Editor’s letter

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This week we have Grace Millane in our hearts and minds. The 28-year-old man who murdered this beautiful soul on the eve of her 22nd birthday was sentenced to 17 years behind bars on Friday. Her family spoke of their emotional pain and suffering via a video link from London, a photo of their beloved Grace hanging on the wall behind them.

Sadly, her murder has been a stark reminder of New Zealand’s appalling record of violence against women. Responding to family violence accounts for 40% of frontline police time in our country – but still half of the homicides here are related to domestic abuse. When statistics show that one in three Kiwi women are abused by a partner – and not all incidents are reported – it seems clear we all have to collectively help to keep our families safe. It’s why Woman’s Day is supporting The Project and Women’s Refuge to launch the Love Grace charitable campaign in NZ (page 34). Started in the UK by Grace’s family, it combines her love of handbags with a legacy carried out in her name to end violence towards women. The appeal asks for donations of bags filled

Ed’s Letter with essential items to help women escape to a safer future and feel valued.

This week a grieving Tauranga father tells the harrowing story of the death of his teen daughter Halayna and her unborn child (page 30). A jury found her partner guilty of kidnapping and assaulting her the night she died. Dad Darren urges friends and whanau to speak up when they suspect there is abuse in a relationship.

Our hearts go out to the family of Brisbane mother Hannah Baxter, whose estranged husband allegedly set fire to the family car, killing their three children inside. Hannah died in hospital later. The horrific killings have rocked us. We all have a role to play if we suspect violence against women we know. It’s heartbreaking to think of mums kids living in fe Please reach ou and urge wom to seek help or offer assistance if you know someone in need. g and ear. ut en e

SIDO KITCHIN EDITOR-IN-CHIEF, WOMAN’S DAY

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Features 2 Best of Brits Glitz, gowns and gossip 5 Editor’s letter 16 Love Island tragedy Sad farewell to beloved host Caroline 18 You ought to know Ben’s big regret; Jenna’s got bling; Britney hits the bottle; and Matthew’s going to be a dad 28 Cindy and Rande driven apart 30 Real-life reads Dad’s grief: “I could have saved my girl”; Gift bags for ladies in need; A camp for brave hearts 86 A-list gossip

Food 48 Weeknight budget dinners 51 Kitchen HQ

Puzzles 74 WIN CASH! All-a-grams, Big Crossword, Brainbusters, Code cracker, Cryptic, Giant wordfind, Logic braintrainer, Rosetta, Star puzzle, Starword, Sudoku, Superstar crossword, Who am I?, Wordfind, Wordmaker

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Kate’s refreshingly open in her pod chat to Giovanna Fletcher, admitting the kids tell her off!

Ever since her marriage to Prince William in 2011, the Duchess of Cambridge has been lauded for her confidence and poise as she’s ascended the royal ladder to become one of the family’s most valuable members. Yet behind the self-assured smiles, the mum-of-three has opened up about the life she shares with William and their children, Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis, admitting that just like mothers everywhere, she’s struggling with the same fears, stresses and doubts. In a strikingly candid conversation with British podcast Happy Mum Happy Baby , Kate spoke openly about the pressures of family life and when asked if she has ever experienced “mum guilt”, she said, “Yes, absolutely –and anyone who doesn’t as a mother is actually lying. “There’s such a pull, but I am such a hands-on mum, and whatever you’re doing you want to make sure you’re doing the uttermost best job you can for your children.” Kate’s extraordinary interview was recorded at the end of January after the duchess made an early-morning visit KATE’S SECRET YEARS OF STRU GGLE Mother guilt The duchess opens up about the hardest job in the world – parenting to a nursery and preschool in London. Chatting to host Giovanna Fletcher, she even joked about how her two eldest children complained about her heading to work that day. “Even this morning, coming to the nursery visit here, George and Charlotte were like, ‘Mummy, how could you possibly not be dropping us off at school this morning?’ “But no, it’s a constant challenge, you hear it time and time again from mums. Even mums who aren’t necessarily working, aren’t pulled in the directions of having to juggle work life and family life –there’s always something.” Kate added that like many mothers, she finds herself questioning her own decisions and judgements. “I think that starts from the moment you have a baby.” She recalled “a very wise man” advising her that she didn’t necessarily have to be with her children all the time, as long as they were surrounded by people who are “safe and loving and caring”. “So yeah, it was a real weight off my shoulders that it’s not totally my responsibility to do everything,” she added. “Because we all have good days, bad days –and if you can dilute that with others who aren’t, on that particular day, struggling … I think it makes such a difference for your child, and keeping them as constant and happy as possible.” Kate also admitted that after she went home from hospital with George she felt at a bit of a loss. “It is quite a lonely period for a mother, and for families really too. Where do they go if they need support, whether it’s for their child or for themselves? It took us a bit of time to get ourselves settled.” The 38-year-old was asked what parts of her own childhood she wanted to give to her children, and she talked at length about the importance of spending time outdoors with her little heirs. “It totally strips away complications and pressures. I think those experiences mean so much to children and the world they’re in which is a real adventure at that age.” She said her happiest times were in the countryside getting “filthy dirty” in the mud with her family, and spoke poignantly Kate took this sweet photo of Charlotte smelling the bluebells.

