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POSITIVE CONNECTIONS HIRES NEW CASE MANAGER, adds Riley County......................................................................................................... 7 RUN AWAY, BRIDES - AND GROOMS . . . to warmer wedding destinations.....................................................................................10 WEDDING EXPO IN WESTPORT has an LGBT twist................................14 A NEW "LEAF" Delano restaurant offers more in bigger Old Town location.............................................................................................20 GENDER-NEUTRAL LOCKER ROOM opens at WSU rec center.................22
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Regulars OP/ED letters...........................................................................................6 THE KANSAS GAYHAWK Marriage - Who Cares?.....................................6 MINOR DETAILS Power Is the Issue, but It's Nervous............................11 TRANS-FORMATIVE Who Am I to Judge? BTW, Your Love Is Bad.........17 LEATHER LIFE Oh, to be a Submissive..................................................26 The Liberty Press distributes 4,000 copies a month in cities throughout Kansas, including Dodge City, Derby, Lawrence, Topeka, Wichita, Manhattan, Junction City, El Dorado, Hays, Kansas City, Pittsburg, Newton, Hutchinson and Salina.
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Letters My Take Dear editor: I used to not care much about politics, sure I would do my civic duty and vote, but have an opinion on policy, no not the shy western Kansas boy. Then when my son came out as transgender (F2M), and I stopped lying to myself about being a heterosexual my outlook changed considerably. It could have been the 2004 wave of anti-equality bills passed, or that demonizing the LGBTQI community for the nation’s fall from leadership in the world. Whatever it was it has ignited a passion in me to make a difference, to be heard, to be seen as normal. I spend a lot of time on social
media trying to combat the ignorance and intolerance that exist in our society. I try to be open-minded and understanding of the change that people have to make in the status quo. But if there is one group that I understand most yet have no tolerance for, it is the people who are narrow, closed-minded, condescending, hypocrites. We all know those people, individualism; personal responsibility; if you want it, take it; yes that is what they preach (out one side of their mouth). Then comes the other side of their mouth saying, conform; traditional; normal; we have to protect you from yourself, because we know better. They look at America’s past through rose-colored glasses and want what (in their mind) was. I look at America’s future Watch with us at the church!
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The Kansas GayHawk: A Youth Perspective Marriage - Who Cares?
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hen I hear the word “marriage” my brain automatically jumps to the fact that the divorce rate in America is now over 50%. So right off the bat I am not one who craves signing away my freedom and spending thousands of dollars on an occasion that will most likely lead to a tragic and stressful end. Although I myself will most likely never say the words “I do” I still want everyone who believes in happily ever after to have the legal right to chase that fairytale. The new marriage laws that were passed this past year are truly fantastic. My parents’ generation finally has something to be proud of besides destroying the ozone layer and the glorious mountain of debt that will soon be placed on the shoulders of me and my peers. In all sincerity, I am grateful that gay men and women have the chance to share in all the federal benefits that have been allotted to straight couples ever since God so clearly stated that heterosexuals are the most precious things that he created. Forget the kangaroos or the penguins; nothing beats those grand ol’ heterosexuals. If you haven’t noticed by now I am experiencing a small burst of teen angst and quite frankly I don’t give a crap about marriage at this point. No right-minded 17-year-old should. I am starting college soon and moving on to the next phase of my life. Love is not required for survival. I would choose an IQ of 160 over a lasting relationship any day of the week. Knowledge, now knowledge is something worth having a with my eyes wide open and imagine what can be, a place of individualism, hard work and community spirit, that together we can accomplish anything. I’m tired of hearing about America needing to conform to an idealism of singularity. That is not what our forefathers wanted. I’m tired of hearing
By Jordan Hawk ceremony for and we do . . . sorta. I’d rather wear a used gown to get a diploma instead of spending a fortune on something that can be easily ruined by anything that is not white. I’m gonna stop beating around the bush here. People suck sometimes, but they hardly ever suck in the beginning. The start of a relationship is fabulous, but in the words of Sir Isaac Newton, “What goes up, must come down.” People never change, their true self simply comes out and from there everything falls apart. On a lighter note, life is all about the ups and the downs. Without them we would just float off and die in some void. The point is that sometimes things do not go as planned and we end up hurt or lost, but that does not mean that it wasn’t worth it. Life is just one huge science experiment with hundreds of trials and thousands of errors and if you find a lab partner you really like and trust with deadly chemicals, then go ahead and sign that safety waiver and begin. l individualism, but choose from these stereotypical molds that are pre-approved. I’m tired of hearing, I did it so can you, but when you look at their support system and your own, you know there is no chance in hell. I’m tired and that’s my take. Ray Butterfield
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Positive Connections hires new case manager, adds Riley County By Blake Hampton TOPEKA - This summer, Positive Connections, an HIV/ AIDS service organization, took on Riley County medical case management. This increases the total counties the Topeka organization serves to 17. To handle the new workload Positive Connections hired a new case manager, Chris Locke, who is a recent social work graduate from Washburn University. Locke works two
days a week in Riley County and the rest of the week in Topeka. I was able to interview him about becoming a case manager, his current work, and plans for the future. Before working with Positive Connections, Locke was struggling with what he wanted
to do for a living. Going to school at Washburn University he switched his major five times. Starting in biology, and studying other majors before stumbling onto social work. Despite discouragement, and people telling him that a career in social work only offers low pay and struggle, Locke found that he really enjoyed learning about social work, and the potential it has to help others. After graduating with a bachelor’s degree in social work,
Locke set off to get a job at KVC Health Systems hoping to work in child welfare. However he struggled to find any work. After two months of searching he revised his resume and presented it to Positive Connections. They offered him the position he continued on page 23
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Still time to vote! WICHITA - Voting is still open for Liberty Press’ third annual Best of Gay Wichita awards. Votes will be tallied and the winners will be announced in the March 2015 issue. To vote: If you have a paper ballot from the January issue, then send it in via snail mail to: Liberty Press, PO Box 16315, Wichita, KS 67216-0315. It must be postmarked no later than Feb. 8. Or vote online at: www.libertypress.net. Only one ballot per person will be counted.
