DESTINY
Let God Use You Like He Made You
DR. TONY EVANS
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Copyright © 2013 for Destiny: Let God Use You Like He Made You curriculum Dr. Tony Evans and The Urban Alternative P.O. Box 4000 Dallas, Texas 75208. Copyright and use of the curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman. Permission for use is given to Tony Evans, The Urban Alternative and Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in all forms of distribution. Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from the NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE®. Copyright ©1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. All rights reserved. This Bible Study is based on the concepts presented by Dr. Tony Evans in his book Destiny: Let God Use You LIke He Made You. DESTINY Copyright © 2013 by Tony Evans Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402 www.harvesthousepublishers.com Copyright and use of the Lifetogether curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman. Permission for use is given to Dr. Tony Evans and The Urban Alternative in all forms of distribution.
CONTENTS
About The Author 1 Introduction to Destiny 2 Outline for Each Session 3 SESSION ONE – Overview of Destiny 5 SESSION TWO – Your Uniqueness & Your Destiny 17 SESSION THREE – Your Experiences & Your Destiny 29 SESSION FOUR – Your Intersections & Your Destiny 41 SESSION FIVE – Your Worship & Your Destiny 53 SESSION SIX – Your Future & Your Destiny 65
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Frequenty Asked Questions 78 Spiritual Partners’ Check-In Page 80 Small Group Roster 81 Personal Health Assessment 82 Personal Health Plan 83
SMALL GROUP LEADERS
Hosting an Open House 85 Leading for the First Time 86 Leadership Training 101 87
GROUP RESOURCES
Small Group Agreement 90 Small Group Calendar 91 Prayer and Praise Report 92 Teching Notes 93
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ABOUT THE
AUTHOR DR. TONY EVANS is one of the country’s most respected
leaders in evangelical circles. He is a pastor, serving as the senior pastor of the 9700-member Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship in Dallas for over 36 years. He is a best-selling author, with over 50 published books such as Kingdom Man, Oneness Embraced and Victory in Spiritual Warfare. He is an inspirational speaker, from professional sports arenas (former chaplain of the NFL’s Dallas Cowboys and present chaplain of the NBA’s Dallas Mavericks) to the international airwaves (The Alternative with Dr. Tony Evans broadcasting daily to more than 850 US radio outlets and 80 countries daily). He is a worldchanger, serving as the president of The Urban Alternative, a national ministry that seeks to restore hope and transform lives through the proclamation and application of the Word of God. Finally and foundationally, he is a devoted husband of 42 years to Lois and loving father of four – Chrystal, Priscilla, Anthony Jr. and Jonathan – and grandfather of ten – Kariss, Jessica, Jackson, Jesse III, Jerry Jr., Kanaan, Jude, Joel, Kelsey & Jonathan II.
INTRODUCTION Let God Use You Like He Made You God will often take you from where you are to where He wants you to be at what can be called a divine intersection. This is the time and situation in your life where your gifts, skills, passion, experience and personality merge together into either the revealing of, or carrying out of, your destiny. What many of us try to do in our lives is rush ahead to the intersection, not realizing the importance of God’s perfect timing. Until your divine intersection comes, God is preparing you for that moment – for the people, tasks and purpose ahead. And He is also preparing your destiny, the people and places involved, for you. This is similar to what He did in Canaan when the Israelites entered the Promised Land. God had already provided for the Israelites because the Canaanites had dug the wells, cultivated the land and built the communities in that land. Arriving at your intersection in life is a special time when you step into God’s manifest provision in your life. There, you will receive the Spirit’s power to carry out His plan for you. There will be a certain flow about what you do – it will feel natural to you in many ways. In sports, we call it being “in the zone.” As a believer, you enter the “zone” when God orchestrates your intersection – when all things merge. When God connects your gifts, skills, experience, passion and personality into His divine destiny just for you. Friend, if you learn anything at all from this Bible study about reaching your destiny – learn this: Don’t go searching for your destiny. Go searching for your God. Because it is in locating God amidst the ordinary things that He may have you doing now that you will watch Him intersect them into the extraordinary purpose and destiny He has for you. In other words, fulfill the duties of your routine responsibilities and attach those routine responsibilities to Him. When you loop God into your routine, the natural becomes the supernatural. You discover your destiny when the natural merges with the Divine. What is even better, is that you will discover that God can even use the weaknesses, or what you might consider the faults, in your life for His purpose. He merges all things together for good when you love Him and walk in His destiny for you. I’m excited that you have chosen to pursue your destiny through this Bible study. May God grant you favor and insight as you seek Him and His will for your life.
For the King and His Kingdom,
Dr. Tony Evans Spring 2013
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OUTLINE OF EACH SESSION Most people want to live a healthy, balanced spiritual life, but few achieve this by themselves. And most small groups struggle to balance all of God’s purposes in their meetings. Groups tend to overemphasize one of the various reasons for meeting. Rarely is there a healthy balance that includes teaching, evangelism, ministry, practical exercises and worship. That’s why we’ve included all of these elements in this study so you can live a healthy, balanced spiritual life over time.
DVD TEACHING SEGMENT. Serving as a companion to the Destiny small group discussion book is the Destiny video teaching. This DVD is designed to combine teaching segments from Dr. Tony Evans along with leadership insights and personal stories of destiny discoveries. This DVD study has been designed to enhance the entire small group experience. Using the teaching video will add value to this six week commitment of doing life together and discovering how knowing your destiny changes everything.
A typical group session for Destiny will include the following:
STORY. The lessons we will learn during Destiny are best illustrated in the lives of real people. Each session will begin with a summary of someone’s story and the video presentation during the session will capture firsthand that person telling their story.
LISTEN. As in, listen to God and each other’s lives. The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and His family. A few people who really know you and who earn your trust provide a place to experience the life Jesus invites you to live. Discovering your destiny will involve others! This section of each session typically offers you two options. You can get to know your whole group by using the icebreaker question(s) or you can check in with one or two group members—your spiritual partner(s)—for a deeper connection and encouragement in your spiritual journey.
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DEEPER STUDY. If you want to dig deeper into more Bible passages about the topic at hand, we’ve provided additional passages and questions. Your group may choose to do study homework ahead of each meeting in order to cover more biblical material. If you prefer not to do study homework, the “Deeper Study” section will provide you with plenty to discuss within the group. These options allow individuals or the whole group to go deeper in their study, while still accom¬modating those who cannot do homework or are new to your group.
