifteen courses over the years in North and South Carolina. Jean was a wife and mother, and “loved every minute of it. That was truly my goal in life, to be a stay at home Mom”. Once her children were all in school she was asked to teach at a Christian school and it became her passion. It combined three loves, Christianity, children, and music. In nineteen eighty-nine after moving to the North Myrtle Beach area she looked for a school to continue what she considered to be a ministry. My Mother asked, “Why are you looking for a job, when I could use your help”? At that time all the AP and AR was being done by hand at her parent’s home, the family business was still rather old school. Jean agreed, and stepped in to “help” with the accounting of

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the business and was finally able to introduce computers into the accounting process. Before she knew it, she had not only taken over the books for the family courses, but also become a general manager of one of the Myrtle Beach courses. “I truly learned by doing,” as Jean tells

Jean Gray duties at Indian River started out simple enough…just the accounting end…but it was only a few years later that she would find herself operating the course alongside her father.

...balance is important and her priorities are God, family, and work. it managing the books “opened the door,” yet she never expected it to play such a major role in her life. “But it did,” she says, remarking that in a family business “you step up and do what you have to.” She will quickly tell you that balance is important and her priorities are God, family, and work. Interestingly, although she took a college course on golf, she has never been a golfer. In nineteen ninety-two her father and brother Lyn, found a location in West Columbia. They designed and built the eighteen hole Indian River course. Just like at the Beach, her

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Jean said that she never had the desire to be a business woman, but over the years running a business in a traditionally very male dominated industry, had been tough but somewhat empowering. “I was more capable than I ever knew,” she said, “God gives you the strength to deal with whatever is put in your path to handle, and when fear tries to take over, you just do it scared.” Looking back on some of her early business meetings, she quickly realized the importance of the role she played in changing the perception of what she could bring to the table as a relative “outsider.” Although she recognized you have to “play the game,” She began to question the old way of doing things, and asking questions

that others hadn’t asked. “Let’s face it, women are more detail oriented than men,” she said, noting things like customer service, presentation, friendliness, and even the rest rooms are all staples of a successful business, but can often be overlooked through time. It’s those staples that she instills at Indian River to this day. Jean is very proud of her team, and the work ethic that her entire staff brings to the course. In talking with anyone associated with Jean or Indian River, its clear there is a passion about the course and the business. Many of the employees, including Ron Simpson, the Indian River General Manager, have been associated with Jean and her father for many years. Although she is not a golfer and never intended to become a business woman, her drive and belief in herself have continued a legacy started by her father a half century ago, and it’s important to her that the legacy continues to honor him. “A dad, three brothers, and three sons…all golfers…I didn’t stand a chance,” she said.

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My whole life, my abandonment. I often Psalms 31:16 mother has chosen questioned that someIn your unfailing love, rescue to love, her heart and one out there didn’t me. home were always want me. At times I open. My parents neveven felt unloved and 1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abide faith, hope, er were foster parents unlovable; but the love, these three; but the greatnor were they ever older I grew the more est of these is love. compensated in any obvious it became that way; but while growI was chosen and I was ing up my brothers loved. I soon realized and I each had friends who came to live that birth has nothing to do with being a with us for periods of time because of parent, it is a choice you make. their difficult home situations. The moment they arrived they were treated just I am the man I am today because my as if they had always been a part of the parents chose to love me. I was chosen. family. This never seem odd at the time, I was adopted. I was used to it. Now that I am older I see that this was very special gift that I Love rescued me. Love Saved my life. was blessed to grow up with. I want every person reading this to While I can’t speak for the many who know that you don’t have to give birth to have lived with us over the years I will be a loving parent. I am not exclusively tell you I am the man I am today beimplying parental adoption either; concause my parents chose to love me. I was sider this: you can adopt in love, your chosen. I was adopted. neighbors, your niece / nephew, children from your church, etc. Just look around When I was only a few months old, my you. I know that if you will choose to mother received a phone call. The perlove those around you, you can have son on the other end asked “Do you a profound impact on so many lives. I want a little boy?” My mother dropped am telling you that there are people all everything to pick me up and bring me around you who are starving for a hug, home. My dad came home from work who are starving to be loved and you saw me and said “who is that?” to which have so much love to give, please conmy mother replied “our son”. I want you sider sharing it with others. to know I had the BEST parents, who loved me with a love only to be comJohn 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his pared to the love of God. I knew from a very early age that I was adopted, and I am glad they were honest with me. But as I grew older particularly in my adolescent and pre teen years I struggled with the thoughts of

only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting

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When they placed that baby in my arms, it is just like if you were in a hospital and you just birthed that baby yourself. â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Lisa Gissendanner

