Throwback Happy Hour
story by Martha Pierce and Alysse Gear photos by jeff Kwiatek
Cure your common cocktail with these retro recipes.
Don’t nurse the same old Stella Artois every weekend. Instead, kick back with a highball, and leave your boring, modern cocktails behind. Try one of our oldschool picks. These sophisticated classics will make you think twice about your next Captain and Coke.
RASPBeRRY Side Car 1 lemon wedge 1 ½ ounces cognac 1 ounce Chambord raspberry liqueur ½ ounce fresh lemon juice 1 raspberry Sugar Slide the fruit of the lemon wedge around the edge of a martini glass. Dip rim in sugar. Shake cognac, Chambord, and lemon juice together. Strain into the martini glass, and drop the raspberry in.
CLASSiC Martini ½ to 1 ounce dry vermouth 1 ½ to 2 ounces gin 1 olive Pour vermouth then gin into a cocktail shaker with or without ice. Strain into a classic martini glass. Garnish with an olive.
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¾ ounce green crème de menthe 2 ounces gin ¾ ounce crème de cacao 1 ounce lemon juice ¾ ounce light cream 1 teaspoon superfine sugar or simple syrup 1 sprig of mint 3 ½ ounces cold club soda 1 orange slice Pour the liquid ingredients over ice into a 1 maraschino cherry cocktail shaker, and shake vigorously. Strain Combine gin, lemon juice, and sugar in a into your glass of choice. Garnish with a shaker half-filled with ice. Shake well and sprig of mint. strain into an ice-filled Collins glass. Top with club soda. Garnish with a slice of orange and a maraschino cherry.
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MAKeR'S MaRK Manhattan 2 ½ ounces Maker's Mark whisky ¾ ounce sweet vermouth liqueur 1 dash Angostura aromatic bitters 1 maraschino cherry Rind from 1 slice of orange Gently swirl whisky, vermouth, and bitters with two or three ice cubes in shaker. Strain into a cocktail glass over the maraschino cherry. Rub the edge of the orange peel over the rim of the glass. Twist to release its oils, but don’t drop in. urbanplainsmag.com 17
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Your Guide to Baby's Weight Gain
Newborn (1 to 4 Weeks Old) Right now, your baby is more delicate than ever. According to Michelle LaRowe, author of Mom's Ultimate Book of Lists, don't be too concerned if Baby loses a few ounces just after birth -- most babies do. A healthy baby regains weight within 10-12 days and will be back to his birth weight. Baby Should Eat: Breast milk or formula. Consult your doctor if Baby seems to have allergic or sensitive reactions to your breastmilk because he might be reacting to something you are eating or is sensitive to the formula. Learn more about breastfeeding.
1 Month Old From now until Baby is 6 months old, she will likely grow an inch a month and gain 5-7 ounces a week. If feeding is successful, your baby will be steadily gaining weight. Baby Should Eat: Breast milk or formula. Feeding times aren't exact, and it's impossible to determine how much milk babies have at each feeding for nursing mothers. Babies at this age should be fed eight to 12 times a day or about every two to three hours.
2 Months Old Baby should be steadily gaining weight each week. If you're afraid he's hit a plateau, look closer at the amount of breast milk he is taking at feeding times by pumping and giving him bottles. In some cases, babies may not be suckling correctly, or you may not be giving enough milk, according to Michelle LaRowe, a professional nanny and author of Nanny to the Rescue. If you continue to have problems meet with a lactation consultant or your pediatrician to find out how to help make sure baby is eating. Baby Should Eat: Breast milk or formula. Don't begin to introduce single grain food or baby food until he is at least 4 months old. Doing so too soon can cause digestive problems for your child, says Dr. Joanna Dolgoff, a childhood obesity specialist.
3 months old At this stage, your baby will start to move away from a steady gain of about 6 ounces per week to a little less than 4 ounces. This means that she will gain roughly 2 pounds this month, and every month following until seven months old. Baby Should Eat: Breast milk or formula. This is likely the last month that your baby will use your breast milk or formula as a primary source of food as the American Adademy of Pediatrics recommends introducing solids (like baby cereal) around 4 to 6 months.
