Lexington Woman Magazine

VOL 7, NO 6

COMPLIMENTARY

CELEBRATING, MOTIVATING, AND EDUCATING WOMEN

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CARLOS GUEVARA Meet Lexington’s own rising star

TWO TIME SURVIVOR Joe Bates shares his experience of beating the odds more than once

MY FAIRY TALE

WEDDING Jordan Truesdale Urban shares

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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

Lori Samples Duncan (loriduncan86@gmail.com)

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Crystal Poston Cathy Williams (info@lexingtonwomanonline.com)

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Lori Samples Duncan Thomas Falk Jamie Cross Gomez, DMD Randy Halfacre Ashby Jones Beth McCrary Amy Pittsenbarger Jennifer W. Potts, DVM Jordan Truesdale Urban Rachel-Elise Weems

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PHOTOGRAPHY Charlotte Ashley Photography Clark Berry Photography Robert Patrick Image Design

From the Editor 2 ‘Tis the Season

Events

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Talk of the Town with Mayor Randy Halfacre Carlos Guevara The Ashby Chronicle: Princess Demon Possession Grandchildren – with Senator Katrina Shealy From the Diamond to the Court with Type 1 Diabetes

Pets

17 Pet Food Facts and Myths

Celebrating the Survivor in You!

18 Two Time Survivor: Surviving, Thriving, and Never Giving Up

Let’s Talk Love Stories

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My Fairy Tale The Bloom of a Perfect Day Crossing a New Threshold with The Mitchell House

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Planning Beyond the “I Do’s” The Journey More Than the Photographs Not Too Hot, Not Too ColdIt’s Just Right

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Ask the Doctor: Understanding New Pap Smear Guidelines The Art of Stress Management in Rehabilitation When You Can’t Do It All… Give Assisting Hands a Call!

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his issue of Lexington Woman is not our “traditional” holiday issue, however, I think it’s a really special issue.

Holidays are a time of love, giving, and unselfishness so in the spirit of that, we celebrate the coming together of two special families. It was a beautiful wedding and inspired us to reach out into the Lexington community and find a few other love stories to share with you. Not always the “traditional” love story either, but a love story none the less.

You will read about a grandmother and her love of her grandchildren, a mature couple who found a second chance at love later in life, a survivor and his love who literally shine their light on others, and much more. We even convinced our very own Ashby Jones to share with us her “Bridezilla” story in celebration of this magical issue.

Seasons come and go and this year is no exception. It was almost hard to tell the summer from the spring. Our school district is racing toward the Christmas break, and before you know it, we will be celebrating another class of graduates. Thank you for all the wonderful feedback you provide us with for each issue of Lexington Woman Magazine. We are blessed to be a part of this fine community. Like us on Facebook for some great holiday giveaways and read previous issues online at www.lexingtonwomanonline.com.

Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year! See you again in 2014!

Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Lori Samples Duncan Editor-in-Chief

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Events

What’s HAPPENING? Oyster Roast 4 Kennedy November 10, 1–9 p.m.

In the Courtyard at the Shoppes at Flight Deck, Lexington

This is a wonderful family friendly event to help support our local Pray 4 Kennedy Trust Fund. There will be 3 buckets of oysters and a pig pull along with live music. You can buy your tickets in advance for $30 or pay $35 at the door (per person). Ticket prices per couple are only $60. Come out and have a great time and help support a wonderful cause!

Fries with That Wine November 14, 6:30–8:30 p.m.

Greater Lexington Chamber and Visitors Center

The third annual wine tasting to benefit Ronald McDonald House Charities of Columbia, SC is rapidly approaching, however, this year it is back with a unique twist and presenting one very important question – “Would you like some Fries with that Wine?” Guests will enjoy an evening of live music while pairing fast food favorites with wine samplings. Tickets are $20 per person or $30 per couple. Purchase at the door the evening of the event or online at: www.eventbrite.com/ event/7706575575/Calendars.

Lights Before Christmas November 22 – December 30 (closed Nov. 28, Dec. 24 and 25), 5–9 p.m.

Riverbanks Zoo and Gardens, Columbia

Experience Columbia’s longest running holiday tradition—the 26th annual Lights Before Christmas at Riverbanks Zoo and Garden. The Zoo will light up each evening with more than one million twinkling lights and countless animated images representing some of Riverbanks’ most loveable residents. Guests can roast marshmallows at the jingle bell bonfire, visit with Santa and enjoy the festive sounds of the Music in Motion lights spectacular. Riverbanks is also the only place in town where it snows every night! You can buy tickets in advance at the Zoo. Tickets for adults are $10, Children from 3-12 are $8 and children under 3 are free. Please remember that after 5pm ticket prices increase by $2 and all Riverbanks Zoo members receive one free visit. www.riverbanks.org

Snowville!

November 23 – February 23 EdVenture, Columbia

Our most popular seasonal exhibit is cooler than ever!

Strap on some ice skates and pack your mittens for a frosty, fun-filled trip to Snowville. Starting November 23, every day is a SNOW DAY at EdVenture! Crawl through an ice tunnel, climb a snow-capped mountain, sled down a snowy hill, or visit the Penguin Observation Station. Free with museum admission. www.edventure.org

Bill Gaither Christmas Homecoming December 6, 7 p.m.

Colonial Life Arena

A full evening of entertainment and meaningful music is a rare treat anytime, but when the occasion includes

the best-loved voices in gospel music during the Christmas season… it’s a must-see celebration! If you attend just one musical event this year, an evening hosted by Bill Gaither and featuring the Homecoming friends is one you can’t miss. It will leave you encouraged, grateful and most certainly smiling! Tickets are $74.50PLATINUM (sold online only), $38.50 (Artist Circle), $28.50 (Reserved), and $24.50 (Reserved -Seniors 60+ and Children under 12). (Ticket Limit of 8).The box office opens at 9am on December 6th and the concert doors open at 6pm. www.coloniallifearena.com

Aiken Women’s Expo December 7, 9 a.m.–5 p.m.

Family YMCA, Aiken

Come join Woman 2 Woman Publications for this free event featuring a survivor fashion show, vendors, live music, and food.

2013 Lexington Jingle Bell Run/ Walk for Arthritis December 14, 9 a.m.–12 p.m.

The Moore Center for Orthopedics 104 Saluda Pointe Drive, Lexington

Jingle bell run/walk is a fun, festive event for the whole family! This is a great way to kick off the holidays by helping others! Participants wear their reindeer antlers and/or themed costumes, and tie jingle bells to their shoelaces and run or walk a 5 kilometer route with their team members to celebrate the season by giving. This year there will also be a 3 mile and 1 mile fun runs, and a reindeer run for kids 8 and under. The Arthritis Foundation Jingle Bell Run/Walk raises awareness and helps prevent, control, and cure arthritis and related diseases.

Registration fee is only 25$ online. www.jinglebellrunlexington.kintera.org

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Let’s Talk

TALK

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with CHAMBER PRESIDENT RANDY HALFACRE

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ver the past nine years as your Mayor, I have addressed citizens’ questions on many issues regarding the town and educating the public of the differences between government agencies and their respective responsibilities. I would like to share some of those common “misconceptions” so that you may become better informed on the Town’s responsibilities, limitations and parameters to governance.

with any updated information throughout the project.

In order to keep our citizens safe and obeying the posted speed limits, our Police Department’s Traffic Safety Division is responsible for issuing speeding citations to those not in compliance. Many think we issue citations for income. That is not the case! More than 70% of every ticket goes back to the State of South Carolina and divided out to public safety programs such as the criminal justice academy, victim assistance and DUI assessment. The number one goal of our police department is to provide safety, so please drive safe and follow the law.

More than 70% of every ticket goes back to the State of South Carolina and divided out to public safety programs such as the criminal justice academy, victim assistance and DUI assessment.

Did you know that many of the roads that run through the Town of Lexington are overseen by SCDOT? Major corridors like Sunset Boulevard (SC 378), Augusta Road/ Main Street (US 1) and N./S. Lake Drive (SC 6) fall under the programming and responsibility of SCDOT and the Federal Highway Administration whereas the Town is responsible for a majority of the neighborhood roads. We are presently working diligently on in-town road repairs and just began work on those roads that earned failing grades. You can see a listing of the projects and timelines under the “Traffic Projects” link on our website at www.lexsc.com.

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A major factor for roads is speed limits, a task that is also overseen by SCDOT. The new speed limit on Sunset Boulevard was reduced to conform with the adjacent limits on the road along with providing safety for the additional influx of traffic seen by the new schools along the Corley Mill Road/ Ginny Lane corridor. SCDOT will continue to make improvements in the area, with the addition of a traffic circle which will help mitigate traffic on Corley Mill Road as it enters Sunset Boulevard. We will provide you

Many new structures are going up throughout the community, to include a couple of large billboard structures. Please note that these fall within unincorporated parcels, called “enclaves” or “doughnut holes” and are located on property NOT inside town limits. The Town of Lexington has one of the strictest sign and appearance ordinances in the state and prohibit these signs but since they do not fall under our jurisdiction we have NO control on their existence.