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ive years ago, Lisa Gissendanner and her husband Monty sat anxiously in a room in Hubei, China. It had been a year since they started the adoption process for a new addition to their family. Now, it was finally time to bring their baby girl home. “When they placed that baby in my arms, it is just like if you were in a hospital and you just birthed that baby yourself,” Gissendanner said. “It’s just very emotional – you’re ecstatic with joy and love for that child that is now yours.” The couple decided to name their 10-month-old baby, Jaiden, which means “God has heard.” Two years later, they were back in China. But this time, they brought home their two-year-old son from Shaanxi. They named him Caden.

Today, Gissendanner said she feels as if her family is complete. But, she added, she also felt the same way after her biological son Will was born 15 years ago. That is, until she and her husband went on vacation and saw a couple who had two little girls from China. “Then God started stirring in our hearts about adoption, and we started researching agencies that did China adoptions,” she said. “We prayed about it for a year before finally deciding to begin the adoption process.” And while their two youngest children have fit seamlessly into their family, Gissendanner said the adoption process was anything but easy. After deciding on an agency, Gissendanner said she and her husband had to meet a laundry list of requirements. “You could not have been over 49 years old, you have to have been married two years or more, you can’t have more than four children in your home already,” she said. “You can’t have any mental disabilities, you have to have a certain income level… there’s a whole list of these qualifications that you have to meet.”

The Gissendanner Family From there, the Gissendanners began to work on their dossier, or what Lisa referred to as a “mountain of paperwork.” “And then you have to write a story on why you want to adopt, why you chose China and what you will do to ensure that your children know some of their culture as they grow up,” she said, adding that they were also required to have a social worker examine their home and family dynamics. After submitting their paperwork, the Gissendanners then had to send their dossier to the state government, Washington D.C., the Chinese Embassy in Washington D.C. and back to the adoption agency to be approved. But what was interesting about the process, Gissendanner said, is that they were not allowed to choose their child. Instead, they were only allowed to request a preferred sex and age range of their child, and were asked if they wanted a healthy or special needs child. It wasn’t until the adoption agency sent their “match” information nearly a year later that the Gissendanners found out any information on their daughter -- and even that information was limited to only a picture, her age and the orphanage where she was located. “These children are all abandoned children,” she said. “There is no record of their birth parents or

anything about them, except that they are found somewhere on the street.” Two months after receiving their match in the mail, the Gissendanners were finally able to bring their little girl home. Two years later, the Gissendanners received another phone call – the adoption agency asked if they would like to adopt a 2-year-old special needs boy. At the time, the only information that Gissendanners were told was that the boy had spina bifida occulta, the mildest form of spina bifida. Caden was misdiagnosed by the way and is a completely healthy little boy. “We got the call late Thursday afternoon and we had to let them know by Monday morning,” Gissendanner said, adding that after consulting with a local physician she and her husband decided to take a step of faith that the little boy did not in fact have spina bifida. “But we felt that this was God knocking on our door and sending us this child.” Today, with the addition of Jaiden and Caden, Gissendanner said she really feels that her family is complete. “(Adoption) is just so rewarding. I know people say all the time that my children are blessed to be here, but really we are the blessed ones,” she said. “Our family has been blessed by these two little children.”

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Meet the Pelleys

by Ruth Chapman

S The Pelley Family The Pelleys believe the SC Department of Social Services’ Foster to Adopt program gives people from all walks of life the opportunity to be forever families. According to DSS there are currently 1,336 children in foster care awaiting permanency through a plan of adoption. As of June 2011, 521 children have finalized adoptions for this year. Colleen comes in contact with many people who tell her they have thought about it, but give her reasons why they are not sure it would work. Her advice: “You don’t know until you ask!” “I think many people exclude themselves, or count themselves out who might be interested, because they don’t have the traditional family dynamic. They are single, divorced, or their children are older,” Colleen said. “There are so many different children out there from different situations; it could be that a nontraditional family could be a perfect fit for them.” For David and Colleen it was an obvious decision. David is a retired Marine First Sergeant and teacher in the Naval Junior ROTC program at White Knoll High School. Colleen is also a teacher in Lexington School District One. “The two of us were walking in the house bumping into

