Lexington Woman Magazine by Woman 2 Woman Enterprises

VOL 7, NO 1

COMPLIMENTARY

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Meet SIR BIG SPUR Mary and Ron Albertelli share their “Labor of Love” for the real live Gamecock

FAITH with the

FOURNELS Daniel and Stephanie discuss the recent diagnosis of their son

A MOTHER/DAUGHTER

LOVE STORY Judy Cook and Jennifer Cook Conrad of Aloette

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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

Lori Samples Duncan (loriduncan86@gmail.com)

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Cat Ayre Kristin Kingsland Brown Ruth Chapman Judy H. Cook Lori Samples Duncan Mayor Randy Halfacre Ashby Jones Beth McCrary Tripp Newsome Aida Rogers Elaine Samples Shasta Verdin

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From the Editor 4 Happy New Year!

Events

5 What’s Happening?

Things We Love!

6 Things We Love about Lexington!

Let’s Talk

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A New Year, A New Year! It’s Tee Time at Indian River Golf Club Talk of the Town with Mayor Randy Halfacre Leave the Weapons at Home Everything AND the Kitchen Sink at Gateway Supply Meet Monster Truck Driver Morgan Kane Aiken Center for the Arts Antiques in the Heart of Aiken The Ashby Chronicle: A Series of Stylists

Celebrating the Survivor in You!

Professional

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Making Masterpieces with Chris Metz Everyday Gourmet Café: Family Run, Where Freshness and Convenience are Key Something Old, Something New...Q&A with Dawn of Dawn’s Bridal Boutique Are You Preparing Your Own Taxes? Don’t miss out on these tax deductions! Sandy Webb....I’m Loving It!

Health & Wellness

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Assisting Hands Home Care of the Midlands NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) How manual physical therapy treatments at Vital Energy gave Blenda Dupree her life back Q&A with Palmetto Imaging Working the Beat: Women’s Hearts Meet Dr. James D. Whitehead of Whitehead Orthodontics

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Labor of Love: Meet Sir Big Spur A Mother/Daughter Love Story: Judy Cook and Jennifer Cook Conrad

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Personal Note 44 My Valentine

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he new year is in full swing, and January is half way over as I write this. Is it just me or has the first couple weeks of this year flown by? I am really excited about a new year and new opportunities. I am on a personal journey to continue my path to being a healthier me. I am hoping these lifestyle changes will inspire my children to continue down that road as well. This issue isn’t about weight loss and exercise, although I daresay there is plenty to write about on that particular subject matter. This issue is about love — the love of a mother and daughter working together, the love of a career, the love of new businesses in Lexington, the love of our children, and the list of our Lexington love goes on. Of course this is a time of year when we focus on the heart — not just the emotions of it but also the science of it. Check out our heart healthy tips throughout. The idea behind Lexington Woman when it first began was to educate our readers about businesses and resources in our community as well as to inspire you with the heartwarming stories of members of our community who have traveled places we may be going or choose to avoid. I hope that you trust the businesses within these pages. Their commitment to you is to offer quality products and services to you and your families. Don’t forget to tell them you saw them in Lexington Woman Magazine when you shop or call them. Another child in our community has been diagnosed with cancer, and I know there are many others as well. Let’s continue to raise the banner of awareness and fight so that our children, aunts, uncles, husbands, and families can survive. This precious family is facing this battle with courage and the support of our community. I hope they inspire you to overcome the circumstances you may be facing in your own life. I see buildings being rented and new signs going up all over town, and it appears we are in a new period of growth in Lexington. I find this new growth very exciting because it means Lexington will have even more to offer to its residents. Happy New Year, everyone! May 2013 be filled with blessings and long last memories. God Bless,

Lori Samples Duncan Editor-in-Chief

Philippians 3:13-14 No, dear brothers and sisters, I am still not all I should be, but I am focusing all my energies on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I strain to reach the end of the race and receive the prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us up to heaven.

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Events Carolina Behavior & Beyond, LLC is a home-based early intervention provider serving children with special needs ages birth to five

What’s HAPPENING? 14th Annual Antiques in the Heart of Aiken Show and Sale February 1-3, 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. on Friday and Saturday, Noon – 4 p.m. on Sunday Aiken Center for the Arts, 122 Laurens Street SW, Aiken

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Serving delectable homemade soups, sandwiches, salads, and desserts! The show features more than 25 dealers from across the southeast with linens, jewelry, rugs, silver, porcelains, furniture, civil war memorabilia, and artwork. Also included are restoration/repair experts. The antiques show is a major fund raiser for the Aiken Center for the Arts, which is celebrating more than 35 years of promoting arts and cultural education for the aiken area. Monthly exhibitions and art classes for adults and children are supported with funds raised from the antiques show and sale. Tickets for the show are $8.00 (good for all three days). The preview party will be held January 31st from 7 p.m. – 9 p.m. Call (803) 6419004 to learn more or visit the website below. www.aikencenterforthearts.org

7th Annual Lexington Father-Daughter Dance February 9, 6:30 – 9:30 p.m. Lexington High School cafeteria

This dance will provide fathers and grandfathers an opportunity to create a special memory for their daughters or granddaughters while supporting the reading center at the Lexington Main Library. The dance is for fathers and daughters of all ages. With a Valentine’s theme, the dance will include wholesome music, flowers and sweet treats. Corsages are available for purchase in advance at White House Florist, the official florist of the dance. Sunday dress is recommended. Tickets are $30 per couple with $10.00 for each additional daughter ticket. There will be heavy appetizers and desserts. Pro Photo, an event sponsor, will donate a formal 5 x 7 photo of the dads with their daughters. Additional pictures may be purchased at the dance. Tickets will be available for advance purchase at the Lexington Main Library, 5440 Augusta Road Lexington, SC 29072 after January 15, 2013 (cash or check only). Tickets sold after February 5, 2013 will be $40 a couple. www.lmlfriends.org

Advance Auto Parts Monster Jam February 8 at 7:30 p.m., February 9 at 2:00 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. Colonial Life Arena, Columbia

Monster Jam returns to the Colonial Life Arena for their 10th consecutive appearance. This event is an incredible family-friendly experience starring the biggest performers on four wheels: Monster Jam monster trucks! These twelve-feet-tall, ten-thousand-pound machines will bring you to the edge of your seat, racing and ripping up a custom-designed track full of obstacles to soar over - OR smash through! The biggest names in the sport are all here, straight from their TV show on Speed and their popular toy line from Mattel toys. Monster Jam provides a massive night’s entertainment tailored perfectly for your family’s budget. Visit the site below or call (803) 576-9200 for more information. www.ColonialLifeArena.com

Disney Live! Mickey’s Music Festival February 22, 4 p.m. and 7 p.m. Colonial Life Arena, Columbia

Mickey Mouse and friends rock the world with the stars from The Little Mermaid, Aladdin and Disney/Pixar’s Toy Story in their new touring show Disney Live! Mickey’s Music Festival. Disney hits are remixed to the hottest sounds of today featuring hip hop, pop, swing, reggae, rock, country and much more! The irresistible lineup of performers, including Mickey, Minnie, Donald and Goofy; Ariel, Sebastian and Ursula; Jasmine, Aladdin and Genie; and Woody, Buzz and Jessie; are among the more than 25 Disney stars featured in this jam session fit for the entire family! You can’t resist dancing, singing, playing your air-guitar and laughing with this band of characters! Come join them at Disney Live! Mickey’s Music Festival for a lively concert experience guaranteed to deliver enough rockin’ memories to last a lifetime. Visit the site below or call (803) 576-9200 for more information. www.ColonialLifeArena.com

HAPPY Valentine’s Day!

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AROUND TOWN

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About Lexington! by Lori Samples Duncan

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We are so lucky in Lexington District to have some truly talented teachers who love their jobs! I love our Lexington teachers! Send a little note or a $5 gift card to your child’s teacher, just because they are looking out for our children when they are with them.

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Sisters I love my baby sister, with my whole heart! Two years younger than me she was always my little baby doll. Then there was a time when she was “Lori’s Sister” to everyone in high school, our roles switched and in college I became “Elaine’s Sister”. Now she is just my very best friend! She is a wonderful person, kind, loving, and the best auntie in the world, on the cutting edge of all things fashionable and just simply wonderful. She gave me one my favorite gifts this Christmas — a new Kate Spade New York! I love sisters.

I love grilled chicken and vegetables from Mediterranean Café in Lexington. Their dishes are prepared fresh daily. Fresh local produce and many healthy items are on the menu.

Lexington One students shine as All-Stars Students from Lexington High and White Knoll High were selected to participate in the North-South All-Star and Shrine Bowl football games. Lexington High student Johnathan Boring, an offensive lineman, made the South Carolina Shrine Bowl Team. He and 45 other top football players in South Carolina beat the North Carolina team in the 2012 Shrine Bowl of the Carolinas on December 15, 2012. LHS student Austin Turner, an offensive lineman, was selected to play in the NorthSouth All-Star game as part of the South Team, which defeated the North Team. The South Carolina Athletic Trainers’ Association selected LHS student Jameson Chandler to serve as a student athletic trainer at the North-South All-Star game. He spent a week in December helping the head athletic trainer for the South Team.

Winter Wonderland Bracelet I love the Winter Wonderland Bracelet from Dems, made specially by Lia Brown. Dems carries a variety of new beads — Chamilia, Trollbeads, and custom beads for local charities. The staff at Dems can design any custom bracelet for you with a variety of colors and meaningful shapes.

