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In a marriage, men and women have a number of basic needs that must be met in order for the mechanics of the marriage to continue to function properly. How these essentials are met may vary from person to person, but the nature of these principles are the same for every husband and wife. Learning and reciprocating these principles between you and your spouse will strengthen your relationship in Love, Marriage, and Partnership. BY: JAMES & NATASHA ROACH
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THIS ISSUE The Beginning of a Beautiful Thing... February is the iconic month for romanticism. If you think this notion is an untruth, try Googling images for February. Even stores are imbued with hearts, flowers, and all things pink and red before December officially comes to a close. Despite great advertising that frolics on consumers’ hankering for holidays, February has more to offer than appeals to adoration and passion, and love is too large of an entity for one month. You’ll find a refreshing alternative to this classic association in this very first issue of Love, Marriage & Partnership – The Review, as well as issues to come. In fact, here’s a list of features to be highlighted for this month and set the expectation of things to come. COUPLES IN PARTNERSHIP: This feature is the heart of the publication, so become acquainted with phenomenal couples from all over that are building businesses and serving their communities through a loving partnership. FITNESS & FAMILY: Meet a super couple from the Lone Star state who’s all about big results, and achieving fitness goals as a family. Their success story will inspire you to movement as they share how their love for each other and their family pushed them to major results. DATE NIGHT IDEAS: Do more than flirt with the idea of Date Nights, make a commitment. These sweet notions will spark dedication for that much desired QT whether you’re single, just having fun, or in a committed relationship. 14 PRINCIPLES FOR HUSBANDS & WIVES: Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend, and boys may just want to have fun, but what is needed of a man and woman within a marriage are foundational principles that can govern a harmonious marriage. DREAMS AND GIFTS FOR THE FUTURE: In celebration of the dedication and work of visionaries that preceded the benchmarks of today, get inspired to boldly embark on the work in you. Glean nuggets of wisdom on how you can fulfill your dreams and be accountable to your gifts, so that in the future, you will have made your own mark in history. 4 | LOVE MARRAIGE & PARTNERSHIP | THE REVIEW
Love, Marriage & Partnership - The Review is a monthly publication sponsored by M & M R Marketing, LLC that focuses on married couples that are in partnership with each other through service and/or business to their communities and abroad. The goal of the Love, Marriage & Partnership – the Review is to inspire readers to look at the essence of partnership in marriage as shared by exemplary couples, ultimately moving readers to actively define, develop, and devote to their purpose as a couple.
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History Maker Difference is such a beautiful component of creation. To embrace any culture, generation, or person for the unique gifts and attributes specific to them is a true expression of love. While celebrating, and as reflections are made on the contributions of individuals of the past, the greatest action now is to be accountable for future growth, and build monuments for the next generation to stand. This month, celebrate through decisions, affirmations, and actions.
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17 Habits for Making History of Your Own • Evaluate yourself and your motives • Identify your strengths and maximize them • Pinpoint what you are authentically passionate about • Seek the one thing you feel you were purposed to complete • Take action • Believe in the thing you are working for • Believe in yourself • Affirm what you believe daily • Commit to developing yourself • Develop positive relationships • Learn to embrace failure • Seek strong collaborations • Create a positive energy within and around yourself • Set goals and honor mentorship • Strive for self-discipline in all areas • Have joy and be grateful in all that you do • Go the extra mile
When embarking on the journey to fulfilling your life’s purpose, you ultimately experience three phases: the discovery, the development, and the devotion. Writing has a way of organizing your thoughts, declaring your intentions, affirming your beliefs, and recording your truth for a given moment. For the duration of this journal, with no regard to which phase of your purpose you are functioning in, allow your writing to reveal foundation principles that you learn from and share with others.
VICTOR & SASHA
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are 2 individuals that believe in building a strong future for their family. Having a combined financial background as well as a desire to work on their own terms has allowed them to understand that in order to be truly happy with their financial futures, multiple streams of income is necessary. they have always desired to run their own businesses, with their personalities coming together both daring and conservative, they made the decision to jump to start somewhere! They believe that the steps that they are taking now both in their business and family will allow them to be significant in the lives of others and within their family.
