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REMEMBERING AN INCREDIBLE LIFE
BOB MOSES
PRESIDENT & FOUNDER, THE ALGEBRA PROJECT, INC.
a brief biography Bob Moses was born and raised in Harlem, NY, where he attended public schools. He received a B.A. in Philosophy from Hamilton College in 1956, and received an M.A. in Philosophy from Harvard University in 1957. Moses directed the Student Non-Violent Coordinating Committee’s Mississippi Voter Registration Project from 19611964; was co-Director of the Council of Federated Organizations 1962-1964, and was a lead organizer for the 1964 Mississippi “Freedom” Summer Project, parachuting Mississippi Freedom Democratic Party to 1964 National Democratic Convention in Atlantic City. Moses taught mathematics at the Samé School in Tanzania, East Africa from 1969 – 1976, when he returned to the United States and re-entered the doctoral program in Philosophy at Harvard. A MacArthur Foundation Fellow 19821987, he used his fellowship to begin the Algebra Project, which uses mathematics as organizing tool for quality education for all children in America. With support of the National Science Foundation the Algebra Project works with middle and high school students who previously performed in the lowest quartile on standardized exams, proposing that they attain a high school math benchmark: graduate on time in four years, ready to do college math for college credit.
Moses is co-author with Charles E. Cobb, Jr., of the book Radical Equations—Civil Rights from Mississippi to the Algebra Project (Beacon Press, 2001); and coeditor with Theresa Perry, et al., of Quality Education as a Constitutional Rightcreating a grassroots movement to transform public schools (Beacon, 2010). Moses was the Distinguished Visitor for the Center for African American Studies at Princeton University 2011-2012, and has been an adjunct lecturer at NYU School of Law from 2012 – 2016. He has served on the Education Advisory Committee of the Mathematical Sciences Research Institute from 2004 to the present. In May 2016, the University of North Carolina press published Dr. Laura Visser-Maessen’s book, Robert Parris Moses – a life in civil rights and leadership at the grassroots. He has received numerous honorary doctorate degrees, has delivered keynote speeches and workshops nationwide, and has served as principal investigator on eight National Science Foundation mathematics education research awards to date.
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“Leadership is the capacity to influence others through inspiration motivated by passion, generated by vision, produced by a conviction, ignited by a purpose.” – Dr. Myles Munroe, The Spirit of Leadership
Everyone has the capacity to be a leader but many do not make the choice to be one. Most don’t know how, some have been told that they couldn’t, but the biggest issue is that many people don’t believe that they are leaders. It takes a certain type of person to unlock the door that allows someone to go from not believing that they are a leader to believing. That person for me was Dr. Moses. When I met Dr. Moses, I was a middle school student with little interest in school other than the people and the few subjects that I enjoyed. I was fortunate to be one of the participants in the first group of the Algebra Project in Jackson. I didn’t know much about Dr. Moses and his work, but time gave me more insight and great appreciation. There are many awesome memories from being in Dr. Moses’s presence, but one I specifically remember is the day he challenged me. He had taken me and another student to get something to eat. As we sat there, he asked me questions about why I was so reserved in the class and didn’t put forth more initiative. I shared with him that I really never thought about it. With the passing of my dad and other things taking place around me, I just didn’t see a need to or know how to “do more”. Dr. Moses told me that he could see that I was a natural leader with influence among my classmates, and he want to see me use it more. Telling me that once I step up, so will the others in the class. So, he gave me a problem to solve with the graphing calculator. I worked on it for a few days, showed him my solution and presented it to the class. My efforts sparked the interest of another young lady in the class who wanted to do what I was doing, and the story goes on from there. Our work and experiences went beyond the classroom to California, Cambridge, The National Board of Education in Washington D.C. and many places in between. My gratitude for who Dr. Moses has been in my life all these years is because of the foundation of leadership that was set. For the first time in a long time I’ve cried heavy tears from the news of an incredible life that’s no longer with us. The humbling thing is I am not sad because I respect God’s timing. I cried because I am beyond grateful for him gifting me a portion of his life. Now that’s a true gift. He also allowed me, James King, to be a portion of his legacy.
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Felix Anderson is a trusted leadership advisor, business coach, spiritual thought leader, and founder of the "Wake Your Successful Self Up" movement, reaching thousands globally each year.
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It's me, Felix, and my Godgiven purpose is to help leaders like you level-up their faith, language, and strategy to reach their personal and professional goals. I partner with purpose-driven professionals who have a vision but need clarity on how to execute a plan. I speak the truth, and I expect results.
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It’s mid-year! We encourage you to look at where you are and where you decided to be at the beginning of the year, and truly celebrate the goals that you set, take responsibility to stay on track, and simply be grateful for it all. As we honor great men and share love across many platforms, we charge you to value the gift of time and embrace the journey of significance. IN THIS ISSUE OF LOVE, MARRIAGE & PARTNERSHIP THE REVIEW, be inspired to use a few new things, get organized, or take your love experience to a new level of being, giving and having. COUPLES IN PARTNERSHIP This feature is the heart of the publication, so become acquainted with phenomenal couples from all over that are building businesses and serving their communities through a loving partnership. DATE NIGHT IDEAS Do more than flirt with the idea of Date Nights, make a commitment. These sweet notions will spark dedication for that much desired QT whether you’re single, just having fun, or in a committed relationship. ON THE LOOKOUT Consider yourself well informed of this set of business owners and public figures that are impacting their respective fields with grace, style and so much more. The views expressed by featured individuals are independent of LMP and its publishers.
LOVE, MARRIAGE & PARTNERSHIP | THE REVIEW is a monthly publication sponsored by MR & MRS KING that focuses on married couples that are in partnership with each other through service and/or business to their communities and abroad. The goal of the LMP | THE REVIEW is to inspire readers to look at the essence of partnership in marriage as shared by exemplary couples, ultimately moving readers to actively define, develop, and devote to their purpose as a couple.
