If you will be in Jerusalem for Chanukah, don’t miss this.
For the past year we’ve seen books and works of art and films and even some plays that have portrayed the horrors and the fears and the sorrow of October 7th and its aftermath.
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t’s truly amazing how America is being transformed in a good and positive direction even before Donald Trump has been sworn into office. It’s becoming clearer as the days tick by that this new Trump Administration will not just differ by a wide margin from the Biden
YU Raises Over $100 Million In Its 100-Year Hanukkah Dinner Campaign
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Flying Favors
BY MALKIE GORDON HIRSCH MAGENCE
When I remarried a few years ago, I was lucky enough to join a new exclusive club. Not only did I acquire new family members, but also some Israeli children and grandchildren. Speaking to my friends with children living in Israel as well, I soon learned that not only will we be traveling to Israel more often but, we will need extra suitcases.
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arking a momentous milestone, Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman, President of Yeshiva University, announced that over $100 million was raised as part of a visionary campaign launched in September to celebrate the
Whenever either of us made the trek to Israel or Amer-
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Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman, President of Yeshiva University, announces that over $100 million was raised at YU’s Centennial Hanukkah Dinner. See below
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Heard in tHe bagel store
By Larry Gordon
OF THE BEACHES
This is an old story. An Orthodox Jewish group buys a property in a community with the intent of setting up shop, which usually means establishing a number of services and organizations to serve the community, such as a shul, a pre-school, or even a community center for senior citizens.
It’s also a new story. Because this is currently taking place in the nearby village of Atlantic Beach, which is on the south shore of Long Island near the Five Towns, separated by a small bridge that connects the communities. The “oldnew” story is the pushback the Chabad of the Beaches is getting from the local government and the zoning board charged with maintaining order in the community.
Rabbi Eli Goodman of Chabad of the Beaches, along with his attorney, Jeremy Dys of the First Liberty Institute, were under the impression they had an agreement with the Village of Atlantic Beach, only to find out that their un-
derstanding of the agreement differed widely from the Village’s understanding.
According to the rabbi, all the applications for permits for anything associated with religious use were denied by the zoning board. You can see the property once you descend from the Atlantic Beach Bridge and bear left. The property is on your right.
This is not an unusual reaction to the manner in which Chabad usually plants itself in communities around the world. But in the overwhelming instances, they are usually welcomed into these communities with open arms, so to speak.
At the same time, it would seem that Atlantic Beach and Chabad are a perfect fit and a natural combination for each other. Atlantic Beach, for the most part, is a modern Orthodox community with just one shul that features separate seating. As you can tell by its name, Atlantic Beach is a beachside community with a boardwalk, just 21 miles from Manhat-
tan. Between Memorial Day and Labor Day, there is a huge influx of visitors. There is also a vibrant year-round community that resides there, but the numbers jump greatly during the spring and summer seasons.
For the last few years, the personable leader of the Jewish Center of Atlantic Beach has been Rabbi Elie Weinstock, formerly of Congregation Kehilath Jeshurun (KJ) on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. Rabbi Weinstock stepped into a role that requires talent and leadership along with Torah scholarship and erudition, which has made him so popular these last few years in Atlantic Beach.
Rabbi Goodman, for his part, has been the Chabad presence in what he refers to as the “beaches community,” which, in other words, includes communities like Long Beach, Lido Beach, and now Atlantic Beach on that geographic strip referred to as Long Island.
The First Liberty Institute is the largest non-profit legal organization in the United States dedicated exclusively to defending religious liberty for all Americans. They exist to represent charitable
religious and mostly non-profit organizations that feel their First Amendment right to religious freedom has been violated.
“We felt that the case was settled, and we had a good agreement with the village government in Atlantic Beach,” said Mr. Dys. First Liberty received copies of the communications between Atlantic Beach officials and zoning board members that they feel indicate a specific intent and target to keep Chabad and their plans out of Atlantic Beach.
I asked Rabbi Goodman how his group managed to acquire the building in question if the objective of the village was to keep a religious institution out. Chabad of the Beaches purchased the former Capital One building in 2021 after it had been vacant for over two years. Mr. Dys, on our conference call, chimed in and said (reading from a zoning board transcript), comments like, “Jews are buying up all of the land,” and “Here’s how we keep the Jews out.”
If accurate, those statements by village officials are disturbing, but when
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INSIDE OUT
By Yochanan Gordon
INTERGENERATIONAL REFLECTIONS
Ihave written about my grandparents in the past, although perhaps not to the extent that I should have. One could tell by the way my father writes about his father just how large a figure he was in his life. Although I was just 8 years old when he passed away on the sixth night of Chanukah in December of 1989, he was an important figure in my life as well, not only due to the fact that he was my grandfather but because of what he represented and where he came from. He was my link to generations of Chabad chassidim, which was a major force in my young life growing up in the 80s and 90s even though the decision was made not to raise us in that path.
We’d often visit my grandparents’ home in Crown Heights where we were exposed to the messianic fervor and expectancy that surrounded the Lubavitcher Rebbe in the late 1980s and
early 1990s. Davening in 770 in the presence of the Rebbe was something that will remain with me my entire life. The banners on Kingston Ave that screamed “Let’s greet Moshiach with acts of goodness and kindness,” while listening to Avraham Fried’s “Nisht Gedaiaget Yidden,” “Sisu Vesimchu,” and “Boruch Haba Melech HaMoshiach,” songs that conveyed the immanence of Moshiach’s arrival and the rebuilding of the third Beis HaMikdash played a huge role in shaping my young and impressionable conscience. My grandfather would procure lulavim and esrogim for my father and his siblings every year. I would often accompany him on his erev yom tov trips to pick up our dalet minim. My grandmother never remarried after her husband’s passing and she’d often come to us for Shabbosim and we’d visit her on
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viewed in the context of what is going on in society today, with all the inflammatory rhetoric, not completely surprising.
Rabbi Goodman adds that the current building plan they have for Atlantic Beach cannot be compared to the shuls that have opened over the last two decades or more in the Five Towns in villages like Lawrence and Cedarhurst, where otherwise private homes were turned into shuls. Just for the record, those Five Towns shuls located in residential areas are now very popular and indeed flourishing.
“We are located in a commercial area of Atlantic Beach, and no one can claim that we will have any impact on a residential area of the village,” Rabbi Goodman says. No one wants to say there is any type of antisemitism on display here, but both the rabbi and Mr. Dys alluded to that possibility several times during our conversation.
The fact of the matter is that when
you analyze the history of religious organizations that open their doors in an
change, but in most cases, those reactions have been proven false and, in the
Mr. Dys is also working on a Chabad case in Hawaii and the reality is that in the end, due to the First Amendment right to religious freedom, institutions that bring these cases often win.
assortment of states, cities, and smaller communities, there is always a natural resistance at first and even a fear of how the community or neighborhood will
end, those houses of worship become an asset and even an attraction in many in-
ALL OVER THE MAP: NAVIGATING THE WORLD OF PASSOVER PROGRAMS
BY EVEY JOSEPH LEIBOW
Having experienced Pesach programs in the United States, I was keen on trying something new, something different, something exotic. So, last year I chose Greece and as soon as we arrived, it was clear we weren’t in Kansas anymore. Greece was so different and so exotic it seemed like another world. And in terms of the vibe of the program, it felt totally new. The air, sea, and vistas were gorgeous and completely different from anything I had ever experienced.
From the minute the van pulled up, it was like being in an oasis. We had been driving for an hour after two long flights, and were practically zombies. The kids were out like a light and snoring, while I managed to keep my eyelids open so I could take in the majestic Greek scenery as it unfolded all around me. The kids were not used to such a long itinerary, but when we finally reached our hotel, it was like a magical scene.
The building itself was a beautiful cream color adorned with palm trees, and we were met with a flurry of smil-
ing, uniformed valets who greeted us, opened up the back door, and placed our luggage on the carts. We quickly checked in and were greeted with the glorious scent of freshly-ground espresso brewing and a beautifully decorated table of fresh petit fours and fruit. Children played in the sun-filled lobby as their parents sipped lattes. Some guests were making their way downstairs for lunch and some were heading out to the pool for a dip before the start of the chag. Somewhere in the distance I heard a bouzouki playing. Yes, we were in Greece. We had finally made it.
We heard a cacophony of languages in the hallways. Mothers were speaking to their children in Hebrew, letting them know that after lunch they were going to the beach and then straight to the bath before yom tov. Two other girls, possibly sisters, shared a few comments in French.
One of the things you encounter while at a European Pesach program is Jews from Europe and all over. Over the course of the program, I learned via
the style of dress, the languages, and the abundance of lamb, that the guests had arrived from Los Angeles, Lakewood, New York City, Miami, Mexico, France, England, Italy, Israel, and Australia. Different Passover programs attract different attendees.
Something I learned from Passover programs is that when choosing a Passover destination, people have preferences regarding a number of options, from type or mix of religious crowd, to types of food, activities, climate, hotel tier, and so forth. On Passover Listings, you can select from a number of search filter preferences to focus your search such as 5-star properties, beach front, mixed crowd, ultra-frum crowd, sepa-
rate swimming, gebrukts, non-gebrukts, takes over entire hotel, and more. The more details that prospective guests have, the more informed their program choices can be, ultimately and hopefully leading them to the best Pesach experience possible.
At my European Passover program, while there wasn’t separate swimming at the main pools, the program organizers ensured that there were separate times for men and women to enjoy the normally-mixed spa pools. On Shabbos or yom tov, it was totally normal to spot some guests in shorts and tank tops grabbing a coffee while on their way
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JOURNEY INTO WELLNESS: THE RAJ, A SANCTUARY OF HEALTH AND HEALING
BY ROCHELLE MARUCH MILLER
Welcome to the world of Ayurveda, a 5,000-yearold Indian wellness system that is designed to create health, harmony, and total wellness, and the crown jewel of Ayurveda is Panchakarma (“five actions”), a deep rejuvenation protocol of spa treatments performed in an atmosphere of total serenity, bliss, and calm.
All of this can be found at The Raj. Nestled in the heartlands of Fairfield, Iowa, The Raj is the only facility outside of India that is designed to offer traditional Panchakarma treatments in their sanctuary of health and healing. Located on 100 acres of rolling meadows and woodlands, the Raj is all about slowing down, enjoying the surrounding beauty of nature, and benefiting from the most powerful rejuvenating and healing treatments you can find anywhere. In addition, The Raj will be the only kosher-certified Ayurvedic center in the world. Their grounds exude an aura of tranquility and calm, and by accepting only a limited number of
guests at a time, they are able to maintain their high quality of individualized service and attention.
Guests are not subjected to needle sticks or any other uncomfortable procedures, just luxurious oil massages, yoga, meditation, and a healthy, organic, vegan diet that leaves you glowing with vibrance and health. Ayurveda is even known to aid in the healing of serious maladies and can provide an allaround feeling of wellness, positivity, and good health. The result is a unique experience of nurturing attention and care. For 25 years, The Raj has led the field in Ayurvedic treatments, and now, for the first time ever, The Raj will be able to accommodate the discerning kosher guest in a serene and blissful environment.
One customer turned Ayurveda-aficionado is Sabena Basch Dukes, who used the system to transform her own life to powerful results. Indeed, the first thing that strikes you about Sabena Basch Dukes is her undeniable zest for life. Charming and congenial, warm
and witty, she is blessed with the ability to make you feel as though you’ve been friends forever just minutes after meeting. Chances are, you may have heard of her. In addition to authoring three books, Sabena is a successful and savvy entrepreneur who, as co-founder and CEO of Li’l Stars Modeling Agency, placed thousands of adults, children, and babies in commercials, major pictures, print advertisements, and even on Broadway. She has appeared on Oprah, Geraldo, Regis, Good Morning America, and CNN, and many more talk shows. And as an active member of the Orthodox Jewish community, Sabena has balanced work and family life since the tender age of eighteen. And she did it all without missing a beat, which is
precisely why she didn’t have the time to deal with the chronic pain that was plaguing her.
“For years, I suffered from multiple health issues, including cancer, digestive problems, high blood pressure, chronic joint pain, difficulty sleeping, and weight gain,” she said. “I was on medication and running from doctor to doctor, but nothing seemed to help.” Debilitated from the excruciating pain and frustrated by the doctors’ inability to find a panacea for her health issues through conventional medicine, Sabena decided to explore other healing options.
“I Googled ‘juice retreats,’ thinking that was what I needed, but what I came up with instead was The Raj, an Ayurvedic Health Center for a fulllife transformation. I clicked on the website and began reading all about it. Intrigued by what I saw, I was interested in what they had to offer, so I called them for more information, then I booked a reservation for eight days. From the moment I arrived, it was a complete life-changing experience. It was so healing and helpful that I ended up staying for three weeks.”
Sabena’s stay began with an initial appointment with a highly trained expert who assessed her health, her habits, and her medical history and any emotional issues. He then took her
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pulse by placing three fingers on her wrist and listening to her pulse with his fingertips. Central to Ayurvedic medicine, the pulse diagnosis allows a trained expert to feel the level of imbalance in the body so they can recommend individualized meals that the chef prepares as well as massage treatments that two masseuses provide using a fourhand method.
Each guest is provided with a customized schedule, which included purification treatments called Panchakarma. Most treatments begin with a full-body herb and warm oil body massage performed by two massage technicians to loosen impurities in the tissues and soothe and nourish the skin. After this rejuvenating procedure, the guest is treated to a delicious vegan lunch and dinner, followed by a class where the guest learns how to eat and live a healthy lifestyle. “I gained a great deal of self-knowledge while staying at The Raj,” Sabena noted. “The herb and oil treatments are like being enveloped in liquid silk.” Gallons of warm sesame oil are poured all over one’s body, which is then treated to a full massage by two female technicians, followed by a special head and neck massage and a dose of aromatherapy.
Prepared on premises, all meals at The Raj are organic, vegan and soon-to-be-certified and served in the dining room to encourage the guests to socialize. “Every meal is customized to each guest’s regimen and prepared minutes prior to being served,” she explained.
While at The Raj, Sabena began to see and feel a pronounced physical improvement, and at the end of the three weeks, she had lost twelve pounds, her blood pressure dropped considerably, the level of pain in her joints diminished, she slept better, and her skin was radiant and glowing. Since returning home, she no longer requires medication to lower her blood pressure, nor is joint shoulder replacement surgery mandated. For Sabena, the results were so dramatic that she decided to share her discovery with the frum community. In fact, she
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so believed in the efficacy of the treatments that she approached the CEO, Candace Badgett, and suggested they hire a mashgiach so they can market The Raj to the Orthodox Jewish community.
“As it turned out, since we already served only organic vegan food, it will be an easy transition to become a kosher health spa,” said Candace. “We have set times for kosher retreats, but for those guests who wish to come outside of those set times, we have a mashgiach who can provide guidance to them and to The Raj staff on how best they can accommodate their religious and dietary needs.
“Another aspect of our services that is important to our Jewish guests is that we use only female masseuses for female guests and male masseuses for male guests. In addition, we have separate floors for men and women. In addition, our programs naturally target the
health concerns of the Orthodox Jewish community. At The Raj, we tackle the root cause of chronic disorders which are so often tied to poor digestion as well as to fatigue and emotional stress. Our traditional approach of prevention and addressing chronic disorders will no doubt be appreciated by our Orthodox Jewish guests. With our esteemed staff-physician, Dr. Robert Schneider, MD, overseeing all our programs, and with our Ayurvedic expert, Mark Toomey, who holds a PhD in Ayurveda and Integrative Medicine, and under the guidance of a council of preeminent traditional Ayurvedic doctors, The Raj is uniquely qualified to help our guests reach their health goals.”
Ayurveda is the world’s oldest continually practiced health system. Developed in India over 6,000 years ago, Ayurveda (which means “knowledge of life”) is a natural approach to creating balance and strengthening the body’s natural healing ability. Ayurveda is acknowledged by the World Health Organization and is growing in its global use
as one of the most effective systems of natural health. According to Ayurveda, disorders are primarily the result of impurities and toxins that accumulate in the body over time. The programs at The Raj are designed to address the root cause of disorders, instead of simply focusing on the relief of specific symptoms. The Raj’s Ayurvedic purification treatments help to dislodge impurities from the cells and tissues and flush them out of the body. In addition to removing years of accumulated blockages, The Raj’s therapies help improve metabolism and enliven the inner intelligence of the body, stimulating the body’s remarkable capacity for self-repair.
The Ayurvedic experts at The Raj will design a specialized treatment just for you, including customized oils and herbs for your spa therapies that best restore balance and vitality. Candace’s message to our community is warm and heartfelt: “We welcome you with open
Dating Forum
By Baila Sebrow
Question
My great uncle was Reb Shraga Feivel Mendlowitz, who began Torah education in the U.S., and my wife is a direct descendant of Rav Moshe Ben Maimon, the Rambam. However, this fact made no difference to the local Far Rockway/ Five Towns right-of-center yeshivas, since they decided that my child is unworthy of a proper Torah education. One after another sent us back to the other like a bouncing ball, all with the same lame excuse that there’s “no room” in their yeshiva. Or they will say that if a 4-year-old behaves like a 4-year-old, they must be abnormal and thus require a special school. Or else they will give us some lame excuse that would befuddle anyone who knows our child due to their erroneous conclusions.
What’s interesting here is that the Chassidish or Sephardic schools in Brooklyn or Great Neck welcome our child with open arms, treating us as Klal Yisrael should behave towards one of their own. Does this mean that bus transportation over a half hour each way is acceptable to a person who has lived in the community most of their lives? Or does it involve selling our house and leaving the community while these same schools accept kids from Brooklyn, Queens, and the North Shore?
We don’t believe that this issue only touches us. Unlike others, however, who have moved away to escape this problem, going to places as far away as South Florida, we are ready to do our hishtadlut to combat such atrocious treatment, similar to how Rav Aharon Leib Steinman famously called this phenomenon of elitism in schools as “Geivah, Geivah, Geivah.” I’m writing to your column because we want to know if something like this happens in shidduchim too, and if this is what we can expect when our daughter is ready to get married.
Response
As a shadchan, I’m going to let you in on a little secret: shidduchim is all about “geivah.” Most shidduch rejections are the direct result of geivah, pride. When people decline a shidduch using the coined term, “it’s not shayach,” the term shayach is in most cases all about geivah. In other words, the shidduch is not being rejected because of a lack of middos, but because something in the person’s background is problematic.
The more affluent the community or family, the more they are likely to reject others. The geivah in such circumstances comes from both sides. The average person who wants their child to marry into the family of a gvir does so with the hope that it will raise their standing in the commu-
nity and their child will live a better life in that family. The gvir typically rejects such a shidduch because they feel that the one being suggested is out of their league.
Geivah in shidduchim also applies to people who have dreams of grandeur. Singles reject good prospects because they don’t like their job or because they feel the person is beneath them, and it’s not always about salary. There are some jobs that pay more than what professionals make, but the person rejecting the shidduch does so because of geivah and not because of any practical reason. If you talk to electricians, plumbers, or exterminators who are in shidduchim, they will tell you that the number one reason they get rejected is because of what they do for a living. It doesn’t matter if the guy has the most impeccable middos and would go out of his way to be the perfect husband and father, if he works in a profession that would embarrass the young lady when she tells her friends, not only will she not give him a date, she will feel insulted that the shidduch was even suggested in the first place. Is that not geivah?
Age is another factor. There are wonderful men and women who get rejected, not because they are incompatible or unattractive, but because of their age. When a man rejects a woman who is younger than him because he feels that he deserves a woman at least a decade his junior, is that not geivah? Sure, they use excuses like wanting to have children or more children, but the fact is that the rejection stems from the feeling that they are so wonderful that they deserve a woman who is much younger. It’s the other way around too, when a woman declines a man who is a bit older even if he checks off all the other boxes. The fact that he is a few years older than what she is comfortable with means the shidduch will never take off.
Then there are cases where people don’t think highly of a particular yeshiva or kollel, and would never date someone who learns there. I had a case of a young lady who was looking for a full-time learning guy. I found her a guy that is known to be wholesome and sincere. She rejected him outright because she does not like where he’s learning. Her mother explained to me that a guy from such a place is not for her daughter. She promptly went on to cite a list of other yeshivas and kollels that I should investigate to find her the top learning guy: Geivah right there! Mothers of young men will reject a young lady because of the high school or seminary she attended, regardless of how incredible she is otherwise. I could go on and on quoting example after example of reasons to reject people, with one being more nonsensical than the last, but I gather you un-
derstand what I’m trying to illustrate. To be fair, not everyone behaves in such a rejecting, exclusionary fashion, regardless of the community, but when it happens to you, it hurts. How tragic it is that a child as young as four needs to be the victim of exclusion. And since you experienced the pain of your daughter not being accepted into the school of your choice, I can also understand why you’re concerned about her future shidduch prospects, which I can assure you are not a reflection of her as a bas Yisrael, but for the fact that some machers determined that she might not fit into their imaginary box.
There was a novel written many years ago by Ira Levin, titled “The Stepford Wives.” The plot involves married men of the town that turn their wives into submissive, mindless women who do their husband’s bidding with no questions asked. It turns out that prior to their metamorphosis, these women were successful in their professions, but moreover, they used to be feminist activists. I’m not going to give away more details about the story, but I often refer to a community or any entity that expects everyone to act and behave a certain way as the desire for a “Stepford Wife.” This is what happens in many aspects of life, whether it involves school acceptance or shidduchim
Years ago, it used to be that when parents wanted to register their child in a Jewish school, all they had to do was show up and register their child. The only time a child was declined in those days was if the parents couldn’t afford the tuition. Otherwise, the child was accepted. At present, I hear about the anguished cries of parents every September when their child is not accepted into the school of their choice.
The culprits of these exclusions are the people who handle the finances and those that are funding the school. Those parent-bodies have a particular “Stepford wife” type of image about the kind of child they would allow to associate with their own children, and how they want their students and parent-body to be acknowledged to the rest of the world.
Sadly, it has nothing to do with the fact that every Jewish child deserves a Jewish education. They simply don’t care. All
they’re concerned about is that they want to keep their school as is, and will justify their reasons for declining a child, such as in your case.
Just as the shidduch system is failing many frum singles, the yeshiva system is failing the chinuch of Jewish children. And just as the fact that singles are not getting married, resulting in fewer marriages and fewer children being born to Bnei Yisrael, so too with excluding Jewish children into Jewish schools. Sure, we can bus children to other neighborhoods, but they know that they are being bussed because their local school did not want them. It can chas v’shalom turn them off from Yiddishkeit. Tragically, there are plenty of such cases, and the culprits are the administrators who said “no” to that child. Shame on them!
I applaud the pro-action on your part as a concerned parent. You cannot change what they are doing, but your letter raises awareness of this ongoing problem. But more important, your child sees that her parents are her biggest advocates, and the home she lives in is her safety net, even if she needs to travel to school. That will go a long way toward ensuring that outside influences will not cause her any harm. Keep talking about it and that will encourage others in your situation to do the same. Aside from being cathartic, throughout history, voices of brave people have always been the ones to bring about change. May you be zocheh to tremendous nachas, iy’H n
Baila Sebrow is president of Neshoma Advocates, communications and recruitment liaison for Sovri-Beth Israel, executive director of Teach Our Children, and a shadchanis and shidduch consultant. Baila also produces and hosts The Definitive Rap podcast for 5townscentral.com, vinnews.com, Israel News Talk Radio, and WNEW FM 102.7 FM HD3, listenline & talklinenetwork.com. She can be reached at Bsebrow @aol.com.
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REAL ESTATE
By Anessa V. Cohen
IF IT SOUNDS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, WATCH OUT!
Turn on one of these TV seminars hosted by a so-called “selfmade millionaire” boasting of all the money they made buying and selling foreclosures and short-sales, and how “you too can be a millionaire” if you followed their advice about how to buy and sell these “metziahs.” I have often wondered how so many people can listen to them and believe that buying and selling distressed properties could be so easy. Wouldn’t you think that if it was so easy, the banks that
foreclosed on these properties would have taken advantage of the easy millions to be made before anyone else had the chance to get close to them?
Of course, the part about how easy it is and how anyone can do it is always said at full blast, while the follow-up portion that all you need to do is buy their book on “How to make millions buying foreclosures and short sales” for only $39.95 in 6 or 7 easy payments is said in more hushed tones after getting the masses all excited and dream-
ing about making quick money so they can think they are the only ones buying this book and run for their credit cards to be the first one to get this magical book.
This magical book is obviously the way these guys are making their millions. And once the masses read the drivel that is written in the book and put their advice in motion, the individuals who had so much faith and hope in the book are left with a wallet that is $39.95 lighter and nothing to show for it. The practical way this should be addressed is: If it seems too easy, then something is probably wrong.
For those not familiar with the difference between short sales and foreclosures, I will give you a brief explanation.
A foreclosure covers a large area. When a homeowner has a mortgage that for whatever reason has been delinquent and unpaid for three months, the mortgage typically automatically falls into a category of pre-foreclosure, meaning the bank will give notice to the
homeowner that they are beginning the procedure of foreclosing on the house, but still notifying the homeowner that by bringing the mortgage payments current together with any penalties that might have been incurred as a result of the delinquency, they can avoid the foreclosure action being commenced by the bank and put the mortgage back into good standing.
In some cases, the homeowner will be able to come up with the necessary funds to pay off the delinquent mortgage payments and whatever interest and penalties that may have accrued, and the foreclosure action is thus halted and dropped at that point by the lender.
In other cases, a homeowner may not have the ability to come up with the delinquent mortgage payments and may try to work out some kind of payback agreement with the bank to catch up with the monies owed, or agree to put the house on the market to sell it and pay back the mortgage rather than wait for the bank to foreclose on the house and take it in lieu of the mortgage.
Sometimes, if a homeowner is at a point where they are prepared to sell the house to pay off the mortgage to avoid having the foreclosure on their future credit, the homeowner might realize that the mortgage presently owed is greater than the present market value of the house, and that even if they were to get a buyer to make an offer at full market value, it still would not be sufficient to pay off the mortgage.
In this case, the homeowner might opt to present whatever offer was given to the lender and ask that the lender agree to accept less than the amount presently owed on the mortgage note so the house can be sold. This is called a short sale. It is basically a sale of property made at a lower price than the amount of the mortgage presently existing on that property. In such a case, the bank must agree to settle for the amount offered by the buyer and consider that amount as sufficient to satisfy the seller’s mortgage at closing.
The process of doing a short sale with a mortgage lender can be a lengthy and complex process and can take anywhere from several months to over a year to achieve with lots of paperwork and changes going back and forth between homeowner, buyer, and lender over that course of time. It’s certainly not an easy process as those selfmade millionaires claim. The guy who is probably making the killing is the publishers of these books! So, like everything else in the real estate process: buyer beware. n
Anessa Cohen lives in Cedarhurst and is a Licensed Real Estate Broker (Anessa V Cohen Realty) with over 20 years of experience offering residential, commercial and management real estate services. You are invited to visit her website at WWW. AVCREALTY.COM. She can be reached at 516569-5007 or Readers are encouraged to send any questions or comments by email to anessa @avcrealty.com.
OFFERING WISDOM WITH A PERSONAL TOUCH
Touro Academic Leaders Share Advice with Undergraduates Considering Careers in Medicine, Dentistry, Podiatry and Pharmacy
As one who reviews more than 10,000 applications for medical school every year, Dr. Edward Halperin, chancellor and CEO of Touro’s New York Medical College, is often asked by potential applicants what matters most to admissions staff: the Medical College Admission Test (MCAT)? Grade point average? Personal statement? Letters of recommendation?
He told more than 150 Touro University undergrads, “Everything. We look at it all.” The quality of your course selection, your grades, your MCATs or your dental admissions test (DAT) or other standardized tests, your essay, and your references; they all matter.”
Dr. Halperin went on to say, “Are you more likely to get an interview at a Touro-associated medical, dental, podiatry, or pharmacy program if you are a Touro undergraduate? Yes. We have policies in place that give preferred interview status to Touro undergraduates.”
Dr. Halperin shared his insight and experience as part of an information session for students who came to learn about their career options, what it takes to gain admission into highly competitive programs, and how to become candidates for professional schools in growing fields. Dr. Halperin was one of several academic leaders, deans, and representatives of Touro’s medical, dental, podiatry, and pharmacy schools at the event.
Dr. Halperin said that for candidates it comes down to finding the right fit. He noted that there are 172 MD-granting medical schools in the U.S. and Canada, 80 schools of dentistry, 141 schools of pharmacy in the U.S., and nine schools of podiatry in the U.S.
“But people will select an institution of higher education based on an impression obtained during a walk-through or the advice of well-meaning friends and relatives,” he said.
Instead, he recommended that applicants evaluate graduate health sciences schools based on each school’s mission, curriculum, clinical material, location, association with other schools and training facilities, and tuition.
Stellar Results
Touro’s results demonstrate that the students would do well to listen to the wisdom dispensed by Dr. Halperin and the other members of the faculty in attendance: More than 90% of undergrads at Touro’s Lander Colleges who apply to medical school and 98% who apply to dental school secure spots.
After hearing from Dr. Halperin and others, the students were invited to meet with the representatives of Touro’s medical programs in attendance— New York Medical College, Touro College of Dental Medicine, Touro College of Pharmacy, Touro College of Osteopathic Medicine, and Touro-affiliated New York College of Podiatric Medicine—to learn more and ask individual questions.
“You’ve got some heavy hitters here tonight,” said Halperin. “And I feel comfortable saying that you’re not going to find any other university where the deans of this many professional schools come such a considerable distance to meet with undergraduates.”
The sentiment was echoed by the students in attendance.
Supporting Students’ Career Aspirations
“This was an amazing opportunity to actually meet the deans,” said Tzion Masri, a junior from Brooklyn who is
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Dr. Edward Halperin, Chancellor of Touro’s New York Medical College, speaking with undergrads interested in med school
pre-dental. “I learned that Touro Dental School has a program where I actually get to experience four days on campus and get a hands-on feel for what dental school is going to be like. Just for that it was already worth coming to the event.”
And Tzion said it was worth it for him to come to Touro if only because its students get preferential consideration for interviews for its medical and dental programs.
“Dental school is super competitive to get into, and it was important to do everything in my power to succeed,” he said. “It shows that Touro is going out of their way to support their students and ensure they look out for us to help us succeed. It almost feels like we’re part of a large family, with everyone having our best interests in mind.”
Ezra Masri plans to pursue a career in pharmacy, and hadn’t realized the deans would be there when he decided to attend the information session. He was particularly excited to speak to Dr. Henry Cohen, dean of the Touro College of Pharmacy, who told him about some of the opportunities available within the field.
“I wanted to know about eventually building a business within the industry,” said Ezra, from Brooklyn, who is in his second year at Touro in Flatbush. “It was good to hear from an expert that there is
upward mobility within the profession, that you can work in many different settings, and that there are opportunities for growth and entrepreneurship.”
The deans stressed to the students that upon becoming medical professionals, they’ll be treating people from many different backgrounds.
“One of the implicit messages communicated is that if you choose medicine or healthcare health, you have to be prepared to serve the totality of the New York City community, or whatever community you live in,” according to Dr. Robert Goldschmidt, Executive Dean of Touro’s Lander College of Arts
& Sciences, who organized the program.
“You have to be ready and prepared to accommodate and treat patients of diverse backgrounds, with diverse perspectives.”
The message resonated with Shaina Borisute, a senior from Crown Heights. She said that, although she is pursuing a career in nursing, there was plenty of applicable information to glean from the presentation. “I grew up learning a set of values, and my parents taught me to live a certain way,” said Shaina. “And tonight, they talked about how we can hold on to those values, while following professional standards at the same time.”
Chanee Slapochnik, a senior from Crown Heights, arrived at the information session still in the process of determining which field to pursue within the medical profession. Listening to the presentations and meeting with representatives from different schools didn’t make her decision for her. But it did make it a little easier.
“The truth is that ultimately I need to be the one to decide on my future career path,” Chanee said, “but having these experts in so many fields available to talk with will help me figure it out for myself.” n
And Yosef brought to his father their evil report
(Bereishis 37:2)
Said the sages: two righteous men were punished on account of the bearing of malevolent reports: Yaakov and Yosef. Because Yosef spoke evilly of his brothers, he was incarcerated in prison for 12 years; and because Yaakov listened to these reports, the Divine spirit departed from him for 22 years. This teaches us that one who speaks negatively of another is punished once, while someone who listens to negative talk of another is twice punished.
(Pirkei d’Rabbeinu HaKadosh)
Dr. Henry Cohen, dean of Touro College of Pharmacy, with Ezra Masri, a Touro Flatbush student interested in a pharmacy career
HAPPINESS IN THE FACE OF ADVERSITY
BY RABBI ELIE FEDER
My mother, Shani Feder, a’h , was very sick for many years. Nevertheless, she lived a very happy life for 57 years. How did she do it? How did she remain happy in the face of adversity? The answer may lie in an amazing letter she wrote to her children just before she embarked on a difficult and dangerous surgery.
Just a note from dear old Mom, I am awed by the miraculous order of G-d’s nature unfolding in our backyard. You can see throughout Nature that a mother’s job is to give her child wings: to teach them to fly and watch them soar. Every year I watch the swans hatch ugly ducklings, teach them to hunt for food, and teach them to fly. They turn into magnificent swans and fly off to start their own lives. Fortunately, children may leave the nest, but they don’t always leave the neighborhood. And I have had the zechus to watch all of you soar.
I have just a few words of motherly advice as you soar. It’s not Torah MiSinai that your father and Rebbeim have taught you well and I, in turn, have learned much from you, but just some thoughts on happiness. Enjoy and cherish every day. Don’t worry so much about tomorrow, on what might or might not happen. Do the best you can, but if you focus your worry on tomorrow, it makes you lose the gifts of today and tomorrow. If something bad is going to happen, it will happen. You won’t be able to deny it. But at least you have had today, and so many wonderful things are happening in the here and now of today. If something bad happens, you will deal with it because you are stronger than you think, and maybe some good will come from it. Only G-d knows what lies ahead, what’s just around the corner. We cannot write the script. We don’t even always know what’s good or bad. Sometimes, it’s a matter of a person’s perspective on life and what’s truly important to them. One can only strive for the best Torah life.
Always thank G-d for the good you have (and for the bad that you don’t have). Nothing is a given. Appreciate everything, but try not to judge people who don’t do the same. You never know what their circumstances are, but try to treat them as you would wish to be treated, since Hashem created all of us. And of course, try to do things with a smile. No one likes a grump. Your words of wisdom (and even help and criticism) are better accepted if given with a smile. Okay, that’s enough preaching. I could keep going, but as you realize, that’s not the point of this letter as I hope you realize that the point of this is
to simply say I thank Hashem every day and I am truly blessed with happiness and true Yiddishe nachas
Bumps in the road are just that; they make me appreciate the blessings I have all the more. I’m sorry for how they affect you and your father. My wings may be clipped for a short time, but G-d willing, all will be well and possibly even better (As they say, no pain, no gain.) so, shut off this computer and go teach my grandchildren how to fly. And with Hashem’s help, I will be there very soon to help.
Love,
The Tough Old Bird Baruch Hashem , my mother lived for another two years after this surgery. While her moving letter certainly gave some idea about how she maintained her positivity despite her illnesses, I yearned for a deeper understanding. Since I knew that her happiness emerged from living a Torah-centered life, I studied her letter in combination with associated words of Chazal , and in the process, I discovered many meaningful and practical lessons about living a happy Torah life in the face of adversity.
While these lessons are more fully developed in my new book, “Happiness in the Face of Adversity,” this essay series will convey some of the main ideas so you can work to improve your life a few steps every day. Stay tuned for more. n
Elie Feder received semicha from Rabbi Yisrael Chait and a PhD in mathematics from CUNY Graduate Center. He has been a maggid shiur at Yeshiva Bnei Torah and a mathematics professor at Kingsborough Community College since 2004. He lives in Far Rockaway, New York, with his family and is the author of the forthcoming book, “Happiness in the Face of Adversity: Meaningful Torah Ideas from a Mom’s Parting Words” (Mosaica).
HE SAID/SHE SAID
By Esther Mann, LCSW
DISCLAIMER: The following column is a composite of several different experiences I have had with clients. It does not depict a specific encounter. This story is not about you!
By now, most of us are familiar with many popular psychobabble terms. We use much of it in our daily lives, and are often spot-on in describing a person or situation, such as “She’s in denial,” “He’s such a narcissist,” or “The whole family is delusional.” These observations can help us understand other people in a deeper, more
compassionate way (assuming we are correct). Therefore, seeing the world and each other in a more layered fashion can be helpful. But beware: it can potentially become dangerous if we spend all our time trying to unlock some hidden meanings and overlook the obvious.
One term that has gained traction over the past few years is the notion of wearing a “mask.” To some degree, we all wear masks when we present ourselves in front of others. It may be subtle or quite extreme. For example, if we just heard some disturbing
news as we’re about to meet a friend for lunch, we might show up in tears, unbrushed hair, and a look of distress on our faces. Hopefully, we are controlled enough to pull ourselves together, put a smile on our faces, and find the strength to show up with the necessary excitement to meet our friend. At some point during the meeting we can choose to disclose the bad news, if appropriate, but most of us are developed enough to be able to ride it out, enjoy the moment, and present ourselves in a way that will not distract or detract from the grand reunion we had carefully planned.
So, masks can be a good thing. We don’t have to wear every single emotion we are experiencing on our faces, causing undue alarm and a great deal of distraction as we go about our day, but like most things in life, wearing a mask can be taken to the point of absurdity, when one is never honest with oneself and others, never showing any emotions whatsoever. Our faces, and in particular our eyes, can be the portal to our souls. When one is trying to make a serious point, their words have to match their expression; otherwise, there is vast confusion and a serious disconnect. You can’t tell your child how dangerous it is to run into the street while wearing a smile. Serious moments require a serious expression that are in synch with our heart and the message.
