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Copyright © 2014 by _________________ ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Published by My Healthy Church 1445 N. Boonville Ave. Springfield, Missouri 65802 No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means -- electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwise -- except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior written permission of the publisher. Copyright and use of the curriculum template is retained by Brett Eastman. Permission for use is given to My Healthy Church in all forms of distribution. Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotes are taken from the HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishing House. All rights reserved. All Scripture quotations noted (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation. Copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved. Scripture quotations noted NASB are from the NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE, © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. ISBN Printed in the United States of America

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USING THIS

WORKBOOK TOOLS TO HELP YOU HAVE A GREAT SMALL GROUP EXPERIENCE! 1. Notice in the Table of Contents there are three sections: (1) Sessions; (2) Appendices; and (3) Small Group Leaders. Familiarize yourself with the Appendices. Some of them will be used in the sessions themselves. 2. If you are facilitating/leading or co-leading a small group, the section Small Group Leaders will give you some hard-learned experiences of others that will encourage you and help you avoid many common obstacles to effective small group leadership. 3. Use this workbook as a guide, not a straightjacket. If the group responds to the lesson in an unexpected but honest way, go with that. If you think of a better question than the next one in the lesson, ask it. Take to heart the insights included in the Frequently Asked Questions pages and the Small Group Leaders section. 4. Enjoy your small group experience. 5. Read the Outline for Each Session on the next pages so that you understand how the sessions will flow.

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ENDORSEMENTS

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“Everyone needs hope. But what do you do when you find yourself without it? Hope Rising will encourage you to hold on to the hope that Christ has for us.”

CHRISTINE CAINE Founder of The A21 Campaign

CRAIG GROESCHEL | Senior Pastor of LifeChurch.tv Author of Altar Ego, Becoming Who God Says You Are

“Everybody needs hope. Hope Rising is an authentic and gutsy dealing with life, faith and God; especially so when some things are not making sense. I love Gene Appel. I love his heart and I love the way that he treats complex issues with insight, sensitivity and integrity. He speaks as one who has tasted pain but without the negative residue. There is something very powerful about people sharing their stories, too. Hope Rising will birth hope in many who desperately long for it and feel like it is in short supply.”

“After I watched this video series , my first thought was ‘At last!’ The stories in Hope Rising will awaken your own stories. Each one is a story of triumph and tragedy that will inspire you to believe that God is most obviously present even when he seems apparently absent. Gene’s teaching let me know that there’s someone who truly understands that God’s strength is made perfect in our imperfections. This is a resource you’ll go back to again and again.” PETE WILSON | Senior Pastor CrossPoint Church NASHVILLE, TN

DALE STEVENSON | Senior Pastor Crossway Baptist Church MELBOURNE, AUSTRALIA

“You know restaurants, movies and sports teams all can get vastly over-rated, but not so with hope. That’s why I’m so excited about this series! My buddy Gene Appel knows as much about hanging onto hope through the challenges of life as anybody I know. He’d be the first to tell you that there are a lot of things in life that are overrated, but HOPE is not one of them!”

“My friend Gene Appel is an encourager, communicator and teacher whose message of hope will strengthen your faith and elevate your life. Hope Rising presents a living message that will enable you to overcome difficult circumstances with the confident expectation that your future is in God’s Hands.” JACK GRAHAM | Pastor Prestonwood Baptist Church PLANO, TX

MIKE BREAUX | Author and Teaching Pastor Heartland Community Church ROCKFORD, IL

“Everyone needs hope. Without it we curl up and die. With it the giants in our lives can be faced up to and conquered. Hope Rising will remind you of the power and reason for the hope that we have in Christ. This is a message that can change you and your church. I recommend it.”

“HOPE RISING is a powerful and creative answer to life’s difficult questions about faith and humanity. Gene Appel has assembled stories of real sojourners who’ve traveled the uneven roads and now have gathered to offer a tangible hope to others on the same passage. If you need not only answers but understanding, this is for you. “ WAYNE CORDEIRO | Author and Pastor New Hope Christian Fellowship

LARRY OSBORNE | Author and Pastor North Coast Church VISTA, CA

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“Gene Appel is a fantastic communicator who insightfully guides us to the power of hope, and the One who gives it. Hope Rising speaks straight to our fears, concerns, and worries and offers us more than a cliché but a profound living hope that can sustain us through all of life’s ups and downs. Gene’s teaching, along with the many stories of life change, are an incredible gift to us all.” JUD WILHITE | Author of Pursued Senior Pastor of Central Christian Church LAS VEGAS, NV

“Gene Appel has done a fantastic job tackling one of the most important topics that any of us will ever ponder. Hope. It’s the thing that if we have it, we feel very alive, and if we lose it, we seem to lose our very being. That’s why I love this series. It’s an awesome reminder that if we’ll allow it, we will experience Hope Rising!” LINCOLN BREWSTER Integrity Music Recording Artist and Worship Arts Pastor Bayside Church | GRANITE BAY, CA

“Hope Rising offers exactly what is needed when life doesn’t turn out the way you planned or expected. In this video series, Gene Appel brings his extraordinary Bible teaching skills alongside remarkable true stories to offer what we all need most – hope! I highly recommend Hope Rising; it will not only provide motivation to get you through the day, but inspire you to look expectantly toward your future!” DAVE FERGUSON | Lead Pastor Community Christian Church Spiritual Entrepreneur NewThing

“If organizational cultures are created by the stories we tell and the heroes we create, then HOPE RISING may be one of the most powerful shapers. If personal lives are deeply transformed by raw and authentic hope springing up in the midst of pain, confusion and anger, then HOPE RISING is what we need. In a real, open and creative way these stories will provoke you, wound you, and heal you with their hope in the living God.” NANCY ORTBERG Author of Non-Linear Leadership

“Gene Appel has done it again—this time with captivating teaching, quality resources, real life testimonies and Bible truths that will change your outlook on life. Hope Rising…is a project done with excellence that will help you feel encouraged when you face the valleys of life.” PASTOR DAVE STONE Southeast Christian Church LOUISVILLE, KY

“You hold in your hands a catalyst for hope, a future, and a fresh start. We know firsthand Gene Appel and the Eastside team are hope givers and we believe in what they are doing. Get ready to experience hope in a fresh dimension.” PAUL JR. AND RACHAEL TEUTUL Paul Jr. Designs, Stars of American Chopper DISCOVERY CHANNEL

“In a world desperate for hope, Hope Rising offers the paradox of a hope found in arms stretched wide on a cross. Those who embrace the source of this Hope Rising will find that it will carry them through every broken dream, every deep sorrow, every dark place until one day those same arms are again spread wide to welcome them safely home to the very real Hope of heaven.” DR. CAROL TAYLOR | President of Vanguard University

“These messages promise to touch hearts, stir hope and change lives. In an era of bad news, this effort is a welcome silver lining.” MAX LUCADO Author and Pastor

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SMALL GROUP LEADERS

ACTS 2: CONNECT -- ADULT EDITION

CONTENTS Endorsements Foreword by Dr. George O. Wood Introduction by Alton Garrison Contributors Using This Workbook (Read This First)

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More Contributors Believe Small Group Series Acts 2 Small Group Series Church Leader Training Series Prayer and Praise Report Memory Verse Cards (Clip and Review) Small Group Roster

APPENDICES Frequently Asked Questions Small Group Agreement Small Group Calendar Team Roles Personal Health Assessment Personal Health Plan Sample Personal Health Plan Journaling 101 Spiritual Partners Spiritual Gifts Inventory Celebrating Communion in Your Group 30 Day Reading Plan

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OUTLINE FOR EACH SESSION SESSION ONE

Hosting an Open House Leading for the First Time Leadership Training Session Leader Notes

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FOREWORD BY DR. GEORGE O. WOOD LET’S TALK ABOUT HOW WE CAN APPLY WHAT WE’VE LEARNED, AND HOW DOING SO WILL ALLOW OUR LIVES TO GO AND BE A WITNESS FOR CHRIST. PART OF BEING A COMMUNITY INCLUDES HOW WE LIVE WHEN WE ARE NOT TOGETHER—AND HOW WE REPRESENT OUR COMMUNITY THROUGH EVANGELISM.

HOW DOES YOUR CONNECTION TO GOD EMPOWER YOU TO TELL OTHERS ABOUT JESUS?

PROIN RUTRUM FELIS A MASSA VIVERRA MATTIS. CURABITUR AT SAGITTIS NUNC. DONEC POSUERE MALESUADA ENIM, QUIS ALIQUAM DIAM RHONCUS SED. NULLA DIGNISSIM, SEM VITAE ULLAMCORPER FERMENTUM, NIBH LIGULA ORNARE IPSUM, A RUTRUM NEQUE LIBERO QUIS METUS. MAECENAS NON AUCTOR NISI, SED IACULIS LIGULA. CRAS VESTIBULUM TINCIDUNT ERAT, ET HENDRERIT NIBH FRINGILLA VITAE. INTEGER ADIPISCING LACUS RISUS, UT SAGITTIS ODIO SCELERISQUE QUIS. NULLAM FAUCIBUS FRINGILLA RISUS FRINGILLA MALESUADA. DONEC FAUCIBUS VOLUTPAT MI VITAE PRETIUM. NULLAM AC MI UT SEM CONSEQUAT FEUGIAT SIT AMET EU DIAM. FUSCE FRINGILLA PHARETRA LACUS, A IACULIS ELIT ULTRICIES AT. DUIS POSUERE LIBERO ANTE, QUIS SODALES NEQUE FRINGILLA CONSEQUAT. ALIQUAM LOBORTIS MAGNA, VITAE FACILISIS LECTUS SEMPER ID. DONEC FAUCIBUS VOLUTPAT MI VITAE PRETIUM. NULLAM AC MI UT SEM CONSEQUAT FEUGIAT SIT AMET EU DIAM. FUSCE FRINGILLA PHARETRA LACUS, A IACULIS ELIT ULTRICIES AT. DUIS POSUERE LIBERO ANTE, QUIS SODALES NEQUE FRINGILLA CONSEQUAT. ALIQUAM LOBORTIS VENENATIS MAGNA, VITAE FACILISIS LECTUS SEMPER.

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INTRODUCTION BY BY ALTON GARRISON LET’S TALK ABOUT HOW WE CAN APPLY WHAT WE’VE LEARNED, AND HOW DOING SO WILL ALLOW OUR LIVES TO GO AND BE A WITNESS FOR CHRIST. PART OF BEING A COMMUNITY INCLUDES HOW WE LIVE WHEN WE ARE NOT TOGETHER—AND HOW WE REPRESENT OUR COMMUNITY THROUGH EVANGELISM. PROIN RUTRUM FELIS A MASSA VIVERRA MATTIS. CURABITUR AT SAGITTIS NUNC. DONEC POSUERE MALESUADA ENIM, QUIS ALIQUAM DIAM RHONCUS SED. NULLA DIGNISSIM, SEM VITAE ULLAMCORPER FERMENTUM, NIBH LIGULA ORNARE IPSUM, A RUTRUM NEQUE LIBERO QUIS METUS. MAECENAS NON AUCTOR NISI, SED IACULIS LIGULA. CRAS VESTIBULUM TINCIDUNT ERAT, ET HENDRERIT NIBH FRINGILLA VITAE. INTEGER ADIPISCING LACUS RISUS, UT SAGITTIS ODIO SCELERISQUE QUIS. NULLAM FAUCIBUS FRINGILLA RISUS FRINGILLA MALESUADA. DONEC FAUCIBUS VOLUTPAT MI VITAE PRETIUM. NULLAM AC MI UT SEM CONSEQUAT FEUGIAT SIT AMET EU DIAM. FUSCE FRINGILLA PHARETRA

LACUS, A IACULIS ELIT ULTRICIES AT. DUIS POSUERE LIBERO ANTE, QUIS SODALES NEQUE FRINGILLA CONSEQUAT. ALIQUAM LOBORTIS VENENATIS MAGNA, VITAE FACILISIS LECTUS SEMPER ID. PROIN RUTRUM FELIS A MASSA VIVERRA MATTIS. CURABITUR AT SAGITTIS NUNC. DONEC POSUERE MALESUADA ENIM, QUIS ALIQUAM DIAM RHONCUS SED. NULLA DIGNISSIM, SEM VITAE ULLAMCORPER FERMENTUM, NIBH LIGULA ORNARE IPSUM, A RUTRUM NEQUE LIBERO QUIS METUS. MAECENAS NON AUCTOR NISI, SED IACULIS LIGULA. CRAS VESTIBULUM TINCIDUNT ERAT, ET HENDRERIT NIBH FRINGILLA VITAE. INTEGER ADIPISCING LACUS RISUS, UT SAGITTIS ODIO SCELERISQUE QUIS. NULLAM FAUCIBUS FRINGILLA RISUS FRINGILLA MALESUADA.

