Contents
Foreword by the Rt. Reverend John Thornton part i : changes and chances
1. At the Heart of Aging
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2. Learning Death, Choosing Life 3. Prayer and the Aging Process 4. Losses
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5. Turn Back
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part ii : looking inward
6. The Night 7. Pleasure
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8. Can Older Be Holier?
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9. Creativity and Your Spirit 10. How Shall We Live, Now?
119 127
part iii : steps in the journey
11. Friends and Counselors
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12. Cleaning Out the Heart
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13. To Follow Thee More Nearly 14. The Contribution 15. Overcoming Death
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part iv : to see thee face to face
16. Letting Go 17. Longing
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18. The Bread of Life 19. Resurrection
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20. The Sacrament of Time Suggested Reading
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Scriptures for Lectio Divina Index
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Changes and Chances Be present, O merciful God, and protect us‑.‑.‑.
so that we who are wearied by the changes and chances of this life may rest in your eternal changelessness‑.‑.‑. –from the ancient Service of Compline
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At the Heart of Aging Truly I tell you, there are some standing here who
will not taste death until they see that the kingdom of God has come with power. Mark 9:1
At fifteen I set my heart upon learning.
At thirty I established myself in accordance with ritual. At forty I no longer had perplexities.
At fifty I knew the Mandate of Heaven.
At sixty I was at ease with whatever I heard.
At seventy I could follow my heart’s desire without transgressing the boundaries of right. Confucius
M
y father said you could tel l t h e s t o r y
of your life by what happened while you were
here. “I saw the very first automobile come into our
town,” he said, “and I saw men walk on the moon. That’s how different the world became in my lifetime.” And
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how different he became over those years: he started out holding a small god in an ornate box and ended
up knowing the vast and universal God. Events shape
people, and the oldest generation, over age sixty or so, was shaped by a lifetime of wars: World War II, Korea, Vietnam, Grenada, the Gulf, the cold war, and the war against terrorism. Hiroshima. Nagasaki.
We remember good things, too: the Salk and Sabin
vaccines for polio and the end of smallpox. We saw Univac as the miracle of the fifties, and now most of us
own personal computers that are enormously faster and more powerful than that “miracle.” We were born when radio wasn’t too old, and now we have not only color TV
but also DVD players and cell phones that do everything except fix breakfast. When I was young I used a huge
Speed Graphic camera on my first newspaper job; now I have a little point-and-shoot that takes better pictures as well as a high-resolution scanner whose results I like even better than those of a digital Nikon.
Open the family album and you can look back at
yourself as a baby in a snowsuit, a thin child riding a
horse, and a scowling teenager; you see yourself graduating from college and maybe holding your children and
grandchildren. The greatest gift of your age is also the
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ability to look back at your spiritual life. In your mental
album you can trace the progress you’ve made in prayer
and review the times you thought you’d lost your faith. You can remember when you shook your fist at heaven because a child died or a president was assassinated and
when you were so inspired you thought you’d discovered the central secret of life in Christ (until you found the
next one). You have probably begun to enjoy some of the changes of older age: the wisdom that comes with matu-
rity, a deeper and more directed prayer life, and a firmer grasp on your relationship with God.
The Difference Death Makes You may not be so enthusiastic about the fact that age also brings physical limitation and maybe mental or emotional weakness, but even these factors can enhance
spirituality rather than impede it. Prayer and spiritual experience at sixty or seventy are not what they were
at thirty or fifty. As you age, you pray. And pray differently.
OK, someone says, so what is this spirituality of
aging, and how is it really so changed from what came
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previously? I pray as usual; I’ve always gone to church
and thought about God; I’ve been praying the rosary or
singing in the choir all my life. Is something magically going to change on the day I turn sixty or sixty-five?
Yes. Something will happen. The something that
makes a difference is death, and spiritual change begins on the day when, consciously or otherwise, you begin to
acknowledge your mortality. The older you get, the more
closely that old enemy stalks you and reminds you in a
dry, rattling voice that you aren’t going to live forever. Sooner or later, the voice insists, you’ll leave this world and the people in it—and it may be sooner than later.
Whether you live to be sixty-eight or ninety-five or
a hundred fifteen, death is present all the time in the everyday life of an older person, singing its song and
shaking its bony finger. And the presence of death means that your prayers are more urgent, your hymn singing more tearful, and your churchgoing shot through with
the challenge of letting go of this life and pleading with God for another. Confronting death is the major spiritual exercise of aging. You have to transcend being afraid of the end and arrive at the place where the unmistakable
signs of your mortality—including old age’s physical or mental breakdowns and the financial surprises that can
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Kristen Johnson Ingram explores these questions as she guides readers through the physical, emotional, and spiritual transformation associated with the aging process. Recognizing that our relationship with faith changes as we age, she offers ideas for living fully and embracing belief with integrity. Her words confirm and encourage our human desire to know God in this world and the next. “Whether you are eighty-three or thirty-eight, reading and savoring Wine at the End of the Feast will sharpen your appetite for God, deepen your appreciation of others, and expand your joy in daily life.” —John S. Mogabgab, editor of Weavings “Opinionated and personal, discerning and candid, this book adds a luster of insight to the golden years.” —Publishers Weekly is an accomplished author, writing instructor, and facilitator of workshops for suicide prevention and centering prayer. She has contributed to numerous periodicals, including the Christian Century and Catholic Digest.
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