Kate’s revealing interview was to promote a month-long UK early childhood parenting poll.

Her royal happiness! The duchess hasn’t put a foot wrong since marrying William and having kids.

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➥about a photo she took of four-year-old Charlotte smelling a bluebell. “Really for me, it’s moments like that mean so much to me as a parent,” she said. “And I try every day to put moments like that in, even if they’re small or even if I don’t have time –but that in an ideal world is what I would like to do.” She added, “Life now is so busy and distracting, and sometimes simple things like watching a fire on a really rainy day provides such enjoyment.” Kate’s revealing interview, in which she also discussed pregnancy, birth and her own childhood, comes amid growing speculation that the couple will embark on a royal tour to Australia to lend their support to those affected by the

‘It was a real weight off my shoulders that it’s not totally my responsibility to do everything’

Just boot-iful! Kate and the children at a charity polo day last year.

Kate’s mummy diaries

➥devastating bush fires. While Kensington Palace has yet to confirm the rumours, insiders say it’s virtually a done deal and that details will be released in the coming weeks. Our source says Kate and William are likely to bring their children Down Under too, as they have made it clear they’re not prepared to spend weeks away from their family. Says the source, “She and William don’t like being away from the children for more than a few nights at a time, but they’re also keen to start preparing them for being in the spotlight more, and hope that the more official trips and public events they attend, the more comfortable and at ease they’ll feel.” Like William and his brother Harry as children, little George, six, Charlotte and one-year-old Louis are already involved in etiquette and behaviour coaching to ensure they’re on their best behaviour in public. But mum Kate has insisted these lessons must be fun. “Kate knows her children have different expectations to normal kids and she understands they need specific training and help, but she is determined they never feel put upon or stressed by it all. “She also realises the odd tantrum is natural and she’s confident enough to know now that the public will understand if things go slightly off course when children are involved.” And when they return from their tour of duty, our source says it’s likely the family will move to Buckingham Palace as they step up their royal roles. In the wake of Prince Harry and Meghan’s decision to step aside, the Queen has decided the Cambridges should take over the lavish London residence in preparation for the time when William becomes King. “Rumours are rife that work to modernise the palace will begin soon and it’s likely no expense will be spared,” tells the insider. “The Queen wants the Cambridges to make it their own.” # I n what’s been described as one of the mostrevealing interviews ever given by a senior royal, Kate chatted openly about all things motherhood –including pregnancy and birth. Speaking on podcast Happy Mum Happy Baby about the severe morning sickness that has plagued all three of her pregnancies, she admitted to being “not the happiest of pregnant people”. “Lots of people have it far worse but it was definitely a challenge,” she said. “Not just you, but those around you. William didn’t feel he could do much to help. It’s hard for everyone to see you suffering when they can’t do anything about it. I felt utterly rotten.” She opened up about the practice of hypnobirthing, which she used for all three of her labours, and expressed her amazement at the power of the mind. “I’m not going to say that William was standing there sort of chanting sweet nothings at me. He definitely wasn’t! I didn’t even ask him about it, but it was just something I wanted to do for myself.” Another royal marriage bites the dust

Just weeks after Peter and Autumn Phillips’ divorce revelation, the Queen’s nephew the Earl of Snowdon has revealed the end of his marriage after 26 years. In a statement released last week, a spokesman said, “The Earl and Countess of Snowdon have amicably agreed that their marriage has come to an end and that they shall be divorced. They ask that the press respect their privacy.” The earl, David ArmstrongJones, is the son of the late Princess Margaret and photographer Antony Armstrong-Jones. He and wife Serena have two grown-up children, Viscount Linley, Charles Armstrong-Jones and Lady Margarita Armstrong-Jones. The Queen is said to be saddened by the news, which “came out of the blue”. Says a source, “Two divorces in the space of a few weeks has been very upsetting for her.” Kate described the moment William became a father with the birth of six-year-old George on July 22, 2013 as “really special”, and added that his face was of “pure joy”. Recalling the moment she first laid eyes on her baby boy, she said, “Amazing, amazing. It is extraordinary as I’ve said. How can the human

