The Voice: Foster Care - You Can Make A Difference by Marlene Davis

FOSTER CARE MAY 17 - 23, 2012

Yinka Sunmonu Consultant Email: ys@cherishcommunications.com

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WE CAN ALL MAKE A DIFFERENCE

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What is foster care?: Frequently asked questions. Time to care: Local community creative support for Foster Care Fortnight. Sporting Success: Olympians with a fostering or adoption link. The Good doctor: Interview with consultant paediatrician Dr Omobolaji Wilson who is dedicated to improving the health and wellbeing of looked after children.

› Elaine’s story: Her experience of fostering young people. › 22 Things to do for foster care and beyond: LaDiva considers ways to raise awareness.

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what is

Fostercare? The Fostering Network, organiser of Foster Care Fortnight, has compiled a list of frequently asked questions for people interested in foster care. What is fostering? Fostering is a way of offering children and young people who need to be in care a stable family environment while their own parents are unable to look after them. On any one day, around 59,000 children live with 45,000 foster families.

Fostering Fortnight 2012 Change a child’s life forever Foster carers look after other people’s children in their own home, either short or long term and your help can really make the difference to a child’s life. Fostering Fortnight runs from 14 – 27 May and this year’s campaign centres on the fact that a child comes into care and needs a foster family every 22 minutes across the UK with the Fostering Network estimating that 8,750 new foster families are needed in 2012 alone. These figures frighteningly show the need for new foster carers to help change the lives of local children. There are many myths about foster carers such as they must be married or own a large house. Islington foster carers in fact come from many different cultures and backgrounds and may be couples or single people, with or without their own children living in owned or rented accommodation. You don’t need qualifications but you do need to be good with children or young people, be able to keep them healthy and safe and to help them make good progress at school. As well as the satisfaction of helping a child you will also receive generous financial allowances to help with their care and of course Islington foster carers get full training and 24-hour support.

To get the facts about fostering and find out about our next information sessions give us a call free on: 0800 073 0428. Alternatively visit: www.islington.gov.uk/fostering or email us at: fostering@islington.gov.uk

also includes attending meetings, keeping records, managing behaviour and promoting contact with birth families. Foster carers receive preand post-approval training and support to help them develop the skills needed to do this challenging and rewarding work.

as possible for children and young people. People can apply to foster regardless of marital status, sexuality or residential status. Foster carers come from a diverse range of ethnic and cultural backgrounds, which reflect the children and young people who are in care. People who have ever been convicted of a sexual offence or a violent act towards a child are not able to become foster carers.

Why do children need Why foster? fostering? Foster carers play a key role Foster carers look after children so families have the in transforming children’s lives. chance to sort out their prob- Fostering is not easy, but it oflems. These problems can range fers the opportunity to make What is the difference befrom a family member’s short- a huge difference to children tween fostering and adopterm illness to a parents depres- and can be a very rewarding tion? sion or drug or alcohol abuse. experience. People who want Fostering is usually a tempoMany children have been to foster need to care about rary way of offering children a children, have great communi- home until they can return to abused or neglected. and be ready for a their family, although many SomeIslington childrenurgently will need needs cation fosterskills carers to look after local children of to be looked after for only a challenge. live with foster carers for years, all ages. A child comes into care and needs a foster family every 22 short time until they can return some for their whole childminutes across the UK and the Fostering Network estimates 8,750 home, while others will stay Who can be a foster carer? hoods. that Fostered children connew foster families are needed in 2012 alone. Could you help make a part of their Almost anyone can apply to with foster carers for the longer tinue to be legally be young a fosterlives carer, as witha foster term ordifference move elsewhere. own family, to one of these by but becoming carer? even if there is any job, some people will be limited contact with them. What does a foster carer do? Foster carers provide chil- more suited to it than others. (Reproduced with permission To find out more about why not come along to an information session dren with their day-to-day care Prospective foster carers need from the Fostering Network) where you can talk to Islington foster carers and really get a feel and much more. They may have skills and experience that will what fostering The Fostering Network esenable them to meet the needs to helpfor these children comeistoall about. timates that 8,750 foster terms with difficult or traumat- of vulnerable children and families (7,100 in England, people who are sepaic experiences. They supTuesday 29will May 6pmyoung - 8pm 100 in Northern Ireland, port children in their education, rated from their families. 1000 in Scotland and Islington Town Hall, Fostering services need to look after their health and pro550 in Wales) are needed mote social wellbeing. Upper StreetThe N1role 2UDrecruit a variety of foster car- across the UK for 2012. is varied and challenging, and ers to offer as much choice