How does marriage change things financially? By Karen Abshire-Gordon For couples who were already domestic partners financially, Brian Martz, of Wells Fargo Financial Advisors, offers some advice. Martz is currently the only financial advisor with certified domestic partnership accreditation in the state of Kansas. ”Now that marriage equality
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has arrived in Kansas, many couples want to know how a new marital status might impact them financially. Most notably, samesex couples now have federal recognition of their relationship. Previously, their domestic partnership offered only state and some federal recognition. The ability to marry opens the door to all federal protections and benefits associated with marriage. “Since the rules are still being clarified in jurisdictions across the state, it’s important to build a team of professionals to consider everything from taxes and estate planning to health insurance and pension benefits to Social Security and college funding. “If a couple is already set up as domestic partners financially, but are now legally married, they should check in with their financial team and even consider working with someone who holds the Accredited Domestic Partnership Advisors designation. These financial advisors have been trained and certified on key issues affecting same-sex couples and domestic partners. Most importantly, don’t allow the uncertainty to deter or delay your planning; instead, rededicate yourself and your spouse or partner to build a sound plan for your future together.” l
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Run away, brides – and grooms . . . to warmer wedding destinations
By Ciara Reid, staff reporter
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t is an unseasonably warm day in January at the writing of this article; by the time the February issue hits stands, it will most certainly be frigid and intolerably cold. This kind of weather will undoubtedly have many uttering a phrase along the lines of “why don’t we live in Hawaii?” And for those who are thinking about sauntering down the aisle in these frosty temperatures, consider running away – far, far away – to majestic destinations where shorts and flip-flops are the norm, and gays can frolic about without fear of judgment or intolerance. While there are numerous places to choose from, the following are up for serious consideration as premier places to say, “I do.” Maui, Hawaii I may be a little biased listing Maui as a great place to get married – or at the very least, a
perfect place to honeymoon. My wife and I honeymooned here last February, and everything anyone has ever said about Hawaii is true – everywhere you go is a postcard moment waiting to happen, the Mai Tais are delicious AND strong, and the people, at least in Maui and based on our experience, are very friendly and accepting of gays and lesbians. With all the stress that can come with planning a wedding, Maui completely counters that with a chill and relaxing vibe. No need to plan every moment; you can easily fill your days relaxing on the beach and playing in the ocean, which is also pretty inexpensive. One of the must-dos while in Maui is to attend a luau. Amazing food and entertainment that celebrate the rich culture and heritage of Hawaii, you would be amiss if you did not partake in one with your spouse-to-be. mauihawaiiluau.com/ is a good website to learn about the many luaus that the island offers. www.gohawaii .com has information on all the islands that make up Hawaii; just search for “weddings” and you’ll find information related to locations, vendors, and planners. San Diego, California San Diego is a city that has it all: beautiful beaches, tranquil oceanside towns, a diverse and bustling nightlife, and it’s gayfriendly to boot. Flights, for the most part, are pretty affordable, and you can find flight and hotel packages that won’t make a huge dent in your bank account.
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There are many resources available to help you plan your wedding. Paradise Point offers the whole shebang, especially if you plan to have friends and family join you on the most special day of your life. The company takes care of the venue, rehearsal dinner, food, wedding planners, hotel, and more. www.paradisepoint.com Interested in hitting up the gay nightlife to celebrate your big day? San Diego is chock full of gay bars to meet any need: Urban Mo’s provides a country western flair, Numbers and The Brass Rail can help you get your dance on, and Rich’s San Diego is the place to see and be seen. Key West, Florida What’s not to love about Key West? The southernmost point in the continental United States also happens to be very
gay-friendly. Many resorts and hotels are gay-friendly or gayowned. Getting married on the beach is no problem, thanks to companies like Weddings to Go Key West. They offer complete wedding packages, including a ceremony officiant. www. weddingstogokeywest.com As with any local or destination wedding, it’s important to research the amount of time and money required to obtain the marriage license. It’s a good idea to call the local courthouse or visit the city or county website and make sure you have the proper paperwork completed before you travel. The main goal, of course, is to have a stress-free wedding and kick-off your marriage in serene style. The beachy locale certainly helps forget those winter woes back home. l
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Power Is the Issue, but It's Nervous
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onstantly we must remind ourselves that the rightwing dominating the Republican Party, has a “logic” of its own. We have to stop asking questions like: “Don’t they understand?” “Don’t they see that this doesn’t make any sense?” “Why do so many vote against their self-interest?” If we’re stuck in the kind of analysis these questions represent, we don’t understand what’s going on in right-wing and, more broadly, conservative politics today. And we’ll spend a lot of time trying to get them to “understand” while they work to effectively manipulate the means of power. “Don’t they understand the importance of a good education?” Wrong question. They see education as a means of liberalizing people. “The facts,” as Rachel Maddow paraphrased Stephen Colbert, “have a liberal bias.” So their goal is to control education at all levels by defunding it so it fails and then moving it under the control of corporate forces that have a profits-over-people agenda. Then it can train compliant workers who won’t stand up for their dignity. “Don’t they understand the threats of global warming?” Wrong question. They’re doing what it takes to maximize their current profits and stock values because they’re interested in the short-term control of the market that will increase their wealth no matter what might happen with the climate. They’re betting on their money buying them out of any problems. “Don’t they see the dangers of income inequality?” Wrong question. They believe that wealth is a measure of goodness, and therefore having it is a
justification of all they’re doing. Those below them deserve to be poorer for lack of the intelligence, gumption, and values they have. And the wealthiest live in a different world than the lower 99%. Their problems are not those of the rest of us. They socialize with their own. Those below them exist to promote their wealthy lifestyles. When a fraternity decides to experience homelessness by living in lean-to shelters on campus, they pretend to understand. For them it’s a temporary, feel-good charity campout with the promise of good meals and economic success awaiting. To be dominated by the feeling that there’s no way out, there’s little hope for mental and physical healthcare, that no better accommodations await, and that society is working against you, is very different. “Don’t they see that LGBT marriage won’t hurt straight marriage?” Wrong question. Two people of the same gender marrying challenges their dominant view of what marriage is. In their minds it’s an institution with a man as the visible head that enforces traditional gender roles. They need both a man and a woman in order to know who’s the father and the mother, who’s the top and the bottom, who’s supposed to be the model for any children of what a real man and real man’s woman should be, how they should act, how they should feel, what chores they should do. In same-gender relationships all this becomes negotiable. In same-gender relationships, someone who acts out of their whole (un-gender-straightjacked) humanity will model to the children that humans don’t have to be limited to the unhealthy gender roles society still enforces and straight
marriage is supposed to idealize. Marriage equality challenges all of that, liberalizing people to be whole human beings who reject conservative limits. “Don’t they see that LGBT equality is inevitable with generational attitude change?” Wrong question. Conservative economic, military, and corporate leaders could care less about maintaining LGBT discrimination nor gaining LGBT equality. They would be happy to give in on these issues as long as it takes people’s minds off of their redistribution of wealth to the top. In fact, conservative leaders are happy to include LGBT people who are content with celebrations over their social gains if they’ll support the right-wing economic agenda. The national LGBT group that represents some of the wealthiest non-heterosexual people, the Human Rights Campaign, has therefore found itself under fire from LGBT groups who see discrimination in broader socioeconomic terms. Conservatives use the issue to gain votes. So, to take a stand against LGBT equality is to play to a right-wing religious base to keep their loyalty. It’s worked in the past among those most likely to turn out for elections. So, it’s still a useful tactic while it keeps economic conservatives in power long enough to solidify their gains economically and maintain the electorate’s comfort with conservative framing of economic issues. It’s neither an economic or moral issue for them – it’s a way to hold on to their evangelical devotees. “Don’t they see that trickledown economics is failing?” Wrong question. It hasn’t failed for the wealthy who set the conservative and
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Republican agenda. It has helped them gain even more power by taking over the Supreme Court and mainstream media. It has produced a government dominated by the rich and enabled the institutions of the rich – corporations and business lobbying groups – to control all branches of government. It has produced politicians who must spend most of their time looking for money. And it has produced cynicism in voters who could change things, believing there is little hope for change or any reason to vote. As Audre Lorde observed over a generation ago: “That you can’t change City Hall is a rumor being spread by City Hall.” The fascinating and hopeful news is that once we stop thinking in terms of these questions, we can change realities. Once we see that this is about power and control and not understanding and what seems to us logical, we can join forces with the goal of taking our country back from the oligarchs. And those who believe in people over profits have much more power than anyone expects. No one saw this more clearly than American historian Howard Zinn. After retelling American history from the ground up in A People’s History, you’d expect hopelessness. But no: “Pessimism becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy; it reproduces itself by crippling our willingness to act. ...Political power, however, formidable, is more fragile than we think. (Note how nervous are those who hold it.)” l Robert N. Minor, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus of Religious Studies at the University of Kansas, is author of When Religion Is an Addiction; Scared Straight; and Gay & Healthy in a Sick Society. Contact him at www. FairnessProject.org.