HOW DOES YOUR CONNECTION TO GOD EMPOWER YOU TO TELL OTHERS ABOUT JESUS?

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CO-CREATORS

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Mike Clarensau

Gary Wileman

David Jenkins

Alton Garrison

Sol Arledge

Greg Camprano

Jeff Peterson

Andrea Lathrop

Oliver Offutt

Alice Beth Grant

Carl Stephens

Kevin Brown

Shanna Crawford

Daniel Morrison

Dr. Ryan Darrow

Jeremy Deweerdt

Anthony Cervero

Rick Lorimer

Rob Ketterling

William Leach

David Vistine

Becca Ketterling

Dave Pafford

Derek Youngblood

Jr. Rodriguez

John C. Martin

Josh Thompson

Patsy Rodriguez

Jim Lad

Warren Curry

Guy Declambre

Claude Valdes JR

Tiara Curry

Allen Chapin

Donald Gifford

Jason Yarbrough

Kyle Hammond

Bob Cave

Juan Acuaa

Heath Adamson

Sandra Cave

Joseph S. Girbler

Kevin Taylor

George Nagato

Frank Cargill

Joelene Taylor

Abraham Chikwendu

Mark Hausfeld

Ben Deboef

Chet Caudill

Bill Roberts

Kerry Clarensau

Dave Donaldson

Terri Gibbs

Zollie Smith

Wayne Clark

Shayla Cox

Mike McAteer

Denise Ryan

Gwen Sullivan

Chris White

Steve Milazzo

Alex Schauer

Deidre White

Tim Enloe

Mary Beth Bradshaw

James Braddey

Byron Klaus

Teresa Quinn

Choco De Jesus

Sharon Poole

Mike Quinn

Jerry Strandquist

Diandra Hoskins

Christine Shawa

Joseph Anderson

Scott Wilson

Kevin Taylor

Dr. Bradford

Joann Butrin

Joelene Taylor

Rob Hoskins

Stan Russell

Madlyn Tombs

John Davidson

Cathy Cole

April Wilke

Lynette Davidson

Rick Cole

Diane Aubrey

Peggy Musgrove

Rebekah Crosby

Dr. George Wood

Don James

Douglas Graham

Jason St. John

Todd Alexander

Greg Ford

Jill St. John

Joni Wileman

Jeff Peterson

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Sheri Hawley

Rita Lewis

Brian Bolt

Beth Carroll

Christy Godzich

Justyn Smith

Joy Wilson

Aryton Smith

Haley Reed

Courtney Kennedy

Christian Lopez

Jeral Dickenson

Angela Donadio

Mariah Aviles

Cyndy Mondelus

Lori Hawkins

Steve Svoboda

Ty Silva

Jeanne Mayo

Josh Ward

David Ferguson

Natalia Guerreiro

Bethany Ivaska

Madison Bouse

Dawn Raley

Josh Pocock

Sullivan Turner

Jennifer McAfee

Katie Scott

Etka Barron

Brandi Carrana

Matt Rule

Eric Porter

Brooke Baker

Anna Fouts

Tom Hammel

Jeanne Mayo

Antonio Valido

Sarah Page

Ranae Mack

Nathan Rouse

Brandon Scarbrough

Angela Hudson

Sophonie LaFortune

Chris Buford

Crystal Heisel

Grace Fanelli

Kyle Coslett

Melanie Strong

Ashley Brooks

Monty Hipp

Linda Housfeld

Josiah Babin

Sean Keith

Robyn Wilkerson

Ricardo Conlee

Baylor Boyd

Sheila Harper

Andy Lehmann

Logan Ketterling

Cherie Gaff

Mikayla Ostynski

Annalise Sullivan

Steph Peterson

David Sanchez

Alyssa Shanks

Elizabeth Wolfe

Resse Maxwell

Kendon Hackworth

Donna Krstulovich

Carson Snider

Marlaena Hamel

Jennifer Pasquale

Justin Keller

Vanessa Barrera

Leslie Thomas

Jessica Prince

Caleb Cole

Renee Duncan

Anthony Cox

Elliot Bland

Chris Railey

Austin Johnson

Joseph Valsquez

Cara Railey

Ryan Beaty

Adelita Martinez

Lucy Donaldson

Allison Fontaine

Charles Stewart

Laurie Hoyt

Daniel King

Delonn Rance

Belindah McAeese

Brooke Baker

Nonda Houston

Jordan Hurt

Nancy Raatz

Jeremy Johnson

Kristi Singer

Courtney Kennedy

Laura Hoggard

David Fergunsen

Diane Gifford

Marvin Hernandez

Beth Espinosa Quick

Kelly Prestin

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CO-CREATORS Mike Clarensau

Gary Wileman

David Jenkins

Alton Garrison

Sol Arledge

Greg Camprano

Jeff Peterson

Andrea Lathrop

Oliver Offutt

Alice Beth Grant

Carl Stephens

Kevin Brown

Shanna Crawford

Daniel Morrison

Dr. Ryan Darrow

Jeremy Deweerdt

Anthony Cervero

Rick Lorimer

Rob Ketterling

William Leach

David Vistine

Becca Ketterling

Dave Pafford

Derek Youngblood

Jr. Rodriguez

John C. Martin

Josh Thompson

Patsy Rodriguez

Jim Lad

Warren Curry

Guy Declambre

Claude Valdes JR

Tiara Curry

Allen Chapin

Donald Gifford

Jason Yarbrough

Kyle Hammond

Bob Cave

Juan Acuaa

Heath Adamson

Sandra Cave

Joseph S. Girbler

Kevin Taylor

George Nagato

Frank Cargill

Joelene Taylor

Abraham Chikwendu

Mark Hausfeld

Ben Deboef

Chet Caudill

Bill Roberts

Kerry Clarensau

Dave Donaldson

Terri Gibbs

Zollie Smith

Wayne Clark

Shayla Cox

Mike McAteer

Denise Ryan

Gwen Sullivan

Chris White

Steve Milazzo

Alex Schauer

Deidre White

Tim Enloe

Mary Beth Bradshaw

James Braddey

Byron Klaus

Teresa Quinn

Choco De Jesus

Sharon Poole

Mike Quinn

Jerry Strandquist

Diandra Hoskins

Christine Shawa

Joseph Anderson

Scott Wilson

Kevin Taylor

Dr. Bradford

Joann Butrin

Joelene Taylor

Rob Hoskins

Stan Russell

Madlyn Tombs

John Davidson

Cathy Cole

April Wilke

Lynette Davidson

Rick Cole

Diane Aubrey

Peggy Musgrove

Rebekah Crosby

Dr. George Wood

Don James

Douglas Graham

Jason St. John

Todd Alexander

Greg Ford

Jill St. John

Joni Wileman

Jeff Peterson

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Sheri Hawley

Rita Lewis

Brian Bolt

Beth Carroll

Christy Godzich

Justyn Smith

Joy Wilson

Aryton Smith

Haley Reed

Courtney Kennedy

Christian Lopez

Jeral Dickenson

Angela Donadio

Mariah Aviles

Cyndy Mondelus

Lori Hawkins

Steve Svoboda

Ty Silva

Jeanne Mayo

Josh Ward

David Ferguson

Natalia Guerreiro

Bethany Ivaska

Madison Bouse

Dawn Raley

Josh Pocock

Sullivan Turner

Jennifer McAfee

Katie Scott

Etka Barron

Brandi Carrana

Matt Rule

Eric Porter

Brooke Baker

Anna Fouts

Tom Hammel

Jeanne Mayo

Antonio Valido

Sarah Page

Ranae Mack

Nathan Rouse

Brandon Scarbrough

Angela Hudson

Sophonie LaFortune

Chris Buford

Crystal Heisel

Grace Fanelli

Kyle Coslett

Melanie Strong

Ashley Brooks

Monty Hipp

Linda Housfeld

Josiah Babin

Sean Keith

Robyn Wilkerson

Ricardo Conlee

Baylor Boyd

Sheila Harper

Andy Lehmann

Logan Ketterling

Cherie Gaff

Mikayla Ostynski

Annalise Sullivan

Steph Peterson

David Sanchez

Alyssa Shanks

Elizabeth Wolfe

Resse Maxwell

Kendon Hackworth

Donna Krstulovich

Carson Snider

Marlaena Hamel

Jennifer Pasquale

Justin Keller

Vanessa Barrera

Leslie Thomas

Jessica Prince

Caleb Cole

Renee Duncan

Anthony Cox

Elliot Bland

Chris Railey

Austin Johnson

Joseph Valsquez

Cara Railey

Ryan Beaty

Adelita Martinez

Lucy Donaldson

Allison Fontaine

Charles Stewart

Laurie Hoyt

Daniel King

Delonn Rance

Belindah McAeese

Brooke Baker

Nonda Houston

Jordan Hurt

Nancy Raatz

Jeremy Johnson

Kristi Singer

Courtney Kennedy

Laura Hoggard

David Fergunsen

Diane Gifford

Marvin Hernandez

Beth Espinosa Quick

Kelly Prestin

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OUTLINE

OF EACH SESSION Most people want to live a God-honoring life, but few achieve this by themselves. And most small groups struggle to balance all of God’s purposes in their meetings. Groups tend to overemphasize one of the various reasons for meeting. Rarely is there a healthy balance that includes teaching, evangelism, ministry, practical exercises, and worship. That’s why we’ve included all of these elements in this study so you can live a healthy, balanced spiritual life over

A TYPICAL GROUP SESSION FOR THE ACTS 2 SERIES WILL INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING:

INTRODUCTION. Each lesson will open with a brief thought that will help you prepare for the session and get you thinking about the particular subject you will explore with your group. Make it a practice to read these before the session.

CONNECT. As in, connect with God and with each other. The foundation for spiritual growth is an intimate connection with God and His family. A few people who really know you and who earn your trust provide a place to experience the life Jesus invites you to live. This section of each session typically offers you two options. You can get to know your whole group by using the icebreaker question(s), or you can check in with one or two group members—your spiritual partner(s)—for a deeper connection and encouragement in your spiritual journey.