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each other saying ‘We’re so blessed,’ and ‘We have so much to share...,’” David said. “Now there is never a dull moment.” David describes the initial approval process as all encompassing. There are orientation sessions; finger printing and background checks of both parents; a home study to include the prospective family’s background, safety requirements and home inspections. Once the approval process was behind them, the couple began to work with the Adoption Specialist to find children who would be a good fit for their family. In the meantime, Colleen visited a website called www. adoptuskids.org and found a little boy she was drawn to after seeing his photo and profile online. She spoke with their Adoption Specialist who was originally hesitant – she may have had other children in mind, but in the end she looked into the child’s situation for the Pelleys. A little over a month later, the Pelleys received a call that they had been selected as a possible placement. After a meeting with DSS, the Pelleys went home to talk and consider making this child a part of their family. At the meeting, they had learned that the boy had Acondroplasia Dwarfism. They discussed

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itting around the dinner table with the Pelleys, you see dad, mom, and two sons – a family. However, this family isn’t what many people might call traditional. David and Colleen began their journey as foster parents, knowing that they wanted to eventually adopt through the state system.

it, prayed about it and believed that even though they didn’t have much personal experience with people who have dwarfism, they would do whatever it took to help prepare him for life.

ready, doesn’t mean that a child who is a good fit for the family is ready to walk through the door (even if he or she is out there). This is where patience, communication, and more patience comes in.

Next a meeting was set up to introduce Shawn to the Pelleys. The prospective parents were more nervous than Shawn. They had a play date with him and his Adoption Specialist at a local park. Over the next six weeks David and Colleen took turns visiting Shawn during the week, attending school functions, going to the library, museums, and even dinner at a Mexican restaurant. On the weekends, they visited with him together. During the transition he was able to visit them at their house and even stay a weekend. After everyone, including Shawn, agreed that this would be a good home for him, he came to live with them as a foster child until his adoption was finalized about a year later in 2008. A new chapter in his life had begun.

This time proved to be more difficult than the first. David says he grew frustrated and began calling the Adoption Specialist regularly. But just when he was about say “done”, Colleen calmly suggested that he let God handle it. That night David resolved to do just that. Amazingly they received a call from adoption social worker the very next day, asking them to take a child for an emergency placement.

After giving Shawn time to settle in to his forever family, the Pelleys (including Shawn) decided that they were ready to ask for another child to make a part of their family. The family agreed that another elementary school aged boy would be a good fit. But just because a family is

They are currently in the midst of adopting that child, another boy. Though the process has been an emotional one, it has been worth it. Colleen says through tears, “I just feel like before them, something was missing. And now it feels more complete.”

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e had the chance to talk with Jewitte Dooley, an attorney who helps other families adopt, about starting the process herself. photo by Clark Berry Photography

LW: Tell us if you will a little about why you and your husband made the decision to adopt? Jewitte: We have discussed adoption for years, even when we were dating. For years, adoption has been an abstract desire that we considered when discussing our future. Within the past year, that abstract idea has become a reality. Our original plan was to have a biological child and then consider adopting, but God had other plans and after much prayer we took the leap of faith. We researched our options for domestic infant adoption in South Carolina and chose to proceed with Bethany Christian Services. They have an experienced staff and wonderful training and support for adoptive families. We felt like this agency was the best fit for our family and where God was leading us. LW: Share with us as an attorney who deals with adoption what you know to expect in this process. Jewitte: Adoption law in South Carolina is focused on the best interest of the child, as almost all agree it should be. Before a child is placed with prospective adoptive parents, a preplacement investigation, more commonly called a home study, must be completed. We have completed this step of the legal process; therefore, we are officially waiting and approved for placement of a child. As an attorney practicing family and adoption law, I understand there are legal risks associated

with adoption; however I strongly believe that the joy of adoption outweighs any risk involved. We will use my experience and knowledge of the South Carolina Adoption Act to weigh each situation that is presented to us and determine what is right for our family. LW: What are your hopes as far as a date by which you think you will have a baby? Jewitte: The average wait with Bethany Christian Services is one year. If it was up to us we would be placed tomorrow; however, we are realistic and know that it could take a while. We are excited about the journey we are on and find much peace in knowing that God already has a plan in place for our family. In the interim we are enjoying preparing our home and sharing the good news with friends and family. LW: I know a lot of this process is emotional- can you tell us about that aspect of things. Jewitte: The adoption process is emotional for all the parties involved. Initially, there is the anxiety behind getting approved and completing all the necessary items to be considered as an adoptive parent. After that, the waiting game begins. Waves of anticipation, frustration and impatience clash making it one heck of a ride. We are fortunate to know many people who have adopted recently and many years ago who we can call on for encouragement and support.