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D
ear Mama, What is your opinion o f Wa l - M a r t ? A disappointed shopper Good Lord, help us all. That place drives me crazy. With all the shoppers having their damn reunions down the middle of the aisle. Also they are always out of what you need, and do not get me started on the people shopping in their pajamas at any time throughout the day! They just need to stay home. Hey Mama, Got big plans for St. Valentine’s Day? not signed (Laughing out loud) Not a damn thing! I am too old to give a crap about this holiday. I only miss the chocolate. Naomi quit watching soap operas and bring me a beer.
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him for the way campaign finances were handled. Also, because he has no idea how to run this state or his own dang life. They need to investigate his whole political career and I thought Eunice was a nincompoop, NOT! Dear Mama, Is it me or do you think the other drivers on the road are getting ruder then normal? Road rage Yes I do. I cannot even drive three blocks to the Food Circus to get a gallon of milk, bread, and a six-pack of beer without wanting to throw my groceries out at other drivers. They cut you off, honk, and flip you the bird when they are the ones driving like dingbats. I wish I had a speaker on my car to yell at them. I would tell them that I was going to call their mothers and tell her what a moron they are. That’s a good idea! Vinton call the copyright office now! Thank you for your questions. Have a happy St. Valentine’s Day! I dedicate this month’s column in memory of a good friend and DJ, Michael Tribue. You will be missed. l Have a question for Mama? E-mail MamaTHarper@aol.com or friend Thelma Harper on Facebook. Deli, Crazy J’s Furniture & Sleep Shop, The Donut Whole, Doo-Dah Diner, Earthwise Pet Supply, Fisch Haus, First Metropolitan Community Church, First Unitarian Universalist Church, Harris & Co. Frame Shop, Heights High GSA, Hue Gallery, Hunter Health Clinic, J’s Lounge, A Journey in the Light, Kirby’s, KU Internal Medicine - Midtown, Lotus Leaf Cafe, Mead’s Corner, Moe’s Sub Shop, The Monarch, The Orpheum, Our Fantasy Complex, Patricia’s (all 3 locations), Picasso's Pizza, Pine Valley Christian Church, Planet Hair, Planned Parenthood, Positive Directions, Rain Café & Lounge, Reverie Coffee Roasters, Spektrum Muzik, Spice Merchant, The Store, T - A Tea Bar,Tanya's Soup Kitchen, Vagabond Coffeeshop, Vegas Video, Watermark Books, Wellington Place Inn, Wichita Community Theatre, Wichita Public Library - downtown branch, WSU Spectrum meetings, WSU - Women's Studies office, Ziggy's Pizza
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Wedding expo in Westport has an LGBT twist
Two Hearts Same Love presented by Erika Swift Events By Elle Boatman KANSAS CITY - Marriage equality is sweeping the nation, Valentine’s Day is on the horizon, and the wedding bells of summer are only a few months away. For some, this year brings with it new hope of finding love, settling down, and starting a family and many LGBT couples are looking forward to getting married. Marriage equality is opening new doors for thousands of people across the nation including the Midwest. But what about planning that day you’ve spent dreaming about your entire life? There’s an annual wedding/bridal expo in Wichita at Century II as well as many bridal shops scattered about Kansas’ cities and towns - but this is Kansas and you never quite know if planners, caterers, and (dare I mention) bakers will be LGBT-inclusive and nothing leaves a stain on wedding planning quite like a disapproving frown or outright denial of service. Erika Swift Events has an answer. On Feb. 22, Erika Swift will be hosting her Two Hearts, Same
Love Wedding Expo in Westport (KC area), Missouri. I sat down with the hostess of Kansas’ slightly untechnical inaugural wedding expo to learn more about her, her passion, and what she’s bringing to the table altar. Elle Boatman: Tell me about yourself and Erika Swift Events. Why weddings? Erika Swift: I’ve officially been in business since 2012 after planning two destination weddings back to back. From an early age, I would follow my grandmother around with lists and plans for her whole day and as I got older it stuck with me. In high school, my guidance counselor noticed I planned a lot of the school’s activities and pointed me in the direction of wedding/event planner. I have had this passion since I was a kid - I have always loved planning things and I love planning weddings.