I hope you can see the Town is limited in its ability to affect certain outcomes that are not under our control. For those things we do have responsibilities for, we are proud of our achievements and through our Vision Plan will continue to accomplish our goals.

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s I have told you before, I am not one of those people who get star struck.

I see people as people. Carlos Guevara was a little different. Meeting Carlos and his mother Eliesha Nick was different. Not that Carlos has even scratched the surface of how famous he will one day become, for me what was fascinating was seeing this young man who is on the cusp of watching his dreams come true. The son of a preacher and a mother committed to letting her child pursue his dreams, Carlos has been a long time Lexington resident. Carlos had already had to deal with the diagnosis of a life altering condition of Tourette Syndrome. From being the Class President to being confined to a wheelchair – to standing tall and singing on a national stage-in front of four very famous judges, here is my interview with Carlos Guevara.

We threw a little party with Fatz in Lexington to celebrate this young man and see if he would be granted the right to move on to the next show. If you have been watching XFACTOR, you know that he did!

I asked this unpretentious young man, “What did you do today?”

Carlos: After lunch, I went to a photo shoot with Lexington Woman Magazine. That was really fun. I want to give a big thanks to Lexington Woman and Patrick Mooney (Robert Patrick Images) for doing this for me. It has really been such a blessing. I cannot wait to see what is going to happen the rest of the night.

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Carlos: When the first audition aired, my phone was beeping like it had Tourettes. I was thinking ‘This is crazy!,’ but I was also very grateful. Now people are wishing me good luck tonight and I want to send a great big thank you to all of the people who have been there to support me.

I love Lexington so much, and the people have been so supportive.

LWM: What do you feel like gave you the confidence to make that trip to Charleston to pursue your dream?

Carlos: I was a big fan of the show before, and I am a big believer in prayer. During Season 2, I was going through some tough times. Then XFACTOR announced that Charleston would be one of the cities where they would hold auditions. At that moment, I thought it was meant to be. What helped me stay focused during that time was my faith in God and being able to believe I could do it. You always have those voices in the back of your head saying ‘you cannot do it’ and ‘you are not good enough.’ I was not even a serious singer until I was 12. I just had to believe in God and trust that this was meant to be. All of the odds were against me, but I kept pushing and it was my goal to make the audition for my recovery. That would let me know all of my hard work was worth it.

LWM: Did you start singing in church and is that when you found out that you really had a voice?

Carlos: My mother and grandmother are singers, so I come from a family of singers. I was just a kid who always loved music; I never really thought about singing. I would always sing in my shower but it was never a serious thing. My first performance was at a benefit for a mission trip to Trinidad and I sang “How He Loves Us.” That is where was where it all began.

LWM: What was your Mother’s reaction after that first performance?

Carlos: My mom has been such a big support of me always; especially helpful with her musical knowledge. Her support has been a vital part of my confidence.

LWM: How did you go from being class president and a football player going through this very real struggle to finally come to where you are now? Since music was your refuge, is that what made you immerse yourself into that?

Carlos: Going from being on top of the world to feeling like you are underneath it is definitely a hard thing. It is really scary when you real-

The Guevara Family ‘When I sing, I want my music to take people on a journey...’ ize you are not in control of your own body. I was thinking ‘God, why is this happening?’ That was a hard time but look at all the opportunities since then.

LWM: I read a scripture today where the Psalmist was thanking God for his affliction because through that he found God. Carlos: I think that when you really are down on your knees, all you can rely on is God. I could not rely on medicine or on the doctors.

I was physically and emotionally drained. Only thing I could count on was God and his blessing of music – and that kept me sane.

LWM: Do you think because you have faith that being a part of this show will help you to stay who you are while going through this process?

Carlos: It brought more glory to God to bring me through my tough times to where I am now. Just hearing stories about people through my fan page and twitter has been wonderful. I am more inspired by them and I think that this is crazy. I think none of this would have been possible without going through that hard time.

People ask me if I would change that experience if given the opportunity. When I think about it physically and emotionally, I say yes. Then when I really think about it, the answer is no – because I would not have been able to get to where I am. I would not be as strong as I am now and I would not be able to share my experiences or testimony with people.

LWM: What do you hope that people will take away from this and you being on the show?

Carlos: Do not let anything hold you back from getting what you want. Do not let anything define who you are. Keep fighting and striving for what you want and never feel sorry for yourself.

LWM: Where do you hope you are in five years?

Have you even thought about it?

Carlos: In five years I just want the world to know who Carlos is. I do not want to be the person who is in the media or on TMZ for doing something bad. I want to be on there for being me. I am loud, talkative, awkward, and quirky; I am Carlos. When people ask me what genre I am in, I want to be in the Carlos genre. When I sing, I want my music to take people on a journey and I want it to mean something more than just words.

And at Lexington Woman, we believe that to be a real possibility. God has definitely blessed this young man with a very powerful gift.

Tourette Syndrome (also called Tourette’s syndrome, Tourette’s disorder, Gilles de la Tourette syndrome, GTS or, more commonly, simply Tourette’s or TS) is an inherited neuropsychiatric disorder with onset in childhood, characterized by multiple physical (motor) tics and at least one vocal (phonic) tic. These tics characteristically wax and wane, can be suppressed temporarily, and are preceded by a premonitory urge. Tourette’s is defined as part of a spectrum of tic disorders, which includes provisional, transient and persistent (chronic) tics.

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THE ASHBY CHRONICLE:

Princess Demon Possession

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do not believe I offended ALL of my friends before my wedding on July 20, 1996, but I sure tried. You see, I got married before Bridezilla was a television show and it became generally acceptable to make a fool out of yourself just so you could get married. At the time, all I really wanted was to marry my cute boyfriend, a live band to perform at my reception, and to wear a designer gown. And a limousine. And shrimp.

I don’t know what happens when a woman becomes engaged. It’s like a princess spirit (or princess demon) takes over the bride’s body. The princess spirit removes memory from the bride’s brain. The memory removal allows the bride to believe this wedding is the only time she has ever demonstrated success in her entire life. The bride doesn’t remember all the real successes of her past – the time she made an A in Algebra II, or the time she didn’t fall on her bottom during the cheerleading competition.

Or, the time she helped rebuild dilapidated homes for a week one hot summer in the South Carolina lowcountry.

No, the bride must demonstrate that she selected the best prince available, and all of her friends are genuinely elated for her, and her waist is skinnier. To achieve this type of success, you really have to make many important decisions.

Like what your color scheme will be. My bridesmaid’s dresses were navy blue. This selection caused a bit of an uproar and resulted in a family meeting wherein my grandmother and my Aunt Mimbee explained to me that navy blue was so much like black that it would appear all of my nine bridesmaids were in mourning. I couldn’t really

choose what other colors I liked so I told everyone to pick “primary colors.” Stefanie pointed out that if I did this all of my towels and sheets would be multicolored.

She suggested that I choose white linens, because I could add to my collection of fine sheets and towels over the years. I ignored all of the color advisors. Thus, my bridesmaids sort of looked like they were in mourning and the first several years of my marriage my linen closet looked like a rainbow.

My bridesmaids and honorary bridesmaids were given detailed instructions. I believe I drew an actual circle on a memorandum

I mailed to all of them, demonstrating the acceptable circumference of their earrings. I felt I was being generous, allowing them to wear their own earrings at my ceremony. Allison and Darra were my bouncers. I figured, since they were lawyers in training like me they would be completely comfortable confronting people who had the gall to bring children to the ceremony. (They weren’t comfortable with this).

Almost all of them have forgiven me. Probably because they were later possessed by the princess demon, and they were able to get even with me (making me wear a

dress the color of phlegm, insisting that I learn an intricate line dance for the reception, inviting me to thirteen showers where I had to appear with a gift). But they also forgave me because I returned to normal really quickly. In fact, as soon as the ceremony was over I told my parents I didn’t really need to attend my reception at all, that I was satisfied with my ceremony. At which point my mother reminded me of the live rock band and ridiculous cake and shrimp I had insisted on and instructed me to get a certain posterior portion of my anatomy into the white stretch limousine and to the reception NOW.

I don’t know what happens when a woman becomes engaged. It’s like a princess spirit (or princess demon) takes over the bride’s body. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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GRANDCHILDREN –

GOD’S GIFT TO YOU FOR LIVING THROUGH YOUR OWN CHILDREN’S TEENAGE YEARS

with Senator Katrina Shealy

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ormer New York mayor Rudolph Giuliani said “What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies.” I would go a step farther to say that what grandparents most need is grandchildren. That same unconditional love comes back a thousand fold. And if we are aware, then we realize the countless lessons that the little ones among us teach us every day. There is something very special about the bond between a grandmother and her grandchild. If you don’t believe me, just ask South Carolina Senator Katrina Shealy about the special little boys – Taylor and Thomas, ages 9 and 5 – who call her “MeeMaw.” “When my daughter told me I was going to become a grandmother, I believe it was one of the most exciting things I ever heard!” shares Senator Shealy. “Once you become a Grandmother your life is never the same. As my husband says...

You think you love your spouse, you think you love your children, but just wait until those grandchildren come … that’s when you really know what love is all about.”

