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The importance of physical activity
CLEVER CLOGS? Help your kids to get ahead
Goodbye MAT LEAVE! The ‘need to know’ of returning to work
TIME OUT! It pays to pamper!
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EDITOR’S NOTE Welcome to the spring issue of Mums Magazine. If your children are already at school, you’ll know that the education process is often a steep learning curve, and not just for the children! For this reason, we’ve got some useful tips to help little ones get to grips with everything from language to times tables, plus an invaluable ‘how to’ for mum and dad when it comes to parents evening (page 7). For those mums not quite at the school-run stage, you might be faced with the more likely curveball of returning to work after maternity leave. This is a bitter sweet prospect for many mums, lightened by the prospect of some adult interaction, but overshadowed by varying degrees of separation anxiety and guilt. For advice on everything from childcare to what to expect, turn to page 16. Of course, parenting is not all about the mums, and we found it interesting to talk to some dads about their experience of modern day fatherhood (page 6).
4. Mums first Invest some time in yourself this spring 6. The changing role of Dad An insight into 21st century fatherhood 8. Love to learn Help improve their learning potential 10. Clever clogs The importance of creative & imaginitive play 11. Make the most of parents evening How to prepare and what to ask 12. Breastfeeding Feeding facts and news
Enjoy the issue! Caroline Seekings
14. Good sport The importance of a healthy diet & exercise
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16. Back to work Preparing for the end of maternity leave
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19. Weaning tips Easing the transition onto solids 20. Healthy eating Keeping children’s diets on the right track
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22. Nappy rash Simple ways to help treat nappy rash 24. Bath...bed Get the most from their night time routine 26. Pregnancy notes News & views for expectant mums
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Mums FIRST
Invest a little time in yourself this spring
YOU’RE NOT ALONE UK mums are suffering a crippling epidemic of loneliness - leading them to be dubbed ‘the most isolated generation ever’ Despite 24-hour social media contact, a shocking 92 per cent of mums admit that they feel lonely - with 54 per cent feeling more friendless than before they had children.
FILL YOUR CUP WITH FACIAL REFLEXOLOGY BY LARA CORY WWW.LARACORY.COM There’s a saying that “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. If you, like most mothers out there, are not receiving your fair share of TLC on a daily basis, then it’s likely you will know the feeling well. Whether you’re a new mum, have pre-school aged toddlers or a ground-down seasoned pro, then you’re probably guilty of not putting enough back in the tank, physically, mentally and spiritually. “I saw the response of my clients to the facial massage” says Maidenhead resident Meli Paramio Lopez “and it was at that point in the full body massage when they truly relaxed.” Fascinated by the power of touch to the face, Meli - already a qualified aromatherapist, Reiki master and masseuse - began studying Japanese tsuboki facial massage, acupressure points and energy meridians; for her, facial reflexology was an organic step forward. Reflexology can improve conditions like insomnia, stress, tension headaches, and even IBS. It’s believed that the face is a more direct healing route because it’s closer to the brain and has more blood-flow than the hands or feet. “Clients are always surprised at how intensely relaxing the treatment is, even people who don’t relax easily cannot help but drift into a dream-like state.” Meli offers the Danish Sorensensistem technique. Developed by Lone Sorensen the unique facial massage incorporates a blend of eastern tradition, South American tribal body maps and western anatomical and physiological insight. The Sorensensistem treatment initiates a natural response in the entire body leading to better blood and energy circulation, strengthened nerve function to the brain, lymphatic supply and improved muscle tone in the face. “A glowing complexion is a welcome side effect of facial reflexology” says Meli, “the treatment lifts the muscles in the face leaving your skin looking smoother and more toned.” “Facial Reflexology is the ideal way to fill your cup” says Meli. “My clients keep coming back because they know they are in a safe space where they can fully relax, knowing they will leave in a better place than when they arrived.” Book your facial with Meli at Facial Reflexions on 07767 688769 www.facebook.com/FacialReflexions 4
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The new study found 70 per cent of current mums with dependent children say their generation is the loneliest ever. Of mums who do feel disconnected and abandoned, a huge 61 per cent try to hide their feelings from friends and family, and only 38 per cent have ever told their partner how they feel. Worryingly, 55 per cent of lonely mums say being isolated has left them suffering anxiety, while 47 per cent feel ‘very stressed’. The ChannelMum.com poll of 2,025 mothers found the biggest source of isolation comes from ‘cliquey and bitchy’ groups at the school gates or baby and toddler groups, with 51 per cent of mothers revealing they feel excluded. Four in 10 admit social media makes them feel worse looking at other mums ‘perfect lives’ while a third compare their bodies to other mums online. To support lonely mums, ChannelMum. com has launched the #CMYANA (You Are Not Alone) Challenge, to help connect mums online and offline. Mums are being challenged to carry out one of five daily activities to widen their friendship group, meet new mums and feel supported. For more information, visit www.channelmum.com/youarenotalone
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MUM...ME
The two identities make one very important person - MUMMY. But is there a way to be both mother AND individual? Finding time for yourself can often be a challenge, but it’s not improssible, say our team of real life ‘juggling it all’ mums. The definition of ‘looking after number one’ may be taking care of yourself first, but what happens when you no longer class yourself as number one? As a parent, a child automatically assumes first place in our hearts and minds, meaning all the love and attention we might have once reserved for ourselves is now channeled unequivocally into taking care of our little one’s best interests. The result, hopefully, is a contented, happy child, but your own much lower position in the priority ranks can sometimes take its toll - physically, mentally and emotionally. So what can we mums do to ensure our own health and wellbeing behind the scenes of a busy parenting schedule?
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LISA SMITH Be kind to yourself...it’s easy to beat yourself up and be riddled with guilt and anxiety as a parent, but reminding yourself that your doing an amazing job and it’s OK to take some time out, is essential. Give yourself a high five for all you’ve achieved in a day, no matter how insignificant it may seem.
RACHEL LANCASHIRE Accept help! It doesn’t mean you’re a failure, you’re just coming to terms with the fact that no matter how much you believe it, you’re not superwoman (and that’s more than ok). So when your parents, in-laws, family and friends offer to take the baby out for a walk, let them. If they want a sleepover, keep shtum about the sleepless nights and hand baby over with a smile, enjoy an evening of sobbing your heart out wishing your little one was at home, and then wake up the next morning feeling refreshed. The guilt will fade, honestly. There might be times you think you’ve failed because you just need some ‘me time,’ but in your baby’s eyes, you’ll always be a winner. Give yourself a break.
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Coffee is often a mainstay of the busy mum diet. For all the drawbacks of caffeine over-reliance, where would we be without that four hourly fix, especially during those particularly busy and sleep-deprvived stages? However, before you take out shares in Costa, take a look at the award winning Cafflano Klassic Portable Coffee Maker from The Fowndry. There is nothing worse than average coffee (or the hole in your purse from too many coffee shop pit stops) and this all in one maker is an ideal solution to both. The Cafflano is designed to fit perfectly into the fast-paced life we live in today and while it may look like your ordinary travel mug, this handy little device comes jam packed with everything any coffee lover could ever need to make the perfect cup of coffee. The Cafflano comes complete with a water pourer, hand grinder, built in filter and insulated mug. Just add your favourite coffee beans and hot water. www.thefowndry.co.uk £79.99
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THE CHANGING ROLE OF DAD 21st century fatherhood examined JOHN ADAMS @dadbloguk John Adams is a stay at home father with two young daughters, Helen aged eight and Izzy aged four. He is married to Gill, who works full time and lives in Surrey. John also writes the award winning blog Dadbloguk.com. “The role of the father has changed massively during my lifetime. Two things have happened: firstly, men increasingly want to be active and involved fathers and two, with more women working, men have to be active at home. “We haven’t reached parity between men and women either in the workplace or at home, but significant progress has been made. It’s quite normal for men to be seen in the playground these days. “I’ve heard older men tell me they were banned from even entering the school yard. An older male relative of mine, struggled to get time off work to drive his wife home from hospital after giving birth. “Those days are behind us. I’ve been the main carer for my two children since 2011. My wife works full-time. It hasn’t been easy and I’ve had issues being accepted. “Even so, older men simply couldn’t have chosen to make such a lifestyle choice. Let me make clear, it was a choice. “I faced my biggest challenges when my children were very young. The early years and maternity systems are not very father-friendly. My kids are older now and I’ve found the school system to be much more accepting of me as a stay at home father. “Another challenge is that fathers are often the butt of jokes. I hear women making fun of their partners’ parenting abilities. “It’s very unfair. It is not a case of ‘mother knows best’ but practice makes perfect. I am more confident with my kids than my wife. It’s simply because I spend more time with them and I would never, ever make fun of her as a parent. “We’ve moved to a system of shared parental leave in the UK. I would hope this and other initiatives will improve the lot of fathers over time.”
