EDITORIAL Keep in touch with friends .

Students, admi_nistration must learn to hear each other

Last week, Loquitur offered comments of assurance that Cabrini must take some falls in order to grow. With the i;-ecentfiring of Resident Assistants and the unfolding of controversial issues between students and Residence Life, it is glaringly imperative that fair and mutual respect and communication between the students and the administration must be established before Cabrini takes any steps for the future.

Right now, the students of Cabrini are experiencing freedom that, according to some upperclassmen, they have not had in several years. Over the past few weekends, Public Safety has not been senselessly writing up harmless students and in return the students have respectfully had their good time. When students are forcibly removed from the houses or the apartments for no good reason other than what seems to be the failure of Public Safety to meet a quota, property is damaged, essentially causing more damage then there was before the intervention.

It is true, of course, that Public Safety and Residence Life has to keep the best interest of the students and the school ' in mind. But when one person from either office is making - s: the final call on controversial issues, questions arise among the student body and rumors fly. Instead, there should be more order to the process or perhaps a leader of Cabrini should step up and take control.

Enter President Dr. Antoinette Iadarola and Vice President of Student Development Dr. Laura Valente. In the midst of this battle between students and the administration, the two figureheads of the students and the college have been shockingly silent. Loquitur understands that neither side wants to speak too soon. But before things get out of -· hand, someone, or some mutual board, must take control. The passing of time and empty threats alone will not _solve the current discrepancies.

It is crucial in a time like this for students to act responsibly with what seems like newfound freedoms. On the other hand, it is just as important for the administration to reassure students that they are on their side, not working against, or for the fall of, the student body.

With open communication and a mutual understanding of the needs of the students and administration, Cabrini will be well on its way for the future. Until a compromise is mutually settled, however, the chaos will continue.

The editorials, viewpoints, opinions and letters to the editor published in Loquitur are the views of the student editorial board and the individual writers, not the entire student body or the faculty and administration.

Shannon King features editor

It's really a shame that people don't keep in touch. Every stage of your life you have a certain group of friends who you would call your best friends. When you were little you even took the time to write their names in a circle on your notebook that said, "BFF" (Best Friends Forever.) Everyone knows that when you care about people you write their names in a circle because it goes on forever. Well the group of friends you have in elementary school are just different when you get to high schoo! and your idea of who you thought your best friend was changes drastically. You go through high school with a different group of people and at graduation, you promise to keep in touch. Some move on to colleges far away and others stay close to home. As the workload starts to grow heavier, it becomes harder and harder to keep in touch with high school friends. Your college roommates start to seem more Like your family than friends, and slowly you start to replace that old group from high school one by one without even realizing it. Our college years are a time to

Commentaries and letters to the editor may be submitted by the entire Cabrini campus community to Theloqultur @hotmail.com or The Loquitur , 610 King of Prussia Road Radnor,Pa. 19087 explore who we are and what we really want out of life. We probably party a little more than we should, but that's what college is right? We grow up and learn that if we rely on one another every step forward is a little bit easier. I'm going to be a senior next year and I don't want this trend to continue. I don't want to graduate and only talk to the friends I've made at major events like weddings and funerals.

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I recently went to a viewing and it was like a reunion party. Everyone seemed to be more interested in seeing old friends they baven 't seen in years than in the person that had passed away. I thought how sad it was that it takes a tragic event like a funeral to bring people together and start talking again. Why does it have to be like that?

I want to graduate and still know what my roommates are up to 10 years from now. I want to know what their kids names are, where they're working and still go out with them after a long hard day for a couple of drinks. I never want to lose touch with people again and replace them with a new group. I realize that I will make new friends in whatever job I have, in the neighborhood wherever I plan to settle down and even with other parents of the kids on my future child's baseball team. I'm not saying that I don't want to have new friends, just that I don't want to lose the ones I have now.

I never thought that my high school years would go by as quickly as they did or my senior year of college sneak up so fast. Now is the time when we are supposed to be looking ahead to what we want and I want my life to give me the courage to say, "I'm sorry," or "I forgive you." Too many friendships are thrown away because of petty differences and situations that could be easily solved with those simple phrases.

I have seen close relationships ripped apart by a fight so small that on any other day it might be overlooked or brushed off as a joke. In the future I plan on biting my tongue for 10 seconds before I say anything when I'm angry. It gives me time to think about what I'm going to say and I avoid saying things that I will have to apologize for later. In the heat of the moment, words can be a lot harsher than they were meant to sound.

If you are one of those people who still hang out with the friend you met in Kindergarten, I am happy for you. For the rest of you who are like me and lost touch with old friends, break that habit starting now. When out of the blue you think about someone you haven't thought about in a long time, give them a call or write them a quick e-mail. Chances are, they are thinking about you too.