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The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. - Oprah Winfrey
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These words may have very little meaning without context. Add to them the animated and joyful expressions of a one-year-old boy sitting in his father’s lap pretending to go to sleep, wake up and celebrate at his father’s command. To witness this routine over the course of several years was more than happenstance or even quality time. It has been a lesson of encouragement and expectation. Life is captivating with all its joys and challenges, and we respond to it with our ambitions, comfort, and in some instances surrender. Over time, we learn that some of our ambitions are self-seeking, our comforts last too long, and our surrenders yielded to the wrong will. So what do we do? We take note of the little boy responding to his father’s command. Watching the sweet little boy rest his head in his father’s chest when he pretended to go to sleep shows that he felt safe. The emotional or mental security that we may need is secondary compared to the safety we have in God. It may be that we want to feel safe enough in a relationship to trust the person with our vulnerability, to confide in an advisor about our financial situation, or to communicate with family about matters regarding the passing of a loved one. Whatever storm we face we must employ our faith, knowing that everything works for the good of those that love Him. Once we’ve rested in the safety that we have and the assurance that everything will work out in the end, there is an awareness that we wake up to. That awareness is who we are in God. Our governing body is our source for everything. Not only does God give us purpose, He also gives us the power and authority to complete it and have true fulfillment while doing so. Understanding our potential affects our capacity to believe and to be productive. There is an entity that seeks and provokes our demise, but it has no authority except what we give it. If not careful we begin to vent, to take counsel from and seek validation from those that have no power or authority. Like the little boy, we wake up with the grace of knowing that we have the discernment and wisdom to move forward in our day. Celebrate everything. Some people may question this or find it foolish, but when we are in our place of knowing, we understand that it is our gratitude and joyful expectation of the desired end that impacts everything. We celebrate every small victory and major setback, because it is all designed to work in our favor, it is all part of a predestined end. No matter what your circumstance is or what challenge you may be facing, throw your hands up and give a shout of victory. Today is a day of celebration.
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Dismiss every misconception that you have about dating, Be open-minded, and expect to have fun! Who says that Dating has to be anything other than what you want it to be? No oneit’s up to you how creative you want your predetermined moment of eminence to be! It is also important to note that Dating is for anyone: married, engaged, and yes, SINGLE.
TAKE A RANDOM DAY TRIP A date night can be a daytime adventure. You likely have many options depending on where you live in the world. You also have many Facebook groups and options for looking up interesting day trips. Find something out of your comfort zone and go exploring. DIY PAINT NIGHT Buy some canvases and paints, look up a painting tutorial on YouTube, and paint at home together for your at home date night! It doesn’t matter if you’re not artistic or your painting comes out looking nothing like the original, just being creative can be so fun and relaxing.
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FOOD TRUCK ROUNDUPS The thing that I love about food truck roundups is that you can get a variety of different foods and try them all. There's also no arguing over where to go and whose cravings are the most important. So even though you're celebrating your husband, you can still get something that you want to eat as well. There is a food truck to fit both of your dinner desires. COMEDY SHOW Research has shown that couples who laugh together are happier across the board. It seems obvious when I type it all out. Some of our most memorable date nights have been ones when I remember laughing together. Whether it was at a comedy routine, over a movie or just sharing stories and jokes with each other. We’ve loved late night dates to The Improvables, right here in the community. We also loved going to Wiseguys and love that they have a two for one ticket deal online to make it a cheaper price.
My favorite things in life don't cost any money. It's really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time. - Steve Jobs
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Right. Perhaps one of the things that consumes much of your time, thoughts, and feelings. It is a system of measure for your beliefs. You demand it, fight for it, and try to understand the hurt that comes from its abuse or disregard. When your view of it is recognized and valued, you celebrate the victory as if you are instituting a holiday. Question: What happens when you focus on who is right instead of what is right? More importantly, how much time have you spent on arguing about who is right, and not just the physical dialog but the mental and emotional dialog that you have with yourself. The result is usually a spiral of frustration that takes a while, if ever, to reach a solution. It becomes this backand-forth exchange, pulling past experiences or supposed instances to make an individual view more valid. The fact is you are both right. As valuable as your thoughts are, they only become impactful when they come into agreement with others with a focus towards something progressive. Time is something that we will never get again. Learn not to spend it arguing about who is right. Invest your time deciding on what is right, it is so much more valuable. If this discipline is foreign to you or if this is an area that you struggle with, consider these habits.
Start with the mindset that it’s all about “WE” and never about “me”. “WE WON” is always better than “i won”. Be willing to listen without your personal bias. Listening is hearing the other person along with their intentions and what they expect/need from you. Measure what is right by what is needed to reach the goal. Arguing about who is right has a limited view compared to the big picture. It’s the difference between portrait mode, landscape and an aerial view. Have a goal! Goals give a sense of direction and purpose. The discipline to work together towards a shared vision greatly enhances relationships. Find the glue to your communication. This will likely be found in the mutual desire to achieve the goal and the sense of fulfillment from the small successes gained along the way. Stop playing defense. The play is to move forward and get points on the board. Adamantly resting on being right stops the play and often moves you backwards. Connect by physically touching. This simple gesture clears the air of communication.
VISION IS THE ART OF SEEING WHAT IS INVISIBLE TO OTHERS.
- Jonathan Swift
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Creativity is like a wildfire - it can start as a small spark but has the capacity to spread into every area of your life and others! If you’ve been in a stale place for any length of time, we encourage you to get moving. May we suggest something aggressive yet fun to fire up some intrinsic motivation that we believe will ultimately push you towards the realization of a truly worthy ideal. Set your mind on creating 30 New Things within a specific timeframe. These things can be 30 new outfits/hairstyles, craft projects, letters to a loved one, implementations of an investment strategy, live videos or food dishes. YOU DECIDE! Check out the guidelines below to get yourself creatively moving towards action and peace.
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Determine what things you will HAVE to do daily. Also identify what things you’ll have to give up or go without doing. The idea behind #30NewThings is implementation, and not perfection. You want to spark your curiosity and creativity by actively engaging in something new and fun. Do not become so focused on accurate execution, and leave room for spontaneity and uniqueness. Make a decision to get moving towards something new; in this case, 30 new things! happy adventures
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For over 20 years Michael & Marlene Stotts have travelled extensively teaching the fundamentals of financial planning rooted in biblical principles. As certified Financial Educators and Investors, thier mission is to rid the Body of Christ of Financial Illiteracy, using
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As former division I athleles, they understand that it takes discipline to achieve any goal, including the goal of a successful marriage. They have been married for 30 years and work along side of each other to fulfill their destiny and purpose in life.
They are both proud graduates of Jackson State University and Howard University. Marlene holds a Bachelors in Computer Science and Master’s in Business Administration whereas Michael holds both a Bachelors and Masters in Computer Science.
