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Cayce, Chapin, Irmo, Lexington, West Columbia, & White Knoll
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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF
Lori Samples Duncan (loriduncan86@gmail.com)
MEDIA REPRESENTATIVES
Cathy Williams (info@lexingtonwomanonline.com)
From the Editor CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Ashby Jones Briana Davis Carol Ryall Lori Samples Duncan
GRAPHIC DESIGNER
Lindsey Duncan woman2womanlindsey@gmail.com
2 It’s 2015!
Events
3 What’s Happening?
PHOTOGRAPHY
Lets Talk!
Health & Wellness
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Your Home Away from Home
9 GMS- Where Success is Doing Your Best 11 Sweet Dreams Start Here
19 Making Life a Little Sweeter Every Day 20 Dark Chocolate Irish Cream Brownies
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Survivor
Celebrating the in You! 30 God is still in the Healing Business
15 The Ashby Chronicle: A Series of Stylist
Lexington Woman Magazine
29 An Amazing Athlete & Animal Advocate
5 Help Ensure Your Pets Stay Healthy and Safe While Boarding
12 The Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center Celebrates 20 Years!
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Ladies About Town
Pets
8 WKHS Athletes Sign Scholarships!
Clark Berry Photography Robert Patrick Image Design
27 Beauty from Ashes
20 26 Lexington One Students Selected for All-State Chorus!
Professional
22 Elizabeth Atwater
24 Meet Jamie MacDougal
32 Complementary Therapy in Sports Injury Rehab by Vital Energy 34 Luxurious Spa Treatments A Wonderful Present, for Any Occasion! 36 Cynthia Byrd of Lexington Medical Center 37 Helping People isn’t just a Job... It’s a Way of Life 38 New Heart Procedure Restores Quality of Life for 87-Year-Old Woman 40 Selecting 12 Women at Lexington Medical Center 43 Do you Hear What I Hear?
Business & Web Directory 44 Contact our Advertisers
Personal Note 45 My Baby Boy
26 New Chamber Members
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t’s 2015 and it seems like yesterday we were trying to remember to write 2014 for the date. I am so excited about this year for some odd reason I just feel like 2015 is going to be a fantastic year.
I tell my children all the time you get what you give. So in that spirit, I am giving 110% in 2015. This issue is always a pleasure to work on. There seem to be a lot of positive things to talk about in Lexington these days, and there is never a shortage of amazing women stories to share. This issue we are featuring some super moms and wives. We continue our series on the “Woman Behind the Man” with our feature of Mrs. Jamie McDougall and the ever elegant Beth Atwater. These beautiful families as well as many others, are part of what makes Lexington such a great place to live. Real people who really care about this community. I hope you enjoy them both. Our cancer survivor this issue is Ms. Margaret Cummings, and what an inspiration she is! She loves her teddy bears. I got a phone call recently about a friend who had an abnormal mammogram. For days she prayed and worried as did I. It was with great relief that the ultra sound showed no cancer, but I was once again reminded how important it is to tell the story about survival. We must continue to talk to women about early detection and not to give up this war we have waged on the “c” word. I hope you will all have your yearly mammograms and talk to your daughters, sisters, mothers, aunts, in-laws- every female you know about having theirs. We always want to encourage you to support our advertisers. They make Lexington Woman available to you all over town. Tell them where you saw them and don’t forget they have made a firm commitment to being the best of the best. They have promised to provide you with quality services and products. We want to know what you think! Email us with your story ideas and feed back. Have a Blessed Day! II Corinthians 9:7-8
7 So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver. 8 And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work.
Lori Samples Duncan Editor-In-Cheif
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Events
What’s Happening in Lexington? Fashion for Fighters Runway Show Thursday, February 5, 2015 from 6-9pm Wingate by Wyndham 108 Saluda Pointe Court Lexington, SC Join the Cancer of Many Colors Foundation for a fun night of family fashion at the 2015 Fashion for Fighters Runway Show. Help us show support for “all types of cancer” in our community. www.cancerofmanycolors.com
Clean Sweep February 7, 2015 Cantey Building, South Carolina State Fairgrounds Clean Sweep is Columbia’s best, one-day rummage sale held in the Cantey Building at the South Carolina State Fairgrounds each winter. On Saturday, February 7, 2015, Clean Sweep will celebrate its eighteenth year.
Clean Sweep features new and used items donated by League members, citizens, and local businesses at affordable prices. Items include handbags, jewelry, books, music, games, children’s toys and clothing, maternity clothing, furniture, home and garden, housewares, holiday, appliances and electronics, linens, and sporting goods. The Clean Sweep Sale is an exciting fundraiser that
raises the necessary funds to support the Junior League of Columbia’s mission and community projects. www.jlcolumbia.org
Native Plant Workshop February 15th, 2015 Katie & Irwin Kahn Jewish Community Center 306 Flora Dr, Columbia, South Carolina 29223
As part of the JCC’s Tu B’Shevat celebrations, a South Carolina Master Gardener will be presenting a community workshop on plants native to South Carolina. Come enjoy this presentation on how to create a natural, sustainable garden using the greenery that naturally grows in this part of the country on Sunday, February 15 at 2 pm at the Katie & Irwin Kahn Jewish Community Center. Please RSVP to lauries@jcccolumbia.org to reserve your spot. This event is free to JCC members; a $2 donation is requested of community members who have not yet joined the JCC.
The Friends Gala Friday, February 27, 2015 Stone River, West Columbia
The Friends of Epworth are proud to announce the 3rd Annual Friends of Epworth Gala to benefit Epworth Children’s Home on Friday, February 27th, 2015 at Stone River in West Columbia. As the signature event for the Friends of Epworth, the event raises awareness
and funds for Epworth and the children who call Epworth home. The buzz around Columbia is that the Friends of Epworth gala is earning the reputation as the “Best Party in Columbia.” Every year it has grown in attendance and we expect the 2015 gala to be the biggest and liveliest yet! Attendees come ready for an up-scale good time. The black-tie optional event includes live music, a large dance floor, heavy hors d’oeuvres, and an open bar for all guests. Join us for a night of fun as we celebrate the promise of bright futures for children at Epworth. Tickets are $150 for couples or $100 for individuals. www.friendsofepworth.org
La Boheme presented by The Palmetto Opera February 28th, 2015 Koger Center
As the major production of the season, The Palmetto Opera presents Puccini’s La Boheme, one of the most popular and beloved operas in all of opera repertoire. Featuring the international cast of Teatro Lirico d’Europa and set in the boisterous bohemian section of nineteenth century Paris, the bittersweet and tragic love story between Rudolfo and Mimi will touch your heart. For new opera-goers, Puccini’s wonderful melodies will make this the musical experience of a lifetime. For veteran opera-goers, we offer an opportunity to revisit cherished memories of musical pleasure. Teatro Lirico d’Europa, founded in 1988 and has given over 4,000 performances worldwide. Not to be missed! Tickets are - Adults $45.00 There are discounts for Military, Students, and Children at the Box Office only. Price is $ 25.00 www.kogercenterforthearts.com
White Knoll Patriot Run Saturday, April 18th 2015 Registration starts at 7:00am race begins at 8:30am White Knoll High School 5643 Platt Springs Road Fee is $25.00 for basic registration before March 25, 2015 or $30.00 after March 25, 2015
$35.00 for basic registration with tshirt before March 25, 2105 or 40.00 after March 25, 2015
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Pets
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ow is the time for Spring Breaks, Summer Breaks, and much needed family vacation time. For families with pets, this means boarding time as well. Boarding facilities can provide a fun environment for pets while their families are on vacation. Here are some tips to help ensure your pets stay healthy and safe while boarding. Pets need to be up to date on their vaccines. Like children receiving vaccines prior to starting school, pets also need protection against the common diseases that may be carried by other pets. Different boarding facilities may have different vaccine requirements. Be sure your pets vaccine history meets those requirements prior to checking in to the facility. If vaccines need to be updated, its best to have them done at least 1-2 weeks prior to boarding so that the vaccines have time to become protective. Your pet also needs to be current on their flea/tick control, heartworm prevention, and intestinal dewormer. Many pets are prone to developing vomiting and/or diarrhea secondary to sudden diet changes. Bringing their own food so their diet will be consistent will help prevent that. Our cats, picky eaters that they often are, may be more likely to eat their own food rather than a food that they aren't used to. Maintaining a good appetite is especially important
in our overlarge kitties. If an obese cat goes without eating, it can lead to a debilitating liver disease called hepatic lipidosis. Therefore its especially important to encourage a good appetite by providing their regular diet. Also bring any daily medications your pet takes. Make sure the directions for use are clearly labeled. Though boarding staff are skilled and knowledgable about taking care of animals in general, its important you let them know about your pet's tendencies in particular. If you have a little dog that is prone to leaping from tall heights into your arms, let them know. That way they can be prepared to catch your pet when they open the cage door, or, better yet, place them in a floor level cage. This will help prevent a vacation-ending phone call that "Fluffy" has a concussion or broken leg. If your dogs favorite pastime is digging to China or scaling Mt. Everest, let the boarding staff know. They will be able to
closely monitor to make sure your pet isn't climbing over the fence or tunneling their way to freedom. If your dog tends to chew on things that aren't digestable, the boarding staff can take precautions to make sure your pet doesn't eat their bedding. Many boarding facilities also have group play time for their boarders. Its important to let the boarding staff know if your pet doesn't play well with others so potential fights can be avoided. Some pets are very anxious in new surroundings. Their anxiety may be to the point that they will quit eating, bark non-stop, or stay curled in a ball trying to hide. For these guys it may be best to keep them in their regular environment. There are several pet-sitting/ house-sitting services available. However, most pets do well with boarding. Following the above tips will help them to enjoy their vacation as their family is enjoying theirs!
