BH Six & Seven | June 2022

It’sgoodtohearthatthingsare finally getting back on trackagain afterso many events hadtobecancelledlast year.

TheRNLIare nowholdingtheir Blue Lightday on Sunday 24th July on Mudeford Greenwhere youcanchat totheLifeboatCrewand other Search &Rescue organisations that help to keep us allsafe.

At thesamevenuebutonthe followingweek, theMudefordArts Festival will be taking placeon Saturday30thand Sunday31stJuly. Afullprogramme of entertainmentis promisedandwill justneed the sunshine to make it aperfect day. Be suretovisit theStanpitVillage Hall tent whereyoucan view paintingsbylocalartists andvote for your favouriteone.

HappyHolidays!

Best Wishes,Julie

8. Competition

12. CreativeGardenDesigns

14.Puzzles

16. Spanish Kitchen Recipe

S2. St Mary’s Lighthouse

S4.What’sonatthe RegentCentre

S6. LocalHistory

S8. IntotheGardenwithJane Austen

S10.PeregrineFalcons inChristchurch

S12.RNLI MudefordFundingCrew

S14. Wine of theMonth

S18. What is Self-Compassion?

S22. Home Growing

S30. Travel:Alaska

S32.Lemon& WhiteChocolateSlices

50.Can YouRollwith thePunches?

54.Why WomenLikeitHot

62.Book Review

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Orange Buñuelos

Ingredients (for 30 units):

200gOrangeJuice

20gMilk

80gUnsaltedButter

20gSugarandmoreforcoating

Zestof 1Orange

2gSalt

180gWheatFlour

4gBakingPowder

3Eggs(seenotes)

OliveorSunfloweroilforfrying

Preparation:

Mixtheflourwiththebakingpowderand salt.Heatthebutterwiththestrainedorange juice,zest,milkandsugarin asaucepanand stir.Whenthepancomestotheboil, remove fromtheheatandaddtheflourmixtureallat once,stirringuntileverythingisincorporated andcomesawayfromthesides. Transferto anotherbowltocool.Addtheeggsoneby one,stirringeachtimeuntilincorporated;do notaddthelastoneincasetheconsistency istoothick.Leavetostandfor30-60 minutes.

In asaucepanordeep-fryingpan,heatthe oilto atemperatureofabout160-170°C.

Diptwoteaspoonsintotheoil,takea smallportion, rounditalittlewiththeother teaspoonanddipitintothehotoilsothatit falls,fryinbatchesof 4or5Bunuelos.

Theyusuallyturnoverontheirown.

Assoonastheyaregoldenbrown, remove, drainandleaveon aplatewithkitchenpaper. Whilestillhot, rollin abowlofsugarand transfertotheotherdish.Continueuntilthe doughisfinished.

ENJOY!!!

ExperiencetheflavouroftheMediterranean,cuisinewithsoul,madewithlove,toteachandtransmit theGastronomicCultureofSpain.

Withsimple,fresh,aromatic,variedingredients,fullofflavourandsunshine. We make100%Spanish foodtoenjoyandshare. We don’tsellanything,everythingonthischannelisfreeandauthentic.

Watch me prepare this and other meals on my youtube channel: https://youtube.com/c/TheSpanishKitchen

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JUNE

THEROADDANCE(15)

Sun 5June:11am,2pm,5pm &8pm, WTues 7&Wed 8June:2pm,5pm &8pm, Thurs 9June:3pm

Tickets:£7.50,Concessions£7

SetintheOuterHebridesduringWWI,ayoungwoman’slifeischangedbyatraumaticevent.Basedonthe bestsellingnovelbyJohnMackay.

REGENTCOMEDYCLUB WITHREGINALD DHUNTER

THURS 9JUNE:7.30PM

Tickets:£17(Over18sonly)

‘LiveattheApollo’&‘HaveIGotNewsforYou’star ReginaldDHunterheadlines.WithsupportfromEsther Manito,RayBadranandhostedbyJarredChristmas.