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WHAT IS THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE TO YOU? Our meaning of marriage aligns with the Bible’s position on marriage. The Bible defines marriage as a Covenant between a man and a woman. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24. The marriage ceremony is designed to be a outward demonstration of a couple’s commitment to a covenant relationship. This demonstrates that both husband and wife see marriage as more than just a physical and emotional union, but also as a moral and legal commitment. We understand that covenants are for weaknesses, so we celebrate the weaknesses in each other because we know that the other spouse got us covered. WHAT DOES "BECOMING ONE" MEAN TO YOU AND WHAT DO YOU DO TO WORK TOWARDS IT? “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24. Becoming one signifies that at every level of our being, we become wholeheartedly devoted to each other, as to no other. We become Inseparable, together forever, and what we refer to as “joined at the hip”. It is often said about us that we are always together. We believe that that is the reason we have had a harmonious marriage for over 30 years. Many married couples continue to place greater emphasis on ties with parents and family than with the relationship with the new spouse. This is a perversion of God’s original intention of “leaving and cleaving.” Becoming one goes beyond living under the same roof. It includes becoming one in every area: emotionally, physically, spiritually, intellectually, financially, and in every other way, the couple is to become one. WHAT IS THE MOST REWARDING THING THAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED TOGETHER? We have built many homes together, traveled to many parts of the world and retired at a very young age. These accomplishments have been very rewarding. However, one of the most rewarding experiences was the ability to house and take care of our mother for the last 22 years of her life. We ate, laughed and experienced the world together. The Bible commands us to honor our parents, and we saw this as an act of honor which gave us great fulfillment in our daily lives.
HOW DO YOU GROW YOURSELVES WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP? HOW DO YOU GROW THE RELATIONSHIP? Growth in a relationship isn’t something that can be achieved automatically. It is a product of hard work, patience, discipline, and true commitment. It goes beyond being happy and staying together. A relationship can grow if the people in it learn how to work together, take care of each other, and most importantly, value themselves and each other. Most often than not, many relationships fail because they become boring and stagnant. To prevent such a thing from happening in our relationship, we have always worked on improving ourselves first. We had to discover how to become a better person not just for ourselves but for our relationship – because once you are happy with yourself, you become a better partner to your spouse. It is vitally important to listen to and respect other people’s opinions. However, our primary goal in our marriage is to have fun. We grow our relationship by doing things together. We engage in any activity that is both healthy and fulfilling. For instance, we have a movie night once a week if we are not traveling. We go out and enjoy a game of golf or just enjoy the driving range. We love to dance with each other. We believe that one of the most fulfilling activities in a marriage is dancing with each other. We seldom learn something about each other, even when we are sharing these seemingly unromantic moments together. We encourage couples to plan their fun events. If they don’t, they may never happen because life gets busy. Finally, share ideas with each other. Having someone whom you can always talk to is a good learning opportunity and a great way to grow your relationship. We make it a habit to conduct meaningful conversation and not so meaningful conversation. We talk about our interests, experiences, goals and our opinions on different topics. That way we always know what is in each other’s heart. We saw this remarkable phrase in an article that we have patterned our marriage after: “You have to be ready to adjust, adapt and accept. Adjust to situations you don’t like, adapt to changes and accept flaws.”
HOW DO YOU NOT FOCUS ON THE SUBJECTIVE AND RELATIVE STUFF AROUND YOU AND FOCUS ON THE TRUTH? We understand and respect the biblical laws and principles that govern marriage but we also do the practical things that make for a good marriage. You can know all the scriptures pertaining to marriage and disrespect your husband or not love your wife as God instructs and still have hell in your home. It is not what you know but what you practice. We have never taken ourselves, each other, and our marriage too seriously. We never make a molehill into a mountain. Our primary goal is to have fun with each other. We grew up in households that were very dysfunctional. We purposed in our heart to make our home a place of love, peace, serenity and FUN. WHO DO YOU SEE WHEN YOU SEE YOUR SPOUSE? Marlene: I see a man of valor, vision and virtue. In addition to being intelligent, articulate and exceptionally handsome, he has a genuine love for people. He makes it easy to love him. He demands nothing and expects nothing. A true representation of the love of God. Michael: A professional woman who is strong, beautiful, intelligent, passionate, and committed to impacting others financially. Her vision to: “Rid the Body of Christ of Financial Illiteracy” is being lived in her everyday life. She has been anointed, equipped and sent to fulfil this vision. WHAT ARE SOME BENEFITS OF HAVING A SHARED VISION? The primary principle that leads to an advancing life is a vision. A vision defines what you desire God to do in your life. A picture and clear representation of where you intend to go. Therefore, a vision directs your life. In the Bible Joseph had a vision of his future, hence he excelled in life. It is imperative that married couples have a vision for their home. We are instructed in the book of Malachi to write the vision and make it plain. A clear, written and shareable vision. No one will follow you when you are not clear about where you are going not even yourself, and definitely not your spouse. Many couples continue to recycle pain because there is no vision for their home. Every profitable business has a mission or vision statement. We believe that our marriage is the most important business according to Kingdom advancement, therefore a vision serves as our roadmap to achieving our divine destiny.
HOW DO YOU SOLVE PROBLEMS/ BRING SOLUTIONS IN THE RELATIONSHIP? We don’t label anything a “problem”. We look at it as a situation where a resolution is needed to keep harmony in the house. We have always expressed that we believe we were dealt with a winning hand. Some of the issues that tear marriages apart: baby mama drama, ex-wives, ex-husbands, alimony, child support and financial struggles, we did not have to deal with. We always lived in cities where we had very little or no families, so interference was always minimum.
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However, if a situation arises that necessitate a resolution, we implement a few good strategies that have worked for us. 1. We never consult with a single or unmarried couple 2. Choose to walk in love, putting each other first 3. Pay attention to the little things and act like someone who values the relationship 4. Try agreeing with each other decisions and supporting each other 100%
WHAT IS A QUOTE OR SCRIPTURE THAT YOU BOTH USE AS YOU FUNCTION IN PARTNERSHIP? After 30+ years of being married, Amos 3:3 still speaks the loudest and rings more true than ever. “How can two walk together unless they are agreed?” A marriage where two walk separately is not a marriage like God commands. And agreement does not mean we see eye to eye on everything. We often have difference of opinion, however, we always do what is in the best interest of the union and aligns with the vision of God for our marriage. We have always worked in businesses together. We have been in tough industries and working side-by-side for long hours has its joys and its challenges. We could never be where we are if not for walking together with common goals, in one heart, and one mind.
relationship COMMUNICATION JAMES & NATASHA KING IT MAY COME AS A SURPRISE TO SOME THAT MERELY TALKING, THE EXCHANGE OF WORDS AND THOUGHTS BETWEEN TWO OR MORE PEOPLE, DOES NOT EQUATE TO COMMUNICATION - EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION THAT IS.
