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Departments 10 Real Moms of the Metro
Meet our incredible Awesome Mom honorees
8 Features 8 To Mom with Love
Local gift ideas to make moms smile
16 Facts about Foster Care
New OKDHS director catalyzes change
26 Making Mother’s Day Memorable
8 ideas to help mom feel appreciated
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20 Family Mental Wellness Normalizing postpartum depression
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22 Local Family Fun
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24 Mom Talk
Taming the mom guilt monster
28 Super Kids of the Metro
Creative teen serves with heART
30 Exploring Beyond Oklahoma
Vacation virtually for at-home fun
31 Last Look
Salute to multitasking moms
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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR
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sat in a church pew with a smile plastered on my face, gritting my teeth against the tingling at the back of my throat, quelling the tears threatening to spill. I was doing my best to celebrate Mother’s Day and all the incredible moms in my life though my heart wasn’t really in it. I wanted to be a mom, too. And I wasn’t. Yet. That was the day I realized Mother’s Day can be hard. I became a mom more than a year after that day, not a long wait compared to what many others endure in their journey to motherhood. Every Mother’s Day since, even as I’ve reveled in the awe of being called mama by my three wild wonders, I’ve had a heightened awareness of the grief this day can harbor.
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Managing Editor Erin Page
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Does the holiday feel bittersweet for you, too? Maybe even more so this year thanks to the strangeness of our current reality. For me, there is pain in the loss of women who mothered me and greatly influenced the mom I would become. Every year I feel heartbroken for moms missing babies or women who desperately want to become moms. But there is unbridled joy, too, in simply being mom to three beautiful children who love me unconditionally, forgive my many imperfections and mistakes and remind me there is always, always happiness to be found if I will only seek it. There’s great depth of gratitude in finally understanding my own mom’s sacrificial love for me. (Thanks, mom!) There’s inspiration and encouragement from the other moms around me, too, women like our three Awesome Moms on page 10, supporting others, serving our city and raising the next generation of community advocates.
MOTHER’S DAY 2018 WITH THE THREE WHO MADE ME A MOM.
Whatever feelings Mother’s Day kindles for you, I hope you’ll take the space and time to acknowledge them, whether that means you’ll be celebrating, grieving or like me, some of both. With gratitude,
Erin Page Managing Editor
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This Month’s Cover Ava, 8, has an eye for design, fashion and composition and was thrilled to help direct her own Cover Kids photoshoot at the Myriad Gardens in February. Ava is in the second grade at Soldier Creek Elementary School in Midwest City. She is a dancer, with ballet and contemporary her favorite styles, and she also loves to craft and make slime. Ava is the daughter of Phillip and Beverly, and, under typical circumstances, the family enjoys frequenting Unpluggits Paint & Play, Jump!Zone and the OKC Zoo.
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3. Press the fork onto the construction paper so it leaves a full imprint of the prongs of the fork. 4. Dip your fork again into the paint, focusing on the base of the fork. 5. Press the fork onto the construction paper so it leaves an imprint of the base of the fork. This will look like a tulip shape. 6. Use the remaining forks to dip into other colors and create more tulip shapes. 7. Set the paper aside to dry. Once it is dry, pick up the crayons and add the stems of the flowers. You can draw the flowers in a field or draw them in a vase. Your work of art is now complete!
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Mama ball cap by Katy Michele Designs A must-have for any mommy uniform, this Mama cap in a chambray denim is both trendy and practical. Now all she’s missing is her favorite black leggings and a drink from her fave local coffee shop, am I right? katymicheledesigns.com
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Awesome Moms
REAL MOMS OF THE METRO
BY ERIN PAGE. PHOTOS PROVIDED AND BY FOTO ARTS PHOTOGRAPHY.
More than 70 metro moms were nominated for our annual Awesome Moms contest this year, and we were inspired by the stories of each and every one of them. Congratulations to this year’s winner, Wanda Felty, and our two finalists, Essie Green and Cheryl Gruntmeir. Read about all of our 2020 nominees at metrofamilymagazine.com/2020awesome-moms. CLICK FOR MOBILE-FRIENDLY VERSION
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WINNER
Wanda Felty Wanda Felty keenly remembers sitting at her kitchen table in Spiro, Okla., calling every government agency she could think of in an attempt to get some help for her middle daughter Kayla, who was born with developmental disabilities. “I was crying because I was on the brink,” remembers Felty. “I had a teen daughter and a baby and Kayla, who was not sleeping. I needed help.” Felty still doesn’t know who expedited Kayla to the top of the Oklahoma Department of Human Services Developmental Disabilities Services list, but it was about a week later that she received the call that Kayla would receive two hours of personal care per day. That changed Felty’s world, and she’s spent much of her life since, personally and professionally, doing the same for others. “The most inspiring thing about Wanda is how she uses this lived experience with her daughter to offer personal support and encouragement to other families who have children with developmental disabilities,” said Felty’s husband, Rick, who nominated her. After a divorce, Felty raised her three daughters on her own for awhile, until she met and eventually married Rick when Kayla was in ninth grade. Not long after, it was Rick who encouraged Felty’s current career at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center, initially as a family advocate through The Children’s
Hospital and now a community leadership and advocacy coordinator for the Center for Learning and Leadership at the health complex. The federally-funded program oversees evidence-based training of future professionals working with people with developmental disabilities. “I take my knowledge of policy and legislation and lived experience to train students on what it’s really like to have a child with a disability,” explains Felty. She also helps state agencies work together with parents of children with disabilities to hone and modify programs, policies or legislation meant to help people with disabilities.