BMTPRODUCTIONSPRESENTS: GUYSANDDOLLS

WED15,THURS16 &FRI17JUNE:7.30PM

SAT18JUNE:2.30PM &7.30PM

TICKETS:£18.50CONC.£16.50

AmoderntwistontheclassicBroadwaymusical.Featuringalivebandwithahitscoreincludingthesongs as‘Luck,BeALady’and ‘SitDownYou’reRockin’theBoat’.

NORTHBYNORTHWEST(1959) [35MMPRESENTATION](PG)

Fri24June:8pm

Tickets:£10,Conc.£9

AlfredHitchcock’sseminaltaleofmistakenidentity.CaryGrantisframedformurderandontherun!

Shownonoriginal35mmlm.

HostedbyDirtintheGateMovies

GEORGEMICHAELFREEDOMUNCUT

Wed22June:8pm

Tickets£14,Conc.£12

Brandnewdocumentaryonhislifefeaturingincredible,unseenarchivalandprivatehomefootage. Filmedbeforehisuntimelypassing, thislmisnarratedbythesinger.

JULY

SOUTHCOASTDANCE &ARTSPRESENTS “OVERTHERAINBOW”

Sun 3July:5pm

Tickets:£11

SouthCoastDance&Artsmarktheirrstyearwitha magicalOzthemedshowcase.Featuringpopularmusicalssuchas‘TheWiz’,‘Wicked’and‘TheWizardofOz’.

REGENTCOMEDYCLUBWITHROSIEJONES

THURS 7JULY: 7.30PM

Tickets:£17(Over18sonly)

“LastLeg”regularRosieJonesheadlinesourRegent ComedyClub.WithsupportfromBenNorris,aspecial guestTBAandhostedbyJarredChristmas.

GOODFELLAS(1990)(18) [35MMPRESENTATION]

FRI 8JULY: 8PM

Tickets:£10,Conc.£9

The1990BAFTAandAcademyAward-winninglm directedbyMartinScorsese.Shownonoriginal35mm lm.PresentedbyDirtintheGateMovies.

ROSEROYCEFEATURINGGWENDICKEY

Sat9July:7.30pm

Tickets:£30,Conc.£29

RoseRoycefeaturingoriginalvocalistperformalltheir greatesthitsfromthe70sand80s,including“Car Wash”,“LoveDon’tLiveHereAnymore”& “WishingonaStar”.

SAVETHECINEMA(12A)

Fri15July:2.30pm

Tickets:£7.50,Concessions£7 Basedonatruestory.AhairdresserinCarmarthen, Wales,enliststhehelpofStephenSpielbergtohelp saveherlocalcinemafromclosure. StarringSamanthaMorton.

NTLIVE:PRIMA FACIE

Thurs21July:7pm(Encore:Sun24July:2pm)

Tickets:£14,Concessions:£12 JodieComer(KillingEve)makesherWestEnddebutin theUKpremiereofSuzieMiller’saward-winningplay. CapturedlivefromtheHaroldPinter TheatreinLondon.

CINDERELLA -P*SSEDUPPANTO (ADULTSONLY)

Sat23July:7.30pm

Tickets£19.50(Ages16+only)

Packedtothebrimfullofinnuendo,hilariouscomedy routines,parodiesofwell-knownsongsandaudience participation.Containsstronglanguage andadultthemes.

SHAUNOFTHEDEAD(2004) [35MMPRESENTATION]

Fri29July:8pm

Tickets:£10,Concessions£9

2004zombiecomedylmdirectedbyEdgarWright, starringSimonPegg&NickFrost.Shownonoriginal 35mmlm.PresentedbyDirtintheGateMovies.

LOCALHISTORY

HughRose,1st BaronStrathnairn (1801-85)

Firstly,thank youtothelovely readerswhogotin touchaftermyPresidentZelenskyy column. We all agreedit wassomethingthatneededwriting at that particularmoment.

Now, Iambackonmorefamiliar territory; local history.IfI mention ‘Mr. Rose’you couldbe forgiven forthinking I’mtackling George Rose(1744-1818),MP forChristchurch(1790-1818),wholived at ‘Cuffnells’ (Lyndhurst)andalsohad aplaceinMudeford, ‘Sandhills’, whichisnow aholidaypark. Rosebloomed to suchan extent henumbered GeorgeIIIandNelson amongsthismates.

