Moving in before marriage

CHRISTINA WILLIAMS STAFF WRITER CMW722@CABRINI EDU

One of the best ways to get to know someone is to spend quality time with them and get to know everything about them. I feel that moving in with a significant other before mar riage is all right.

I’ve heard that the first year of mar riage is the hardest. So why not live with the person you are going to mar ry prior to marriage?

It would seem to make sense to try living together before making a lifelong commitment to someone. I would want to make sure that I could handle living with someone before I say “I do.”

I believe that the best way to know if the marriage will work is to live with the person you think is “the one” first. If two people cannot live together for a year without being married then the marriage will never last.

I feel that living together before marriage will only help the marriage last longer and maybe even cut down on the divorce rates. Who wants to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding if two people cannot live together before there is an engagement ring present?

For example, a friend of mine has been staying with this guy and the two of them can only live together for no more then a week at a time. These two are not on the road to marriage, thank goodness. But if they were getting mar ried, then they would know things probably would not work out in the long run.

Living together prior to mar riage has given them safety net. They now know that they cannot handle living with each other, sparing them of a nasty divorce.

If these two people cannot tolerate one another’s presence for more than a week then there is no way they are meant to be together. I believe that two people who are meant to be together do not mind being together all the time.

Living together before marriage does not mean that the couple will necessarily cut themselves off from the rest of the world. Sure it could happen, but the same could happen for two people who are just married. They may want to spend as much time together as possible, therefore cutting off the rest of the world.

Two people who live together before they are married are going to have to work at their relationship just as hard as those who are married or engaged and are living together. If one of the people in the relationship thinks the other person is “the one” then they will work to make their differences work. No matter if there is a ring on anyone’s finger, the two in the relationship should always be willing to work at the relationship and give 100 percent.

I also come from an old-fashioned home where my parents would like to see me married before moving in with a boyfriend or fiancée. However, I also do not want to spend money on a wonderful wedding without getting to know how my other half lives prior to the wedding.

I love my family enough not to make them pay for an expensive wedding and have the relationship collapse in the end.

I can honestly say I do not know whom I will be with in a year or two years from now. Although if it happens to be that I am in a serious relationship, I hope that whoever I am with will be willing to live together before getting mar ried to put our relationship to the test.

JESSICA MARRELLA STAFFWRITER JRM722@CABRINI EDU

I don’t understand the thought process of people who decide to move in with their significant other while they’re still in the dating stage of their relationship. I’ve heard the reason time and time again, “You don’t know someone until you live with them and I want to see if this is the person I’m meant to be with.”

That’s a bunch of bs. Living with someone doesn’t decide if you’re going to spend the rest of you life together, it’s what you feel that’s the determining factor. If you feel as though this might be “the one” I would hope that you could live with that person.