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Three C’s for a COVID-19 relationship
Dear Annie: I am a college student who has been dating a girl for about two months. She’s from out of town but lives in the same city as me. Throughout the COVID-19 pandemic, she has been more isolated than usual. She has a roommate but otherwise feels lonely. I spend as much time with her as I can (respecting social distancing protocols, of course), and we text a lot. In anticipation to having to stay home, I’ve taken on several projects that take up a lot of my free time. I am passionate about them. My girlfriend, who has more free time, will often video call me while I’m working, expecting me to immediately answer and talk for a while, even on days where we’ve spent hours together in person. If I try to politely decline, she says, “Ouch.” How can I explain to her that, while I do love talking to her, I want to do other things, too, and don’t appreciate being guilted over needing some personal time outside of my work? — Girlfriend Blues Dear Girlfriend Blues: The best way to explain is exactly the way you did in your letter. It is very healthy that you have found things to keep you busy during the lockdown, and you should encourage your girlfriend to do the same. The COVID-19 pandemic has been challenging for everyone. During stressful times, people use different coping mechanisms. Perhaps hers is to be needy while yours is to withdraw and find other things to do. Good relationships have the three c’s: communication, compromise and commitment. After you have communicated what’s in your letter, if you are both committed to the relationship, you might have to compromise with her as well. Best of luck to you both, and stay safe and well!
Charlie the chatterbox
Dear Annie: My neighbor “Charlie” is a chatterbox. He only works part-time and is home for the day by 11 a.m. For most of the afternoon, he hangs out in his front yard, talking to passersby. Anytime I run into him, it turns into a 20-minute-plus rambling conversation about all sorts of topics and people I don’t know. I avoid taking out the trash some nights because I don’t want to get
stuck outside talking to him. Sometimes, I peek outside, see he’s not there and think the coast is clear — but then he rushes outside once I do. His family has a motion-activated “smart” security camera on the front of their house that I set off going down my driveway. I’m not alone in feeling this way about Charlie. Recently, I said hello to my mailman, and he whispered, “I need to get out of here before Charlie gets started.” Charlie really is a nice guy, and I’ve grown fond of him and his family over the past few years that I’ve lived here. And I know his chattiness is not a real problem, only a minor annoyance. But I wish I could keep our conversations to a minimum some days. And I don’t think he’s lonely; they’ve got three generations in one household, so it’s not as though there’s a shortage of peo-
To add some fun, humor and new activities to our family time, I purchased plates, wine glasses, Easter bunnies, gnomes, eggs, paints and brushes from a nearby pottery store and made “Family Fun Virus Boxes.” I added pasta, sauce, bread, Entenmann’s cakes and some wine to the “fun boxes” and delivered them on Friday, putting them on their front steps, and then waved and blew kisses from my car when they got their boxes. Saturday night, my children and their significant others had four separate but together dinner parties. We all made our own dinners, painted our craft items and sent each other pictures in a group chat. Later, I picked up the boxes (left on their front porches) and called the pottery store to let them know I was leaving our projects at their door. By the end of the week, the awesome final projects were complete. Though not a “normal” family get-together, we had so much fun. Even though we are apart, it’s important to know we can still make silly new memories together. And each time we look at our pottery, we remember how, although times were hard, we were able to share love and happiness together... just not together. — Crafty Mom Who Loves Her Adult Kids Dear Crafty Mom: What a brilliant idea! Thank you for sharing and for inspiring all of us to make shared memories with loved ones, even while not together physically. ——— Dear Annie: I have a question on how to handle gift giving among extended family. We are over age 60, and my husband feels very strongly that adults can buy whatever they want, and there is no need to send a gift. This is our second marriage. We both lost our spouses to cancer. I like to remember family on special occasions. I often send a monetary gift less than $60. My husband points out that they never remember us on special occasions. My husband is generous with his family, either by offering to fix something mechanical or by sending money. His family does reciprocate. I use my own money to gift my family, and he does the same. But he gets angry with me. Just wanting a second opinion.
ple for him to talk to. I’ve tried dropping the usual hints — looking at my phone to check the time — but he just doesn’t get it, and he never pauses long enough for me to say that I need to go. Would it be rude of me to interrupt him? — Ear Off Dear Ear Off: Dropping hints works fine with people who pick them up. Others need a more direct approach. But direct doesn’t need to mean confrontational. The next time Charlie gets to chatting, give him a warm smile and say: “I really have to get going. I’ll catch you later!” Other variations that will work: “I’m in the middle of chores...” or “I was just about to make dinner...” If he bristles at the brush-off, that’s on him. But if he’s such a social butterfly, I have a feeling he won’t mind. He’ll simply alight on his next audience. ——— Dear Annie: We have four young adult children (ages 19 to 27). One is living with me doing online college; one is two hours away at college; and the other two live about 90 minutes away. Usually, we get together at least one or twice a week.