But I’mnotdoinghim,oranyofhischildrenofwhom hehadthree,includingeldestsonSir GeorgeHenry Rose(1771-1855),whosucceeded GeorgeSnr.as ChristchurchMP,and William StewartRose(17751843)who wasapoetandtranslatorand resided at another Mudefordmansion, ‘Gundimore’,wherehe wasvisited by SirWalterScott.

So,whoam Igoing to look at withsomanyclimbing Rosesalreadydisregarded? Well,it’sactuallythethird sonof George RoseJnr.who confusesme by notbeing groupedwiththeother Rosesin my biographical dictionarybut under‘Strathnairn’as he wasHugh Rose,1stBaronStrathnairn(1801-85). In contrast to thefamily’s MPsandpoets,Hugh wasaseniorBritish Army officer,actuallyborninBerlinwherehisfather hadbeen‘EnvoyExtraordinary’(themindboggles).

In summationHugh Rose wasvariously:Military attaché to the Turks(1840); Consul-General forSyria (1841-48);Chargé d’affaires at Constantinople,today’s Istanbul(1852-54); Commissioner at the French HQ duringthe Crimean Warwhenhe foughtwiththe French Army at thebattlesofthe Alma(wherehewas wounded)and Inkerman;havingbeensenttoIndia (1857),themanwho ‘virtually reconquered’Central India(afterthe Indian Rebellion); Commander-inChiefin India(1860); Commander-in-Chiefin Ireland (1865-70). It wasaglitteringcareer by anystandard. Rosedidseemable to starta barneyinanemptyroom though: ‘OnthearrivalofMenshikoffin1853,he(Rose) precipitatedacrisis by sending fortheBritishfleet’. That wouldbe PrinceMenshikov, whocommanded Russian forcesinthefirsthalfofthe Crimean War. Thedate confirmsthatMenshikovhad rockedup in Constantinople to makedemandsonbehalfofthe Russianswhichclearlyhackedoff atruculentRose.The Crimean Warwasnotfar away.

Hugh Rosejoinedthepeeragein1866andbecamea field-marshalin1877. Ilikethe ‘VanityFair’caricature of Rose(1870)whichshows him resplendentintop hatandfrock coat,aslimpipe-cleanerof aman equippedwith asetof nashers‘RedRum’wouldhave beenproudof.Ifallelsehadfailedduringthattêteà-têtewith Menshikov, well,Rose couldhave sunk his teethinto him.

Rose,acareersoldier,nevermarriedandneverhad children. HismainresidencewasinHertfordshire, however, SandhillshasbeendescribedasHugh’s ‘summer residence’,andheliesburiedinChristchurch’s Priorychurchyard.

ByStephenRoberts www.steveroberts.org.uk Twitter:@SRChristchurch

Photo:Author -A rthurPellegrini,source -V anityFair ,1 870.

Into thegarden…

by HelenHowe

Lancelot‘Capability’Brownisprobablythe mostwell-knownlandscapegardenerofthe 18thcentury.Herosethroughtheranks ofGeorgiansocietythrough acombination ofprofessionaltalentandexcellent connectionstobecomeKingGeorgeIII’s royalgardenerin1764.Heturnedoutdoor spacesinto‘naturalised’landscapes, withmoredefinedgardensimmediately surrounding acountryhouseforpeopleto walkin,growflowersandvegetablesand admiretheextendedview.Thesearethe landscapesthatfeatureinJaneAusten’s novels,aswellasgardenson ahumbler scale.Asthedaughterof aclergyman,an educatedgentleman(althoughnotwealthy), Austenhadtheopportunitytomixwiththe higherechelonsofsociety,notleastwhen herbrotherEdwardwasadoptedbythe childlessKnightfamilyandinheritedestates atGodmershaminKentandChawtonin Hampshire.Itisnosurprisethen,that inwritingofhertimeandenvironment, her‘picturesofdomesticlifeincountry villages’,should reflectthese.Thisiswhere assignationsandproposalstakeplace, youngpeopleareliberatedwhentheyare

outsideamongstnature,thereisabreaking downofboundaries,literalorotherwise. SomeofAusten’sladies,especiallythevery youngandinexperiencedones, represent thechicforthe romantic‘picturesque’. ThinkofMariannehavingtoleaveNorland inSenseandSensibility,mourningit’s deadleavesandlosingherselfin romantic poetry.ThenthereisCatherineMorland inNorthangerAbbey,onawalkinBath, comparingittoProvence,somewhereshe hasnotvisitedexceptin abook.Inthe novels,gardensandparksareimportant spacesfortheactionoftheplot.