In marriage, we learn to read each other quickly and accurately. Typically, when a husband or wife comes home from work, their spouse can take one look at them and know if trouble is lurking. Their curiosity and compassion radars become immediately activated and are anxious to somehow help their spouse calm down. Though the upset spouse may have looked perfectly fine during the train ride home, upon stepping into the safety of their home, the mask slips off and their true self emerges. And within meaningful relationships, the true self is often required and necessary. What happens when one spouse has lived their life always wearing a mask? Never truly accessing their true emotions to anyone under any circumstances, possibly not even to themselves? Why this happens is for another article. For
the sake of this article, it’s important to mention that Isaac was just such a man. And what seemed refreshing for his wife Beverly at first to find a person who was always smiling, ended up feeling like a major coverup.
He Said
Isaac is a tall, handsome man in his early fifties. He entered my office with an endearing smile on his face that conveyed both kindness and humbleness. What a nice combination, I thought. He was solicitous in asking his wife Beverly where she wanted to sit and in the way he introduced himself to me. Honestly, my first reaction was, “This guy looks like a winner.”
As we got down to business, I asked Isaac to tell me about what had brought them to my office and how I could be of help. “Well, there are probably a lot of issues going on in our marriage that I’m hoping you can help us with, but for now
let me explain the main issue we’re having. Now, it occurs to me that marriages should be fair. In the thirty years we’ve been married, I’ve basically supported the family. Beverly has worked here and there at various jobs, mostly part-time. I understand she was raising our children during that time. But now that the children are out of the house, I think it’s only fair that I take it easy and Beverly support us for the next thirty years. But for now, I’ve given notice to my boss that I’m quitting my job at the end of the month. Beverly is smart and capable and I’m sure she’ll have no problem finding well-paying and satisfying work for herself. It all makes perfect sense to me. But Beverly doesn’t seem to think I have a right to relax now. Neither of us seem to want to budge.”
All of this was said with the same engaging smile on his face. I felt somewhat stumped. Firstly, I’ve never heard a husband lay out such a plan to me in all the years I’ve been doing this work. It was all so logical yet so weird. Who says such a thing with such conviction and not the
slightest indication that he was behaving in a bizarre way? If a husband is sitting and learning and this arrangement has been agreed-upon before marriage, or if G-d forbid a husband finds himself unable to work, there would be some kind of accommodation. But the notion that an apparently healthy, youngish man would believe that it’s logical and reasonable for him to stop working and expect his wife to support him was challenging for me to understand and accept.
“What are you so anxious to spend your time doing?” I asked. He said, “I still haven’t figured that out yet. Frankly, my main goal is to just relax and enjoy myself while I’m still young enough to do so.” I asked him, “And you wouldn’t feel badly or guilty watching your wife working full-time while you were just having fun?” “I don’t think so,” said Isaac. “As I mentioned earlier, I’ve worked for over thirty years. I think I deserve a break. Beverly is very marketable. What’s wrong with her taking on this role?” While my head was still
trying to process Isaac’s logic (or lack thereof), I finally asked, “How does Beverly feel about this new arrangement?”
“She’s mad as can be,” said Isaac, still with a smile on his face.
She Said
Beverley is tall, slim, and quite stunning. However, her expression was the complete opposite of Isaac’s. She had a worn-down, exasperated look about her. No masks for Beverly! When I asked Beverly to give me some context for this unusual request I was hearing from Isaac, she backed it up with a description of her own childhood and Isaac’s as well.
“I think a lot about my childhood and how I managed to get myself into this horrible situation,” she said. “I grew up with a nervous, stern father. It didn’t take much for him to go off the rails, yelling, banging, and on occasion, even hitting. He was a tense man and had high expectations from everyone in the family, including my mother. We all walked on eggshells when he was around. I was a highly sensitive child and probably am still super-sensitive today. And even if my siblings and I behaved perfectly, my father would somehow find something to get angry about. There was nothing relaxing about our home.
“When I met Isaac through a friend, I couldn’t believe how easy-going he appeared. He was always smiling and seemed to be super relaxed, just the opposite of my father in every way. His good looks didn’t hurt either, and I think that was all I needed to believe that he would make me happy. I realize now that I never stopped to consider whether we had anything in common intellectually, which we don’t, or if much of what he said made any logical sense, which it usually didn’t. I was just carried away by his calm veneer and good looks. I’ve been struggling a lot for quite some time, trying to figure out how I could have been so short-sighted. But it’s so true that ‘youth is wasted on the young.’ I wish I could go back in time and have a good talk with the twenty-year-old Beverly and open her eyes. Maybe that’s something we all wish for. Had someone tried to explain things to me back then, I would not be sitting in your office right now with Isaac.
“I’m not sure how relevant or irrelevant this might be, but Isaac grew up with a cruel father. Isaac has never said so to me and possibly not even to himself, but I can tell you that he’s not a nice man, and I can feel compassion for Isaac being raised by such a man.
“So, over the years, Isaac has done and said many things that made no sense to me. He comes up with ideas from who knows where and holds onto them like a pit bull. Nothing I say to him penetrates. He comes up with things that make me think we’re from different planets. I don’t relate to him in most ways, and I’ve never really been happy in this mar-
riage. That’s the truth. But this latest idea of his is really over the top. I don’t mind working. I’ve often worked and actually enjoy being productive. But the sheer laziness and quid pro quo nature of his thinking is too much already. I’ve told this straight to Isaac’s face and I’ll say this again in front of the two of you: I’m not prepared to stay in a marriage where my healthy husband is lounging around all day, waiting for me to pay all the bills. It’s not going to happen. If you think you have some magic up your sleeve that will enable him to see the light, that would be great. But I don’t have my hopes up very high.”
My Thoughts
In no world would Beverly’s reaction be seen as unreasonable. But what was up with Isaac? What caused his thinking to be so warped in some basic ways? And even while Beverly was saying that she was not prepared to stay in a marriage where she was expected to support the two of them, Isaac continued to smile as if we were discussing a beautiful, sunny day.
I felt my work should focus on Isaac and see whether he was penetrable. We met together for several sessions and it seemed as though I was constantly hitting a brick wall. Whether Isaac fell somewhere on the spectrum
or his childhood trauma damaged him in ways that even he had no access to, I was having a hard time getting through. Isaac continued to show up on time, be polite, and smile away, but his armor was more powerful than the typical armors I’ve dealt with and I wasn’t having much success. Furthermore, there was a clear pattern emerging. Isaac was unable or incapable of having too many logical conversations. His mind worked in a way that was unfamiliar to me, and clearly Beverly experienced the same thing throughout their marriage.
In the interim, I received a call from Beverly telling me that she appreciated my efforts but felt she had no recourse but to begin divorce proceedings. In my last session with Isaac, we discussed this news flash. He shared with me that he was unhappy about her decision, that it was not what he wanted, but he wasn’t going to back down and was prepared to move on with his life without her. Never wanting to stop trying, I asked Isaac whether he wanted to continue with individual therapy with the hope that I could at some point crack the code for getting through to Isaac. With a lovely smile on his face, Isaac responded, “No, thanks.” n
Esther Mann, L.C.S.W., is a psychotherapist in Hewlett. Esther works with individuals, couples and families. Esther can be reached at 516-3142295 or by email, mindbiz44 @aol.com.
FIRST RESPONDER
By Rabbi Dr. Dovid Fox
THE DAWNING OF THE “ME” GENERATION
Deboarding a plane recently, I watched an elderly couple limp along, the wife clearly in pain from whatever injury or surgery she might have had, and the husband, bent over with age, walking slowly. Fortunately for them, there was a courtesy cart waiting where the travelers would be exiting. The driver sat patiently, waiting for his passengers. I saw the older man approach the driver who had asked him if he needed a ride to baggage claim. I overheard the gentleman affirming that they would appreciate that and he asked that the driver wait as his wife made her way towards them.
Then an energetic young family appeared: two parents and four children. They scrambled into the cart, filling every seat, boisterous and laughing at their good fortune. Meanwhile, I studied the faces of the elderly couple. The man looked pained. The woman looked
like she was in pain, which most likely she was. I watched as the man approached the patriarch of the young family, explaining that he and his wife had requested assistance first. I saw an immediate look of indignation on the young couple’s faces. Rather smugly, the husband responded that he had arrived first. The older man looked into his face, looked back at his feeble wife, then walked over to the driver, and I overheard him say to the driver that his wife could hardly walk and was in need of assistance, which is the precise reason why the courtesy cart existed. The driver shrugged and said, “They got here first,” then drove off with the giggling, carefree family.
This behavior is discouraging. I can still remember a time when people would give up their seat to an older per-
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son, or a man would offer his seat to a lady. I recall an era when people held doors for others, or offered to help them carry their groceries. This was not only a matter of courtesy, but a sign of healthy boundaries and a display of the wholesome value of respect. In some places, it seems those values are no longer taught or practiced.
I have just returned from a mental health retreat where my assignment was to provide support, encouragement, and guidance to individuals involved in oppressive relationships. Over and over, I heard from people in deep pain about how an employer, a teacher, a spouse, or a parent was narcissistic, which is a term that is increasingly used to describe people who care more about themselves than others. It’s true. Narcissists do exist. It’s a personality disorder, but the diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder must meet a long list of criteria in addition to simply prioritizing one’s needs over others, since anyone can be guilty of that at times. There is a clinical difference between “gain for survival” versus gain at the expense of others due to exploitation and greed.
But there is something unsettling in our contemporary society that so many people are being diagnosed with narcissism or that our society seems to be producing so many people with narcissistic
traits and qualities.
This is discouraging. For a condition to be regarded as abnormal, it has to be present in only a tiny percentage of people (less than 5 percent); hence, it is not normative, which is the definition of abnormal. If a large percentage of people are displaying these qualities, then it begins to seem “normal.” When the norm is to disregard the rights and feelings of others, the danger is that narcissism will cease to be seen as abnormal by statistical definition. Being self-centered will become the norm. Think of the Mishnah in the fifth chapter of Pirkei Avos, which tells us that one who says “What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is also mine” is considered a wicked person. One who says “What’s yours is yours and what’s mine is mine” is considered normative.
Yet the Mishnah adds that other Sages say this is regarded as a quality of Sodom. There seems to be a vast contrast between something being regarded as normative (the first view in that Mishnah), and being seen as a feature of a corrupt society like Sodom (the second view). Some interpret the Mishnah as meaning that on an individual basis, it’s normal to separate my things from yours, but once this becomes the set societal expectation that everybody sticks to a selfish standard and there is no sharing, no generosity, and no caring for others, this can lead to the antisocial “me-first” standard of Sodom. Sociopathy (a feature of anti-social personality
disorder) is like narcissism but to an aggressive extreme. If society is now nearing a normative standard where people care little for others, disregard the needs of the aged or infirm, or object to deferring their needs for the sake of the weaker among us, then society is moving in the direction of the morally corrupt, Sodom-like society. That is really discouraging.
On the other hand, our Sages predicted that when society no longer honors its elders, and parents are expected to cater to the demands of the younger generation, that is a herald of the nearing of Moshiach. This is encouraging. But until that time, let’s look out for each other and practice caring for others. n
Rabbi Dr. Dovid Fox is a forensic and clinical psychologist, and director of Chai Lifeline Crisis Services. To contact Chai Lifeline’s 24-hour crisis helpline, call 855-3-CRISIS or email crisis @chailifeline.org. Learn more at www. chailifeline.org/crisis.
And Yaakov settled . . .
(Bereishis 37:1)
Yaakov desired to settle in tranquility, but it pounced upon him the agony of Yosef. For when the righteous wish to settle in tranquility, G‑d says: “Is it not enough for the righteous what is prepared for them in the World to Come, that they also ask for a tranquil life in this world?”
(Rashi)
HELPING HANDS
BY ELANA FERTIG, M.S. ED
EARLY CHILDHOOD CONSULTANT AND PROFESSIONAL PARENT
Parenting should really be called juggling. The number of responsibilities on our lists as mothers is endless, even before you leave the house. Many years ago, I was invited back to my high school to speak to the senior class at Career Night. There were about ten alumnae speaking that evening, and they were impressive, powerful women. I remember how each of them talked about their jobs, the hours they worked, and how they managed to balance their family responsibilities too.
I remember giving this message to those girls: “You can do anything you want to do. But you can’t do everything— and you certainly can’t do everything perfectly.”
Being a mother, whether or not you work outside the home, is juggling in its most overwhelming form, and there are times when it feels like it’s impossible to keep all the balls in the air. My secret to sanity is accepting what I’m not so great at. I’m just not great at folding my laundry. And that’s okay. When I fold my laundry, for example, I remind myself
that I’m better at other things. There are other examples, believe me, but for now, let’s just keep it at one.
There are many times when I remind myself of something the Torah teaches us about balance. Chazal in Sotah 47A advises parents to use “one’s left hand to push away and one’s right hand to draw close.” There is wisdom here: children need boundaries, yes, but they also need warmth, connection, and love to feel secure. Parenting is about striking that balance, and it’s not easy.
One way to help manage that overwhelming feeling and teach our children responsibility is to delegate. A job chart can help create structure and give children a sense of ownership. They know where things belong, they understand what’s expected of them, and that consistency helps them feel secure. I’m not going to pretend that I’ve mastered this. I’ve tried so many job charts in my house, and every single one has failed eventually. They worked for a while, but at some point, they stopped working. Follow-through is key, and that’s not always easy.
One motzaei Shabbos, I remember feeling completely overwhelmed by the endless chores that needed to be done. I got upset and told my kids, “I tell other people all the time that they need job charts—and yet it doesn’t work in my house!” So, I tried something new. I made a list of what each child needed to do: “Take out the garbage,” “wash the
dishes,” “pick up the towels from the bathroom floor.” Then I added one rule: if they didn’t do their job, and I ended up doing it for them, they had to pay me a dollar. They were older by then, and surprisingly, they didn’t seem to mind paying me. But I minded. So, back to the drawing board.
This time, I heard an idea from a friend: the Gibor Chart. I loved this one.
Parenting
could both get a check. It wasn’t perfect, but it got them working as a family, encouraging each other, and helping in ways that felt good for all of us. “Take out the garbage without being asked,” “bring down the laundry,” “clear the table without reminders”—whatever it was, they were helping, and they were working as a team.
As we approach Chanukah, this is a
is never easy, and juggling everything can feel impossible.
We all have things that come easy to us, and then there are things that feel hard. That’s true for children, too. So I made a chart. On top of it, I wrote a specific prize that the family would work for together. It could be a night out for dinner, a board game, or even a climbing toy—whatever works for your family. Each child had a certain number of boxes to fill in—five or ten, depending on their age—and every time one of them did something helpful that was hard for them, they earned a check for being a gibor, a hero. It got better: if one of their siblings noticed and pointed out that someone else had done something helpful, they
good time to remind our children about the mitzvah of hakaras hatov, gratitude. It doesn’t have to be a big deal: handwriting a thank-you note or calling a relative to say thank you can be a beautiful gift. Mommy and Daddy, grandparents, aunts, and uncles spend time thinking about your children, choosing gifts or helping in some way—it’s so nice to teach them to notice and say thank you.
Here’s an easy and meaningful idea: have your children draw or write “coupons” for gifts they’ll give to you. They can write, or you can help them dictate, something simple like:
“I will go to sleep on time the first
time you ask.”
“I will help put the groceries away.”
Small acts of hakaras hatov like these can go a long way.
Parenting is never easy, and juggling everything can feel impossible. But it’s okay to drop a ball sometimes. It’s okay to have laundry that isn’t perfectly folded. Focus on what you’re good at. Delegate when you can. And, most importantly, create a home where your children feel connected, responsible, and loved. n
Elana Fertig, M.S. Ed is a mother, an Early Childhood Director for nearly 25 years, an Early Childhood Consultant for The Jewish Education Project and Torah Umesorah, and the author of Infusing the Ruach in Your School. She can be reached at morahelanafertig@gmail.com
A many-colored coat (Bereishis 37:3)
Ketonet passim, in Hebrew. The word passim can be translated as “colorful” (Radak; Septuagint), “embroidered” (Ibn Ezra; Bachya; Ramban on Sh’mos 28:2), “striped” (Ibn Janach; Radak, Sherashim), or “illustrated” (Targum Yonasan). It can also denote a long garment, coming down to the “palms” of the hands (Rashbam; Ibn Ezra; Baalei Tosafos; Midrash Rabbah), and the feet (Lekach Tov). Alternatively, the word denotes the material out of which the coat was made, which was fine wool (Rashi) or silk (Ibn Janach). Hence, Ketonet passim, may be translated as “a full sleeved robe,” “a coat of many colors,” “a coat reaching to his feet,” “an ornamented tunic,” “a silk robe,” or “a fine woolen cloak.” (The Living Torah)
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CREATE NEW CHANUKAH TRADITIONS WITH MANISCHEWITZ’S EXCITING NEW CREATIONS
Chanukah, the beloved “Festival of Lights,” is a time of joy and celebration. Held from the eve of December 25, 2024, through January 2, 2025 this year, this cherished holiday marks the triumph of the Jewish people over oppression and commemorates the miraculous eight-day duration of oil from a single day’s supply. As families gather to celebrate, traditional fried
treats like potato latkes and doughnuts, sugar cookies, and gelt take center stage.
For over a century, Manischewitz® has been at the forefront of kosher culinary excellence. As America’s leading name in gourmet kosher products, the brand is reigniting classic Chanukah flavors with the debut of its new Manischewitz Frozen Latkes. These ready-to-bake potato latkes are as crispy
and delicious as those made by Bubbe herself. They join the popular Manischewitz Potato Pancake Mix, offering an effortless way to enjoy homemade latkes in minutes. Whichever way you choose to enjoy them, do not forget to serve your crispy creations with a dollop of sour cream, apple sauce, apple butter, or honey!
The tradition of Chanukah sugar cookies continues with a range of delightful, creative cookie kits. The Man-
ischewitz Ugly Sweater Chanukah Sugar Cookie Kit brings humor and tradition together with everything needed to decorate festive cookies. Priced at just $8.99, it includes sugar cookie mix, color powders, sprinkle mix, piping bags, and a fun sweater-shaped cookie cutter.
For those who love convenience with a dash of creativity, the Manischewitz Ready-to-Decorate Pre-Baked Sugar Cookie Kit is a must-have. This $9.99 kit includes 12 pre-baked festive-shaped cookies, along with all the decorating essentials for a fun, family-friendly activity.
Also joining the festive line-up are the Manischewitz Chanukah House Cookie Kit and the much-loved Manischewitz Donut Making Kit, perfect for those craving savory or sweet holiday treats. And no Chanukah celebration is complete without the timeless tradition of Manischewitz Gelt, available in both rich milk and dark chocolate.
“This Chanukah, we invite everyone, no matter their background, to experience the joy, family togetherness, and cultural tradition with our expanding line of holiday products,” says Shani Seidman, CMO of Kayco, the parent company of Manischewitz.
As part of its ongoing commitment to innovation, Manischewitz recently unveiled a bold new look across its product line, introducing exciting new items designed to appeal to a broader audience, especially younger, growing families. This rebrand marks a celebration of Jewish culture, cuisine, and the importance of family traditions, all while inviting new generations to explore the richness of Jewish heritage. Manischewitz products are more than just food—they are an invitation to savor tradition and participate in the cultural richness of Jewish cuisine.
Celebrate Chanukah with a delicious twist on traditional favorites! Whether you’re enjoying the crispy perfection of potato latkes or exploring creative ways to incorporate those flavors into your meals, Manischewitz offers the perfect products to inspire your culinary adventures. These recipes blend timeless traditions with modern flair, making them ideal for holiday gatherings or any time you want to savor the richness of Jewish cuisine.
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Try this twist on mozzarella sticks: Latke-Coated Mozzarella Sticks
Watch the recipe come to life in a video by Kosher.com here: kosher.com/video/ latke-mozzarella-sticks-813/
Ingredients:
Oil for frying
1 tablespoon milk
1 egg
1 (6-ounce) box Manischewitz Potato Pancake Mix
8 ounces string cheese
Tuscanini Crushed Tomatoes, for dipping
Directions:
Fill a large frying pan with a couple of inches of oil and heat to 365°F.
In a small bowl, whisk together the milk and egg.
In a separate bowl, empty the latke mix.
Cut each string cheese stick in half. Dip each piece into the egg mixture, coat it in the latke mix, then repeat the process for a double coating.
Fry the sticks in batches until the crust turns golden brown, about one minute.
Remove from the frying pan and place on a paper towel to drain excess oil.
Serve warm with Tuscanini Crushed Tomatoes for dipping.
For a heartier option that brings the festive flavors of latkes to your main course, try this delicious recipe for Latke-Crusted Chicken with Apple Cider, Mushroom, and Rosemary Sauce. This dish is a perfect balance of crispy textures and savory flavors, combining ten-
der chicken with a rich, aromatic sauce that is sure to become a new family favorite.
Ingredients:
Latke-Crusted Chicken
1 and 1/2 pounds chicken breasts (about 4 medium-sized), butterflied and split in half (8 thin pieces of chicken)
1 (6-ounce) box Manischewitz Homestyle Latke Mix
1/2 cup + 2 tablespoons oil, divided Sauce:
2 large shallots, chopped
8 ounces fresh mushrooms, sliced
1/2 cup apple cider
2 tablespoons flour
2 cups Manischewitz Low Sodium Chicken Broth
2 sprigs rosemary, finely chopped (about 1 tablespoon), plus additional whole sprigs for garnish
Salt and pepper to taste
Directions:
Prepare the Chicken
Pour the latke mix into a shallow dish.
Dredge the thin chicken breasts in the mix on both sides, ensuring they are completely covered.
Heat 1/4 cup oil in a large skillet over medium heat.
Pan-fry the chicken in the oil until browned, about five minutes per side, adding more oil as needed.
Once cooked, transfer the chicken to a paper towel-lined baking sheet and keep warm in a 200°F oven.
Prepare the Sauce
Discard any residue from the pan and old cooking oil. Add the remaining 2 tablespoons of oil, then add the shallots.
Sweat the shallots for about two minutes until translucent. Add the mushrooms and cook for 10 minutes, stirring occasionally, until reduced in size and golden.
Increase the heat to medium-high and add the apple cider to deglaze the pan. Cook for three to five minutes until the liquid has reduced and thickened slightly.
Sprinkle in the flour, stirring to combine, and allow it to cook for one minute. Gradually whisk in the chicken broth and add the chopped rosemary.
Bring the sauce to a gentle bubble, then reduce the heat to low and simmer for five minutes until it thickens.
Season with salt and pepper only after the sauce reaches the desired consistency to avoid over-salting.
To Serve
Arrange the chicken on a serving plate and pour the sauce over the top.
Garnish with additional rosemary sprigs and serve immediately.
With these recipes, you can create new Chanukah traditions while savoring the perfect balance of modern creativity and classic flavors. Whether you’re indulging in the crispy, golden goodness of latke-coated treats or exploring the convenience of Manischewitz’s exciting new products, there’s something for everyone to enjoy this holiday season. From the innovative Manischewitz Frozen Latkes to the delightful cookie kits that bring families together, the brand continues to honor its legacy of culinary excellence while embracing a fresh, modern approach.
This Chanukah, let Manischewitz inspire your celebrations with a range of products and recipes that highlight the joy, warmth, and togetherness of the Festival of Lights. Explore the flavors, share the traditions, and make memories that will last for generations to come. After all, Chanukah is not just a time to commemorate miracles of the past but also to create moments of love, laughter, and
Latke-Coated Mozzarella Sticks
Latke-Crusted Chicken with Apple Cider, Mushroom, and Rosemary Sauce
connection that shine brightly into the future.
About The Manischewitz Brand Manischewitz began its journey in 1888 with a simple box of matzah. Today, the company is proud to carry forward this tradition while adapting to the tastes and dietary needs of modern consumers. The recent rebrand is more than just a new look—it’s a renewal of Manischewitz’s commitment to quality, tradition, and inclusivity.
With over 30 product categories, Manischewitz has grown from its humble beginnings as a matzah bakery founded by Rabbi Dov Behr Manischewitz into a beloved name in kosher products, offering everything from matzah and macaroons to gefilte fish and chicken soup. Today, under the umbrella of Kayco, a New Jersey-based family-owned company, Manischewitz continues to uphold its mission of making kosher food a mainstream experience for everyone.
Available at major supermarkets and online retailers like Amazon, Manischewitz continues to offer a wide variety of kosher products that are both authentic and accessible. For more information on Manischewitz products and recipes, visit Manischewitz.com
For Chanukah recipes and more, visit kosher.com, your one-stop shop for all things kosher. n
WHAT I WISH MY TEACHER KNEW: A TRANSFORMATIVE EVENING FOR EDUCATORS
BY YECHIEL MEIR FRIEDMAN
This past Motzaei Shabbos, 150 educators and rabbanim gathered at Beis Tefila of Inwood for a powerful and impactful melaveh malkah titled “What I Wish My Teacher Knew.”
Hosted by My Extended Family (MYEF), the evening provided rebbeim, moros, and principals with critical insights into the challenges faced by children from single-parent homes and offered practical tools to create more supportive and understanding classroom environments.
Principals and teachers from Bnos Bais Yaakov, Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam, Yeshiva Darchei Torah, HALB, HAFTR, Shulamith School for Girls, Yeshiva of South Shore, and TAG attended, underscoring the community’s deep commitment to every child’s emotional and academic success.
The evening was beautifully emceed by Chaim Marcus, who tied the program’s themes of compassion, awareness, and responsibility together. “Many of us have no idea what the child in our
classroom experienced last night at home, what it’s like to be shuffled from home to home or not,” he said, “but we must provide the empathy and support these precious kinderlach deserve.”
Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, opened the evening with a poignant message about the silent struggles of children from divorced homes, recalling a student who lamented, “Why does the world care so deeply about orphans but not about children like me from divorced homes?”
Rabbi Bender emphasized how MYEF has become a lifeline, providing mentorship, resources, and belonging. “My Extended Family is a berachah—a gift from Hashem to address their silent pain,” he said.
Rabbi Eytan Feiner, esteemed Rav of the White Shul, drew on the story of Basya saving Moshe Rabbeinu to stress the importance of stepping beyond
Rav Feiner presents at My Extended Family
comfort zones to help others. Citing the passuk “V’shinantam l’vanecha,” Rabbi Feiner focused on Rashi’s interpretation that it refers first to students, emphasizing the educator’s unique role. He also shared a story of an 11-year-old who sought refuge at his home in the middle of the night because the fighting at his home was too much to bear, illustrating the profound impact of being a stable presence in a child’s life.
A Clinical Perspective
Dr. Norman Blumenthal, head of trauma and crisis at Ohel, shared invaluable insights into the emotional needs of children from single-parent homes. “These children carry burdens that are often unseen. Teachers can become a source of safety and stability, helping them build resilience and thrive,” he said. Dr. Blumenthal explained that ongoing parental conflict is more destructive than divorce itself and emphasized the resilience of children when given proper support.
Dr. Norman Blumenthal; Rabbi Eytan Feiner; and Rabbi Avraham Robinson, Menahel YOSS
in a position to not just survive but to become future success stories and leaders in klal Yisrael,” he said.
Rabbi Vigler thanked the dedicated team in the Five Towns—Rabbi Dovid Pollack, LCSW; Avi Biberfeld; Chana Henya Majerovic; Ahuva Schiffenbauer; Tehila Goldstone; Tova Schick; and Five Towns clinician, Mrs. Dassie Cohen, LCSW—for creating a nurturing environment. Rabbi Pollack shared how the weekly programming serves as a lifeline for children, offering mentorship, struc-
“The support, mentorship, and advocacy being offered by My Extended Family can absolutely change the trajectory of a child’s life,” he said.
Rabbi Yoseph Vigler, founder of My Extended Family, passionately spoke about the mission of the organization and detailed its efforts to create a safe and loving home away from home. Weekly programming now serves over 700 children across six locations, including close to 100 in the Five Towns division. “When a child feels understood, supported, and connected, we put them
tured activities, and a sense of belonging.
Practical Tools for Educators
Educators also learned about the resources available to them through My Extended Family. The organization partners with schools and teachers to provide support for children who come from single-parent homes, offering a safe and nurturing space where they can thrive socially, emotionally, and academically.
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“OZEMPIC FACE AND BODY”: THE EFFECTS OF WEIGHT LOSS MEDICATIONS ON APPEARANCE
BY DR. AVIVA PREMINGER, MD, MPH, FACS
It has been said you can never be too skinny, and the new weight loss drugs seem to make that dream come true for many. But what effects does rapid weight loss have on the body? If the goal is to look good, what happens when the weight comes off quickly and the skin envelope doesn’t bounce back?
Semaglutide, a medication originally developed for managing diabetes, has quickly become a groundbreaking tool in the fight against obesity. Under brand names like Ozempic and Wegovy, this GLP-1 receptor agonist has demonstrated remarkable success in helping patients achieve significant weight loss. By suppressing appetite and slowing the emptying of the stomach, Semaglutide offers a new path forward for those who have struggled to shed excess weight through traditional weight loss methods.
But any medical breakthrough comes with important considerations when deciding on its use. Rapid weight loss, while desirable for many, can have unintended consequences, particularly on muscle tone and skin quality. When pounds come off quickly, the body has less time to adapt. Muscle mass, which is often lost alongside fat, can diminish without efforts to maintain it through resistance training and proper nutrition. This can leave patients feeling weaker and less toned, even as they celebrate the reduction in overall weight.
The skin too can suffer from the effects of rapid weight loss. Skin elasticity diminishes with age and repeated weight fluctuations, and when weight loss occurs at an accelerated pace, the skin often struggles to retract. This can result in loose, sagging skin in areas such as the abdomen, arms, thighs,
and neck. For many individuals, these changes can be an unexpected and disheartening side effect of their weightloss journey.
For those who have achieved significant weight loss with the help of Semaglutide, but find themselves dissatisfied with the appearance of their body, plastic surgery can offer solutions. Proce-
dures like facelifts, tummy tucks, arm lifts, thigh lifts, and full body lifts can address excess skin and help patients achieve a more sculpted and refined appearance. Non-invasive treatments, such as laser or radiofrequency therapy, can also improve skin quality and elasticity, offering alternatives for those who are not yet ready for surgery.
Dr. Preminger
One critical consideration for anyone taking Semaglutide and considering surgery is the potential risk it poses during anesthesia. By slowing the emptying of the stomach, Semaglutide increases the likelihood of aspiration, where stomach contents are inhaled into the lungs during surgery. For this reason, it is essential that patients disclose their use of Semaglutide to their surgeon and anesthesiologist. In some cases, the medication may need to be paused before surgery to minimize this risk and ensure a safe procedure.
Timing is another important factor for patients to discuss with their surgeon. It is best to wait until weight loss has stabilized before undergoing a body-contouring procedure. Operating while weight loss is ongoing can affect surgical outcomes and can lead to the need for additional surgeries in the future. Furthermore, rapid weight loss can deplete the body of essential nutrients, which are critical for healing after surgery. Patients should work closely with their surgeon and a nutritionist to prepare their bodies for surgery and optimize recovery.
Semaglutide represents an extraordinary advance in weight-loss medicine, but it is not without challenges. Patients should be fully informed about the potential side effects of rapid weight loss on their skin and muscle tone, as well as the risks associated with surgery while taking the medication. Open communi-
cation with a qualified plastic surgeon is essential to ensure safe, effective, and satisfying results.
At Preminger Plastic Surgery, we are committed to educating our patients and providing personalized care tailored to their unique needs. For those considering plastic surgery after weight loss, or for those currently using Semaglutide, we offer guidance every step of the way to help you achieve your aesthetic and wellness goals.
For more information or to schedule a consultation, please visit PremingerMD. com or call 212-706-1900.
Dr. Aviva Preminger is an Ivy Leagueeducated and trained plastic surgeon. She has earned respect and prestige in her field with her extensive credentials. She holds faculty appointments at Columbia University as well as several other fully accredited New York hospitals. Dr. Preminger has expertise in a wide range of cosmetic and reconstructive procedures and has lectured and published extensively. She and her staff are committed to excellence. You can reach Dr. Preminger at (212) 706-1900 or via her website at https:// premingermd.com/contact/.
RAA CELEBRATES NEW BOOK ADDRESSING ISSUES OF FAITH IN THE INTERNET ERA
Where does a group of rabbis feel most at home? At a synagogue and a yeshiva, certainly, but also at a Jewish bookstore. On December 8, 2024, the Rabbinical Alliance of America / Igud HaRabbonim (RAA), held its monthly conference at Mizrahi Bookstore, the largest Jewish bookstore in the world. Boasting over 500,000 titles, Mizrahi Bookstore, located at 3108 Quentin Road in Brooklyn, NY, is like a candy store for rabbis and researchers who meet there to discuss scholarly topics and buy rare and common second-hand books. The unusual location for RAA’s monthly meeting was chosen as an ideal place to celebrate the release of the new book, Articles of Faith: Traditional Jewish Belief in the Internet Era, by Rabbi Gil Student, Director of RAA’s Halacha Commission.
est levels. RAA is proud to play a role in the ongoing teaching and publication of its many members. Rabbi Mirocznik remarked, “I have great pride that Rabbi Student has published a fascinating book examining timely topics about community, faith, and technology, using a vast array of Torah sources to explore important issues of the day in a calm and sober way. There is a time to denounce with strong words and a time to analyze calmly and methodically. Each is right in its own time and place. Rabbi Student has chosen to use the latter approach and make a Kiddush Hashem with this publication.”
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At the conference, Rabbi Mendy Mirocznik, executive vice-president of RAA, expressed support for all members who publish works of Torah scholarship and his expectation that future RAA conferences will highlight other members who publish sefarim. The future of the Jewish people rests on the continued study of Torah at the high-
In his remarks, Rabbi Gil Student explored the theme of balancing individual independence with religious authority in the age of the internet. He argued that technology, while providing access to vast amounts of information, can undermine religious authority by making individuals feel less reliant on experts. Rabbi Student used the analogies of GPS navigation and autotune to illustrate how technology can artificially provide skills that individuals may nat-
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Through weekly programs, mentorship, trips, holiday events, and ongoing emotional support, My Extended Family ensures that these children have the tools and community they need to succeed.
Teachers and principals were encouraged to refer children and families who could benefit from the program, emphasizing that support is just a phone call away.
“My Extended Family has developed much needed awareness to a population that deserves all of our attention. These children need the village to come together to support them as they travel through the often turbulent waves of divorce.”
A particularly moving moment of the evening was hearing from a successful father of three, who shared his personal story of growing up in a divorced home.
“There were teachers who saw me, who made me feel that I mattered, and it changed everything. Others didn’t realize how their words or actions affected me. Teachers hold immense power— please use it to uplift.”
Attendees walked away inspired, with a renewed sense of purpose and practical strategies to better connect with every child in their classrooms. Rabbi Avi Taub of Yeshiva Darchei Torah emphasized, “The tools shared were vital for any educator who truly wants to make a difference.” n
EIGHT NIGHTS (AND DAYS!) TO CELEBRATE!
BY GABRIEL GELLER, WSET III ROYAL WINE/KEDEM
How fortunate are the Jewish people? In America, what is commonly referred to as “the holiday season” includes Chanukah, as Jews have historically had a wider, recognized impact on popular culture. This year, Chanukah coincides with two non-Jewish holidays—just two days. Baruch Hashem, we have eight days! While the author of these lines encourages drinking and sharing a nice bottle of wine every night of Chanukah, it’s understandable that not ev-
Rabbi Bender with MYEF Founder Rabbi Vigler
Rabbi Dovid Pollack, LCSW Program Director of MYEF Boys Division Five Towns
eryone can do so. Therefore, let’s review five great wines to enjoy this coming Chanukah.
Let’s start with an Israeli wine. It’s a common minhag to eat cheese on Chanukah. While certain types of red wine do complement certain types of cheese, white wines are generally more versatile. The Feldstein Dabouki, from one of Israel’s most exclusive boutique wineries, is made mainly from Dabouki as well as other grape varieties indigenous to the Middle East. Indeed, it’s likely that all the way back to the Beis HaMikdash, wine
made from Dabouki grapes was used for the service. Perhaps the Maccabim drank Dabouki wine after they defeated the Greeks and purified the holy sites. The Feldstein Dabouki 2023 would pair well with most cheese.
Staying with wines from Israel, the Black Onyx 2018 from Gros winery is a deep, rich Cabernet Sauvignon that would stand up to a juicy brisket, whether braised or smoked. With fried food, the answer is always a crisp sparkling wine. The Herzog Lineage Momentus NV is a touch off-dry, making it a crowd-pleaser, as the sweetness is sufficient for those who prefer their wine on the sweeter side, and dry enough for those who like it that way. Between the focused, balanced bubbles and the refreshing acidity, this wine can match latkes with or without applesauce.
Doughnuts have arguably become Chanukah’s most popular dessert. Bakeries and seasoned cooks come up with all sorts of fillings and toppings, ranging from traditional sweet strawberry jam to gourmet, savory chicken liver topped with pink peppercorn, and everything in between. Italy is home to some of the greatest wineries in the world, among them Terra di Seta in Tuscany. Their Chianti Classico Riserva 2020 is lovely on its own but can also accompany many different types of food, so you should always keep some at home. Let’s remain old-fashioned with an apricot jam-filled doughnut and a
glass of the lovely Château Piada 2022. This is a Sauternes, a region world-renowned for its outstanding dessert wines. Elegant and delicately sweet, it has lively
acidity that helps with the oiliness of the doughnut and matches the apricot jam.
So, this Chanukah, don’t just open any old bottle when contemplating those
beautiful candles, symbolizing so many miracles. Celebrate with a special bottle of wine shared with your family and friends. L’chaim, to a happy Chanukah! n
These are the generations of Yaakov: Yosef being seventeen years old . . . (Bereishis 37:2)
Should not have the verse said, “These are the generations of Yaakov: Reuven, etc.”? Why Yosef?