We are only a couple of months into the process and have only officially been waiting for a few weeks, so I can’t say that we fully understand how hard this next year could be while we wait. As mentioned earlier, we have found that by focusing on the fact that there already is a plan for our family, it helps to calm these emotions and really brings peace to the situation. LW: I was moved when we spoke about your plans to adopt and you explained to me that it was something you had always wanted to do, can you elaborate a little on why you feel your heart is so open to the adoption process. Jewitte: To some people, adoption is plan B, but to me it was not. I have always wanted to adopt a child. I can’t remember when I actually verbalized my desire to anyone, but I know it has always been there. Although, I would be fibbing if I told you I didn’t also have the same desire to have biological children. To me it wasn’t a choice between adoption or pregnancy, I wanted both. I truly believe they are each individually unique and special. Despite the fact these options are very different, the end result is the same- the building of a family. LW: What do you feel is different today in adoption than ten years ago? Jewitte: Confidentially in adoption has evolved allowing more openness in adoption. Years ago, birth parents

We are excited about the journey we are on... had little to no contact with the adoptive family or the child once the child was placed in the home, and even more rarely did the birth parents have visits with the child. Today there is much more communication and Bethany Christian Services calls this “openness.” Openness is the scale of contact and communication between the birth family and the adoptive family. This can range from pictures, to letters, to emails, phone calls, and even visits. Some of the communication is directly between the families, and sometimes the adoption agency is used as a facilitator. LW: Is there anything else you would like to add or share with us or our readers about this process. Jewitte: There is a tremendous need for adoptions in our state, whether its through adoption agencies or through the Department of Social Services or otherwise. As a result, there are considerable federal and state tax incentives which can be coupled with employer adoption benefits and grants to make adoption more affordable than often rumored. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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The Legacy of the Adopted Child

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OUR Chosen CHILD by Sandy Boone, CCRC, SC Clinical Research Center

ne of my favorite poems is “The Legacy of the Adopted Child”. It hangs in my daughter’s bedroom in honor of who she is….the product of two families. In so many ways, Savannah is like many seven year olds. She is smart, determined and full of energy. But unlike many children, her arrival to our family was anything but ordinary. Her journey to our family began long before she was ever born. Our oldest child was the product of a very difficult pregnancy. I truly believe that the reason both of us are alive today is because of the care that we received from the physicians at Columbia Women’s Healthcare. After our son was born, we didn’t think we could ever want for anything more. However after four years, it became obvious to my husband and me that God had other plans. At a synod-wide church meeting, Lutheran Family Services was encouraging people to consider international adoption. I knew as soon as I heard the message, that adoption from South Korea was exactly what we were being called to do.

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Our journey was not easy. My husband and I are not “rich” people. However, we did have determination and the courage to ask for help. We did fundraisers and yard sales. We sold items that were given to us by our families, our friends and our church family. We prayed for guidance and for God to provide what we needed, when we needed it. Somehow, the money that we needed for the next step was always there. In May, we received disappointing news that the number of children being referred from South Korea was dramatically down. The bad news was that wait would be longer.

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The good news was that we were higher on “the list”. Disappointed, I thanked our social worker for calling. She said that she would call me each time there was a referral from South Korea so that we would know how often they were coming in. I asked if it was reasonable to expect arrival by Christmas and she said that it “probably was”. The next week we received a phone call from our agency. Imagine my surprise and delight when I heard, “Sandy, this is Holt International Children’s Services. We have your baby. She’s beautiful and perfect and I am so sorry that I disappointed you just continued on page 48

Once there were two women who never knew each other. One you do not remember, the other you call Mother. Two different lives shaped to make you one. One became your guiding star, the other became your sun. The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it. The first gave you a need for love. The second was there to give it. One gave you a nationality. The other gave you a name. One gave you a talent. The other gave you aim. One gave you emotions. The other calmed your fears. One saw your first sweet smile. The other dried your tears. One sought for you a home that she could not provide. The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied. And now you ask me, through your tears, the age-old question unanswered through the years. Heredity or environment, which are you a product of? Neither, my Darling, neither- just two different kinds of love.

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Immigration took much longer than it should have but we also knew that it was all in God’s time. She would arive exactly when she was supposed to arrive. last week. If I would have had any idea that I would be calling this soon, I would have never made that call.” We were ecstatic – tears of joy erupted everywhere! We then began the arduous task of completing immigration paperwork, choosing airports and preparing for the arrival of our daughter. Immigration took much longer than it should have but we also knew that it was all in God’s time. She would arrive exactly when she was supposed to arrive. On August 20, 2004, our family drove to Hartsfield-Jackson International Airport in Atlanta and we met our daughter at the Delta customer service desk. She was tired from the 25 hour flight and she had a head cold. She was the most beautiful little girl that I had ever seen…. and she was ours.

