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VOL. 16 NO. 53

27 ELUL 5776

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SEPTEMBER 30, 2016

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FROM THE EDITOR

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Halachic Musings

What if the presidential candidates were subject to halachah? The issue is not so far-fetched. As it stands now, each candidate has a Jewish son-in-law. But what if we Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton after the ﬁrst debate

SHIMON PERES, ‫ע״ה‬, 1923–2016

Former president Shimon Peres of Israel passed away on Wednesday. Above, Mr. Peres at a sefer Torah dedication with Rav Simcha Kook in 2007. See Page 132

September 30 – 6:19 PM October 2 – 6:16 PM October 3 – 7:19 PM* * or later See Luach, Page 16

Features Index, See Page 8

Even though on some level we are a uniﬁed community, we still think in disparate directions on a number of issues that we are confronted with throughout the year. The order of priorities and the extent of their urgency vary

HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE BY LARRY GORDON

The Karako Boys I’ve known Chaim and Ezra Karako for as long as they have been advertising their men’s clothing stores in this newspaper, which is now over 16 years. Who in this area does not know the Karako name— either from our ads, the ads in

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Leadership Speaks

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As the New Year approaches, the population in Israel exceeds 8 million. See Page 134

Imagining A Halachic Debate

BY LARRY GORDON

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Chaim, Moshe, and Ezra Karako

A MATCH MADE IN SHUL

WHOLE-WHEAT HEARTBREAK

BY REGINA PERL

Kiss The Kosher Cook

Whether or not you have a child who is dating, you probably know more than you need to about “the parashah.” Unfortunately, we are all intimately acquainted with the term “shidduch crisis.” In response, I would like to offer some new ideas, which can be orchestrated by

BY MALKIE HIRSCH

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Shmuel Katz

Business Halacha 97

R’ Meir Orlian

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Mordechai Schmutter

Community News 123 138

Around The Five Towns Around The World

Dating Forum 48

Baila Sebrow

5 Towns Foodies 38 46

P. Samuels Eileen Goltz

Halachic Musings R’ Yair Hoffman

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Health Section

Insights on the Torah The Famous Abba

Luach/Calendar

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MindBiz Esther Mann, LCSW

My Journey Michele Herenstein

News from the Hills Chanita Teitz

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Other Side of the Bench David J. Seidemann, Esq.

Puzzle Yoni Glatt

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Real Estate Anessa V. Cohen

That’s The Way It Is! Hannah Reich Berman

The Wealth Counselor Michael P. Rapps

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YidParenting R’ Yitzie Ross

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FROM THE EDITOR Continued from Front Cover from community to community. While in our personal and family lives things are mostly arranged according to tradition, there is still a greater communal outlook to tap into in order to absorb matters of importance as we head into Rosh Hashanah. To that end, I reached out to several leading Torah personalities to try to understand their thought process on the cusp of the New Year. The structure of society is to look to leaders to define our thought processes at pivotal times during the year, and on the Jewish calendar, there is no more propitious or significant time than that of the New Year. Last Friday, I asked Rabbi Hershel Schachter, rosh yeshiva at Yeshiva University, to share with us matters that he was contemplating that he feels are of concern to Klal Yisrael as we inch our way into the New Year. A few days later, I reached out to Rabbi Matisyahu Lessman in Bnei Brak and asked him to inquire on that same theme the next time he was visiting with Rav Chaim Kanievsky, viewed by many as one of the great sages of the current generation. A day or so later, I asked Rabbi Shay Schachter of the Young Israel of Woodmere to solicit an opinion or arrange for me to speak with Rav Asher Weiss in Eretz Yisrael. That looks like a broad spectrum of thought and opinion that can impact and influence us all at this time of year— as Torah-observant Jews and subscribers to that common thread that runs through our lives to various degrees. I reached Rav Herschel Schachter at his office at the Orthodox Union and asked him to expound on some of his thoughts as one year draws to a close and once again a new one is baruch Hashem about to begin. The rabbi’s first comment was about our communal concern for Israel and her people. “We have to primarily daven for a secure land of Israel,” the rav said. Then I asked about his message to American Jews and what he saw as priorities on our communal agenda going forward, to which he said that he was concerned that “ba’al habatim in our community are slowly floating away from Orthodoxy.” When asked to explain that concern, Rav Schachter said that our rabbis have to “give less derashos (lectures) and teach more Torah.”

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FROM THE EDITOR He added that it was his belief that even rebbes teaching in our yeshivas need to teach more of the fundamentals of Jewish life and halachah instead of spending an inordinate amount of time on what he described as “pilpul.” He said that our yeshivas need to refocus themselves and address their students and members of the adult com-

We have been taught to imagine the books being opened in the heavens and our fate and destiny for the months and year ahead being ﬁlled in on our personal ledgers. It was a curious idea, as it seemed at ﬁrst that Rav Chaim was saying that somehow if we can achieve a state of mind as we are davening over yom tov that draws us close to Hashem and His reality, then everything we were to that point is absorbed by our new feelings and per-

Rav Hershel Schachter

Rav Chaim Kanievsky

munity on matters that are central to Jewish life. Rav Lessman in Bnei Brak sent us a note the other day based on a conversation he had with Rav Chaim last Thursday. In the note, he said that Rav Chaim talked about teshuvah and how we are judged by Hashem at this point in the year based on our frame of mind and commitments as we stand in judgment for our past actions and the year ahead.

sonal position at that moment. The great sage of our time said that this can only be accomplished by engrossing ourselves in the words of Hashem through Torah study. More limud haTorah facilitates and affords us the opportunity to achieve that high snapshot of a moment where our closeness to Hashem offers us the best opportunity to be a vessel and recipient of blessings and berachah for the New Year.

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On Monday morning, just about an hour after Rav Shay Schachter told me how difﬁcult it is to reach Rav Asher Weiss, especially at this time of year, my cellphone rang and both Rav Schachter and Rav Weiss were on

His American upbringing and his ability to clearly articulate his thoughts in English leave the listener with clarity on dealing with the ideas and concepts of the New Year. “At this time of year I believe the task at hand is that

Hashem loves us even if we are imperfect. the phone. Rav Weiss, who is a popular maggid shiur and lecturer both here and in Israel, is rosh kollel of Machon Minchas Osher L’Torah V’Hora’ah. He grew up in a Klausenberger family in Boro Park and relocated to Israel many years ago.

we have to convince HaKadosh Baruch Hu that we actually want to improve ourselves and do better and live better in some substantial way.” He adds, “Very few people have the

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FROM THE EDITOR Continued from Page 15 chance to reach the level of absolute and complete teshuvah, but Hashem loves us even if we are imperfect and our teshuvah is not total. We have to commit to improving ourselves in

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Rav Asher Weiss

some substantial way.” Rav Weiss says that it is incumbent upon us to take something real and tangible upon ourselves that will improve us in a signiﬁcant way. He says that one way to achieve this objective is in how we deal with and interface with our fellow man, our friends, colleagues, and neighbors. Rav Weiss points out that the Gemara in Masechta Rosh Hashanah says that Hashem judges us based on how we interact with others. “So if we are forgiving and forthcoming, then that is the way G-d judges us. If we are harsh, not forgiving, and not embracing others, then we bring upon ourselves middas ha’din—judgment.” He says it is vital that we forget about past grudges and do whatever we can to alleviate pain and suffering of others and make people happy, and to be forgiving. Before we concluded our conversation, I asked Rav Weiss to explain how it is that we did teshuvah and possibly the same activities last year, we resolved to be better and different, to change—and here we are doing the same thing all over again. “There is no magic formula to any of this,” Rav Weiss said. “This is human nature, but serving Hashem is mostly about transcending human nature.” He explained that by doing a real teshuvah every year, we are improved from one year to the next. “We may not live up to everything we aspire to before Rosh Hashanah, but in the long run we are better and drawing ourselves closer to Hashem.” He concludes our talk by referencing Reb Elimelech of Lizhensk, who said that the essence of serving G-d is ﬁghting our natural inclinations, and this is the core and quintessence of serving Him. These are great, important, and inspiring words. Wishing all a shanah tovah, a good and happy, sweet new year. Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at editor@5tjt.com.

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BAGEL STORE Continued from Front Cover other newspapers, billboards, or their sponsorship of sporting events like New York Mets baseball? Another fact of this relationship between us is that for years Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve been saying to the brothers that we need

key. They grew up in the newly born modern state of Israel before immigrating to the U.S. in 1981. Though they have been in business for over 30 years, they still actively seek opportunities to develop, even pursuing new store locations. Two new stores are just about ready to be opened in Plainview, Long Island,

Moshe and Aliza Karako

to sit down one of these days so I can hear the story of the creation and development of the Karako line, the thinking behind the strategy of where they place and open stores, how and where they manufacture the clothing they do, and so on. Chaim and Ezra were born in Tur-

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and off Fifth Avenue and East 36th Street in Manhattan. By the way, both Karako brothers live right here in the Five Towns, so you might run into them one of these days in the busy Rockaway Turnpike store, one of the local bagel stores or, possibly, on the way to their block-long ware-

L–R: Chaim, Moshe, and Ezra Karako and sons

house in Inwood. So we are sitting in their executive offices in Inwood the other day and Chaim is gazing up at the poster on the wall over my shoulder. I turn around and see that he is looking at an old framed black-and-white newspaper ad that said you can get 12 items—suits, ties, socks, and hankies—for $299. While that was a long time ago, it seems that even today few in this business know how to keep prices down with more proficiency than the Karako boys. “The most important thing is to know how to shop for the right and best material,” Chaim says. These stores were not always known by the family name. For the first many years, until about 10 years ago, the company was known as Suit Warehouse, with stores located for the most part on Long Island. But then another much larger company known as Men’s Wearhouse decided that their names were too similar and wanted the boys to change it. At first they were reluctant and resisted the change, but in the end they were persuaded to do so by their family rabbi. I suggested that it was a little bold to go ahead and place the family name—Karako—on the signage of all those stores, not to mention on billboards, on top of taxis, and on TV and newspaper ads. But their rabbi again advised them to go right ahead and rename the business in the family name, and they now both agree that it was the best thing they ever did. On his desk, Ezra has samples of some of the finest materials manufactured in Italy. The fabrics and designs are most popular today, he says, especially with young people. Karako stores have, of late, begun offering custom suits in the $600 range. People want quality material and a suit, a jacket, or pants that are

a perfect fit, and they are willing to pay for it within reason. And that is what Karako is now featuring. “On Long Island today, when it comes to suits, we are the player,” explains Chaim. “We are not about selling ego,” he adds, “it is about quality and

Karako showroom

value—and that is the secret of our success.” The Karako family got into the men’s clothing business by a quirk of fate. After leaving Turkey in 1949, Moshe Karako, Chaim and Ezra’s father, arrived in Tel-Aviv looking for

work as a contractor. He found odd jobs here and there doing home renovations, but then in 1981 decided to move once again, this time to New York. Once settled here, he looked

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BAGEL STORE Continued from Page 19 for work in construction and landed a job renovating a store that was ruined in a fire. It was on the Lower East Side—Rivington and Essex Streets, to be precise. Back in Israel, before they left, Moshe Karako received a call from a friend looking for a place for another friend to stay over one of the holidays when all of the hotel rooms in Israel were sold out. He made some calls and was able to find this couple a place. It was this couple from New York that later gave Moshe the job to rebuild the burnt store. Later, the storeowner offered Moshe a job managing what would eventually be a men’s clothing store at the location.

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In the interim, something occurred and the owner could not open the business, which left Moshe with the store and the idea to open a suit place at the location. In a sense, the rest is history. “If my father had not made the effort to find those folks a place to stay in Israel,” says Ezra, “we might not be sitting here now.” The Karako warehouse in Inwood is expansive and something to behold. On the day that we walked through the place together, it looked like there were miles of suits ready to be shipped. Ezra pointed out that two of their new stores were about to open—the one in the city and another on Long Island—and this

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BAGEL STORE Continued from Page 20 was their inventory being made ready to go. Both Chaim and Ezra Karako are modest and, unless you ask a specific question, rather reserved. Even though I’ve known the Karako brothers for about 15 years and we talked more than several times about doing a story like this, they were never very

and our extended family.” The brothers are also extensively involved in Jewish communal activities both here and in Israel. Amongst their charitable endeavors are the endowment of a Magen David Adom ambulance and support of Tel Hashomer hospital near Tel-Aviv. So if you read the Karako ads and discover that you can buy several suits, some pants, shoes, and other accessories all for a few hundred dol-

“It is about quality and value—the secret of our success.” eager to do it or overly sold on the idea. But there is a great story here, and it deserves to be told. So what is the secret to the high quality and modest prices they offer? Well, it’s mostly a secret, so I can’t spill it out here in print. The Karako brothers know how to buy and also have a great name in the industry. They say that their business philosophy and the key to their success to this very day—great value and low prices—has been their tradition that was perhaps invented more than 100 years ago on the Lower East Side. “Our father is the smartest man we know,” Ezra says. “He is not just the leader of the family but a man who is the inspiration for us, our children who are now in the business with us,

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lars, you might be wondering how they do it. “A while ago I was working with a customer in one of our stores who was purchasing a few suits and some other items, and the total price was just a few hundred dollars,” says Chaim Karako. “Before he leaves he turns to me and asks—‘Are you sure you are making money on this sale?’” That episode just confirms to the brothers that whatever they are doing, they are doing right. It is not just a formula that the public likes and appreciates; it is a business plan combined with involvement in the community that suits them—and all of us—just fine. Comments for Larry Gordon are welcome at editor@5tjt.com.

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HALACHIC MUSINGS Continued from Front Cover were to take things one step further? What if there were a mandate that the candidates, both in the debate and in the periods directly before and after, would also have to follow halachah? Let’s explore this a bit.

How do we rule? The halachah follows the view that it is a fully binding mitzvah. Thus, Hillary Clinton, who denied that she had called the Trans-Paciﬁc Partnership the gold standard of trade deals, would have been in violation of the prohibition. She did call it that. She also lied about Trump paying no federal taxes. In the ﬁve-year period

Moving Up By Embarrassing The Other In Hebrew it is called “miskabed b’kalon chaveiro,” receiving honor through the embarrassment of another. The Midrash Rabbah (Bereishis 1:5) quotes Rabbi Yossi bar Rabi Chanina that whosoever receives honor through the embarrassment of another has no

Lying During the actual debate on Monday evening at Hofstra University, both candidates told some whoppers. Both Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump fully denied saying things that they had actually said. Regarding the prohibition found in Parashas Mishpatim of “midvar sheker tirchak—stay away from a false matter” (Sh’mos 23:7), we have three opinions. The Chofetz Chaim writes in his Sefer Ahavas Chesed that the verse of midvar sheker tirchak represents a full-blown biblical prohibition. Other Rishonim write that it should be understood as good advice, but is not fully binding. A third opinion holds that the verse was directed to judges in a court case, and not to lying.

It seems obvious that Hillary’s intent was to embarrass Donald Trump. under discussion, Trump paid taxes in 1975, 1976, and 1977 but did not in 1978 and 1979. Hillary Clinton was thus in violation of midvar sheker tirchak. Mischaracterizing what another says is also a form of lying. Hillary said that Trump rooted for the housing crisis. Obviously this was misconstruing his remarks.

share in the World to Come. It is also cited in the Talmud Yerushalmi (Chagigah 2:1). Hillary Clinton’s citing the various names that Trump had called others—and while they were in the audience—especially regarding Alicia Machado, whom he allegedly called “Miss Piggy,” would seem to be a violation of this.

Similarly, Trump saying, “I do want to bring up the fact that you were the one that brought up the words super-predator about young black youth” is another example of moving up by embarrassing another. But Hillary stating, “Donald started his career back in 1973 being sued by the Justice Department for racial discrimination because he would not rent apartments in one of his developments to African-Americans” is also an example of this.

Lifnei Iver The Torah (Vayikra 19:14) tells us not to place a stumbling block before the blind: “You shall not curse the deaf nor place a stumbling block before the blind; you shall fear your G-d—I am your L-rd.” Hillary Clinton set a perfect trap for Donald Trump in regard to the Alicia Machado issue. Machado, the 1996 Miss Universe winner, had alleged that Trump called her names such as “Miss Piggy” and “Miss Housekeeping” after she had gained weight. Trump had bought the pageant the previous year. Clinton knew that raising the issue would cause an argument between Trump and Machado, and that argument would both win her votes and prevent Trump from making gains. Causing a machlokes between others is a form of lifnei iver—placing a stumbling block before the blind. In the days following Monday’s debate, Trump has entered into a public argument with Machado, which is now seriously jeopardizing the Latino vote. He allowed Hillary to rehash his past attacks of the former Miss Universe for gaining too much weight. This trap set by Hillary is now dominating the media conversation. The talk is galvanizing Latinos to come behind Hillary and has pretty much stopped undecided women from moving toward Trump. During a recent Fox News interview, Trump admitted to getting a little too irritated “at the end, maybe” when Hillary had dug up Alicia Machado.

Name-Calling Hillary Clinton used Trump’s name in a pejorative, negative fashion. She said, “I call it trumped-up trickledown, because that’s exactly what it would be.” This is a violation of hamechaneh shem ra l’chaveiro. The Gemara in Bava Metzia (58b) states that all the people who descend to Gehinnom arise from there with the exception of three kinds: adulterers; those who afﬁx a pejorative name to another; and one who embarrasses his friend in public. These three never arise. This halachah is stated in Shulchan Aruch (Choshen Mishpat 228:5).

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HALACHIC MUSINGS

Bitul Torah

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Although it may seem to be a side issue, the debates at Hofstra University actually caused the closing of the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County (HANC) on Monday. Being the cause of the cessation of Torah study is a serious prohibition. The Gemara in Shabbos (119b) quotes Rav Hamnunah that Yerushalayim was only destroyed because of the bitul Torah of the tinokos shel beis rabban—the children studying Torah under their master. Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai states that the world only exists on account of the study of young yeshiva students who have no sin. Furthermore, the Gemara tells us that we do not stop yeshiva students from learning even to build the Beis HaMikdash.

It seems obvious that Hillary’s intent was to embarrass Donald Trump. Although he did not do so in the debate itself, Trump violated this as well throughout the campaign with such appellations as “Crooked Hillary” and more. The Rambam (Hilchos Teshuvah 3:14) lists this as one of the 24 categories of people that have no share in the World to Come.

Middos In the days that followed the debate, Hillary Clinton gloated over her perception of how she did, and Donald Trump was apparently fuming over a number of issues. Fuming is a manifestation of ka’as, anger, something that the mussar sefarim tell us to stay far from. The Rosh tells us to distance ourselves greatly from this evil character trait. Gloating is also a form of miskabed b’kalon chaveiro, which was described earlier. It is not a good character trait and takes us away from our obligation to emulate Hashem.

Conclusion We see that there are numerous halachic violations that can be involved in participating in a presidential debate if one is Jewish. According to some poskim, many of these issues, to a certain degree, might apply to gentiles as well. The author can be reached at Yairhoffman2@gmail.com.

that’s the WAY IT IS By Hannah Reich Berman

And Now For Some Real News Last week the public got some big news. This news, while not of any importance to us as a nation, was nevertheless very interesting. What we learned was a refreshing change from the Clinton and Trump rhetoric and the constant character assassinations that each makes about the other. We have heard far too much of that. It was a relief to finally have another topic upon which to focus our attention. This big news was not about the coming election, persistent attacks on Israelis, refugees fleeing Syria, or terrorist attacks on U.S. soil and in Europe. It was not about Russia getting cozy with Iran (the same Iran

that has been buzzing our ships and our planes after we forked over 150 billion bucks to the country) and it was not about the short, chubby lunatic in North Korea who is test-firing nuclear weapons and enhancing its nuclear capabilities. It was not news that made us smile nor did it necessarily make us happy. At the same time, it did not aggravate us, frighten us, or cause us to have deep, dark thoughts about the future of this country in particular and about the world in general. But it was news nevertheless! The news I am referring to was something of a shock, but at the same time it was not really a surprise. It was something we all expected might happen eventually and yet we thought that maybe it would not. It was the announcement that Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are heading for divorce. Normally, I pay little attention to Hollywood stars. Their marriages, their separations, and their eventual divorces hold little interest for me. I do not know who most of them are married to, nor do I care. But the Brad Pitt–Angelina Jolie union was an exception. Both had been married before—she to Billy Bob Thornton and he to Jennifer Aniston. And they had each had other marriages in addition to the ones mentioned above. But who can remember all of them? This left some people with mixed emotions. How sad that six innocent children are now involved in this mess! The tally is as such: three adopted and three biological kids will now be members of a broken family. The six were born in different countries. Maddox, who was adopted, was born in Cambodia; Pax, also adopted, was born in Vietnam; and Zahara, another adoptee, was born in Ethiopia. Shiloh, who is the biological child of Pitt and Jolie, was born in Namibia. What they were doing in Namibia is anyone’s guess. Maybe the family just happened to be passing through that country at the time of the birth. This is a couple that got around quite a bit. Twins Knox and Vivienne, also biological, were born in France. Whew! That is quite a tally! While I feel genuine sympathy for the kids, my compassion is tempered by my unbridled joy for Jennifer Aniston. As the entire world knows, Aniston, who was Mrs. Brad Pitt, was cast away like a sack of garbage after her husband met Angelina. The two eventually became known as “Brangelina.” Combining the two names of a couple is something often done by the press when writ-

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THAT’S THE WAY IT IS! Continued from Page 26 ing about the Hollywood elite. That has always puzzled me. It also annoys me. My husband Arnie (Arnold) and I raised four children and we were happily married for nearly half a century, until his death seven years ago. But to the best of

my knowledge, nobody ever referred to us as “Arniannah.” I would have thought them crazy if they did. But then, too, nobody ever wrote about Hubby and me as they do about Brad and Angelina. Possibly this combining of names serves a purpose. Perhaps it is done to save newspaper or magazine space. Using one word (“Brangelina”) as opposed to three

words (“Brad and Angelina”) makes sense after all. But I digress. In contrast to my sorrow for the Pitt–Jolie children, I cannot help think that Aniston must feel vindicated. Since she and I are not on a first-name basis, and have in fact never met or spoken to each other, I do not know for certain how she feels. But it is easy to imagine that she must feel some elation. The question is, will she be interviewed about this breakup? And if so, how will she respond?

and six kids, they decide to tie the knot. So they get married and, in two years, the relationship is kaput! They might have been better off never having married. For stars, there seems to be something about legalizing a relationship that ruins things. Under a different set of circumstances, I might be tempted to be seriously critical of Angelina Jolie. But I cannot bring myself to say anything bad about her. For starters, it is Elul and Rosh Hashanah is coming up faster than a speeding train.

For stars, there seems to be something about legalizing a relationship that ruins things. Will she grin like a Cheshire cat, or will she make an effort to appear thoughtful and somber? Will she make a statement? Will she say she feels sorry for the children? Or will she take the high road and refuse to give any comment? Regardless of how she opts to conduct herself, we may assume that, after her very public humiliation so many years ago, in her heart of hearts she is taking pleasure in this development. What strikes me as odd is that Brad and Angelina were together for a dozen years and everything appeared to be A-OK. Finally, after 12 years

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Secondly, Angelina is the daughter of Jon Voight—the same Jon Voight who is so often supportive of Jews and who is a frequent participant in Chabad telethons. For those reasons, I will hold my tongue—and my pen. I do not have the heart to cause him any pain or humiliation with regard to his daughter. I will opt for silence about her. But I will declare how happy I am for Jennifer. That’s the way it is. Hannah Berman lives in Woodmere and gives private small-group lessons in mahjongg and canasta. She can be reached at Savtahannah@aol.com or 516-295-4435.

Up For Debate She performed as I expected. Hillary Clinton has her limits, and no amount of coaching or preparation can make her likable. As for her experience, Trump is correct: Most of it is bad experience. It’s difficult to find a place on the globe that is better off now as a result of her tenure in office. It’s not as if she won the debate. It is more the case that the Donald lost it— and by “it,” I mean the golden opportunity to send Hillary packing. Time after time, Mrs. Clinton opened a door wide enough for anyone to drive through, but he fumbled and lost the opportunity of a lifetime. Debate technique number one that I remember from college is to never respond to an opponent’s attack on a real weakness of yours. Rather, turn the tables by referencing a parallel weakness of your opponent. I am not on Mr. Trump’s payroll and have not been called upon to coach him for the next debate, but here are some free pointers, a service to him that he does not need to declare on his tax returns. The response to her attack on him about not releasing his tax returns should have been a simple one-liner.

“I e-mailed them to you; I’m surprised you don’t still have them.” Period, end of story. America would still be talking about that line days and weeks after, as it would have had the effect of sidestepping the merits of the issue all while turning the tables on her. Instead of trying to explain his way out of a thornbush, he should have ensnared her in a burning bush of her own making. Too often on Monday night, he fell into the trap of explaining away the explainable instead of exposing her failures. On his receiving $14 million from his father, Donald should not have tried to defend that or his ﬁnancial holdings. His answer should have been another one- or two-liner: “Chelsea stands to inherit much more—most of it from speeches to Wall Street for which you were paid a quarter of a million dollars per speech. Additionally, Madam Secretary, none of the money in my accounts was from people or countries trying to buy inﬂuence from the State Department.”

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OTHER SIDE OF THE BENCH Continued from Page 29 Take the sword, Mr. Trump—the sword pointed at you—and redirect it. On the birther issue, Mr. Trump’s response should have been something like this: “I followed your lead, Mrs. Clinton, and as it turned out, you were wrong about that as well. Racist? Mrs. Clinton, I would have raised the same challenge, and I assumed you did as well, regardless of Mr. Obama’s race. If he were white, brown, or yellow, the issue would have been germane. I said perhaps the man was born in Kenya. You said perhaps the black man was born in Kenya, and that, Mrs. Clinton, makes you the racist. “Moreover, Mrs. Clinton, while you paint me as being concerned about the circumstances of Mr. Obama’s birth, let’s talk about the circumstances of black men in Chicago who are dying and who never will get the chance to run for president. Obama’s birth record proved he could run; your record proves you can’t lead.” Two points; get in and get out. Leave it to the audience to react. On his alleged failure to pay taxes, an effective response would have been: “Hillary, if my returns reveal that I was exempt from paying taxes, it’s because I followed the law. I understand why following the law is a foreign concept to you. I am being audited by the IRS. You were being investigated by the FBI.” On job creation, the response should have been: “I have created more jobs for

blacks and Hispanics than Obama’s policies. I empower by giving them jobs, and you devalue by giving them handouts. My employees are not being shot on the streets of Chicago, they are at work. And the people you have put to work were killed in Benghazi. Those are the people you are responsible for.” Finally, if I were Trump, I would have ended with the following. “Mrs. Clinton, it’s no secret that we both enter this election with very high negative ratings. We both have our detractors. But the difference between me and you is that people have a problem with me because I tell uncomfortable truths. You, Mrs. Clinton, tell uncomfortable lies.” Can you imagine the debate ending with such a line? That would have been quite powerful and might have inspired me to want to watch the second debate. We can learn even from another person’s follies and failures. Monday night’s debate was 90 minutes of missed opportunity, and there is no greater failure than missed opportunity. As we approach Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we often focus on sin and reward, success and failure. A more appropriate barometer of man’s success in this world would be an honest answer to an honest question: Did I make the most of my time on this stage we call life? David Seidemann is a partner with the law ﬁrm of Seidemann and Mermelstein and serves as a professor of business law at Touro College. He can be reached at 718-692-1013 or ds@lawofﬁcesm.com.

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KISS THE KOSHER COOK Continued from Front Cover and thinking, “Well, her boys are in school half the day on Sunday so she gets a break.” Let me remind you that I have two little ones who make up for my four on a good day. There are birthday parties, shopping for pants (because everybody knows

So why, oh why, was I determined to put together a new whole-wheat challah recipe for yom tov on a day like Sunday? Why, when I knew my two-yearold would scrape a chair across my (new) ﬂoor and sidle on up to me, insisting on helping me braid? Why!? I’m stubborn. I’ve baked many batches of challah during my married life, so it’s a piece of cake. Right?

“Please make sure the challah is gone by the time I get home. I can’t look at it.” that your son can’t keep a pair for longer than about four wears without getting a hole in the knee), and, G-d help me, there’s trying on clothes that need trying on, because who wants to deal with a hissy fit on yom tov day when your husband is halfway out the door, threatening, “Dovid, I’m leaving without you in two minutes!” Fun stuff like this!

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Wrong. This has happened once before. The dough was mixed, it rose nicely, and I had already said a berachah on it. In between all this, there was picking up gifts for birthday parties, spin class, dropping off at birthday parties, carpool for school, shopping for tzitzit and last-minute yom tov items, dealing with a tantrum or 12 from my fiery redheaded two-year-

Let the dough rise for a couple of hours. Take hafrashah, shape challah, and proof challah in oven for 30 minutes at 200°F. Brush challah with egg wash (egg yolk, water, and scoop of vanilla sugar). Preheat the oven to 350°F and bake until challot are done, about 30 minutes.

old (a lethal combo) Gavi, and other fun stuff. The challah came out of the oven with the consistency of a brick. My heavenly whole-wheat challah (an attempt at being healthier and hiding it from my kids by using white whole-wheat flour) did not look heavenly at all. Heartbreak. Meanwhile, I was trying to apply makeup and get dressed for my friend’s son’s bar mitzvah. With a desperate look at Moshe, I said, “Please make sure the challah is gone by the time I get home. I can’t look at it.” I’ve flopped in the kitchen more times than I’d like to admit. I think it goes with the territory. But there’s something about investing that time in challah-baking that just makes it all the more disappointing. It’s so meaningful, and for me, though I find myself baking more and more, I’ve never been a natural when it came to challah-baking. I push myself to do it for certain yamim tovim, so when I finally get around to it and it doesn’t come out in its fluffy, perfect form, I’m heartbroken. To top it off, the second I took my sad-looking brown-brick challot out of the oven, my mother-in-law walked in the door and said, “Oh, those don’t look right.” Hey, thanks. I know everything happens for a reason. Maybe I missed an ingredient. Perhaps I put in too much or too little of something. The only thing to do is try again. I’m glad to report that as we “speak,” my round braided challot are baking in the oven—again. But this time, I think we have a winner. I decided to recreate a challah posted by Epicurious and use toppings that my family would love. The original used a variety of sesame seeds and pumpkin and flax seeds to cover a round challah, braided around a ramekin that would be filled with honey. I decided to go with cinnamon sugar, crumb topping, chocolate chips, and vanilla sugar for one type. The other type is covered in garlic, onion flakes, paprika with oil, and zaatar seasoning. Variety is the spice of life, right? Why is there a custom to make round challah on the holiday of Rosh Hashanah? There are a few insights. One may be because the round challah signifies a crown, and on Rosh Hashanah we coronate Hashem our King. Another reason is because like the round shape of our challot, the

years are cyclical, and Rosh Hashanah is the start of our new year. However you braid your challah— square, rectangle, or round—may it bring only simcha in the coming year.

My Favorite Challah Recipe Ingredients: 3 Tbsp. active dry yeast 2 Tbsp. sugar 1 cup warm water 5 eggs 1 cup oil 1½ cups sugar 1 cup warm water

5-lb. bag high-gluten flour 2 heaping Tbsp. salt 2 cups boiling water Crumb topping: 1 cup flour ½ cup oil ¾ cup sugar Directions: Combine first three ingredients to proof the yeast. To this mixture, add eggs, oil, sugar, water, flour, salt, and boiling water. Mix in challah machine (I use a Bosch) for seven minutes. Turn off and let the dough rest. Turn back on for additional five minutes.