She shared with us her excitement about the birth of her first grandson, “It’s a part of you that you always imagined, but could have never really known exactly how much love you could feel for someone else until you see that tiny little baby. Our moment was unique in that we were very excited for a few days and then learned that Taylor had a congenital heart defect and would need open heart surgery.

All of that excitement suddenly became fear. And the overwhelming love became overwhelming

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emotion. Taylor had open heart surgery in Charleston when he was six months old and is doing great now. Nine years later and the doctors tell us his health is perfect. But talk about experiencing the depths of what love is all about? It did not take long to realize how much we were in love with that little boy.”

Truth is, we had lots of questions for Senator Shealy, but she did such a great job sharing stories that we wanted to let her do just that. Here are a few favorites: She told us about a windy fall Saturday a few years back when she was babysitting Taylor (5 years old at the time) and they were outside collecting a bag of leaves for him to take home because he said he didn’t have any (I’m sure his parents loved that). “Since

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the ones on the ground were wet from the rain, I encouraged him to watch as the wind blew and chase

‘As my husband says...You think you love your spouse, you think you love your children, but just wait until those grandchildren come … that’s when you really know what love is all about.’ the new ones as they fell. Not only was this a good idea to get dry leaves but it also worked to help

tire out a rambunctious little boy.

I sat on the rocker in the Gazebo in the middle of the back yard and watched as he chased leaf after leaf across the yard. After about 30 minutes he came and sat on the steps showing off his bag of red, orange and brown leaves. All shapes and sizes filled the bag. He was so proud. He looked around the Gazebo…looked at me and said “MeeMaw – What is this thing?” I said “Well, it’s a Gazebo.”

“Well, what’s that?” I should have known just saying a Gazebo wasn’t going to be enough. So I continued…

“It’s a nice quite place to sit and think. You can sit and talk or just sit. Just a quiet place.” He got really quiet and said – “You know, I think here would be a good place to pray.” Mmmm I thought – this is an opportunity.

Senator Katrina Shealy with her grandchildren I said, “Yes, Taylor, it is. Would you like to pray? You know we could pray now if you want.” I could actually make an impact on his life, show him how to pray, make my daughter proud. Won’t this be a great story to tell her of how Taylor and I sat in the Gazebo on a windy Saturday afternoon and prayed?

Well, in a small voice of almost total disgust he looked at me with his hands on his hips and said “Hah MeeMaw – You don’t have to pray out loud for Jesus to hear you.” I guess he told me…

So for the next ten minutes, we sat quietly and watched the leaves fall.

I certainly wasn’t going to say anything. I let him lead that conversation from that point forward. We finally got up chased some more leaves and later went back inside.

I don’t think I ever thought things that far through at that age, but

there are lessons to be learned every day. In fact I probably still don’t pray as much as I should, out loud or even in the quietness of my heart. I do know that I think about it more often, and when I sit in the Gazebo or walk through the yard and watch the leaves fall, I know that Jesus knows what’s in my heart “even if I don’t say it out loud!”

Senator Shealy told us about the time the boys were spending the night and after an exhausting day of sugar overload and Smore’s with extra Hershey’s chocolate, it was bath time…”Taylor had headed out in front of Thomas and I and was already in the bathroom getting ready when we got there. I started the water in the tub and while I was getting Thomas ready to get in, Taylor looked up at me with a serious but shy look and said in a way only Taylor could say it “Mee Maw, is that a bra in there?”

He had come through the laundry room and my bra was lying across the dryer. I looked at him and “Well, yes, Taylor. Why?” Again… shyly and wide eyed he said “Mee Maw, what happens to boys if they touch a bra?” In the back of my mind, I know what he’s done and I am trying valiantly to contain my laughter, but this is such an opportunity. I looked at him with a shocked almost scared expression and I said “Why, Taylor, you didn’t touch that bra did you?” By this time, his head was bowed and he would only peep up and look at me. He nodded his head yes and said “um hum” I gasp. “Oh, NO!!

Taylor, if boys touch bras, they grow boobies!!!” He squealed and started jumping up and down and throwing his arms up in the air.

Being the good Grandmother that I am, I couldn’t torture him for more than a few seconds before

admitting to him that he wouldn’t grow “boobies,” but he did need to know that he should not go blundering around in other peoples stuff, and he sure didn’t need to be “touching” other people’s things. I think he got the point…although I’m pretty sure there will be more stories to tell in the future!!

There were lots of other stories and the joy that Mrs. Shealy derives from those little boys is evident as she lovingly shares story after story, her face glowing with love. And when asked what she would like for her legacy to be, she says with pride: “I want my Grandchildren to say that I told the best bedtime stories ever!”

For some reason, we do not think that is going to be a problem. #MissionAccomplished

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From the Diamond to the Court with Type 1 Diabetes THE BURDEN OF TYPE 1 DIABETES

by Beth McCrary

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ost people know very little about Type 1 Diabetes (T1D) and don’t think it is very serious until it hits them directly. T1D is a devastating autoimmune disease for which there is no cure. T1D occurs when the body’s immune system destroys insulin-producing beta cells in the pancreas. Unrelated to diet or lifestyle, T1D causes lifelong dependence on injected insulin.

People living with T1D must carefully balance food intake, insulin dosage and activity level to stay healthy and alive. Even with great diligence, this is a challenging task for most people, especially athletes.

While much has been learned about people living with diabetes, there was a time when people diagnosed with T1D were discouraged from playing sports or engaging in too much physical activity.

In honor of Diabetes Awareness Month, we are sharing the stories of four area athletes who are living proof that Type 1 Diabetes doesn’t have to slow you down or keep you from fulfilling your dreams.

SLADE CARROLL Lexington High School 3 Sport Athlete

Slade Carroll is a 15 year old sophomore and 3 sport athlete at Lexington High School. He wrestles, plays running back for the Varsity football team and is an outfielder for the JV baseball team. Slade doesn’t take a break from afterschool practices, matches, or games the entire school year and neither does his diabetes. Yet Slade hasn’t let T1D

hold him back or slow him down since being diagnosed on June 6, 2012 at age 14.

Having played multiple sports since he was 4 years old, Slade was definitely concerned about the effect of T1D on his ability to continue. “At the time I was diagnosed, I was playing summer baseball and doing summer workouts for football. I didn’t really know what was going on, but I knew it was serious. All I wanted to know was if I could still play sports.”

Slade soon learned from his endocrinologist Dr. Whitney Brown that he could do anything he wanted to do by making adjustments in his routine that include frequent blood sugar checks along with carefully balancing his food intake, insulin dosage and activity level. Slade has a different routine for each sport he plays because each one’s activity level has a different effect on his body.

insulin because activity will drop his blood sugar dramatically, especially football and wrestling. If

While much has been learned about people living with diabetes, there was a time when people diagnosed with T1D were discouraged from playing sports or engaging in too much physical activity.

Slade’s pregame regimen is to fuel his body properly and take less

needed, he sips Gatorade during games to keep his blood sugar in a safe range. All of his coaches and trainers keep a careful eye on him during games and matches and his emergency diabetes kit is always close by. The kit includes a glucometer to check blood sugar, glucagon for serious lows and multiple sources of fast acting carbohydrates to raise blood sugar. Slade’s favorite fast acting carb sources to treat lows are apple juice, Gato-

rade, gummy bears and rice krispie treats. He confesses that he keeps them everywhere in order to be prepared – his bookbag, baseball bag, gym bag, his mom’s purse, the car and his pockets.

According to Slade, “The worst thing about having diabetes is constantly worrying about what you eat, how many carbs, how much insulin to take, etc. It is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I have to worry about my future health and take care of myself.” He wants other athletes to know that a diagnosis with Type 1 Diabetes does not have to keep you from doing something you love. “The best advice to a newly diagnosed athlete or anyone for that matter is it will be alright and you can do anything you want or play any sport. Don’t give up even though it may be difficult, you can manage your diabetes and do the things you love.”

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and how I take care of my body.

I am more responsible because of diabetes.”

On that fall day 12 years ago in October of 2002, Elliott and his parents received the news that his body was no longer producing insulin. Elliott would require life-saving insulin through either multiple daily injections or an insulin pump for the rest of his life.

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No one ever advised Elliott to give up sports when he was diagnosed with T1D and he was determined that it would not hold him back in any way. After his diagnosis, Elliott continued to play roller hockey, soccer, football, basketball and run track in his hometown of Plano, Texas. Elliott used an insulin pump from 3rd through 9th grade to treat and manage his diabetes and then opted to return to multiple daily injections because of his very active lifestyle. He now checks his blood sugar an average of 5 times a day and likes to keep his blood sugar above 120 while playing football. He knows that he must be diligent with his diabetes management to be ready to contribute when needed for the Gamecocks.

River Bluff High School Varsity Volleyball Player Abby Mellott remembers being diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes on February 2, 2009 in the middle of her third season playing club volleyball. She had lost a lot of weight and was sick all the time. Just like the Fry family, Abby’s family also knew something was terribly wrong. At the time, she didn’t know much about the disease

Do not quit. It’s going to be hard sometimes but you can’t let diabetes win.

