DEAR KIKI
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i Kiki, Well, there’s no easy way to say this, but I had a very steamy dream about a coworker the other day. We work in the same office and have a friendly relationship, and yes, I do think they’re kind of attractive. On the other hand, we’re both happily married and it’s not something I’d ever really go for in real life. It was very vivid and I can still remember images from it, so now I don’t know how I’ll face them
over the last couple of years, because of the pandemic. Work relationships are sometimes the only ones we’ve been able to maintain, because there’s no choice but to spend time together. So lean into that, Dreams. Don’t squander a chance at true intimacy (which, unlike sex, is rare). However, I definitely don’t want to sleep (heh) on your revelation that these steamy, vivid, memorable sex scenes were, you said, “creative.” That’s something to explore WE’RE FRIENDLY, BUT NOT THE “HEY, I HAD A DREAM in a different light. Are you ABOUT MAKING INTIMATE, CREATIVE LOVE TO YOU” craving some LEVEL OF FRIENDLY, SO I CAN’T JUST EXPLAIN WHY specific types I SUDDENLY CAN’T MAKE EYE CONTACT WITHOUT of physical interaction that SOUNDING LIKE A TURBO-PERVERT. you’re not getting from your when I’m in the office next. We’re friendly, but spouse? This could be an opportunity to request not the “Hey, I had a dream about making inti- a bit of experimentation with the person you are mate, creative love to you” level of friendly, so I comfortable having actual sex with. It could be can’t just explain why I suddenly can’t make eye that you’ve been wondering about expanding contact without sounding like a turbo-pervert. your repertoire for a while, but weren’t sure your spouse would accede to your wishes, so your What do I do? —What Dreams May Come? mind cast someone else in the role. Don’t ignore that creativity; utilize it! Thank your subconscious for providing you a template for potential ear Dreams, Sad to say, this is something you’re pleasure. Ultimately, though, it’s up to you to continbest off just keeping to yourself. I, for one, would love it if our society could be a place ue treating your coworker like a human being. where these kinds of conversations could be off- Your dreams are your business, not theirs. Make hand, humorous, inoffensive and, most impor- that eye contact. Shake off your embarrassment. tantly, non-binding. But even the most casual Connect. xoxo, Kiki workplace is not the context to indulge in that level of witty banter. No matter how close the two of you are, “sounding like a turbo-pervert” is the least of your worries. You could face workplace harassment charges or, if there’s a power differential, worse. But, Dreams, there’s no reason at all to be embarrassed. Fantasies happen; they’re natural, normal and fun! I’m no dream analyst, but a (cough) quickie internet search confirms my instinct that dreaming about a friend likely reveals a desire to connect with them more deeply in a non-physical way. Has work been rough lately, making you feel glad of their support and eager for more? Did a recent conversation make you Submit questions anonymously feel like “friendly office mates” could blossom at littlevillagemag.com/dearkiki into “true friendship”? or non-anonymously to We’re all human beings here (last I checked). dearkiki@littlevillagemag.com. Connection with others like us isn’t just a desire, Questions may be edited for clarity and it’s a need. If we lack a network of companionlength, and may appear either in print or ship, it makes it harder for us to thrive in all aronline at littlevillagemag.com. eas of our lives. And the fact is that’s been tricky
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KIKI WANTS QUESTIONS!
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