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Your Home Away from Home By: Carol Ryall
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eing in the Hotel Business is much like having company in to visit every day of the week. If you don’t really enjoy people, it is probably not the business for you. It is called the “Hospitality Industry” for a
The Champaneri clan is obviously a very hospitable family – together they own two Quality Inn and Suites, one in Lexington and one in Aiken; the Comfort Suites in Lexington; the Homewood Suites on Greystone Blvd. in Columbia and are in the process of developing an upscale Boutique hotel in Columbia’s Vista area ( and the name of their company is Lexington Hospitality!)
the company. The eldest son, Nash, is the Chief Financial Officer; middle brother, Raj, is Director of Operations for all of the hotels and younger brother, Aj is the Chief Design and Development Officer. The combination of multiple years of experience in a variety of positions in the Hotel Industry gives them a diversity of understanding and knowledge from which they all benefit.
All family-owned businesses have their own unique dynamic. With the Champaneris, it is a team approach, with each member handling a different aspect of the operations. Al Champaneri, the father, is also the President and CEO of
This cosmopolitan family migrated to Zambia from India in 1969, and then on to Canada in the early eighties where they owned and operated a Retail Supermarket. When the sons were ready to take on further business challenges, they
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migrated to Lexington, South Carolina in the early nineties. Lexington happened to be the first hotel they purchased and they fell in love with the area and have been here ever since. All of them consider Lexington home except for Nash who lives in nearby Aiken. Raj commented that the business allows them to meet people from all parts of the world. They become involved in personal matters such as the weddings, family reunions and bereavements of their guests. Providing these guests a home away from home during these sometimes trying, sometimes exciting, but always busy times gives the Champaneris their
greatest sense of accomplishment. With an indoor heated pool, fitness center, sun deck, and sundry shop the Comfort Suites facility at 325 W. Main Street Lexington is certainly wellequipped to make their guests comfortable and meet almost any need they may have. The guest suites are equipped with a microwave, refrigerator, coffee maker, flat-screen cable television, DVD player, hair dryer and safe. Some rooms feature whirlpool bathtubs. Your electronic devices can stay charged with the recharge device including AC and USB outlets provided in all guest rooms. They provide free hot Morning Breakfasts featuring eggs, meat, yogurt and fresh fruit, cereal and more! Breakfast at the Comfort Suites is the perfect way to start your day. If you're leaving early a” Your Suite Success™ Grab It & Go bag” is available for the two hours prior to breakfast. In the evenings, there is a Manager’s Reception held Monday through Thursday with fresh hors d’oeuvres and beverages. Of course the Hotels also cater to business travelers, with a business center, copy
Let’s Talk and fax services, and meeting facilities that can accommodate up to 105 people. Guest laundry and valet cleaning services are available, as well.
care for their guests like they are family. With approximately 100 people employed, this is one of the most challenging parts of their business.
The Quality Inn & Suites, at 328 W. Main Street in Lexington, is an older hotel which has been completely remodeled and updated. This pet-friendly facility has suites with two Queen beds which can accommodate up to seven people, as well as smoking and non-smoking rooms. The price point is a little lower than the Comfort Suites, but there are still a wide variety of amenities available, including a free Continental breakfast. All rooms have refrigerators, microwaves, coffee makers, hairdryers, irons, ironing boards and cable television. Some rooms have whirlpools and kitchen facilities.
Their newest property, the Aloft Hotel by the Starwood Brand, to be located in the heart of the Vista area of Columbia, promises to be an exciting new addition to the Midlands. This will be the first upscale Boutique hotel in the area and will feature one of Columbia’s trendiest bars, the WXYZ bar. Watch for the Grand Opening!
In addition to equipping their hotels with a diversity of conveniences and amenities, the Champaneri family also takes care to ensure that each property has a team of employees and managers who have the same values and aspirations to
If you have friends or family visiting this area, or business associates, potential employees or others needing a place to stay – or maybe you and your spouse just need to get “away” for a night or two, the Lexington Comfort Suites or Quality Inn & Suites are sure to offer just what you need.
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WKHS athletes sign scholarships! White Knoll High Senior Megan Anderson signs to play softball at Presbyterian College. Joining her for the signing include (back) WKHS Principal Ryan Player, WKHS Assistant Athletic Director and Athletic Trainer Sheila Gordon, WKHS Athletic Director Dean Howell, WKHS Teacher Terri Vick-Phillips, (front) WKHS Assistant Softball Coach Richard Lundy and WKHS Softball Coach April Farr.
White Knoll High Senior Emarius Logan signs to play basketball at Appalachian State. Joining him for the signing include (back) WKHS Assistant Basketball Coach Bret Jones, WKHS Principal Ryan Player, Demond Logan, WKHS Athletic Director Dean Howell, WKHS Assistant Athletic Director and Athletic Trainer Sheila Gordon, WKHS Basketball Coach Jason Cochcroft, (front) Shemika Logan, Gwendolyn Fields-Logan, Sequellia Logan and Yvonne Easterly.
Contact: Paula Miller, Public Relations Correspondent Telephone 803-821-5200, Fax 821-5203 Follow White Knoll High on Facebook and Twitter!
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GILBERT MIDDLE SCHOOL
Where Success is Doing Your Best!
Gilbert Middle students proudly display their trophies after performing in “An Evening with the Stars Talent Show.� The night included 12 student acts. Jordan Powers, Hayden McCann and Kayla Harris won second place for their clogging performance, Max Senf won first place for a magic act and Ashby Vining finished third with a juggling routine. The GMS Student Council and Orchestra received proceeds from the event. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com
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Sweet Dreams Start Here! By: Patti McGrath
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n 1951 Harry Wills started a company in downtown Columbia, and 64 years later it’s still going strong. “He was a Naval Aviator and flight instructor training pilots to land on aircraft carriers in Pensacola, Florida in the 1940's during World War II,” his daughter Karen Lanier shares. “He has raised six children, and we all have worked in our family business at one time or another.” The original company name was Southern Distributors and Mr. Wills sold Southern Cross, Kemp and other lines of furniture and bedding. Then, in 1954, the company became Southern Table Corporation when Mr. Wills decided to manufacture furniture. “He manufactured dinette tables and chairs, occasional tables, coffee and end tables in various styles over the years,” Karen continues. “In the 80's he began manufacturing mattresses and box springs and selling bedroom furniture and bed frames to go with them. It was then we became Southern Bedding.” Southern Bedding has always followed Mr. Wills’ expectations of making the very best quality mattresses, keeping the mattresses double-sided to allow people to sleep on both sides thereby giving great value for their money. “Dad always said people spend a third of their life on their mattress, so let's make it comfortable.” Today, Mr. Wills is 95 years old, but you occasionally find him at the business overseeing things. He mostly enjoys his retirement, and Karen manages the daily activities. In fact, many customers have come to know Karen over the years through her work in the family
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Dad always said people spend a third of their life on their mattress, so let's make it comfortable. business. She was born and raised in Columbia, receiving her degree from USC. She’s familiar not only with the mattress business but the community as well. Both father and daughter are extremely proud of the quality products they manufacture. “Our mattresses are special because they are custom-made and locally hand-crafted from components made in the USA,” Karen states. “We offer bedroom furniture from Sumter, SC by Carolina Furniture Works who has been manufacturing for 69 years. We also sell USA-made bed frames by Mantua Manufacturing who has been manufacturing for 63 years.”
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Made in the USA is important at Southern Bedding; made in South Carolina is even better. “Our goal is to make people aware that there are still mattress manufacturers right here in South Carolina that want to create the very best quality sleeping components, and encourage them to shop locally and support our economy,” she says. “We want our customers to be so satisfied when they leave that they will recommend us to others. We want them to come back when they need another mattress for the family. We still sell a lot by word of mouth and to repeat customers. We love referrals.”