Change a child’s life forever, foster with Islington

If you can’t join us then please call about other upcoming dates. USEFUL WEBSITES

IS FOSTERING FOR YOU? The Could you foster website contains useful information on foster care, explaining what it is, who needs it and how to apply. www.couldyoufoster.org.uk

SOUND ADVICE FOSTERLINE ☎ The Fosterline advice service, run by the

Fostering Network, is a one-stop shop for prospective and established foster carers. They deal with a range of issues including: applying to become a foster carer; changes in legislation; and financial matters.

Finding a foster care service The Fostering.net website can link you to services in your local area Just type in your To ask a question or obtain information, call keywords, select provider type (local author0800 040 7675 (calls are free from landity, Independent Fostering Provider or3mm Health THIS IS SET FOR THE WIDTH OF A4 WITH BLEEDlines) AT THEor SIDES AND BOTTOM. email fosterline@fostering.net and Social Services Trust) AS and postcode. PLEASE USE THE CROP MARKS A GUIDE TO POSTIONING THE THREAD AT THE BOTTOM OF THE PAGE. The service is open Thefostering@islington.gov.uk search engine will do the rest. Monday – Friday from 9am to 5pm. www.fostering .net www.islington.gov.uk

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A RECIPE FOR FOSTER CARE By N Disu

Adebayo Jones

Yemi Osunkoya

Walegreat

Josephine Adebolu

Time to care It’s Foster Care Fortnight and the Fostering Network spearheads the national recruitment campaign with the message ‘Time to Care’. The Voice, with its message ‘Fostering Hope’, aims to get the dialogue started and people spurred into action.

“Many of us can count our ‘I cannot begin to stress how Foster Care Fortnight and enblessings for being raised in much I think a loving and se- couraging them to tap into an environment where we feel cure family is to the develop- their networks. It is my hope loved and secure. Foster Care ment and wellbeing of a child. that they will find somebody Fortnight sets out to mobilise I have my parents support and who will eventually foster a people to help children and encouragement to thank for child.” young people who need that for giving me the self-confi- Josephine Adebolu security be it on a temporary dence and belief to achieve my Designer/Jeweller, JoDelynor long term basis. It is my success as a fashion designer. London sincere hope and prayer that I truly believe that this safe we pull together as a com- and nurturing environment for “I have such admiration for munity and find ways to help a child doesn’t have to be pro- those that foster and indeed our looked after children. I also vided by blood relatives but take the steps toward fosterhope that we find a way to talk can also be provided by people ing a child. There are so many about foster care and adop- who have chosen to provide a incredible people out there tion, not just for a fortnight loving environment for a child who would make and do make carers other childrenorin their home, either or and or Foster a month, but look days, after weeks bypeople’s either fostering adop-own incredible fostershort carers, long term and your help can really make the difference to a child’s life. Fostering and years so that the needs of tion. I hope that with more there are also many children Fortnight fromare 14 al– 27 openness May andand thisawareness year’s campaign centres on the fact thatvery looked after runs children about out there who need those ways on our minds and spursandthis subject, adoption andevery 22people to be fosterthe carers a child comes into itcare needs a foster family minutes across UK to us with into action.” fostering will further emthem.” the Fostering Network estimating thatbe 8,750 new foster families are needed in Couture designer Adebayo braced by theshow community. ’ Chef andcarers TV personality 2012 alone. These figures frighteningly the need for new foster to help Jones Yemi Osunkoya, Creative Di- Lorraine Pascale change the lives of local children. “I’m in support of the Foster rector, Kosibah Care Fortnight campaign be“I have always thought There are many myths about foster carers as child they must be married own ahave cause it raises the awareness of “I believe thatsuch every about fostering or and large house. Islington foster carers in fact come from many different cultures the plight of children who need deserves to be raised in an a pledged to look intoand it now backgrounds be couples or singleenvironment people, with or without their own chil-have a safe and caring and homemay while secure, nurturing that my circumstances dren in owned rented accommodation. they areliving unable to live or with where they can thrive and changed and I feel in a positheir own families.” achieve their full potential. I tion to do so. Fortunately, FosSaxophonist Walegreat will beyou telling clients about Care Fortnight give me You don’t need qualifications but domy need to be goodter with children or will young