4 months old Around 4 months your baby will start showing signs that he is ready for solids. Some indicators are: he can hold his head up stead, he can sit while supported, and he'll start showing an interest in what you are eating. The transition from liquid to solids is a delicate one, so don't force Baby to eat if he isn't ready. Don't confuse spitting with Baby's distaste for cereal, though. Baby's spitting will reach its peak at 4 months, and end by 7 months. Baby Should Eat: Breast milk or formula, plus fruit and then veggies. Babies who enjoy fruit typically don't have an aversion to veggies. Also start introducing different kinds of baby food, including single grain foods. Be prepared for teething to follow these newer, thicker foods; A baby should begin teething by 6 months. The two bottom front teeth, followed by his two top front teeth, appear first, giving Baby that adorable grin
5 Months Old By 5 to 6 months of age, Baby should double her newborn weight. Your baby should have a check-up around this age, so ask your doctor if Baby is at risk for being underweight and find out what you can to help her gain weight. Baby Should Eat: Breast milk or formula, plus fruit and then veggies. (Only introduce fruit and veggies now, though, if she's happily eating baby cereal.) Babies who enjoy fruit don't typically have an aversion to veggies, so if you give baby banana slices, she might not turn her nose at cooked carrots.
6 Months Old Starting at six months, a baby will grow about half an inch a month and gain 3-5 ounces a week. Baby Should Eat: Vegetables, fruits, then add pureed meat. Diarrhea or rashes are indicators of food sensitivity. (Note that a baby often needs exposure to a food up to seven times before she will acquire a taste for it.) You will still want to give him breast milk and/or formula.
7 Months Old Baby's weight will steadily increase by 2 pounds a month. Consult your doctor if Baby doesn't gain at least 2-3 pounds this month or in later months. If he gains more than 6 pounds in a month, see your pediatrician, says Dr. Dolgoff. Baby Should Eat: Adding to their menu of breast milk and formula try blended meat, vegetables, and fruits. Baby should now be able to handle a thicker consistency of foods, so leave some small dices in the fruits and vegetables for him to chomp on.
8 Months Old Baby should be gaining additional weight to triple his birth weight by age 1. Baby Should Eat: Breast milk or formula along with branching into some finger foods. If he appears to be having trouble, though, stick to blending veggies and fruits with a little cut-up meat. See Baby's First Finger Foods
9 Months Old To maintain weight gain, feed your child a light snack such as scrambled eggs, cut-up steamed veggies, or small pieces of bread every two to four hours. Babies who snack more tend to have a better nutrient intake and healthier weight than babies who don't. Baby Should Eat: She should be eating baby cereal, diced fruit such as kiwi or bananas, along with softened (or pureed) veggies and meat. Check out these great baby food recipes.
10 Months Old As your baby becomes mobile, his weight might plateau, Dr. Dolgoff says. Baby likely will be crawling all over your kitchen floor and trying to stand up with the aid of tables, chairs, or your leg. Crawling burns a lot of calories, so don't expect him to gain more than a pound or two this month because he is starting to plateau. Baby Should Eat: Finger foods he's already comfortable with. Also try to introduce green vegetables, tougher fruits such as apples cut small dices and small noodles, Dr. Dolgoff says.Your baby is still drinking breast milk or formula at this stage.
11-12 Months Old Baby soon will take her first steps. These two months hold the biggest rewards for all your hard work. Your baby's nighttime feedings will not fully disappear, but they will lessen. By your baby's first birthday, he will likely have tripled his birth weight www.parents.com Bringing together the power of respected magazine brands including American Baby and Parents, the Parents Network is your go-to destination for parenting information. From first kicks to first steps and on to the first day of school, we are here to help you celebrate the joys and navigate the challenges of parenthood. Š Copyright 2011 Meredith Corporation. All Rights Reserved.