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DVD TEACHING SEGMENT. Serving as a companion to the

SERVE. We let the truth we are learning travel the 18 inches from our

Acts 2 small group discussion books is the Acts 2 Video teaching series. This DVD is designed to combine teaching segments from hundreds of Spirit-filled pastors and speakers along with leadership insights and personal stories of life change. Using the teaching video will add value to this four week commitment of doing life together and discovering how walking with Christ changes everything.

cranium (mind) to our cardium (heart, emotions, and will) in this portion. This is where the Bible instructs us to “be doers of the Word, not just hearers” (James 1:22) comes into play. Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it’s scary, relationally awkward, or simply too much work for their busy schedules. But Jesus wanted all of His disciples to help outsiders connect with Him, to know Him personally, and to carry out His commands. This doesn’t necessarily mean preaching on street corners. It could mean welcoming a few newcomers into your group, hosting a short-term group in your home, or walking through this study with a friend. In this study, you’ll have an opportunity to go beyond Bible study to biblical living.

NOTE: QUESTIONS WITH AN ASTERISK INDICATE THE CRUCIAL ONES TO USE IF TIME IS SHORT

GROW.

This section is where you will process as a group the teaching you heard and saw. The focus won’t be on accumulating information but on how we should live in light of the Word of God. We want to help you apply the insights from Scripture practically, creatively, and from your heart as well as your head. At the end of the day, allowing the timeless truths from God’s Word to transform our lives in Christ is our greatest aim.

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GO. Many people skip over this aspect of the Christian life because it’s scary, relationally awkward, or simply too much work for their busy schedules. We understand, because we have these thoughts as well. But God calls all of us to reach out a hand to people who don’t know him. It’s much easier to take practical, manageable steps that can be integrated naturally into everyday life if you take them together. Every week you will have an opportunity to take a small step.

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WORSHIP. We have Jesus’ affirmation that every aspect of life can ultimately be measured as a way of fulfilling one or both of the “bottom line” commandments: “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:29–31 NIV). The group session will close with time for personal response to God and group prayer, seeking to keep this crucial commandment before us at all times. This is a good place to have different group members close in prayer, even when the instructions don’t specify. You can also provide some time if the schedule allows for people to reflect on their Prayer and Praise Report or take a little time to meet with a Spiritual Partner.

NOTES

GOING DEEPER BIBLE STUDY. If you have time and want to dig deeper into more Bible passages about the topic at hand, we’ve provided additional passages and questions. Your group may choose to do study homework ahead of each meeting in order to cover more biblical material. If you prefer not to do study homework, the Deeper Bible Study section will provide you with plenty to discuss within the group. These options allow individuals or the whole group to expand their study, while still accommodating those who can’t do homework or are new to your group. REFLECTIONS. Each week on the Reflections pages we provide scriptures to read and reflect on between group meetings. We suggest you use this section to seek God on your own throughout the week. This time at home should begin and end with prayer. Don’t get in a hurry; take enough time to hear God’s direction.

WEEKLY MEMORY VERSES. For each session we have provided a Memory Verse that emphasizes an important truth from the session. This is an optional exercise, but we believe that memorizing Scripture can be a vital part of filling our minds with God’s will for our lives. We encourage you to give this important habit a try.

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MEMORY VERSE “WHEN THEY SAW THE COURAGE OF PETER AND JOHN AND REALIZED THAT THEY WERE UNSCHOOLED, ORDINARY MEN, THEY WERE ASTONISHED AND THEY TOOK NOTE THAT THESE

MEN HAD BEEN WITH

JESUS.” [ JOHN 15:5 ]

SESSION ONE

KNOWING

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WHAT MATTERS SUPREMELY, THEREFORE, IS NOT, IN THE LAST ANALYSIS, THE FACT THAT I KNOW GOD, BUT THE LARGER FACT WHICH UNDERLIES IT - THE FACT THAT HE KNOWS ME. - J.I. PACKER, KNOWING GOD

AS LEADERS, WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHERS— WE NEED TO DIRECT AND GUIDE AND MOTIVATE THEM. BUT ANYONE WHO HAS SERVED UNDER THE LEADERSHIP OF SOMEONE WHO DIDN’T LIVE AS THEY ASKED OTHERS TO LIVE KNOWS HOW ABSOLUTELY DISHEARTENING THAT CAN BE.

Our first responsibility is integrity—to lead ourselves well, to live up to the standards we set for other. Good leaders know the strengths of those they lead, and call those out, directing them toward tasks that best fit those strengths. Good leaders must also know their own strengths, as well as their own weaknesses, and also focus on tasks that best fit them.

HE KNOWS US A key component of selfleadership is knowing and submitting to God. He knows us best, and when we spend time with Him, we receive guidance, strength and wisdom.

BEST AND WHEN WE SPEND TIME WITH HIM, WE RECEIVE GUIDANCE,

Open your group with prayer. This should be a brief, simple prayer, in which you invite God to be with you as you meet. You can pray for specific requests at the end of the meeting, or stop momentarily to pray if a particular situation comes up during your discussion.

Rotating leaders is one of the group values we highly recommend for your group. People need opportunities to experiment with ways in which God may have gifted them. Even if one of your group members is a staff member or supervisor, don’t assume that person needs to lead. Rotating leaders will provide a chance for everyone to develop leadership gifts and minister to one another.

THINKING ABOUT IT

STRENGTH AND WISDOM.

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WORSHIP IS NOT JUST SINGING OR RAISING

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1. What do you think it means to “lead yourself”? How’s that going for you?

2. How does knowing Jesus impact your leadership decisions? How would knowing him more deeply impact them?

WATCH THE DVD FOR THIS SESSION NOW. USE THE NOTES SPACE PROVIDED ON PAGE XX TO RECORD ANY KEY THOUGHTS, QUESTIONS, AND THINGS YOU WANT TO REMEMBER OR FOLLOW UP ON. AFTER WATCHING THE

3. If your group is new, you may want to focus on welcoming newcomers or making sure everyone knows one another. It may be that you are in this four-week study with people you work beside, but have never been in a small group with. Since this is the first session in this study, have everyone introduce themselves, and have them answer this question: what will make the time spent in this group a worthwhile investment for you?

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VIDEO, HAVE SOMEONE READ THE DISCUSSION The Small Group Calendar on page xx is a tool for planning who will host and lead each meeting. Take a few minutes to plan hosts and leaders for your remaining meetings. Don’t pass this up! It will revolutionize your group.

QUESTIONS IN THE GROW SECTION AND DIRECT THE DISCUSSION AMONG THE GROUP. AS YOU GO THROUGH EACH OF THE SUBSEQUENT SECTIONS, ASK SOMEONE ELSE TO READ THE QUESTIONS AND DIRECT THE DISCUSSION.

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READ ACTS 4:1-22

USE THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS TO GUIDE YOUR DISCUSSION OF THE TEACHING AND STORIES YOU JUST EXPERIENCED, AND THE BIBLE PASSAGE BELOW.

4. A key component of knowing God is simply spending time with him. In this passage, how did having spent time with Jesus transform “ordinary, unschooled men?”

5. In the video, we heard from someone whose faith was external, all about “behavior modification,” but that “when I was able to understand his love and his grace for me, intimacy came.” What happens to you when you focus on behavior modification but not inner transformation? What barriers get in the way of intimacy with God for you?

SPEND TIME WITH GOD

6. In the video, we were challenged to spend time with God, getting to know Him better, so that we “have something of eternal consequence” to give to those we minister to. How does knowing God provide this? What priorities compete with your personal time with God?

7. Who is someone who seems to know God in a deep way, in a way that you admire? What does that look like in their life?

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8. According to this passage, what specific abilities and character traits did Peter and John have as a result of knowing Jesus? What fruit resulted (see verse 4)?

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LEARNING IS

GREAT BUT WHAT MATTERS IS WHAT WE DO WITH WHAT WE LEARN—HOW WE APPLY IT TO OUR DAILY LIVES.

9. In the “Talking About It” section, we talked about a person whose walk with God we admire. This week, make specific plans to be in touch with the person you named, to ask them for their advice or help in this area. Share you plan with the group. 10. What is one thing you can do in the coming week or two, to get to know God better? How does your own personal knowing of God impact your effectiveness as a leader?

11. What is one thing you plan to do this week to stay connected with the flow of the Holy Spirit? What does that idea mean to you?

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12. Sometimes good intentions are not enough. Take out your phone or calendar and schedule a few specific “appointments” with God for the coming week. If someone asks if you’re available during those times, what will you need to say? Why is it difficult to set boundaries around those times? What fears come to the surface when you think about saying “no” to people?Did God come looking for you? What happened?

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INVITE

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GOD TO BE WITH YOU

SPENDING TIME REGARDLESS OF THE TOPIC, WE CAN LIVE OUT WHAT WE’RE LEARNING WITH GOD’S HELP. SO PRAYERFULLY CONSIDER MAKING A COMMITMENT TO TRYING AT LEAST ONE OF THE FOLLOWING SPIRITUAL PRACTICES DURING THE WEEK. DECIDE WHICH ONE YOU THINK WILL EQUIP AND STRENGTHEN YOU TO LIVE OUT WHAT YOU’RE LEARNING

PRAY

Commit to personal prayer and daily connection with God. You may find it helpful to write your prayers in a journal. Pick one person in your group that you will pray for during the week between meetings.

ALONE WITH GOD IS OUR SWEET PRIVILEGE

SERVE

How could you serve this group— perhaps in a way that is behind the scenes? Maybe you’ll pray for someone, or send an encouraging email or text between meetings, help organize the schedule. Think about your own gifts and passions, and decide how you will serve the group.

REFLECT

WE LIVE OUR FAITH WITH THE EMPOWERMENT

The DAILY DEVOTIONALS provided OF THE HOLY in each session offer an opportunity SPIRIT—NOT for reading a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of this UNDER OUR OWN study. In our hurry-up world, we often POWER. move too quickly through everything— even reading God’s word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to read carefully and reflect on God’s word. Write down your insights on what you read each day. Copy a portion of Scripture on a card and tape it somewhere in your line of sight, such as your car’s dashboard or the kitchen table. Or text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights, or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words. On the sixth day summarize what God has shown you throughout the week. P | 45

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS DAY 1 : EPHESIANS 3:14,15 For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name.

REFLECT: What attitude does kneeling convey? What does this verse tell us about our spiritual heritage? How does knowing where you came from help you to know God? To know yourself?

EACH DAY, READ THE DAILY VERSES. PRAY AND LISTEN TO WHAT GOD IS SAYING, EXPERIENCE THE SPIRIT’S PRESENCE, THROUGH HIS WORD. TAKE YOUR TIME! ENJOY GOD’S PRESENCE, PAY

DAY 2 : EPHESIANS 3:16

ATTENTION TO HIS

I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being,

WHISPERS, ASK FOR

REFLECT: Think about a time God strengthened you through the Holy Spirit. Spend some time with Him, allowing him to strengthen you in your inner being by simply spending time in His presence, and thanking Him for the strength He provides.

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INSIGHT AND DEEPER CONNECTION WITH HIM. Allow this time in God’s word to strengthen your relationship with him. Ponder and reflect. Respond in prayer and worship. Then record your thoughts, insights, or prayer in the Reflect section below the verses you read. On the sixth day record a summary of what you have learned over the entire week through this study.

DAY 3 : EPHESIANS 3:17 SO THAT CHRIST MAY DWELL IN YOUR HEARTS THROUGH FAITH. AND I PRAY THAT YOU, BEING ROOTED AND ESTABLISHED IN LOVE,

REFLECT: WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE “ROOTED”? WHAT ARE SOME QUALITIES THAT THINGS THAT ARE DEEPLY ROOTED HAVE? WHAT WOULD IT MEAN, THEN, TO BE ROOTED IN LOVE? WOULD PEOPLE WHO KNOW YOU DESCRIBE YOU AS “ROOTED IN LOVE”? WHY OR WHY NOT? WANT US TO KNOW?