Let’s Talk The company works well with both referrals and repeat customers. Their mattresses have been shipped to numerous countries over the years. “Steve Rothrock, a local antique dealer from Georgetown, SC, has been purchasing mattresses from us for decades. He has furnished homes in Georgetown, Pawley's Island, Scotland and even Africa with mattresses from Southern Bedding. When overnight guests visit and sleep on his choice Imperial mattress set he receives excellent comments and recommends us,” Karen explains. “Once friends slept in the Scottish castle on our Imperial mattress and called us when they got home raving about what a wonderful nights’ sleep they had gotten. They had us deliver bedding to their home in Pawley's Island right away. They moved later and called back for more sets to be delivered to their new home. We have gotten many similar calls from his friends and referrals from others that liked our comfortable mattresses.” Part of Southern Bedding’s success has been due to the excellent work ethic of their longtime employees. “We consider everyone family, and have had several employee’s work over 50 years before retiring,” Karen exclaims. “Eugene Blume is currently in his 43rd year after coming to us right out of high school. His quality craftsmanship shows in every mattress made with the help of our qualified staff of longtime workers.” If you need a good night’s sleep shop Southern Bedding, located at 400 Calhoun Street, for your next mattress. You’ll feel the quality! For more information please visit www. southernbeddingofcolumbia.com or call (803)765-9630.
SWEET DREAMS IN SCOTTISH CASTLES OR AT HOME! 400 Calhoun St. Columbia SC 29201 803-765-9630 Monday-Friday 9:00am-5:00pm or by Appointment
People choose Southern Bedding…..mattresses so comfortable they’re shipped around the world! www.southernbeddingofcolumbia.com
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The Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center
Celebrates 20 Years!
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uring the early 1990’s, the idea of having a central location in Lexington County to provide services for children who had suffered physical and sexual abuse was being discussed and developed. The problem was that these already traumatized children had to be transported back and forth to facilities in the lower and upper parts of the state to have forensic medical examinations, forensic interviews and therapy. Additionally, some forensic examinations were being conducted in emergency rooms by physicians not equipped with the necessary knowledge and equipment to specifically identify signs of abuse.
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A task force comprised of representatives from Lexington Medical Center, the Lexington County Sheriff ’s Department, the Department of Mental Health and other Lexington County partners, began exploring solutions for these children and their families. Nettie Dickerson, a long time Lexington resident and philanthropist was approached by the task force about the possibility of using her former home on Augusta Road in West Columbia for a children’s advocacy center. Promising to consider the idea, Nettie found herself watching the movie Forrest Gump, where a young girl plays a victim of sexual abuse in the film. Thinking of other children who
might find themselves in pain and fear, Nettie was persuaded and in 1995, the Lexington Children’s Center was established. It was later named the Dickerson Center for Children.
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In February, 2015, the now Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center will celebrate its 20th anniversary, having helped thousands of children with assessment and treatment services. The Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center has grown through the years with the loving support of local women, known as the Center’s Fun(d)raisers, founded by Mollie DuPriest Taylor over fifteen years ago. Through golf tournaments and an annual
GALA, these friends and families have raised over $750,000 which has helped the Center continue to provide forensic medical examinations and forensic interviews, as well as individual, group and family therapy. The children who come through the doors have witnessed violence, suffered physical and sexual abuse, and have been drug-endangered and neglected, and find comfort in the child-friendly setting. The work of a community-based children’s advocacy center is proven to be effective in reducing the need for children to tell their stories of abuse to many different individuals and have examinations in sterile ill-prepared medi-
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Let’s Talk cal environments. The Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center also brings together all professionals involved in the cases each month, known as the multi-disciplinary team, to discuss the cases and share critical information, working to develop specific plans of treatment for each child. This concept also increases the opportunity of law enforcement to proceed from prosecution to conviction. The treatment services allow the child and family to begin the important journey of healing and recovery by offering evidence-based and trauma-focused therapy. Accredited by the National Children’s Alliance in Washington, D.C., the small but mighty staff of the Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center is comprised of licensed, caring child abuse professionals and a bi-lingual victim advocate.
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After 20 years, the Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center has outgrown the space in the Dickerson family home. The
Center’s Board of Directors, led by Elizabeth Chambers Taylor and other local community leaders, is undergoing the task of providing a larger facility to be able to meet the current need for services, and be ready for future growth. The Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center again has been the beneficiary of another supportive local family, Frank and Esther Walker, who donated two acres of land in West Columbia on which the Center’s new home is proposed. The dream of the Center’s staff, board, volunteers and community partners alike is to build a facility on those two acres that will provide modern interview rooms, more efficient space for medical services, and creative spaces for children to receive therapy services, as well as community meeting and training spaces. Donations to the Building Fund are gratefully accepted by The Dickerson Children’s Advocacy Center, 1615 Augusta Road, West Columbia, South Carolina 29169.
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THE ASHBY CHRONICLE:
A Series of Stylists by Ashby Jones Ashby Jones
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am not a loyal stylist customer. It’s not that I am overly critical of past work performed on my fine, yet also coarse, rapidly graying hair. I have enjoyed wonderful hair miracles right here in Lexington. It’s just that I am impatient and impulsive. My
roots don’t grow in gradually like yours do. Mine suddenly appear! An inch deep! And it requires an immediate remedy. Also, if I notice a friend has a bounce in her step due to perfectly applied high/low lights, I am instantly envious and want to meet her stylist. This afternoon, please! If it cannot be done today, then I have, on a few occasions, attempted an at-home remedy. With disastrous results. Whether I have cheated on my stylist with another stylist or with a box of Clairol, it is so uncomfortable later admitting what I have done. I am tempted to fib (I was at my parents’ house so I went to see my Mom’s stylist . . you were unavailable . . .I was bedridden for many weeks and in desperation was left to my own hair color devices . . . ). Like most cheaters, I am a bad liar. Being this disloyal has its perks: I’ve been to about every kind of salon imaginable. I’ve been to the super fancy ones with the high price tags, the small town ones with the ladies getting a curl-and-set, the salons where the only service performed is a dry haircut and the stylist has a bright blue spiky Mohawk, and the “cool” salons meant for young beautiful people (not forty-something tired working moms). I am uncomfortable at the cool salons. If the waiting area is super-sleek and has magazines I do not recognize, I break out into a sweat and start noticing the lint on my suit, the scuffs on my courtroom heels, my cuticles. I sometimes return to the cool places despite my discomfort because, well, the cool stylists know the famous people! They have attended fancy trade shows or worked in a New York salon. The cool stylists have the best stories. Like the time a has-been 80s Rock Star insisted on having his tips frosted at the crack of dawn so his fans wouldn’t know. I love that story
in particular because my cool stylist remarked “As if any of us knew him? I was like, dude, our Moms aren’t here.” Real life happens in salons. Right in front of your eyes. Round up seven or eight women and a few men, dress them in the latest fashion and place them in front of mirrors. Now add a steady stream of customers and listen. You will learn who has a new boyfriend, who is giving the owner the silent treatment or who just had “elective” surgery instead of paying her credit card bill. This openness will prompt you to share your news, sometimes in a moment of spontaneous candor. This is why my friend/ stylist Parris was one of the first people to know I was pregnant with my first-born. If you prefer, you can just sit there quietly and check your emails or read a book, and that is ok too.
hair. Like, when my friend/stylist Dawn made a house-call for the purpose of artfully styling what was once a long full mane, but was falling out in large swaths following merciless cancer treatments. Dawn knew that in some way, she was making it better. Or take my mother-in-law (my Other Mother), a “retired” stylist. Holly worked for decades in a local bank. But, before her banking days, she had a cosmetology education. Holly held on to what she learned and kept her scissors sharp. For years she cut her husband Houston’s hair. Sometime in 2004, Holly cut his namesake’s hair too. Little Houston had a tangle of blond curls at the back of his neck. Though his Mom thought they should stay put (forever if possible), it was time
for them to go. So Holly cut little Houston’s curls. And for the next eight years, she continued to give him haircuts. I imagine (because I am not there) that the routine is the same: Holly notices her grandson needs a haircut, has him sit on a stool, wraps the smock around his neck, and starts snipping. I suspect she takes a little longer than necessary. Because for several minutes that boy is finally still. She is making it better, and he is letting her. It is a mutual act of kindness. Dear Dawn, Parris, Patience, Kari, Justin, Kristin, Jenny and Heidi . . . when I return to you (we all know I will at some point) please don’t be mad at me for my Foil Infidelities. Thank you for all you do – for your skill, your listening ear and your kindness.