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LEARN. As in, learn from God’s Word and each other. Here is where you come face-to-face with Scripture. In core passages you will explore what the Bible teaches about the topic of the study. The focus will not be on accumulating information but on how we should live in light of the Word of God. We want to help you apply the Scriptures practically, creatively and equally from your heart and your head. At the end of the day, allowing the timeless truths from God’s Word to transform our lives in Christ is our greatest aim.
As in, live out the truth you just learned. Here is where the Bible urging us to “be doers of the Word, not just hearers” comes into play. Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it is scary, relationally awkward or simply too much work for their busy schedules. But Jesus wanted all of His disciples to help outsiders connect with Him, to know Him personally and to carry out His commands. This doesn’t necessarily mean preaching on street corners. It could mean welcoming a few newcomers into your group, hosting a shortterm group in your home or walking through this study with a friend. In this study, you will have an opportunity to go beyond Bible study to biblical living.
As in, love the Lord your God and your neighbor too. We have Jesus’ affirmation that every aspect of life’s destiny can ultimately be measured as a way of fulfilling one or both of the “bottom line” commandments: “The foremost,” answered Jesus, “is, ‘Hear, O Israel! The LORD our God is one LORD; and you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ “The second is this, ‘ you shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:29–31). The group session will close with time for personal response to God and group prayer, seeking to keep this crucial commandment before us at all times.
STUDY NOTES. This section provides background notes on the Bible passage(s) you examined in the “Deeper Study” section. You may want to refer to these notes during your group meeting or as a reference when doing additional study.
DAILY REFLECTIONS. Each week in the “Daily Reflections” we provide scriptures to read and reflect on between group meetings. We suggest you use this section to seek out God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Do not get in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.
WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES. Under the heading of each session we have provided a “Weekly Memory Verse” that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we believe that memorizing Scripture is a vital part of filling our minds with God’s will for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try.
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For David, after he had served the purpose of God in his own generation, fell asleep, and was laid among his fathers, and underwent decay.” (Acts 13.36) Purpose. Calling. Destiny. Who would not want that? But destiny means different things to different people. That’s why we need to start with a shared understanding of what we mean by “destiny” in this study. Any real definition of destiny must include the Maker of life. Since life was God’s idea and creation, it makes sense to assume that He would be the ultimate source of wisdom regarding how life was designed to be lived. This session will focus on the early clues to destiny that are already part of your life and how you cannot really get very far in coming to a practical understanding of your destiny until you come face-to-face with your Creator. In a world that tries to tell us every day that we get to write our own script in life and we “can be anything we want to be”, it is refreshing to stop and consider that the world’s message isn’t the whole truth by a long shot! Until God weighs in on the discussion, we are only looking at puzzle pieces of life that leave us puzzled. God puts the whole picture together.
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hether your group 3 Wis new or ongoing, it is always important to reflect on and review your values together. On page 90 is a Small Group Agreement with the values we’ve found most useful in sustaining healthy, balanced groups. We recommend that you choose one or two values—ones you haven’t previously focused on or have room to grow in—to emphasize during this study. Choose ones that will take your group to the next stage of intimacy and spiritual health.
Open your group with prayer. Not everyone will feel comfortable praying out loud or without a supplied text, but encourage the group to sit quietly and invite at least one person to ask God for His enlightening presence as you spend time together. As you begin, take time to pass around a copy of the Small Group Roster on page 81 or use a sheet of paper. Have everyone write down their contact information. Ask someone to make copies or type up a list with everyone’s information and email it to the group this week. hat have turned out to be some of the 1 Wbiggest decisions of your life? You may not have realized it at the time, but certain choices have changed everything. What have they been?
If your group is new, you may want to focus on welcoming newcomers or on sharing group ownership. Any group will quickly move from being the leader’s group to our group if everyone understands the goals of the group and shares a small role. See the Team Roles in the Appendix for help on how to do this well.
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LEARN Much of what Dr. Evans has to say in this opening session revolves around a brief comment about one of the greatest figures in the Old Testament, King David: “For David, after he had served the purpose of God in his own generation, fell asleep, and was laid among his fathers, and underwent decay” (Acts 13:36). Those words were said by the Apostle Paul, preaching to a mixed audience of Jews and Gentiles in the city of Antioch in the country of Pisidia. But he knew his hearers would understand what he meant. It would be like us referring to George Washington as one of the founders of our country. His life is part of the record of history. We can see the effects of such a life because it “served the purpose of God” in its generation and we still see the effects today.
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Dr. Evans gave us a detailed definition of destiny in his teaching: “Destiny is your customized life calling, for which God has equipped and ordained you, in order to bring Him the greatest glory and the maximum expansion of His kingdom.” How would you summarize this in your own words?
hat words in that W definition are most challenging for you to understand? Share them with the group and we’ll work together at understanding them. Here’s one to start with: what does “ordained” mean? Any other challenging words?
How did you understand Dr. 6 Evans’ statement: “Destiny always begns with God’s place in your life”?
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r. Evans used the story of D Hank Aaron and Yogi Berra to remind us that we need to be mindful of what “voices” we are listening to. What are some of the voices that try to define people’s destiny for them? How do you identify a trustworthy voice?
Read Acts 13:13–41. This is the transcript of Paul’s sermon in Antioch. This is not the most famous Antioch (Syria) in the New Testament, but one of the stops on Paul’s first missionary journey in the middle of modern day Turkey. Here, as everywhere, he started his ministry in a new place by visiting the local Jewish synagogue where there were Jews and Gentile converts worshipping the God of Abraham. How does verse 17 make a similar point about God’s purposes as Paul makes about David later in the message?
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Verses 19, 20 and 21 all use the word “gave” in a way that points to God’s purposes. How?
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on this statement 9 Cbyomment Dr. Evans: “When you’re attached to God, you’re attached to something bigger, so that everything God does with, in, to and through you becomes attractive for His kingdom”?
Verses 24-25 summarize John the Baptist’s impact. How did he understand his own destiny?