Differenttypesofgardensservedifferent purposesinPrideandPrejudice.Firstly, whenthepragmaticspinsterCharlotte LucasmarriesMrCollins,sheissureto encourageherhaplesshusbandtospend asmuchtimeaspossibleinhisvegetable garden.WhenLadyCatherinevisits LongbourntocrossexamineElizabeth aboutDarcy,shechoosestodothisin a‘prettyishkindof alittlewilderness’on theBennet’sestate.The‘wilderness’in aregencygarden,wasanareaofplanted treesandshrubs,withsecludedthickets

Stoneleigh Abbey

andwindingpathsofgrassandmoss,for quietandprivatemoments.Darcy’ssecond proposaltoElizabethisoutsideon awalk. LeavingtheconfinesofLongbournand Elizabeth’sfamilyforexerciseitisherethat he renewshiswishes,inthefreedomof theopenlandscape. We aretoldDarcy, ‘…expressedhimselfassensiblyand warmlyas amanviolentlyinlovecanbe supposedtodo,’ -theenvironment reflects theirfeelingsand arelaxationoftherules. DarcyandElizabethstayoutwalkingalone togetherforseveralmiles.

‘Theywalkedon,withoutknowinginwhat direction.Therewastoomuchtobe thought,andfelt,andsaid,forattentionto anyotherobjects.’(VolIII,ChapterXVI).

SimilarlyinPersuasion,Captain Wentworth’ssecondproposalissuccessful via anoteandAnne’sacceptanceispurely byanaffirminglook.LikeElizabethand Darcy,theywalkoutdoorstotalkoftheir future,thistimethroughthestreetsofBath andagaintheiremotionsdisorientatethem. ‘Soonwordsenoughhadpassedbetween themtodecidethedirectiontowardsthe comparativelyquietand retiredgravelwalk, wherethepowerofconversationwould makethepresenthour ablessingindeed… theyslowlypacedthegradualascent, heedlessofeverygrouparoundthem.’ (PenguinPopularClassics,ChapterXXIII).

InEmmatheheroine receivesherproposal fromMrKnightleyinthegardenatHartfield. InperhapsthemoststructuredofAusten’s novels,whereEmmaattemptstocontrol thelovematches,sheisundoneonher hometerritory,inthesummerafter astorm.

‘Neverhadtheexquisitesight,smell, sensationofnature,tranquil,warm,and brilliantafter astorm,beenmoreattractive toher…shelostnotimeinhurryingintothe shrubbery.’(WordsworthClassics, Chapter49).

WhatisAustensayingabouttheeffect ofgardensandtheoutdoors?Herself agreat walker,Austenappreciatedthe freedomfromherconstrainedlifeas apoorgentlewoman,whom Ibelieve, chosenottomarryforherownintellectual independence.Ifshehadmarried,her jobwouldhavebeentorun ahousehold andhavechildrenandchildbirthwasa precariousbusinessinthosedays.There wouldhavebeennotimeforauthorship, aprofessionthatwasstillconsidered somewhatunsuitablefor alady.I believe herwriting reflectsthedangersandjoys ofgardensandtheirenvirons. Young peopleshouldbewareofwanderingout intotheunstructuredcountryside,outside of agardenwithboundaries,asnature confusesthethoughtsandheightens feelings.Conversely,thereisanhonestyin nature,andinAusten’sfictionthisiswhere truthsaretold, crisesmetand resolved. Youngladiesshouldbeontheirguard beforetheystepintothegreatoutdoors with ayoungmanunlesstheywishto engagethemselves,andifthosesuitors wiselychoose apicturesquesettingfor theirproposal,theirsuitismorelikelytobe successful.