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@keepitrealdaddy He makes me smile every single day - who else can do that if not your child! At around 4 months, one early morning, I had a really difficult moment. Edward was crying and I worried about waking Beth, my wife (I’ll come onto Daddy Guilt later). I didn’t know how to settle him, trying all the usual stuff. Was I doing it right? And as I held him close to me, screaming in my ear. I had a wave a stress hit me like never before, I felt like crying, crazy really! That was the tiredness talking! After a few minutes, I pulled myself together, calmed myself and relaxed, as did Edward. In that moment I thought, “this is bloody hard Lucas, but deal with it!. You are in this for the long game, if he cries, he cries - he’s a baby. It’s going to be fine.” And from that moment of sheer despair, I realised that it’s ok, it’s all good. Be calm. He’ll be fine. He’s only crying… Be a dad. It was a real epiphany for me. So now, that’s how I cope in those horribly difficult and challenging moments. I have a positive ‘half-full’ personality, which really helps! My role is to support my wife, as much as I can. In any way I can. And by doing that this is can only be a benefit to Edward’s little life. www.mums-magazine.co.uk -
BABYWEARING DADS Which brings me onto personalities - having a baby will accentuate your natural personalities to the fore! Tiredness does that. I’m a half-full person, which serves me well, my wife is a little less so, which can put added stresses onto her, which of course is where I try and help. Having a baby also stretches the very fibres of your relationship - and sometimes, they snap! Even if your relationship is rock solid, it will test that out to its core. And, in my world, tiredness is the culprit. Everything becomes so much more challenging because of the lack of sleep. Particularly for my lovely wife. Edward is breastfed, which has loads of benefits (a story for another time), but it means less sleep for her. Just a thought, why is it that when you try and do the best thing for your baby it has a negative side… anyway? Which brings me onto Daddy’s Guilt. I’d never heard of this until recently. And let me tell you, it exists for me in huge amounts. Put very simply, my guilt is around Beth not having enough sleep. To give you a typical night, Edward is breastfed after bath time and normally goes down about 7:30 ish. Then, I’ll give him a bottle of formula (this is a recent change, it was expressed milk prior) www.mums-magazine.co.uk
at about 11/12 midnight ish, depends on when he wakes. By the way, Sleep Feeding, this thing keeps being asked to me, and it’s doesn’t exist! Not in my world, anyway! So I’ll give Edward a bottle, or as much as he’ll take in the 2 hour period. And about 12, I ‘should’ be swapping with my wife so I can get some sleep (as I work as a Creative Director). But, more often than not, I try not too! Because of the guilt. I literally challenge myself to get to 3am so Beth can have 6/7 hours sleep, or at least 5hrs. She of course says I’m crazy, but I feel like that’s a major part of my role as a husband, to give Beth as much sleep as possible. Which of course, kills me sometimes. Like I’ve said to friends and family, I’d rather be knackered myself then have to deal with the repercussions of Beth being knackered. It makes me more happy, knowing she’s had some good sleep. Perhaps this is what makes me a ‘modern dad’ and husband. Surely I’m not the only one who thinks and feels this way? I do have dad friends who are still very much the other way “I work, her job is to get up and deal with the kid”. Whilst I can understand that (old fashioned) way of thinking, I don’t agree with it!
Dad’s rejoice - BabyBjorn have recently launched a collection of carriers designed for the modern dad. Their new campaign aims to empower fathers to embrace babywearing, and they will be donating carriers to vulnerable parents via the Fatherhood Institute. https://www.babybjorn. co.uk/baby-carrier-one-in-newcolours/
YOU’RE NOT ALONE There are many websites, blogs and vlogs designed to advise and support mums on their parenting journey, but significantly fewer for Dads in the same boat. They often need similar opportunities to share/vent, which is where The Dad Network comes in. Aimed at dads, and reflecting their unique challenges and perspectives, the website covers everything from the practical and the emotional to the philosophical and fun. Aiming to uncover the secrets to being a confident dad, it is worth a look. www.thedadnetwork.co.uk
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Helping hands
LOVE TO LEARN Top tips to help your children improve their learning potential BEDTIME READING A book at bedtime can boost a child’s brain power, accelerate academic achievement and reduce the risk of behavioural problems, according to new research has revealed from Equazen.
A new and exciting product aims to reduce the time taken for children to learn their times tables by using gloves. The Government’s agenda is that all children will learn their times tables by the age of eleven, and this product may have a positive impact on the child’s ability to improve their maths skills from an early age. http://countingongloves.com/
The latest science outlines that reading improves blood flow to the brain as well as academic performance. 7 out of 9 trials show that children benefit from supplements of Omega-3 fatty acids, which in turn produce “significant” improvements in children who have underperformed in reading tests. On average, children now read for just 2.4 hours per week outside school, so encouraging reading for pleasure may be a positive step towards improving both behaviour and performance at school. www.equazen.co.uk
Learning Phonics Phonics is taught from Pre School Nursery until year 2 and children continue to use the method throughout their primary school years in helping to learn to read and write. When phonics lessons are first taught the children start to recognise the sounds that an individual letter makes, there are 26 letters in the English alphabet and those letters make 44 sounds. Children also learn the sounds that different combinations of these letters make, like “oo” or “sh”. Once children are confident with these new sounds, they can decode new words they see or hear. An enthusiastic home approach towards phonics will give your child a head start and make learning at school even more fun and relevant. Ask any teacher and they will tell you what a huge difference input at home makes to a child’s progress. A fun sound on one of our products will stimulate family discussion and fire up imagination and interest! www.littlesmarts.co.uk
EDUCATING WITH STYLE Dance in the Rain T Shirt £16.00 Available in 3-4, 4-5, 5-6 from www.littlesmarts.co.uk 8
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SWIM TO THE TOP OF THE CLASS New research shows swimming lessons have positive impact on achievement for primary school pupils
Recent findings by registered charity and leisure provider Fusion Lifestyle suggest swimming lessons could be the key to giving children a head start as they start school. The findings reveal that children who have taken swimming lessons are significantly more likely to perform above average in maths, English, literacy and sport, than non-swimming children. The survey further strengthens the link between swimming and the positive mental and physical development in young children and shows how incredibly important it is. 1,000 parents of children aged 4 – 8 revealed the following: • 45% of children at Reception level who have had swimming lessons have achieved reading age 5 or above, with only 27% of those who haven’t had lessons in this range • Children who have taken swimming lessons are more likely to enjoy reading (54%) than non-swimming children (47%) and are more likely to read daily outside of school (45%) than those who haven’t had lessons (36%) • Children are also more able to recite their times tables, than those that haven’t taken swimming lessons, with 39% of swimmers able to recite their 5 times table v only 28% of non swimmers • 37% of these children are also more likely to enjoy maths “very much”, vs only 29% of those who haven’t had lessons • Swimming also appears to help overall sporting performance with 37% of those who have taken lessons performing above average in sport and PE, compared to 28% of those who haven’t taken lessons Jon Glenn, Head of Learn to Swim at the Amateur Swimming Association, commented: “Swimming is a great way for children and young people to stay fit and active. Learning about water confidence at a young age is also important to help children to stay safe in and around water. For some time now, swimming and physical activity has been recognised as having additional positive impacts on development and social skills. We would recommend all children take part in swimming at the earliest possible opportunity, whether that is by having fun in the pool with families or receiving formal swimming instruction.” www.fusionswimschool.co.uk