A good stylist not only knows how to cut, color and style hair, she is an unlicensed counselor. It is no surprise the stylist relationship is so special. There is something personal about allowing someone to touch your hair. Whether it is a new stylist, an old stylist, a salon in a detached garage, or a place worthy of a photo shoot, a stylist is performing an act of kindness. She is making it better. She is concentrating on you. She is improving you. In a matter of minutes a history is taken, a diagnosis is made, and the stylist crafts a treatment plan. I think most stylists know their value extends beyond the strands of our www.lexingtonwomanonline.com
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Making Life a Little Sweeter Every Day! By: Carol Ryall Photography by Robert Patrick Image Design
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ean and Nila Patel have been making life a little sweeter for a lot of people since 2007 when they opened their first Edible Arrangements store in Sumter, SC. Since then, they have opened five additional SC locations in Florence, Bluffton, Irmo, 5 Points in Columbia, and the newest one in Lexington. Located on South Lake Blvd., in the Wal-Mart Shopping Center on Hwy 6, the Lexington store opened in November of 2014. Currently they are commuting to Red Bank to oversee the critical first few months of their new store’s growth. Dean said they have been very pleased with their reception in Lexington and he expects the business to thrive in this community as more and more people become aware of their presence in town. They first heard about Edible Arrangements from a magazine article and went to a “Discovery Day” at the company’s headquarters in Wallingford, Connecticut. “We visited the headquarters and several stores in the area, “explained Dean. “We were very impressed with everything we saw and we signed up as franchise owners within a month.” “It appealed to me because it was something distinctive. Nobody else is offering anything like it. Our products are unique and they are created fresh every day. They are beautiful, delicious and healthy! How can you beat that?” he asked, smiling. The fruits are bought through corporate approved vendors. “One of the real challenges,” explained Dean, “is finding fruit of the quality our company demands after a hurricane or hard freeze has destroyed much of the crop.” He went on to say that they are only allowed to order from Company approved producers. Edible Arrangements is so particular, that the farmers not only have to grow quality produce, they have to be able to track each order down to the acreage it came from. This is a safety and quality precaution, just in case there is any report of disease or contamination, the company can tell immediately whether or not any of their stores might have been affected. They are very busy during Thanksgiving, Christmas and other holiday periods, but
their biggest day of the year is traditionally Valentine’s Day. While Christmas and Thanksgiving arrangements are often sent a few days before the actual holiday, almost everyone wants their Valentine’s order to be delivered on the 14th of February. They prep containers and do everything else they can ahead of time, but the actual fruit is cut and arranged that day. They know they will be working all the night before, getting all those sweethearts’ orders ready to be delivered. Dean noted that 2015 is one of the few years they may get a slight reprieve from the Valentine’s rush. The 14th falls on a Saturday this year, and many men prefer to send the arrangements to their wife or sweetheart’s workplace, and so they’ll order for a weekday delivery this year. Since everything has to be done the day of delivery and only the highest quality fruit is used, they do have a certain amount of fruit that they cannot or will not use, but which is still delicious fruit. These items are donated to local Missions and Shelters to be shared with the hungry and needy in the area. If you have a special occasion coming up, whether personal or business, for a girl or a guy, if you want to do something different than the “same-old-flowers,” something that will be uniquely enjoyed and remembered, give their stores a call and let them tell you about the wide variety of choices you have. There are gift boxes of chocolate covered fruit starting at $29.00 up to several hundred dollars for a decadent arrangement for a corporate event – and many indulgent selections in between. They invite you to Make Life A Little Sweeter® with EDIBLE ARRANGEMENTS® fresh fruit bouquets, chocolate dipped fruit and more! www.lexingtonwomanonline.com
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Chocolate Irish Cream Brownies
For the Irish Cream Center Layer: 2 blocks cream cheese, room temperature 1 container Marscapone cheese, room temperature ½ cup sugar 1 egg ½ cup Bailey’s Irish Cream
For the Brownies:
small bowl and set to the side.
For the brownies: Sift together all dry ingredients. Place in the mixer, then add eggs, butter, honey, vanilla and melted chocolate. Mix well. Stir in chocolate chips last.
2 cups all-purpose flour 1 tsp. baking soda 1 tsp. sea salt 1 1/2 cup butter, softened 12 oz. GOOD unsweetened chocolate, melted 2 cups sugar 2 cups light brown sugar 4 large eggs, at room temperature 1/4 cup orange blossom honey 2 tsp. good vanilla 1 cup semisweet or bittersweet chocolate chips or discs
Place a sheet of parchment paper in the bottom of a 13×9 baking pan. Coat the bottom and sides of pan well with non stick spray. Pour half of the chocolate brownie batter into the pan, spreading evenly. Next, cover the brownie layer with a layer of the Irish Cream mixture, using the all of the mixture. Finally, spread the remaining half of the brownie batter over the Irish cream layer. Bake at 350 for about an hour to one hour and 15 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean.
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For the Irish Cream Layer: In a stand mixer, whip cream cheese. Add sugar and remaining ingredients. Place in a
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26 Lexington One students selected for All-State Chorus! LEXINGTON, S.C. — Lexington County School District One congratulates 26 choral students for successfully auditioning for seats in the All-State Chorus. Lexington One All-State Chorus members include: Adam Caratenuto, Kelsey Graham, Clay Holman, Erin Roof, Dallas Spires, and Morgan Taylor from Gilbert High; Gabe King, Stephanie Langford and Luke Osterhaus from Lexington High; Meredith Griffin, Jacob Turner and Eli Wood from River Bluff High; and
Megan Balestrero, Jacob Cordes, Logan Daley, Abby Duncan, Devin Gantt, Jillian Gilbert, Korby Holmes, Jillian Polk, Bailey Shelton, Adara Steinmetz, Leslie Strickland, Airyanna Walker, Cody Wethington, and Sean Wise from White Knoll High. These students will participate in All-State Chorus weekend March 5–7, 2015, at Winthrop University. The event is sponsored by the Choral Division of the South Carolina Music Educators Association.
Lexington High All-State Chorus Students: Gabe King, Stephanie Langford and Luke Osterhaus.
Gilbert High All-State Chorus Students: (back) Adam Caratenuto, Dallas Spires, Clay Holman (front) Kelsey Graham, Erin Roof and Morgan Taylor.
White Knoll High All-State Chorus Students: (back) Cody Wethington, Devin Gantt, Korby Holmes, Sean Wise, Jacob Cordes, Bailey Shelton, Logan Daley, (center) Leslie Strickland, Jillian Gilbert, Abby Duncan, Airyanna Walker, (front) Jillian Polk, Megan Balestrero and Adara Steinmetz.
River Bluff High All-State Chorus Students: Jacob Turner, Meredith Griffin and Eli Wood.
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Elizabeth Atwater By: Patti McGrath
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lizabeth (Beth) Atwater isn’t just interested in politics, she has a passion for it! But, when her husband Todd decided to run for office, they weren’t sure how to run for elected office. “We quickly discovered that the best campaign includes hard work, supportive family, good friends and a little guidance from those who have run campaigns,” she recalls. “In 2010, we knocked on 3000 doors in our district. As we met and talked with people, we found we loved our community even more than before we started. There are so many wonderful people in our Lexington area.” Their efforts paid off when Todd was elected to the State House of Representatives for District 87. Since then, he has been elected twice.
Beth isn’t only a politician’s wife, she has worked in politics for years. A senior trip to Washington, DC in 1980 sparked a desire to move there and work in the political arena. After graduating from Furman University and the USC School of Law (where she met Todd), she followed that dream. “My first job was a clerkship for Judge Robert H. Hodges, Jr. at the U.S. Court of Federal Claims in D.C. Judge Hodges is a wonderful Southern gentleman from Columbia, so I felt like I went to work for an uncle,” Beth says. “It was a tremendous learning experience and the court is across
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from the White House, so the location added to my experience of working in D.C.” She then worked for the United States Sentencing Commission before taking a job as Legislative Assistant to Congressman Bob Inglis. “Out of all my jobs, that was my favorite,” Beth continues. “It was a remarkable opportunity and front-row seat to observe how the legislative branch of the United States of America operates. It was intellectually stimulating and I always had a sense of purpose in working for something larger than myself.” When Todd was offered a
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We quickly discovered that the best campaign includes hard work, supportive family, good friends and a little guidance from those who have run campaigns. position with the SC Chamber of Commerce in January of 1995, they moved back to Columbia and she began working in the S.C. Attorney General’s office and then for Speaker David Wilkins in the State House. “Those positions gave me insight into the judicial and legislative branches in S.C. and gave me the
opportunity to meet many people who still serve our State today,” she explains. “It was wonderful preparation for understanding what Todd does as a legislator.” “I chose to quit work when we had our first child, Caroline, in 1998. Our son, Jim was born in 2000.” Today, Caroline is in 10th
Professional grade and Jim is in 8th grade at Northside Christian Academy. “The thing I like most about being a stay at home mom is simply the time I have with my children. I enjoy them immensely,” Beth says. “I would not trade the field trips, math meets, ball games or drama productions for anything else. The time I spend with the kids is increasingly precious to me as they near the age of leaving home.” “I have kept my license to practice law current all these years, not knowing if or when I may decide to go back into law again,” she states. And over the years she has had a few job offers but only recently decided to start back to work part-time. “I have recently begun to ‘work’ part-time (and without pay) as Todd’s legislative assistant,” she says with a smile. “I help coordinate his schedule and work with our exceptionally talented public relations director and fundraiser. It frees him to serve our district more effectively.” “I love an adventure,” Beth exclaims. “I’m very passionate about the direction of our State and our country so I feel remarkably blessed to be Todd’s partner in this adventure of working for the people of South Carolina at the State House.”