Having the opportunity to give birth and the opportunity to adopt a child is a privilege that not many people get to experience. I have heard so many people say, “She is such a lucky little girl to have a family that loves her.” But we know the truth – we are all lucky.

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Envision...Brings Your World Into Focus!

Still Going Strong by Gretchan Reynolds

ow! It is hard to believe Envision Family EyeCare has been open for three years. In what seems like a very short time, I have learned so much about being a small business owner, working with the public, and balancing an active family life. Some days are better than others, but we are all happy and still have a great business that grows every day.

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The Reynolds Family I have great pride in supporting my husband, Dr. Reynolds, and his vision of opening his own business. He has dedicated himself as an Optometrist and small business owner. He is very kind to every patient that walks in our door. Dr. Reynolds takes time to talk to all of our patients and lets them know they have choices to solve their vision problems. It brightens my day when I see patients come back just to chat with him (usually about sports)! I also tip my hat to him on educating his patients on how important yearly eye exams are. Your vision and health of your eyes is so important!

With all this said, I would like to thank some important businesses and people who have touched our lives. From the beginning we had great support from Lexington Woman Magazine, Splash Omnimedia, Minute Man Press and the Town of Lexington. Our friends; who always are there to listen to us! Our three children: Ryan, Andey, Colby, you are the best kids ever! Finally to all the patients we have been so lucky to meet and care for.

I am also thankful that Envision Family EyeCare has been able to give back to Cancer Research, the Heart Association, local fundraisers and youth sports.

It is tough to be a small business owner. We can’t always beat online competitors or big business prices, but we do care and always have a smile for you! We hope for only great things for Envision Family EyeCare in the years to come. We plan on staying focused on the importance of family, friends, and the great community that we live in.

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Recovery is Possible

by Leslie Wilson

ach year, LRADAC helps thousands of Midlands’s residents begin a journey to recovery and healthy living free of substances. Statistics show that one in five families is affected by substance use. Consider five families in your neighborhood block – it is likely that one of those families has been impacted in some way by substance abuse and addiction. Not only does substance abuse and addiction impact the individual, but their family and the community as a whole. Chances are, you may know someone who needs help… One simple screening tool, the CAGE, can assist an individual in determining whether they are at risk. It consists of these four simple questions: 1. Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking? 2. Have people Annoyed or angered you by criticizing your drinking? 3. Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking? 4. Have you ever had an “eye opener” or drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or get rid of a hangover? “If the answer is yes to any of these questions and the person thinks they might have a problem, it is important to seek professional help,” says LRADAC’s President and CEO Debbie Francis. When someone calls for an appointment or enters the doors of LRADAC, the individual is assessed by a certified, professional counselor. Once this information is gathered, an individualized plan of care is designed to meet the unique needs of each person. Treatment may include a range of ser-

vices including medical detoxification, individual or group outpatient counseling, relapse prevention and peer support services. LRADAC offers behavioral health services for adults, adolescents and their families, as well as a gender-specific track. Because addiction and substance abuse impacts many aspects of a person’s life, as well as that of their family, related support services may be an integral part of their care. For instance, individuals may participate in parenting classes or attend recovery support groups. Family members will be encouraged to attend education classes around substance abuse and addiction or attend family counseling sessions. In addition, the community has an important role in creating an atmosphere that is supportive of recovery. Every business, house of worship, school, law enforcement and social service agency can make a difference through prevention, education, and awareness to guide the development and mobilization of community resources to support the

long-term recovery of individuals and families. LRADAC works with community coalitions and a host of community partners throughout Lexington and Richland counties to prevent, educate and advocate for safer communities. Even with a supportive family and community, many are resistant to admit they have a problem or worry about the experience of treatment. For individuals interested in treatment, LRADAC does not turn anyone away. “There are many different roads to recovery, treatment being one of them,” stated Ms. Francis. “Taking that first, bold step towards recovery may be one of the most important steps that a person may take – LRADAC is here to help them begin that journey”. Hope is right around the corner. The way to access LRADAC is to call or visit one of their two locations: Richland County – 2711 Colonial Drive in downtown Columbia, call 726-9300 or Lexington County – 1068 South Lake Dr. in Red Bank, call 7269400. You can also visit their website: www.lradac.org