DAY 4 : EPHESIANS 3:18 MAY HAVE POWER, TOGETHER WITH ALL THE LORD’S HOLY PEOPLE, TO GRASP HOW WIDE AND LONG AND HIGH AND DEEP IS THE LOVE OF CHRIST

REFLECT: HOW DO WE ACCESS THE POWER MENTIONED IN THIS

VERSE? WHY IS THE WORD “TOGETHER” SIGNIFICANT HERE? WHAT DOES GOD

DAY 5 : EPHESIANS 3:19 AND TO KNOW THIS LOVE THAT SURPASSES KNOWLEDGE—THAT YOU MAY BE FILLED TO THE MEASURE OF ALL THE FULLNESS OF GOD.

REFLECT: THIS VERSE MENTIONS TWO KINDS OF KNOWING: KNOWING LOVE, AND KNOWLEDGE. WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE? WHICH IS MORE IMPORTANT? WHICH WILL FILL US UP?

DAY 6 : EPHESIANS 3:19 USE THE FOLLOWING SPACE TO WRITE ANY THOUGHTS GOD HAS PUT IN YOUR HEART AND MIND ABOUT THE THINGS WE HAVE LOOKED AT IN THIS SESSION AND DURING YOUR DAILY DEVOTIONALS TIME THIS WEEK. WHAT IS ONE THING YOU WILL DO AS A RESULT OF WHAT YOU’VE HEARD FROM GOD?

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MEMORY VERSE SO ELI TOLD SAMUEL, “GO AND LIE DOWN, AND IF HE CALLS YOU, SAY, ‘SPEAK, LORD, FOR YOUR SERVANT

IS LISTENING.’” SO SAMUEL WENT AND LAY DOWN IN HIS PLACE. THE LORD CAME AND STOOD THERE, CALLING AS AT THE OTHER TIMES, “SAMUEL! SAMUEL!” THEN SAMUEL SAID, “SPEAK, FOR YOUR SERVANT

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IS LISTENING.”

[ SAMUEL 3:9,10]

HEARING FROM GOD

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PEOPLE ARE MEANT TO LIVE IN AN ONGOING CONVERSATION WITH GOD, SPEAKING AND BEING SPOKEN TO. OF COURSE, TALKING TO GOD IS AN ALMOST UNIVERSAL PRACTICE. - DALLAS WILLARD, HEARING GOD

AS A LEADER, YOU HAVE ACCESS TO THE MOST AMAZING RESOURCE IN THE UNIVERSE: THE GUIDANCE OF A GOD WHO DOES NOT REMAIN FAR-OFF, BUT WHO DRAWS NEAR AND WHISPERS, THROUGH THE HOLY SPIRIT, INTO OUR EAR.

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. THIS SHOULD BE A BRIEF, SIMPLE PRAYER, IN WHICH YOU INVITE GOD TO MAKE HIS PRESENCE KNOWN TO YOU AS YOU MEET. YOU CAN PRAY FOR SPECIFIC REQUESTS AT THE END OF THE MEETING, OR STOP MOMENTARILY TO PRAY IF A PARTICULAR SITUATION COMES UP DURING YOUR DISCUSSION. Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Open your group time with a few simple questions to get you thinking about this week’s topic.

We can hear from God. We can ask for wisdom, and he will give it. And yet, we often do not structure our lives and our leadership in such a way that we pay attention to His voice. We have access to a great resource, but we do not use it. If we ignore this gift of God’s voice, we have not led ourselves well, and we will not lead others well. Your intimacy with God sets the example and the standard for the people you lead. If you’re telling others to pray and listen for God’s voice, but too busy to do so yourself, you’re going to be an ineffective leader. People will see right through it. Hearing anyone, but especially God, requires us to be quiet. If you’ve ever tried to talk to someone who won’t stop talking, you know how frustrating that can be. Imagine God, wanting to whisper to us, but we simply won’t stop chattering.

IF YOU WANT TO HEAR FROM GOD, COME INTO HIS

THINKING ABOUT IT

PRESENCE, SPEND TIME WITH HIM—NOT JUST TALKING, BUT LISTENING.

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13. What barriers have you encountered as you try to have a consistent prayer life? What keeps you from praying?

WATCH THE DVD FOR THIS SESSION NOW. WE HAVE PROVIDED A NOTES PAGE ON PAGE

14. When someone says God told them to do something, how do people typically respond?

???. THERE YOU CAN RECORD ANY KEY THOUGHTS, QUESTIONS, AND THINGS YOU WANT TO REMEMBER OR FOLLOW UP ON. AFTER WATCHING THE VIDEO, READ THE SCRIPTURE LISTED IN THE TALKING

15. Most people want to live a healthy, balanced life. A regular medical check-up is a good way to measure health and spot potential problems. In the same way, a spiritual check-up is vital to your spiritual well being. The Personal Health Assessment was designed to give you a quick snapshot, or pulse, of your spiritual health. Take a few minutes alone to complete the Personal Health Assessment, found on page ??? in the Appendix. After answering each question, tally your results. Then, pair up with another person and briefly share one purpose that is going well and one that needs a little work.

ABOUT IT SECTION, HAVE SOMEONE READ THE DISCUSSION QUESTIONS AND DIRECT THE DISCUSSION AMONG THE GROUP. AS YOU GO THROUGH EACH OF THE SUBSEQUENT SECTIONS, ASK SOMEONE ELSE TO READ THE QUESTIONS AND DIRECT THE DISCUSSION.

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GOD OFTEN

SPEAKS TO US THROUGH BOTH HIS WORD

& THROUGH GENTLE

WHISPERS

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READ ACTS 4:1-22

USE THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS TO GUIDE YOUR DISCUSSION OF THE TEACHING AND STORIES YOU JUST EXPERIENCED, AND THE BIBLE PASSAGE LISTED BELOW.

16. In this passage, what is promised to us when we pray (especially in verses 7 and 9)? We sometimes assume what we will hear from God is “marching orders,” which, truthfully, sometimes makes us hesitant to pray and especially hesitant to listen to God. This verse tells us a different story. What does it tell us about prayer?

17. In the video, we heard that prayer “is essential. Nothing happens of lasting significance without prayer.” If that’s true, why do so many leaders let their prayer life slide? What causes you to sometimes neglect prayer, or not spend enough time in prayer?

TALKING ABOUT IT

18. This verse exhorts us to rejoice, and to not be anxious. How are these two things connected? How does prayer ease our anxiety? What does this passage promise us when we pray?

19. In the video, we heard “Prayer is more than just communicating to God, it’s listening to what God is going to say to you.” What keeps us from listening to God in prayer? What specific changes would you need to make to your schedule and priorities in order to make listening prayer a regular practice in your life?

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SPEND TIME WITH GOD

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WORSHIP IS NOT JUST SINGING OR RAISING

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LIVING IT OUT

LEARNING IS

GREAT BUT WHAT MATTERS IS WHAT WE DO WITH WHAT WE LEARN—HOW WE APPLY IT TO OUR DAILY LIVES. LET’S TALK ABOUT SOME PRACTICAL WAYS

8. Our study focused on prayer and also talked about anxiety. What specific things cause you anxiety? Perhaps it’s finances, your job, your ministry, or your family (could be your marriage, your parents, your kids, depending on your situation). Be honest. 9. Of the things that you listed as causing anxiety, what is your part in each of them? In other words, what are you doing that actually adds to your anxiety or the conflict you have with a person, or the anxiety you have about money, or whatever?

IN WHICH WE CAN LISTEN TO GOD.

10. In order to have a deep, heart-to-heart talk with someone you love, you need to get alone with them, setting aside distractions. What distractions get in the way of a deeper conversation with God?

11. What is one step you will take this week to set aside distractions to be able to listen to God? Share your plan with the group.ns. What distractions get in the way of a deeper conversation with God?

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REGARDLESS OF THE TOPIC, WE CAN’T LIVE OUT WHAT WE’RE LEARNING WITH GOD’S HELP. SO PRAYERFULLY CONSIDER MAKING A COMMITMENT TO TRYING AT LEAST ONE OF THE FOLLOWING SPIRITUAL PRACTICES DURING THE WEEK. DECIDE WHICH ONE YOU THINK WILL EQUIP AND STRENGTHEN YOU TO LIVE OUT WHAT YOU’RE LEARNING

PRAY

SO THAT CHRIST MAY DWELL IN YOUR HEARTS THROUGH FAITH. AND I PRAY THAT YOU, BEING ROOTED AND ESTABLISHED IN LOVE,

REFLECT: ACCORDING TO THIS VERSE, WHAT SHOULD OUR

RESPONSE BE WHEN WE HEAR OF GOD’S LOVE, AND WHEN HE SHOWS US WHERE TO GO? HOW CAN WE MAKE SURE WE HEAR OF GOD’S LOVE EACH MORNING?

SERVE

How could you serve this group— perhaps in a way that is behind the scenes? Maybe you’ll pray for someone, or send an encouraging email or text between meetings, help organize the schedule or invite group members to do something outside of the regular meeting time.

REFLECT

Think about your own gifts and

The DAILY DEVOTIONALS provided passions, and in each session offer an opportunity decide how you will for reading a short Bible passage five days a week during the course of this serve the group. study. In our hurry-up world, we often move too quickly through everything— even reading God’s word! Slow down. Don’t just skim, but take time to read carefully and reflect on God’s word. Write down your insights on what you read each day. Copy a portion of Scripture on a card and tape it somewhere in your line of sight, such as your car’s dashboard or the kitchen table. Or text it to yourself! Think about it when you sit at red lights, or while you’re eating a meal. Reflect on what God is saying to you through these words. On the sixth day summarize what God has shown you throughout the week.

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DAY 3 : PSALM 143: 8

DAY 4 : PSALM 143:9 RESCUE ME FROM MY ENEMIES, LORD; I RUN TO YOU TO HIDE ME.

REFLECT: WHAT ENEMIES DO YOU NEED TO BE RESCUED FROM TODAY? WHAT DO YOU NEED TO HEAR FROM GOD?|

DAY 5 : PSALM 143:10 TEACH ME TO DO YOUR WILL, FOR YOU ARE MY GOD. MAY YOUR GRACIOUS SPIRIT LEAD ME FORWARD ON A FIRM FOOTING.

REFLECT: IN ORDER FOR GOD TO TEACH US, AND FOR HIS SPIRIT TO LEAD US FORWARD, WE NEED TO LISTEN. WHAT OTHER NOISE COMPETES WITH HIS VOICE IN YOUR LIFE? WHAT SPECIFIC THINGS DO YOU NEED TO DO THIS WEEK TO QUIET (OR GET AWAY FROM) SOME OF THE NOISE IN YOUR LIFE? WHAT IS ONE THING YOU NEED TO DO TO MOVE TOWARD THE WILL OF GOD?

DAY 6. USE THE FOLLOWING SPACE TO WRITE ANY THOUGHTS GOD HAS PUT IN YOUR HEART AND MIND ABOUT THE THINGS WE HAVE LOOKED AT IN THIS SESSION AND DURING YOUR DAILY DEVOTIONALS TIME THIS WEEK. WHAT IS ONE THING YOU WILL DO AS A RESULT OF WHAT YOU’VE HEARD FROM GOD?

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS PSALM 143:5 I remember the days of old. I ponder all your great works and think about what you have done.

REFLECT: One way we can hear God is by reading on His word and reflecting on it. What insights has God given you when you’ve pondered His great works?

DAY 2 : PSALM 143:6,7

EACH DAY, READ THE DAILY VERSES AND GIVE PRAYERFUL CONSIDERATION TO WHAT YOU LEARN ABOUT GOD, HIS SPIRIT, AND

I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being,

HIS PLACE IN YOUR LIFE.