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LIVE If destiny is ultimately confirmed by the way we live before God and others, then destiny and God’s purposes are intended as the best way to relate to others within our capacities and opportunities. Wisdom is how we use what God has given us to make the most in service of Him and others.
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D eveloping our ability to serve God according to the leading of the Holy Spirit takes time and persistence in getting to know our Lord. We must take time in prayer, in God’s Word and in meditation, to let God speak to us daily. Which of the following next steps are you willing to take for the next few weeks?
Prayer. Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal.
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Meditation. Try meditation as a way of internalizing God’s Word more deeply. Copy a portion of Scripture on a card and tape it somewhere in your line of sight, such as your car’s dashboard or the kitchen table. Think about it when you sit at red lights or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words. Several passages for meditation are suggested on the Daily Reflections pages in each session.
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LOVE OTHERS The destiny God has in mind for us will always include others. The more we understand the way God has put us together, the more we can begin to see how He can impact the lives of others through us. of the five people in your 12 Mlifeakewhoa listwould be impacted the most by changes that might occur as a result of your understanding God’s plans for your destiny during these sessions:
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Reflection. The Daily Reflections provided in each session are an opportunity to read a short Bible passage for five days in the week for the course of this study. Write down your insights on what you read each day. On the sixth day summarize what God has shown you throughout the week.
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The memory verse for this session is Acts 13:36. It is included on the first page of this lesson. This verse includes a statement about David we hope will be said about our lives, too. Living wisely into our destiny means ultimately surrendering our understanding of life in favor of God’s understanding. Loving God means we trust Him enough to depend on Him in every way. As you seek to grow in wisdom, share the following actions with your group as a way of practicing a destiny-oriented life.
When Paul showed up in a new town, he always began his ministry in the local Jewish synagogue. He could assume a certain amount of common ground with the people who gathered there. They had a shared destiny. They were all natural or adopted members of Abraham’s family and looked at the history of the people of God as their own history. Paul’s objective was always two-fold: first, to remind his listeners of God’s great worksand plans and second, to tell them the Good News that God’s plans had been fulfilled in His Son, Jesus Christ.
llow everyone to answer this question: 13 A“How can we pray for you this week?” Be sure to write prayer requests on your Prayer and Praise Report on page 92. hat kind of worship fits your group? 14 WSpend a few minutes worshiping God together. Here are two ideas: Have someone use their musical gifts to lead the group in a worship song. Try singing a cappella, using a worship CD, or have someone accompany your singing with a musical instrument.
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Read a passage of Scripture together. Make it a time of praise and worship as the words remind you of all God has done for you. Choose a psalm or other favorite verse.
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very believer should have a plan for 15 E spending time alone with God. At the end of each session we provide Daily Reflections for you to use in your daily time with Him. These will offer reinforcement of the principles we are learning, and develop or strengthen your habit of time alone with God throughout the week.
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“Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine, and acts upon them, may be compared to a wise man, who built his house on the rock.” (Matthew 7:24)
Reflection Question: How would you explain the connection between Jesus’ words and the discovery and practice of destiny in a person’s life?
“He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also set eternity in their heart, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end.” (Ecclesiastes 3:11)
Reflection Question: How did Solomon describe the importance of God in un derstanding destiny?
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“So teach us to number our days, that we may present to You a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90:12)
Reflection Question: How do you think a deep respect for the brevity of life helps us develop a sensitivity to destiny?
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“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)
Reflection Question: Dr. Evans talked about the aspect of destiny that is intergenerational. How has your family shaped your destiny?
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“Therefore as you have received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, having been firmly rooted and now being built up in Him and established in your faith, just as you were instructed, and overflowing with gratitude.” (Colossians 2:6-7)
Reflection Question: In what ways is the attitude of gratitude a direct result of understanding and living out your God-given destiny?
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For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10) Let’s think for a moment about the man through whom God’s Spirit wrote this session’s memory verse, the Apostle Paul. Although he became the contributor of almost half the New Testament and the planter of many of the first churches in Christianity, his early life gave little obvious indications of his destiny. Beginning with his participation in the stoning death of Stephen described in Acts 7–8, Paul quickly became the uncompromising persecutor of Christians in Jerusalem and everywhere he could track them down. He was merciless right up to a moment on the road to Damascus when God showed up with mercy, knocked Paul off his horse and tuned his heart to sing His praise. God turned an avowed enemy of the cross of Jesus into one of its greatest messengers. It was Paul’s destiny to be sold out to God, but it took God’s special work to finally show Paul what that really meant. God’s workmanship in us is original, but He also keeps tuning and adjusting us all along the way!
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LISTEN Open your group with prayer. Focus on the lessons about destiny applied in the past week and invite group members to share their thoughts and insights about their own destiny during the past few days. or two tools or appliances that 1 Describe find sooneuseful you you cannot imagine doing without them—ever. What did people do to accomplish the tasks before those items were invented?
ost people want to live a healthy, balanced 2 Mlife. A regular medical check-up is a good way to measure health and spot potential problems. In the same way, a spiritual checkup is vital to your spiritual well-being. The Personal Health Assessment was designed to give you a quick snapshot, or pulse, of your spiritual health. Take a few minutes alone to complete the Personal Health Assessment, found on page 82 in the Appendix. After answering each question, tally your results. Then, pair up with another person and briefly share one purpose that is going well and one that needs a little work.
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LEARN Most of us struggle to find a place or role that makes us feel like we are making a significant contribution. This memory verse may be familiar, but we wonder how it could possibly apply to us when we feel so inept much of the time!
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The definition of destiny for this series is, “your unique, customized reason for being.” Give one example from your own life that might be a clue to your destiny?
hat was an event or 3 Wactivity you participated in as a child that you really felt like you belonged and were doing something meaningful?
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Dr. Evans also said, “The church is suffering because masterpieces are not working. They aren’t fulfilling their destinies, but they are taking up space.” Discuss what he is concerned about.
Read the context for this session’s memory verse: Ephesians 1–10. Paul starts with death and ends with destiny. Take some time to unpack these verses as Paul’s conclusion is a significant lesson about living. Salvation from death by grace through faith ought to lead to a different kind of living! What kind of “death” is Paul talking about in verses 1–3?
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Dr. Evans also pointed out that too many Christians think they are “off–theshelf,” cookie cutter versions of people who are only unique by accident rather than by design. When have you felt that way? Why?
