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It’s that time of year again to get your child ready for school. Check out our list of back to school items that you may forget on page 36.

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A cell phone for your tween may come in handy. Visit page 18 to see if your child is ready to have a cell phone.

5. Fireflies 6. A Great Team 7. Productive Work

Your baby bump can rock a swimsuit this summer. Find out whish swimsuit would work best for you on page 24.

Give your future babysitter a test run. Choosing the perfect babysitter is hard but try these few tips to help make your decision easier on page 22.

8. Sparklers 9. Beach Glass 10. Redecorating 11. Online Music 12. Skorts

It’s ok to let your children be bored this summer. Go to page 16 to see why it’s ok to let your child say “I’m bored!”

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Go on a funnel cake crawl at your 4H Fair. Make your 4H Fair experience more fun this year by trying these “must-dos” on page 30.

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16 The Benefits Of Boredom

By: Meagan Church

18 Is Your Kid Ready For A Cell Phone By: Ashley Talmadge

22 Find Your Perfect Babysitter

By: Lara West

Family Pregnancy

24 Pregnancy And The Swimsuit

Live Your Best 4 8 Things We Learned Making This Issue

4 Things We Love Right Now

By: Noelle Elliott

26 The Benefits Of A Birth Class By: Meagan Church

28 Dealing With C-Section Depression

5 Reader Testimonials

By: Allison Boelcke Smith

5 4Keeps Comic 7 Contributors 8 The FAMILY Month Calendar 20 Centerfold Calendar

10 Keep Your Child Interested In Learning

By: Katie Carter

By: Kristine Smith

By: Michelle L. Shirk

Mommy and Daddy

32 Dear Mom, Who Needs Encouragement…Or A Nap

Movie & Book Reviews

14 Family Fun Outdoor Activities

By: Michelle L. Shirk

36 Back-To-School Ready

12 How Not To Spend Your Theme Park Vacation

30 10 Must-Dos At Your County Fair Visit

Family Fun

SPECIAL SECTION:

By: Robin McClure

38 Book Review: Daddy Lost His Job By Jennifer Moore-Mallinos

Reviewed By: Heather Matteson

By: Meagan Churchx

34 Product Testing: Trash Bags & Sandwich Bags

By: Lara West

38 Book Review: Million-Dollar Throw

Reviewed By: Nick Bradley

39 The Fun(est) Summer Movies

By: Cole Pollyea

Family Craft

7 Father’s Day Mug

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FAMILY contibutors

Noelle Elliott is a social media junkie, blogger, writer and career woman. She lives in South Bend with her husband, four young sons and two chocolate labs.

Meagan Church is married to her high-school sweetheart and is the mother of 3 kids. She is a writer and children’s book author. She is also the brainpower of the online resource Unexpectant, exploring the realities of birth, babies and beyond

Kristine Smith is a freelance writer, living in her hometown of La Porte. She has been published both regionally and nationally and prefers to write articles that provoke, inspire or amuse. She attended Ball State University for her Bachelor's degree in Sociology and recently completed her Master's degree in Psychology.

Lara West completed her degree in Elementary Education and has spent the last several years working as a ghost writer, completing manuscripts, children stories, research papers and article rewrites.

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Strawberry Summer Desert

By: Jill Lebbin

Ingredients: • Sliced Strawberries • Angel Food Cake • Cheesecake Delight Topping

Steps: 1. Slice the angel food cake in the middle. 2. Add the cheesecake delight topping. 3. Spread the crushed strawberries on top. 4. Put the angel food cake top back on. 5. Spread the cheesecake delight topping on the top 6. Add sliced strawberries!

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Sneak Peek Science, 5:30 P.M., ETHOS Science Center Yoga In The Gardens, 3:00 P.M., Wellfield Botanic Gardens

A Midsummer Night’s Dream, 11:00 A.M., The Lerner Theatre

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Music Exploration Camp, 1:00 P.M., Wedertz Music Academy

Babysitting With Confidence, 8:30 A.M., Lakeland Regional Medical Center, St. Joseph

St. Joseph County 4H Fair, 8:00 A.M.