REFLECT: Have you ever

PRAYER IN THE REFLECT

felt the things the Psalmist is candidly expressing in this section of the Psalm? Use these words as a prayer to ward off any discouragement you may be experiencing. If they don’t fit your situation right now, ask God to speak to you and bring someone to mind who needs you to pray these powerful words on

THEN RECORD YOUR THOUGHTS, INSIGHTS, OR

SECTION BELOW THE VERSES YOU READ. ON THE SIXTH DAY RECORD A SUMMARY OF WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED OVER THE ENTIRE WEEK THROUGH

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SESSION THREE

TRUSTIN IN GOD

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MEMORY VERSE MAY THE GOD OF HOPE FILL YOU WITH ALL

JOY AND PEACE AS

YOU TRUST IN HIM, SO THAT YOU MAY OVERFLOW WITH HOPE BY THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. [ ROMANS 15:13]

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TRUST IS NOT A PASSIVE STATE OF MIND. IT IS A VIGOROUS ACT OF THE SOUL BY WHICH WE CHOOSE TO LAY HOLD ON THE PROMISES OF GOD AND CLING TO THEM DESPITE THE ADVERSITY THAT AT TIMES SEEKS TO OVERWHELMS US.

- JERRY BRIDGES, TRUSTING GOD: EVEN WHEN LIFE HURTS HAVE YOU EVER SEEN A CHILD JUMP INTO A SWIMMING POOL INTO HER DADDY’S ARMS? SHE SIMPLY LEAPS OFF THE EDGE, BELIEVING THAT HER FATHER WILL CATCH HER. Here’s the thing: she can’t get caught without jumping first. While that sounds painfully obvious, it’s a truth we forget when it comes to believing God. We sometimes want him to catch us before we jump—to somehow guarantee that we won’t have to experience that moment of flying through the air, freefalling into his arms. But trust always involves taking that risk, being willing to jump into an uncertain situation when he says, “I’ll catch you.” When the Israelites crossed the Jordan River into the Promised Land, God’s directions tested their trust in him. God didn’t stop the water from flowing until they had got their feet wet. They had to step into the Jordan at flood stage, trusting.

OPEN YOUR GROUP WITH PRAYER. THIS SHOULD BE A BRIEF, SIMPLE PRAYER, IN WHICH YOU INVITE GOD TO BE WITH YOU AS YOU MEET. YOU CAN PRAY FOR SPECIFIC REQUESTS AT THE END OF THE MEETING, OR STOP MOMENTARILY TO PRAY IF A PARTICULAR SITUATION COMES UP DURING YOUR DISCUSSION. Telling our personal stories builds deeper connections among group members. Open your group time with a few simple questions to get you thinking about this week’s topic.

IF YOU WANT TO HEAR FROM GOD, COME INTO HIS PRESENCE, SPEND TIME WITH HIM—NOT JUST TALKING, BUT

THINKING ABOUT IT

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22. Can you trust someone you don’t know? How are knowing someone well and trusting them connected?

WATCH THE DVD FOR THIS SESSION NOW. USE THE NOTES SPACE PROVIDED ON PAGE ???

23. What barriers get in the way of trusting God? If key people in your life have let you down, what happens to your ability to trust?

TO RECORD ANY KEY THOUGHTS, QUESTIONS, AND THINGS YOU WANT TO REMEMBER OR FOLLOW UP ON. AFTER WATCHING THE VIDEO, HAVE SOMEONE READ THE DISCUSSION

24. Turn to your Personal Health Plan on page ??? now. Briefly turn to the person next to you, and simply share about how your time with God went this week. What is one thing you discovered? Did you make a commitment to a next step that you can share? What obstacles hindered you from following through this week? What do you want to celebrate?

QUESTIONS IN THE TALKING ABOUT IT SECTION AND GUIDE THE DISCUSSION AMONG THE GROUP. AS YOU GO THROUGH EACH OF THE SUBSEQUENT SECTIONS, ASK SOMEONE ELSE TO READ THE QUESTIONS

25. Our next session is the last in this study—a good time to pause and reflect on what you’ve experienced in this group, how you’ve grown. Talk about how you might worship God and celebrate his goodness in your final meeting.

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AND FACILITATE THE DISCUSSION.

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TRUE LOVE

MEANS

TRUSTING EACHOTHER &

READING GOD’S WORD

TOGETHER

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READ JOSHUA 3:13-16

USE THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS TO GUIDE YOUR DISCUSSION OF THE TEACHING AND STORIES YOU JUST EXPERIENCED, AND THE BIBLE PASSAGE LISTED BELOW.

26. What promise did God

27. When did the water stop

make to his people in this passage? What did He say he would do? What did the priests have to do?

flowing?

28. In the video, we heard about times when we feel we are walking blindly into something, and trusting that God’s going to “make up the difference if you fall short.” Has this happened to you? Did God increase your ability to trust him by coming through for you? Tell the group about what happened?

TALKING ABOUT IT

29. What did the Ark of the Covenant represent to the Israelites? Why was it especially risky to step into a flood-stage river carrying this precious thing?

30. In the video, we heard from a pastor who was disappointed when his ministry plans didn’t go as he’d expected, and then found himself in a “waiting time.” Have you ever found yourself in a waiting season? Which do you find more difficult: trusting God in highly intense times, or trusting him in “waiting times”? Explain.

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LEARNING IS

ESSENTIAL TO OUR

GROWTH BUT WHAT MATTERS MOST IS WHAT WE DO WITH WHAT WE LEARN—HOW WE APPLY IT TO OUR DAILY LIVES.

32. What promises does this verse (Romans 15:13) make to us? What evidence of this promise do others see in your life?

33. Notice the words “fill” and “overflow”—what is it that trusting God will fill us with? Would someone observing you during your daily routine use these words to describe you?

ULTIMATELY, TRUSTING GOD DOES NOT GUARANTEE THAT EVERYTHING WILL GO SMOOTHLY AND PERFECTLY WITH OUR MINISTRY, OR OUR PERSONAL LIFE. BUT WE CAN HAVE HOPE IN SPITE OF OUR STRUGGLES

34. What is one area of your ministry you feel “has to be right” and so you are vigilant about it? Consider the possibility that your vigilance could be a way of covering your lack of trust. Trusting God often means letting go of control. What is one thing you will let go of this week to build your trust in God?

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THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. HIS FAITHFULNESS IS WHERE WE PLACE OUR 36. Allow everyone to answer this question: “How can we pray for you this week?” Pick one person in the group whom you will pray for this week

35. Is there an area of service that God has put on your heart to serve this group? Commit to taking the first step and be willing to let God lead you to the ministry that expresses your passion. In your Personal Health Plan on page ???, next to the “Develop” icon, answer the “WHERE are you serving?” question. How can you serve others “unofficially” when you meet as a group? P | 86

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CONSEQUENCE

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REGARDLESS OF THE TOPIC, WE CAN’T LIVE OUT WHAT WE’RE LEARNING WITH GOD’S HELP. WE LIVE OUR FAITH WITH THE EMPOWERMENT OF THE HOLY SPIRIT—NOT UNDER OUR OWN POWER. SO PRAYERFULLY CONSIDER MAKING A COMMITMENT TO TRYING AT LEAST ONE OF THE FOLLOWING SPIRITUAL PRACTICES DURING THE WEEK. DECIDE WHICH ONE YOU THINK WILL EQUIP AND STRENGTHEN YOU TO LIVE OUT WHAT YOU’RE LEARNING HERE.

PRAY

SPENDING TIME ALONE WITH GOD IS OUR SWEET PRIVILEGE

SERVE

How could you serve this group— perhaps in a way that is behind the scenes? Maybe you’ll pray for someone, or send an encouraging email or text between meetings, help organize the schedule or invite group members to do something outside of the regular meeting time.

REFLECT

Think about your own gifts and

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS DAY 1 : ISAIAH 25:1 LORD, you are my God; I will exalt you and praise your name, for in perfect faithfulness you have done wonderful things, things planned long ago.

REFLECT: What are two or three wonderful things that God has done in your life recently? Can you give testimony to God’s “perfect faithfulness” (even when our faithfulness falters)? Pray these words to God with these examples in your mind.

PART OF LIVING OUT OUR FAITH INVOLVES WALKING WITH GOD DAY BY DAY. AS PASTORS, IT’S EASY TO FALL INTO READING TO PREPARE FOR SERMONS, BUT NOT FOR OUR OWN DEVOTIONAL LIFE.

…he will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces…

REFLECT: What stressful situation this week made your cry, or brought you to the edge of tears? How does this promise make you feel? While this is a promise for the future, in what way does it bring you comfort now?

REFLECT: WHERE HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED DISGRACE IN YOUR LIFE? WHAT SHAME DO YOU CARRY? HOW IS THAT HINDERING YOUR MINISTRY? ARE YOU SHAMING OTHERS? CONSIDER THE POSSIBILITY THAT GOD WANTS TO REMOVE THAT SHAME, NOT JUST IN THE FUTURE, BUT RIGHT NOW.

DAY 4 : ISAIAH 25: 9A

TO HELP YOU TO PRAY AND

IN THAT DAY THEY WILL SAY, “SURELY THIS IS OUR GOD; WE TRUSTED IN HIM, AND HE SAVED US. THIS IS THE LORD, WE TRUSTED IN HIM…”

LISTEN TO WHAT GOD IS SAYING, TO EXPERIENCE THE SPIRIT’S PRESENCE, THROUGH HIS WORD.

REFLECT: READ SLOWLY OVER THIS SHORT PHRASE: “WE TRUSTED

TAKE YOUR TIME! ENJOY GOD’S

IN HIM.” WHERE DO YOU NEED TO TRUST GOD MORE? WHERE DO YOU NEED THE HOLY SPIRIT’S POWER TO SAVE YOU? SIT QUIETLY, AND ASK GOD TO BRING A SITUATION TO MIND. ASK HIM TO SHOW WHERE YOU NEED TO TRUST HIM. SPEND SOME TIME SIMPLY GIVING THAT SITUATION TO GOD, AND THEN WRITE DOWN ONE OR TWO STEPS OF TRUST AND OBEDIENCE YOU WILL TAKE (THIS OFTEN MEANS LETTING GO OF THINGS).

HIS WHISPERS, ASK FOR INSIGHT AND DEEPER CONNECTION WITH HIM. ALLOW THIS TIME IN GOD’S WORD TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM, LET IT PROVIDE A VOCABULARY WITH

DAY 5 : ISAIAH 25:9B

WHICH TO PRAISE HIM.

… LET US REJOICE AND BE GLAD IN HIS SALVATION.”

ASK FOR INSIGHT

PONDER AND REFLECT WITH NO OTHER AGENDA EXCEPT PRAISING GOD AND EXPERIENCING HIS PRESENCE. RESPOND IN PRAYER AND WORSHIP. THEN RECORD YOUR THOUGHTS, INSIGHTS, OR PRAYER IN THE REFLECT SECTION BELOW THE VERSES YOU READ. ON THE SIXTH DAY RECORD A SUMMARY OF WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED OVER THE ENTIRE WEEK THROUGH THIS STUDY. P | 91

…HE WILL REMOVE HIS PEOPLE’S DISGRACE FROM ALL THE EARTH. THE LORD HAS SPOKEN.

THIS SECTION IS DESIGNED

PRESENCE, PAY ATTENTION TO

DAY 2 : ISAIAH 25:8A

DAY 3 : ISAIAH 25:8B

REFLECT: WHAT ARE YOU REJOICING AND BEING GLAD ABOUT? WHEN WE REJOICE, WE OPEN UP OUR HANDS AND LIFT THEM TO GOD. WHAT ARE YOU CLINGING TO SO TIGHTLY THAT YOU CANNOT OPEN YOUR HANDS AND REJOICE?

