God Save My Marriage- how to avoid your family from breaking up There is a notion among young couples today that getting married would only mean compromising on their individuality and freedom. With this mindset, if they enter the relationship of marriage which is meant to last a lifetime, it becomes a nightmare of a journey for them, instead of a loving companionship that the institution of marriage promises. They start feeling that they have to let go of all that they held close and this leads to frustration. You would see a host of “agony aunts” in the magazines and all over the internet answering desperate young couples asking “how do I save my
marriage?” Although a common problem, it has simple solutions. Following those solutions is what the toughest part is. The most essential thing if I want to save my marriage is the willingness to do it- to persist and make an effort to patch things up. On the other hand, if you have already made up your mind to move apart, then there is no use asking for advice just for the namesake. It is only to soothe your ego that you did make an effort even in the final stages of breakup. Also, if I want to save my marriage, but my partner has already decided to separate, there is hardly anything I can do now. Only if both the partners realize that their marriage is falling apart and are ready to make an effort to prevent it, they can still hope to save the marriage. One important question that both the partners need to ask themselves is, “why exactly do I want to save my marriage?” Is it because there are a few shortcomings for which both might be responsible, and you want to patch them up? Or is it because the other partner has already moved on and you feel “if I don’t
save my marriage, I don’t have a backup plan”? If it is the second case, then the intention is all for the wrong reasons, since it highlights your insecurity and nothing more. Solutions can happen only when there is a firm belief that things which did not work out in the past can be put right by efforts and an open mind. The crux of the matter is, if I want to save my marriage, it is me who has to take the first step towards changing my attitude towards my partner and towards the relationship. After all, a failing relation is not a single person’s fault, and it takes two to tango.