“Advocacy is not always about holding up signs. It’s really about holding each other up, figuring out what worked for me and how that can help you.” Wanda Felty
“There may be a practice or program that was created with good intentions,” said Felty, “but we can share parents’ stories about how they can work better for families like theirs.”
WANDA AND DAUGHTER KAYLA
Felty helps parents and professionals understand the importance of creating interdisciplinary teams, with each of their input, along with the self-advocate they are serving, valued by all members of the team. That’s a process that hasn’t always come easily for Felty. On many occasions, she’s felt very alone in her journey, exhausted by what has felt like a constant fight for Kayla to enjoy the life she deserves. “What I’ve learned through training is that we all need each other to make the best decisions for my daughter,” said Felty. “I had to learn to value the professionals’ knowledge and they learned to value mine. I used to feel like everyone was against us; come to find out they are all really for us.” Born without the middle portion of her brain forming correctly, Kayla is blind and non-
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Cheryl Gruntmeir verbal. Felty calls Kayla her first and most important teacher as she’s learned both how to advocate for Kayla and to communicate with, understand and always respect her daughter, whose behavior at times, she confesses, has been hard to manage. Felty often reminds Kayla that she’ll have to teach her how to understand her, and throughout the years Kayla has come up with clever ways to do just that, like humming “Happy Birthday” to indicate she wants dessert. From her dry sense of humor to her love of music, Felty calls Kayla her four leaf clover, valued as precious and unique. “She doesn’t operate from any worldly prejudice,” said Felty. “Everyone is equal to her. She will offer respect if you respect her.” Among Felty’s many roles, one of her most cherished is coordinating a quarterly meeting for all the families who, like she once did, have a loved one on the waiting list for OKDHS Developmental Disabilities Services. Felty says there are currently more
from a wheelchair into the bathroom because the chair wouldn’t fit through the door. After one of Felty’s meetings, the mom’s connections led to getting her bathroom door widened enough to fit the chair, a tangible example of their community coming together to solve a parent’s struggle.
“Because of Kayla I am a whole different person. My life changed and I hope my life makes other people’s lives better, too.” Wanda Felty BY FOTO ARTS PHOTOGRAPHY
“Advocacy is not always about holding up signs,” said Felty. “It’s really about holding each other up, figuring out what worked for me and how that can help you.” Felty says the individuals currently being processed on the Developmental Disabilities Services waiting list applied in 2007. Though that long wait time is discouraging, Felty is seeing progress made in the funding appropriated, from $7 million over the past 10 years to $2 million over each of the last two years and the potential for $6 million in the governor’s requested budget for the upcoming year.
WANDA AND DAUGHTER KAYLA
than 5,000 people in the state of Oklahoma waiting for services, which are allocated on a first-come, first-served basis. “When Kayla was on the waiting list I thought nobody cared,” said Felty. “I don’t want anyone else to feel like they are alone.” Felty brings in leaders from OKDHS and other agencies that support people with disabilities to listen to the families and offer interim solutions while they wait for state services. Attendees also benefit from parentto-parent emotional support and resource sharing. Felty remembers a single, working mom was struggling to transfer her daughter
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“This tells me advocacy is making a difference,” said Felty. “We are no longer unknown and the decision makers are taking action. One voice is just a whisper, but many become a roar.” Though Felty is quick to deflect attention from herself, her husband asserts that she is making a tremendous difference as an advocate and spokesperson for those 5,000 families on the waiting list for state services. Felty wishes she could take away Kayla’s disabilities so she could lead a typical life, but she’s grateful, too, for everything she’s learned as Kayla’s mom. “Because of Kayla I am a whole different person,” said Felty. “My life changed and I hope my life makes other people’s lives better, too.”
Cheryl Gruntmeir has always known she wanted to foster children. She is adopted herself, and before she and husband Jon married, she explained that a life with her would include fostering. Jon was all in, but the couple had no idea when and what fostering would look like for them. Years later, the parents of five found out. One of their oldest daughter’s friends had been spending a lot of time at their home when, unbeknownst to the Gruntmeirs, the teen ran away from her home to ask law enforcement to remove her from her traumatic living situation. The Gruntmeirs, who were completely unaware of her difficult home life, immediately took her in. When asked where she’d like to live long-term, the teen requested her biological mom, whom no one had heard from in a long time. Undeterred, Gruntmeir and a friend began scouring Facebook, eventually finding and messaging the mom, Brandy Williams, who called Gruntmeir on Thanksgiving Day. “The first thing I said was I don’t care what you’ve done or what you’ve been through, there’s no judgment here, I just wanted to know how I could help her come and fight for her daughter,” recalls Gruntmeir.