Consider these seven habits as you establish and/or grow your relationships. LISTEN WITHOUT CONDEMNATION: Whenever you are engaging in a conversation, remember that the other person trusts you enough to share with you with no fear of judgement. Even if you don’t say anything that is viewed as judgmental during the conversation, guard your thoughts against judgement. Not doing so could impact your thoughts, feelings, or actions towards them later on.
AVOID CRAFTINESS: If you find yourself letting a conversation brew well before it actually takes place, where you craft the other person’s responses, you are unnecessarily tampering with your emotions. Avoid being emotionally disturbed and viewing the other person inappropriately because of comments you’ve developed in your own mind. Allow the other person to communicate with you in their own truth. TALK WITHOUT COVETOUSNESS: It is not a comfortable feeling to genuinely engage in a conversation only to be met with words that are dripping with thirst. Refrain from abusing someone’s listening ear with words and thoughts that stem from longing and desiring what someone else has.
USE WORDS WITH NO COATING: At times, you may feel as if you cannot be completely truthful because you fear that you will hurt them. When this happens, you may find yourself sprinkling sugar over your words to avoid telling the whole truth. Coating your words can be misleading for them and restricting for you. There is a way to use your words wisely, and still be completely truthful.
DODGE THE COPOUT: The copout is that opportune, yet evasive moment where you find yourself using phrases like whatever, that’s okay, or I don’t care. The irony is that it is not whatever, it is not okay, and you do care. We often find ourselves using these elementary colloquialisms, not because we don’t feel like talking at that particular time, but because we have not learned how to communicate beyond our feelings. Depending on the value of the relationship, you have three options: say nothing (some comments and behaviors don’t deserve your response), agree to talk at a better time, talk through whatever the problem is.
BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR WORDS: Being that opportunities wrapped in a particular set of circumstances do not present themselves more than once, you must choose your words wisely. Justifying what you say using, “I just have to speak my mind…” is acceptable only when you are choosing to allow your spirit to control your mind. Too often, when we “speak our mind”, we are really speaking from a place where we choose to allow our emotions to control our thoughts.
TAKE CONTROL: Taking control is not about dominating the conversation or dictating the other person’s thoughts or feelings. Honestly, that type of behavior and thinking typically yields an unfavorable outcome. Instead, being responsible and taking control of your thoughts, words, and actions places you in a much more effective position for communicating. Maintaining positivity while truthfully sharing what you think and feel will have a greater impact beyond the conversation.
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Have you ever sat on the back of a 1,000lb animal and pushed through the language barrier to create a flawless performance? My name is Jessica Sales and I’m going to share with you how working with horses radically shifted my mindset, communication, and overall leadership.
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LET’S FIRST ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT IT IS TO RIDE A HORSE. Horses are prey animals. However, they allow us to sit on the most vulnerable spot of their body; their back. This takes an immense amount of trust from your horse. Remember, this is a living animal with a mind of its own. If they want you off, they’ll get you off! Horses are very intuitive animals and possess the ability to sense an elevated heart rate. So at any time if you are nervous or afraid, they can sense that. Their performance will typically shift when they sense “something is wrong”. This is where your confidence as a leader comes into play! You must remain calm, breathe, and make sure you are setting up your partner for success! While you are riding, there are many hand, leg, and verbal cues to communicate to your horse what you want them to do. It is important to be clear about what you are asking of them to again set them up for success. Otherwise, they will not perform to the standard in which you are asking.
By the way, this will happen! Making mistakes is how both horse and rider learn to better their communication with each other. How many of you have experienced frustration in the inability to communicate to your partner what it is you’re trying to convey? I sure have! What I have learned through horseback riding is that it’s not my horse’s fault for not understanding what I want from him. It’s my job as his partner to not get upset with him, but rather find another way to communicate to him in a way that gets through to him and keep trying until we achieve our desired result. Working with horses has taught me to be patient in the midst of resistance and to look for different ways to communicate to support my partner. It has also taught me dedication, focus, and perseverance. This has radically shifted how I operate in friendships and relationships. Creating a seamless performance of synchronicity and synergy with your horse is hard work, but achievable. This also applies in creating a strong healthy relationship with your partner. The question I ask you is, how hard are you willing to work to level up your leadership and communication to improve the relationships around you?
Short- and Long-Term Intentions:
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The people that share your life will do so with either short- or longterm intention. It is important to be able to discern the difference between the two so that you can maintain a peace of mind and communication and relationships can operate with clarity. There is a proverb that says, “You know a tree by its fruit.” This is absolute truth! For that reason, most people only focus on the fruit…you can classify it, and identify whether you like it, need it or not. In a practical sense, if you’re a plum tree, you’ll have certain people coming to you for your fruit based on their personal preference or need at that time. They may or may not come for your fruit for several reasons- someone said that it was good, bad, or whatever. There are also seasons where you’re on and when you’re not, and people can feel that too. When you are producing the fruit that this person wants and or needs at the given time, understand this to be shortterm intent. He or she will give to you or for you to receive the fruit that you bear. In contrast, there is the person who recognizes you as a seed that has been gifted to them. A person that cherishes the seed is going to prepare the soil, ensuring the seed is in the right environment for it to take root. This person is going to water the seed and consistently do the things necessary for its continued growth, even pruning.
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YOU ARE A TREE. THERE ARE TWO BASIC PARTS TO YOU! YOUR SEED AND YOUR FRUIT.