What are you most passionate about as a wedding professional? Giving someone their dream day. I get to do thousands of weddings and events, but the brides and grooms get that one day. Everyone should have that and it means the world to me to give them that one day. Personally and professionally, what are your thoughts on marriage equality and the importance of the marriage equality movement? Personally, I am all for it. Professionally, it is amazing to me because it just helps me become more diverse. Everyone deserves their dream day - whether its grand or small, friends and family alike, or just their kids. Why are you hosting an LGBT wedding expo? What do you think makes Kansas City a good place for this event? I have always had friends who have either been lesbian, transgender, bisexual, or gay. I would sit at my computer scrolling through newsfeeds and getting feedback and noticed a serious lack of LGBT events. There are a few companies that do this in select cities, but not here. And it hit me -I have all these LGBT friends who have gotten married, getting married,
or just want the same options as someone else. Let’s open our doors and hearts to two people who want to celebrate their love. Kansas and Missouri have taken a while to join the [marriage] equality family, but they have now - I think it is time to celebrate that fact. And why wouldn’t you want to celebrate it? Kansas and Missouri have shown love and I want to do the same. What can we expect from the wedding expo? I hope that it is everything and then some. I love smaller shows so this expo will have a more intimate feel. We will have wedding professionals to help with your big day as well as cake and food-tasting and wonderful music. Also, I will be on-site to make sure your experience is thoroughly enjoyable and that you leave satisfied. Every single person at the show is wanting your business, wanting to give you the wedding of your dreams - no excuses. And everyone there is present with open hearts and minds. You can find people who have the same goal as I do -giving you that dream day. The show will be held at the 816 Hotel in Westport and you can also tour the hotel and its Kansas City-themed rooms. To see more of Erika Swift Events, visit www.erikaswiftevents. com. l
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ho am I to judge? BTW, your love is bad. Horrible. Destroying the world. Sorry, not sorry. What an unfortunate turn of events for the hope of true change. So much good, that had been carved out of the unmovable and purportedly infallible doctrine of exclusion, was instantly vaporized by the Pope’s statements about marriage during his visit to the Philippines. The Pope pulled out the very same catch phrase that has been used repeatedly to deny equal status to the relationships of same-sex couples, “redefine marriage.” As if marriage should have any definition other than a union of people who love each other. I can’t say that I feel at all included in the Pope’s definition of family. I am one of (I suspect) many who have been quietly observing and reserving judgment (if you will) of Pope Francis. Not judgment about whether or not he is a good human being. Not judgment about his likelihood to make it to heaven. Judgment about just how supportive (or judgmental) he really is when it comes to LGBT people. Now I know.
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There can be little doubt that this Pope is a marvelous improvement and that his tone has been amazingly more inclusive than ever before. He has made it clear that he does not approve of the rich getting richer at the expense of the poor. He has, most definitely, softened the rhetoric regarding people who are LGBT. Well, actually, that would be people who are LGB. He has pretty much relegated people who are transgender to the - I should be used to it by now - realm of invisible and nonexistent. This truth aside, one of the realities of the pursuit of equal rights for LGBT Americans is that relationship recognition is a very powerful form of acceptance. Failure to recognize LGBT relationships is a horribly harmful form of marginalization, and in the case of the Pope, an undeniable form of hypocrisy. Who am I to judge? BTW, your love is bad. Horrible. Destroying the world. Sorry, not sorry. It leaves me knowing that the tone has been hollow and the substance hidden. It leaves me knowing that nothing short of never-before-seen substance will establish any true change in
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the way LGBT people are seen, that his concerns about sameand treated, by the Vatican. sex couples are misguided and The marginalization of human harmful. Sorry. Not sorry. l beings, any human beings, is Mott is a transgender woman distinctly not representative Stephanie from Topeka. She is the executive of following the teachings and director of the Kansas Statewide example of Christ. When Jesus Transgender Education Project, and talked about lifting up “the least a commissioner on the City of Topeka Relations Commission. Reach of these,” he was not talking Human her at stephanieequality@yahoo.com. about creating an entire class of people to fill the role of the least of these. He was talking about inviting everyone to the table. Excluding no one. Our love is not bad. Our love is not destroying the world. The most significant threat to the family is failure to recognize all families. If the Pope truly wants to reach out to the marginalized, he should truly open his arms to everyone. Healthy Pets for Happy Lives I still think the Pope is a remarkable Daniel Thompson, D.V.M. Mon. - Fri. human being. I Cindy Payne-Robertson, D.V.M. 7:30 AM - 6 PM have no idea if he Saturday Lori Mitchell, D.V.M., C.C.R.P. (or anyone else) is 8 AM - 12 PM Kelly Martin, D.V.M. going to heaven. But I am certain 1726 E 61st St N • Park City, KS , 67219 • (316) 744-0501 www.ctahvets.com • facebook.com/ctahvets
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Social Freethinking Parents Group, Are you raising kids without religion? You're not alone. Freethinking Parents meet 2-4pm, third Sundays at Botanica, Wichita. Info: www.facebook.com/ groups/586131888148529/
Community Centers The Center, 800 N. Market, Wichita
F re e S t a t e H i g h S c h o o l G S A , Lawrence, sponsors: Hilary Morton hmorton@usd497.org, and Kim Grinnell kgrinnell@usd497.org Highland Park High School's Parity, Topeka, LGBTatHP@outlook.com, facebook.com/LGBTatHP.
Heart of America Men’s Chorus, Wichita, (316) 708-4837, www.hoamc. org
Hutchinson High School GSA, faculty advisor: Mr. Westmoreland, chairperson: Kara Vaughn.
Junction City Teddy Bears, c/o Kevin Stilley, 2 Oak Valley Dr., Manhattan, (785) 556-8188, trlrhouseman@webtv. net
The Independent School GSA, Wichita, sponsor: Matt Hanne matt. hanne@theindependentschool.com
NetworQ, Lawrence, KansasNetworQ@ yahoo.com, www.KansasNetworQ.org, meets at Maceli’s, 1031 New Hampshire
K-State LGBT & Allies, meets every Thursday at 5:30 in Leadership Studies room 123
Wichita Bears, presidentwichitabears@ yahoo.com, www.wichitabears.org
KU Queers & Allies, University of Kansas, Lawrence, (785) 864-3091, qanda@ku.edu, www.ku.edu/~qanda
Wichita Organization of Leather Fetishes, (316) 201-6242, www. woolfks.com
Lawrence High School GSA, sponsors: Shannon Draper SDraper@usd497.org, and Lindsay Buck LBuck@usd497.org
HIV/AIDS Client Emergency Fund administrered by the Junction City Teddy Bears, c/o Kevin Stilley, 2 Oak Valley Dr., Manhattan, (785) 556-8188, trlrhouseman@webtv.net, for people in the Manhattan/Junction City area
Wichita Prime Timers, ICTPrimeTimers@aol.com, www. primetimersww.com/Wichita, social group for mature gay men.
Manhattan High School GSA, mhs_ gsa@hotmail.com
Hunter Health Clinic, 2318 E. Central, Wichita, (316) 262-3611, FREE HIV confidential or anonymous testing with Spanish and Vietnamese interpreters.
A Journey In The Light Ministries, 2231 S. Bluff (St. Christopher ’s Episcopal Chapel), Wichita, Sunday Praise and Worship services at 11am.
