Keeping the Valentine’s Day Spark All Year

6 Tips to “Sprinkle Sparks” & Keep the Fire Burning

If you’re in a relationship, you know that there are about three days of the year where you’re pretty much guaranteed to have a romantic night – your birthday, your anniversary, and Valentine’s Day. As women, we tend to look forward to those dates with more anticipation than a child waiting on Santa.

Those are the dates that we KNOW we need to make sure we have our hair and make-up perfect, shave all the right places, and put on that favorite dress that accents all our “assets.” We might even buy special lingerie for the night.

Why do most of us SAVE our romantic gestures for those special occasions like we’re rationing toilet paper in a pandemic?

There’s no romance shortage and no rules that you’d be breaking, so let’s talk about how to keep the romance going all year long!

Mindfully creating romantic moments is not something that most of us think about. However, being consistent with a few small things (and spontaneous with some others) can make a world of difference in a relationship. Sometimes those special days (and nights) are everything you dreamed of… and sometimes they’re not. If something happens and things don’t go as planned, it can be hard to recreate that spark. Just because the heat of the moment is gone doesn’t mean you have to stay cold.

If you sprinkle sparks all the time, you’ll always be warm. The trick to keeping the spark alive all year is to treat it like a fireplace. If you forget to fuel the fire, it dies.

Check out these ideas to sprinkle sparks around in your relationship!

Say “Thank You”

Let your partner know that you don’t take the small things for granted. Thank them for doing the menial tasks that have to be done anyway. If you don’t do this already, I highly recommend it. After 20 years together, my husband thanks me for dinner every time I cook. I thank him for taking out the trash. It may seem insignificant, but I’d miss it if it were gone. It’s a tiny part of who we are together.

Random Notes

This tip is so easy and can be so much fun! Leave a little note reminding them that you love them next to the coffee. Hide a “Nice butt” note in their back pocket. You could write some sexy suggestions on the bathroom mirror with a dry erase marker. The options are endless! If you’re physically able to be with your partner, hug them. The simple act of embracing your partner for 20 seconds releases a bonding hormone called oxytocin, which can also decrease stress and anxiety. BONUS!

Compliment Them Every Day

You would think it should be easy to find ONE compliment each day, but who’s kidding? Some days we may not want to LOOK at them, much less compliment them! These are the most important days to do it. Think about all the reasons you love them and pick one. You could even make it a game – see who can come up with the “Cleverest Kudo.” In addition to the gratitude for the compliments, you’re sure to get a few good giggles in there, too!

Be Spontaneous

Do something random – to them or with them. Kiss them on the cheek when you walk by. Smack their butt while they’re tying a shoe. Grab them for a slow dance after dinner (whether there’s music or not), or maybe try that new sex-thing your friend told you about!

And Yes – Have Sex!

The more intimate you are, the easier it’ll be to keep those sparks alive!

So, this Valentine’s Day, consider gifts that will help promote romance long after you’ve eaten the chocolates and the flowers have died.

Find a common interest and start a hobby together. You could find classes to take together (even online), grow a garden, maybe even a side hustle! Quality time and extra money? WIN-WIN!

Whatever you choose – just keep sprinkling those sparks, and enjoy your Valentine all year long!

Chrisha Rouse, Owner of Pure Romance by Chrisha www.PureRomancebyChrisha.com

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