Prior to arriving in Columbia, Elliott was punter and placekicker for Prince of Peace Christian School where he graduated in June of 2013. He was offered a full scholarship to play football at Louisiana Tech, but instead opted to walk on at the University of South Carolina. Elliott joined the USC football program over the summer and earned a starting position as placekicker with the Gamecocks.

Elliott’s advice for athletes diagnosed with T1D is to embrace it and not let it define you. “Having diabetes makes me healthier, I pay more attention to what I eat

and her greatest hope was that it wouldn’t prevent her from playing the sport she loves.

by exercise. It is a balancing act which is difficult to maintain. We are proud of the way Abby has dealt with her Type 1 Diabetes since her diagnoses at the age of 11. She won’t grow out of it, so unless there is a cure, she is in it for the long haul. Hoping and praying for a cure.” – Tammy Mellott

VICTORIA VOTION River Bluff High School Varsity Tennis Player

JDRF, the largest charitable funder of diabetes research has a slogan that says, “Everyone has a reason to walk. Who’s your number #1?”

For River Bluff High School, their number #1 is Victoria Votion. Victoria is the number one seeded singles player on the Girls Varsity tennis team and she has been living with Type 1 Diabetes since being diagnosed at age 9 in 3rd grade. Now a 7th grader at Lexington Middle School, Victoria has not allowed the curveball she was thrown to keep her from playing the sport she fell in love with at age 7.

Although she had to miss a few practices and games, within weeks she got right back on the volleyball court with her doctor’s blessing.

Abby is now 16 and plays rightside and outside hitter for the River Bluff High School Girls Varsity Volleyball team. Her best advice for a newly diagnosed athlete is, “Do not quit. It’s going to be hard sometimes but you can’t let diabetes win.”

Leading up to her diagnosis on May 11, 2010, Victoria had the classic symptoms of Type 1 Diabetes including extreme thirst and frequent urination. After a visit to her pediatrician revealed her blood sugar was over 1000, she was admitted into the Intensive Care Unit of Palmetto Health Children’s Hospital where she spent 5 days. Her family learned that left untreated Type 1 Diabetes results in death.

“Dealing with Type 1 diabetes is not easy, but it is something that can’t be ignored. It requires multiple blood sugar checks every day as well as diligence in keeping track of carb intake and administering insulin. Since Abby is an athlete she also has to factor in her physical activity when deciding how much insulin to give herself, as blood sugar is greatly impacted

Victoria feels blessed to have been diagnosed in the United States. She and her twin brother were adopted at the age of 23 months from their homeland of Bucharest, Romania by parents Tim and Gina Votion.

“I often think about the fact that I if I had not been adopted that I would have died on May 11, 2010 because as an orphan in Romania, I would not have received the

medical care that I needed to live.

So many people don’t understand that T1D is a life-threatening.”

“When you have a child athlete with T1D you must form a partnership with your child to help her perform at a high level of athleticism. Tennis is primarily an individual sport so the parent has to be at the sporting event and monitor the child closely to prevent dangerous low or high blood sugars. I enjoy a close bond with my daughter and I enjoy every minute watching her become a good tennis player, but even more I appreciate her strength and perseverance in coping everyday of her life with this life-threatening disease.” – Tim Votion

Help Create a World Without Diabetes Lexington High School, River Bluff High School and White Knoll High School have teams participating in the upcoming JDRF Palmetto Chapter Walk To Cure Diabetes on Sunday, November 3rd at Finlay Park. The community of Lexington is invited to join their efforts to help create a world without diabetes. Visit one of the links below throughout the month of November to join or make a donation in support of all faculty, staff and students living with Type 1 Diabetes.

White Knoll High School www2.jdrf.org/goto/WhiteKnoll HighSchool Lexington High School www2.jdrf.org/goto/Lexington Wildcats River Bluff High School www2.jdrf.org/goto/RiverBluff HighSchool

Beth McCrary is a freelance writer living in Lexington, SC and also has a daughter living with Type 1 Diabetes.

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here’s one thing we do with our pets every day that helps strengthen the bond between us: we feed them. There isn’t much that is as satisfying as setting a bowl of food down before a happy, thankful dog or cat. However, many dog food companies are making us question what we’re actually feeding our furry loved ones. Is corn safe for my dog? Could she be allergic to gluten? What the heck is animal by-product?!

Corn has been claimed by some dog food companies to be of poor nutritional value as well as a cause of allergies. In reality, corn makes a great source of protein, carbohydrates, and the essential fatty acid, linolenic acid, which is required in the diets of both dogs and cats.

It also brings antioxidants to the table such as Vitamin E and betacarotene. As far as allergies are concerned, 90% of dogs are allergic to things in their environment such as pollen from trees and weeds, fleas, and storage mites. The 10% that are allergic to food are most commonly allergic to animal

protein such as beef, chicken, and lamb. That’s not to say that there are not dogs with corn allergies; they are simply more uncommon.

On the topic of allergies, some dog foods claim that a grain-free or gluten-free diet is what pets need to be happy and healthy. In reality, only 1% of dogs are allergic to grains, and gluten-induced enteropathy (otherwise known as Celiac disease) is extremely rare in dogs and mostly seen in the Irish Setter breed, making the medical need for a gluten-free diet very small.

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in pet food, we should move on to Animal By-Product. Some of the commercials for pet food will have you believe that by-product is an inferior product or the waste parts of the animal. The true definition of a by-product is any ingredient that is produced or left over when some other product or ingredient is made. That means the gravy we make after the Thanksgiving turkey comes out of the oven is a byproduct. In dog food, this pertains to clean sources of protein such as the liver and kidneys are by-product after the muscle meat has been used for other things. By-product

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TWO TIME Survivor Surviving, Thriving, and Never Giving Up

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oe and Erin Bates were connected through prayer long before they ever met. While Erin was still in her mother’s womb, her mother prayed fervently for the man that Erin would one day marry. Little did she know that the man her daughter would grow up and marry was fighting for his life in Ohio at the very same time she was praying in Virginia.

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For Joe Bates, October 25, 1980 started like a typical Saturday. Joe had spent the night with his best friend, Kevin Silvers in his hometown of Union, SC. He and Kevin were up early on that Saturday morning to complete a list of chores left by Kevin’s mom. One of the chores on the list was to rake and bag leaves. Joe decided that using the push mower with the bagger would be the quickest way to get the job done.

Joe’s next steps would change his life forever.

Joe stepped into a utility room with a gas can in his hand and the next thing he remembered was being engulfed in flames. The fumes from the gas can had been ignited from the pilot light for the hot water heater causing a tremendous explosion that shook the entire house. Unaware what had happened, Joe remembers thinking that he was doomed, but his friend Kevin instinctively ran into the burning room and pulled him out. Joe fell to the ground and began rolling as Kevin squirted him with the water hose to extinguish the flames still on Joe’s body. “My best friend saved my life”.

Joe was immediately rushed to Wallace Thompson Hospital in Union where his family was told that he would most likely not survive. He was then transferred to the Charleston Burn Unit where he spent two nights. The doctors there told Joe’s parents that the only thing they could do, was to keep Joe drugged and as comfortable as they could until he died. While in Charleston, someone mentioned the Shriner’s Burn Hospital for Children to Joe’s mom. She contacted the Union Shrine Club and two hours later Joe was on an emergency flight to Cincinnati, Ohio. Joe recounts, “The doctors there restored hope in my parents that I may survive.”

charged from the Shriner’s Burn Hospital in Cincinnati on July 31, 1981. He returned to his hometown of Union, SC to hundreds of people from his community waiting to welcome him home. The mayor of Union proclaimed July 31st “Joe Bates Day”. It would be a short stay at home as Joe had to return to Cincinnati to continue his recovery and treatment. Joe continued to have reconstructive surgeries, therapy and rehabilitation for the next 10 years. In all, he had over 100 surgeries.

Physically, the flames left 3rd degree burn scars on over 92% of Joe’s body and caused amputations of most of Joe’s fingers on both hands. His right leg is amputated below the knee and he has to wear a prosthetic leg to be able to walk.

His left foot is fused at the ankle which makes it painful to walk or stand for long periods of time. But the flames did not dampen Joe’s spirit. He believes he is a stronger person to have gone through all that he did. “My dad used to say, ‘What don’t kill us makes us stronger.’ I am grateful to be alive. The best years of my life came after the flames.”

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of the many trips back and forth to Cincinnati, Ohio. He was able to return to school his sophomore year of high school and went on to graduate from Union High School in 1985.

After graduation, Joe moved to Columbia, SC to pursue a career in multi-track recording.

He studied the art and business of multi-track recording at Masterphase Recording Studio in Columbia and received a 2 year degree.

It was in 1998 while working at Musician’s Supply that Joe Bates and Erin Hartman’s paths crossed at a company gathering. Erin had traveled from the Lexington location to the Northeast location to see the recent renovations. Joe remembers that Erin walked in, gravitated quickly to the acoustic guitars, picked one up and began to play and sing.