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White Knoll High All-Stars included Alex Brown and Julian Johnson. Brown was selected to play as a tight end on the South Carolina team that won the 76th annual Shrine Bowl of the Carolinas. Johnson, a defensive end, was selected to play in the North-South All-Star Football Game.

A sweet friend recently sent me a hand written note after we had lunch. It was such a thoughtful gesture. Not only was it an unexpected blessing from a friend, but it reminded me of the hour or so we spent together. I think we should send them more often! Thank you, Mrs. Rogers. Superintendent Karen Woodward, Alex Brown, and WKHS Athletic Director and Head Football Coach Gordon Walters

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A New Year, A NEW YOU! by Judy H. Cook

Judy Cook You are what you eat Now is the time to feed your body right and combat the bulge after all the temptations from the past holiday gatherings. Remember that overindulgence of foods high in sugar and salt can lead to unwanted blemishes and dry skin. Prep skin by keeping your complexion clean and nourished by using a mask at least once a week. This will nourish and help your skin stay blemish-free by cleansing pores and removing dirt and toxins with natural ingredients. Get your beauty rest Staying well-rested will not only help you prepare for the months ahead, but it’s also one of the best ways to maintain the health of your skin. When you rest, your body works to repair skin, so getting a

aking care of you and your skin is especially important during the cold winter months. Radiant skin is the outward sign of youth and energy women feel inside. If the holiday obstacles like stress and cold weather are taking a toll on your skin, refresh and recharge with the following tips to keep your skin healthy, vibrant and silky smooth. good night’s sleep can help reduce the appearance of dark circles under the eyes and a dull-looking complexion. In addition to sleep, keep puffy eyes and dark circle at bay with advanced eye recovery complex pro eye cream. Packed full of natural moisturizers like aloe vera and shea butter, as well as vitamins A, C, E, and K. This professional eye cream will keep skin around the eyes bright and hydrated. Make time to exercise Stress during and after the holidays can take its toll on skin, causing lines and wrinkles to stand out. Combat the signs of aging by exercising! Get the blood pumping and improve your circulation which

So choose to become a new you in the new year... helps bring vital nutrients to skin and leaves it looking fresh and rejuvenated. Even a brisk 15-minute walk can lift your mood and put a rose glow back into your cheeks. Update your color essentials Although radiant skin starts from the inside out, don’t forget that some gorgeous color will only enhance that new year glow. By adding a few of the latest makeup essentials to your beauty bag — like

a luscious lip color, flawless foundation and fabulous eye shadow — you’ll be ready for the new year. Treat yourself to a relaxing treatment Try the hot soy manicure treatment candle. Not only is the natural orange and vanilla scent an utterly refreshing body care treatment, but the 100 percent natural soy wax can be directly massaged into the skin to nourish and moisturize hands and cuticles. Our skin can become dehydrated due to weather, stress and normal daily activities. So choose to become a new you in the new year — keep your skin plump, healthy and younger looking with regular hydrating treatments both morning and night.

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It’s Tee Time at Indian River Golf Club by Shasta Verdin

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he future for the lady golfer is very bright!” Ron Green of Indian River Golf Club, located at 200 Indian River Drive, West Columbia, SC 29170, makes this dynamic statement as we wrap up an interview with him on woman golfers. We sat down with Ron to speak with him about the changes he has seen in the sport of golf within the last 20 years, especially as it pertains to women within the sport. There is no question about it — there has been a definite increase of female golfers in recent years. In the 90’s, we hardly saw a single female play. For example, my wife was one of a handful of women that played Indian River Golf Club. In fact, she had to play in all of the men’s events because they could not get enough women to play. How it has all changed, with the biggest increase happening within the last three years, an increase closing in at about 100 percent. Golf use to be a sport that guys played; in fact men did not want to bring their wives along with them. Today we just are seeing more women playing with their husbands, and with women’s groups.” We asked Ron what he thought was the contributing factor for this change, “One reason is that the world has become more competitive, and when the world gets more competitive so do sports — and that includes golf. Women are just as competitive in the business world and in sports. Golf is one of those sports that women enjoy due to the outdoors and exercise. They enjoy being healthy and

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Golf is one of those sports that women enjoy due to the outdoors and exercise. golf is a sport that allows them to experience nature and exercise by walking the holes. In fact, here at Indian River we have 6.5 miles all the way around, and though it is a challenging course to walk we see many women walking the course all the time.” In order to attract a younger female audience, Indian River Golf Club has started tapping into the area schools. There are several high schools in the surrounding area, all of which now have female golf teams in the fall season, and many have added a spring program to their activities. Indian River keeps their prices competitive and they also encourage mothers to join their daughters on the course. “Now we are seeing a lot of mother

Ron Green daughter teams playing, fostering a new line of communication with each other,” remarks Ron. “We are also seeing grandparents who are involved, in addition to fathers. Golf is bringing the entire family together.” Indian River Golf Club is the place to play, whether it’s a group of women just enjoying the pure exercise of the sport, a one-on-one match up, a family that wants to get more involved with each other, or a mother wanting to connect on a new level with her daughter. Give them a call or stop by today and see how you and your family can get it on the fun.

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he Town of Lexington had an accomplished 2012, to say the least, with securing several high profile economic development projects, including the announcement of Avtec, Inc. breaking ground on their new advanced manufacturing facility which will be the anchor of a new technology park on Glassmaster Rd., just off I-20. This park will be unique to our Town as many business parks throughout the country are not located within municipalities.

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Council and I are excited to announce that 2013 is starting off with a “BANG” too, as the Town of Lexington just completed the purchase of the Project Icehouse. The property includes the former Shirey’s on Main (101 W. Main St.), the adjacent building (103 and 105 W. Main St.), Palmetto Propane and Ice, Inc. (111 S. Church St.) and 113 S. Church St. The land, approximately 2.69 acres, will be transformed into a destination retail center and public green space which will include anticipated boutique retail, eateries along with plans to construct an amphitheatre. This is our newest project under the Vision Plan, which Council passed in May 2012 and will help significantly revitalize Lexington in addition to allowing for connectivity in the downtown area through a proposed 1.1. mile walking trail. The trail will provide citizens

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This exciting project is an opportunity for Lexington to recapture the essence of an active, vibrant downtown atmosphere we all aspire too. Our goal is to provide the best quality of life to our residents, businesses and guests through unique experiences such as spending weekends strolling and shopping downtown, taking in the sights and sounds of musical events and activities. Learn more about this and other accomplishments during my State of the Town Address at the February Council Meeting on Monday, February 4, 2013 at 6:30pm in Council Chambers. You can also watch the Address and Council Meeting live on Channel 2 (TWC) or On Demand on our website at www.lexsc.com. I, along with Council and staff, wish each of you the best in the New Year! Randy Halfacre, Mayor Town of Lexington

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Leave the Weapons

AT HOME

by Ruth Chapman

ow that it’s hunting season, let’s review the Lexington District One policy regarding weapons on school grounds (including cars parked in the parking lot.) Don’t do it! All schools in Lexington One and across the state are under a strict no tolerance weapons policy.

Recently, a student at a Lexington One high school inadvertently wore a pocketknife clipped to his pocket, the same pants coincidentally that he had worn the night before when fishing. Completely unbeknownst to him a teacher saw the clip, recognized that it was a knife and quietly, as required, informed administration. That child was expelled for one year, including being banned from any high school football games in the district, home or away, despite the fact that he had no disciplinary issues previously. All because he forgot that he had a knife clipped to his pants. There is no discussion when these issues happen, nor is there any consideration given regarding intent. The rule is the rule and no amount of appeal can supersede the rule. This scenario is repeated unfortunately across the state every year. Remember that even a butter knife in a child’s lunch box, regardless of the child’s age, is treated in just the same manner. There is no tolerance and therefore no exceptions made, so don’t do it. The district rule, explicitly discussed in the school handbook given out each year says, ‘State laws (S.C. Codes 16-23-430 and 59-63235 and Board Policy JICI) prohibit public school students from bringing any item capable of injuring another person or property on to

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school property or to any school-sponsored or school-related activities on or off school property. This includes any type of firearm, knife, other sharp object or any object that could be considered a weapon including items that look like weapons (water guns, etc.) Students who possess, handle or transmit a knife, firearm or other object that can be considered a weapon (including a look-alike weapon) will be recommended for expulsion.’ So when the young man or woman in your home decides to go hunting before school, be certain that all of their weapons, pocketknives, guns, etc. are removed from the vehicle and their person prior to arriving at school. A pocket check is highly recommended, i.e. always check pockets of jackets that haven’t been worn since last year. It is much better to find a pocketknife, box cutter, bullet, fishing hook or anything that can be used as a weapon at home when corrective actions can be taken. And parents constantly remind your sometimes bleary-eyed teenager on their way out the door in the morning to check their pockets. A dumb mistake can change the course of their life, including your Honors student, and isn’t worth the risk or the heartache.

There is no tolerance and therefore no exceptions made, so don’t do it.