Fostering Fortnight 2012 Change a child’s life forever

people, be able to keep them healthy and safe and to help them make good progress at school. As well as the satisfaction of helping a child you will also receive generous financial allowances to help with their care and of course Islington foster carers get full training and 24-hour support.

the opportunity to explore all the options so that I can make an informed decision.” Larissa Armstrong-Moore, mother “LAC R AIMP” Joshua

Ingredients Accommodation – rented or private A family (single man, woman, couple) • Time • Energy • Humour • Compassion • Discipline • Humanity • Trustworthiness • Stickability • Patience • Compassion • Trustworthiness • Journal, diary or camera (optional) Method Take a house or flat with room for a child. Add a family. This may consist of a couple, married or cohabiting, a single person or divorcee. Mix in a lot of time. Blend with some energy. Pour in lots of humour and a huge dollop of patience. Stir in pinches of compassion with a hint of discipline. Throw in some humanity and pinches of trustworthiness. Beat with a whole load of stickability. Cooking is about the senses. Feel for any inconsistencies and listen for anything untoward. This mix may curdle sometimes but add a conﬁdence booster and you should reach the consistency it takes for success. Record each moment in a journal/diary or on camera (optional)

Change a child’s life forever, foster with Islington Islington urgently needs foster carers to look after local children of all ages. A child comes into care and needs a foster family every 22 minutes across the UK and the Fostering Network estimates that 8,750 new foster families are needed in 2012 alone. Could you help make a difference to one of these young lives by becoming a foster carer? To find out more about why not come along to an information session where you can talk to Islington foster carers and really get a feel for what fostering is all about. Tuesday 29 May 6pm - 8pm Islington Town Hall, Upper Street N1 2UD If you can’t join us then please call about other upcoming dates.

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Sporting success Leaps of success - olympic athletes who have been fostered/adopted

JAMIE BAULCH Olympic silver medallist (4x400m relay) Jamie Baulch is an adoptee and multi award winning athlete. Born in Nottingham, he grew up in Wales. In 1999, he won the world indoor championships in the 400m becoming the first Briton to win a world title at the distance since Eric Liddell (1924 Games).

SURYA BONALY Ice skater Surya Bonaly was born in Nice, France and was adopted by Suzanne and George Bonaly who were also her coaches. Although a multi French and European skating champion, and a silver medallist at the World Figure Skating Championships on more than one occasion, she never managed to win an Olympic medal.

PHILLIPS IDOWU Phillips Idowu is a World, Commonwealth and European triple jump champion. Born in Hackney, he spent some time in foster care. Phillips is one of several Olympic athletes to have attended Brunel University. Having won an Olympic Silver medal at the 2008 Beijing Olympics, he is aiming for Gold in London.

Around the world: fostering hope through football in sierra leone

n this special year of sport, Yinka Sunmonu talks to Isha Johansen, owner of FC Johansen, a successful Premier League football club in Sierra Leone that has helped children who do not have families of their own. Isha focuses on the club’s foundation and its achievements, showing that there are many ways to help and empower children whatever their circumstances. My team has the youngest players in the league, and the club is synonymous with youth empowerment as they are youth football ambassadors for their country. The club was formed in 2004. Sierra Leone was still reeling from the aftermath of its civil war. There were a lot of displaced youngsters and orphans around the capital with no real sense of direction. My husband and I, in our own small way, started the team as a humanitarian

