Good idea Big mistake V S

If you are engaged or married, obviously, I think that living together is fine. I just feel that people who are dating change their mind too easily about if they want to be with the person they’re living with. Maybe for some, living together while dating has ended happily ever after, but not in the cases that I’ve seen.

Two friends of mine who were dating moved in together at the beginning of their sophomore year of college after they had been dating for two years. Keep in mind that this was a couple that everyone could picture being together forever. Sure, at first things were great, but midway through their junior year they broke up. They are still living together and sleep in the only bed they have in the one room of the apartment because what other housing options do you have when you’re away from home and half way through the school year? After being together for three and a half years, the girl started questioning whether she wanted to see other people.

Granted someone who is married can also find themselves questioning their relationship. I just think that when you’re married you take into consideration the life commitment that you made and you will work harder at the relationship. On the other hand, you hear younger couples saying things like “we’re young and should be dating around” or “it’s not like we’re married or anything.” And with that the relationship is over

Something else that bothers me is that people who are dating and live together cut off the rest of the world; that’s not healthy for a relationship. I think that a person’s independence is important and a person should be able to stand on their own two feet when their significant other isn’t around. I’ve seen couples who sit at home together constantly and spend every waking moment together completely disregarding the other important people in their lives. No matter how many times you invite them to go out it’s always the same response, “no we’re just going to stay in.” Then they wonder where all of their friends have gone.

Personally, being raised in an old-fashioned family, my parents would prefer to see me married before moving in with someone; although being engaged is arguable, but I’ll cross that bridge when I get there.

I can confidently say that I plan on spending the rest of my life with my boyfriend. I don’t need to live with him to know that, I know that I want to be with him from how I feel. Whether we move in together tomorrow, or later down the road when we’re engaged, eventually I know that we will be moving in together.

In a nutshell, I don’t think that living with someone creates a strong love but rather that a strong love gives you the ability to live together.