Paraphrase verses 4–7 in your own words. What does he say is the ultimate purpose of our salvation?
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Evans said, “If man can 4 Ddo r. that with machines, God can certainly do it with people.” What was he talking about and do you agree or disagree with his statement?
In discussing the session’s 7 Memory Verse, Ephesians 2:10, Dr. Evans connected the term “workmanship” with the word “masterpiece”. What do you think would be the effect in a person’s life if they were convinced they are a masterpiece?
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LIVE One of the marks of developing group intimacy is when we start disclosing things about ourselves that are not normal parts of conversation—like our failures. It is one thing to talk about societal, family or public figure’s failures; it is something else entirely to come clean about our own. Destiny causes us to think about cooperating or not with God’s plan. Accountability with other Christians can be crucial to keeping us on track. One of the marks of developing group intimacy is when we start disclosing things about ourselves that are not normal parts of conversation—like our failures. It is one thing to talk about societal, family or public figure’s failures; it is something else entirely to come clean about our own. Destiny causes us to think about cooperating or not with God’s plan. Accountability with other Christians can be crucial to keeping us on track. air up with someone in your group. (We 9 Psuggest that men partner with men and women with women.) This person will be your spiritual partner for the rest of this study. He or she doesn’t have to be your best friend, but will simply encourage you to complete the goals you set for yourself during this study. Following through on a resolution is tough when you’re on your own, but we’ve found it makes all the difference to have a partner cheering us on.
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On pages 83 is a Personal Health Plan, a chart for keeping track of your spiritual progress. In the box that says, “WHO are you connecting with spiritually?” write your partner’s name. In the box that says, “WHAT is your next step for growth?” write one step you would like to take for growth regarding living as God’s workmanship during this study. Look back on your Personal Health Assessment for ideas. You have now begun to address two of God’s five purposes for your life! They are part of the general destiny God has designed for all His children. You can see that the Personal Health Plan contains space for you to record the ups and downs of your progress each week in the column labeled “My Progress.” And now with your spiritual partner you can do it together and not alone. Tell your partner what step you chose. When you check in with your partner each week, the “Partner’s Progress” column on this chart will provide a place to record your partner’s progress in the goal he or she chose. On pages 83 you will find a Sample Personal Health Plan filled in as an example. For now, do not worry about the WHERE, WHEN and HOW questions on the Personal Health Plan. one or two experiences in your 10 Ilifedentify you would call “failures” or “mistakes” and ask your partner to help you reexamine what you might learn from it. Seek to answer three questions: Is there anything I can do to resolve that previous mistake?
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LOVE OTHERS Mistakes always involve people (even if it is just us). The pursuit of our destiny is not a straight line with no detours. One of the aspects of real love for God and our neighbors is that mistakes matter. We care enough to correct, forgive and seek forgiveness when mistakes have occurred. Those who do not love pretend not to care about mistakes. But genuine relationships, reciprocal partnerships, deal with mistakes. They put us in the best place to learn from our failures. When we have someone committed to us for the long haul, we are more likely to face the possible shame and difficulty of having to set aside our pride and try another approach. Our destiny fulfilled will include the failures and mistakes we have overcome as well as our progress in obedience to Christ. would you describe a relationship 11 HwithowJesus Christ as the ultimate and perfect reciprocal partnership? What did Jesus do for you to make that relationship a reality? How did He give and serve in such a way that He deserves to receive your ultimate trust? (Reference Ephesians 2:8–10)
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look at the Circles of Life diagram 12 Ttoakethearight and write the names of two or three people you know who need to know Christ. Commit to praying for God’s guidance and an opportunity to share with each of them. n what ways is talking with others about 13 I your relationship with Jesus an act of giving and serving? What might you receive as a result of your actions?
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STUDY NOTES Here’s a review of the highlights of Dr. Evans’ discussion of Ephesians 2:8–10:
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• You were saved (vv. 8–9) to be a masterpiece (v.10). • Neither your circumstances nor situation can nullify your uniqueness. • By definition, because you are unique, you are rare. • God’s name and reputation are connected with your life. He is “wearing” your life. • God is also committed to your ultimate protection.
LOVE GOD God doesn’t make mistakes. When it came to planning your destiny, no angels ever heard God mutter, “Oops! He doesn’t have to learn anything.” Yet it is amazing that He chooses to be in relationship with us who are so prone to making mistakes on almost a daily basis. Much of our time in conversation with Him ought to be seeking His direction and help regarding the lessons we can learn from our mistakes. He is committed to producing a finished masterpiece out of our lives. Make sure as you go through the prayer exercises below that you are allowing the group to pray with you about things you are trying to learn from God.
prayer requests in your group 14 Sandharethenyourgather in smaller circles of three or four people to pray. Be sure to have everyone write down the personal requests of the members to use as a reminder to pray for your group throughout the week. The Prayer and Praise Report is on page 92. Then pray for one another in your circle. Do not put pressure on anyone to pray aloud. When you pray for each person, you may find it meaningful to hold hands or place your hands on another person’s shoulder. Jesus often touched those He healed to communicate His care for them. a few minutes to talk about what 15 Titakewould take to make time with God a priority every day or even five or six days a week. Do not demand an hour or even a half-hour of time; consider drawing near to God for a few minutes each day and gradually you will desire more. Use the Daily Reflections at the end of each session for drawing near to God.
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“The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside quiet waters. He restores my soul; He guides me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake.” (Psalm 23:1-3)
Reflection Question: Based on these three verses, how does “for His name’s sake” talk about whose reputation is really on the line with your life? In what ways?
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Reflection Question: How do these verses describe God’s purposes in working in our lives together as the church?
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Reflection Question: Based on Jesus’ actions, how important do you think is the connection between destiny and service to God and others?
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Reflection Question: In what places in your life have you noticed opportunities for you to serve others in unique and perhaps unexpected ways?