FOOTBALL CLUB OWNER: Isha Johansen

venture. The then eight to nine year old underprivileged boys, who were playing football almost from dusk to dawn metres away from my home, were given the opportunity to combine education and football. The carrot we dangled was football, and they in return had to promise to stay in school. Our story is one of love and adoption of children from different backgrounds. It is one of trust and giving. Today FC Johansen is not just a source of national pride, but an international success story with our lads having travelled to several countries in Europe and America bringing laurels to their homeland. The joy and pride of seeing young boys grow from being insecure and lost to young leaders whom other young boys look up to is truly amazing”. (If you have an interesting story about helping looked after children in the UK or overseas, email: info@cherishcommunications.com)

KRIS AKABUSI Kriss Akabusi was born in London and experienced foster care with his brother. He is a former European Champion (400m hurdles), a European gold medallist in the 4x400m relay and an Olympic Silver medalist also in the 4x400m relay. He is now the Chief Executive of the Akabusi Company

DAN O’BRIEN Olympic decathlon champion Dan O’Brien was born in America and raised in foster care until he was adopted as a toddler. He is a former world record holder and a three-time world athletics champion.

FOSTERING AN OLYPMPIC POET Poet and playwright Lemn Sissay, who experienced the foster care system, has become the first poet commissioned to write a poem for the London 2012 Games. His poem ‘Sparkcatchers’, about the women and girls of the Bryant and May Match Factory, will be etched into a wooden structure at the north of the Olympic Park together with two lesser known poems. Speaking of the poems, Lemn says, “One of them is simply the word ‘Living is in’, which is repeated maybe 150 times”, while the other “is like an explosion in the graphic and it’s simply the words “There is a certain electricity between us – a spark”. There is a reason for the brevity of the poems but one has to see them for their full impact. Visit before the Olympic rush. For information on art in the Olympic Park, log on to: http://www.london2012. com/spectators/venues/ olympic-park/art-in-thepark/index.html

MARTHA DOB 11.06.2010 Martha was born prematurely at 24 weeks. To date Martha has no health needs, and she appears to be thriving and gaining weight. Though her development is delayed, it is within the range of her prematurity, this will be continually monitored until she is at least the age of two years.

Martha’s mother left her at the hospital after giving birth, we are aware that there was no ante natal care and mother has a background of substance abuse. After her birth Martha was in the special care baby care unit, she was discharged from there on the 13th September 2010 and has lived with her carer since. Martha is a sociable child, she eats and sleeps well and making positive attachments to her carer, she is adored by her everyone in the house hold and those who meet her. Martha needs a carer or carers that can take a degree of uncertainty, an adoption allowance may be payable. Birth mother is of African Caribbean descent birth father unknown. Letter box contact with siblings.

Yvonne Palmer, Adoption Team, 35 Wellington Street, Powis Street, London SE18 6HQ. Contact: 0208 9212753 E-Mail: Yvonne.palmer@greenwich.gov.uk

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HIDDEN CHAMPION SERIES

The good doctor TRANSFORMER: Dr. Omobolaji Wilson

here is a Consultant Paediatrician in Grimsby, North East Lincolnshire, who often works with a smile on her face, appreciates life and has bestowed her wisdom to young looked after people in a car park. Her name is Dr Omobolaji Wilson and Yinka Sunmonu interviews her. Dr Wilson’s interest in the health and well-being of looked after children and young people started in 1999 while doing her master’s dissertation on their mental, emotional and physical needs. She approached the local authority and got access to the boarding out medicals that recorded details of the children entering care. The files gave her a Eureka moment. “Nobody was chasing any follow up medical appointments such as keeping a date at the opticians or appointments for hearing problems – the things a parent would take responsibility for” She said. With the support of respected paediatrician, Professor Leon Polnay, Dr Wilson created a business case and set about establishing a health service for looked after children in North East Lincolnshire. TRANSFORMING “At the time the Quality Protects Programme had just started and so for the first time, the local authority social services had the lead responsibility for transforming the lives of looked after children. There was a lot of excitement” S h e says, “ We

