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Your Local CommunityMagazine Yo September2021

What alovelymonth Septemberis! Atransitionfromsummerintoautumn, warmenoughtoenjoy butwitha feeling of crispness in theair.

Septemberalsoheraldsthestartofnew beginnings andrenewed energy;the newschooltermbegins;thefootball season is underway andmaybe agreat time to re-evaluatehowyou aregoing to spendyourtimewithpossibly anew hobbyorinterest. Withthatinmindthe East DorsetIndoorBowlsClubin

Christchurchhavea free tasterweekendon 18th and19th Septembersuitable forall ages andall thefamilywelcome.

Notsurethatdrinkingginandrum canbe classedasa hobby,but HoburneParkare holdinga rumand ginfestivaltogetherwith live musiconSaturday 11th Septemberand tickets canbepurchased online –seepage S24for details.

Best Wishes, Julie

8. Puzzzles

10. What is Seepsiiss?

12. Winne of thhe Moonth h

16. Local Histtoory y

S2. RNLI Muuddefoorrd d Lifeebboat Guild

S4. Russsell-Cotees s Muusseum

S6. Traavvel: Venetian Cruuisees

S10. Meedditeerrranean Cuisiinne e

S18. Wendy B Broowwnn, Local Artiist t

S26. Short t Stoorry y

S28. Book Reviieew w

S30. Competition

S32. Bird d Watcchhing

50. Churcch h News s

52. La Grèèvve

54. Anxietyy: : Benefiit or Cursse e

56. Are e You Fearllesss?

62. Hooly Issland Lights s

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As apodiatristwhohasbeenworking inthecommunityformanyyears, Inow realisethatthemajorityofpeopletake careofmostpartsoftheirbodies,from theessentialcareoftheirhearts,muscles andjointstothemoresuperficialhair, fingernailsandbeauty regimes.

However,manypeopletendtoforget theirfeet.Notonlydotheyneglectthem, buttheyaresoembarrassedbythem thattheyhidethemaway!Nobodytalks aboutfeet.Manypeoplehatethemor lookatthemwithdisgust.Leonardo Da Vicistatedthat“Thehumanfootisa masterpieceofengineeringand awork ofart.”

Whytakecareofyourfeet?Feetareyour body’sfoundation.Onefootcontains26 bones,33joints,morethan100tendons, musclesandligamentsand awhopping 250,000sweatglands.Thatmayseem like alotofanatomyin arelativelysmall package,butalloftheseelementsare neededfortheveryimportanttaskof supportingtheentirebody,sokeeping themhealthyisvitaltoyouroverallhealth.

Yearsofwearandtearcanbehard onyourfeet:overuse,illfittingshoes,

sportingactivities,fashionandeven geneticscanleadtoinjuriesanddisorders thatcangreatlyimpactyourmobilityand qualityoflife.Asidefromsomeissues becomingincrediblypainfultheycan makeyoumoresusceptibletoaccidents.

Walkingawkwardlytoavoidpainsets youoffbalanceandincreasestheriskof hurtingyourself.Thiscanbecomesevere whenproblemswithyourfeetsignificantly impactyourqualityoflife,possibly leadingtofurtherhealthconcerns.

Atanyage,peoplecandevelopfoot problemsparticularlyastheygetolder andthelikelihoodofdeveloping afoot conditionincreases.Caringfortheskin onyourfeetisimportant. Yourheelsare notmeanttofeel roughanddryandifleft untreated,althoughnotpainful,theywill begintocrack,becomesusceptibleto bacteriaandtakelongertoheal.

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Sinceits ancient discoverycoffeehas greatlyevolved.Itisone of themost consumed beveragesworldwide with an estimated10million tonnesofitbeing producedeveryyear.Onaverage UK coffee consumersdrink twocupsofcoffee per day.But arethereany potentialhealth benefitsindoing so?

1. More in control?

Some interesting research wasconducted comparingpeoplewho drankcoffeeevery day andnon-coffee drinkers.The research utilisedfMRItolookatthe brainwhen peoplewereresting andperforminga task.The dailycoffeedrinkers had signs of more efficientconnections in thebrain that governed motorcontroland alertness. Interestingly,itwas suggestedthat these changes canhappenvery quickly,as whenthe non-coffeedrinkers consumeda cupofcoffee, thesameconnections were immediatelyseen.