He joined her and they literally started playing music together and jamming for hours the first time they met. Joe was awestruck with her musical ability and her beautiful voice. He also says she was so dang pretty that he couldn’t keep his eyes off of her. They quickly developed a friendship through their mutual love of music and eventually fell in love with each other. Erin says there was an instant connection between her and Joe. “Right off the bat I had to know this man. He was so confident and kind. I wanted to know what makes him tick. He had such an infectious spirit.”

My dad used to say, ‘What don’t kill us makes us stronger.’ I am grateful to be alive. The best years of my life came after the flames.

For Joe’s mother, Ruth, there was never any doubt that Joe would indeed survive and one day thrive. Joe recalls that his mother fought in the trenches with him every step of the way and never gave up on him. “Mom was my hero. She stayed by my side for 9 months in a big city far away from everything and everyone she knew.”

While Joe’s doctors also had little hope that he would ever be able to walk again, make it on his own or play the guitar, Ruth didn’t. She never doubted or lost hope.

During the time that Joe was receiving treatment in the Intensive Care Unit, he was able to keep up with his schoolwork thanks to his teacher and good friend Joe Wilmers. “He would lie under my bed when I had to be turned face down in the Striker Frame. My face fit through an opening in the special bed that turned me every four hours from face-up to face-down. I was wrapped from head to toe in burn cotton and dressings that were held together with large metal clamps that had to be cut away with large wire cutters. Mr. Wilmers helped to keep my mind focused on things that a 13 year old boy should be learning and thinking about and not about my situation. “I am truly grateful for people in my life like Joe Wilmers who inspired me to overcome the obstacles in my life and never give up. He is one of many great people that I have met on my journey.”

After an initial hospital stay of 9 months and 4 days (6 of those months in ICU), Joe was dis-

When Joe returned home to South Carolina he was homeschooled for a year and half because

Erin and Joe were married on June 17, 2000 in the gardens maintained by Joe’s mother on her property in Union. It was a very simple ceremony with family and friends followed by a big party with lots of music. Joe and Erin are now the parents of two awesome children. Their son Luke will turn 13 in January and on any given day is either a rising baseball star or rock star.

Joe says it is hard to tell quite yet. Their daughter Josie is 10 years old, loves to skate and is on a roller derby team. She also loves to sing and play the keyboard and dreams of going on American Idol one day. Joe says, “They teach me something new every day.”

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Survivor in You! light and sound lighting design for big weddings and events. Erin and Joe have built a life together around their love of music and a shared faith despite coming from different backgrounds. Besides parenting together, their greatest joy is writing and playing music together. Over the years, Joe and Erin have been a part of several bands including Jumpstart and Shot of Love. Through these band projects they have met and played with some of the finest musicians that have become their closest friends. They are also passing their love of music to Luke and Josie.

Not only do Joe and Erin parent together, work together, and play music together, they also fundraise together. Their passion is raising awareness of the Shriner’s Hospital and raising money to support the Shriner’s efforts through SOS – Support our Shriners. Joe is quick to give full credit to the Shriner’s for not only saving his life, but keeping his spirit intact. When asked about the impact of receiving treatment at the Shriner’s Hospital, Joe shared, “Shriner’s Hospital for Children saved my life and helped keep my spirit intact through the long painful process. It takes a special kind of care to treat a child with a birth defect or injury from a tragedy and the Shriner’s have figured it out. There would have been no way that my family could have afforded such quality care, but the Shriner’s Hospital never asked for a red cent.”

Joe’s survivor story also includes cancer. He is actually a two time survivor. Joe was diagnosed with colon cancer in January of 2012, had surgery to remove part of his colon and endured 6 months of chemotherapy to battle and beat cancer. Just two weeks after Joe’s cancer diagnosis, his beloved mother Ruth was also diagnosed with cancer. A large tumor was found deep in the left side of her

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Joe gives all the credit for surviving and being the man he is today to the women in his life. brain along with two smaller tumors on the surface of her brain. A biopsy of one of the surface tumors determined that she had stage 4 lung cancer that had metastasized to the brain and other parts of her body. Joe and his mother battled cancer together for months before she lost her battle on July 27, 2012.

Prior to her passing, she said her greatest victory would be when Joe got to ring the bell that signifies being cancer free. Joe got to ring the bell on January 30, 2013.

In spite of all he has endured, Joe says that life is good. He remembers looking in the mirror after his accident and struggling with what he saw. He made a decision to not let the reflection define him. Joe believes that God has a purpose for his life that is not yet fulfilled and that is why he is still alive. He also believes that God used the explosion that left him burned and scarred to set him on a new course in life that led him to Erin.

Joe gives all the credit for surviving and being the man he is today to the women in his life. His mother Ruth and his wife Erin have taught him to love family unconditionally and anyone in need. He hopes his story of being a two time survivor and finding love will inspire others to triumph over their own tragedies and perhaps find love.

Beth McCrary is a freelance writer living in Lexington, SC. Her father Larry Gar was a devoted member of the Hejaz Shrine Temple and the Laurens County Shrine Club.

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obert and I have a pretty perfect story. It is uniquely ours and a testimony to God’s love for us.

Mom and dad always told me that God had someone special picked out for me. I am now a believer in that truth. I do not believe in coincidences, I believe His hand directs us daily because that is exactly what happened to me and Robert.

Our paths crossed often in high school and college but it was not until our senior year at the University of South Carolina that we realized there was a definite reason we kept running into each other. We both were taking a Spanish class in the same room just back to back times. Robert is always early for everything so he was always waiting for his class when mine was dismissed. I looked forward to seeing him and got butterflies each time. He always looked so handsome. That was the end of wearing gym clothes to class!

A few months after graduation, on a night out with friends we spotted each other across the room. I remember the adrenaline and excitement I felt when I saw him. I had never felt that way before. It was then I knew I wanted to be with Robert. We enjoyed our night and said goodbye once again but recognized the spark.

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my life. The day was perfect. The weather was crisp and family and friends were celebrating a Gamecock win in the shadows of William Brice Stadium. As the sun was setting my Prince Charming took me for a walk, pulled out a beautiful diamond ring and asked me to be his wife. It was in our favorite place with some of our favorite people. It was perfect!

We selected September 21, 2013 as our special day mainly because our Gamecocks did not have a football game that day. We had ten months of crazy wedding planning where Robert through it all smiled and said “anything you want, Darling.” It was stressful, but fun. I feel as though we selected the most talented professionals in the wedding industry.

Our wedding party was some of the most amazing friends that have impacted our lives forever. My dream of a children’s choir came true when my friend, Sarah Moncer, directed her Lexington Middle School Honor Choir to sing a favorite song of mine. They were fantastic! The ceremony and reception were magical. Looking back there is nothing I would change, not even the rain. My mother in law said the rain drops were special tears of joy from those who have gone before us. I believe that. I felt their presence in my heart that night.

We immediately recognized God’s hand in our lives and fell completely in love.

In April of 2010, we became a couple. Our first date was his family’s annual Easter Egg Hunt. There we realized with astonishment that Robert’s family and my family grew up across the street from each other. In fact, Robert’s grandmother was born in the house that my grandparents would later buy! Coincidence? I think not. We immediately recognized God’s hand in our lives and fell completely in love.

We experienced many fun, memorable times but also tough times growing as the couple God wanted us to be. Through it all, we knew we never wanted to be without each other.

November 11, 2012 was the second best day of

We didn’t know it when we met, but we were absolutely made for each other. He’s my better half and I love him more each day. I thank God for bringing us together. God’s plans for us are always greater than we imagine. I am truly grateful that Robert and I were open to God’s blessings and His happily ever after.

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Jennifer Manley Today, Manley works out of her home in Batesburg-Leesville. She says that she can absolutely envision having a shop one day, but for now she is happy to be able to stay home with her two children, Andrew and Emily. Manley says that most of her meetings with brides start at Starbucks. “We usually just talk and get to know each other, and she tells me her vision. We explore the depths of Pinterest and Southern Living Weddings…I really like to make the bouquets reflect the personalities of the girls. I love personalizing them with mementos like rosaries, lace, and lockets,” outlines Manley. It’s clear that what is important for Manley is to ensure that brides are completely satisfied with their wedding day. “I have always personally handed the bouquet to the bride. In 13 years, I’ve never missed personally doing this!” Manley explains. She is also dedicated to helping “do-ityourself ” brides. “I like to work with them to tie in other areas of

the wedding such as color schemes and table set-ups. It’s neat to see the things come together in the end,” explains Manley. She stresses the importance of reusing flowers, “Use bridesmaids’ bouquets on tables, surround with candles, and voila!” explains Manley.

The Frugal Flower certainly stands apart from other florists. “Brides have the option of either keeping their flowers or donating them.

If they donate them, I will come pick them up (free of the delivery charge) and take them to a nursing home/assisted living home.