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MONEY MATTERS New research from NatWest’s MoneySense programme has found the majority (55 per cent) of children aged 7-15 worry about their lack of financial knowledge. Nearly two thirds of parents (62 per cent) also worry their child will grow up without a good grasp of managing money. Two fifths of parents (41 per cent) admit they don’t talk about money management with their children, and nearly half (47 per cent) feel more comfortable talking to their children about sex and relationships than money. Supporting these findings, the Money Advice Service found that just 4 in 10 young people in the UK say they’ve received financial education, which is designed to teach children how to handle their finances confidently and is currently part of the curriculum across the UK. This, despite the fact that an overwhelming 90% who’d received financial education lessons said they found them useful. In addition, the survey findings showed that only 7% of children surveyed said they’d taken the time to speak to their teacher about money. When young people don’t receive financial education, it can mean that they’re poorly prepared to manage their own money as they approach adulthood. Among 16 – 17 year olds, 32% said they didn’t have experience of putting money into a bank account, 39% said they didn’t have a current account at all and a shocking 59% couldn’t read a pay slip. Robert Gardner is a financial planning expert, and proud dad, who strongly believes that helping children to learn about money and saving at a very early age would solve a lot of the problems that adults have with money later in life. Gardner set up a charity (RedSTART) that teaches young people to budget, save, invest, and give back – and it is the “give back” part that is most important to Robert. He is full of ideas to make saving fun for kids and believes that money management is the major skill that we are not teaching our children – at home or at school. You can find out more about Robert here: http://robertjgardner.co.uk/
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Clever clogs Why exploring, creating and imaginative play are key to early development, by Rachel Lancashire
I might only have eight months worth of a Mummy CV but I have a good eight years worth of teaching experience and I'm yet to find better advice than that which I am about to share with you. Those three torturess years at university training to be a teacher, the hours of lengthy lectures and the reams of paper really taught me, well...not very much in comparison to what I learned by actually just talking to parents and families on the door at school. Teaching starts at home, of that I am convinced. Combined with the fact that children are born ready to learn and have ready made teachers from their very first breath should give them a superb head start in life. But that all depends on the teacher. I'm sure you can cast your minds back to a few teachers from your own education, perhaps you're sure their words come back to haunt you or maybe they left such an impression on you that they're part of who you've become today? There are teachers that tell, teachers that show and then there are teachers that involve. A child is like a sponge, ready to soak up the very last drops of anything that can feed their enthusiasm and help them to grow. They're also mini private investigators closely observing your
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every move, noting your tone and facial expression and even your body language. If you just tell them all day long, what do you expect them to learn besides the knowledge you impart on them? If you simply show them everything, how will they ever learn to explore and have a go for themselves? But, if you get involved together almost as if you're going on a new and exciting adventure perhaps you'll both learn lots of new and exciting things about yourselves, about each other and about the world. Being a clever clogs isn't always about extra this and extra that, a tutor for this and a revision book for that. Sometimes it's about creating a moment, asking that question, finding out together, reading a bedtime story, talking about your emotions and getting stuck in to whatever it may be together. There will come a time when the only thing for your unruly, rebellious teenager is to create that revision timetable on Microsoft
Publisher, print it out, laminate it and stick it all around the house. But for now, right now why not just get your hands dirty? Explore. Create. Imagine. You can travel the world and stay sat on your sofa, all you need is a little imagination, a child who is willing to learn and a grown up who is genuinely interested. And, just like you could tell the 'winging-it' teachers from the 'miss-honey' teachers, your child will too be able to spot the difference. Just like your favourite pizza, clever comes with a variety of bases and endless variations of toppings. You and your child can choose - together. For me and mine, we'll have a stable house shaped base with a crust stuffed with fun and lashings of love, a smothering of stories, pieces of play and a sprinkle of spontaneity on top. Mmmm delicious.
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How to make the most of parents evening By Carey Ann Dodah, Director of Curriculum Strategy at Explore Learning
Parents’ evenings – one of the most important events in parents’ lives – where they sit down with those people who know their children almost as well as they do – and find out how they’re doing at school. But, with only ten minutes or so to formally review all those hours of learning how can you possibly fit it all in? And how do you remember everything you’ve talked about when you get home later that evening? Carey Ann Dodah, Director of Curriculum Strategy at tuition provider, Explore Learning has some top tips on how to maximise your allotted time. She says: “Parents’ events are such precious moments where you want to understand everything, cherish all the positive bits while helping your children learn from constructive feedback. “Remember, your child’s teacher will always be available throughout the year to discuss any concerns or questions you have – you just have to ask and they will guide you. They may direct you to some information evenings coming up, guidance on the school’s website or book a slot in with you at a mutually suitable time. If you have a long list of questions you want to ask; parents’ evening may not be the best time. 1. Come to parents’ evening with no more than three questions Do come with some set questions. Sometimes parents’ evening creeps up on us and we find ourselves sitting blankly in front of the teacher not sure what to ask and you know that half an hour later you’ll be kicking yourself for not discussing that important thing! So it’s a good idea to do a little preparation. 2. Chat to your child about school and their goals before parents’ evening Your child can give you the best insight into what’s happening in the
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classroom. Is there anything that they are concerned about? What are they really enjoying? What do they think their next goals are? Make some notes on what your child said. It’s really nice to see if these align with the feedback from the teacher and there may be areas that you can fill each other in on.
Explore Learning has 124 centres across the UK, providing English and maths tuition to children aged five to 14. www.explorelearning.co.uk
3. Look for evidence of progress Progress is measured in different ways across schools now, following recent curriculum changes and so the way your school is demonstrating progress may have changed. Ask about this if it is not clear and find out what the next steps are for your child to reach the next targets. 4. Look through workbooks
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The best way to see evidence of progress is to look through your children’s books and compare work from the beginning of term to now. Read the teacher’s comments and see if there are any themes e.g. are they often running out of time, are there areas that they clearly don’t understand. Note down anything you want to look at with your child at home. If you don’t have time on the evening ask to take the books home overnight so you can review them properly. 5. Remember your child’s teacher is on your team It can be really hard to receive bad feedback and your child’s teacher will not enjoy giving it. They really do want the best for your child just as you do. If they have mentioned problems with behaviour or concentration, for example, try to see this as a positive opportunity to make a change with your child with another person who’s sharing your child’s upbringing with you. A parent/ teacher combined approach can be such a powerful way to make a change that could be great for everyone.