Malkie Hirsch loves to cook and shares her ideas freely on her Facebook group, Kiss The Kosher Cook. What’s sweeter than sugar and with fewer calories? Hearing from her readers. Feel free to write with questions, comments, and suggestions to koshercook@5tjt.com.

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The Best Honey Cake Ever B Y P. S A M U E L S As a rule, I love to try new recipes. I have tried baking countless different brownies, Bundt cakes, and marble cakes. One cake that I stopped trying to improve on, though, is my mother’s, a’h, honey cake. It’s easy, has a great texture, and it’s delicious. I once tried to “improve” it by separating the eggs and beating the whites first. Now my trusty recipe book has a warning scribbled across the page: “Do not separate the eggs.” My family likes the flavor of the original, but if you like the taste of cinnamon, nutmeg, or powdered cloves, you can add these spices. (Use very little of the cloves—not more than half a teaspoon. It’s a strong spice.) You can also double the extracts for a stronger flavor. Have a sweet new year! Ingredients: 2 cups sugar 1 cup oil 1 cup honey (use the oily measuring cup, and the honey will slide right out) 9 whole eggs 1 tsp. vanilla extract ½ tsp. lemon extract ½ tsp. almond extract 1 tsp. instant coffee 4½ cups all-purpose flour 1 flat tsp. baking soda 2 heaping tsp. baking powder Directions: Beat sugar and oil on high speed. Add honey and beat again. Add extracts. With mixer running, add eggs one at a time. Dissolve the coffee in an ounce of boiling water. Then add 1 cup water. Mix baking powder and baking soda into flour. With mixer on slow speed, add flour to batter, alternating with coffee. Increase mixer speed just until flour is fully mixed into batter. Pour batter into 10”×15” pan and bake at 350°F for one hour and ten minutes.

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Fascinating, Frightening, Fearsome Fruits You can’t walk into the major fruit and grocery stores this week without seeing magniﬁcent displays of new fruit, both for Rosh Hashanah customers and curiosity lovers. Fairways and Frieda’s, among other grocers, describe their displays with excitement. I almost feel like it’s wintertime with the awesome displays in the windows of department stores on Fifth Avenue in Manhattan—except these aren’t snowy fairytale scenes; they’re real but exotic fruit. Karen Caplan, president and CEO of Frieda’s Specialty Produce, writes, “Our clients who create displays for Rosh Hashanah see an increase in fruit sales during the week leading up to the holiday. Every retailer has told us that in addition to prominent grocery displays, plentiful displays of tropical and specialty fruits are well received during the Jewish New Year holidays.” Frieda’s top Jewish New Year sellers include dragon fruit, Meyer lemons, pepino melons, kumquats, blood oranges, papaya, and rambutan. The traditional Medjool dates, raisins on the vine, pomegranates, and pomegranate arils are

also in demand, along with apples, baby apples, and honey, as they signify the sweetness of the New Year. As I started researching the many new fruits available for Rosh Hashanah, I immediately felt both fascinated and repelled. When a fruit is described as a fuzzy, brown, ugly melon, would I bother reading on? Well, yes, if this fruit is called Cupuacu (a.k.a. the new “superfood”) and the white buttery interior is similar to bananas and chocolate; for this, you might want to take a second look (and taste). It is also a common breakfast and dessert food in South America, and the pulp is commonly used in body lotions. Any takers? Longan, a fruit that most assuredly can be used on the second day of Rosh Hashanah, when we eat new fruits with a Shehecheyanu, is also known as the dragon’s eye fruit because one blogger describes it as “the Asian fruit that looks like an eyeball when the brown skin is peeled off.” Eww, sounds nasty! Jamie Geller, food writer and celebrity

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MY JOURNEY Continued from Page 39 chef, explains the reason for eating a new fruit on Rosh Hashanah. “On Rosh Hashanah we have a custom to eat a new fruit on the second night of the holiday, the only holiday that is celebrated for two days even in Israel. Some opinions are that the two days are really one long holiday. Yet, because there are mixed opinions, we still say the Shehecheyanu blessing on the second night, even though that blessing is only used when we are doing something new for the year. Since there is doubt on whether this blessing should be said, we keep a new fruit on the table so that we cover our bases.” Some families prefer to stay on the safe side and stick to new fruits that are tamer, such as the pomegranate (though in many households it’s too popular during the year to be able to be used as new fruit), while other families make a whole production of trying new fruits that look scary, taste scary, and can possibly turn you into a witch, a sorcerer, or worse. The sound effects at such a yom tov table are hilarious, akin to a haunted house, complete with groans, high screams of laughter or fright, licking one’s chops, and spitting into napkins. Adam Hunter describes many new fruits after making sure to taste them. One fruit is named rambutan, which Hunter says he discovered on his honeymoon. “The name means ‘hairy’ in the Indonesian language, and one blogger describes it as a ‘crazy hairy tentacle egg-thing.’ You don’t eat the skin. Inside, you’ll ﬁnd a chewy white center resem-

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bling a lychee. It tastes like one too.” I dare you to try this one and live to tell the tale! What about the sugar apple? Sounds yummy, no? Like candied apple? I read that this Caribbean fruit, which resembles an apple wearing armor (Purim costume, kids!), can often be found in Florida. Inside you’ll ﬁnd slimy white custard surrounding large dark seeds. The trick to eating it is to suck the custard off the seeds, one by one. Double-dare on this one. And you can’t skip the slime!

vors make this a delicious treat; just scoop it out and enjoy.” There are those, like my brother and his family, who feel that the more exotic the fruit, the better. On the web I found descriptions of some very different new fruits. Get ready, hold your nose, and take a deep breath. “The ackee is native to tropical West Africa, and was imported to Jamaica in 1778, where it now holds the rank of national fruit. A relative of the lychee and similar in taste and consistency, the ackee’s fruit is soft and white

It has one fault: it is impossible to eat enough of it. When I was browsing Jamie Geller’s Joy of Kosher website, I was astounded that there were even more new fruits I knew nothing about. One fruit described on her page is durian, “a stinky fruit, but it is tasty too. If you can get past the smell, it is a tasty snack.” Well, that’s reassuring. Foul-smelling but tasty—just what I want to satisfy my taste buds. Geller’s page also notes the Buddha’s hand fruit, which “looks, smells, and tastes like a lemon with ﬁngers! A little crazy-looking, it might be better for a haunted house, but it will keep the kids interested and can be used like a lemon.” For something actually “normal” there is passion fruit: “sweet, succulent, and sour. Delicate, but crunchy. So many ﬂa-

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and grows around three large, dark seeds. Ackees are generally cooked and canned before being sold, with good reason: Eating an unripe ackee can result in a bout of the bluntly named Jamaican vomiting sickness.” I think I’ll forgo the ackee. Triple-dare you . . . Then we have the mangosteen. “If you’re like me, the name of this fruit conjures up the image of a family of stubborn and misinformed German-Jewish farmers. Thankfully, the mangosteen is actually a tasty and widely desired fruit that grows almost exclusively in Thailand. Mangosteens are renowned for their delectable ﬂavor and fresh fragrance, which prompted one botanist to say, ‘The mangosteen only has one

fault: it is impossible to eat enough of it.’” According to Mangosteen.com, “Fresh mangosteens can be expensive and hard to find in the U.S., but the canned variety are easier to come by.” (This gives me a good excuse to travel to Thailand!) The Fairway website describes some of the nutritional properties of various fruit, such as vitamins B1, B2, and B3 in dragon fruit, which can help with energy production in our bodies. The star fruit is a great source of Vitamins A, C, and dietary fiber. Prickly pears are a good source of calcium and potassium, and a good source of dietary fiber, vitamin C, and magnesium. The prickly pear is a heavily researched fruit; there are many ongoing studies looking at the possible medicinal uses of the prickly pear extract for type-2 diabetes, but further study is needed. So a fun activity that’s mitzvah oriented and guaranteed to be full of laughs and hysterics is to go to a large fruit store or grocery that’s guaranteed to have captivating and repelling displays of exotic new fruit. The sounds the kids (and the grownups) make while pulling faces, crossing eyes, and sticking out tongues, as well as the “creepiness” of some of these fruits, will make for a delightful escapade. I wish I could be at your homes to share in the new-fruit-eating adventures, but alas, I’m not Eliyahu HaNavi. Instead, I’ll be waiting to hear your tales. Be careful not to poison yourselves; I don’t want to lose any readers to slime and eyeballs! I care about my readers and wish you all a shanah tovah u’metukah. Michele Herenstein is a freelance journalist and can be reached at michelesarticles@gmail.com.

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Our Table: Time-Tested Recipes, Memorable Meals The table is where we gather to talk, to socialize, to catch up, and—most importantly—to eat! At our table is where it all comes together because it’s not just about the food, it’s about stopping whatever we are doing and carving out some much-needed time to nourish our souls and bodies in the company of loved ones. In her beautiful new cookbook, Our Table, food stylist and recipe columnist Renee Muller invites home cooks to come to the table and partake in some of her family’s favorite kosher recipes. Renee’s recipes are refreshingly simple, distinctively delicious, crafted from common ingredients, and vividly presented with beautiful full-color photos. Through heartwarming stories and culinary wisdom, Our Table is as readable on the couch as it is useful in the kitchen. “As a child growing up in Lugano, Switzerland, I enjoyed spending time in the kitchen with my mother and grandmother watching them talk and cook, always with passion and dedication to the task at hand, no matter how mundane,” Renee says. “From them I learned that meals

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More, Snacks & Sides, and Desserts and Breads, providing everything needed to create an easy weeknight meal or a special holiday dinner. Some of the recipes in Our Table include Sweet Chili Salmon Cubes; Mushroom Barley Soup Done Right; Crunchy Asian Salad; Silan, Lemon, and Mustard Salmon; Tangy and Succulent London Broil; Fall-off-the-Bone Tender Flanken; Pulled French Roast Sliders; Oven-Baked Honey Mustard Chicken; Homemade Egg Kichel; Light-as-Air Marble Cake; Buttery Chocolate Scones; and Wähe – Swiss Fruit Tart.

to ﬁnd a welcome place at your table— every day of the year. I welcome you to join our table, our recipes, and the foods that make my family—and I hope yours—happy.” Raised in the pristine surroundings of southern Switzerland’s Lake Lugano, Renee Muller learned to cook in the traditional Northern Italian tradition emphasizing freshness, simplicity, and ﬂavor. When she moved to the U.S. in 2002, she continued honing her culinary skills. On a whim, she entered and won a recipe contest, which landed her a regular column in a national weekly

Each recipe has techniques that turn good food into great food.

shared with family and friends are memorable, especially when imbued with love and care.” Throughout the pages of Our Table, Renee walks readers through each recipe with subtle suggestions, insights, and techniques that turn good food into great food. Recipes are arranged in chapters such as Appetizers, Soups & Salads, Fish & Dairy, Meat, Chicken &

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There is also a special selection of recipes with links to online video tutorials, just as if Renee was right in the kitchen cooking with you. “Many times while writing down recipe instructions, I wished I could just invite my readers to join me in my kitchen and cook with me. That thought led me to create a variety of videos of some of the recipes so you can view them as you want and see some of the techniques I use when cooking my recipes.” Renee has also included a complete substitutions guide for Passover, making Our Table the go-to book any time for any occasion or holiday. “My treasured family recipes are sure

Jewish magazine. Our Table is her first foray into refining, compiling, and sharing her favorite recipes in a single volume, all time-tested and confirmed by her most discriminating tasters—her family, friends, and tens of thousands of column readers. Gifted with an artistic eye for presentation, Renee has become an in-demand food stylist, working frequently with world-class food photographers. A popular writer and professional foodie, Renee lives in Lakewood, NJ, with her husband and children. To learn more about Renee, visit www. ReneeMuller.com. This holiday season, try these delicious favorite recipes for your table.

Apple And Honey Rosh Hashanah Muffins From “Our Table” by Renee Muller Dairy/Pareve, Freezer Friendly, about 48 muffins At our house, Rosh Hashanah cannot happen without honey muffins. At least, that’s the way my kids see it. It’s a family project, and by now, a family tradition, too. This recipe was given to me by a relative in Israel who bakes them all the time and claims that no matter how many batches she bakes, there are never enough. She’s absolutely right. We once baked a quadruple batch of these (sans the apples) for a bake sale on our block and we were left without a crumb! For the apples: 2 Tbsp. butter or margarine 4 Granny Smith apples, diced 4 Tbsp. sugar 1 tsp. cinnamon For the muffins: 2 cups prepared tea, lukewarm 2 cups sugar 2 cups oil 2 cups honey 12 eggs 6 cups flour 2 Tbsp. baking powder 1 tsp. baking soda 2 heaping Tbsp. cinnamon Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Line a muffin pan with cupcake liners. 2. Prepare the apples: In a saucepan, melt butter over a medium-low flame. Add apples, sugar, and cinnamon; cook until apples are fragrant and soften a

throughout the year, we bake them plain. Tip: I recently discovered an amazing gadget called “The Cupcake (or Mufﬁn) Pen.” It really removes the whole messy aspect of ﬁlling cupcake pans with batter. Look for it in specialty equipment stores.

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Apple–honey mufﬁns

bit, about 15 minutes. Set aside to cool. 3. Prepare the muffins: In the bowl of a stand mixer, on medium speed, combine tea, sugar, oil, honey, and eggs. Mix until smooth. Reduce speed; gradually add flour, baking powder, baking soda, and cinnamon. Scrape down sides of bowl as needed. 4. Fill each muffin cup halfway with batter. (I like to use a cupcake pen for this; I find it very helpful.) Top with a teaspoon of prepared apples. Bake for 15–20 minutes, or until an inserted toothpick comes out almost dry with some moist crumbs attached. Note: The apples are optional; I find that some children prefer the muffins plain. We add the apple for Rosh Hashanah (very loudly singing, “Dip the apple in the hooooneeeyy” as we do so) but

From “Our Table” by Renee Muller Meat, Freezer Friendly, 4 entrée servings; 6 appetizer servings A friend once called me, asking for a meat recipe. “It has to be amazingly good and incredibly easy,” she said. “I’m kidding,” she then added, but I knew she really wasn’t. And I had just the thing. Whenever I meet her husband, he makes sure to thank me—again—for “those awesome ribs.” Where does it say that great dishes have to be long, hard, and complicated? Ingredients: about 8 1-inch-thick spare ribs, nicely marbled 2½ cups duck sauce 1 cup water 2 Tbsp. teriyaki sauce 5 garlic cloves, minced 1 tsp. paprika 2 Tbsp. dried onion ﬂakes 1 Tbsp. salt black pepper, to taste Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 350°F. In a baking pan, arrange ribs in one layer. In a medium bowl, combine duck sauce, water, teriyaki sauce, garlic, paprika, onion ﬂakes, salt, and pepper. Pour over

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ribs. Cover tightly with foil; bake for 3 hours. 2. Let ribs cool; then refrigerate overnight. 3. Preheat oven to 375°F (use the “roast” setting, if available). Remove congealed fat layer from the ribs. Roast, uncovered, spooning sauce over the ribs once or twice, until ribs are braised and glistening, about 20 minutes. Note: I like to cool the ribs in the middle of the cooking process so I can remove the fat layer, but it’s not a necessity. You can raise oven temperature, uncover meat, and proceed with the braising part immediately after the 3-hour slow roasting. Our Table: Time-Tested Recipes, Memorable Meals (hardcover, $34.99) by Renee Muller is published by ArtScroll/Mesorah.

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New Year, New Recipes Slice Of Life BY EILEEN GOLTZ As the clock tick-tocks toward the High Holy Days, everyone who’s ever had to plan what seems like 3,000 yom tov meals knows that the main dish is most likely going to be a brisket, chicken, and/or turkey. It’s the first course and desserts that tend to send us all into a panic. While I’m a huge fan of gefilte fish (A&B Famous is my favorite), sometimes I just want to have something apple-licious after the apples and honey. The following recipes are all holiday-perfect as well as year-round delicious, not just because you can whip each of them up in under 20 minutes but because they are tasty, different, and, most importantly, can be made the day before or in the morning before you head out to shul.

Rosh Hashanah Sliders Serves 8 Ingredients: 1 cup ﬁnely chopped tart apple 5 green onions, sliced thin

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2 Tbsp. chopped dried cranberries or dried cherries 1 tsp. poultry seasoning ½ tsp. sage

the ground turkey or chicken; mix to combine and then shape into 8 mini burgers no more than 1/3-inch thick. Grease and heat a grill pan and cook each mini burger for about two minutes on each side, no more. You can press them slightly. Remove immediately and place them on a cookie sheet. You can prepare these up to two days prior to serving by keeping them in a covered container in the refrigerator, or up to two weeks ahead if they are frozen. Before serving, place the cookie sheet in a preheated 350°F oven and heat for 10 minutes or until cooked throughout. To serve, place the split challah rolls on eight plates and spread the Dijon honey mustard on the bot-

The ﬁrst course and desserts tend to send us into a panic. ½ tsp. salt ½ tsp. ground pepper 2 Tbsp. apple juice or water 1 lb. ground chicken or turkey 4 tsp. Dijon honey mustard 8 mini challahs, split Leaf lettuce Dried apple chips Directions: In a bowl, combine the chopped apple, green onions, chopped cherries or cranberries, poultry seasoning, sage, pepper, salt, and apple juice. Add

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tom of the roll. Place lettuce on top of the mustard and then place a hot mini burger on top. Serve with dried apple chips.

Apple Maple Bites Makes 20–24 pieces Ingredients: 1 lb. smoked turkey breast, cut into bite size cubes ⅓ cup maple syrup (use the ready stuff) 1 Tbsp. honey mustard

½ tsp. dried crushed sage leaves 2 apples (or pears), sliced 20–24 mini thin pretzel sticks Directions: Preheat oven to 375°F. Place the turkey chunks on a rimmed baking tray. In a bowl, combine maple syrup, mustard, and sage and apples or pears. Place an apple or pear slice on top of the turkey chunk and bake for ﬁve minutes, just until warm. Drizzle any remaining glaze over the top of the apples and then use the pretzels as a “toothpick.” Place on a serving plate and serve.

Honey-Roasted App Wrap Serves 6 Ingredients: ⅓ cup crunchy peanut butter 3 Tbsp. honey 3 Tbsp. mayonnaise 1½ cups chopped cooked chicken 1 chopped red or Golden Delicious apple 1 cup sliced red seedless grapes 6 whole Romaine lettuce leaves ½ cup honey-roasted peanuts 3 sliced green onions Directions: In a bowl, combine the peanut butter, honey, and mayonnaise. Add the chicken, apple, and grapes. Mix to combine. To serve, place a whole lettuce leaf on a salad plate and divide chicken mixture between the six plates; top with honey-roasted peanuts and sliced green onions. Note: You can use a tortilla or ﬂat bread and roll the salad inside, cut in half, and serve it as a sandwich if you are using this as an evening meal.

Avocado Apple And Smoked Turkey Bruchette Serves 12. This recipe can be doubled or tripled. Ingredients: 1 cup smoked turkey, chopped into small pieces 1 Granny Smith apple ¼ cup celery 2 Tbsp. mayonnaise 1 loaf French bread cut into 12 1-inch slices olive oil 1 avocado ¼ cup sliced green onion 2 Tbsp. chopped parsley onion salt and black pepper to taste juice of 1 small lemon or large lime Directions: In a bowl, combine the smoked turkey, chopped apples, celery, and mayonnaise. Set the mixture aside. Brush the slices of French bread with a little olive oil and place them on a cookie sheet. Bake just until golden. Set aside to cool. In a bowl, combine the avocado, green onion, parsley, onion salt, black pepper, and lemon or lime juice. Mash to combine, but leave it chunky. Spoon and spread the avocado mixture over the top of the bread slice and then top with the turkey mixture.

Apple Slices With Chicken Or Turkey Salad Serves 8. This recipe can be doubled or tripled. Ingredients: 3 unpeeled tart apples, cored and sliced into rounds, 16 slices 1 Tbsp. lime or lemon juice, fresh only 4 thick slices sliced hickory-smoked turkey or chicken breast, cut in quarters (16 pieces) ½ cup jicama, cut into matchsticks ½ cup raisins ⅓ cup mayonnaise 1 tsp. curry powder ½ cup pecans ⅓ cup pareve sour cream salt and pepper Directions: In a bowl, combine the apple slices and lemon or lime juice. Toss to coat and then place them on paper towels to dry. Set them aside. In a bowl, combine the jicama, raisins, mayonnaise, curry, pecans, and pareve sour cream, and mix to combine. Season to taste with salt and pepper. Place two slices of apple on the plate and place a slice of turkey on top. Then place a scoop of the fruit/nut mixture over the top. © Eileen Goltz Eileen Goltz is a freelance kosher foods writer. She graduated from Indiana University and the Cordon Bleu Cooking School in Paris. She lectures on various food-related topics across the U.S. and Canada and writes columns for the CJN in Chicago, kosherscoop.com, and the OU Shabbat Shalom website, www.ou.org. She also wrote the Perfectly Pareve Cookbook (Feldheim).

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Question Why do the children of baalei teshuvah have such a hard time getting dates? I heard that this happens to girls. But everyone is shocked that a guy like me isn’t being redd the girls I should be getting. And I know what the real problem is. My parents became frum as adults, and from then on they always went by the book. They sent my siblings and me to the top yeshivas and camps. I was in the top shiur in high school and in Israel. And I was an honor student in college too. Those should all count for something. I am registered with the top shadchanim, but they never have what I’m looking for. When they ask me about my parents, like what my father does or

where he learned, they give me a funny look when I tell them that my parents are baalei teshuvah and that they went to public school. Then they send me these mediocre girls who probably can’t get a date either because there is something wrong with them or some problem in their family. What’s worse is that they try to convince me that these are the types of girls that are for me. Once in a while they will send me girls I would consider dating, but then these girls say no to me. My mom has had it with the résumés of girls who say no to me, and she’s telling me to lower my standards and, in her words, “consider going out with one of those other nice girls.” She’s beginning to sound like the shadchanim. All the guys who are similar to me

but whose parents are “FFB” marry gorgeous girls from top families. So why should I get someone different? Just because my parents were raised differently? Can you tell me what I should be doing more than I’m already doing? Just to give you a few details about myself, I am tall, smart, and considered handsome. I have a very good job, everyone likes me, and I have a regular chavrusa.

Response You seem to be quite hung up with the concept of “the top.” And that is probably not entirely your fault, as that word keeps getting thrown around in most aspects of frum life. What exactly does “top” mean to you? One choice of yeshiva or camp over another? There are all types of students with various aptitudes in each educational facility. And every private school or yeshiva measures success by its own standards, which is why I never buy into the “top” school or camp thing. Quite frankly, when I hear that in regard to shidduchim, I don’t like it. So forgive me for saying this, but what makes you think that the girls

who are saying no to you are any better than those whom you do not consider to be “top”? In addition, do you really believe that any shadchan who looks down at your parents’ background is a “top” person? Perhaps your definition of a “top” person needs to be redefined. My view of a top person is someone of high integrity who is sincere and unpretentious. Such people do not ever assume that they are better than the next, and they respect everybody, whether they are just like them or different in some way. A “top of the line” person does not look down on anyone. Such a person respects people enough to hold wholesome diversity in high regard. Perhaps you need to increase your networking some more, so that you can find a true top-of-the-line shadchan. I will ask you again: What does “top” mean to you? You might need to take some time to explore and ponder this topic. You should be getting redd shidduchim with girls who are similar to you as a human being. The qualities you encompass as a frum young man should be matched with a compatible girl. And if it turns out that the girl or her parents decide for whatever reason that it’s not shayach, then that is their choice. But no one should assume or predict that particular types of girls should not be suggested to you. Which brings me to the rejections you get from girls whom you would agree to date. People typically gravitate towards what they know and are familiar with. And when it relates to shidduchim, at least in the early stages of dating, people are most comfortable being meshadech with those who are similar to themselves. It makes them feel safe. That is why people get so hung up on marrying someone with the same hashkafah. This is not to imply that happy marriages cannot result from dissimilar backgrounds. In fact, there are many cases where people realized that those who were similar to them were not necessarily the right match. When they started looking outside their circles, they found compatibility in areas that mattered to them. Realistically speaking, it is usually not someone’s first choice to marry a person coming from a completely different upbringing, unless they are downright unhappy with something in their own background. I will also concur that many parents of girls (especially younger girls) prefer mechutanim similar to themselves. And some people, depending on their community, will even go so far as ensuring that the grandparents (living or not) are also of similar background, yichus, or hashkafah. This might sound ridiculous

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DATING FORUM Continued from Page 48 to those who are opposed to such a system. However, it feels perfectly ordinary to people who subscribe to this method. It comes down to personal preference, and a shidduch is a very subjective matter. People follow their own set of ideas and imposed standards when choosing a spouse for themselves or when assisting their children. How wonderful it would be if the only requirements one sought in a potential shidduch were middos and yiras Shamayim! What should you do? For starters, try to eliminate that chip on your shoulder. There is absolutely nothing wrong with where you come from. Do not assume that the other guys you know have a better upbringing and are therefore more privileged. Here is what you need to need to make peace with. Your parents sound like wonderfully committed people. You are lucky to be their child. They are to be held in the highest regard, as very few can walk in their chosen path. Do you realize what kind of sacriﬁces they have made to live the virtuous life you describe? That takes superhuman determination and strength of character. And that they managed to maintain and preserve their family life in an atmosphere of Torah and kedushah puts them as “top” people. You have what to be proud of and you should feel gratiﬁcation in that knowledge. You need to believe that the girl who marries you will be fortunate that b’ezras Hashem her children will be the grandchildren of your parents.

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As soon as you establish and fully acknowledge that new conﬁdence, you can really begin your search for your bashert. You talk about mediocre girls. Are those the girls your mother is referring to when she advises you to go out with “those other nice girls”? Do you view them as mediocre because they are not the “top,” as you would say? It would not hurt to give those girls a chance. Maybe they did not attend the school, camp, or seminary that you envisioned your future wife as having attended. And maybe the fathers of those mediocre girls don’t sit on an important board. And very likely no one will ooh and ahh because you have a date with one of those “mediocre” (in your estimation) girls. But so what? Why should that matter in the long term? And besides, why would you want to marry anyone who looks down on another human being? Please reevaluate the essentials of what it takes to make a good wife and mother. Look at your parents and let them be your role models. I defer to your mother’s opinion, and I advise you to start dating girls whose middos tovos reﬂect their “top” neshamos. And always bear in mind that the only “top” being is HaKadosh Baruch Hu. No one can ever “top” Him. Baila Sebrow is president of Neshoma Advocates, communications and recruitment liaison for Sovri-Beth Israel, executive director of Teach Our Children, and a shadchanis. She can be reached at Bsebrow@aol.com. Questions and comments for the Dating Forum can be submitted to 5townsforum@gmail.com.

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Kiddush Hashem In Louisiana: YU Students Provide Succor And Support To Flood Victims BY ROCHELLE MARUCH MILLER While their friends were enjoying the Labor Day weekend and relaxing with family and friends, 12 undergraduate students from Yeshiva University—including three from New York—traveled to the flood-ravaged city of Baton Rouge, Louisiana, to assist with the disaster-relief efforts. Partnering with Nechama, a Jewish volunteer disaster-relief organization, the students helped the locals clear debris from their homes and salvage whatever possessions they could. For three days the students ripped up wooden floorboards and moldy carpets, took rotting doors off hinges, and carried ruined countertops and dressers to the curb. When Shabbos arrived, they worked with the local Chabad to coordinate Torah readings, prayer services, and youth groups. And they returned to New York bright and early on Tuesday morning, just in time for classes. “In typical YU fashion, when disaster strikes, we try to be there to help,” says Sarah Sheps, Stanton Fellow, Yeshiva University Office of Student Life, who led the initiative. “A week before school, Rabbi Brander decided that we must continue the trend, as we did with the flooding in Houston, and go help out in Louisiana. He pulled Naomi Kohl, director of student life, into the mix and the trip began to form.”

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With less than three days to apply, over 70 students submitted applications. Sarah described the students as being “elite choices,” students involved in clubs, student council, and honors programs. The planned trip was formed. They would spend three days working tirelessly with the Nechama Disaster Relief Foundation, helping clear out the ruined houses. They would also

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Relief Mission Continued from Page 50 be spending Shabbat with the Chabad of Metairie in New Orleans, which was severely affected by Katrina, hearing stories of resilience and emunah. “The third house we worked on was a really touching experience for us,” said Sarah. “The owner of the house had passed away during the storm and his children were not yet ready to return to the house. This was powerful for us because we were seeing the direct effect and help we were making in these people’s lives.” “One of the reasons I decided to participate in this trip is because I knew it was an opportunity to help people and to make a kiddush Hashem, while also representing Yeshiva University,” said Tzivya Beck. Tzivya, who is in her senior year at Yeshiva University’s Stern College for Women, has been a resident adviser since last fall. Majoring in political science, she is preparing to enter law school next fall.

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All the students who participated in the Louisiana trip

Yeshiva University] gave a short shiur on the idea of ‘darchei shalom,’ and how Rav Soloveitchik was of the opin-

“This was an opportunity to help people and to make a kiddush Hashem.” “At a meeting that took place during the week prior to the trip, Rabbi Kenneth Brander [the vice-president of

ion that helping and saving others was not limited to members of one’s own community. With this in mind,

I was proud to be working alongside other Yeshiva University students and truly bringing the lessons that we learn in shiurim into practice.” For each student, the trip was a life-altering experience. “It impacted me in terms of my amazement by the resilience of the communities we met in Louisiana,” Tzivya Beck told this author. “In Metairie, where we spent Shabbat, there is a small but vibrant Jewish community. The Chabad couple told us they had left Louisiana after Katrina and settled in New York for a few months. But despite the comforts that New York can provide for a Jewish family in terms of kosher

food and a Torah education, they chose to return to Louisiana and to rebuild the Jewish community there. This was truly inspiring for me—to see their mesirus nefesh.” Tzivya adds, “The Chabad couple in Baton Rouge was also inspiring. They are probably one of the only Orthodox families in the area with no minyan on Shabbat. Yet they see it as their mission to bring whatever Yiddishkeit they can to the area.” Leah Feygel is a senior and finance major at the Sy Syms School of Business of Yeshiva University who plans to enter the corporate world. Born and raised in Brooklyn, she attended Bais Yaakov of Brooklyn, Prospect Park

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Relief Mission Continued from Page 55 Yeshiva, Michlalah, prior to Yeshiva University. “All these schools have encouraged me to pursue something meaningful and to appreciate the sensitivities that the Torah teaches,” Leah said. “I actively try to meet new people and hear about their experiences—and Louisiana was a great place for that!” For Leah, the experience was unique in that in addition to bringing cheerful disposition to a community that has suffered, the students provided physical assistance as well. “We had to maintain a balance of energy and solemnness about almost everything we did—not to be too cheerful, make sure the homeowners were okay with our discarding some of their damaged possessions.” Leah decided to go on this mission because it was an opportunity for her to give back to Yeshiva University and to the community at large: “I know that I have learned a lot about chesed and derech eretz from many people here at Yeshiva and I thought that this opportunity would be a good way to practice those lessons, make a kiddush Hashem, and publicize this sentiment of active caring. I think the thing I learned most was about the importance of initiative and taking the step, even while some questions remain unanswered. While I was thinking about how 12 students like me, inexperienced in flood relief, would be able to help in this situation, we still went ahead and did it. There was a power to our number and to our drive, and while we are not experienced flood relievers, we became experienced helpers.” “Sometimes opportunities like this one come your way, and within days you can find yourself across the country, helping people you never met,” says Tzivya. “This was something I hadn’t planned to do, but when I heard that this trip was being put together, it was a spontaneous decision to go—and one that I am so grateful for!” For Sarah, the group leader, the initiative was a humbling experience: “Every single one of the students put in 110 percent to do all they could to clean the house of this person, who they didn’t even know. I was speechless, watching them get covered in sweat, bugs, and soaking-wet carpets. They didn’t get grossed out or tired; they worked endlessly to accomplish what needed to be done. It was a humbling experience and I am so honored to be here and proud to be staffing these dedicated students.” Sarah adds, “At our debrief, all the students spoke beautifully about how appreciative they are to Hashem for what they have been given. They spoke of how thankful they are that YU affords them these opportunities and how glad they are to be able to impact those around them.” Rochelle Maruch Miller is a contributing editor for the Five Towns Jewish Times. She is a journalist. creative-media consultant, lecturer, and educator who writes for many magazines, newspapers, websites, and private clients. She can be reached at Rochellemiller04@aol.com.

