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Dear Reader, With May comes the promise of sunny, lazy days in the garden and the anticipation of a long awaited summer after such a long hard winter due to COVID restrictions. The warmer weather means there are so many more places to go and things to do outdoors, at a time when we cannot meet indoors and have to socially distance. This issue has a good selection of days out and as many local events as we could find when we went to press. The ‘what’s on’ clubs and classes for children include workshops and classes for after school, May half term and the summer to keep them busy and off computer games!

What's in this issue?

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“In the spri ng, at the end of the day, you should sme ll like dirt.”

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River & Rowing Museum’s Elmer and Friends exhibition re-opens on 20th May and will run in Henley on Thames until 21st June - the perfect nostalgic and celebratory exhibition for post-lockdown! To celebrate, they are giving one lucky competition winner a bundle of Elmer author David McKee books including ‘Elmer The Patchwork Elephant’. To enter, please visit our Facebook page @familieseastOxfordshiremag, like and share our competition post and like @riverandrowingmuseum FB page too.

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News & views Meet the Headmaster Baby news What’s on The Story Museum Mental health in the age of coronavirus 13. Addressing post-covid learning loss 14. The hidden benefits of performing arts 15. Clubs & Classes

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News & Views their mind of everything else for a moment.

Include activities they enjoy, hobbies that bring a moment of peace, things you could do together like cooking dinner, going for walks, maybe even get them excited for some Aware lth n chores! ea For more information please visit www.beingwellfamily.com

‘To Challenge, Cherish and Inspire’

Lack of sleep impacts emotional resilience and mental health Our children getting the sleep they need is fundamental to their physical and mental health. It is one of the most important building blocks that their development is built upon - particularly their emotional health, mental wellbeing and their day-to-day mood.

There was a time when we thought sleep issues were a symptom of mental health issues, but we now understand that, for our children, their mental wellbeing and their sleep have an interconnected relationship. Poor sleep impacts on our mental health, and if our children are struggling with their emotional wellbeing this will impact on their sleep.

When it comes to our kids’ sleep cycle, the stage that impacts on their emotional resilience and mental health the most is the REM stage of sleep. It helps to see this stage of sleep as an overnight counselling session, where they will be working through the emotions of the previous day. If our kids are not getting enough sleep then it is often this stage of sleep that is most affected. Any parent can

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tell when their children have slept well as they are more emotionally resilient, more alert and focused and want to engage with the world.

As parents, we also see our child’s behaviour change when they haven’t met their sleep need in terms of quality and quantity. They struggle to regulate their emotions, getting angry at the slightest thing, being lethargic and not wanting to do anything. Sometimes they can be “bouncing off the walls” as the body makes up the energy deficit from a lack of sleep by producing more stress hormones to give the appearance that they are overly energetic. In fact, research is starting to show that what was previously thought to be ADHD, could in some cases be the symptoms of sleep deprivation.

For more information, please visit www. beingwellfamily.com

Join in with Walk to School Week

Thousands of children across the UK will celebrate the health and wellbeing benefits of walking during National Walk to School Week from 17th to 21st May. Families will be encouraged to walk, cycle, scoot or ‘Park and Stride’ for the whole week to see the big differences that can come from small steps - from healthier and happier children to fewer cars outside the school gates. This year’s challenge will focus on the ‘walking superpowers’ that benefit individuals, communities and the planet.

Free Family Walk to School Kits and interactive wall charts and stickers can be downloaded. Schools can obtain Walk to School classroom packs to help teach children about the benefits of being active,with daily reward stickers and special rewards badges at the end of the week for those who travelled actively every day.

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Image: Sleep Expert James Wilson AKA The Sleep Geek

Situated in Abingdon, the Manor Preparatory School is an independent co-educational day school that welcomes children aged 2-11.

The school has a wonderfully happy, creative atmosphere where every individual is valued and nurtured to reach their potential. The Manor’s most recent ISI Inspection awarded every area of school life the highest possible rating of ‘Excellent’. Inspectors commented that “Pupils approach every day with an overwhelming passion to learn and develop.”

This is in part due to the exceptionally caring and invigorating tone of the school, where laughter is an essential part of the school day.

Children’s personal development is further strengthened by staff who act as excellent role models.

The school aims to help simplify the logistics of family life and has created an extensive daily bus service covering Oxfordshire and surrounding areas, as well as fully flexible wraparound care, much of which is free of charge. For further information please visit their website www.manorprep.org

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what they have to say. When you are listening, do so without judgement or disbelief to help them feel supported by you in their struggles.

2. Talk openly about feelings - try not to presume whatever is going on for them is causing particular feelings. Use open questions to help them reveal more, for example “how is this making you feel?” rather than “does this make you feel sad?”. This will help them work out how they are feeling for themselves without thinking they need to give ‘the right’ answer. You could even try sharing how you’re feeling to help them know it’s ok to not be ok all the time.

3. Build positive routines together - work together to find things that bring joy, remind you both of happy moments, or even just take

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With Mental Health Awareness Week this month (10th – 16th May), Life Coach, Grace McMahon has told us parents what to look out for in children. It can be hard to know when our children and young people are struggling with their mental health, and it can be even more confusing for them too.