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FEEDING FACTS Lansinoh’s in-house healthcare professional and midwife, Wendy Blackwood has compiled 10 facts about breastfeeding - and Lansinoh – to help separate fact from fiction. Wendy has over 15 years’ experience offering expert advice and support to breastfeeding mums and their families. A passion of Wendy’s is giving women and their families the information that will help them make the most of their child birthing journey. She believes that providing women with a sound foundation on which to base their choices empowers them to be confident and in control of their decisions. 1.Studies have shown that the health benefits of breastfeeding are extensive and last well into your baby’s adulthood. The release of oxytocin plays a major role in mothers and babies bonding 2. Before the invention of bottles and formula, wet nursing was the safest and most common alternative to the natural mother's breastmilk 3. Lansinoh’s HPA Lanolin does not need to be removed before breastfeeding and is the purest, safest nipple cream available. Unlike other lanolins, this is achieved by using a unique refining process to selectively filter out colour and odour-forming impurities 4. A baby changing their sucking pattern from short and choppy at the beginning of feeding to more long, drawing, and rhythmic, a minute or so into feeding is a sign of a healthy, functioning let-down 5. Colostrum (the first milk from your breast) is a gentle, natural laxative that helps clear out your baby’s intestine, decreasing the chance of jaundice 6. Newborns only see 8-15 inches so holding your baby close helps them to focus on you 7. At birth babies have a natural instinct to feed and when left in uninterrupted skin-toskin contact a baby should slowly make its way up towards your breast and start to feed 8. In order to establish and sustain exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months and beyond you should breastfeed as often as your baby wants, day and night 9. You may feel strong sensations as your baby starts to suck, but pain when breastfeeding isn't normal 10. Skin to skin contact regulates your baby’s temperature, breathing and heart rate For more information about Lansinoh and its award-winning products visit www.lansinoh. co.uk 12
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BREASTFEEDING EXPERT CORNER
Breastfeeding Specialist,Vanessa Christie www.thebabyshow.co.uk “It’s amazing that in 2016 there is still a certain stigma attached to breastfeeding – that it should be done in private, in the comfort of your own home and generally shouldn’t be discussed. This has got to change and hopefully the latest social media trend entitled ‘brelfies’ will help with this. Celebrities with huge followings can help to normalise the action of breastfeeding but it’s also seeing ‘real’ women on social media, away from the glitz and glamour, that can really boost the confidence of new mothers and help change the perceptions of breastfeeding. After all, many of these women have been through their own struggles with breastfeeding and are now celebrating this part of their mothering journey. When your baby’s hungry they need to feed wherever they are, so any trend that helps to raise awareness of this fact, particularly to people who don’t have children and may not understand, is vital in today’s society.”
CONFIDENCE CRISIS
PUMP & FEED
According to research by Essential Parent, nearly half of parents admitt that they are simply not confident about breastfeeding, with one of the biggest worries for new mums being that they’re not producing enough milk. But a newborn’s stomach is only the size of a marble and therefore can only take a very small amount of milk at each feed in the early days. Unfounded worry like this could be avoided if more women were given this information around the time of the birth of their baby. Despite Department of Health recommendations that babies should be breastfeed exclusively for the first six months of life, the UK has the lowest breastfeeding rates in Europe and this is in part due to a lack of confidence in women that they can breastfeed. Essential Parent and UNICEF breastfeeding consultant Sally Tedstone explains the basics, and super clear ‘how-to’ online videos show new mums exactly what to do.
Medela UK is excited to officially launch the brand new, Swing pump&feed set, including everything a breastfeeding mum needs to express, store and feed. The new Medela breastfeeding set includes Medela’s flagship Swing Electric Breast Pump, ideal for regular expressing sessions. Also included is Medela Pump and Save Bags, making collecting and storing breastmilk easier than ever before and Quick Clean Microwave Steriliser Bags, ideal for quick sterilising while out and about. Finally, parents will love the innovative Calma Feeding Device designed exclusively for feeding breastmilk. Calma enables babies to use the natural sucking behavior learned at the breast, easing the transition from breast to bottle and back again. RRP: £144.99 Available from: Boots
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Author and wife of McFly Frontman, Tom Fletcher 2.I wish that midwives and NCT would stop saying 'If breastfeeding hurts you're doing it wrong,' as I, and nearly every mother I know, found that it does hurt at first, even when you're doing it right! It wouldn't have put me off to know this, but it would have been better to be warned (also I wouldn't have panicked that I was doing it wrong, when I wasn't). Women still opt for natural births, knowing that labour will hurt, so it's unnecessary and patronising to presume they won't try to breastfeed if they're warned it will hurt at first. Francesca Hornak, journalist and author of Worry With Mother: 101 Neuroses for the Modern Mama
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3.Though it is the most natural thing in the world, it's not the easiest and, like everything, takes time to learn and perfect. Your baby has to learn to latch, learn to suck and your body has to adjust. Expect pain, expect moments where you think you can't do this. Know that you can and ask for support and help. Don't be afraid to say if you feel it really isn't the best thing for you and your baby but don't give in if you don't want to. Harriet Shearsmith, Parenting Blogger and Medela Mum at Toby and Roo
Breastfeeding brand Medela’s latest campaign - #countto10 - is an inspired project that aims to support mumsto-be and those in the early days of breastfeeding. The new initiative is an honesty campaign to provide a more realistic picture of what to expect when it comes to breastfeeding. A recent survey commissioned by Medela, and completed by almost 2,000 mums, found that 70% of mums wish they had been given a clearer and more realistic picture of what to expect when breastfeeding. Addressing this common concern, #countto10 will encourage everyone from mums through to health visitors to share honest advice, information and top tips from early on, to help prepare new mums for breastfeeding and even prolong their feeding journeys.tackle the initial pain of breastfeeding.
4.If there is anything I learnt about breastfeeding that I wish I knew before I had my 1st baby it's the fact that milk can take more than 2-3 days to come in. Sandra, Parenting Blogger and Medela Mum at The Black Pearl
I wish I’d have known that it would take time and patience to get it right. It took eight weeks for me to stop having to squeeze my butt cheeks together every time my son latched on, but then suddenly it all fell into place, we both knew what we were doing, and it became effortless. Giovanna Fletcher,
6.Breastfeeding has been harder for me than the labour, yet I had no idea this would be the case. Learn how to get a good latch and don't be afraid to take baby off if the latch is painful. If at first you don't succeed try try try again. Once it settles down the quiet moments in the middle of the night make it all
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5."The sleep deprivation will probably be worse than you ever imagined and at times it may feel like actual torture. Waking every 90 minutes or so all through the night to feed is immensely tough. But it is important to know that it won't last forever and just when you think you can't take it anymore things will get better. Once your baby is able to soothe itself to sleep around 6 months old your world will change completely. Hang on in there." Dr Lily Canter – Freelance Family and Consumer Journalist, Lecturer at Sheffield Hallam University
worthwhile. P.S keep a cabbage in the fridge and get a good nipple cream! Izzy Judd, Musician wife of McFly Drummer, Harry Judd 7."My experience of breastfeeding my two children are quite different, whilst I’ve been able to breastfeed them both, with my son it was a huge struggle and quite an emotional time. If I had one piece of advice is would be not to be ashamed of asking for help. I felt like I was letting myself and my baby down by admitting how much I was struggling and although it eventually became easier I would have benefited greatly (and sooner) by asking for help from a lactation consultant or breastfeeding group." Fritha, Parenting Blogger and Medela Mum at Tiger Lilly Quinn 8."Whilst I struggled with breastfeeding and ended up expressing for 6 months, on reflection, I truly believe that with the right support from the right people around you and much self belief and inner strength, breastfeeding is possible and once it clicks, which it so often does, you'll never look back". Nicola Bon, Smooth FM Radio Presenter and Journalist 9."Don’t feel like you have to wear a bra in the first few weeks. If your nipples are sore, simply wear a super loose t-shirt, this’ll help them breath and heal quicker. If your nipples are cracked and the pain is just too much (as it can be) express your milk for a few days, this will give your body (and nipples) a chance to recover. It’ll also keep your milk supply up and your little one is still getting your milk. Once you’re nipples are over the initial shock, the pain will go away and breastfeeding is a truly lovely experience." Heledd, Parenting Blogger and Medela Mum at Running in Lavender 10. “I wish I had known about the immense pain of the first few days of feeding leading onto the immense pleasure! Pleasure like I have never known in my life. It created such a bond with my boy. I even get jealous when I see mothers still feeding.” Claire Sweeney, Actress To join in and share helpful advice, information and tips on all things breastfeeding, mums simply need to use the hashtag #countto10 on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.