Kansas State University LGBT Resource Center, 207 A/B Holton Hall, Manhattan, (785) 532-5352, lgbt@kstate.edu, www.k-state-edu/lgbt
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KU Internal Medicine-Midtown, KU School of Medicine, 1001 N. Minneapolis, Wichita, (316) 293-1840, (877) 472-8227 toll-free, (316) 293-2652 HIV Program LGBT Health Coalition of Sedgwick County, Wichita, (316) 285-0007, www. sedgwickcountylgbt.org Positive Connections, 1001 SW Garfield Ave, third floor, Topeka, (785) 232-3100, www.pcneks.org Positive Directions, 414 S. Commerce, Wichita, (316) 263-2214, (316) 2635214, www.pdiks.com Sedgwick County Health Dept., 2716 W. Central, Wichita, (316) 660-7300, www.sedgwickcounty.org South Wind Women's Center, 5107 E. Kellogg, Wichita, (316) 260-6934, www.southwindwomenscenter.org, LGBTQIA-friendly health services. The Sweet Emergency Fund, KUSM-W MPA, 1010 N. Kansas, Wichita, (316) 293-3405
Politics/Activism E q u a l i t y K a n s a s , w w w. kansasequalitycoalition.org, chapters across the state. Kansas Statewide Transgender Education Project, (785) 215-7436, stephanie.mott@k-step.org, www.kstep.org, provides transgender education and resources. Peace and Social Justice Center of South Central Kansas, 1407 N. Topeka, Wichita, (316) 263-5886, director@ wichitapeace.org, www.wichitapeace. org Wichita Pride, info@wichitapride. org, www.wichitapride.org, annual celebration held in September.
Spiritual
College Hill United Methodist Church, 2930 E. 1st, Wichita, (316) 683-4643, www.collegehillumc.org, Sunday Celebrations at 8:30, 9:40 and 11:00am. First Congregational United Church of Christ, 700 Poyntz Ave., Manhattan, (785) 537-7006, www.uccmanhattan. org, Sunday services at 10:45am; Taize services Thursday at 7pm, An Open and Affirming Congregation. First Metropolitan Community Church of Kansas, 156 S. Kansas, Wichita, (316) 267-1852, www.mccwichita.com, www.godlovesyouperiod.com, Sunday services at 10:15am. First Unitarian Universalist Church of Wichita, 7202 E. 21st St., (316) 6843481, officemanager@firstuu.net, www. firstuu.net. Lutheran Campus Ministry, 1421 W. 19th, Lawrence, lutheran@ku.edu Metropolitan Community Church of Topeka, 4425 SW 19th, (785) 2721442, office@mcctopeka.org, www. MCCTopeka.org, services Sundays at 10am. Pine Valley Christian Church, 5620 E. 21st St., Wichita, (316) 685-2421, churchoffice@pvcconline.org, www. pvcconline.org Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Manhattan, 481 Zeandale Road, (785) 537-2349, www.uufm.net, services Sundays at 10:45am. Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Topeka, 4775 SW 21st St., (785) 2729233, www.uuft.org, services Sundays at 10:30am.
Student groups Derby High School GSA, kljacobs@ usd260.com, tkellenbarger@usd260. com
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Support Central Plains Area Agency on Aging, 2622 W. Central Suite 500, Wichita, (316) 660-5120, www.cpaaa.org, CPAAA is available to assist seniors, caregivers, and adults with disabilities through life’s transitions and with various levels of support. COMCARE Crisis Intervention Services, 934 N. Water, Wichita, (316) 660-7500 free 24/7, www. sedgwickcounty.org Flint Hills PFLAG, Manhattan, (785) 340-2815, meets on the 1st Saturday, 10am-noon, call for location. Get Connected, Wichita, (316) 4913778, LGBTQIA youth group for ages 12-21. Meets at The Center, 800 N. Market, every Friday from 7-9pm. GLSEN Greater Wichita, wichita@ chapters.glsen.org. Headquarters Counseling Center, Lawrence, (785) 841-2345 free 24/7, www.hqcc.lawrence.ks.us
Maize South High School GSA, sponsor: Shelly Walston swalston@ usd266.com, meets 2nd Fridays.
Healthy Transitions, for heterosexually married gay men in KC. A phone and face-to-face interview required, Mark McCarthy, LPC (816) 931-0011x4.
Pitt State GSA, Pittsburg State University, pittstategaystraightalliance@ gmail.com
HIV+ Men’s Support Group, Wichita, (316) 293-3405, mmadecky@kumc.edu
Spectrum: LGBTQ & Allies, Wichita State University, Twitter.com/ Wsuspectrum, meets Thursdays at 7pm in the Lucas Room (RSC 265) when classes are in session. Wichita East High School GSA, Tdavis2@usd259.net Wichita Heights High School GSA, nmagoon@usd259.net Wichita North High School GSA, (316) 204-5621, kellykk00@yahoo.com, rhorning@usd259.net, cwidmer@ usd259.net, meets every Wednesday at lunch in room A213. Wichita Northeast High School GSA, Jbell2@usd259.net Wichita Northwest High School GSA, amcdonald@usd259.net, meets every Monday after school. Wichita Southeast High School GSA, (316) 807-2271, psychsteve2@yahoo. com Wichita West High School GSA, astucky@usd259.net
O n e D a y A t A Ti m e , Wi c h it a , Alcoholics Anonymous meetings held Tuesdays and Thursdays at 8pm at First MCC, 156 S. Kansas. PFLAG Hutchinson, PO Box 2488, Hutchinson, (620) 899-2345, pflaghutch@gmail.com PFLAG Lawrence/Topeka, (785) 235-3831, sffeist@msn.com, www. pflagnekansas.org, meets 1st Sundays, 2-4pm at MCC of Topeka, 4425 SW 19th. PFLAG Wichita, info@ictpflag.org, www.facebook.com/WichitaPFLAG, meets 2nd Thursdays, 6:30-8pm at College Hill United Methodist, 2930 E. 1st. The Face of Trans*, www.thefaceof trans.com Wichita Area Sexual Assault Center, 355 N. Waco, Suite 100, (316) 2630185 office, (316) 263-3002 crisis line 24/7, advocate@wichitasac.com, www. wichitasac.com, free, confidential sexual assault services to all genders and sexual orientations. Medical & legal advocacy, support groups, adult & child crisis counseling, educational programs. l
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Will You Take This Man? comedy aims to please with heart, laughter
By Ciara Reid, staff reporter WICHITA - When Will You Take This Man?, a film written by Wichitan Greg Boaldin, is released to theaters, audiences will find it hard not to relate to the characters in the film. In fact, Boaldin says many of his friends directly inspired the characters in his film. “While all the characters in the movie are fictional, they are based on friends of mine and some of the characters are even named after some of those friends,” says Boaldin. The character of Andrew, the best friend and wedding planner of the main couple in the film, is the most like Boaldin. Andrew is in a wheelchair, like Boaldin. “I have very rarely seen a character in film in a wheelchair that felt like me at all,” he says. “Usually they are portrayed as tragic and almost always they see themselves as a failure if they can’t walk.” Those types of character representations don’t represent Boaldin at all. “Everyone has something in their life that makes certain things more difficult for them than for other people,” he explains. “The biggest difference for me is that one of those things is very visible. Whether your ‘handicap’ is visible or not, everyone has stumbling blocks. What separates happy and successful people from those who are miserable or stuck in life is how they decide they are going to handle those stumbling blocks.” The idea for the film originated