Whether you’ve noticed something different about their behaviour or attitude recently, or they’ve voiced concerns about their thoughts and feelings, it can be hard to know what to do to help and support them. We’ve got some tips to help you help your children and young people feel supported: 1. Be there to listen - our mental health can be really confusing, and even more so for young people and children, so try to really listen to

image: Life Coach, Grace McMahon.

Help your children and young people feel supported

News & Views

The best bedtime routine

Love the special places that helped you through lockdown

Take part as #Litterheroes in the Great British Spring Clean #MillionMileMission from 28th May to 13th June to clear litter from our streets, parks and beaches.

In the past 12 months our outdoor spaces and places have mattered to us more than ever before, demonstrating that what is good for our environment is good for our mental and physical health too. So Keep Britain Tidy invites you to show some love for those special places that helped us through lockdown.

You can pledge how many hours and minutes of litter-picking you will undertake during the Great British Spring Clean on the Keep Britain Tidy website. You can pledge as an individual or as a group, which at the moment is you plus one other person, a family group or bubble, or a school.

For all advice and information you need and Covid-19 guidelines, visit www.keepbritaintidy.org

PAID WORK BY MUMS: no impact on child behaviour

Having a mother who works full or part time in the first six years of their child’s life has no negative impact on a child’s behaviour, according to new research by the University of Cologne.

The study found, in fact, that children whose mothers have spent more years in full time and part time employment actually exhibited fewer behaviour problems at around eight years old.

The study which looked at mothers and children in Scotland also found that children from disadvantaged household were also not at greater risk of behavioural problems.

Factors that do impact on child behaviour were found to be economic resources, family structure, maternal health, child development and neighbourhood characteristics.

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A study by psychologists at the University of Manchester has scientifically defined for the first time the elements that constitute a good bedtime routine for children ages 2 to 8.

They found that a combination of activities, from the obvious teeth brushing and bedtime story were essential, but that it also helped to talk with children.

Funded by the Medical Research Council, the study identifies the following key elements: • Brushing teeth before bed • Going to bed at the same time each night • Reading/having a story • Avoiding food/drinks before bed • Avoiding electronic devices before bed • Interactive activities (conversation, playing, cuddling, singing) • Bath/shower.

COVID: young now more interested in science career

New research suggests children have been particularly engaged by scientific discoveries over the last year.

According to a survey commissioned by Thales, a French aerospace company, the pandemic has inspired more than a third (35%) of children to pursue careers in science, technology, engineering and mathematics (STEM).

A survey of more than 2,000 parents of children ages 5 to 16 across the UK found that 50% of youngsters cited NHS frontline staff, the scientists behind the Covid-19 vaccine rollout (31%) and the Mars Rover landing (24%) as events that have most inspired them. More info: www.thalesgroup.com

It's time to Shine at Perform this summer

Perform classes are back in person this summer term and there’s no better time for your child to try a class. Packed with self-esteem boosting activities, these weekly classes will help children get back to doing the things they love most. With a focus on developing confidence, communication, coordination and concentration, Perform uses a mix of drama, dance and singing to bring out every child’s potential.

The termly curriculum ensures plenty of fun, friendship and laughter, with drama games, catchy songs and funky dances. Class material is specially designed by Perform, with apps, downloads and videos for the children to enjoy at home. Small classes - run by two professional actors – ensures plenty of individual attention, plus each child receives a progress report every 10 weeks. Classes are available for ages 4-7 and 7-12 with a new creative theme each term.

To book a no-obligation FREE trial at Oxford (Wednesdays); Abingdon (Saturdays and Thursdays); Didcot (Fridays); and Wallingford (Saturdays) visit www.perform.org.uk/try T: 020 7255 9120 enquiries@perform.org.uk

Honour the Heroes of the Coronavirus Pandemic on Stamps

For over 50 years the Royal Mail have featured famous people from British History and their achievements on a set of stamps. During the coronavirus pandemic many people have done some incredible things, with frontline and key workers helping us through a difficult time.

To celebrate these people, the Royal Mail are inviting school-age children to design a stamp based on their heroes. A panel of judges will choose 8 winning designs and these will be presented to Her Majesty The Queen before being printed and issued. Entries close 28th May. More info at www.stampcompetition.ichild.co.uk/

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Families Education

Meet the Headmaster Families Oxfordshire Magazine talks to the Warden of Radley College, Mr John Moule John Moule joined Radley College as Warden (Headmaster) in September 2014.

Radley offers an environment for boys to grow in selfconfidence, thrive academically, and make the most of an enormous range of opportunities.

A Radley education is about independent thought and learning with enthusiasm. It is about cultural awareness and academic ambition. It is about learning to live with others and preparation for the world beyond its gates. If you have a talented boy, who excels academically or at music, sport, art or drama then they also have bursary support available up to 100% of the fees. To arrange a visit please contact: admissions@radley. org.uk or 01235 543174 or complete the enquiry form on their website www.radley. org.uk/funded-places.

HOW WOULD STUDENTS AT RADLEY COLLEGE DESCRIBE YOU? You’d have to ask them! I hope they would say I was interested in them and what they do and get to a lot of events. I think they would say I like an argument (accurately . . . !). They would probably mention I am an Arsenal fan and like darts.

WHAT AND / OR WHO INSPIRED YOU TO BECOME A TEACHER AND LATER A HEADTEACHER? To be honest, it was a bit of an accident.