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GOOD SPORT! Sports and Exercise Medicine Physician at Highgate Private Hospital, Dr James Thing, highlights how important physical activity and a healthy diet it is to children Do you feel that childhood diet and lifestyle is a contributing factor to adult obesity? There is no doubt that the eating habits that one develops as a child will, more often than not, be continued into adulthood. It is essential for children to learn what a good diet consists of from an early age. There is good evidence to suggest that obese children are much more likely to go on to become obese adults. Do you feel parents should intervene within their child’s diet and lifestyle more proactively to prevent problems later on? Absolutely, it is often hard for parents to be told, usually by teachers, that their child is overweight or obese. The usual reaction is anger and denial however parents have an essential role in preventing and controlling poor eating and lifestyle habits. Parents often feel that these lessons should be learnt at school however a child will learn best by following a good example that must be set by the parents, at home. What do you think about the government’s idea to bring in a sugar tax from April 2018? Do you think putting up the price of sugary soft drinks will help parents and children from buying them? This is a controversial idea and one which is being strongly opposed by the multi-billion dollar drink/fast food industry. Childhood obesity rates are continuing to increase and so extreme measures are required. Ultimately if £1 of pocket money buys less sugar then this tax will have its intended benefits. It appears that the vast majority of parents are unsure what a healthy breakfast consists of. Can you recommend what a healthy breakfast is? A healthy meal traditionally has been thought of as containing carbohydrate, fat and protein. More recently this notion is being questioned, with greater emphasis on fats and a reduction in carbohydrates. A healthy breakfast may include porridge, wholemeal/brown bread/ toast with peanut butter or an egg for 14
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protein, greek yoghurt and berries. High sugar cereals, pastries, biscuit bars, chocolate, cakes and sugary drinks should be avoided (but are often seen in the hands of children on the bus to school across the UK). What are the positive health outcomes of eating a healthy breakfast? A healthy breakfast should leave the individual feeling energised and not tired or bloated. Eating breakfast has been shown to improve performance and concentration at school. Delaying or avoiding breakfast is likely to lead to mid-morning tiredness, hunger, and therefore snacking, usually on sugary foods or overeating at lunchtime. Ample hydration (with water) is essential. Fruit drinks may compound a “high sugar” intake. Apart from campaigns aimed at promoting healthy changes how can we change the way people shop, cook and eat? Education is imperative. Learning about a healthy diet from an early age will lead to short and long-term improvements in eating habits and reduce obesity in the population. Celebrity Chef’s such as Jamie Oliver have tried to instil in people that healthy eating can be quick, simple and cost effective. These processes can be facilitated by making healthy foods, such as fresh fruit and vegetables more affordable, and sugary “bad foods” less accessible, potentially in the form of a sugar tax. Effective neighbourhood planning can also support this by avoiding having shops/ fast food restaurants nearby schools.
term research studies have clearly. demonstrated the importance of physical fitness as a risk factor for morbidity (illness) and mortality (death). Individuals who are active in their younger years are more likely to be active throughout their life. Children under 5 should undertake 180 minutes of physical activity per day. Children aged between 5 and 18 should undertake 60mins per day of physical activity that includes moderate and vigorous activity, as well as activities that strengthen muscles and bones
DID YOU KNOW? Public Health England (PHE) recently issued a warning that children are consuming half their daily sugar allowance before they even start school. According to the PHE’s Change4Life campaign, breakfasts have become so unhealthy that pupils eat the equivalent of three cubes (11g) of sugar every morning for breakfast.
Active campaigns like Northern Ireland’s Get a life campaign aims more at persuading people to do more physical exercise. How important is physical exercise and how much exercise should children do a day? Physical activity is one of the most important modifiable risk factors for any individual, young or old. In order to lead a healthy lifestyle it is essential to be physically active. Large, longwww.mums-magazine.co.uk
GET ACTIVE WITH PEPPA This spring, Entertainment One’s (eOne) Peppa Pig is teaming up with the world’s leading children’s charity, Save the Children, to launch a fundraiser like no other. Between 8 and 14 May 2017, nurseries, early years groups, families and children up and down the country are being encouraged to take part in a Peppa Pig’s Muddy Puddle Walk for Save the Children. Organising a Muddy Puddle Walk is a great way for your little ones to explore the world around them and jump in muddy puddles, like Peppa Pig, for a worthy cause. However you fundraise – you’ll help Save the Children make life better for children around the world. There are lots of easy ways to raise money on your Muddy Puddle Walk for Save the Children. The free fundraising pack is full of great activities and fundraising ideas, so you can choose which option will work best for you and your children. Your little ones can get sponsored to walk or splash in puddles at the park, or they can simply donate to join your muddy puddle walk. You can even top up your total by baking and selling Muddy Puddle cupcakes! By raising money for Save the Children, you’ll help support their work to give every last child the chance to learn, play and grow up healthy and happy. Millions of children around the world are missing out on this – just because of where they’re born. By taking part in a Muddy Puddle Walk your children can discover how much fun it can be to explore the world around them. The fundraising pack will also explain what life is like for children in different countries, helping them see how they are making a difference through supporting Save the Children. Sign up your nursery or family now at MuddyPuddleWalk. org to get your free Muddy Puddle Fundraising Pack, full of fundraising ideas and tips for great walks and activities indoors and out – including free Peppa stickers and Save the Children balloons too!
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Schools, youth groups and families can sign up now at DenDay.org to receive fundraising kits containing everything they need to hold a funfilled day. The kit includes posters, stickers, den ideas and great teaching resources to easily link Den Day into the curriculum and schools plans. Teaching resources are designed to fit with the KS1 and KS2 curriculum, encouraging creativity and teamwork, while pupils learn about the challenges that some children face around the world, and how their fundraising will help. Groups taking part can raise money however they like – helping children get sponsored for their den-building or simply asking all children to make a donation for getting involved – there are lots of ideas in the free fundraising kit.
BUILD A DEN Save the Children’s Den Day is an educational interactive fundraising event for schools, youth groups and families which is returning for a third year on Friday 16th June 2017. Den Day calls on children to join in with a creative and, fun adventure as they build dens together and raise money to ensure more children around the world have a safe place to sleep and play. In 2016, 600,000 children signed up to take part, helping to raise funds to support Save the Children’s work helping vulnerable children across the world. www.mums-magazine.co.uk
Right now, millions of children do not have a safe place to sleep or play. Many have been forced to flee their homes by natural disasters or war. Others end up living rough on the streets because of poverty, abuse or neglect. Save the Children does whatever it takes to reach children caught up in conflict, fleeing war or persecution, or living rough on the street. For more information and to sign up visit: denday.org Facebook: http://facebook.com/groups/dendaygroup <http:// facebook.com/groups/dendaygroup> Mums Magazine Spring 2017
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CHILDCARE MATTERS
When planning a return to work, it pays to consider your childcare options early on. But what are the key qualities to look for in your babysitter or nanny?
Forget Mary Poppins - to be a supernanny these days you need to be a combination of the likes of model mum Myleene Klass, Bake Off winner Candice Brown and football boss Jurgen Klopp. That’s according to babysitting app bubble, which polled over 2,000 parents nationwide to find out what qualities and skills are most favoured by mums and dads when looking for a babysitter. It was revealed recently that a brand new version of 1964 Disney classic Mary Poppins is set to go into production next year, starring Meryl Streep, Angela Lansbury and 91-year-old Dick Van Dyke, who memorably played cheery cockney Bert alongside Julie Andrews’ Mary Poppins in the original movie 52 years ago. But while Mary Poppins remains the traditional image of a supernanny, the new research identified key babysitter skills sought by parents in 2017. The key supernanny qualities according to babysitting app bubble unflappable, flexible, fun and creative, organised (14%), and a good people manager, Ari Last, co-founder of bubble and father of two, said: “The classic Julie Andrews’ Mary Poppins has been many people’s idea of the perfect nanny for over 50 years - but as our approach and attitudes to parenting and raising children are changing, so too is what parents want from nannies and babysitters. “There isn’t a one-size-fits-all babysitter, which is why we’re giving parents the flexibility to see a full range before choosing the right one for them, the occasion and their kids.” The bubble app uses social networks to show parents how they are connected to the babysitters their friends use and trust - allowing them to find, book and pay local babysitters in a few taps. To find out more, visit http://joinbubble.com
WOULD YOU CONSIDER A MANNY?