one night after hanging out with friends. “The comment was made ‘why can’t there be movies about people like us and the crazy things in our lives?’ A lightbulb went off and I just said ‘there can be.’ That’s when I started formulating the ideas for the film,” Boaldin says. Will You Take This Man? focuses on Martin and Antoine, an interracial male couple living in Wichita, Kansas, who have been together for more than 10 years. Because of his mother’s constant adage ‘don’t tell your father, it will kill him,’ Martin has kept his relationship a secret from his father. After his father’s death, it is revealed in a letter from his father that he knew of his son’s sexuality all along, and was supportive of the relationship. The film, which Boaldin says is ultimately about honesty, depicts the journey of Martin and Antoine as they become engaged and prepare for their walk down the aisle. “Along the way everyone ends up facing areas in their lives and relationships where they are less than honest and to ‘come out,’” Boaldin says. “In spite of the serious issues faced in the film, it is a comedy and I have been told it is laugh-outloud funny.” The film isn’t Boaldin’s first endeavor in show business. He has performed standup comedy at the Loony Bin, written for a sketch comedy troupe and has also written several television pilots. Though Will You Take This Man? is his first feature-
length film script, Boaldin has received many compliments for his work from industry insiders. “I have been pretty overwhelmed by the enthusiasm for the project and the very kind things that have been said about the project from top people in the entertainment industry, including Jim Fall, the director
of the celebrated film Trick,” Boaldin says. One of the central characters in the film is the city of Wichita. For Boaldin, filming the movie in Wichita is vital not only to the story, but to the community as well. “I have been working in the local film community for almost continued on page 25
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A new “Leaf”
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Delano restaurant offers more in bigger Old Town location
By Grayson Barnes WICHITA - Last April, The Lotus Leaf Cafe moved from its Delano location in Wichita, to 251 N. Washington at the edge of the Old Town District. It sits slightly to one side and behind a large metal sculpture with a tractor perched on top: a unique landmark for a restaurant specializing in out-of-theordinary fare for the Midwest. T h e L o t u s L e a f o ff e r s organic, natural foods, without additives or other chemicals. The owner, Jacquelyn Keefer, says that healthy food is their mission. “You can eat food that is good for you without feeling
overstuffed and distended. Food actually affects us in our daily lives.” Keefer has lived this first-hand. She was trained as a nationally-certified acupuncturist and massage therapist. A personal health crisis led her to begin treating herself through alternative methods including diet. Within two weeks, she noticed a marked improvement in her health. She soon began to encourage her clients to consider dietary changes as part of their personal regimen. “Of course they began to raise questions,” mused Keefer, “like, how do I cook this stuff, where can I get this kind of food?” It was serendipitous that the Delano building came up for sale at the same time. “I believe it was meant to be,” Keefer beamed. Keefer said she “jumped in with both feet,” set aside her practice and opened the cafe. Because of her clientele and associations through the years, Keefer had a good idea of the kinds of people who would be interested in a cafe with a natural/organic/vegetarian/ vegan/gluten-free/allergy-
sensitive menu. “There were many people, though, who said you’ll never make it if you don’t serve beef,” Keefer recalled. So it is exceptionally rewarding to her when she can influence someone’s ingrained dietary expectations. “At first they might be frustrated [about not having beef], but then there is this transition through the meal to an understanding that they just had a fulfilling experience and they are satisfied and grateful.” The Delano site opened in October 2010. Keefer liked the area and her neighbors, but the restaurant space was awkward. The kitchen was poised in the middle of the building, dividing the dining space in two. According to Keefer, it felt as if people seated in the back room “were being grounded.” The small size lent itself to coziness, yet often meant people had to wait outside until a table was free. The narrow storefront and sidewalk left scant room for tables outdoors. Keefer and her crew were also limited by the size of the kitchen. She saw that it was difficult to take care of her customers under these circumstances. Worse yet, the confined space constrained her larger vision for her business. After a long search for a
bigger place, She reopened the cafe in April 2014 in its new location. The airy, more modern space offers Keefer a new canvas upon which to paint an expanded menu, smoothie and juice offerings, and espresso. She now has a liquor license, which enables her to serve organic wines and gluten-free, organic beers. Keefer says her favorite item to make is her raw cheesecakes. Keefer loves what she is doing. Her hardest job, though, is “finding stuff -- you have no idea what I go through when I shop for the cafe! I spend a lot of time running around before we open. I also do research so that I can find things in the quantities we need.” She uses many local businesses, but sometimes has to fall back on sources that are farther afield. “I have become an expert shopper on Amazon!” Keefer still has additional goals for the cafe. Now that there is more room, she wants to get more deeply into healing foods and super foods. She would like to grow her own wheatgrass, because she thinks that will tie in to the success of her juice bar. “I am real pleased with the reception of the juices and more kitchen space means we can try out new menu items. “My staff is strong. My
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kitchen manager has my back,” she said, just as the phone rang and someone nabbed it. “See,” she laughed. “My people work really hard.” After Keefer and I chatted, I took home a TLC Sandwich, stuffed with avocados and greens, a side of quinoa tabouli, and an order of Crispy Fried Buffalo Cauliflower. I started on the latter in the car on the way home. The coating was crisp, the spicy sauce was zippy, wonderfully complicated with its lime and cilantro overtones, and augmented the meaty cauliflower perfectly, although the orange-red color doesn’t go well with beige car upholstery -- just an FYI. For more information about daily specials at The Lotus Leaf, check out its FaceBook page, call 316-295-4133, or go online at lotusleafwichita.com. l
Pictured top: The new Lotus Leaf Cafe location at 251 N. Washington on the edge of Old Town offers enough room for diners to enjoy a patio. Pictured left: A Grilled Cheese Panini with havarti, swiss, fresh tomato, and a house pesto, combined with a cup of creamy tomato soup. Pictured bottom: The Cafe expanded its menu and also added a smoothie bar with juice offerings and espresso. A new liquor license enables the restaurant to serve organic wines and gluten-free, organic beers.