The residents love the fresh flowers! On many occasions I have had conversations with elderly women who tell me all about their wedding day. I am also a big believer in charity, and I have been fortunate enough to have enough profit leftover to send to a ministry in Uganda called ‘Our Hope International’ that a friend of mine started. They sponsor the Home of Hope, which

he Frugal Flower began small, when Jennifer Manley was studying as a freshman at Berry College in Rome, Georgia. As part of a work-study program, Manley and a group of students created weekly flower arrangements for Martha Berry’s, the college’s founder. “We drove to the florist and just picked out whatever struck our eye. I got to experiment with lots of flowers and colors…I would always ask to take home the leftovers, and I would “play” with them, making bouquets,” Manley explains. In 2000, Manley did her first wedding and The Frugal Flower officially became a South Carolina business in 2011, when Manley. is an orphanage for children with physical disabilities.”

Where does she see The Frugal Flower in the future? “My degree is in horticulture, so sometimes people do ask me for landscaping advice, though I haven’t done it as The Frugal Flower yet. I can see

that area expanding,” says Manley.

For more information on The Frugal Flower and the color it brings to your special day, check out their website at www.thefrugalflowerSC. com.

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by Rachel-Elise Weems

Crossing a New Threshold with The Mitchell House

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t has been said that a house isn’t truly a home without a family. The professionals at The Mitchell House and Garden take that sentiment to heart, along with the knowledge that the most beautiful time in the life of a home is when it is able to not only house, but bring together family. That is why for over two decades, this house has dedicated itself to bringing people together in the most joyous of family gatherings: Weddings.

Nearly a century old, this classically restored home is a piece of Southern history located in the heart of Lexington, S.C. that enables couples from all walks and seasons of life to begin the first chapter in their love story as husband and wife.

One such story came unexpectedly for two South Carolinians who had thought that chapter had closed in their own lives for good.

Ted Lightle and Bernice Richardson had each lived full, separate lives; each happily married with children for many years. Then tragically in 2010, both Ted and Bernice suffered the loss of their spouses. Having never met, they embarked on personal journeys of grief.

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In 2011, a mutual friend introduced the two in the hopes they might offer one another comfort.

In the months of conversation and time shared to follow, they began building a friendship founded in compassion, understanding, respect and shared faith. As it grew, so did the encouragement and strength that accompanied it as their lives slowly became more intertwined. Finally, from the tender growth of the relationship and support of their loved ones, they realized their friendship had bloomed into something more. They had discovered a newfound love that they wished to be everlasting.

As they began their journey to plan the perfect wedding for their love story, it led them to The Mitchell

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House and Garden. After a stroll through the breath-taking gardens, touring the charming two-story home, meeting the caring staff and reviewing the all-inclusive services, they knew it was the only place their vision could come to life. On July 28, 2013, Ted and Bernice were united as one in the presence of God and their family and friends.

They wished to express their deepest appreciation to The Mitchell House for the professionalism of their services, the sincerity of the staff, the incredible food and wedding cake as well as exquisite decor and floral arrangements.

The Mitchell House is proud to continue serving the couples in the Lexington community, like Ted and Bernice, through their

elegant and affordable full-service wedding venue. The house itself is encompassed by the beautiful gardens that surround and hang over a wrap around patio. French doors open into wide, spacious rooms featuring high ceilings, bright windows and rustic fireplaces. The romantic staircase, framed by Grecian columns, leads up to a graceful bridal suite that allows the bride to overlook the gazebo as guests arrive. Couples can enjoy their special day indoors or outdoors with the convenience of holding the wedding ceremony and reception in one location. For more information, visit their website at www.themitchellhouseandgardens.com or call them at (803) 359-5325.

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rom the moment she says “yes”, the life of a couple transforms into a new and exciting season. Bells are ringing, colors and dresses are being chosen and a whirl of decisions begin to develop. But amidst the sometimes-hectic course of wedding planning, an equally important part of the process in a couple’s future can be forgotten.

Since 2004, Performance Insurance has been helping Lexington couples secure that process in the future that extends beyond the “I Do’s”. It is done, most appropriately, through the unity of Brent and Nancy Poston. Since getting married in 2005, the two own and manage the agency as husband and wife. Together, they’re able to share their combined professional experience of over 20 years and a personal experience as they guide newly engaged couples through a process they have walked themselves.

In the transitions that come with matrimony, among them will be an assortment of legal changes. Young couples may find themselves encountering a new world of insurance packages, policies and premiums, while more seasoned newlyweds face various updates to current individual policies. For Brent Poston, helping couples navigate through the procedure with understanding and ease is part of his job description.

“You need to look at combining your auto insurance to make sure you’re getting every possible discount and saving money as a family,” explained Poston. “That’s the first step.” From there, he moves to finding the homeowners or renters insurance best suited to a couple’s individual

needs—whether it’s a first time policy for young couples or consolidation of existing households for seasoned couples. Poston also familiarizes clients with the value of life and disability insurance; valuable components that he often feels go overlooked.

“Not only are these products less expensive when a young couple obtains them now, but one of the biggest things is that we do not know what tomorrow holds,” said Poston. “The minute you get married, that life-circle changes because it involves more people. You take on the role of a family.”

According to Poston, preparation for a lifetime together isn’t only about precautions for the rainy days–it includes learning to make savings that allow couples to later enjoy their golden years. “I recommend IRA’s or annuities in preparation for retirement,” said Poston. He even goes as far as showing couples long-term saving strategies and how to successfully budget and prepare finances. “I met recently with a couple that’s getting married in November; now they’ve got life insurance for their family, a Roth IRA in place, their own auto insurance and renters insurance. And we didn’t end up using the full amount they expected to pay,” said Poston.

“Now they know exactly what they’re dealing with before they even go into marriage.”

Poston has witnessed the impact this process has in marriage, not only in the face of hardship, but also the positive affect it has on relationships themselves. “Sometimes people do not realize how much it helps having that peace of mind,” said Poston. “When you take the proper preparations for the future, it shows your spouse

The Postons how much you love and care for them; it does add a sense of security to the relationship.”

Helping provide that security is what makes his job so rewarding. “You should want that client to be successful—not just by spending insurance premiums, but to set up a path to be financially successful,” said Poston. “They should be able to walk into an office of an agent and not feel pressured to buy anything, but feel that the agent is there to help and guide them to make the best informed decision.”

As couples prepare to embark on the journey of marriage, Poston believes it is important to begin it hand-in-hand. “I recommend doing it together,” said Poston. He recommends newly engaged couples start their own process by setting up an appointment with a trustworthy agency where they feel comfortable and understand everything discussed. “You’re getting married to one another, so walk through this process together as a couple.”

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“The Journey More

THAN THE PHOTOGRAPHS” —Annie Leibovitz

by Amy Pittsenbarger

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t’s safe to say that Annie Leibovitz, and her work in portrait photography, are American icons in their own right.

She is known not only for her work in photographing celebrities, politicians, athletes, and business figures, but also for her subjects’ often unusual and striking poses. Leibovitz graduated from the San Francisco Art Institute in 1971 with a BFA. At the young age of just twenty-one, she was hired as a staff photographer of the fledgling Rolling Stone. She worked as the chief photographer for Rolling Stone from 1973-1983, creating an image and reputation that would follow for decades to come, and later at both Vanity Fair and Vogue.

Leibovitz has photographed, among many others: John Lennon (the picture was taken only hours before his murder), The Rolling Stones, Stevie Wonder, Bruce Springsteen, Woody Allen, Dolly Parton, Meryl Streep, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Demi Moore, and Queen Elizabeth II. She did a series of photographs for The Walt Disney Company in their “Year of a Million Dreams” campaign.

She has also done work for various advertising campaigns for companies like American Express, the Gap, and Honda. For her work with American Express, Leibovitz was awarded the Clio Award in 1987, the advertising world’s equivalent of an Academy Award.

Her exhibition, Pilgrimage, consists of 78 images and is organized by the Smithsonian American Art Museum. It will be on display at the Columbia Museum of Art from October 4, 2013 through January 5, 2014. Of all the museums that applied to procure Leiobvitz’s exhibit, the Columbia Museum of Art was the only one in the Southeast that was selected. “Unlike her staged and carefully lit portraits made on assignment for magazines and advertising clients, these photographs were taken simply because Leibovitz was moved by the subject. This exhibition is an evocative and deeply personal statement by a photographer whose career now spans more than 40 years. The work shows Leibovitz at the height of her powers and pondering how photographs, including her own, shape a narrative of history that informs the present,” describes the CMA’s website of Pilgrimage.

This exhibition is an evocative and deeply personal statement by a photographer whose career now spans more than 40 years.

The American Society of Magazine Photographers named her Photographer of the Year in 1984. In 1991, Leibovitz became the first woman to have her photography mounted at the National Portrait Gallery. The Library of Congress named her a “Living Legend” in 2000 for her “innovative work in advertising, fashion and celebrity portraiture”.

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ing part of an exhibition tour led by Leibovitz herself, in which she explained some of her behind-the-scenes processes. Leibovitz says that Pilgrimage saved her and revitalized her after a 40-year career of carefully assigned photoshoots. Leibovitz traveled the world taking pictures of whatever she wanted to, at moments that struck her. There was none of the careful staging of her portrait photography, only the natural light of the room or place she took the pictures in. She describes the process as leading her to “becoming enamored with natural light”.