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MEET Jamie MacDougall By: Patti McGrath
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hen Jamie MacDougall met her future husband Steve, little did she know she would become a political wife. “Steve and I met working together in the restaurant industry twenty years ago,” she says. “We were friends for several years and began dating later. We were married in 2000; this year was our fourteenth anniversary.” Working in restaurants is not only where the couple met, it also began a political career. “Steve worked at Hudson’s Smokehouse when the Lexington Town Council election was coming up in 2011. The late Robin Hudson, owner of Hudson’s Smokehouse, saw on a daily basis how much Steve loved to interact with people and that he knew almost everybody in Lexington,” Jamie explains. “Steve served on Council for two years prior to the 2013 Mayoral election. Having worked with the people of Lexington in the restaurant and on the Council, he was hearing that the community was ready for a change. Steve said he was ‘ready to change the conversation’ because at that time there were a lot of pending investigations into several political figures. It hurt Steve to hear his home town being smeared.” Many family members and friends took on the campaign challenge, helping Steve every step of the way by knocking on doors and collecting signatures. “Prior to Council, Steve had not held a political office, but when Steve made the decision to run for Mayor he had a tremendous support group in the community,” she says. Although Jamie is a supportive wife to her husband who is now Mayor of Lexington, she’s also very busy with a career and raising their family. “I have been an Emergency Room nurse for twelve years; ten of those years have been at Lexington Medical Center. I am currently a Nurse Supervisor in the Emergency Department at Lexington Medical Center,” she states. “The flexible schedule that comes with being a nurse has given me valuable time with my family. For the past ten years I have worked strictly weekends allowing me to be a stay at home mom to our two daughters; Kamryn 10 and Addison 5. Since both girls are now attending school I have been able to start working at the hospital more during the week.”
dance and aspires to participate in the theatre soon,” she states proudly. “I am also extremely honored to be a step-mother to Brittney Schroder, who is a teacher at Lexington High School,” Jamie shares. “We are very close with all of our family members. For the holidays we gather at our home where the two families have blended into one! My sister has three boys and she and I make it a priority to keep the cousins close. Growing up we did not live close to our cousins and missed out on that. We want our children to all be a close family.” Jamie has lived in South Carolina for twenty-six years and Steve grew up in Lexington. Since he had such fond memories in his hometown, Lexington is where the family settled. “The family enjoys going to Grandmother’s house on the lake and riding on the boat and taking the kids tubing. Steve and his siblings grew up being on the lake every day and want to ensure the love of the water is shared with our children. While I enjoy being out on the lake I am extremely fearful of fish,” she laughs. “I understand that this is not a very sensible fear but I don’t like the thought of the fish swimming around me unaware! Come on, I had an older brother and grew up during the Jaws era!” “I enjoy living in Lexington. It has the city amenities with the small town feel. Being in the Town of Lexington we having everything we need; I find that I don’t have to venture to downtown Columbia anymore,” she proclaims. “The schools here are fantastic and the community activities are abundant. I cannot say enough good things about our town!”
Family is important to the MacDougalls. “My girls continue to keep me busy regardless of the hours I put in at the hospital. Kamryn participates in dance, gymnastics and in the local Village Square Theatre. Addison takes
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What happens to my finances when a separation/divorce occurs? Are there ways to protect myself?
Critical Transitions Wealth Advisors Stephanie Y. Vokral, CFP®, AIF®
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here are women reading this who are going through the transition of separation and/or divorce. What happens with her finances during this time?
Stephanie: Many times, this transition can be scary because each spouse may have different ideas of what their finances should look like and how they should be spent and separated. It’s good to have some mediation, either through their attorneys laying out a marital settlement agreement or going to a professional mediator. An inventory will be taken of all the couple’s assets and liabilities. If an agreement cannot be reached, the court will divide the assets and debts by deciding what is equitable or “fair”. It is important to understand that regardless of any agreements and decrees, creditors see marital debt as joint. She could potentially be held liable for joint debt even after the divorce is final. W2W: What are some ways women can potentially protect themselves?
creditors as this could hurt an individual credit score. Close all joint accounts as soon as feasible. Ask to have these joint accounts frozen and possibly separated into an individual name. Having the account in an individual name will also help establish individual credit history. Terminate “user” status on a spouse’s credit card; this may remove questions from that point on of involvement in the debt accumulation. Document everything; get things in writing, if possible. Be proactive and have a good understanding of all debts/ assets and why. In addition, it is important to have some emergency funds should access to joint accounts be cut off. For further protection, change all passwords. Join Stephanie by kicking off the New Year at her FebruaryLunch & Learn for women only discussing this topic further:
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Many times, this transition can be scary because each spouse may have different ideas of what their finances should look like and how they should be spent and separated. Stephanie Y. Vokral For more information, contact Kim Powers at k.powers@lpl. com or call (803)920-3519 Stephanie Y. Vokral, CFP®, AIF® Wealth Advisor Critical Transitions Wealth Advisors 7911 Broad River Road, Suite 200 Irmo, SC 29063 Phone: (803)920-3519 Fax: (803)749-7674 stephanie.vokral@lpl.com
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An Amazing Athlete & Animal Advocate
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t’s 5:00 am. Time to get up. Go feed the baby squirrels in the bathroom. Make the kids
lunches. Then go run 3 miles before work. Wait… feed the squirrels? This is a typical morning for Dr. Cameron Barkley, owner of Millcreek Animal Hospital in Lexington. From fostering orphaned animals to raising a family – all while running a successful veterinary practice - Dr. Barkley’s life never has a dull moment.
Dr. Cameron Barkley
Born in and raised in Columbia, Cameron (Brewer) Barkley thrives on a schedule that would push most of us over the edge. She is the proud mother of three daughters - Keira (9), Megan (12) and Sarah (19). Her youngest children attend Lexington Richland 5 schools while her oldest has just completed her first semester at Tulane University. Her husband, Bil, has a long and distinguished career in the military and in law enforcement. So how does she manage it all? If you ask her family or friends, they will tell you, by pure motivation to be the best. Whether exceling in fitness or academics, Barkley has an inner force that drives her not only be healthy, but to serve others as well. She received her BA from Wake Forest University in 1991 and graduated magna cum Laude from the University of Georgia College of Veterinary Medicine in 2000. She is an avid skier and runner who has completed numerous half marathons and competes in at least 10 other races a year. When asked why she likes to run, Barkley says, “I think it is important that everyone put aside SOME time each day for themselves. Not for work, not for others, but
just for you – even if just for 30 minutes .” When not with her family or running, she dedicates her professional and personal time to ensuring the welfare of animals both domestic and wild at Millcreek Animal Hospital. Barkley joined the practice in 2000, directly out of vet school. Four short years later she had the opportunity to purchase the clinic. In 2014 she celebrated her 10th anniversary of ownership. Dr. Barkley and her staff of three vets and ten support personnel serve more than 5,000 pet owners a year. But being a professional and running your own business comes with its own set of challenges. “You’re never truly off from work. When there are animals that you operated on a few hours ago, you cannot just ‘clock out’ and go home for the weekend. They need to be cared for 24 hours a day. Even if it is your day off.” From rabbits with eye infections to cats who swallow rocks, people from across the Midlands trust the staff of Millcreek to diagnose and treat their beloved pets. Located in downtown Lexington on Highway 1, the clinic provides a broad spectrum of diagnostic pro-
cedures using in-house testing and external laboratories. But it is not just her clients’ animals that that get love and attention. Dr. Barkley sits on the board for the Heartworm Project, a nonprofit that works with clinics like Millcreek to provide veterinary care for shelter animals who would otherwise be euthanized due to treatable illnesses. In addition, Millcreek is one of the few clinics in the region that accepts and cares for injured prey from Carolina Wildlife. And yes, sometimes this means bringing home litters of newborn, orphaned animals that she and her family gingerly hand-feed by eye dropper numerous times a day until they are old enough to be released back into the wild. So the next time you see that injured animal on the side of the road, or fret about the welfare of your pet, know that there are people like Dr. Barkley in your community that care enough to always give back to those creatures who need it most.