Having failed to secure funding for a PhD, someone – I genuinely do not remember who – said I should apply to an independent school to teach. I thought I’d try it, despite never having really set foot in a boarding school. It was a new world. But the moment I started, I loved it. Being able to direct a play, coach sport, teach a subject . . . great. In terms of Headship, I was lucky to work for Heads who tolerated me, taught me and mentored me. The challenge of the job always intrigued me; I love the variety and the mix between 6 Families Oxfordshire

the every-day reactive and the long-term strategic. Never a dull moment.

WHAT DOES BEING A HEADTEACHER MEAN TO YOU? It is difficult to avoid cliché. It is a privilege to be involved in education and to know that what you do and say can genuinely have an impact on students that is lasting. That is not only a privilege of course: it is a serious task.

The best thing I get to do is give opportunities to boys through our funded places scheme; to give a place to a boy who would otherwise not be able to think of an education at Radley, to see him thrive and to see him make the College a better place . . . that is a joy indeed.

HOW DO YOU THINK A HEADTEACHER CAN MAKE A REAL DIFFERENCE TO AN INDIVIDUAL STUDENT? Heads set the tone. A conversation or a decision can have a lasting impact at an individual level, of course, but our real job is to set the overall agenda, appoint the right staff, and support them in bringing the best out of the students. One colleague once said to me that the two jobs were ‘fill the school and write thank you letters’. There’s more to it than that.

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO PARENTS LOOKING AT PRIVATE EDUCATION FOR THE FIRST TIME? Don’t believe the stereotypes, look behind the façade, go deep into the website, visit for yourselves, care about the people more than facilities and league tables. . . and trust your instinct. Go for it only if you think your child will be happy in the environment. And don’t worry too much about the cost; it’s worth it.

And if you can’t afford the fees, investigate bursary opportunities - most schools will offer some form of financial support to those who need it.

HOW AFFECTED DO YOU FEEL PUPILS HAVE BEEN BY THE PANDEMIC AND LOCKDOWN? It’s been tough. Real disruption in a key period in their lives; that applies to exams, the lack of competitive sport, the limited social interaction, the fear about the future, the uncertainty about the pandemic itself.

Telling pupils they have to isolate for ten days

or go into another lockdown is depressing and dispiriting. But I am optimistic too; boys at my school have been remarkable in their adaptability and have shown real creativity and collegiality throughout. They have learned new things. And, perhaps most importantly, they have realised just how much they enjoy school. We need to bottle that and to build on the many new initiatives and innovations introduced over the past year.

WHAT SORT OF ADAPTATIONS HAVE BEEN NECESSARY AT RADLEY COLLEGE TO MAKE STAFF AND CHILDREN SAFE AND SECURE? We have tried hard to provide as much of a normal experience as possible – both virtually and at Radley – and at the same time keep boys and staff safe. We have added a catering tent, created year-group Bubbles in our boarding houses, used outside as much as possible and done, as we all have, lots of tests. We have embraced technology. We even managed to stage a virtual musical. We have emphasised looking out for each other and a collective responsibility. I hope we have got the balance right and while we have not been covid-free, we have not been badly hit. Fingers crossed.

I SEE THAT YOU ENJOY READING A VERY WIDE RANGE OF BOOKS INCLUDING POLITICAL BIOGRAPHY, THEOLOGY, CRIME NOVELS AND P.G. WODEHOUSE. IF YOU HAD TO PICK ONE BOOK TO RECOMMEND TO OUR READERS, WHICH ONE WOULD IT BE AND WHY? Just the one? I get the Bible and Shakespeare, I hope, and as a Christian and a lover of theatre, both would matter to me. One more?

Well, laughter probably outdoes intellectual advancement so a P.G.Wodehouse. And then which one? ‘The Mating Season’: a Jeeves and Wooster classic. Why? Because Wodehouse was a genius and never fails to make me smile.

WHAT IS YOUR REAL-LIFE SUPERPOWER? Not sure I should answer that. I am hugely glad that, whatever the pressure, I seem to be able to sleep at night.

RELAXING HOLIDAY OR ACTIVE HOLIDAY? Definitely relaxing. With good wine (White Burgundy), a dose of cricket (or baseball) to watch, and more than one book. familiesonline.co.uk

Families Baby News

Babies at increased risk of cot death during covid A survey commissioned by leading SIDS charity The Lullaby Trust has found that less than a third of dads are being given information on the basic steps they can take to lower the risk of sudden infant death syndrome.

The Lullaby Trust has raised concerns about the risk to families after a new survey shows less than a third of dads have been given advice on how to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome. The survey of over 500 new and expectant dads, found that less than a quarter of dads had been able to attend all antenatal appointments and over 50% have not been allowed to attend any at all.

The survey results are a concerning indication that lockdown restrictions combined with the increased pressure placed on public health services by COVID-19, means less support and information for new parents, which is putting babies at risk.

The latest figures released by the ONS in September 2020 showed that SIDS rates

went up in 2018, fuelling concerns of a further increase during the covid pandemic. A parliamentary report released in the summer from the All-Party Parliamentary Group on Baby Loss, highlighting the impact of COVID-19 on pregnancy and baby loss, stated that lockdown had exacerbated risk factors for some types of baby loss, such as sudden unexpected death in infancy.

