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We are all yearning to feel whole. Some speak of this spiritual quest as the search for our twin flame, who many believe is the other half of our soul dwelling in the body of another. When we first learn of this concept, we may become obsessed with searching for our other half, believing finding this other person will make our lives complete. It is a truly romantic concept of unconditional love, much like we find in the Fairy Tales of childhood.

Yet, as we grow, we recognize that Fairy Tales are not real. We learn the true partnership for which we search is the union of the two halves of our one soul dwelling within our own sacred vessel or our own body. The actual love story is that of the divine partnership of our masculine and of our feminine energies, the yin, and yang, or Shiva and Shakti, uniting together as one.

Reuniting the Fractured Parts of Our Soul

When we are first born, we are closest to the Divine and feel whole. As we move through the stages of life and experience the world, we experience trauma, we experience loss, and we experience heartbreak. More than likely, our internal world begins to shatter. We no longer feel whole within ourselves. We lose our essence. We lose what makes us unique.

We may become a shell of who we once were through emotional, physical, and spiritual pain. We may have forgotten our likes and dislikes and possibly even the basics of self-care and how to comfort ourselves when in pain. As we have lived our life, in order to survive each moment, we may have found that we have lost our light. We may latch onto the concept that finding another will give us an inexplicable sense of comfort and homecoming.

As I have walked this path, spiritual growth has been a necessary component of my healing. I had to believe that there was so much more than my logical and linear mind could comprehend. I found there are reasons behind every heartache. There are lessons behind the suffering. Without the pain, my own expansion could not occur. There are rea- sons for every situation, as they allow growth and healing to occur. Without my experiences and trauma, my light could not shine. Much as when physical muscles grow, they must tear first before they may become stronger. I had to tear in order to grow, in order to rise. I had to learn to embody all of myself.

The light and the dark that resides within us all, aspects of both the divine masculine and divine feminine, reside within us all. Through the work of healing, we begin to embrace and reunite the parts of ourselves that have been lost and abused in order to survive. We begin to rediscover who we are inside.

The Sacred Dance of Masculine and Feminine Energy

All of life is about duality. Opposites are necessary not only to live but to thrive. We need the moon and the sun, the day and the night. We must inhale in order to exhale. We need both our masculine and feminine energy to be whole. Part of reuniting our light and dark understands that our own twin flame is the unique balance of the masculine and feminine energies within us; it is through unification and partnership that we can heal what life has handed us.

Our masculine energy is the energy of doing, of reason, of survival, and of strength. When harnessed correctly, it can be empowering, uplifting and transformative. It is our masculine essence that goes out to protect us, fight against abuse, to say no to what no longer serves us. Our masculine energy is the self-discipline we need in order to commit to our healing, even when it feels hard, especially when it feels hard.

Our feminine energy is the energy of support, intuition, and empathy. It is the energy that allows us to connect and feel deeply. The feminine nature within us is called forth to soothe our wounds, to offer our heart compassion, and to teach us self-love. Our feminine energy allows us to mother ourselves on this journey, forgive ourselves for past mistakes, and nurture our internal and external wounds.

Many of us demonstrate one energy more than the other. Simply the course our life has taken will allow or force either our masculine or our feminine energy forward. However, as we heal, we learn the strengths of each aspect of our soul and learn not to resist who we are inside.

A Path to Healing

To begin your journey for inner peace, self-love, and abundance, start by taking an inventory of where your masculine and feminine energies are, strong and weak. Learn the beauty in each of them, and begin to create your unique dance between the two of them. In this way, you begin to unite the pieces of your soul. As you do this, you learn more about who you are and the unique individual you are inhabiting the Earth at this time. Find out what you love to do.

Suppose you love gardening, plant flowers. If you love watching the sunset, then watch it. Find out what fills your heart and make that a priority. Your fairy tale is your responsibility.

In participating in this exercise, the doing and the action-oriented motions are masculine; the enjoying and the surrender to your life are feminine.

Moreover, with this newfound awareness comes the power to heal yourself from past traumas, open up new possibilities for your life, and create more meaningful connections with others.

And in the End, There is Love

As you learn to embrace your strengths and even your weaknesses, you will fall in love with yourself. You will learn how to soothe your soul, wipe your tears, and advocate for your needs. Everything you are searching for is already within you. You are your own true love. Allow this to be true. Empower yourself to listen to your own heart, to soothe your own pain, and to stand strong in your own power.

The twin flame journey is not a search for another being to complete you, as you are already whole. It is a journey back to your own heart. It is a path back to your Divinity, which you innately knew when you were born.

Susie Schroadter, once a practicing attorney and mediator, has has turned her focus to creating Sage, a safe sanctuary to allow others to heal.

She offers consulting and strategy for those going into mediation or dealing with life altering events so that they may be empowered and advocate for themselves. Once those events have occurred, she also offers different modalities for healing such as life and spiritual guidance and energy work. www.sanctuaryforpeace.co