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Like Fish BY MORDECHAI SCHMUTTER My kids have three goldfish, which is way more goldfish than my wife originally wanted. And we don’t keep them in the same bowl. We keep them in two different bowls, right next to each other, because they belong to two different kids, and the kids don’t want their fish sharing a bowl. Like it matters whose fish is whose. Like when the kids get married, they’re going to leave with their fish. Or bring them to yeshiva. And these are kids who share a bedroom. The fish are named Goldstein, Goldberg, and Schwartz. Schwartz is the black one. Goldstein has his own place, while Goldberg and Schwartz are roommates. And there are differences based on where each fish lives. Goldstein belongs to my son Daniel, which means that I’m the one who feeds it every morning, and Goldberg and Schwartz belong to my son Heshy, which means that I’m the one who feeds them every morning. OK, so that’s not the difference. About once a week, my kids remember to ask if

fused. Like we’re going to say, “Hey, Goldstein!” and they’re not going to come. They’re not going to come because they’re in a bowl. Fish don’t really need names. It’s not like they’re getting phone calls. I had about a dozen fish growing up, and two of them had names. And we’d always say, “Is that Goldie? Yeah, I think that’s Goldie. No, the other one is Goldie.” You might say that Goldstein gets lonely in his own bowl, but I’m not sure. The other two share a bowl and I never see them acknowledge each other. It’s not like they nod as they pass by. The biggest acknowledgment of each other, I think, is that I’ve never actually witnessed them colliding. Maybe they do that after lights out; I don’t know. But in general, fish don’t really acknowledge each other. One time my kids pointed out that Schwartz was floating at the top of the bowl, on his side, and Goldberg seemed fine with it. He was just swimming around, maybe keeping his distance. And anyway, Schwartz wasn’t

Goldberg thinks life exists outside this bowl. I fed their fish that day, and when I tell them I did, they say, “Hey, I like to do it!” Yes, fish are supposed to be an educational thing about responsibility, but I don’t know if I’m willing to kill three fish to teach my kids a lesson. Also, one bowl has dismembered Lego men floating around, and the other has Lego bricks. (The kids figured the fish need pool toys.) Goldstein has a castle he can’t fit into, while Goldberg and Schwartz have a big plant that’s not real. It’s all about trying to look better than the other guy. And yes, we call our fish by last names, because our kids won them in school, and everyone in school is called by last names. (We also had a fish named Goldschmidt, who died before we got the others. The fish never asked what happened to the previous tenant.) But how could we give them first names? We don’t know what gender they are! You know how many fish there are named Goldie? My guess is about half of them spend their entire lives telling the other fish, “No, I’m a boy. Yes, there are boys named Goldie.” And in the meantime, I wonder how many female goldfish are going around saying, “No, no, Fishel is totally a girl’s name. You don’t know any girls named Fishel?” Not that it matters. The fish have no idea what they’re named. It’s not like they’re going to get con-

dead. Every time our fingers came near it to poke it (poking has amazing medical benefits; doctors do it too), he suddenly moved. “I’m not dead! Don’t flush me!” So I changed the water, and the next day he was fine, but all through this, Goldberg didn’t even care. You’d think he would’ve been at Schwartz’s bedside or something. Maybe helping him write out a will. “OK, so who gets your rocks?” “You do.” “Really? I had no idea we were so close. You barely say hello.” Though for all I know, maybe those two seriously don’t get along. Like the first day, Goldberg said something without thinking, and now Schwartz thinks he’s a weirdo. It would actually be interesting to get into the heads of our fish. I wonder if they keep little diaries. Maybe for the next guy who lives in the bowl. So he knows. • My roommate is so annoying. We don’t agree on anything. I think I’m going to basically avoid him. • Annoying roommate says he wants to start a school. Just me and him. Says I should call him Goldberg. • I have to sleep with one eye open with this guy. • OK, fun fact: I can’t close either of my eyes. • So apparently the world is round. I explored the whole thing. Goldberg owes me five rocks.

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Like Fish Continued from Page 57 • How can you tell if you’re dehydrated? • I’m pretty sure I’ve tasted every rock in this place. They all taste pretty much the same. Where’s the food, though? • How do we get food? Should we, like, plant crops in the gravel? • OK, we got a plant. It’s huge. How are we supposed to water this thing? • Um . . . What happens when the plant grows bigger? • Goldberg thinks life exists outside this bowl. I think he’s crazy. Maybe he should start wearing a Lego hat and talking to himself. • I need to work out lanes so we don’t keep running into each other. It’s bad enough I keep running into this other fish in the wall who looks like me. And then he’s looking all awkward and trying to make eye contact. • Is there a way out of here? Maybe I can dig a tunnel under the gravel. • It’s weird. He nods every time he passes me, like he’s surprised to see me. • In general, food seems to come from Shamayim about once a day, except Shabbos. Mostly in the form of flakes. Is it manna? • Roommate doesn’t take his share of the responsibilities. I feel like I have to taste all the rocks around here. “Don’t you do any-

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thing?” And he’s like, “Well, I tasted that rock you have in your mouth about five minutes ago.” • I think we’re killing the plant. There’s such a thing as overwatering, right? • OK, I worked it out: When you die, a big hand comes down from Shamayim with a net and takes you to a better place. Or a worse place; I don’t know. I hear water running. • Speaking of freeloaders, I have some other roommates: There are these Lego guys that don’t say anything. I don’t like them either. They’re creepy. They kind of just float there, smiling. Are they dead? Where’s the giant hand to flush them? • I just found leftovers in the gravel! • Nope, that was more gravel. • I think I’ve been overeating. I really need to lose weight. Is there a way to get exercise here? Maybe more swimming. • OK, swimming makes me hungry. • I’m worried about the environment. Goldberg thinks I’m crazy, but the water is definitely getting murkier. • And I can’t seem to get rid of this fish smell. • So, we had a meeting and it’s official: We’re going around the plant counterclockwise today! This is gonna be awesome! • Yeah, hi. Nice to see you. • I found leftovers in the gravel! Oh, wait. This is where I was trying

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to grow more fish flakes. • So here are some things we can do if we’re bored: 1. Sort the rocks by color. That should take a while. 2. We can also use the rocks to play kugelach. Theoretically. 3. We can have prolonged upside-down back-float competitions. (Okay, scratch that last one. No more back-float competitions. I’m not dead!) • Goldberg thinks we have a neighbor with a castle. Right. • The water is getting pretty disgusting, and Goldberg doesn’t seem to care. He also doesn’t care about the bathroom spot, he never helps me clean the rocks . . . and he never helps me dig my tunnel. • So now the plant came loose and is floating on top of the world. What’s going on here? Is it dead? And these idiot Lego men are still smiling. • OK, so now this net has come down from Shamayim, and it’s chasing me around. I’m not dead! Baruch Hashem, I keep outsmarting it. It’ll never get me out of this filthy bowl. It has to give up some time. • Great. Now I’m in a smaller bowl. With Goldberg. • Yeah, nice to see you. • And now I’m in a bigger bowl. Wait . . . Is this the same bowl as before? The plant looks familiar, but the water is clear. Oh my goodness, the whole world is clean! Do

we have a cleaning lady? What’s this going to cost us? Is Goldberg even going to chip in? • Um . . . What happened to my leftovers? Great! The cleaning lady threw them out. Mordechai Schmutter is a weekly humor columnist for Hamodia and is the author of ﬁve books, published by Israel Book Shop. He also does freelance writing for hire. You can send any questions, comments, or ideas to MSchmutter@gmail.com.

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Self-Neglect: The Most Common Form Of Elder Abuse B Y A N I TA K A M I E L , R N , M P S You travel to check on your 78-year-old mother. You notice she is gaunter than when you saw her last. You see a few weeks of mail piled up on the table and a sink overflowing with dirty dishes. The apartment has an unpleasant odor and her clothes are wrinkled and dirty. Sadly, all these are signs of elder self-neglect, a growing problem among the elderly. When we think of abuse, we normally frame it in terms of a victim and a perpetrator. Did you know that elder self-neglect is a form of elder abuse and is the most common form? According to a 2004 Adult Protective Services Survey by the National Center on Elder Abuse, it occurs more frequently than financial exploitation and abuse by a caregiver. According to Emily Saltz, former president of the National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers, “Elderly self-neglect is a hidden problem in our community.” The vast majority, 92%, of geriatric care managers say they encounter it and 52% maintain it is a growing problem. Three-quarters report it is the most common form of elder abuse they encounter in their practices. The National Adult Protective Services Association (NAPSA) defines self-neglect as “an adult’s inability, due to physical or mental impairment or diminished capacity, to perform essential self-care tasks.” These include obtaining food, shelter, and medical care and caring for

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While it is important to be able to recognize the signs and symptoms of elder self-neglect, it is even more important to look at possible underlying causes. Dementia is a big risk factor. Also, the elderly in this situation are one and a half times as likely to suffer from depression, and two-thirds have real physical limitations hampering them from performing their activities of daily living (ADLs). Other catalysts include: • Undiagnosed illness that might

report abuse. However, involving NAPSA is not a clear answer. Aside from it being a drastic measure, NAPSA can’t enter uninvited, so it is best to coalition-build to avoid resorting to them. Families need to speak to their loved ones in their own way, either privately or in a non-threatening family meeting, to try and effect improvement. Professionals such as geriatric care managers or geri-psychologists can guide the process at the meeting or advise from the

Doormen are now being enlisted in the ﬁght. one’s person in terms of bathing and medical and general safety. Warning signs of elder self-neglect include: • Poor personal hygiene with respect to bathing and grooming • Soiled, overly worn, or inappropriate clothing • Forgetting doses or refusing medications and medical treatment • Dehydration and malnutrition • Not using health aids such as prescription eyeglasses, dentures, or hearing aids • Hypothermia/hyperthermia • Unsanitary living conditions • Unpaid bills, bounced checks, or utility shut-offs • A shortage of food in the house • Weight loss • Bedsores • Overall health deterioration

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be causing extreme fatigue Medications with side effects that cause lethargy • Continuation of a lifelong pattern of sloppiness The risks are serious and real. Seniors who self-neglect are ﬁve times as likely to die prematurely than non-neglectors. They have an obvious increased risk of falling, which can be devastating, if not fatal, to the elderly. Furthermore, depending upon circumstances, they could pose a risk to the community in terms of ﬁre hazards, vermin infestation, and poor sanitation. Usually very independent-minded, this elderly segment tends to resist intervention and be isolated and fearful. So how do we intervene? Some clinicians are legally bound to •

outside. Viewed by seniors as trusted authorities, doctors can step in by: • Speaking as an adviser the senior will actually listen to • Entering the home, easing the way for a stranger to come in as a caregiver • Helping arrange for successful aging in place after their visit Don’t laugh, but doormen are now being enlisted in the ﬁght. The Harry and Jeanette Weinberg Center for Elder Abuse Prevention at the Hebrew Home at Riverdale trains New York City doormen, porters, and concierges so that they can keep a watchful eye on the people they see, or should see, each day. They

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Self-Neglect Continued from Page 64 look for physical signs such as bruises and changes in gait and try to be alert for neglect by loosely tracking how often friends and relatives come to call. Many of the tenants welcome the extra assistance. It is up to us—family, friends, and community—to be on the lookout for signs of neglect of the elderly. If you think someone you know or love is suffering from elder abuse or elder self-neglect, you can contact the

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National Center on Elder Abuse (http://ncea.acl.gov) for a listing of resources to assist you. Let me know if I can help! Anita Kamiel, R.N., M.P.S., is the founder and owner of David York Home Healthcare Agency and is fully acquainted with all factors related to eldercare services and the latest guidelines for seniors. Thirty years ago, she realized the need for affordable, quality home health aide services provided and supervised by caring individuals. You can contact her at 718-376-7755 or at www. davidyorkagency.com. David York Agency is also on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and LinkedIn.

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Anxious To Know Your Anxieties BY DAVID H. ROSMARIN, PHD, ABPP Every month, hundreds of individuals from around the world call the Center for Anxiety seeking information about anxiety and related mental-health concerns. There is considerable diversity among callers: Some have obsessive-compulsive disorder, others have trouble sleeping due to incessant worries at night, others have panic attacks and fear they may be dying, and still others have no concerns themselves but want to help their family members or friends who are suffering. There is one thing that all callers have in common, however. They are all “anxious to know.” That is, they want practical advice about how to handle anxiety-related concerns that is based on current evidence and consistent with Torah values. Being “anxious to know” has become common. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, in each calendar year, 18% of Americans have a fullblown diagnosable anxiety disorder. That’s 57 million people! Women in particular are vulnerable, being 60% more likely than men to experience an anxiety disorder. Unfortunately, only 37% of clinically anxious individuals receive minimally adequate

treatment, suggesting that most individuals suffer in silence. The real tragedy, however, is that anxiety disorders and many other mental-health conditions are readily treatable with treatments that are well-validated by science, and in many cases medication is not necessary. Furthermore, the principles and practices of evidence-based treatments for anxiety and related problems are typically not only consistent with Torah values but embody them, such that by participating in treatments patients can experience spiritual growth. For example, last year a young woman called our ofﬁce feeling so overwhelmed by anxiety that she did not want to get out of bed in the morning. In just a few weeks, she accomplished her initial targets and was functioning well day-to-day. She decided to continue treatment for a few more months to address a pattern of obsessiveness that she had developed over several years. Over time, not only did her mental health improve, but her spiritual life lifted to a higher level than ever before. In describing this experience, she recently wrote, “Now, I am free of my obsessions, know how to manage my

anxiety, and love my life. My only regret: Not having done this sooner. I wish I had known that you don’t have to wait to hit rock bottom to get help.” I am therefore pleased to introduce a new monthly column that will provide a glimpse into the questions my office receives and our approach to treatment. Readers who are “anxious to know” are encouraged to write in their questions and concerns, and each month one or two letters will be published, along with my responses. Submissions should be sent in via e-mail to info@centerforanxiety.org with “5TJT - Anxious to Know” in the subject line of the message. To protect anonymity, names and other identifying details will be changed prior to publication. Questions are welcome about any topic related to mental health and treatment. I look forward to hearing from you! David H. Rosmarin, Ph.D., ABPP, is a part-time assistant professor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and a boardcertified clinical psychologist. He also directs the Center for Anxiety, which has offices in Manhattan, Brooklyn, Monsey, and Boston. He can be reached at 646-837-5557 or info@centerforanxiety.org.

Gurwin Residents Bring Home The Gold At Suffolk Golden Games

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Gurwin residents at Golden Games

Eleven residents of Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center participated in the Suffolk County Golden Games held recently at the Patchogue YMCA. Competing in modiﬁed sporting events against eight other nursing homes across Suffolk County, Gurwin residents—ages 62 to 90—brought home the gold in volleyball, bowling, and women’s distance throw. Gurwin residents have competed in the annual sports competition since its inception in 1989, when the games were started by Karen Nash, CTRS, former director of therapeutic recreation at Gurwin. The multisport event kicks off with an Olympic-style opening ceremony, complete with torchbearers and salute to the American ﬂag, followed by a daylong schedule of various sporting events. The games challenge seniors residing at nursing-home facilities to develop their physical and socialization skills in a healthy, lighthearted, and friendly competitive environment. “The Golden Games are rich in the spirit of camaraderie, friendship, and fun,” says Dawn Lettau, CTRS, Gurwin’s director of therapeutic recreation. “Our residents practice for months prior to the games, honing their athletic skills and developing friendships among their teammates. These annual games enable former athletes to maintain their lifelong interests and relive their glory days; for others, it is an opportunity to develop new skills and work towards a common goal. Our residents take pride in doing their personal best and working together as a team.” Gurwin resident Patricia Davidson, a perennial medal winner at the games and this year’s recipient of the gold medal for women’s distance throw, proudly displays her collection of medals in her room at Gurwin. “I look forward to the Golden Games each year,” she said. “I enjoy practicing for the events and always try to perform at my best. It is an exciting day for all of us, and bringing home a medal is the icing on the cake!” Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center is a 460-bed nursing care facility in Commack, Long Island. Gurwin offers skilled nursing care, shortterm rehabilitation, medical/post-surgical subacute care, respiratory and ventilator-dependent care, an adult day

health program, on-site dialysis, hospice care, home care, and assisted living. Its independent-living community is under development. To learn more, visit www.gurwin.org.

On September 25, the community enjoyed a beautiful morning for a beautiful cause at South Nassau Communities Hospital 5K Walk & Health Fair. Over 250 walkers participated to raise over $27,000 to ﬁght back against cancer. Supervisor Anthony Santino, Councilman Anthony D’Esposito, and many other elected leaders were proud to take part.

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Below is a letter that I received from a reader of this column. It’s a beautiful observation that does not require much of an introduction or explanation. It is written from the heart of a woman who shares her intimate feelings related to childrearing and serves as a healthy reality check for those of you who are still in the thick of things and perhaps occasionally feeling overwhelmed or just plain frustrated. It will serve to bring you back to the present moment with appreciation and perspective. Dear Esther, I just put my youngest child on an airplane for her year in seminary, and I am now ofﬁcially in the “empty nest” chapter of my life. I will now be embarking on a journey through new and uncharted territories that are foreign to me. Although this new chapter is quite terrifying and exciting at the same time, I have had time to reﬂect on my life to this point. I would like to share my insights with your younger readers, especially the young parents. Being a parent has been the most satisfying endeavor in my life. I feel truly accomplished and successful with the effort I put into this awesome “job,” because I am now reaping rewards for all the long years of devotion. Although

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this particular position in the workforce does not have a very powerful title, like CEO or president, nor will it be acknowledged in the public world as a lofty accomplishment, I feel truly privileged to have been able to experience this wonderful “position” for the last 29 years. I ponder as to why I feel this tangible satisfaction, and this is what I have come up with: I mastered the skill of living in the moment, or living in the present tense. When we are young, in our twenties and thirties, we are naturally looking to our future, dreaming our dreams of what we may deem as our ﬁnish line and our “success stories.” This is totally normal and age-appropriate; however, while we are doing that, we are also raising our young children, which in itself is a daunting task. We tend to get sidetracked with building our careers and businesses, while simultaneously our children are growing up. I don’t know why these two challenging journeys occur at the same time, but in order to really appreciate and enjoy our children’s childhoods—which may seem like forever but really is only a small percentage of our lives— we need to consciously put the brakes on and live in the present.

I remember clearly those long summer Shabbos afternoons that seemed to never end. I would be busy all day either entertaining my young child or supervising playdates, while my body desperately craved a Shabbos-afternoon nap. I would drink a coffee, and then plunge in to enjoy my little boy. It wasn’t always easy. I have memories of wanting to

more invitations to eat out or host a meal until my child was old enough to sit at the table or play unattended. I chose to make our Shabbos meals about our kids, and not be distracted with others. We had the rest of our lives to socialize with friends. Many times over the years, I’ve had to ﬁght the desire to just get the kids into bed after an exhausting day of work /

waiting outside with my young children at the bus stop every morning. PTA was a highlight for me. Making lunches and packing special snacks with little messages kept me on a high all day long, knowing my kids would feel special. I could go on and on. This short period of time is ﬂeeting and precious, and I’m glad I had the maturity and wisdom to utilize it to

To really appreciate their childhood, we need to live in the present. socialize on Shabbos with my peers by sharing meals. One particular Shabbos lunch was a turning point in my way of thinking. We had been invited to friends for lunch, and while all the adults were immersed in fun conversation, my twoyear-old son uprooted my friend’s plant, spilling dirt all over her carpeting. I immediately felt upset and embarrassed, but when I later reﬂected on the event, I realized that my child was behaving age-appropriately and was just in need of some supervised activity. I then decided not to accept any

homework / bath time / dinnertime / laundry and the never-ending cycle of a mother’s chores . . . but I tried very hard to psych myself up and live in the present tense. And yes, if it meant cuddling in bed with my child and reading him chapters from Harry Potter every night (even though he was able to read on his own but refused to), I did it wholeheartedly, because I knew deep in the recesses of my being that it would end way too soon. I made school-supply purchasing an exciting event every year, and I truly loved

To love the L-rd your G-d . . . for He is your life (Devarim 30:20) How is it fitting to love G-d? A person should love G-d with such great and powerful intensity that his soul is bound in this love and is constantly pursuing it as one, for example, who is smitten with lovesickness—as one who is so obsessed with a carnal love that his mind is never free of desire for that woman. . . . Even more so is the love of G-d in the hearts of those who love him . . . This is what King Solomon meant when he said by way of metaphor, “For I am sick with love.” Indeed, the entire Song of Songs is a metaphor for this concept . . . (Mishneh Torah, Laws of Repentance 10:3)

its fullest capacity. This philosophy served me well, and although my kids are no longer in my home, I live with no regrets. Thank G-d, I have wonderful memories to fall back on and the knowledge that I spent every opportunity I could to be with them, prioritizing their needs over everything else. Lonely but Fulﬁlled Mom Esther Mann, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Hewlett. Esther works with individuals and couples. Together with Jennifer Mann, she also runs the “Navidaters.” She can be reached at mindbiz44@aol.com or 516-314-2295.

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Make Rich Gluten-Free Honey Cake With Pereg Alternative Flours If your diet requires gluten-free products and you are looking for the best when it comes to baking, look no further than Pereg Natural Foods (www.pereg-gourmet.com). Its line of gluten-free flours provides consumers with more and better cooking and baking options. Try Pereg’s gluten-free honey cake, a traditional recipe for the Jewish New Year that tastes so good, guests may not guess it’s gluten free. Pereg Natural Foods offers six gluten-free-flour varieties: almond, banana, buckwheat, chickpea, quinoa, and coconut. All are certified

gluten-free and non-GMO, and are 100% natural, non-dairy, and certified kosher. They are packaged in 16 oz. resealable stay-fresh bags, retailing for about $4.99. Pereg is proud of these healthful alternatives to white flour. In addition to gluten-free flours, Pereg Natural Foods is a leading producer of premium spices and spice blends, ancient grains, and an extensive line of quinoa and couscous products. They manufacture all their products from start to finish, controlling the quality from the sourcing until the product is packed and

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ready for the consumer. All Pereg products are certified kosher by both the Orthodox Union (OU) and CRC, are dairy and lactose-free as well as all-natural, with no additives or preservatives. Pereg Natural Foods products are available at select retailers throughout the U.S. and Canada, and on their website, www.pereg-gourmet.com. Follow Pereg Natural Foods on social media: www.facebook.com/PeregNatural, Twitter @pereggourmet and Instagram @peregnatural.

Gluten-Free Honey Cake Recipe by Pereg Natural Foods Prep: 25 minutes; cook: 45 minutes; ready in 1 hour 10 minutes 12 servings 360 calories per serving Ingredients: 1 cup white sugar 1 cup honey ½ cup vegetable oil 4 eggs 2 tsp. grated orange zest 1 cup orange juice 1 cup Pereg Natural Foods gluten-free almond flour 1½ cups Pereg Natural Foods gluten-free coconut flour or gluten-free banana flour 3 tsp. baking powder ½ tsp. baking soda ½ tsp. salt 1 tsp. ground cinnamon Directions: Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and flour a 9”×13” pan. Sift together the flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt, and cinnamon. Set aside. In a large bowl, combine sugar, honey, oil, eggs, and orange zest. Beat in the flour mixture alternately with the orange juice, mixing just until incorporated. Pour batter into prepared pan. Bake in the preheated oven for 40 to 50 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean. Allow to cool before serving.

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Graduates Affirm Touro As A Leader In Health Education Proud graduates from Touro College School of Health Sciences (SHS) celebrated with faculty, family, and friends during a jubilant commencement ceremony on a sunny late-summer afternoon at the Tilles Center for the Performing Arts in Brookville, Long Island on September 13. At the ceremony, 483 candidates, the most students the school has graduated, were honored for their hard work in earning their bachelor’s, master’s, associate’s, and doctoral degrees from the SHS’s six fields of study. The Physician Assistant (PA) Program awarded 187 degrees; Physical Therapy (PT) with 84; Occupational Therapy (OT), 60; OT Assistant, 27; Speech Language Pathology (SLP), 51; Nursing, 50; Biology, 15; Psychology, 7; and Health Science, 2. This year, the school’s nursing program introduced a four-year bachelor of science degree, which 21 graduates received at the exercises. Other programs, such as physician assistant and physical therapy, continue to expand their clinical-rounds affiliations with prominent healthcare institutions such as NYU Medical Center and Hospital for Special Surgery. Keynote speaker Dr. Phyllis Quinlan, a renowned consultant for the nursing profession and an expert in progressive restorative and wellness therapies, talked about the emotional impact of “compassion fatigue.” “It is the rare soul that can mobilize his or her empathy and compassionate nature into the action we call caregiving—and even fewer who take it on as his life’s work,” said Dr. Quinlan. “Serving your fellow man, woman, or child is the highest form of generosity I know, and you have all chosen this path.” Dr. Quinlan offered three steps that addressed the importance of caring for the caregiver in the nursing profession: creating a place for stillness in daily life, allowing others to care for you, and developing emotional intelligence. When healthcare providers subscribe to these self-care reminders, Dr. Quinlan said, “they stay connected to the beautiful mission that you have accepted.”

Pierre-Louis of Valley Stream, PA Program at in Manhattan; Amy Altman of Wantagh, PA Program at Winthrop University Hospital; and Rina Barkhordarzadeh of Brooklyn, SLP Program.

Accolades And Appreciation Dr. Louis Primavera, dean of the School of Health Sciences, presented faculty awards for Teaching Excellence to Prof. Mary Flanagan, associate director of the PA program; Dr. Ted Marks, assistant professor of the DPT program; Dr. Tara Casimano, associate director of the OT program; and Dr. Rosalie Unterman, clinical director of the SLP program. A special Leadership Award was presented to John Rongo, program director of the PA program. In earlier ceremonies, graduates were presented with awards for academic, clinical, and research excel-

Tova Kutner and Stephanie Luca at Touro College School of Health Sciences commencement ceremony

lence in physical therapy, occupational therapy, and speech language pathology.

A Competitive Edge

offering academic and clinical education in a broad range of allied health professions and medical sciences. Pass rates on professional entrance exams are in the top percentiles (PA,

Programs at Touro’s SHS are among the most competitive in the nation,

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Maimonides Award Winners Each year, the School of Health Sciences presents the Maimonides Awards to students in each of the school’s programs who demonstrate the highest professional ideals of a health-sciences practitioner. The 2016 Maimonides Award recipients were: Hancha Rivka Felberman of Brooklyn, Nursing Program; Kailene Abt of Huntington, OT Program at Bay Shore; Diana Lashinsky of West Islip, OT Program at Manhattan; Neal Viets of Wantagh, DPT Program at Bay Shore; Steve Vouyiouklis of Brooklyn, DPT Program in Manhattan; Michele Caietta of Wantagh, PA Program at Bay Shore; Ruth

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Touro Continued from Page 71 99 percent; PT Manhattan, 100 percent; DPT Bay Shore, 90 percent) and alumni employment rate for SHS alumni averages nearly 100 percent. In addition, in a 2016 U.S. News survey on the best healthcare jobs, physician assistant ranked #4 with a median salary of $95,820; physical therapist ranked #12 with a median salary of $82,390; registered nurse ranked #16 with a median salary of $66,640; occupational therapist ranked #17 with a median salary of $78,810; and speech language pathology ranked #19 with a median salary of $71,550.

A Tribute To Touro’s 9/11 Heroes In commemoration of 15 years since the 9/11 tragedy, Dr. Louis Primavera, dean of the SHS, presented awards to first-responders and others from the Touro community who aided the victims of the terror attack in New York City on September 11, 2001. Dr. Joseph

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Tommasino, chair of the PA program; Colonel Geoffrey Slack, director of Veterans Affairs; and James Smagala, a PA student and retired firefighter, accepted the awards recognizing their selfless acts of heroism in the immediate aftermath of 9/11. Dr. Primavera thanked SHS faculty and administrators “for doing an incredible job,” and for supporting each other throughout the academic term, adding, “Touro is about family.”

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‘But He Never Hit Her’ Domestic Violence In The Jewish Community, Part 3: Emotional And Verbal Abuse BY DR. SHOSHANNAH D. FRYDMAN “You never do anything right, you are a terrible wife, you are lucky I put up with you.” Shira has heard similar language throughout their 10-year marriage. At first it was a little banter, with sarcastic name-calling; she didn’t like it, but she wasn’t scared. Then he started to criticize everything she did, restricting who she talked to, isolating her from her family, and demeaning her in front of their children. She tells herself that he has never hit or beat her, but when she is honest with herself, she is afraid that he might. She now feels incapable of making simple decisions, and without any family or social support, she feels trapped. Abusive relationships are defined by an ongoing pattern of coercive behaviors, which one person uses against the other to obtain and maintain power and control. There are many ways this can happen. As Shira knows, as part of a pattern of behaviors, some abusers use emotional and verbal tactics to control their victim. By demeaning her and degrading her as a person and as a wife, he asserts his power over her. He may consistently repeat that she is lucky to have him, and that she is undesirable. As a result, she may then start to doubt herself and lose a sense of autonomy and independence. Many victims have shared that the emotional and verbal attacks are even more painful than the physical violence. It is almost easier to deal with abuse when it’s black-and-blue because it is clear what is going on. With verbal/emotional abuse and other forms of non-physical abuse, victims can feel just as trapped and just as hurt. But it’s harder to define and understand. What are examples of emotional and verbal abuse? Abuse may begin with behaviors that are easily downplayed and don’t appear as dangerous or controlling. Some abusers will name-call, threaten, be possessive, or show a lack of trust. Perhaps he is isolating her from her family and friends and telling her that she can never do anything right. Her husband may embarrass her, and prevent her from making her own decisions. Abusers may apologize profusely for their actions or try to convince their spouse that they do these things because they love or care. The abusers will often minimize the behaviors and may even “forget” they said and did these painful things. It often can be hard to pinpoint what exactly is going on—it may feel wrong, but is it abusive? Why is name-calling sometimes a manifestation of abuse? What’s important is to recognize the pattern of the behaviors and the dynamic of power and control. In an abusive relationship, the victim is controlled by the verbal and emotional abuse. This emotional abuse chisels away at the victim’s sense of self and capacity to trust herself. He tells her that if she leaves, she will lose everything in court and will lose the children. He may threaten to withhold the get. She feels stuck. And in some cases, the abuse later turns to physical violence to maintain the control. Connie Beck, a researcher who studied coercive behaviors, said, “Control is really the issue . . . if you can control a

person’s basic liberties verbally—where they go, who they see, what they do—you do not necessarily have to hit them regularly,” or at all. If you are concerned that you may be may be a victim of emotional abuse, or any form of domestic violence, please call the Shalom Task Force hotline, toll-free, at 888-883-2323 or 718-337-3700. Our confidential, anonymous hotline is open six days a week, and is staffed by a dedicated team of trained volunteers who can help you. Shoshannah D. Frydman, LCSW, Ph.D., is clinical director at the Metropolitan Council on Jewish Poverty. This article is part of a fivepart series created in conjunction with Shalom Task Force. More information is available at www.shalomtaskforce.org. Met Council’s Family Services Program is able to help victims in the five boroughs of NYC with clinical case management, safety planning, practical assistance, and advocacy. The helpline is 212-453-9618 or family@metcouncil.org.

