My Past Shaped My Identity
Sona Qaderi Afghanistan, Level 3
My identity and my personality are the combination of several aspects from my past, my present and my future. The journey of my life in the past, the experiences that I have from the past made the person who I am right now and the way that I am living now. All the efforts and endeavors that I had are the reasons to fulfill my aims for a better future. My whole life and the person who I am right now depend on the following reasons: The challenges and troubles that I endured in the past, the people who had effective roles in my life and the society that I lived in. There are many challenges in every human being’s life and these challenges change the life of people in different ways and for me those challenges and problems were like lessons. I had many troubles in my life such as: economical problems, social problems, environmental problems, educational problems and much more. When I was a child, my father was working in a far place from our house in order to make some money and provide for us food, clothes, a house for living and our education expenses. He was coming every two months for a week to visit us. I was living with my mother and my three sisters in a village, and we were not able to go to some institutes beside our school classes because our environment was not safe for a girl. We had a traditional society and most of the people were harassing the girls for different reasons. But the good thing is that I have learned lots of good lessons from them and they made me stronger and without them I think my life somehow would become meaningless because may now I would have nothing to compare with the good times.
for women was the most difficult experience in my life. Living in Afghanistan is one of the big reasons of who I am. As a citizen living in my country was like an unknown life, any time that we went out our house we were not sure that we were able to comeback or not, many people lost their lives on the way of school and on the way of their job in bomb blasts. We had bomb blasts in our schools, in university, in the hospital, inside the mosques, in shopping malls, on the streets and almost in everywhere. I lived my whole childhood and my teenage period in fear of war, losing my life and losing my loved ones. That society taught me many things and had both bad and good effects on my life. It caused me to stay back and drop behind in many aspects in my life. I couldn’t continue my education in my country and go to university. At the end anything that I have in my life material, spiritual, good and bad, I am debtor to my past, the people who had important roles in my life and where that I grow up. I am happy that they shaped me in a good way and now I know the value of everything that I have in my life and didn’t have in the past. There is a famous quote that says” Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness” Eckhart Tolle. I hope that one day I will be the person that I always wish to be.
Family and the people who live around us have a comprehensive role and direct influence on our attitude. My mother was a teacher, and my father was a soldier, they are the most influential people in my life, and they had the basic and fundamental role in my life. I always tried to have positive, wise and hard-working people around myself and that is why now I am optimistic and responsible person. At the end I became a strong, loyal and regular person as my father, and a creative, dedicated, passionate and caring person as my mother. As a woman living and growing up in a third world country, in a country that has been in war for many decades and has no rights 6
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