Although the cause of SIDS is still not known there are steps parents can take to lower the risk. Awareness of SIDS and following safer sleep advice is crucial to reducing the rate of babies dying. Since the guidelines were made known to the public through the 1991 Back to Sleep campaign the rate of SIDS has gone down by over 80% overall.

Visit www.lullabytrust.org.uk for up to date advice.

HELP CREATE A GREENER AND CLEANER WORLD

The improved Kit & Kin reusable cloth nappy is made from sustainable and plant-based materials so your little one’s bottom only comes into contact with plant-based materials. Hemp and TENCEL™, a material derived from sustainable tree pulp, are kind on delicate skin and up to 50% more absorbent than cotton. This super soft and highly absorbent fabric is breathable, gentle and offers unbeatable performance to keep bottoms dry for up to 12 hours. From the brand’s initial market research, parents have said that Kit & Kin’s 100% plant-based inner layer is the most absorbent on the market.

Available alongside the reusable nappy are a range of baby changing essentials including biodegradable liners, sustainable boosters and a handy nappy

• You should always place your baby on their back to sleep and not on their front or side (unless your doctor has advised you of a medical reason to do so) • Firmly tuck in sheets and blankets (not above shoulder height) or a baby sleep bag is safe for a baby to sleep in.

wallet. Designed to contain solids and make nappy changing quick and easy, the liners are made from a 100% plant-based material, while the super soft hemp and TENCEL™ boosters offer an extra layer of absorbency – ideal for night-time or heavy wetters.

Hypoallergenic and dermatologically tested, with a double gusset to help prevent leaks, the nappy also boasts handy poppers and secure hook and loop fastenings to create the perfect fit for babies of all sizes, promising parents a truly reliable reusable nappy.

Staying true to the brand’s ethical ethos, every nappy rescues two plastic bottles from landfill, helping to create a cleaner and greener world for us all RRP: Reusable cloth nappy - £19.99 Stockists: www.kitandkin.com

Maternal physical and mental health cannot be separated Intimate, potentially embarrassing or upsetting symptoms like incontinence (wetting yourself), prolapse symptoms or painful sex affect more than women’s physical bodies. They damage self-confidence, dignity, function and daily comfort and happiness.

Pregnant women and new mothers receive plenty of (not always welcome!) well-meaning advice around their diet, their parenting or their life choices. However most will agree that they were absolutely not prepared for the physical and mental health impact of childbirth and beyond.

We know that 1 in 3 women suffers stress incontinence after childbirth, and that urinary incontinence doubles the risk of postnatal depression. 50% of postnatal women experience pelvic organ prolapse symptoms of bladder and bowel dysfunction, and in a recent survey it was reported that 76% of women claim that their pelvic health symptoms impacted their mental health.

But despite the distress they cause, many familiesonline.co.uk

women present to their GP with these symptoms very late, if at all. The perceived stigma means women suffer in silence.

Incontinence, pelvic or sexual pain are common, yet often believed to be normal or inevitable, especially after we’ve had children, or as we get older. We put up with it, ignore it, or are too self conscious to seek help. So sadly, incidence is much higher than reported and symptoms worsen over time.

There is a gap in provision of information and preparation needed to cope with the physical, emotional and hormonal changes of childbirth and parenting, that results in women experiencing trauma and unanticipated physical and mental health symptoms following delivery. The solution is providing women with empowering, evidence based strategies to cope and address symptoms, helping them to feel in control and strong, to cope with unexpected birthing experience or outcomes, and for everything motherhood throws at us.

Wendy Powell is the Founder of the NHS Digital approved 12-module online pregnancy and postpartum specialist health platform clinically proven to improve postpartum symptoms such as incontinence, pelvic organ prolapse, diastasis recti and painful intercourse.

For more details on MUTU System, visit mutusystem.co.uk. Membership is priced at an affordable £99 for 12-months and includes additional support worth over £1500 such as food guides and personal online trackers.

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Springtime Story Walks

WHERE: The Story Museum WHEN: 2nd – 16th May Join the Story Museum’s popular themed family walk from the Museum and through the city to Christ Church Meadow, telling stories all the way. There’ll be games, riddles and fun for every bubble, and a treat from the Story Café at the end. £5.00 per person – takes approximately 60 minutes.

Pre-booking essential www.storymuseum.org.uk 01865 790050

Nature Tots

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Bluebell Walk

Baby Ashmoles Online

WHERE: Ashmolean Museum WHEN: 7th, 14th, 21st and 28th May: 10.30 – 11.30 Baby Ashmoles Online sessions are designed for babies under 1 and their parents/carers, and are inspired by the Ashmolean Museum collection.

The events include sing-along, play ideas, and a short object talk for the grown-ups and will be run as a Zoom call. www.ashmolean.org/events 8 Families Oxfordshire

Oxford Castle and Prison

Hey Diddle Diddle ONLINE

WHERE: The Oxford Playhouse WHEN: 10th May – 28th June (Mondays) – 11am Have you discovered the perfect fun, friendly and musical way to start the week for you and your child? Hey Diddle Diddle is a singalong and play session held every Monday via ZOOM for pre-school children and their grown-ups.