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‘MrDarcy’sfirstproposaltoElizabeth,Chapter34, PrideandPrejudice.IllustrationbyHughThompson,1894Edition

BIRD WATCHING

By ValerieKelly

Birdsof PreyBreeding Attempton Christchurch Priory

Many of youwillhave noticedthe regularperegrine visitorswhosithighuparoundthe towerof Christchurch Priory. Theperegrineisourbiggest falconandoneofthefastestbirdsontheplanet.The peregrinecan reachspeedsofup to 200milesper houranddiveonitspreyfrom agreat height. They mostlyeatbirdslike feralpigeonsand collareddoves. Withgoodeyesightorbinoculars,youwillseethe contrastofdarkslate-greyonitsupperbodywith whiteunderneath.

TheRSPBestimatesaround1,500breedingpairsin theUKanduntil recentlythey couldonlybeseenin thenorthand westoftheUK.Theperegrinefalcons onlymigratedexpandedtheir rangesouthinthe last twodecades.Thesebirdsofpreyhave been spottedon avarietyoftallcitystructures(imitating theirnaturalprecipitouscliffedges)astheyheaded southwards, suchas DerbyCathedralandthe BT TowerinBirmingham. Thesebirdsarea welcome sightintheChristchurcharea.

TheManagementteamofChristchurch Priorywas keptinformedofeventshappeningaroundthe Priory andshowedimmensesensitivitytothesituation.Dr. ChrisChapleo,ChairmanofCHOG reported, “Thisis alandmarkoccasion forthe townand we hopethe attemptwillbesuccessfulandthefirstofmany”.

Withmigration wellunderway, CHOGhashad yet anotherhighlysuccessfuloutdoormeetingwith around40people attending.Itwas greattosee so manynewmembers,who were made very welcome. Thegrouphappilysharedtheir experience, andwith somanyeyesontheskies,(andinthebushes)they sawinexcessof40differentspecies.Newmembers always receivea warm welcome.

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It isalways aspectacle to seethesebirdsofprey inflightorjust resting,butsomethinghasgot ChristchurchHarbourOrnithologicalGroup (CHOG)in aflurry.Somemembersofthe groupsuspectedthat twoperegrinefalcons were trying to breedandhad tocontaintheir excitementuntilthis wasconfirmed. Themaleperegrineisoftenspotted locallyhaving hatchedin2018onthe Bournemouth Collegeclock towerinLansdowne.(pictureofchickopposite). The malehasanidentification ringand wasspotted at the Prioryin2020wherehemetupwith afemalebird. 2021 wasadifficult yearallaroundandthepairdidn’t appear to attemptbreeding.Sowhy the excitement? Duringthe1960s,thesemagnificentbirdsofprey, (with awingspanofup to 115cm),almostbecame extinctdue to humanpersecutionandpesticides,and retreatedtoremotecliffsandmountainsof Walesand Scotland;hencethe comebackhasbeentremendous.

By Paul Turton

Chick by Jason Fathers

THE KANGEN MACHINE

Why aKangenMachineisTHEchoiceforan eco-consciouslifestyle.

Regardlessoftheprevalenttoxinsand chemicalspresentinourfood,waterandair.WE chemicalspresentinourfood,waterandair arethedecidingfactorwhenitcomestowhat aret webringintoourhomes.

Thepurchaseof aKangenunitcannotonlyhelp reduceplasticconsumption,itwillalsoeliminate chemicalsfromyourhouseholdandtoxinsfrom yourbody.

Imaginebeingabletomakeyourownhousehold cleaners? Youcanpurchase refillableglass spraybottlesand,usingoneofthe 5Kangen watertypes,youcanmakeanythingfromglass cleanertohandsanitiser.

You’ll reducesingleuseplastic,savemoney andeliminatethechemicalstressonthe environment.

WiththeEnagicwater-ionizingmachine, youcanbegintocreate ahomethatis chemical-free!Utilisingthefullrange ofalkalineandacidicwatersthatare generatedbytheEnagicmachinesis thesolutiontobattlingthechemical overloadinourdailylives.