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Everything AND the Kitchen Sink at GATEWAY SUPPLY

ith locations throughout the state of South Carolina, Gateway Supply Company has been locally owned and operated for almost 50 years. Whether it is new construction, remodeling, or simply replacing, the friendly staff of industry experts are happy to educate without being intimidating regarding their complete line of products. Their products range from plumbing, fixtures, custom showers, and water heaters, to the kitchen sink. We asked Gateway a few questions about their operation, which we thought would interest our readers. W2W: What makes you different from other supply houses? Gateway Supply: WE ARE LOCAL! Lexington is a community and the folks who walk through our doors are the same folks we will see at church on Sunday or in the grocery store or at the football game. We build relationships. We take time to understand your needs and to help you reach your goal. W2W: I read that Gateway has grown from its original location in downtown Columbia, 12 locations in 9 cities throughout the state of South Carolina, employing 125 people. To what do you attribute that success? GS: Gateway is a family owned

business. We care about our families and we care about your family. We treat customers like family. Treat people right and success will follow. People like doing business with people they like. W2W: Why did the company choose to open a store in Lexington? GS: Lexington did not have a plumbing showroom. Homeowners from Chapin, Irmo, Lake Murray, Batesburg-Leesville, Aiken and Newberry are able to make the short drive to Sunset Boulevard to make plumbing selections. W2W: What do you love about doing business in Lexington? Again, it has to be the sense of com-

munity! Our customers become our friends. I love that over Christmas I bumped into one of our customers while shopping and instead of passing right by we stopped and discussed Holiday plans. I love that my customers ask about my child by name. I love that when my family moved to Lexington some of the best advice I received regarding schools and neighborhoods came from folks who walked into my showroom. W2W: Now we know that the average woman remodels her kitchen and bathroom once every seven years. Do you feel that holds pretty true in our community? If not how do you feel it differs? GS: Women in Lexington have

a classic sense of taste and décor. Their original selections could last their lifetime. Lexington women aren’t trendy. We remodel our kitchens and bathrooms when something breaks or when we just want something new. Gateway’s showroom hours are Monday through Friday from 9:00AM to 5:00 PM. After hours appointments are always available given a 24 hour notice. The supply counter is open Monday through Friday from 7:30AM to 5:00PM. Whether you are building a new house, remodeling, or just checking things out, stop by and give the Gateway Supply Showroom a visit soon at 5315 Sunset Boulevard in Lexington.

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Morgan Kane {Truck Name} Iron Man This season on the Monster Jam Circuit Morgan Kane will demonstrate why he switched from being an elite soccer player, to a professional monster truck driver. Kane got his opportunity at age 20 to drive a monster truck in the Advance Auto Parts Monster Jam, when owner Steve Sims hired him to drive ‘Mopar Magic’. It was a moment Kane had dreamed of, allowing him to connect with fans and travel the world. “For me it was always between monster trucks and professional soccer, but I really didn’t think that it was going to turn out this way.” “Monster trucks were right there in my hometown so I didn’t have to travel that much to get started, just five minutes to the shop, so I chose monster trucks,” quotes Kane, on the Advanced Auto monster truck website. He began playing soccer at 5, advancing to club teams as he got older. According to the Monster Jam site, Kane got a scholarship to Campbell University to play. He competed for a semester, then transferred to Wilmington, North Carolina, to play for Cape Fear Community College. In the fall of 2010 he was supposed to go to the University of North Carolina-Wilmington, but the chance to drive for Steve Sims came up. Yet, Kane also spent his teen years hanging around the Grave Digger shop in Kill Devils Hills, North Carolina, driving trucks for fun, with friends, Ryan and Adam Anderson. Their father, Dennis, became Kane’s ‘godfather’, showing him how to race. So, when the opportunity came to drive a monster truck, he took it.

{Body} Custom Body has been into Monster trucks just as long as I have and she is an event coordinator for Monster Jam, (so) she was totally cool with it. She is a big “Motor Head” and it was cool to get her blessing.” When asked if any other women inspired him, Kane mentioned soccer players, Mia Hamm and Alex Morgan. “It is great to see a woman (get) that high in the rankings, and it inspires me to do my best every time I go out there”, said Kane. Concerning being a driver, Kane loves what he does. “Getting in a truck and wanting to win, you have to sit back and look at the bigger picture. The fans are who we do it for. The fans make this sport where it is at today. We are just normal people to and I want them to be comfortable because I want them to ask me questions. I love it being at a party or signing autographs or at a display. I mean I love doing this, like the adrenaline you get from getting in that truck and hammering it to the floor. You can’t experience it anywhere else.” Kane’s long-term goal right now is to make it through the season. His short term goal is to make it to the world finals, which is in March. As a soccer player, he learned to set goals to help him stayed focused. “It is really cool to be able to get into the industry and I feel like I have accomplished my main goal being able to get into soccer and now I have completely started over looking forward to having a new goal and I want to be the best. I want to be that Dennis Anderson 20 years down the road and I want to compete and feel like a fan favorite.” This February the Monster Jam will be at Colonial Life arena. For more information visit www.coloniallifearena.com.

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ithout a doubt, my favorite event in Aiken is the annual Antiques in the Heart of Aiken Show and Sale the first weekend of February at Aiken Center of the Arts in Downtown Aiken.

The Antiques Show embodies the Aiken spirit of gracious hospitality, high quality items, and glorious visual appeal, and follows the mission of the Arts Center in art education. Fourteen years ago the creators of the event, Becky Robinson and Barbra Sue Brodie developed a full four day event that offers the 23 dealers who come from as far as Texas and Connecticut the red carpet treatment, and presents the community with an outstanding event to enjoy as it shops and learns. Through the years, various Antiques committee chairs have improved the event, which now utilizes second floor space for repair specialists and includes Sweetheart Café seating plus a dessert bistro with live entertainment for the Thursday night Preview Party. Antiques may be the focus of the event, but volunteers are its heart. The original founders continue to be involved and Lisa Castle of York Cottage Antiques plays an

important role on the committee. Members of various women’s clubs serve food in the Sweetheart Café, a local church men’s mission group moves the Antiques, talented local cooks contribute their skill in the Sweetheart Cafe, and a local artist, doctor, or pilot might man the elevator. Committee members plan press, entertainment, set up and print materials, area media underwriters publicize, patrons generously contribute, and educational lecturers donate their learning. The dedication of these community leaders to the Show and Sale is infectious, and creates an excitement during the weekend.

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The excitement about the Show is strengthened by the strong economic impact seen in the local and broader Aiken community. Although the in-house Sweetheart Café serves outstanding lunches and tea delights, local restaurants

and hotels often have some of their busiest days during the event. Throughout the event there is an ongoing anticipation that something special is happening. Without fail, I can’t wait to see what will occur next. Will there be a piece of porcelain that I can’t live without? Is the front floral arrangement as lovely as last year? Do I know the front desk volunteers? What goodies did dealer Ben Adams bring this year? Is the entire Smith fam-

ily coming for lunch after church? Could a dealer share a new important piece of knowledge? Will one of the Friday and Saturday lectures totally absorb me? The many reasons for my adoration result in a remarkable event for me, the participants, antiques and arts lovers, foodies, volunteers, and community to benefit Aiken Center for the Arts. Most importantly, the fundraiser supports its general operations, which enables the 40 year old not-for-profit arts educational institution to provide art educational programs, gallery exhibitions, and cultural experiences for everyone. Perhaps my special affection for the Antiques Show is about the joy of giving… because in reality, giving is the heart of Antiques in the Heart of Aiken Sale and Show, Aiken, and the Arts in general. I hope you will join us for the next event on February 1 – 3.

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Ashby Jones It’s just that I am impatient and impulsive. My roots don’t grow in gradually like yours do. Mine suddenly appear! An inch deep! And it requires an immediate remedy. Also, if I notice a friend has a bounce in her step due to perfectly applied high/low lights, I am instantly envious and want to meet her stylist. This afternoon, please! If it cannot be done today, then I have, on a few occasions, attempted an at-home remedy. With disastrous results. Whether I have cheated on my stylist with another stylist or with a box of Clairol, it is so uncomfortable later admitting what I have done. I am tempted to fib (I was at my parents’ house so I went to see my Mom’s stylist...you were unavailable...I was bedridden for many weeks and in desperation was left to my own hair color devices...). Like most cheaters, I am a bad liar. Being this disloyal has its perks: I’ve been to about every kind of salon imaginable. I’ve been to the super fancy ones with the high price tags, the small town ones with the ladies getting a curl-and-set, the salons where the only service performed is a dry haircut and the stylist has a bright blue spiky Mohawk, and the “cool” salons meant for young beautiful people (not forty-something tired working moms).

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am not a loyal stylist customer. It’s not that I am overly critical of past work performed on my fine, yet also coarse, rapidly graying hair. I have enjoyed wonderful hair miracles right here in Lexington. I am uncomfortable at the cool salons. If the waiting area is supersleek and has magazines I do not recognize, I break out into a sweat and start noticing the lint on my suit, the scuffs on my courtroom heels, my cuticles. I sometimes return to the cool places despite my discomfort because, well, the cool stylists know the famous people! They have attended fancy trade shows or worked in a New York salon. The cool stylists have the best stories. Like the time a has-been 80s Rock Star insisted on having his tips frosted at the crack of dawn so his fans wouldn’t know. I love that story in particular because my cool stylist remarked “As if any of us knew him? I was like, dude, our Moms aren’t here.” Real life happens in salons. Right in front of your eyes. Round up seven or eight women and a few men, dress them in the latest fashion and place them in front of mirrors. Now add a steady stream of customers and listen. You will learn who has a new boyfriend, who is giving the owner the silent treatment or who just had “elective” surgery instead of paying her credit card bill. This openness will prompt you to share your news, sometimes in a moment of spontaneous candor. This is why my friend/stylist Parris was one of the first people to know I was pregnant with my first-born. If you prefer, you can just sit there quietly and check your emails or read a book, and that is ok too.