Williams was homeless, on drugs and without much hope. But that phone call changed everything. Williams stayed in communication with Gruntmeir, attended court dates, got sober and followed all of OKDHS’s requirements to be reunited with her daughter more than two years later. “She led me to a life without drugs and helped me be the mom I was meant to be,” said Williams, who nominated Gruntmeir. “She is my angel on earth, a true light in so many people’s lives.”
“We wanted to start helping women who are displaced, in shelters or sober houses to bring them hope and share our story.” Cheryl Gruntmeir
GRUNTMEIR WITH FOUR OF HER CHILDREN. BY FOTO ARTS PHOTOGRAPHY
The two women remain close friends years later. Both are incredibly proud of their daughter and foster daughter, today a wife, homeowner and mom herself. But their story doesn’t stop there. The duo felt called to reach other women on the brink. “We wanted to start helping women who are displaced, in shelters or sober houses to bring them hope and share our story,” said Gruntmeir. The Making Jesus Famous Association was born, collecting purses and toiletries to deliver to women across the metro, along with a Bible and an encouraging handwritten note. So far, more than 1,400 people have been served by the nonprofit organization. Women donate gently used purses, plus everything from shoes and nail polish to jewelry and personal hygiene items. When appropriate, Gruntmeir and Williams meet and speak with the women to whom they’re delivering purses. Williams’ and Gruntmeir’s children often help with deliveries to the YWCA, City Rescue Mission and other shelters throughout Oklahoma City. Because her own dad included her in his ministry for the homeless, it’s been important for Gruntmeir to do the same with her children, who range in age from 10 to 23.
CHERYL, RIGHT, WITH BRANDY WILLIAMS DELIVERS PURSES AND TOILETRIES TO WOMEN IN METRO SHELTERS.
“Cheryl led me to a life without drugs and helped me be the mom I was meant to be. She is my angel on earth, a true light in so many people’s lives.” Brandy Williams
“Being able to provide them opportunities to give to others is huge,” said Gruntmeir. A realtor and sales manager for an Edmond
builder, Gruntmeir is involved in the dayto-day of the nonprofit but says it’s Williams who runs their Facebook group with more than 700 members, dedicated not only to the ministry of Making Jesus Famous but also providing consistent affirmation and promoting the work of other local nonprofits. As Gruntmeir processed her recognition as an Awesome Mom, she says Williams is the one who deserves the honor. “I look at her and think how far she has come from when I met her to where she is now,” said Gruntmeir. “To see Brandy go from this life of hopelessness without shelter and without a relationship with her child to now giving back and helping other women, it is just the coolest thing.”
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Finalist
Essie Green
ESSIE GREEN WITH HUSBAND WALTER, DAUGHTERS LAQUILLA AND SHANIKA AND THREE OF HER SEVEN GRANDCHILDREN.
Essie Green is the epitome of a caregiver. The mom of three and grandma of seven has worked for the last eight years as a full-time personal caregiver, providing her often isolated, elderly clients a sense of normalcy and comfort. Daughter Shanika, who nominated Green, says her mom gets her joy from helping others. “I enjoy making a difference in people’s lives,” said Green. In her career, Green gains just as much as she gives, currently learning to make a quilt from her 94-year-old client. Green’s intentionality in serving others is apparent as she ensures that same client, who once loved to garden, gets to stroll outside to enjoy the blooming flowers. Though Green spent most of her professional career in finance, the caretaking role has
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come naturally to her all her life, in raising three daughters and then raising three grandchildren when her eldest daughter, Freedom, was tragically killed in a house fire. Her grandchildren were 4, 5 and 10 years old when they came to live with her and her husband Walter, and their other daughters were 15 and 19 at the time. Faced with the unexpected challenge of raising children a second time while all grieving the loss of their mother, Green worried she wouldn’t be enough for Tony, Tashiyla and Essence.
“I took a lot of pride in them, and in the back of my mind I was thinking ‘their mom would be so glad they are getting to do all these things.’” Essie Green
“I wondered if I’d have enough energy and patience,” Green recalls. A revelation to her then and still today: she had more. The beginning was the hardest, especially as friends who’d already raised kids and were in different stages of life drifted away. Perhaps because she had already navigated the road before or she was older and wiser, Green felt blessed by getting to do everything twice — from attending basketball games and back-to-school nights to chauffeuring the kids to their various activities. “I took a lot of pride in them, and in the back of my mind I was thinking ‘their mom would be so glad they are getting to do all these things,’” said Green. Green is also quick to credit daughters Shanika and Laquilla with playing games and taking their nieces and nephew on outings so Green could focus on making meals, helping with homework and the rest of the day-to-day operations. “Laquilla was in basic training in the military and she came home and fell right
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Though the family went through a period of time where talking about the daughter, sister and mother they lost was too painful, now they find great joy in being reminded of Freedom through her oldest daughter.
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Catalyst for Change
New OKDHS director shares candid truths of his first year BY ERIN PAGE. PHOTOS PROVIDED.