9 Quick Tips for an At-Home Workout
Standing Calf Raises The chore: washing dishes Your fitness move: Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart. Raise yourself high on your tippy toes, then slowly return to a flat-foot position. Lift and lower your heels 20-40 times, or until you feel too tired to continue. What you're working: calves and thighs
Wide Plies The chore: rinsing dishes Your fitness move: Spread your legs as wide as you can with your toes pointing slightly out. Lower your hips and bend your knees at a 90-degree angle. Pulse up and down 20 times, but try to push yourself all the way to 40 if you can! What you're working: inner thighs and legs
Tree Pose The chore: Drying dishes Your fitness move: Stand with your feet close together so that they're almost touching each other. Slowly bring your left foot up so the sole of your foot touches the inside of your right thigh. Hold this move, pressing your foot against your leg, for 30-60 seconds. After you lower your left foot, switch legs so that your right sole rests against your inner left thigh. Repeat twice with each leg. What you're working: improving your balance and flexibility
Standing Push-Ups The chore: loading laundry Your fitness move: Stand a few feet from the washer and place your hands shoulder-width apart on the machine. Bend your arms slowly, bringing your chest toward the edge of the washer. Slowly push back out to a full-arm extension. Repeat 20 times. What you're working: chest, arms, and back
Standing Leg Lifts The chore: drying laundry
Your fitness move: Balance on your left leg and slowly kick your right leg out to your right side 20 times, to the front of the room 20 times, and to the back of the room 20 times each. Next, balance your right leg and repeat with kicks with your left foot, making sure to control your leg movements the whole time. What you're working: butt, thighs, and abs
Bent-Over Stretches The chore: emptying the dryer Your fitness move: Stand 3 feet away from the dryer and place your hands about shoulder-width apart on its top. With your legs about hip-width apart, bend forward at the waist until your torso is parallel to the floor. Hold for one minute, while breathing deeply. What you're working: back muscles
Giant Steps The chore: Vacuuming the family room Your fitness move: While pushing the vacuum across the room, lunge deeply with your right leg, bending your knee at a 90-degree angle, then with your left leg. Alternate between your right and left legs until you've completed 20 lunges. Take a short break, then repeat. If you reach a dusty corner, hold your lunge and pulse up and down 20 times on each leg. What you're working: legs and thighs
Ballet Jump-Outs The chore: decluttering a room Your fitness move: Once you've finished putting toys and knickknacks away, stand with your heels together and toes pointed out. Do a quick jump, landing with your legs shoulder-distance apart and knees slightly bent. Jump back to your start position quickly. Repeat this move nonstop for two minutes. What you're working: inner thighs, lower legs, and hips
Belly Squeezes The chore: vacuuming a large room
Your fitness move: Contract your abs by pulling your navel in and breathing deeply, making sure to keep your shoulders back and your torso straight. Try to hold your stomach without resting in for five minutes -- or as long as it takes you to dust one room. What you're working: abdominal muscles Originally published in the September 2010 issue of Parents magazine. All content on this Web site, including medical opinion and any other health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Use of this site and the information contained herein does not create a doctor-patient relationship. Always seek the direct advice of your own doctor in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others. www.parents.com Bringing together the power of respected magazine brands including American Baby and Parents, the Parents Network is your go-to destination for parenting information. From first kicks to first steps and on to the first day of school, we are here to help you celebrate the joys and navigate the challenges of parenthood. Š Copyright 2011 Meredith Corporation. All Rights Reserved.
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VIRGINS Women want their V-card reissued after the fact. WRITTEN BY MARTHA PIERCE PHOTOGRAPHY BY NICK SELLERS
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Susan Anthony isn’t your typical 30-year-old. She’s British, but lives in Chicago; enjoys social drinking, but won’t bar hop; and likes kissing, but not on a first date. Oh, and she gave up sex.
LIKE A VIRGIN
Anthony was born in England and moved to the U.S. at age 19—she knows she’s different than most women her age. “I’ve been called the born-again virgin, or the renewed virgin, many times, and it doesn’t really bother me,” she says. “I don’t think of myself as a virgin.” Anthony’s first sexual encounter was at age 16 with her first boyfriend who was four years her senior. The pair dated for a year and a half before breaking up. “I went through a bit of a rebellious stage with everyone at 16,” Anthony says. “I didn’t really like anybody at the time, and I hung out with an older crowd. I grew up pretty quick.” According to Mary Jo Rapini, an intimacy, sex, and relationship psychotherapist from Houston, an increasing number of girls are finding themselves in Anthony’s situation. “Teenagers are definitely becoming more sexually active than in past years,” she says. “And these same early teens are not mentally able to really handle the consequences of sex in the first place. It’s a double whammy.” People who had sex when they were younger are realizing they weren’t prepared and have since made the decision to go without it. Even in a culture that bases self-worth on sex appeal, Anthony is staying strong. She’s currently on her third— and longest—hiatus from sexual activity. “In the past three years, it has gotten easier to remain abstinent because I’m growing in my own understanding of myself,” Anthony says. “I don’t feel guilty about entering into past sexual relationships. Sex is more like a thing that I tried for a while.” THE WAITING GAME
Lau r ie Lin ha r t is a n intimate relationsh ip and socia l psycholog y ex per t and professor at Dra ke Un iversit y in Des Moines, Iowa . “For some women, waiting until they are married is impractical because many people will be 30—or close to it—when they get married,” she says. “The marriage age is getting pushed back. For many young adults, thinking about abstaining until they’re 30 is too difficult.”