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It hasusually beenthoughtthat coffee is badforthe heart as it hasbeen associated with high bloodpressure and palpitations.However,3studies following atotal of21,000 participantswhose coffee consumptionwas measured from 0cups to more than 3cupsper day, andhealth trackedover a10yearperiod,cameto some interestingconclusions. It wasfound thatdrinking 2cupsofcoffeea daycould decreaseyourheartrisk failurebyupto 30percent. Furthermore it wasthe caffeinein thecoffeeratherthanthe coffee itselfthatwasfoundtobekey as decaffeinatedcoffeewasfoundtohaveno protective effect.Itisimportant that the coffee is kept simple however,withno added sugars or cream. Drinkingcoffee is not thebestway to preventheart disease; losingweight, increasingexercise levels,

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LOCALHISTORY

John Everett Millais(1829-1896)

Iwasrubbish at artsotookupwriting.Itsounds likethe kindofphilosophicaloutpouringthat Confuciusmighthavecomeoutwith. It’s just humblemethough. My lackofabilitywithan easelandartisticaccoutrementsdoesmean, however, thatI have aninordinate respectfor thosewhowield abrushwiththesamedexterity somepeopleapply to flowerarrangingorcake decorating.Takefor exampleSirJohn Everett Millais(1829-96).

Millaishadlinks to ourarea.He wasbornin Southamptonwhichimmediatelyputshim withinourorbit.Now,Icontributeamonthly column forHampshireLife, its‘PastLife’,and for my June/July column Ifeatured Millais.Wehave someofhisartworkinChristchurch. There’sa largepaintingentitled‘The Widow’sMite’,an early Millaisof1847,whenhe was18-odd,that hangsinthe Priory. Awidow’s miteincidentally is ‘a small contribution givenbyapersonwho has very little’(contrastingstarklywiththe phenomenonofthe wealthytightwad).

Apparentlythepainting wasgiven to the Priory by MrsReevesof AvonmouthHouse,Mudeford, in1928,whenit wasvalued at anything between

£5,000and£15,000. If yourockedup to the Antiques Roadshowand wastold yourheirloom would fetchthat‘shoulditever comeup at auction’which,of course,itwouldn’t as you’d nevercashin –well,you’d bepleased.You’d beevenhappierwhen youdiscoveredthat’s anythingbetween£320,000and over£950,000 in today’sdosh. We concludethat Millais’work wasappreciatedthenandstillis.Thededication ofthe Priory’spicturewasundertaken by the Bishopof SouthamptoninNovember1929;apt givenMillais’birthplace. Igatherit took young Millaisabout ayear tocomplete (it’s eightfoot by five). Anotherpaintingcamethe Priory’sway courtesyof Admiraland MrsReeves aquarter centurylater(1953). This was‘Christandthe Rich YoungRuler’. Visitthe Prioryandseeifyoucan find Millais’work.

Millais certainlyvisitedChristchurchlongbefore hisartwork. He washerefordefinitein1891, by whichtimehe wasintheautumnofhislife, staying at the King’s Arms.Hischoiceofhotel was unsurprisingasthe King’s wastheplacetostay. If youhavean1863Bradshaw’sHandbooklikethis budding MichaelPortillothen you’ll know it’s the onlyChristchurchhostelrymentioned.I’m not awarehedidanypaintingwhilsthere.

Millais wasa Pre-Raphaelite, achildhoodprodigy with aFrench Impressionistsurname(hisfamily hailedfromJersey). That Widow’sMitepicture justpre-datedMillais’s Pre-Raphaelitephase whichbeganin1849.He’d laterswitchto populist ‘chocolate box’painting to earnmore wonga. Idothesamewith my writing. Millais became awealthyartistbutamidstaccusations of ‘sellingout’, whichincluded afamouspicture usedin asoapadvert.

Withthanks to theChristchurch HistorySociety forsomeofthisinformation (www.historychristchurch.org.uk).

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LUCY WORSLEY: AVeryBritishMurder

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SIMONEVANS:The Work of TheDevil

THEBOOTLEGBEACHBOYS

NTLIVE: Follies(Encore) (12A)

Romeo&Juliet(Encore) (12A)

RecordedattheNationalTheatrein2020.