It’s a sharp departure from her trademark photographs of celebrities. Many of the pictures are also quite close-up and focused on small details (details Leibovitz says she was “so taken with”), a change from the “pulled back” style of most of Leibovitz’s portraits. On the list of places she wanted to see were Gettysburg, Graceland, England, Yosemite, and Concord, Massachusetts (the home of such names in American history as Thoreau and Dickinson).

All of the pictures in Pilgrimage were taken with a digital camera, and are printed on watercolor paper in order to ‘”tone down” the sharpness of the image. Leibovitz explained that this project has only inspired her to renew her energies in her typical field of portrait photography. She says Pilgrimage renewed her, and allowed her to take a much-needed break from the assignments and task-driven nature of her work. Lei-

Professional bovitz walked us through the exhibition, and described the background behind five or six of her photographs.

The first was of Niagara Falls, the photo that is the cover of the entire exhibition. She took this picture on a day trip to the falls with her children, and she says the “children showed me this picture”, when they found a walkway from which the iconic image was taken. It was in describing this picture that she spoke of Pilgrimage as being her redemption-and as something that “that gives back to me and fulfills me.”

The collection includes pictures ranging from a close-up shot of Abraham Lincoln’s top hat and Virginia Woolf ’s writing desk, to a picture of Emily Dickinson’s only surviving dress and the interior entranceway to Elvis’s Graceland home. Since the project was very much about photographing only things that spoke to her, Leibovitz said Woolf ’s desk was one of the most inspiring parts of the project for her. On a tour of Woolf ’s writing studio, Leibovitz says that she saw the sunlight falling onto the desk, and that it was the “actually the first time I wished I was making moving pictures.” Pilgrimage is first and foremost a journey through American history, and the people, places and things that have shaped our heritage, both individually and as a nation.

“The project was the journey more than the photographs,” says Leibovitz, and that it was the process of rediscovering herself more than the photographs she was taking.

Leibovitz encouraged us to recognize the potential of our own state: “There’s a list even in Columbia of places to photograph–[it makes me] just want to get in my car and drive.”

It was truly incredible to meet someone as accomplished and well renowned as Annie Leibovitz, and even more incredible to see whom she is: a down-to-earth artist who loves to share her work with others. Because in the end, no matter what we photograph, isn’t the point to capture the ways we see this world? www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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am constantly amazed by the passion I see small business owners bringing to their careers! Sherree Richardson, of Richardson’s Heating and Air, is one of the most genuine women I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. She speaks very highly of her employees, saying, “I can’t stress enough how much each and every one of the people here are important. I don’t take them for granted…I could ask them for anything.” In 1982, Sherree Richardson’s father decided to leave his job with a Columbia heating and air company and open his own company. He asked her to help him with the books, and she quickly agreed. After attending several classes at Midlands Tech to learn how to do all of the finances by hand, Richardson started.

“The business aspect has always been in my hands…the checks, bills, payroll, everything,” she proudly explains. The business began to slowly grow, and her husband, John Richardson, came on as a partner in 1983 and Richardson’s relocated to their current location in Chapin in 1990. Her entire family has been involved in the business at some point over the past 31 years, including her paternal grandparents and her three children.

After her father’s retirement in 1993, she and John made the decision to keep the business. “When you work for yourself, you have control over your destiny,” she

says. Sadly, on Dec 29, 2009, Richardson’s husband unexpectedly passed away, leaving her devastated both personally and professionally. She had just lost her “husband, soul mate, and business partner” all at once, and was in the midst of trying to prepare for the coming year. “I don’t know how I got through the next few weeks, but by the grace of God I got through it,” says Richardson. “This company became my extended family. I realized, ‘Hey, we’re going to make this work.’ I have an extreme amount of respect for everybody that works here, there is a lot of loyalty,” says Richardson.

“When I go to bed at night and

close my eyes, I have a sense of accomplishment. I know that John would be proud. I [know that] I have fulfilled God’s purpose for myself,” says Richardson. Between Richardson’s ten employees, they have a combined 145 years of experience with the company, a truly impressive amount. “Richardson’s offers routine service and repairs on all major brands of residential and light commercial HVAC equipment,” explains their website. “We have by far beat our goal this year with the number of units installed, sold and serviced,” says Richardson, adding that the company performs at least 1,000 service checks per year. She says her company’s desire is to provide

heating and air units for their clients using the motto of “honesty, integrity and quality”.

When I asked Richardson if she had any advice to share with aspiring business owners, she paused thoughtfully before saying, “You need to think long and hard, it’s certainly not a get-rich-quick thing. There are a lot of hours and a lot of decisions involved that hold people’s careers and families in your hand…. it’s wonderful and very rewarding though!” Richardson’s is truly the definition of local business with heart! For more information, visit their website at www.richardsonsac.com or call (803) 345-5221. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com

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ASK THE DOCTOR

Understanding New Pap Smear Guidelines With Dr. Jaime Brown Price, OB/GYN at Lexington Women’s Care, a Lexington Medical Center physician practice Dr. Jaime Brown Price

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r. Jaime Brown Price is an OB/GYN with Lexington Women’s Care, a Lexington Medical Center physician practice. Guidelines for Pap smears have changed recently. She wants women to understand the new recommendations and why they’re so important.

What does a Pap smear do?

Pap smears are part of your annual pelvic exam. A Pap smear screens for cervical cancer by looking for changes in the cells of your cervix. It can tell if you have an infection, unhealthy cells or cervical cancer.

What are the new guidelines for Pap smears?

Women should begin Pap smears at age 21 with their annual exams.

From ages 21 to 29, they should have a Pap smear every three years.

If the test is abnormal, talk to your doctor about recommendations for follow-up.

Women from 30 to 65 years of age should have a Pap smear along with human papillomavirus (HPV) testing every five years.

Women who are older than age 65 do not need to have Pap smears anymore if they have a history of normal results. In this age group, doctors believe the risk of developing cervical cancer is small.

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What is HPV?

HPV, the human papillomavirus, is spread during sexual activity. It’s very prevalent in the population.

It’s more common in young women because of increased sexual activity. When you’re young, your body’s immune system can usually rid the body of HPV before it progresses. When HPV doesn’t go away, it can cause changes in the cells of the cervix and slowly lead to cervical cancer. Pap smears can usually find these changes. There are approximately 100 strains of HPV. Some of the strains are more likely to cause cervical cancer than others.

What other factors increase your risk of developing cervical cancer?

The majority of cervical cancer, about 60%, occurs in women who do not receive recommended screenings or have poor follow up. Often, women don’t take care of themselves because they’re busy caring for their families. It’s important that they make time for their own health screenings each year.

Before the new guidelines, women were told to have an annual Pap smear beginning at age 21, or 3 years after they started having sexual intercourse, whichever came first.

Even though Pap smears are not needed annually, should women still see their OB/GYN each year?

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Yes. You still need to visit your

doctor each year for a pelvic exam and breast exam. An annual pelvic exam can detect other problems such as vaginal infections, abnormal discharge or masses. And, it’s important for your doctor to conduct a breast exam.

What are the Pap smear guidelines for women who’ve had a hysterectomy?

If you’ve had a total hysterectomy, no further screening is recommended unless you have a history of dysplasia. Women who had their uterus removed but still have a cervix need regular Pap smears.

Does family history play a role in cervical cancer?

Cervical cancer is typically not genetic. Even with a family history of cancer, cervical cancer is not usually something that we see throughout generations of a family.

What happens if cervical cancer spreads?

Cervical cancer can spread to the uterus, vagina, lymph nodes or other surrounding pelvic structures. Symptoms of cervical cancer are nonspecific; there can be abnormal discharge or vaginal bleeding. According to the American Cancer Society, in 2012 there were about 12,000 new cases and 4,000

deaths attributed to invasive cervical cancer.

What happens if you have an abnormal Pap smear?

An abnormal Pap smear does not necessarily mean you have cervical cancer. Your doctor can make recommendations for follow up.

What are your recommendations about the HPV vaccine?

The general recommendation is that girls and women between the ages of 9 and 26 should be vaccinated against HPV. If you’re older than that, talk to your doctor. Or, if you have a new sexual partner, you might want to receive the vaccination.

If you are vaccinated, you still need to continue recommended Pap smears for cervical cancer screening. That’s because other factors besides HPV can cause cervical cancer. Also, the vaccine covers the two highest risk strains of HPV; those strains lead to about 70% of cervical cancer, but not all of it.

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The Art of Stress Management in Rehabilitation

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he women of our world live in a day and age characterized by stress. In a fast-paced culture, it often requires running on all engines to simply make it through the day. Deadlines, errands and responsibilities demand attention at every turn –from juggling careers, homes, relationships and basic self-care. More often than not, the only place women find relaxation is scribbled at the bottom of a mile long to-do list. But the push to keep up with such hectic schedules may be having deeper long-term consequences on their health than women realize.

“For many people, stress is their middle name,” said Hima Dalal, lead occupational therapist and owner of Vital Energy Wellness and Rehab Center in Lexington, S.C. With over 32 years of experience in her field with both conventional and complementary therapy, Hima often sees the effects of stress in her own patients.