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Not Alone: How The Aleph Institute Is There For Them Sara’s Tale When Sara (name changed for privacy) was five years old, she was stripped of a loving family. Her eight-year-old sister died in a tragic car accident, and her mother, who sadly was the driver of the car (and under the influence), was incarcerated. In Sara’s words: “I sat numerous times behind the bench and witness stand, pleading for the judge’s forgiveness on behalf of my mother, for she was the driver of the car that resulted in my sister’s death. My father drowned his sorrows in cocaine and other illegal substances. “When my dad was not in county jail, I was flushing down his crack pipes and putting pillows under his head when I would find him blacked out. I watched from the corner couch as he got handcuffed and dragged out of his bedroom repeatedly.” B’H he regained his sobriety, but four years ago, Sara woke up to find him dead in his bed—he had passed away from a sudden heart attack. In her plea to the governor seeking medical parole for her mother—who has Alzheimer’s and barely recognizes anyone—Sara begs for mercy: “It has been ten years, but she is not lifeless. She is not worthless and she is not unwanted. . . . She is beautiful; she is kindhearted; but she is sick. I love my mom, but I would love more for her to spend her last months in a tender, loving home, where she can be properly cared for, medically and emotionally. “G-d needed my 8-year-old sister when I was just four, and He called forth my 56-yearold dad when I was merely 16. I feel sometimes as if I have been robbed of a family. With my sister and father both in better places now and my mother in a correctional facility, I am left to battle through everyday life with the genuine hope that the criminal-justice system will one day release my one family member back to me. After ten long years in which my mother’s mental health has substantially deteriorated, I believe that time has come. G-d has not asked for my mom from me just yet, and I want her to be with me when He does.” In addition to much-needed emotional support, and providing regular visits to her mom, the team from the Aleph Institute (aleph-institute.org) advocated relentlessly for Sara’s mom’s release, secured a bed in a nursing home for her,

and ﬂew Sara down—along with an Aleph advocate—to her mother’s parole hearing: “As I sat there shaking, Rabbi Oirechman stood to my right and Zach (an Aleph advocate) to my left. No longer was I alone. I kept thinking, no matter the outcome that comes today, I have a family now. “I have a family in Aleph . . . I have a Jewish community wherever I go, and I cannot express how comforting it is to know that someone out there cares. I even have a family in DC, where Rabbi Zvi con-

nected me with the Chabad House at George Washington University. Everywhere I go, I am welcomed with open arms. . . . Now that my mom has unanimously been conﬁrmed for medical release, I know she will be just as welcomed as I was into the Jewish community. Aleph has taken me under their wing and I will forever be in debt to them. It truly is a remarkable organization—they take on a subject that is not politically appealing. “Aleph ﬁnds those most isolated and makes sure that no one is alone and that no one is forgotten. Just when I thought I should start planning my mom’s funeral, they found me.”

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Ohel Institute For Training Widens Its Scope For Mental-Health Practitioners Rivka Breuer Helps Seniors Avoid Tipping The Scales For Yom Tov On Tuesday, September 20, Smile on Seniors at Chabad of the Five Towns was delighted to host nutritionist Rivka Breuer, RDN, CDN, for tips on healthy eating practices during yom tov season. An enthusiastic group of seniors filled the room to engage in a sometimes humorous, often helpful dialogue on the subject. Mrs. Breuer had five main tips: 1. Plan ahead. Think about something you can bring to your guests, like raw vegetables for dips instead of challah. 2. Imagine your plate divided into quadrants. The rule is: half of your plate should have vegetables (cooked or raw) while one quarter is for protein (meat/ chicken/fish) and the last quarter is for starchy side dishes. Whenever you want more of the starch, you must fill half of

the plate with vegetables again. 3. Eat fruit for dessert before you eat cake or cookies. This will ﬁll you up, and if you still want, you can then pick one or two special sweets that you really enjoy. 4. Take a 15–30-minute walk after a large meal. This will aid in digestion and help you feel better. 5. Enjoy your food. Holidays are all about spending time with family and friends. Don’t stress about weight loss. Look towards weight maintenance and foods that make you feel full of energy. To ﬁnd out about upcoming programs at Smile on Seniors, please call Chabad of the Five Towns at 516-295-2478. To contact Rivka Breuer, call 516-582-5658 or follow her on Facebook at facebook.com/rivkabreuerrdn/.

The Mel and Phyllis Zachter Ohel Institute for Training is one of the first institutions to be recognized by the New York State Education Department’s state board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved

York State requirements by attending the institute’s state-of-the-science training sessions, confident that they will gain the knowledge and skills needed to meet the diverse challenges facing our communities.

Thousands of social workers have ﬂocked to the institute to enhance their skills. provider of continuing education for both licensed mental-health counselors and licensed marriage and family therapists. These practitioners can now join social workers in fulfilling their New

When New York State instituted continuing-education requirements for licensed social workers in 2015, Ohel’s Institute for Training was likewise one of the first educational institutions to be recognized by the state as an approved provider of such training. Since then, thousands of social workers have flocked to the institute to learn from renowned experts, enhancing their professional development and skills while meeting the state requirements. David Mandel, CEO of Ohel, comments, “Ohel’s Institute for Training continues to be a leader in advanced professional education, and this accreditation is further recognition of the clinical excellence and value the workshops, seminars, and conferences provide to clinicians, educators, mental-health professionals, and the wider community.”

G-d rooted them out of their land in anger, and in wrath, and in great rage (Devarim 29:27) It is written (Tehillim 79:1): “A song to Asaf: Alien nations have entered Your estate, they have defiled Your Holy Temple, they have laid Jerusalem in ruins . . .” Should not the verse have said “A weeping to Asaf,” “A wail to Asaf,” “A lament to Asaf”? Why does it say “A song to Asaf”? But this is analogous to a king who built a nuptial home for his son, and had it beautifully plastered, inlaid and decorated. Then this son strayed off to an evil life. So the king came to the nuptial canopy, tore down the tapestries and broke the rails. Upon which the prince’s tutor took a flute and began to play. Those who saw him, asked: “The king is overturning the nuptial canopy of his son, and you sit and sing?” Said he to them: “I am singing because the king overturned his son’s nuptial canopy, and did not vent his wrath upon his son.” So, too, was asked of Asaf: “G-d destroyed the Temple and Sanctuary, and you sit and sing?” Replied he: “I am singing because G-d vent His wrath upon wood and stone, and did not vent his wrath upon Israel.” (Midrash Rabbah on Eichah 4:15)

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Shirat Devorah Helps ALS Families As Rosh Hashanah nears, the beneficiaries of Shirat Devorah ALS Foundation have a special reason to welcome the New Year: They have managed another year of living with a deadly disease. No cure has been found for ALS (amyotrophic lateral sclerosis), but the support and comfort that this local organization provides to families living with the ravages of ALS makes a big difference. Shirat Devorah ALS Foundation (SDAF) has the unique mission. It provides funds and resources to Jewish patients to help alleviate the extraordinary financial and emotional burdens that healthcare and ALS places on them and their families. Shirat Devorah is dedicated to the spirit and courage of an amazing young woman, Devorah Rochel bat Miriam Chava, a member of the Young Israel of Woodmere community who was diagnosed with ALS in 2013. Then she was a vibrant, active, busy administrator in a financial institution, commuting to Manhattan daily, caring for her family of four children, and enjoying the blessings of life in our community with her husband, Ben. Today, three short years later, she is immobile from the neck down, communicating only with the help of a specially adapted computer—and still keeping her spirits high. As in everyone living with ALS, the nerves that move Devorah’s muscles are affected and waste away, yet all other nerves remain healthy. Although she cannot move herself, her brain and sensory nerves are fully functional. She will enjoy a joke, share smiles with her kids, and enjoy friends’ visits. She is grateful that SDAF can help others like her, too. She is a paradigm of courage and a champion of survival. Unfortunately, this cruel disease also affects the entire family. The psychological trauma of watching your mother deteriorate, unable to hug you, wipe away your tears, or play games with you, is indescribable. The conflict between trying to earn a living and taking care of your ailing wife is irresolvable. Anxious days are often followed by sleepless nights. ALS presents inconceivable hardships for the family. But Devorah has taught us all a great lesson: Appreciate every moment of life, never give up, and never accept defeat when you have been granted another day and the will to live. This year, SDAF has made a difference in the lives of several Jewish families living with ALS. None of it would have been possible without the generous support of people who care and extend themselves to those faced with such extraordinary challenges. The cost of 24-hour care, medications, and therapy is overwhelming, and the psychological burden is inconceivable. Won’t you please help SDAF make life a little bit easier for families caring for and comforting a loved one with ALS? SDAF is a 501(c)3 corporation; your donation is tax-deductible. Donations can be mailed to Shirat Devorah ALS Foundation, 100 Edgemont Place, Teaneck, NJ 07666. Or visit https://fb.me/ShiratDevorahALS and click the “Donate” button. Shirat Devorah ALS Foundation wishes everyone a healthy and happy blessed new year. On this Rosh Hashanah, remember to include a prayer for a cure for ALS.

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Advice From YidParenting Cellphones BY RABBI YITZIE ROSS Q. My children are begging me for a cellphone. They have reasons ranging from “Everyone else has one” to “It’s easier to keep you updated.” My husband and I are quite hesitant, but they are persistent. We were wondering how you felt about this issue. Ahuva Teaneck, NJ A. This is one of most common questions I receive, and I held off on responding until my own kids began to ask for one. When children want something these days, the word “no” is no longer an acceptable answer. When they hear “no” they translate it to “Ask 4,000 more times and maybe I’ll get a better answer.” Why do kids want a cellphone? (I apologize in advance for the sarcasm.) First of all, as you pointed out, “everyone” has one. It’s a form of child abuse to not give your children something that everyone else has. Second of all, what if there’s an emergency? They need to contact the proper authorities! Most importantly, they need to be able to text their friends. How else are they supposed to communicate? To us, it seems foolish. What do kids, even kids in high school, need a phone for? They get on the bus, they go to school, they come back home. And it’s not just any phone that they want. Try giving them an old-school ﬂip phone, and you’ll hear true cries of agony. “How can I text?!” Obviously, it is beyond the scope of this article to fully appreciate all the pros and cons, but these are the primary ones. Let’s go through the pros of giving them a phone: • You can track them. • You can reach them quicker. • If there is an emergency, they can be in touch. Let’s review the cons: • It’s expensive . . . especially since it’ll break a few times. • Children who text constantly might not develop proper communication skills. • If they have Internet access, it can lead to serious problems. • Children with smartphones frequently become loners or socially inept • Many WhatsApp chats that kids belong to are not appropriate. (Even for adults, many chats can unfortunately become breeding grounds for lashon ha’ra.) To make this discussion more interesting, many schools

don’t even allow phones. As a result, if you allow your child to bring in a phone for emergencies (even if it’s off), you’re teaching him to disobey rules. If you think that your son is handing in the phone to the administration every day, I’ve got a bridge to sell you. Even if your son would be willing to, after a few weeks the school will stop collecting them. Getting back to your question, I can’t answer it. There are so many variables involved; each family has to do what works best for them. However,

I will certainly share some ideas that might assist you in making your ﬁnal decision. 1. In order to have a phone, your child should prove that he or she is responsible. How they prove that to you is your call (pun intended). You might say, “Do your chores properly for two weeks, and you’ll show us that you are a responsible young adult.” 2. You need to trust your child as well. Trust is earned. If your child is dishonest with you, he or she is not ready for a phone yet. 3. You might want to make sure your kids realize that the phones don’t belong to them, but they can use them as needed. The difference is, they can’t play with it in the house

but can only use it when going out. 4. Texting is a separate problem. I’ve suggested to parents that they set their children up with e-mail accounts rather than allow texting. It’s easier to monitor (if set up properly). 5. If you provide them with a smartphone, do not allow them to have games on it. (You can block downloads by using the restrictions settings.) If they want to play games, let them do it on an iPod or iPad. If they use the smartphone for games, it will seem impossible for them to stop. 6. Install software that records how the phone is being used. Just the knowledge that it’s installed will keep

them from sending inappropriate texts. 7. Social media should be off limits. This includes Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, and all others. 8. What’sApp is a great way to keep a family chat going— but it can also be a way for kids to read things in a chat that you might not want them to see. 9. If your child wants to own a phone for bragging rights, maybe let him “keep” your phone. This way he can tell his friends he has an iPhone 6 Plus, but he can’t take it around with him. It’s an easy win-win that has worked many times.

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Continued from Page 81 10. Any password must be shared with you, as parents, until they are old enough to understand the dangers of the Internet. 11. It is a great idea to have your children attend a class discussing the dangers of posting pictures or information to the Internet.

What do kids need a phone for? 12. This is not necessarily phone-related, although texting something to a friend can be tantamount to sharing with the world. 13. If you will not be allowing your child have a phone, don’t brush him or her off. Have a sit-down discussion with the child and your spouse, and explain that you gave it serious consideration. You might say, “Although you have been proving your maturity, we don’t want to give you a cellphone yet. Keep up the great work, and we’ll reconsider in the future.” Rabbi Yitzie Ross is a well-known rebbe and parenting adviser. To sign up for the weekly e-mails and read the comments, you can visit www.yidparenting.com.

On Wednesday, September 14, close to 300 people—including politicians, community leaders, and RNSP members and their families— came out to the annual RNSP Member Appreciation Barbecue to show their unwavering support for the organization and to express gratitude for the daily work the RNSP members do to make the Far Rockaway and Five Towns community a better and safer place to live. It was a beautiful event hosted by an anonymous supporter. Dinner was sponsored by Saffron Culinary. The food was delicious, the venue was perfect, and the program was meaningful. The RNSP honored several people. Former Commanding Officer of the 101st precinct D.I. William P. Wynne was given the Commitment to Community Award for working in collaboration with the RNSP in a most successful manner in service of the community during his tenure commanding the 101st Precinct. Longtime community affairs officer P.O. Kevin Campbell received the Community Service Award for his dedication to the residents of Far Rockaway. The Public Service Partner Award was presented to Jonathan Kohan, chief of department of the Atlantic Beach Search and Rescue Squad for making himself readily available at any hour of the night

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RNSP BBQ Continued from Page 83 and day in the search of the late Gary Turkel this past June. NCO officers Beata Lesniewski and Navandra Sumaroo were awarded the Community Involvement Award for working hand in hand with the RNSP in serv-

ing the community. Mr. Joe Hersh received the Community Leadership Award for his prudent leadership and unflagging support of the RNSP and the work that it does. The recipient of the RNSP Appreciation Award was Mrs. Rivky Klein, devoted wife of RNSP Coordinator Sholem Klein. She was

honored by the organization for her support of the organization and for readily supporting her husband’s service of the community, which translates to many hours away from the family. Last, but certainly not least, the RNSP honored two of its highly devoted volunteers, David Frank

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(RN-62) and Avi Lang (RN-49). They received the Dedication Award for their work, which has had a direct and tangible impact on the community. They have both devoted many hours of their time to serve the community in their own given capacities. Several official citations and plaques of appreciation were handed to the RNSP as an organization in recognition of the work they do, and to each of the honorees. Politicians who awarded the RNSP and the honorees of this year’s annual RNSP Member Appreciation event include Nassau County Executive Edward Mangano, NYC Mayor Bill de Blasio, NYC Public Advocate Letitia James, and Town of Hempstead Councilman Anthony P. D’Esposito The evening celebrated RNSP’s many initiatives and services that make the Far Rockaway and Five Towns community a better place to live. A lot of minor crimes were thwarted as well as many dangerous situations averted. RNSP units have directly impacted the community through search-and-rescue operations and their response to crimes in progress as well as past crimes. RNSP Tech Squad units have done their part by utilizing technology to assist the other RNSP members who work the streets. Since 2012, RNSP patrol activities have led to 195 arrests, including 88 car break-in, 6 grand theft auto, 7 DWI/DUI, 5 leaving the scene of an accident (hit and run), 17 bike theft, 22 burglary, 16 illegal firearm possession, 13 grand larceny, 7 extortion, 6 possession of stolen property, 5 criminal mischief, and 3 disorderly conduct. (None of these numbers are inflated due to arrests with multiple charges; the statistics represent the most severe of all charges per arrest.) In addition, the RNSP handled 345 criminal matters and 217 other matters not reported to the public; sponsored 14 events; and conducted routine night patrols in 876 shifts for marked night patrols in 11691 and 724 shifts of midnight patrols. The RNSP thanks all who came out to show their support and appreciation for the organization. Public support allows the RNSP to do the work they do, assisting local police departments with quality of life issues and combating crime which

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affects everyone who lives and/ or works in Far Rockaway and the Five Towns. The RNSP also thanks the NYPD’s 101st Precinct and the NCPD’s 4th precinct for allowing the RNSP members to work so closely with them. This close working relationship enables them to make great strides in assisting the community. The RNSP expresses gratitude to all of its dedicated members who work so hard patrolling the streets, responding to calls, and assisting the community with many different types of issues at all hours of the day and night, 365 days a year. They all deserve the gratitude of the community, for they are all truly selfless individuals who live their lives to help others. The silent partners who are often overlooked are the spouses of the RNSP members. The organization and the community owe a heartfelt thank-you to the spouses and families of the RNSP members. There are many times where a member has to run out of his house in the middle of a family meal or while doing homework with his children. Sometimes an RNSP unit can be out for an hour, an entire day, a full night, or even sometimes weeks. As a community, we must thank the families for all they put up with. Thank you, RNSP families! Special thanks go to the following organizations for regularly working with the RNSP in serving the community, as well as coming to show their support at the appreciation barbecue: BSSP, FSSP, WSPU, CHSP, and SISP; RL Hatzalah, Achiezer, the JCCRP, and Chaverim of the Five Towns and Far Rockaway; Chesed Shel Emes; NYRRT; USAR; and NYC OEM. Members of the community are welcome to follow the RNSP on

Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To receive regular security-alert updates, send an e-mail with the message “sign me up” to securityalerts@rockawaynassau.org. The RNSP wishes the entire Rockaway/Nassau community a happy and healthy sweet new year!

June 29, 2015, was a day that changed Sara Rosenfeld’s life forever. On that afternoon, her son Malachi was heading home from a basketball game with some friends when their car was ambushed by Arab terrorists near Shvut Rachel along Route 60. All four boys were shot, with Malachi sustaining the most serious injuries. In the frantic effort to save his life, a medevac helicopter was summoned to transport him quickly to the nearest hospital. Unfortunately, the helicopter was unable to land due to fears that there was a second terrorist sniper still on the scene. Instead, an ambulance was dispatched and he was transported to the nearest hospital—Shaare Zedek Hospital in Jerusalem. Even with its sirens blaring, it took nearly an hour by the time Malachi reached Shaare Zedek. Tragically, upon

his arrival at Shaare Zedek, Malachi died from his wounds and the tremendous loss of blood. His funeral, including Eliezer’s heart-rending eulogy for his son, was broadcast worldwide and sent shockwaves throughout the Jewish community. The outpouring of sympathy and support was overwhelming as people around the globe visited and sent their condolences to the Rosenfelds. Malachi’s mother, Sara, was reeling from the tragedy. She had now lost two sons. Her oldest son, Yitzchaki, a decorated pilot in the IAF, perished 14 years earlier in a jeeping accident. Now the pain was too much to bear, but she knew that something must be done to help ensure that no other mother would endure her suffering.

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One Israel Fund Continued from Page 85 To Sara and her neighbors in the Binyamin region of Israel, the lack of a local hospital is dangerous and unconscionable. It is an area of roughly 65,000 resi-

dents, yet the closest hospital to serve them is 40–60 miles away. There is just one direct route to Shaare Zedek, which is often congested, and others have suffered a similar fate to Malachi’s due to this untenable reality. Sara heard about One Israel Fund’s

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determination to build a new state-ofthe-art medical center in the heart of Binyamin and reached out to see how she could assist in this monumental endeavor. On Monday, September 19, Sara served as the keynote speaker at One Israel Fund’s 22nd Anniversary Gala Din-

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ner at the Museum of Jewish Heritage in Lower Manhattan. She spoke of the horrors that her family has endured, but also of the deep faith that has preserved them throughout their ordeal. She exudes great inner strength. Her story is at once heartbreaking and compelling, and many listeners in the room were moved to tears. But her story is also one of incredible triumph for she and her husband are proud of the wonderful family they have raised as founding families in the community of Kochav Hashachar. Today, they have seven surviving children and 12 grandchildren.

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Her speech formally launched One Israel Fund’s newest and most ambitious project to date—the construction of the multimillion-dollar Binyamin Medical Center. The medical center now takes its place among One Israel Fund’s many other critical projects, including the Pina Chama project, which was also highlighted at the dinner. Pina Chama (The Warm Corner) is a unique concept. It aims to bring relaxing respite centers to cities across Israel where soldiers can relax after a grueling day on patrol and enjoy delicious homebaked food and drinks. It is staffed by volunteers and all of the baked goods are donated by residents of each host community. After introducing the Pina Chama project in a moving video, the floor was opened as the audience texted their pledges to support the initiative. In just a few minutes, over $14,000 was pledged towards the project which currently has locations in Gush Etzion, Hevron, Michmash, Shilo, and the Jordan Valley. There are plans for a new Pina Chama to open at Beit El Junction. These funds will benefit the existing locations as well as new locales. Security concerns are still a primary focus of One Israel Fund, and a new video series, titled “Coffee With Marc,” was debuted at the dinner. Director of Security Projects Marc Provisor starred in a short video with a behind-the-scenes update of security needs and successes from the field. Over the next few months, this series will be seen monthly on One Israel Fund’s Facebook page and other social-media outlets. The dinner also paid tribute to three special couples who have played pivotal roles in furthering the organization’s mission both here and in Israel: Hakarat Hatov awardees Dr. Dov and Amy Snow, Bonei Yisrael awardees Eli and Esther Arakanchi, and Manhigut Tze’irim awardees Gavi and Tali Hoffman have all made an indelible impact on the residents of Israel through their involvement with One Israel Fund. This year’s dinner was graced by the renowned Nachum Segal as master of ceremonies and featured a stirring performance by Cantor Joel Kaplan of Congregation Beth Sholom of Lawrence. It was an emotional evening that energized participants to get even more involved in supporting this important organization. To find out how you can take part in One Israel Fund’s critical work, visit OneIsraelFund. org.

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Bibi As Leader, Scholar . . . And Gardener B Y 5 TJ T S TA F F “The Jewish state wants to share its knowledge and technology with the world,” Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said last Thursday at an event held at the United Nations headquarters in New York City that focused on Israeli innovation in Africa and developing countries on other continents. This event took place hours after Israel’s leader addressed members of the

general assembly. He questioned the morals of the United Nations body and offered Palestinian leader Abbas an invitation to speak in front of the Knesset. Addressing the dozens of foreign ofﬁcials in attendance, Netanyahu said, “We want you to beneﬁt from the fruits of the tree of knowledge we have planted…We are your partners. Technology has revolutionized the world.” He said he had told the leaders about a

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requirement to preserve technological progress. The one request is security. “We cannot let the savages overcome our societies. We have to ﬁght them,” he added. “The possibilities we have in agriculture, in water, in health, in education, in energy . . . in every ﬁeld, all those possibilities have one basic requirement—and that requirement is security,” Netanyahu said. Multiple business leaders shared developments in solar energy, medicine, irrigation, and agriculture and multiple electronic advances to an invitation-only group of religious, political, and organization leaders from New York, Israel, and African communities. Netanyahu spoke of a recent trip with his wife to several African nations. The trip had many personal connections, from seeing the exact place in Entebbe where his brother died to joking about the 3,000-year connection to the land of Bathsheba.

“When I was six years old, I went outside and saw my father working in the garden.” Netanyahu helped his father plant saplings, and said “perhaps the most telling thing” he learned was that one must always “pull out the weeds.” A year after helping his father in the garden, Netanyahu recalled coming outside and seeing his father working again in the same spot. He asked his son again for help pulling weeds. “Then I protested,” the Israeli prime minister said in his speech. “I said, ‘But Father, we pulled out the weeds last year!’” “He said, ‘You have to keep pulling out the weeds,’” Netanyahu continued, to applause from the audience. “This is what we do,” Netanyahu said. “We in Israel have planted our young sapling in the ancient soil of our people. We have watered it with creativity. We have tended to it with every aspect of our commitment. We’ve protected the tree from storms. Now the tree is growing and growing and growing.” Cindy Grosz, radio show host and pro-Israel activist, was one of those invited to the event. “I was honored to witness historic relationships resume and develop among Israel and countries near them. The outpouring of support from leaders like those from Uganda and Rwanda was encouraging, and the work that is being done in Israel is just inspiring.” Grosz met with many leaders including Dani

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Israeli Innovation Continued from Page 88 Dayan, the Israel’s consul general in New York. Israeli Ambassador to the UN Danny Danon, who served as the event’s co-host with Netanyahu, said, “Today

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we are focusing on Israel’s relationship with so many of our friends in the developing world. The strengthening of our ties with Africa in particular can be viewed as an example of the endless potential of these relationships. As the prime minister said during his historic visit to Africa two months ago, Israel has come back to Africa and Africa has come back to Israel.” According to Danon, the purpose of Thursday’s event was to highlight the “technologies and innovations that have helped propel Israel to its status as a startup nation.” The emcee of the event was Liz Claman, host from the Fox Business Network. Israeli companies presented their innovations before more than 15 presidents, prime ministers, foreign ministers from Africa, and developing countries. Ambassador Danon concluded, “Our relationships with these nations are not just based on the traditional trade of goods, but on the aspirations of young people ﬁlled with the desire to better their countries and improve the world.”

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real estate & mortgage financing By Anessa V. Cohen

Maintenance Guaranteed Maintenance is an ongoing chore that homeowners have to keep on top of. There is maintenance that is ongoing but basic—such as simply

And there are the many small jobs around the house that homeowners accept as part of everyday living, jobs that tend to the house and property.

Homeowners accept having small jobs to do around the house. having the gardener mow the lawn, weed your garden, and cultivate your flower beds, or hosing down the driveway so excess dirt from wind and bad weather is washed away.

General repairs, though not undertaken as often, must also be considered part of the routine of home maintenance—fixing or changing windows, cleaning and securing gutters and leaders, checking the chimney periodically for cracks and missing bricks, caulking cracks around windows and doors, and sidewalk, walkway, and stair repairs when needed. For the most part, when hiring a professional to take care of any of the many maintenance or repair issues that may crop up over time, most people focus their priorities on getting the most reliable and responsible vendor—with the most competitive price—to take care of the repair or maintenance under consideration. Sometimes, though, another crucial element of facilitating that repair or maintenance issue slips through the cracks after satisfactory completion of the job—and that is a written warranty from the vendor to guarantee the vendor’s work for a given time frame. Depending on the work, I wouldn’t say that every job requires a warranty from the vendor, but many large or long-term fixes should carry some kind of warranty in writing from the person or company doing that repair. For instance, if you install a new boiler or water heater, even though it is working beautifully at the time of installation and has a warranty of equipment from the manufacturer, you still are entitled to a warranty in writing from the installer of that equipment, guaranteeing the proper installation and function of that equipment for a period of time. What if a month after installation there is a problem? How are you going to get

that installer to come and take care of it if you do not have a warranty for a set time period? If you bring in a roofer to repair or replace a roof, a warranty should be given to you in writing for a set period of time (usually years), guaranteeing the work and the soundness of the new roof. (A repair or patch on the roof might only get you a short warranty.) Hardwired appliance installations, such as wall ovens, over-the-stove microwaves, or other similar installations should be done with some kind of written warranty on the installation as well as the manufacturer’s guarantee to cover the responsibility of the installer as to the soundness of the installation. I am only providing a few examples of situations where warranties should be requested and provided in writing by the technicians or vendors taking care of these types of repairs or installations. In order to protect yourself when having the work done, reputable technicians will give you some kind of warranty on the work they have provided, which you should file away like insurance. With respect to larger jobs, such as heating equipment, roof, chimneys, or large masonry projects, these longer-term warranties are vital to protect the homeowner. Also, if the homeowner decides to sell, these warranties will be necessary not only to show the work actually done but to transfer the warranties to the prospective homeowner.

You Auto Be King This is the season of change. Each year at around this time, children return to a new year of school. Most people schedule a move to a new home for some time in the summer so that they are all settled by the fall. And this is the time when we come to a new year with the arrival of Rosh Hashanah, the Yamim Nora’im, the period referred to in Israel as “the chagim.” With one brief exception, I have spent the last 16 years of my life in nonproﬁt management. I was a small-business owner several years ago, but that adventure was cut short by circumstances beyond our control. And I felt that it was time to jump back into the pool, so to speak.

I have been privileged to work as part of some exceptional teams of dedicated people who have focused on providing for the needs of their community. It has been fulfilling work. Yet they call it nonprofit for a reason. So, about a year ago, I began to speak to some friends and neighbors, networking for an opportunity to move out of the nonprofit world. Perhaps an operations or management position with a startup or emerging company looking for someone with a lot of operations and business experience. I wanted to make a career shift into the mainstream.

I found that a lot of what I had heard as general grumbling about the job market here turned out to be true. The Israeli marketplace discriminates hugely. I have been told that women are at a major disadvantage, much worse than men, especially because the ultra-Orthodox population does not want them in management. Additionally, I had heard and have now experienced the fact that employers are not that interested in people over a certain age. Once someone passes 40, so they say, employers here simply pass him over, preferring youth. And I found that to be very, very true. I have to admit that my search was not full-time, as I had a job. So it could be that I would have gotten more interest had I been more aggressive in seeking opportunities. Yet it was clear to me that I was extremely qualified for several of the opportunities that I saw, but the initial positive reaction to my qualifications over the phone or via e-mail

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Anessa Cohen lives in Cedarhurst and is a licensed real-estate broker and a licensed N.Y.S. mortgage broker with over 20 years of experience, offering full-service residential and commercial real-estate services (Anessa V Cohen Realty) and mortgaging services (FM Home Loans) in the Five Towns and throughout the tri-state area. She can be reached at 516-5695007 or via her website, www.AVCrealty.com. Readers are encouraged to send questions or comments to anessa@AVCrealty.com.

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ALIYAH CHRONICLE Continued from Page 95 quickly dimmed when my age came up. It was definitely discouraging. A couple of months ago, one of my close friends, with whom I learn every erev Shabbat right before candle-lighting throughout the winter, called me about an opportu-

nity he had heard about. A local business that he had been involved in founding needed an ownership/ management change. The owner was involved in other businesses overseas and simply could not manage the business on a daily basis and was looking to get out. He knew of

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a group looking to buy in, but they needed a manager to take the helm. After checking out the operation and reviewing the business, I started speaking with the investor group and working on putting together a deal. Thankfully, after several weeks of negotiation, the deal went through last week and I have started my new position as general manager

of a local auto-repair shop, known as AutoKING. AutoKING was founded as a solution to the unease many olim feel when we deal with native Israelis. We often feel that we are being taken advantage of by Israeli vendors, because of our lack of Hebrew

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and our lack of mechanical knowledge. Unfortunately, many Israelis feel that olim are all rich and can easily afford to overpay.

you may be, a shanah tovah u’metukah. I look forward to seeing you in the Beit HaMikdash as my fellow kohanim and I vie for the honor of

The Israeli marketplace discriminates hugely. Our head mechanic is a fluent English-speaker, and we have positioned the business to serve the needs of the English-speaking public. Our goal is to have a relationship with our customers similar to the one they had with their mechanics in the U.S. We aim to earn a high level of trust from our clients. We want to have an American level of customer service and eventually grow the business to have locations in cities with a large concentration of English-speakers. It’s possible to say that I am still in the business of helping people. Just in a different way (and without the need for us to have to rely on charity to make payroll). I was ready for a move, and while it won’t materially change my life much, there is the prospect of long-term growth that I was looking for. As we approach the dawn of a new year, one in which I certainly hope and pray for health and happiness for my family and all of you, I want to wish you, our readers, wherever

working on the special korbanot of the day. May we celebrate the geulah with our families and all of Klal Yisrael. Shmuel Katz, his wife Goldie, and their six children made aliyah in July 2006. Before making aliyah, Shmuel was the executive director of the Yeshiva of South Shore in Hewlett. You can contact him at shmuel@katzfamily.co.il.