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Music Exploration Camp, 1:00 P.M., Wedertz Music Academy Outdoor Adventures Summer Day Camp: Habitat Hunters, 8:30 P.M., St. Patrick’s County Park

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Tip: After your kids have captured their new little creatures, sit down and research the type of bugs they have and what they need in order to survive.

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School Summer vacation is coming to an end meaning moms need to start getting their kids ready for school! The FAMILY Magazine is making it easier for moms across Michiana by having a Backpack Giveaway filled with stupplies that their child will need.

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Keep Your Child Interested In

Learning During The Summer By: Kristine Smith

According to the U.S. Department of Education, children can experience a learning loss equivalent to two months of math and reading skills during the summer months. More than half of the achievement gap between lower and higher income youth can possibly be explained by an unequal access of the children to summer learning opportunities. However, regardless of the income status of the family, a child can find many learning opportunities through the summer that can be both affordable, easily obtainable and, with a little creativity, assist the child in remaining interested in learning regardless of the season. The Department of Education encourages the parent to remain engaged in the child’s learning by helping the child put together a summer reading list. By offering a reward or celebration each time he or she finishes a book, the child will feel more excited about completing the list by the time summer comes to an end. Perhaps suggest to your child that they have a “book club” with some of their close friends once a week where your child can bounce ideas and thoughts on a particular read off of their peers. This concept can stimulate thought processes and increase their vocabulary and English skills through the summer months in a less mundane way then a classroom setting.

Planning a summer vacation? Have your child actively participate in the researching and planning the trip. This will allow your child to feel more of a part of the trip while at the same time teach them valuable information about the location you are headed. If you have a teenager, consider allowing the teen access to some of the costs of the trip. In doing so, this is a great way to help the teen brush up on practical math skills. 10

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A family vacation is a perfect opportunity to create a learning experience for children of all ages. A family vacation is a perfect opportunity to create a learning experience for children of all ages. A scrapbook can be made by collecting postcards, brochures and menus from restaurants and tourist attractions. Encourage your child to write descriptions of the places you visited and tell stories about your family's escapades or suggest a scrapbook on your child's favorite sports team or a chronicle of his year in school. The scrapbook might contain photos with captions, newspaper clippings or school mementos.

Is your child looking for ways to spruce up his or her room?

The summer is a good time to allow their creative juices to flow while at the same time, encourage them to use math skills for measuring for curtains, for example, or utilize their research abilities to gain information of various styles or trends that may interest them. Research talents and budgeting knowledge are never wasted skills for a child to learn, regardless of their age.

For teenagers, they may be thinking more and more about their future so inspire them to learn more about the potential colleges they may want to attend. Encourage them to set

his or her own goals for their career and talk about what motivates them and why. Even teaching the teen how to find a resume template and how to fill out a job application can be useful tasks to learn at any age. If they are old enough to gain a job, then assist them with interview techniques as well, and practice these techniques.

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Even young children can learn to be responsible by helping to set the table, take care of a pet, clean out a closet, wash the car or paint the picket fence. Ask your child to be your

energy consultant and help find ways to conserve energy in your house. Outside summer jobs and community service help children learn to be punctual, follow directions and serve others. In encouraging them to serve others, point out the need for volunteers at a homeless shelter or food bank. Learning does not have to be strictly related to schoolwork. Social skills and learning about the world around a child can be as valuable, if not more so, than lessons in a classroom setting. "You don't want your kids to think that learning is only something that happens in places called schools," says Susan K. Perry, author of Playing Smart: The Family Guide to Enriching Offbeat Learning Activities for Ages 4-14. "Rather, you want them to grasp that learning is fun and can go on all the time, anytime, anywhere, with handy materials, not only based on the instruction of an actual schoolteacher. The summer is a great unstructured mass of time to try out new things and explore interests that don't necessarily fit into the school curriculum… If every time your child says, 'I'm bored,' you step in with a quick solution; they'll never learn to develop their own resources. But do provide some options. Just don't try to instill learning. That's not how it works.” Summer can be a challenging but pivotal time to teach children of all age’s lessons that can be utilized in the classroom and beyond. Learning does not have to be a seasonal event and with the right methods, children can be excited about learning year round.