“When you are constantly running around in emergency mode, sooner or later your psychological and physiological systems breakdown,” said Hima.

According to Hima, those breakdowns can manifest in many, often times multiple forms. Physically, someone suffering the effects of stress will typically experience a lack in sleep as well as dip in daily energy and endurance levels. This opens the body and immune system to a far greater susceptibility to sickness, allergies, physical stiffness and aching, headaches, high blood pressure and even certain types of cancer. Psychologically, they may experience constant frustration and irritability, unexplainable anxiety or nervousness, a lack of confidence or satisfaction in themselves and depression.

“Anyone can experience stress,” said Hima. In her busy life as a wife, mother, grandmother, thera-

pist and business owner, Hima is no exception. “I am so busy caring for everyone else that I tend to forget about myself,” she confessed.

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But the key to living with stress is knowing how to manage it, claims Hima.

But the key to living with stress is knowing how to manage it, claims Hima.

“The way I handle stress in my own life is I prioritize and organize,” said Hima, who tries to intentionally set time aside each day to meditate and relax. “I eat healthy food and have plenty of water. I also make sure to have family time that is separate from work.”

Finding ways to manage stress is often different from person to person, and Hima recommends seeking professional guidance to anyone unsure about how to begin.

“There are some major misconceptions about stress management,” said Hima. “It can be a quick fix or a long term process depending on the issue and that is why you need to seek professional help.”

Occupational/Physical Therapists can evaluate and treat the problem with manual therapy, myofascial release, craniosacral therapy, muscle energy treatment (e.g., Reiki, Sanjivani Healing), yoga exercise, meditation, cardiovascular exercise, strength training exercise to

Hima Dalal increase blood circulation, improve your energy level and mood, and decrease pain.

Hima also has some pointers to begin finding simple ways to de-stress at home. “The first thing you need to do is just take a deep breath,” said Hima. After that she recommends investing time in calming activities, like a scenic walk during a break, a bike ride on a day off or fishing on a weekend. Rekindling an old hobby like cooking or painting or exploring a new one like a yoga or meditation class can also help alleviate stress. Regular physical activity and a well balanced diet are also keys to successful stress management. “The best thing is to do whatever activity/ exercise that works for you and do it every day with positivity,” said Hima.

As your rate of stress is increasing, it feeds into an increased rate of non-communicable disease, including diabetes, increased blood pressure, increased heart condition, increased anxiety, and depression. Occupational/Physical Therapy can play a key role in encouraging lifestyle changes to support improved health.

Keeping up with the pace of society often feels unavoidable for women of the twenty-first century.

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by Thomas Falk

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t Assisting Hands, our mission is to offer clients personalized non-medical support services in their homes, assisting the elderly, disabled and others needing assistance to maintain quality of life. Our services support the individual choices and preferences in order to maintain their dignity and independence. We assist clients in a spirit of concern for their welfare, gaining satisfaction and a sense of pride for the value that we add to their lives.

My wife, Jayne, is one of about 375,000 people in the United States stricken with Multiple Sclerosis, a crippling disease which affects the central nervous system. For Jayne, living with MS is an unfortunate obstacle in her daily routine of activities that most people take for granted.

Our business is very personal to us. When Jayne’s physical condition began to decline, we didn’t really know who to turn to for help.

We were relatively new to the community and didn’t know a lot of people and my job required me to spend long hours travelling. I had to learn a whole new work/life balance and how to manage the enormous stress that came with it.

We made the decision to invest our life savings to help others and to ensure that Jayne would always have the care that she needed.

We opened up our agency with a promise of transparency and to treat our caregivers and clients with dignity and respect.

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Next, we utilize a web-based stateof-the-art software that delivers scheduling, integrated telephony, and two-way caregiver messaging. It drastically reduces the administrative time spent on billing and payroll. The software offers client portals showing schedules and daily care documentation.

Prospective caregivers can submit their application online. Their information goes directly into our database and gives us a pool of candidates to match the caregiver skills to the client needs. We chose this system for its innovation, ease of use, and point-of-care transparency. It makes the business of home care administration intuitive, efficient, and paper-free.

So what makes Assisting Hands different? It starts with the caregivers. They are the eyes and ears and the lifeblood of our business. Just as Jayne and I have our personal story to tell, so do most of our caregivers. We hire the most compassionate CNAs, MAs, and Home

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Susan Stein knows firsthand the quality care that Assisting Hands provides. “My father, who was 91 years old, was receiving 24/7 care from another agency. I received a call on a Sunday evening and they told me that there was no relief for the next shift. I called Assisting Hands and within 30 minutes, the owner of the company came and stayed with my father until someone relieved him at 4 am. I was so impressed and grateful,” said Stein.

“Several weeks later, when the hospice nurse called and told me that my father would probably not survive the night, I told Tom that I placed my father in his hands to stand final guard with him. Tom kept him comfortable until he died,” Stein added.

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Tom is in this business because he knows that the spiritual principle is the bottom line: to help the sick to be comfortable and to be comforted,” said Stein. “I cannot say enough good things about Assisting Hands, and I am eternally grateful to them.”

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here is a good chance that if you grew up in the Midlands my father, Dr. Richard Cross, was your pediatric dentist! Dr. Cross first moved to Columbia and began practicing pediatric dentistry in 1973. His love for children and passion for dentistry have greatly contributed to his success and longevity. With growth over the years Dr. Cross’ practice moved to Lexington in 2004, becoming Palmetto Smiles.

Dr. Cross is extremely grateful to have had the opportunity to positively influence many patients over the course of his 40 year career.

Not only has he contributed to the healthy smiles of the community, he has also inspired about twenty -five of his own patients to become dentists themselves! Three of his past patients are now his partners at Palmetto Smiles Pediatric and Family Dentistry. Dr. Kevin Raines grew up in Chapin and joined the practice in 1999 after attending dental school at MUSC in Charleston and completing his two-year pediatric residency training at the Medical College of Georgia. I joined the practice in 2002 after attending MUSC and started incor-

porating general dentistry into the practice while I continued treating children of all ages. Dr. Rob Nieders grew up in Irmo and joined the Palmetto Smiles team in 2008.

He is a board certified pediatric dentist who attended the Medical University of South Carolina and served his country as a dentist in the Navy for a few years between dental school and his pediatric dentistry residency. In addition to the homegrown Doctors of the practice, many of the employees have been at Palmetto Smiles for over thirty years. Palmetto Smiles prides itself on its values and provides quality dental care to children and adults in a fun, familyfriendly environment.

When I joined the practice ten years ago, Palmetto Smiles primarily focused on the dental care of children and adolescents. Many patients had so much fun going to the dentist that they never wanted to grow up and move on to a general practice! My partners and I saw the need to provide more general dentistry services to meet the patients’ adult dental care needs.

Many of our patients have been able to stay in the practice for years now that Palmetto Smiles provides comprehensive care for adult patients in addition to children and adolescents. It is not unusual to have three generations from one family being seen all together!

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his time of year is difficult for me. As much as I enjoy football and the cooler weather, my heart has memories that I struggle with. It must have been late October when I finally started to realize that my daddy wasn’t getting better. I think it was on a Saturday visit when I knew I was going to have to let him go. For thirty two years of my life, fall was filled with camouflage, bright orange vests, the smell of an open fire pit, fresh venison, and the sound of laughter from various males in our family.

I can only remember a few Thanksgivings celebrated with him actually home. We would always celebrate a day early or when he got back from the hunting grounds that Sunday. In fact when I was in the hospital having Colton he asked me was it okay for him to go to the hunting club because on that year opening day for Bow Season was September 9th. Of course when Colton was born he showed up at the hospital in all his camo to welcome his grandson to the family.

I try not to dwell on his departure, because the dash in between his birth and death hold so much love and laughter. I remember the feeling in the pit of my stomach that I used to get when he would come in smiling and shout to all of us that he had just got a buck or that one of my brothers or cousins got the first deer of the season. I can’t tell you the number of times I watched them prepare the meat for the freezer or the taxidermist. At the time I didn’t realize the impact of those moments. I didn’t realize while I was sitting in a deer stand with my dad learning to shoot or listening to stories around a camp fire at night (on the few occasions the girls were allowed) that I was making memories that would last a lifetime. When I close my eyes I can still smell the fire and hear his laughter from all those years ago as he joked with his twin brother and teased.

Now when I see those vests or all that hunting gear at a sporting goods store, I can’t help but smile and remember the scents and sounds of life when he was alive. Time has passed but one thing remains; the depth of his love for us. I still pick up the phone to call him. I still wish he could see my children now and how they have grown. I still feel like something important is missing. I still love my Dad. If you are lucky enough to still have your father here with you, I would encourage you to call him. If my dad were here, I would call or visit, I would say I love you one more time. I would hug his neck and kiss his weathered cheek. I would ask him to tell me a story about when he was younger. I would ask him to sing me a song. I would make another memory to hold close when sickness took him from me. I wouldn’t wish him back. I know he is happy, healthy, and safe in the arms of our heavenly father and one day when my time here is over I will join him there.

God Bless,

Lori Samples Duncan

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