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MEMORY VERSE WHATEVER YOU DO, WORK AT IT WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AS

WORKING FOR THE LORD, NOT FOR HUMAN MASTERS, SINCE YOU KNOW THAT YOU WILL RECEIVE AN INHERITANCE FROM THE LORD AS A REWARD. IT IS THE LORD CHRIST

YOU ARE SERVING. [ COLOSSIANS 3:23-24]

SESSION FOUR

SERVING GOD

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FAITHFUL SERVANTS NEVER RETIRE. YOU CAN RETIRE FROM YOUR CAREER, BUT YOU WILL NEVER RETIRE FROM SERVING GOD.

- RICK WARREN, THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE

GOD CALLS US TO LOVE OUR NEIGHBOR. AS PASTORS, WE CAN FEEL A SORT OF UNSPOKEN PRESSURE TO DO THAT REALLY WELL. God calls us to love others, and to serve them. But if we are simply trying to gain people’s approval, we will quickly burn out or feel resentment. We will serve people’s whims more than we serve God. We’ll wonder if we are good enough, and that insecurity will just push us into more people pleasing, weakening our boundaries. When we focus on serving God, he provides HE FILLS US WITH energy and motivation through His Holy LOVE THAT SPILLS Spirit to serve joyfully. He fills us with love that spills out on the people around us. OUT ON THE PEOPLE

AROUND US.

When we serve God’s people as if we are serving Jesus himself, we’re going to be much more effective in ministry. We’ll be able to serve joyfully. And we’ll be able to ask others to serve alongside of us.

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THINKING ABOUT IT

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1. What is the most rewarding part of serving God, in your experience? What is the least rewarding or one you’d rather avoid?

2. You serve others in ministry— but how do you serve others outside of that context? What does it look like to serve your family or your friends?

WATCH THE DVD FOR THIS SESSION NOW. WE HAVE PROVIDED SPACE FOR NOTE-TAKING ON PAGE ??. THERE YOU CAN RECORD ANY KEY THOUGHTS, QUESTIONS, AND THINGS YOU WANT TO REMEMBER OR FOLLOW UP ON. AFTER WATCHING THE VIDEO, HAVE SOMEONE READ THE DISCUSSION QUESTIONS IN THE TALKING ABOUT IT SECTION AND DIRECT THE DISCUSSION AMONG

God calls us to love our neighbor.

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THE GROUP. AS YOU GO THROUGH EACH OF THE SUBSEQUENT SECTIONS, ASK SOMEONE ELSE TO READ THE QUESTIONS AND DIRECT THE DISCUSSION.

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READ MATTHEW 20:26-28

USE THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS TO GUIDE YOUR DISCUSSION OF THE TEACHING AND STORIES YOU JUST EXPERIENCED, AND THE BIBLE PASSAGE LISTED BELOW.

39. In this passage, we’re told to follow Jesus’ example of service. When we serve as a pastor or leader, we have authority. How do you balance authority with serving others? In other words, how do you serve those you have authority over?

40. In the video, we heard that our willingness to serve is “evidence of Christ’s love” in our lives and that “it’s a mark of discipleship that we’re willing to serve the needs that we see around us.” Would a stranger observing your daily life be convinced that you are a disciple of Christ, based on your

TALKING ABOUT IT

willingness to serve? 41. In the video, we were challenged to not just preach God’s love, but to demonstrate it. How, specifically, do you demonstrate God’s love to your family? To those you lead?

42. What situation was Jesus responding to when he stated that he came not to be served, but to serve? In what ways are you like his disciples, who were vying for power and position? How, specifically, do you want to follow his example this

week?

43. What do you find most challenging about Jesus’ instructions that the first should be last? How did Jesus’ willingness to serve motivate his disciples to do the same?

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NOTES

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LEARNING IS

ESSENTIAL TO OUR

GROWTH BUT WHAT MATTERS IS WHAT WE DO WITH WHAT WE LEARN—HOW WE APPLY

47. Take a few minutes to discuss the future of your group. How many of you are willing to stay together as a group and work through another study together? If you have time, turn to the Small Group Agreement on page ??? and talk about any changes you would like to make as you move forward as a group.

IT TO OUR DAILY LIVES. 44. Which area of life (work, ministry, family, out in your city or community) do you find it most challenging to serve? For example, after a long day, do you come home with the idea of serving your family? Would they agree? What is one thing you could do to serve in that area in the coming week?

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45. How does God see you? When He looks at you, what do you think he says? How might your honest answer to this question impact your ability to joyfully serve God and others? 46. In the video, we heard 2 Corinthians 5:15, which says: “And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them.” In what ways do you still “live for yourself”—even as you are doing ministry?

48. In your Personal Health Plan on page ???, next to the “Sharing” icon, answer the “WHEN are you shepherding another person in Christ?” question.

49. As this is the last meeting in this study, take some time to celebrate the work God has done in the lives of group members. Have each person in the group share some step of growth that they have noticed in another member. (In other words, no one will talk about themselves, but affirm others in the group). Make sure that each person gets affirmed and noticed and celebrated— whether the steps they’ve made are large or small.

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TRUE LOVE

MEANS

TRUSTING EACHOTHER &

READING GOD’S WORD

TOGETHER

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PRAY

SPENDING TIME ALONE WITH GOD IS OUR SWEET PRIVILEGE

SERVE

How could you serve this group— perhaps in a way that is behind the scenes? Maybe you’ll pray for someone, or send an encouraging email or text between meetings, help organize the schedule or invite group members to do something outside of the regular meeting time.

REFLECT

Think about your own gifts and

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DAILY DEVOTIONALS DAY 1 : JOSHUA 22:1,2 Then Joshua summoned the Reubenites, the Gadites and the half-tribe of Manasseh and said to them, “You have done all that Moses the servant of the LORD commanded, and you have obeyed me in everything I commanded.

REFLECT: What were the tribes

SERVICE ALWAYS GIVE US A REWARD? HOW DO YOU STAY MOTIVATED WHEN THE REWARD SEEMS TO BE TOO FAR OFF?

EACH DAY, READ THE DAILY VERSES AND GIVE PRAYERFUL CONSIDERATION TO WHAT YOU LEARN

DAY 2 : JOSHUA 22:3

INSIGHTS, OR PRAYER IN

For a long time now—to this very day—you have not deserted your fellow Israelites but have carried out the mission the LORD your God gave you.

THE REFLECT SECTION

God given you? What will it take to carry it out? What will you need in order to not give up or abandon it?way does it bring you

NOW THAT THE LORD YOUR GOD HAS GIVEN THEM REST AS HE PROMISED, RETURN TO YOUR HOMES IN THE LAND THAT MOSES THE SERVANT OF THE LORD GAVE YOU ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE JORDAN.

REFLECT: WHAT REWARD DID THESE TRIBES RECEIVE? DOES

Joshua spoke to commended for? How does Joshua refer to Moses? Why is that significant in this context? What do you think it means to be a “servant leader”?

REFLECT: What mission has

DAY 3 : JOSHUA 22:4

ABOUT GOD, HIS SPIRIT, AND HIS PLACE IN YOUR LIFE. THEN RECORD YOUR THOUGHTS,

BELOW THE VERSES YOU READ. ON THE SIXTH DAY RECORD A

DAY 4 : JOSHUA 22:5A BUT BE VERY CAREFUL TO KEEP THE COMMANDMENT AND THE LAW THAT MOSES THE SERVANT OF THE LORD GAVE YOU: TO LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD, TO WALK IN OBEDIENCE TO HIM,

REFLECT: WHAT DO YOU THINK IT MEANS TO LOVE GOD AND WALK IN OBEDIENCE TO HIM? WHY DOES THE TEXT SAY “WALK” IN OBEDIENCE AND NOT “SIT” OR “STAND” IN OBEDIENCE? WHAT DOES THE WORD “WALK” IMPLY ABOUT SERVING GOD WITH OBEDIENCE? HOW ARE LOVE AND OBEDIENCE CONNECTED?

DAY 5 : JOSHUA 22:5B … LET US REJOICE AND BE GLAD IN HIS SALVATION.”

REFLECT: WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO SERVE WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND SOUL? WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HOLD FAST TO GOD? WHAT IS ONE THING YOU WILL DO THIS WEEK TO HOLD FAST TO HIM?

SUMMARY OF WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED OVER THE ENTIRE WEEK THROUGH THIS STUDY.

DAY 6. USE THE FOLLOWING SPACE TO WRITE ANY THOUGHTS GOD HAS PUT IN YOUR HEART AND MIND ABOUT THE THINGS WE HAVE LOOKED AT IN THIS SESSION AND DURING YOUR DAILY DEVOTIONALS TIME THIS WEEK.

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SUMMARY

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APPENDICES

GREAT RESOURCES TO HELP MAKE YOUR

SMALL GROUP

EXPERIENCE EVEN BETTER!

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FAQ

ministry opportunities, and so

will be with you even if there are

forth–and if the group gets too

only two of you (Matthew 18:20).

small, it could be at risk of shutting

HOW DO WE HANDLE THE CHILD CARE NEEDS IN OUR GROUP?

WHAT IF THIS GROUP IS NOT WORKING FOR US?

Very carefully. Seriously, this can

You’re not alone! This could be

that you empower the group to

the result of a personality conflict,

openly brainstorm solutions. You

life stage difference, geographical

may try one option that works

distance, level of spiritual maturity,

for a while and then adjust over

HOW LONG WILL THIS GROUP MEET?

or any number of things. Relax.

time. Our favorite approach is for

Pray for God’s direction, and at the

adults to meet in the living room or

It’s totally up to the group–once

end of this 6-week study, decide

Agreement (pages ???-???) and

dining room, and to share the cost

you come to the end of this 6-week

whether to continue with this group

share the names of a few friends

of a babysitter (or two) who can

study. Most groups meet weekly for

or find another. You don’t buy the

you can invite to join you. But most

be with the kids in a different part

at least their first 6 weeks, but every

first car you look at or marry the

importantly, have fun before your

of the house. In this way, parents

other week can work as well. We

first person you date, and the same

study time begins.

don’t have to be away from their

strongly recommend that the group

goes with a group. Don’t bail out

children all evening when their

meet for the first six months on a

before the 6 weeks are up–God

children are too young to be left

weekly basis if at all possible. This

might have something to teach

at home. A second option is to

allows for continuity, and if people

you. Also, don’t run from conflict or

use one home for the kids and a

miss a meeting they aren’t gone for

prejudge people before you have

second home (close by or a phone

a whole month.

given them a chance. God is still

call away) for the adults. A third

working in you too!

idea is to rotate the responsibility

WHAT DO WE DO ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF OUR GROUP? Like all fun things in life–have a party! A “get to know you” coffee, dinner, or dessert is a great way to launch a new study. You may want to review the Group

WHERE DO WE FIND NEW MEMBERS FOR OUR GROUP? This can be troubling, especially for new groups that have only a few people or for existing groups that lose a few people along the way. We encourage you to pray with your group and then brainstorm a list of people from work, church, your neighborhood, your children’s school, family, the gym, and so forth. Then have each group member invite several of the people on his or her list. Another good strategy is to ask church leaders to

down. If you and your group stay open, you’ll be amazed at the people God sends your way. The next person just might become a friend for life. You never know!

At the end of this study, each group member may decide if he or she

WHO IS THE LEADER?

wants to continue on for another

Most groups have an official leader.