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BUSINESS WEEKLY Restoring the Primacy of Choshen Mishpat

By Rabbi Meir Orlian

Air Conditioner Left Running The Shapiros owned an apartment in Yerushalayim, where they often spent the yamim tovim. Their neighbors, the Landaus, were traveling there for the Yamim Nora’im. “Would you be willing to rent us your apartment for Rosh Hashanah?” asked Mr. Landau. “How long will you be there?” asked Mr. Shapiro. “We plan to come shortly after Yom Kippur.” “About a week, just until Tzom Gedaliah,” said Mr. Landau. “Afterward we expect to stay with relatives.” “In that case we’d be happy to rent you the apartment,” said Mr. Shapiro. “Just please leave it clean; we don’t have someone managing the apartment to clean up afterward.” “For sure; will do,” said Mr. Landau. They agreed on a price for the week. “I assume this includes all utilities,” said Mr. Landau. “Of course,” replied Mr. Shapiro. Mr. Landau took out his checkbook. “Let me pay you now, since I don’t know when I’ll see you next,” he said. “That would be a good idea,” said Mr. Shapiro. “Thank you.” The Landaus spent Rosh Hashanah in the apartment and then went on to their relatives. When the Shapiros arrived a week later, they saw that the air conditioners were running. “What’s going on?” asked Mrs. Shapiro. “Why are the air conditioners running?” Mr. Shapiro checked the Shabbos clock. The mechanism was on the “timer” setting, operating for about half the day. “It seems that the Landaus didn’t shut the air conditioner when they left,” said Mr. Shapiro. “That’s about a week’s worth of running halftime—a few hundred shekels!” Mr. Shapiro e-mailed Mr. Landau. “I guess the timer was off when we left,” replied Mr. Landau. “We didn’t realize that the air conditioner was still on.” “This is an interesting question,” said Mr. Shapiro. He called Rabbi Dayan and asked: “Is Mr. Shapiro liable for the excess electricity?” “Mr. Shapiro is certainly liable for the electricity after leaving the apartment,” said Rabbi Dayan. “In some

cases, he could be liable for excess electricity even during the rental period if he was wantonly negligent.” “Could you please explain?” asked Mr. Shapiro. “A renter is required to use the rental item in the customary manner,” explained Rabbi Dayan. “For example, he may not overload an animal, and if he did so and harmed the animal he is liable (C.M. 308:6). Rabi Akiva Eiger (C.M. 309:1) explains that misuse is worse than regular neglect; it is like a stipulation that if the renter misuses he is liable for the damage” (Pischei Choshen, Sechirus 2:10). “Similarly, a renter is expected to use electricity in the customary man-

ner,” continued Rabbi Dayan. “Usually when one leaves his house for the day he shuts the air-conditioning. Although some people leave the air-conditioning on even when they’re away so that the house won’t heat up, depending on the locale and time of year, they would still shut the air conditioner when leaving for an extended time.” “Wouldn’t this be considered grama (indirect, passive damage), though?” asked Shapiro. “Mr. Landau was allowed to use the A/C and he simply didn’t shut it. One is legally exempt for grama.” “This is not considered grama,” said Rabbi Dayan. “As a renter, Mr. Landau was responsible to look after the apartment; it was his obligation to shut the A/C before leaving” (see Ohr Ezra, vol. I, pp. 16–17). “Moreover, unauthorized use of electricity is more than damage,” continued Rabbi Dayan. “A person who turns on an electrical appliance is essentially buying electricity from the electric company on credit, until the bill comes. When renting

an apartment including utilities, the owner is willing to cover the usage during the rental period, like someone who allows another to use his credit card for a limited time. Beyond this time, the tenant is required to pay for the electricity that he purchased.”

From The BHI Hotline: Annulled Rental Agreement Q. In anticipation of an overseas trip I rented a cellphone. When we landed I turned on the phone but it did not work. I brought it to the local agent, and after attempting to activate it he admitted that the phone would not work and agreed to refund my money. A friend suggested that I purchase a SIM card in the airport to activate the phone. I purchased the SIM card and indeed the phone worked. Upon my return I intended to return the phone and receive my refund. However, I wondered whether I am obligated to pay for

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BUSINESS HALACHA Continued from Page 97 use of the phone. On the one hand, I should pay since I used the phone, but on the other hand, the original agreement between us was nullified, and since he couldn’t have used the phone anyway until I returned, I should not have to pay for using it (zeh neheneh v’zeh lo chaser). Am I obligated to pay for use of the phone or not? A. The first point to consider is whether you were permitted to use the phone. Seemingly, once a rental agreement is nullified it is prohibited to use the rented object without permission since borrowing something without permission is theft (sho’el shelo mida’as—gazlan; C.M. 292:1, 363:5). Although a squatter on another person’s land is not obligated to pay rent for use of the land (zeh neheneh; C.M. 363:6) and may do so even l’chat’chila in many instances (see Chasam Sofer, C.M. 79; Nesivos 146:9, 250:16), nevertheless,

when it is assumed that the owner would not allow someone to use his land or movable objects that might become damaged during use, it is prohibited to use it/them without permission. Whether one who used a friend’s possession without permission is obligated to pay for the use depends on whether he used land or a movable object. Halachically, when movable objects are stolen, they become the thief’s possession. A thief’s obligation is to return the stolen object and reimburse the owner for any depreciation/damage he caused. Since the thief acquired possession of the object, the Torah does not obligate him to pay for use. On the other hand, real estate cannot be stolen and always remains the owner’s. Therefore, when use caused the owner a loss, it is not subject to the halacha of zeh neheneh mentioned above; the squatter must pay the owner the full value of the use of his land (C.M. 363:5; Rashba, B.K. 20b, cited by Shaar HaMelech, Gezei-

lah 3:9; Yam Shel Shlomo, B.K. 9:10; Cf. Tosafos 30b, d.h. Lo tzrichah). The above is true when one intends to steal the object or borrow it without permission, which is also considered theft. If the owner regularly leases his object and the user intends to lease it, albeit without obtaining permission, the owner may either collect his standard rental fee or the cost of the depreciation (C.M. 363:5). Regarding your inquiry, when you decided to use the phone you did not intend to pay for it and thus you are a sho’el shelo mida’as—borrower without permission, who is categorized as a thief. This is based on the presumption that the owner would not allow you to borrow the phone without paying for it, since phones are movable objects and may incur damage. Therefore, as a thief, you are not obligated to pay any more than the depreciation of value that your use caused. When faced with this situation, one should commit to pay the owner for the rental of his phone, obvi-

ously by negotiating a discount due to the fact that it was necessary to purchase a SIM card.

Money Matters: Unusable Rental Based on the writings of Rav Chaim Kohn, shlita Q. I rented a van for the day to move some furniture. Because of police activity, the street where I parked was cordoned off the entire day. Must I pay the rental fee? A. When the rental item is unusable due to external oness, Chazal established (B.M. 77a) that if the misfortune is attributed to the renter he must pay, whereas if it is attributed to the owner he loses the fee (C.M. 310:1). Sma (301:2) explains that if the misfortune occurred en route during the use it is attributed to the renter, since the misfortune would not have occurred had the item remained home with the owner. Nesivos (310:2) explains that if the item itself was afflicted and rendered unusable or will never return, it is the misfortune of the owner; whereas if the item remains intact and will return, even though the renter was restrained from its use, it is considered the renter’s misfortune. Thus, according to both explanations you are liable (Pischei Choshen, Sechirus 3:3). This article is intended for learning purposes and not to be relied upon halacha l’maaseh. There are also issues of dina d’malchusa to consider in actual cases. Rabbi Meir Orlian is a faculty member of the Business Halacha Institute, which is headed by HaRav Chaim Kohn, shlita, a noted dayan. For questions regarding business halacha issues, or to bring a BHI lecturer to your business or shul, please call the conﬁdential hotline at 877-845-8455 or e-mail ask@businesshalacha.com. To receive BHI’s free newsletter, Business Weekly, send an e-mail to subscribe@businesshalacha.com.

Life and death I set before you, the blessing and the curse. And you shall choose life (Devarim 30:10) Freedom of choice has been granted to every man: if he desires to turn toward a good path and be righteous, the ability to do so is in his hands; and if he desires to turn toward an evil path and be wicked, the ability to do so is in his hands . . . This concept is a fundamental principle and a pillar of the Torah and its commandments. As it is written, “See, I have set before you life [and good, and death and evil]” and “See, I set before you today [a blessing and a curse]” (Devarim 30:15) . . . For were G-d to decree that a person be righteous or wicked, of if there were to exist something in the very essence of a person’s nature which would compel him toward a specific path, a specific conviction, a specific character trait or a specific deed . . . how could G-d command us through the prophets “do this” and “do not do this” . . . ? What place would the entire Torah have? And by what measure of justice would G-d punish the wicked and reward the righteous . . . ? (Mishneh Torah, Laws of Repentance 5:1–3)

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The Shofar’s Experiential Call BY MRS. CB NEUGROSCHL There are many meanings behind the shofar’s call: the coronation of Hashem; a clarion call and reminder of repentance; reclaiming our z’chut avot, the merit we received from our forefathers. Still, with a Rosh Hashanah liturgy containing pages and pages of carefully composed prayers and piyutim that address all these aspects, the shofar also serves to give a voice to the unspoken words. The shofar remains a uniquely unformed expression. The question that follows is why? Is it merely symbolism, merely referential to speciﬁc moments in our history where the shofar was signiﬁcant? And if so, why does it retain such prominence in the chag? At the close of a recent conference

held at the Harvard University Graduate School of Education, an unassuming woman from Canada’s Northwest Territories stood and asked permission to share her “shrill.” In a quiet voice and with grace, she described the Native American custom to share a shrill—a high-pitched whistling tune unleashed in the face of a great personal accomplishment. Her shrill reminded me of how much we can learn from what is not said. It seems easy to relate to the blasts of the shofar as a wild call of deep yearning—perhaps, l’havdil, akin to the Native American shrill. No words, just a call from the depths of our fears and hopes expressing the wish for a future

so desperately that we may never have the right words to articulate. How does the Rosh Hashanah liturgy and ritual reﬂect this value of the shofar as a prayerful call that inspires us in ways beyond what the vast words of our machzor can achieve? Is there a basis within our traditional texts and values for valuing the wordlessness and unshaped call of the shofar? While blowing the shofar is mentioned only three times in the Torah in relation to Rosh Hashanah, the prominence of the shofar blasts in the liturgy cannot be overestimated. As we call Rosh Hashanah Yom Teruah, not Yom Teﬁllah, getting the shofar blasts just right is clearly essential. Rosh Hashanah is a chag with a complex identity whose aspects are all poignantly expressed in the mitzvah of

tekiat shofar. On Rosh Hashanah, we have ample reason to celebrate; the creation of the world and the coronation of Hashem as our Sovereign are the primary themes of Rosh Hashanah. Still, the solemnity of the day is ever-present. Rosh Hashanah is Yom HaDin, the Day of Judgment, and its celebratory theme is paired with the weightiness of teshuvah culminating with Yom Kippur. The stark contrast between the aspects of Rosh Hashanah is challenging to grasp as we balance the themes of Rosh Hashanah and dance between emotions. How does the mitzvah of tekiat shofar contribute to these dueling identities of Rosh Hashanah? The Gemara in Rosh Hashanah 16a identiﬁes the shofar as the vehi-

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Shofar’s Call Continued from Page 99 cle through which we can fulﬁll both aspects of Rosh Hashanah. Apparently, both requirements to celebrate Hashem’s sovereignty and to remember the deeds of the past (worthy and not worthy) are linked to the shofar.

Shofar As A Celebratory Instrument Certainly the shofar is recognizable as an instrument used in ceremonies to coronate a king. As we celebrate the sovereignty of Hashem, the use of a shofar to accomplish this is not surprising at all. In describing the moment of revelation at Har Sinai, we have a shofar blast signifying the celebrations and the momentous occasion of accepting the Torah celebration and the judgment. “The sound of the shofar was getting continually stronger. Moshe would speak and G-d would respond with a voice” (Sh’mot 19:19). Further, the Gemara lists Rosh Hashanah as the date of numerous nationally historic moments each deserving of cel-

ebration. As we recognize Hashem’s sovereignty over the world, in accepting His Torah and our commitments as His people, we are also recognizing the way in which He has a hand in the design of the events of signiﬁcant turning points for Klal Yisrael. The shofar was there and brings us back, as a nation, to that moment. “R’ Eliezer said, ‘The world was created in Tishrei; the forefathers were born in Tishrei and died in Tishrei. Yitzchak was born on Passover. On Rosh Hashanah, Sarah, Rachel, and Chana’s prayers [for a child] were answered. On Rosh Hashanah, Yosef was freed from prison; on Rosh Hashanah, our forefathers in Egypt stopped performing slave labor. In Nissan we were redeemed; in Tishrei we will be redeemed’” (Rosh Hashanah 10b–11a). In this domain of Rosh Hashanah, the shofar represents grandeur and harkens back to Har Sinai, the foundation of our covenant, our acceptance of a relationship with Hashem in which He would be our guarantor and us His. The clearest depiction of Rosh Hashanah as Yom HaDin is the Gemara’s

description of Hashem sitting before the open heavenly ledgers, the sifrei chayim and sifrei meitim—the books of life and books of death. The actions of each person are inscribed in these books and these actions are being measured and weighed, informing the fate of each person. In this way, on Rosh Hashanah, the scales of justice hang in the balance as the value of our past year is measured against the merit of another chance. Certainly this theme is most prominent in the Unetaneh Tokef section of our Rosh Hashanah prayers, which depict a personal moment of judgment as each person ﬁles before Hashem as a sheep before its shepherd, totally dependent and totally indebted. How can the call of our shofar even approximate the same message of this poignant image? Perhaps the blasts of the shofar are hinting at this aspect of our dependence on Hashem, His merciful, compassionate, and caring shepherd’s eye, to spare us a harsh judgment. Rav Soloveitchik describes the power of the shofar on Rosh Hashanah in just those terms. The shofar is to be experi-

enced, not simply heard. It can be the force that forces you to reckon with your reality. In the same way that many mitzvot in the Torah have a level of fulfillment beyond the action required, in order to fulfill the mitzvah of tekiat shofar, one must not only hear the blasts of the shofar, but connect us to a part of ourselves that is at our very core. The Rav described this as hirhur teshuvah—a jarring awakening. This, according to the Rav, is the condition that the shofar provokes. A jarring recognition of our realities that are buried deep within us. This experience must be evoked by an experience that the words of the machzor don’t approximate. In the voice of the shofar, we are returned to our inner beings and we are thus prepared for teshuvah. This state of being, hirhur teshuvah, may come about suddenly, as the blasts of the shofar, but it is a prerequisite stage for teshuvah. While teshuvah must be, according to the Rambam, a thorough process with multiple difficult stages, hirhurei teshuvah can be so powerful as to catapult a person through teshuvah with great force and speed. This can be illustrated by the story of the death of R’ Chaninah ben Tradyon. As R’ Chanina was being burned to death, a Roman officer tried to ease his pain and he himself died then. “A heavenly voice called out: R’ Chanina ben Tradyon and the officer are invited to the World to Come. Rebbe cried and said, ‘There are those who can acquire their portion in the World to Come in one moment, and there are those who acquire it over years.’” (Avodah Zarah, 18a). The shofar blasts on Rosh Hashanah can surely be encountered as thought-provoking, symbolic reminders or as poignant markers of the significance of Rosh Hashanah z’chut avot. Alternatively, if we can allow ourselves to experience the power of the shofar blasts, they can help us achieve so much more. The shofar is an instrument that erases the distinctions of each person’s current setting, their davening skills, or the markers of their intellectual abilities. Even the possible judgments that we have of each other can fall away. The shofar blasts can shake each of us equally, and express for us what we cannot say even to ourselves, resurfacing our innermost fallacies. The shofar speaks of what makes us shiver when we face the awesomeness of a Divine being Who believes in our capacity. The shofar cries out for us in ways that words and formulas cannot. Our experiences are awakened; not our intellectual selves, not our emotional selves, but an integrated whole being that is the sum of all the experiences that shape who we are. The shofar makes Rosh Hashanah a Yom Teruah, a day when we can share a single voice of celebration and hope, of past and future, of blessings and of aspirations. It can unify the voices and dreams of our people. May its call be heard. Sources: Vayikra 23:24, 25:9; Bamidbar 29:1. Mrs. CB Neugroschl is Head of School at Yeshiva University’s Samuel H. Wang High School for Girls. This article originally appeared in YUTorah’s Benjamin & Rose Berger Rosh Hashana & Yom Kippur To-Go 5777.

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J. Mark Interiors Opens Jerusalem Showroom BY TAMMY MANTIN J. Mark Interiors has opened its long-anticipated showroom in Jerusalem, offering complete interior

design, architecture, and project-management services to clients in Israel. After many years of working with customers and decorating their homes in Israel, founder Jeffrey Mark is excited to

ﬁnally have a “brick and mortar” shop in the heart of Jerusalem. Located at 22 King David Street, J. Mark Interiors Jerusalem is a beautiful and modern space that is fully equipped to service private customers as well as other interior designers and architects. Set up

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similarly to its ﬂagship location in Cedarhurst, New York, the new showroom provides ample working areas for customers to peruse the numerous design options that J. Mark Interiors has to

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J Mark Continued from Page 102 offer. The showroom is staffed with designers and sales asso-

ciates who are not only knowledgeable in interior design but can also address the particular needs and technical speciﬁcations of a home in Israel.

Previously Mark would service his Israel clientele through his New York location, commuting and telecommuting at all hours. His knowledgeable team in New York would provide the customer support as necessary. Now, the new showroom will give his customers in Israel a home base to visit where they can discuss their projects and shop. Additionally, the J. Mark team will be operating a combined 15 hours a day between the two locations due to the time difference, decreasing turnaround time on projects. Mark explains, “Similar to

the schedule of a radiologist working in Israel for an American practice, we can get our customers’ instructions at the New York showroom and submit them to the Jerusalem team at the end of the day. By the next morning in New York, the work has been completed.” His goal is to maintain seamless coordination between both showrooms, with all networks and phones systems being linked as well. J. Mark Interiors also offers the added option of providing a “turnkey,” full-service experience to address the needs of international clients looking to purchase and design a vacation home in Israel. Mark will assist in coordinating the search process and the purchase, and he and his team will personally oversee all operations, acting as the liaisons with local vendors and craftsmen. Mark insists on offering a wide range of price points and styles to suit his clients’ budgets and personal taste in both locations. He travels frequently to trade shows around the world in search of unique high-quality materials. From fabric to furniture to wall coverings to accessories, he has

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curated the most exquisite yet accessible selections from around the globe, including a line of fabrics exclusive to J. Mark Interiors. With his family based primarily in Israel and his business in both Jerusalem and New York, Mark has certainly racked up the frequent-ﬂier miles. He makes the most of his ﬂying time to plan clients’ projects and, of course, get some rest before hitting the ground running when he lands—wherever he lands. “My commuting schedule will probably remain the same,” says Mark. “I plan to be wherever I need to be when my clients need me. My goal is for the new showroom to provide an additional level of comfort, convenience, and customer service for my clients in Israel.” Visitors are encouraged to stop by J. Mark Interiors Ltd., 22 King David Street, Jerusalem, Israel 94101; J. Mark Interiors Inc., 461 Central Avenue, Cedarhurst, New York 11516; or visit www.jmarkinteriors.com. For more information, e-mail info@jmarkinteriors.com or call +972-2-803-8881 or 516-2950856.

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REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Marjorie Hausman Realty 650 Central Avenue Cedarhurst 516-569-5110 www.hausmanrealty.com Open House Sunday October 2, By Appointment Hewlett Harbor 360 Everit Ave Magniﬁcent 5BR Split over 1 acre, IG gunite pool. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.645M 30 Thixton Drive Beautiful Colonial, gunite pool Low Taxes 1/2 acre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.550M Woodsburgh 800 Barberry Lane All new Col, 8BR’s’, 6Bths, 1/2 acre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1,875M Lawrence 230 Ocean Ave 12-2 Country setting 10 Room Colonial . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.1M 110 Barrett Rd Ranch 1 acre 4BR’s, bsmt .$1,275M Woodmere 965 S. End Spacious 5BR Split Low Taxes . . . . . .$675K 584 Church Ave 4BR’s, New 2.5Bths Expanded Split All updated . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$799K North Woodmere 943 Park Lane 5BR Col . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$769K Hewlett Bay Park 1259 Veeder Dr Lg Col 1 acre, pool, Waterfront . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.950M Hewlett Neck 300 Dolphin Dr Waterfront contemporary 3/4 acre, 4BR’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.325M Rental . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $8,500/Mo Marjorie Hausman Realty 650 Central Avenue Cedarhurst 516-569-5110 www.hausmanrealty.com

Hewlett — 1BR, 1Bth, Spacious Apt, High Ceilings, Elev Bldg, 1 Pkg Spot Inc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $144,999 Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Hewlett — 2BR, 1Bth, 1st Flr, SS Appliances, Freshly Painted, Price Reduced . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$114K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Hewlett — 3BR, 1.5Bth Colonial, EIK, Lr W/Fplc, Fin Bsmt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$455K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Hewlett — 3BR, 2Bth Cape, LR W/Fplc, Full Bsmt, Lot Size 50 x 127, 2 Car Garage, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$300’s Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Hewlett — Ours Alone, 4BR, 4.5Bth Colonial, Kitchen W/Granite Countertops, Full Fin Bsmt, 2 Car Garage W/Long Driveway, Parking For 7 Cars, Magniﬁcent Backyard, Gas Heat, IGS, Alarm, Home Oﬃce W/5 Rooms & Full Bath . . . .$POR Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Hewlett — 2BR, 1Bth, 1 Parking Spot & Storage Included . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$112K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Lawrence — LG Studio, Top Floor, Elevator Bldg, Bright & Sunny . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $89K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Lawrence — 1BR, 1Bth Co-op, 1st Flr, Updated Kitchen W/SS Appliances, Granite Countertops, HW Floors . .$115K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Lawrence — 4BR, 2.5Bth Spacious Splanch, Waterview . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$925K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Lawrence — Spacious 3BR, 2Bth Co-op, Sunken LR, Lg Master Suite W/Master Bath & Sitting Room, CAC . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$320K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com North Woodmere — 3BR, 2Bth, Ranch, Finished Basement, CAC, Wood Floors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$429K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com North Woodmere — Ours Alone, 4BR, 3 Full Bath, 2 Car Garage, CAC, IGP . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$669K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 2BR, 1Bth Co-op, 1st Floor, Small Pet Ok, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $168,500K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 6BR, 4 Full Baths CH Colonial On CulDe-Sac, Totally Renovated, New Brick Work, Landscaped, Windows, Roof, Garage, Siding & Doors Throughout, Marble Floor In Foyer, DR W/Custom Cabinetry, Top Of The Line Appliances, Sports Court In Backyard & Much More . .$POR Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

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Cedarhurst — 5BR, 2.5Bth Split Level, Lg Den W/Fplc, Granite Countertops In Kitchen, IGS, Alarm . . . . . . . .$649K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Cedarhurst — 2BR, 2Bths, Terrace, Great Condition, Close To All Sale . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$265K Also For Rent . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,300/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

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Woodmere — 3BR, 3Bth Split Level Home, Vaulted Ceilings, Master Suite W/Huge Walk-In Closet & Full Bath, EIK, Prime Location In SD#15 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$700K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Woodmere — 2BR, 1Bth Co-op, Elev Bldg, Small Pet Ok, Corner Unti, Sunny & Spacious, Close To All . . . . . . . .$169K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Inwood — Multi-Family W/Possible Buildable Adjacent Lot . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$550K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

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REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Woodmere — 3BR, 2Bth Ranch Completely Renovated, Open Flow, Lg Master Suite W/Mbth, LR W/Vaulted Ceilings & Fplc . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$599K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 5BR, 4Bth Split Level Home, Quiet Street, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$699K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 4BR, 3 New Full Baths, Totally Renovated, High End Appliances, Custom Cabinets, New Windows, CAC, Siding, Gutters, Hot Water Tank & Alarm, Must See .$749K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 2BR, 2Bth Renovated Apt, Elev Bldg, High Ceilings, Bright & Sunny, Custom EIK, UG Parking, Storage, Washer/Dryer, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$335K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 2BR Co-op In Elevator Bldg, Bright & Sunny, Close To All, Small Pet Ok . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$165K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 2BR, 2Bth Co-op, Elev Bldg, Corner Unit, Renovated Kitchen W/SS Appliances & Granite Countertops, X-LG/DR, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $194,500 Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — Sunny Spacious 2BR, 2Bth Elev Bldg, W/D In Apt, Storage Unit In Bsmt, Closet Systems, Lg Entry Foyer, High Hats . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$249K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — Sunny & Spacious 2BR, 2Bth Renovated Apt, Elev Bldg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$255K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

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Woodmere — 1BR, 1Bth Co-op, Elevator Bldg, Small Pet OK, Eik, Laundry Room In Bldg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$125K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — Ours Alone — Prime Location In Woodmere SD#15, 4BR Updated Split, CAC, All Systems, 2 Dens, MBR Suite, High Ceilings, Jacuzzi Tub, Bright & Sunny, Magniﬁcent Kitchen, Main Floor Den, Large Deck . . .$POR Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 4BR Colonial Built In 2008, Lot Size 66 x 115, Full Fin Bsmt, Gourmet EIK, CAC, LR, Formal DR, Den W/ Fplc, MBR Suite . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$949K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodsburgh — 5BR, 3.5Bth Exp-Ranch, Lot Size 102 x 169 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$799K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — Ours Alone, Buildable Land For A 7BR Colonial, Plans & Permits Approved, Lot Size 100 x 160 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1.025M Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — SD#15, Magniﬁcent 5/7BR, 3.5Bth Split In Woodmere Park, Totally Renovated, EIK W/Subzero Refrigerator, Granite Countertops, Double Oven, 2 Sinks, 2 Dishwashers, 4 Zone Heat & CAC, HW Floors, IGS, Alarm, MBR Suite W/Vaulted Ceilings, 2 Dens, 2 WIC, IG Heated Pool, ParkLike Property, A Must See . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$POR Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Cedarhurst — Newly Renovated Colonial In The Heart Of Cedarhurst, Fabulous Kitchen W/Granite Counter Tops & SS Appliances, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$825K CallMark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

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Woodmere — 4BR, 3Bth CH Colonial, Bright & Sunny, SD#15, CAC, EIK W/Granite Counter Tops, HW Floors, Alarm, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$769K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Hewlett — 1BR, 1Bth Co-op, 1st Flr With Private Patio, W/D, Parking Space & Storage Incl, Close To All . $78,500 Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Lawrence — 1BR, 1Bth Co-op, Lg LR + DR, EIK, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $129,995 Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Lawrence — Co-op — “The Plaza” 1BR, 1Bth Elevator Bldg, 24hr Doorman, Outdoor Pool, Indoor Parking, Balcony, CAC, Laundry Rm On The Same Floor As The Apartment, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$239K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Woodmere — 3BR, 2Bth Townhouse Corner Unit, Completely Renovated, Granite EIK, MBR Suite On Main Floor, New Bath, Finished Basement. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$579K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Hewlett Harbor — Magniﬁcent 5BR, 5Bth Split Level, Lot Size 108x148, Great Opportunity . . . . . . . . . . . . .$879K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Woodmere — 6BR, 4Bth Colonial On Cul-De-Sac, Lg Living Room W/Fplc, Formal DR, EIK, MBR Suite, Park-Like Property . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$999K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Cedarhurst — Ours Alone, 3BR, 2Bth Colonial, Prime Location, Lot Size 77x100, SS Appliances, Hwd Floors, IGS, Basement, Room To Expand . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$699K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Lawrence — Mint 2BR, 1Bth Co-op, Washer/Dryer, EIK W/ Granite Counter Tops, Lot Of Cabinets, High Hats . . .$199K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Lawrence — New Exclusive – Exp-Ranch, FDR, FLR, Den, Updated EIK, Huge Master BR Suite W/Master Bath, Large Finished Basement . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$1,199,000 Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Lawrence — Spacious 1BR, 1Bth Co-op, 1st Flr Apt, Elevator Bldg, U/G Parking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$149K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Hewlett — Updated 3BR, 2Bth Ranch With Full Finished Basement, Updated EIK, Updated Bathrooms . . . . . .$449K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Cedarhurst — 1BR, 1Bth Condo, Indoor Parking Spot Included, Pets Ok, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$179K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Woodmere — 2BR, 1Bth Co-op On 1st Fl, Elev Bldg, UG PKG, W/D . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $274,500 Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Woodmere — Spacious Colonial 5BR, 4.5Bths, Formal LR and DR, Den, Lg. EIK, Full ﬁnished basement, No Brokers please . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $988,800 Call 917-804-0333

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In The Heart of Jerusalem — New! For sale, fabulous boutique building with 3 huge apartments available now, on quiet cul-de-sac in classic Jerusalem. Walking distance to the Kotel, Great Synagogue, parks. Garden apt. and massive penthouse available. High ceilings, sukkah porches, smart home, central AC, sub-ﬂoor heating, ultra-luxe ﬁnishes. Specially priced for the holidays!! Phone: +972-523-477-428, www.usha3.com

Co-ops for Sale — Howard Beach, Queens, First show, Ours Alone. Totally renovated Large 1BR Apt, Hardwood ﬂoors, Brand new kitchen and appliances, spacious LR, move in condition. A must see. Low maintenance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Priced to Sell $135,000 Call Edy for more details 516-728-2977 Five Town Homes 516-569-5710

Woodmere — Easy Living — Spectacular & Spacious Corner Unit, Completely Renovated, 3BR, 2.5BA, Granite EIK, Fin Bsmt, Community Pool & Tennis Court, Electric Chair Lifts To Each Floor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$579K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Cedarhurst — Co-op for sale. Freshly painted, Bright and light, Spacious 2BR, 2Bth, updated EIK with Granite countertops, terrace, great location, walk all. . . . . . .$279K Call Joan 516-319-4482, Five Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710

Hewlett — Price Reduced — Lovely 3BR Cape In SD#14, Lr W/Fplc, 2 Car Garage, Full Basement, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$389K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Cedarhurst — Ours alone. Legal brick 2 family house. 3BR over 3BR, CA/C, New appliances, H/W ﬂ oors, gas heat, low taxes, great location, walk all Call Joan for more details. 516-319-4482 Five Town Homes Realty 516-569-5710