Starring JessieBuckley&JoshO’Connor

JAMESBOND:NOTIME TO DIE(12A)

Fri17Sept: 8pm

£16,£14Conc. (Strictly forages 14+)

Sat18Sept: 7.30pm £24

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ShortStory &IllustrationbyMarkLaming

ItwasobviousNick’sfatherwaslosing patienceasheraisedbothhandsinthe airandspokeloudlyinhisusualslowand methodicalvoice.

‘NotagainNick…youaregoingtohave toworkharder.’

Theboy’seyesstrayedtothetableand theletterfromhisheadmaster.Unrolling hisclenchedfisthe replied, ‘Theydon’t likeme,Dad. Ihategoing.’

Nickwastheboywiththehugebrown hearingaidandthecurlywirerunningtoa batteryinhistoppocket.Somethinghe’d nevercometotermswith.

Therewasoneotherboyinhisclass called York whowalkedwith alimp. Thefundamentaldifferencebetween thetwoofthemwasthathegotonwith hisdisability,whereasNickmopedand carriedtheproblemallofhislife.Hewas jealousof York who refusedtoletthis slipofnaturegetintheway.Hemadea

jokeofhislegthatdraggedbehindand wonovertheboysbyjoininginwiththe fun.HowNickenviedhimandwishedto swapplaces.Then,somehow,he’dcope withhisdebilityand York wouldhavethe dodgyear.

Nickwasthepupiltheteacherspoke louderto,thepupilwhowasmade funof,thebuttofmany ajoke.Hedid howevergiggleatthefrantic‘windmilling’ movementsoffellowpupils’armsasthey playedwithsignlanguage.

Downhearted,heturneddownthe volumeonhiswretchedhearingaidto shutthemallout.Hesoughtsolacein hisquietnessanddreamedofthedayhis hearingwouldbe restored.

On reachinghistenthbirthdayhis parentsannouncedtherewasan operationthatmay restorehishearing. Hisfathertoldhimthat,whenthe bandageswereremoved,he’dhear everythingsoclearly -eventheblackbird inthegardenthathismumalwayssaid sangjustforhim.

Sadly,the operationdidn’tworkand thediscomfortwasn’tworththenew MeccanosetandtriptotheWimpybar. Heneverdidheartheblackbirdsingand returnedtoschoolwith aheavyheart.

Manyyearslater,Nick’soldclassmate, York,contactedhimon asocial networkingsite.Clickingon York’s picture,therehewas,sixty,hardlyany hairandhisusualhappygrin.Nickwas intriguedtolearnwhatpathhislifehad taken.He’dobviously rememberedhim andhe’dcertainlythoughtofhimenough times.

Theykeptintouchuntiloneday York suggestedmeetingupfor areunionwith afew otherclassmates.Thevenuewasa winebarinBournemouthwhichwasan hour’sdrivefromwherehelived.

Thecarjourneywasawfulwithrain poundingonthewindscreenanda holduponthedual-carriagewayinto thetowncentre. Treeswereswaying withleavesdriftingintodeeppiles.Nick wonderedifhewouldhavebeenbetter offnotacceptingtheinvitation.Orfor thatmatter,not draggingupthepastby renewingthefriendship.

Theturnoutwaspoorandtheyallsat inthecrampedwinebarwitheveryone attemptingtotalkatthesametime, onlyNickstruggledtograspwhatthey weresaying.Nobodyfromhisoldclass seemedto remembermuchabouthim. Heinstantly recognised York fromhis picture.Hewasastallas abeanstalk andNickwassurprisedtoseehewalked without alimp.Hecommentedonhow wellhelooked.

Then York raisedhisvoiceandcameout with,‘Bestthingthateverhappenedto melosingthoselegs.’

Nickwasastoundedbythe replyand muttered,‘Sorry,whatdidyousay?’

Yorkgiggled,‘Theonethatlimped wentwithmybestleg -bothhadtobe amputatedafter acarcrash along timeago.’

Hethenstoodupandraised atrouser leg revealing adarkanklesockanda silvermetal rod.

‘Isoonmasteredthesenewpegs,now Irunlikethewindorsotheytellme.I’ve nohangupsabouthavingartificiallegs. LifeiswhatyoumakeitNick;don’t youagree?’

‘Ah,yes, Isupposeso.’

YorkpattedNickontheshoulderand said,‘Yougotonwithyourfunnyeardidn’tworryyouonebit,didit?’

Nickgulped;howcouldthismanhave beensomistaken.Eventhoughthe scienceofaudiologyhadvastlyimproved, hehadalwaysstruggledwithhis restrictedhearing.