One year ago, Justin Brown’s perception of the Oklahoma Department of Human Services was created exclusively by stories from the local news. Now he runs the state’s largest agency and is quick to concede his first impressions couldn’t have been further from the truth. CLICK FOR MOBILE-FRIENDLY VERSION
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At age 40, Brown was appointed director of OKDHS in June 2019 by Gov. Kevin Stitt. Formerly the CEO of Choice Capital Partners, Brown built a passion for serving seniors with Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia through his role in managing the business behind assisted living centers across three states. Though no stranger to the responsibilities and dedication required in caring for a vulnerable population, Brown acknowledges a learning curve as he’s acclimated to a career in state government. On the flip side, the businessman’s fresh perspective, visionary thinking and heart for service have been catalysts for continued improvements in the agency. As such, Gov. Stitt also appointed Brown cabinet secretary of human services and early childhood development in March. As May marks National Foster Care Month, Brown reflects on his first year as OKDHS director and his vision for the future.
LEFT: JUSTIN BROWN, DIRECTOR OF THE OKLAHOMA DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN SERVICES, VISITS WITH EMPLOYEES AT DALE ROGERS TRAINING CENTER, WHICH PROVIDES VOCATIONAL TRAINING AND JOBS FOR PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES. BROWN TAKES A SPIN WITH METRO KIDS AT THE YMCA IN OKLAHOMA CITY.
What has been most eye-opening during your first year as director?
What are the biggest successes you’ve noted in the last year?
Coming from the private sector, my initial view as an outsider of what a government state employee is could not have been more wrong. Within the first day, it was clear that we have an unbelievable workforce. These people are so passionate about what they do and they are highly qualified, from the state office level to the employees at the county level across the state. They’re all in.
We have so much to do that as I move forward I haven’t been great at looking back often enough to celebrate successes. The biggest success has been all about teamwork; we are creating a culture of relationships and collaboration. This intentional culture of working more closely together within our own agency is starting to take hold with inter-disciplinary teams. If we have a child welfare issue, the real concern might be poverty, so we create these teams to all work together.
As the agency has been built up over the years, barriers have gotten in the way. We have created well-intentioned programs but not always thought about how they work together. Combined with underinvestment in technology, I could see within the first few weeks that our system is not set up to facilitate really great working relationships and support for one another. The fact that we have such great people who are so dedicated is a testament to how passionate they are, even with a broken system.
What is your impression of DHS employees now, specifically those who work within Child Protective Services? I went on a Child Protective Services ride-along a few months ago to a home with a claim of neglect. The CPS employee walked right up to the door and knocked, having no clue what was on the other side of the door. She does this every day; she’s so courageous. I was a glorified babysitter for three hours, playing with the kids and dogs, while she did the interviews, and it was eyeopening to me what heroes these people are. The same goes for a call I went on with a permanency planning worker. They are always walking in with an advocate heart for those they are trying to help.
We want to work well with our partners in the community, whether that’s foster care agencies, the legislature, tribes or nonprofits all over the state. This culture is being perpetuated, and we have to have help to do this the right way, to create real, genuine working relationships.
How has being a dad impacted you in this role? Having kids and being a dad is my joy. One of my favorite things is making breakfast for my kids every morning. Hannah is 12 and Ford is 10, and being their dad puts a mission behind this role that’s even deeper than my desire to support my state and serve others. To help build a state that provides the same opportunities my kids have for all kids, that personalizes the mission for me because I think about them in the same situations that we see.
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BROWN WITH WIFE KELLY, DAUGHTER HANNAH AND SON FORD
How has being director of DHS impacted you as a dad?
What’s your vision for the future of OKDHS?
My family and I had a lot of conversations leading up to my accepting this role, knowing it would be an emotional position for me. I’ve been able to share with my kids what’s happening in the world around them more directly. We are involved in various nonprofits and take our kids to volunteer at the food bank once a month to pack back packs for kids, but it’s wholly different when you are in a job where you carry a personal weight. There’s a burden and I go home and include my family in that conversation. Many of us have sheltered lives, and I hope removing some of that shelter is positive for my own kids.
We are literally changing the world out of OKDHS. We’re going to be a catalyst for world change, not just state change, doing things that have never been done. We investigated just over 81,000 cases of abuse and neglect last year, with 90 percent related to neglect and 70 percent related to poverty. If we can think about poverty in a different way, work with the programs we operate within our agency, then we can address poverty in a massive and material way. Those world-changing initiatives are going to be helping families lift themselves out of poverty so we have eight cases to investigate instead of 81,000.
What does the general community not know about OKDHS?
As we recognize National Foster Care Month, what can metro families to do help?
It’s like an iceberg. What you see is so small compared to the whole truth. We are doing everything we can as an agency to start to change our narrative. Candidly, nine months ago my impression of the agency was purely driven based on what I saw on the evening news. Just like my impression of state employees was wrong, my impression of the [agency] was wrong. There are a thousand incredible stories happening inside our agency every day. Lives are being changed for the better. These stories aren’t often told and definitely don’t get social media likes, but our people are simply doing the right things. They deserve more recognition. We have not been great at telling those stories and that is not acceptable; we’re going to do better.