A good stylist not only knows how to cut, color and style hair, she is an unlicensed counselor. It is no surprise the stylist relationship is so special. There is something personal about allowing someone to touch your hair. Whether it is a new stylist, an old stylist, a salon in a detached garage, or a place worthy of a photo shoot, a stylist is performing an act of kindness. She is making it better. She is concentrating on you. She is improving you. In a matter of minutes a history is taken, a diagnosis is made, and the stylist crafts a treatment plan. I think most stylists know their value extends beyond the strands of our hair. Like, when my friend/ stylist Dawn made a house-call for the purpose of artfully styling what was once a long full mane, but was falling out in large swaths following merciless cancer treatments. Dawn knew that in some way, she was making it better.

it was time for them to go. So Holly cut little Houston’s curls. And for the next eight years, she continued to give him haircuts. I imagine (because I am not there) that the routine is the same: Holly notices her grandson needs a haircut, has him sit on a stool, wraps the smock around his neck, and starts snipping. I suspect she takes a little longer than necessary. Because for several minutes that boy is finally still. She is making it better, and he is letting her. It is a mutual act of kindness. Dear Dawn, Parris, Patience, Kari, Justin, Kristin, Jenny and Heidi . . . when I return to you (we all know I will at some point) please don’t be mad at me for my Foil Infidelities. Thank you for all you do – for your skill, your listening ear and your kindness.

Or take my mother-in-law (my Other Mother), a “retired” stylist. Holly worked for decades in a local bank. But, before her banking days, she had a cosmetology education. Holly held on to what she learned and kept her scissors sharp. For years she cut her husband Houston’s hair. Sometime in 2004, Holly cut his namesake’s hair too. Little Houston had a tangle of blond curls at the back of his neck. Though his Mom thought they should stay put (forever if possible),

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entered a quiet cul-de-sac in a Lexington subdivision to meet with the Fournel family just one day after Christmas. It would be the second time in 9 months that I would write an article about a local child being diagnosed with a cancerous brain tumor. It was hard to fathom that this was possible just a year into my new venture doing freelance writing for Lexington Woman Magazine. I was nervous. Even though we have numerous mutual friends, I had never met Daniel and Stephanie Fournel. Not even a month had passed since their son Nathaniel’s surgeries and diagnosis with a brain tumor. Everything was still so very new and raw. As I entered their home, still decorated for Christmas, I immediately felt a connection with Stephanie and Daniel Fournel. It was a connection born of a shared faith and determination to trust God’s plan for our children’s lives. This is their story.

Dr. Lenwood Smith, a Pediatric Neurosurgeon at Palmetto Health Children’s Hospital for a consultation. Options were discussed and surgery to biopsy the tumor was scheduled for December 3rd.

Just after Thanksgiving of this past year, Daniel Fournel noticed abnormal movement of his son’s left eye. He suggested to his wife Stephanie that they schedule a thorough vision exam for Nathaniel. They never suspected anything such as a brain tumor. They would later learn that Nathaniel had been experiencing occasional episodes of double vision three weeks prior to the exam.

While most families were preparing for the upcoming holidays, the Fournels waited for biopsy results from the pathology department. The results confirmed a cancerous tumor. Nathaniel, age 13, was diagnosed with Localized Pineal Germinoma. The good news is that this type of cancer has a 90% cure rate and the Fournels feel confident that their son will have a full recovery. They have decided to remain local for Nathaniel’s treatment. “We believe Nathaniel has a great team providing him the care he needs at Palmetto Health Children’s Hospital. We believe that ‘The Great Physician’ is the leader of the team.”

The eye exam on November 27th revealed swelling of the optic nerve, therefore Nathaniel was referred to a neuro-ophthalmologist and an MRI was ordered. The MRI was scheduled for 6:30 am on November 29th. By 10:00 am, the Fournels were called to Dr. Bruce Cope’s office to hear the results of the MRI and it was news no parent ever wants to hear. The Fournels were able to see God at work immediately when Dr. Cope offered to pray with them and then in his own words, “bulldogged” to get Nathaniel in immediately with

Nathaniel’s course of treatment will consist of four 21 day cycles of chemotherapy. He is receiving two different chemo drugs, and both of these are infused through a port-acath he had placed during one of his surgeries while in the hospital. At the end of his chemo treatment he will have more MRI’s, a possible second look surgery and will go through a radiation treatment plan that is also part of the study protocols. Nathaniel is participating in a study for localized CNS (Central Nervous System) tumors and will also be participating in a sister

study to evaluate the neuro-psychological effects of his treatment. Nathaniel is currently on intermittent homebound from 8th grade at Pleasant Hill Middle School while undergoing treatment. When he is feeling up to it and his blood counts are not too low, he will be able to attend school. He is an active

‘Everyone we have met throughout our lives and moving here was all part of God’s plan to prepare us for Nathaniel’s diagnosis.’ member of First Baptist Church of Lexington and swims year round for Palmetto Aquatics along with his younger brother, Braden. While not originally from Lexington, the Fournels are overwhelmed with the outpouring of support from the community. Several awareness and fundraising events are in the works for Nathaniel by a group of friends who formed a committee. “My husband and I have both said that you never want to be that family who needs all of the support that we have received, but we feel absolutely blessed to be in community of such strong faith and compassion. Everyone we have met throughout our lives and moving here was all part of God’s plan

to prepare us for Nathaniel’s diagnosis. The outpouring of prayers and love has been amazing. Every prayer that is prayed helps to provide our family a sense of peace! We could never say thank you to everyone, but we are extremely thankful!” The Fournels are taking things one day at a time and prioritizing, knowing that some things are just not that important. Both Stephanie and Daniel are continuing to juggle work outside the home and parenting both of their boys as Nathaniel battles against brain cancer. Stephanie is also in school fulltime pursuing her Doctor of Nursing Practice. “We want to share that through all of this, Nathaniel has been strong, courageous and extremely positive. He has not once complained of his situation and we, as parents have been amazed by his strength.” I think we can all learn a lot from the Fournel family and their faith. To follow Nathaniel’s journey and to find more information about fundraising events, visit www. swim4nathaniel.com.

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ary Snelling has been a Gamecock fan for as long as she can remember. Her passion for the University of South Carolina began as a small child while attending athletic events with her parents and their friends. Mary would go on to graduate with a Bachelor of Science in Nursing in 1976 and a Masters in Health Education in 1979 from USC and to this day is a faithful Gamecock supporter. Mary, a life-long Aiken resident, and her husband Ron Albertelli are season ticket holders in football, baseball and men’s and women’s basketball. They would probably have tickets to other sports but the commute from their Aiken home in their RV gets long and they don’t travel simply or lightly. Every time they make the trip from Aiken to Columbia or wherever the Gamecocks play on the road, they have a traveling companion.

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A Love Story Their traveling companion is a 7 pound Old English, black breasted, red Gamecock. Sir Big Spur is a real live Gamecock that Mary and Ron have been bringing to Gamecock sporting events since Ray Tanner’s first year as head baseball coach in 1997. At a promotional dinner that Mary won with Coach Tanner she asked for permission to bring the live Gamecock to the baseball games. Coach Tanner’s response was, “If it is not between the white lines, it is okay with me.” Back in those days, seats were not assigned at Sarge Frye Field. Mary and Ron were able to commandeer seats by the first base dugout so that the players and fans could see the Gamecock perched on top of the dugout. Sir Big Spur quickly became a fan favorite as the real live Gamecock mascot. About 7 years ago, former athletic director Eric Hyman put together a committee to get fans more involved in football and one of the recommendations was to ask Mary and Ron to bring Sir Big Spur to football games. “The first year we rolled the Gamecock down George Rogers Boulevard in a dog carrier on a luggage carrier and carried a goal post to put him on in the stadium. We have gotten much more creative as time has evolved.” While transporting and managing SBS is relatively easy as compared to a steer, hog, or tiger, there have been challenges over the years such as time management. Before Mary retired, she would frequently work 10-12 hour days before heading to Columbia for mid-week baseball games. Most of the time Sir Big Spur travels in their RV. As they have added more “color” to the show, they now pull a trailer behind the RV with their convertible VW which pulls a trailer with SBS’s remote controlled car. It can also be challenging to find appropriate parking and out of state travel gets very expensive. Because they can’t just jump in the car and stay in a hotel with a live bird, trav-

‘He stuck one of his spurs in the tire and broke it off. That spur has never grown back, so he is a one spur Gamecock.’ eling takes lots of planning and coordination. Part of the planning includes Sir Big Spur’s special diet. It consists of a combination of cracked corn, laying mash, cat fish food and wild bird seeds. These foods give him the best combination of nutrients to keep him healthy and his feathers beautiful. While Mary does not keep track of exactly how many appearances Sir Big Spur has made over the years, she can tell you he has been to many, many baseball games. Baseball is her and Ron’s favorite sport and they think it is Sir Big Spur’s as well. “He crows more at baseball so that might be an indicator of his desires.” Sir Big Spur’s appearances also include every home football game for the past 7 years, most away games, SEC baseball tournaments, several trips to the College World Series in Omaha, every USC bowl game and parade, the SEC Championship game, fan fests, fan appreciation events, nursing home and school visits, USC soccer games, Christmas parades and both baseball National Championship parades down Main Street in Columbia. Mary adds, “If the University asks us or allows us, we are there.” Mary guesses that Sir Big Spur’s appearances include over 100 on national television including football games, bowl games, and CWS games. Recently, he was featured in ESPN, The Magazine and on