body do that? It is utterly extraordinary. And he was very sweet. And I was also relieved that he was a happy, healthy boy.” She confessed to feeling “slightly terrified” about the hundreds of people waiting for her to present their precious bundle outside the Lindo Wing maternity unit, but said they felt it was important to share the public’s “joy and appreciation” with them. Kate laughed about the pressure William felt over strapping their newborn into his car seat while the world watched on and admitted they’d practised at home with a little doll! She even admitted that like most new parents, they felt overwhelmed and unprepared when they arrived home with their tiny wee newborn. “William was like, ‘Oh my gosh, is this what parenting is going to be like?’ “It took us a bit of time to get ourselves settled and going again, but that’s the beauty I suppose of having a newborn baby. “You are pulled to your toughest and most unknown places that you hadn’t necessarily even thought about before.” After networking in the US, the Sussexes return home to Vancouver exhausted but happy –and no doubt eager to see son Archie.

If he’s suffering pangs of sadness or regret over his decision to quit royal life, Prince Harry certainly didn’t show it as he arrived back in Canada with a beaming Meghan after a whirlwind few days networking in the US. The trip away included a speaking engagement in Miami, which is said to have earned the couple close to $1.5 million, and a visit to the Stanford University in California, where they’re believed to be researching ways to run their charitable foundation. But the pair, who announced their decision to quit the royal life in January, were dealt a blow last week with the Queen refusing to allow their use of Sussex Royal as their brand name. Harry and Meghan have spent thousands developing their website of the same name, and had also sought to register Sussex Royal as a global trademark for a range of items and activities, including clothing, stationery, books and teaching materials. So it’s no surprise they’ve told friends they’re “deeply disappointed” by the veto. “The Queen has made it clear she’s still fond of them as family members, but she has to be firm about the idea of making money off the royal name given they’re no longer interested in carrying out public duties,” tells the source. Amid the revelation that all

HOMECOMING BOMBSHELL! Harry & Meghan’s

Harry pops out for takeaways in Vancouver last week.

Burger king!

15 of the Sussexes’ UK-based staff were let go in January, further details of their split from the The Firm were announced last week, confirming that the couple would no longer have an office at Buckingham Palace from April. While they’re expected to be in Britain for a series of engagements over the next few weeks, their final official appearance is likely to be the Commonwealth Service at Westminster Abbey on March 9, with the Queen and other family members. Their new lives as “ordinary” citizens will officially start on March 31 and sources say they’re keen to set up a charitable organisation similar to Barack and Michelle Obama. During their Miami trip, they appeared at a conference where they’re said to have dined with Jennifer Lopez after flying in on a private jet from Vancouver –despite previously calling for the world to embrace more eco-friendly ways to travel. And witnesses said Harry told the crowd he had “no regrets” over their move. “Harry acknowledged it was sad it had come to that but protecting his family came first.”

Celebrity news

The songstress was clearly distressed as she left her friend’s wedding.

Post-diet drama ADELE’S HANGRY F ACE

Over the past few months songstress Adele has wowed the world with her dramatic weight loss –dropping an astonishing 45kg in less than a year. And the “Hello” hitmaker initially revelled in the attention, posing for photographs of her newly svelte self with the Spice Girls and soaking up the sun in the Caribbean. But just lately something else has got under Adele’s skin! Over the past two weeks the singer has been spotted in public looking uncharacteristically grumpy –twice using a wellmanicured finger to flip the bird to surprised onlookers! Now insiders dish that the “Rolling in the Deep” singer is feeling some serious speedwobbles from her dramatic metamorphosis, and has turned into a “hangry nightmare”. A friend dishes, “It’s like every time she gets in and out of a car these days she’s yelling at someone on her phone –and there’s always a photographer there to capture it, which only makes her more angry. “The problem is she’s absolutely, completely starving! She’s so moody and irritable –she needs to eat something other than green juice.” To add to the warbler’s woes, many people have been speculating online about the real reason for her super-fast weight loss. The 15-time Grammy winner blew guests away last week at the London wedding of her pal Laura Dockrill, belting out several of her hit songs in honour of the occasion. But, claims our source, “She didn’t eat any of the wedding dinner, insisting she was suffering from stomach troubles, while later in the evening she was spotted eating a tiny cup of rice. She also stuck to just a couple of small vodka sodas, despite usually being the life and soul of the party.” According to the insider, it’s moments like these that have sparked whispers that the Oscar winner may have had weight-loss surgery. “At the wedding Adele was complaining about her saggy skin,” continues the pal. “She pointed to her stomach and said she needed help tightening up, which only fuelled the rumour mill even more! “Adele’s always been a food lover and she has been honest about her failure to diet over the years. Having surgery was something she often used to talk about but she always insisted she was too scared to go through with it.” But, claims the insider, after splitting from her husband last year, the superstar could well have had a change of heart. “After all, weight-loss surgery is a very personal decision and Adele is extremely private.” Regardless of her methods, there’s no denying Adele, 31, began her quest for the ultimate bod after announcing her shock split from philanthropist Simon Konecki, 45 –father of her seven-year-old son Angelo. “For years she wasn’t happy with the way she looked,” says another source. “When she split from Simon, she took a good look in the mirror and decided to get healthy.” The normally gym-shy star took up Pilates and instead of bingeing on her favourite strawberry milkshakes, custard The slimmed-down star’s had a series of ugly public meltdowns PICTURES: IKON. 12 Wom an ’ s Day

