Mentoring Handbook

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Contents Mentoring Introduc<on...........................................................................3

Mentoring Dos and Don’ts.......................................................................4

Mentoring Agreement ............................................................................5

Session Diary............................................................................................5

Mentoring Log Book.................................................................................8

Mentoring Resources.............................................................................13

Need Someone To Talk To?....................................................................26

Contacts

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My Coordinator

My Mentor

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A'ach your Mentor’s business card here

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Mentoring Introduction What Is Mentoring?

"Mentoring is to support and encourage people to manage their own learning in order that they may maximise their poten7al, develop their skills, improve their performance and become the person they want to be."

Eric Parsloe, The Oxford School of Coaching & Mentoring.

Mentoring Programme Overall Aim Provide a mentoring scheme that matches professionals from a broad range of backgrounds with young people on Dare London, the Youth Advisory Board of London Youth.

Programme Objectives ✓ Support young people during their transi7on through important milestones in their life e.g. educa7on into employment ✓ Enable young people and professionals to develop their skills, knowledge and confidence ✓ Support young people in their aspira7ons, providing them with meaningful advice and encouragement ✓ To build a posi7ve rela7onship between the mentors and mentees, where the mentor becomes a trusted, confiden7al guide ✓ To offer support and guidance to both the mentees and mentors ✓ To help influence the aJtudes of both the young people and the professionals Benefits For Participants Mentoring is recognised by London Youth as being invaluable to young people, the mentors and the organisa7on.

Benefits for the mentee: Benefits for the mentor: Receive encouragement, support and guidance ✓ ✓ Opportunity to develop and prac7ce skills consistent from mentors with good management, such as problem solving, goal-­‐ seJng and coaching ✓ Improve self confidence and self esteem ✓ Increase mo7va7on ✓ Immense sa7sfac7on from helping another person develop and grow ✓ Raise achievement and aspira7on ✓ Develop interpersonal skills ✓ Opportunity to posi7vely interact with the local community ✓ Broaden and develop communica7on skills ✓ Broaden horizons and experience ✓ Development of interpersonal and communica7on skills ✓ Increased self-­‐awareness ✓ Job enrichment The Role Of The Mentee Mentees are given the opportunity to have a one-­‐to-­‐one with a mentor and speak about their studies, career and life.

Mentees build a rela7onship that is beneficial for their life.

A Mentee preferably should have the following key skills and quali7es: ✓ Ability to commit to the dura7on of the scheme from induc7on to mee7ngs and finally to evalua7ons ✓ Ability to listen, understand and communicate with mentors and other young people ✓ To be reliable, keep appointments and be on 7me ✓ Ability to maintain mentoring confiden7ality, policies and procedures ✓ Ability to share skills, interests or ac7vi7es with the mentee ✓ Awareness and understanding of the key issues raised with mentor

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The Role Of The Mentor Our mentors are able to provide one-­‐to-­‐one support to young people who are par7cipa7ng in our projects. The support and guidance provided by the mentors will help the mentees though their studies, career and life.

Mentors preferably should have the following key skills and quali7es: ✓ Ability to commit to the dura7on of the scheme from induc7on to mee7ngs and through to evalua7ons ✓ Ability to listen, understand and communicate with mentees and other young people ✓ To be reliable, keep appointments and be on 7me ✓ Ability to maintain mentoring confiden7ality, policies and procedures ✓ Ability to share skills, interests or ac7vi7es with the mentee ✓ Awareness and understanding of the key issues raised with mentee ✓ To be respecTul and understanding of the cultural and diverse needs of the mentee What Is The Difference Between A Mentor And A Friend?

Friendship or befriending is a process whereby two or more people come together with the aim of establishing and developing an informal and social rela7onship.

Mentoring is a one-­‐to-­‐one, non-­‐judgmental rela7onship in which one individual gives 7me to support and encourage another. This is typically developed during a 7me of transi7on in the mentee's life, and lasts for a significant and sustained period of 7me.