Because everything that happened to Yaakov, happened to Yosef. As Yaakov was born circumcised, so was Yosef born circumcised: as Yaakov’s mother was infertile, so was Yosef’s mother infertile; as Yaakov’s mother had difficulty in childbirth, so did Yosef’s mother have difficulty in childbirth; as Yaakov’s mother bore two sons, so did Yosef’s mother bear two sons; as Yaakov was hated by his brother, so was Yosef hated by his brothers; as Yaakov’s brother sought to kill him, so did Yosef’s brothers seek to kill him. Yaakov was a shepherd and Yosef was a shepherd,Yaakov was persecuted, and Yosef was persecuted;Yaakov was blessed with ten blessings and Yosef was blessed with ten blessings;Yaakov was exiled from the Holy Land, and Yosef was exiled from the Land; Yaakov took a wife outside the Land, and Yosef took a wife outside the Land;Yaakov begot children outside the Land, and Yosef begot children outside the Land;Yaakov was escorted by angels, and Yosef was escorted by angels;Yaakov was made great through a dream, and Yosef was made great through a dream; the house of Yaakov’s father in law was blessed on his account, and the house of Yosef’s father in law was blessed on his account;Yaakov went down to Egypt and Yosef went down to Egypt;Yaakov ended the famine and Yosef ended the famine;Yaakov adjured [his children] and Yosef adjured [his brothers];Yaakov charged [his children] and Yosef charged [his brothers];Yaakov died in Egypt and Yosef died in Egypt;Yaakov was embalmed and Yosef was embalmed; the bones of Yaakov were brought up [from Egypt to the Holy Land], and the bones of Yosef were brought up [from Egypt to the Holy Land] (Midrash Rabbah; Zohar; et al.)
urally lack. Similarly, the Internet provides accessibility to Jewish texts that used to be limited to those with careful training. He noted that the internet poses particular challenges to religious life because it creates and strengthens a drive for independence which directly collides with the need for tradition and authority. Rabbi Student argued that the solution varies by communi-
ty but ultimately lies in finding ways to harness the power of technology while mitigating its risks. He highlighted initiatives such as the distribution of flip phones and the development of specialized operating systems that limit access to certain websites and apps, which people choose to adopt. Rabbi Student concluded his remarks by emphasizing the importance of continued dialogue and the search for solutions that respect both individual autonomy and the need for religious authority. His new book ex-
Rabbi David J. Toback; Rabbi Avraham Hecht; Rabbi Kalman Sodden; Rabbi Gil Student, director, Vaad Halacha, RAA; Rabbi Mendy Mirocznik, executive vice-president, RAA; Rabbi Yehuda Blank, vice-president, Professional Development and External Affairs, RAA; Mr. Abelardo Aleman; Mr. Yisrael Mizrahi, proprietor, Mizrahi Bookstore; Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak Serebryanski, Rosh Kollel, Ayshel Avraham Zichron Yaakov Rabbinical Seminary; and Rabbi Benjamin Berlin
plores these and other related topics.
Rabbi Yosef Serebryanski, rosh kollel of Kollel Ayshel Avraham Zichron Ya’akov and rabbi of Congregation Beth Tikvah of Canarsie, led the group in reciting Tehillim for all the sick people in the community and all the soldiers and citizens in Israel who are in harm’s way. We pray that they receive Divine protection and healing, and that peace be restored in this world. As a new regime in Syria overthrows the previous wicked dictator, there is a lot of uncertainty about the implications to Israel and the Middle East. We remain cautious in our thoughts but pray that this development furthers the effort for peace in the region and around the world.
Another highlight of the conference was the bestowing of a community ser-
vice award to Officer Vinny Iovine. In his role in the New York Police Department, Officer Iovine coordinated security patrols during the High Holidays across the entire city of New York. At this time of social upheaval and rising antisemitism, the NYPD is rising to the challenge of protecting New York’s citizens from hatred and violence. Officer Iovine is a shining example of excellence in proactive policing and community understanding. n
Chodesh Kislev: A Focus on Kindness and Lending a Helping Hand
Chodesh Kislev has once again been designated by the Staten Island Coun-
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Brian Postiglione, Community Affairs Bureau; Francesca Gallelli, representing, Governor Kathy Hochul; Andrew Surato, representing, Assemblyman Michael Tannousis; Mendy Mirocznik, president, COJO; Sgt. Thomas Rodriguez, Community Affairs Bureau; Officer Steve Brown, Pct. 121; Rabbi Aharon Zeev, Mara D’Atra, Aur Torah Sephardic Minyan; and Officer Brian Postiglione, Community Affairs Bureau; and Mia Ali and Maya Ali
Officer
TALK TO TAMARA : MEDIATION AND BEYOND
By Tamara Gestetner
SMALL BUSINESSES AND MEDIATION: A BETTER WAY TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS
Running a small business is often deeply personal. For many business owners in communities like the Five Towns, your clients aren’t just customers, they’re neighbors and friends. Your vendors aren’t distant corporations, they are people you’ve built trust with over years of collaboration. This interconnectedness is what makes small businesses thrive, but it’s also what makes conflict particularly difficult to navigate. When disputes arise, the stakes can feel higher and the path forward isn’t always clear. As a mediator working with small businesses, I see this all the time. Conflicts start small—a late payment, a disagreement over a lease term, or tension between business partners—and then suddenly snowball into something much larger. Many business owners feel stuck. They don’t want to burn bridges, but they also can’t af-
ford to ignore the issue. At some point, the frustration reaches a breaking point and people assume their only option is to take legal action.
Litigation can seem like a solution, but for small businesses, it often causes more harm than good. Going to court is time-consuming and expensive, and the adversarial nature of the process can destroy professional relationships. For businesses that rely on local partnerships and word-of-mouth referrals, this can have ripple effects, damaging reputations and long-term success. That’s why mediation is such a powerful tool for small businesses: it’s collaborative, efficient, and relationship-focused, helping both sides resolve the conflict while preserving the trust they’ve built.
Not long ago, I worked with two business owners who found themselves at
odds over a partnership dispute. They had launched a small retail shop together with big dreams, but as the business grew, so did their disagreements about roles, responsibilities, and the direction of the company. Misunderstandings turned into arguments, and eventually, communication broke down entirely. Both partners were ready to walk away, but neither wanted to see the business they had built together fall apart.
Mediation allowed them to step away from the conflict and refocus on solutions. Sitting together in a neutral space, they were able to share their frustrations, clarify misunderstandings, and explore options they hadn’t considered before. In the end, they developed a plan to redefine their roles in the business, ensuring that each partner felt valued and heard. Mediation didn’t just resolve the dispute; it allowed them to rebuild their working relationship and keep their shared business moving forward.
The types of conflicts that small businesses can face are incredibly varied. Sometimes it’s a vendor or supplier who isn’t delivering as promised, causing disruptions to your operations. Other times it’s a landlord-tenant disagreement over lease terms, maintenance, or rent payments. Internal disputes with employees over wages or workplace conduct can also arise, threatening team morale. Then there are the inevitable challenges with customers, conflicts over expectations, payments, or quality of service.
In all of these cases, mediation offers a practical alternative to litigation. Instead of months (or years) spent arguing in court, mediation can often resolve disputes in a matter of days or weeks. It’s also significantly less expensive, sparing small businesses the financial burden of attorney fees and drawn-out proceedings. But perhaps most importantly, mediation is about finding solutions and not assigning blame. It provides a safe, neutral space where both sides can communicate honestly and work toward a resolution that benefits everyone.
This focus on collaboration makes mediation especially valuable for small businesses. Relationships are everything in a community like the Five Towns. A dispute with a vendor or landlord doesn’t just affect your bottom line—it affects your rep-
utation and your ability to do business in the future. Mediation helps preserve these relationships by fostering understanding and trust, and allowing both sides to move forward without lingering resentment. Another key benefit of mediation is its flexibility. Unlike a courtroom, where outcomes are decided by judges and lawyers, mediation puts control back into the hands of the people involved. The mediator doesn’t impose a solution, but instead guides the conversation, helping both sides explore options and create an agreement that works for them. This flexibility often leads to more creative, lasting solutions than a court ruling ever could.
For small business owners, the idea of sitting down with someone with whom you’re in conflict can feel uncomfortable at first. But in my experience, most people are surprised by how productive the process can be. Mediation allows both sides to be heard, not just in terms of facts and figures, but in terms of their frustrations, concerns, and hopes for the future. Once those underlying issues are on the table, it’s much easier to work toward a resolution that feels fair and satisfying to everyone involved.
Conflict is an inevitable part of doing business, but how you handle it can make all the difference. Mediation gives small business owners a way to resolve disputes quickly, cost-effectively, and collaboratively without jeopardizing the relationships that are so critical to their success.
If you’re facing a conflict, whether it’s with a partner, vendor, landlord, or an employee, consider mediation before turning to the courts. It’s not just about solving a problem; it’s about preserving your time, your resources, and the relationships that make your business thrive. n
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PUZZLES
By Yoni Glatt
Crossword: The Staff Of Wonders
Across
1. According to Pirkei DeRabbi Eliezer the staff was first given to him…
5. …who passed it to him…
10. Who passed it to Noah…who passed it to him…
14. Sport with huge athletes
15. Casablanca actor Peter
16. Notable treif creature
17. “___ ___ Ordinary Man” (My Fair Lady song)
18. Words before “if I never left,” for one returning from a long journey
19. Oklahoma city, and a woman’s name
20. …who passed it to him…
22. Code name, to Dan Brown?
24. “Down goes Frazier!” sportscaster Howard
26. …who passed it to him…
27. …who passed it to him…
30. Tithed portion
32. Lab eggs
33. 10th-inning counterparts, briefly
34. Former leader in Italy
38. …who passed it to him…
41. …who took it from Pharaoh’s palace and placed it in his garden where no one could move it until…
42. “Band” option for a small simcha
43. Sydney’s state, for short
45. Word after “first” or “foreign”
46. Like many an O. Henry story
48. …he took the staff and used it to show G-d’s wonders…
50. …these men of Judah inherited the staff, until it was hidden…
53. Sleepless in Seattle director
55. Fan base, maybe
57. …until he comes.
61. Greek cuisine staple
62. Amid the waves
64. With passivity
65. Mario’s racer, in video games
66. Claim, as insanity
67. Like the Zohar
68. On the calm side, during 10-Across’ time on the water
69. Many of the men in this puzzle, e.g.
70. 27-Across certainly did not have a life of ___ Down
1. Bhutan is in it
2. Like Jordan’s decision to attack Israel in 1967
3. Start of many a Mishna
4. Country on the coast of France
5. Elijah, to Greeks
6. “Don’t worry, it’s ___ ___” (words when serving a Beyond burger to a vegetarian
7. Places for organ repairs, briefly
8. Where a baby sleeps
9. Words before “real nowhere man” (Beatles lyric)
10. “Ki ___ yamim asah…”
11. Co-creator of Yogi and Boo-Boo
12. Torah scholar Brown
13. Hatzolah volunteer, perhaps
21. Nob preceder
23. Curriculum ___ (resume)
25. Sgts. superiors
27. “Rabbit” in a 2019 film
28. Shakespeare’s river
29. Job for an attorney
31. Org. for women of “the tribe”
33. “That’s disappointing”
35. Israeli party
36. R&B singer India
37. Staffs
39. Leave the country, perhaps
40. Take apart grammatically
43. Little bit, as of schnapps
44. Spread
47. Quik maker
48. Criminals’ ways, in police slang
49. Kind of kick, in the NFL
50. The Trial author Franz
51. As good as it gets
52. Dame’s introduction?
54. Leins
56. Talks to a beat
58. It can be big or bright
59. They can be dark or pale
60. Promotional hoopla
63. 26-Across could not do this well later in life
Jewish Spelling Bee
How many common words of 5 or more letters can you spell using the letters in the hive? Every answer must use the center letter at least once. Letters may be reused in a word. At least one word will use all 7 letters at least once and have a direct Jewish connection. Proper names and hyphenated words are not allowed. Score 1 point for each answer, and 3 points for a Jewish word that uses all 7 letters. Rating: 18=Good; 20=Excellent; 24=Genius Common solutions to last issue’s Spelling Bee: Nimshal. Animal, animalism, animals, annal, annals, assassin, assassins, lains, mammal, mammals, mania, manias, manna, mannish, minim, minimal, minimalism, minis, naans, nails, nanna, nannas, nasal, nashim, nihilism, shaman, shamans, shana, shins, siman, simanim, simian, simians.
Puzzle appeared on Page 72 of the December 13 issue.
Yoni Glatt explains, “I was working on a secular puzzle for another publication where I had ROSS AND RACHEL as a theme answer. I realized I could probably make a fun puzzle with famous fictional Jewish couples in pop culture. It turns out there really aren’t as many as you think (at least ones that can fit in a 15x15 grid). TEVYE AND GOLDE was easy, and HELEN AND MORDY (Seinfeld) wasn’t too tough either. But finding that fourth one was a challenge. So I went with (Miracle) MAX AND VALERIE from “The Princess Bride.” I know the movie never specifically says they’re Jewish.... but c’mon, we all know they are.”
cil of Jewish Organizations (COJO) as a month dedicated to kindness and lending a helping hand. This initiative, inspired by Rabbi Aharon Zeev, mara d’atra and Spiritual Leader of the Aur Torah Sephardic Minyan in New Springville, emphasizes community responsibility over individualism, particularly during a time often overshadowed by commercialization.
Rabbi Aharon Zeev explained the significance behind this initiative:
“As a community rabbi, my responsibility is to encourage Torah and mitzvot while guiding the community toward meaningful action. During this season, which includes Chanukah and the conclusion of the secular year, we risk losing focus on the ‘we’ in favor of the ‘me.’ My fear is that we may overlook those in need. I am proud that when I shared the idea of dedicating Kislev to kindness with Oshri Reuven, President of Aur Torah; his wife, Iva Reuven, COJO’s Food Pantry and Social Services Director; and my dear friend Mendy Mirocznik, President of COJO, they enthusiastically embraced it and implemented a plan of action. It is heartening to see a community respond so positively to chesed, ensuring that no one is forgotten.”
Iva Reuven, COJO’s Social Services Director, highlighted the community’s response, “From social services, benefit processing, and food pantry distribu-
tions to job resources, COJO participated fully. It was inspiring to see the community galvanize and embrace Rabbi Zeev’s vision. I am especially proud of our COJO Service Committee. The success of any project lies in the team behind it, and our dedicated team truly are the chesed warriors who made this month remarkable. I want to thank our COJO President, Mendy Mirocznik, whose hands-on leadership and energy ensure every initiative’s success.”
Mendy Mirocznik, COJO President, emphasized the importance of this effort, “The COJO food pantry and social services operations never take a vacation because poverty and food insecurity never do. Rabbi Zeev’s message is timely: in a world where commercialization promotes selfishness, we must pause, reflect, and focus on helping others. During the long, dark winter nights, it is easy to focus on vacations and festivities, but we must remember our responsibility to alleviate the struggles of those around us. By pausing to consider others, we bring kindness back into the community equation and transform not only ourselves but the world.”
Mirocznik extended his gratitude to the NYPD for their participation in COJO’s Chodesh Kislev projects: “The NYPD is an invaluable partner in all of our community activities. Their involvement strengthens police-community relations and enhances Staten Island’s quality of life. It also reminds us that behind every uniform is a caring
individual who wants to make a difference. I thank Chief Melissa Eger, Staten Island Borough Commander; Lt. Rafet Awad, Commanding Officer, Community Affairs; Inspector Glorisel Lee, Commanding Officer, Pct. 121; Captain Matthew Divito, Executive Officer, Pct. 121; Officer Andrew Brown, Officer Steve Brown, Sgt. Thomas Rodriguez, Officer Brian Postiglione, and Officer Beshouy Rizkalla of the Community Affairs Bureau. Your participation elevated our initiatives, and we look forward to continuing our partnership.”
Chief Melissa Eger, Staten Island Borough Commander, praised COJO’s efforts: “Staten Island is blessed to have
organizations like COJO and dedicated leaders such as Mendy Mirocznik. Events like these provide the NYPD with invaluable insight into community needs and help strengthen relationships. Mendy’s advocacy and leadership foster partnerships that make Staten Island safer and more united. Participating in these initiatives gave us an opportunity to focus on chesed, which ultimately makes us a stronger police department.”
The Chodesh Kislev initiative continues to inspire the Staten Island community to pause, reflect, and act with kindness, demonstrating the transformative power of chesed and communal responsibility. n
Yosef dreamed a dream, and told it to his brothers . . . “Behold, we were binding sheaves in the field, and, lo, my sheaf arose, and also stood upright; and, behold, your sheaves stood round about, and bowed down to my sheaf.”
(Bereishis 37:5–7)
We live in a disjointed and fragmented world. Its countless components each seem to be going its own way, each creation seeking only its own preservation and advancement. Our own lives include countless events and experiences, espousing different priorities, pulling us in different directions.
But this is but the most superficial face of reality. The deeper we probe nature and its laws, the more we uncover an underlying unity. The more we assimilate the lessons of life, the more we discern a “guiding hand” and a coherent destiny. The more we utilize our talents and resources, all the more do the various aspects of our uniquely individual role fall in place.
This is the deeper significance of Yosef’s dream. We are all bundlers in the field of life. Here, each stalk grows in its own distinct little furrow; our challenge is to bring focus to this diversity, to gather these stalks together and bind them as a single sheave.
But this alone is not enough. As Yosef saw in his dream, his brothers’ individual bundles stood in a circle and bowed to his. This means that while every individual should view the various components of his life as a distinct “bundle,” the piecing together of his life is not an end in itself, but the means to a higher goal. In the words of our sages, “The entire world was created only for my sake; and I was created only to serve my Creator.” So while every person should view his entire world—the resources and opportunities which Divine Providence has sent his way—as being there for him, this “bundle” must in turn be dedicated to the fulfillment of his Divinely ordained mission in life.
The way this is achieved is by subjugating one’s own bundle to “Yosef’s bundle.”
The Torah is G‑d’s communication of His will to man, and charts the course for man to serve his Creator. And each generation has its “Yosef,” an utterly righteous individual whose life is the perfect embodiment of Torah’s ethos and ideals. This is the tzaddik whom the “bundles” of the various tribes of Israel surround and subjugate themselves to, turning to him for guidance as how best to realize the purpose of their lives.
(The Lubavitcher Rebbe)
ONE YEAR LATER, OUJLIC TLV AND ONCE DISPLACED KIBBUTZ NIR AM COMMUNITY CONTINUE TO GROW FRIENDSHIP
When Rabbi Joe Wolfson learned shortly after October 7 that tens of thousands of evacuees from Israel’s southern and northern regions would be relocating to hundreds of hotels in his city of Tel Aviv, he immediately rallied his community to help them.
Rabbi Wolfson and his wife Corinne run Tel Aviv’s Jewish Learning Initiative on Campus (JLIC TLV), a young professional community near Dizengoff Street composed of singles in their 20’s and 30’s, and young families. A division
of the Orthodox Union, JLIC creates warm communities for North American and Israeli students and young professionals, and offers a religious framework that includes Torah study, halachic and spiritual guidance from a resident rabbinic couple, Shabbat and holiday meals, and regular social events, shiurim, holiday celebrations, and shabbatons
“While most other JLICs are affiliated with universities and are largely located on college campuses, JLIC TLV is the first community that has nothing to do with a university,” says Rabbi Wolfson,
who launched the Tel Aviv chapter with Corinne in 2022. “Originally we had envisioned that this branch would help olim to acclimate, but its focus
has broadened tremendously. We have around 450 active members, and about 20 percent of them were born in Israel.”
JLIC TLV’s regular programs include weekly shiurim, as well as Shabbat and holiday initiatives like tishes, meal match-ups, and get-togethers in the park. Rabbi Wolfson, who also volunteers as the community’s rabbi at a local shul, says JLIC TLV accords significant value to connecting with and supporting the community at large.
“JLIC is part of a greater city, and there are multiple ways to connect to your neighborhood,” he says. “One of them is being a good neighbor and helping people in need. For example, prewar, we did this through forging connections with elderly Shoah survivors, and working in a local homeless shelter. It is very much two-directional. We benefit just as much as the recipients do.” Shortly after evacuees from the south and north arrived in Tel Aviv in October 2023, teams of JLIC TLV members visited various hotels to get a sense of how they might be able to help. For the first six weeks, Rabbi Wolfson says, the aid was strictly humanitarian, and JLIC TLV members cooked over 700 meals for evacuees across five hotels.
After the evacuees’ basic needs were met, JLIC TLV got to work supporting them in other important ways, including creating a work-match website for those who had lost their jobs due to relocation, and pairing evacuee families with JLIC TLV members who could befriend them and guide them around the community.
Since October 7, JLIC TLV has run over 150 weekly activities for evacuee children in 24 hotels, including carnivals, theme-park outings, bringing ice cream trucks to the hotels, and arts and crafts activities.
JLIC TLV member Raquel B. has found volunteering with JLIC particularly fulfilling. “On October 7, everyone was just looking for things they could do to help,” says the digital brand manager and content creator. “My friends and I ran weekly children’s activities like Chanukah and Purim carnivals, and also
Kibbutz Nir Am community members transform a blank canvas into a vibrant butterfly, each colorful handprint telling a story of unity, creativity, and collective joy
acquired a number of items that evacuees requested, like haggadot for Pesach. JLIC TLV was so kind, they covered the costs of all of our supplies. Incredibly, Rabbi Wolfson found donors who were willing to sponsor all of the activities, including large-scale ones.”
Among the hotels where JLIC TLV lent support was Herods, where the residents of Kibbutz Nir Am had temporarily relocated. Situated less than a kilometer from Sderot, Nir Am is the closest kibbutz to Gaza. On October 7, electricity to the kibbutz was knocked out by rockets. Thanks to the quick thinking of security coordinator Inbal Lieberman, who decided not to restore the power, the kibbutz’s security gate remained disabled, preventing terrorists from gaining entry. Inbal and her 12-member security team heroically fought terrorists for over three hours until Tzahal arrived.
Through regular interactions with the children of Nir Am at Herods, JLIC TLV members began to form relationships with the families. “When our relationship began a year ago, it was right around Parashat Lech Lecha, where Avraham and Sara are the embodiment of hachnasat orchim,” reflects Rabbi Wolfson. “It was very powerful that this coincided with when we began to form connections with the evacuee families.”
He adds, “We always started all of our programming with the evacuated communities by saying, ‘We don’t consider this chesed, or tzedakah. This is hachnasat orchim. You are guests in our city, and we’d love to host you, like anyone else. The only thing that we ask from you is that when it’s good for you, you invite us back to your community.’”
In mid-August, Nir Am members were told they would be returning to the kibbutz in about 10 days’ time. In preparation, JLIC TLV sourced 300 red roses for Nir Am’s children to give as thanks to each hotel staff member, and then hosted a beautiful farewell party, attended by 250 kibbutz members. Rabbi Wolfson raised funds for the event, and JLIC TLV members used their skills to run what he calls “an incredible final send-off” at the hotel shortly before their departure.
“Our JLIC volunteers organized everything, and it was absolutely amazing,” says Raquel B. “We ordered all of the food, drinks, and supplies. At the party, we featured photos with memories of our time together. The people of Nir Am were so grateful and are just so lovely.”
Eyal Massad, his wife Efrat, and their young daughters Ofir and Adva were among the Nir Am members who attended the goodbye party. Massad says it was on a scale beyond what anyone could have imagined. “We thought it was going to be a very small party, but JLIC TLV elevated it to something very special,” he says. “There really aren’t words to describe what they did for this event. People were so surprised, and it was exciting to see the connections that were forged at the party. It was very meaningful.”
saying goodbye. “It’s been very meaningful to work with JLIC TLV for over 400 days, and also to finally see the Nir Am community return home,” she says. “Bonding with the kids and their parents was amazing, and I’m glad we are able to continue seeing them regularly. We’ve become very close.”
After a period of settling in, the kibbutz invited JLIC TLV to a party celebrating their relationship on Chol Hamoed Sukkot. About 400 people from both communities enjoyed a full day of activities that included carnival games, prizes, inflatables, music, a barbecue, and a bonfire.
Rabbi Wolfson says that both communities were eager to continue their relationship, even once the evacuees returned home. “We realized we shouldn’t be thinking about this as a one-off, but rather as an ongoing friendship in which each community is able to give something to the other, so that something good comes out of this horrible period.”
At the end of August, Nir Am members moved back to their kibbutz. For volunteers like Raquel B., it was comforting to know that they were exchanging wishes of l’hitraot (see you again) rather than
“Nir Am hosted us in the most gracious, warm way imaginable,” says Shira Greenspan, an award-winning educator, author, and artist from Modi’in. “The day was just beautiful and so uplifting. The celebration enabled the Nir Am community, especially the kids, to build new memories and positive associations of being together and welcoming people
A JLIC Tel Aviv volunteer dives into shelter renovation, proving that making a difference starts with rolling up your sleeves and embracing the mess
to their kibbutz.”
One of the projects that the communities launched that day was mural painting on the kibbutz’s many megunioyot (concrete shelters.) Greenspan was part of a team of three talented artists enlisted by JLIC TLV to create the mural designs and oversee the project. She says she became involved out of her desire to help others, and also to put a positive spin on the shelters, which connote danger and negative associations for many children.
The mural she designed is on a megunit (shelter) where the kibbutz children meet daily to board buses to school. In addition to creating the vision—each wall features an element of the kibbutz along with a “portal” overlooking another part of Israel—Greenspan also guided the volunteers who participated in the activity.
“Each mural is beautiful and reflects the painters’ styles,” she says. “Over 100
people were involved in this initiative, and each volunteer came with such enthusiasm. While we were painting, there was a siren. In the midst of painting these meguniyot as a celebration of healing, it was a rude reminder that this war is not over. The people of Nir Am are still facing so much, which makes any opportunity that we can help that much more meaningful.”
Massad, who was one of the day’s organizers, says the day will long be remembered as one that raised everyone’ spirits.
“To have the meguniyot painted with colorful designs really brought light to the kibbutz,” he notes. “Weeks later, people still stop me around the kibbutz to tell me how amazing that day was on Chol Hamoed Sukkot. And it’s just the beginning. We really want to further develop this relationship between our communities. My vision is that families will host the JLIC TLV community to stay over and that we will be close for many years to come. It has really been a privilege to get to know the JLIC TLV
community.”
Rabbi Wolfson says that JLIC TLV and Nir Am are currently discussing future plans, including Chanukah parties, English lessons for Nir Am children taught by JLIC TLV members, meeting up for pizza in Ashkelon, and Nir Am families adopting lone soldiers from the JLIC TLV community.
JLIC Executive Director Rabbi Josh Ross is proud of the communities’ growing bond. “In the aftermath of unimaginable tragedy, JLIC TLV and Kibbutz Nir Am have discovered something profound: true healing happens through connection. Our partnership isn’t just about rebuilding communities, but about rebuilding hope, one friendship at a time.” n
OU Releases New Study: The Challenges of Singlehood among American Orthodox Jews Part II
In a community that so strongly values marriage, a large population
is often overlooked—Orthodox Jews who are ready to settle down but are unable to find their spouse. It’s the community’s job to help them.
The Orthodox Union’s Center for Communal Research (OU-CCR) department has released a new report, “The Challenges of Singlehood among American Orthodox Jews Part II.” This study focuses on what single Orthodox men and women want in a spouse, the processes and systems used to find dates, and what individuals and community members can do to help singles find their match.
Some top findings from the study suggest:
• Although participants spoke about being encouraged to move to New York for dating purposes, there are pros and cons of both dating in and out of the Greater New York area. Orthodox single men and women in Greater New York are not more confident that they will find a spouse than those not living there, nor are they more likely to have been involved with someone they would be willing to marry.
• Many do not feel they can find a partner on their own. Qualitatively, however, some men and women are critical of their interactions with matchmakers and say the experience of working with a matchmaker can be negative, and at times, hurtful.
• The U.S. trend towards marrying later in life or choosing to remain single does not appear to be affecting the Orthodox community, in that most single Orthodox men and women want to get married and build a family. Close to nine out of ten respondents believe their lives will be fuller and happier if they are married. They are making every effort to find their spouse.
This research project took a mixed methods approach, collecting and analyzing both quantitative and qualitative data—utilizing surveys of Orthodox single Jews, as well as interviews with Orthodox single Jews, matchmakers, rabbis, rebbetzins , and community leaders. Participants self-identified as Modern or Centrist Orthodox (58%), Hasidic or Chabad (6%), Modern Yeshivish (6%), Modern Orthodox Machmir (4%), Liberal Modern Orthodox, Open Orthodox, or Conservadox (3%), or “some other type of Orthodox” (8%).
The report is a follow-up to Part I of the study, which was released in September 2023 and focused on educating the community about what we can do to remedy negative aspects of the single experience, such as reported feelings of blame and judgment. This report focuses on the other challenge of singlehood – actually finding a spouse.
Read the full study at https:// research.ou.org/content/uploads/2024/12/Final-CCR-Singlehood-Study-Part-2-11.27.24.pdf n
A Clever TiTle Goes here
By Mordechai Schmutter
THE GIFT OF STRESS
Once again, we present the annual Chanukah gift guide, which is the only gift guide that prides itself on the following three principles:
1. It’s printed just a little too late for you to actually do anything useful with this information.
2. It’s full of items that you can basically guarantee that your recipients do not already have, and 3. they’re also items you would never in a million years want to keep for yourself.
Our goal, at the gift guide, is to remove some of your stress of the yom tov season by suggesting gifts that may instead transfer the stress to the lives of the people you’re giving them to.
And yes, we understand that not everyone does Chanukah presents. These are the perfect gifts for those people. Because how are they going to retaliate, huh? They already don’t give you presents!
For example, you can get someone
Ear-Heating Headphones (Thanko, $67). This is a set of in-ear headphones that do not play music. Instead, they’re designed to heat up the inside of your ears, which would be worrisome if you didn’t know that that’s what they were supposed to do.
I think maybe one reader in the entire world is saying, “Finally! Where have these been all my life?”
According to the company, some people need the inside of their ears to be warm in order to fall asleep. I understand that different people need different things, but as someone who keeps flipping my pillows all summer to find the cool side, there’s nothing I want more than an object at the side of my head acting as a warmer.
“But wait,” you’re saying. “Didn’t you write about a news story a couple of years ago wherein a man woke up one morning to find that he’d swallowed one of his ear buds in his sleep? Isn’t creating earbuds specifically to sleep in just
asking for trouble?”
And the answer is “No, because these have a cord.” Or the answer is “Definitely yes, because these have a cord.”
I personally can’t wear in-ear headphones, because no matter what I do, they fall out. And I especially think these would, because I assume that heating up your ears only makes things more slippery in there. So I always use over-ear headphones. And it turns out the ones I have already keep my ears warm, despite not advertising as such. And the good news is that I’m generally not at risk of swallowing them!
These earbuds are also great if you want to listen in on people’s conversations and have them assume you’re listening to music.
Allow plenty of time for delivery, because the product has to come from Japan. The way you know it wasn’t made by English speakers is that it’s not called earmuff buds. Or heat phones.
And speaking of eavesdropping, that same company in Japan also makes a set of headphones that has the sound pointed away from your ears. That way, you can share your music with the tzibur, like those people do who drive around your neighborhood with their tunes blasting outside the car, or an SUV limo full of bochurim on Purim.
Supposedly, the idea behind the headphones, which are called Sounds Lives Stereo Earphone (Thanko, $7), is so you can hear outside sounds better without
pulling out an earbud every few seconds and saying, “What?” in an annoyed tone that expresses your displeasure at people constantly talking to you while you’re hanging out near them with headphones in.
This way, no one will talk to you when your music is on, because they’ll be able to hear it.
The way you can tell that this product is not made by English speakers is that it’s called “Sounds Lives Stereo Earphones.” I don’t even know how to say that. Is it pronounced lives or lives? Neither way helps the name make sense.
Another product made by that same company is the Yubi Nobiiru, or Thumb Extender (Thanko, $14). This is a little hat that you wear over your thumb to extend its length a bit so you can reach greater distances on a touch screen device than your grandparents ever thought were possible. And so you won’t get as many stares, it’s colored to look like a thumb that one would use for magic tricks, that for some reason has a black touch-screen bubble on the front.
And if you need to blow your nose, presto! You can keep a handkerchief scrunched up inside.
You can also wear this thumb over your mittens so you can continue to use your device in the cold.
Also, if you’re washing dishes or cutting vegetables and your actual fingers
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are not going to work on the screen, you can just keep this at your side on the counter until someone walks into the kitchen and calls Hatzalah.
But as a gift in general, you can’t go wrong with phone accessories. Or maybe you can. For example, you can buy someone a Smart Spray (Tayos Inc., $10), which is a cellphone case with a built-in container on the back that can hold a couple of ounces of liquid, and has a small spray nozzle on top. You can fill this container with whatever liquid you might need at a moment’s notice in your day-to-day life out on the road, changing it by the day—pepper spray, sour candy spray, perfume, suntan lotion, hand sanitizer, window cleaner, bug spray, salad dressing, furniture polish, shirt starch, mayim acharonim, or a breath spray that tastes like one of the above—whichever one you used right before you put in the breath spray.
The possibilities are endless, as long as you wash it well in between!
That way, let’s say you c’v are getting mugged, you can whip out your phone, and rather than calling the cops, you can hold it up so he thinks you’re taking a video of him, but instead you give him a face full of salad dressing.
“Oh, that’s right. I brought lunch to work yesterday.”
Another good item for people who carry around a lot of stuff is the Swissdigital Neptune Massaging Backpack (B&H $140). Carrying a heavy backpack all day can make your back sore, but what if I told you that you can alleviate some of that pain by carrying around an even heavier backpack?
This backpack has massaging points on the back that will massage you, and to a lesser extent whoever you wind up pressed against on the subway. The backpack has four little vibrating patches—two on the shoulders and two at the lower back. Or, the way knapsacks fall when most people wear them, who knows where they’ll hit? Definitely not the intended places. You’d have to sit down with the backpack on—on a bus or train, for example—and press your back against it, smushing whatever you have in there.
“Oh, that’s right. I brought salad again today.”
But it’s a good way to get rid of stress, such as the stress of being the only weirdo in the work van wearing a seatbelt with your backpack still on, going, “Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh,” and avoiding eye contact.
According to the promotional materials, the battery can give you five hours of massage time, though if you need five hours of massage time in a day, go see a doctor.
There is also a secret pocket for valuables, so if someone steals the backpack… Okay, he’ll still have your valuables, but he won’t immediately realize it! In his face!
It’s also said to be TSA friendly, unless you leave the massaging part switched on while it’s going through the scanner.
The only other downside is you can’t actually wear this in the rain, or wash it.
You can also get someone the Banana Loca ($30). This is a kitchen gadget that allows you to, quote, “core and fill a banana while it’s still in its peel.” Instead of after taking off the peel, like our ancestors, zichronam livracha
“Fill it with what?” you ask. Me too.
Well, according to the manufacturer, you can fill it with chocolate spread, peanut butter, jelly, or even custard, like a healthier doughnut! In the old days, you’d have to manually spread these things on your bananas, like a chump, but this way, you have this hard straw thing that pulls out the middle of the banana, and you can do Ribbono-Shel-Olam-knows-what with that, and then you insert another straw into the now-hollow banana and you press the pump and WHOOSH! The banana sails across the room. There’s a learning curve, according to reviews.
And there’s no mess! Besides having to clean peanut butter out of a straw. And speaking of shalom bayis, what if you’re like, “I want to get my wife jewelry, but I don’t want to spend a lot on something she might not like.” So we say, why not spend a little on something she might not like? You can get her Realistic Spider Earrings (Amazon, $9 each)! These are earrings that look like there is a daddy longlegs gently crawling up the side of the wearer’s face. It’s great for someone who likes fun earrings that are shaped like actual things, as opposed to plain boring geometric shapes, and also for someone who wants to spend their day getting slapped in the face by well-meaning friends. Sometimes by two at once! It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
This is also great if you would like— every time your wife comes near her dresser—to have her heart skip a beat. Not to mention the first time she opens the box.
It might add stress to her day, but then you can be like, “Here! Wear my knapsack.” n
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So he sent him out of the vale of Hebron, and he came to Shechem (Bereishis 37:14)
A place predestined for evil: in Shechem Dinah was violated; in Shechem Yosef was sold by his brothers; and in Shechem the kingdom of the House of David was divided (Melachim 1, 12:1).
(Talmud, Sanhedrin 102a)
SoulS on Fire
By Rabbi Chaim Shaul Bruk
MUSINGS OF A SHLIACH FROM MONTANA
Friday is Yud Tes Kislev, the Chag HaChagim, the Holiday of Holidays. But before I discuss this special day, I want to share with you what happened with Will.
Jews come in all shapes and sizes. We can’t judge any person’s unique Jewish experience and the aftereffects of that experience. We must always focus on the neshamah since we are not G-d and cannot judge others. We are fellow Jews and meant to see our brothers and sisters for who they are at their core, pure and holy, members of Klal Yisrael. When I first chatted with Will a few years ago, he was generous and kind, but somewhat cold and distant. He wanted to lend us some support because he heard nice things about us, but he wasn’t seeking to become more involved in Yiddishkeit because, in our first phone call, he said “Rabbi, my kids aren’t Jewish because I married a non-Jew…”
He understood his reality better than most.
Over the years, I’ve stayed in touch with Will and his family. Always brought them matzah for Pesach, honey cake for Rosh Hashanah, and other holiday treats. They became warmer and warmer, and I think they started to understand the importance of our work for the future of the Jewish people. For the first time this past Friday, he and his wife joined me for a meeting at shul. They walked into the shul, and before I could even say hello, they saw the JEM video of the Rebbe, z’tl, playing on the screen and said, “What’s that playing?” I told him it was a video of the Lubavitcher Rebbe Schneerson and he said, “Schneerson? I visited him when I was about five years old, or maybe eight. He asked his secretary to get a dollar and he gave me one.” This was in the sixties. I was shocked.