Woodmere — Price Reduced!! Set On Private Cul-De-Sac, 6BR, 4Bth Colonial, SD#15, LR W/Fplc, Formal DR, EIK, Lux MBR Suite, Lovely Park-Like Property . . . . .$999K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Lawrence — New To Market!! Beautiful 1BR Apt In Lux Bldg W/24HR Doorman, Pool, Balcony, CAC, Parking, Near All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$239K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Hewlett Harbor — New Listing!! Magnificent 5BR, 4.5Bth Split Level, Formal DR, EIK, Den, Great Opportunity In Hewlett Harbor, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$879K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Co-Op: For Sale Woodmere — Best Buy Price ReducedSmall Pets Ok–Beautiful Corner Unit In Elevator Bldg, 2BR, 5 Closets, All Large Rooms, Sunny & Spacious, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$169K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Far Rockaway — Majestic, Huge, Col. 6BR 5Bth, Hi Ceilings, Oversized Lot. Middle Of ET. PO. FTHR 516-322-3555 Long Beach — 2BR, 1.5Bth, Co-op W/Ocean Views, New Oak Floors, New Bath, Granite/SS Kitchen, Gym in Bldg, IG Heated Pool, All Utilities Included in Maintenance, Must See!! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $379,000 Broker 516-792-6698 Updated Tudor 274 West Englewood Ave Teaneck, NJ 3BR’s, 3 Full Baths, 1 Half Bath, new roof, h/w floors, renovated bathrooms and kitchen, SS appliances, fireplace, finished attic and basement, garage. Must see! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$399K Call owner Eli 917-324-2193 Far Rockaway — Co-op Junior 4 For Sale!! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $199,000 Near all!! Shopping, Parks, trains. Newly renovated lobby, 24 hour doorman, Shabbat elevator. Call: 516-512-9626 Quality new construction between Peninsula Blvd and West Bway, Classic 5+ BR Colonial with full basement, Huge Kosher Kitchen. South Shore Estates, Call Susan: 516-569-4980 Multi –family 2 Family house on large lot, 3BR + 3BR, plus duplex apartment. South Shore Estates Call Susan: 516-569-4980 Cedarhurst — Totally renovated split level. 3BR, 3.5 New Bath Euro EIK w/ granite countertops. Walk to all. Absolutely mint, Must See! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$599K Call for details. Available Immediately! South Shore Estates, Call Susan: 516-569-4980 Woodsburgh — Magnificent Totally Renovated 7+ BR Classic Colonial On 1+ Acre. Lush Grounds With Guest House And Pool. Every Amenity. Must See. Walk To IP Minyan. Call For Appointment & Price South Shore Estates, call Susan: 516-569-4980 Lawrence — New Listing!! Great Apartment On 2nd Flr, 1BR, Large LR W/Dining Rm, EIK, Near All . . $129,995 www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Wishing everyone a very Happy and Healthy New Year!! Hewlett — Young CH Colonial, LR, Formal DR, Large Granite EIK, Den, Office, 5BR (on one level), Finished basement, on quiet tree-lined street in SD #14 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$700's Call Joan for appointment 516-319-4482 Five Town Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Lawrence — Beautiful pristine C/H Colonial, Lg LR With Fireplace, Formal DR, Kosher gourmet granite EIK, 2 Dens, 5+BR (on 1 level), 3.5Bths, Full finished bsmt, in-ground pool, brick patio on beautiful property, great location. Call Joan for details and appointment 516-319-4482 Five Town Homes 516-569-5710

Wishing everyone a very Happy and Healthy New Year!!! Woodmere — Split ranch, renovated, 6BR, LR, FDR, large den, great for large family in SD#14. (Can be mother daughter with proper permits) Walk all. Best deal in town . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$559K Call Joan 516-319-4482, 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710

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Condo for Rent Florida Nicest gated community Century Village, Boca Raton— Newly renovated 2BR’s, 1.5Bths, near shuls/pools/ clubhouse. Annual rental . . . . . . . . . . . .$1100 a month Call 347-752-1449

Inwood — Apt In House — Great 2BR, 1st Floor Apt With EIK, Sunroom, Basement & Yard . . . . . . $2,500/mo www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

North Woodmere — House Rental, 4BR, 3Bth On Cul-De-Sac, Basement . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $4,000/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Inwood — Mint 4BR, 2Bth House Rental, W/D, Huge Yard, Pvt Parking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $3,250/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Cedarhurst — 3BR, 2Bth, Elev Bldg, Prime Location . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,895/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Far Rockaway — 3BR, 1Bth, 2nd Flr, 2 Family House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1,995/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Far Rockaway — 1BR, 1Bth, Beach 9th Street and Caﬀrey, near busses and shuls, available Sept. 1st M Frucht Real Estate Services 718-376-3868 Cedarhurst — House Rental, First Show, Ours alone, Spacious young colonial, L/R, formal DR, Kosher granite EIK, 4BR on one level, 2.5Bths, Full ﬁnished basement with high ceilings, oversized backyard. . . . . . . . . . $4,000/Mo. For Details Call Joan 516-319-4482 Five Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 North Woodmere — House Rental – Renovated 4BR, 3 Full Bath House On Cul-De-Sac, EIK, Formal DR, Hot Tub, Great Yard, SD#14, Near All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $4,000/mo www.pugatch.com , 516-295-3000 Far Rockaway — Apt In House On 2nd Floor, 3BR, Bright & Sunny, Heat & Water Included, Close To All . . . . . .$1,995/Mo Broker 516-792-6698

Hewlett — 2BR, 1Bth Apt In Elev Bldg, Central AC, High Ceilings, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,395/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Cedarhurst — Apt In House–Move Right In, Prime Location, 3BR, 2.5Bths Duplex Apartment, EIK, Formal DR, Washer/Dryer, CAC . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,995/Mo www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Cedarhurst — Co-op, New to Market, Spacious Ranch-like apartment, Light and Bright, 3BR, 2Bths, Large Kosher EIK, Separate Formal DR, Oversized LR, Terrace, Largest apartment available in complex, Great location, Walk all. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$379K Call Joan for more details 516-319-4482, Five Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710

Lawrence — 2BR, 2.5Bths Luxury Bldg, Elevator, Pool, Gym. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $4,200/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Hewlett — New Listing–Move Right Into This 2BR Apt, Elevator Bldg, High Ceilings, EIK, LR/DR, CAC, Close To All, SD#14 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,395/Mo www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Woodmere — Renovated Spacious & Sunny 3+BR Townhouse, Wood & Granite EIK, Fin Bsmt, Master Suite W/ Steam Shower & Jacuzzi Tub, Community Pool & Tennis Court . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$525K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Far Rockaway/Darchei area — Gorgeous Apartment for rent! Brand New Construction!! Porcelain Floors 1Bedroom, 1Bth, New Appliances, Washer/Dryer hookup, 2 ﬂights up Asking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1490 Negotiable 718-471-5224, gpmanagement1@gmail.com

Hewlett — New To Market!! Beautiful & Spacious 1BR Co-op, Private Patio, EIK, Washer/Dryer, Parking Space & Storage Incl, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $78,500 www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Inwood — House Rental- Mint 4BR, 2Bth, Huge Yard, Tons of Storage, Private Parking. . . . . . . $3,250/mo www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Cedarhurst — 3BR, 2.5Bth Duplex Apartment, EIK, LR, DR, Washer/Dryer, CAC . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,995/Mo Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com

Cedarhurst — New to market, Spacious light and bright Co-op, 2BR, 2Bths, Updated EIK, terrace, great location, walk all . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2,250/Mo Call Joan 516-319-4482 Five Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Far Rockaway — New to market. Renovated 2, 3 and 4BR rentals, great location. Call for details, Joan 516-319-4482, Five Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710

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Woodmere — New Listing!! Move Right In, 4BR CH Colonial, EIK W/Granite Counter Tops, Formal DR, 1 Car Det Garage, CAC, SD#15 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$769K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Cedarhurst — Price Reducred — Newly Renovated 3BR, 2 Full Bath Colonial, Fabulous Kitchen W/Granite Counter Tops & Stainless Steel Appliances, Office, Basement, Front & Back Porch, Must See, Close To All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$825K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Woodmere—Price Reduced—Beautiful 3BR, 3 Full Bths Split, EIK, LR, Master Suite W/Huge Walk-In Closet, Den, Library, Sunday, By Appointment Full Privacy Front & Back Yard, SD#15 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$715K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Cedarhurst — New Listing! 5BR, 2.5Bths Split In Cedar Bay Park, Lg Den W/Fplc, Granite Countertops In Kitchen, Double Oven, Formal DR, HW Floors, SD#15 . . . . . . .$649K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Woodmere — Pet Friendly Bldg, Bright & Charming 1BR, 1 Full Bath Co-Op in Elevator Bldg, EIK, LR/DR, Laundry Room & Bike Room on Premises, Near LIRR . . . . . . . . . . . . .$125K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 N.Woodmere — Custom Renovated 4+ BR’s, 3 Full Bths Exp Ranch, LR, FDR, Gourmet Kitchen, King Size Den, IG Pool, Fin Bsmt W/Playroom, & Much More! . . . . . . . . . . . .$985K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Lawrence — Magnificent Waterfront Home 8 BR 4Bths With Deck & Boat All Amenities. Owner Motivated Asking$1.69M Neg. Owner 516-206-1100 mark@mbequitygroup. com Lawrence — Spacious 4BR, 2.5Bth Splanch, Private Setting, Waterview, Fin Basement . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$925K www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 New house for sale in Israel. Efrat— Completion date, Dec. 15. 6BR, 3 floors, ca/c, 130 sq./m yard. View of Judean Hills. By owner flexcbt@gmail.com Cedarhurst — Located b/w Penisula & W. Broadway. Still time to customize! Call for details. Asking . . . . . . . . .$1.2M South Shore Estates, call Susan: 516-569-4980

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FOR RENT Cedarhurst — Apt in Bldg-Spacious Co-op, 2 Large BR’s, 2 Full Baths, Bright & Sunny, Screened In Terrace Overlooking Courtyard, Close to All . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$2300/mo www.pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Cedarhurst Courtyard — New Apts for Rent. No Fee! Gut Renovated 2 & 3Br’s Very Large, Bright, Marble Baths, SS Appliances, Private W/D, Private Central, Private Entrance, Private Indoor Parking, LiveinSuper, Steps to Town & Train. Starting at . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$2,195. Call Now 516-582-9978/516-860-6889 Cedarhurst — Totally renovated split level. 3 Bedroom, 3.5 New Bath. Euro EIK w/ granite countertops. Walk to all. Absolutely mint, Must See! For rent . . . . . . . . $3,500/Mo Call for details. Available Immediately. South Shore Estates, call Susan: 516-569-4980

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Lynbrook — Commercial Co-op 750 +/- SF, Professional Use, 5 Chair Waiting Room, 2 Exam Rooms, Ample On-Site Parking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$125K Call Mark Lipner Direct 516-298-8457 Pugatch Realty Corp. E-mail MLipner@Pugatch.com Hewlett — Business for Sale Third generation. Decorative hardware, doors, knobs, mailboxes, fireplace items, custom items, all inventory included. Call for details Douglass Elliman, Annette Samant 516-880-5088 Lynbrook — 2,948+/- SF Commercial/Professional Office Bldg W/Duplex Apartment, 2,112SF Office on 1st Floor, 836SF Apartment + 739SF Bsmt, 2 Car Garage W/ Parking for 6 Cars, Currently a Dental Office, 6 Plumbed Exam Rooms, 2 Bathrooms, Waiting Area, Staff Area, & Lab. For Sale. Call Lori for More Details, info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Baldwin — 9,140 +/-SF Retail Store Strip, 4 Stores + Bsmt, Lg Municipal Lot in Rear of Bldg, Lot Size 14600SF, For Sale, Call Lori for more details info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Woodmere — 4680+/-Sf on Two Floors, Mixed Use Building W/Bsmt & Rear Door, Street & Municipal Parking Available, 2 Retail Stores W/4 Apts above, Great Location, Close to All Major Highways & Public Transportation. For Sale, Call Alan or Arthur for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Lynbrook — Commercial Co-Op Good for Any Professional Use, 5 Chair Waiting Room, 2 Exam Rooms, Sinks in Exam Rooms, Reception Area, Consultation Office, Lab. Can be Fully Furnished, Ample On-Site Parking for Staff and Visitors. For Sale Call Randy for More Details info@ pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Rockville Centre — Professional Co-Op, Turn Key Medical Offices, 3,000+/- SF, 7 Exam Rooms, 2 Consult Offices, Lg Reception/Waiting Area, Handicap Accessible, & Much More!!! For Sale. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $395K Call Randy for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Lynbrook — 4,000+/-SF Retail Stores With Offices, Rear Door, Street Parking, 2 Bths, For Sale Call For More Details Broker 516-792-6698 Freeport — 1,400+/-SF Office Storefront, Newly Renovated with Rear Door, Empire Zone Benefits, Near Parkway, Train & Buses, For Sale…Call for More Details. Broker 516-792-6698

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR SALE Rockville Centre — Newly Renovated Two Story Retail/Professional Bldg with Elevator, Granite Lobby, & Handicap Ramp, 5000+/- SF Retail W/Full Usable Basement Over 5000+/- SF Oﬃce Space. For Sale/Lease…Call for More Details. Broker 516-792-6698 Woodmere — 4,600+/- SF Brand New Oﬃce Building With 24 Car Parking For Sale. Call for More details. Broker 516-792-6698 Inwood — Corner Building, 7 Apartments; Three - 4 Bedroom Apts, Three - Bedroom Apts, One - 1 Bedroom Apt. Apartments Are Separately Metered. For Sale… Call Lori for More Details. Info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR RENT Great Neck / Northern Blvd 3 Occupancies 1)Retail 1600sf 1st Floor 2)Retail Oﬃce 2600sf 2nd Floor 3)Retail Showroom 700sf 1st Floor Parking Lot, Signage, Move in Condition HVAC, Alarm, Bathroom, Kitchen Separate Gas & Electric Call Owner for Appt 516-829-1244 Hewlett — 1,205+/-SF Retail Store W/Basement & Parking in Great Location, For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Oceanside — Mixed Use Build, Investor or User Property, 5 Commercial Tenants, 3 Residential Apartments, New Stucco Façade & More, For Sale…Call for More Details. Broker 516-792-6698

Hewlett — 2,000+/-SF Retail Space in Great Location, Municipal Parking Lot in Rear, Close to All, For Lease... Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Rockville Centre — 6600+/- SF, Two Story Free Standing Bldg, 3800+/- SF Restaurant W/Basement, & 2800+/- SF Oﬃce Space, Close to All, For Sale…Call Randy for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Hewlett — 2,400+/-SF Retail Store with Basement, Former Beauty Supply, For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Woodmere — Follow the Leader to Woodmere, Now is the Time to Act!!! No Meters - Free Parking, Various Spaces Available, For Sale/Lease…Call For More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Lynbrook — 500+/- SF Retail Store with Rear Door, Street Parking, Close to All, For Lease Call Alan for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Cedarhurst — 4,567+/-Sf Office Space W/Great Parking & Basement, Storage Available, Heart of the 5 Towns, Near LIRR Station, Convenient To All, For Lease…Call Ian for More Details info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Freeport — 1,200+/- SF Retail Space with Rear Door, Great Location on Busy Shopping Strip with Parking in the Rear, For Lease ... Call Alan for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Rockville Centre — 1,000+/- SF Lovely Shoppe on Sunny Corner of Municipal Parking Lot, Excellent Signage Opportunity, Almost Any Use, Close to All, For Lease…Call Randy for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Cedarhurst — A Must See!! New to market, Ours Alone Totally renovated MIC 1500+ sq ft + Full basement high ceilings, retail store, medical or professional offices in great location in the heart of town for lease. For more info Call Joan 516-319-4482 , 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Inwood — New to market. Approx. 750-800 sq.ft. high ceilings. Excellent for storefront or office. Main level. Good location. Call for details: Joan 516-319-4482, 5 Towns Homes Realty 516-569-5710 Cedarhurst — The Studio Building Newly Renovated Office Suites and spaces Available starting at $795 a month. Included in the rent: High Speed Internet, Wifi, Conference rooms, Kitchenette, Heat & AC, Utilities Included, Water cooler, Real Estate Taxes, Waiting Area, Cleaning. Furnished and unfurnished available, Call or text 516-567-0100 Inwood — The Bayview Building. Many options available including 5000 Square foot high ceiling 1st floor showroom/ office / mixed use space. 2nd Floor office spaces with Waterview and views of NYC skyline. 1200 sq ft, 2000 sq ft and 6000 sq ft spaces available. Parking, Mincha minyan and great neighbors. Owner will customize and design space to your needs. Call or text 516-567-0100 Cedarhurst — 1,000+/-Sf W/Bsmt, Former Take-Out Restaurant, C/O for Eating Establishment, Great Location, Near LIRR Station, For Lease Call Ian for More Details, info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Hewlett — 6,972+/-SF W/Basement & Parking in Great Condition, Common Bathroom Area, Additional 1500SF Can be made available, For Lease. Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Valley Stream — 1,700+/-SF Office Space, 5 Offices + Reception, 2 Are Large Enough to be a Conference Room, Ample On-Site Parking, For Lease Call Randy for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

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COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR RENT Cedarhurst — Retail Store Available, 600+/- SF, Cheapest In Town!! For Lease, Call For More Details. Broker 516-792-6698 Hewlett — 7,250+/-SF Space in the Finest Bldg in the 5 Towns, Medical or Non-Medical Use, 18 Parking Spots, For Lease Call Ian for More Details, info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Valley Stream — 4500+/-SF Office Space On One Floor, 3 Offices, 2 Bathrooms, Hvac, Gas Heat. For Lease Call Alan for More Details, info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Valley Stream — 1,800+/-SF Retail Space Ideal for Medical, Busy Shopping Strip, Plenty of Parking. Can be Divided. For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Woodmere — 3600+/-SF Retail Space in Woodmere Shopping Center, Join Gourmet Glatt & Chase Bank, Great On-Site Parking, Rear Loading, Opposite NY Sports Club & Woodmere LIRR, Available Fall 2016. For Lease Call Ian for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Cedarhurst — 1,800+/-Sf Turn Key Restaurant Plus Basement & Back Drop Off Area, Outside Seating Area, Low Key Money, Long Term Lease, Tremendous Location In The Heart Of Cedarhurst, Near LIRR Station, Convenient To All, For Lease Call Ian for More Details info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Oceanside — Pre K or DayCare Center, 4 Windowed Class Rooms, 1 Office, 2 Bathrooms, Large Playground Area, Located in Residential Neighborhood, Near LIRR, For Lease Call Arthur for More Details, info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Cedarhurst — Executive Office Space Available. Cubicle, Interior Office, Executive Office, or Penthouse Unit, in Heart of the 5 Towns, Near LIRR Station, Convenient To All, For Lease Call Randy for More Details info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Lawrence — 1,100+/-SF Retail Space with Basement & Municipal Parking in Great Location, For Lease. Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Hempstead — 1,600+/-SF Professional Office Space in Beautiful Elevator Bldg w/Excellent Parking, Great Location, For Lease. Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch. com, 516-295-3000 Hewlett — 1,100+/-SF Space Available, Modern Professional Bldg, Great parking, Ideal for Medical Professional/General Offi ce Use, Close to All, For Lease Call Lori for More Details info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Lawrence — 10,000+/- SF Retail Space on Rockaway Tpke with Parking, Will Divide. Great Location, For Lease. Call Ian for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Hewlett — 2,250+/- SF Store, Can Be Divided, 2 Bathrooms, Full Basement, Parking in Rear, For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Hewlett — Retail Store with Full Basement, Parking in Rear, Great Location, on Broadway, For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Long Beach — Various Office Spaces Available on 2nd Floor, 525-900+/- SF, Separate Bathrooms, Newly Renovated, For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Rockville Centre — 800+/- SF Retail Space Available, 1 Bathroom, Rear Door, Street & Municipal Parking, Close to All, For Lease Call Alan for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Valley Stream — 1450+/-Sf Retail Space with Sprinklers, Small Basement, 1 Bathrooom, Street & Municipal Parking. For Lease Call Alan for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Lawrence — 2,800+/- Sf Space, Office/R&D Space, 2 Bathrooms, Kitchenette in Office Area, 12 Ceilings. For Lease, Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Rockville Centre — 850+/- SF Office Space Available, 2 Bathrooms, HVAC, Great Exposure, Signage Opportunity, Close to All, For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Rockville Centre — Warehouse space-from 900 ft. to 10,000 ft. available. Will divide. Loading dock, Walk to LIRR, Ideal space. For details please call 917-822-0499 Cedarhurst — 2300+/-Sf Office Space W/Great Parking, Multiple Offices, Glass Enclosed Conference Room, Climate Control HVAC, Heart of the 5 Towns, Near Lirr Station, Convenient To All, For Lease Call Randy for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR RENT East Rockaway — 6200+/-Sf Building with Retail Spaces, Basement, Some Parking, Near Municipal Lot & Major Highways, Great Location, For Lease Call Ian for More Details info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Hewlett — 900+/- SF Nail Salon, Ready to Go, Turn Key, No Key Money, Great Location on Franklin Ave Near LIRR Station, For Lease Call Lori for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Hewlett — 1800+/-Sf Retail Space, Can Be Used For Oﬃce. 2 Bathrooms, 2 Oﬃces, 8 Car Parking On 1 Floor. 8 Ceilings, Rear Door. For Lease…Call Lenny for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000 Long Beach — 1,400+/- SF Retail Space, Former Restaurant On Best Block In Long Beach. For Lease…Call Lori for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FOR RENT Rockville Centre — Two Professional Spaces in Elevator Building, 2000+/- SF & 4000+/- SF Available, Exam Rooms, Reception, Lobby, 40 Car Parking, Handicap Accessible, For Lease…Call Arthur for More Details info@pugatch.co, 516-295-3000 East Rockaway — 3,000 +/- SF Professional Suite in Free Standing Bldg W/Full Basement & Parking, Seven Private Oﬃces, Kitchen, Conference Room, Close to LIRR, For Lease… Call for More Details. Broker 516-792-6698 Franklin Square — Professional Space, Will Build to Suit, Ample Onsite Parking, Good for Any Professional Use . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $25/SF For Lease…Call Randy for More Details. info@Pugatch 516-295-3000

Long Beach — 1428+/- SF Professional Space With 5 Oﬃces, 2 W/Water, Waiting Room, Bathrooms, Reception Area. Hvac. 5 Parking Spots. For Lease…Call Lori for More Details info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Lynbrook — 1700+/-SF Oﬃce W/Parking on Broadway, Close to All, For Lease…Call Lori for More Details. info@Pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Woodmere — Several oﬃce spaces from 500sf to 1000sf. Elevator Building. Central Avenue — Prime Location! Ample Parking. Ideal for Medical/Professional Oﬃces. Call Kate for Details 516-334-2146

Oceanside — 2800 +/- SF Space on Long Beach Rd with On-site Parking, Hi Visibility, Good for Professional Use or Retail, For Lease or For Sale…Call Randy for More Details. info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Lynbrook — 1251+/- SF Oﬃce Space In Free Standing Bldg, Ground Floor, Heat Included, Garage Or Outdoor Parking Spaces (Subject To Availability), Ideal For Professional Or Medical, Great Location, For Lease Call Lenny for More Details. info@Pugatch.Com 516-295-3000 Lynbrook — 700 +/-Sf Professional Suite, 1 Bth, 1 Parking Spot In The Garage. For Lease... Call Lori for More Details info@Pugatch.com 516-295-3000 Lawrence — 3,000+/- SF Space with Parking, Great Exposure, High Traﬃc, For Lease…Call Ian for More Details info@pugatch.com, 516-295-3000

Lawrence — 6,000+/- SF Retail Space on Central Ave, Low Rent, For Lease… Call For More Details. Broker 516-792-6698 Valley Stream — 1,000-2,500+/- SF Oﬃce Space, Full Service, Build to Suit, Underground Parking, Near LIRR Station For Lease . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .$28.50/SF Call for More Details. Broker 516-792-6698 Rockville Centre — 3,500 sq. ft., fully wired for Web, partitioned, will divide. Call 516-322-3555

MISCELLANEOUS Yeshiva of South Shore has some membership openings in its burial society. By purchasing an individual, couple or family membership, you will be ensured of select plots in one of several New York area cemeteries. For more information on burial society membership, please call 516-374-7363 or e-mail: societies@yoss.org

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SHIDDUCH MATCH Continued from Front Cover some players who have not yet been involved in attacking this crisis. We in the frum community have a tremendous resource at our disposal that we have ignored and let go unutilized— the singles themselves! There are hundreds if not thousands of single people who could be acting as shadchanim (matchmakers) for each other. Young women and men in the frum community are constantly meeting new people—on a date, at a Shabbos meal, in class, at work, or in myriad other scenarios—but after that encounter is over, they go on their merry way. What needs to happen is for the single people to say to themselves, “Hey, can I set up this person with anyone I know?” However, a huge obstacle in singles

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meeting new singles with the goal of setting them up is the system by which we as frum Jews operate. Frum singles are kept completely separate. Many single people daven in the same shul for years and yet don’t know of each other! In years gone by, people would meet nice Jewish prospects in shul and get married. Yes, actually get married and build a bayis ne’eman b’Yisrael. I have a novel idea for shuls and rabbanim: every three or four months, all the single people in a shul will be invited to a shiur given by the rabbi. The single men and women should sit separately on opposite sides of the mechitzah during the speech. The rabbi can give over a derashah that is pertinent to the singles: on topics such as personal growth, emunah and bitachon, and concepts that will speak to their nisyonos—so that if the evening ends up being an epic failure, at

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least there was a good speech. After the shiur, which should not be longer than half an hour—since the singles work, learn, study, and have long and tiring days—the rabbi, the rebbetzin, and a few members of the shul who are retired or have the time and the desire to get involved should introduce the singles to each other. It’s OK if there is a broad age range of singles, and those who are divorced or widowed should also be included. The singles will be instructed to exchange names, numbers, and information. (This part of the evening should not take more than an hour.) Now we come to the productive part. The singles go home, back to their lives . . . but now they have to try and think of some matches that they can bring about for the singles they met in their shul. If we get very lucky and a male and female from the same shul want to date, the rabbi or rebbetzin or the other facilitators can act as the shadchan. And if a single thinks of an idea for another single, but he or she does not want to be the one to actually redd the shidduch, the rabbi or rebbetzin or other facilitators can act as the shadchan in this case too. This idea can only work if the singles want to get involved and help each other. I think and hope that they do. We are all in this together, and as much as it seems like an immovable mountain, we can begin to move it, one grain of sand at a time. More ideas on how we can begin to resolve the shidduch crisis will follow. In the meantime, if you have the ability to help a single meet his or her zivug, please do!

From Challahs To Kallahs: A Look Back, A Vision For The Future BY RIVKY HERMAN, MS Just over four months ago, I had the z’chus of hosting a challah-bake event in my home in Queens for single girls in need of a shidduch. It was a truly incredible evening that left me more inspired than ever to play an active role in helping others navigate through the shidduch parashah. Goldy Krantz wrote an excellent article as a follow-up to the event, calling for community-wide awareness and action in this area. I now wish to share just a taste of the feedback I received regarding the event and to echo Goldy’s message regarding community-wide action. The ﬁrst responses I received regarding the event were from the girls in attendance. I will not go into great detail; however, I will say that their expression of hakaras ha’tov touched me deeply. One particular girl, who has been in shidduchim for more than 15 years, traveled a distance to participate in the event. I had not known her prior to that evening, yet she quickly became a friend. She hugged me, and with tears in her eyes, simply, but with such sincerity, whispered “thank you.” It was unnecessary for her to say more. Her eyes, hug, and two words said it all.

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Crossword: Jewish Medicine BY YONI GLATT Across 1. Sportscaster Jim 6. Sneaks a look 11. Cape Town’s country: abbr. 14. Popular font 15. Irish hero Robert or one way to spell “truth” in Hebrew 16. Charged particle 17. Anxiety medicine for David’s daughter? 19. Kosher animals chew it 20. Shir ___’alot 21. Opera solo 22. Not a Tanna 24. ___ ___ about 25. TV control: abbr. 26. Dove competitor 27. Israeli airline with dated seat entertainment 29. Like any United Nations resolution against Israel 32. Go blading 35. Expected 36. Days before holidays 37. Furniture wood 38. What Moses’ kin might take for a sore back? 42. Cockpit reading: abbr. 43. Kaplan of Welcome Back, Kotter 45. ___air 46. The Divine Comedy poet 48. AKAs 50. Boundary string 52. Sports staple 53. Amar, b’Ivrit 54. Biblical land next to Ammon 58. Notable Streisand role 60. Pond dweller 61. 1492 ship 62. Acapulco gold 63. What the Gra takes for a headache? 66. Where Casspi plays, on the scoreboard 67. Malicious 68. Pasta choice

69. Jew follower 70. Rich folk 71. Shade providers Down 1. Kind of chip 2. So-called “master” race 3. Brandon on the Mets 4. 1972 Liza Minnelli hit ﬁlm 5. Lengthener of the name Pam 6. Gas, in Israel 7. Modern letters 8. Austen novel 9. Mauna ___ (Hawaiian volcano) 10. Narrow waterway 11. What Rachel’s dad takes for a sore throat? 12. Like some candy 13. Time ___ ___ half 18. It’s inside 9-Down 23. Stallion’s mate 26. Simon and Garfunkel, e.g. 28. Grassy area 29. Yes, in France 30. Dough for Chanukah? 31. One of the Haim sisters 32. Genesis maker 33. ___ Yisrael 34. Sleeping aid for Methuselah’s father? 35. VCR, nowadays 39. Bank holding 40. Start of Simchat Torah? 41. YU e-mail address ender 44. Middle-___ 47. The Hulk, for one 49. Tom Hanks–John Candy movie 50. Giants rivals 51. Private in a Spielberg ﬁlm 53. 1998 Goo Goo Dolls hit 55. Cheers role 56. Two-___ ___: fast break 57. Features of bison and lions 58. Late great Piamenta 59. Periods 60. Nofei or Tel follower 64. It runs in the family 65. Inclined

Each letter in the quote below stands for another letter. Decode each letter to reveal the quote. (Ex. The coded phrase “Xpaay, gybaq!” can be translated to “Hello, world!” by changing the x to h, p to e, etc.)

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Last week’s solution:

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Challahs To Kallahs Continued from Page 114 My eyes burned and my heart ached as I longed to know someone special with whom to set her up. I promised myself that I would network on her behalf and do anything I could to find someone suitable to set her up with. No one I personally knew came to mind. However, I have friends, relatives, and other contacts living in other communities who might know of someone for her. I received photos via e-mail on erev Shabbos of girls smiling as they held their beautiful freshly baked challahs. On Friday night, as I bit into a piece of my challah, I felt connected to all of the girls who shared the berachah on hafrashas challah with me. Prior to the event, I “paired” each girl with a couple experiencing fertility difficulties in the hope that their tefillos could be a z’chus for each other. Girls followed up with me after the challah bake requesting updates on the childless couple they were paired with. They wanted to be notified when the couple no longer needs tefillos. They felt a sense of connection to their couple. Throughout the days, weeks, and months following the event, I received e-mails and phone calls from friends and strangers with positive feedback. People in the community excitedly told me in shul that they read the “Challah Bake articles.” Just a few weeks ago, a woman I knew only by sight approached me

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to share that reading about the event touched her on a personal level. In the local pizza store, someone asked my brother when the cholent event for boys in shidduchim would be taking place. (We are still working on that!) Yet as days fold into weeks and weeks transform into months, the experience is beginning to feel like

Many enjoy playing “Jewish Geography” as they meet others at various events and venues. What does this enjoyable game teach us? We learn from just a few moments of speaking how quickly strangers can discover that they are connected. Yet people discover the most unlikely connections all too frequently in hindsight, subsequent to meeting.

Just a few names transformed into a waiting list of girls who wished to attend. a dream. My hope is for the challah bake event to be more than simply a one-time phenomenon. The girls joined together from varied communities and formed a “challah-bake chevrah.” My goal is to create a ripple effect of action and connection in the community. Those in shidduchim often hear others sympathetically say, “I wish I knew someone for you. I just don’t know anyone.” I must say that I did not know several of the girls who attended the challah bake. I networked with girls in different communities. I mentioned my idea to just a few friends, and a few names transformed into a waiting list of girls who wished to attend. People know people.