Follow the relationship of a seed and bosom. It is a nurturing relationship where the nurturer cares for the growth and development of the seed but also adheres to the responsibility of being well themselves. As the nurturer, he/ she understands that if toxins (whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual) are present, they can be transferred while nursing. It is a powerful thing to have someone in your life that understands all of that and is committed to see you grow and produce fruit in season and out. EVALUATE THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE. Which ones are present with shortterm intentions? In most cases, these individuals interact with you through sacrifice of their time and other resources and expect something directly from you – your fruit. Which ones are present with long-term intentions? These individuals are focused on you as a seed and have a desire to sow into your life. Anything that they do is an investment of which the return will reach far beyond you or them – multiple seeds and much fruit.
the seven habits of STATE THE GOAL Write a clearly defined goal of what you desire with a specific date.
IDENTIFIY PEOPLE NEEDED These are people that have achieved what you are trying to accomplish, believe in your success and are willing to assist you. Note: you do not have to know these people before you start. Just know that they will be presented to you when it’s time. DEVELOP A PLAN See yourself as if you’ve already achieved your goal. Write a plan of action that you feel will help you reach your goal. Note: Expect that a better plan will present itself to you and be willing to change. IDENTIFY THE OBSTACLES Be honest with yourself and list six things (including your own limiting habits) that will try to stop you from reaching your goal. Note: Write these obstacles on a sheet of paper and burn it. LIST THE SKILLS NEEDED Consider the skills that you are not willing or able to outsource in order to achieve your goal. LIST THE REWARD(S) Consider how you will celebrate the achievement of your goal and receive that joy with grace.
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IDENTIFY BENCHMARKS Consider the benchmarks as checkpoints that you will reach along the way. Celebrate them as self-confidence builders towards your goal.
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Tambra Cherie, also known as the Midday Diva, is the most popular and highly rated Midday radio personality for 97.7 The Beat of the Capital, in Jackson, Mississippi. She is a full time interactive media talent. Poised and personable, this radio/TV personality, entertainment news reporter, and host brings excitement to every role she carries out. Tambra Cherie discovered her passion for media hosting and the entertainment industry upon graduating from thee Jackson State University. It was during an internship at WRJH, she began to fulfill her goals within the entertainment industry. During her radio internship, Tambra Cherie embarked upon various entertainment-related ventures, serving as host for the once highly anticipated #1 entertainment television show in Mississippi, Admission Granted. Admission Granted previously aired on UPN, CW, and CBS affiliates for over 4 years. She also served a contributing writer for AllHipHop.com and Ozone Magazine interviewing artists & following industry trends. Throughout her career, Tambra Cherie has hosted a number of events, festivals and concerts; and interviewed a multitude of celebrities, artists, comedians, actors, and entertainment moguls including Russell Simmons, Magic Johnson, Kevin Liles, and Sean Diddy Combs. Tambra Cherie has been featured in several publications including Boom’s Magazine Most Influential Person in the City of Jackson, and recipient of the 2014 Woman of the Year Award, alongside the Mayor of the City of Jackson as Man of the Year.
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Tambra Cherie is now one of the star’s of the newest reality television show, Belle Collective, now airing on The OWN Network, Fridays 9pm central/10pm eastern. Belle Collective centers on the personal and professional lives of five successful, glamourous boss women who are redefining what it means to be a southern belle in Jackson, Mississippi. These dynamic women represent Mississippi’s finest Black female entrepreneurs, determined to break ceilings–glass and otherwise–while shredding long-held stereotypes of the South. As a full time popular radio personality in the market, cameras follow Tambra Cherie as she balances her personal and professional life while continuing to grow her brand within the entertainment industry as an on air correspondent. Prior to Belle Collective, Tambra Cherie also served as guest host on Lifetime’s television show, Bring It for a number of episodes and a guest co-host on Dish Nation TV, which airs on FOX affiliates. As the author of her first book, Surrounded By Sin, Grounded By Love: 8 Simple Keys to Becoming a Better You, Tambra Cherie has appeared on a number of radio and television shows, including TV One’s Sister Circle TV, sharing her message of becoming better with audiences throughout the world. As an entrepreneur, Tambra Cherie is also co-owner of an online women’s boutique, 5thandSole.com.
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HOW HAS GOD BEEN A HUGE PART OF YOUR BUSINESS? My business is God. It’s a reflection of Him. When he chooses us to house a gift, it’s such an honor! And when we put that gift to work and we create, as He did, I believe that He is pleased. God is the divine orchestrator of my business. He allows me to grow through stumbles and victories. My vision comes from the gifts that God has given me, and the Holy Spirit coaches me. God keeps me going, when I want to stop. He always uses someone and/or something to confirm the route being traveled, when it gets hard. He will use a client’s adoration to add fuel to my fire. I wouldn’t be here if He wasn’t here. Period. WHAT’S BEEN THE MOST REWARDING MOMENT IN YOUR BUSINESS? The responses from my clients, when they go out and get compliments. When I see women and men CONFIDENTLY wearing their ABO pieces, I’m humbled. Just recently, a client had on an ABO SpringSituation top and she was approached by another client of mine, not knowing each other asking the one wearing the top, “Is that an ABO?” The story had me blushing and in awe. So many moments, too hard to choose just one. WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS YEAR IN BUSINESS? I’m looking forward to having my brand with a strong foundation. Structure. Exposure, Experience, Exclusivity...that’s what I’m focused on. Expansion will show up organically...God willing.
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ANDREA BLACKLEY is the owner and designer of the innovative clothing brand, AB Originals. Since she was 8 years old, she’s always had a keen eye, and love for style and fashion. Being raised by a fashionable single mother, one of her favorite moments of her childhood, is when her mom would go “Spring Shopping” for new clothes. It would always be a big event because Andrea would be spontaneously surprised after coming home from school, and finding a bed full of clothes laid out for her. “Christmas in Spring”, as she called it, was always one of her favorite times of the year. As an only child, this was definitely one of the benefits of not having any siblings. But it was also the birth of her infatuation with fashion.
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As a Creative Director with over 10 years of experience in marketing, branding, and design, Hoa has worked alongside companies that have generated over a quarter billion dollars in sales. “How I got here wasn't so likely nor something I could have ever planned for.” After getting laid off from his corporate job in 2017, Hoa was faced with a decision that would drastically change the trajectory of his life. He said yes to an opportunity to do graphic design for a startup online educational company. Consequently packing his computer, and shipping everything he had to Miami, FL. Although he was ambitious, Hoa admitted that he had 0% experience with design, but committed to putting in the hours every single day to teach himself and to get better. “My brother once said to me ‘You’ll never be able to be the smartest in the room, but you can always guarantee that no one in that room outworks you.’ This is a value that has always served me extremely well.” In 2019, he met an incredible CMO who has helped many companies in the network marketing space reach the billion dollar mark, who has since taken Hoa under his wing as a mentee. Hoa is also the cofounder of the startupkit, a boutique branding and marketing agency that he built on the side. His mission and purpose in life is to use all the gifts, talents, and resources that God has afforded him in order to positively impact the next generation and empower them to reach their highest human potential.