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FAMILY fun

How Not to Spend Your

Theme Park Vacation By: Michelle L. Shirk, J.D.

Summer time

means vacation time and many Michiana families heading off to visit theme parks near and far in hopes of riding roller coasters, eating

cotton candy and making memories. Whether you’re planning a quick weekend getaway to Six Flags Great America or an extended Walt Disney World vacation, the time and money spent on these types of travel are precious. Unfortunately, it’s not unusual to see frustrated and stressed out theme park tourists falling into common time and money pitfalls. One can only assume these folks either 1) aren’t sure how to plan ahead and avoid these problems, or 2) simply have no interest in saving time or money. If you are a contrarian that falls into the latter category, read on! Following the suggestions below will help ensure that you leave your theme park of choice frustrated, broke and desperately in need of another vacation:

Arrive at the park at least two hours after opening time. Who

wants to take advantage of lower temperatures and lighter crowds? Not you! Show up around 11:00 a.m. on a day the park opens at 9:00 a.m. and enjoy being greeted by the lengthy attraction queues that have built up over the course of the morning. This tip works particularly well during the busier times of the year.

consider ticket options until you’re standing at the 2.Don’t entrance gate.

While there may be better deals or free add-ons available for those who purchase their tickets online, it’s much more interesting to just show up at the park gate and try to crunch numbers on the spot. One day versus multi-day versus annual pass - who cares? Just pick the admission option that sounds best without worrying about whether it makes sense with your lifestyle or future travel plans. You should also be sure not to check tourist brochures for coupons or to ask about possible discounts for AAA, AARP, or any similar organizations of which you are a member. 12

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Avoid perusing a park map 3. or attraction directory ahead of time.

If you’re really committed to wasting time, don’t glance at the park’s website or buy a guidebook before your visit. Instead, just wander from attraction to attraction and try to guess whether each one might be of interest to your group. Bonus points if you actually wait in line for a while before discovering a particular ride is far too boring/wild/loud to be appropriate. This tip seems to be practiced by theme park visitors with some frequency, so you will likely notice other patrons in line who also seem to have no idea what they are waiting for.

all essential supplies 4.Leave at home.

You could pack a backpack with camera batteries, sunscreen, over-thecounter medications and other potentially essential supplies. Or, you could choose the more adventurous option of waiting until you inevitably need one of these items and then dedicating a chunk of valuable vacation time to hunting for it at various theme park gift shops. Note that if/when you do find the product you need, you will likely pay a substantially marked up price for a brand that may not be your first choice.

family meals for 5.Schedule peak times.

If you’re looking for a truly stressful dining experience, plan to eat lunch around noon and dinner at 6:30 p.m. Refrain from making reservations or doing online research to learn which restaurants tend to be the least crowded. After all, there’s nothing quite like waiting in line with masses of your fellow tourists when everyone’s already tired, hungry, and grumpy. If you dine at a counter service restaurant, the excitement of your experience will be further enhanced by the possibility that there may not be a table available for you once you receive your tray filled with food. Following these tips should guarantee that your theme park vacation is an expensive, stress-filled adventure.

Of course, if ending your day with a migraine and an empty wallet isn’t your goal and you’d prefer to have a fun, relaxing trip instead, you could always “follow” these tips by doing exactly the opposite!

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FAMILY fun

By: Robin McClure

s the days warm up and the dreary winter days disappear, it’s time to enjoy some outdoor family time fun. See who can drive the fastest on the go-karts, get the lowest score on the (miniature) putting green or hit the most balls in the batting cages at these Michiana locations.