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Although a number of familiar Bible people will be mentioned by Dr. Evans in this session, the central figure we want to focus on is Joseph (the Old Testament one, not the Joseph who was Mary’s husband and raised Jesus). The story of Joseph takes up much of Genesis 37—50. He was one of two sons born to Jacob’s wife, Rachel, one of four women who bore sons that became Jacob/Israel’s twelve tribes. As the son of a wealthy sheep farmer, Joseph grew up privileged for his time; but, as Dr. Evans will explain, his family was dysfunctional. Joseph grew up with a strong sense of destiny which his family had a hard time accepting. He had two dreams during his teen years that deeply offended his older brothers. Joseph’s sense of destiny and the fact that Jacob, the patriarch of the family, treated Joseph as an obvious favorite, created a toxic situation in the family. The brothers set out to kill Joseph but ended up selling him into slavery. The spiral in Joseph’s life parallels the sequence
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Turn to your Personal Health Plan on page 83 now. Share with your partner how your time with God went this week. What is one thing you discovered? Did you make a commitment to a next step that you can share? What obstacles hindered you from following through this week? Make a note about your partner’s progress and how you can pray for him or her. leaders is one 3 Rofotating the group values we highly recommend for your group. People need opportunities to experiment with ways in which God may have gifted them. Your group will give you all the encouragement you need before, during and after the session. We also suggest you rotate host homes, with the host of each meeting providing the refreshments. Some groups like to let the host lead the meeting each week, while others like to let one person host while another person leads. The Small Group Calendar on page 91 is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Do not pass this up! It will revolutionize your group.
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LEARN In this session, Dr. Evans highlights Paul, Peter, Moses, Esther and Joseph. Each of these figures dealt with good, bad and bitterness in their lives. They may have all lived long ago, but the Bible tells us their lives were recorded for our benefit. In 1 Corinthians 10:11 Paul says, “Now these things happened to them as an example, and they were written for our instruction, upon whom the ends of the ages have come.” of the Bible people 4 WDr.hich Evans mentioned do you identify with most closely? Why?
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hat makes the deepest 8 Wimpression on you about Joseph’s life and how he handled what must have been overwhelming sources of possible bitterness in his life?
It is not hard to see how God could use what is already good in our lives to expand into much more good! We take Romans 8:28 to be true: “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” But we often resist applying that verse to the bad and bitter events in our lives. Dr. Evans used Peter’s experiences in Luke 22:31–34 and John 21:1–23 to highlight the amazing way God took a stunning failure and used it to teach and transform a man into an effective leader in the early church. Read those two passages and observe Jesus’ awareness and the caring way he corrected and affirmed a hurting man. When you think of Joseph’s “bitter” experiences, it is almost shocking to see how he kept bouncing back from unfair and even humiliating setbacks. What do you think kept him going on a day-to-day basis? What keeps you going when things are most bitter?
r. Evans defines good 5 Dthings as positive events or things in your life that benefitted you and the purposes of God. What would be an example of two good things from your life?
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an area of service that God has put 9 Ions there your heart to serve in your local church? How are you connecting that desire with your efforts to let God work out His destiny for you? Commit to taking the first step and be willing to let God lead you to the ministry that expresses your passion. In your Personal Health Plan on page 83, next to the “Develop” icon, answer the “WHERE are you serving?” question. If you are not currently serving, note one area where you will consider serving.
LOVE OTHERS As we have already mentioned, there are certain universal aspects to destiny. For example, the Great Commandment is something God wants every one of us to live out in our lives. If we are not increasing our capacity and efforts at loving God and others, we fall short of our destiny. God’s real messengers communicate love, even when the message is an unexpected one or a hard one. n the last session, we asked you to write 10 Isome names in the Circles of Life diagram. Who did you identify as the people in your life who need to meet Jesus? Go back to the Circles of Life diagram on page 25 to help you think of the various people you come in contact with on a regular basis who need to know Jesus more deeply. Consider the following ideas for action and make a plan to follow through on one of them this week.
To what extent have you been willing to speak and act for God, even when no one seems aware that is your intent? How willing are you to speak into the lives of others about their God-designed destiny?
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Loving God definitely includes listening for and listening to His messengers. It involves developing an attentive attitude about life, realizing that at any time, on any day, God may find a way to get a word through to us. God is working out our destiny every day. In fact, according to Psalm 19:1, it happens everyday. For, “the heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands.”(NIV). Loving God also involves trusting Him with our needs and the needs of others.
Peter’s humiliating experience that is introduced in Luke 22 and concluded in John 21 is a case study in what God will allow into our lives to accomplish His purposes. God allows failure and pain into our lives because His perspective is larger and longer than ours. We are involved in something far bigger than our horizons. God’s glory often means we do not get our way. We may not see how God can possibly bring good out of what we can only see as failure and defeat, and yet God can and does. If we give Him the honor He is due, we will find over and over the experience of Peter, standing dripping wet by the fire and realizing God still plans to use our brokenness and frailty for His glory.
hare your praises and prayer requests 12 Swith one another. Record these on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 92. Then, spend time praying for each other. nd your meeting by singing a song 13 Etogether or with someone closing the evening with a prayer.
Joseph maintained a quiet confidence in God that allowed him to overcome circumstances that would have crushed most of us. He had an amazing character that was increasingly strengthened by what he had to go through, but the greatest thing about Joseph was his view of God. In the end, God showed Joseph and the world that He could make something amazing out of the life of the boy who had been rejected by his brothers and sold into slavery. Despite whatever circumstances or failures are in your past, today and tomorrow can be filled with hope if you will place yourself and your destiny in God’s hands.
Evans stated that it is crucial for us 11 D tor.realize we are part of a larger plan. God has our lives in mind for something bigger than ourselves and what we can accomplish on our own. God’s glory is worth whatever combination of good, bad and bitter He mixes up for us. How willing are you to surrender your plans and desires into God’s plan for something BIGGER?
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Reflection Question: How does this passage help you understand why God allows certain difficulties into your life?
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Reflection Question: Our destinies are unique. How settled are you into a life of following Jesus?
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with our destiny as well. For this session, the focus is on God’s amazing intersections that steered Saul right to the place God wanted him to be.