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McDougle didn’t begin his career with NASA as a diver. Before becoming a diver he worked for Boeing Aerospace Operations as an Extravehicular Mobility Unit (EMU) Weightless Environment Training Facility (WETF) Suit Technician. In this position he maintained and repaired the EMU training suits (white astronaut suits) and related equipment worn by astronauts to train in the pool in preparation for their “spacewalks”. He suited up the astronauts who were scheduled to perform spacewalks and performed pre-checks before the suited crewmembers entered the pool to perform their training. He worked as a suit technician for one year before moving on to his next position, working in the EMU Tool Lab. In the EMU Tool Lab he prepared training tools for astronauts to use during their underwater training, preparing them for when they would have to use the tools while making repairs during their spacewalks. He enjoyed working in this department but felt there was something else out there for him. He stayed in this department for six months. It wouldn’t be long before a position opened in the dive team department with NASA contractor Bastion Technologies. When McDougle learned of this position, he began preparing for it. He completed his Professional Association of Diver Instructors (PADI) certification which is required training to fulfill the dive position. The strenuous PADI Certification training consisted of swimming 75 feet underwater without tanks, holding his breath, treading water for ten minutes and swimming 808 feet across the pool in 12 minutes. He also had to perform this test out in open water.
McDougle began his new career with the NBL Mockup Maintenance Team as a fabricator/diver. As a member of this team he fabricates/builds Space Shuttle and Space Station Lab Mockups, as well as building parts for the mockups which are placed into the pool and used by the astronauts as they train for their spacewalks. McDougle also performs underwater repairs to the mockups. He had to perform rescue training where he would have to retrieve a person laying on the bottom of the 40 feet deep pool and bring the person back to the topside of the pool. He dives 5 – 6 times per week; camera diving is 2 hours 10 minutes underwater for each session; maintenance days he can be underwater up to 4 hours. He has accrued over 3000 dive hours. As a camera diver he records underwater astronaut training for them to review later as they prepare to go to space. The astronauts train in the pool because it is the closest thing to a weightless environment for the most realistic training here on earth. McDougle is a native of Moss Point, MS and was recently honored by the Moss Point Visionary Circle with the Living Legend Award at the 7th Annual Living Legends Ball. McDougle has been happily married to his wife Sharon for 27 years and they have two children – Dominique (daughter) and Corbin (son).
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WHO IS SABRINA HOWARD Jackson, Mississippi, graphic artist and painter Sabrina Howard is impulsive, at least that is one way she describes her vibrant and expressionistic portraits that give subtle nods to social challenges and themes. With her preferred medium, acrylic, Howard handles a brush the way a seasoned writer uses a pen. Taking repurposed canvases and readily recyclable wood, Howard assembles the materials into abstract platforms. The result of her passion- ate, bold strokes are emotion-laced, multi-dimensional pieces that pay tribute to cubist style with a gritty urban twist. She is the mother of four burgeoning creatives. MY ART TO ME Is an extension of myself. It represents my personal history and experiences combined with current happenings in the world. And as my good friend and fellow artist Talemeika Brice describes me, I create beauty from chaos. HOW HAS BEING AN ARTIST IN MISSISSIPPI BLESSED YOUR WORK Being an artist in Mississippi right now has blessed me by allowing my artistry to help document history in the making. It also has allowed me to give back to my city/my hometown. Headshot by D’artagnion Winford
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“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised” Proverbs 31:30
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BEING SINGLE with Great Expectations
Being single IS NOT a death sentence, NOT an indication of worth, nor is it an indication or a source of incompleteness. Being single is a time that should be used effectively and efficiently. This precious time should be spent first and foremost, focusing on and nurturing a personal and intimate relationship with God. Because we will most certainly need a SOLID foundation as we wait to be found by our husband(women) or to find your wife(men), as we date with a Godly purpose and unquestionably once we enter into the ministry of marriage. There is value in being single with GREAT EXPECTATIONS. Personally, it started with a transformation of my thought process(mentality). I had to start living a Roman 12:2 lifestyle and stop conforming to the patterns of this world in order to be transformed. I had to allow my mind to be renewed into a WIFE...not a girlfriend...not a “friend”...not someone who would except being in a “rotation” with other women. The value extends beyond just the visible things about me. The value runs deeper than the natural eye can see. It is written in the Book of Genesis that God created us in His likeness and in His image. So, I live as though I know that I am valued by my God who cherished me enough that He wanted me to “resemble” Him and I should be valued by the person that He created to be in my life.
That significance started with me valuing myself as a single Christian woman and making up my mind that I would NOT settle for anything less than God’s best for my life and not what I would categorize as “best”, but GOD’S BEST! As I stand in GREAT EXPACTIONS, I stand on a truth of sexual purity and will not engage in sex until marriage – #TeamPurity. Now I am sure that that truth eliminates over 50% of the male population as a potential prospect of being my husband. So many people are led by the flesh, not the spirit and live accordingly. I’ve accepted, that I cannot expect someone to accept something that they don’t understand if they are not journeying their own sexual abstinent lifestyle. The one(s) NOT sent by God, won’t value this truth and I am ok with that. It is written in 1 Corinthians 6 that my body is a TEMPLE of the Holy Spirit which I received from God; it is not my own and that I should flee sexual immorality. As a single Christian woman with GREAT EXPECTATIONS, I empower you to invest in yourself. Because there’s a return on that investment which can’t be measured and embraces value – whether single or married. Intentionally pray that God will lead and guide you to the passion and purpose that He’s planted in you for His glory. Seek God’s will for your life. Spend some time becoming that which you desire to see in your spouse, because we are truly what we attract.