Free but booking essential www.oxfordplayhouse.com 01865 305305

WHEN: From 21st May: 10.00 – 17.00 When William the Conqueror invaded England and won the Battle of Hastings in 1066, Oxford Castle was marked by the Normans as the ideal place for a motte-and-bailey castle. Over time, the site transformed from a castle into a prison. Today, after one millennia, Oxford Castle & Prison is a visitor attraction with a story to tell.

From £9.45 www.oxfordcastleandprison.co.uk 01865 260666

Elmer and Friends: The Colourful World of David McKee

WHERE: River & Rowing Museum, Henley WHEN: 20th May – 21st June This exciting exhibition takes you on a journey into the imagination of the creator of classic books and characters including Elmer the Patchwork Elephant, Mr Benn and Not Now, Bernard. As if by magic, the exhibition allows you to explore Elmer’s jungle and even enter Mr Benn’s costume shop.

Free with admission. www.rrm.co.uk familiesonline.co.uk

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WHERE: Oxfordshire WHEN: Early May Late spring means bluebells.

Delight in the magic of these pretty flowers with a woodland walk: Harcourt Arboretum, Nunenham Courtney; Greys Court, Peppard (National Trust); Warburg Nature Reserve, near Henley; Stoke Wood, near Bicester, Shotover Wood, near Oxford.

FREE

WHERE & WHEN: Sutton Courtenay Environmental Education Centre (17th and 21st), Nature Discovery Centre, Thatcham (17th and 20th), College Lake (20th and 25th) and Woolley Firs, Maidenhead (21st and 24th) Join friendly Nature Tots staff and volunteers to explore the nature reserves and enjoy wildlife themed activities suitable for children aged 18 months to 4 years. £7.00 www.bbowt.org.uk/events/

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THE WHISPERING WOOD

WHERE: The Story Museum WHEN: From 22nd May Explore THE WHISPERING WOOD, a mysterious indoor forest where every tree has a story to tell and a secret to reveal; THE ENCHANTED LIBRARY where you can wander between the shelves and find yourself inside a story; and SMALL WORLDS, a patchwork land of picture books, nursery rhymes and traditional tales for the very young.

From £5.00. Pre-booking essential www.storymuseum.org.uk 01865 790050

Whizz Kidz

Jousting Tournament

WHERE: Blenheim Palace WHEN: 29th - 31st May Colourful banners flying in the wind, the sound of thundering hooves along the ground with the clash of lance upon shield.

The Knights of Middle England take you back to the exciting and colourful era of the Middle Ages with their action packed, high octane Jousting and Stunt Show.

From £9.00 www.blenheimpalace.com

Families in the Forest

WHERE: Thame WHEN: May and June Why not head to Whizz Kidz for a fun hour or two, or more should you little one not yet be tired. Large indoor softplay/ entertainment centre which has everything you could want.

Prices from £1.00 www.whizzkidz-thame.co.uk/

WHERE: Harcourt Arboretum WHEN: 30th May - 11:00 to 14:00 Families can take part in hands-on, playful learning experiences in a beautiful woodland setting. Try your hand at den-building, forest skills and fun craft activities whilst discovering more about the animals, plants and trees around you.

Designed especially for 6+ but all ages welcome (children must be accompanied by a paying adult). Siblings under 1-year-old are free of charge. Please bring a packed lunch. £5.00 www.obga.ox.ac.uk

WHERE: Chipping Norton WHEN: May and June: 10.00 – 17.00 Mixing classic fairy tales, animals and adventure play, children will love Fairytale Farm - the UK’s first visitor attraction that is open to all. A truly inclusive experience, where everything is accessible and everybody is welcome.

From £7.00 www.fairytalefarm.co.uk 01608 238014

Father’s Day BBQ

Elephant Family Sculptures

WHERE: Waddesdon Manor WHEN: May and June – Wed – Sun 10.00 – 17.00 A family of three life-size Indian elephants – a tusker, matriarch and a female calf can now be found in Half Moon Walk in the Pleasure Grounds. Brought to Waddesdon in support of the CoExistence campaign, these sculptures draw attention to the loss of biodiversity caused as humans encroach on wild spaces across the world.

From £6.00 for children.

Booking essential. www.waddesdon.org.uk

(BBQ served between 12.00 and 15:30) WHERE: Bletchley Park WHEN: Sunday 20th June 9.30 – 17.00 Treat Dad to a special day out at Bletchley Park this Father’s Day, exploring Bletchley Park, museum buildings and exhibitions, and enjoying some delicious American BBQ Grill food provided by Barbarian Grill Ltd. (Additional charge will apply for the purchase of food and drink on site.)

Admission from £12.50 (children under 12 Free) www.bletchleypark.org.uk/ 01908 640404

Blenheim Palace Flower Show

WHEN: 25th - 27th June Visitors can enjoy Garden Talks with experts and enthusiasts, fabulous food and drink as well as more than 300 exhibitors, an outdoor Plant Village and live entertainment throughout the weekend. www.blenheimpalace.com

Cotswold Wildlife Park

WHERE: Burford WHEN: May and June: 10.00 – 17.00 Wonderful animals and seasonal events complemented by daily activities: penguin feeding, adventure playground, farmyard fun and single-gauge railway!