AfterthemeetingNicksatinhiscar.It feltlike ashotof realityhadpumpedinto hishead.Herewas York gettingonwith hislife,runningaroundonmetallegs whilehewasstillburdenedwithhishard luckstory.Yes,he’dhad agoodlifebut he’dlosttheplotsomewherealong theway.

Manoeuvringthecaroutofthecarpark hewaspleasedtoseethewindandrain hadstopped.Hetoldhimselfhe’dsoon behomeandwassurehiswifewouldbe waitingtohearhowthe reunionhadgone.

Headingforthedual-carriagway,he pulledupat ajunctiontomakehisturn.In theshiny redcarnexttohimhestaredat thedriver,ahappyman,contentwithhis lot. York spottedhimandput athumbup inhisdirection.

Nick respondedwith anodand ahand wave.ThelightschangedandNickturned rightand York wentleft.

Ashedrovehome,heexperienced aspecialwarmththatcouldonlybe describedassheerhappiness.Itfelt like agreatweighthadfinallybeenlifted fromhisshoulders.Itwastimetostop frowningandgetonwithhislife.

Nickthoughtbacktohismother’s commentwhenhewas ayoungboy abouthearingtheblackbirdsing.Meeting upwith York hadshownhimhow importantadopting apositiveattitude was,andtodaythatbeautifulsongbird wassingingjustforhim.

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We couldn’tfailtorecommendthesecondnovelinthe record-breaking,million-copy bestsellingThursdayMurderClubseriesbyRichardOsman.Elizabethhas received aletterfromanoldcolleague, amanwithwhomshehas alonghistory.He’smade abigmistake,andheneedsherhelp.Hisstoryinvolvesstolendiamonds, aviolent mobster,and avery real threattohislife.Asbodiesstartpilingup,Elizabethenlists Joyce,IbrahimandRoninthehuntfor aruthlessmurderer,andif theyfindthe diamondstoo? Well,wouldn’tthatbe abonus?Butthistimetheyareupagainstan enemywhowouldn’tbataneyelidatknockingofffourseptuagenarians.CanThe ThursdayMurderClubfindthekiller(andthediamonds)beforethekillerfindsthem?

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Thoughhewasdoingprettywell, achanceencounterin apubinthe1980swith ayoungcomediangoingbythenameof VicReevessethislifeon adifferent track.Andnow,sixyearson,theheartconditionthatoncethreatenedhiscareer hasinsteadledtonewsuccessonBBC2’sGoneFishing. Warm,profound,and irrepressiblyfunny,And Away...isBob’sfulllifestory(with afewliesthrowninfor goodmeasure.)

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BIRD WATCHING

Withmuch reliefafter alonglockdown, thelatestoutdoormeetingofCHOG (ChristchurchHarbourOrnithological Group)tookplaceonSaturday24th Julyalong agreat stretchofcoastfrom Keyhavento Lymington,takinginthe stunningviewsacrossPenningtonMarsh.

Theenthusiasticgroupincluded amixof highlyexperiencedbirdwatchers,someof whomweregroupleaders,manypeople whowereconfidentinbirdidentification andsomewithlittleknowledge,butwilling tolearn.

Withanominousweatherforecastofrain thegreystratuscloudsparted revealing brightsunshinemakingidentificationeasier forall. Arespectabletotalof69birds wererecorded.

ListofbirdsIdentified:

GreylagGoose,BrentGoose,Canada Goose,MuteSwan,Shelduck,Gadwall, Mallard,CommonEider,GreatCrested Grebe,StockDove,Swift,Moorhen,Coot, Oystercatcher,GreyPlover,Lapwing, RingedPlover,LittleRingedPlover, Whimbrel,Curlew,Black-tailedGodwit, Turnstone,Knot,Dunlin,Snipe,Common Sandpiper,Greenshank,Redshank,BlackheadedGull,MediterraneanGull,Herring

Gull,GreatBlack-backedGull,Little Tern, Common Tern,Sandwich Tern,Cormorant, GreyHeron,GreatWhiteEgret,Little Egret,MarshHarrier,Buzzard,Kestrel, Magpie,Jackdaw,Carrion Crow,BlueTit, GreatTit,EurasianSkylark,SandMartin, Swallow,HouseMartin,Willow Warbler, Whitethroat, Wren,Starling,SongThrush, Blackbird,Robin,Stonechat,Dunnock, HouseSparrow,PiedWagtail,Meadow Pipit,Greenfinch,Linnet,Goldfinch,Reed Bunting.