Family Fun Centers

Captain Mike’s Fun Park Bridgman, MI captainmikesamusementpark.com Why You Should Go: Jr. Go Karts allow children as young as five to race, or they can ride with parents on the Indy-style go-kart lane. Smash into people with the bumper boats and bumper cars or shoot hoops on the trampoline basketball court. Spray water cannons, dousing people on the bumper boats, or start a water war, launching water balloons at the opposite team. Putt past a lighthouse, a water garden and streams in mini golf. Swing at slow, medium and fast pitches in the batting cages. Snacks and the game room are located indoors. Hacker’s Golf N Games Niles, MI www.hackersgolfandgames.com Why You Should Go: Appeal to the whole family with batting cages for the baseball lovers, a Naskart-style go-kart track for the speed demons and 18 holes of miniature golf and a driving range for anyone who likes to take a swing at things. Inside, there’s an arcade with more than 40 games. 14

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Hidden Pointe Benton Harbor, MI hiddenpointe.net Why You Should Go: Savor Sherman’s hand-dipped ice cream while playing on the 18-hole nautical-themed miniature golf course. Hit balls pitched from 30 mph to more than 80 in the batting cages. Gear up to race down the Go-Kart track. Slam dunk basketballs from the giant trampoline. Arcade games are inside.

Miniature Golf Dips and Dogs New Paris, IN

Why You Should Go: Even young children can enjoy the putt-putt course, the homemade ice cream and the delicious hot dogs. A driving range is also onsite.

Pinewood Chase Miniature Golf Goshen, IN Why You Should Go: This beautiful and well-maintained miniature golf course has a series of holes with bridges, fountains and carefully-manicured rolling hills. Don’t forget to purchase a pint of ice cream from the Chief, ranked the best in Indiana. Putt Putt Golf and Games Mishawaka, IN Why You Should Go: With three 18-hole courses to choose from, revel in hours of family fun. Play the indoor arcade games for the perfect midday break. State Line Dairy Queen and Mini Golf Niles, MI Why You Should Go: Golf past a gorilla and dinosaur and through the shade of beautiful trees as you enjoy the time together as a family. Miniature golf is free with your ice cream purchase, so indulge in a Dairy Queen Blizzard while waiting your turn at the tee.

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Why You Should Go: Practice your swing

at this indoor location and warm up for the season. Three of the five cages have Iron Mike pitchers, two pitching baseballs and one pitching softballs. Another cage is reserved for coach pitching and soft tossing and the fifth cage is for fieldwork and pitching. School of Hard Knocks Mishawaka, IN Why You Should Go: Three indoor cages let you hit baseballs or softballs pitched on a machine while less-experienced hitters hit off a tee. There’s also a throwing area to practice pitching and hitting.

We accept Medicare and most private insurance carriers. If you are interested in scheduling an appointment or would like further details please contact Dr. Patel’s Office Manager, Nicole Divido, at 574-968-0011.

Don’t get rained out of your family time. Reschedule or move it indoors to one of these Michiana locations: Mega Play Family Entertainment Center Mishawaka, IN mega-play.com What’s There: Gladiator fighting, mini golf, children’s play land and an arcade. Silver Beach Center St. Joseph, MI www.silverbeachcarousel.com What’s There: A carousel, virtual reality games, climbing wall, the kaleidoscope and water games. Strikes & Spares Entertainment Center Mishawaka, IN www.strikesandspares.us What’s There: Bowling, mini golf, go karts, arcade games and bumper cars.