6-week study. Some groups launch

But ideally, the group will mature

relationships for years to come,

and members will rotate the

and others are stepping-stones into

leadership of meetings. We have

another group experience. Either

discovered that healthy groups

way, enjoy the journey.

rotate hosts/leaders and homes on a regular basis. This model ensures

make an announcement or allow a

CAN WE DO THIS STUDY ON OUR OWN?

that all members grow, give their

bulletin insert.

Absolutely! This may sound crazy

their gifts. This study guide and

but one of the best ways to do No matter how you find members,

the Holy Spirit can keep things on

this study is not with a full house

it’s vital that you stay on the

track even when you rotate leaders.

but with a few friends. You may

lookout for new people to join

Christ has promised to be in your

choose to gather with one other

your group. All groups tend to go

midst as you gather. Ultimately, God

couple who would enjoy going out

through healthy attrition–the result

is your leader each step of the way.

or having a quiet dinner and then

of moves, releasing new leaders,

walking through this study. Jesus

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unique contribution, and develop

be a sensitive issue. We suggest

of providing a lesson or care for the children either in the same home or in another home nearby. This can be an incredible blessing for kids. Finally, the most common idea is to decide that you need to have a night to invest in your spiritual lives individually or as a couple, and to make your own arrangements for childcare. No matter what decision the group makes, the best approach is to dialogue openly about both the problem and the solution.

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OUR VALUES GROUP ATTENDANCE

To give priority to the group meeting. We will call or email if we will be late or absent. (Completing the Group Calendar on page ??? will minimize this issue.)

To provide a predictable environment where participants experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

SAVE ENVIRONMENT

To help create a safe place where people can

RESPECT DIFFERENCES

To be gentle and gracious to people with

be heard and feel loved. (Please, no quick answers, snap judgments, or simple fixes.)

different spiritual maturity, personal opinions, temperaments, or â&#x20AC;&#x153;imperfectionsâ&#x20AC;? in fellow group members. We are all works in progress.

CONFIDENTIALITY

To keep anything that is shared strictly confidential and within the group, and to avoid sharing improper information about those outside the group.

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR GROWTH

To be not just takers but givers of life. We

SHARED OWNERSHIP

To remember that every member is a minister

want to spiritually multiply our life by serving others with our God-given gifts.

and to ensure that each attender will share a small team role or responsibility over time (See the Team Roles on pages ???-???.)

ROTATING HOSTS/ LEADERS AND HOMES

To encourage different people to host the group in their homes, and to rotate the responsibility of facilitating each meeting. (See the Group Calendar on page ???.)

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OUR EXPECTATIONS

CALENDAR Planning and calendaring can help ensure the greatest participation at every meeting. At the end of each meeting, review this calendar. Be sure to include a regular rotation of host homes and leaders, and don’t forget birthdays, socials, church events, holidays, and mission/ ministry projects. Go to www.lifetogether.com for an electronic copy of this form and other ideas for your group to do together.

REFRESHMENTS/MEALTIMES

CHILDCARE

WHEN WE WILL MEET (DAY OF WEEK)

DATE

LESSON

Monday, January 15

HOST HOME

DESSERT/ MEAL

LEADER

Steve and Laura’s House

Joe

Bill

WHERE WE WILL MEET (PLACE)

WE WILL BEGIN AT (TIME)

AND END AT

WE WILL DO OUR BEST TO HAVE SOME OR ALL OF US ATTEND A WORSHIP SERVICE TOGETHER. OUR PRIMARY WORSHIP SERVICE TIME WILL BE

DATE OF THIS AGREEMENT

DATE WE WILL REVIEW THIS AGREEMENT AGAIN

WHO (OTHER THAN THE LEADER) WILL REVIEW THIS AGREEMENT AT THE END OF THIS STUDY

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TEAM ROLES

TEAM PLAYERS

CONNECT TEAM (Fellowship and Community Building)

CRAWL: Host a social event or group activity in the first week or two.

The Bible makes clear that every member, not just the small group leader, is a minister in the body of Christ. In a healthy small group, every member takes on some small role or responsibility. It’s more fun and effective if you team up on these roles. Review the team roles and responsibilities below, and have each member volunteer for a role or participate on a team. If someone doesn’t know where to serve or is holding back, have the group suggest a team or role. It’s best to have one or two people on each team so you have each of the five purposes covered. Serving in even a small capacity will not only help your leader but also will make the group more fun for everyone. Don’t hold back. Join a team! The opportunities below are broken down by the five functions and then by a crawl (beginning step), walk (intermediate step), or run (advanced step). Try to cover at least the crawl and walk roles, and select a role that matches your group, your gifts, and your maturity. If you can’t find a good step or just want to see other ideas, go to www.lifetogether.com and see what other groups are choosing.

WALK: Create a list of uncommitted members and then invite them to an open house or group social.

RUN: Plan a twenty-four-hour retreat or weekend getaway for the group. Lead the Connecting time each week for the group.

TEAM ROLES

TEAM PLAYERS

GROW TEAM (Discipleship and Spiritual Growth)

CRAWL: Coordinate the spiritual partners for the group. Facilitate a three- or fourperson discussion circle during the Bible study portion of your meeting. Coordinate the discussion circles. WALK: Tabulate the Personal Health Assessments and Health Plans in a summary to let people know how you’re doing as a group. Encourage personal devotions through group discussions and pairing up with spiritual (accountability) partners. RUN: Take the group on a prayer walk, or plan a day of solitude, fasting, or personal retreat.

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TEAM ROLES

TEAM PLAYERS

TEAM ROLES

TEAM PLAYERS

SERVE TEAM (Discovering Your God-Given Design for Ministry)

WORSHIP TEAM (Surrendering Your Heart to Worship)

CRAWL: Ensure that every member finds a group role or team he or she enjoys.

CRAWL: Maintain the group’s Pray and Praise Report or journal.

WALK: Have every member take a gift test in this study guide and determine your group’s gifts. Plan a ministry project together.

WALK: Lead a brief time of worship each week (at the beginning or end of your meeting), either a cappella or a worship DVD/CD.

RUN: Help each member decide on a way to use his or her unique gifts somewhere in the church.

RUN: Plan a unique time of worship through Communion, foot washing, night of prayer, or nature walking.

TEAM ROLES

TEAM PLAYERS

GROW TEAM (Discipleship and Spiritual Growth)

CRAWL: Coordinate the group’s Prayer and Praise Report of friends and family who don’t know Christ.

WALK: Search for group mission opportunities and plan a cross-cultural group activity. RUN: Take a small-group “vacation” to host a six-week group in your neighborhood or office. Then come back together with your current group.

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Briefly check in each week and write down your personal plans and progress for the next week (or even for the next few weeks). This could be done (before or after the meeting) on the phone, through an E-mail message, or even in person from time to time.

GIFTS o Preaching (1 Cor. 14:3)

o Missions (1 Cor. 9:19-23, Acts 13:2-3)

o Music (Psalm 150)

o Evangelism (Acts 8:26-40)

o Service (Acts 6:1-7, 1 Cor 12:28)

o Arts & Crafts (Exodus 31:3-11)

o Discernment (1 John 4:1)

o Mercy (Romans 12:8)

o Healing (James 5:14-16)

o Apostle (Romans 15:20)

o Hospitality (1 Peter 4:9-10)

o Miracles (Mark 11:23-24)

o Teaching (Eph. 4:12-13)

o Pastoring (1 Peter 5:2-4)

o Hosting (Heb. 13:7, 17)

o Encouragement (Acts 14:22)

o Giving (II Cor. 8:1-7)

o Administration (1 Cor. 14:40)

o Wisdom (1 Cor. 2:1, 6-16)

o Intercession (Col. 1:9-12)

o Faith (Romans 4:18-21)

MY NAME:

OUR PLANS

SPIRITUAL PARTNERâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S NAME:

OUR PROGRESS

o Organize

o Serve/Help

o Acquire/Possess

o Excel

o Perform

o Improve

o Repair

o Lead/Be in Charge

o Persevere

o Follow the Rules

o Prevail

o Influence

EXPERIENCES o Spiritual

o Pioneer

o Organize

o Operate/Maintain

o Serve/Help

o Acquire/Possess

o Excel

o Perform

o Improve

o Repair

o Lead/Be in Charge

o Persevere

o Follow the Rules

o Prevail

o Influence

o Painful

o Educational

o Vocational

WEEK 2

o Pioneer

o Operate/Maintain

WEEK 3

o Design/Develop

WEEK 1

INTERESTS

o Planning

o Evaluating

o Managing

o Researching

o Artistic/Graphics

o Interviewing

o Counseling

o Teaching

o Writing/Editing

o Promoting

o Repairing

o Feeding

o Recall

o Mechanical Operating

o Resourceful

o Counting/Classifying

o Public Relations

o Welcoming

o Composing

o Landscaping

o Arts & Crafts

o Decorating

o Musical

o Ministry

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WEEK 5

o Recruiting

WEEK 6

STRENGTHS o Entertaining

WEEK 4

o Ministry

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CONNECT

I am deepening my understanding of and friendship with God in community with others.

1 2 3 4 5

I am cultivating relationships with non-Christians and praying for God to give me natural opportunities to share his love.

1 2 3 4 5

I am growing in my ability both to share and to show my love to others.

1 2 3 4 5

I am praying and learning about where God can use me and our group cross-culturally for missions.

1 2 3 4 5

I am willing to share my real needs for prayer and support from others.

1 2 3 4 5

I am investing my time in another person or group who needs to know Christ.

1 2 3 4 5

I am resolving conflict constructively and am willing to forgive others.

1 2 3 4 5

I am regularly inviting unchurched or unconnected friends to my church or small group.

1 2 3 4 5

CONNECT TOTAL

GO TOTAL

GROW

WORSHIP

I have a growing relationship with God through regular time in the Bible and in prayer (spiritual habits).

1 2 3 4 5

I am experiencing more of the presence and power of God in my everyday life.

1 2 3 4 5

I am experiencing more of the characteristics of Jesus Christ (love, patience, gentleness, courage, self-control, etc.) in my life.

1 2 3 4 5

I am faithfully attending services and my small group and to worship God.

1 2 3 4 5

I am avoiding addictive behaviors (food, television, busyness, and the like) to meet my needs.

1 2 3 4 5

I am seeking to please God by surrendering every area of my life (health, decisions, finances, relationships, future, etc.) to him.

1 2 3 4 5

I am spending time with a Christian friend (spiritual partner) who celebrates and challenges my spiritual growth.

1 2 3 4 5

I am accepting the things I cannot change and becoming increasingly grateful for the life Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve been given.

1 2 3 4 5

GROW TOTAL

WORSHIP TOTAL

SERVE I have discovered and am further developing my unique Godgiven design.

1 2 3 4 5

I am regularly praying for God to show me opportunities to serve him and others.

1 2 3 4 5

I am serving in a regular (once a month or more) ministry in the church or community.

1 2 3 4 5

I am a team player in my small group by sharing some group role or responsibility.

1 2 3 4 5

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This worksheet could become your single most important feature in this study. On it you can record your personal priorities before the Father. It will help you live a healthy spiritual life, balancing all five functions.

PURPOSE

PLAN

CONNECT

WHO are you connecting with spiritually?

Bill and I will meet weekly by email or phone.

GROW

WHAT is your next step for growth?

DATE MY PROGRESS

PARTNER’S PROGRESS

3/5

Talked during our group

Figured out our goals together

3/12

Missed our time together

3/26

Met for coffee and review of my goals

Met for coffee

4/10

mailed prayer requests

Bill sent me his prayer requests

3/5

Great start on personal journaling

Read Mark 1-6 in one sitting!