Hitting a bad note on the way home.

ADELE’S HANGRY F ACE

creams and spaghetti hoops, she reportedly started following the Sirtfood Diet –a plan that focuses on proteins to help regulate metabolism and appetite and reduce inflammation. Whether it was through surgery or the new regimen, the results have been astounding. Says another insider, “There’s a lot to do with her weight loss that has really changed her life, but it’s so much more than that. She’s had a lot of issues with confidence, self-esteem and a constant fear of being judged. “Her marriage wasn’t working because she was unhappy with the way they were living their lives. There wasn’t much fun, she wasn’t hanging out with people she wanted to be with. She’s still a young woman. She isn’t scared of being a single mum. She’s starting to feel proud of who she is and what she’s achieved.” And now that she’s got the body she never imagined she would achieve in a million years, on top of amassing $400 million from her music, our insider says there’s just one more box the singer needs to tick off to feel like she has moved on with her life: finalising her divorce from Simon. “At the moment, final negotiations over properties and childcare are being sorted between their LA-based lawyers,” says a mutual friend. “Adele wants to walk away without any blood being spilt. She doesn’t care about money. This is about her life. “She wants to move on with everything sorted, with Angelo happy, and no ongoing court dramas. She wants as fast and as easy a divorce as possible … and then close the book.” #

FLIPPIN’ OUT!

She was in a bad mood on the morning of the wedding too. Since having Angelo she’s dropped 45kg.

Celebrity news

In the past year, several reports have emerged out of the US that all is not well between George and Amal Clooney –and friends say that after a particularly rough four months, this may be the end for one of the world’s most famous couples. Sources tell Woman’s Day the pair –who are parents to two-year-old twins Alexander and Ella –have been “like ships in the night”, and have barely seen each other for 120 days, since a trip to New York together in late October. “Even then, you could tell things were tense between them,” says an insider. “Amal seemed very focused on her job as a guest professor at Columbia University, whereas George was on his own path, socialising with his pals and leaving the kids to the nanny when their mum was at work. Neither of them seemed happy with the other.” Since then, we’re told, they’ve gone their separate ways, with human rights APART FOR Amal & George The pair are going their separate ways – and friends fear this could be the end

In happier times

120 DAYS! Amal & George

lawyer Amal and the children spending most of their time at the Clooneys’ home in the British countryside –just 40 minutes from her base in London –where she juggles work with raising the kids. George, 58, prefers to base himself at his mansion in Lake Como, Italy, where sources say there’s “a revolving door” of celebrity guests and hangers-on turning up looking to party. “Amal can’t think straight in Como,” claims a source. “She’s tried to tell George that she finds constantly hosting people exhausting, not to mention disruptive to the kids and distracting to her while she’s trying to work on complex cases.” But her pleas fell on deaf ears with George, who was Hollywood’s most eligible bachelor until he finally married Lebanese-Brit Amal in 2014. “He doesn’t understand why Amal doesn’t just cut back on her work and enjoy the high life with him, but that’s not how she’s wired,” explains the insider. “As they get older, the differences between them are becoming more and more obvious, and Amal’s not sure she likes where it’s going at all. “This life isn’t what she pictured –she had hoped they’d really settle down and live a quiet family life, and maybe even have some more kids. But she’s finding it very hard to pin her husband down for anything as serious as that. “In fact, one of the main gripes she has is that George doesn’t spend enough time with Alex and Ella as it is.” According to our insider, Amal, 42, had hoped spending time apart would make George realise he belongs with her and the kids, however she’s confessed to friends the plan may have had the opposite effect on him. “He doesn’t seem worried at all that they haven’t spent quality time together since New York in the fall last year,” adds the source. “He’s enjoying the newfound freedom Amal is allowing him by letting him stay in Como while she’s in the UK. In fact, he’s thinking of suggesting they make living apart for some of the year a permanent arrangement. If he does voice that idea, Amal will flip. She’ll end it for good. She’s not far from that already.” #