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WHO ARE YOU AS A COUPLE? We are a team, we complement each other by strengthening each other’s weaknesses for the betterment of ourselves and our family. WHAT THINGS DO YOU ADMIRE ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE? Mr Espada: “Her drive and her personality” Mrs Espada: “His fearless attitude, willingness to change and adapt and his ability fuel my desire for success.” HOW DO YOU PREPARE YOURSELF TO FUNCTION AS YOUR BEST SELF IN YOUR ROLE AS A SPOUSE? The key is to be happy with yourself first and not lose yourself in your perspective role e.g. mom, dad, business partner etc, this allows you to be the best you, for that other person to enjoy being around and grow in your purpose. Find that one thing YOU enjoy doing and grant yourself permission to indulge in it. HOW DO YOU UTILIZE YOUR DIFFERENCES INDIVIDUALLY AS ASSETS TO YOU AS A COUPLE? I’ll use our business as a perfect example. It’s important as a unit you aid in each other’s weaknesses and inspire each others assets. In business we’re the complete opposite but together it’s magic! I’m not detailed oriented with it comes to the behind the scene aspect to our business, but he is, He makes our business come alive behind the scenes whether on social media or our operations but victor isn’t a public speaker or likes to be in the for front. That’s where I come in. Put me in room with anyone and I come alive. I love speaking about things that matter in life and our businesses. As a team we get more done because we understand each other’s expectations. I don’t expect him to do what I do and nor him with myself. We’ve simple learnt to manage our expectations.
WHAT DOES PARTNERSHIP IN A MARRIAGE MEAN TO YOU? It means going above and beyond to make each other happy and sometimes it’s not 50/50. But you do it because it matters. AS PARTNERS IN MARRIAGE WHAT IS YOUR ULTIMATE GOAL? WHY? WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO SACRIFICE TO OBTAIN IT? To leave a legacy for our children and to live a life of options. As parents we chalk it up to “we know better so we do better “We believe that what we do now will set the tone for what life our kids will have. Nothing in life comes easy so many sacrifices will be necessary. What are we willing to sacrifice? Whatever it takes. WHO IS THE MR.& MRS. THAT MOST PEOPLE DON’T GET TO SEE? Victor can recite any classic comedy out there Coming to America is a prime example and he loves to dance. I love to laugh and have a good time. I was a chef use it as a hobby now, but I love to cook. WHAT IS A QUOTE OR SCRIPTURE THAT YOU BOTH US AS YOU FUNCTION IN PARTNERSHIP. “Chance favors THE prepared mind!”
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PRINCIPLES 7 for LOVING Your WIFE
Love her by... LISTENING TO HER.
CLEANSING HER.
Listening to your wife allows you to really understand her, and see her inner-most thoughts. You also see her needs. Being able to listen is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to your wife. When you listen, understand that she is not asking for your advice, she is simply looking for you to be open to her feelings and thoughts. Listening allows you to see what she is saying, how she is saying it, and most importantly, why she is saying it. By listening, you can discern whether your wife is seeking your advice or just in need of you helping her to find her own answer.
Cleansing your wife takes loving her mind, body and soul to a new level. As a husband we are taught to cleanse our wife by washing her with the word of God. As we listen and pay attention to her, please be aware that from day to day so much negativity, disappointments and past hurts fill her mind. Sometimes it’s visible and sometimes suppressed. To cleanse her we must pray with and for her daily, speak positive things into her life daily, speak the word of God with her daily and patently help her to focus on the positive only each and every day. As you cater to her as the weaker vessel the stronger she will be.
PAYING ATTENTION TO HER.
BEING A GENTLEMAN (CHIVALRY) WITH HER.
The more you listen to your wife, the better you will get at paying attention to her. Paying attention allows you to learn major and minor details about your wife, such as knowing her favorite things, her love language, when to do things for her, and how to read her moods. When you pay attention to your wife, you can tell when she wants to do something or have something, but denies it to accommodate you or a situation. Perhaps the greatest thing is being able to recognize who God is in your wife, the strengths and gifts that He’s placed in her. Paying attention allows you to love her the way she deserves to be loved.
APPRECIATING HER.
As a husband it should be a privilege to appreciate your wife every chance you get. Appreciation shows her that all she does has value. Our wives do so much daily to make sure all our needs are met as well as running a household. Appreciate your wife by saying thank you every chance you get. Learn how to edify her at all times letting the world know that she is your gift from the Lord. Appreciate her time, her loving, her respect, her patients, her thoughts and her value to your life. This is an action that will always keep a smile on her face.
Being a gentleman shows your wife that you’re a chivalrous, courteous and an honorable man. Doing this consistently will give your wife the assurance that you love and honor her worth. Your wife deserves to have her doors opened, her chair pulled out, having her hand held in public and private, foot rubs and fixing her plate, just to name a few. Being a gentleman is one of the greatest ways to honor your wife, not only for what she does but ultimately for who she is to you. As husbands let’s show our wives and the world that chivalry is alive and well.
SETTING GOALS THAT STRETCH HER.