Adult £16.00; Child £11.00; Under 3s FREE. Pre-Booking essential www.cotswoldwildlifepark.co.uk

Please note

all events are subject to change and cancellation in view of any future COVID-19 legislations. familiesonline.co.uk

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Families Days Out

The Story Museum The Story Museum in Oxford is reopening its doors to families of all ages, and there’s a surprise around every corner. Where else would you find the Hundred Acre Wood, Narnia and Wonderland under one roof?

Based in the city centre on Pembroke Street, the museum offers 4 different gallery spaces including The Whispering Wood, Enchanted Library, Treasure Chamber and Small Worlds.

Younger visitors (0-5) will enjoy exploring favourite picture books and stories in Small Worlds, including Michael Rosen’s We’re Going On A Bear Hunt and Korky Paul’s Winnie The Witch. Older visitors will enjoy the Galleries where they’ll explore the history of oral storytelling in the magical Whispering Wood before heading up to the Enchanted Library, where an immersive story space is hidden behind every book shelf, including Horrid Henry’s bedroom and Philip Pullman’s His Dark Materials.

The museum also has a packed programme of events including theatre shows, workshops and author events. Highlights include an adaptation of Astrid Lindgren’s Pippi Longstocking and the ever popular LEGO Master Builders workshops.

Whether you’re 2 or 102, there’s something for everyone at this magic, most-unusual museum!

ALL OUR GALLERIES ARE NOW OPEN!

ENJOY THE FREEDOM OF STORIES... www.storymuseum.org.uk

Box Office: 01865 807600 Registered charity 1107809

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Mental health in the age of coronavirus For a lot of people, the coronavirus pandemic, the lockdown and now the gradual reopening of life as we know it, has been a difficult time. First the shock and worry of facing a new unknown, the stresses that came with everyone being stuck at home during lockdown; now, some children may find it difficult adapting to the ‘new normal’. Matthew O’Reilly, the Head of St Mary’s Junior School, Cambridge, provides some tips for keeping our children’s mental health in mind.

Explain the changes and talk about them together. Find out what your child is thinking about and how they are feeling. Try to answer their questions in an age-appropriate way and reassure them that it is ok to feel worried or unsure. Just talking through their worries might help your child to feel calmer, or use play to try and eek out their feelings through role playing etc. If you have any concerns, talk to your child’s class teacher. We encourage a two-way conversation with all our families to ensure we are all focused on the children in our care.

Remind them that the rules are there to help keep them and others safe. All schools have been doing all they can to ensure that staff and pupils feel safe and happy on site. At St Mary’s Junior School, the girls have adapted well to our enhanced hygiene measures, with regular hand washing, hand sanitising, one-way systems and bubbles. Let your children know that the rules won’t be in place forever – and that things will eventually go back to normal.

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Embrace new (or old) hobbies. Lockdown encouraged many of us to take up new (or old) hobbies and spend more time together as a family, whether it was cooking or baking, doing arts and crafts, playing board games or getting out into nature and going on walks or cycling excursions. With schools and businesses reopening, things have started to go back to normal, but don’t lose that creative spark!

Keep positive routines. Research from the Guy's and St Thomas's Charity and the Bite Back 2030 healthy eating charity studied over 1000 14-19 year olds and showed a 40% increase in snacks during lockdown.

On the plus side, families tended to eat more home-cooked food, and ate together more. It might not be easy to resist the lure of chocolate and unhealthy snacks, but try to keep structure around regular routines, healthy eating and exercise. With our new state-of-the-art facilities at Long Road, the girls have been enjoying making the most of our new sports grounds! Keep up sports and exercise routines outside of school as well – we encourage girls and parents to safely walk or cycle to school if possible.

Sleeping well is also key - make sure that bedtime routines are in place so that your child feels calm and relaxed when it is time to go to sleep.

Remember – the school communities are here to support you and your children. When St Mary’s shut to everyone except the children of key workers during lockdown due to Covid-19, we ensured that we were still St Mary’s, with live lessons and even a virtual Sports Day. Now that our doors have reopened, teachers and support staff have been doing their utmost to support our girls to embrace the ‘new normal’.

Now, more than ever, we are #stillStMarys.

Wishing you and your families the best through these challenging times.

Matthew O’Reilly Head of Juniors

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Addressing Post-Covid Learning Loss As our worlds slowly open back up and children are in school once again, for many parents a key question will be how they can support their child’s learning post-COVID. There has been much in the news about children being ‘behind’ and needing to ‘catch up.’ However, just as important is their emotional wellbeing, in particular connection, play, making sense of the world and resilience. By focusing on mental health, we can help our children to be in the best possible place to learn.

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progress at school.

One way to support your child’s ability to bounce back when things get tricky is to spend quality time doing an activity of their choice with them, whether it’s playdoh, kicking a ball about or playing a board game. By doing so, you are giving them a sense of safety and letting them know you are there for them.

Let’s prioritise their wellbeing

Think back to your own childhood and the things you enjoyed – being free to play, being yourself and being with friends. Let’s not give our children the message they are ‘behind,’ but instead celebrate Children do need to catch up this summer – but to catch up their wonderful achievements during this tricky time. with friends and family. Social connections have been Let’s make this summer one of freedom and play hugely impacted by the pandemic, so it is important By focusing on mental by prioritising their emotional wellbeing - the rest that we give children the time and space they health, we can help will follow. need to enjoy being social again (and not just our children to be in via a screen!). By giving time to rebuilding social Tips to help children process the the best possible place connections, parents will be helping their child to pandemic feel good about themselves and to practice all the to learn.