Mentoring Dos and Don’ts Do: ✓Be open and honest with your mentor/mentee ✓Listen to mentor/mentee and show respect ✓Challenge the mentor/mentee appropriately ✓Ini7ate discussions which you may have disagreements on ✓Challenge the mentee to be honest and realis7c about the goals they set ✓Maintain a posi7ve and friendly approach ✓Maintain confiden7ality ✓Be reliable in keeping appointments -­‐ be on 7me! ✓Seek advice from the Mentoring Coordinator if you have any concerns ✓Maintain professional boundaries ✓Contact your mentor/mentee in plenty of 7me if for an unforeseen reason you won’t be able to make your planned session Do Not: ✓Lend money or give out personal contact details ✓Agree to meet your mentee outside of normal mentoring 7me ✓Act as a subs7tute friend, parent, social worker etc ✓Make decisions for the mentee or tell them what to do ✓Disclose personal informa7on about yourself including previous or current legal or sexual ac7vi7es ✓Discuss your conversa7ons with others outside the mentoring rela7onship unless you need to disclose concerns to the Mentoring Coordinator. If so, inform the mentor/mentee of your inten7on

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Mentoring Agreement Mentee Name:

Mentor Name:

Have met today on to establish a mentoring rela7onship for the benefit of both par7es.

We will: • Work together to organise mentoring sessions once a fortnight that are convenient for us both • Listen carefully to each other • Be honest and respecTul • Ask ques7ons to understand each other and raise different viewpoints • Seek and provide informa7on when relevant • Review progress • Follow the guidelines and policies of mentoring as set out in this workbook Signed:

Mentee

Mentor

Session Diary Session Number

Session Date

Session Time

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Session One

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

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Session Two

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

Signed By Mentor:

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Session Three

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

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Session Four

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

Signed By Mentor:

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Session Five

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

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Session Six

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

Signed By Mentor:

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Session Seven

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

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Session Eight

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

Signed By Mentor:

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Session Nine

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Summary Of Discussion:

Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

Goals Set By Next Session:

Useful Contacts To Help With Goals:

Signed By Mentee:

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Final Session

IDEA Have you considered using some of the session sugges<ons in the ‘Mentoring Resources’ sec<on of this workbook?

DATE OF SESSION: Were Goals Set Last Session Achieved? If Not Why?

What Has Been Achieved Since You Started Mentoring?

Next Steps:

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Session Idea:

Session Idea In the first one-­‐to-­‐one mentoring session your may like to spend some <me geUng to know your mentor/mentee. This simple session will allow you to take it in turns to ask each other a few ques<ons and set the founda<ons for a good mentoring rela<onship.

Getting To Know You Ques0on

Mentee’s Response

Mentor’s Response

What is your name?

What do you do outside of mentoring?

Do you have any hobbies? If so what are they?

What is your favorite colour?

If you were an animal what would you be and why?

What is your favorite TV show?

What is your ideal holiday des7na7on and why?

If you could be stuck in a lic with anyone who would it be and what would you talk about?

What would you like to be doing in five years’ 7me and why?

What’s the silliest thing you’ve ever done?

What is the thing you are most proud of and why?

What would you like to get out of these mentoring sessions?

More things you could do during this session: • Mentee and Mentor could think of a further five ques7ons each to ask each other • Mentee could ask their Mentor how they got their current posi7on, what adracted them to the role, what qualifica7ons did they need etc.

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Session Idea: S.W.O.T Analysis

Session Idea A SWOT analysis aims to find out what you are good at and what you can improve on. This might be useful in the first or second one-­‐to-­‐one session to start thinking about what the mentee would like to achieve from their mentoring sessions.

Strengths These are characteris7cs that give you an

Opportunities

Weaknesses

Threats These are external challenges that could make it

advantage over others -­‐ e.g. good communicator

These are characteris7cs that place you in a disadvantage rela7ve to others -­‐ e.g. bad 7me keeping

More things you could do during this session: • Discuss how you could use your strengths • Research jobs online that require the quali7es you have • Discuss how you could improve on your weaknesses • Discuss how best you could use the opportuni7es you have iden7fied

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These are external chances to aid you to reach your goals -­‐ e.g. a friend has a job in a career you are interested in, you could ask for an internship

harder for you to reach your goals -­‐ e.g. your chosen career path is very compe77ve

Session Idea: Exploring Career Ideas

Session Idea AZer you have worked out what your strengths and weaknesses are you may want to start exploring career ideas. Use this sheet to wordstorm three careers that you could see yourself in -­‐ what a'racts you to them and what strengths you have that will ensure you are successful.