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We need partnerships, not just with organizations but with individuals on the ground level. If you aren’t ready to be a foster family, help out a foster family. Sign up to provide respite care so they can have a night out or bring them a meal. The reason we have so much need [for foster families] is because it’s hard, it’s complicated and it requires a different way of thinking. The agency is working to become more supportive of our foster families, who need tools and resources, transitioning to an agency that is really serving those who are serving our kids. CLICK FOR MOBILE-FRIENDLY VERSION
THE STATE OF OUR KIDS 18%
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In 2015, MetroFamily embarked on a 12-month series to report on the state of foster care in Oklahoma, dispel myths and answer questions about how the community could help. We received such a tremendous response that we followed that series with another year-long look at the forever impact local foster families were making on children and their biological parents. Here's a glance at how the Oklahoma foster care numbers have changed from 2015 to 2020.
In 2019, 2,216 children left state care through reunification. The number of kids in care has been dramatically reduced since 2015, which also reduces the number of homes needed to care for them. However, the current population of kids in care has much higher needs compared to those in 2015, making the recruitment of families able to provide higher-level care on a long-term basis that much more challenging.
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FAMILY MENTAL WELLNESS
Symptoms of 5 Common POSTPARTUM
DEPRESSION
+ resources to help you feel like yourself again BY THAI-AN TRUONG, LPC, LADC
I was completely blind-sided by postpartum depression. I was excited to be a mom. I always loved kids and looked forward to the novel and fulfilling experience of raising my own baby girl. I even had a friend prophetically tell me to watch out for postpartum depression, but I laughed her off. I thought postpartum depression happened to other moms, definitely not me.
It was the middle of March. Flowers were blooming, my favorite season was around the corner and I just had my first baby girl. I expected it to be the happiest time of my life. Instead, I found myself pacing the bedroom, wringing my hands, wanting to crawl out of my own skin and praying to not wake up. Editor’s note: This column is the first in a 12-month series on family mental wellness, written by local experts on topics pertinent to parents and children. Columnists include Truong, Dr. Erica Faulconer, pediatrician with Northwest Pediatrics and mom of three; Stacey Johnson, LPC, (@staceyjohnsonlife) in private practice at The Purple Couch, owner of Studio 7 and mom of eight; and Dr. Lisa Marotta, a psychologist, writer, speaker and mom in private practice in Edmond. CLICK FOR MOBILE-FRIENDLY VERSION
But there I was, several days after bringing my daughter home, finding myself unrecognizable. I felt like I had completely lost myself. I felt an additional layer of shame because I am a therapist. Shouldn’t I be immune to being stuck in such a dark, hollow space in my mental health? Apparently not. Being aware of the most common symptoms of postpartum depression can help you recognize them in yourself, or others, and realize you aren’t alone. These are symptoms I’ve experienced and also seen in almost all the moms I’ve had the privilege to work with over the past three years. The sooner you or your loved ones can recognize the symptoms, the faster you can get the right help to get better.
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Anxiety. We hear so much about depression in postpartum women. We expect moms struggling with postpartum depression to be sad and disengaged. However, anxiety is actually the most common symptom in postpartum women. You may find yourself feeling restless, tense and on edge, frightened about your new motherhood role and frequently worried about your baby’s well-being. You may also struggle with sleeping when your baby sleeps because you are consumed with worry about your baby. Anxiety in postpartum women can often come with intrusive thoughts, which are scary thoughts or images of bad things happening to your baby. While these images can be terrifying, they are completely treatable.
Sadness and loss of pleasure.
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Many moms find themselves feeling sad, down and tearful after having their baby. Women I work with say “I don’t feel like myself” or “I don’t know who I am anymore.” They may not have realized how lonely motherhood can feel, and life can become bleak and gray in the midst of their exhaustion. Moms can also be surprised by the grief they feel: grief over their old life, when things were easier, when
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they had sleep, when they could get up and go when they wanted to, when they could just go to the bathroom when they needed to. Those simple actions become a luxury after having your baby. Then moms often end up feeling guilty for not being joyful at all times, as society tells us we should feel after having our baby.
Discouragement and hopelessness. Moms can get to the point of feeling discouraged about their ability to “make it” and hopeless about the future. Every little thing feels overwhelming and moms may fear they’ll never feel like themselves again. The danger of this symptom is that it can lead to suicidal thoughts. Moms often don’t have an active plan to end their life, but when you’re suffering, it could seem like a relief to not wake up or exist another day. Moms may feel like a burden to their loved ones, believing their family would be better off without them. Please seek immediate professional help if you’re finding yourself having passive or active suicidal thoughts, and remember, they are also completely treatable.
Irritability and anger.
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When you’re already overwhelmed it doesn’t take much to make you irritable and angry. This seems to be the forbidden emotion for women. “Good moms” and women “shouldn’t” feel angry or resentful toward their baby, partner or other loved ones. Moms may feel angry at themselves for not always being calm, kind and gentle with loved ones. The truth is, I haven’t worked with a mom yet who didn’t find herself
having moments of irritability! Anger is often trying to clue us in to a desperate need for relief and support during this challenging transition.