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SkinTALK

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Many people think you must have Botox cosmetic and fillers to achieve a healthy radiant glow to the skin, but it is the actual skin care that improves the tone and texture. I truly believe the radiant glow to the skin is more important than a wrinklefree face. It is possible to achieve wonderful results with just the following five simple skin care steps. Step 1: At bedtime apply a topical retinoic acid, retinoid or retinol. I suggest a skin care consultation with a dermatologist to customize your skin care regimen by adding this vitamin-A derivative to rejuvenate skin, reduce fine lines and wrinkles and help prevent pre-cancers. Simply apply a pea-sized amount to a clean dry face at bedtime (avoid eyelids; and more is NOT better, use only a pea sized amount!). Initially use it every other night to start and work up to tolerating nightly. We carry various strengths in our exclusive Dermatology of Lexington Skin Care Line to accommodate different skin types and needs or I may recommend an over the counter product such as the ROC brand of a retinol or one of the bedtime anti-aging products from the Oil of Olay line. Step 2: Cleanse your face every morning and night with a mild, moisturizing cleanser with the Clarisonic Skin Care Brush. The goal is to remove oil, dirt and bacteria without over drying the skin. The Clarisonic

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often receive kind compliments about my skin with such comments as: “smooth”, “radiant”, “glowing” skin. Many people think because I am in the skin care industry that I must do multiple procedures to obtain this radiant skin. In reality, my skin care regimen is quite simple due to my sensitive skin and time constraints. cleansing brush moves 300 times per second for an ultra sonic, pore cleansing treatment. This will remove 6 times more makeup than regular cleansing. Products I recommend from our exclusive skin care line: Ultra Gentle Calming Wash for sensitive skin, Green Tea Antioxidant Foaming Cleanser for normal skin or Clear Skin Cleanser for acne prone skin or an over the counter soap substitute such as cetaphil or the generic equivalent. I also recommend the Clarisonic Skin Care Brush “Oprah’s Favorite”. Step 3: Each morning apply a Vitamin C Serum to help improve the glow of the skin and brighten the tone of your skin. This is a powerful antioxidant that can counter the signs of aging and help improve the skins natural defenses. It helps to firm and brighten the skin while evening the skin tone which are two very important features of healthier more radiant appearing skin. I often recommend adding a Vitamin C serum to enhance other skin care procedures such as microdermabrasions and chemical peels. Step 4: Apply sunscreen every day; even in the winter and reapply often if outdoors to guard against brown spots, wrinkles and skin cancer. I recommend everyone use a sunscreen every day with an SPF of at least 30 that protects against UVA and UVB rays. Sunscreens with zinc oxide are

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the only sunscreens that uniformly block UVA and UVB rays. I recommend you choose a sunscreen that feels good on your face as you will not want to use it if it stings or burns or is too greasy. We have a variety of sunscreens for your face and body at the Elante Day Spa and Salon boutique and we can help educate you on the differences among those we carry or recommend a product such as cetaphil for faces, or Aveeno and Oil of Olay have lovely facial sunscreens too. Step 5: Now the final simple step to obtain healthy, radiant, glowing skin is to add the “GLOW” by applying a “mineral” make-up. Now that you are caring for your skin by adding the appropriate skin care products to improve the tone and texture, it’s time to add the GLOW with a mineral make-up! Authentic minerals makeup creates a beautiful, natural glow to the skin without clogging the pores or caking. A clinical mineral makeup line, such as Glo Minerals, is preferred by dermatologists and leading skin care specialists worldwide. It is perfect for redness, rosacea, acne prone skin and everyday makeup for all skin tones as it can cover, protect and correct but yet feel and look so light. Product we carry at the spa: GloMinerals Make-up as the stunning combinations of Glo Minerals for the face, eyes, lips and cheeks make flawless makeup application easy. Over the counter lines are numerous and can

I truly believe the radiant glow to the skin is more important than a wrinkle-free face. be found at your local supermarket or drug store or more expensive lines at department stores. I hope these five simple steps will help you to achieve the healthy, radiant and glowing skin that you desire. You can schedule your skin care consultation with your dermatologist and start working towards that healthier skin. I recommend you bring all of your skin care products to your consultation as you may be able to use your products and ensure proper sequence of use. I also recommend you do not wear any makeup to your appointment as your dermatologist will need to examine your skin for your customized skin care product regimen and check your face for any possible precancerous lesions.