Here’s a Yid who has been out of the loop for decades, but growing up super traditional, he visited the Rebbe. How did I not know this until now? What a story! I knew that he was a descendant of Reb Elimelech of Lizhensk, but this was new and eye-opening. After our meeting, which was about the growth of Chabad in Montana and issues related to Israel, I asked him if he would put on tefillin and right there, two hours before licht bentching (candle lighting), Shamai ben Asher Alter put on tefillin for the first time in about fifty years.
I share this story because this is the essence of the Yud Tes Kislev story. His-
torically, Jews like Will would have been written off by their Jewish community. They would claim he was a “this” or a “that” and his decisions would have led Klal Yisrael to think they could exist without him. Along came the Baal Shem Tov, and later the Magid of Mezritch, followed by the Alter Rebbe, the Baal HaTanya, who shined the Baal Shem Tov’s light, and revealed that the soul of a Jew is always connected, especially when their disconnect was circumstantial, not maliciously heretical. We are obligated to ensure that they know how Hashem sees them, and that they always feel at home among their Jewish family. When we study Tanya, and all sefarim of penimiyus haTorah, the inner layer of Torah, we see the depth of the soul through the depth of Torah, and at the core there is an unbreakable bond between Father and child, between HaKadosh Baruch Hu and His children.
In this week’s Parashat Vayeishev, my bar mitzvah parashah, we read about Yosef HaTzaddik in the home of Potifar and his immoral wife. She seeks to seduce Yosef into acting depravedly with her, and he’s very close to following her lead. Yet, at the last moment, just before he’s overtaken by temptation, he sees the visage of his father, Yaakov, the image of holiness and purity in his mind, and he’s reminded of who he is and with that memory, he holds off from committing the sin.
In the Sefer Yefeh Nof (authored by Rav Shmuel Yaffe Ashkenazi, born around 1525 in Bursa, Turkey, and is a commentary on Midrash Shmuel) it states that, “Yosef looked in the mirror and saw his
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The Baal HaTanya, the first Rebbe of Chabad
face. He remembered how similar his facial features were to his father Yaakov’s, and with that in mind, he decided to honor his father and refrain from committing a sin which would be bad for him and bring dishonor to his family,” The Rebbe, zt’l, adds that Yosef remembered that his father’s beauty was like that of Adam HaRishon, as Yaakov was the one who rectified the sin of Adam, and Yosef didn’t feel like messing that up because he knew how hard his father worked to fix this sin.
Truthfully, one never knows what will awaken the Pintele Yid, the essence of a Jew. I don’t know that a Yid will manage to fulfill all 613 mitzvos during their lifetime, but if they are giving tzedakah to holy causes, laying tefillin, putting up a mezuzah, using the mikvah on time, does that not count? Of course it does! It brings holiness to them, to their families, and to the world. In addition, if their action of holiness doesn’t count, then we’d have to ask ourselves if it counts for us? Because if the single act is a big zero, then doing it many times is not any better, as one thousand times zero is still zero.
Tzedakah in particular is considered in the Gemara, Midrash, and Zohar as the most valuable mitzvah. As the Baal HaTanya explains, when one gives their hard-earned cash, cash that came to him or her through blood, sweat, and tears, it’s giving of their essence to tzedakah and that is of the highest value. In a Maamar on the verse in Psalm 55 “Padah BeShalom Nafshi” taught in 1958 the Rebbe lauds tzedakah as being even greater than tefillah, prayer, in some ways. So, if a Jew isn’t involved in 612 mitzvos but gives tzedakah to holy causes, who are we to minimize the impact of that mitzvah on their soul and their connection to Hashem?
In addition to Pharaoh’s birthday in the parashah, on Monday I celebrated my 43rd birthday. As we traveled to New York for the Chai Lifeline Dinner, I merited to make it to the Rebbe’s Ohel in Queens just before sunset on my birthday. I ponder, at times, what my life would look like if I wasn’t a Chassid of the Rebbe and his shliach to Montana. While I don’t know exactly how that would look, I do know that I am grateful every day to be in the position that I am to serve Klal Yisrael and to see Will and all my fellow Jews through the lens the Rebbe gave me and the entire world.
In the book “Aba” that I was reading over Shabbos, author Ari Samit shares a story about Eliyahu Amikam, who was born in Poland in 1915, moved to Israel in 1935, joined the Haganah, later when with Etezl, even later joining Lechi, becoming one of Israel’s first Airforce pilots, married in 1947, and eventually became a renowned journalist, including at Israeli newspaper Yedioth Ahronoth He had a weekly column and was considered fairly right-wing. Among the many columns he wrote was a scathing article
about Meir Vilner, who was an avowed Israeli Communist, one of the founders of the Israeli Communist party and a staunch supporter of everything Arab. In 1967, he was the sole member of the Knesset who spoke out against the SixDay War and was later stabbed by Avraham Ben Moshe, although he, baruch Hashem, recovered.
In his column following the stabbing, Eliyahu wrote that “It was too bad that the blade wasn’t a bit longer and slightly sharper…” Someone like Eliyahu saw Meir as a self-hating Jew, making life hard for his fellow Jews and siding with the enemy. In Eliyahu’s eyes Meir was worthy of losing his life over it.
fully. That’s why it says, “Jews are filled with mitzvos like a pomegranate is filled with seeds,” because the few mitzvos that they do fill them fully.
On Motzaei Shabbos I received an email from Gary, a visiting Jew from East Hampton who was in town and wanted to swing by Sunday morning to put on tefillin and see the Chabad Center. Indeed, on Sunday morning we farbrenged together a bit, and he shared with me all the Chabad rabbis he knows around the world, and he got to do his mitzvah in the shul. Can any of us judge the value of that moment of holiness?
Hashem wants the inner spark of every Jew to shine, so sometimes He
“All Jews are worthy of sitting in the same sukkah on Sukkos.”
When Eliyahu arrived in New York about two weeks later, he went to visit the Rebbe to receive lekach honey cake on Hoshanah Rabah. The Rebbe wished him a “Shanah Tovah u’Metukah,” and then said, “This isn’t how we talk about fellow Jews.” When Eliyahu tried to defend himself by saying that Meir Vilner is really bad, the Rebbe said, “Please ask my secretary to give you a copy of my recent farbrengen from the 6th of Tishrei.”
At that farbrengen, the Rebbe addressed the Gemara that says, “All Jews are worthy of sitting in the same sukkah on Sukkos.” How can it be, asked the Rebbe, that a Kohen Gadol could sit in a sukkah with a woman married to a non-Jew?
In the same sukkah? Fulfilling the mitzvah simultaneously? And he went on to explain that when a Jew does even one mitzvah that’s what fills them entirely. The sins they do are on the outside, superficial, but the mitzvos they do fill them
VAYESHEV: THE HEBREW HAMMERS (PART 1/2)
BY RABBI REUVEN CHAIM KLEIN
As the holiday of Chanukah approaches, I felt that it would be appropriate to focus our attention on one of the enigmatic terms associated with the holiday—Maccabee. Although conventional wisdom understands that word as a Latinized form of the Hebrew makevet (“hammer”), various other ways of explaining the term Maccabee have been proffered over the generations. Therefore, Part I of this essay explores the different ways that Maccabee has been explained, focusing on what the word might mean and how it should really be spelled. In Part II of this essay, we discuss various Hebrew words for “hammer” and attempt to determine whether or not those words are truly synonymous.
It should be stated from the onset that the term Maccabee does not appear in the Talmud or anywhere elsewhere in Chazal, and certainly not in the Bible. Yet, for reasons to be made clear below, the name has been associated with the Hasmoneans whose victory over the Syrian-Greeks led to establishment of the holiday of Chanukah. That appellation is especially associated with one of the heroes of the Chanukah story, Judah Maccabee, a son of Matityahu. But it also came to refer to all the Hasmoneans and those who fought on their side against the Syrian-Greeks.
shakes things up to get that part of us to come to the forefront to reveal itself, but don’t be fooled: the core of the Jew is pure and holy. Sadly, Meir Vilner was never told about Eliyahu’s interaction with the Rebbe and that there was a Rebbe in Brooklyn who cared about him and how he was treated in the press after the stabbing.
This Yud Tes Kislev, let’s resolve to make Chassidus great again. Allow it to penetrate our ears, our souls, our lives, and let us gift ourselves the greatest gift of all: seeing our fellow Jews, all of them, with the light of the Baal Shem Tov, the Maggid, and the Baal HaTanya Wouldn’t that be super nice? n
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One of the popular interpretations of the term Maccabee is that it is an acronym. An acronym is an abbreviation formed from the initial letters of words in a phrase and pronounced as a single word (e.g., NASA for “National Aeronautics and Space Administration”). Unlike an initialism, which is also formed from initial letters but pronounced letter by letter (e.g., F.B.I. for “Federal Bureau of Investigation”), an acronym combines the letters into a pronounceable term. In this case, Maccabee is said to be an acronym formed by the Biblical verse mi kamocha b’eilim Hashem—“Who is like You among the gods, O Hashem?” (Ex 15:11). The first letters of the four words in that phrase uttered at the Song of Sea spell out Maccabee. The Tikkunim in the Zohar Chadash (73b) also uses this verse to explain the name of the angel Michael, and then adds that his name is also Maccabee, which the Biur HaGra (there) explains is an acronym in line with the above.
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Reb Chaim and Gary on Sunday morning
THE HEBREW HAMMERS (PART 1/2)
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The earliest sources that cite this explanation of Maccabee include Peirush Rokeach (to Ex. 15:11), Rabbi Avraham Saba’s Tzror HaMor (Deut. 6:7), Alshich (to Ps. 118:12), and the Shelah (p. 259 in the old print). Siddur HaRokeach (p. 219, also cited in Seder HaDoros Year 3622) adds that the term Maccabee was written on Judah Maccabee’s flag or shield. This was probably done to remind the Jews that the Hasmonean victory should be attributed to Divine intervention, and not to mere human effort. Interestingly, the historical fiction writer Marcus Lehmann (1831–1890) wrote that Shlomo Molcho and David HaReuveni wrote the word Maccabee on their flag when they led the Jews on a triumphant return to Regensburg, but I am not sure if this historically happened.
Rabbi Moshe Sofer (Lishkat HaSofer to Even HaEzer §129:7, Torat Moshe Parashat Miketz) sees the term Maccabee as a sort of patronymic surname, interpreting it as an acronym that refers to Judah Maccabee’s illustrious father, Matityahu. The first letters of the phrase Mattityahu Cohen ben Yochanan spells out Maccabee.
Rabbi Moshe Cordovero (1522–157), also known as the Ramak, in his commentary Ohr Yakar (to Tikkunei HaZohar p. 66) sees the term Maccabee as
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related to the Hebrew term kibui (“extinguishing”). The way he explains it, war/battle can be likened to a raging fire that needs to be put out, and Judah Maccabee was suited for engaging in that fire and extinguishing it without getting burnt himself. The Ramak further offers a Kabbalistic layer to this, explaining how fire is associated with justice (and thus the archangel Gabriel), while Judah Maccabee was associated with mercy (and thus the archangel Michael).
Rabbi Yisroel Hopstein of Kozhnitz (1737–1814) offers a similar explanation in Avodat Yisroel (to Avot 5:3), seeing Maccabee as a term of humility, as though it were related to kibui. He explains that when one recognizes the Hand of Hashem in all his endeavors, then he looks at himself as akin to an extinguished candle vis-à-vis Hashem as the Great Candle, which is why this term also relates to the aforementioned initialism.
Rabbi Moshe Yair Weinstock (1899–1982) in his commentary to Seder Olam Zuta (Yemot Olam 8:4) writes that the appellation Maccabee is clearly related to the Biblical personal name Machbanai borne by one of King David’s warriors (I Chron. 12:14), and to the place name Machbeinah (I Chron. 2:49)
All of the above-cited explanations presume that the word Maccabee ought to be spelled with the letter kaf after the initial mem. That is how it is spelled in the popular work Yossifon, a 10th cen-
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tury Hebrew rendition of Josephus produced in Southern Italy. That work relates that on his deathbed, Matityahu charged his son Judah Maccabee with the role of military leader in the rebellion against the Syrian-Greeks. In that context, Yossifon actually spells the word Maccabee in Hebrew with a kaf But that work also makes explicit reference to Judah Maccabee being called so on account of his great “strength” (see there Book I ch. 20), without further explaining the connection between the term Maccabee and “strength.”
To be continued…n
This article has been excerpted from its original form. Please visit https://www.5tjt.com/ vayeshev-the-hebrew-hammers-part-1-2/ to read the full article.
Rabbi Reuven Chaim Klein is an author and freelance researcher based in Beitar Illit. He studied in Yeshiva Gedolah of Los Angeles, the Mir Yeshiva in Jerusalem, and Beth Medrash Govoha of America in Lakewood, and received semichah from leading rabbis. He also holds an MA in Jewish Education from Middlesex University/London School of Jewish Studies. Rabbi Klein authored two popular books that were published by Mosaica Press, as well as countless scholarly articles published in various venues. His articles on Hebrew synonyms are commissioned by Yeshivas Ohr Somayach in Jerusalem and have appeared on their website since 2016.
SPECIAL NOTE: This Shabbos Chanukah, I am celebrating the bar mitzvah of my oldest son, Binyamin Eliezer. In honor of the special occasion, I published a new sefer (in Hebrew)
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It was told to Tamar: Behold, your father-inlaw is going up to Timna to shear his sheep (Bereishis 38:13)
Yet in the case of Shimshon it says, “And Shimshon went down to Timna” (Sefer Shof’tim 14:1). For Timna sat on the slope of a hill: one ascended to it from one side and descended to it from the other.
(Rashi)
The town of Timna is thus the prototype for all of life’s destinations. One never simply goes to Timna— one either ascends or descends to it; the same is true of the journey of life. There are no two parallel points on the slope of human development, where every step is either a step up or a step down from its predecessor. This is also the lesson implicit in the lights of Chanukah (which always falls in proximity with the Torah reading of Vayeishev). One who kindles a single flame on the first night of the festival observes the mitzvah of kindling the Chanukah lights in the most optimal manner possible. But to kindle that same flame on the following night is not only a failure to increase light but a decline in relation to yesterday’s achievement: on the second night of Chanukah, a single flame represents a less than optimal observance of the mitzvah. For in the diagonal trajectory of life, our every deed and endeavor either elevates or lowers us in relation to our prior station.
(The Lubavitcher Rebbe)
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There is something powerful about your first moments in any endeavor. It becomes so imprinted that it is hard to undo, particularly when you make a first impression. In recent years, research by Malcolm Gladwell, included in his book Blink, further hones
is it about these three that they made the top of the list? The Greeks’ primary targets were rosh chodesh, milah, and Shabbos. Are these three the ones that represent our religion the best? Shabbos makes sense, but how much attention do we pay to rosh chodesh over other holi-
in on this. He explains that decisions are made in a millisecond of meeting the person. You have to be impressive because so much is at stake.
Rabbi Chaim Shmulevitz explains that the same concept applies to hearing a story for the first time and, therefore, a dayan is not permitted to hear one side of the case before both parties are present. A dayan can have impeccable integrity, but the perception has been tainted by the first impression of the story. He will not be able to look at the other party with an impartial eye. That first impression is critical.
With that background, the strangest gezeirah on face value the Greeks made against the Jews begins to make more sense. The Greeks declared that the Jews should: “Write on the horn of an ox that you have no share in the G -d of Israel.” (Talmud Yerushalmi, Chagigah 2:2)
Several things do not seem to make sense here, the two primary ones seeming to be: why were these particular Jewish laws targeted, and why did this have to be written on the horn of an ox specifically?
In terms of the first peculiarity, one might understand that they wanted to prevent us from doing mitzvos, but what
rejection of halacha and their chelka into “the mother’s milk.” Plaster it right there on the baby bottles. First impressions matter, and the souls of babies are so impressionable, especially during those early years in the development of a person, and that’s why the Greeks sought to set the proverbial stage for rejecting Hashem and the Torah with that first “bottle.”
The Greeks understood that with age came a commitment to learning and espousing the values of Torah and mitzvos. Simply targeting those who already knew the Torah and the Derech Hashem would not reasonably impact future generations—the old would find a way to keep the tradition alive. But, if you target the most impressionable, babies, maximize your chances for success.
That is also the common theme of the three mitzvos that the Yevanim focused their attack on. All three are important beginnings. Bris milah is the first mitzvah that the first Jew was commanded to do and the first mitzvah that all Jewish men have since taken part in.
WEEKLY TORAH INSIGHTS
By Rabbi Moshe Hauer, OU Executive VP
VAYESHEV: BROTHERS
What principles do you stand for?
Last week we read the Torah’s account of Shimon and Levi’s principled stand on behalf of their sister Dina, who was being violated in Shechem. Yet, remarkably, this week we read about the same Shimon and Levi in the very same place doing the precise opposite, scheming to eliminate their own brother Yosef. Their attitude transition is described between the lines of the lead-up to their fateful meeting (Bereishit 33:16-17):
“I am looking for my brothers. Can you tell me where they are pasturing the sheep?” And the man said, “They have traveled away from here, for I overheard them say, ‘Let us go to Dothan.’”
leadership, dividing the Jewish family and kingdom for generations (Sanhedrin 102a).
This pattern can help us locate the actual source of Shimon and Levi’s shift. The original Shechem story closes with Shimon and Levi piously dismissing Yaakov’s rebuke (34:31). Once their father was cast aside, the unifying structure of the Jewish family was broken. This was what allowed them to choose alienation from their brother.
days? And what about milah? It only applies to half of Klal Yisrael (based on gender).
To answer the horn conundrum, we need to understand what horns were used for in the era of the Chanukah story.
Rabbi Leib Gerowitz said that if you look at the historical progression of baby bottles, we are now using silicon and plastic bottles, but the previous generation used glass bottles, and further back, babies were fed out of metal cans. Further historical research reveals that before they had all these synthetic and more advanced materials, generations past needed to use naturally occurring materials and fed babies from a keren hashor, an ox’s horn. Rashi explicitly mentions this in the Gemara Maseches Shabbos, where he says that the shofar is shaped in a way that holds liquid and releases a little bit at a time, which is what they used to feed children.
With this backdrop, we can now understand what the Yevanim were trying to do by making Klal Yisrael abdicate its chelka in writing on an ox’s horn. They were speaking allegorically. The way to attack the Torah and mesorah of Klal Yisrael was to ingrain children from their first impressions and put the
Shabbos was the first mitzvah recorded in the Torah and it marks the start of each new week. The entire week gets its spiritual sustenance from the preceding Shabbos.
And the third Greek target— rosh chodesh—is the first mitzvah that Klal Yisrael were given as a nation. It also represents new beginnings, the start of a new month with fresh potential.
Because the Greeks sought to disrupt the raising of Jewish children to lives of Torah and mitzvos, their entire strategy was predicated on disrupting how Jewish children were raised because they knew that their only chance of forcing assimilation, and thus the end of Jewish tradition, was by targeting those who did not yet know of the Torah.
More than 2,000 years ago, the Yevanim did everything possible to disrupt our ability to inculcate our values—drawn from the Torah and mesorah—into our children from the moment they took their first breath. Today, more than two millennia later we continue to combat their ideology by prioritizing our children’s Jewish education. We have our priorities straight and we know we need to invest in first impressions. n
Rabbi Benny Berlin is the rabbi of BACH Jewish Center in Long Beach, New York. For more information, visit: bachlongbeach.com.
As our Sages read these words, they saw Yosef seeking to connect to the brothers whom he may have earlier estranged by the gossipy tales he had shared about them with their father. But the brothers, specifically Shimon and Levi, were moving in the opposite direction. They had already consciously chosen alienation as they had moved on from this, from any feeling of brotherhood with Yosef (see Rashi). Indeed, as Yosef approaches them and they plan his abduction, nowhere in their discussion do they refer to him as their brother (37:19-22). It is only later in the story when Yehuda speaks up with responsibility that brotherhood is brought back into the story (37:26-27).
This troubling attitude shift in Shimon and Levi is apparently not simply an expression of personal grievance and resentment toward Yosef. This is evidenced by the reappearance of this attitude generations later in two dramatic actions perpetrated by Shimon and Levi’s descendants, Zimri and Korach. Each of them publicly attacked Moshe, fomenting division within the Jewish people. Furthermore, Shechem, the location of the original pair of transitional stories, would be the place where the ten tribes rejected King Rechavam’s
Their attitude did not derive from a lack of brotherly passion but from a lack of commitment to the familial and community-unity of Klal Yisrael. That unity was represented in the days of Shimon and Levi by the father figure of Yaakov, in the days of Zimri and Korach by the Torah leadership of Moshe Rabbeinu, and in the days of the tribes by the throne of the Davidic Kingdom. Shimon and Levi’s irreverent rejection of the father would lead to Zimri and Korach’s similar dismissal of Moshe, and finally to Yeravam’s undermining of Rechavam.
There are many sacred principles for which we must stand, but if we as a people are ever to heal from the unbridled hatred, the sinat chinam that has divided and harmed us since the days that Yosef was sold by his brothers, we need to stand up for the familial and communal unity of Klal Yisrael n
Rabbi Moshe Hauer is executive vice president of the Orthodox Union (OU), the nation’s largest Orthodox Jewish umbrella organization.
And Reuven returned to the pit; and, behold, Yosef was not in the pit (Bereishis 37:29)
Where had he been? Rabbi Elazar said: He was taken up with his fasting and sackcloth (in repentance over his sin in violating his father’s marital bed), and when he became free he went and looked into the pit . . Rabbi Yehudah said: Every one of them attended his father one day, and that day it was Reuven’s turn.
(Midrash Rabbah)
Rabbi Benny Berlin
Political RounduP
The Hidden Power Play: How Trump’s Transition Challenges the Deep State and Rewrites America’s Future
By NYS Assemblyman Ari Brown (R. Cedarhurst)
At first glance, the recent reports on Donald Trump’s presidential transition might seem trivial—nothing more than a routine shift from one administration to the next. But beneath the surface, this move represents far more than just a change in political leadership. It marks a profound challenge to the establishment, and it is one of the most significant, yet under-discussed, moves President Trump has made in his ongoing battle with the so-called “Deep State.”
As reported by Newsday and others, Trump’s transition team is deliberately bucking decades-old protocols that govern how presidential transitions should be handled. Rather than accepting federal funding for office space and equipment or allowing the General Services Administration (GSA) to oversee the process, Trump has chosen to privately bankroll his transition. More controversially, his team has yet to sign an agreement with the FBI to conduct background checks on his Cabinet nominees—a decision that has raised eyebrows in Washington. But while critics focus on these procedural details, they miss the much larger implications of this decision.
The roots of this shift can be traced back to a critical moment in American history: 1963, when President Lyndon B. Johnson established the framework for presidential transitions. This framework, the Presidential Transition Act, was meant to ensure an orderly handover of power. The transition of power in 1963 followed the assassination of President John F. Kennedy—an event shrouded in controversy and speculation. Many historians argue that the rapid changes in the structure of government following JFK’s death were not simply about political expediency but about ensuring that certain powerful factions could exert their influence over the new administration.
The establishment of the deep state—a network of entrenched bureaucrats, intelligence agencies, and political operatives—began taking shape after JFK’s assassination. With Johnson’s transition and the resulting changes in how presidential power was consolidated, a secretive network began to permeate every facet of American governance. From the FBI’s internal workings to the sprawling immigration system, healthcare, and beyond, the deep state quietly but powerfully took control. This net-
work became the true engine behind much of America’s foreign and domestic policies, often working in ways that bypassed the will of the people.
When President-elect Trump chooses to buck tradition and privately fund his transition, he is not just making a tactical political move—he is signaling a direct challenge to this very system. The decision to avoid the traditional oversight mechanisms that many claim are necessary for transparency is, in fact, a strategic maneuver to escape the grip of the bureaucratic leviathan that has controlled Washington for decades. By bypassing the GSA and refusing the FBI’s involvement, Trump is sending a clear message: his administration will not be dictated by the same system that allowed the deep state to flourish.
Critics, including those from government watchdog groups and political insiders, argue that Trump’s transition raises concerns over transparency, especially when it comes to donors and influence. But these concerns miss the bigger picture. Trump is not just rejecting the outdated ethics of the transition process—he is revealing how deeply the bureaucratic establishment has infiltrated every corner of American governance. In a sense, the real issue here is not the absence of FBI background checks or the lack of federal funds for the transition. The true story is that President Trump is shining a light on a system that has long operated behind closed doors, and he’s challenging it head-on.
This is not just about Trump’s presidential transition—it’s about the future of America itself. By making this bold move, Trump is dismantling the very structures that have allowed the deep state to thrive and shape policy in ways that do not always reflect the interests or desires of the American people. It’s a move that represents a shift away from the shadowy forces of Washington and toward a government that is more responsive to the people and less beholden to the entrenched elites.
…And here lies the most crucial point: This transition is not just about Trump’s personal politics; it’s about something much larger. As a New York State Assemblyman, witnessing firsthand the effects of the deep state, I believe that what we are witnessing is the linchpin of a far-reaching transformation. The forces behind the deep state have permeated every aspect of our society— from the sanctity of our elections to the healthcare system, from immigration policies to the halls of Congress. But with Trump’s defiance of these norms, there is a real possibility for a reformation of how power is exercised in this country.
America has been on the brink of a golden age since President-elect Trump’s first term—one where the power of the people is finally restored, where government is held accountable, and where the deep state is dismantled. President Trump’s actions—though initially dismissed as a simple disruption to a traditional process—are in fact the first steps toward this massive shift. By challenging the very system that created and maintained the deep state, Trump is laying the groundwork for an America where the government answers to the people, not the entrenched powers.
Friends, patriots, don’t buy into the narrative being sold by mainstream media. The move that President Trump has made is not a minor one. It’s a statement, one that could very well determine the future trajectory of our nation. If we are to move into the golden age that so many of us hope for, it will be because of moments like these, when a bold leader takes a stand against the forces that have long held power in this country. The deep state may have its roots in the 1963 transition, but with Trump’s current moves, we may be witnessing its final days.
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Cedarhurst Trustee Myrna Zisman Presents To Smile On Seniors
On December 10, Village of Cedarhurst trustee Myrna Zisman presented at Chabad of the Five Towns Smile on Seniors program. The weekly program attracts close to 30 attendees each week for a light brunch and social, recreational, and educational sessions. Trustee Zisman had the group captivated with lessons from her decades-long involve-
This isn’t just a transition. This is a revolution—one that is long overdue. And history will look back on this moment as the beginning of America’s resurgence. n
Village Of Lawrence Holiday Season 2024
Enjoy free parking, fine dining, and ample shopping in the Village of Lawrence
Mayor Sam Nahmias and the trustees and administration at the Village of Lawrence invite the community to shop local and enjoy quality time in the Village of Lawrence while utilizing free parking in municipal lots during weekends.
Mayor Sam Nahmias notes, “December is a time to reflect on our values as a community and to enjoy time with family and friends. By opening our parking lots to free parking on weekends, we encourage everyone to stroll along idyl-
ment in politics, beginning in Brooklyn, and moving onto Cedarhurst. Zisman relayed how she always places values first as she gained experience in the political arena. Zisman also explained how much the Cedarhurst government cares about the community and the many details involved to have a well-functioning village. Chabad of the Five Towns thanks Trustee Zisman and all the leaders who make our community what it is. n
Arab American Zionist Congressman To Watch
By Ronn Torossian
The United States is in deep trouble, and it is not just the Jewish community who is facing a challenge from the jihadis and those devoted to destroying the American way of life. Jews and non-Jews must rise up and fight back in many different ways for the West to fight this battle.
Myrna Zisman at Smile on Seniors
And with many new elected officials coming to Washington, DC among them is a cadre of exciting new pro-Israel representatives. Thirty-three-year-old incoming Arizona congressman Abe Hamadeh is an Arab American Republican known for his advocacy of conservative values and his strong stance on issues including law enforcement and border security. Hamadeh won Donald Trump’s endorsement and calls himself a common-sense politician.
He is the youngest son of Syrian immigrants, and he grew up in a mixedfaith Muslim-Druze household. As he has grown up, he started to “understand how the world actually works.” The first “inflection point” on Israel was the “Arab Spring” that began in 2010. Syria, where both his parents immigrated from, erupted in civil war, and Israel emerged as the “good neighbor.”
As he said, “My family is Syrian, and I remember that during the Syrian civil war, that Israel was actually having people who were injured come into the hospitals in Israel. So all this humanitarian aid was actually being done by the Israelis, and not the others in the Arab World. “That was the first instance of me looking at the truth, and having my eyes opened. It just dismantles that whole narrative of Israel being this problem in the Middle East, when they’re actually being good neighbors.” Hamadeh says that Israel has “no bigger ally” than him and calls for the annihilation of terrorist
groups that aim to harm it.
Not unlike Democrat Ritchie Torres, another young outspoken pro-Israel congressman, Hamadeh took a trip to Israel, which changed his life.
He notes he visited Israel, saw the truth of the situation, realized who are the good guys, and went on a tour by an Israeli military commander of the Golan Heights in northern Israel. After visiting Israel, he was barred from entering Lebanon by Lebanese customs officers because he still had the sticker showing his travel to Israel on his passport.
As he said, “I get to the customs in Lebanon, and the lady looks at the back of the passport, and says, ‘Come with me. I’m like, ‘oh, no,’ and then I go into this area and these military customs officials are saying, you know, you’ve been to Israel.” “My family is Syrian blood, my brother’s getting married this week, and Israel let me into their country,” he remembers thinking. “How are you not letting me into this country?”
This is the true apartheid. They are the haters and discriminators we are not, and it’s great that a young Arab American congressman knows this and says it loud and clear.
His Twitter is already clear before he even takes office, noting “The Golan Heights has strategic military value with a direct line of sight to Damascus, and it belongs to our ally Israel,” and “Those who criticize Israel most likely have never even been to Israel. Israel is
a multi-ethnic and pluralistic Jewish state. Their resilience and strength is remarkable.”
He is also clear on Pro-Hamas rallies in the U.S., noting, “You see these protests where they have a rainbow flag, they have a Palestinian flag, some of them had a Taliban flag. It’s scary, but this is kind of the march of Marxism. What’s going on domestically is really a cause for concern. [Marxists] have taken over the universities. They have set up these victim pipelines. And the Marxists, I think, they have the media, no offense. They captured the media, and I think the media is surprised too.”
We need more people like Hamadeh who say of the jihadi movement the truth of what a danger they are, noting “It’s a huge wake-up call for the Jewish community, it’s a wake-up call for all Americans, about the real risks that radicalized ideology poses here. Jews are under attack here in America, by homegrown extremists.”
As this young Arab American congressman says of October 7, “Let’s be clear—this wasn’t just an attack on Israel, it was an attack on humanity.” The Jewish people in America and worldwide need government representatives who realize that the alliance between America and Israel strengthens both nations. n
Ronn Torossian is an American Israeli entrepreneur and philanthropist.
YHT Stands With The IDF
Mr. Jarrod Mittan joined the Yeshiva Har Torah family in February 2023 as Operations Manager. In this role, Mr. Mittan serves as a key support to Executive Director, Mr. Ephi Strazynski, and helps to manage the institution’s growing operational needs, including all aspects of facilities management across both campuses. With extensive professional experience and a commitment to excellence, Mr. Mittan has quickly become an integral member of the internal team and, by extension, a valued part of the broader Yeshiva Har Torah community.
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Mr. Jarrod Mittan at YHT and IDF
In October 2024, a profound and inspiring chapter unfolded in Mr. Mittan’s journey. Having proudly served in the IDF’s Nahal Brigade, 932nd Battalion, from 2003, including combat deployments in Hebron and Bethlehem, Mr. Mittan answered a deeply personal call to duty following the events of October 7th. Reflecting the shared values of the connection to Eretz Yisrael, Torah U’mitzvot, and dedication that Yeshiva Har Torah holds dear, he courageously and voluntarily removed his reserve duty exemptions to return to military service. In December 2023, Mr. Mittan was called up for a six-week combat deployment in Hebron. Most recently, he completed two months of reserve duty in the Judean Brigade in the West Bank (Shechem). Just like the many YHT alumni who have served, and continue to serve in the IDF, Mittan’s inspirational selflessness and dedication embody our shared values of strength, compassion, community, and love for Medinat Yisrael. As featured by Strazynski and Mittan’s embrace, we are thrilled to welcome Mr. Mittan back safely to the Yeshiva Har Torah family. n
YUHSG Shows “The Courage to Try New Things” With Self-Care Week
The end of the semester is a time for excitement, but with final projects and midterms looming, it can also be a time for stress. Luckily, the week of December 9 was Self-Care Week at the Yeshiva University High School for Girls (Central). During this week, all Central students engaged in activities and workshops intended to promote self-care as a regular practice—a tool that will carry them into adulthood.
“The general goal is to help our students learn the importance of taking care of themselves, physically and mentally, and to understand how doing so positively impacts every other part of their life,” said Central’s school psychologist, Dr. Ariella Gettenberg, who coordinated events for this week. “Self-care often requires us to do things we don’t want to do—going to sleep on time, or stopping work at a reasonable hour. But the goal with Self-Care Week is to teach these skills early in fun ways so that later, students can take on the more mundane tasks that are necessary for selfcare.”
In keeping with the 2024-25 school year’s theme of courage, the theme for this year’s Self-Care Week is “The Courage to Try New Things.” Along with some more familiar, comforting selfcare tactics—mindfulness workshops, a school-wide trip to the American Dream Mall—were new initiatives, like a Laughter Games Workshop with performer Debbie Hersch, and initiatives that posed a bit of a challenge, like technology-free periods. The week’s events
gave students a comfortable environment in which to discover their boundaries and, if they feel brave enough to do so, nudge those boundaries in new directions. “There’s a lot of research that supports the idea that trying new things provides benefits to mental health,” Dr. Gettenberg said. “Last year, for instance, we did a whole month of weekly challenges involving not using technology, and the participation was great. So many students got involved. Tech awareness is an important part of self-care—the goal is to be fully present in the moment.”
Self-Care Week is a wildly popular annual event—a positive experience with an impact that will be felt for years. “We’re hoping that these events will spark meaningful conversations among students and faculty about well-being,” Dr. Gettenberg added. “And we’ll follow up to ensure that self-care remains a part of students’ lives.” Other milestones marking the end of the semester include Chanukah festivities, midterms, and the YUHSG Dinner of Tribute, which will be held at the Sephardic Temple of Cedarhurst on January 13 n
And they took him, and cast him into a pit; and the pit was empty; there was no water in it
(Bereishis 37:24)
From the implication of what is said, “And the pit was empty,” do I not know that there was no water in it? What then is taught by, “there was no water in it”? There was no water, but there were snakes and scorpions in it.
(Talmud, Shabbos 22a)
And they took Yosef’s coat, and killed a kid of the goats, and dipped the coat in the blood
(Bereishis 37:31)
G‑d pays back man measure for measure . . even the righteous does He pay back measure for measure. Yaakov deceived his father with goatskins (cf. Bereishis 27:16), and his sons deceived him with the blood of a goat
Likewise, Yehudah, who deceived his father with the blood of a goat, was deceived by Tamar with a “kid of goats.”
(Midrash; Rashi)
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OU Mission To New Orleans
By: Erin Nathan, HAFTR Sophomore
Growing up in the Five Towns, I never fully comprehended the privilege of living here. I always considered it a given that we do not know about poverty or starvation. We do not know about homelessness or the inability to rebuild from destruction. What we do know is community, support, resources, and stability. I never imagined that people struggle without a community to keep them afloat. That was until I set on an eye-opening trip, the OU Relief Mission to New Orleans. On November 20, a group of 11 girls from HAFTR High School, accompanied by Ms. Ilona Diamond, director of Programming and Media, flew to New Orleans to support the community. We prepared to help wherever needed and participated in many inspiring and meaningful acts of chesed
The trip began at the Ozanam Inn, a homeless shelter, filled with the most amazing people. It was quite a remarkable experience, seeing individuals with nothing left to lose, who were somehow upbeat and smiling. Never would I have imagined that visiting a homeless shelter and hearing the stories of these survivors would change my life and perspective forever. Many stories stood out to me and the rest of the girls; there are too many to recount. One story that stood out the most was the story of Mark. Mark was raised in a successful and intelligent home. The son of a chemist and a surgeon, he attended Yale, and in his senior year, he became a part of Freemasonry, falling in love with its ideas and standards. As Mark grew older, his parents did as well, leading to high bills in old age homes, all coming back to Mark. He gave up everything to be a good son and pay for their care. Then, just a few weeks ago, Mark survived a nearly fatal car crash and lost his home during the process of paying for medical bills. Because of all of this, he was forced to find refuge in a homeless shelter. Mark’s story was shocking and eye-opening. It taught all of us that homelessness can impact many types of people, even the ones you would not expect—especially those who do not have a community to fall back on or a neighbor to ask for help. In addition to the life-changing encounter in the homeless shelter, the group helped rebuild a family home destroyed during Hurricane Katrina. From 10:00 a.m. through 4:00 p.m., we ripped nails out of the walls, knocked down drywall, kicked down cabinets, and revamped the sidewalk of the home that had been unoccupied for nearly 20 years. Lastly, we visited the headquarters of Greenlight New Orleans, where
the group learned about the detrimental effects of living below sea level and how we can help combat global warming and the destruction of the Earth. I am not the same person I was on the morning of November 20. I do not think the same way, nor do I act the same, I don’t even dream the same. I now recognize the beauty of our community while also opening my eyes to the reality of everyone else in the world. This experience taught all of us that while it might not always be clear, people around us are struggling, and it is up to each of us to help. Volunteering at the nearest soup kitchen, recycling bottles instead of throwing them out, or buying a homeless person a blanket could have ripple effects that can change the world. In Judaism, we believe that we can each help to build the world piece by piece, mitzvah by mitzvah. We must always remember the power we hold and the ability we have to make the world a better place. n
HAFTR Freshman Trip: New Experiences And New Memories
By: Lauren Mell, Freshman Freshman
year is filled with new challenges, opportunities to grow, and
YUHSG self-care week
HAFTR students on OU Mission To New Orleans
chances to bond with new friends. On Thursday, December 5, the HAFTR High School freshman class had the chance to do just that as my classmates and I went on a fun-filled trip. Instead of walking into school as a group of groggy teenagers who just wanted to crawl back into bed, we arrived full of energy and excitement.