No matter how alone or isolated any one of us may feel, life is a series of what Dr. Evans calls “intersections.” These are people who cross our pathway and events that come out of nowhere. They affect us in many ways. God uses them to shape our destiny, often in ways we do not realize until later. Our Bible character for this session is King Saul before he was king. He was just a great looking young man, doing chores for his dad, and chasing donkeys. What started out to be a basic job turned out to be quite difficult as the donkeys seemed to be hiding. One thing led to another and the journey to find the donkeys became the journey to be found by God and anointed as king. What 1 Samuel 9–10 describes is a series of seemingly small intersections with people that led Saul to his destiny—the throne of Israel. At least until the time he became king, Saul’s life is a great example of the way God gets us to places we might never have thought to go ourselves. What we do when God gets us there has a lot to do
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The story of Saul’s adventures alongside Dr. Evans’ significant intersections are two good examples of God’s routeplanning style. Add into that mix the way he steered Moses and we are getting the picture that no encounter is by chance, and every person we meet is someone God has placed in our path (or placed us in their path) as an intersection.
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he principle of confirmation T was also a theme in Dr. Evans’ own experience. How did God confirm some intersections in both Saul’s and Dr. Evans’ lives? How has He done so in yours?
to “see the man of God” as a reminder that God is in the mundane as well as the miraculous; in the ordinary as well as the extraordinary. So, what did he mean when he challenged us to be “faithful in the normal stuff”?
verse to guide our thinking about intersections: “For I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is no one like Me, Declaring the end from the beginning, And from ancient times things which have not been done, Saying, ‘My purpose will be established, And I will accomplish all My good pleasure’”. Why is God the One we must trust with the intersections in our lives?
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session we are looking differently 11 I atn athisprevious insight that our lives are part of God’s bigger plan. His glory is the ultimate outcome of that plan. How does your trust in God affect the way you see the bigger picture even when things aren’t going quite the way you planned?
LOVE OTHERS At one point in his teaching, Dr. Evans mentioned the fact that any small group gathering is really a collection of possible intersections that God has generated in those lives. People almost invariably point to both individuals and small groups as significant factors God has used to give direction. But these intersections are only as effective as we are willing to allow them to be in our lives. While we share in a small group, we are also surrounded with neighbors that we are called by God to love as ourselves.
Loving others can seem like a risk until we remember that somewhere in life, those we have loved will probably have the chance to love us back when we least expect it. That is also one of the reasons that we have been so grateful that you have become part of a life group. It is within community that you are able to find people that can lift your burdens, pray for you and express genuine concern for you in your moments of crisis. hare with each other how you have done 12 Swith inviting the people on the Circles of Life to church or your small group. n your Personal Health Plan on page 83, 13 Inext to the “Sharing” icon, answer the “WHEN are you shepherding another person in Christ?” question.
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As we begin to appreciate intersections in our lives and how God uses them, we can see that part of what it means to love God is to take God’s reputation seriously. David summarized his day-to-day relationship with God in these familiar words: “He restores my soul; He guides me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.” (Psalm 23:3) That phrase, “for His name’s sake”, is about learning to love upholding God’s reputation in our lives. The “paths of righteousness” are filled with God-arranged intersections!
Every authentic human story drives us to God. The harder someone tries to ignore or leave God out of their story, the more other people sense the gap or are suddenly aware of “who we are not talking about.” What makes a human story great are the intense moments when interaction with God and prayer really made a difference. The principle of intersections is a way of looking at the practical side of God’s sovereignty in our lives. He does not just supervise; He arranges, works miracles, over-rules decisions, provides strength and pretty much does in a thousand different ways all sorts of stuff we could never do for ourselves.
Loving God means we eagerly expand our understanding of Him, realizing that we will never come to the end of discovering more things about God. Share your praises and prayer requests with one another. Record these on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 92. What specific intersection(s) are on your mind right now that the rest of the group can pray for this week?
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Trust is crucial because much of the pattern God is weaving into our lives will not be readily apparent. Looking back we will see it better; in the middle of the action, we may wonder how it is going to turn out. But those moments of wondering are the perfect time to review and renew our confidence in God. This is not about how well we are going to manage life; this is all about how God is going to use our little lives as a masterpiece of His glory. As an exercise of observation, you can take almost any Bible character and trace the God-arranged intersections in his or her life. Seeing them will infuse confidence in you about God being able to do the same for you.
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Reflection Question: How does remembering what God has already done (in His Word and in our own lives) give us confidence in moving forward?
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Reflection Question: Some intersections (people and situations) are difficult. How does this passage help you have a plan for hard days?
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larger gatherings we now call church. Like small groups today, the early church gatherings were also places of transparency and intimacy. People did not dress up; they fessed up. They came together to listen to God. And they discovered that God attended their gatherings and spoke into their lives. The idea of meeting God in worship seems a little strange because we often confuse God’s omnipresence with His manifest presence. Yes, God is everywhere, but His Word makes it clear that in the context of real worship, God shows up with His manifest presence, His noticeable presence. As Dr. Evans says, when we are in alignment with God, He directs us and speaks to us. That happens when we understand and participate in worship in ways God desires us to approach Him.
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heck in with your spiritual partner or with 2 Canother partner if yours is absent. Talk about any challenges you are currently facing in reaching the goals you have set throughout this study. Tell your spiritual partner how he or she has helped you follow through with each step. Be sure to write down your partner’s progress on page 80.
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LEARN Dr. Evans touched on the vivid intersection that happened for Paul and Barnabas while they were in a worship setting in Antioch. It is quite clear that the setting itself was different from the way we often experience church. This was not just an audience experience with a couple of people leading; this was faceto-face interaction before God. The Holy Spirit was speaking through those men into each other’s lives. When God sends someone with a message for us, we ought to listen. arly in his teaching, Dr. 4 EEvans defined worship as
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in worship as teaching us the Word, applying it to our lives and leading our steps. How does this fit your understanding of the ministry of the Holy Spirit? In what settings have you sensed the Holy Spirit shaping your destiny?
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According to the Great Commandment, loving God takes everything we have: heart, soul, mind and strength. Loving God means accepting His promise of a plan for our future, even when we cannot see it. It means continuing to trust in the dark what we knew was true in the light. Our persistence in worship and continual efforts to improve our hunger for God are steps toward a clearer sense of destiny.