Explore your child’s feelings. Recollections like: ‘Oh skills they need to help them get on with others in a I remember, I think you were excited when we first did positive way. home learning’ or ‘Yes, it was worrying when it was time to go

Re-build and strengthen connections

Let’s play!

With opportunities limited during lockdown, by giving children the opportunity to play we can help them to develop their social, emotional and cognitive skills. Most importantly, play helps children to have positive thoughts about themselves which is exactly what we need to encourage right now.

Making sense of experiences

One of the most important things parents can do this summer is to help children make sense of the pandemic so they don’t store concerns. We can do this by helping them to share the challenges and successes of their own ‘Covid story’ through conversations, role play or painting and drawing.

Nurture resilience

Many people have commented on how resilient children have been during this tumultuous time. Whether your child has ridden the rollercoaster with ease or found it more challenging, placing a focus on problem solving and resilience is a sure-fire way to help your child make familiesonline.co.uk

back to school and you weren't sure what your classroom might look like, wasn’t it?’ help children notice, explore, process and understand their feelings, whilst simultaneously recognising them as normal. It also conveys that you are interested in their feelings and that talking about them is a safe and positive thing to do.

Focus on accomplishments.

Avoid referring to a need to catch up or suggesting that your child is behind. This places unnecessary pressure on children that could be detrimental to their mental health. Instead focus on their accomplishments during the pandemic. Help them put some of their work into a scrapbook or assemble a photo book to remember this key time. Also look forward with them. Embrace their aspirations and desire to learn new things, helping them and celebrating their achievements.

Emma Martin is an educational psychologist employed full-time by E-ACT multi-academy trust. She supports their primary academies in Bristol and is co-author of their national Relationships and Recovery Curriculum.

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The hidden benefits of performing arts Our daughter was 3 years old when we enrolled her in a performing arts holiday workshop – 5 mornings for a week, on her own, with children she’d never seen before, aged from 3 to 8 years.

When my husband dropped her off, he said: ‘I think we’ll get a phone call soon. She was the only little one there and there were loads of older children.’

No phone call came. In fact, quite the opposite. When our daughter came home at lunch time that day, her face glowing and eyes sparkling, her first words to me were: ‘Mummy, I LOVED it. Can I go tomorrow?”’

And that was it. 9 years later, she still attends a performing arts class once a week. During that time, she has sung, dance and acted her way through dozens of performances, formally and informally, with and without audiences, with and without been filmed or in costume. She’s taken LAMDA acting exams, LCM Musical Theatre exams, auditioned for scholarships and even, famously, stood up in front of 400 people in a packed church to sing a Christmas carol.

And, she has done the large majority of this without feeling nervous about what she was doing. Perhaps because she started at such a young age.

Maybe your first reaction to this tale is: ‘My child could never do that.’ ‘Your daughter must have been a naturally confident child, who was always going to want to perform,’ I hear you say. It’s true that she’d always shown a fondness for role play, singing and acting out fairy stories. And seemed to love to dress up and ‘accessorise.’ And we ran with that.

But, truthfully, I think most children love these things if given the opportunity to nurture them.

Interestingly, although our daughter was comfortable being away from us, she was never all that comfortable interacting with other children. In fact, she was quite reserved.

I sincerely believe that starting performing arts classes at such a young age, on the back of her love of storytelling, developed her

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confidence and ability to perform, rather than capitalising on some innate confidence she already had.

Participating in performing arts has benefited her personal growth and education in unprecedented ways.

Drama teaches children how to get inside the head of others. By “being a character” they learn to empathise. And this is a highly valuable skill for making friends during childhood, for understanding the deeper

Mummy, I LOVED it.

Can I go tomorrow? context of books and even world situations and for developing emotional intelligence.

Performing arts has helped our daughter make friends by teaching her how important it is to consider others feelings and needs and to be kind.

Her performing arts classes involve considerable trial and error. In rehearsals, lines are forgotten, mashed up and fluffed in all sorts of ways. Songs are sung at the wrong pitch or note. Dancers fall into each other and trip over their own feet. And it is all fun, everyone laughs and it is all okay.

Most importantly, with repeated practice and commitment, things improve.

This fantastic blueprint has helped our daughter to accept failure, value practice and understand why commitment is required. This translates into an acceptance that she can contribute to class discussions and put up her hand to answer questions and that it is okay for others to disagree with her or for

her to get an answer wrong. She has even been able to accept that sometimes she will do less well than expected in an exam or test but that this too is okay – because with more work and practice, she will improve.

Not only this, but her confidence and level of articulation mean she is able to comfortably read out loud, in class and in front of an audience at school, deliver presentations and even speeches.

All this as a result of nurturing her initial interest in stories and ways of storytelling during her pre-school years!

It just shows where encouraging and developing a child’s interest in stories, books and self-expression can lead.