AlasiaBrachettod’Acqui2021

GrowninPiemonteintheprovinceofAsti,these 20yearoldwinesproducethisstunningfairlysweet slightlysparklingwine.

Thegrapeshave2-3dayskincontactandare fermentedin apressurisedtank.

Alcoholicfermentationishaltedat5.5%,togive 100Gramsof residualsugarperlitre,butthisis backedupbyhighaciditywhichmakesit sodrinkable.

Alwaysthebestwineatmywinetastingswhen Ishowitsuperchilledattheendofthenight!

WHATISSELFCOMPASSION?

By DrArmorelWood

Areyouoverlycriticalofyourselfand constantlybeatingyourselfupforbeing inadequate?Canyounotfaceyour inadequaciesorweaknessesforfearof hatingyourself?Ifso, readon…….

Self-compassionisgivingourselvesthe equivalentkindnessandcareaswewould agoodfriend.Compassionmeans‘suffer with’sotofeelcompassiononefirstneeds tonoticeandacknowledgeourownor another’ssuffering.Thismayoccurwhen wefailormakemistakes.Thensteptwo isfeelingmovedenoughtowanttohelpin someway.Itisimportantto rememberthat imperfectionandinadequacyispartofbeing humanandsomethingweallexperience.

Self-compassioninvolvesofferingourselves kindnessandunderstandingwhenyounotice somethingaboutyourselfyoudonotlikeor consideryourselftohavefailed.Insteadof beatingyourselfupforyourshortcomings don’tbesohardonyourself.Acknowledge thedifficultyyouarehavingandattendto yourselfwithkindnessandunderstanding. AlexanderPopewrotetheproverb‘Toerr ishuman;toforgivedivine,’expressingthe ideathatforgivenessis aworthy responseto humanfailings.

Self-compassionisdifferentfromself-pity, whereone iswrappedupinonesown emotionaldrama,withexaggeratedfeelings ofsuffering,andfeelingsofbeingisolated andworseoffthanothers.Self-compassion iswhereyouunderstandthatitisnormal andnaturalforhumanstostruggleattimes,

anditis asharedexperiencethateveryone experiencesatsomepoint.Inusingselfcompassion,personalfailingscanbe acknowledgedwithkindnessanddonot needtobehiddenforfearofhatingoneself. To instigatechangeweneedtobeableto seeourselvesclearlywithoutthefearofselfcondemnation

Self-esteem,ontheotherhand, referstoour senseofself-worthandhowmuchwelike ourselves.Whilethereislittledoubtthatlow self-esteemisproblematicandoftenleads todepressionandlackofmotivation,trying tohavehigherself-esteemcanalsoleadto problems.Self-esteemisoftenbasedon howspecialweare,inferringit’snotokayto beaverage. We mustfeelaboveaverageto feelgoodaboutourselvesandmayneedto putothersdowninordertofeelbetterabout ourselves.Furthermore,ourself-esteem isoftendependantonourlatestsuccess orfailure,meaningthatourself-esteem fluctuatesdependingonever-changing circumstances.

Incontrasttoself-esteem,self-compassion isnotbasedonself-evaluations.People feelcompassionforthemselvesbecause allhumanbeingsdeservecompassion andunderstanding,notbecausetheyare aboveaverage.Thismeansthatwithselfcompassion,youdon’thavetofeelbetter thanothers,tofeelgoodaboutyourself. Self-compassionalsoallowsforgreater self-clarity,becausepersonalfailingscan beacknowledgedwithkindnessanddo notneedtobehidden.Practicingselfcompassionleadstoincreased resilience.

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GetGrowingwithGrounded

Ourfoodgrowingseasonhasnow shiftedintotopgearandatGrounded Communitywearea hiveofactivityat thistime.

OurSecretgardenisvibrantand alivewithallthecoloursandsounds ofnature.Itisfullofpeopletoo.Our weeklyactivityhasover30volunteers attendingMondaysandFridays,Nature playforchildren,workshopsinfood growing,compostingandwildlifeas wellasothergroupssuchaslocal businesses,schools,supportgroups andvisitorscomingalong.