The good doctor - interview with the extraordinary consultant paediatrican Dr Omobolaji Wilson who is dedicated to improving the health and wellbeing of looked after children. started on the basis that these children were ours and we took it from there.” She wrote the first child health assessment process and after that, no task was too big. Dr Wilson and her team visited children and young people in schools, their homes and even a car park. Their emotional wellbeing became paramount now that children were in care as she felt they would miss a number of home comforts and, in reality, no matter how bad the situation, they would probably miss their parents. “I wanted health assessments to be holistic and for children to have all round care, which included what was happening to them in school.” She explains, “ I wanted to see how we could make the child comfortable and happy in care. This is what we set out to do as a team.” She uses the word “we” often and “our’ when referring to the personnel delivering on care and the children receiving it. She has taken the concept of a village raising a child and planted it into a community setting in North East Lincolnshire GOOD PRACTICE The team is a model of good practice. In 2001, the number of child health assessments undertaken was around 13%. By 2005, they had in-

into care are facing difficulties. Department for Education statistics, sourced by Barnardo’s, show that nearly 43% of all the children who entered the care system last year were aged 10 or over. Add the fact that new figures show that, of those children, 80% entered care for the first time and society could be looking at an emotional time bomb for its looked after children. “Obviously, this situation affects their self esteem”, explains Dr Wilson. “Most of the children think they have no control over their lives. They feel helpless.” ANXIETIES She relates how some of the children develop anxieties such as bed wetting, have concerns about the future and the possibility of moving placements and worry about what is happening at home “Some children can be very quiet and detached from the foster carers to start with and this is all about being cautious. Some are hypervigilant. Sometimes a child is happy and settled with the foster carer and the next day, the same child is trashing the place or is withdrawn. When we speak to them, we realize they feel that they are letting their family down because they are so comfortable with their new family and they feel they are being disloyal.” One of Dr Wilson’s achievements is negotiating with the local authority and health trust for a specific psychological service for looked after children. There is no waiting list. Any looked after child can see a psychologist within two weeks, or within days if necessary for a psychological assessment. Foster carers can access the service and seek advice on how to work with the child. INITIATIVES

creased to 97% and they have remained between 97 and 100% since then. Dr Wilson acknowledges that children coming

A consultant since 2007, the position has enabled her to: work with a larger team; train doctors; do more research; inform commissioners of new services that could be developed; and see more looked after children. Dr Wilson is about to

launch a series of initiatives including a workshop for teenage mothers, at their request. Looked after children speak and Team Wilson listens.

A realist, she is aware that not all the children can have

dream-come- true endings in their lives. If she could grant them two wishes, she says, “I wish they could be happy, find peace and understand why they can’t go home. I wish they could know they are loved by the people caring for them.” Her name, Omobolaji, means a child born with wealth. Names are significant in Africa and Dr Wilson embodies the meaning of hers. She bestows a gift to others through the wealth of her generosity and commitment to a cause.

“My job is gratifying,“ she says animatedly, “The foster carers are fantastic and the local authority and primary health care trust have been fantastic in terms of recognizing the importance of foster carers and the needs of looked after children and in releasing funding.” PEACE Although her job is not 9-5, she relaxes by watching films (she loves comedies) and reading (The No.1 Ladies Detective series by Alexander McCall Smith is her favourite).

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Opinionated

n initiatives such as Foster Care Fortnight and Adoption Week… These are all very well in keeping the issue in the public eye but the fact is that the Fostering Network figures show that despite the appeals, the shortage of fosterers has more than doubled since 1998. Appealing for more fosterers suggests the authorities care but, despite the country having many dedicated fosterers, the instability of fostering based system has led to thousands of young people leaving care in a worse state than when they arrived. Fostering is simply the cheaper options to creating quality managed residential homes with the young people’s interests additionally protected by the creation and empowerment of elected youth councils, such as exist in some homes in Germany. On improving the lives of children needing fostering/ adoption especially during a recession… Britain has 1 million empty properties. Have a crash programme of creating modern Barnardo type cost-effective care villages such as Kinderhaus in East Berlin to keep sibling families together and provide stability and continuity of education. End the smartie policy of prioritising ethnic matching, which leaves far too many black and minority ethnic children in emergency care and focus on spending on compulsory training of adopters and carers on the cultural and ethnic backgrounds of the young people.