Loss of self-esteem or feeling worthless.
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It is painfully devastating when you care so much about being the best mom you can be but end up feeling like the worst. They may feel inferior to other moms and like their baby would be better off with someone else. It’s hard for them to recognize their own hard work, and labels like “bad mom” or “failure” overtake their identity. If you have two or more of these symptoms and it’s been more than two weeks since you’ve had your baby, you may be experiencing postpartum depression and/ or anxiety and could benefit from getting help. It can be hard to believe in the middle of your struggle, but you will get better by taking active steps forward, either self-help work or seeking professional help. Find resources at metrofamilymagazine.com/ mental-wellness. Thai-An Truong, LPC, LADC is a postpartum therapist and mother of two who is passionate about helping pregnant and postpartum women overcome depression and anxiety. She has overcome her own battle with postpartum depression and anxiety and loves helping moms work to feel like themselves again so they can enjoy life with their baby and family. To learn more about her and her counseling services, visit www.lastingchangetherapy.com.
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LOCAL FAMILY FUN
Stepping into Summer with Outdoor Fun 2
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Sunshine + warm weather = outdoor family fun season. We know you’ve become pretty familiar with your own turf over the last month or more, but we’ve got 10 stellar suggestions for summertime fun in your own backyard:
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Make your own slip n slide for a wild time, or turn on the sprinklers and create a wet obstacle course.
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Pitch a tent in your backyard for a family campout. Try a campfire recipe to complete your evening.
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Try a new twist on water fights by making sponge bombs.
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some time stargazing. Science 4 Spend Museum Oklahoma’s #SMOatHome
offers tutorials to do it yourself, or watch their resident scientists explain the night sky virtually.
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in touch with Western heritage! 5 Get Concoct your own butter and decorate bandannas so you’ll be ready for the National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum’s rescheduled Chuck Wagon Festival come September.
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Turn two pop bottles into a tiny tornado 6 with a classic science experiment from
KFOR-TV meteorologists Damien Lodes and Emily Sutton.
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Visualize your next vacation at one of Oklahoma’s most unique attraction adventures. Find out how you can sleep in a treehouse or covered wagon when it’s safe to travel again!
8 Have a blast creating bubble art. it up at your own luau! Find 9 Live everything you need, from crafts 9
and recipes to books and movies, in the Oklahoma Hall of Fame’s virtual OHOF@Home series.
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Get growing with a flower or vegetable garden designed as a family.
Visit metrofamilymagazine.com/step-into-summer-fun for more info and instructions for our top 10 recs. Share a photo of your at-home outdoor fun with the tag #okcfamilyfun.
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Recently I polled my friends on social media regarding what makes them feel overwhelmed with mom guilt. Their responses were surprisingly similar: doing too much or not doing enough. Mom guilt has become a normal part of motherhood. Every day there seems to be some situation that wakes up the mom guilt monster and it haunts us for the rest of the day. It reminds us we have failed yet again and that our kids will probably turn into criminals or need therapy because of us. Our emotions often take over to the point we can’t think straight and we succumb to reacting in unhealthy ways. When we’re overwhelmed in a dark place of defeat we might wonder: “Why would God give me two kids? I can’t handle two kids!” I have thought this myself but felt too guilty to say it out loud. I know I am not alone.
The dread of discipline
One area where I have often felt defeated is disciplining my kids. If there was ever a manual every parent needed it would be one on discipline. There is no one method that works best for all children because kids are all different and situations vary. Most of the time we parent the way we were parented, or we do the exact opposite. I am the primary disciplinarian in my family; my husband is more patient, so he jumps in to discipline mostly when there is a safety concern. I grew up in a house where the loudest person was heard most. So I naturally yell to make sure I am heard loud and clear.
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I am also a huge rule follower so I can’t let wrongdoings go easily without an appropriate consequence. (I was the kid in elementary school who loved checking other people’s papers and marking them up with my red pen.) But my husband, who is a lead pastor at a church in Norman, always provides great advice: “Don’t fight to win the argument, fight to win the relationship.”
Connecting before correcting
I’ve been striving to put into practice a few key steps to manage the mom guilt monster that rears its head for me related to discipline. As much as it is contrary to my personality, I am choosing to connect before I correct. I am real with my kids so they know I relate to their struggle in not always making the best choices or playing nice every time. I initiate vulnerable conversations starting with: “I know how you feel. I have done that, too.” This allows me to connect with my kids at their level first, then I correct by giving them time out or whatever consequence is appropriate for their behavior. I’ve learned that when I discipline as a parent, my primary goal is not behavior modification, it is character development and creating trust. Believe me, I have done it wrong for so long. But I am trying to change my parenting style, proof that it is never too late. Simi John is married to her best friend and they pastor New Life Bible Church in Norman. They have two kids and love exploring OKC. Simi is a speaker and author, having just released her first book: “I Am Not: Break Free From Stereotypes & Become the Woman God Made You to Be.” Connect with Simi on Instagram @simijohn.