Theextendednumbersalsoposea challengetooursmallspaceandso recentlywemanagedtocompleteour ‘Deck’space,whichis alargewooden structurecontaininganoutdoorkitchen andlearningspace.OnEasterSunday weexperiencedanamazingcommunity mealwherewehad ahighlyorganised pizzacanteenthatproduced49pizzas forover70people!Ourlittlegardenwas

atfullcapacityandeveryonewashaving agreat time.Thendisasterstruck!Our compostloogotblocked,wespentan hour‘dealingwithit’andfortunately theneighbouringchurch(St.Clements) openeditsdoorstoustoenableuseof theirfacilities(ThankGod!)

Whatwe realisedfromthatlittle experienceisthatinsomeareaswe needtoraiseourcapacity,butalsowe needtocarefor thespacewehaveand notoverburdenit.

Anotherareaofchallengesince becoming acharityinearly2020is finances. We have 6areas of work across 4sitesandnowhave 7parttimestaff. We received aCommunity Lotterygrantearlierthisyearwhich givesus60%ofourincomeover5 years!Amazingasthatisitstillmeans wehave40%toraise.Asidefrom largefundersourbiggesthelpislocal peoplesupportinguswithsmallmonthly donations.£2.20 amonthcanmake

amassivedifferencetousenabling ustogetonwithsupportingthelocal communityinsteadofspendingtimeon fundraising.

We understandmorethanmostthe financialchallengesthatpeopleinour communityarefacing.Foodbanksare atfullcapacityandtheirdonationsare 50%down,mostlikelydueto acutting backonfoodspending.

Reportin2017.InMayweareworking inpartnershipwith YourPlanet Doctors andAbriHousingassociationtoout20 raisedbedsintoSouthbourne resident’s gardens.Thisissubsidisedbyfunding andmeansthesepeoplecanbenefit fromhomegrownproduce.

YOUcanalsohave abedinyour garden.Ifyoucanaffordtopay,then doso,ifnotwecansubsidiseoreven give abedforfree! We wanteveryone tohaveaccesstofreshchemicalfree produce.Anotheramazingopportunityis touse‘Food EBox’ www.thefood-ebox.co.uk/

This aschemeofferinglowcostproduce fromlocal suppliers. Youcanchoose togrowfoodforEBoxtoo. Youwill receivetrainingandeventheplants willbesuppliedtoyou. Youjustneed totendthem,harvestthemandyou willget abigdiscountoffyourfood boxeachweek.Thismeansyoudon’t havetogrow10vegetableandbe really complicated…justtrygrowingone.

Thisisoneoftheprojectsweare encouragingpeopletotakeupthisyear. Ifthisinterestsyoucontact growers@ groundedcommunity.co.uk

Thereare manybenefitingas aresult ofourhardwork,fromhundredsof households receivingfoodboxes,to sociallyisolatedandstrugglingpeople havingsomewheretogoeveryweek.

Themainareawearelookingtodevelop istofocusonhomegrowingasboth ashortandlongtermsolutiontothe issuessocietyisfacing. Training people, supportingpeopleandgettingthem setuptogrowtheirownfoodiscritical accordingto aUnitedNationsFood

Otherwise,whynothave agoat ‘growingyourown’:on awindowsill, planterandraisedbed,orat alocal communitygardenlikeours.Getbackin touchwithnature,GetgrowingandStay Grounded!

www.groundedcommunity.co.uk

07530987349

hello@groundedcommunity.co.uk

DropintotheSecretGardenbehindSt ClementsChurchinBoscombebetween 9amand1pmon aMondayorFriday.

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HollandAmericaLinehasbeenshowing guestsAlaskasince1947,evenbefore Alaskawas astate.Thecompany’s unmatchedexperience,expertiseand insiderknowledgemeansthatyouwill experiencetheauthenticAlaskayou’ve dreamedof. Wordsbarelydescribethose life-changingmomentswhen aglacier calves, abaldeaglesoars,orthesun shineson amountainpeakthatfillsup halfthesky.Scenesofmind-blowing beautywillthrillyoufallunderthespellof Alaska.

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Despitewomen generally having athicker layer of fatunder theskin, it is thoughtthat this isinhibitory asit actually slowsthe perfusionofbloodtotheskinssurface.

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