ESPN’s Game Day that was filmed on the historic Horseshoe in Columbia. One of Mary’s most memorable appearances with Sir Big Spur took place several years ago in Tennessee. “A woman asked us to carry the ashes of her dead husband onto the field. She had the ashes in a baggie in her purse and she spread them on the cart. I spent the night trying not to get them on me.” Mary also recounts the time before a Georgia game when SBS picked a fight with the chicken he saw in the hub cap of the RV. “It was a hot day and we had put him in the shade near the RV and gone inside. We heard this loud thumping, ran outside and SBS was really having a fight with the “other” chicken. He stuck one of his spurs in the tire and broke it off. We had to put a band-aide on his leg for the game that night. That spur has never grown back, so he is a one spur Gamecock.” Sir Big Spur can be petted and held by fans. Mary’s husband Ron spends about one half of every football game letting the students have their picture made while holding the Gamecock. Sudden movements spook him, so they are careful to hand him to people who want to hold him or pet him. Mary and Ron get a wide variety of responses to Sir Big Spur. “For the most part, children love SBS and want to pet him. Many adults also love him but are more measured in their responses. We get some really crazy questions and some demon-

strate a lack of knowledge about our university’s mascot. So we see one of our roles as education. For example, we are frequently asked if the Gamecock is a boy or a girl, does he lay eggs, what makes his feathers so shiny, what does he eat, etc. My all time favorite question came from a boy about 11 years old – Does the chicken fart?” Mary and Ron only use one Gamecock at a time. The current one is Sir Big Spur III. Mary received her first Gamecock as a birthday gift from her Dad. He got the unique gift from a co-worker and thought it would make a fitting one for Mary because of her great love for the Gamecocks. Sir Big Spur was originally named Cocky-DoodleLou after Coach Lou Holtz. Mary changed his name during the last year the original bird was on tour to reflect the name of the original mascot prior to Cocky. “We were trying to use a name with historical meaning that would continue no matter the name of the football coach.” Mary and Ron could write volumes about all of their experiences with Sir Big Spur. They love the University of South Carolina and view carrying SBS to Gamecock sporting events as a labor of love. Their goal is to show the uniqueness of the University to the nation.

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aving been married for five years with double income and no children, Judy Cook and her husband, Frank, decided that Judy would leave the medical field to be a “stay-at-homemom” when they started adding children to the family. “Being a mom changed my life in ways that I never would have imagined or even dreamt,” says Judy. “From day one, the role of mother has always been a top priority for me. No matter what stages of my life, relationships, business, or pleasure, my children have been an integral part.”

With the family needing more income when their daughter Jennifer was four years old, Judy started searching for ways to make money that would offer her flexibility with her children and family. “I began looking in the newspaper for what I thought didn’t exist: an opportunity to work making great money while being my own boss - something I had always dreamed of, but never known possible.” Judy spotted an advertisement for Aloette, gave them a call, and despite having almost backed out due to a fear of public speaking, the rest is history. “Here we are 30 years later,” laments Judy, “And that ad changed my life, the life of my family, of other women, and it provided me with the priceless gift of being able to work alongside my daughter, the real reason I started in the first place. Being able to raise my children while running my business has brought financial blessings, but more importantly, blessings of life and learning. It has helped me show them how to set goals, work for purpose and the benefit of putting your heart into something valuable while seeing the lives of others changed and enhanced at the same time. There were definitely times of discouragement and disappointments, but they also learned that those were never reasons to quit or give up, but to keep the faith and believing that what we do makes a difference.”

enjoyed making my own schedule and Aloette has really taught me — through the example of my mother — how to set and go after goals.” Today, Jennifer Cook Conrad has carved her own path indeed, and she is now the number one executive not only in their franchise, but in the entire company.

Jennifer says working with her mom is fun (most days). They plan, train, and work together, but sometimes it is a tough on Jennifer due to Judy’s high expectations. “I know that comes with wanting the best for your daughter,” Jennifer understands, “as now I have a little girl myself. But I love the fact that we work and play together.”

Judy’s daughter, Jennifer, went away to Mt. Vernon University in Ohio and came home four years later with a double business major and a minor in marketing. Although the two had never discussed joining forces, when Jennifer came back to South Carolina, there were no positions in her field open at the time and Judy suggested that she work with Aloette for a few months in order to make money and build her resume. “First, I never imagined that I would even pursue a career with Aloette,” recalls Jennifer. “For me, I simply started because I needed sales experience after graduating college, and knew of the tremendous flexibility my mother had. I

Being a mom, says Jennifer, “really changes everything. It changes how I approach my day, it make me more focused on keeping a schedule to maximize my time. I would say that I am even more dedicated to helping women now in my business because I see the advantage of the flexibility I have and want others to experience it also.” She has also been inspired by watching her own mother excel at Aloette. “Mom is a legend in our company and in the direct sales field, leading the way with huge shoes to fill. She has a gigantic heart and wants so much for the people that she works with to have a wonderful experience, not just with the products and pri-

vate shopping events, but truly with the opportunity that is Aloette. She inspires me to look for the best in people, paint a vision for others, and lead by example. She has always put Christ first, and her family, and has taught me to do the same. Having a Godly mother that has influenced so many makes me extremely proud.” And says Judy of Jennifer, “My daughter has truly been an inspiration to me in so many ways. First and foremost, she is a great mom. And she has two of the most wonderful children in the world, says I the Mimi. She is modeling to them what I pray in some small way I modeled to her through our life and business. Her passion and desire for her business is not just business, but people. She truly loves and is interested in all of those that she touches. Her greatest desire as she continues on this path is to be a woman after God’s own heart, and to let others know that being that woman and mother comes before anything in her business. Yet she has an incredible success track that she continues to travel. She inspires me to continue to raise the bar high and to reach for the stars-not just for me, but because she is my partner and my daughter…I have loved living the dream with her, side by side, inch by inch, tear by tear, and the fun that we have had along the way.”

‘Being able to raise my children while running my business has brought financial blessings, but more importantly, blessings of life and learning.’

It would appear that this mother-daughter duo has formed a mutual admiration society for two. And how refreshing to see a family who lives, works and plays together at a time in our world when we hear all too often of tragedies with families at the center. To learn more about Aloette and how you can either try their products or perhaps even become a sales representative, visit their website at www.aloettesc.com.

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he signs that Chris Metz would become an interior designer appeared early. There she was at age 10, drawing, doodling, drafting a new floor plan for her bedroom in two dimensions.

“I could always see it three-dimensionally as I was doing it on paper,” she says now, 28 years into a career that’s included residential, commercial, and state government work. While helping with the renovations of the South Carolina statehouse and governor’s mansion were “awesome,” the highlight of her professional life came in 2000, when she opened Chris Metz Interiors in Lexington. “That allowed me to fulfill my passion and joy, which is helping other people realize their visions one masterpiece at a time.” Indeed, “making your vision a reality one masterpiece at a time” is her slogan, and she believes practicing her profession is using her talent to help others. “I believe everyone has been gifted by God to know what they need to do, we just need to pay attention,” she says. She knew interior design and architecture were calling her; she chose the former because she enjoyed working with fabrics, lighting, furniture, and textures as much as floor plans.

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The new Greater Lexington Chamber and Visitors Center is one of her recent projects. Metz chose an interior palette of tan, terra cotta, blue-gray, and dark blue-green to reflect Lexington’s mid-state location near Lake Murray. She was happy to find her vision matched that of Randy Halfacre, the Chamber’s president/CEO. “We wanted this to be a welcoming environment for the industry and influx of out-of-town people moving here from the north and west,” Metz explains. “We wanted something homey that represented Lexington’s casual, comfortable lifestyle, where newcomers could come and sit and look through maps and brochures and not feel like they’re in a sterile environment.” “Fun and funky” is how Metz describes her personal style; “earthy” are her color preferences. Green, her favorite color, is her trademark. “I’m casual, and not very traditional,” she says, adding that in Lexington, being unique works well. “Lexington is very diverse in

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its demographics. People are moving from the north to the south, and Lexington is a great hub for them. Being edgy in interior design and personality and style is easy to do here.” Not that she lets her taste interfere with what her clients want. It’s important to her to learn what they like and need, as well as how they live. “As a designer, whatever their style is is my style,” she says. “A good designer can do a great design in any style.” After graduating from the University of South Carolina with a degree in studio art with an emphasis on interior design, Metz worked for Pam Temples Interiors and GMK Architects for three years. Then came 13 years with the South Carolina Construction and Planning Office. Opening Chris Metz Interiors meant she could take commercial and residential clients. It also meant she could be more available for husband Frankie and their sons, John-Michael and Ryan.

Metz manages more than family and career. For 19 years she’s taught a range of fitness classes for Lexington Medical Center’s Health Directions program. “I call them my sanity classes,” she says, laughing. “It helps me release all the stress and concerns of the day.” Teaching is smart in other ways. Besides health and discipline benefits—she was a cheerleader at Airport High—there are business and social pluses. “I’ve developed a lot of friends and gained a lot of clients through the fitness world. It’s a stress reliever and networking opportunity at the same time.” Helping clients is her biggest high. While many know what they want, they don’t know how to get it. “I can see their vision and strive to give them what they want,” she says. “Seeing that joy and that relief—‘this is what I wanted, this is how it’s supposed to be, I just didn’t know how to get there’— that sense of accomplishment is what gives me the most joy.”