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PERFORM - weekly drama, dance and singing classes

WHERE: Oxford: Wednesdays; Abingdon: Saturdays and Thursdays; Didcot: Fridays; Wallingford: Saturdays WHEN: May / June Confidence building fun for 4-12s. A unique mix of drama games, dance and singing specially designed to boost confidence, communication, concentration and coordination. Classes are delivered in line with government Covid guidelines. Visit www.perform.org.uk/try to book a FREE class. www.perform.org.uk/try 020 7255 9120 enquiries@perform.org.uk

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Stagecoach Performing Arts

WHERE: Venues throughout Oxfordshire WHEN: From 17th April Bring out the best in your child and encourage them to develop excellent communication skills, grow in self-esteem and enjoy the benefits of improved coordination. Suitable for children from age 2. From £15 for twoweek trial 01483 247404 www.stagecoach.co.uk

All Stars Cricket

WHERE: Venues across Oxfordshire WHEN: From May All Stars Cricket provides a fantastic first experience for all children aged 5-8 years old where they’re guaranteed 8 weeks of jam-packed fun. The programme introduces children to the sport, teaching them new skills, helping them make new friends and have a great time doing so. Every child that registers will receive a backpack full of goodies. www.allstarscricket.co.uk

WHERE: The Story Museum WHEN: 24th April – 31st July: 11.00 – 12.30 The Story Museum’s popular monthly Comic Club is back to help children aged 8 – 16 develop their comic making skills with awesome comic artist Neill Cameron offering helpful advice and tips. £10.00 per session www.storymuseum.org.uk/ whats-on/comic-club-2021 01865 790050

Monkey Music Oxford

WHERE: Oxford and surrounding area Award winning music classes for kids 3 months to 4 years.

Educational and fun four-stage curricula designed to nurture a lifetime love of music. Weekly term time sessions. Book a FREE trial class. 01235 519 806 www.monkeymusic.co.uk oxford@monkeymusic.co.uk familiesonline.co.uk

WHERE: Summerfield School WHEN: 1st – 4th June and 19th July – 27th August - 8.15 – 18.00 Whether your child (3- 14 years) is interested in sport, arts, crafts or a bit of everything, they have activities to suit everybody.

Children attending Active Camps will take part in activities ranging from large scale painting and mosaic masterpieces to team building games and obstacle courses. Children will be part of a group or ‘bubble’ with a maximum of 15 children of similar ages. £45/ day or £200/week 01865 594325 www.active-camps.com

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Active Camps

(11 – 15 year olds) WHERE: River & Rowing Museum, Henley WHEN: May / June Saturdays (during term time): 14.00 -16.00 Taking inspiration from the Museum, its collections and temporary exhibitions, young people work in a range of different media including screen printing, clay modelling and 3D construction, painting, drawing and textiles, and are encouraged to plan their own work around their chosen theme.

Art Club is currently taking place online. 01491 415600 www.rrm.co.uk/whats-on/

Monkey Music

WHERE: Bicester, Kidlington & Witney Award winning music classes for kids 3 months to 4 years.

Educational and fun four-stage curricula designed to nurture a lifetime love of music. Weekly term time sessions. Book a FREE trial class. 01865 428420 www.monkeymusic.co.uk banbury.bicester@ monkeymusic.co.uk

WHERE & WHEN: The Old Station Nursery, Faringdon The Old Station Nursery in Faringdon will be running a May half term and Summer holiday club for children aged 5-8 years old. From crafts, baking, outdoor activities and themed fun days, there’s something for everyone! www.theoldstationnursery.co.uk 01367 243800

Activate Camps

WHERE & WHEN: 21st July 27th August at Moulsford and 11th - 25th August at Bloxham.

Activate recognises the needs of individual children, and therefore offers a variety of multi activity as well as specific activity led camps to ensure that your children get the most possible fun and inspiration out of their camps.

From £30 / half day From £145 full camp.

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Mathnasium Learning Centres

WHERE: Summertown, North Oxford WHEN: Monday-Thursday & Saturday Where Maths makes sense! By producing a tailor-structured learning plan for each student according to his/her knowledge and skill level, the Mathnasium Method can help children in Years 2 - 12 better understand maths and leap ahead. Try the FREE maths skills assessment/trial session. www.mathnasium.co.uk/ northoxford 01865 655968

Gymnastics

WHERE: Various locations Jumping, bouncing, rolling, climbing – children are natural gymnasts. Encourage a healthy relationship with movement and confidence by signing your child up to a regular class with a specialist instructor. Use the British Gymnastics Organisation website to locate classes in your area. www.british-gymnastics.org/ discover

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Oxfordshire Taekwon-do & Little Pumas

WHERE: Abingdon, Didcot, Grove A revolutionary method to encourage and motivate 4-7-yearolds as well as traditional methods for 7-14-year-olds. Get fit, learn self-defence and make friends.

FREE introductory lesson.

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8am – 6pm all year Shaolin Mantis Kung Fu round

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WHERE: New Marston Primary School WHEN: Sundays Diverse curriculum Qualified and welcom WHERE: Woodstock Road, Oxford Practical and theoretical training, multi-level Tuition in classical ballet for Homemade, nutritious meals Supporting practice situations in a children from 3 years. Pre-school controlled environment. classes teach children the basics; From 8 years. children can then progress Free trial lessons through the pre-primary Contact us now 2for more information: www.theo From £25/month. and beyond. www.oxfordkungfu.co.uk www.oxfordballet.co.uk 07917 334 818 01865 511097

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