Our first stop of the day was Top Golf, where we felt like VIPs with specially reserved booths just for us. Though it was cold outside, we hardly noticed the weather with the outdoor heating and comfortable chairs. Some of my peers excelled at golf as they hit the balls into some of the farthest holes. Others, like me, could barely make contact with the ball but had just as much fun trying. Both students and faculty alike had a great time laughing and bonding with one another.
After davening Minchah and enjoying a delicious pizza lunch, our next stop of the day was Urban Air, an adventure park. There were many enjoyable activities such as ropes courses, ball pits, wrestling, trampolines, and more. There were also many intense and competitive dodgeball games. It may be hard to imagine, but our day didn’t end there! Our final stop was to the United Skates of America, where we hurriedly got off the buses to put on either roller skates or blades. Some of my classmates skated like professionals while others, like myself, needed walkers to move. What can I say—some people skate and others write about it. The hockey players definitely made sure to show off their moves.
We all enjoyed a delicious dinner of Chinese food before we moved on to the arcades for even more fun, games, and prizes.
To end our eventful night, we took a grade picture, and after that, the girls headed to their bus while the boys davened Ma’ariv. We arrived back at HAFTR by 9 p.m., exhausted from the nonstop, fun-filled day. Overall, it was an amazing experience for the whole freshman class. We made memories and formed friendships that will last a lifetime. n
MTA Sports Management Club Welcomes Mike Vaccaro
By Moshe Parver (‘27)
This past Wednesday, over 40 boys from the MTA Sports Management Club had the privilege of hearing from Mike Vaccaro. Vaccaro has been the lead columnist for the New York Post since 2002, is a 4-time recipient of the New York Sports Writer of the Year award, and a voter for the Baseball Hall of Fame.
unique storylines that make each player, team, and season memorable. He shared how much he enjoys connecting fans to the emotions behind the game and writing stories that resonate with readers. Hearing from such a prestigious and passionate columnist like Mike Vaccaro was an unforgettable experience, offering a rare glimpse into the world of sports journalism at its highest level. n
SHS Shares an UnREAL Shabbos
The meeting began with a 15-minute presentation, in which Vaccaro talked about his experience writing in New York and the impact covering such a big city has on his writing. He also spoke about his time in locker rooms and the observations he makes about the impact a player has off the field. After the presentation, Vaccaro answered questions for 30 minutes on a wide variety of topics, including his favorite games he’s ever attended, his criteria for voting someone into the Hall of Fame, and his thoughts on some of the baseball moves that happened this offseason.
Vaccaro’s passion for his job was clear throughout the meeting. He spoke about how much he loves uncovering and sharing the human side of sports—those moments that go beyond the box scores. For him, it’s not just about the games but the
By Chana Jacobs SHS Shabbaton this year was UNRE -
AL. We had a jam packed weekend full of inspiration and fun! This shabbaton somehow even topped previous years. The theme was Coke, based on their slogan, “It’s the real thing.” Through theme related programming, we learned more about going out of our comfort zones and to be real and authentic with ourselves in a world full of curated, image-driven interactions and social media. We heard from an inspiring speaker named Kassy Akiva, a journalist who converted to Judaism as a result of the antisemitism
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HAFTR Freshman Trip
MTA Sports Management Club Welcomes Mike Vaccaro
Moshe Parver with Mike Vaccaro
SHS Shares an UnREAL Shabbos
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she was exposed to. She told us that she “expected to come here to inspire, and found herself leaving so inspired by us.” She noted how privileged we are to have grown up with a Jewish foundation and education, a love for Torah and Yiddishkeit, and such an amazing school like Shulamith (and that she hopes one day to send her kids to such an amazing school.) We had such an uplifting time davening and singing, led by the YStuds who added so much to Shabbos. I am so happy I got to experience the realest shabbaton this year! n
And he said, “What pledge shall I give you?”
And she said: “Your signet, and your cord, and your staff that is in your hand”
(Bereishis 38:18)
A prophetic spirit was enkindled within her: “your signet” alludes to the royal house of David; “your cord” alludes to the Sanhedrin; “and your staff” alludes to the Mashiach, as in the verse, “The staff of thy strength the L‑rd will send out of Tzion” (Tehillim 110:2)—all of whom are the progeny of Yehudah and Tamar.
(Midrash Rabbah)
PERSONAL GROWTH
By Rabbi Reuven Taragin
OUR G-D
Our last piece described Hashem’s role as Creator of the world and Director of its events and how He displayed this directorship through the miracles of Yetziat Mitzrayim
In addition to proving Hashem’s involvement in the world, Yetziat Mitzrayim also demonstrated and initiated His unique relationship with us.
The fourth of the “languages of redemption” emphasized this point. After Hashem mentioned the first three phrases briefly in one pasuk , He devoted an additional full pasuk to the fourth: “And I will take you to Me as My people, and I will be your G-d, and you will know that I am Hashem, your G-d, Who removes you from under the suffering in Egypt” ( Sh . 6:6–7). Hashem used the redemption from Mitzrayim to forge His special relationship with us.
Hashem began making this point even before the Exodus—with the makot . The makot proved not just Hash -
em’s power, but also His special care for us. He showed this care by sparing us from the plagues He rained upon the Egyptians ( Sh . 8:18).
The Exodus from Egypt and subsequent salvation from the hands of the Egyptians at Yam Suf cemented our relationship with Hashem and inspired us to exclaim, “ Am zu ga’altah… am zu kanitah ” ( Sh . 15:13-16). By redeeming us, Hashem acquired us.
Responsibility
This redemption added another reason why we, the Jewish People, must fulfill His mitzvot —He redeemed us from servitude to the Egyptians on the condition that we serve Him instead. Avodat Hashem is a privilege, but also a responsibility, a condition of our liberation.
The Kuzari (1:25) saw this as the reason Hashem began the Aseret Hadibrot by introducing Himself as “your G-d who took you out of Egypt” as opposed to the One Who created the world. Though recognizing Hashem as Creator is important, Yetziat Mitzrayim is the basis of our singular relationship with and unique responsibility towards Him.
Father — Son
Hashem equated His relationship with us to that of a father with his son. Though Hashem created all human beings in His image, He chose us as His children ( Avot 3:14). All humans resemble G-d; we, the Jewish people, have a personal relationship with Him.
This equation was the basis of makat bechorot . By refusing to release the Jewish People, Pharaoh effectively held Hashem’s children hostage. Hashem responded by exterminating all of his firstborns ( Sh . 4:22).
Moshe revealed our unique relationship with Hashem in Sefer Devarim by linking the prohibition of slashing ourselves or tearing out patches of hair in mourning to our status as His children. “ Banim atem laHashem Elokeichem ”—as Hashem’s children, we must carry and present ourselves with dignity (Rashi, Dev 14:1).
Rebbe Akiva saw our personal relationship with Hashem as an added basis for our tefillot . After others failed to secure Hashem’s mercy during a drought, Rebbe Akiva addressed Him as “ Avinu Malkeinu —our Father,
our King,” and it immediately began to rain ( Taan . 25b). Our referring to Hashem as “ Avinu Malkeinu ” evokes His special attention and mercy; He responds to us like a father responds to his children’s cries. No matter how desperate our situation, we can always turn to our Father, Hashem, to beg forgiveness and ask for His assistance.
One of Rebbe Akiva’s main talmidim , Rebbe Meir, used Hashem’s description of us as His children to prove the eternal nature of our special relationship with Him. Just as a son always retains that distinction, we are eternally Hashem’s people— even after we sin ( Kidd . 36a). Like rebellious children who always remain children, no matter how they behave, Hashem remains our Father. In fact, even when He is forced to exile us, He goes along with us.
Husband — Wife
Chazal saw our relationship with Hashem as even more intimate—they compared it to the relationship between a husband and wife. The source for this is the fashioning of the keruvim in the forms of a man and woman. Hashem addressed Moshe and the Jewish People from the space between these keruvim to teach us the husband-wife nature of our relationship with Him.
With this in mind, the Midrash compares the Jewish People’s commitment and “meeting” with Hashem at Har Sinai to a bride at her wedding canopy ( V”R 20:10) and Rebbe Akiva explains Shir HaShirim as an allegory for the love between Hashem and the Jewish People.
A True Relationship
Relating to Hashem as our Father and Husband dramatically impacts the type of relationship we should strive for. We are meant to see avodat Hashem as more than just a responsibility or privilege. We should view it as a way of showing respect and love for Hashem, Whom we should see as a Father and spouse-like figure.
Understandably, the Rambam ( M”T Hil. Teshu. 10:3) used Shir HaShirim ’s description of lovesickness as a model for Ahavat Hashem . This lovesickness is also the prototype for the mitzvah of d’veikut (closeness to Hashem). The Torah uses the root davek ( d,v,k ) to refer to both (and only) man’s relationship with his wife and our relationship with Hashem because we should use our familiarity with the first as a paradigm for developing the second. Our next piece will study these deeper, emotional sides of our relationship with Hashem. n
Rav Reuven Taragin is the Dean of Overseas Students at Yeshivat Hakotel and the Educational Director of World Mizrachi and the RZA. His new book, Essentials of Judaism, can be purchased at rabbireuventaragin.com.
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(Courtesy of AFYBA)—On the heels of last year’s moving and highly meaningful day trips to Israel, American Friends
of Yeshivot Bnei Akiva (AFYBA) is once again proud to announce its unwavering commitment to the critical initiative “AFYBA Supports War Efforts in Israel.” As part of this endeavor, AFYBA
invites Americans visiting Israel in January 2025 to enhance their trip for one day and participate in a special AFYBA mission experience, a guided tour of the Gaza Envelope region, Then and Today. To register and for more information contact Jack Gourdji at jack@ afyba.
org
Scheduled for Tuesday, January 21 and Wednesday, January 22 (two separate one-day trips), these AFYBA-hosted events will give a glimpse into the events that have transpired over the past year. It will give participants an opportunity to hear from soldiers and survivors and feel the solidarity and deep ahavat Yisrael that permeates the land. Jack Gourdji, executive director of AFYBA, who joined last year’s mis-
sion, explained the expectations of what this year’s mission trips will focus on. “Last year we were all in shock by what we witnessed and what we heard. This year, while we still will visit areas most impacted by the terrorist attacks of October 7, there will also be a larger focus on hearing firsthand stories of survival that took place, and an opportunity to meet some of the heroes of the past year. Additionally, one of the biggest compliments we got last year was regarding AFYBA staff during the bus ride, and the insightful information provided during the trips. We will once again be providing knowledgeable and insightful staff on this year’s trips.”
Another huge benefit and mitzvah of this trip is the appreciation of both Israeli families undergoing immense hardships and Israeli soldiers, who always get so excited and motivated to see Americans coming out just to see them. Knowing they are not alone brings tremendous joy to them!
Some of the activities for the trip include: Visiting the Sderot police station under attack on October 7; meeting IDF wounded combat soldiers in rehab; visiting the “burned cars site”— Moshav Tekuma; visiting the Nova site; hosting a barbecue for the soldiers; and listening to some amazing stories.
To register and to learn more about the trip, please visit https://afyba.org/ unity-day n
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to the spa or pool, and equally typical to observe guests meticulously learning with a sefer or with a chavrusa in the lobby or on the ocean-front terrace. Some attendees preferred a specific crowd while others enjoyed seeing a mix of Jews. Personally, I thought it was beautiful to see a mixture of Jews enjoying yom tov together, especially during an impromptu late-night kumzits, or when we collectively davened for the hostages to be returned.
The food was also different, offering more exotic flavors and tastes. There was always a smorgasbord of fruit and pastries available. The program had a true mix of Ashkenazi and Sephardic guests, and as such, offered a mix of Mizrachi, Mediterranean, and American gourmet food. Kiddushes were flowing with herring, ceviche, and gribenes. Highly desired items were always available, such as steak and lamb, and a wine station with a wine steward available to help you choose a wine. American programs tend to present things in a grand American style: Passover programs like Kosherica pull out all the stops when it comes to entertainment. Their lineup includes performers such as comedian Yohay Sponder and singers like Gad Elbaz. Insane. California’s Upscale Legacy will be hosting the Moshav Band, cigar and chocolate nights, Chopped competitions, mechanical bull riding…the list goes on and on. American programs keep you swimming in entertainment, perusing lavish tea rooms, and being wowed by the variety, novelty, and excitement they curate.
On the other hand, European programs, while showcasing themed nights, casino nights, magicians, and many other types of entertainment, know that you are there to explore, see, hear, touch, and taste a whole new experience. Leisure Time Tours in Santa Margherita, Portofino, Italy offers excursions like touring Florence’s famous Ponte Vecchio bridge, holding up the leaning tower of Pisa for a photo, or taking in the sites of Portofino and the Italian Riviera from your own private yacht. In Greece, you can tour ancient ruins and jet ski on the Aegean Sea. In Spain, you can tour through warm and inviting Barcelona, with its famous PortAventura Park and the Museu Picasso, which houses an extensive col-
lection of artworks by the famed Spanish artist Pablo Picasso. In Portugal, you can enjoy Serra do Buçaco and Buçaco National Forest, with its lush forests, tranquil walking trails, and breathtaking views of Albufeira da Barragem, a reservoir surrounded by hills, perfect for water adventures. In this kind of environment, you can explore and hike, or just relax and enjoy the scenery. Either way, you can enjoy your Pesach like never before.
One aspect to take note of is the fact that the hotel staff might not speak good English and the electrical sockets are round. There is also the issue of bentchers, Haggadahs, and siddurim without any English in them. Another major difference is the price point. For whatever reason, the European programs generally cost less per room than their American counterparts, and sometimes it can be challenging to acquire pricing specifics. Passover Listings has developed a mechanism to help smooth out this process. The site’s pricing tool allows users to plug in the number of guests per room and find a range of Passover programs and prices that meet their needs. Prospective guests should keep in mind that while the lower ticket price of European programs may be appealing, they should also factor in flight costs to get their best chance at comparing apples to apples.
Speaking of flights, for Americans flying to Europe, it is important to calculate door-todoor time in order to make sure you arrive before the start of the chag. When we arrived in Europe, it took my young children a few days to acclimate to the time change. It all worked out in the end, but it did cut into our chol hamoed activity time, as well as throwing off sleep schedules, which can be tricky for adults and children alike.
In the United States and Europe, Passover programs have one goal: to give you and your family an amazing experience, to enjoy the holiday, try new and exciting foods, and to go on a grand adventure. Some guests are eager to go out exploring while others are content to sit by the pool. Some are bringing newborns while others are tending to elderly family members. What’s great about the spectrum of options is that whether you are staying put to enjoy the vast array of hotel entertainment and activities, or touring and exploring uncharted adventures, there is something for everyone. n
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And Yosef was brought down to Egypt . . . (Bereishis 39:1)
Said Rabbi Tanchuma: This is comparable to a cow upon whom it was desired to place a yoke, but the cow was withholding her neck from the yoke. What did they do? They took her calf from behind her and drew him to the place where they wanted her to plow, and the calf was bleating. When the cow heard her calf bleating, she went despite herself, because of her child. By the same token, G‑d wished to fulfil the decree (Bereishis 15:13), “Know ye [that your children will be strangers in a land that is not theirs] ,” so he plotted all these events (of Yosef’s sale to Egypt)
(Midrash Tanchuma)
Yaakov might have had to be brought down to Egypt in chains, but then G‑d declared: “He is My firstborn son; shall I then bring him down in disgrace?” Now, if I provoke Pharaoh [with the intention to bring him down], I will not bring him down with befitting honor. Therefore I will draw his son before him, and so he will follow despite himself.
(Midrash Rabbah)
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LET’S TALK ABOUT IT
BY SIVAN RAHAV MEIR
This week’s parashah, Vayeishev features the famous story of Yosef and his brothers. Why didn’t the brothers speak to Yosef? Why didn’t they tell him what was bothering them? Yosef has his dreams, wears a coat of many colors, and his brothers are jealous of him: “And they hated him, and they could not speak with him peacefully.”
How did they get into such a mess? Some commentators claim that the siblings’ feud with its severe outcome resulted from their silence and distance from each other. There are occasions when it is acceptable to sweep certain, small issues under the carpet and not deal with them, but when there is an increasingly serious dispute and the two sides are moving apart, there is no reason to suffer in silence. It is best to speak frankly. Both sides should air their grievances in order to ensure that the problem is not covered by a blanket of silence.
The same holds true for the different sectors and tribes within the Jewish people, relationships between siblings, and also between husband and wife. It is no coincidence that in his words of wisdom in Kohelet, Shlomo HaMelech teaches us, “a time to speak,” followed by “a time to love.”
The Latest News
It seems that for most of today’s news providers, nothing short of a rowdy demonstration, a fight on Twitter, or a sharp exchange in the Knesset is considered newsworthy. Yet, I am seeing, daily, so many events demonstrating unity throughout the Jewish world! Here is a short roundup from the week or so:
• Yet another emotional brit milah ceremony was held last week in the Ukraine for two Jewish men, aged 70 and 30. Apparently over 1,000 Jews in the Ukraine and Russia have recently become aroused to embrace their Jewish heritage, and have accordingly undergone a brit milah as adults (because their parents felt it was too risky during the Communist era). It just goes to show you: It’s never too late!
• In a similar spirit, many reservists here in Israel have decided to celebrate their bar
mitzvahs. More and more videos have been circulating on social media of men who were not called up to the Torah at age 13, and now, because of the war and their confrontation with evil, they want to reconnect to their roots. Their friends are organizing bar mitzvah celebrations for them, complete with the throwing of candies and a festive meal.
• Massive prayer gatherings are taking place almost every day. A family will inaugurate a new sefer Torah in memory of a war hero, and the entire city will celebrate together with them. This past week, popular Israeli singer Yishai Lapidot initiated a hachnasat sefer Torah in Petah Tikva in memory of Miron Gersh, an only child, who fell in battle in Gaza. Hundreds of people from all sectors of society came to dance with the Torah and with Miron’s parents.
• Many memorable events have been hosted by the shul in Kibbutz Be’eri, the symbol of the October 7 massacre. Last week, Avida Bachar, head of the kibbutz’s agriculture department, spoke at a memorial service for his friend, Yossi Sharabi, whose body is still being held in Gaza. Avida, who lost his wife and son on Simchat Torah, gave a moving eulogy, which went viral, calling on people to put their families before their careers.
• Far from Be’eri, another video was filmed, showing Rabbi Daniel Alter of the Pnei Menachem community crying at the graves of the tzaddikim in Europe and pleading for the return of the hostages. So many
Israelis watched this Hasidic rabbi crying and cried along with him.
• A great deal has been written about the trauma experienced by the survivors of the Nova festival and of the importance of providing them with the support they need. But what you may not have read is that hundreds of survivors have been participating in Shabbat and yom tov celebrations arranged by the Kesher Yehudi organization. They call their community, “From Nova to Jerusalem” and many young people have been joining them as part of their rehabilitation process. Having spent several Shabbatot with them, I can say that they are creating a new language of rebirth and renewal.
• You can get a sense that something special is happening among today’s youth from the posts of Yagel Yaakov, the boy from Kibbutz Nir Or who was released from captivity in Gaza. Yagel announced that he is keeping Shabbat and will no longer be available on social media on this holy day. He posted a video of himself writing a letter in a Torah scroll and also said that he has begun to wear tzitzit. In his latest video, he exclaims: “You don’t have to be dati to be Jewish!”
The individuals involved in the above stories don’t have spokespeople, nor do they represent any organizations; it is simply the situation on the ground. How ridiculous to present Judaism as a divisive force, rather than the precious thread binding us together! n
Translated by Yehoshua Siskin, Janine Muller Sherr
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RELIGIOUS IDENTITY IN THE MODERN WORLD
By Rabbi Moshe Taragin
THE WALK OF LIFE
December 16, Rambam Hospital, Haifa—The complex story of Yosef and his brothers is a study in sibling rivalry, simmering family tensions, and fractured relationships. It showcases the toxic effects of unresolved conflict, favoritism, and jealousy, which slowly erode the family’s unity. This tragic chapter in our history is a powerful reminder of how destructive unchecked jealousy and a lack of communication can be to a family.
However, this saga is also a story of two specific brothers: Yosef and Yehuda, who emerge as the dominant contenders for leadership of our nascent nation. Over the next few parshiyot, these two figures will wrestle with each other for the mantle of leadership. In the climactic moment of this epic, Yehuda directly challenges Yosef, demanding freedom for his brothers.
Long term, each of these two strong personalities is destined to establish a branch of Jewish monarchy. Numerous monarchs will emerge from Yosef’s descendants, while the primary royal lineage of our nation will trace back to the house of Yehuda.
Surprisingly, the arcs of these two brothers are quite bizarre. Yosef is despised by his brothers, stolen from his father, sold into slavery multiple times, and is ultimately incarcerated in a dungeon. Not exactly the storyline you would expect for someone destined for leadership.
Yehuda’s arc is equally unconventional and unsettling. He takes a foreign wife with whom he bears three children. Two of them pass away prematurely, and afterwards, Yehuda ignores his widowed daughter-in-law. Ultimately, he mistakenly has relations with her, which results in her becoming pregnant with twin boys. She is nearly executed for her perceived crimes until Yehuda comes clean and confesses to being the father.
These are very strange accounts for individuals who will eventually lead our na-
tion. Evidently, these future leaders must confront real-life challenges, and the trials and scandals they endure along the walk of life will teach them hard lessons about leadership.
In Your Dreams
Yosef is a dynamic personality with natural charisma. He possesses striking looks, flashy clothing, and effortlessly attracts everyone within his radius. He is a man of grand vision, dreaming of glory and greatness. Convinced that his dreams will serve the greater good and shape Jewish history, he speaks about them openly, hoping to influence and persuade others regarding his innate talent and potential. What he fails to realize is that leadership is not about materializing your own dreams or imposing your will and vision on others. Leadership isn’t about influencing others to adopt your ideals, but helping others to achieve their own dreams and hopes. At the beginning of Vayeishev, Yosef dreams of himself at the center, but by the end, of the parashah, he becomes part of other people’s dreams. Only after being thrown into prison does he learn the art of listening to others’ dreams and helping them make sense of their own personal aspirations and desires. In that dark, dank prison, he finally becomes part of someone else’s story.
Hard Times
In prison, he also realizes that not everyone has the luxury of dreaming about their future success. Yosef’s dreams are grandiose and atmospheric. He witnesses his family collecting the grain and cashing in on their material success while he stands in the middle. He also dreams of planets orbiting in the heavens, envisioning his own meteoric power and influence. His dreams inhabit a rarefied, higher plane, far removed from the drudgery and monotony of everyday life. His dreams are rooted in success, power, and
Avida Bachar from Kibbutz Be’eri
Yagel Yaakov
the pursuit of greatness.
In prison, he meets people who have fallen on hard times, who have been given a rough turn in life and feel stuck in the mud. The two prisoners are former members of the royal court who have fallen from grace, and are grappling with the sting of being cast out and forgotten.
The prisoners Yosef meets don’t dream of stars or material abundance but just of finding some purpose in life, a way to redeem themselves from emptiness. Not everyone’s life is rosy and cheery. People suffer hardships and setbacks as they navigate an unforgiving world.
Until Yosef learns to listen
to other people’s dreams, he cannot become a leader. Likewise, until he realizes how hard some people have it, he cannot be a leader. Leadership has nothing to do with influence or popularity. Just because you speak into a microphone doesn’t make you a leader. In the world of social media, it is relatively easy for people to grab megaphones and self-deputize as “pretend leaders.” Leadership resides in the quiet empathy that flows from understanding the struggles of others and the courage to embrace dreams that are not your own.
Do you uplift the dreams and aspirations of others, or do you merely leverage their attention to serve your own ambitions? This is the hard lesson that Yosef must learn in
prison before he can become a true leader.
Spare Parts
Yehuda must learn a different lesson. Devoid of dreams himself, he has no need to learn the art of nurturing the dreams of others. Instead, he must recognize that people are fragile, marked by both moments of strength and episodes of vulnerability. Even saints sin, and everyone has a dark side to them. Human beings mustn’t be held to impossibly high standards—even great people will have their moments of weakness.
Yehuda can only learn this lesson by experiencing his own moral hiccups. Though he becomes ensnared in an unseemly tale, he redeems himself by taking full responsibili-
ty for his missteps, despite the personal dishonor it brings. He learns that leadership consists in tolerating others and their imperfections rather than holding them to impossible standards.
Had he learned this lesson earlier, perhaps he would have been more magnanimous toward Yosef. He would have appreciated the sincerity of Yosef’s aspirations, even while realizing how toxic and dangerous runaway ambition can be. Likewise, had he appreciated human fragility, Yehuda would have better understood the pain and anguish of his daughter-in-law, who was twice widowed, rather than blaming her or casting her as a black widow.
Leadership means tolerating other people’s failures, ex-
hibiting patience when people stumble and trusting in their ability to recover. Yehuda must visit his own inner darkness to understand the darkness that resides in every human soul.
Truth and Reckoning
Yehuda must also confront the painful lesson of honesty, even when it comes at a personal cost. Trust is the cornerstone of all relationships and the foundation of leadership. Without being trustworthy and holding oneself to a personal code of honor, a person has no right to influence or affect the lives of others. People follow those who embody integrity and possess a moral compass.
Yehuda exemplifies this honesty and integrity when he chooses to shame himself rather than let an innocent woman carry their dark secret to her grave. In doing so, he earns the trust of everyone around him. They place their confidence in him to navigate the difficult crises ahead. Yaakov will trust him to travel with Binyamin to free Shimon from prison, and the brothers will trust him to serve as their representative in prosecuting for their collective freedom. Without unwavering honesty and a life grounded in integrity, one forfeits the right to lead.
Yosef and Yehuda each embark on their own personal odyssey toward leadership. Yosef learns to shift the focus from his own dreams to the aspirations of others. Along his journey, he also discovers that life is not always bright and carefree, and he learns to empathize with the struggles of ordinary people who face hardship, disillusionment, and displacement.
Along his own journey to leadership, Yehuda learns that human beings are naturally imperfect, and therefore people should not be harshly judged for their flaws and limitations. Additionally, he realizes that without honesty and integrity, he should not be taking decisions on behalf of others. n
Rabbi Michael Taragin is a rabbi at the hesder pre-military Yeshivat Har Etzion/Gush, with YU ordination and a master’s in English literature from CUNY. His most recent book, Reclaiming Redemption: Deciphering the Maze of Jewish History (Mosaica Press), is available in bookstores or at www. reclaimingredemption.com.
BADERECH: ALONG THE PATH OF THE PARASHAH
By Rav Judah Mischel
VAYEISHEV / YUD TES KISLEV: PERSONAL GUIDANCE
Rav Pinchas Teitz, zt’l , the legendary teacher and builder of Torah in Elizabeth, New Jersey, was one of the influential educators of the generation. A talmid of the great yeshivos of Ponovezh and Slabodka, in 1941 Rav Teitz founded a network of schools, the Jewish Education Center (now called Rav Teitz Mesivta Academy), and a Yiddish-language Gemara radio program called “ Daf haShavua ” in 1953. His work made a major impact on world Jewry, as documented in Learn Torah, Love Torah, Live Torah , a masterful biography written by Rav Teitz’s daughter, Dr. Rivka Blau.
Beginning in the early 60’s, at the height of the Communist empire and under threat of the merciless KGB and NKVD, Rav Teitz made twenty-two visits to Russia. As the clandestine activities of Chabad-Lubavitch had formed the backbone of underground Jewish life and Torah Judaism there, Rav Teitz formed a deeply respectful, personal “working” relationship with the Rebbe. During those visits to the USSR Rav Teitz would smuggle in tashmishei kedushah , holy articles such as tefillin and mezuzos , for our oppressed brothers and sisters in the USSR, often provided by Chabad shluchim Rav Yerachmiel Tilles, noted author and co-founder of the Ascent of Tzfat, relayed the following story:
One summer, as Rav Teitz was preparing to leave for another trip to Russia, a Lubavitcher shaliach arrived at his house with a specific request from the Rebbe, and delivered a pocket-sized Sefer haTanya , the foundational book of Chabad philosophy, often referred to as “the Written Torah” of Chassidus. Rav Teitz remarked, “I was astonished… To cooperate with the Rebbe to deliver basic Jewish necessities to the deprived Jews of Russia was one matter, but to go with a copy of Tanya in my luggage? To Russia? It seemed unnecessarily dangerous. The KGB knows very well what Tanya is. What plausible explanation could I give if it were detected?”
Nonetheless, without any specific instructions of what to do with the Tanya , or who it was intended for, Rav Teitz agreed to take it. After all, if the Rebbe sent it, he must have a good reason.
While walking back to his hotel
from the Great Synagogue on the third night of his stay in Moscow, Rav Teitz was grabbed by two young men who forced him into a parked car on a side street. His worst fears dissipated when they humbly identified themselves as Chabad chassidim and explained that their roughness was the only way they could discuss urgent matters with him safely. Both had major life decisions to make and wanted Rav Teitz to deliver their messages to the Lubavitcher Rebbe.
The older chassid had just found out that he might be in imminent danger— the KGB was actively pursuing him— and he wanted to know whether the Rebbe thought he should flee Moscow and move to another city or remain and continue working on spreading Torah there.
The younger chassid wanted the Rebbe’s advice on whether he should apply for an emigration visa to Israel. He yearned for Eretz Yisrael , but publicly expressing a desire to leave Russia came with tremendous risk, and he currently held an excellent position as an engineer, from which he would be fired as soon as he applied for a visa.
Rav Teitz was very moved by the mesirus nefesh , the self-sacrifice and dedication, of the two chassidim . He promised to memorize their names and pose their questions to the Rebbe, as having a paper with such information would be too dangerous. When Rav Teitz mentioned that he happened to have a copy of Sefer haTanya that the Rebbe asked him to bring along, they begged for the opportunity to see it. Their excitement was palpable as Rav Teitz removed the pocket-sized Tanya from his coat. What a zechus to hold a sefer that less than a week ago had been in the Rebbe’s own holy hands!
While caressing the book, the older chassid gasped in amazement. Too excited to speak, he pointed to what he had uncovered: There was a kneitch ! The top corner of page 323 had been folded down, slightly crimped, surely deliberately marking a spot. His eyes grew wide when he read the very first words on that page:
.” . . He is extremely pressed for time, and finds it utterly impossible to delay . . .”
“That’s it! That’s my answer from the Rebbe!” he cried, visibly shaking with
emotion. “The Rebbe is telling me to hurry and escape from Moscow!”
The younger chassid then began to examine the pocket-sized Tanya , fervently hoping to discover another kneitch . As he carefully turned each page, he noticed that near the end of chapter 29, on page 74, another corner was folder over, marking the page which began with two words: “…to enter the Land.”
“That’s the answer for me! I should apply to make aliyah to the Holy Land right now!”
The next morning, the older chassid left Moscow with his family, and the younger applied for his exit visa. Indeed, the Rebbe had good reason to send the sefer n n n
This week is Yud Tes (19th day of) Kislev, the celebration of the release of the Alter Rebbe, Reb Shneur Zalman of Liadi, the author of Sefer haTanya , from prison. More than just a day that remembers the personal liberation of the Alter Rebbe, Yud Tes Kislev marks a turning point in Jewish history. Just two years prior, the Alter Rebbe’s first publication of Sefer haTanya had made many of the previously inaccessible, abstract concepts of Kabbalah and philosophy comprehensible and practically applicable, marking the beginnings of a new era in the spread of Chassidus. Yet this publication also brought fierce opposition. The Alter Rebbe under-
stood his unjust arrest and imprisonment to be part of this spiritual backlash, and his spontaneous exoneration and liberation as a sign that the gates were open to spread the wellsprings of these teachings on an unprecedented scale.
In many ways, Yud Tes Kislev is considered the “Rosh Hashanah of Chassidus,” a sort of “birthday” for the revolutionary movement of spiritual awakening and growth, which, over time, has enabled countless people to access a deeper and more personal connection to Hashem.
The Alter Rebbe made his intention clear, that in writing the Tanya he was providing an opportunity for every reader to enter into yechidus with him, to enjoy a private meeting and receive personal guidance and insight from the teachings within.
If each of us will open our hearts and eyes and muster some measure of the emunah of a true chassid , there is no doubt that there will be a special kneitch waiting for us… and may merit to enter the Land, with the complete and true redemption! n
Rav Judah Mischel is executive director of Camp HASC, the Hebrew Academy for Special Children. He is the mashpia of OU-NCSY, founder of Tzama Nafshi, and the author of “Baderech: Along the Path of Teshuva.” Rav Judah lives in Ramat Beit Shemesh with his wife, Ora, and their family.
NEWS FROM THE HILLS
By Chanita Teitz
Drones are the news of the day. Everyone sees them and is questioning what they are for. Are they enemy spies, U.S. government or military spies? Reports from inside Washington are sketchy, ranging from nothing, to we don’t know, to coming from Iran, China, or Russia. Then there are those who say they are nothing more
achieved, I don’t know.
I wonder, how did the Jetsons avoid mid-air car crashes?
YCQ Grade 6 Students
Visit the Metropolitan Museum of Art
On Monday, December 9 and Thursday, December 12, the grade 6 boys and
than kids flying their drones, or photographers taking aerial pictures of properties or scenic views or just anyone who has a drone. Anyone can buy one and fly it.
Tonight on Dennis Prager I heard some interesting insights from Carl Jackson, who was sitting in for Dennis Prager. Most of the drones are flying at night and the only reason to fly them at night is to search for something. The drones have horrible night vision, but they have thermal nuclear ability to smell danger. There have been so many of them lately, that they are probably searching for something nuclear or radiation. The thing is we don’t know who is searching and what they are searching for.
Now, there are those who will call all this speculation hogwash. It’s just entertainment. I think some of them are private individuals entertaining themselves, but they are exactly the ones who need some regulation or oversight. There were a few drones that came too close to airports. Pilots have said that they are a hazard. They cause a distraction and a quick response to get out of their way. Hitting a drone that then drops to the ground could hurt or kill someone on the ground. And just like planes are careful around birds that could damage the plane’s engines, they would surely be careful not to hit a drone.
People driving on the roads who see a drone can be distracted, which could cause accidents. So besides investigating who they belong to, they need to be regulated better. How that can be
girls visited the Metropolitan Museum of Art’s ancient Egypt exhibit. Students engaged with the material they are learning about in Mrs. Howitt’s Social Studies class and saw ancient artifacts first-hand.
Students appreciated seeing their classroom come alive as they were led by Mrs. Elana Kaplan, an educator at the MET, on an exciting tour through the museum.
Chazaq Hosts PreChanukah Shiur with Rav Gav Friedman
Chazaq, a leading Jewish outreach and educational organization, hosted an unforgettable evening of inspiration at Ohel Simcha, with renowned speaker and educator Rav Gav Friedman. The event was attended by over 250 community members, who gathered for a powerful shiur that left everyone energized and uplifted.
The night was filled with Rav Gav’s enthusiastic and passionate teaching, which resonated deeply with all in attendance. His engaging style and insightful message captivated the audience, inspiring them to deepen their connection to Torah and embrace a more meaningful Jewish life.
As the crowd enjoyed a delicious dairy dinner, Rav Gav’s words of wisdom filled the room, sparking thought-provoking discussions and motivating attendees to strengthen their spiritual commitment. The event provided an opportunity for the community to come together, connect with one another, and be inspired by the message of Torah.
The night was a testament to the power of Chazaq’s programming in fostering Jewish engagement and learning.
Chazaq continues to be a pillar of inspiration and education in the community, offering a variety of events, classes, and initiatives designed to empower Jews to connect with their heritage.
Chazaq would also like to extend a special thank you to the numerous sponsors of this event who dedicated this evening for leilui nishmat for their loved ones.
Newly Elected Chief Rabbi Rav David Yosef Blesses Chazaq
Chazaq’s director, Rabbi Ilan Meirov, was recently honored with a personal blessing from the newly elected Chief Rabbi of Israel, Rabbi David Yosef, during the seudat mitzvah (festive meal) celebrating his inauguration. The event, which took place in Israel, brought together Jewish leaders from around the
world to mark this significant occasion.
During the event, the Chief Rabbi publicly praised Chazaq for its transformative impact on the Jewish community, particularly in reaching Jews who are distant from Torah. He emphasized the organization’s significant efforts in empowering Jewish identity and strengthening Torah observance through its educational programs, outreach initiatives, and community-building efforts.
Rabbi Yosef encouraged rabbis and Jewish leaders worldwide to follow Chazaq’s example in reaching out to Jews from all walks of life. He underscored the importance of inspiring and guiding individuals back to their roots, fostering a deeper connection to Torah and mitzvot. Rav David Yosef has long been a close and cherished partner of the Chazaq organization, playing a key role in its growth and success, particularly in its outreach efforts to public
YCQ 6th graders visited the Metropolitan Museum of Art
Chazaq pre-Chanukah shiur
Newly elected Chief Rabbi of Israel, Rabbi David Yosef blesses Chazaq
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school students. Over the years, Rav Yosef has addressed numerous Chazaq events and programs, offering invaluable support to strengthen the organization’s mission of ensuring no child is left behind and facilitating the transition of students from public schools to yeshivas through meaningful kiruv efforts.
by the New York Post in a full-page article. Her “Kosher Comedy” was praised by the Wall Street Journal and Jewish Press. A dairy buffet will be served. For early bird prices, please respond by December 24. Reservations after December 24 are welcome. Sponsors are welcome. RSVP online at MyQJC.org or contact the office at 718-459-8432 or office@MyQJC.org. n
The Chief Rabbi’s remarks at the seudat mitzvah serve as a testament to the powerful work that Chazaq continues to do in Jewish communities across the globe. With a mission to inspire Jews of all backgrounds, Chazaq remains dedicated to spreading Torah, building connections, and empowering individuals to embrace their Jewish heritage.