More things you could do during this session: • Research famous people who have done/are currently doing a role similar to that of your ideal career • Research what courses/qualifica7ons would help you to gain a role in your ideal career • Write your ideal job descrip7on

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Session Idea: Goal Setting

Session Idea You may want to complete this session idea in the second or third one-­‐to-­‐one. The idea is to think about where the you want to be in the short, medium and long term and plan the steps that need to be taken to ensure you can meet these goals. Ensure goals are SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realis<c, Time Specific). Your goals could either be personal or career related.

Short Term Goal (within a few months)

Goal: these are the changes you hope to achieve as a result of your work -­‐ e.g. have a current CV

Targets: these are the acCviCes you undertake and the services you offer to bring these changes about -­‐ e.g research what a good CV looks like

1) 2) 3)

Medium Term Goal (within the next year) Goal:

Targets: 1) 2) 3)

Long Term Goal (within the next five years) Goal:

Targets: 1) 2) 3)

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Session Idea:

Improving My CV

Session Idea You will work with your mentor to develop your CV. This will most likely take a few sessions to go through and will probably require several redraZs. Use the space below to make comments on each draZ.

Notes from my first drac CV

Notes from my second drac CV

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Session Idea:

Writing A Covering Letter Notes from my first drac covering leder

Notes from my second drac covering leder

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Session Idea Once you have finished your changes to your CV you may want to draZ a covering le'er to accompany it.

Use the space below to make comments on each draZ.

Need Someone To Talk To? If there’s anything you need to talk about, the staff at London Youth are here to help. However, if you have a problem you don’t feel you can share with someone here, there’s a whole host of organisa7ons who can help you.

Welfare ChildLine: free advice for young people – 0800 1111 (24-­‐hour) www.childline.org.uk Samaritans: confiden7al emo7onal advice – 08457 90 90 90 Connexions Direct: confiden7al advice – 0808 001 3219 (8am – 2pm) www.connexions-­‐direct.com Na7onal Missing Persons Helpline – 0500 700 700 London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard: advice around sexuality – 020 7837 7324, www.llgs.org.uk The Haven: help for any sexual assault – 020 7247 4787 NSPCC Helpline: free 24-­‐hour helpline – 0808 800 5000 Domes7c Violence Helpline: free and confiden7al advice -­‐ 0808 2000 247 (24-­‐hour), www.na7onaldomes7cviolencehelpline.org.uk Forced Marriage Unit: advice if you’re worried about a forced marriage: 020 7008 0151 (9am-­‐5pm Mon – Fri, out of hours 020 7008 1500) Health NHS Direct: provides medical advice from a qualified nurse – 0845 46 47, www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk Talk to Frank: free drugs advice – 0800 77 66 00, www.talktofrank.com Lifeline: help advice on drug use and addic7on, 020 7790 1344, www.lifeline.org Brook Advisory Centre: free and confiden7al sexual health advice to under 25s – 0808 802 1234 (24-­‐hour) Young Minds: mental health charity – 020 7336 8445 Saneline: offering emo7onal support and informa7on for sufferers of mental health -­‐ 0845 767 8000 Youth Access: puts you in touch with local services offering informa7on, advice and counselling – 020 8772 9900 (9am – 5pm, Mon – Fri) Step Forward: free confiden7al advice for 11-­‐25year olds in Tower Hamlets – 020 7739 3082 Housing Shelter: for help with housing issues -­‐ 0808 800 444 (24-­‐hour), www.shelter.org.uk The Site: General advice including housing, employment and managing your finances www.thesite.org.uk Na7onal Debtline: free confiden7al, independent advice on debt – 0800 808 4000, www.na7onaldebtline.co.uk (9am-­‐9pm, Mon –Fri) General Advice Equality and Human Rights Commision: advice if you feel you have been discriminated against -­‐ 08457 622 633 (9am – 5pm, Mon-­‐Fri) Community Legal advice: free, confiden7al and independent legal advice – 0845 345 4 345, www.clsdirect.org.uk Transport for London – 020 7222 1234 Aim Higher: informa7on on college and university courses, finance and careers guidance – www.aimhigher.ac.uk

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