Parents are increasingly choosing male babysitters, or ‘mannies’ like male nanny Andy in smash TV sitcom Modern Family, to look after their children. This according to one babysitting app who reported an 87% increase in male babysitters on its books.The rise in popularity of the manny is due to changing work patterns for 20 and 30-somethings AND traditional childcare roles being shared more equally among the sexes.The manny character Andy Bailey in Sky1’s Modern Family is played by actor and comedian Adam DeVine, and is the most high profile example of a male babysitter - and Ari says he expects the trend to increase in 2017.
DID YOU KNOW? According to a recent study, just over half (51%) of British families use childcare, including breakfast and afterschool clubs, with children attending sessions two days a week on average. This costs families around £2,000 each year. However, school is also expensive, with clubs, activities, kit and extra tuition costing families a sizeable £800 per year on average. Nationwide’s Great British Family Report http://www.nationwide.co.uk/family-report
USEFUL CONTACTS: NANNYSHARE Sharing childcare is an ideal way to get the childcare you want at a more manageable cost. This is the premis behind Nanny Share, which connects families with other local parents in the London area. www.nannyshare.co.uk EMERGENCY CHILDCARE When your normal childcare arrangements break down (which happens to the average working parent in the UK 9 times a year) it can be difficult to find backup childcare. Emergency Childcare provide unparalleled access to high quality childcare in the event of a nursery being closed, or a nanny being sick, for example, making it a useful resource for working parents. www.emergencychildcarec.co.uk
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BACK TO WORK AFTER BABY BY LUCY TODD I loved maternity leave. Like absolutely LOVED it. I think I was lucky enough to have the perfect storm of a very easygoing little girl, plenty of sleep, and an amazing summer - just as she was old enough for us to do fun things together. So going back to work wasn’t a prospect I was relishing. In fact, it really did feel like the dream was over. But don’t fret, there is light... I’ve now been back at work part-time for three months and I honestly feel like I have the best of both worlds. I have what can be a stressful job in a busy newsroom, and I never thought i’d see the day that i’d consider going to work as a rest. But, dear reader, it’s happened. Compared to running around after a toddler all day I sometimes look forwards to the days when i’m technically “at work” - is that bad??! Firstly, I get to sit down for most of the day. Unheard of at home. Unlimited teas and coffees - and lunch breaks! People come and talk to you and you can devote your entire attention to them without having to constantly check over your shoulder to see what the little person is getting up to. Imagine - an uninterrupted conversation! You can do a bit of trivial googling / online shopping / facebooking in lunch breaks without a) feeling guilty or b) having your phone / tablet ripped from your grasp. AND you get paid to be there - what’s not to like? All of these things are great, but actually I think what I most enjoy is accessing the parts of me that baby-related activities just can’t reach. Using my brain for more cerebral tasks is really refreshing and not to be underestimated. I’ve found that concentrating on and completing work-related tasks is actually immensely rewarding - and has certainly returned to me a sense of confidence, I didn’t realise I was beginning to lack. I am still a worthwhile individual in my own right and not just defined as somebody’s mother. Don’t get me wrong, I adore being a mummy - but, very occasionally, I found myself wondering, whilst I was elbow deep in dirty nappies, whether all of my education and hitherto life achievements had been in vain if I was to ultimately end up singing the same three nursery rhymes over and over to soothe baby. I love being with my little girl, but I am also glad to have something of my own away from her. Something which forms part of my identity as a separate entity. And everyone knows absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? So what has also happened is that I really look forwards to the two weekdays that we do spend together. Granted, one of the days I usually devote a fair bit of time doing the mundane household tasks which just need to get done, but we still get out to the park or a play date. And the other day I make sure we always do something extra fun - which is a lovely way to end the week. Then we have the weekend with Daddy to look forwards to. In this way, across the week I feel like i’ve earned the fun days I get to spend with my 15-month old, as well as having contributed to the household both financially and domestically. Having extolled the virtues of being a working mother - I really wouldn’t like the idea of going back full time. For now anyway. My husband and I are fortunate enough that we can afford for me to go back part-time and if you can manage financially - and if your work is amenable to it - I would very much recommend doing the same. At least in the short term. After
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almost a year of spending seven days a week with your little one, I can only imagine going back five days a week would be traumatic. Not just for you, but remember this is all your little one has ever known, so be as kind to them as you can. If you do go back to work full-time consider trying to stagger the start a little so it’s not so much of a shock to the system. Perhaps a couple of weeks working three days, then four days before you go the whole hog. Start thinking early doors about what childcare measures you’ll need to put in place for your little one. Check out nurseries as early as you can, the good ones get filled up pretty quickly. But do also consider other options - like a childminder or a nanny. We ended up going for a nannyshare, which is good for us since she is more flexible than a nursery with her hours, and actually works out cheaper than nursery daycare. Grandparents might also be an option. This can be a real success as grandparents often like helping out and spending time getting to know their grandchildren without the parents being around. It’s good for them to forge their own relationships with your children. But make sure you are being realistic over what demands you are placing on grandparents - is it something that will be sustainable for them? One friend’s mother-in-law had to cut back on the agreed days after only a few weeks into the new arrangement as it was too much for her. This left a headache all round as they then had to find alternative options with zero notice. If nursery is the best option for you, consider enrolling your child a month or so before you return to work. It doesn’t have to be full-time, but perhaps in ever-increasing increments. A friend did this and i initially thought she was mad. But going back to work for the first few weeks is difficult enough without having to worry about how your baby is doing and whether they’ve spent the whole day crying / not sleeping / not eating etc. Couple that with then having to juggle who will pick up baby in the middle of the day and stay home with them tomorrow, because they’ve picked up every bug going, then i could see it made real sense to be on hand for the first few weeks when these sorts of problems cropped up pretty frequently. Lastly, leaving your baby for the first time when you go to work will always be tough, but remember you’ve done your best to find someone who will look after them almost as well as you do. And they will get so much out of being in a different envrionment (honestly, i actually think the days we have together must be boring in comparison as they don’t include ANY glue, glitter or tissue paper!) What’s more, though, they will have a mother who has a job and who is a great role model. And what’s better than that?