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Gender-neutral locker room opens at WSU rec center
WICHITA - Wichita State University (WSU) Campus Recreation is pleased to announce the addition of a new gender-neutral locker room within Heskett Center and it’s now officially open. The new space is located right next to the stairs leading down to the racquetball and Cycle Studio activity area. According to Alicia Sanchez, Director of Diversity and Inclusion at WSU, “The space is very well done; flags and signs are up indicating the new locker
room.” Last fall the department realized there was an unmet need for this type of facility and although there were genderneutral restrooms within the building there was a need for a locker room. Several campus departments came together including Human Resources, Diversity and Inclusion, and Vice President for Student Affairs to discuss the best steps moving forward. "WSU and Campus Recreation want to ensure there is a welcoming and inclusive facility
for all faculty, staff, students and community members," Sanchez said. "Part of that includes offering safe and comfortable places to use the restroom or lockers." The university is particularly concerned in offering restrooms and a locker room to those individuals who are transgender or gender-queer, those with disabilities who have an attendant of a different sex/ gender, and parents with young children of another sex/gender. The office of Diversity and
Inclusion is working to increase the number of gender-neutral restrooms on campus and will have a compiled list on its website, www.wichita.edu/odi. Diversity and Inclusion has made it a point to be on the forefront of transgender awareness and has provided trainings in partnership with Human Resources on gender diversity and Safe Zone. On April 29 the office will bring Laverne Cox to campus to speak about her journey to womanhood. l
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bridges Died: Michael Tribue, 48, of natural causes in his sleep on January 15, 2015 in Wichita. Preceded in death by his parents, Richard and Geri Tribue and a brother, Ric Tribue. He is survived by a brother Tad (Jen) Tribue and his niece, Grace Tribue. A service was held at First MCC. If you or someone you know is having an anniversary, received a promotion or award, or a loved one has passed away, we will publish it free in Bridges. E-mail editor@libertypress.net.
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currently holds. Becoming a case manager takes time. When hired by Positive Connections Locke received extra education and training about HIV. Locke was also trained to administer tests for the virus as well as a course in how to meet and ask questions from clients, and learning the laws of the job. Locke has only been a Medical Case Manager since Aug. 13. Though he has been there for only a short amount of time his responsibilities cover clients from all over Northeast Kansas. Helping each client’s needs as diagnosis of the virus means a huge change in their lives, Locke meets with the clients periodically to talk and check up with them. He meets with clients’ doctors periodically as well to discuss treatments, health
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LEO (JULY 24 - AUG. 23) ARIES (MAR. 21 - APRIL 20) Proud Lions love to be the center of Scratch an artistic itch and see where it attention and this February will bring can lead this February. There are ideas you much more than you bargained for. that yearn to be released and realized. Any small idea can become a grand one There are masterpieces to be made and any chance meeting can have longmanifest. You are urged to take a grand, creative risk and boom! Suddenly everything is wrapped term impact. Become the superstar you deserve to be. up in elation, romance and general bliss. Surprised, gay Any project you tackle takes you over the goal line. Ram? Me too. Go with the flow and enjoy every juicy Just don’t get sidelined and run to the wrong goalpost! minute. VIRGO (AUG. 24 - SEPT. 23) There are many things to accomplish this TAURUS (APRIL 21 - MAY 21) February and there may even be things Queer Bulls will discover a surprising you need to do that are not on your “to mystery around the house this February. do” list right now. Expect surprises and Maybe you will uncover some long lost Christmas gifts hidden in the back of an detours that can take you far afield. This is not a bad attic closet. Or maybe a treasure trove of thing, queer Virgo. In fact it could lead you to an loose coins in an old couch cushion. Or maybe some lost entirely new life direction full of adventure, intrigue love letters from an old flame. Play hide and seek and see and a bit of merry mystery. Get ready. Or not. But it is coming. what (or who) you can find. Whoo hoo. GEMINI (MAY 22 - JUNE 21) Spend more time chit-chatting with pals this February. Not only will you discover some fascinating, interesting, surprising and exciting things about them, you may take the relationship to a new level of trust. Pink Twins are usually very sociable and now you are the bestest with the mostest of friends. How great is that? Maybe you should run for political office?
complications, medicine, and their medical opinion of the client. Getting a client from place to place reliably must be addressed, and so Locke will help obtain resources for public transportation such as a bus pass. He can also help with housing needs as well working with real estate agents to find a place for the client if needed. Besides helping clients and working with their doctors. Locke works in tandem with state and insurance agencies so that the medicine and medical treatment is affordable for each client. Locke say he loves his job. He loves being able to work one on one with people, solving problems, and being a support for others. Though at times the work can seem overwhelming, Locke is happy because as he says, “Happiness is helping others.” l
LIBRA (SEPT. 24 - OCT. 23) Friends can mess up a perfectly good relationship. It may be perfectly wonderful. Or maybe it is not as good as you would like. Proud Libras strive for diplomacy. Have you been giving in too much? If so, use February to reassess, repair or run! You have the support system in place. Now you just need to figure out what (and who) you really want.
SCORPIO (OCT. 24 - NOV. 22) CANCER (JUNE 22 - JULY 23) Something seemingly small at work can Cash in your professional chips this become a major career opportunity for February and see how you can use your any ambitious queer Scorp who keeps financial acumen to improve your chances an eye on the prize. Volunteer for even for success. Whether that means careful the most onerous task. It has the potential investing or a strategic career move all to change your luck among the bigwigs. depends on what research you have done and what you really want in your life. The next steps are up to you, gay But don’t let your head become too big from all of this Crab. Power? Prestige? Quiet wealth? Yes to all three! corporate adoration. Your head has to fit into one of those wigs eventually.
SAGITTARIUS (NOV. 23 - DEC. 22) Life is all fun and games this February if you want it. So don’t spend your time at home waiting for something to happen. It will only happen when you venture into the world and explore. Travel far afield or, if time and money are tight, just get out of your comfort zone with a new local hotspot. Adventure awaits so don’t keep it waiting too long, gay Archer. CAPRICORN (DEC. 23 - JAN. 20) Make your home a romantic hideaway and see who you can hide away with this February. Pink Caps can muster up their romantic tendencies and wow a certain someone off their feet. You may need to make some changes around the house whether a slight spruce up or a total redo as an enticing proposal. Do something fresh. Very fresh! AQUARIUS (JAN. 21 - FEB. 19) Something that you say that is off the cuff could have great ramifications, Aqueerius. So measure your words carefully unless you want to upend certain relationships. You may have some strong opinions, but the big decision to make this February is whether to express them publicly. My suggestion is to keep a tight lip . . . in a smile and not a smirk. PISCES (FEB. 20 - MAR. 20) Guppies begin to examine the value of their work and if it brings both the tangible and intangible results that they need to feel fulfilled. Too much effort for too little reward is karmically depleting. But a good reappraisal of your situation will bring relief and ultimately comfort. Fill your February with good efforts designed to nurture, replenish, remunerate and succeed.