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Lexin gton Woman c e l e b r a te s th e s u r v i vo r i n yo u
God is still in the Healing Business! By: Carol Ryall Photography by Lindsey Duncan
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argaret Cummings has had much more than her share of trouble yet faces each day with hope in her heart. Margaret says it’s her faith in God that enables her to stay positive, in spite of the way her life
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Margaret and her husband, Gary, married in 1993. They built a good life together, but it was punctuated with Gary’s illnesses. As Margaret said, “The left side of his body turned against him!” He had a mass removed from his left breast; the ligaments in his left foot began to grow together and surgery corrected that; his left inner ear drum contracted but surgery to correct that failed. He also suffered with stubborn high blood pressure and heart problems. They didn’t have children, but Margaret filled that lack with a collection of beloved bears that friends and family have given her. Margaret explained, “When I found out I had Breast Cancer, I thought it was my turn. Gary had been sick for so long, the Lord gave him a break for a while.” In April, 2013, Margaret was diagnosed with extremely rare Inflammatory Breast Cancer and met with surgeon Lynn M. Tucker, M.D., FACS. Because the cancer had metastasized to the lung underneath it, and was wrapped around her breast, she recommended chemotherapy to shrink the size of the tumor. Margaret told Dr. Tucker, “You’re the one in charge of medicine, but God’s in charge of everything. I know the Lord has instructed you what to do, so you won’t have any problems with me arguing about it!” In early December 2013, Dr. Tucker operated. The day Margaret got back home, she started feeling dizzy, fell and hit her head. She ended up back in the hospital, where they determined her hemoglobin was extremely low. She was released again in time to celebrate Christmas with Gary, relatives and their church family. They knew Gary’s heart wasn’t in good shape and on February 5, 2014, he died suddenly. Her friends from church surrounded Margaret with love and supported her through her grief. During the spring, she underwent radiation treatments on her incision site. In July, she went to the ER saying she “… just didn’t feel right. My left foot is turning in, my balance is poor and my head hurts.” The attending physician assured her it was reaction to all she had been through. Margaret stated, “I’m not leaving until you check my brain out.” She wasn’t surprised when the results were, “We found two masses in your head.” Dr. Ackerman, her oncologist, told her, “You don’t have Gary at home to take care of you now. Before we operate or start any treatments, you have to find someone who will be there for you.” Margaret’s immediate response was, “God has already taken care of that. My
church family will be my support.” Ultimately two additional cancerous nodules were found in her lungs and more radiation was scheduled with Chemotherapy following. In Margaret’s opinion, “God allowed all of this to happen to me, because He wants people to know He is still in the healing business!” She admits, “There are scary days when you feel bad, that’s just part of the process. As long as
you know He is in control, you don’t give in to the fear.” Margaret advises others, “Become part of a church family before you need them. Surround yourself with positive, faith-building people who know what God can do and can encourage you.” Chemotherapy is keeping the cancers controlled and she can do what she wants to do. “I am proof,” Margaret says, “that God is still working miracles.” www.lexingtonwomanonline.com
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Hima Dalal, OTR/L, Daynah Cheika, conference organizer, and another conference attendee standing with the Vital Energy poster presentation.
Complementary Therapy in Sports Injury Rehab by Vital Energy
Hima Dalal selected to present at 1st World Conference on Groin Injuries in Athletes hosted by Aspetar Sports
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ima Dalal, head occupational therapist and founder of Vital Energy Wellness and Rehab Center, has traveled far and wide to Doha, Qatar to attend the 1st Annual World Conference on Groin Injuries in Athletes (November 1, 2014 – November 3, 2014). She was selected to present on Crystal Myofascial Release, an innovative technique that she has pioneered by combining complementary therapy and traditional occupational/ physical therapy techniques to treat sports injuries. The conference, hosted by Aspetar Sports, was held at the Aspire Academy for Sports Excellence Auditorium and featured international speakers from around the world, including those from the United States, Australia, The Netherlands, Canada, Sweden, and Qatar, just to name a few. Attendees included experts in sports and exercise medicine, physiologists, orthopedic surgeons, therapists, and profes-
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sional sports trainers. In her presentation, Hima showcased two different patient case studies on groin injuries where the patients both improved dramatically after receiving Crystal Myofascial Release treatment. She has had great success treating sports injuries other than groin injuries with this technique as well.
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Both patients featured in the showcase were patients of Dr. Jeffrey Guy, orthopedic surgeon at USC Sports Medicine and official treating physician of the South Carolina Gamecocks football and women’s basketball teams. In collaboration with Dr. Guy, Hima was able to use her innovative technique to treat the patients with expedited healing time
Health & Wellness and reduced risk of injury reoccurrence. Hima is a board certified, licensed occupational therapist, energy medicine practitioner, and fibromyalgia specialist with over 30 years of experience. Her technique, Crystal Myofascial Release, also known as Crystal Myofascial Stretching, has proven perfect for patients who have not found results with traditional therapies and who have exhausted all other resources. Crystal Myofascial Release is where the therapist uses crystals during manual therapy to release the fascia, knead and manipulate the muscles, as well as work on joint mobilization and joint manipulation. It integrates complementary therapy with
the traditional PT/OT approach. Aspects of many different common modalities were used in creating this technique. Some of these include muscle energy treatments as well as knowledge of acupressure and acupuncture points. Benefits of Crystal Myofascial Release are decreased pain, decreased myofascial restriction, and increased range of motion. Because it also helps to release the emotional trauma that has been stored in the muscle due to muscle memory, it has been very effective for athletes with sports injuries, fibromyalgia patients, and infant patients. To learn more about Hima or Crystal Myofascial Release, please visit our website at www.vitalenergytherapy.com.
Hima demonstrating Crystal Myofascial Release on a conference attendee.
Hima, Sanket Dalal, Vital Energy CEO, and Daynah posing in front of conference banner.
Hima and Dr. Adam Weir, Deputy Head of Aspetar Sports Groin Pain Center, in front of Vital Energy poster presentation on display.
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Health & Wellness
Luxurious Spa Treatments A Wonderful Present, for Any Occasion! By: Carol Ryall
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The Vista has a gorgeous new Spa opening in its midst this February. Located in the historic Dupre Building at 807 Gervais Street, Pura Wellness Spa will offer a full spectrum of state-of-the-art aesthetic wellness services in a luxurious spa-setting. The owners of this fabulous new destination are Dr. Angela and Andrew Schweiger who also own Rice Creek Family Dentistry in Northeast Columbia and South Lake Family Dental in Lexington/White Knoll. Andrew Schweiger commented, “Dr. Schweiger and I are thrilled to bring this amazing project to life. It has long been a dream of ours to open a highly innovative wellness spa in Columbia.” Pura Wellness Spa’s services will include laser treatments, face and body rejuvenation, anti-aging treatments, chemical peels, Botox and fillers, microdermabrasion, skin care, massage, nutrition, fitness and lifestyle counseling. What more could you ask for, you say? Ah! But there is more. The Pura Wellness Spa will also feature Hydrotherapy in The Float Pod. You will be able to experience pure relaxation and meditative calm as you float weightlessly in the soothing waters of The Float Pod. Available exclusively at Pura, The Float Pod features the newest in hydrotherapy technologies, designed to cultivate wellness and restore mind-body balance. Doesn’t that sound like the ultimate in calming relaxation and stress reduction?
edge and experience to build, shape, and run Pura Wellness Spa. Each of them have received additional rigorous training with a heavy focus on technical aptitude, client comfort and customer service." All of the medical services will be under the supervision of Medical Director Debra
Andrew Scweiger explained, “We are committed to offering the highest quality of care with state-of-the-art technology in a warm and welcoming environment, just like we do every day in our dental practices. We have hand-picked a team of top-of-theline professionals with a wealth of knowl-
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Mitchell, MD. With over twenty-two years in the medical profession and a life-long interest in skin care and countering the aging process, Dr. Mitchell is focused on satisfying the aesthetic desires and goals of her patients. "I am thrilled to be named Medical Director of Pura Wellness Spa.” Dr. Mitchell stated. Continuing, she predict-
Health & Wellness ed, “In 2015 Pura is going to revolutionize how Columbians think of spas as we seek to partner with each patient to treat the mind, body and spirit." Renee McCord will serve as the Spa Manager. She has worked in a medical spa setting since 2006 and graduated as an aesthetician in 2008 from Esthetics International of Columbia, S.C. In 2009 she became certified in Medical Esthetics Advanced Training and received her Esthetics Instructors license in 2010. Renee believes in tailored care for each of her clients’ special skin care and body needs. "Pura is a game changer for aesthetic wellness. We take an “inside/outside” approach to skin and body care, as well as your mind and spirit. With our strong team of like-minded, highly skilled professionals who genuinely care about people, Pura will transform the way you look and feel about yourself!"
Gift certificates are available now, on-line at www.bepura. com. What a spectacular birthday, anniversary or Valentine’s present! (Ladies, leave the magazine open to this page so your significant other may notice that remark!) Gentlemen, if this page is open, you now know where you can go to do some extremely easy shopping for a gift that will thrill the love of your life! Whatever the change you want to make in your appearance, your outlook, your fitness level, there is a service available at Pura Wellness Spa that can help you achieve that goal. If you are already perfect and all you need is to relax and enjoy life, their massage therapist and The Float Pod will await you! Watch for their Grand Opening announcements, coming soon!