Phil Frampton, a campaigner for the rights of children in care, gets vocal about fostering. On the importance of supporting young people leaving care and drawing attention to it… Care is still very poor in this country and many young people leave care with very inadequate support. Young people in care and care leavers, continually get a bad press, facing stigmatisation and discrimination as damaged goods.

On the “ importance of supporting young people leaving care and drawing attention to it

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On being vocal about fostering and adoption for 13 years and identifying two things, from a host of achievements, to be proud of… Getting people such as Martin Narey and the Commons Select Committee to accept and promote the fact that decent care homes can provide a better option for many young people, especially separated siblings.

About Phil Frampton Phil’s memoir, The Golly in the Cupboard (2004), on being mixed race and brought up in care, was followed by his BBC programme of the same name, which won the 2005 Race in the Media Award for radio documentaries. His controversial Channel 4 Bring Back Orphanages programme (2007) highlighted excellent outcomes in German residential care. Phil’s latest BBC Radio documentary, The Crying Shame, focusing on the post war plight of unmarried mothers and the issue of ethnic matching of children in care was broadcast at Easter and has already been re-broadcast four times across three BBC Radio stations. An experienced lecturer, keynote speaker, broadcaster and author, Phil is a freelance consultant and Director of Cooperatives North West. He has written for The Independent, Guardian, Daily Mail, Big Issue and journals around the world. Phil was a member of the Cabinet Office Advisory Group on the Education of Young People in Care, a Parliamentary Select Committee Witness regarding Abuse of Children in Care, founding Chair of Care Leavers Association (2000-2003) and, in 2008, was shortlisted to become a national Director of OFSTED. ¢

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A foster carer’s story By Elaine Medford

laine Medford, a learning disabilities nurse, is a foster carer who looks after children with her partner, Junior. She started fostering when her children were older and has fostered over 20 children the past 13 years. Some of the children she has fostered return to visit bringing their own children with them. She talks about her experiences with young people. You have to realize that when some of the children come to you, whatever age,

“skills that you use with your own children may not work ”

of the young people and you want to give them a chance. You want to support them into taking their opportunities. I hate to think of lost opportunities. For me, If things are being given to you, if things are being handed to you, take that opportunity and use it. One of the young men we fostered has just released a single and is recording his album and one of the young women we fostered some time ago, returned to live with us. She was pregnant. We helped her as much as we could and she has now moved into her own flat. Fostering can be extremely challenging and demanding, but it has great rewards.

they are going to come with their own issues and their own baggage. I think originally, I waded into it thinking that they were coming to spend some time with our family and that three months later they would be fine. This is not the case.

RESPECT All your own parenting skills, the skills that you use with your own children may not work. You have to adopt others, learn other skills and tailor things to that child. Take respect. I come from the old school and like respect but you cannot always expect this from the young people who come into your home. It’s adults who have usually let them down and adults who have usually messed up their lives, so don’t expect that they are going to treat you or talk to you with respect and that you will get them to do things out of respect. You have to earn their respect as some of the young people believe you are just doing your job. You see potential in some

CARER: Elaine and Curtis

Elaine on lessons learnt as a foster carer You need a good family unit or good friends to support you. It is important to realize that children come into your home with a range of issues. Good fostering agencies allow you to discuss your concerns and vent any frustration you may have.

Teens need you A survey, published at the start of Foster Care Fortnight, shows there is an urgent need for more foster carers for teenagers across the UK. The Fostering Nework research reveals that 59% of fostering services need foster carers to ensure that young people are found the homes they need. The situation is such that 98% of all fostering services responding to the survey said they were looking for more foster families for teenagers than last year. In addition, fostering services have identified the need for foster carers who can specialise in caring for sibling groups and disabled children.