From guilt to grace
Whether over discipline or something else, I’ve also learned to manage mom guilt by caring for myself. Here are three things I do when the guilty feelings start to creep in: 1. Go for a walk. When I am overwhelmed by mom guilt, I want to sit, scroll and sulk, so instead I force myself to go for a walk around the neighborhood, Martin Park Nature Center or Lake Overholser.
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Making Mother’s Day
Memorable
Maybe this year more than ever it’s important to let the moms in your life know how much they are loved and appreciated! And if you’re mom in your household, give this list to your people or plan your own day based on what makes you feel special. Check out these 8 ideas to help moms feel the love.
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1. Grab take-out from mom’s favorite brunch spot. Check out our reader-recommended restaurants for inspiration. 2. Make mom a keepsake gift with 5 easy DIY craft ideas. 3. Gift mom her favorite bath salts or oils, a new book or playlist and give her an hour to herself. CLICK FOR MOBILE-FRIENDLY VERSION
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4. Take mom on a virtual vacation to one of her bucket list locales. 5. Plan a movie night. Let mom pick the flick and the snacks. 6. If mom is going stir crazy, encourage her to go for a walk or run solo (or with company if she’d prefer!) or to take time for mindfulness with our This Land Yoga series. 7. Treat yo’ mom with a City Box by the same name, including sweet treats and self-care products. 8. Check out more gift ideas for mom from locally-owned businesses on page 8!
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Art with heart
Autumn’s story BY ERIN PAGE. PHOTOS PROVIDED.
Autumn Hudgins’ earliest memories involve the arts. She’s been drawing for as long as she could pick up a pencil, dancing since she could walk, singing since she could talk. Though she’s graduated to bigger theatrical roles, she vividly remembers her debut as Mrs. Claus in a first grade production. About the time Autumn entered her teenage years, the now 18-year-old high school senior made a life-changing discovery: she could take her passion for the arts and gift it to others through service. Some individuals plow through adulthood unsure of their life’s purpose, but this Choctaw teen on the cusp of graduation has fully cultivated hers into her Serving with HeART initiative.
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AUTUMN’S SERVING WITH HEART INITIATIVE FOCUSES ON SHARING ART WITH THE UNDERSERVED AND EDUCATING THE COMMUNITY ON THE BENEFITS OF ART.
“I believe deeply that it’s my duty as a human to shine a light to others,” said Autumn. “My purpose is to help people and move others to create.”
A spark to serve Autumn was recently named one of Oklahoma’s top six youth volunteers by Prudential Financial’s Spirit of Community Awards program for outstanding service. Autumn’s first concerted volunteer effort coincided with her 13th birthday when she asked friends to collect clothing and toiletries for an organization assisting in the recovery and recuperation of human trafficking victims. “I couldn’t imagine people around my age going through that,” said Autumn. That party, which also included handing out kind notes to strangers at the mall, sparked Autumn’s creativity for service, inspiring her to look outside herself to help others. Several years later, Autumn’s Serving with
HeART initiative began to take shape, encompassing opportunities within the community to provide art to the underserved and educate others on the benefits of art. Autumn volunteered for a summer at Studio 222, an after-school program helping metro kids develop self-esteem and resilience against at-risk behaviors. Autumn realized the students she was working with didn’t often have access to art in their schools, or elsewhere. Likewise as an intern at The Children’s Hospital at OU Medicine, Autumn noticed when visiting and delivering gifts to patients that sketch books were scarce. So she rallied her school to collect more than 900 art supplies for hospital patients. While Autumn is grateful for opportunities to provide arts awareness to other kids in the metro, she can’t help but feel a sense of frustration that the benefits she’s gained from arts programs aren’t available to all kids. “Arts funding is the first to go, and I don’t think that should be acceptable,” said Autumn. “People don’t realize how necessary
these programs really are to development, assisting with math, science and English skills. Even if my voice is just a drop in the bucket, enough drops make an ocean.” Not one to sit idly by, Autumn turned that frustration, and her drop in a bucket, into an initiative on social media, creating ArtsMatter2Us to engage her social circles in discussions about why art opportunities matter. Autumn started by interviewing local artists about the inspiration behind their work, and as her reach and engagement has gained momentum, she even scored an interview with Broadway producer Hunter Arnold “I want to share stories not commonly told or heard for the purpose of touching someone’s life and moving them to change or action,” said Autumn.
Opening minds and hearts One major benefit Autumn notes from her involvement in dance, theater and visual arts is a more open mind. Through her volunteer work, her year of service as Miss Southwest Oklahoma Outstanding Teen, involvement
with Race Dance Academy and various productions with KidsAlive!, Autumn has met a variety of people who’ve impacted her view on the world and her desire to help others experience the world around them. “The arts are like a gateway you can choose to walk through that expose you to other communities, situations and concepts that people don’t always take time for,” said Autumn. Autumn’s favorite eye- and heart-opening experience came from the Kaleidoscope program with KidsAlive!, providing performance opportunities for kids of all abilities. Experienced young actors like Autumn are paired with children with special needs to create a collaborative musical theatre production. The most challening and beloved charater Autumn has played to day was Mary Poppins, but the experience was made even sweeter through this unique program. On some nights of the show, Autumn played Mary Poppins while on others her partner played the lead, the two bonding closely while they developed the depth of Mary Poppins’ character together.