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mall business ownership was not what Travis Butler envisioned for his first job out of college. Having graduated this past April with a B.S. in History, he sought an entry-level position in a large corporation, like friends and family had. Yet, the recession challenged his plan as resumes and applications went out with few responses. He decided to live in Lexington to be close to his fiancé, Megan Burgess, a native. As months without fulltime work ensued, Travis and his family began exploring business ownership for full time employment and real world managerial experience. Travis always had an interest in food with experience in preparation, and serving. A wrestler/rugby player in high school, and college, he grew up with healthy homemade meals. His background is typical of many busy families, with working parents and afterschool activities. The Butlers’ resorted to cooking large meals on the weekend, and eating leftovers during the week. So when the opportunity to buy Everyday Gourmet Café and Market appeared, Travis and his family immediately related to the business concept. They saw how convenient and affordable a selection of 50+ freshly prepared entrees, sides and desserts would be in today’s busy world. They were also drawn to the family style atmosphere and delicious recipes that previous owners, Emily and Lance Lochman, had created. So, the Butlers purchased EG in October where the fulltime chef Drew, was known for his freshly- made chicken salad and pimento cheese.

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Travis and the staff at Everyday Gourmet are proud that their food isn’t your typical grocery store fare.

Travis Butler Everyday Gourmet offers two categories of menu selection: dine in for lunch, or purchase ‘grab and go’ meals, ready for dinner. “We offer catering for any size group, pick up café service for those who cannot dine in the restaurant with us, (plus) Grab and Go entrees with portion sizes of 1 to 6”, stated Travis “ Our entrees are prepared using fresh ingredients and immediately frozen on the premises. They will keep for three months when placed in the freezer”. For busy professionals or others who don’t have time to cook, EG offers a meal planning service called the Supper Club. Customers can purchase different packages of entrees that will provide food

for one month. Entrée selections is accessible online, convenient for today’s busy life. The café’s online service includes nutritional information, baking instructions and pictures of the entrees to give the customer a well- informed experience. Those dining at Everyday Gourmet for lunch have the options of either on the premises, for carry out or for delivery and can select from soups, salads and sandwiches. There’s the Café Signature Salad: seasoned all white meat chicken, with Granny Smith apple, crumbled gorgonzola cheese, crispy bacon, butter-toasted walnuts, sprouts and romaine lettuce, covered with their House Balsamic Vinaigrette dressing, and served with pita points; or choose the Carolina Luau sandwich: A picnic ham, with sweet mustard BBQ sauce, coleslaw, havarti cheese and caramelized pineapple, served warm on Hawaiian style bread.

Travis and the staff at Everyday Gourmet are proud that their food isn’t your typical grocery store fare. “Our café believes in a fresh, affordable, friendly and family oriented atmosphere. You’ll not be shuttled through a fast food routine nor served tasteless ordinary sandwiches. You’ll leave relaxed and wanting to try another one of our café specialties on your next visit”, stated Butler. Lunch is Monday through Saturday from 11 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Feel free to bring your computer, since wi-fi is available, along with fresh sweet tea. Everyday Gourmet is located at 5082 Sunset Boulevard, in the McCauley Square Shopping Center, across from Target. Hours are Monday through Thursday, 10:00 – 6:30; Friday 10:00 – 5:00, and Sat: 10:00 – 3:00. Cafe Hours are Monday – Saturday, 11:00 – 2:30. Find them online at www.everydaygourmetsc.com.

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Something Old, Something New... Q&A with Dawn of Dawn’s Bridal Boutique

W2W: What is your inspiration behind opening a Bridal Boutique? Dawn: I have always had a desire to work in the retail industry. I chose bridal/formal wear because I saw a need in my community that was not being filled. Also, what girl would not want to be around all of the beautiful dresses?!

W2W: What makes Dawn’s Bridal Boutique different than the rest? Dawn: My outstanding customer service before and after the sale. W2W: Do you have a support system? If so who? Dawn: My husband, David is my main support system. I also am close with several of my vendor representatives who provide me with feedback that makes my boutique better. W2W: Why did you choose the White Knoll area? Dawn: I live in this area. I saw that there were limited selection of bridal/formal wear shops in the Lexington area, and what better than to be able to serve the community in which you live? W2W: What are some of the services that you offer that allow you to make the statement that you take the frustration out of Wedding Planning? Dawn: I offer the ability to outfit the entire bridal party, excluding flower girl dresses. At my boutique, brides can also purchase invitations, shoes, undergarments, wedding accessories, tiaras, headpieces, and veils. I’ve just added prom and pageant gowns to the inventory as well. W2W: What are your goals for your business? Dawn: The main goals I have are to expand my offerings; I would eventually like to sell flower girl and mother of the bride dresses, in addition to increasing the number of pageant gowns that I carry. W2W: Do you have any partnerships with any other services that would make the “Bridal Experience” any easier? Dawn: I am working on developing relationships with other wedding professionals, such as make up artist, nail salon, photographers, and the like. If you are planning a fairytale dream wedding or an intimate gathering with a few close family and friends, stop by Dawn’s Bridal Boutique!

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he daughter of two hard working parents and one of ten children, Sandy Webb was born at a time when if there was money for college, you sent the “boys,” not the “girls.” Her hometown was a little town in Kentucky that was also home to Bethlehem Steel Corporation, where the men, and if you were lucky enough, the women worked as well. In a tiny municipality of three thousand residents, Ms. Sandy Webb worked processing workers compensation claims for the steel company. When a manager told her he could see the writing on the wall and she should look for another place to work, Sandy sought employment with McDonald’s. There was nothing else around. Sandy applied for a McDonald’s franchise and was turned down due to financial reasons only. Being the tenacious woman that she is, Sandy didn’t give up. For two years, she worked as a McDonald’s registers applicant in an effort to gain all the knowledge and experience she needed in order to learn the McDonald’s business. She continued to work both jobs, laboring nights and weekends for two

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years. All that hard work paid off because at the end of the two years, McDonald’s offered Sandy a franchise. She was placed in a program available at the time, which provided her a loan with five years in which to repay it; Sandy not wanting to owe anyone reimbursed them in full in six months! The rest, as they say, is history… Sandy Webb now owns seven McDonald’s franchises in Lexington County, including the newly renovated location at 378 and Main, and Highway 6, as well as a brand new facility on Highway 6 at White Knoll. I knew last year that I wanted to tell our readers about Sandy Webb, not just because she is a

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White Knoll Grand Opening successful business owner, but because of all she does in the community to help our schools and athletes, as well as what she does for the Ronald McDonald House Charities. Some of your children may recognize her picture because of what she has done in our local high schools. This incredibly unassuming woman is humble and very passionate about her work. Sandy’s company employs a number of people in our community, and one of her managers has been

Had I met her on the street, I would have never imagined all the knowledge and experience behind her intelligent eyes. She gave me so many nuggets to share with my own daughter — about not giving up, working hard, and wanting something and not being afraid to go after it. She has a deep love for family and our community. She was quick to say how good Lexington has been to her, and how well McDonald’s has treated her. I would propose that Sandy Webb has been equally as good to Lexington.

with her for almost twenty years. That says a lot about Sandy as an employer. She loves Lexington and lives right here in our community. She allows our sons and daughters to make an honest living, at their first job sometimes, teaching them about integrity, work ethic, and managing a schedule. During our interview, Sandy was quick to give credit to her staff and those surrounding her, not taking much credit for herself. I left the interview amazed at this petite lady.

When I asked to what Sandy attributes her success, this is what she had to say, “I was really just fortunate. My dad was a coalminer and the most he ever made was 30 to 35 thousand dollars a year. With ten kids, that was really hard. My mom started working when she was in her 50’s, and she did not

even get her license until she was in her 50’s; so I grew up like that.” That was very motivating to me. “You have to put real effort into being successful. I helped my mom raise nine kids. It was me in between 6 boys now how fair is that? I had three older than me and three younger, so I learned how to fight when I was very young. If you wanted anything, you had to fight they would take food off your plate when you went to eat. So that is one thing that helped me.” “The other thing is that you have to believe in is your dream. You must believe in the System, which will work. If you don’t believe, it is not going to work. And you MUST believe in your customers.” And, Sandy Webb, we believe in you. Thank you for being a woman that this generation can look up to and aspire to be like.

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ASSISTING HANDS Home Care of the Midlands

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ssisting Hands Home Care® grew out of a desire to provide seniors, and others needing non-medical assistance at home, with the option that most people prefer – to remain independent, safe and comfortable in their own homes. Assisting Hands® is a home care franchise company that emphasizes exceptional customer service and highly personalized in-home care to meet the needs of its clients. Serving the greater Columbia area, this is the first Assisting Hands franchise in South Carolina. “We set it up that way intentionally,” says Tom Falk, Executive Director of Assisting Hands. “We didn’t want somebody to say, “I tried them, but they weren’t that good”. We wanted to set our own standards and everything that we have done has been above board. We thoroughly screen our employees with background checks, drug screenings, vehicle reports,

and personal references before somebody steps foot into a client’s home.” Five years ago Tom and Jayne Falk moved to Columbia from Lafayette, Louisiana with their rescue dogs in tow. Jayne was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 1989. After a time of MS related problems, her disease went dormant in 1992 and she continued in her job as a paralegal. In 2005, Jayne started having more issues related to MS, but still able to work. Three years later, Tom took a sales position with a company specializing in banking and security equipment for financial institutions, and he and Jayne made the move here. Shortly after, due to her MS progression, Jayne retired. Fast forward a few years, and Tom, after morphing into a caregiver role for Jayne, began giving thought to