Ministering to the Lord is an interesting term for worship. As in all things that we do for God, we are the ultimate beneficiaries. God does not need our worship. His glory is not diminished or His countenance saddened because we did not deliver enough worship to Him. He ordains worship because it is very good for us to be in proper alignment with Him. He does not need our praise or “ministry” but we desperately need to take steps in that direction. The humility, change and growth that happen when we are open in worship before God cannot happen any other way.
urn to the Personal Health Plan on 14 Tpage 83 and individually consider the “HOW are you surrendering your heart?” question. Look to the Sample Personal Health Plan on page 83 for help. Share some of your thoughts in the group. hare your praises and prayer requests 15 S with one another. Record these on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 92. Then pray together for each other.
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A key to understanding fasting is the realization that we are not very hungry for God. We recognize many other hungers in our lives, but give little attention to the poverty of hunger for the only One truly worthy of our ultimate desires. Fasting is simply a way to say “No” to a familiar (physical) hunger in order to say “Yes” to greater hunger for God. No other reason for fasting fits as a part of worship. Romans 12:1–2 becomes the heart verse for those wanting to pursue worship as a lifestyle. It is a daily decision. As someone once said, the only problem with a living sacrifice is that it keeps crawling off the altar!
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Reflection Question: How does remembering what God has already done (in His Word and in our own lives) give us confidence in moving forward?
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Reflection Question: What is the connection between our attitude toward the Word of God and the clarity of our destiny?
“‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.”(Jeremiah 29:11)
Reflection Question: In preparation for the last session, how would tomorrow look different from here if you were certain that God already had things in hand regarding your life?
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‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11) Jeremiah is not most peoples’ favorite Bible person. He comes across like the bad-tempered uncle you would grow to love after you realized he had a heart of gold under his rough exterior. He was called the weeping prophet, and it is hard sometimes to figure out why he was weeping so much. Maybe it was because he was often treated like dirt. It could also be because he poured out his heart with God’s warnings for His people and they did not listen. Or it may have been because he had to watch God’s chosen people be crushed by a foreign invader and hauled off to captivity in Babylon. He had a sad life and a sad message—and he was not happy about it. But scattered here and there like golden nuggets, his writings have some of the most profound promises and statements that any Bible writer ever put to parchment. The passage above is one of them. Another is Lamentations 3:22–23, “The Lord’s loving kindnesses indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness” And then there’s this little conversation between God and Jeremiah about his destiny:
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations. Then I said, “Alas, Lord GOD! Behold, I do not know how to speak, because I am a youth.” But the Lord said to me, “Do not say, ‘I am a youth,’ Because everywhere I send you, you shall go, and all that I command you, you shall speak. “Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you to deliver you,” declares the Lord.“ (Jeremiah 1:5-8)
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LISTEN Open your group with prayer. Thank God for the experiences of the last five weeks and ask for His wisdom in this final session and for deciding on a plan for the future of the group. f your group is active and playful, highlight 1 Ieach person for a few moments and have the rest of the group offer suggestions about their great future based on the good qualities that are apparent today. imply ask about what it feels like to know 2 SGod’s got our future in His hands and He knows it already, but He will not be revealing it all to us until the time is right for each development. ake time in this final session to connect 3 Twith your spiritual partner. Check in with each other about the progress you have made in your spiritual growth during this study. Make plans about whether you will continue your relationship with your spiritual partner outside of your Bible study group.
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LEARN So Jeremiah dared to speak hope into a hopeless situation. One of Dr. Evans’ statements about his childhood on the East Coast was, “There wasn’t a lot of hope in Baltimore until God stepped in.” Destiny by definition implies a destination. We can believe we are making up our own, but if we are, then honesty would have to conclude that our destiny is not too hopeful. But Jeremiah’s words come back to us again and again, reminding us that God’s working out our destiny, even when we are tempted to think it is up to us!
DEEPER STUDY Read Jeremiah 29:11–14 and discuss the context of God’s great promise of a future and hope for us:
negative and a positive: “plans for welfare and not for calamity.” Why do you think God included both? We all face difficulties and even tragedies…how are they different from “calamity”?
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When we think about the shining examples of destiny in the Bible, one of the glaring things they have in common is that they all passed through “furnaces” along the way. They all had to stay true to the God who they know had a future and a hope for them. Take a brief look at the lives of each of the following, and identify one or more “furnaces” they experienced as they served God:
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LIVE Destiny has been an all-toobrief encounter with some amazing lessons from the Bible. But we would be missing the boat if we thought that the same God who wrote this amazing book could not write as an amazing story in our lives. Hopefully our times together have been a real encouragement for you to endure in the unique journey of life in which God has promised to walk with you toward your destiny. you describe the impact 11 Hofowthesewould Bible lessons on your thought patterns and responses about the present and future over the weeks we have been meeting?
Review your Small Group Agreement on page 90 and evaluate how well you met your goals. Discuss any changes you want to make as you move forward. As your group starts a new study this is a great time to take on a new role or change roles of service in your group. What new role will you take on? If you are uncertain, maybe your group members have some ideas for you. Remember you are not making a life long commitment to the new role; it will only be for a few weeks. Maybe someone would like to share a role with you if you do not feel ready to serve solo.
LOVE OTHERS Very few Christians can honestly claim to be solitary successes in spiritual growth or confidence about their destiny. Obviously, we do not even become Christians without God’s direct, gracious intervention on our behalf. There are no self-made believers. The impact of a small group experience, if we will let it, reminds us that we share a lot in common with other people and we can often gain significant insight into what God is doing in our lives by loving others enough to observe what He is doing in their lives! can you think of from the 13 Wlasthatfiveexamples weeks (involving intersections, experiences, worship or your uniqueness, in one way or another) that you learned from and responded differently to in the company of this group?
f your group still needs to make decisions 12 I about continuing to meet after this session, have that discussion now. Talk about what you will study, who will lead and where and when you will meet.
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n what instances have you been able to 14 I join someone outside this group as they experienced a destiny moment, knowing you had prayer and companionship backup in this group?
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B ased on everything you have thought about in these sessions, what would you say it means to thrive in the Christian life toward a God-pleasing destiny?
LOVE GOD As often as we think of loving God as an individual response, expressing that love and experiencing His immediate response actually occurs regularly in the company of other Christians. Do not overlook the following opportunities to practice time-honored ways for believers to tangibly express their love for God and love for one another.
for your prayer requests 16 Candlosetakeby apraying couple of minutes to review the praises you have recorded over the past five weeks on the Prayer and Praise Report on page 92. Thank God for what He has done in your group during this study.