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What do you think? — Double Standard? Dear Double Standard?: Tell your husband to cut it out! If you want to give your family members a gift, then give them a gift. It is not about whether they are adults and can buy themselves things. It’s that you take the time and think about them on special occasions. In addition, it is not tit for tat. You don’t give gifts so you get gifts. You give gifts because you love your family and want them to know you are thinking about them. ——— Dear Annie: I am an elderly person, and I purchased an AT&T phone that blocks all calls coming in except for the phone numbers I have listed in my phone. It tells the caller that if they leave their name, it will announce it, and if the person being called wants to answer it, they can. This has saved me from a great many robocalls or calls from scammers. I chose to get the phone after my “grandson” called to tell me he was in jail. I told him to enjoy every minute there, hung up and got this phone. All elderly should have a phone like this. — This Phone Works Dear This Phone Works: Thank you for your tip. It is wonderful that a phone itself can protect you from scammers so you don’t have to deal with them. ——— Dear Annie: I truly love the answer you gave to Ticked Off. I was so surprised with how you responded to negativity with a positive answer! Your response will help to raise children in a more responsible and positive manner because it is true that children emulate what they see their parents do while growing up! We, too, cannot enjoy the extra perks that the more affluent families can enjoy at amusement parks. So we make the best of it by filling our time while in the long lines. We play games! Our favorite is an app called “Heads Up!” When we play this with the kids, the time passes quickly, and before we know it, it’s time to get on the ride. So, thank you for your response to raise kids to be better people! Love it! — Heads Up Dear Heads Up: What a fun game to engage the whole family! Thank you for your letter.
Dear Diary
Dear Annie: I am a 71-year-old husband, father and grandfather. I have a wonderful wife, five children (three are step-children), and grandchildren whom I love very much. However, in my distant past were some very dark and hurtful times. They involved a divorce, an estranged daughter due to the divorce and the crushing feeling that I was not the honorable man I’d thought I was. Now, many years later, I have remade a good life. I am no longer the man I used to be. My richest blessing is my family. My estranged daughter is back in my life, and I love my stepchildren as if they were my own. They are, in my heart. If I were “called home” today, I could say that I’ve had a good and blessed life. I keep a personal diary. I write almost every day about my thoughts, concerns, hopes and joys. However, in my diary are “the dark times” from my past. All of that pain is not a part of my life anymore. I am afraid that if someone read my entries, they could be hurt by what I wrote. My question to you is this: Should I remove and destroy that section of my past from my diary? — A Better Man Today Dear Better Man Today: First and foremost, congratulations on turning your life around. Last time I checked, I have never met a perfect human being. Though you might have made poor choices in the past, you also made the important and wonderful choice to repair any damage done and rebuild your relationships with your family. When we know better, we do better, and that is what you did. Family is everything, and the fact that you see that is admirable. As for your diary, tear out the hurtful pages if that is what you want to do. However, if you would prefer to leave them in, then leave them in. It was through those dark times that you came to see the light. The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow. If you are afraid of hurting people’s feelings, perhaps you could add something in your diary saying just that. Pretending the past didn’t happen won’t erase it. However, the love and gratitude you feel for the people in your life today is what’s important. People forgive, and if you express that appreciation and love your diary, I’m sure it will come through.
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A PETITION FOR PROBATE has been filed by: BRENDA CAREY in the Superior Court of California, County of: Yolo THE PETITION FOR PROBATE requests that: BRENDA CAREY be appointed as personal representative to administer the estate of the decedent. THE PETITION requests the decedent’s will and codicils, if any, be admitted to probate. The will and any codicils are available for examination in the file kept by the court. THE PETITION requests authority to administer the estate under the Independent Administration of Estates Act. (This authority will allow the personal representative to take many actions without obtaining court approval. Before taking certain very important actions, however, the personal representative will be required to give notice to interested persons unless they have waived notice or consented to the proposed action.) The independent administration authority will be granted unless an interested person files an objection to the petition and shows good cause why the court should not grant the authority. A HEARING on the petition will be held on June 25, 2020 at 9:00 a.m. in Department: 9 Room: 4304 located at 1000 Main Street, Woodland, CA 95695 IF YOU OBJECT to the granting of the petition, you should appear at the hearing and state your objections or file written objections with the court before
the hearing. Your appearance may be in person or by your attorney. IF YOU ARE A CREDITOR or a contingent creditor of the decedent, you must file your claim with the court and mail a copy to the personal representative appointed by the court within the later of either (1) four months from the date of first issuance of letters to a general personal representative, as defined in section 58(b) of the California Probate Code, or (2) 60 days from the date of mailing or personal delivery to you of a notice under section 9052 of the California Probate Code. Other California statutes and legal authority may affect your rights as a creditor. You may want to consult with an attorney knowledgeable in California law. YOU MAY EXAMINE the file kept by the court. If you are a person interested in the estate, you may file with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in Probate Code section 1250. A Request for Special Notice form is available from the court clerk. Signed: Brian Acree Attorney for the petitioner 331 J Street, Suite 200 Sacramento, CA 95814 510-517-5196 6/7, 6/10, 6/14 864
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: May 27, 2020 FBN Number: F20200409 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) Sourdough & Co. 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California. Business is located in Yolo County. 768 Ikea Ct., Suite 110 West Sacramento, CA 95605 Mailing address: 8822 Nakota Way Sacramento, CA 95828 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip S&A Foods, Inc. 8822 Nakota Way Sacramento, CA 95828 4. Business Classification: Corporation 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: February 20, 2020 “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.” (A registrant who declares as true information which he or she knows to be false is guilty of a crime.) 6. Signature of Registrant(s): Amrit Sidhu 6/7, 6/14, 6/21, 6/28 865