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I would like to make a proposition. Let us, as a community, as a klal, transform hindsight into foresight! Let us actively network on behalf of others. Each one of us can ask family members and friends in different communities if they might know of a potential shidduch idea for someone. We can build connections as we transform a sympathetic “I just don’t know anyone” into “Perhaps my cousin might know someone in her community.” We must create a global game of “Jewish Geography”—in foresight. The challah bake taught me a valuable lesson. In just days, and with a little networking, I could create a chevrah from individuals who shared a commonality. Relationships were

formed between girls of varied ages, backgrounds, and communities from just a few phone calls. Why shouldn’t the same be achieved for the purposes of making shidduchim? Let us all, regardless of where we live or how many people who are single that we personally know, take part in this project. Let us connect, unite, and keep the impact of the Challah Bake for Shidduchim alive. I wanted to present the girls at the challah bake with a perfect challah recipe. Perhaps this initiative and the lesson I learned from the event could take that recipe to the next level and become the recipe for action in shidduchim. As we welcome in a new year, how wonderful it would be if we could join together and make “From Challahs to Kallahs” a reality! Rivky Herman, MS, CCC-SLP, TSSLD/Bi, is a medical therapist at the Infant and Child Learning Center of Downstate Medical Center.

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How To Praise A Child BY ZAHAVA GOLDSTEIN Praising a child may appear to be simple, but the wording used is essential to the message we are trying to convey. As parents, we often tell our children “Good job” or “I’m proud of the grade you got on your test” or “You did great.” When we tell our child “You are a good girl” or “I am proud of you,” it may leave them wondering—what made her a good girl, or what was it specifically that he did to make you proud? Was it their behavior, their grade, or their actions at the dinner table? When we give our children the specifics of what they did to make us as proud, it makes it easier for them to accept the compliment and for them to continue the desired behavior in the future. When you tell your child: “I liked how you cleaned up the toys without having been asked to,” or “I appreciate how you came to the dinner table when I called your name the first time,”

or “You studied so hard and put so much effort into preparing for your test,” you are letting your children know exactly what you expect from them and how they exceeded your expectations. Your children then know what they can do to make you feel proud of them. They

they achieved on their paper or test. Even with our preschoolers, we can put this practice into effect. We can tell our youngsters, “I love the colors that you chose to make the project” or, “I can tell how hard you worked into making this picture for me.” By using this wording, our children sense our love and appreciation for their efforts, thereby creating an environment of love and affection.

They do not need to be perfect in order to make you feel proud. understand that they do not need to be perfect in order to make you feel proud, they just need to make the effort. The child then understands that the parent recognizes the effort made and they feel recognized, loved, and appreciated. As our children begin the school year, let us all focus on their efforts to succeed and not necessarily on the grade

My practice, Positive Parenting Plus, focuses on developing communication strategies with the ultimate intention of improving positive behaviors, eliminating disruptive actions both at home and in school, developing communication techniques, and enhancing positive interactions between parents and children.

Wishing all the readers of the 5TJT community a G’mar Chatimah Tovah, and a happy, healthy, and positive parenting year. Positive Parenting Plus is a private parentcoaching agency founded by Zahava Goldstein, a certiﬁed school psychologist with a dual master’s in school psychology and special education and over 20 years of experience evaluating children, working as a school counselor, and as a parent adviser. All reader comments, questions, and feedback are welcomed by Positive Parenting Plus. Please “like” on Facebook @zahavagoldstein and follow Instagram @positiveparentingplus for daily parenting tips.

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Level 3 Of Systematic Estate Planning: Conclusion The Wealth Counselor B Y M I C H A E L P. R A P P S In effective estate planning, the four Ps should be paramount—protection of you, your assets, and your beneficiaries; prosperity, as the correct tools should allow for growth of your property while minimizing taxes; provision of income for you and your heirs; and perpetuity—your legacy can benefit generations to come in an increasingly competitive world. We all want to know that our hard work and sacrifices have not been in vain. Our goal in this series of articles has been to demonstrate that a good estate planner has multiple strategies and tools to meet those objectives and give you the fifth P— peace of mind. Last week’s article (Level 3, Part 1) explained the role of family limited-liability companies and valuation discounts when there is a projected estate-tax liability that exceeds the life insurance in irrevocable trusts. One of the strategies we discussed was using the federal gift-tax exemption to make lifetime gifts. Sometimes the need arises to make additional gifts but the gifttax exemption has already been used for other transfers. Our final article in the series examines the other vehicles and techniques available to make the gifts without incurring substantial gift tax.

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Before we delve into the details, we’d like to emphasize that we understand estate planning is a complex field and therefore we welcome questions on the topics we’ve covered or any other relevant subjects.

Objective Mr. Hammer is a knowledgeable and successful investor, age 60. He’s aware of the annual gift-tax exemption of $14,000 per person and has used it to his advantage. He consults his estate-planning attorney, Mr. North, to ﬁnd out what he can do now that he no longer has that tool available but wishes to make further substantial donations to his spouse and children.

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Tool #1: Qualified Personal Residence Trusts. Mr. North suggests that Mr. Hammer transfer his primary or secondary residence to a qualified personal residence trust (QPRT). He’ll retain the right to use the property rent-free for a period of his choosing, following which it will be passed to his children (the beneficiaries named in the trust). IRS tables will be used to calculate the value of his right to remain living there, which will be subtracted from the value of the estate to arrive at the remaining interest. Only this remaining interest would be considered a gift to his children. Say Mr. Hammer’s vacation home is worth $2,000,000, the assumed interest rate for the month of the gift is 2.2%, and the term is 15 years. The total value of Mr. Hammer’s retained interest would be $1,334,960 and the remaining taxable interest would only be $665,000. If Mr. Hammer survives the 15-year term and the residence appreciates at 5% per annum to $4,157,856, the potential estatetax savings at a 40% tax rate will be $1,397,126. Tool #2: Grantor-Retained Annuity Trusts. Mr. North explains that Mr. Hammer could also establish a grantor-retained annuity trust (GRAT). Any asset can be donated to a GRAT, but typically a partnership or LLC interest with good cash flow, or subchapter S shares paying significant dividends are used. (A subchapter S is

a form of corporation with a maximum of 100 shareholders providing the benefit of incorporation with the taxation of a partnership.) The GRAT would pay Mr. North a fixed annuity for a specified number of years, following which the trust assets plus appreciation would be passed to his named beneficiaries. Only the value of the remainder interest would be subject to gift tax. If Mr. Hammer donates $1,000,000 to the GRAT for a 10-year term and retains a 7% annuity interest, he’ll receive $70,000 annually (7% of $1,000,000). If the IRS’s taxable rate (the AFR) for the month of donation is 1.4%, the taxable remainder interest gift would be only $351,016. The gift has a reduced value because the beneficiaries won’t be receiving the property for 10 years. If the assets in the GRAT generate 5% income and 7% growth during the 10 years, there will be $1,915,866 remaining in the trust at the end of the term, which results in a difference of $1,564,850 of taxable transfers (or a tax savings of $625,940 at a 40% tax rate). Tool #3: Installment Sales to Intentionally Defective Grantor Trusts. Mr. North underlines that this final tool is one of the most popular wealth-transfer vehicles. The grantor creates an irrevocable trust that is designed so s/he owns the assets given to it, receives the income they generate, and pays tax on that income, but the assets don’t form

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Wealth Counselor Continued from Page 120 part of his or her estate so no estate tax will be payable by him/her on those assets. The donor is required to gift the estate an amount equal to at least 10% of the value of the assets s/he’ll be selling to the estate. The interest payable on the assets sold to the estate is fixed for the entire term at the lowest rate allowed under the tax law. If Mr. Hammer had assets worth $10 million available for this type of trust, he would gift 10%, or $1 million, and sell the trust the remaining $9 million. The annual interest payable on the $9 million, assuming a nine-year term and 1.22% interest rate, would be $109,800. If the assets sold to this type of trust produce a total return (income and appreciation) greater than the interest rate, substantial wealth can be removed from the seller’s gross estate gift- and estate-tax free. The income generated can also be used to cover the interest payments. The assets also usually qualify for valuation discounts due to lack of control or marketability. In addition, repayment of the principal is only required at the end of the specified term.

Disadvantages Mr. North warns his client of the drawbacks to all three types of trusts: They’re irrevocable, he’ll lose direct ownership of the property at the end

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of the fixed term, and his heirs will lose the stepped-up basis on appreciated property when he dies (they will have a carryover basis). With qualified personal residence trusts and grantor retained annuity trusts, if he dies during the fixed term, the property contained in the trust will be included in his estate. Mr. Hammer is pleased to learn from his estate-planning attorney that there are additional ways of gifting assets to his beneficiaries that assure him of continuing income and appreciation on those assets

larger than the estate-tax exemption, including leveraging the gift-tax exclusion, removing life-insurance proceeds from an estate while retaining their benefit, creating irrevocable life-insurance trusts, and using the tax-free death benefit to provide liquidity to an estate. Level 3 Part 1 discussed the role of family limited-liability companies and valuation discounts when there is a projected estate-tax liability that exceeds the life insurance contained in the irrevocable trusts covered in Level 2.

The interest on assets sold to the estate is ﬁxed for the entire term. without a total loss of control or incurring significant income taxes or estate taxes. Since he recently had a complete physical examination with excellent results, he’s confident that it’s not too risky to establish trusts with at least a 10-year term. To recap: In the foundational Level 1 of estate planning, we covered ways of deferring and reducing estate taxes, living trusts, avoidance of probate, establishing powers of attorney for property and health care, and appointing trustees, guardians, and executors. Level 2 examined the strategies available if a projected estate is

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Level 3 Part 2 explained how qualified personal residence trusts, grantor retained annuity trusts, and intentionally defective grantor trusts can be established when there is a need to make gifts but the gift tax exemption has already been exhausted. We hope this series has provided you with increased knowledge about estate planning and underlined the necessity of consulting an experienced estate-planning attorney to meet your goals. Next week we’ll be providing an additional section on charitable planning, which can be used to zero-

out taxes once all the strategies covered in the previous articles have been implemented. If you have a question regarding estate, asset protection, business succession, or long-term care/Medicaid planning and you would like us to answer it in this column, please submit your question to us by e-mail at info@rappslaw.com (subject “5TJT question”) or visit www.rappslaw. com/contact-us-now. Michael P. Rapps is the managing attorney at Rapps & Associates, PLLC, located in Woodmere. His practice focuses on estate, asset-protection, and business-succession planning. He can be reached at mrapps@rappslaw.com or 516-342-3756.

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AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Learning 2 Give, Partners In Torah, And Yad Chaya Join For Inaugural 5T Rally For Unity By Ruchama Schnaidman As the Days of Judgment near, our hearts tremble as we rush to come closer to G-d and accrue merits. What an opportunity, then, would it be to combine Torah learning and the giving of tzedakah, two of the three pillars that hold up this world. Learning 2 Give, a revolutionary project, offers you this chance—to multiply your merits by connecting the power of giving with the greatness of Torah. This Aseres Yemei Teshuvah, Learning 2 Give welcomes the Five Towns community to an inaugural, monumental event. Born from a desire to draw unaffiliated Jews closer to Torah, Learning 2 Give connects tzedakah sponsors with people seeking to complete Torah-learning goals. Learning Torah becomes the catalyst for a donation to a worthy cause. It’s a win-win initiative, offering every Jew a chance to connect with his fellow Jew through learning and tzedakah. There are some things we all understand: The horror of neediness, the pain of a widow’s outstretched arm, the frightening emptiness in the eyes of a starving child. Charity touches the heart of every Jew, tapping into their innate desire to give. Learning Torah to enable giving is a concept any Jew on any level of affiliation can connect to. The desire to give fuels the desire to learn, which in turn fosters deep connection to Judaism. Learning 2 Give inspires Jews at every level of observance to drink from the life-giving fountain of Torah. It’s an extraordinary opportunity to reduce assimilation, help those in need, and connect fellow Jews. On Sunday, October 9, just two days before Yom Kippur, Learning 2 Give partners with Yad Chaya in a groundbreaking event. Yad Chaya, an organization founded to assist Israel’s poor in a variety of ways including supporting widows, marrying off orphans, and providing financial assistance for newborn-baby expenses, is a prime example of the worthy causes affiliated with L2G. This event will be a rally of unity, in which all Jews are welcome to learn from the words of R’ Paysach Krohn, while their attendance guarantees an automatic donation of $100 to Yad Chaya. Sponsors for Yad Chaya have already pledged up to $20,000 for the first 200 attendees and have agreed to raise $100 per additional attendee. Please join your fellow Jews in this momentous evening of connection by signing up through Learning2give.org. Your attendance will leave you inspired, while enabling Yad Chaya to provide for another needy family in Israel. Encouraging a non-affiliated friend

to join will further our goal of reaching out to our fellow Jews and introducing to them the beauty of Torah study and Orthodoxy in a convenient and relatable way. We look forward to welcoming you at this event.

Giving Back At Shulamith High Shulamith High School’s robust and ever-expanding extracurricular program is continuing to grow, not only through clubs and electives, but also through the launch of the school chesed program. Focusing on lending a helping hand to the community, ninth- and tenth-graders were up and about early this past Sunday, as they visited Woodmere Rehabilitation and Health Care

Shulamith girls volunteering at Woodmere Rehab Center

Center. There, they painted, sang, and bonded with the residents. Led by chesed coordinator Ms. Emma Mael, students and the residents worked together to paint cherry blossoms, continuously helping each other along the way. Through the activity, students not only had a wonderful time,

but also understood how chesed beneﬁts not only the receiver but the giver as well. “I had so much fun,” said ninthgrader Rivka Bennun. “I sat next to a resident named Pedro, who was visu-

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treated to halachic insights of the Chofetz Chaim into hilchos teﬁlah and hilchos lashon ha’ra. Additionally, the boys recited Tehillim perek tes vav, l’iluy nishmaso.

Continued from Page 123 ally impaired, and helped him with his painting. While he enjoyed the experience, I felt that I learned from him! He taught me Spanish and we talked about Puerto Rico. He was really enthusiastic and I feel like it’s more fun when the residents are as enthusiastic as you are.” After painting, Ms. Adina Wolf, navi teacher and mechanechet, sat with two of the girls and played the guitar, with everyone singing along and enjoying the music. “I think the morning as a whole made both the students and residents feel very good,” said Ms. Mael. “They really had a great time working together to create a beautiful painting and getting to know each other.” Following the activity, Ms. Mael brought the girls together to discuss the activity and their experiences. The girls learned that, as signiﬁed through painting a cherry blossom, the objective this year is to grow and bear fruits, to reach their goals and accomplish, whether in school, through chesed, or at home.

YOSS Holds Special Learning Program On Chofetz Chaim’s Yahrzeit On Tuesday, September 27, the 24th day of Chodesh Elul, the Mechina division at Yeshiva of South Shore commemorated the yahrzeit of the great Torah personality and luminary, Rav Yisrael Meir Kagan, zt’l, known as the Chofetz Chaim. Rabbi Zev Davidowitz, the dynamic menahel ha’mechina,

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YOSS seventh-grade rebbe Rabbi Lemberger teaching from sifrei Chofetz Chaim

spoke to the talmidim about the impact that this great tzaddik had on our nation during tumultuous times in the early 20th century. The boys heard about the care and concern that the Chofetz Chaim had for every single Jew of every background, and his deep concern to help strengthen their religious observance. He wrote many sefarim that addressed important topics such as kashrus and Shabbos. He saw that many young Jewish men were being conscripted into the Russian army and were falling to the wayside in their avodas Hashem. Rather than just standing on the sidelines, he wrote them letters of chizuk to help them withstand their challenges. The boys were taught that all of Klal Yis-

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rael are responsible for one another. The Chofetz Chaim is named after his sefer on the laws of lashon ha’ra by the same name. The boys were told the famous viewpoint of Rav Hutner in his letters—that one shouldn’t think for a moment that the Chofetz Chaim had an easy time conquering his yetzer ha’ra to avoid speaking lashon ha’ra. He worked on himself! All serious growth in avodas Hashem requires a constant battle, and it takes hard work. What a powerful message for the boys to hear during their formative years. Within the classroom, every rebbe prepared special shiurim from the writings of the Chofetz Chaim, including the Sefer Mishnah Berurah and Sefer Chofetz Chaim. All the classes were

Mesivta Ateres Yaakov held its backto-school nights and orientations, including a special event for parents of ninth-graders, this past week. The class of 2020 also went on its freshman class trip to Bounce Trampoline Park for an afternoon of fun and camaraderie. These MAY events are always informative and engaging, and this year was no different. The program was opened by menahel Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, Ph.D., who discussed the challenge of reorienting students as they transition from eighth grade to ninth grade. Rabbi Yaffe also discussed the myriad programs and resources the mesivta provides to support the talmidim’s growth in learning and general studies. Following Rabbi Yaffe, general-studies principal Rabbi Sam Rudansky, J.D., M.A., described the general-studies program in detail. He elaborated on the rigorous ninth-grade program, the various elective offerings, the many Advanced Placement courses, and the supplementary resources that are available to mesivta students. He explained, “High school is a laboratory for life. We are preparing our students for college and careers. The work ethic that they develop here in MAY will last with them well after they leave.”

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Rabbi Yossi Bennett, s’gan menahel/ assistant principal, then described the high level of expectations the yeshiva has of its students and the responsibilities and protocols students are expected to meet. Also presenting were the mashgiach ruchani, Rabbi Yehuda Horowitz; student-activities coordinator Rabbi Tsvi Greenﬁeld; and college adviser Mr. Chaim Homnick. Parents then had the opportunity to meet with their sons’ iyun and bekiyus rebbeim. “The evening was very helpful

Kollel Agudas Achim Holds Inaugural Event A capacity crowd of Far Rockaway and Lawrence community members joined the mispallelim of Agudas Achim of Lawrence in the launch of Lawrence’s ﬁrst kollel on Sunday evening, September 18. Welcoming 14 bnei Torah to the neighborhood, participants felt that a major milestone had been reached in the community’s development. Leading roshei yeshiva and rabbanim graced the celebration.

R’ Elisha Horowitz speaking at Agudas Achim

and insightful,” commented one parent. “I really got the feel for who does what here and who should be contacted in different circumstances. My husband and I were both very impressed and reassured that we made the right choice for our son.” The freshmen outing was successful in helping the new arrivals bond with their peers and rebbeim in a setting that promoted team-building, cohesiveness, and cooperation. The trip, besides being an opportunity to rejuvenate, was a great opportunity for these young men to solidify their relationships with friends and rebbeim. Rabbi Tsvi Greenﬁeld, the mesivta’s student-activities coordinator, explained, “The goal of our freshman orientation trip is to promote individual and team growth, as well as development in a setting outside of the classroom, and this outing accomplished that. Our hope is that the students will recognize their true potential and that this trip propels them to succeed on the highest levels.”

Rabbi Elisha Horowitz, mara d’asra of the three-year-old beis midrash, recognized the initiative of the Kutner brothers of Lawrence, Efraim and Yoni, in making this historic Torah accomplishment possible. He also thanked Rabbi Osher Ribowsky for his efforts in bringing chavrei ha’kollel of high caliber to the kollel. Members hail from Yerushalayim, Lakewood, Far Rockaway, and Woodmere. Welcoming remarks were delivered by Rabbi Leibel Rand of the Far Rockaway Community Kollel and followed by the pesichah of the Novominsker Rebbe, Rabbi Yaakov Perlow, shlita. Citing the haftarah of the previous day, and the words of the navi, harchivi mekom ohaleich, the rebbe congratulated the congregation on its newly completed expansion and on being an achsanya of bnei Torah. He expressed his personal nachas in witnessing the leadership of his grandson, Rabbi Simcha Bondi, formerly of Yerushalayim, who serves as rosh kollel.

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ous for them and distracting for the bus driver. They further explained that if their belt is not working for some reason, it is important for them to remain seated because the seats themselves were designed to cushion them if the bus stops short. All the children practiced buckling and unbuckling their seatbelts. They laughed when Morah asked them to try it with their eyes closed, and were astonished that they were able to do it. HALB children know that saying hello when getting on and thank-you when getting off is a kiddush Hashem and appreciated by the drivers. Thank-you to Bus Driver McCoy and Charmaine of Independent for helping YOSS educate our children about bus safety.

Continued from Page 125 The inspiration of the evening continued with the address of the Mirrer Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Elya Brudny, shlita, who charged the kollel members with their mission of being examplars of Torah living and Torah learning.

SKA Boker Iyun Sparks Inspiration There was a palpable air of excitement on Sunday, September 25, at the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls as students, alumnae, and mothers gathered for a morning of learning. Since there was such an ardent response after an evening of shiurim given for the community by SKA faculty members before the yom tov of Pesach, another program for the upcoming Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur was arranged. “Elul Sparks of Inspiration” was enthusiastically received by the over 200 attendees who ﬁlled the auditorium, library, and Room 110. Giving up a morning of yom tov preparation to listen to rousing words of Torah, the women and girls ﬁrst heard from Mrs. Helen Spirn, SKA’s head of school, and Rabbi Isaac Rice, who leads the Torah she’baal peh department, as they introduced the stellar list of speakers. Rabbi Rice shared “Insights on the Yamin Nora’im” while the head of the Tanach department, Mrs. Leah Feinberg, discussed “Meaning and Messages of the Shofar.” Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, director of religious guidance, spoke of “Listening to the Shofar’s Call,” and limudei kodesh teacher Mrs. Avigail Shmulewitz’s shiur addressed the words of the Machzor—“We are Like Clay in the Hands of the Potter.” Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, director of student programming, explained “Why There is no ‘I’ in Teshuvah.” Refreshments were served during the breaks in the sessions. This event was sponsored by: the Kellner family l’ilui nishmat Shaul ben Rav Dovid and Hachaver Yaakov ben Rav Zissel; Chana and Jay Fenster l’ilui nishmat Dovid Aryeh ben Rav Yehoshua; and Shulamith Goldstein in memory of HaRav Avraham ben Menachem Moshe, Dr. Allen Goldstein.

NYPD security meeting at Achiezer

Assemblyman Goldfeder then brieﬂy spoke about the extraordinary cooperation he has seen between the Jewish community and law-enforcement agencies. NYPD Lieutenant Brian Padovani relayed a detailed description of the extra measures and patrols that will be put into place over the course of the yamim tovim, with a particular focus on shuls and yeshivas during the Yamim Nora’im, Sukkos, and Simchas Torah. He also emphasized that there is no speciﬁc threat to the community and no particular reason to be concerned, but as always, the police department will do its best to keep the community safe. Following the meeting, several rabbanim of the newer Far Rockaway shuls that do not have clearly recognizable shul buildings spoke to police representatives and arranged to show them their locations to ensure that they too will be included in the extra security measures.

Learning Bus Safety At HALB Lev Chana

the bus with their teachers and went over bus safety rules: sitting belted in the front half of the bus, speaking to your friend using your indoor voices, no eating and drinking on the bus, and no standing, walking, jumping . . .

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DRS is proud and excited to wish a tremendous mazal tov to seniors Dovi Schlossberg and Chaim Alper on being recognized as National Merit Scholar-

DRS scholars and staff

The children themselves provided reasons for the safety rules. When asked who was in charge of the bus,

ship commendees, and to Evan Goldstein on his recognition as a National Merit Scholarship semi-finalist. These are prestigious honors, and they reflect the high level of education that DRS strives to deliver to its students, as well as the level of commitment and work expected of them. This marks the fifth year in a row in which DRS has produced a semi-finalist in this national competition.

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Achiezer Hosts Meeting With NYPD Safety and security are on the minds of many these days. Following recent terrorist activities in the NY/NJ area, several local rabbanim reached out to Assemblyman Goldfeder to request a meeting with local law-enforcement personnel. Achiezer was asked to host the meeting and this past week, right ahead of Rosh Hashanah, local rabbanim, shul representatives, and organizations from the community, including Hatzalah, RNSP, and the JCC, met with representatives from the 101st precinct of the NYPD to discuss safety in the community in advance of the upcoming yamim tovim. Rabbi Boruch Ber Bender, president of Achiezer, opened the meeting with words of thanks to everyone in attendance and special recognition to outgoing Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder for his years of service to the community.

Merit Scholar Honors At DRS

HALB preschoolers learning to buckle up for safety

The HALB Lev Chana Early Childhood Center recently conducted bus-safety sessions for the four-year-old nursery and kindergarten children. With the assistance of Charmaine of Independent Bus Company, a big yellow school bus driven by Bus Driver McCoy arrived and parked in front of the preschool. The children from each class boarded

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everyone responded, “The driver!” They know we don’t eat or drink on the bus because someone might, chas v’shalom, choke or there might be someone on the bus with allergies. They know that yelling on the bus bothers their friends and can distract the bus driver. Standing, walking, or jumping on the bus is danger-

Commemorating 9/11. On Monday, September 12, students of the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County gathered for an assembly about 9/11. The assembly was led by Mrs. Seeno and included a powerful video clip and informative slideshow. After that presentation, retired ﬁreﬁghter Tom McDougall, who worked at the World Trade Center site for four months following the tragedy, told his story. Students continued asking questions and discussing 9/11 in their social-studies classes after the assembly. Rabbi Orlofsky Speaks. Rabbi David Orlofsky is an extremely proud alum of HANC and has tremendous hakarat ha’tov to the yeshiva. At a recent speaking engagement at the yeshiva, Rabbi Orlofsky explained that most people go through Elul and the Yamim Nora’im

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HANC 9/11 memorial

Eighth-Grade Engineering. By Tiferet Weissman and Sasha Isler. On Friday, the eighth-graders had an engineering science lab. We had to make the biggest box possible using only a piece of paper and 2 feet of tape. The box needed to be able to hold at least 50 grams, and if there was a tie for size,

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the box that could hold even more weight would win. Everyone teamed up with a partner and, together, tried to make the biggest box they could. Everyone improves their engineering and teamwork skills with each lab, and the eighth-grade science classes can’t wait for the next one! Curriculum Night. This year’s curriculum night took place on September 15. The evening began with a dvar Torah and opening remarks by Rabbi Hecht. He discussed the theme for the year, welcomed some of the new teachers, and noted that the Middle School will be the pilot school in HANC for a 1:1 Chromebook program. Mrs. Schneider spoke about some of the new faculty members as well some of the curricular programs including GO MATH! and ELA Collections. Following the opening remarks, parents followed their children’s schedules and went from class to class, spending 8 minutes in each period. By the time the night was over, the parents had a great idea as to all of the wonderful things that their children would be learning this year. As one parent said, “Thank you for today’s orientation; it was informative and well organized. It was nice to see tenured staff, and many of the new staff members made a great ﬁrst impression.” New-Student Luncheon. On Wednesday, September 21, HANC

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had its first annual new-student luncheon. Students who did not attend a HANC school for sixth grade gathered together with Dr. Levey, the director of the counseling department, and Mrs. Miriam Steiner, Middle School social worker, to enjoy pizza and soda. The students first went around and introduced themselves. Following introductions, a glass jar full of questions was passed around the room, with each student having an opportunity to draw a question from the jar. Questions included What is your favorite topic?, What type of music do you listen to?, Who is your favorite artist?, and Do you have a pet? The group learned that one student had a pet bunny rabbit named Chaim that ran away from home. If you see Chaim, let us know! The students had a great time getting together and learning something new about each other. And they discovered that their experience of being new was shared with others. Note-Taking Skills. In Morah Hakimian’s Jewish-history class, Mrs. Fryman offered a session on note-taking. Students discussed being prepared for class and how to organize their notes. They identified how to set up a piece of paper with subject, name, date, key terms, and notes. Students asked questions about techniques, and they reviewed active-listening skills.

The Buzz At YOSS

YOSS children taking an interest in some of your beeswax

In honor of the upcoming yom tov of Rosh Hashanah, beekeeper Curtis Crowell came to Yeshiva of South Shore last Tuesday. Mr. Crowell taught the boys of pre-1A through fourth grade about the social structure of bees, how hives are con-

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The Rosh Hashanah Greeting Halachic Musings BY RABBI YAIR HOFFMAN It is the one greeting that has found its way into the codiﬁed minhagim of Klal Yisrael. The Rema tells us (OC 582:9) that it is the custom, after Ma’ariv of Rosh Hashanah, for everyone to say to each other, “L’shanah tovah tikasev—For a good year, you should be written.” The reader should forgive the awkward translation—it is for a reason. The parenthesis in Shulchan Aruch shows that the source of the Rema is the Tur.

dikim, resha’im, and beinonim, ordinary people) are written on Rosh Hashanah and sealed on Yom Kippur. According to the Ran, it is only the beinonim who are sealed on Yom Kippur. Rav Aharon Kotler (Mishnas Rav Aharon Vol. II) has a lengthy explanation of it.

Do We Need Teshuvah Or Just More Merits? There may also be another fundamental debate between the Ran and the Rambam as to whether a beinoni is required

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‘Sealing’ The Greeting This wording is not the only version, however. The Magen Avraham writes that one should add v’sechasem—and sealed— right after tikasev, giving us the famous wording “written and sealed.” The Vilna Gaon, however, writes that it should not be added.

Greeting Has Changed The wording of the greeting, however, has changed signiﬁcantly over the years. The Tur’s version is “Tekasev b’shanah tovah—Be written to a good year.” The Rema and Vilna Gaon have “l’shanah tovah tikasev.” The Magen Avraham, Chayei Adam, and Mateh Ephraim all have “l’shanah tovah tikasev v’sechasem.”

The Slabodka Version In the Yeshiva of Slabodka, the wording was much more extensive: l’shanah tovah tekasev v’sechasem l’alter u’l’chaim tovim u’l’shalom—You should be written and sealed for a good year, immediately, and for a good life and for peace.” So where did the words “l’alter u’l’chaim” come from? The wording comes from the Gemara in Rosh Hashanah 16b where it discusses the three sefarim that are opened, and that complete tzaddikim are inscribed for life immediately.

Reason For The Various Versions The dispute is not random. It is based upon how to understand the various Gemaras that discuss the three books of Rosh Hashanah. The three Gemaras are Rosh Hashanah 16b, the Talmud Yerushalmi (Rosh Hashanah page 7), and Rosh Hashanah 17b. The disputes revolve around whether a particular Gemara is referring to life in this world or life in the World to Come and also whether it refers to an individual or a tzibbur, a community. There is a debate between Tosfos and the Ran regarding these matters. According to the Vilna Gaon’s understanding of Tosfos, all three groups (tzad-

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AROUND THE FIVE TOWNS Continued from Page 128 structed, and the production process of honey. He also brought his beekeeping apparatus with a live beehive inside an observation box. It was truly an exciting presentation. In addition to the presentation, Mr. Crowell sold his fresh, locally harvested, non-pasteurized honey for Rosh Hashanah.

The Shulamith Scene Last week, the students of the Shulamith Lower Division enjoyed a number of special experiences.

On Thursday, 200 young ladies celebrated the completion of their summer homework with a scrumptious ice-cream party coordinated by Mrs. Breindy Wahrman. The third-graders were privileged to hear the shofar blown by Rabbi Chait, father of third-grader Avigail. Students also learned a lot from the visiting Shofar Factory, which taught them all about different shofars and what makes them kosher. Special thanks to Morah Mindy Futersak and Morah Rivka Holzman for arranging the visit. Also on Thursday, students of the Shulamith Middle Division arrived

When it comes to academics, Shulamith students don’t just skate by.