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starting a company that could help families like theirs. “In going to doctor’s appointments, and even to the mall, it became increasingly harder for Jayne to walk and to open doors or even turn the key at home. And we began thinking there has to be a better way. “From our experience, the idea to start an in home care service was born“, says Tom. “We really didn’t know the community outside of our favorite places to eat and the local stores. I did some research on Assisting Hands and we received some information from them. Our search ended there and the rest is history.” “This is a wonderful faith based organization. We checked each other out thoroughly before we entered into the partnership,” shared Tom. The Falk’s Assisting Hands franchise includes two different vehicles for transportation, very reasonably priced. Whether it is a doctor visit, a trip to the grocery store, or even a church function or social outing, Assisting Hands can provide safe and affordable transportation for their clients. Assisting Hands also offers inhome assistance. They recognize the toll that caring for an adult family member who suffers from problems such as dementia can take on the caregiver. Sometimes,

just having a day off here and there can give the caregiver a much needed respite from their taxing daily responsibilities. Jayne shares that certain tasks have become more difficult with her MS, “I’ve developed more weakness in my arm and left hand and it has gotten harder to cook. It’s difficult to chop vegetables and other food prep.” Understanding these little nuances, the staff at Assisting Hands can cater their care to each individual client. Providing services from housekeeping and laundry to medication reminders, Assisting Hands offers an initial free inhome evaluation. Every visit is well documented and records are kept up to date for each visit. Jayne understands intimately why having someone you trust and can rely on is important. Every staff member is someone she herself would invite to help her when needed. So whether you need a little extra help at home or a ride to the doctor, or if you are caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or Dementia, or someone with physical challenges, Assisting Hands can lend the help you need on a daily, weekly or monthly basis. Give them a call at 803.661.7557 to hear more about how they may be able to help you and your family, or visit their website at www.assistinghands.com/midlands. There is a link to the Facebook page on their site. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness)

AMI (NATIONAL ALLIANCE ON MENTAL ILLNESS) Mid-Carolina, part of the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization is dedicated to improving the lives of individuals affected by mental illness. Recently, Mt. Horeb Methodist Church sent several staff and church members to a NAMI state training to receive certification to lead the NAMI Family Support group which will begin in Lexington this January. NAMI Mid Carolina’s purpose is to improve the quality of life, treatment, and delivery of services for those who are suffering from mental illness and their families through Education, Support, and Advocacy. We are excited to be teaming with Mt. Horeb to further our mission of support and education to the families of Lexington. The staggering fact: One out of 4 South Carolina residents contend with mental illness at some point in their lives; mental illnesses such as major depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, panic disorders, post-traumatic stress disorders, and ADHD. One of our biggest barriers is the stigma that prevents people from finding the right treatment. NAMI MidCarolina is working hard to find partners to help us build a larger awareness and educational programs throughout the state to help

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us break down the stigma barrier for more people to understand and realize that treatment = recovery. With proper treatment, many persons with mental illness will experience recovery and many of those will return to independent living and be a part of a more productive lifestyle in our communities. NAMI Mid-Carolina offers numerous educational programs for our members as well as the community at large: Family-to-Family is a course for family members of adult individuals experiencing symptoms of mental illness. NAMI Basics is for parents and other caregivers of children and adolescents experiencing symptoms of mental illness. Breaking the Silence program teaches school children about mental illness. Parents and Teachers as Allies helps families and school professionals identify the key warning signs of early-onset mental illness in children and

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adolescents in our schools. In Our Own Voice, is a public education program presented by two trained consumer speakers experiencing symptoms of mental illness and achieving recovery. Provider Education is for line staff at public agencies who work directly with people who experience symptoms of severe and persistent mental illness. Crisis Intervention Training, CIT, was designed to ensure law enforcement, hospital staff, and teachers know the most appropriate and effective methods for managing a situation involving someone with a mental illness. Many, many people benefit from NAMI’s programs and they are provided at no charge. The NAMI Family Support Group is for family members of individuals living with mental illness. The group is led by trained support group facilitators who know what it’s like to have a loved one living with a brain disorder. The NAMI

One out of 4 South Carolina residents contend with mental illness at some point in their lives... Support Group Model operates differently than other, more traditional ‘share and care’ groups. The model offers a set of key structures and group processes to use in common support group scenarios. They encourage participation by the entire group. NAMI Mid-Carolina looks forward to partnering with Mt. Horeb to offer hope and support in the Lexington community.

Mt. Horeb is offering a NAMI Family Support Group for families/friends of someone with a mental illness. The support group is held on the first and third Tuesday of each month at Mt. Horeb from 6:30pm until 8pm. If you have any questions, please call Pastor Faye Stephens at (803) 359-3495

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t 62, Blenda Dupree loved being active and spending time outdoors. It was a simple injury from a fall inadequately treated that changed her life. She spent years with pain, limited movement and limited mobility. therapy, and I thought may be that could help me.” Blenda scheduled an appointment with Dr. Eric M. Smarr, PT and Director of Physical Therapy at Vital Energy, and was impressed with how patiently he listened. They discussed her story, the severity of her pain and how it was limiting her activities and life. Dr. Smarr performed an examination and diagnosed her with muscular myofascial pain from fibrosis and trigger points located in several muscles around her hip.

Hima N. Dalal, OTR/L, Dr. Eric M. Smarr, PT, and Blenda Dupree (Physical Therapy Patient) While living in Pennsylvania, Blenda fell from a ladder and landed on the back of a recliner chair on her hip and low back. “One day I woke up and the pain was there, starting deep in my hip and down the side of my leg to just under my knee to my shin.” Blenda sought care from several doctors in Philadelphia, and was diagnosed with spinal stenosis, a narrowing of the spinal column causing pressure on the spinal cord, resulting in low back, hip and leg pain. Treatments ranged from steroid injections to back surgery, none of which corrected the problem. She assumed she would just

have to learn how to live with the pain. Eventually, she and her husband retired, moved to South Carolina and sought chiropractic help for a year, nothing. “I had been suffering with this condition for 4-5 years and was trying to stay out of a wheelchair. My husband even started planning to build ramps throughout our house. I could not walk longer than 5-10 minutes without having to sit to relieve the pain. I could not stand and talk with friends but had to sit because of the pain. Then, looking through a magazine, I saw an ad for Vital Energy Wellness and Rehab Center, offering aquatic

With a plan of care established to manually treat the fibrosis and chronic inflammation in her hip musculature, he thought he could reduce her pain if not eliminate it completely. Her treatments began in April 2012, three times a week with treatments relying primarily on the manual therapy FRAMS (Fibrosis Release And Myofascial Stretching) technique (www.myframs. com). This manual treatment uses special stainless steel tools which identify, then reduce and eliminate built up scar tissue (fibrosis) which can develop in muscles subjected to chronic inflammation, tendonitis and pain. In addition, Blenda was shown daily stretching exercises to provide a positive stimulus and help

remodel areas of muscle with scarring and fibrosis. She also performed exercises for strengthening and endurance. Ironically, the aquatic therapy which led her to seek out Vital Energy was never necessary. Her response to physical therapy and her improvements were amazing. “I started walking farther on the treadmill and standing longer with progressively less and less pain. The FRAMS treatment was incredible. I kept reaching new levels of improvement/function.” Now, Blenda walks two miles a day and rides bikes with her husband with minimal to no pain. Blenda is planning to join a dance exercise class and yoga class. “I love swimming, and am now able to walk up and down stairs without holding on. One of the most thrilling things is I can now keep up with my 2 ½ year old grandson. As for the wheelchair ramps my husband was planning, they are no longer needed. I feel like I have been given my life back and will forever be grateful to Eric and the staff at Vital Energy.” Vital Energy Owner, Hima N. Dalal, OTR/L is proud to announce the addition of Dr. Eric M. Smarr, PT and Trina Price, PTA to Vital Energy’s staff of therapy professionals. Contact them at (803) 359-1551. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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almetto Imaging is dedicated to providing a remarkable patient experience. Because they know an imaging procedure can be stressful and expensive, the team at Palmetto Imaging makes every effort to view its business from the patient’s point-of-view, making every effort to ensure that services are performed as quickly and cost effectively as possible. We sat down with Palmetto Imaging to ask some common questions that potential patients may have about its facilities. W2W: Why is it less expensive to come to Palmetto Imaging vs. a Hospital? Palmetto Imaging: Palmetto Imaging is a freestanding outpatient imaging facility, so we are able to get better contracted rates with all insurance providers. Hospitals have large overheads and are not able to acquire these low rates which means higher cost to you, the patient. Also, don’t get confused by an MRI or CT machine located in

a doctor’s practice. If the practice is owned by a hospital group, you are paying a hospital rate even if you are not physically at the hospital. In addition, we bill globally. This means the radiologist’s interpretation of the scan and the study you had performed are on one bill. When having a scan performed at a hospital-owned facility, you will receive two bills. One from the hospital and one from the radiology company who is reading your study. Across the board for all insurances we are significantly less than a hospital and offer a sizeable discount for patients without insurance. Your Money… Your Choice!

W2W: Do I have a choice when choosing my Imaging Provider? PI: The answer is yes! All patients have a choice where to have their imaging studies performed. Many factors are taken into consideration when making this important decision such as convenience, cost, quality of service, and whether the facility is in network with a patient’s insurance. Many patients will go where their provider suggests. If your provider’s practice is hospital owned or has its own imaging equipment, that provider will most likely recommend the facility in which it is affiliated. Ultimately, this is just a recommendation. You always have the right

Do I have a choice when choosing my Imaging Provider? The answer is yes! All patients have a choice where to have their imaging studies performed. to choose the facility that best suits your needs. Become an informed healthcare consumer and research your options. Feel comfortable asking your provider questions about your options. The choice is yours! W2W: Are you able to accommodate same day/ next day appointments?