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It is written in Genesis 2:18 that the LORD God said that it is not good for the man to be alone and He would make a helper suitable for him. Spend time investing in becoming “suitable”; meaning right or appropriate for a particular person, purpose, or situation. Ask yourself the million-dollar question … “Would I marry me?” As a single Christian woman with GREAT EXPECTATIONS, I also empower you to know that to a blessed man - not a lucky man, you are his good thing and his bridge to favor. It’s written in Proverbs 18:22 that he who finds a WIFE, finds a good thing AND obtains favor from the Lord. Study the Godly duties of a wife, pray and seek Godly mentors and counsel, fast and pray without ceasing in your season(s) of singleness for insight and revelations about being the wife that God created you to be! Read daily devotionals in conjunction with God’s word and equip yourself with His gear and live abundantly as Jesus came that you may. Determine what constitutes your “best life” and live it. Find your completion in God and God alone because He is your ONLY source of eternal completeness; everything else is temporary. It is my sincere prayer that on your journey through singleness you live, enjoy it, and maximize it. And at the appointed time, God will make that divine introduction all for His glory.
P owerlifting It’s amazing to me to watch men and women train their bodies and mental aptitudes for weightlifting and powerlifting. While I don’t understand the reason for it apart from competition and pleasure, I applaud their determination. As much admiration as these powerlifters get for their strengths, there is much wonderment for the stories like the less endowed mother who lifted a car to free her child pinned underneath. How is it that someone who is recognized for their strength and proof of diligence in their training can have their abilities matched by someone who pales in comparison? The mother was resilient because she had a compelling reason. There are times when our faith is tested, and we have to do some powerlifting ourselves. When I was younger, I witnessed a friend of mine go through a difficult period with her family. I asked my mom how is it that some people have to go through so much, and others don’t. At the time, I didn’t understand because I had never experienced adversity on a level that I perceived to be so great. My mom simply told me that everyone has to bear weight at some point in their lives.
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Faith It’s important to remember that the amount of the weight is irrelevant. The way you choose to respond to it is what matters. I took what my mom said to heart, but a short while after that, I had to apply the faith that she was talking about. Unexpectedly, the same friend that I had asked my mom about had passed. Have you ever admired someone because they were so strong (emotionally, physically, or mentally), so smart, so talented, or so successful? I have. I had to learn that we actually admire these “powerlifters” not for what they accomplish, but their discipline to fulfill it. When someone operates in their gifting, they discipline themselves to make what is perceived as amazing seem so natural. Like the mother with the child pinned underneath the car, your circumstance(s) may require you to activate a faith that you didn’t know you had. Understand that you must discipline yourself to regularly exercise your faith, but also know that there is a greater POWER in you that allows you to LIFT things beyond your own strength. The beautiful thing about this power is that it doesn’t just give you the ability to lift, move, or carry. THIS power gives you the ability to overcome.
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CLEANSE HER. LISTEN TO HER.
Listening to your wife allows you to really understand her, and see her inner-most thoughts. You also see her needs. Being able to listen is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to your wife. When you listen, understand that she is not asking for your advice, she is simply looking for you to be open to her feelings and thoughts. Listening allows you to see what she is saying, how she is saying it, and most importantly, why she is saying it. By listening, you can discern whether your wife is seeking your advice or just in need of you helping her to find her own answer.
PAY ATTENTION TO HER.
The more you listen to your wife, the better you will get at paying attention to her. Paying attention allows you to learn major and minor details about your wife, such as knowing her favorite things, her love language, when to do things for her, and how to read her moods. When you pay attention to your wife, you can tell when she wants to do something or have something, but denies it to accommodate you or a situation. Perhaps the greatest thing is being able to recognize who God is in your wife, the strengths and gifts that He’s placed in her. Paying attention allows you to love her the way she deserves to be loved.
APPRECIATE HER.
As a husband it should be a privilege to appreciate your wife every chance you get. Appreciation shows her that all she does has value. Our wives do so much daily to make sure all our needs are met as well as running a household. Appreciate your wife by saying thank you every chance you get. Learn how to edify her at all times letting the world know that she is your gift from the Lord. Appreciate her time, her loving, her respect, her patients, her thoughts and her value to your life. This is an action that will always keep a smile on her face.
Cleansing your wife takes loving her mind, body and soul to a new level. As a husband we are taught to cleanse our wife by washing her with the word of God. As we listen and pay attention to her, please be aware that from day to day so much negativity, disappointments and past hurts fill her mind. Sometimes it’s visible and sometimes suppressed. To cleanse her we must pray with and for her daily, speak positive things into her life daily, speak the word of God with her daily and patently help her to focus on the positive only each and every day. As you cater to her as the weaker vessel the stronger she will be.
BE A GENTLEMAN (CHIVALRY) WITH HER.
Being a gentleman shows your wife that you’re a chivalrous, courteous and an honorable man. Doing this consistently will give your wife the assurance that you love and honor her worth. Your wife deserves to have her doors opened, her chair pulled out, having her hand held in public and private, foot rubs and fixing her plate, just to name a few. Being a gentleman is one of the greatest ways to honor your wife, not only for what she does but ultimately for who she is to you. As husbands let’s show our wives and the world that chivalry is alive and well.
SET GOALS THAT STRETCH HER.
Being the visionary of the home it is our job to set the bar high with everything that we do, including setting goals. The goals should include you and your wife at all times. Because we as husbands desire to see all God has instore for our wives, it is good to set all goals bigger than life. High goals are put into place so that we have to be stretched and grow to reach them. As husbands stretching our wives shows her that we believe in her. Believing in our wives is one of the highest forms of love and appreciation.
PLACE HER AS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD.
Yes, place her before parents, children, the household responsibilities, work-related duties, and all the other things that attempt to press their way in front
of your wife. Establishing and maintaining this priority is one way of fostering peace, better communication, and productivity within your home and relationship.
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LOVE GOD AND BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. This must be priority over all other things. It is not possible to know God and not love Him, and it is impossible to love someone else and not love God. Establishing a loving relationship with God will properly equip you with the strength and wisdom to truly love your husband with an unconditional lovean Agape love. Furthermore, the love that you have for God allows you to accept His commands, and grow in understanding of His word. As your relationship with God grows, so will it with your husband as God shows you how to submit to your husband as unto Christ.
LET YOUR THOUGHTS, WORDS, AND ACTIONS ALWAYS BE POSITIVE OF HIM. This requires self-discipline on many levels. It has often been said that when we do things, we do them three times: in our mind, in our words, and in our actions. Often, there is much emphasis on guarding what we say or do, because those are external things that others can see. However, our thoughts are internal which only God can see. Don’t allow negative thoughts to build up against what you know is true about your husband – that he is your good and perfect gift from the Lord, and that he is fearfully and wonderfully made. Through prayer, fasting, meditation, and God’s word, tear down the strongholds that have built themselves up in regard to your husband so that your words and actions may always be positive both publicly and privately.