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GOODBYE MAT LEAVE What to expect as you prepare to step back into the world of work by RACHEL LANCASHIRE No-one ever tells you how hard it will be to leave your baby. They’re very quick to tell you at the start of your maternity leave that 'time will fly, make the most of it' or 'just wait until you have to leave him'. Obviously great insights into life as a new Mummy and oh-so annoyingly, frustratingly, devastatingly...true! But when it comes down to the crunch, the real nitty-gritty and there are so many hormones at stake...silence. So I’ll tell you, it’s hard. As you reluctantly countdown the months that soon turn to weeks and the weeks that in no time at all turn to days and then the days that miraculously turn to hours and even minutes before you have to walk out of that door, it doesn’t get any easier. I sat here alone on Friday 3rd February, my husband had gone out and it was just myself and Noah. Bath time was a delight as always and not just because of the soothing smells of Johnsons baby bedtime bath wash. Story time was even better, there is nothing a good Julia Donaldson book can’t solve. The eight ounce bottle went down the hatch it one and the long awaited burps to follow didn’t actually keep us waiting very long at all. I suppose you could say it was a pretty textbook bedtime routine ending in the man of the moment slipping soundly into a deep sleep without a care in the world, his little eyelids flickering as he dreamt of Mummy cuddles...or whatever it is that babies dream about. We’d smashed it and all that remained of the evening was mine. What could I do with a Friday evening all to myself? Netflix binge, sleep, update my blog or maybe just sleep? But no, that would be far too logical on my last weekend of maternity leave. Instead I sat cross-legged on the
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sofa clutching a cushion and staring at the baby monitor half wishing he would wake up and just need me. I cried, silent tears dripping down my cheeks. My baby wasn’t a baby anymore, he was a big boy (or so it felt). The silent tears soon turned to wails and before long I’d almost gone through a full box of tissues, mascara stained my pyjamas and the heartache was written all over my face. After a good three hours, my husband and friend returned home and immediately assumed the worst until I blubbered and spluttered that I was okay, everything was okay, everyone was okay. Are they happy or sad tears? It's a catch twenty-two. I have been blessed with the most incredible eight months with Noah, he is pure joy personified, but knowing that time was drawing to a rapid close and admitting that I was not ready for it. There, I said it. I was not ready for it. Not because I don't want to work, I actually quite like my job (believe it or not), not because I want to be at home every single day, I don't - it drives me crazy. No. Simply because the desire within me to bring up our son is greater than anything I've ever experienced. In fact, it's inexplicable. But to feel his tiny arms wrap tight around my neck when he sees me and to listen to the 'ahhh' noise he makes as he loves his Mummy so tightly, it made me realise that my maternity leave might be over but I have a lifetime of loving and cherishing this little boy to enjoy. Just because I am returning to work doesn't mean I'm not his Mummy anymore (and as I type this believe me, I am also trying to convince myself of it), it means that from then on every single second spent with him will
never, ever be taken for granted. Those moments will be treasured. They will be special. They will be priceless. And Noah will forever be my beautiful baby boy. I couldn't go back to work without these little pep talks to myself, I wouldn't make it through one single day. I am more than sure that I carry him in my heart for all eternity even though the crazy little dude is messing with my OCD something rotten at the moment. And when those lovelyoh-so-helpful people tell you 'he'll be into everything when he starts crawling...' yes, they weren't wrong at all. My candles. My coasters. My trinkets. My chargers. My remotes. My phone. My iPad. My laptop. They're no longer just mine, or even mine and James', they're ours and we have got to share. But we wouldn't have it any other way. Time really does fly when you're having fun. The good news is, we get to enjoy the ride together - Noah, Daddy and me. Just like you and your little family. I remember posting a little image on my Facebook profile the day I began maternity leave, it simply said ‘To mat leave and beyond...’ Well, the maternity leave may well be over but the beyond bit is here to stay, every day.
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WEANING
Recent research commissioned by Piccolo, the organic baby food brand inspired by Med Living, has revealed that weaning was ranked as one of the most stressful parts of parenting after teething and childbirth. Plagued with self-doubt, nearly half of the 1000 parents surveyed (48%) thought the struggle of weaning their child was caused by them feeling they were doing something wrong. Due to mealtimes being traumatic when weaning, the survey found that 50% of parents give up on trying to feed their baby healthy meals and resort to something unhealthy instead. Figures suggest British parents have had their fill of advice from their parents on how to bring up the baby – with an astonishing 75% thinking they get ‘enough advice from their parents’. Instead, over half (52%) would prefer to get advice from the internet, book, and friends rather than their parents or family.
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THEY ARE WHAT THEY EAT In order to maintain good health and skin, we need to make sure we eat well and this applies as much to children as to adults. At a time when child obesity and diabetes are at crisis point in this country, it’s really important we teach our children from an early age about healthy eating and that we set them a good example. A great starting point is the “5 a Day” approach, introduced by the Government in March 2003, and recently suggested to be doubled to “10 a Day”. First question, how do you measure a child’s portion? This varies according to the child’s age, body size and level of physical activity but as a rough guide, one portion is the amount they can fit in the palm of their hand. Next question – what food counts as one portion? • All fruit and vegetables, whether fresh, frozen, bottled or canned (provided they are in natural juice with no added salt or sugar), vegetables found in soups, stews, pasta dishes, ready meals, pasta sauces, fruit in puddings and dried fruit. NB. Always check the label for unwanted hidden extras such as salt, sugar and additives • Fruit juice and smoothies if made with 100% fruit or vegetable (but these can only count as one portion, whatever the quantity) • Beans & pulses (again, these can only count as one portion) • To be effective, we need a variety of fruit and veg because of their differing nutritional values EXCLUDED are potatoes (including food made from potatoes such as chips), yams, plantain and cassava because they mainly contribute starch to the diet. For further information or advice on natural remedies for skin problems, please contact Emma on 01962 776918, 07702 309688 or by email to emma@magic-cream.co.uk Emma Arkell – www.magic-cream.co.uk 20
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Sugar concerns
In response to the Public Health England (PHE) report on children consuming half their recommended sugar allowance before they even get to school in the morning, Geeta Sidhu-Robb, Founder of Nosh Detox says: “The findings by the Public Health England (PHE) on children consuming half their recommended sugar allowance before they even get to school in the morning is shocking. What is also worryng is tha 84 percent of the parents of children who consume half their recommended sugar allowance before 9 am, consider them as healthy. It is vital that children are provided with the right diet with the necessary portions of carbohydrates, sugar, vitamins and protein to lead a balanced lifestyle. Children need to have a healthy breakfast and while cereals offer a quick fix, parents have to carefully check the sugar levels in the leading cereal brands which are often excessive and misleading. The recommended breakfast is a healthy mix of fruits and grains. We know that the mornings in a household can be very busy, therefore fruit and veg smoothies can offer a healthy quick fix alternative as can pre-made granola.. small changes such as this will have a huge impact on the health and wellbeing of a child.” www.mums-magazine.co.uk
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FAMILY MEAL HACKS BY DR SARAH SCHENKER www.sarahschenker.co.uk
Recent Research done by Public Health London highlights that 91% of children are currently failing to meet the 5 A Day guidelines
Carb swap: There are endless variations for replacing or half replacing starchy carbohydrate foods with veg, including courgetti, cauliflower rice, kale noodles, butternut squash tagliatelle, use cabbage leaves for lasagne sheets, or try celeriac for a mash topping or a pizza base, experiment with different types to see what works for you. Another option is to use slices of beef tomatoes or long strips of cucumber instead of crackers and add toppings like hummus, guacamole and cheese, do the same with lettuce leaves to use for wraps instead of tortillas or grilled Portobello mushrooms for scrambled eggs instead of toast. From meat to mushrooms: Look to mushrooms as a meat substitute, or use half and half. They work brilliantly to give the same texture and add a subtle flavour. For instance, finely chop 4-5 large mushrooms and use with mince to make a bolognaise sauce or chilli con carne. You can also cut them into chunks to use along with diced chicken for stir frys or casseroles. Love your leftovers: Don’t be too hasty to chuck away just past it veg lurking in the bottom of the fridge, use a bag of mixed leaves to make pesto with lots of olive oil, pine nuts and basil, finely chop tomatoes that are no longer firm to make a spicy salsa or roast a wrinkly aubergine with lots of garlic and mash to make a dip. If you have a bunch or bananas turning brown in the fruit bowl, simply peel and chop and set on a tray and place in the freezer. Once frozen, you can whizz in the food processor to make a creamy banana ‘ice cream’.
Could nutrition be affecting your child’s behaviour? Whilst the link between nutrition and stress may not appear to be an obvious one, there is increasing evidence to show how poor diets high in refined sugars and processed foods can lead to poor concentration and emotional instability, which can worsen symptoms of conditions such as ADHD and affect learning. It’s no surprise that feeding our children the right nutrients at crucial stages of their brain development is important to support their learning and overall long-term mental health. Food for the Brain Foundation’s 4 Golden Rules lists nutritional tips to help build resilience against stress in children, which are based on solid scientific evidence. These include balancing blood sugar levels, ncreasing intake of essental fatty acids as well as vitamins and minerals, avoiding anti-nutrients and eliminating allergies. For more information visit:www.foodforthebrain.org
Bake it in: Cook prunes or dates in a splash of water to make a puree and use as substitute for sugar in some baking recipes. It will work in things like chocolate brownies or fruit cake. You can also use mashed avocado instead of butter in some recipes and add grated apple, carrot or courgette to cakes and muffins to keep them moist. www.mums-magazine.co.uk
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Nappy
There are certain trigger times1 when your baby may be more prone to nappy rash
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Effective ways to help prevent and treat nappy rash
Weaning
Any change in diet can lead to looser stools and a greater likelihood of nappy rash affecting your baby.