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Pictured from the first table read of the script held at the Tallgrass Film Festival offices are (from left, clockwise):Tom Mittlestadt, Teri Mott, Arietta Austin, Michael Karraker, Hilary Staton, Karla Burns, Justin Oettle, Roger Arnold, Marty Hanks, Gina Bryant, Michael Criss, Joe Dunn, Greg Boaldin's arm and Tyler Emerson. Boaldin continued from page 19
25 years as a talent agent and casting director,” Boaldin says. “In that timeframe I have had the honor of meeting and working with the incredibly talented actors and crew members here and I feel a commitment to support them and shoot the film right here.” It is also important to Boaldin to show an accurate depiction of gay life in the Midwest. “I want to show that gay men and women are living productive, happy lives right here in the Midwest,” he says. “It seems every movie you see with gay themes in set in major cities on the coasts or in the deep South. Naturally my writing has a Midwestern flavor to it, and so it only makes sense to film it here and make Wichita and Kansas a major part of the story.” The cast includes Wichita talent, as well as actors from New York and Los Angeles. A name many in the Wichita community know and love is Karla Burns. She will play a character written with her in mind – the feisty and hilariously inappropriate owner of a cake shop. “I am very fortunate that I have worked with actors for so long and have a lot of experience in choosing people who will not only be good for a role, but also good to work with and contributors to the collaborative medium that film is,” Boaldin says. Meghan Lennox, casting director for films that include 50 Shades of Grey, Neighbors, and The Interview, is the casting director for Boaldin’s film.
“She will have great access to stars that will garner a lot of excitement for the project,” he says. Boaldin says they are currently trying to raise money to fund the film. He estimates the total budget to be $575,000. “By Hollywood standards that is a very small budget, but a larger budget than any film shot in Kansas in a long time,” he says. “This budget level will allow us to attract some stars and have access to the finest cameras and sound and lighting equipment.” A Kickstarter campaign raised seed money to help attract investors and a director for the film. Boaldin and the cast will conduct a staged table reading so potential investors can hear the script. Those interested in seeing the table reading can contact Boaldin through the film’s website. Boaldin has a few goals in mind for the film, aside from making a film that the cast and crew can be proud of. He aims to give the local film market a boost by filming in Wichita and therefore providing opportunities for local cast and crew members. For the audience, he simply wants them to enjoy the film. “I want them to laugh at the funny moments, to tear up at some of the more touching moments and to be entertained,” Boaldin says. “During our first table reading we had lots of laughs and a few tears and I want that same thing for an audience. I also want an audience to be able to see that gay men don’t come in only one form and that there are gay Midwesterners, gay
Want to be part of the action? Those interested in learning more about the film or making a financial contribution can visit www.willyoutakethisman.com. Money can be sent via PayPal or check. Boaldin says there are rewards set up at various investment levels so that people can better connect with the film – whether it’s through interactions with the actors, copies of the film once complete, or mementos from the film shoot.
men over 35, gay men with disabilities, and gay men of all races, and that their stories matter.” Above all, Boaldin says he wants to make a movie that accurately depicts gay people. “I remember when I was in high school and the film Making Love came out,” he said. “It was the first widely distributed film with a gay love story, and it was the first time I saw a gay character that I wanted to aspire to for my own future. Prior to that, all gay men in film were either serial killers, the butt of the joke, or suicidal. I want to be able to provide that vision for someone else out there who doesn’t see where they might fit in.” l
Kathy Richstatter
KS Realtor ABR, e-PRO, GRI, SRES Kathy@KansasRainbow.com www.KS.PenFedRealty.com
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Leather Life By Nolin Christensen aka
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Oh, to be a Submissive
here is one thing that as a Dominant I miss - that is the ability to not have to be the decision-maker. Submissives have all the fun. The don’t have to be the heavy when someone has to be reprimanded; they don’t have to make decisions; they don’t have to decide what type of play they are going to do this time. All of these responsibilities are the Dom’s. Damn, I miss those days. I sometimes hate being the Dom leader where I’m responsible
that the others are safe. There are times where I hate having to be the decision-maker. Having control: Ooo, I LOVE being the one in control. The one who makes the other person squirm with pleasure. The one who gets the say and everyone else has to do it. The ability to command my submissive and they have to comply. It’s a huge thrill for me. So although I miss the sub
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Now bear in mind, this is a tall beautiful woman with legs up to here!! She wore the cute Master C leather outfit I had helped her find. She no more walked into for the decisions of not only the bar and three guys were at my family, but also within the her feet begging to go home with community. Sometimes I just her. want to tell people where to go What she found out about and where to stick it!! almost all the men in the bar, But then again, I’m a type of is that they were corporate person who has to be in control. CEO’s, attorneys, day-traders, This is one thing that got me and the like. All of them in in trouble all the time when I control at work on a daywas a submissive. to-day basis. But what I was trying to they craved was having control things when “I miss someone else being the someone else in control. I shouldn’t have responsible one. ... There are So yes, all of us have been. This always some little bit in us that got me in trouble. times where I hate having to be wants to have someone Yep, trying to top the decision-maker.” else in control. So yes, I from the bottom is LOVE to be in control, but NOT a good thing. Always got me in the dog house world, it’s nothing to compared I do like to have someone else be to the Dom world. So what if in control once in a while. But (literally!!). So why do I miss giving you are a controlling person THAT comes with a price! up control?? Why do I like who likes to occasionally have So if you want to take a walk being in control?? Two very someone else be in control? You on the submissive side of life, different questions, with two might ask, “Is there anything please come get involved with wrong with that?” My answer is us. It’s an experience you will VERY different answers. G i v i n g u p c o n t r o l : I no. If you want to on occasion never forget. BUT . . . always miss someone else being the have someone else in control, make sure it is someone you responsible one. It’s a royal pain find someone you trust and let trust. If you need to know who to trust and who to stay away from, having to be responsible not only them have at it with you. A good example of this is in please come talk to someone at for myself (which is required regardless if I was a submissive the following story. A female co- WOOLF. WOOLF meets every or a Dominant), but having to be worker was in New York and she third Saturday at The Center responsible for those who I play and some friends went out to a of Wichita at 6pm with class starting at 7pm. l with. Having to keep control so Dominatrix Bar.
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