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In-Person Oneg, Friday, December 27 at 7:45 p.m. at Young Israel of KGH. Speaker: Rabbi Dr. Elimelech Gottlieb, Education Consultant. Topic: “Chanukah in history: Past and future.” Oneg sponsored by the YIKGH Women’s League.
Melaveh Malkah, motzaei Shabbos, January 4 at 7:30 p.m. at the Queens Jewish Center, 66-05 108 St., Forest Hills. Comedian Talia Reese will entertain. Talia has been called a “Hot Ticket”
A man found him wandering in the field; and the man asked him, saying: “What do you seek?” And he said: “I seek my brothers; tell me, I pray you, where they feed their flocks.” And the man said: “They are departed from here; for I heard them say, ‘Let us go to Dosan.’” And Yosef went after his brothers, and found them in Dosan.
(Bereishis 37:15–17)
“The man” was the angel Gavriel. (Midrash; Rashi)
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Lawrence — New Listing — For sale Rare find in back Lawrence! Nearly 4500 Sq Ft southern facing home directly on Reynolds Channel. Vacation all year long in your brick home w/stunning 180 degree water views throughout most of the home. Spectacular foyer in the round with curved dramatic staircase leading to a Great Room with windows galore, original hardwood floors and French Doors. Very large dining room with attached renovated butler’s pantry, updated EIK. Around a curved hallway are Three more bedrooms. There is also a sunroom in-the-round with floor to ceiling windows. One-in-a-million layout also highlights a first floor Junior Suite with sitting room, half bath, bedroom and full bath. Upstairs offers a massive Master Bedroom, dressing area, full bathroom and magnificent water views. There is also a small bedroom off the master with its own full bath. This .70 acre lot offers privacy, a slate patio and endless lawn. Adding to the unique aspect of this property, is a two car garage with a 2 bedroom/1 bath guest suite above it. A must see 6 bedrooms, 5.5 baths residence. Call for a private showing
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com
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Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
North Woodmere — Say goodbye to stairs and enjoy the ease of single-level living in this meticulously maintained ranch, featuring 3 bedrooms 2 full updated baths, a renovated kitchen, wood floors throughout and an attached garage. A spacious full basement serving as an additional level for storage, utilities, laundry and whatever else you desire. An inviting and beautifully landscaped backyard, with both a deck and patio for a relaxing retreat or entertaining. Located by vibrant shopping, restaurants and transportation, this home offers unbeatable value and to ensure you get the most for your investment!
Call Mark Lipner 516-298-8457
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com
Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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New co-op for sale Cedarhurst
Just listed! Bright and sunny 1-bedroom, 1-bathroom co-op for sale in a prime Cedarhurst location. This charming unit features an entry hall, large living/dining area, and an eat-in kitchen with stainless steel appliances and granite countertops. The spacious master bedroom offers plenty of room, while the full bathroom includes both a shower and a tub. Additional amenities include an on-site laundry room. Conveniently located near parks, schools, shopping, restaurants, transportation, and houses of worship. Mark Lipner 516-298-8457,
mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
New to the market Condo for sale in Lawrence
1 Bedroom, 1.5 Bath Condo, 24 Hour Doorman and Elevator Building. Bright and Sunny, Underground Parking, Washer/ Dryer in the Apartment. Many Closets, Recessed Lighting, Terrace, Central A/C, Social Room, Library, Gym. Minutes to Shopping, Transportation, Park & Houses of Worship. Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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New Listing Woodmere — Stunning Home in Desirable School District #15 on a Quiet Cul-de-Sac. This beautifully updated home boasts 4 spacious bedrooms and 3 fully renovated bathrooms, offering a perfect blend of comfort and style. Featuring gas heating, central air conditioning, and radiant heat in the modern eat-in kitchen, this home ensures year-round comfort. The kitchen itself has been tastefully renovated with elegant granite countertops, two sinks for convenience, and brand-new stainless steel appliances-ideal for both cooking and entertaining. You’ll appreciate the new flooring and moldings throughout, which complement the home’s fresh, contemporary feel. The master bedroom suite is a true retreat, complete with a luxurious Jacuzzi tub and an extra-large, custom shower. The expansive den offers plenty of space for relaxation and leads out to a magnificent backyard, perfect for outdoor living. Entertain in style with a new pergola, or enjoy the brand-new front walkway and welcoming porch. Additional upgrades include new front windows and recessed lighting throughout. The home is also equipped with well water, ensuring your landscaping stays lush year-round. Located just minutes from the train station, shopping centers, and houses of worship, this home offers the perfect combination of tranquility and convenience. Call Mark Lipner 516-298-8457 for a private showing Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Woodmere co-op — Check out this brand-new co-op listing in the Woodmere/Woodsburgh area! Step into a spacious three-bedroom, two-bathroom apartment filled with natural light, nestled in an upscale elevator building. Perched on the top floor, this unit boasts indoor parking with a designated space, along with a generously sized storage unit for your convenience. Inside, you’ll find modern comforts like a washer-dryer setup and a fully renovated interior. The entrance welcomes you with a large foyer, leading to an inviting eat-in kitchen adorned with granite countertops, high-end appliances including a Miele dishwasher, dacor range, GE microwave, and Bosch washer and dryer. The kitchen also features a Sub Zero refrigerator and custom cabinets, perfect for culinary enthusiasts. Throughout the apartment, enjoy hardwood floors, recessed lighting, and lofty 9.5-foot ceilings creating an airy atmosphere. The primary suite is a retreat of its own, boasting an en suite bathroom equipped with double sinks and a triple vanity, adorned with limestone countertops and stone flooring. With five air conditioning units ensuring comfort year-round, and park-like grounds offering tranquility, this property provides a serene escape. Its ranch-style layout provides easy living, while its prime location grants quick access to shopping, the railroad, restaurants, and houses of worship. Don’t miss out on this opportunity for luxurious living with convenience at your doorstep!
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com
Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
New to the market 2-family house in Far Rockaway 7 bedrooms, 5 bathrooms, finished basement , spacious yard, prime location, close to schools, shopping, railroad, beaches and houses of worship.
12 Garden Court Sunday, December 22, 1:30-3:00pm
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com
Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Woodmere — Co-op just listed
Sunny & Very Spacious Townhouse In Hewlett-Woodmere School District #14, Includes 1 Parking Space Close to Unit.
Lovely Private Yard With Large Storage Shed. Washer & Dryer In Unit. 2 Very Large Bedrooms. Small Dog or Cat Allowed. Very Close to LIRR, Shopping, Restaurants, JFK Airport and Houses of Worship. Must See!!!
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Old Woodmere —New To The Market 3 Bedroom 2 Full Bathroom Colonial In Old Woodmere Updated Kitchen With Stainless Steel Appliances, Granite Countertops, Finished Basement, Hardwood Floors $749K
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Woodmere co-op — Very Spacious, Bright 1BR, 1 Bath Co-op In The Desirable Heathcote Bldg In Woodmere. 4th Floor Corner Unit In Very Charming Pre-War Building With Lovely Grand Lobby. 9’ Ceilings & Elevator. Unit Has Very Spacious Foyer, LR & Bedroom W/Built-Ins. HUGE EIK, Great Closet Space. Very Close to All including LIRR, SD#14. Low Maintenance Includes Heat, Water & Taxes
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Cedarhurst — Beautiful, Well-Maintained Colonial In The Heart Of Cedarhurst. 4 Bedrooms, 2.5 Baths. Brand New Roof. Eat-In-Kitchen, Formal Living Room & Dining Room. Hardwood Floors Throughout. Full finished basement. Private backyard. Low Taxes. Close To All Shopping, Transportation & many Houses of Worship! Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Cedarhurst — Just Listed —Renovated 2 Bedroom, 2 Full Bathroom 1st Floor Apartment With A Washer and Dryer, Private Finished Basement, Hardwood Floors, Recessed Lighting, Central Air conditioning, Dishwasher, Private Entrance, Garage Parking., Top of the Line Finishes, Minutes to All. No Fee!!
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Lawrence — As you enter this resort-like home you are greeted by a stunning residence featuring five bedrooms and four meticulously renovated bathrooms. The home boasts a brand new kitchen equipped with top-of-the-line appliances and elegant marble countertops, complemented by a separate breakfast room. The spacious, square formal dining room, expansive den, and formal living room offer an inviting and luxurious ambiance. Every bathroom has been thoughtfully designed and newly updated to the highest standards. The expansive property includes a heated inground pool, a large Trex deck, and a park-like grassy area, perfect for outdoor enjoyment. Additional amenities include a two-car garage and an extra-large driveway, providing ample parking space. Situated in the prestigious Back of Lawrence, this home is a must-see, offering the added benefit of low taxes.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group Woodmere/Woodsburgh — Just listed. Spacious 3BR, 2 full bths, co-op elevator building. Top floor, indoor PKG, storage, W/D, bright & sunny corner unit. Totally renovated, high ceilings, many closets, eat-in kitchen, ranch-style living primary suite with en-suite bath. Minutes to all!
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Woodsburgh — Upon entering this remarkable custom-built six bedroom home, the exquisite craftsmanship immediately captivates. The designer kitchen seamlessly flows into a dining room, living area, and den, creating an unparalleled open-concept space ideal for hosting guests. Additional highlights include a private gym and office, enhancing both functionality and comfort. Outside, the impeccably designed landscape guides you to a resort-style in-ground pool, evoking a sense of tranquility and luxury. Situated in the prestigious School District 14, this residence is truly a masterpiece that demands admiration.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
North Woodmere — Discover the charm of this contemporary split in the heart of North Woodmere. The home features an expanded layout with a spacious eat-inkitchen and a delightful great room, skylights allow natural light to brighten this space and create a perfect setting for gatherings. Boasting 4 bedrooms, 3.5 baths including a large Jacuzzi tub, a den, living room, dining room, office, 2 car garage, and a fully finished expanded basement, it’s designed for both comfort and functionality. The corner property on a cul-de-sac offers privacy and serenity, large backyard overlooking the park on an oversized lot with low taxes. Close to all houses of worship. Priced to sell! Ready to move in and enjoy this community!!
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Hewlett — New to the market 4 bedroom home sd# 14 living room with fireplace, den, bedroom, full bathroom, eat-in kitchen, dining room on the 1st floor. Upstairs has 3 bedrooms full bathroom, laundry room, finished basement with a cedar closet, storage, utilities. hardwood floors, 200 amp service, alarm, one car garage, easy access to schools, shopping center, transportation options, restaurants and places of worship.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
North Woodmere — This exquisite custom-built expanded residence boasts six bedrooms with extra-large custom closets in each and five and a half luxurious baths.
The state-of-the-art professional kitchen showcases granite countertops and top-of-the-line appliances. The spacious living room, elegant dining room, and inviting den offer a perfect blend of comfort and sophistication. Abundant natural light floods through large windows, creating a warm and welcoming ambiance. The fully finished basement provides additional living space. Situated in school district 14, in the heart of North Woodmere, this home is conveniently located near all places of worship. A truly exceptional move in ready property that must be seen to be fully appreciated.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Hewlett — Introducing a newly listed property nestled within the prestigious Hewlett school district 14, As you step inside this Colonial, you’re greeted by a welcoming foyer leading into a cozy living room featuring a fireplace and built-in bookcases, alongside a formal dining room. The kitchen has been tastefully renovated and boasts two sinks, two dishwashers, two stoves, and two microwaves, offering optimal convenience for culinary enthusiasts. This home is equipped with two zones of central air conditioning and heat, ensuring comfort throughout. For added security, an alarm system is in place. The main level includes a primary bedroom along with two additional bedrooms and a luxurious full bathroom complete with a Jacuzzi tub and shower and additional full bath. Ascending to the second floor, you’ll find five more bedrooms, two full bathrooms, a den, and a convenient laundry room. The basement offers ample space for recreation, storage, and utilities, including a fantastic playroom and laundry room. Situated on a corner lot, this property includes a one-car garage and is conveniently located mere minutes from schools, shopping centers, transportation hubs, and a variety of dining options.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Lawrence — Just listed 1 bedroom 1.5 bathroom condo, 24 hr doorman , elevator building, bright & sunny, top floor, eat-in-kitchen, washer and dryer in the unit, underground parking, terrace, central air conditioning, recessed lighting, many closets, social room, library, gym, minutes to shopping, transportation, park, and houses of worship.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group Woodmere — Introducing a charming two-bedroom, one-bathroom co-op nestled in the heart of Woodmere. This upscale building offers the convenience of an elevator and boasts a bright and sunny ambiance throughout. As you enter, you’re greeted by a generously sized foyer adorned with gleaming hardwood floors. The living room and dining room provide ample space for relaxation and entertainment, while the eat-in kitchen features elegant granite countertops, a gas stove, microwave, dishwasher, and a brand-new refrigerator. Enjoy the luxury of spacious rooms with high ceilings, creating an airy and open atmosphere. Both large bedrooms come equipped with air-conditioning units for added comfort. Additionally, this co-op offers free private storage in the basement and an abundance of closets for your convenience. With an on-site SUPER and a massive yard, this residence offers both comfort and convenience. Located just minutes away from shopping, transportation, restaurants, and houses of worship, this home provides the perfect blend of urban convenience and suburban tranquility.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group Woodmere co-op — Very Spacious, Bright 1BR, 1 Bath Co-op In The Desirable Heathcote Bldg In Woodmere. 4th Floor Corner Unit In Very Charming Pre-War Building With Lovely Grand Lobby. 9’ Ceilings & Elevator. Unit Has Very Spacious Foyer, LR & Bedroom W/Built-Ins. Huge EIK, Great Closet Space. Very Close to All including LIRR, SD#14. Low Maintenance Includes Heat, Water & Taxes. Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group North Woodmere — New To The Market. Magnificent 5 Bedroom 3 Full Bathroom Split Level. Bright & Sunny, Living Room With Vaulted Ceilings With Skylights, Formal Dining Room With Skylights, Eat-In-Kitchen, Deck, Den With Fireplace, Sunroom, 2 Car Garage, Gas Heating, Central Air Conditioning, Master Bedroom With En-Suite, Hardwood Floors, Recessed Lighting, In Ground Sprinkler System, Basement, Minutes To Schools, Shopping, Park, And Houses Of Worship.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Lawrence — Introducing a recently listed onebedroom, one-and-a-half-bathroom condo on the market. This ground-floor apartment boasts a 24-hour doorman, an elevator, in-unit washer-dryer, ample storage, a terrace, and spacious living and dining areas with central airconditioning. Freshly painted and conveniently located minutes away from shopping, the railroad, restaurants, parks, and houses of worship. The building offers a gym, social room, library, indoor parking, and a kitchen featuring granite countertops, generous counter space, stainless steel appliances, and additional amenities.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Lawrence — Explore this splendid Carlyle apartment, nestled in a secure condo building with a doorman, underground parking, and elevator access. Revel in the amenities of a gym, library, and party room. The sunlit topfloor unit boasts two bedrooms, two full bathrooms, central air-conditioning, and a complete renovation embracing an open concept. Delight in the modern kitchen, dining room, and living room with granite countertops and stainlesssteel appliances, including two dishwashers. Custom closets adorn the space, and the two full bathrooms are immaculately renovated. Enjoy a terrace, in-unit washer/ dryer, and proximity to shopping, restaurants, the railroad, park, and houses of worship.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Lawrence — 5 bedroom, 3.5 bathroom home prime location lot size 77x130 features an eat-in-kitchen, formal dining room, main floor den, formal living room with vaulted ceilings, finished basement, gas heat, central air conditioning, in ground sprinklers, alarm, 2 car garage call for more details
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com
Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Woodmere — Welcome to this spacious home situated within the esteemed school district 14. This remarkable residence has undergone a complete transformation, boasting exquisite upgrades and central air conditioning for your comfort. The culinary enthusiast will delight in the splendid kitchen, featuring dual sinks. With a total of five bedrooms, including one on the first floor accompanied by a full bathroom and lofty ceilings. The second floor has two additional well-appointed bathrooms, while the primary bedroom enjoys the luxury of a private full bathroom + 3 additional bedrooms. The residence exudes sophistication, employing premium materials throughout. The home has been fully rewired and re-plumbed, ensuring modern functionality. Nestled on a tranquil residential street, the main level encompasses a spacious great room and a dedicated office space, complementing the formal living and dining areas. An unfinished basement and a detached garage provide ample storage and potential. The expansive lot, measuring 80 x 100, enhances the property’s allure. Conveniently located, you’ll find shopping, the railroad, restaurants, and places of worship mere minutes away. Take a moment to explore this exceptional dwelling - an opportunity not to be missed.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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West Hempstead — Price Reduced! Introducing a stunning new construction home designed for the homeowner seeking luxury and comfort. This masterpiece blends elegance with flair, offering an unrivaled living experience. Nestled within a picturesque neighborhood, this magnificent residence boasts a striking facade characterized by clean lines, premium materials, and quality craftsmanship. The thoughtfully designed exterior showcases large windows and creates an inviting first impression. Step inside and be captivated by the openconcept layout that merges the various living spaces. The expansive living room is bathed in natural light, thanks to the windows that offer great views of the surrounding area. The gourmet kitchen features top-of-the-line stainless steel appliances, sleek cabinetry, and an expansive center island with a breakfast bar. With ample counter space and a welldesigned layout, this kitchen effortlessly combines style and functionality, making it an ideal space for both everyday meals and entertaining guests. Adjacent to the kitchen, a wonderful dining area awaits, providing an elegant setting for hosting memorable gatherings with loved ones. Large glass doors connect the indoor and outdoor spaces, leading to a spacious patio, perfect for dining and enjoying the surroundings. The luxurious master suite boasts generous proportions, with a spacious bedroom, a lavish ensuite bathroom adorned with exquisite finishes, and a large walk-in closet. Additional bedrooms provide ample space for family members or guests. High-end finishes, premium flooring, and custom details are evident throughout, reflecting a commitment to quality and craftsmanship. New in-ground sprinkler system. Located in a highly desirable neighborhood, this new construction home embodies the epitome of refined living. With its exceptional design and luxurious features, it sets a high standard of modern living. Welcome to your dream home- a place where beauty, comfort, and sophistication converge to create an extraordinary living space.
Open House Sunday, December 22, 222 Walker Place 11:00–12:30 PM Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Woodmere — Welcome to this stunning residence situated on a tranquil residential street in Lawrence SD#15 in the heart of Woodmere. This spacious and flawlessly maintained home boasts 4 to 5 bedrooms, offering ample space for comfortable living. As you enter, you’ll be greeted by a bright and airy living room adorned with vaulted ceilings, skylights, and a convenient wet bar. The central air conditioning ensures a comfortable environment throughout the home, while the gas heating system provides efficient warmth during colder months. The kitchen is a true gem, featuring elegant quartz countertops and a cozy eat-in area perfect for casual dining. Adjacent to the kitchen is a formal dining room, providing an ideal space for hosting gatherings and entertaining guests. Additionally, a main floor den with a fireplace offers a cozy retreat for relaxation. The master bedroom is a true sanctuary, complete with an en-suite bathroom and a generously sized dressing room that can also function as an office or an additional bedroom. Indulge in relaxation in the luxurious Jacuzzi tub, perfect for unwinding after a long day. The home also offers three other well-appointed bedrooms and two full bathrooms. Outside, you’ll find inground sprinklers to effortlessly maintain the lush landscaping, while an alarm system provides peace of mind. The home boasts numerous built-ins throughout, enhancing both functionality and aesthetics. The lower level includes a spacious playroom, offering ample storage space for recreational items and a utility room for added convenience. Parking is a breeze with the two-car garage. In summary, this impeccably maintained home offers a spacious and inviting living space, luxurious amenities, and a convenient location in the Lawrence school district. Don’t miss the opportunity to make this your dream home. Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Lawrence — Stunning One of a Kind Mid Century Modern 6 Bedroom, 6.5 Bath, Contemporary Ranch. Resort Style Home on Over an Acre of Property in Back Lawrence. Incredible Views, Regulation Size Tennis Court - Deco Turf. IG-Gunite Pool, Low Taxes, 5318 sq. ft. of Main Floor Living Space. Plus 5000 sq. ft. Basement With Very High Ceilings. P.O.R. Call Mark for more details 516-298-8457
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group Cedarhurst — New Listing Renovated 5-bedroom 4-bathroom split level home in school district # 15, hardwood floors, central air conditioning, minutes to all. Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
North Woodmere — Priced Reduced! Beautiful Large High Ranch on an Oversized Parklike Lot in the Heart of North Woodmere on a Quiet Street. House contains 5 Bedrooms, 3.5 Full Baths, Ground Floor Office with Separate Entrance. Hardwood Floors Throughout. Beautifully Landscaped Private Backyard with koi pond. SD14. A Must See! Close to North Woodmere Park and all houses of worship!
$990K
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com
Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Woodmere — Welcome to this Desirable Town of Woodmere, where this property boasts an enviable location in its very heart. As you step inside, you are greeted by a welcoming entry foyer, setting the tone for what lies beyond. Ascend to the second floor, where you’ll discover a generous master bedroom complete with a huge walkin closet, along with two additional bedrooms offering ample space. The main level offers a formal dining room, as well as a spacious living room and a full bathroom for your convenience. Venturing down to the lower floor, you’ll find a large den that opens to the backyard through sliding doors, offering a seamless transition between indoor and outdoor living. Another full bathroom, a garage ensuring ample storage space. This residence also benefits from its proximity to transportation options, shopping venues, and houses of worship, making it incredibly convenient for your daily needs. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to see this remarkable home, as it is sure to captivate your interest. Act swiftly, as this gem won’t be available for long!
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Lawrence — New To Market! Magnificent Resort Like Home In Back Lawrence Featuring 6 Bedrooms, 4.5 Meticulously Renovated Bathrooms, Brand New Kitchen With Top-Of-The-Line Appliances Plus Elegant Marble Countertops Complimented By A Separate Breakfast Room. This Beautiful Home Also Features A Spacious Formal Dining Room, Expansive Den, And Large Formal Living Room. This Large Property Offers An In Ground Heated Pool, Large Trex Deck and Park-Like Grassy Area. $3,799,000 Irene Steiner, Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Cell 516-652-7099, Email: isteiner@bhhslaffey.com
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Woodsburgh — Land For Sale — New Exclusive! Build Your Dream Home On This Beautifully Landscaped, Extra Large Property In The Village Of Woodsburgh Near The Woodmere Country Club, SD#15! $1,699,000 Irene Steiner, Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Cell 516-652-7099, Email: isteiner@bhhslaffey.com
Woodsburgh — Exquisite 7 Bedroom, 4.5 Bathroom Grand Brick Center Hall Colonial Designed For Luxurious Living & Entertaining! Nestled On A Stunning Property Which Also Features A Spacious Circular Driveway and a Heated In Ground Pool. This Magnificent Home Boasts Generously Sized Rooms With Radiant Heating, and Custom Built Closets Throughout. A Breathtaking 2 Story Entry Hall With a Circular Staircase Greets You As You Enter This Beautiful Home. A Spacious Formal Dining Room, Large Formal Living Room, X-Large Wood & Granite Eat In Kitchen, Complete With Granite Island, High End SS Appliances & Walk In Pantry, Expansive Den With Fireplace, All Leading To 2 Beautiful Outdoor Patios, Perfect For Hosting Gatherings. The First Floor Also Includes An Ensuite Bedroom With A Private Bathroom, A Half Bathroom For Guests, A Second Bedroom, And Access To A 2 Car Garage. Ascend The Beautiful Circular Staircase To An Oversized Master Bedroom With Ensuite Bathroom, 2 Generously Sized Walk In Closets As Well As A Private Office. Down The Hallway Are 4 Additional Spacious Bedrooms, 2 Full Bathrooms, and A Private Laundry Room. A Second Staircase Leads You To A Large Finished Attic, Providing Even More Living Space. Experience Luxury Living At It’s Best!!
Woodmere — Sunny and Very Spacious 2 Bedroom Townhouse In Hewlett-Woodmere SD#14. Includes 1 Parking Spot, Lovely Private Yard With Large Storage Shed, Plus Washer and Dryer In Unit! Close To Everything $375,000
Woodmere — Very Spacious and Bright 1 Bedroom 1 Bathroom Corner Apartment In Charming Pre War Brick Building With Lovely Grand Lobby, 9’ Ceilings and Elevator. Unit Has Very Spacious Foyer, Living Room/Dining Room and Bedroom With Built Ins. Huge EIK and Grat Closet Space. Very Close To LIRR, Shopping and Houses Of Worship. Low Maintenance Includes Heat, Water & Taxes. Reduced To $295,000
Lawrence — New To Market At The Carlyle — Beautifully Updated and Spacious One Bedroom 1.5
Bathroom Condominium Apartment With Many Closets, Private Terrace, and In-Unit Washer/Dryer, In Elevator
Building With Parking. Building Amenities Include Doorman, Gym, Library and Party Room. Situated In Prime Location Close To Shopping, Dining, The Railroad, Parks, and Houses Of Worship! Reduced To $619,000 Irene Steiner, Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Cell 516-652-7099, Email: isteiner@bhhslaffey.com
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Lawrence — Stunning 4,500 Sq Ft Brick Home In Back Lawrence. Vacation All Year Long In This Incredible 6 Bedroom 5.5 Bathroom Home With Stunning 180 Degree Water Views, Spectacular Foyer In The Round With Curved Dramatic Staircase Leading To A Magnificent Sunlit Great Room With French Doors, Very Large Dining Room With Attached Renovated Butler’s Pantry, Updated EIK, Den/ Office With Fireplace. Around A Curved Hallway Are 3 More Bedrooms, An Enclosed Sunroom In The Round with Floor To Ceiling Windows, A First Floor Junior Suite with Sitting Room, Half Bath, Plus Bedroom With A Full Bath. Upstairs Offers A Massive Master Bedroom Suite With Dressing Area, Full Bathroom and Magnificent Water Views. There is Also A Small Bedroom Off The Master With It’s Own Full Bath. This .70 Acre Lots Offers Privacy, A Slate Patio, and Endless Lawn Plus A 2 Car, Detached Garage With a 2 Bedroom, 1 Bath Guest Suite. This Incredible Home Is Offered At $2,750,000
Cedarhurst — This Charming Colonial Features 4 Bedrooms, 3 Bathrooms, A Finished Basement With Full Bathroom, An Inviting Enclosed Front Porch, A Wooden Deck In The Back, Plus A Detached Garage. Conveniently Located Close To Shopping, Restaurants, Transportation, Parks, Library & Houses Of Worship! Reduced to $849,000
North Woodmere — Beautiful, Large High Ranch On Oversized Park Like Property In Ther Heart Of North Woodmere, On A Quiet Street. Home Features 5 Bedrooms, 3.5 Bathrooms, Ground Floor Office With Separate Entrance, Hardwood Floors Throughout, and Beautifully Landscaped Private Backyard With Koi Pond. Close To Park And Many Houses Of Worship $990,000
Woodmere — Beautifully Updated 4/5 Bedroom 3 Full Bathroom Split Level Home In Woodmere SD#14 With X-Large Living Room, Dining Room, and a Lovely Wood and Granite Kitchen With Stainless Steel Appliances (2 Of Everything!). A Half Staircase Leads Upstairs, Which Features 3 Bedrooms and 2 Full Bathrooms. Master Bedroom Includes A Large Walk In Closet and En-Suite Master Bathroom. Continue To The Next Level Which Includes Another Spacious Bedroom, Plus A Large Unfinished Attic With An Incredible Amount Of Storage Space. A Lower Level Includes A Lovely Den, Office/Guest Room Plus Full Bathroom And A Separate Extra Large Laundry Room, Perfect For Your «Costco» Storage Needs. This Lovely Home Sits On A Large Corner Property In A Quiet Area Of Woodmere, Close To Houses Of Worship
Lawrence — The Regency Extra Large & Magnificently Renovated 2 Bedroom 2.5 Bathroom First Floor Apartment With Extraordinarily Renovated Custom Extra Large Wood & Granite Kitchen With Granite Center Island, Upgraded Stainless Steel Appliances, Washer, Dryer, Beautifully Redone Bathrooms Plus Extra Storage, and Terrace, Which Opens Up Through A Private Gated Door Onto Courtyard and Pool. Luxury Living At It’s Best In This 5 STAR Hotel Like Condominium With Doorman, Parking Valet, Concierge, Underground Garage, Gym, Heated In Ground Pool, Wine Cellar, and Party Room. Furniture and Window Treatments Included! Parking, Water & Storage Included As Well! Reduced to $2,399,000
North Woodmere — Custom Built 6 Bedroom 5.5 Luxury Bath Home With State Of The Art Professional Kitchen With Granite Countertops & Top Of The Line Appliances. Spacious Living Room, Elegant Dining Room and Inviting Den Offer A Perfect Blend Of Comfort and Sophistication. The Fully Finished Basement Provides Additional Living Space. Situated In School District 14, In The Heart Of North Woodmere. A Truly Exceptional Property That Must Be Seen To Be Fully Appreciated! $1,950,000
2.5 Bathroom 3rd Floor Apartment With Wood & Granite Kitchen With Granite Island and Stainless Steel Appliances, Washer/Dryer, Spacious Living Room, Formal Dining Room, and Terrace In 5 STAR Hotel Like Condominium With Doorman, Elevator, Parking Valet, Concierge, Gym, Party Room, Wine Cellar and Heated In Ground All Year Round Pool. Water, Parking and Storage Included, and Close To Everything! Reduced to $2,100,000 Irene Steiner, Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Cell 516-652-7099, Email: isteiner@bhhslaffey.com
Inwood — Lovely 4 Bedroom, 2.5 Bathroom Semi Attached Home (Home that it is attached too is For Sale as well!) With Eat In Kitchen, Main Floor Bedroom and Half Bath, Spacious Living Room, Dining Room, Plus Finished Basement With 2 Additional Rooms and Full Bathroom. Private Driveway and Large Backyard. . $619,000 Irene Steiner, Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Cell 516-652-7099, Email: isteiner@bhhslaffey.com
North Woodmere — New Listing! Say goodbye to stairs and enjoy the ease of single-level living in this meticulously maintained ranch, featuring 3 bedrooms 2 full updated baths, a renovated kitchen, wood floors throughout and an attached garage. A spacious full basement serving as an additional level for storage, utilities, laundry and whatever else you desire. An inviting and beautifully landscaped backyard, with both a deck and patio for a relaxing retreat or entertaining. Located by vibrant shopping, restaurants and transportation, this home offers unbeatable value and to ensure you get the most for your investment! $799K Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Lawrence — New Listing! As you enter this resort-like home you are greeted by a stunning residence featuring six bedrooms and four meticulously renovated bathrooms. The home boasts a brand new kitchen equipped with top-of-the-line appliances and elegant marble countertops, complemented by a separate breakfast room. The spacious, square formal dining room, expansive den, and formal living room offer an inviting and luxurious ambiance. Every bathroom has been thoughtfully designed and newly updated to the highest standards. The expansive property includes a heated inground pool, a large Trex deck, and a park-like grassy area, perfect for outdoor enjoyment. Additional amenities include a two-car garage and an extra-large driveway, providing ample parking space. Situated in the prestigious Back of Lawrence, this home is a must-see, offering the added benefit of low taxes.$P.O.R. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Oceanside — Price Reduced! Charming OldStyle Home with Spacious Living Areas. This beautiful old-style home features 5 bedrooms and 1 full bath. The full, finished basement offers additional living or storage space, while the one-car attached garage provides convenient access directly into the house. Enjoy outdoor living on a large deck with an awning, overlooking an enormous backyard with plenty of room for a pool! Indoors, you’ll find a large living room, a formal dining room, and an eat-in kitchen-all filled with natural light. Situated on a lovely street, this home combines classic charm with functional living spaces. Don’t miss out on this very unique opportunity! Will not last. $649K Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
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Lawrence — New Listing! Rare find in back Lawrence! Nearly 4500 Sq Ft southern facing home directly on Reynolds Channel. Vacation all year long in your brick home w/stunning 180 degree water views throughout most of the home. Spectacular foyer in the round with curved dramatic staircase leading to a Great Room with windows galore, original hardwood floors and French Doors. Very large dining room with attached renovated butler’s pantry, updated EIK. Around a curved hallway are Three more bedrooms. There is also a sunroom in-the-round with floor to ceiling windows. One-in-a-million layout also highlights a first floor Junior Suite with sitting room, half bath, bedroom and full bath. Upstairs offers a massive Master Bedroom, dressing area, full bathroom and magnificent water views. There is also a small bedroom off the master with its own full bath. This .70 acre lot offers privacy, a slate patio and endless lawn. Adding to the unique aspect of this property, is a two car garage with a 2 bedroom/1 bath guest suite above it. A must see 6 bedrooms, 5.5 baths residence
Lawrence — New Listing! Discover this exceptional top-floor Carlyle apartment, located in a secure condo building with doorman service, underground parking, and elevator access. Enjoy a variety of amenities, including a gym, library, and party room. This beautiful one bedroom, one and half bathroom unit features an openconcept design. The spacious living and dining areas are adjacent to the kitchen, are perfect for entertaining. Many closets provide ample storage, while both bathrooms have been meticulously updated. Additional highlights include a private terrace, in-unit washer/dryer, and a prime location near shopping, dining, the railroad, parks, and houses of worship. $649K Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Lawrence — Experience the elegance of this extraordinary eight-bedroom Colonial home, nestled in a secluded location in back Lawrence. This hidden gem is set on a manicured two-acre lot. Upon entering the grand foyer, you will be greeted by the sophisticated charm of this magnificent residence. The spacious formal dining room is ideal for hosting large gatherings, while the expansive living room, den, and home office offer ample space for both relaxation and productivity. The well-appointed kitchen and breakfast room provide a perfect setting for enjoying delightful meals. The second floor features five bedrooms with generous closet space, three full baths, and a convenient laundry room. The interior space extends to the third floor, offering breathtaking water views and an additional three bedrooms and one bath. An additional carriage house on the property presents endless possibilities. The house also includes a full unfinished basement with plenty of space. This park-like property presents a rare opportunity in Lawrence, boasting low taxes and is a must-see!
Woodmere — Price Reduced! — Very Spacious, Bright 1BR, 1 Bath Co-op In The Desirable Heathcote Bldg In Woodmere. 4th Floor Corner Unit In Very Charming Pre-War Building With Lovely Grand Lobby. 9’ Ceilings & Elevator. Unit Has Very Spacious Foyer, LR & Bedroom W/Built-Ins. Huge EIK, Great Closet Space. Very Close to All including LIRR, SD#14. Low Maintenance Includes Heat, Water & Taxes $295K Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
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Woodmere — Price Reduced! Sunny & Very Spacious Townhouse In Hewlett-Woodmere School District #14, Includes 1 Parking Space Close to Unit. Lovely Private Yard With Large Storage Shed. Washer & Dryer In Unit. 2 Very Large Bedrooms. Small Dog or Cat Allowed. Very Close to LIRR, Shopping, Restaurants, JFK Airport and Houses of Worship. Must See!!! $375K Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Hewlett — Price Reduced! — Spacious Open Floor Plan Two Bed Two Full Bath Unit. Enter This Bright & Sunny Top Floor Apartment Through Ample Foyer With Cedar Lined Large Closet. Ahead Is Galley Kitchen With Counter With Seating By Scenic Window. Substantially Sized Living Room/Dining Room Perfect For Entertaining. Elegant Crown Moldings Throughout. Hardwood Floors and New Baseboard Heating. Huge Master Bedroom With Renovated Bathroom, Two Closets, Private Terrace. Second Sizeable Bedroom, And Full Updated Bathroom Make For Easy Living. Stackable Washer/Dryer In Closet. Building Amenities Include Laundry Rm, Bike Rm. Extensive Beautifully Landscaped Parklike Grounds. Close To All. ..... $245K Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
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Hewlett — Price Reduced! — Lovely First Floor 2 Bedroom, 2 Full Bath. Large Entry Foyer, Living Room, Formal Dining Room/Bonus Room, Galley Eat-In-Kitchen, Hardwood Floors, Garage Spot Available $100/mo. Washer/ Dryer Subject To Approval. Screened-In Porch
North Woodmere — This exquisite custom-built residence boasts six bedrooms and five and a half luxurious baths. The state-of-the-art professional kitchen showcases granite countertops and top-of-the-line appliances. The spacious living room, elegant dining room, and inviting den offer a perfect blend of comfort and sophistication. Abundant natural light floods through large windows, creating a warm and welcoming ambiance. The fully finished basement provides additional living space. Situated in school district 14, in the heart of North Woodmere, this home is conveniently located near all places of worship. A truly exceptional move in ready property that must be seen to be fully appreciated
Inwood — Explore this inviting 4 bedrooms, 2.5 bathroom home with a main floor bedroom and half bath. The main level boasts an eat-in-kitchen, a spacious living room, and a dining room. The second floor includes two bedrooms with a shared full bath. The third-floor retreat features a bedroom suite complete with its own full bath. The fully finished basement features two additional rooms and another full bath. This property presents a compelling investment in a thriving community, with excellent income potential and proximity to all amenities, transportation $619K
Boynton Beach, FL — Beautiful 3BR house in the Club available for rent. Near shuls and kosher shopping. Please call 917-539-5473
Boynton Beach, Florida — Majestic 55+ Beautiful 3BR, 2bth, private home w/ updated kosher kitchen, light airy space, screened porch, new AC, 2-car garage, walk to shuls Letty 914-441-6272
Bayswater — New to market. 1, 2, 3 and 4BR rentals, great location. Call Joan for details, 516-319-4482
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Far Rockaway — New to market
Renovated, 1, 2, 3 and 4BR rentals, great location. Call Joan for details, 516-319-4482
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Cedarhurst & Lawrence 1, 2, 3, & 4 Bedroom apartments for Rent. Prime location, Walk all. Call Joan for details 516-319-4482
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Cedarhurst rental — Magnificent 2 Bedroom, 2 Full Bathroom Apartment In the Heart Of Cedarhurst. Kitchen With 2 Sinks, Dishwasher, Microwave, Refrigerator & Oven. Washer/Dryer In Unit, Hardwood Floors, Recessed Lighting, Central Air Conditioning, Private Entrance, Garage Parking, Minutes to All.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Hewlett for rent —Move-in Ready! This meticulously maintained home offers 3 spacious bedrooms, 2 full bathrooms, and a finished basement equipped with a washer and dryer. The bright, modern kitchen features stainless steel appliances, including dual sinks, a dishwasher, refrigerator, gas stove, and microwave. Enjoy the convenience of 2 side yards for outdoor space. Additional highlights include a finished attic for extra storage or living space, and a 2-car driveway for off-street parking. Located in the highly sought-after School District #14, this home is just minutes from schools, shopping, dining, public transportation, and places of worship. Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Woodmere — Magnificent 5 Bedroom Colonial, 3 Full Bathroom Home in Hewlett-Woodmere School District. Features Central AC, Gas heat, Eat-in-Kitchen, Granite Countertops, 2 Sinks, 2 Dishwashers, Kitchen Island, All new kitchen appliances and countertops. Main Floor has Formal Living Room, Study, Library, Formal Dining Room, Washer/ Dryer, Large Bedroom and a Full Bath. 2nd Floor Features the Master with Full Bathroom and Office, 3 additional Bedrooms and a Full Bathroom. Circular Driveway parking for 4 + cars, and Finished Basement. Magnificent Yard, Hardwood Floors. Minutes to shopping, Transportation, Schools and Houses of Worship.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker
Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
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Woodmere — Magnificent Home in the Heart of Woodmere. Constructed in 2020. 7 Bedrooms, 4 Full Baths, Detailed Moldings Throughout, Deck Off Dining Room, Maple Wood Floors, Anderson Windows + Doors, Custom Closets, Dimmers & Timers, 2 Zone CAC. Eat-In-Kitchen with 2 Sinks, 2 Dishwashers, 2 Microwaves, Double Oven, Island, Sound System, Camera System & 4 Car Driveway. Call for more details
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Cedarhurst — 1 bedroom 1.5 bathrooms first floor, private entrance, central air conditioning, washer/dryer, stainless steel appliances, hardwood floors, recessed lighting, freshly painted, underground parking $95/mo. minutes to the railroad, parks, shopping and houses of worship.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Cedarhurst — Move Right In 2 Bedroom, 2 Full Baths, Washer/Dryer, CAC, Private Entrance, Hardwood Floors, Recessed Lighting, Freshly Painted, Great Courtyard, Underground Parking $95/Mo. Stainless Steel Appliances. Minutes to the Railroad, Shopping, Restaurant, Park & Houses of Worship.