3/12

Traveled and not doing well this week

Journaled about Christ as Healer

3/26

Back on track

Busy and distracted; asked for prayer

3/1

Need to call Children’s Pastor

3/26

Group did a serving project together

Agreed to lead group worship

3/30

Regularly rotating leadership

Led group worship–great job!

3/5

Called Jim to see if he’s open to joining our group

Wanted to invite somebody, but didn’t

3/12

Preparing to start a group in fall

3/30

Group prayed for me

Told friend something he’s learning about Christ

3/5

Overwhelmedbut encouraged

Scared to lead worship

3/15

Felt heard and more settled

Issue with wifE

3/30

Read book on teens

Glad he took on his fear

Regular devotions or journaling my prayers 2x/week.

SERVE

WHERE are you serving?

Serving in Children’s Ministry Go through GIFTS Class GO

WHEN are you shepherding another in Christ?

Shepherding Bill at lunch or hosting a starter group in the fall WORSHIP

HOW are you surrendering your heart?

Help with out teenager New job situation

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PURPOSE

PLAN

CONNECT

WHO are you connecting with spiritually?

GROW

WHAT is your next step for growth?

SERVE

WHERE are you serving?

WHEN are you shepherding another in Christ?

WORSHIP

HOW are you surrendering your heart?

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DATE

MY PROGRESS

PARTNERâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S PROGRESS

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you drink it, in remembrance of me.” For whenever you eat this break and drink this cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death until he comes.

Looking for a wonderful means of worshiping as a group? Why not lead your group in sharing the Lord’s Supper? If you’ve never done this before, the idea certainly seems daunting, but here is a simple form by which your small group can share this ordinance of the church. Of course, churches vary in their treatment of Communion so you may need to adapt these suggestions to your church’s beliefs.

Steps in Serving Communion 1

Out of the context of your own experience, say something brief about God’s love, forgiveness, grace, mercy, commitment, tenderheartedness or faithfulness. Connect your words with the personal stories of the group. For example, “These past few weeks I’ve experienced God’s mercy in the way He untangled the situation with my son. And I’ve seen God show mercy to others of us here too, especially to Jean and

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Roger.” If you prefer, you can write down ahead of time what you want to say. 2 Read 1 Corinthians 11:2326*: The Lord Jesus, on the night he was betrayed, took bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it and said, “This is my body, which is for you; do this in remembrance of me.” In the same way, after supper he took the cup, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood; do this, whenever

3 Pray silently, and pass the bread around the circle. While the bread is being passed, you may want to reflect quietly, sing a simple praise song, or listen to a worship tape.

Here are some other good Communion passages: Matthew 26:26-29, Mark 14:22-25, Luke 22:14-20, 1 Corinthians 10:16-21 or 1 Corinthians 11:17-34.

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o Day 15 Mark 8:1-21

When we’ve sat at 30 DAYS THROUGH THE GOSPEL OF MARK

o Day 16 Mark 8:22-9:1 o Day 17 Mark 9:2-32

Imagine sitting at the feet of Jesus himself: the Teacher who knows how to live life well, the Savior who died for you, the Lord who commands the universe. Like his first disciples, you can follow him around, watch what he does, listen to what he says, and pattern your life after his. Find a quiet place, and have ready a notebook or journal in which you can write what you learn and what you want to say back to God. You may also use the Daily Devotions page at the end of each session of this study.

o Day 18 Mark 9:33-50 o Day 19 Mark 10:1-31

this ourselves, the sense of a real, alive, present Jesus has been breathtaking. We pray you’ll have the same experience.

o Day 20 Mark 10:32-52 o Day 21 Mark 11:1-19 o Day 22 Mark 11:20-33 o Day 23 Mark 12:1-17

Day 1 Mark 1:1-20 o

o Day 8 Mark 4:21-41

o Day 24 Mark 12:18-44

o Day 2 Mark 1:21-45

o Day 9 Mark 5:1-20

o Day 25 Mark 13:1-37

o Day 3 Mark 2:1-12

o Day 10 Mark 5:21-43

o Day 26 Mark 14:1-31

o Day 4 Mark 2:13-28

o Day 11 Mark 6:1-29

o Day 27 Mark 14:32-72

o Day 5 Mark 3:1-19

o Day 12 Mark 6:30-56

o Day 28 Mark 15:1-20

o Day6 Mark3:20-35

o Day 13 Mark 7:1-23

o Day 29 Mark 15:21-47

o Day 7 Mark 4:1-20

o Day 14 Mark 7:24-37

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It’s helpful to have one or two simple questions in mind to focus your reading. Here are some suggestions: What do I learn from the life of Christ (his identity, personality, priorities)? How does he want me to live differently?(his identity, personality, priorities)? How does he want me to live differently? P | 138

PRAYER REQUESTS

PRAISE REPORTS

SESSION 1 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5) SESSION 2 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. (1 John 4:12) SESSION 3 Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. (1 Corinthians 12:12, 13) SESSION 4 “But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Matthew 9:12)

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If you’re starting a new group, try planning an “open house” before your first formal group meeting. Even if you only have two to four core members, it’s a great way to break the ice and to consider prayerfully who else might be open to join you over the next few weeks. You can also use this kick-off meeting to hand out study guides, spend some time getting to know each other, discuss each person’s expectations for the group and briefly pray for each other. A simple meal or good desserts always make a kickoff meeting more fun. After people introduce themselves and share how they ended up being at the meeting (you can play a game to see who has the wildest story!), have everyone respond to a few icebreaker questions: “What is your favorite family vacation?” or “What is one thing you love about your church/our community?” P | 141

or “What are three things about your life growing up that most people here don’t know?” Next, ask everyone to tell what he or she hopes to get out of the study. You might want to review the Small Group Agreement and talk about each person’s expectations and priorities. Finally, set an open chair (maybe two) in the center of your group and explain that it represents someone who would enjoy or benefit from this group but who isn’t here yet. Ask people to pray about whom they could invite to join the group over the next few weeks. Hand out postcards and have everyone write an invitation or two. Don’t worry about ending up with too many people; you can always have one discussion circle in the living room and another in the dining room after you watch the lesson. Each group could then report prayer requests and progress at the end of the session. P | 142

TEN COMMON LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES. WELCOME TO LIFE OUT IN FRONT!

Sweaty palms are a healthy sign. The Bible says God is gracious to the humble. Remember who is in control; the time to worry is when you’re not worried. Those who are soft in heart (and sweaty palmed) are those whom God is sure to speak through.

2 Seek support. Ask your leader, co-leader, or close friend to pray for you and prepare with you before the session. Walking through the study will help you anticipate potentially difficult questions and discussion topics. 3 Bring your uniqueness to the study. Lean into who you are and how God wants you to uniquely lead the study. P | 143

4 Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. Go through the session several times. If you are using the DVD, listen to the teaching segment and Leadership Lifter. Consider writing in a journal or fasting for a day to prepare yourself for what God wants to do. 5 Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare. 6 Ask for feedback so you can grow. Perhaps in an email or on cards handed out at the study, have everyone write down three things you did well and one thing you could improve on. Don’t get defensive, but show an openness to learn and grow.

7 Use online resources. There are many notable small group leader blogs and resources available. 8 Prayerfully consider launching a new group. This doesn’t need to happen overnight, but God’s heart is for this to happen over time. Not all Christians are called to be leaders or teachers, but we are all called to be “shepherds” of a few someday.

10 Prayerfully consider whom you would like to pass the baton to next week. It’s only fair. God is ready for the next member of your group to go on the faith journey you just traveled. Make it fun, and expect God to do the rest.

9 Share with your group what God is doing in your heart. God is searching for those whose hearts are fully his. Share your trials and victories. We promise that people will relate.

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TOP TEN IDEAS FOR NEW LEADERS

Congratulations! You have responded to the call to help shepherd Jesus’ flock. There are a few other tasks in the family of God that surpass the contribution you will be making. As you prepare to lead, whether it is one session or the entire series, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind. We encourage you to read these and review them with each new discussion leader before he or she leads.

Remember that you are not alone. God knows everything about you, and He knew that you would be asked to lead your group. Remember that it is common for all good leaders to feel that they are not ready to lead. Moses, Solomon, Jeremiah and Timothy - they all were reluctant to lead. God promises, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). Whether you are leading for one evening, for several weeks, or for a lifetime,

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you will be blessed as you serve. 2 Don’t try to do it alone. Pray right now for God to help you build a healthy leadership team. If you can enlist a co-leader to help you lead the group, you will find your experience to be much richer. This is your chance to involve as many people as you can in building a healthy group. All you have to do is call and ask people to help, you’ll be surprised at the response.

3 Just be yourself. If you won’t be you, who will? God wants you to use your unique gifts and temperament. Don’t try to do things exactly like another leader; do them in a way that fits you! Just admit it when you don’t have an answer, and apologize when you make a mistake. Your group will love you for it, and you’ll sleep better at night! 4 Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. Review the session and the leader’s notes, and write down your responses to each question. Pay special attention to exercises that ask group members to do something other than engage in discussion. These exercises will help your group live what the Bible teaches, not just talk about it. Be sure you understand how an exercise works, and bring any necessary supplies (such as paper and pens) to your meeting. If the exercise employs one of the items in the Appendices, be

sure to look over that item so you’ll know how it works. Finally, review “Outline for Each Session” so you’ll remember the purpose of each section in the study. 5 Pray for your group members by name. Before you begin your session, go around the room in your mind and pray for each member by name. You may want to review the prayer list at least once a week. Ask God to use your time together to touch the heart of every person uniquely. Expect God to lead you to whomever He wants you to encourage or challenge in a special way. If you listen, God will surely lead! 6 When you ask a question, be patient. Someone will eventually respond. Sometimes people need a moment or two of silence to think about the question, and if silence doesn’t bother you, it won’t bother anyone else. After someone P | 146

responds, affirm the response with a simple “thanks” or “good job.” Then ask, “How about somebody else?” or “Would someone who hasn’t shared like to add anything?” Be sensitive to new people or reluctant members who aren’t ready to say, pray or do anything. If you give them a safe setting, they will blossom over time. 7 Provide transitions between questions. When guiding the discussion, always read aloud the transitional paragraphs and the questions. Ask the group if anyone would like to read the paragraph or Bible passage. Don’t call on anyone, but ask for a volunteer, and then be patient until someone begins. Be sure to thank the person who reads aloud. 8 Break up into small groups each week, or they won’t stay. If your group has more than seven people, we strongly encourage you to have the group gather P | 147

sometimes in discussion circles of three or four people during the SERVE or GO sections of the study. With a greater opportunity to talk in a small circle, people will connect more with the study, apply more quickly what they’re learning and ultimately get more out of it. A small circle also encourages a quiet person to participate and tends to minimize the effects of a more vocal or dominant member. It can also help people feel more loved in your group. When you gather again at the end of the section, you can have one person summarize the highlights from each circle. Small circles are also helpful during prayer time. People who are unaccustomed to praying aloud will feel more comfortable trying it with just two or three others. Also, prayer requests won’t take as much time, so circles will have more time to actually pray. When you gather back with the whole group, you can have one person from

each circle briefly update everyone on the prayer requests. People are more willing to pray in small circles if they know that the whole group will hear all the prayer requests. 9 Rotate facilitators weekly. At the end of each meeting, ask the group who should lead the following week. Let the group help select your weekly facilitator. You may be perfectly capable of leading each time, but you will help others grow in their faith and gifts if you give them opportunities to lead. You can use the Small Group Calendar to fill in the names of all meeting leaders at once

if you prefer. 10 One final challenge (for new or first time leaders): Before your first opportunity to lead, look up each of the five passages listed below. Read each one as a devotional exercise to help equip yourself with a shepherd’s heart. Trust us on this one. If you do this, you will be more

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