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PI: When a patient has been referred for a study they are usually in pain, scared, and ready to be seen right away. Who wants to worry for two weeks about the possibilities of a scan? In the Midlands, we have three convenient locations, Downtown Columbia, West Columbia, and Irmo, so we are able to accommodate same day/ next day appointments. In most locations we open early, stay late, and are open on the weekends to work with your schedule. We also guarantee that the report will be faxed to your doctor’s office within 24 hours of your exam. W2W: Most of my family lives in the Upstate and can’t take advantage of the value that you offer because of the distance. Do you have any recommendations for an imaging group that could help them? PI: In addition to the local imaging centers mentioned above, we are part of a larger network of imaging facilities that represents 14 locations throughout South Carolina. Please feel free to visit our website to view locations in other parts of South Carolina, www.scdiag.com. Our parent company also maintains facilities in Alabama, Florida, Georgia, Illinois, Missouri, North Carolina and Virginia. You can find specific locations in those states at www.mqimaging.com. All of our centers operate with similar quality and value imaging services for their local communities.

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Working the Beat: Women’s Hearts

id you know that statistics show a woman is more than five times likely to die of a heart attack than breast cancer? Heart disease is the #1 killer of women in our community, taking the lives of our mothers, aunts, sisters and friends. Learning about our hearts should be a top priority. Dr. William D. Brearley, Jr., of Lexington Cardiology, a Lexington Medical Center physician practice, answers questions about your heart. What are some heart attack symptoms in women? Heart attack symptoms in women can be atypical. Chest discomfort is most frequent, however other less recognized symptoms include back pain, fatigue, breathlessness and arm or joint pain. Women do not always present with the classic feeling of the “elephant on your chest,” which is more common in men. Misdiagnosing these symptoms as being caused by stress or a hectic schedule can be deadly.

Some people may think of a heart attack as something that only happens to men.

I’ve heard several women say, “I never thought I’d have a heart attack.” No one thinks it’s going to happen to them. Unfortunately, that’s not true. More than 200,000 women in our country

die each year from heart attacks. More than 8 million women have a history of heart attack or angina. And more women than men die of heart disease.

How should women be screened for heart disease?

Women should have an annual physical with a blood pressure check and lipid panel. Symptoms and cardiovascular risk factors should also be reviewed. Your blood pressure should be less than 140/90, with lower targets for certain conditions such as diagnosed coronary disease. The top number is systolic pressure – the amount of pressure that blood exerts on vessels while the heart is contracting. The bottom number is diastolic pressure – the amount of pressure while the heart is relaxed. A lipid panel is the measurement of different components of cholesterol in your blood.

One of LMC’s physicians says that women know their shoe size and dress size, but not always their cholesterol numbers. What is cholesterol and what numbers are ideal? Cholesterol is a fat-like substance in your bloodstream. There are

two types: LDL is known as “bad” cholesterol because it contributes to plaque formation in arterial walls. This plaque can narrow your arteries or rupture, causing a heart attack. HDL is called “good” cholesterol because it carries cholesterol to your liver, where it’s removed from your body. There are different target levels of LDL cholesterol, depending on risk factors and existing conditions such as diabetes or known coronary artery disease. In low risk patients, LDL should be less than 160 mg/dL. HDL should be greater than 40 mg/dL and triglycerides should be less than 150 mg/dL. Exercising and limiting saturated fats in your diet help to lower your cholesterol.

Heart disease is prevalent in Lexington County. What advice do you have for women?

About Dr. Brearley Dr. William Brearley is a Lexington native who graduated from Lexington High School. He received a Bachelor of Science in Biology with a Minor in Chemistry, magna cum laude, from Presbyterian College. He earned a Doctor of Medicine from the Medical University of South Carolina. Dr. Brearley completed an internship and residency in the Department of Internal Medicine at Carolinas Medical Center. He also completed Cardiovascular Disease and Interventional Cardiology Fellowships at the University of Florida Department of Medicine, Division of Cardiology.

One out of every 3 deaths in our state is related to cardiovascular disease. Don’t ignore your symptoms – talk to your doctor even if you have breathlessness or fatigue. Exercise regularly, don’t smoke and eat nutritious foods. Be a positive example. Heart disease risk factors including diabetes and obesity rates in our community are climbing – in adults and children. We need to work on keeping our hearts healthy. William D. Brearley, Jr., MD, FACC www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

MEET DR. JAMES D.

WHITEHEAD of Whitehead Orthodontics

by Lori Samples Duncan

M The Whitehead Family Dr. Whitehead is part of a heritage that spans four generations of Doctors in South Carolina. His great grandfather, grandfather, and father were all physicians. Though it is a family tradition, he was inspired by his own experience with an orthodontist to choose his specialty. In practice since 1999, Dr. Whitehead completed his undergraduate studies at Clemson University, where he earned a degree in financial management. He went on to receive his D.M.D. from the Medical University of South Carolina and his orthodontic training and M.S. in oral biology from the Medical College of Georgia. He is now married to his beautiful wife, Crissy, and they have two dashing young sons.

to see his patients outside of the office in their every day lives. Don’t be surprised to see him at a local baseball game or a school event. He and his staff deliver the best possible care in a fun, friendly environment, taking the dread out of treatment by making it as much fun as possible.

One of the things Dr. Whitehead most enjoys about practicing orthodontics in the community in which he lives is just being able

“Treatment can take up to two years in some cases, and we want that experience to be as fun and pleasant for not only the patient, but the family as well. We strive very hard to create that kind of environment. We recognize that every patient has different needs, and we pride ourselves in the courteous service we deliver to each person who walks through our doors. Whether you’re an adult, adolescent or child, our knowledgeable doctors and staff are committed to helping you achieve

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eet Dr. Whitehead, a longtime staple in your orthodontic care community. Located in Lexington, SC, his practice’s top priority is to provide patients the highest quality orthodontic care in a friendly, comfortable environment. Utilizing the latest technological advances in the industry, such as invisible ceramic braces, along with the latest in computer technology (digital imaging and advanced computer graphics) Whitehead Orthodontics ensures that you receive the most effective care possible.

We recognize that every patient has different needs, and we pride ourselves in the courteous service we deliver to each person who walks through our doors.

American Association of Orthodontists • South Carolina Dental Association • Southern Association of Orthodontists • South Carolina Association of Orthodontists • Georgia Association of Orthodontists • Greater Columbia Dental Society

the smile you deserve — a healthy, beautiful one!”

A significant number of smiles around Lexington have been created by Dr. Whitehead. When the topic of braces in our community appears, it is not uncommon to hear someone say, “I love Dr. Whitehead” in reference to their personal experience.

In practice since 1999, Dr. Whitehead stays abreast of the latest advances in his field through memberships in the following professional organizations: • American Dental Association

Fortunately, now his patients have more options when seeing Dr. Whitehead, as his White Knoll location is now open and ready to serve you. For more information, visit www.whiteheadortho.com.

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e have rolled into the New Year without much of a fuss at the Duncan home. Three of our children have already celebrated their birthday in the last four weeks. Trent and I celebrate our birthdays in February, and on the 17th of this year marks our 18th wedding anniversary! Now some of you reading this will be celebrating year thirty or fifty so it doesn’t seem like much of an accomplishment to you, but for me, I feel accomplished. I met my husband 19 years ago while we were living in the same apartment complex. He was the only man to ever kiss me without permission. (Remember when a guy would ask, “May I kiss you goodnight?”) Trent didn’t ask. He just kissed me goodnight after our first date. I was pleasantly surprised as it turns out, and I agreed to see him again the next day. Within six months he had asked me to marry him, and on February 17th, I said “I do” in a courthouse in Winder, Georgia. It wasn’t the big fancy wedding that I dreamed of, but we had all we needed. It was just us, a retiring judge, a witness, and a whole lot of love coming together on that day, to make a vow before God that I never intend to break. The judge cried, and I cried. She said it was the last wedding ceremony she would ever perform. I thought it was sweet. We held hands as we left the courthouse and ran through the drizzling rain to our Camaro. ( I loved that car). We didn’t go on a honeymoon. We were young, naïve, so happy and pretty broke. We went straight to a little rental property that was owned by my older brother and began moving in. I remember the first time I ever cooked him fried chicken. It was so brown and pretty on the outside, and when he took a bite, it was cold and pink! I could have killed him that day from Salmonella poisoning! I cried, but he laughed and told me not to worry about it. We dumped the chicken in the trash, and he took me out to dinner. Needless to say, that was my first and last attempt at fried chicken. We have been through a lot in eighteen years. It hasn’t always been easy to love each other. A friend’s father, on his fiftieth wedding anniversary, said, “The secret to a long and happy marriage is never falling out of love with each other at the same time.” I think that was a wise statement. I believe marriage takes 110% from each party. Sometimes the joys of moving toward a destination is not in arriving but the journey itself. Trent was born on Valentine’s Day. After eighteen years, four children, a move to another state, losing my father, and losing his mother, I am happy to say he is the only man I have ever truly loved. He still makes me blush when he smiles at me, and says, “ I love you”. He never leaves home without kissing me goodbye. I love him with my whole heart and hope to spend at least eighteen more years with him. Happy Birthday and Happy Anniversary to my Valentine, Trent Duncan, and Happy Heart Month to all of you and your loved ones! Your Friend,

Lori Samples Duncan

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18 Years of Marriage 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.

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