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Anthony first thought about abstaining from sex when a former yoga pal in Chicago suggested it shortly after Anthony’s divorce from her husband. “I was in a lot of grief, and on top of that, I didn’t really get to experience an adolescent childhood,” she says. Anthony started on her path to abstinence and casually dated for two years before meeting her next boyfriend, Tony. “Four months into our relationship, one thing led to another, and we had sex,” Anthony says. “We were both very active in church, and one weekend we were at a church service, and I just broke down. I knew I couldn’t be intimate anymore.” Anthony soon realized her decision to remain abstinent was too difficult for her boyfriend. “He tried, I think, but our relationship started to disintegrate,” she says. “He started to look at me more like a sister.” Since the breakup, Anthony says she has continued to casually date. However, she’s always upfront about telling the men she dates that she won’t be having sex. “I’ve made a commitment to myself and to my church that I will remain abstinent,” she says. “This is something I value.” OLD-FASHIONED VALUES
Values like Anthony’s are becoming less prevalent. Since 1945, chastity has become increasingly less important than in past decades. In the 1980s, chastity went from being ranked No. 10 of 18 in desirable qualities to dead last by men and second to last by women in a study conducted by scholars Reuben Hill, John W. Hudson, and Les Leanne Hoyt. Because of this lessening desire to date—or marry—a virgin, Linhart thinks the concept of born-again virginity is completely realistic. “I think it indicates that we as
“I’ve made a commitment to myself and to my church that I would remain abstinent. This is something I value.” —SUSAN ANTHONY
women have more power over our sexuality than in the past,” she says. “We can select renewed virginity as a way we want to conduct ourselves, instead of feeling like we have to be sexually active.” Anthony isn’t the only one feeling this way. Rebecca*, 22, a Drake student, also made the decision to give up sex nearly two years ago. “After my first time hav ing sex w ith my boyfriend, it just kept happening, and I let it happen,” she says. “I guess I thought, ‘It’s not that big of a deal. I’ve done it already, so why not keep doing it?’” Anthony felt the same way. “I know I fell to a lot of pressure when it came to sex,” she says. “Because of my own family issues with having an alcoholic father and divorced parents, I had the desire to constantly please men. I know that many young women will develop tendencies I had. I thought I was in love at age 16.” Love is a common reason young women make these decisions. “I was definitely in love with Mike before we had sex and I felt very confused after,” says Rebecca, who was also 16 when she first had sex. “The sex continued almost to the end before I told him I didn’t want to do it anymore.” STOP IN THE NAME OF LOVE
Rebecca and Anthony’s decisions may inspire other women to reclaim their virginity. “Girls who renew their vows to be a virgin are empowering other women to do the same,” Rapini says. She thinks more young women who are finally able to say no after first having sex may be stronger than they were before. This renewed willpower couldn’t be truer for Anthony. “More recently now than ever before, I have a very clear stance on abstinence,” she says. “I know my boundaries.” Anthony and Rebecca both know that giving up sex comes with its share of sacrifices. Anthony, a former
salsa and jazz dancer, doesn’t dance at nightclubs like she used to. Rebecca also steers clear of situations that may lead to sexual encounters. Anthony admits, however, that if she’s going to commit to a relationship with someone, they also have to practice abstinence. “Men who aren’t practicing abstinence who I’ve dated think, ‘Maybe she’ll be different with me,’ or they think I’ll change my mind,” she says. “If I’m thinking about someone romantically, though, they have to be on the same page sexually.” Linhart says excessive sexuality pervades our society. She says it’s hard to turn on the TV without being exposed to subliminal sexual messages. “We’re kind of torn; on one hand, we’re kind of afraid of sex, and on the other hand, it’s everywhere,” Linhart says. RENEWING THEIR VOWS
Mark Regnerus, author of “Forbidden Fruit: Sex & Religion in the Lives of American Teenagers,” explored a two-part study that looked at youth in 2006. Individuals who engaged in sex during the first study and then reported renewed virginity vows during the second were more likely to identify themselves as born-again Christians. Anthony and Rebecca are Christians and use their faith to ground them when the decision to abstain gets tough. Anthony also leads a faith-based group called Solutions at Willow Creek Church in Chicago. Disclaimer: Giving up sex doesn’t mean that Anthony is giving men the cold shoulder. “I’m a very touchy, nurturing person,” Anthony says. “Just because I’m abstinent doesn’t mean I’m not affectionate. There are many activities I don’t do now that I would love to explore with a man that I have a strong commitment with. I just would rather wait until I’m in a committed relationship.” Rebecca agrees. “I’ve been there, I’ve done that, and I don’t anymore because I feel like there is an expectation,” she says. “I’m happy I’ve given it up.” Maybe abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. *Last name has been removed.
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