Being the visionary of the home it is our job to set the bar high with everything that we do, including setting goals. The goals should include you and your wife at all times. Because we as husbands desire to see all God has instore for our wives, it is good to set all goals bigger than life. High goals are put into place so that we have to be stretched and grow to reach them. As husbands stretching our wives shows her that we believe in her. Believing in our wives is one of the highest forms of love and appreciation.
PLACING HER AS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD. Yes, place her before parents, children, the household responsibilities, work-related duties, and all the other things that attempt to press their way in front of your wife. Establishing and maintaining this priority is one way of fostering peace, better communication, and productivity within your home and relationship. 13 | LOVE MARRAIGE & PARTNERSHIP | THE REVIEW
Respect him by...
LOVING GOD AND BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.
This must be priority over all other things. It is not possible to know God and not love Him, and it is impossible to love someone else and not love God. Establishing a loving relationship with God will properly equip you with the strength and wisdom to truly love your husband with an unconditional love- an Agape love. Furthermore, the love that you have for God allows you to accept His commands, and grow in understanding of His word. As your relationship with God grows, so will it with your husband as God shows you how to submit to your husband as unto Christ.
LOVING YOURSELF AND HAVING AN INCREASING DESIRE TO BETTER YOURSELF.
The better woman that you become, his inspiration to be better is also increased. He sees you as a suitable helper, a true partner – one who completes him as opposed to competes with him. By focusing on positive change within yourself, your husband will view you as someone to be honored, instead of feeling like you’re trying to change him. Also, it may be necessary to tell him that you are working to make yourself better, so that you can be a better help to him.
BELIEVING IN AND BUILDING UP THE MAN THAT HE IS TO BE.
It is vital that you always keep a positive image of who your husband is to be. This takes work on your part, but it’s worth it in the end. There will be moments where it’s easy to see your husband’s weaknesses or areas you feel he needs to grow in, but trust in God to mold and change him. Continue to build him up, encourage him, speak to and treat him like the man that he is to become. Also, be careful not to compare him to anyone else. Ultimately, you want him to be his best self, who God designed him to be – which is more than what you may desire him to be within a moment.
LETTING YOUR THOUGHTS, WORDS, AND ACTIONS ALWAYS BE POSITIVE OF HIM.
This requires self-discipline on many levels. It has often been said that when we do things, we do them three times: in our mind, in our words, and in our actions. Often, there is much emphasis on guarding what we say or do, because those are external things that others can see. However, our thoughts are internal which only God can see. Don’t allow negative thoughts to build up against what you know is true about your husband – that he is your good and perfect gift from the Lord, and that he is fearfully and wonderfully made. Through prayer, fasting, meditation, and God’s word, tear down the strongholds that have built themselves up in regard to your husband so that your words and actions may always be positive both publicly and privately.
PRAYING FOR HIM.
Be attentive to your husband’s needs, desires, strengths, and weaknesses in a way that you can prayerfully ask God to address. When you do so, you allow God to use all of His resources to touch the areas of your husband that you’re praying for. Have peace in knowing that you have no power to change anything about your husband, but God gives you the power and authority to pray for him and help him through God’s strength.
PLACING HIM AS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD.
Yes, place him before the children, the household chores, work-related duties, and all the other things that attempt to press their way in front of your husband. Establishing and maintaining this priority is one way of fostering peace, better communication, and productivity within your home and relationship.
HONORING HIM AS THE PRIEST, PROVIDER, AND PROTECTOR OF YOUR HOME.
To do so requires trust and faith in God at an optimum level. Perhaps this is the area where submission is exercised the most, because it requires a great deal of sacrifice. As the priest of the home, your husband must be respected as the mediator between God and the family. Respect your husband as the one who provides the vision and goals for your family – not just a provider of resources. Understand that God will provide your husband with the vision. Your work is found in his vision. This is not to disregard your goals and dreams. When you sacrifice your personal ambitions, you’ll understand that God has made provisions for your gifts to be used and desires fulfilled in the work that He has given your husband. As the protector of your home, your husband’s fortification addresses anything that may infringe upon the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being of your family. If you feel or see that these components are not present in your husband, pray that God develops these things in him. 14 | LOVE MARRAIGE & PARTNERSHIP | THE REVIEW
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BENEFITS of FAMILY FITNESS
Besides the obvious, children tend to be lazy, and are having a high chance of having diabetes and childhood obesity. So we strongly suggest families to create a fitness plan. By exercising and eating nutritiously; you are giving your family a chance at a healthy and long life. Children watch what their parents do and tend to intimidate them. By setting good examples now, children will keep those habits once they are adults. Our children haved lived majority of their lives knowing only sports, exercise and nutritious eating. They grew up in gyms and around parents and families that practice healthy habits. This was a hidden gift that our children acquired and they became more aware of their health. We have noticed many things that has made our family strive for fitness! We have more meaningful family time, like walking, dancing, and swimming. We encourage each other and promote teamwork through positive praise. With the changes in our lifestyle, we spend more time together and less time at the doctor!