CHOGwelcomesnewmemberswhoshare apassionfor recording,promotingand conservingthewildlifeoftheChristchurch HarbourArea.Thegrouphasbeeninvolved inmanyimportantconservationsprojects andwillcontinuetosupportimportantwork regardingconservation.Ifyouwishtobe involvedtheCHOGwebsiteisupdated daily, CHOG.org.uk.Membershipisas easyastwoclicksviathewebsite.CHOG isalsoon Twitter- @CHOG_birds andhas aFacebookgroup.Existingmembershave accesstoCHOGOnline,andpersonal contributionsarewelcome,pleasesendto editor@chog.org.uk.Members will receive e-bulletinsfourtimes ayeartoyourinbox.

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When La GrèveStrikes

It’sroughoutthere.Peoplesittingattables clutchingplasticlinedpaperbags,somehold themcloseandmakegaggingnoises.The Ferrylurchesandleanscreakingtooneside, thentheother.Thesightofwaveslapping againstthewindowsisunnerving.Glasses onthebarslidealongwith aclinkandswish, whileothersfallfromtheirholdingandcrashto thefloor.Mybottleofcocacolais abitfrothy. Sippingitthroughtwothinstrawsmakesit frothieranddoesn’trelievemythirstatall.I take abitefrommyhamsandwich,astheboat tiltstheothersway.

AftertwohourscrossingtheEnglishChannel, wearriveatCalaisand‘disembark’asthey callit.Severalpeoplelookquitegreenaround thegillsastheystaggeracrossthegangway.

Iarriveattheplatformforthetrainand findonly ashorttrain,withnocouchettes. “Where’sthetraintoLausanne?” Iaskthe conductor.Herollshiseyes,“ilyaunegrève Mademoiselle.” Ilookaroundhelplessly.“He saysthere’sastrike.”explains awoman, climbingupthestepsintothetrain,dragging herbagbehindher.I’mmomentarilypanicked. “Mais,quesquejepeuxfaire?”“youmusttake zetreintoParisNord,andchengetoParis Est,”he replies,unmovedbymydespair.

Thetrainisabouttoleaveand Iclimbup reluctantly,throwingmycaseupeachstepat atimeasit’sheavy.I vowtocreate asuitcase withwheelsas Idropmycoatonanempty seatandtrytoliftmycaseuptotherack above.I’mtooshortandthecaseistooheavy, soit’sleftintheaisle.Nooneisbothered, they’reallcomplainingabouttheir rerouted journey.

After afewhourswearriveatGareduNordin Paris. Ifollowthe restofthepassengersand fallinstepwith ayoungwoman. Aconductor tellsustowalktoGaredel’Est, he saysit’s notfar.Weare nearlylastofffromtheend ofthetrainandcan’tquitebelievetheother stationissoclose.Theyoungwomanhails ataxiandinvitesmetoshareit.Thetaxi driverdrivesatbreakneckspeedallaround Paris,pastourpickuppointanddropsusat Garedel’Est20minuteslater.Wepayhim anexorbitantfareandrushintothestation. We cansee thedepartureboardwiththe platformfortheLausannetrainandrunupjust intimetoglimpsethe rearlightsofourtrain disappearingdownthetrack.Thenextoneis duethefollowingmorning.

Theyoungwomangivesmesomecoinswith whichtoringmymother,toletherknowabout thestrikeandwhentoexpectme. Iresign myselftospendingthenightinthewaiting roomwiththeyoungwoman.Itsmellsofdamp coats,peopleandGauloisecigarettes.Dim lightsanddarkpanelledwalls,twolargemetal radiatorswiththreeorfourbenchescomplete thepicture.Severalpeoplearewaitingwhen wearrive,butgraduallyallofthemdisappear, barthetwoofus.

Woodenbenchesarehardtosleepon, especiallysittingup,butatleastit’swarm. Aftermidnightwearejoinedbysome homelessmen,gladtobeoutofthecold. Theysmell abitodd,butaftersomemuttering and aswigortwoofsomethinginsmall bottlestheydropofftosleep.At 8a.m.the nextmorning Iamrelievedtobeonthe traingoingtoLausanne,and Inowknowfor certain,Garedel’Estreallyis ashortwalk fromGareduNord.