Actions speak louder than words Could you befriend a young person in care? Young people in the care system need stable and positive role models We’re particularly looking for men to volunteer to offer that support. If you have experience of being in care yourself we’d like to hear from you but if you haven’t – and you’re committed about mentoring a young person – give us a call. Full training and support will be provided.

Training to start Summer 2012 To find out more contact The London Independent Visitors Project

Email: LondonIV@actionforchildren.org.uk Tel: 020 7254 9408

“My IV listens when I talk. He helps me to be positive about my life. He’s always there and we have laugh.” (James, 15) James has come a long way since he was “matched” with a volunteer Independent Visitor through Action for Children. By the time we met him he had already been involved with the police and his reputation as a ‘troublemaker’ was spreading through his neighbourhood. As a first step the project went to visit James; explained what he could get out of the scheme and spoke about the sort of mentor he might like. One of our volunteers, David, shared similar interests and could offer James the sort of support he needed, so we introduced them. That was over a year ago. “James is a great young man. We started out just having fun, getting to know each other – going to the park, kicking a football around, going to the cinema, finding places to go and eat, simple stuff really, “ says David. “There was never any pressure to talk about the ‘serious stuff’. We would just have fun and chat about all sorts – football, TV, anything really. But James knew that if he wanted to he could talk to me and I would be supportive. James would often talk about being let down by this person and that

person and that it was really difficult for him to trust people. I never tried to ‘achieve’ that but just kept on being that reliable, consistent person that he could have a laugh with. He’s a really bright lad and has a lot of ideas and plans about what he wants to be but just needed that bit of space to express them. A year on I wouldn’t say that we’re totally there, but I feel proud and privileged that I have been there for him and have no intention of stopping now!” The support IVs offer can range from just going out and having fun to more structured and targeted help – Each young person is an individual and it always depends on what that young person’s needs are. Children in care often have to deal with regular change and a lack of stability, which is why it’s incredibly important that there is someone independent (hence the name) and consistent in their lives that can give that young person a chance to build a positive relationship with someone over a long period of time. Something that most of us take for granted. And what do volunteers get out of it? David says, “I never went into this expecting to get a specific reward or gratification, but it’s been a thoroughly fun experience. The most amazing reward was to see the change

in James and how he has grown as a person. To know I’ve played some part in helping to give him the space to find out what he wants in life, and to stay out of trouble is more than I could have hoped for.” • The London Independent Visitors project supports children in care across London linking them with volunteer befrienders who aim to support a young person’s emotional wellbeing by developing a long term friendship with them whilst engaging with their interests/hobbies. • Action for Children supports and speaks out for the most vulnerable and neglected children and young people, for as long as it takes to make a difference in their lives. • Children are at the centre of everything Action for Children does. For more information on our work, please visit www.actionforchildren.org.uk.

Foster Care supplement

30 | THE VOICE MAY 17-23, 2012

Fostering during a recession – yes you can… Fostering Network Chief Executive Robert Tapsfield: “All foster carers receive a fostering allowance which should cover the cost of caring for a fostered child. These vary across the UK, but in England, Wales and Northern Ireland there are national minimum allowances agreed by government. Some fostering services also pay their foster carers a fee on top of the allowance, in recognition of their time, skills and experience. Prospective foster carers should ask their local fostering services about the financial support that they offer, and should not be afraid to shop around to find the fostering service that offers the right mix of financial and practical support for them.” The Fostering Network coordinates Foster Care Fortnight. (Details: www.fostering.net or telephone: 0800 040 7675) Jonathan Whalley, Barnardo’s Assistant Director of Children’s Services for the South East: “In the time of economic crisis and a downturn in the job market, people may want to look at alternative careers and a career in fostering could be an option for some. We’re not expecting people to come to the fostering service and be Rolls Royce foster carers but what we will say is that Barnardo’s will give you super

We approached three major organisations and asked: What advice can you give to people who would like to foster but think they cannot afford it, especially during a recession?