• In Jeremiah’s context, he saw families frayed, the economy in crisis, spiritual lives a disaster, but God had a plan. • No matter what your situation, it is not over! You are still here; so is God! • Driving with your eyes on the rearview mirror will lead to crashes; pursuing destiny, driving with your eyes forward with only short glances behind you, will prevent you from being held hostage to the rear-view mirror of the past. • God’s plans are like an active GPS unit; they recalibrate after every wrong turn. The destination has not changed. God still has our future destiny in view. • Finish well. Our lives can always be better at the end than they were at the start with God’s help.
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Reflection Question: How do these familiar verses speak to you about destiny?
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Reflection Question: What decision will you make or action will you take today based solely on the truth of this verse?
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Reflection Question: How does remembering what God has already done (in His Word and in our own lives) give us confidence in moving forward?
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Reflection Question: In what ways have you noticed God’s patience and faithfulness in your life, making it possible over and over to find Him?
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Reflection Question: In what ways do you acknowledge God during “regular” days and how do you acknowledge Him during what may seem like “destiny” days?
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FAQ s WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP? Like all fun things in life–have a party! A “get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the Group Agreement (page 90) and share the names of a few friends you can invite to join you. But most importantly, have fun before your study time begins.
WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP? This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray with your group and then brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list. Another good strategy is to ask church leaders to make an announcement or allow a bulletin insert. No matter how you find members, it’s vital that you stay on the lookout for new people to join your group. All groups tend to go through healthy attrition–the result of moves, releasing new leaders, ministry opportunities, and so forth–and if the group gets too small, it could be at risk of shutting down. If you and your group stay open, you’ll be amazed at the people God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life. You never know!
HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET? It’s totally up to the group–once you come to the end of this 6-week study. Most groups meet weekly for at least their first 6 weeks, but every other week can work as well. We strongly recommend that the group meet for the first six months on a weekly basis if at all possible.
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This allows for continuity, and if people miss a meeting they aren’t gone for a whole month. At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she wants to continue on for another 6-week study. Some groups launch relationships for years to come, and others are stepping-stones into another group experience. Either way, enjoy the journey.
CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN? Absolutely! This may sound crazy but one of the best ways to do this study is not with a full house but with a few friends. You may choose to gather with one other couple who would enjoy going to the movies or having a quiet dinner and then walking through this study. Jesus will be with you even if there are only two of you (Matthew 18:20). What if this group is not working for us? You’re not alone! This could be the result of a personality conflict, life stage difference, geographical distance, level of spiritual maturity, or any number of things. Relax. Pray for God’s
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either in the same home or in another home nearby. This can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the most common idea is to decide that you need to have a night to invest in your spiritual lives individually or as a couple, and to make your own arrangements for child care. No matter what decision the group makes, the best approach is to dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.
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Most groups have an official leader. But ideally, the group will mature and members will rotate the leadership of meetings. We have discovered that healthy groups rotate hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis. This model ensures that all members grow, give their unique contribution, and develop their gifts. This study guide and the Holy Spirit can keep things on track even when you rotate leaders. Christ has promised to be in your midst as you gather. Ultimately, God is your leader each step of the way.
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CONNECTING with God’s family I am deepening my understanding of and friendship with God in community with others. I am growing in my ability both to share and to show my love to others I am willing to share my real needs for prayer and support from others. I am resolving conflict constructively and am willing to forgive others.
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DEVELOPING your SHAPE to serve others I have discovered and am further developing my unique God-given SHAPE for ministry. I am regularly praying for God to show me opportunities to serve Him and others. I am serving in a regular (once-a-month or more) ministry in the church or community. I am a team player in my small group by sharing some group role or responsibility.
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HOSTING AN OPEN HOUSE Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about whom they could invite to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two. Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session. You can skip this kick-off meeting if your time is limited, but you’ll experience a huge benefit if you take the time to connect with each other in this way.
If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you only have two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be open to join you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other. A simple meal or good desserts always make a kick-off meeting more fun. After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: “What is your favorite family vacation?” or “What is one thing you love about your church/our community?” or “What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know?” Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study. You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities.
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LEAD E RS HIP T R A I N I N G 1 0 1 Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock. There are a few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads. R emember that you are not alone. God 1 knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy - they all were reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you”. (Hebrews 13:5) Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime, you will be blessed as you serve. D on’t try to do it alone. Pray right now for 2 God to help you build a healthy leadership team. If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help, you’ll be surprised at the response. J ust be yourself. If you won’t be you, who 3 will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night!
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what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it. Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items in the appendix, be sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works. Finally, review “Outline for Each Session” so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study. ray for your group members by name. 5 PBefore you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name. You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely. Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead! hen you ask a question, be patient. 6 WSomeone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question, and if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time. rovide transitions between questions. 7 PWhen guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage. Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud.
up into small groups each week, 8 Borreak they won’t stay. If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people during the Learn, Live and Love sections of the study. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle. Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests. challenge (for new or first time 9 Final leaders): Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself with a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more than ready for your first meeting. Matthew 9:36 1 Peter 5:2-4 Psalm 23 Ezekiel 34:11-16 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12
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S MALL G R O UP AG R EEM ENT Our Expectations: To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth. Group Attendance
To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar will minimize this issue.)
Safe Environment
To help create a safe place where people can be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)
Respect Differences
To be gentle and gracious to people with different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or “imperfections” in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.
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To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.
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To be not just takers but givers of life. We want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our God-given gifts.
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To remember that every member is a minister and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time (See the Team Roles).
Rotating Hosts/ Leaders and Homes
To encourage different people to host the group in their homes, and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each meeting. (See the Group Calendar)
Our Times Together: • Refreshments/mealtimes ___________________________________________________ • Childcare _________________________________________________________________ • When we will meet (day of week) ____________________________________________ • Where we will meet (place) _________________________________________________ • We will begin at (time) ______________ and end at _____________________________ • We will do our best to have some or all of us attend a worship service together. Our primary worship service time will be ______________________________________ • Date of this agreement ______________________________________________________ • Date we will review this agreement again ______________________________________ • Who (other than the leader) will review this agreement at the end of this study ______________________________________________________________________
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