Childrencanbenefitfromparents'divorce

We spend four years climbing up the ladder, and when we finally reach the top, we take a deep breath and step out onto the board. We sneak a peek at the blue waters below and the pool looks so far down. We may get nervous, we may cling to the board for dear life, we may wish to stay here forever. But there comes a point when we have to stop thinking and finally take the plunge,

College is a great time to be. There's so much promise for the future and so many possibilities. Anything can happen to us. We can become anything we want to. We can do anything we want to.

When I look out onto my horizon, it is always bright and clear and waiting just beyond my grasp. It is like watching a sunrise. The sky is lit in glorious technicolor, the sun is just peaking over the trees and no matter what life is like at that moment, it just feels like it is going to be a great day.

When people used to ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I said that I wanted to be a writer, get married and have a family. Of course I also wanted to be rich and glamorous and famous, but as the years have passed, that desire has faded away. All I really hope for now is a job I enjoy and a family that I love.

Up until now those things seemed within my grasp. Maybe it is because I come from a happy family, or maybe because I am an optimistic person. For whatever 'reason, I have never given much thought to divorce.

It was always around me like a thunderstorm that is just a few miles away. You can hear the low rumble of thunder in the distance and see the sparks of lightning dip toward the ground, but it is a safe distance away. The skies overtop are still clear.

Well no longer. Divorce has clouded my sunrise. My two closest friends are suddenly facing the divorce of their parents and I am stuck in the middle.

These two friends do not

Staying together for the children may seem like a noble thing to do.

However, when it is obvious that the parents have only contempt for one another and they fight all the time, it is not noble for the parents to stay together; it is cruel.

While psychologists do seem to agree that it is best for a child to grow up in a two-parent structure, I am sure there are exceptions.

Having to listen to her parents fight year after year did not have any positive effects on my friend. She may as well start saving money for a therapy fund now.