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In high school and college I was in pretty good shape by playing sports. As I got older and found a job that I was very good at and comfortable I began to let my body go and did not realize it till looking at one of my pictures when my oldest daughter graduated I’ve reach over 340 pounds. I was so unhappy with my physical self. I found myself getting nowhere for years. Two years ago I made the commitment to be the healthiest I’ve ever been. It was a New Year’s resolution that never happened and to be honest I wasn’t really committed to making it happen, my wife had started her journey and I was still doing and eating the same unhealthy way. Have you ever heard of the definition of insanity? It’s doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I started working out and changing my eating habits. I am convinced that exercising, proper nutrition, and supplementation are the key to good health. If I can do it, anybody can. Now I am at 240 pounds and I am still on my journey and with God’s help and all the support I have I know I will reach my ultimate goal of 190 - 200 pounds.
Tikila ANTOINETTE ADOLPH Since the birth of my twins in 2001, I have been in a roller coaster ride of gaining and losing weight. There were many disappointing diets and a secret eating disorder was acknowledged. With new responsibilities and an instant family within two years, binge eating and depression became a reality. After diets, pills and starving myself; I realized that I truly needed to change my inside to be comfortable with my outside. I turned my life over to Christ and things began to change. With the support of other health conscious people, I was able to focus on what I wanted. I started changing my eating habits and had energy to begin working out. I found at least one day of the week dedicated to working out and the other days I practiced eating healthy. By being a Christian, I realized that being tired and living an unhealthy lifestyle was not what God wanted for my life. I knew that I needed to be healthy and set an example for my family. So this time, I stayed focus, seeked out help and was able to lose 40lbs in six months. And by the grace of God, I have maintained my weight loss for over two years now!
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DATE NIGHT IDEAS by: Mr & MRS ROACH
DON’TS
DO’S
Dismiss every misconception that you have about Date Nights, be open-minded, and expect to have fun! Who says that Date Nights have to be anything other than what you want them to be? No one- it’s up to you how creative you want your predetermined moment of eminence to be! It is also important to note that Date Night is for anyone: dating, married, engaged, and yes, SINGLE. • • • • • •
Agree to set this time aside together. Determine frequency and be consis tent (once a month or every week). Decide who gets to choose the date (deciding together is best). Anticipate it. Be THERE while you’re on the date. Have FUN.
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Avoid making independent plans and expect the other to be as excited as you are. Steer clear of allowing your Date Night to take the back seat of things that appear to be more pressing.
IDEAS of the MONTH COOKING CLASS: Learn how to prepare a new dish together. This is a great way to meet new people, and get out of the house (especially if you aren’t comfortable with your date being in your home just yet). The other great thing is that you don’t have to do the dishes! READ TOGETHER: Grab your favorite coffee, wine, or ice cream and indulge yourselves in reading to each other. ALTER-EGO SHOPPING: Get out of your comfort zone, fill a dressing room with a few outfits, and dress each other’s alternative personalities. Pictures will serve as a great laugh later on. SHARE YOUR SERVICE: Choose a designated area, person, family, or group where you both can volunteer you time. Helping others brings a genuine warmth that is beyond belief.
Love, what is it? Marriage, who wants it? Partnership, who needs it? While you may not be able to answer these questions so readily, perhaps you can render an immediate response to the question Have you ever desired at least one of them? It’s our sincere belief that these components are not only desirable, but essential. The more compelling argument is how one necessitates the other. Though we are a young couple, we’ve wholeheartedly adopted principles that aren’t necessarily relative to time, but to wisdom. If we understand wisdom to be a gift that only God can give, we cherish it. Wisdom, like the conductor of a symphonic orchestra, directs with precision, all the elements of Love, Marriage, and Partnership into one piece – Perfect Harmony. Through our personal journey, and the observation and study of many, we have discovered how intentionally working towards perfect harmony within the home is the very baton that blends together every difference, making it part of a whole. The harmony in which a couple functions in conditions a progressive growth that moves them toward a shared vision. The attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors in this type of household favorably impacts every outlet from how resources are pursued and used to how children are developed. We are proud to feature couples that make the concept of partnership look attractive a show that the investment in making it work is worthwhile. We hope that you are inspired by their stories, and moved to action towards a better you for a more purposeful relationship whether now or for the future. Welcome to Love, Marriage & Partnership – The Review, where love and purpose reunite.
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