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CYNTHIA BYRD
of Lexington Medical Center By: Patti McGrath
M Cynthia Byrd “I thought it was painful to lose my mother, but my son’s death took me to a place mentally where I didn’t know if I could ever recover,” Cynthia says. “Suffering the loss of my mother and my son so close together was extremely difficult. Then, while you are grieving, you are still thinking of your finances and the need to get back to work, etc. With the support that I received, I was able to focus on the things that I had to do.” Cynthia has worked at Lexington Medical Center (LMC) in Irmo for 29 years as a Patient Access Representative in the outpatient surgery department. It was through the help she received from her friends and family, and the LMC Foundation’s Universal Employee Fund that Cynthia began to pull through these tragic days. (The UEF is a fund that assists hospital employees who suffer catastrophic life events). “I have been a supporter of the UEF at LMC for almost 20 years, and when I needed help it was there,” she states.
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edy into triumph by helping others through volunteering. “I love helping people. It’s important for me to volunteer because I want to give back to my community. There are so many good causes and when you volunteer you are giving that little extra help they need,” Cynthia explains. Cynthia thinks it’s important to choose an organization to support based on the things that matter to you. “I chose the Richland County Public Library because it represented what Brandon stood for - he had a thirst for knowledge. When my children were smaller, we spent a great deal of time at the library with the summer reading programs, using the computers, and working on projects,” she continues.
As time passed and she began to heal, she decided to turn her trag-
Cynthia and her children have raised over $19,000 for the library, but the spirit of giving doesn’t end there. She also volunteers for the Salvation Army, Lexington Interfaith Community Services, SisterCare, Keep the Midlands Beautiful Adopt-aHighway, and Seven Oaks Elementary School. In addition, her church established the Brandon
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arch 2007 was a month that changed Cynthia Byrd’s life. Her mother passed away on March 5th and was laid to rest on March 12th. Then, on March 21st, she received more devastating news. Her son Brandon, who just celebrated his twentieth birthday days earlier, had been killed in an automobile accident. LaVar Byrd Memorial Scholarship. “I get joy out of supporting the scholarship fund because it gives a young person an opportunity to go to school. Brandon was attending college when he passed, and with the support of
tient that is registered for surgery, it is always good to see them and put a face with the voice. It is also good to hear them tell you that you made them feel better and/or less stressed.”
I thought it was painful to lose my mother, but my son’s death took me to a place mentally where I didn’t know if I could ever recover. the Brandon’s scholarship another young person will have that opportunity.” But, Cynthia has been helping people at LMC through her job for years. “Helping patients is what I like most about my job at LMC,” Cynthia says. “I get to communicate with every patient who is having surgery by phone. I really enjoy speaking with them. I treat each patient the way I would like to be treated, and I often tell them that we will treat them like the king and queens that they are. While I do not check in every pa-
She has been thankful for the help her employer gave her through her most difficult days. “I love working for LMC! My co-workers are my extended family. LMC is well known in the community and I love being a part of such an awesome establishment,” she exclaims. Cynthia sincerely hopes those reading this article will consider volunteering. “JUST DO IT,” she encourages. “You may not be able to do everything you desire to do, but start somewhere!”
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Helping People isn’t just a Job... it’s a Way of LIFE!
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elping people isn’t just a job for Katie Bedenbaugh – it’s a way of life. As a Care Manager in the Oncology/Hematology unit at Lexington Medical Center (LMC), she takes care of patients with cancer and blood disorders. During her time away from her job, she volunteers her time to help various organizations.
Katie began her nursing career in oncology when, during her final semester of nursing school, she had clinicals in the oncology unit at LMC. “I felt in my heart that LMC was where I was meant to be and I found I enjoyed the work of the oncology unit,” she says. “I worked nights as a new graduate and immediately fell in love with the field.” In addition, Katie became a certified oncology nurse. “To become certified, you must be a
pass along more information to my patients and fellow nurses to help assure our patients are receiving exceptional care and treatment.” Although working in oncology can be a difficult task, Katie loves her job. “I love watching patients find a strength within themselves they didn’t know was there, and watching families and friends come together to support a patient or celebrate their life. I love teaching patients and families what I know, so they can feel more sense of ‘control’ during an overwhelming time,” Katie explains. “I love being able to communicate with my patients without having to say a word, and seeing patients find peace. I love being that ‘rock’ for someone when they need it and making someone feel as good as they can when they are feeling as bad as they can. I love being able to share a smile with someone.” “I also love the people I work with - the oncologists and radiation oncologists are amazing physicians who are incredibly smart, knowledgeable, and compassionate people,” she continues. “The nurses I work with are an amazing set of people who are smart, diligent, caring and hard-working.”
Katie Bedenbaugh registered nurse in the field of oncology for a minimum of two years before you are allowed to even sit for the exam,” she states. “The exam is a detailed test to assess exceptional knowledge in the field. To maintain certification I am required to participate in more educational venues and credits than a non-certified oncology nurse, and be recertified every four years. I am required to maintain above average knowledge and skills. This means I can
But, her caring nature doesn’t end with the end of her work day. Katie loves volunteering her time to help others in need. “I was raised to give of my time and talents. By volunteer-
ing, you can show true compassion for others because you are doing it without looking for payment or recognition,” she smiles. “I know from volunteering myself, it really gives you that ‘warm fuzzy’ feeling and an inner satisfaction. All it takes is little time and effort to make a big difference in someone else’s life. It’s because of volunteers that some people are able to eat today or have a warm jacket tonight.”
The nurses I work with are an amazing set of people who are smart, diligent, caring and hard-working. “ I have spent time volunteering in a food bank, clothing bank, been a Girl Scout leader, collected supplies for Sister Care, volunteered at a hospital in high school, and so forth,” Katie says. “Since having children, my volunteer work has involved them or been because of them. We raise money for Leukemia & Lymphoma Society with the Pennies for Patients Drive, we collect and donate food and items for Kids Care at our church on a monthly basis, and we participate in the Adopt-a-Family through my job at Christmas, and collect and donate food for the backpack program for children.” It is through her work at LMC and her volunteer work, Katie Bedenbaugh is making a difference in the Lexington community. Won’t you join her in her efforts by volunteering today? www.lexingtonwomanonline.com
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New Heart Procedure Restores Quality of Life for 87-Year-Old Woman
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hree times each week, you can find Hazel Gamble working out at Cardiac Rehabilitation inside Lexington Medical Center. At 87, the West Columbia woman is riding the exercise bike and climbing on the elliptical machine. “I love it,” she said. She calls it a whole new world. That’s because just a few months ago, Hazel would not have been able to withstand such rigorous activity.
“I had a lot of shortness of breath,” she said. “I couldn’t walk any long distances. And it kept getting worse.”
Hazel had aortic stenosis. That’s a narrowing of the aortic valve, which is the valve that allows oxygenated blood out of the heart to the rest of the body. Patients with aortic stenosis have a valve that doesn’t open properly.
Aortic stenosis can be a serious problem. As the heart works harder to pump enough blood through the smaller opening in the valve, the heart eventually becomes weak. Over time, that can lead to life-threatening heart problems. In fact, the life expectancy for people with severe, symptomatic aortic stenosis is less than two years. At Lexington Medical Center in West Columbia, Hazel learned about transcatheter aortic valve replacement, known as TAVR. This state-of-the-art cardiovascular technology allows doctors to replace the aortic valve with a catheter instead of performing open heart surgery. Lexington Medical Center began performing TAVR last spring. “TAVR is the most significant advancement in cardiology since coronary angioplasty,” said Dr. Robert Leonardi of Lexington Cardiology, who performs TAVR at Lexington Medical Center. Currently, TAVR is only for patients with severe aortic stenosis who are high-risk candidates for open heart surgery because of their age, history of heart disease or other health issues.
TAVR. Photo Courtesy: Edwards Lifesciences
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Hazel met with a multi-disciplinary team of physicians at Lexington Medical Center who perform TAVR, including cardiologists and cardiovascular surgeons at Lexington Cardiology and Lexington Cardiovascular Surgery. She underwent TAVR at the hospital last June. To replace the diseased aortic valve with
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Hazel Gamble, 87, of West Columbia inside Cardiac Rehabilitation at Lexington Medical Center TAVR, the new aortic valve is compressed into a catheter. Doctors thread the catheter through the body to the inside of the aortic valve. Then, they deploy the new valve inside the diseased aortic valve, which becomes the anchor for the new valve. The new valve functions immediately and normal blood flow is restored. Right after the procedure, Hazel started to get better and says she noticed that she could breathe better. “Oh my goodness! All of a sudden, there was no more shortness of breath.” Her husband of nearly 49 years, James, noticed, too. “She has a lot more energy,” he said. “And she looks a lot better, too.” Hazel says the procedure has given her independence back. She’s able to walk when she goes out, spend time with friends and do housework. While most people would balk at the idea of doing housework, Hazel says she’s just happy to have the energy for chores again. “I’ve improved mentally and physically,” she said. In addition to exercise, Hazel also attends classes at Cardiac Rehabilitation about nutrition and managing diabetes. Hazel is so appreciative of the heart team at the hospital that she’s working on crochet projects for each of them. “They’ve been so nice to me.” Thanks to TAVR, she looks forward to many happy days in the future.