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The Benefits of Boredom By: Meagan Church

ummer is in full swing and the kids are probably already using those two words that make most parents cringe; I’m bored. In a culture that is accustomed to always being on, always being entertained and always having access to enjoyment, boredom can be a frustrating circumstance. But, it can also be a good thing. “We have always tried to give our kids some margin in their lives,” said Lisa Vukmirovich. She and her husband Dan intentionally build off times into their daughters’ lives, so they have periods when they aren’t constantly involved, rushing around or being entertained. “I know many families who cut short one activity, so they can get to the next one and it just makes me sad. Kids need to have time to figure out what they want. If they have no time to even think about what they want to do, how will they ever know?” Lisa doesn’t fear the phrase “I'm bored.” She embraces it. “Bored is an overused term in kid-hood. Just because you're hanging out on the swing set (yes, my daughters still do that with friends!) doesn't mean you're not doing anything. Time to enjoy childhood is priceless. It goes so fast. They need time to just be.” Giving kids the space to just be is a rare commodity. With music lessons, sporting events, service projects and more, kids are scheduled to the max beginning at an early age. Neighborhood pick-up games rarely occur anymore because the kids are being toted around town to camps, lessons, practices and games. While parents see many advantages in getting their kids involved in a variety of activities, they sometimes miss the point that space can be just as valuable, if not more so. “Our brains are prediction machines. They are constantly taking our current experiences and analyzing them to predict future scenarios. In other words, our brains are constantly trying to establish and re-establish what normal is to prepare us for the

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future,” said Ted Bryant, who holds a PhD in cognitive psychology and is the pastor of family ministry at Granger Community Church. “In a situation where a child is being entertained all the time, normal comes as a sense of passivity and reacting to whatever is coming at them because they don’t have do to anything. Their brains are conditioned to think they don’t have to initiate anything, but rather just react, consume and be passive. Normal in that sense is when fun and enjoyment comes at them. They don’t have to go anywhere for it and they don’t have to work for it.” Ted continued to say that when a child is given a chance to be bored, the child learns to respond to his circumstances differently. “When a child is bored, normal requires action. They realize they have to do something to enjoy or to be entertained. They learn to work within their current context to initiate and to be driven to act in order to enjoy life and have fun. That’s a much better normal, not just for entertainment, but especially for work ethics, drive, motivation and self-efficacy. All those things are so important when normal is established through action, not just passivity.”

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“They learn to work within their current context to initiate and to be driven to act in order to enjoy life and have fun.” What Lisa has discovered is that the result of un-scheduling can be pretty amazing. “Sophie basically taught herself to play the guitar with the help of the Internet. Now she is hanging with her friends and teaching them.” Not only does she now have the experience of learning an instrument, but she also has the pride of having initiated it on her own. So as the summer continues on and as those two words creep into your children’s vocabulary, don’t cringe. Instead, take pride in the fact that they are rewiring their brains to be active participants instead of passively expecting constant entertainment. This rewiring might seem painful at first, but the results will be well worth the effort.

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Is Your Kid Ready for a

Cell Phone? Navigating the New Age of Communication By: Ashley Talmadge

Only a decade ago, it was the rare parent who

considered giving a child a cell phone. Fast forward to 2014, and it’s the rare tween or teen that doesn’t have a mobile communication device at their fingertips. Recent surveys conducted by the Pew Research Center and the National Consumer League found that 78 percent of kids age 12-17 own a cell phone. A staggering 37 percent in this age group own smartphones with web access, texting, video and data storage capabilities. And 60 percent of children age 8-12 now own cell phones, with most kids getting their first phone at age 10 or 11. In light of current cultural norms, the question for most parents has become when, not whether, to get their child a phone. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t a slew of options to weigh. The following steps can help guide your decision-making process.

Clarify your reasons. A whopping 84 percent of parents cite

safety reasons for giving their child a phone, and 74 percent say they do so in order to keep track of a child’s activities after school. Like the hitching post of bygone days, the pay phone is now a relic of the past. Many parents feel more secure knowing their child can call when a need arises. Parents who work outside the home say that mobile phones have helped family members stay connected. Starlene Evans has a 14-year-old daughter and 7-year-old son. She says safety is the main reason she’s given her daughter a phone, but she also enjoys the contact with her kids. “I text with my daughter all the time and we exchange pictures. My son will send me short texts while I'm at work and it makes him proud and that makes me smile.”