Common Cold
When a baby has a cold, stools are often looser, meaning that nappy rash is more likely to occur.
Teething
A runny nose, lots of saliva and diarrhoea are often the signs of teething. It’s also a time when nappy rash can strike.
Antibiotics
Nappy rash is often linked to antibiotic use. Antibiotics may mildly upset the digestive system leading to diarrhoea and nappy rash.
First sleep through the night
Sleeping through the night means that nappy changing may be delayed, making nappy rash more likely to develop.
Change in diet
Such as moving on from breast milk may lead to more frequent and watery stools, potentially leading to nappy rash.
Diarrhoea
Many babies suffer from nappy rash at some time in their first 18 months. Nappy rash can be caused by prolonged contact with urine or stools, although having sensitive skin does increase propensity towards the condition. In addition, certain soaps, detergents, wipes and also chafing can be contributing factors. Nappy rash is characterised by red patches on your baby’s bottom, or the whole area may be red. The skin may look sore and feel hot to touch, and there may be spots, pimples or blisters.
Nappy rash usually starts when the baby’s delicate skin is in prolonged contact with urine and faeces in the nappy. It’s much more difficult to prevent this if your baby has diarrhoea.
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1.Morris H, The bottom line on nappy rash, British Journal of Midwifery, September 2012, Vol 20, No 9, pages 540-543
The best approach to treating nappy rash is prevention, and changing wet or soiled nappies as soon as possible can help to lessen the risk of irritation. Young babies need changing as many as 10 or 12 times a day, and older babies at least six to eight times. Be sure to clean the whole nappy area thoroughly, wiping from front to back and use plain water or baby wipes. It also helps to leave the nappy off for as long and as often as you can in order to let fresh air get to the skin. Barrier creams, such as zinc and castor oil may also help. If your baby does get nappy rash, you can treat it with a nappy rash cream, although if the rash doesn’t go away or becomes bright red with white or red pimples, they may have a thrush infection. In this case, you’ll need to use an anti-fungal cream, available either from the pharmacist or on prescription from your GP. Ask your pharmacist or health visitor for advice. 22
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Even if you follow a regular routine, no two days are the same, and there are certain trigger times1 when your baby may be more prone to nappy rash 1.Morris H, The bottom line on nappy rash, British Journal of Midwifery, September 2012, Vol 20, No 9, pages 540-543
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for Nappy Rash For occasions when it does strike, Metanium Nappy Rash Ointment can be used to treat nappy rash, relieving the irritation and redness. Metanium Nappy Rash Ointment is a medicine. Always read the label.
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Bath... bed Bath and bed time may be the two most stressful parenting tasks, but they can also be the most enjoyable and enriching
KEEP WARM Make bath times more fun with this vibrant hooded towel, available fro £34.99 from www.cuddledry.co.uk Parents have revealed that the parenting task they find the most stressful is also the most rewarding task. IT SHOULD be the most relaxing room in the house, but new research has found UK parents believe bath time is the most stressful part of the day. In a survey of 1,011 UK parents of school-age children, by bathroom specialists www.betterbathrooms.com, 73% said bathing their children was the task they find the most stressful. But in fact, parents also found they bonded with their children the most during this task. Bed time was voted the second most stressful task by mums and dads (61%), but, perhaps not surprisingly parents didn’t consider this amongst the top tasks which they bonded with their child over. Meal times (48%), the school run (33%) and homework time (21%) completed the list of top five most stressful parts of a parent’s day.
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Jules Smith, head of marketing for Better Bathrooms commented: “It’s interesting to see that bath time is deemed the most stressful time of day for parents, but despite this they still find it so rewarding. Whilst bath time can be challenging with small children, it’s also an incredibly valuable time where parents can take the opportunity to play with their children and make personal hygiene fun. For more information visit www.betterbathrooms.com
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Design Your Own Pyjamas This super soft, 100% organic cotton pyjama set comes with fun neon Dylon pens that children can use to create their own unique PJs. All Lala & Bea products are made in Britain. Suitable for ages 3-12yrs. £34, available from www. lalaandbea.com Mums Magazine Spring 2017
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PREGNANCY NOTES
PREGNANCY NUTRITION There are so many do’s and don’ts when it comes to pregnancy that at first it can seem incredibly confusing and overwhelming – there’s so much to remember. This is particularly true when it comes to eating – don’t eat fish high in mercury, stay away from certain cheese’s but make sure you’re eating enough foods rich in calcium, don’t consume a lot of caffeine… the list can be endless. Designed to prevent you from fretting and obsessing over food, Sandra Mahut’s Craving: How to eat well throughout your pregnancy provides a wealth of information as to what you can and can’t eat whilst your pregnant, as well as providing delicious, nutritious and pregnant-friendly recipes that will help to satisfy all of your cravingswithout you having to worry that it could be harmful to you and the baby. Packed full of tips for tricky situations, advice on recommended intakes, adopting good habits and debunking myths, Craving is the go-to guide for future mums.
DOCTOR ON DEMAND Europe’s largest digital doctor service, Push Doctor has launched the UK’s first online GP service specifically for pregnant women - the Pregnancy Subscription Service will provide mums and dadsto-be with immediate, face-to-face advice from its smart network of UK GPs. The first of its kind, the Pregnancy Subscription Service allows those going through pregnancy access to a UK GP in six minutes, to have questions and queries in-between midwife appointments answered, or to seek professional reassurance outside of typical hospital and doctor’s surgery opening hours, from 7am to 10pm. The service, which costs £20 per month, includes unlimited ondemand appointments with one of 7,000 highly experienced UK GPs at a convenient time and place to suit parents-to-be, such as their home. The service allows pregnant patients to schedule consultations up to seven days in advance, after hours, or immediately to avoid waiting rooms and time off work, and receive friendly advice at all stages of conception and pregnancy, through to post natal stages. Parents-to-be can attend secure video consultations seamlessly on tablets, smartphones, laptops and desktop computers via the web or iOS and Android apps. With fathers-to-be also able to sit in on appointments to share special milestone moments. When necessary, Push Doctor GPs can issue prescriptions instantly via email or first class post, which can be redeemed in any UK pharmacy. GPs can also issue mothers-to-be with Fit-For-Work notes and for those who require specific care, GPs can issue referral letters to progress treatment and diagnosis with a specialist, and dispatch at-home testing kits for detailed health analysis. 26
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COLOURING YOUR PREGNANCY JOURNEY Preparing for Birth: colouring your pregnancy journey (Hammersmith Health Books, published on 27 April) is a brand new concept which uses colouring to help expectant mothers relax and pause so as to find what their intimate needs and feelings truly are at a time often fraught with conflicting emotions, even fear. The book features 28 detailed, double-page line drawings for colouring-in, all related to the theme of childbirth, to inspire women to think about what childbirth means for them and what solutions best fulfil their personal needs – no two pregnancies are the same, so each woman will want to devise her own answers. Author Bridget Sheeran is a community midwife with over three decades’ experience, the founder of the Community Midwives Association in Ireland, and a mother of four children – three of them born at home and one in waterbirth. With an MSc in Midwifery from Trinity College Dublin, she teaches several courses, including ‘Birth Know How Doula’, both in Ireland and the UK.
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is here to help! We all know how unpredictable babies can be!
Even if you follow a regular routine, no two days are the same, and there are certain trigger times1 when your baby may be more prone to nappy rash 1.Morris H, The bottom line on nappy rash, British Journal of Midwifery, September 2012, Vol 20, No 9, pages 540-543
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Treatment
for Nappy Rash For occasions when it does strike, Metanium Nappy Rash Ointment can be used to treat nappy rash, relieving the irritation and redness. Metanium Nappy Rash Ointment is a medicine. Always read the label.
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from Nappy Rash For daily protection, use Metanium Everyday Barrier Ointment or Easy Spray Barrier Lotion at every nappy change to help protect against the irritants that can cause nappy rash.
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