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Selecting 12 women of Lexington Medical Center
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exington Medical Center is home to some of the finest health care professionals in the nation. Anchored by a 414-bed hospital in West Columbia, Lexington Medical Center’s network of care also includes six community medical centers, an occupational health facility, the largest nursing home in the Carolinas and more than 60 physician practices. Approximately 6,000 employees work diligently each day to achieve Lexington Medical Center’s mission of providing quality health services that meet the needs of our community. Eighty percent of those employees are women. From clinicians to administrators, they go above and beyond to provide us the best care possible. The group in this issue’s cover story highlights a few of the outstanding women in the Lexington Medical Center family. Beginning in their hospital units and extending out into the community, they exemplify the values, leadership, intelligence, work ethic and compassion of the female work force that makes up the hospital network and drives it to success. Lexington Woman asked Lexington Medical Center to select 12 women to be featured in our cover story. We knew that was a daunting task. It’s truly impossible to select a small number from such a vast
field of excellent candidates. For Lexington Medical Center, it was right up there with finding the perfect wedding dress, naming a baby and selecting a paint color. There were a lot of good options.
shining star who deserved recognition. The response was tremendous. From award-winning nurses to cancer survivors, the women have shined at the hospital and changed the lives of others.
The discerning process began by asking hospital managers and administrators
You’ll have the chance to meet each of them up close over the next year in featured articles in Lexington Woman. In this issue, we introduce you to Cynthia Byrd, a patient access representative at LMC Irmo. Cynthia found a way to help others in the midst of tragedy after losing her son in a car accident. We also feature nationally certified oncology nurse Katie Bedenbaugh, who excels at helping patients and their families in their time of need and raising funds to find a cure for cancer.
From award-winning nurses to cancer survivors, the women have shined at the hospital and changed the lives of others. to submit nominations that included examples of why each woman was a
There are many female doctors at Lexington Medical Center – chances are you’ve been a patient of some of them. But for this project, we wanted to learn more about the other women at the hospital. Lexington Medical Center ultimately selected the twelve women you see on our cover. But the project has inspired the hospital to take things one step further. Humbled by the stories of each of the dozens of nominees, the hospital will begin highlighting their good works in a new employee recognition program at Lexington Medical Center this year.
L to R: Barbara Willm, Jill Libbey, Katie Bedenbaugh, Patrice Smith, Cynthia Byrd, Janet Paul, Sandra Dodd, Kelly Jeffcoat, Teri Ullsperger, Isabel Evora, Terri Dooley, Karen Longstreet
We appreciate the hard work of each and every of the more than 4,000 women working at Lexington Medical Center. The 12 women featured on the cover are representative of the best qualities and attributes of all of the women there. We’re pleased to showcase them. They’ve inspired us, and we hope they inspire you, too. www.lexingtonwomanonline.com
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Do You Hear What I Hear?
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By: Carol Ryall Photography by Robert Patrick Image Design
o you sometimes wonder if you DO hear everything everyone around you is hearing? You may discover that you don’t. Do
you have some concerns about your child’s hearing? If any of this is familiar to you, there is help available at CENTA Hearing Center, a division of CENTA Medical Group, PA. They have two locations, 9 Richland Medical Park Dr., Suite 510, Columbia, SC 29203 and 157 Corley Mill Road, Lexington, SC 29072.
CENTA Medical Group is the oldest ENT practice in South Carolina. In addition to the five Ear, Nose & Throat Specialists who are MDs, there are also two full-time audiologists, Dr. Horace Beasley and Dr. Amy Ingram and one part-time audiologist, Dr. Kristen Hilsher. Audiologists are not Medical Doctors, but they do have at least four years of post-graduate training to enable them to do diagnostic testing and evaluation of your hearing capability and to fit, program and adjust hearing aids to help improve your hearing ability as needed. Dr. Beasley, a Lee County native, started out in the television industry. While his wife was getting her Masters in Speech Therapy, she introduced him to the field of Audiology, knowing that he was looking for a career change. He felt it was a good combination of his “geeky technological side” and his desire to help people. Dr. Beasley works mainly with adult patients. Dr. Hilsher has been with the practice for five years and went to part-time last year after the birth of her son. She especially likes working with older adults. Fitting them with hearing aids improves their quality of life so very much that she finds this especially rewarding. Dr. Ingram, a native of Birmingham, Alabama, specializes in pediatric audiology. She
worked with cochlear implants for infants and children with profound hearing loss during her fellowship and found it especially fulfilling. When she graduated she knew she wanted to continue working with children, but there are only a few ENT offices with pediatric specialists, which is how she came to be living in Columbia, SC. She works closely with Dr. Iverson, a pediatric otolaryngologist at CENTA Medical Group. According to Dr. Beasley, hearing aid technology has improved immensely in the last few years. Today, unlike in the past, hearing aids are rarely custom made. You can usually be fitted with something “off the shelf.” Once you have been fitted, the aid has to be ordered but is usually back in two to three days. As your hearing changes over the years, most hearing aids today are reprogrammable, so they don’t have to be replaced as frequently as before. Normally they are set for the comfort of the wearer to begin with, and as you become accustomed to wearing and hearing with the device, they can be adjusted so that you are hearing even better. Being able to hear well is essential, not only to a good quality of life, but also to maintaining a healthy brain. There has been research linking a higher rate of Alzheimer’s and dementia in people whose hearing loss is not being treated.
Dr. Ingram works on the other end of the age spectrum, but for the same reasons. If children can’t hear or can’t hear well, it significantly impacts their ability to interact with those around them, along with their speech development and comprehension. She stated, “The toughest part of my job is telling parents that their child has some hearing loss. That is never easy!” But then she said, “Being a part of the solution to that problem is very fulfilling.” Another common issue is that kids of grammar school and middle school age are often resistant to wearing hearing aids. Recently she had a middle school band member who just did not want to wear hearing aids. She convinced him to try them for a few days. He came in afterwards, beaming. “Thank you so much!” he told Dr. Ingram. “I never knew how much I was missing out on. It is SO much better with the hearing aids!” That is her favorite part of the job. If you, your children or grandchildren have any problem with hearing, call CENTA Medical Group at 803 256-2483, or go to their website www.centamedical.com for more information or to request an appointment. It’s too important to put off. Call today!
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A Personal Note
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rom the moment I found out I was pregnant with my first born, I became a student of the “school of motherhood.” I
bought books about it, I talked to other women about it, I prayed about it, and I determined within myself I was going to be good at it. It wasn’t because I didn’t have a great mother, I did. I just wanted to be sure that I was capable of being what my children needed. I felt unsure about that. I felt unsure about my ability to unselfishly love and nurture this little life, God had so graciously entrusted me with. For the last 19 years much of my identity has been tied up in who I am as that mother. I love my babies. All four of them plus a few more who have become like mine during that time as well. On January 20th of this year I realized something scary. My baby boy is eight years old. He is no longer a baby, he is a little boy, who will become a young man in four short years. He wants a puppy of his own. He promises to bathe it and feed it. (His sister is highly allergic to both cats and dogs.) He wants some sort of reptile too, about which he has made the same promises. He will cry at sad movies- especially when something happens to a parent in the movie. He will voice his opinion loudly if he disagrees with a situation. If the situation is something he feels is unfair, he will voice that too. He is compassionate, strong, funny and a little tough if he thinks he is right. He cries when his brother returns to college after a break and loves his other brother and sister just as much. I am pretty sure I had postpartum depression after he was born. I don’t remember the first three months of his life. Just flashes of moments. The awful sound of his breathing when he was born, so ragged and scary. He was born with pneumonia and underdeveloped lungs. I remember his big blue eyes, looking at me so wide and trusting; as if I held all the answers to all of his problems in my hands. At that moment, I did. If he was hungry there was a set list of things I could give him. If he was tired, I knew how to rock him and sing him to sleep. If he was wet, I knew how to fix that too. Truthfully, life was simple back then. He is still a cuddler and still likes for mom to make his lunch and pick out his clothes, but I am sure, as he continues to grow, that will change as well. Now it’s a little harder, but I usually still have what he needs. As he gets older it’s a little harder to meet those needs. It’s a little harder to protect him, because I am not always with him. It’s a little harder to shield him from the reality of others than it was when I chose his friends. Don’t misunderstand- I celebrate the changes, because I know they are all steps to him becoming who needs to be. I know we will fill our days with other things, his soccer games and Colton’s baseball games, Abby’s spring play and Colton’s spring play. Trey’s spring concerts at Furman and yes, I will enjoy all of these things. Life will move rapidly on, but just between me and you I will miss the smell of baby powder and lavender baby bath soap. I will miss the clutch of tiny fingers gripping my much larger hand. I will miss the feel of little hands gripping my face tightly. I will miss having a baby in my house. Until a time when my life is full of babies again, I will enjoy the milestones that each of my children continue to pass on their way to adulthood. God Bless Mothers,
Proverbs 1:8-9 Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching. They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.