“Being in that position helped show me even more how the arts can benefit others and how to be a voice for those who don’t often get listened to,” said Autumn. As Autumn contemplates her future after graduating from Choctaw High School this month, she knows she wants to open her mind further through travel, diverse experiences and new connections, even if she’s not yet sure where that plan will land her. She will attend college to study music performance, keeping up with acting classes and musical theatre to further her development into a well-rounded artist. While Autumn’s dance icon has always been Fred Astaire, her Oklahoma role model is Kristen Chenoweth, whose breadth and depth of performance experiences Autumn aspires to. “My dream is to become an actress on Broadway, then film and eventually an author and illustrator, maybe writing plays and books and creating a band,” laughs Autumn. “There is no end to my dreams and that’s primarily because my overall goal is to move people.”
Supporting Change– For the Better Ten-year-old Brixton Ison volunteers every Friday night at Celebrate Recovery Memorial Road Church of Christ. Whether setting a dining table, distributing informational material, or preparing a dish for a family-friendly dinner, his passion for helping others is a prime example of why we’re inspired by kids like Brixton. At Kimray, our mission is to make a difference in the lives of those we serve. Brixton exemplifies this by living out that mission in the service he provides to his community. And that’s The Kimray Way.
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EXPLORING BEYOND OKLAHOMA
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Whether you’re disappointed over a canceled excursion or just want to live vicariously while quarantined, these 10 virtual vacations allow your family to take a trip without ever leaving home. Hopefully a virtual vacation will help you get excited about taking a real vacation soon!
Head to the mouse meca. The real magic here is getting to experience Disneyworld or Disneyland without having to wait in a single line!
Visit a national park. From Yellowstone to the Statue of Liberty, explore some of our country’s iconic destinations.
Check out one of the top family vacation spots in the United States. Hike or raft through the majestic Grand Canyon.
Appreciate art. Whether you visit the OKCMOA or a museum around the world, experience amazing art and get even more creative by recreating the famous portraits you see.
Peruse Peru. Visit one of the seven wonders of the world in Machu Picchu and look for llama sightings, too!
Tour the nation’s capital. Find dozens of immersive experiences, from the Lincoln Memorial to the Smithsonian and famous landmarks and neighborhoods.
Feel the falls. Experience 360 degrees of Niagara Falls, from soaring overhead in a helicopter to riding the rapids.
Seek a space adventure. Learn how astronauts live aboard the International Space Station.
Post your family enjoying your virtual experience with the tag #okcfamilyfun!
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Experience Japanese culture. Take 360 degree tours of national monuments in Japan.
LAST LOOK
Multitasking moms Moms are masters at multitasking. Even in the midst of a pandemic. We salute moms this Mother’s Day as you parent, work, cook (or order take out), school, clean and manage the physical, mental and emotional health of your families. We hope you’ll find solidarity in the words of some of our favorite recent Weekend Warrior blogs from metro mamas below.
“Maybe this pandemic is a way for us to step off the ‘life’ wheel for a second and breathe. A method for us to find ourselves again, hug our children harder, thank our spouses and remember that life could change in an instant.” @SashaHughes shares how she’s dealing with uncertainty at metrofamilymagazine. com/we-can-push-through.
“Instead of focusing on the struggles and fears that are out of our control, zeroing in on the beauty and courage of humanity each day has been uplifting.” @movebymadi shares her challenges and gratitude as a pregnant mom of two littles married to a frontline physician at metrofamilymagazine.com/spousefrontline-physician.
“Today, I’m going to take a long, hot bath. No, you cannot get in too. No, not even ‘ just your feet.’ This bath is mine.”
“One hour dragged into a full 10 hours of miserable funk, and when I went to bed that night, I didn’t know what would make it better. What I did know: I couldn’t spend another day like that.”
@AlyShahan1 pens her hilarious take on what she really wants for Mother’s Day at metrofamilymagazine.com/mothers-dayrequest.
@sunshineinmynest gets vulnerable in sharing how she got back to herself at metrofamilymagazine.com/20-ways-tobeat-the-social-distancing-funk.
“You know when the flight attendant says to put on your mask before you help someone else with theirs? Well, this is one of those cases. You have to take care of yourself so that you can have the energy and mindset for working with your children at home.”
“Working parents are not OK. Maybe after all this is said and done, I can add ‘actress’ to my resume since each day takes some performing to get through.”
Torie Shoecraft shares her focus on routine, reading and rest at metrofamilymagazine.com/quarantine-homeschool.
Koshia Silver gets real about what it’s like to manage a career, kids and marriage in quarantine, and what she’s doing to help other parents, at metrofamilymagazine. com/working-parents-covid.
Check out metrofamilymagazine.com/weekend-warrior for tips, encouragement, affirmation and humor from local parents.
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