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Hewlett — Renovated 2 Bedroom Apartment with Washer/Dryer in Unit. Free Storage in Basement, Freshly Painted Kitchen with Quartz Countertops + Stainless Steel Appliances, Recessed Lighting, Hardwood Floors. Minutes To the Railroad, Shopping, Restaurants & Houses of Worship. No Brokers Fee
Mark Lipner 516-298-8457, mlipner@bhhslaffey.com Associate Broker Berkshire Hathaway Lafffey International Pugatch Group
Hewlett — New Listing! Move-in Ready! This meticulously maintained home offers 3 spacious bedrooms, 2 full bathrooms, and a finished basement equipped with a washer and dryer. The bright, modern kitchen features stainless steel appliances, including dual sinks, a dishwasher, refrigerator, gas stove, and microwave. Enjoy the convenience of 2 side yards for outdoor space. Additional highlights include a finished attic for extra storage or living space, and a 2-car driveway for off-street parking. Located in the highly sought-after School District #14, this home is just minutes from schools, shopping, dining, public transportation, and places of worship $4,950/mo. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Cedarhurst — New Listing! Renovated 2 Bedroom, 2 Full Bathroom, 1st Floor Apartment With Washer & Dryer, Plus A Finished Basement Hardwood Floors, Granite Counter Tops, Recessed Lighting, Central Air Conditioning, Dishwasher, Private Entrance, Underground Parking, Close to Shopping, Restaurants, Park, Transportation, Schools & Houses of Worship. Live-In Super $3,595/mo. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Woodmere — Price Reduced! Charming Newly Renovated 2-Bedroom, 2-Bathroom House in Woodmere. Welcome to your serene retreat on a beautiful lake in Woodmere! This newly renovated 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom home is nestled at the end of a quiet cul-de-sac, offering both privacy and tranquility. Step inside to discover a bright and airy living space featuring modern finishes throughout. The open-concept layout seamlessly connects the living area to a fully updated kitchen, complete with sleek appliances and ample storage. Both bedrooms are generously sized, with the master suite boasting an en-suite bathroom for added convenience. Enjoy the convenience of an in-unit washer and dryer, making laundry days a breeze. Outside, relax on the patio and take in stunning lake views, perfect for morning coffee or evening sunsets. Don’t miss the opportunity to make this peaceful lakeside haven your new home! $3,800/mo. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Woodmere — House Rental — Magnificent Home in the Heart of Woodmere. Constructed in 2020. 7 Bedrooms, 4 Full Baths, Detailed Moldings Throughout, Deck Off Dining Room, Maple Wood Floors, Anderson Windows + Doors, Custom Closets, Dimmers & Timers, 2 Zone CAC. Eat-In-Kitchen with 2 Sinks, 2 Dishwashers, 2 Microwaves, Double Oven, Island, Sound System, Camera System & 4 Car Driveway Call for details! Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR SALE
700 Woodfield Rd, West Hempstead, NY Former supermarket For sale or rent
Sale Price
$2.850,000 Call 917-929-3213
Island Park — Synagogue For Sale 9,558 SF w/ Parking Incls. 2 Sanctuaries 175 & 375 people, kitchen, chapel, offices, storage For more info, Call: 516-203-8102
Hempstead — For Sale
Price Reduced! This is an amazing opportunity to own prime property on a busy Main Street near shopping centers. Property with great visibility, wide frontage. Great for convenience store, Office Space, Urgent Care, Retail, Gym & Med Spa. Food with proper permits. Do not miss this opportunity!!! $699K
Call Annette Samant for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Bellemore — Business For Sale
An amazing opportunity to own a very successful and highly rated business/food establishment in the heart of Bellmore Village. Very spacious with a full basement. Includes: 2 Pizza Oven, Refrigeration, Freezers, Prep Counter, 3 Computers With Systems, Soda Machine & Much More!!! Rear Parking Leads To Restaurant Back Door $299K
Call Annette Samant for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Hewlett — Business For Sale
Hewlett Restaurant for sale $250,000 for the key….. seats 80 3000sf plus full basement…great lease...Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
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Hewlett Office Space — Great Location $1,250.00 monthly Approx. 150 sq ft.
High-end office in great location. Ceiling to floor windows. New carpeting. Free Utilities and wifi. Pictures available. Parking. 516-765-1560
5 Towns — Offices For Lease
Attractive Pricing! Inwood — 1500SF loft office space Can be divided
Cedarhurst — 3-Office Suite 500sf Also… Large Parking Lot & Storage available Utilities, Internet & Parking incl. with some Kosher kitchen — Minyan Next to LIRR — No broker fee Call/text/Whatsapp: 516-206-1100
Hewlett For Lease Hair Salon…for rent no key money, all set up...Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Hewlett For Lease Dentist retiring Hewlett for rent…..Commercial house great parking...Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Lawrence For Lease
6600SF on Central Ave Lawrence for rent plus full basement...Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Woodmere For Lease
Very high-profile corner retail….4400sf available 60 days... Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Lynbrook — For Lease Office Space — 2 Suites 580 & 814+/-SF, $25 per sq ft includes heat, ac, one on-site parking spot...Call Randy Green for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Cedarhurst — Prime 800sf office opposite HFTR H.S. Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Woodmere — Professional building 750 sf $1700.00 per month Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Woodmere — 6600sf daycare opportunity….Call Ian Leigh for More Details. Woodmere@bhhslaffey.com, www.bhhslaffey.com, 516-295-3000
Cedarhurst — Commercial Co-op for rent in prime location, good for part time professional, close to all. Call for details. Call Joan 516-319-4482 Five Towns Homes 516-569-5710
MISCELLANEOUS
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5TJT SporTS CenTer
By Judah Rhine
MJDSBL
Girls Varsity National
YOF vs. HAFTR. Flatbush traveled to HAFTR and came away with a 36–12 win. Flatbush started out strong, scoring 18 points in the first quarter. Flatbush was led by Rina Fatiha with 14 points, Jill Braha with 7 points, and Lilly Siri with 7 points. Frieda Braha, Ruby Tawil, and Jacklyn Sabbagh also contributed to the score. All the Falcons played with tremendous effort to help secure the victory. Although HAFTR did not win, they played tough from the tip to the final buzzer!
Boys Varsity National
HALB vs. NSHA. HALB’s matchup with NSHA turned into a thrilling comeback victory. HALB was down by two points heading into halftime but came out strong in the second half with a 10–2 run to take control. Despite a late push from NSHA, who cut the lead to single digits, HALB held firm. With under 10 seconds left in the game, Sammy Matlis stepped up and hit a crucial free throw to put HALB up by four, sealing the win. Bram Feldman led the team with 16 points, while Sammy Matlis added 14 and Alex Bornstein contributed nine. It was a hard-fought win, and HALB’s resilience in the second half made all the difference.
Boys Junior Varsity
YHT vs LIHA. YHT hosted LIHA in a game that wasn’t very competitive but both teams enjoyed the contest as YHT
went on to win 76–39. The YHT coach started his bench and proceeded to substitute freely and frequently, allowing all his players to play a good amount of time. LIHA, in their inaugural season, had their highest total points scored in a game. YHT had three players in double figures, led by Jordan Scherzer with 12 points. LIHA’s high scorer was player Kahen who had 23 points.
Girls Junior Varsity
YOF MK vs. NSHA. The Flatbush MK JV girls pulled out a big first win against NSHA and won by one point 27–26. A combined effort of offense and defense got them the W. High scorers were Sarah Serour with 15 points and Joyce Swed with eight points who led the offense and Tammy Kezra who played unbelievable defense.
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Boys HS Varsity
MDY vs. Frisch. The MDY Warriors faced off against the Frisch Cougars. The Cougars got off to a fast start, scoring the first nine points and really kept the offensive fire power all game. The Warriors were able to cut the deficit to seven multiple times, but the Cougars made key baskets to extend their lead. The final score was 69–55 in favor of the Cougars. Phil Sherr had 19 points. Josh Chabbott and Jack Dweck each added 13 points. The Warriors are now 5–3 in league play and 10–6 overall.
SportsCenter Overtime NFL
NY Jets. Roll back the clock as Aaron Rodgers was vintage Aaron Rodgers, at least for a half. With what was a matchup solely based on pride and draft positioning for the 3–10 Jets traveled to the 3–10 Jaguars who were without their injured franchise QB Trevor Lawrence. The Jets got off to a slow start and trailed by a score of 13–7 at halftime. Suddenly it looked like old times for Aaron and Devante Adams and the rest of the Jets pouring it on in the second half. Rodgers hooked up with Adams for a couple of touchdown passes, one of them a 70 yarder. The Jaguars kept coming back and finally the score was tied at 25 with just under two minutes left. Rodgers connected with Adams for two huge pass plays that got the Jets to the Jags one-yard line with just one minute left. Breece Hall was able to run the ball in for the go-ahead touchdown, resulting in a 32-25 victory. As Rodgers stated after the game, “It is too little too
late for the Jets” as they squandered over the course of the season numerous fourth quarter leads that ended up costing them those games. Although the Jaguars were beaten up with ravaging injuries, a win is still a win, and the Jets secured their fourth victory of the season. The Jets defense is still not an elite one as they allowed backup QB Mac Jones to continuously drive the Jaguars down the field. This lack of defensive intensity coincided with the firing of head coach Robert Saleh, forcing interim head coach Jeff Ulbrich to wear both head coach and defensive coordinator hats. This has contributed mightily to the defense’s poor performance. There is much more to say regarding the future of Rodgers and Adams with the Jets and that will be for another day after the season. In the meantime, the Jets are determined to go all out in their three remaining games against the Rams this week, followed by a trip to Buffalo and then closing out hosting the Dolphins.
NY Giants. The Giants were saddled with the impossible situation of hosting the playoff bound Baltimore Ravens led by their two-time MVP and current MVP candidate QB Lemar Jackson. Going into the game the Ravens were favored by 16 points, which is the largest spread this season. The Ravens did not shy away or get trapped. Instead, they came out with full force and fury and totally demolished the Giants by a score of 35–14. Lemar Jackson had his way throwing five touchdown passes over three-and-a-half quarters. The Giants, on the other hand, were down to their last string QB Tim Boyle who replaced starter Tommy DeVito who was knocked down with a concussion during the first half. It was DeVito who replaced QB Drew Lock who was out with an ankle injury, and he had replaced veteran QB Daniel Jones who was released several weeks ago. The other highlight of the day was another banner flying over MetLife stadium this time reading, “Mr. Mara, enough—we won’t stop until you fire everyone.” There were many empty seats at MetLife for the game and a number of fans wore brown paper bags over their heads. This combination does not sit well with the Mara/Tisch families who own the Giants. They have a huge decision to make regarding their GM and head coach as their season spirals downward toward most probably one of the top two picks in the 2025 NFL draft. The Giants will hit the road this coming week where they will face an Atlanta Falcons team that is in desperation mode to try and reach the playoffs.
5TJT Top Ten Week 15
1. Buffalo Bills (LW #4)
2. Philadelphia Eagles (LW #3)
3. Kansas City Chiefs (LW #2)
4. Detroit Lions (LW
5. Minnesota Vikings (LW
6. Baltimore Ravens (LW
7. Green Bay Packers (LW
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8. Washington Commanders (LW #9)
9. Houston Texans (LW NR)
10. Pittsburgh Steelers (LW #6)
The Bills zoomed back to the top spot in the rankings as they went into Detroit and defeated the Lions 48–42. The score does not reflect how dominant the Bills were, led by MVP candidate Josh Allen. This week the Bills host the hapless Patriots. The Eagles completely dominated the Steelers in a keystone state matchup 27–13. They have had a long winning streak and are playing for the top seed in the NFC and a first-round bye led by QB Jaylen Hurts and RB Saquon Barkley once again. They will travel to Washington for a showdown with the Commanders. The Chiefs soundly defeated the Brown 21–7 but that was not the story of the game. All world Patrick Maholmes suffered a severe ankle injury, which puts his status for the upcoming games in question. Chiefs face a daunting task of hosting the division leading Texans this week. The Lions appeared extremely ordinary in their defeat at the hands of the Bills despite the huge offensive output. They simply could not contain Josh Allen at all, losing 48–42. They will travel this week to Chicago to right the ship. The Vikings have won 7 games in a row remarkably led by former Jet QB Sam Darnold as they find themselves tied with the Lions atop the NFC North. They soundly defeated the Bears 30-12. They will travel this week to Seattle to face a desperate Seahawk team. The Ravens thoroughly defeated the Giants 35–14 behind five touchdown passes by Lemar Jackson and appear to have corrected course. This week they will host the Steelers in a huge divisional matchup. The Packers solidly defeated the Seahawks behind QB Jordan Love and maintain their hold on a playoff spot in the NFC. They will host the Saints on Monday night. The Commanders squeaked by the Saints 20–19 but remain extremely relevant in the NFC playoff picture. They will have a huge test this week when they host the Eagles. The Texans climbed back into the Top Ten after their beatdown of the Dolphins 20–12, clinching another AFC South Division title. They will travel to face the Chiefs in what could be a preview of an AFC playoff matchup. The Steelers are hanging in to the Top Ten despite their loss to the Eagles 27–13. They will face a huge test as they continue on the road to face division rival Ravens.
Our thoughts and prayers are with our brothers and sisters in Israel.
Excitement in the 5 Towns Hockey League: Playoffs Kick Off
As the chill of winter settles in, the excitement in the 5 Towns Hockey League is heating up. The playoffs have officially begun, bringing with them a wave of competitive spirit and thrilling match-
es that have fans on the edge of their seats. This year’s playoffs promise to be some of the most intense yet, showcasing the incredible talent and dedication of young athletes in the league. The 5 Towns Hockey League has always been known for its competitive nature, and this year is no exception. Teams have battled through the regular season, honing their skills and building camaraderie. As the playoffs commence, every game becomes a test of teamwork, strategy, and resilience. Coaches and players alike are focused on bringing their best to the floor, resulting in fastpaced games filled with incredible plays and nail-biting moments. Spectators and parents can expect to see some of the league’s top players shine during these high-stakes matchups. The intensity of the playoffs often brings out the best in young athletes, pushing them to elevate their game and strive for victory. Each team is eager to prove themselves, making every game a showcase of talent and determination. While the competition is fierce, the spirit of fun and enjoyment remains at the heart of the 5 Towns Hockey League. Parents, friends, and fans fill the stands, cheering on their favorite teams and celebrating the hard work of the players. In the end, the 5 Towns Hockey League is about more than just competition; it’s about fostering a love for the game, building friendships, and creating unforgettable experiences. As the playoffs unfold, one thing is certain: the joy of hockey will continue to shine brightly in the hearts of these young players, making this season one to remember. Registration is now open for the winter/ spring season, which is sure to be a great one (5townssports.com).
JSL Fall Championship Recap
It was a great final Sunday of the JSL fall season by FM Home Loans. JSL rented a Cybertruck for the kids to enjoy taking pictures with and for the league staff to deliver plaques to all of the team sponsors. Then the championship games themselves were incredible.
Hockey
In the 2nd/3rd grade hockey championship, Built by Nate defeated Smash House 6–1, with Akiva Schreier earning MVP honors for his two-goal perfor-
the pumping background music!
Basketball
In the 3rd/4th grade basketball championship, Posh Home + Bath edged out Wieder Orthodontics 15–13 in an overtime thriller. Dovid Bauman was named MVP for his clutch scoring and lockdown defense that made the difference. In the 5th–7th grade basketball championship, Sperling Productions defeated DJ_CP 33–19. Moshe Gold led the way for Sperling Productions, earning MVP for his standout performance.
JSL Juniors
In K/P football, Tikva, Fire and Security beat Beautox_AL 6–4. Aryeh Wechter was named MVP after scoring two touchdowns to lead his team to victory.
In K/P soccer, Hewlett Auto Body secured a thrilling 2–1 win over Maidenbaum. The first half ended 1–1, with both goalies combining for an incredible 43 saves. With just 10 seconds left in the game, Levik Rose scored the game-winning goal, finishing with two goals and earning MVP honors.
mance. Yosef Gordon was stellar in net, allowing just one late goal to help secure the win.
The 4th/5th grade hockey championship was a thrilling showdown, as Russo’s Pharmacy overcame a fast start by Smash House to win 7–5. After Smash House scored four quick goals, Russo’s turned it around, outscoring them 7–1 the rest of the way. Eliyahu Ruzohorsky led the comeback with two goals and two assists.
In the 6th–8th grade hockey championship, Wieder Orthodontics pulled off a dramatic 5–4 overtime victory over NY Custom Closets. Trailing 4–3 with under a minute left, Eliyahu Zachter tied the game with just 14 seconds remaining. He then sealed the title with the game-winning goal in sudden death overtime, capping off what will certainly be remembered as one of the greatest finishes in JSL history. And all of it was backdropped by an amazing performance on stage from DJ_CP, who came to provide
In K/P hockey, SR Whee took down Five Towns Landscaping 6–5 in a game full of determination and grit. After falling behind 3–0, Yakov Rosenberg scored two clutch goals, including the game-winner in the final minute, to complete the comeback and claim MVP.
Bright Futures dominated Growtha 9–2 in K/P hockey. The first half was tightly contested, but Bright Futures took over in the second half, scoring seven goals. Ruvy Botwinick scored two late goals for Growtha, but Bright Futures’ strong team play sealed the win.
Gerber Bedding defeated Smash House 16–2, with Gavriel Feinsod delivering an incredible performance, scoring 11 goals to earn MVP and carry his team to victory. n
Judah Rhine, who has been involved in youth basketball for more than 40 years, is codirector of MVP Camps and administrator of the MJDSBL. He can be reached at sportscenter613@gmail.com. Read more of Judah Rhine’s articles at 5TJT.com.
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Mix It Up! At Shulamith
The fifth graders at Shulamith were introduced to a new program—Mix It Up! Each girl received a different color of Laffy Taffy and entered a vibrant, colorful lunchroom where each table was set with a different colored tablecloth. The students sat in groups according to the color of their taffy, and spent time schmoozing and enjoying lunch while meeting girls they hadn’t spoken to before. Afterward, each table played a game of Anomia, with friendly competition and laughter filling the room. Everyone agreed it was a great opportunity to have new conversations with classmates. The girls were very positive about mixing up their seats and conversations at lunch. We’re so proud of them and look forward to more Mix It Up lunches in the future! n
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our trips to Crown Heights. My grandfather was the first of our four grandparents to pass away. We were all rather young and although he had somewhat of a heart condition it was a shock to us all when he passed away at what in retrospect was a very young age of 72. However, in writing about him now, before his yahrzeit I wanted to do so in the context of all my grandparents who collectively have shaped who I have become today. I remember my maternal grandparents well. My grandmother was a Holocaust survivor, a small woman who somehow had the courage to come over to the shores of this blessed country to build a family in full sight of the horrors that she witnessed through her nine-yearold eyes. She was a Yiddishe mama in every sense of the word. Nothing pleased her more than whipping up a pot of elbows, serving us turkey burgers, stuffed cabbage, salt and pepper kugel, or her legendary array of baked items, which a book would be out about if she had just left over her recipes.
She literally, like thousands of others, was prepared to make the ultimate sacrifice to remain steadfast in her Jewish observance and it meant everything to them that their children followed in the path trailblazed by them. They no doubt made mistakes vis-à-vis their children as a result of the great sacrifices that they made and the inability to discern early on that their children were living in a vastly different milieu than what they were brought up in, which required a different approach that perhaps they were not fully equipped to provide. My maternal grandfather was a student in the Novardok Yeshiva during the war years. He worked a double shift in order to spare his frail rebbi from having to engage in labor that would have surely cost him his life. He even pawned off his gold watch so that his rebbe could procure bread and milk for their two-year-old daughter who was starving and in need of basic nutrition. That daughter, Rebbetzin Perr, would, together with her husband, the late Rabbi Yechiel Perr, come to the Far Rockaway neighborhood, found the Yeshiva of Far Rockaway, and amass generations of students through a yeshiva that carries the name Derech Ayson which stands for Avraham Jaffen Talmid Novardok.
I have a lifetime of memories with my grandparents. I had spent Shabbosim in their Boro Park home and have vivid memories walking alongside my Zaide Nudel on Shabbos morning going to Beis Yosef or on occasion Chust or Skver, which were chassidish shtieblach in the vicinity of his home. My zaide used to daven closer to his home on Friday nights at a shteeble under the auspices of Reb Chaim Grozovsky, zt’l, whose father, Reb Reuven, was renowned as one of the famous roshei yeshiva whose works on Shas have been published and
studied in yeshivos the world over. Reb Chaim and my zaide were chavrusos; he was a tall and imposing figure whose history I was unaware of as a child. But as I think back now, he had this oldworld simplicity about him, which I’m not sure even exists in our world of false sophistication. My zaide’s main preoccupation was in Torah and he could be found at all hours during the early morning to late night bent over a volume of Gemara. Funnily enough he had an interest in wrestling; I’m really still unsure where that came from. However, part of it must’ve been his attempt to show his new world einekel that he was relatable despite hailing from a very different time. He learned Daf Yomi for as long as I can remember. He didn’t do the Daf; he lived it. I’d wake up early in the morning and he’d be poring over a large volume of Gemara. One memory I have is him learning perek Chezkas Habatim, taking my little finger and pointing to the words of a Tosafos on the left side of the page.
As a young child in yeshiva he’d seek to learn with me and in the early years I would dread it. I would fabricate all sorts of excuses explaining why the current time was not ideal and I saw how much pain it caused him. However, as I got older and matured a bit, I would seek to compensate for all the lost time in my younger years by giving him the time that he sought to learn with me as well as to share my own ideas in learning, which gave him such pride because there was nothing else important in his life other than Torah. My grandparents were of very meager means. They never owned their own home and would rent until their last day. My grandfather worked at some point but after he was hit by a car and injured, he more or less stopped working and started to learn full time. He was an extremely simple and unpretentious person and would often find rubber balls, magnets, and other chotchkes in the street that he’d be happy to present to us as if he had bought it at the corner toy store. And you know what? We cherished them because we felt the love in his heart and saw the twinkle in his eye as he gave it to us. To give you an idea of his unpretentiousness he once came home holding a pamphlet that looked like a kuntres of some sort that he said he got as a handout from someone in the street. I looked at the “kuntres” a little closer to realize that it was Jews for j paraphernalia that had been published in Hebrew in order to dupe unsuspecting passersby. I’ll never forget all the times my grandparents came to my parents’ home for Shabbos and yom tov. I was the “Shabbos goy” who would carry his reading glasses and his tallis bag when he didn’t trust the eruv. We’d walk together and reminisce about the giants of the previous generation that he would see as a child. He remembered Rav Meir Shapiro of Lublin and would reminisce about the time that Rav Dessler came to his yeshiva. At the age of sixteen he and a few friends of his
would travel to Vilna for Shabbos where they had the opportunity to meet with Rav Chaim Ozer who pinched his cheek, a gesture that he told me he would never forget for the rest of his life.
He was awed by the Lubavitch and Satmar Rebbes. He was completely apolitical. I remember once talking to him about Rav Steinsaltz, zt’l, anticipating that he’d launch into a yeshivishe tirade of all the criticisms that were being levied at him. Nothing. Only praise for the renowned Talmudic genius. He would often tell me to always ask questions and never be afraid of being made fun of because without asking questions you won’t learn as the Mishnah in Avos states, “Lo habayshan lomed.” My grandmother was the breadwinner of the household. She was known as the little old lady who worked at the coat store in Borough Park. My wife remembers shopping at that store as a single girl and was shocked when she found out that the little old lady who had helped her in the store was my grandmother. She would remain in that store for decades and would continue to do so long after she was physically able to. She assured my mother that she had stopped working but we’d hear from others who would attest to seeing her there. I guess she was a workaholic.
The last eight years of my grandfather’s life were very painful. He developed dementia, which in the beginning would be accompanied by the predictable symptoms of forgetfulness but would in time intensify and would ultimately incapacitate him. However, in the middle of this period he would sing the song “V’lirushalayim” on repeat. It’s almost as if it was the last song he was thinking about before he developed this condition and he would just sit there repeating “V’lirushalayim.”
I don’t know what was going through his mind then. In fact, I remember on one of our final visits to him, wondering as he was staring blankly straight ahead or directly upward depending upon whether he was seated or lying down, thinking about what was going through his mind. However, against the backdrop of everything that I had described up until this point, I have no doubt that those declarations of “V’lirushalayim” were born from deep longing feelings for the redemption.
It was my mother perhaps who was the one who had grown up in the home of Holocaust survivors. Her mother, who I wrote about above, found herself on a selection line as a young girl 9 years of age and she was asked by an officer why she in her blonde hair and blue eyes was waiting on this line. “Run away,” they said, “you surely don’t belong here.” From that point on she’d spend the next six years of her life hiding out in the basement of their childhood housekeeper, and she would be the sole survivor from all the members of her family. My mother would tell us that her mother would
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Mix It Up! at Shulamith
The Shulamith ECC Pre-1A created art work modeled after the book Ten Black Dots by Donald Crews
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HANC Chumash Play
The auditorium of the West Hempstead Elementary School was filled
with excitement as the parents, siblings, and grandparents of HANC’s Elementary School Second Grade students waited with great anticipation for the children’s Chagigat HaChumash Play.
Accompanied by the joyful melodies of HANC’s music teacher, Mrs. Kari Levine, a HANC alumna and parent, the children marched in with enthusiasm emanating from their faces. As the students took their places on stage, it was evident that the audience was about to witness an inspiring milestone in their children’s lives. Rabbi Ouriel Hazan, Head of HANC’s West Hempstead campuses, welcomed the parents into the gathering of happy Chumash recipients.
Throughout the electrifying performance, the children sang a series of songs focusing on the importance of learning Torah and how happy they were to be receiving their first Chumash As the children delivered their speaking parts and sang their inspiring songs, the students’ enthusiasm was felt throughout the room. In one of the songs, as the children sang about lighting up the world with Hashem’s Torah, the lights were turned off and the children waved glow sticks to exemplify the light of Torah that each of them possesses and can share with the world.
The much anticipated moment final-
ly arrived. Each student was called forward by Mrs. Michal Wasser, Assistant Principal, and was presented with a beautiful Chumash with a leather cover that was personalized with their full Hebrew name. In addition to receiving their Chumashim, the students were also presented with a photograph of themselves receiving their Chumash with the teachers and administrators. The children also received a large lollipop with the image of the cover of their Chumash embedded in the delicious treat.
The children discovered that they were filled with many emotions during the course of the Chumash Play. It was truly a spectacular event and the children brought tremendous nachat to everyone who was in attendance. The second grade teachers were especially proud of their young students who had worked so hard to prepare for this auspicious day.
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HANC ECC is very busy getting ready for Chanukah
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hard work in preparing the children for this special milestone event. Thank you to Mrs. Kari Levine for the many hours she spent rehearsing with the children and enabling them to sing so magnificently. Special thanks to the PTA for its continued support and the generous Chumash sponsors for the beautiful personalized covers that created a truly magnificent gift of lifelong learning for our students. Tremendous hakarat hatov to Mrs. Michal Wasser for her assistance with so many details to make this program a resounding success. Mazal tov to all of the students and may their families derive much nachat in the future from their wonderful children. n
Library Time At HAFTR ECC
This week in the HAFTR Early Childhood Library, we read There Was an Old
Lady Who Swallowed Some Books, by Lucille Colandro and I Know an Old Lady Who Swallowed a Dreidel, by Caryn Yacowitz. These delightful stories introduced the children to two different themes: preparing for school, and celebrating Chanukah!
We discussed the silly things that the Old Lady was swallowing, that we would of course never eat ourselves! It was also a great chance to go over the different things we eat, and what special treats we enjoy specifically eating on Chanukah.
As a follow-up activity, the children created their own puppets, inspired by the Old Lady. Each puppet was designed with a functional “mouth,” allowing the children to feed it anything they could imagine! This hands-on activity encouraged creativity, fine motor skills, and a connection to both of the stories. Our puppets sparked a lot of laughs as the children used imaginative play and watched the puppets as they “ate” all
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Morah Alana from Tevah V’Torah teaches about Chanukah at HAFTR ECC
This week in HAFTR Early Childhood, Morah Alana from Tevah V’Torah
transformed her classroom into a Chanukah world of wonder. The room was filled with Chanukah books, a new felt board with different Chanukah items for the children to move around, and Chanukah-themed sensory bins filled with rice, funnels, menorahs, and more! Morah Alana’s room is all about handson projects and centers for the children to explore. After playing in the different centers around the room, the children did a science experiment with oil and water. They learned how olive oil is made and were given oil and water to place in a jar and mix together. But they quickly noticed that the water and oil weren’t mixing! Morah Alana then had the children add in Alka-Seltzer, which made the oil and water bubble up, and mix! We added a new term to our Science Word Bank, “chemical reaction.” Morah Alana taught us that some things cannot mix, but we can try to add something new, which can lead to a new chemical reaction. The children were amazed to see what happened when they added their mixtures, and couldn’t wait to go home to share it with their families! n
Shuk to the Core
This past weekend, HAFTR, in collaboration with Congregation Beth Sholom, transformed its space into a lively and impactful cultural exchange through the Shuk Experience “Shuk to the Core,” an initiative to spotlight and support Israeli artisans. Organized with dedication by Stuart Katz and Jordan Hiller, the event brought together hundreds of attendees for an unforgettable display of unity and purpose.
The Shuk provided a vital platform for Israeli vendors to showcase their exquisite hand-crafted products, from
jewelry and Judaica to art and artisan health products. This initiative carried deep significance, offering economic relief to vendors facing financial challenges due to the decline in tourism caused by the ongoing conflict in Israel. With a large portion of their income traditionally relying on visitors to the Holy Land, these artisans found hope and support through the Five Towns community’s unwavering solidarity.
Beyond commerce, the event served as a poignant reminder of collective strength. Representatives from Mental Health Israel First-Aid were present, raising funds and awareness for critical relief efforts and assistance for those suffering from the trauma of war and captivity. The heartfelt collaboration highlighted the resilience of those on the front lines, the hostages returning home, and the unwavering commitment of those who stand behind them.
The Shuk was held alongside HAFTR’s annual Chanukah Boutique, organized by the HAFTR PTA featuring local vendors and offering attendees a blend of national and community
treasures. Both the Shuk and boutique experienced tremendous success, leaving customers inspired by the creativity, dedication, and stories behind the products.
More than just a marketplace, the Shuk Experience became a symbol of unity, bridging the gap between Israeli and American communities. In a year defined by challenges, the event exemplified the strength that emerges when people join hands to support one another.
Organizer Stuart Katz shared a powerful message: “We can’t fight this fight alone, and we’re hoping—praying—that you’ll stand with us now, just as you’ve done so many times before. Your support means more than words can ever express.”
Hosting this remarkable event was an honor for HAFTR, reaffirming the school’s unwavering commitment to Israel and the global Jewish community. Together, we demonstrated that even in the face of adversity, support knows no borders. n
HAFTR Early Childhood Library
Morah Alana from Tevah V’Torah teaches about Chanukah at HAFTR ECC
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Happy Times At HALB
Be the Light. In honor of our brave soldiers in Israel, and leading up to Chanukah, the Bat Ami girls at HALB made lanterns with their students. Each lantern had the name of a soldier and a quote. With their lanterns, students can help spread the light of the brave souls in Israel and bring light into all our lives. LGR! The HALB Sports Club had a great time at the Rangers Game last week! It is always a fun night when parents, students, and teachers all go to a game together.
Chessed 24/7. Once again, HALB has partnered with Chessed 24/7 for Chanukah! Students have been making beautiful cards to go with the gifts that Chessed 24/7 will be delivering to children in the hospital over the holiday.
Pajamas at Lev Chana. Lev Chana students got to enjoy a special Pajama Day in honor of the letter P! Students came wearing their favorite pajamas and had a chance to read and learn together while feeling extra comfy!
HALB Melaveh Malkah. Last Motzaei Shabbat, HALB students, parents, and staff gathered at the Hirt family campus for the much anticipated HALB Melaveh Malkah! The evening started with a carnival, Simon Sez, and delicious food. Everyone then made their way to the gym for the incredible fifth grade choir performance, and ended with dancing and singing together. It was a beautiful night filled with excitement and achdut!
Ready for Chanukah! Chanukah workshops have begun at Lev Chana and will be continuing through the month. Each morning a different class invited their parents to join them for Chanukah themed activities and a class performance. Our students love when their parents get to join them in school! n
Our Chayalim Deserve, And Need, Proper Gear
By: The Chamal Association
One of the most-used words during this challenging time in Israel is
“chamal” (In Hebrew, an acronym for cheder milchamah, war room), which refers to a command center or “situation room” where individuals are mobilized for the war effort. Alongside the military command centers operating around the clock, there has been an incredible proliferation of civilian command centers, both in Israel and abroad. These “chamalim” have played a critical role in addressing the ever-evolving needs of both soldiers and civilians, and they have been at the forefront of ensuring that every IDF soldier is properly
equipped to protect the Land of Israel.
Last week, 14 months into the Swords of Iron War, it was reported that the IDF finally acknowledged that it had issued helmets and body armor to its soldiers that might have been unsafe. Let’s take a moment to process this thought—Israel, one of the world’s most technologically advanced nations, has been providing its soldiers with inadequate gear, even after over 430 days of ongoing conflict!
This revelation may come as a shock to many readers, but for those of us who have been engaged in supplying the IDF with gear since October 7, 2023, it’s not surprising. In fact, the issue of the IDF’s inadequate equipment was reported by the Israeli press as early as May 2024. The IDF’s initial response? Denial, followed by a controversial announcement that any soldier caught using donated gear would face arrest!
The reality is that our association of “Chamalim” has been aware of the soldiers’ needs from Day One. The demand for boots, uniforms, winter gear, tactical equipment, and, of course, helmets and ceramic vests, has been ongoing. We have filled these needs as effectively—if not more effectively—than any established organization, and certainly more efficiently than the IDF has.
For over 430 days, our motto has been “Don’t ask ‘lamah,’ ask ‘l’mah.’” (“Don’t ask why; ask, what can I do?”)
Regardless of the reasons behind the IDF’s failure to adequately provide for our chayalim, it is gratifying that they have acknowledged that we—our communities and our volunteers—have saved lives! Our focus remains on helping however we can, and we encourage you to do the same. Join us in supporting those who are protecting our Homeland, and ensuring that every chayal has the equipment he needs to ensure his safety and ability to carry out the mission.
The Chamal Association is a coalition of organizations, including the Israel Chesed Center, BC Lev Echad, Boots for Israel, Lev LaChayal, Unit 11741, and Israel Magen Fund, all of whom have been at the forefront of engaging local communities to assist in the war effort. Since October 2023, these groups have collected and distributed millions of dollars in gear, equipment, and other essential supplies to soldiers, security teams, and civilians in Israel.