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As a board-certified Ob/Gyn, Dr. Bacon has been practicing medicine in the Midlands for more than 20 years. A long-time medical community leader, Dr. Bacon is a member of 11 professional organizations, has served on more than 40 professional committees and nine editorial and review boards, appeared in 49 publications, led or participated in 21 research investigations, and written a combination of 12 books and chapters on women’s health. Dr. Bacon joins Drs. Shipley, Ervin and Lyman, as a member of Lexington Medical Center’s Network of Care.

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Sleep APNEA

by Jennifer Wilson

Lexington Medical Center

emember what our mothers always told us: “You need your beauty sleep!” Getting a good night of rest is important for many reasons. But if you’re being kept awake at night, either by the inability to sleep well yourself, or from waking up to the sound of a spouse snoring loudly, it might be time to seek help. Excessive snoring, waking up during the night gasping for breath, and feeling tired in the morning despite a long rest may be signs of sleep apnea. Sleep apnea is a cessation of air flow that occurs several times throughout the night, usually due to complete air flow obstruction. Causes include obesity, genetics, allergies and thick neck muscles in athletes. The muscles that keep the airway stiff like a straw during the day relax during sleep. A normal airway will allow plenty of oxygen to flow. When the airway collapses a bit, it becomes partially blocked, causing snoring. Sleep apnea occurs when the airway becomes completely blocked, making you gasp for breath. “Sleep apnea is a constant stress on the cardiovascular system,” says Dr. Chris Marshall of Carolina Pulmonary and Critical Care, a physician practice that’s part of Lexington Medical Center.

Dr. Marshall, who treats sleep apnea patients, says the condition can cause your oxygen level to drop, triggering stress hormones and vascular changes. Complications include heart disease, arrhythmias, diabetes, high blood pressure, workrelated accidents and car accidents. This year, Sherry Johnston, a contestant on NBC’s popular TV show The Biggest Loser, visited Lexington Medical Center to speak to our community about the experience of her weight spiraling out of control and how she ultimately lost nearly 100 pounds with proper diet and exercise. Like many of the other contestants on the TV show, Johnston suffered from sleep apnea. Johnston used one of the most wellknown treatments for sleep apnea, known as Continuous Positive Airway Pressure therapy, or CPAP. A CPAP machine and mask increase air pressure in your throat to keep open the airway. CPAP patients wear their masks each night and report sleeping soundly. During her visit,

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‘Sleep apnea is a constant stress on the cardiovascular system.’ accredited by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. Dr. Chris Marshall of Carolina Pulmonary and Critical Care at Lexington Medical Center Johnston talked about how nearly all of the contestants on The Biggest Loser suffered from sleep apnea. Statistics show that approximately 12 million adults have sleep apnea. The majority of cases are not diagnosed. Lexington Medical Center treats many sleep apnea cases through Carolina Pulmonary and Critical Care, and through Sleep Solutions, the hospital’s sleep lab, nationally

“We need to screen these patients and provide active treatment,” said Dr. Marshall. People with symptoms of sleep apnea should talk to their doctor and be screened, possibly with a sleep study. Treatments include masks or mouthpieces that can help open airways. The proper treatment can make you feel less tired and more productive. For more information on Sleep Apnea, visit www.lexmed.com and search the Health Library.

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THE “New” TOTAL HIP by AnnMargaret McCraw and Coleman D. Fowble, MD

s Midlands Orthopaedics celebrates its 30th anniversary, we have been reflecting on advances in orthopaedics during that time. Hip replacement surgery is one of the most significant surgical innovations of the last century. Improvements in technology and technique continue to improve the effectiveness of this life-changing procedure. As the very active, but aging Baby Boomers approach a stage of life necessitating joint replacement to maintain their activity and independence, studies predict a 40% rise in the number of total hips to be performed over the next thirty years. Additionally, the number of total hips in patients over 85 is predicted to double. Midlands Orthopaedics is proud to offer South Carolina the joint replacement expertise of several fellowship trained surgeons. Dr. Coleman Fowble is one of those surgeons who joined Midlands Orthopaedics ten years ago after completing a Trauma Fellowship at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle, Washington. As a Level-1 trauma center, Harborview maintained 6 helicopters and two leer jet ambulances to transport critically injured patients. This specialized training equipped Dr. Fowble to treat extremely complex fractures involving joints. Dr. Fowble explains that despite heroic efforts to preserve the joint, fractures into the joint often lead to posttraumatic arthritis. Much of the damage to the cartilage happens at the time of injury. Dr. Fowble’s training in the reconstruction of the posttraumatic joint laid the foundation for his current practice of total joint reconstruction secondary to osteoarthritis, which is more common in the ageing population. Since the first total hip replacements in the 1960’s, vast changes have occurred in all facets of total hip arthroplasty (replacement). Today, advances in materials and techniques have led to total hip replacements that foster very good function and joint longevity, which are important to allow patients to return to active lifestyles and reduce revisions of the original surgery.