Shulamith welcomes Shofar Factory

at school brimming with excitement and ready for the first schoolwide trip of the year. Immediately after tefillah, the girls hurried outside to the waiting buses. Accompanied by a full contingent of faculty members, everyone quickly boarded, and they were on their way to the Aviator. Team-building activities included tug-of-war, dodgeball, hula-hoop circle competitions, and more. The girls also had the chance to lace up their skates for an enjoyable hour of ice-skating. Before returning to school, everyone enjoyed eating lunch and socializing with friends. By the time they returned to school at 2 p.m., teachers and students were happily exhausted and chatting contentedly about their memorable outing.

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Halachic Musings Continued from Page 129 to do repentance or whether it is sufﬁcient just to have more mitzvos. The Ran states that it is enough to have more

The Eishel Avraham allows tekasev to be said until chatzos and allows techasem after chatzos. The Eliyahu Rabbah allows it to be said until the end of the ﬁrst day of Rosh Hashanah.

We do not want to make the tragic mistake of assuming that our friend is not a tzaddik. mitzvos, while the Rambam holds that repentance is actually required. This debate may also depend upon whether we follow the Yerushalmi’s understanding of the books or the Babylonian Talmud’s understanding, or at least the simple reading of it.

The End Deadline There is an end deadline (no pun intended) to the greeting as well. The Levush writes that one may only say this greeting until three hours into the day. The reason is that the righteous are judged in the ﬁrst three hours of the day, according to the Gemara. We do not want to make the tragic mistake of assuming that our friend is not a tzaddik. The idea that we should consider ourselves a beinoni, a spiritual middling, is only for ourselves—but decidedly not in regard to others. The Magen Avraham extends the time until chatzos—until half the day.

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This debate as well is predicated upon how the aforementioned Gemaras are understood.

Rav Hutner’s Explanation Rav Hutner, zt’l, has a ma’amar (Pachad Yitzchak RH #14) explaining why the Vilna Gaon did not say “and be inscribed.” In a nutshell, he explains that the “sealed” refers to the great Yom haDin that is to occur in the future.

Conclusion So which one should we do? The answer is to follow our mesorah, our traditions, as to exactly what to say. When we follow our family traditions, we fulﬁll another mitzvah—that of following mesorah. May everyone have a kesivah v’chasimah tovah—l’alter u’l’chaim tovim u’l’shalom. The author can be reached at Yairhoffman2@gmail.com.

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President Shimon Peres, 93, Dies After Stroke BY CHARLES GROSS Shimon Peres, a former president of Israel, was niftar early Wednesday morning, September 28. He was 93. Peres had been hospitalized since suffering a stroke two weeks ago. Peres held virtually every senior political ofﬁce in Israel over a seven-decade career, including three terms as prime minister as well as stints as foreign minister and ﬁnance minister. He was the ninth president of Israel, serving from 2007 to 2014. Peres served twice as the prime minister of Israel and twice as interim prime minister, and he was a member of 12 cabinets in a political career spanning over 66 years. Peres was elected to the Knesset in November 1959 and, except for a three-month hiatus in early 2006, served continuously until 2007, when he became president.

over the movement and won a majority. The head of Mapai, David Ben-Gurion, and Berl Katznelson began to take an interest in him, and appointed him to Mapai’s secretariat. In 1944, Peres led an illicit expedition into the Negev, then a closed military zone requiring a permit to enter. The expedition, consisting of a group of teenagers, along with a Palmach scout, a zoologist, and an archaeologist, had been funded by Ben-Gurion and planned by Palmach head Yitzhak Sadeh, as part of a plan for future Jewish settlement of the area so as to include it in the Jewish state. The group was arrested by a Bedouin camel patrol led by a British ofﬁcer, taken to Beersheba (then a small Arab town), and incarcerated in the local jail. All of the partici-

As president, Peres cultivated an image as elder statesman. Shimon Peres was born Szymon Perski, on August 2, 1923, in Wiszniew, Poland (now Vishnyeva, Belarus), to Yitzhak (1896–1962) and Sara (1905–1969, née Meltzer) Perski. The family spoke Hebrew, Yiddish, and Russian at home, and Peres learned Polish at school. His father was a wealthy timber merchant, later branching out into other commodities; his mother was a librarian. Peres has a younger brother, Gershon. Peres once told the Lubavitcher Rebbe that he had been born as a result of a blessing his parents had received from a chassidic rebbe and that he was proud of it. Peres’s grandfather Rabbi Zvi Meltzer, a grandson of Rav Chaim Volozhin, had a great impact on his life. In an interview, Peres said: “As a child, I grew up in my grandfather’s home . . . I was educated by him . . . My grandfather taught me Talmud. It was not as easy as it sounds. My home was not an observant one. My parents were not Orthodox but I was charedi. At one point, I heard my parents listening to the radio on the Sabbath and I smashed it.” At the age of four, Peres was taken by his father to Radin to receive a blessing from the Chofetz Chaim. It’s interesting to note that Peres was niftar just one day after the yahrzeit of the Chofetz Chaim. In 1932, Peres’s father immigrated to Palestine and settled in Tel-Aviv. The family followed him in 1934. Peres was one of the founders of Kibbutz Alumot. In 1941, he was elected Secretary of Hanoar Haoved Vehalomed, a Labor Zionist youth movement, and in 1944 returned to Alumot, where he worked as a dairy farmer, shepherd, and kibbutz secretary. At age 20, he was elected to the Working and Learning Youth national secretariat, where he was only one of two Mapai party supporters, out of the 12 members. Three years later, he took

pants were sentenced to two weeks in prison, and as the leader, Peres was also heavily fined. All of Peres’s relatives who remained in Wiszniew were murdered during the Holocaust, many of them (including Rabbi Meltzer) burned alive in the town’s shul. In 1945, Peres married Sonya Gelman, who preferred to remain outside the public eye. They had three children. Sonya Peres was unable to attend Shimon’s 2007 presidential inauguration ceremony due to ill health. She died on January 20, 2011, at age 87. Peres won the 1994 Nobel Peace Prize for his work in reaching an interim peace agreement with the Palestinians. As president, a largely ceremonial office, he cultivated an image as the country’s elder statesman and became a popular fixture at international conferences like the World Economic Forum in Davos. Peres remained active since completing his seven-year term as president in 2014, and was one of the country’s most popular public figures. He often hosted public events at his peace center, bringing together Arabs and Jews in efforts to promote peace and coexistence. (Yeshiva World News)

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Israel’s Population At Nearly 8.6 Million BY LIDAR GRAVÉ-LAZI As Israel prepares to ring in the Jewish New Year, the Central Bureau of Statistics released a report on Tuesday estimating its population on the eve of Rosh Hashanah at 8.585 million. According to the annual report, there are 6.419 million Jewish residents—74.8 percent of the total population—and the Arab Israeli population stands at 1.786 million, or 20.8% of the country’s inhabitants. The remaining 4.4%, approximately 380,000 people, are nonArab Christians or people of other religions, as well as those with no

in 2014. Of these children 74% were born to Jewish mothers while 23% were born to Arab mothers. The report also found that the average age of a mother having her first child rose from 25.1 years old in 1994 to 27.6 years old in 2015. Furthermore, in 2015 the average woman in Israel has 3.09 children, compared to 3.08 children in 2014 and 3.8 children in the first half of the 1970s. In breaking these figures down by sector, the findings indicated that Jewish women had an average of 3.13 children in 2015, compared to 3.28 children in the first half of the 1970s,

These ﬁgures indicate a drastic increase since the foundation of the state. religious affiliation categorized as “other.” According to the report, the overall population grew in 2015 by 2%, or 172,000 people, as the Jewish population grew by 1.9%, the Arab population by 2.2%, and the “other” population group increased by 3.8%. The population in Israel is considered young compared to other Western countries. In 2015, 28.3% of the population was under the age of 14, while 11.1% of the population was age 65 or older. Despite this, the aging trend of the population continues to increase as in 2016 the median age stood at 29.8, compared to 27.7 in 2000. The report further indicated that the median age for men in 2015 stood at 28.7 while the median age for women stood at 30.9. According to the statistics there are 983 men for every 1,000 women living in Israel, an upward trend from 974 men for every 1,000 women in 1995. The report also indicated that among the Jewish population men and women are marrying at a later age. In 2014, 62.7% of men and 45.8% of women ages 25–29 were single, compared to 54% of men and 33.3% of women who were single in 2000. In contrast, among the Muslim population, in 2012 47.1% of men and 19.4% of women ages 25–29 were single, compared to 35.7% of men and 23.2% of women in 2000. In 2014, the report found that 50,797 couples were married, of which 73% were Jewish couples and 23% were Muslim couples—among the highest marriage rates in the OECD. In contrast, 14,430 couples divorced during this year; 79% were Jewish couples and 15% were Muslim. In 2015, 178,723 children were born—1.3% more than were born

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while Muslim women had 3.32 children on average in 2015, compared to 8.47 children during the first half of the 1970s. In 2015, 27,908 people made aliyah, an increase of 16% compared to 2014, and a rate of 3.3 olim for every 1,000 residents, the report found. Of the majority of new olim, 6,886 were from Ukraine, 6,632 from Russia, 6,628 from France, and 2,451 from the United States. The average age of a new immigrant in 2015 stood at 32.9 years old. As in previous years, there were more women making aliyah—927 men for every 1,000 women. The report also noted that at the end of 2015, approximately three-quarters of the Jews in Israel were Sabras—born in the country— and more than half were at least second-generation natives. These figures indicate a drastic increase since the foundation of the state in 1948, when there were 806,000 Israelis, of whom 35% were native-born. The report also indicated that some 34.1% of Israelis are of European-American origin, while 13.5% are from Africa and 10.1% are from Asia. Some 40% of the total population of Israel, and roughly half of the Jewish population, lives in the Center of the country, while nearly 60% of the Arab population lives in the North. In 2015, the population in the Jerusalem district grew by some 2.3% to comprise 12.5% of the total population, 11.1% of which are Jewish and 19.1% Arab. However, the highest growth rate recorded was in Judea and Samaria, standing at some 4.1%. In comparison, the population of the Tel-Aviv metropolitan area grew by only 1.4% to comprise 16.2% of the total population, of which 20.1% are Jewish and 1.1% Arab. (JPost.com)

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The “great debate” is over, and the way I see it, Donald Trump was on the defensive most of the time. Although not his usual obnoxious self, he just kept saying empty, general criticisms like the fact that Hillary doesn’t have the stamina, without giving substantial examples. Hillary’s facial expressions showed her to be condescending and humoring Donald. Most of the commentators gave it a draw—both candidates did well at different times in the debate. One mistake on Donald’s part was that he didn’t take advantage of certain opportunities to ask her speciﬁc questions and take her to task on these issues. The moderator, Lester Holt, favored Hillary, omitting the most important questions about her e-mails, Benghazi, and the Clinton Foundation. He questioned Donald on his tax returns and allowed Hillary to go at him, but Donald answered well, saying that when she releases her e-mails, he will release his tax returns. Donald still talks too much about himself, his success, and how smart he is. But in my opinion, he is still a better choice than Hillary and her liberal agenda. I’m realistic though, and it scares me that Donald may encounter total chaos if he is elected. If he wins, will we have chaos in objection to his victory, with an increase in crime and terror, as we have been seeing? What will the transitional period look like while Obama is still in ofﬁce if riots escalate and terror increases in response to Donald’s victory?

School News Shevach Enjoys Smooth Sailing. Shevach High School faculty and students “cruised” into the new school year with an inspiring and invigorating event on Thursday, September 25. In line with the G.O. theme of “The Great Outdoors,” Shevach High School sailed on the Skyline Princess, a three-level luxury liner docked at the World’s Fair Marina in Flushing. Upon boarding the boat, everyone was treated to snacks and drinks in the elegant dining room of the cruise ship. Following the muffins and cookies, the girls were divided into nine workshops led by Shevach’s outstanding faculty. The topic of these thought-provoking sessions was Yonah HaNavi’s self-description of “Ivri Anochi.” An analysis of the word “Ivri,” as in the Torah’s portrayal of Avraham Avinu and his descendants, focused on setting standards for oneself, even if those standards are not the most popular ones at the time. The teachers and students discussed tactics and shared personal stories of standing up for what they know to be right, even when it means not following the “herd mentality” and succumbing to peer pressure in life. That kind of strength of character develops a feeling of pride in oneself and overall Jewish pride. One mechaneches shared a story describing her experience of standing up for her beliefs. She was in a

Baking at BYQ

In comparison, Binyamin Netanyahu spoke strongly last week at the UN about the “excessive bias against Israel,” telling the General Assembly to “lay down your arms, the war against Israel at the UN is over.” He called UNESCO a circus and the UN a farce. As we prepare for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur we need to daven well for strength and emunah to be able to weather the storms ahead. I wish all of you, my readers, a good year ﬁlled with berachah, hatzlachah, and health.

college class with many Jewish students, and the professor mentioned something that denied Hashem. The Shevach teacher (then a student) looked around the room to see if anyone would say something, but no one did. She then took it upon herself to raise her hand and say she does not believe in what the professor said. After standing up for her beliefs, she recalled how she felt proud that she had done something to honor Hashem, even though it

was hard for her and made her feel different. After the uplifting workshops, the girls split into groups to play waterthemed Pictionary and take full advantage of the dance floor on the third level of the ship. Following the fun and games, the girls had a chance to eat lunch and enjoy the beautiful scenery of the Long Island Sound from the various decks and windows of the cruise ship. The students and faculty all enjoyed a beautiful day which was the perfect combination of inspiration and fun. Kudos to Mrs. Devorah Kovitz, Shevach’s educational administrator, whose untiring efforts always produce innovative ideas that are both fun and inspiring. She was assisted by her capable G.O. heads: Elky Kasirer, Atara Nat, Ahuva Portnoy, and Tikveh Ney. BYQ Early Childhood Center: Learning to Bake and Baking to Learn. Walk into the halls of Bais Yaakov of Queens and you will smell delectable aromas of yom tov wafting out of the classrooms of BYQ’s Early Childhood Center. Baking is an important part of the curriculum since it encompasses so many important content areas. This time of the year finds the young bakers shaping round challahs and baking moist honey cupcakes and apple crumble. Although school has just begun, the children enthusiastically roll up their sleeves, wash up, and get to work. They work in small groups with a teacher who guides them and asks questions to promote higher-level thinking. The first step is learning to follow a recipe. The Pre-K bakers are each given a card with a single step of the recipe to follow. This helps the

children focus on the print. The pre-1A children work to follow a complete recipe written in large primary print along with pictures of each ingredient. Children are excited to use their math and literacy skills to read the recipe and figure out the ingredients and quantities. As children bake, they experience, firsthand, important scientific principles that they will learn more formally as they get older. They learn to distinguish between wet and dry ingredients as well as similar-looking ingredients with different textures. As they mix and knead, they see how ingredients combine when mixed together and watch them transform throughout the cooking process. Baking not only exercises children’s minds but it also gives children’s fine and gross muscles a real workout. Measuring ingredients, cracking eggs, stirring batter, and kneading dough are activities that use important muscles and develop handeye coordination. Children also learn that working together can produce something wonderful. Everyone is an important part of the group and every child’s contribution is vital, whether it’s cracking an egg or adding a teaspoon of vanilla. The real message of baking together is that just as in a recipe, different and unique ingredients come together to make something delicious, so too, they are the special and unique ingredients that make up a wonderful group of children. BYQ First Grade: Shofros and Kolos. In preparation of Rosh Hashanah, the first-graders at BYQ are learning about the shofar. The girls learned why we use the horn of a ram, Akei-

das Yitzchak, the different sounds, and the 100 kolos we will hear each day. To help them understand about the types and sounds of shofros, Rabbi Gewirtz visited each classroom, bringing shofar-blowing right next to all the talmidos. The girls were awestruck to observe Rabbi Gewirtz blow the shofar with such feeling. The moros are helping them integrate the sounds they heard from Rabbi Gewirtz’s demonstration with the meaning of the shofar in shul.

New Playground Opens In Lawrence

Upcoming Events 26th Annual Shiur in Memory of Mrs. Sora Gold, a’h, by noted mechaneches Rebbetzin Ruthy Assaf. Sunday, October 9, 8:00 p.m. at Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim, 76-01 147th Street in Kew Gardens Hills. For women only. Suggested donations to Bikur Cholim of Queens. Chanita Teitz is a real-estate broker at Astor Brokerage in Kew Gardens Hills, serving the entire Queens vicinity. For all your real-estate needs, call her at 718-263-4500 or e-mail chanita@astorbrokerage.com.

On Sunday, September 25, Senator Todd Kaminsky joined with community members, Superintendent Gary Schall, and other ofﬁcials from the Lawrence Public Schools to celebrate the ofﬁcial grand opening of the new Broadway Campus Playground. A grant obtained by Senator Kaminsky helped pay for the playground.

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The New Hostess Experience A red carpet stretches across a Boro Park street, signaling the arrival of class and royalty—Hostess International’s stunning remodeled showroom. The spectacular reopening celebration on September 18 is heralded by a ribbon-cutting ceremony, starring Hostess’s uniquely talented owner, Mrs. Leah Goldstein.

Walking up the red carpet was just the beginning. Imagine walking through the doors and being serenaded by two string players seated against a dreamlike “badeken” backdrop. The muted purple-and-white lighting lends a surreal air to the atmosphere and you easily visualize a radiant kallah seated on the ornate, Victorian-style chair, ﬂanked by breathtaking ﬂoral arrangements on stands.

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A waiter appearing at your side with an offer of choice gourmet hors d’oeuvres jolts you back to reality. With the sweet taste of mouthwatering pastries still lingering on your palate, you stroll through the beautifully reorganized gift area that echoes a state-of-the-art Saks Fifth Avenue showroom. You instantly delight in noting that Hostess’s already extensive line has expanded to include many new names, such as Michael Aram, Annie Glass, Jonathan Adler, Michael Wainwright, Rogaska crystals, and much more. The other end of the showroom features a refrigerated wall with a vast array of fresh flowers for simchos. The fabulous choices and colors beckon and you wistfully wish you had the wherewithal to create a bouquet on your own. But wait, you can! By joining a group of other women in a flower-arranging class with one of the Hostess’s experts, you can emerge with your own artistically arranged bouquet. Just in time for yom tov, Hostess has arranged a magnificently set yom tov table, complete with tablecloth, dishes, chargers, and serving pieces, allowing you to envision how you can enhance your own yom tov table. In addition, the store now boasts an event consulting area where you can avail yourself of professional advice in how to create and book your own magnificent events. Not to despair if you missed the reopening. There’s still plenty to see and do—not to mention taking

advantage of Hostess’s unique signature gift presentations. Whether you wish to honor someone, lift the spirits of a sick friend, express your appreciation, or just convey your heartfelt love, nothing beats Hostess International’s gift selection or giving the Hostess way; Hostess has redefined the art of gift-giving. Don’t deny yourself or deprive your loved ones of the one-of-a-kind unique experience, in taste, luxury, and service.

Summer 2016 With Project Extreme Project Extreme is tremendously thankful to summer 2016 sponsors, program supporters, and loving staff for allowing them to complete another highly successful summer. Camp Extreme for Boys took place this year during the month of July in the Canadian Rockies, while Camp Extreme for Girls was held in August on the beautiful and serene Midwest campus. The Project Extreme 2016 summer programs were successful for a myriad of reasons. Each one of the therapeutic programs was led by the director and founder, Rabbi A.Y. Weinberg. Simcha Lebowicz, LMSW, Project Extreme’s clinical director, attended both programs as well. Each program was aided by boys’ and girls’ division-head counselors Laizer Shtundel and Leora Reichenberg, as well as 13–17 additional coun-

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Community News Continued from Page 138 selors and staff members who were required to attend a six-day intensive training session prior to the program. Additional staff meetings took place every morning and provided appropriate guidance and supervision. Each program boasted a 1:1 staff to participant ratio. The 2016 boys’ program was diverse in that many participants originated from New York, while others traveled in from Israel, England, and Australia. The girls’ division included participants from Brooklyn, Lakewood, Detroit, Miami, and Providence. Each Camp Extreme day was structured and inclusive of the following: Learning groups, known in Camp Extreme as QTIPS—questions, thoughts, ideas, and perceptions, were an opportunity for campers to individually learn a topic of their choosing. Campers were paired with staff and had the option to discuss Jewish philosophy and values, specific mitzvos, or even focus on their kriah (Hebrew reading) skills. Campers had full privileges to select their topic and explore it at their desired level. Questions were encouraged and applauded. High-ropes courses, horseback riding, white-water rafting, and more filled the bulk of each day. Through challenging and teambuilding activities, the group further developed their personal connection and sense of belonging within the Camp

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Extreme culture. These exhilarating activities increased the camaraderie in the Project Extreme programs and enabled the participants to work together towards a mutual goal. Strong group dynamics were apparent and essential in allowing each participant to feel comfortable, safe, and welcome. Processing took place after each main activity or as needed throughout the day. For example, a regular camp activity such as swimming could cause much anxiety and stress for those with a poor body image; basketball and team sports can be a stress for those who feel they are always picked last. Each activity in Camp Extreme was digested by the group in order to teach healthy life tools and positive ways to overcome stressful or uncomfortable situations. Processing was also done with situations that affect the group such as instances of bullying, theft, or lying. Group sessions took place around a serene evening camp fire. The darkness freed participants from their inhibitions and allowed them to talk openly and publicly about their feelings. Session topics included identifying methods for positive change, why bad things happen to good people, making Shabbos meaningful and relevant, Torah basics, and overcoming past trauma. Technology often prevents connecting with people in meaningful ways. For this reason, cell phones, internet, video devices, and access to

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all social media were banned during the Project Extreme programs. The lack of technology was a significant change for the participants; however, they relearned how to interact with their peers and live in the present. Additional lifestyle changes included early wakeup and a strict lights-out time. This sleep-schedule change was significant for many, but a reset of the group’s internal clock was integral to the participants’ growth. Challenges that some dealt with in the beginning of the program gradually improved over the summer and it was wonderful to see how each camper enjoyed, got along well with the other participants and staff, cooperated, and was in positive spirits. This was never taken for granted. Each participant struggled with individual conflicts and pain. Not every minute was smooth, and not every camper was agreeable at every moment, but both groups have a mutual camaraderie in that Camp Extreme 2016 was a place for growth, security, and long-term friendship. Project Extreme is now creating the 2016–2017 program calendar! Before the summer 2017 therapeutic programs begin, Project Extreme will host quarterly holiday programs, monthly weekend retreats, weekly evening events, crisis and guidance hotline, and continue Miryam’s House, a transitional living shelter for young women. For more information about Project Extreme’s lifesaving programs, including the upcoming girls’ divi-

sion Sukkos program, please visit www.projectextreme.org, call 516-6123922, or e-mail info@projectextreme. org.

YU Raises $6 Million In 24 Hours, Surpassing Goal On September 21, Yeshiva University successfully concluded its ﬁrst-ever Day of Giving, shattering the original $5 million goal and raising $6,010,870 from over 2,700 donors in just 24 hours with the help of hundreds of students, alumni, faculty, staff, and community volunteers. The $6 million raised will be used to help maintain scholarships, community engagement, student life, career development, and many other activities that support the university’s mission. “The success of the campaign shows that YU is here, alive, well, and ready for the future,” said Elliot Gibber, national chair of the YU Annual Fund. “The outpouring of support by people who love and respect YU was truly astounding,” said Alan Secter, executive director of annual giving and major gifts and one of the primary organizers of the campaign. “But even more important than the funds raised was the solidiﬁcation of the sense of connection and community that is so important to YU’s continued success.” The campaign’s theme, “I Am YU,” focused on the multiple people and communities impacted by YU, and included a social-media component—highlighted by a video narrated by Lin-Manuel Miranda, Broadway star, Pulitzer Prize winner, and a 2009 YU honorary degree recipient.

Students from Stern College for Women in the main call center during YU’s Day of Giving

YU staff, students, and donors celebrate the university’s successful Day of Giving campaign

“I am inspired by the ability of the Yeshiva University community to unify around the common goal of ensuring the Jewish future,” said President Richard M. Joel. “As the ﬂagship of the Modern Orthodoxy strengthens, the entire community grows even stronger than it already is.” All contributions made on the Day of Giving were quadrupled, thanks to matching funds provided by a group of generous YU supporters, including Debbie and Elliot Gibber, Gloria and Harvey Kaylie, Debbie and Howard Jonas, Vivian and Henry Rosenberg, Rabbi Nathan E. Zemel, Lee Samson, Drs. Monique and Mordecai Katz, Mindy and Ira Mitzner, Zahava and Moshael Straus, Rina and Dr. Henry Kressel, Hadassah and Marvin Bienenfeld, Naomi Azrieli, Lotte and Ludwig Bravmann, Debbie and Daniel Schwartz, Mark and Jane Wilf, Drs. Jack M. and Gitta Nagel, Zygmunt and Audrey Wilf, Ruth and Irwin Shapiro, Judy and Morry Weiss, Marjorie Diener Blenden, Rose and Philip Friedman, Barbara and Michael M. Gamson, Malki and J. Philip Rosen, Shira and Dr. Daniel Yoshor, and Linda and Michael Jesselson. To support Yeshiva University, please visit www.yu.edu/support.

Tuning In To Torah TV During the last several years, six hours a week of basic Torah ideology has gone out every week through three Cablevision TV stations. Most of Nassau County and all of Queens are covered. Basic concepts and their sources from Torah are bought down.

It is educational, and call-ins are encouraged. A wide variety of people listen, including nonafﬁliated Jews and gentiles. For example: Why was man born with the procreation urge, and not with fur so as not to need clothing? The answer given: to test and elevate us—whether we show gratitude and awareness of Hashem. Other questions involve eating kosher and giving food to the needy, giving tithes, and observing fasts. Most programs deal with the ideology based on the traditional teachings as transmitted by the Slabodka Yeshiva and were written by A. Miller, zt’l. All are invited to tune in. Queens: Wednesdays at 5:00 p.m. Channel 79; Thursdays at l0:00 p.m. Channel 56. Nassau: Sundays at 8:00 p.m. Channel 20; Sundays 9:00 p.m. Channel 18–Verizon, Sundays 10:00 p.m. Channel 40. Airing through December 31.

Team Daniella To Run Marathon In Memory Of Daniella Moffson In January 2016, tragedy struck our community when Daniella Moffson, a 21-year-old student at Barnard, was killed in a bus crash in Honduras along with two other students. The group was there on a volunteer mission when their bus fell down a ravine. They were on their way to the airport to go home after a week of providing medical care to poor communities. The tragedy left everyone in complete shock.

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Community News Continued from Page 141 Since then, Daniella’s friends have been searching for ways to honor her memory. Akiva Blumenthal, of Teaneck, NJ, and Rebecca Cherson, of Woodmere, NY, are two such individuals. They both know about and share Daniella’s love for Chai Lifeline, an organization that helps children and families deal with the emotional, physical, and ﬁnancial stress of childhood illness. Daniella was a counselor at Camp Simcha, Chai Lifeline’s summer camp, and volunteering for the organization was a true passion of hers. Last January, Akiva and Rebecca both participated in the Miami Marathon with Team Lifeline, raising awareness and funds for Chai Lifeline. This year, Akiva and Rebecca have created Team Daniella that will participate with Team Lifeline in the Miami Marathon on January 29, 2017. Anyone and everyone is welcome to join the team, and their goal is to raise $100,000 for the children of Chai Lifeline. As Akiva said, “Daniella lived for

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Camp Simcha and Chai Lifeline. We decided to create this team to promote the incredible acts of chesed and kindness Chai Lifeline provides, all in Daniella’s name.” To join Team Daniella or to learn more about Team Lifeline, please visit www.teamlifeline.org. Team Lifeline participates in the NYC Marathon, Rock ’n’ Roll Las Vegas Marathon, Miami Marathon, and America’s Most Beautiful Bike Ride in Lake Tahoe.

R’ Ezra Schwartz, R’ Dovid Miller To Deliver YU Teshuva Lectures Rabbi Ezra Schwartz, rosh yeshiva and associate director of the semichah program at the Yeshiva University-afﬁliated Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary (RIETS) and Rabbi Dovid Miller, rosh yeshiva at RIETS, will be the featured speakers at the 32nd Annual Hausman/Stern Kinus Teshuva Lectures. The lectures, given between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, will take place in Jerusalem and New York City on Sunday, October 9 and Monday, October 10 respectively.

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Rabbi Schwartz will discuss “The Link Between Teshuvah and Teﬁllah” at the Jacob and Dreizel Glueck Beit Midrash, 515 West 185th Street, New York, NY at 8:00 p.m. on Monday, October 10, following Ma’ariv. The shiur will be part of YU’s annual Torahthon, during which students immerse themselves in 18 intense, consecutive hours of learning and shiurim from renowned Torah scholars. This year’s learning will be in the memory of Marcos Katz, a great benefactor of YU and RIETS. Rabbi Miller, the Benjamin and Charlotte Gottesfeld Chair in Talmud and director of the Caroline and Joseph S. Gruss Institute, will discuss paradigms of spiritual perception at the Heichal Azriel Beit Midrash on YU’s Israel Campus, 40 Duvdevani Street in Bayit Vegan, Jerusalem at 8:15 p.m. on Sunday, October 9. The lectures are open to both men and women and will be webcast live at YUTorah.org. Audio recordings will be available there afterward. Light refreshments will be served at both events. For more information on the lectures, parking, or directions please contact Rabbi

Zev Goldberg at prorabbinics@yu.edu or call 646-592-4027. The Hausman/Stern Kinus Teshuva lecture series was established by philanthropist Judy Hausman and the late Gerson Hausman, supporters of YU and RIETS, to honor the memory of Elias J. and Mary Stern and Moshe and Chava Hausman.

U.S. State Department Issues Message For Uman Visitors The U.S. Embassy in Ukraine has published the following message for Americans traveling to Uman for Rosh Hashanah. Welcome to Ukraine! In order to ensure a safe and enjoyable holiday season in Uman, we ask that you take the following precautions: Defer all travel to the Crimean Peninsula and the eastern regions of Donetsk and Luhansk. Russia-backed separatists continue to control areas in the Donetsk and Luhansk Oblasts, establishing illegal checkpoints and threatening, detaining, and kidnapping individuals, including U.S. citizens, for hours or days. Violent clashes between the Russia-backed separatists and Ukrainian forces have resulted in thousands of injuries and deaths, with civilian deaths being reported on a regular basis. Exercise situational awareness and maintain a low proﬁle to help prevent becoming a victim of crime. According to the Ukrainian government, criminal activity throughout Ukraine is increasing, including a rise in weapons-related crime. Non-violent crimes, such as pickpocketing, cellphone theft, and purse-snatching remain prevalent and constitute a majority of the reported nonviolent crimes. U.S. citizens are targeted for criminal activity when such opportunities present themselves, and criminals have not hesitated to use violence if victims resist. The embassy routinely receives reports of ATM and credit card fraud throughout Ukraine. The embassy recommends against using any ATMs, but if necessary use ATMs situated inside banks. ATMs on the streets and in bars/clubs often have malicious code installed to steal your information. With regards to credit cards, the embassy recommends exercising extreme caution when using credit cards. Try to use cash wherever possible to avoid credit card and ATM card compromise. Know where your passport is at all times. If your passport is lost or stolen, you will need to come to the embassy in Kyiv to apply for a replacement, which will cost $135. As soon as you become aware of the fact your passport has been lost or stolen, please contact the U.S. Embassy’s American Citizen Services Unit at +38(044)521-5566 to report the incident and discuss next steps for obtaining a new passport. Enroll in the Department of State’s STEP program. U.S. citizens living or traveling in Ukraine are strongly encouraged to enroll in the Department of State’s Smart Traveler Enrollment Program (STEP) at www.step.state.gov to receive the latest travel updates and to obtain updated information on security within Ukraine. By enrolling, U.S. citizens make it easier for the Embassy to contact them in case of emergency.

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