Rolls Royce support. We believe that anyone with the right attitude and support can offer an environment that will allow a child to grow. So we encourage anyone to come forward and not be put off. We still need to breakdown the myths about fostering and encourage people to get in touch with us. Staff would be more than willing to share with them, on a one to one basis, what fostering involves and talk through their own particular circumstances”. Barnardo’s is urging more people to consider putting themselves forward as potential foster carers – particularly for children from black and minority ethnic backgrounds.

(Details: www.barnardos.org. uk/fosteringandadoption or telephone 0800 277 280) Gareth Crossman, Executive Director of External Affairs, TACT: “You can afford to foster insofar as the money you receive will cover the expenses of having the child in your home, plus you receive an allowance on top of that. At TACT, we think foster carers should be treated as professionals. They do a professional job in the same way that a social worker does a professional job but they go further insofar as they open up their homes. They rightly receive recompense for that and our foster

Aspiring to work

he debate is on as to whether foster carers can or should work on a full time basis. The general consensus is that staying at home is preferable, part time work is possible and it depends on the needs of the child and the fostering agencies. We caught up with MyAspirations Director Marilyn Antrobus (Assoc. Cipd), who has written fostering and adoption policies for organisations, to ask what employees can expect from the workplace if they’re thinking about fostering a child. Can foster parents or private foster carers apply for flexible working? Anyone can ask their employer for flexible work arrangements, but the law provides some employees with the statutory right to request a flexible working pattern. You must have worked for your employer for 26 weeks continuously before applying.

doing so. You have the right to ask for flexible working not the right to have it, and employers can reasonably decline your application where there is a legitimate business ground.

Marilyn Antrobus

What type of flexible working is there? Flexitime, homeworking, job-sharing, annualised hours, term time working, part time hours, staggered hours. Is flexible working a right? Under the law, your employer must seriously consider any application you make. This can only be rejected if there are good business reasons for

Do you have to tell your employers if you are fostering a child/children? There is no legal requirement but it would be useful to advise them as you may need to take time off from work to attend group preparation sessions or to care for the child. Can you take a sabbatical or leave of absence while you are helping a fostered child settle into your home? This would depend on your employer and whether there are provisions to take a sabbatical as not all employers offer this option. ¢ For information on MyAspirations, log on to: www. myaspirations.co.uk

carers are happy with the money they receive. If you worked it out as an hourly rate, it wouldn’t be very high for the amount of work you put in but you won’t become a foster carer and then be struggling financially.

When we are in a recession, a lot of people, particularly in the public sector are finding their employment situation precarious and many people are losing their jobs. So, we are approaching people through our advertising to think of

foster care as a career, which people may not have envisaged before.” ¢ TACT is the largest fostering and adoption charity in the UK. ((www.tactcare.org.uk or telephone 0808 252 8524)

22 WAYS TO RAISE AWARENESS Fostering Network statistics show that a child comes into care every 22 minutes and requires a foster family. LaDiva suggests ways to get involved: 1. Send an email about foster care to your networks asking them to continue the trend. 2. Access www.22minutes.org.uk , which contains videos and blogs by foster carers 3. Befriend a looked after child. Contact your local authority for information 4. Fundraise 5. Tweet 6. Facetime 7. Use Facebook 8. Attend a local authority or independent fostering agency event 9. Read actress Victoria Rowell’s memoir ’The Women who raised me’ (Amistad, 2008) 10. Watch BAAF’s new film on the experiences of foster carers. Details: www.baaf.org 11. Read ‘Precious: a true story’, by

Precious Williams (Bloomsbury Publishing, 2011) 12. Place posters in local stores 13. Read ‘The Golly in the cupboard’, by Phil Frampton, (Tamic Publications 2004) 14. Campaign 15. Become a children’s advocate 16. Discuss foster care in schools 17. Read ‘The Kid’ by Sapphire (Penguin Press 2011) 18. Ask your pastor to raise awareness on Sunday 19. Join a fostering panel. (See: ‘Thinking of Joining an adoption panel – revised 2011’, published by BAAF) 20. Learn about the health needs of looked after children 21. Read the novel ‘Cherish’ by Yinka Sunmonu (Mango Publishing, 2004) 22. Become a foster carer