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As the very active, but aging Baby Boomers approach a stage of life necessitating joint replacment...studies predict a 40% rise in the number of total hips to be performed over the next thirty years. Dr. Coleman Fowble Total hip arthroplasty has evolved significantly over the past 50 years and includes multiple options. In the younger population, a hip repair may be available to remove spurs that cause a cam impingement, or altered hip mechanics; thereby eliminating or delaying the need for a hip replacement. These repairs are done both arthroscopically and through traditional surgical approaches. If the hip is beyond repair, then hip resurfacing may be an option. This innovative procedure replaces the hip without cutting the femoral head and is appropriate only for younger patients with significant hip disease.

tal hip replacement. This procedure is performed using either a posterior approach through the back of the hip capsule, or an anterior approach through the front of the hip capsule. Historically, the posterior approach has been utilized 70-90% of the time because it can be performed more quickly and easily by the surgeon. However, the extra time and effort required by the surgeon to perform an anterior total hip replacement offer many advantages for the patient. The muscle undergoes less injury through the anterior surgical approach, which leads to faster mobilization, less pain, and a shorter hospital stay. Also, the stability of the hip is improved as compared to the posterior approach.

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to offer the most comprehensive treatment regimen for hip pathology in central South Carolina. Dr. Fred Piehl performs hip arthroscopy; Dr. Tom Gross performs hip resurfacing, hip replacement, and open cam impingement repair; and Dr. Coleman Fowble performs hip resurfacing as well as anterior and posterior total hip replacements. As the only practice in the Midlands region offering both hip resurfacing and anterior total hip replacements, we invite you to explore all options before deciding on a treatment plan for your hip pain. As technology advances, so does Midlands Orthopaedics. Come see us for your “new” total hip.

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A Personal Note

n January of 2010, we published an issue of Lexington Woman that featured a young writer named Sommer Cagel. She made a statement in a school paper that I will quote for you now, “I realize that is what I want in my future family – love caused by activation, not blood relation.” Allow that to marinate for a moment. I would venture to say we all love people who are not related to us, and some of us might love some one time strangers more than some relatives, yes. May sound unconventional, but the truth nonetheless. It could be a close childhood friend or someone you have come to know through church or other community activities.

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This issue is about love that is activated by a desire to touch the life of someone else, love not motivated by selfish reasons. Loving just because you can. Why not love simply because you are capable of love? What does it hurt to reach out to another living, breathing person for that reason alone? Adoption is certainly one way to open your home and your heart and activate love. There are many others as well. My older brother and his wife have adopted eight children over the past 28 years. The first adoption was a result of someone in their church who knew of a couple of little sisters that needed a home. Those little blonde haired, blue eyed beauties became my nieces, not because they had my brother’s hair or my sister-n-law’s eyes, but because they were children who needed a family. And Doug and Denise were adults with hearts of love. We chose to love them. My entire extended family chose love. Sometime later, when Doug and Denise brought home a beautiful six month old baby girl possessing springy black hair and large chocolate eyes, pudgy little cheeks and a dimple on her chin, we loved her too. It didn’t matter that there was not nine months to prepare for them to come into our lives, or that they were a product of people we had never met, for they belonged to us now. Since those first three little girls, they adopted two little boys and three more daughters, all of whom have brought my family more love and joy than we could ever quantify.

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Many children have called my mother “Nana,” or my daddy “Papa,” “Grandpa,” or “Pop.” Our house was a home that children ran in and out, and screen doors opened and shut as often as most profitable hotels. There was always someone visiting us, stopping by to see what was cooking or who was singing a song or playing a guitar. Many times the people spilled out onto the porches and into the back yard. Often, there were enough people for an impromptu softball or volleyball game. Welcome wasn’t just a word on a door mat. It meant “Come on in, you are welcome and wanted.” Is it just me or did people know their neighbors better when they lived ten miles apart? Was there less crime or just less people? What if we just chose to love one another? No agenda. No “what have you done for me lately?” No ulterior motives, just a choice to activate love. Try it out. Let me know how it goes. Because, I for one, happen to believe the best things in life ARE free.

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Until next time, Romans 13:8 Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law.

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