For more information or to make a tax-deductible donation towards crit-
Lev Chana Pajama Party
HALB Melaveh Malkah
HALB students design lanterns for Israel
HALB students design cards for Chessed 24 7
HALB Sports Club attends Rangers Game
HALB Chanukah Workshop
The Pittsburger Rebbe, shlita, donating $100 to become a partner in the Israel Chesed Center
Moshe Bodner, David Solomon, Gabi Katz (IDF Chayal and author of Alone With God) and Jeff Eisenberg
Ambassador David Friedman and Mrs. Tammy Friedman, visiting the Chesed Center with Rabbi Zalman Wolowik
The Pittsburger Rebbe, shlita, visiting the Chesed Center
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“V’ha’arev Nah” Continues at MAY
Mesivta Ateres Yaakov’s 12th grade has become a flagship for the vaunt-
ed “V’ha’arev Nah” Bekiyus Program. The renowned program, which was highlighted in Mishpacha Magazine, encourages talmidim through a variety of methods to engage in a tremendous amount of chazarah until they truly “own” a masechta.
As one of the components to the novel approach to bekiyus learning, talmidim participate in several “retzufos sedarim” throughout the year. Aside from the delicious fare that is provided before and after the seder, the primary goal is for talmidim to learn completely uninterrupted for an extended period of time. This past Wednesday, the 12th grade shiurim at MAY remained in yeshiva after a full day of learning and engaged in a retzufah seder, learning uninterrupted, for 3-4 hours straight. The seder concluded with a delicious seudah, divrei Torah, a musical guest, singing, and dancing.
“Much of the success we are seeing from our talmidim has to do with the time and energy our senior rebbeim, Rabbi Tsvi Greenfield and Rabbi Yonason Sprung, expend for their shiurim,” commented Rabbi Yossi Bennett, S’gan Menahel, “They give over lev v’nefesh for our talmidim and the bochurim feel that.”
Rabbi Yonasan Sprung added, “My goal is that my talmidim gain skills in lumdos and a geshmak in learning during our iyun shiur, and another geshmak in mastery of a masechta during our
bekiyus shiur.”
At the beginning of the z’man, talmidim from both shiurim visited Rabbi Dovid Neuman, the mastermind behind this groundbreaking movement, and inaugurated the program for this z’man.
B’siyata d’shmaya, talmidim are learning b’hasmodah rabah and loving every minute of it! n
FM Home Loans MAY 5K Incentive Breakfast
The FM Home Loans MAY 5K has become a legendary event at Mesivta
Ateres Yaakov, embodying the unique ruach that makes MAY so special. The race, which was held a few weeks ago, is organized by the Student Government, and builds palpable excitement among the student body while raising crucial funds for the tuition scholarship fund and other student-centered programs.
To celebrate the success of the race, which raised over $165,000, the GO hosted the 5K Incentive Breakfast. The highlight of the event was the awarding of the hundreds of incredible, hardearned incentives to the bachurim who worked hard to raise funds. Among the incentives awarded were Crawford’s gift certificates, the Rock basketballs, custom sneakers, AirPods, Andrew Lock custom suits, and an iMac computer!
Much appreciation goes to FM Home Loans as the title sponsor for the MAY 5K and to all the other sponsors, volunteers, and participants. n
Math Enrichment At YOSS
Mrs. Ratner’s third grade math enrichment class is flying through the curriculum. The boys can recognize numbers up till the thousands place. They are able to identify all different
forms of a number including, standard form, picture form, word form, and expanded form. We then moved onto adding and subtracting with regrouping till the thousands place. The boys are pros at identifying key words and solving word problems as well. We are currently finishing up the concept and understanding of multiplication and repeated addition. A highlight of our class is getting to play many different games to reinforce our skills. The class enjoys playing around the world, connect four, I have who has, and scoot just to name a few. We can’t wait to learn all the multiplication tables and division. Keep up the great work! n
Shalsheles Learning Program at YOSS!
This past Sunday, fathers and grandfathers of talmidim in Rabbi Oberlander’s seventh grade shiur joined together for a morning of Torah learning and inspiration at the second annual Shalsheles Learning Program! After davening together and enjoying a deluxe breakfast, they came to the beis midrash and began to learn b’chavrusa. This year, the theme was Chanukah, and Rabbi Oberlander created a kuntris of maareh mekomos on various sugyas, including the famous question of the Gemara in Shabbos which asks, what is Chanukah? The Kol-Torah filled the beis midrash, as three generations learned through the sugya. At the end of the program, individual talmidim were given a chance to present their answers and to ask POW
questions on the sugya. It was a morning of true nachas, and all three generations walked away with the type of chizuk that only comes from connecting to Toras Hashem! n
TAL Academy Melaveh Malkah
After many weeks of extensive preparation, the girls of TAL Academy put on a stellar choir performance at the school’s first mother-grandmother melaveh malkah. The recent melaveh malkah was hosted by the Ghoori family in their home in Lawrence. To kick-off the evening, the girls, along with their mothers and grandmothers, were treated to an abundant, catered, dairy buffet. Prior to the musical performance, two students led the girls in reciting Perek Kuf Chaf Aleph of Tehillim for the safety of our IDF soldiers and the safe return of our hostages. As TAL Academy is a school for children with Language-Based learning challenges such as dyslexia, that reading of the Tehillim was especially meaningful.
The students then all performed a Shabbos-themed musical medley, complete with solos, duets, and intricate harmonies. The hours of hard and diligent work to get the performance just right paid off! The audience was
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“V’ha’arev Nah” Continues at MAY
FM Home Loans MAY 5K Incentive Breakfast
Mrs. Ratner’s third grade math enrichment class at YOSS
Shalsheles Learning Program at YOSS!
Melaveh Malkah for TAL Academy at Ghoori home
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Yehudah Jacobs Photography
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mesmerized! Then, Mrs. Sara Taib, the school principal, presented a surprise gift to the two girls who recently celebrated their bas mitzvahs (a first for TAL). These students each received a beautiful leather-bound Tehillim, personalized with their names.
The evening was jam-packed. The girls also enjoyed a slideshow with this year’s photos from school. Keeping with the theme of Shabbos, the girls also decorated their very own customized “match cloche bottle” for their mothers to use during hadlakas neiros. The project functions as both a beautiful and practical item that will be used at home. As the event came to a close, each student received a goody bag filled with treats and games to be enjoyed on Shabbos. The evening was an inspiring and unifying event for the girls of TAL Academy, their mothers and grandmothers, along with the TAL Academy faculty. n
Rambam Alumni Rabbinic Fellowship: Year Four
The Rambam Mesivta Rabbinic Fellowship, now in its fourth year, continues to thrive under the leadership of its founder, Principal Mr. Hillel Goldman.
This program was created to keep alumni connected with Rambam, while providing them with invaluable opportunities to enhance their Torah knowledge and grow professionally in the world of Jewish education.
The program offers alumni the chance to be mentored by experienced Rambam rebbeim and administrators, learn best practices in Jewish education, and teach actual classes. In addition, participants benefit from career support, including résumé assistance, interview preparation, job placement guidance, and professional advice.
Past fellowship sessions have included impactful lectures and discussions with prominent figures in Jewish education and leadership, such as Rabbi Josh Goller, mara d’asra of the Young Israel of West Hempstead; Rabbi Elon Soniker, mara d’asra of Anshei Shalom; Avi Posnick, Regional Director of StandWithUs; Andrew Parver of the Hebrew Free Burial Association; Rabbi Chaim Hagler of Ramaz Middle School; Rabbi Ilan Schimmel, Director of Israel Guidance at Rambam, Rebbe at Rambam; and Mr. Yehuda Friedman, Director of Community Engagement at the Friends of the IDF. These sessions cover a wide range of topics, from classroom management to the communal life of a rabbi, helping fellows to prepare for successful careers in Jewish education and community leadership.
Another highlight of the program is the Rambam Sugya Yomi, where alumni engage in meaningful Torah study together with current Rambam talmidim . Upon completing the program, the Rabbinic Fellows earn a framed Rabbinic Fellowship Certificate, as well as Rabbinic Fellows “graduation” sweatshirts.
Recently, participants had the honor of meeting Honorable Judge Goldman, who shared his expertise on public speaking in his session titled, “From the Classroom to the Pulpit.”
The Rambam Mesivta Rabbinic Fellowship continues to provide Rambam alumni with the tools and
guidance necessary to pursue a lifelong commitment to Torah and Jewish education. n
Rambam: A Week Filled with Fun, Learning, and Team Spirit
It was a week to remember at Rambam, packed with exciting events, treats, and meaningful learning experiences. The school finished off last week erev Shabbos with National Hot Cocoa Day, a sweet treat initiative spearheaded by senior Gershon Brill and sponsored by the class of 2025. Students enjoyed a variety of hot cocoa flavors, including chocolate, vanilla, and marshmallows.
Special thanks to Aaron Friedman, Director of Operations, for putting everything together and senior Zachary Haironson for also helping to set up this fun treat.
This followed the Thursday night Senior Chulent-A-Thon, sponsored by Elazar Schwartz and family, which was a hit and sold out quickly. Proceeds from the event went to benefit senior scholarships, offering students a delicious treat for the way home from school and a way to support their peers.
The action continued on Sunday with the Varsity Flag Football team shutting out Magen David in a thrilling match. Meanwhile, Rabbi Ariel Rosensweig completed his Halacha Yomi on the berachot of neirot Chanukah . The talmidim were treated to snacks in celebration of this achievement.
Throughout the week, Rambam’s Club Hour provided a variety of activities, including Mixed Martial Arts, Sports, World Culture, STEM, Knee Hockey, Chess, and more. With students taking the lead in organizing these events, there truly was something for everyone.
In addition to the fun, Rabbi Ephraim Meth’s 10th grade Gemara Iyun Shiur saw impressive progress, with students being awarded certificates based on the number of Gemara lines they memorized, with some students reaching more than 60 lines.
It was a week that truly showcased Rambam’s blend of Torah learning, sports, and student-driven initiatives. n
Shana and Miriam Ghoori
Credit Yehudah Jacobs Photography
Performance for TAL Academy at Ghoori home
Rabbi Ephraim Meth’s 10th grade Gemara Iyun Shiur at Rambam Mesivta
100th anniversary of YU’s Hanukkah Dinner. Fueled by this exciting achievement, the university’s major Capital Campaign launched three years ago now stands at $520 million, moving into its final phase towards its ambitious $613 million goal.
The announcement came during YU’s Centennial Hanukkah Dinner, a landmark NYC event that drew over 500 devoted friends and supporters to honor a century of impact while charting a bold course for the future. This year’s dinner paid special tribute to families who have played pivotal roles in the University’s 138-year history, while emphasizing the essential need for scholarships to support the next generation of Jewish leaders and ensure a vibrant future for YU, the Jewish community, and the world. The evening also celebrated YU’s exceptional growth in recent years, including the addition of over twenty new degrees, the doubling of its graduate student body and its recently launched Honors Leadership Society which is attracting the nation’s top tier students to its undergraduate school.
Contributions have surged in recent years, with a notable increase since October 7th, as donors seek to invest in universities that stand for excellence and values.
“Hanukkah illuminates the idea that the seeds of redemption are sown in darkness,” said Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman, President of Yeshiva University. “For over 100 years, Yeshiva University has been a beacon of light, rooted in academic excellence and a values-based education. Even in the face of profound challenges, we rise with courage and conviction to meet this unprecedented moment in history, empowering our students to bring hope, strength, and moral clarity to our society and our world. Tonight, we celebrate the unwavering dedication of those who make this vision possible and the promise of a brighter tomorrow for us all.”
Since its inaugural gathering in 1924, Yeshiva University has featured at its dinners the giants of past generations. Previous awardees at YU dinners include Albert Einstein, Jonas Salk, Golda Meir, and John F. Kennedy. Building on this rich tradition, the 100th annual Hanukkah Dinner reflected YU’s enduring legacy while raising crucial funds to fuel the university’s growth.
The honorees of the dinner included longtime pillars of YU’s community, whose commitment to Jewish education and leadership has left an indelible mark on the institution. Global Jewish leader Chella Safra, a longtime member of YU’s Board of Trustees and Chair of the Moise Y. Safra Philanthropic Foundation, was awarded an honorary doctorate in recognition of her visionary leadership.
presidency; it will also be a marked improvement from the first Trump Administration, which was unfortunately shrouded in so much underhandedness and corruption emanating from Democratic Deep State operatives that were embedded inside the Beltway.
It’s funny as well as odd to think back to 2020, when the message from CNN and The New York Times was that with Biden taking the Oval Office, “the adults were back in charge.” Now, as the final days of Biden’s presidency begin to wane, it’s abundantly clear that this was the most inane and most vacuous administration to ever hold office in the United States, perhaps ever.
It’s not just ridiculous but also outdated to say that the 2020 election was stolen by Biden. It’s an old joke that everyone has already heard and knows the punchline. But do you remember in the interim period before Joe Biden was sworn into office in 2021, how he was paraded around with signs behind him and in front of the podium that read: “Office of the President-Elect”?
Can you imagine Trump appearing with those words following him wherever he goes? I thought it was silly back then and I believe it even more so today. Were the Biden people trying to convince the American public that they won an election that, perhaps, they didn’t really? But that is not what this is about. That’s an old joke and not even worth discussing.
With the advent of the second Trump Administration, this time, for the first time in years, the adults are truly back in charge. These adults include people with substantial credibility and a solid track record. They include people like JD Vance, Elon Musk, Vivek Ramaswamy, Robert F. Kennedy, Jr., along with cabinet nominees Marco Rubio, Pete Hegseth, and Elise Stefanik.
As we know, Governor Huckabee has been nominated as U.S. Ambassador to Israel. Of course, he will need to be confirmed by the Senate Foreign Relations Committee prior to taking up this pivotal position. Once that confirmation happens (though the questioning might be contentious), Huckabee and his wife will be moving from their home in Arkansas to most likely Jerusalem.
For Mike Huckabee, it is a dream come true, and as an added attraction, it’s a great move for the U.S. as well as for the State of Israel. Huckabee is a great friend of the Jewish people and harbors a special affinity for the land and people of Israel.
I don’t think he will have any issues with the Republicans on the Senate panel, but it is the Democrats on the committee that might be predisposed to put on quite a show. Democrat members and those most likely to challenge Huckabee are Corey Booker, Chris Coons, and Chris Van Hollen. The Republicans leading the charge will be folks like Ted
Cruz, Mitt Romney, and Tim Scott.
The Democrats will no doubt challenge Huckabee on his position that he is not an advocate or a supporter of a two-state solution. They will also call him out for his position on Israel annexing Judea and Samaria, or as they are more commonly referred to as “the West Bank.”
Governor Huckabee is on record saying that he feels the so-called territories should be a part of Israel and not referred to as “settlements,” but rather as what they are: communities in Israel.
Once he is confirmed and sets himself up in Israel, Mr. Huckabee will have to hit the ground running. There is a great deal on the U.S.-Israel drawing board that needs to be dealt with immediately, and that includes ending the war in Gaza and bringing all the hostages home after more than 15 months of being held captive in Gaza. This talk about focusing solely on the four remaining American hostages is not something to be excited about after 14 months of robbing people’s freedom and keeping them in inhumane captivity.
Once the Trump Administration manages to get past the emergency crises on the agenda like Gaza and Lebanon, the ambassador will have to begin to deal with the more adult projects like continuing to grow the Abraham Accords on the road to real and lasting peace in the region.
The Trump-Rubio-Huckabee expertise and responsibility will require getting around the saccharine issue of requiring the establishment of a Palestinian State prior to the Saudis agreeing to recognize and deal with Israel directly.
The two-state issue zaps the energy out of the process just as it has done for
the last half century. The Saudis and Kuwaitis would like nothing more than to step over the Palestinian issue and get moving in enjoying trade and importing technology from Israel just as the first quarter of the 21st century comes to a close.
There is no doubt that Huckabee is going to be abused by Democrats on the panel if he is forthright, open, and honest about how the Trump Administration sees the futile future of the useless two-state mantra. Someone has to be bold enough and brave enough to say that it just cannot happen in the foreseeable future. The Palestinians do not have the leadership in place and the mechanism by which they function is just too corrupt at this juncture to take such a giant step.
Huckabee will most likely face a bit more diplomatic abuse if and when he insists on referring to the so-called “disputed” territories as Judea and Samaria instead of the West Bank. One of the more contentious issues is the concept that after more than half a century, Israel’s annexing of Judea and Samaria and making the residents subject to Israeli law instead of military law as has been the case over all these decades.
The other day, on Monday, Trump held an impromptu press conference and aside from his opening remarks, took random question from reporters on an assortment of subjects and a number of issues.
I was watching the news conference out of the corner of my eye while also trying to write and listen to what the president had to say. I was so taken by our new commander-in-chief’s thoughtful answers that I had to stand
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Governor Huckabee with Esta and Larry Gordon
The Wilf Family, iconic figures in the philanthropic, sports, and business worlds, were presented with the prestigious Centennial Medallion. Members of YU’s Board of Trustees and owners of the Minnesota Vikings, Orlando City SC, Orlando Pride, and Garden Homes, the Wilfs have long championed YU’s mission and the advancement of Jewish education.
The Dinner began with an unexpected announcement by dinner co-chair Daniel Loeb of an extra $1 million gift toward the campaign. Additional gifts included a $6 million contribution from Chella Safra and her family—$1 million for student scholarships and $5 million to endow a new university professorship, and a $5 million endowment from Bill Ackman. An $11 million donation from Moshael and Zahava Straus was announced to expand and enhance YU’s distinguished honors program the Zahava and Moshael Straus Center for
Torah and Western Thought, and $15 million from the Morris Bailey and Joseph Jerome families to support the launch of the Yeshiva University’s new College of Dental Medicine. And a surprise at the dinner was a transformative $36 million gift from the Wilf family. Together these contributions demonstrate the incredible power of philanthropy to further Yeshiva University’s mission of nurturing Jewish leadership and influence, bringing the total to over $100 million raised since the campaign’s kickoff, resulting
in the most successful Hanukkah Dinner Campaign in YU’s history.
Dinner Committee chairs and honorary chairs represent the strength of YU’s future, and included Dinner Chairs Mitchell Julis, Daniel S. Loeb, and Anita Zucker; Honorary Chairs Ingeborg and Ira Rennert; and Honorary Co-Chairs Harry Adjmi, Shari Redstone, Terry Kassel, and Paul Singer. The Centennial Committee represented families who have shaped the University through their support, commitment, and vision. n
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of days, or we demonstrate or sing or light an extra candle erev Shabbat. Even those who do nothing outwardly, experience the sadness piercing their hearts.
Artist Toby Woolf, in a deeply moving and exquisitely expressive exhibit at the Jerusalem Theater, imagines not the horror or the pain, but the haunting silence of the individuals, and the loving hugs of the hostages looking out for each other. Woolf points out to me as I peruse the collection that when one walks through the exhibit from the beginning, you will notice that only toward the end do the works morph from charcoal to water color, symbolic of hope.
It is an unusual exhibit, one that will entrance you. It was hard for me to move on from it. I just wanted to stay and absorb the emotion.
From what depths of creativity and sensitivity did this exhibit spring?
Toby Woolf was born in 1957 in Brooklyn. She grew up in a home where music and art and literature were commonplace, and their family history included war and hardships.
Woolf says, “My sister Judi, a’h, was an artist. I grew up going to museums. My father, z’l, was a ba’al tefillot [led the prayers in the synagogue]. My
mom sewed, read voraciously, and both parents engaged in high level conversations on politics and religion.
“My dad fled Poland to Russia and ended up in a slave labor camp in Archangel. They were released and went to Tashkent where my Russian born mom’s family had fled. They married and made their way to a DP camp in the American zone in Germany where my two eldest sibs were born. They came to the U.S. in 1950 where first Judi and then I was born.
“I think about my father who was 15 when he fled Poland from the Nazis, before they returned, when the Red Army was in place, with his parents and one brother. He later learned that everyone, uncles, aunts, cousins, and grandparents were murdered. Yet he went on, married, and had a family.
“I pray for all the bereaved and wounded that they, like my parents, will find the strength to go on. And live.”
Disclosure: For eight years, I taught Creative Writing at the Senior Center in Gush Etzion where Woolf’s late mother, Dora Bergstein, was a student, and that gave me a glimpse into the depth of feeling and creativity from which Woolf came. She also has children who are involved in the visual and performing arts, so it is a generational thing. I found something Dora wrote in 2008,
Rabbi Berman presents the honorary degree to Chella Safra
From left, Rabbi Berman, Audrey Wilf, Stephanie Wilf Kahn, Elana Wilf Tanzman, Mark Wilf, Jane Wilf, Andrew Wilf and Zygi Wilf
YU’s Hanukkah Dinner drew over 500 devoted friends and supporters.
Yitzchak Greenfield speaking to Professor Daniel and Nechama Sperber
Photos by the Moriah Woolf
Toby Woolf, Bobbi Hartman, and Heddy Abramowitz
Photos by the Moriah Woolf
in response to an assignment, Ten Measures of Wisdom: “Have patience for living. (Some good things can show up on your way through life.)” How fitting to read that now, when her daughter has had her first solo exhibit at this stage of life.
Toby married Professor Jeffrey Woolf in 1980 and they made aliyah in 1993, first to Jerusalem, and eventually settled in Efrat. Professor Woolf lectured at Bar Ilan University on the History of Halakhah, Medieval and Renaissance Jewish History. Prof. Woolf also spoke at the opening.
Dr. Batsheva Ida, Curator of the exhibit for the Jerusalem Theater, describes Woolf’s methods and goals in the exhibit:
“In this exhibition, the 2023-2024 works in charcoal and watercolor depict groups and families lined in soft contours, which suggest rescue and embrace, reassurance, and escape, coupled with the tense reality of enclosed spaces. These elusive and suggestive works enable us to enter into our dreams, and join there with the inner world of the hostages, more than candid photographs of happier times allow.”
Woolf says, “After making aliyah, I sought appropriate teachers so I could continue my art and work in a related field. I worked in computer graphics but then settled on Art Therapy. Working with children to express their emotions through art led me down artistic paths for myself.”
When one examines an artist’s work, it is meaningful to know who their teachers and mentors were.
“I studied for a time in a group with Sasha Okun looking for the essence of expression. What do you want the painting to say?”
Okun is an Israeli artist, author, and educator who made aliyah from the Soviet Union in 1979. He was a senior lecturer at Bezalel Academy of Arts in Jerusalem for almost 40 years and has exhibited his artwork throughout the world. In 2014, Okun received the Mordechai Ish Shalom prize for Achievements in Art.
“Afterwards,” says Woolf, “I studied silkscreen printing with Ellen Lefrak to
find a way for the color to tell the story.”
She studied under Yitzchak Greenfield, her closest mentor, who spoke at the exhibit’s reception. Greenfield made aliyah from Brooklyn, N.Y. in 1951. Since his move to Jerusalem in 1969, he says on his website, “Discovering this unique city and finding ways of expressing it in my work became my goal. Historic ruins and buildings, Hebrew letters, amulets, and the world of the Bible and Kabbalah became the intrinsic content of my art.” His studio and gallery are located in Ein Karem and his work can be seen in museums, galleries, and private collections around the world.
“I have been in Yitzchak Greenfield’s studio for thirteen years,” says Woolf, “challenging and struggling with reality and imagination. What does art mean to me? Is it copying nature? Is it the use of a particular medium? Is it carving the wood and simplifying the image in black and white? Is it trying to express the flight of a dancer or the feeling of the group at rest?
“And then the world went black. October 7th brought monstrosity to the fore obscuring everything else. I felt that I had to respond artistically because words were meaningless.”
But, says Woolf, she insisted on looking for the light in the darkness. “The desire to hold on to the crumbling wall to keep it standing up. To reach out heavenward for help.
“I imagined hostages helping each other in the face of evil. Their humanity and love, surviving the onslaught of unspeakable evil. The sacrifice to protect others, to comfort them. To lie among the dead and live.”
Woolf’s use of charcoal for many of the images, in addition to watercolor, is, she says, “in order to express the life force. These images came to me from my imagination and my attempt to reveal the pain and the strength of those held in captivity.”
At the exhibit’s opening, Woolf said, “I used to draw for nature in Yitzhak Greenfield’s garden, and I drew dancers because I was inspired by my daughter Elisheva who was studying dance, and then October 7th happened. I felt this need to draw what was happening, but
I didn’t want to draw or paint what the enemy had done to us; rather I wanted to imagine that people were helping each other.”
About the exhibit opening, which was well attended by friends and family, she said, “The evening was very exciting for me on the one hand, yet the subject is sad, and this even came up deciding what we should offer as refreshments. Normally at an opening you’d have champagne, but that was certainly not appropriate.
“I also kept feeling and hoping that by the time the opening happened, the hostages would be freed, and I’d be told to take down all the work; that it’s passé. Well, I hope it will be someday.”
Greenfield, who spoke, said, “There is something wonderful when an artist takes upon herself a topic so heavy…the emphasis [in her work] is on the heart of the matter, and not on the anatomy [of the subjects] … she expresses her emotion and her connection to the people… It is an excellent exhibit that in my opinion should be shown in many additional locations.”
One last disclosure. A number of years ago, Toby Woolf admired some paintings I had done at a retreat for cancer patients. She encouraged me to study painting more seriously. A few days later she showed up at my door with the gift of two small canvases, to start me on my way.
I relate that story because it illustrates how Toby Woolf the artist does not separate herself from Toby Woolf the art therapist. She sees potential in a piece of charcoal, in the sweep of a brush on canvas, in the clarity and magic of water colors.
And in people.
It is not surprising that even in the horror of captivity, she sees glimmers of love and of hope.
“These are my Hostage Dreams,” says Woolf. “May they be rescued soon.”
Hostage Dreams will be on exhibit in the Henry Crown Gallery until December 31, 2024. n
The author is an award-winning journalist, theater director and editor-in-chief of WholeFamily.com.
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stances.
Jeremy Dys says that the First Liberty Institute has primarily worked on behalf of churches, but also on a few cases on behalf of shuls looking to open in Atlantic Beach. Mr. Dys is also working on a Chabad case in Hawaii and the reality is that in the end, due to the First Amendment right to religious freedom, institutions that bring these cases often win.
Far away in Hawaii, Rabbi Levi Gerlitzky, born and raised in Crown Heights, has been a shliach in Kona for the last eight years. My natural question to Rabbi Gerlitzky was if it was true that Jews were really residing in what is referred to as the Big Island? According to the rabbi, on an island with a population of about 1.5 million people, there are roughly 10,000 Jews who are permanent residents. In the community that he serves, there are about 1,000 Jews and he says he usually has a minyan on Shabbos, offers Torah classes, and provides kosher food that he imports from the mainland.
But this is not a story about Chabad of Hawaii. One of these days we’ll get to that. The question we are dealing with here is what does Rabbi Gerlitzky in Hawaii have in common with Rabbi Goodman in Atlantic Beach?
Their issues are similar but not exactly. In Hawaii, the shul is in the rabbi’s house and, as he explained, he has a tent set up in his backyard that serves as a shul and as a dining room on Shabbos and yom tov
The First Liberty Institute is representing Chabad of the Big Island, and the Department of Justice in Washington, DC recently added an opinion to the case that sides with Rabbi Gerlitzky and Chabad.
The resistance that is currently taking place in Atlantic Beach, similar to what took place in the Five Towns a while back, as well as in areas like Westhampton Beach in Suffolk County, eventually gave way and the shuls were allowed to open and function both legally and properly.
Sources on the ground who are active in village government in Atlantic Beach say that at the end of the day, the Atlantic Beach village board led by Mayor George Pappas feel that whatever differences that exist between the Atlantic Beach zoning board and the Chabad petitioners will eventually be worked out, an agreement will be reached, and Chabad will be allowed to open and function accordingly. We have reached out to members of the zoning board and are awaiting their getting back to the 5TJT n
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Toby pointing out something to her teacher
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Yitzchak Greenfield
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tell her regularly in the morning prior to going off for school or later on to work that she might not be there later when she returned home. So although my mother and her siblings didn’t live through the Holocaust they have been hardwired with the consciousness of those who did, which no doubt had left a lifelong imprint regardless of whether it is noticeable or not.
My father’s father was born in a town in Belarus called Dokshitz, which was burned by the Nazis. My great grandfather and subsequently his family would leave Dokshitz long before the war, restarting their lives in Crown Heights where my great grandfather would be a shochet by trade as well as a gabbai in 770 both by the Friediker Rebbe and later the Rebbe. My grandfather would be educated in Yeshiva Torah Vodaas and would go on to get semicha from Rabbi Shlomo Heiman who was a talmid of Rebbe Boruch Ber who was the prized student of Reb Chaim Brisker. My zaide would go on to become a Yiddish journalist of great repute for the Algemeiner Journal in which he wrote multiple weekly columns as well as sustain the paper financially with the advertising revenue that he would generate. I was told a story of a couple who would regularly argue about the current events of their day and after a
long and drawn-out argument they’d stop and say “We will wait to read what Reb Nison Gordon writes about what is going on and that’s how we will decide who is correct.”
Practically every time Rabbi Bender would come into our classroom to address us or to hand back a test or a homework assignment, when he’d get to my name he’d go on about how not a weekend could pass without his parents perusing the Algemeiner Journal and specifically the articles of my grandfather.
However, while my grandfather had come over from Dokshitz, as I said, getting out long before the Nazi rose to power, and ultimate invasion into their town, my grandmother, whose maiden name was Berger, was born in the Bronx. I don’t even think she really knew much Yiddish. She would recite this line every motzaei Shabbos after Havdallah : “Ver hut gelt deim iz voihl” He who has money is happy. It’s quite different than the traditional prayer of Gut fun Avraham and Al tira avdi Yaakov that I would hear in the home of my matrilineal grandparents, but the truth is I never really thought about it until now in these terms, but that in one line encapsulates the difference between someone who had come over to these shores from Europe, whose number one fear, concern, and anxiety was their children holding onto the tradition that they had sacrificed their lives for and someone who grew
up in America and was certainly proud of their identity as a Jew but who was focused on living the American dream, never having to make the choice to die instead of renouncing their religiosity. My patrilineal grandfather hailed from a devoutly Chassidic home whose parents and siblings all lived fully committed chassidic lifestyles and whose children and grandchildren have gone onto embrace the ideal of shlichus . He lived in Crown Heights where he had become a household figure. While on a practical level, he was extremely learned, he didn’t hold strictly to chassidic customs and sources and ultimately it didn’t carry over as strongly in the lives of my father and his siblings.
Although my grandfather was a noted Yiddish writer, he would converse with my father and his siblings in English and despite his strong Zionistic leanings, which would be realized with his decades-long summer trips to Eretz Yisrael and ultimately his decision to be interred where he is alongside my grandmother in Eretz HaChaim cemetery in Beit Shemesh, he very much adapted to the American lifestyle and lived the culture. He would often say that he was proud to walk the streets of New York but he would never allow himself to be buried beneath its impure soil. So in retrospect it would seem that my maternal grandparents were Europeans who had come over to live in America, they had always lived with the mentality of where they had come from while trying as best as they could to relate to their grandchildren who were born and bred here. My patrilineal grandparents, perhaps due to the fact that my grandfather had come here at an early age while my grandmother had always been in New York, lived with somewhat of a tension that manifested itself in his life on these shores while never allowing themselves to be buried beneath its soil.
My father once reminisced how the day he turned 17 and he got his first car he woke up one morning to his auto insurance bill next to him in his bed, which was left there by his dad who no longer felt the responsibility to foot the bill for him.
My maternal grandparents by contrast never had driver’s licenses and therefore never owned a car. My mom and her siblings would take the subway to work or to yeshiva due to the European mentality in the home that they would grow up in.
In my own life I can clearly detect influences of both sides. Most glaringly is the fact that I am doing the same thing that my paternal grandfather had done to earn a living. As mentioned, my grandfather was a Yiddish journalist who would write more than one weekly column for the Algemeiner Journal as well as run the ad sales department. My father would often tell us that he would visit his customers who owed
money at their homes on erev Yom Kippur. He said, everybody could be found at home on erev Yom Kippur. It’s amazing that it’s half a century later and we are still figuring out ways to get money from clients who are not forthcoming in paying their bills. I always had an interest in writing. I wasn’t always the greatest writer, and I did not ace all of my compositions in school, but I remember often sitting down at a computer to write a recap of a sports game that I had watched as if I was writing for The New York Times sports section. Another area of writing that I exhibited great patience toward was note taking. During my years in beis midrash I would transcribe word for word the shiurim and vaadim of my rebbeim and roshei yeshiva , much of which I still have in my possession today. I was amazed to find out years later that my paternal grandfather had transcribed three masechtos of shiurim of Reb Shlomo Heiman, which were used in compiling the sefer Shiurei Reb Shlomo . It would solidify a certain connection between him and me that was meaningful as a result of the fact that I was so young when he had passed away. Today, the most meaningful compliment that I could be given is for someone to tell me that they see similarities in my writing to that of my Zaide’s.
I spent a number of years post high school learning in beis midrash and even a year in kollel after marrying in the year 2006. My parents had switched batei midrash to one that allowed part time college with the hopes that I’d get a degree and find a major that would help in finding a career path. However, I didn’t have much patience for school, and it was very difficult for them to enforce it from a distance of 100+ miles away in Waterbury, CT.
As I sit here typing these memories from about twenty years ago, I recall my father asking me if given the money I would choose to learn all day or still choose to work and earn a living “on my own.” The truth is I had an appetite for nice things, and I won’t lie, there was a thrill in making money, but I had spent a number of years in yeshiva and I felt at home there and wasn’t itching to leave.
I would like to think that the trajectory of my life is in line with the purpose with which I was put here to accomplish. Perhaps, on some level perpetuating the legacy of my grandparents on both sides in the area of journalism, chassidus, and in Torah study and my fealty to the Torah luminaries of this generation and of the past. Most of all, as the yahrzeit of my grandfather draws near it’s my hope that he is happy with my work and takes pride in my being his grandchild the way I am proud in him being my grandfather. n Yochanan Gordon can be reached at ygordon5t @gmail.com. Read more of Yochanan’s articles at 5TJT.com.
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up and move closer to the screen to focus on what he had to say. It was right about this time that I became wholly aware and recognized the difference between the first Trump term and what the upcoming second one will look like.
It will most likely take another few weeks until the Biden-Harris years will be recognized for their failure and incompetence, and then, shortly after that, most
likely completely forgotten.
Donald Trump is not just the President-elect. He is for all intents and purposes the president, and he said it was going to be like that and that is exactly what we see unfolding before us. n
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ica, the polite query of whether anything was needed was followed by a laundry list of items they’d grown accustomed to using and loving in daily life.
“How many bags are you allowed to travel with? I’ll edit my list accordingly,” said one daughter, who added, “But the baby loves that apple sauce, so can you pack some of those?”
So far, we’ve got the contents of mine and Rosie’s closet that we no longer want, Trader Joe’s chocolate bars and candy, acquiring the recipe for Chosen Island’s beef lo mein (and the ingredients), Ayelet’s favorite applesauce, pants from Under 5”10, and all the packages that started mysteriously showing up here a few weeks ago.
Needless to say, Amazon is working overtime delivering to this house.
Recently, I opened my door to a Zara package and got excited. I started tearing into it as if I knew what was inside.
As I went at the box as my kids did to an unopened package of their favorite snack, I tried thinking back about what I might have ordered from this store that I had forgotten about. Maybe it was a case of sleep ordering, similar to walking or eating variety, just way more expensive.
I can usually keep track of what’s ordered and anticipate its arrival by checking the tracking somewhat obsessively until its arrival, but this?
I didn’t remember this order.
That didn’t change as I opened the box and took out the cute pair of shoes that were two sizes too big.
I then peeked at the label and realized that these shoes weren’t mine.
Its owner resided in Modiin and used our address as the delivery destination for all the things they wanted us to bring on our next trip.
I quickly took a picture of the tornapart box, complimented the owner on her new shoes, and explained why the box looked like our nonexistent dog tried eating it.
When speaking recently with someone living in Israel, I discovered that the Amazon ordering process looks very different there and takes weeks when items are available.
Although that’s frustrating and far from our reality (where we can sometimes receive items the day we order them), it’s also a practice in self-control and a significant money saver.
Except when American families come in to visit, and the “Amazon wish list” saved on their phones is put to good use.
The love notes that begin with “If you find yourself on Central Ave.” always mean that someone a few thousand miles away outgrew their clothes and shoes, lost their coat at gan, had a tantrum when their favorite headband vanished, or for other reasons. I would get random pictures of clothing advertisements sent on the family WhatsApp, instructing me what they would like.
“Hey, are you going to Something
Pink/KidiChic/Best Beanies/Tassels/ Fame/The Shell Station anytime soon?”
To which I respond, “What do you need?”
The fact remains that I don’t frequent Central Avenue unless I am shopping for children and grandchildren, which is always way more fun than shopping for yourself.
All I really ask of them in return is that when I visit next week, they act surprised when we unpack all their goodies.
“Wow! How did you know this is exactly what I wanted?!”
“Well, because you sent it to me.”
End scene.
This trip is one wrought with much planning, many oversized pieces of luggage using every packing cube we own (and there are a lot), and an itinerary that is ever-changing since, for the first time, we’re taking the younger kids with us to Israel for their very first time.
We’ve wanted to do it for some time now, and as with any family trip, I’m both anxious and excited for them to experience the country, the history, the people, the family, and, of course, the food. I also want them to experience the sights and sounds, the bustle of the shuk, and the typical Israeli demeanor of toughness, resilience, love, and appreciation for their home.
I recall my first real trip to Israel at 11 (although my parents have pictures proving that I was with them in Israel at 2 months old, basically sleeping through the entire trip).
I remember pretty funny things about that trip, including the horror of pineapple as a pizza topping. Still, I also remember my first time at the Kotel, hanging out with cousins from Bnei Brak, and being able to score doughnuts during that Chanukah at any gas station in the country.
And good ones, too.
I’m excited to live vicariously through the kids and see the beautiful country that Israel is today through their eyes. Even if it means bringing the full line of Trader Joe’s spices along with us. n
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Malkie Gordon Hirsch Magence is a native of the Five Towns community, a mom of 5, a writer, and a social media influencer.