LOVE YOURSELF AND HAVE AN INCREASING DESIRE TO BETTER YOURSELF. The better woman that you become, his inspiration to be better is also increased. He sees you as a suitable helper, a true partner – one who completes him as opposed to competes with him. By focusing on positive change within yourself, your husband will view you as someone to be honored, instead of feeling like you’re trying to change him. Also, it may be necessary to tell him that you are working to make yourself better, so that you can be a better help to him.
HONOR HIM AS THE PRIEST, PROVIDER, AND PROTECTOR OF YOUR HOME. To do so requires trust and faith in God at an optimum level. Perhaps this is the area where submission is exercised the most, because it requires a great deal of sacrifice. As the priest of the home, your husband must be respected as the mediator between God and the family. Respect your husband as the one who provides the vision and goals for your family – not just a provider of resources. Understand that God will provide your husband with the vision. Your work is found in his vision. This is not to disregard your goals and dreams. When you sacrifice your personal ambitions, you’ll understand that God has made provisions for your gifts to be used and desires fulfilled in the work that He has given your husband. As the protector of your home, your husband’s fortification addresses anything that may infringe upon the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being of your family. If you feel or see that these components are not present in your husband, pray that God develops these things in him.
BELIEVE IN AND BUILD UP THE MAN THAT HE IS TO BE. It is vital that you always keep a positive image of who your husband is to be. This takes work on your part, but it’s worth it in the end. There will be moments where it’s easy to see your husband’s weaknesses or areas you feel he needs to grow in, but trust in God to mold and change him. Continue to build him up, encourage him, speak to and treat him like the man that he is to become. Also, be careful not to compare him to anyone else. Ultimately, you want him to be his best self, who God designed him to be – which is more than what you may desire him to be within a moment.
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PRAY FOR HIM. Be attentive to your husband’s needs, desires, strengths, and weaknesses in a way that you can prayerfully ask God to address. When you do so, you allow God to use all of His resources to touch the areas of your husband that you’re praying for. Have peace in knowing that you have no power to change anything about your husband, but God gives you the power and authority to pray for him and help him through God’s strength. PLACE HIM AS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD. Yes, place him before the children, the household chores, work-related duties, and all the other things that attempt to press their way in front of your husband. Establishing and maintaining this priority is one way of fostering peace, better communication, and productivity within your home and relationship.
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NICOLE When is the last time you took a minute to nurture yourself? Do you feel you have to be around a group of friends or in a relationship? Do you dedicate so much of your time to helping others with their problems and needs that you’re drained all the time? New Flash! It’s time for a reality check. Take a step back and get to know – YOU. Your self-worth is the core to your identity. The nurturing of your beliefs, aspirations, and dreams should start at home base. If you never take the time to tap into who are you are, you will never add an important ingredient to your foundation – thus it can affect you later in life. Understanding yourself allows you to become more observant before hanging with the wrong crowd. It allows you to have a clear picture of what you desire and deserve when dating or being in a relationship. It allows you to make better life choices considering your decisions may not just affect you. More importantly, it teaches you how to adapt without the feeling you have to be like other people.
PERSPECTIVE
OK, maybe you didn’t grow up under the best circumstances, had a child at a young age, or feel the support you need is just not there. Did you know - some friends or acquaintances are only meant to be there for a season, not a lifetime? Did you know - you may fall “head over hills” for someone that was only meant to teach you a lesson, and not marry them? Did you know - you deserve to take a minute to “woosah”, treat yourself, and spend some time alone without explanation? Furthermore, did you know, the stumbling blocks you encounter really equips to tackle obstacles later in life?
In order for you to be at your best in any situation, you have to take care of yourself first! Whether you believe it or not, when you don’t, everyone attached to you can suffer. Your patience becomes thin, attitude becomes short, and perception of what should be concise and clear become very distorted. Knowing your worth decreases your chances of getting so caught up in the world and viewing yourself from the eyes of others. Yes, many people’s perception comes from what they see on the outside (your physique, clothes, make-up, and hair). But God’s perception comes from what’s in the inside (values, character, heart, and soul). We can’t spend so much time doing things to impress them, because in essence, we become unhappy, even miserable - and it slowly dims the inner light that represents Him!
20 TOUGH QUESTIONS WITH A HIGH RETURN Of the tens of thousands of choices that you make during the day, consider your current position and ask yourself “Am I answering the right questions?” Your results are a direct reflection of your choices, and those choices are based on the questions that you answer. Take time to answer the following questions. Allow yourself to be honest. What you give in response will yield an even greater return.
1 - WHAT DO YOU WANT? 2 - WHY DO YOU WANT IT? 3 - WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO SACRIFICE TO HAVE IT? 4 - HOW BIG DO YOU WANT TO DREAM? 5 - HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT TO ENVISION? 6 - HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT TO SERVE? 7 - HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT TO BELIEVE? 8 - HOW MUCH ARE YOU WILLING TO FORGET? 9 - WILL YOU BE MORE AFRAID (WITH REVERENCE) OF LOOSING THE OPPORTUNITY THAN FEAR OF THE OBSTACLE ITSELF? 10 - WILL YOU REFUSE TO GIVE YOURSELF A PLAN OF RETREAT? 11 - WILL YOU REFUSE TO DIE IN THE PRESENCE OF RESOURCES? 12 - WHAT RESOURCES WILL YOU CHOOSE TO HONOR? 13 - WILL YOU EMBRACE TIME AS THE GIFT THAT IT IS? 14 - WHO DO YOU NEED TO FORGIVE? 15 - WILL YOU FORGIVE YOUR OFFENDER AND COVER THE OFFENSE WITH LOVE 16 - WILL YOU EMBRACE FAILURE AS A GIFT? 17 - WILL YOU CHOOSE TO BELIEVE THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF? 18 - WILL YOU CHOOSE TO LOVE AT ALL TIMES? 19 - WILL YOU KEEP GOD AS THE SOURCE? 20 - WHAT IS YOUR RESPONSE TO GOD ASKING, “WHAT SHALL I DO FOR THEE?”
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