Am I KINDBeing

In a busy, fast-paced world, as we seek to fine-tune our energy, our habits, and thoughts, we can often overlook one of the simplest actions any of us can take at any time to raise our vibration. An action that often leads to some of our most profound abundant experiences. That action is of being kind. Even if we do not like a person or an experience that is happening to us, we always have the option of how we want to behave and what we want to contribute to a moment. The awareness of choosing to respond rather than react is much of the work of creating an abundant consciousness. Consciousness is what creates energy. Energy is what creates tangible matter.

When I first read the book, Am I Being Kind by Michael Chase, I was struck by the power of simplicity in his message. Although he had been through a tumultuous childhood and enormous pain and hurt were part of his experience through his vulnerability and willingness to surrender in a moment, it occurred to him the power kindness and unconditional love can have on our lives and our expe- riences. His life was forever changed in remarkable ways. He became the kindness spokesperson.

We all are absorbed in the moments of our own life and discomfort. It is so very easy to forget that everyone we meet and see on the street is going through some challenges. We all fill many roles and wear many masks as we navigate our world. We are searching for ease, understanding, and love and doing all we can to avoid pain and fear. We can get so caught up in the quest to obtain or achieve that we can lose touch with ourselves and forget to respond rather than react. Before we know it, we are in the middle of something that feels awful.

If we can do nothing else at that moment, the choice to be kind to ourselves first is the best choice. Through that kindness and unconditional love toward self, we can restore balance. It is the path. Kindness is the vehicle that can take us to unconditional love. So often, the kindness and support we seek, we do not even give to ourselves. We have to know how to give it to ourselves first if we want to receive it from others.

Then there are those who are unkind to us. They have a greater burden to bear than most. It takes a truly tortured soul to inflict pain upon others. When I did my trauma recovery work, one essential piece to my healing occurred when I learned how to restore some level of humanity to my offender. In this, I did not overlook injuries perpetrated upon me. Rather I recognized there is a greater story at play than just my story. It doesn’t make my story less important. It simply reminds me that there is a larger story that is important as well. As we are all connected, the more we grasp, the larger story, the easier life becomes, and the more we heal. We heal individually and collectively.

As we learn to be kind to ourselves, we begin to create healthy boundaries. We strategize for success. We welcome and search for a deeper connection to divinity. As we connect more deeply to divinity, we recognize the humanity in the least humane people. We do not justify their behavior, but we understand the story is not complete when only looking at the inhumanity of their action.

As we remember that every single person we meet, no matter how beautiful, how plain, how wealthy, or how poor, we all are going through challenges. The challenges each of us face in our inner or outer world dominate our choices and our thoughts. We are all tested to our core.

As is the case in all abundance of work - the ability to maintain high-level vibrations in the face of fear and self-doubt is a key feature. Holding high vibrations is our best friend in remaining magnetic to all things benevolent. When our inner narrative is filled with self-criticism or self-punishment, we are going to dig a deep hole in the reality of “not enough.” Not enough love. Not enough money. Not enough time. Not enough support. Not enough is a mindset. It’s only true if we make it true in our minds. When our mind’s narrative says, there is more than enough, then more than enough is what we will experience.

When we are kind to ourselves and learn how to be unconditional through our successes as well as our missteps, we forgive ourselves and others. We place ourselves in the flow of abundant energy. The difference from the moment of conflict to the moment of ease lies only in our thinking.

When we find ourselves in a moment of challenge, whether it is one of sadness or worry, or fear, think “kindness.” Kindness to yourself. Figure out how to give yourself what you need to restore balance. Make no excuse as to why you should not take that action that will restore balance. You deserve it. You are important. What you do affects the whole. We are all connected. As we learn to do this for ourselves – shift from contraction to unconditional love, we model a vibration and behavior that others will embrace as well. As we do this consistently, kindness becomes the strategy for a humane planet.

Today is the day. Start being kind and unconditional to yourself as a way of being. Watch the path unfold with more and more benevolence and joy. Even when contraction visits you, it will stay with you for less and less time, and you will find life eager to bring you wholeness and joy.

Known as the Intuitive Life Strategist, Phyllis King has worked with tens of thousands of peoplein 25 countries. She is known for her practical and down to earth approach. She has been featured on, ABC, CBS and NBC TV, radio programs across the country, and has been published in over 70 print and online publications. She has four books, including Bouncing Back, Thriving in Changing Times, with Dr. Wayne Dyer. Her latest book The Energy of Abundance is available in bookstores now. Phyllis holds a B.A. in Sociology. www.phyllisking.com

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Known as the Common Sense Psychic (tm), has worked with tens of thousands of peoplein 25 countries. She is known for her practical and down to earth approach. She has been featured on, ABC, CBS and NBC TV, radio programs across the country, and has been published in over 70 print and online publications. She has four books, including Bouncing Back, Thriving in Changing Times, with Dr. Wayne Dyer. Her latest book The Energy of Abundance is available in bookstores now.

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