Chapter 6: How to Make Your Relationship Goals Happen Relationships are something we often don’t think of as ‘goals’ but they are in precisely the same way as any other. Maybe you’re single and want to be in a relationship? Maybe you’re in a relationship and want to make it better? Maybe you just want more success with the opposite sex? These are all worthwhile goals and all of them can be subjected to the precise same strategy that we looked at before.
Taking Stock Here though, perhaps the most important aspect to look at is step 2: appraisal. You need to really take the time to assess the current state of your relationships and of yourself and then to work on moving forward and improving those areas of your life. This starts by looking honestly at your current relationship. A lot of people will remain in unhappy relationships because they can’t face admitting to themselves that things aren’t perfect; perhaps because they have a child or house together, perhaps because they love their partner. But note that improving your relationships doesn’t necessarily have to mean ending your relationship. You can work on a relationship just like you can work on a car, or a business. You can improve the way the relationship works, improve your happiness in your role and generally see positive change over time. Would you be happier if you had more sex? Are you getting enough time to spend with your partner properly? Do you argue more than you’d like? Sometimes, it is just a case of making some simple changes which can help you to improve on those areas and your relationship will be better for it. Don’t live in denial.