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So,areyou fearless? Ithinkthisisa questionweprobablyaskourselveson manyoccasionsoverthelastyearorso.I haveoftenthoughtthat Ihavespentmost ofmylifebeingin‘fear’,not agreatfeeling becausefearbreaksdownyourimmune systemanddoesnothelpyouhavethe easiestoflives.

Myfearhasoftencomefromnotbelieving inmyselfandnotfeelingconfident enoughtospeakmytruthandaccept theconsequencesandthe responses, whatevertheyare.Thathasledtovocal noduleswhichhavecauseddamageto myvoice,if Ievergetstressed,theymake themselvesknown.Asyouknow,Iama bigfanofLouiseHayand Ibelieveevery ‘symptom’islinkedtoanemotion.

As achild Ineverfelt Icouldspeakout andupformyselfandas awife,my thoughtswereleftunspokenandoften unheard. Ikepttheminside,smouldering awayinstead,never agoodthingasitwill showupinyourlifeat alaterdate.

Strangelyhowever,there havebeen manytimesinmylifewhen Ihaveshown strengthandthosetimesarethe times youneedtoclingto,ifyouarestruggling rightnow.Weallhavebraveryinsideofus, sometimes,itgetssmotheredby self-doubt.

Butas Iwas reflectingonthissubject mattertoday,Isuddenly realisedthatthere havebeenmomentsinmylifewhen Ihave notbeen apeoplepleaserandhavetruly stoodupforwhat Ibelieveand,indeed,

havegoneagainstthe‘grain’andbeen preparedtostandoutforwhat Ibelieve. Mydefiningmomentwasattheageof27. Ihadfoundmyselfworkingfor aNarcissist (NPDpersonalitydisorder.)Thewordis bandiedaroundbut Iuseitproperlyand appropriately.Thelady Iworkedforwas verychallenging.

Iwasswornatonadailybasisandtold Iwasincompetent. Itookthosewords toheartandstruggledfor18months; however,Ineverleftthefirmas Iwas determinedtoleavewithunblemished recordandnotsuccumbtothebullying whichhadledotheremployeestolose theirjobsor resignandstrugglewiththeir mentalhealthbecauseofthetorturous environment.

Onedayweweresentto ahotelinLondon foran‘awayday/personaldevelopment day.’Oneofthetasksweweregiven was to‘critique’eachotherandthen report backtoeachperson,totheirface,what wethoughtofthem. We weretobehonest andconstructive.

Ihadnostrugglespeakingmytruthabout mostofthestaff,wewereallbullied,and westucktogetherlikeglue,buthowwas Igoingtospeakaboutmyboss?Lie…… pretendshewaswonderfulandbe atotal peoplepleaserORspeakmytruth.I decidedtooptforthelatter.All27years ofme,wetbehindtheears,newlyarrived fromCornwallintothecauldronofLondon. With atremblingvoice, Itoldhershewas abullyandthatwewereallterrifiedofher, Ilookedaroundthe room forsupport,I hadnone.Everyonehadtheireyesdown andlookedhorrifiedatthewords Ispoke. Isaidshewascruelandthatwewerea loyalbunchonlywantingtodo agoodjob.

Mybosses’eyesfilledwithtearsandshe stoodupandleftthe room.Theotherstuff turnedonme“Whathad Idonethatfor”, theyasked? Iturnedtothemandsaidthat theyshouldbeashamedofthemselves, thatall Ihad donewasspeakthetruth, wewererequiredonthiscoursetotellthe truthandnotholdback.So, Ididwhat mysoultoldmetoo,standupformyself butforalltheotherpeoplewhoselives shehadruined. Iwasmoreconcernedat them,peoplelosingtheirlivelihoodsand theirminds,atthesakeofsomeoneelse’s ego.Apparently,sheworkedon reverse psychology,rip yourstaffapartandthen raisethembackupagainintheimageof whatyouwantfromyourteam.

Inevergotthesack.Mybosschanged overnightandshowedmethebiggest amountof respect.Theday Iresignedof myownaccord,sheheld aleavingparty formeandwrotethesweetestnote.AsI huggedhergoodbyeshecried.

Themoralofthistaleisthis

•Alwaysstandyourground

•Alwaysbetruetoyourself

•Alwaysspeakyourtruth(whether otherslikeitornot)

•Bepreparedforany responseyou mayget(goodorbad)

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