Set the rules. Make your expectations crystal clear before giving your child a phone. Decide when and where your child can use their phone, and who will pay for it. Is your child generally trustworthy and conscientious? Jane Lanigan, associate professor in the Department of Human Development at Washington State University, advises parents to “think about whether their child is…ready for the responsibility of having a phone. This includes the ability to keep 18

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track of the phone and follow the guidelines the family establishes.” Even if you conclude that your child doesn’t yet exhibit the behavior and maturity required to be cell phone successful, you will have established a baseline set of expectations that can be revisited.

Let the phone grow with your child. Your kid’s first phone doesn’t need to be a smartphone with all the bells and whistles. In fact, Alex Bolokhovskiy, manager at a computer supply and repair outlet, says, “When kids start off with an expensive smartphone, they don't see it as being a privilege. It ends up costing the parents a lot of money when the phone is damaged or lost. Parents could save money by having the kids earn their way to an upgrade.” He suggests starting with a basic phone with limited or no texting. Let your tween show you he can handle increasing responsibility, and save the smartphone for later.

Rules: The Starting Lineup  Answer calls/texts from parents.

 Do not lend your phone to others, except in an  Turn off phone at bedtime and emergency. charge it outside the bedroom. (Teens need their sleep!)  Never use your phone while driving.  No texting or posting pictures of anything you would not say or do face-to-face.

 Do not post your phone # on social networking sites.

 Allow random unannounced checks of your phone by parents.

Monitor and set limits. After your child has a phone, you’ll need to oversee their use of the device. Some parents are reluctant to “spy” on their kids’ social networking lives. A child’s need for privacy is often cited as the reason for this hands-off approach. However, R. Bradley Snyder, expert in child psychology, would disagree. In his

book, The 5 Simple Truths of Raising Kids, he states that while kids need opportunities for private reflection, “none of this is the job of a social network, which, by definition, is a public forum.” Parents need to set parameters regarding type, content and amount of communication, and kids need to be held accountable for breaking the rules. Many parents require their kids to apprise them of account passwords, and do random checks of their phones. Evans says she no longer allows her daughter to have a Twitter account, after a check revealed inappropriate posts. Lanigan adds that, “Formalizing the guidelines in writing may be helpful for some families.”

Ask questions and listen. Many

parents are overwhelmed at the thought of monitoring their child’s online life. Sensational stories about cyberbullying, online predators and sexting emerge daily from the media. And with the ever-changing array of social networking options, last year’s advice to “become your child’s friend on Facebook” seems frustratingly quaint. Yet, as Snyder emphasizes, changes in technology do not mean that the emotional needs of our tweens and teens are any different. They still need parents to guide them, help build confidence, and support them. So yes, find out what you can about the newest in social media and other sites frequented by teens and tweens. (Snapchat, Pheed, and Viddy are but a few.) Then start a discussion with your child: What do you like about this website? Is it doing what you’d hoped? Ask about your child’s interactions with friends, both on and offline. Evans says that she and her daughter “have conversations about respectful behavior, text etiquette and how anything you type and post can be used against you.” She adds, “What works is just talking about stuff as it comes up, whether it comes up in the circle of friends, on the news, whatever. Just talk.”

Be a good role model. What you

show your kids is just as important as what you tell them. Are you constantly checking your phone for messages while in conversation with others? Do you make cashiers wait while you finish a call? Are you one of the 63 percent of adults who uses a cell phone while driving with kids? Lanigan reminds us, “Parents should pay attention to where and when they use their cell phones.” When you use your phone safely and responsibly, you help your child to develop those habits as well.

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By: Lara West

our neighbor’s daughter has been the best babysitter in the world…except she graduates in May, leaves for college in August and plans on spending most of her summer break in France. Who can you possibly trust with your children, now? As mothers, we all know our most prized possession is our children. As such, we can’t leave our babies under the care of just anyone. It can be a daunting task to find a great babysitter for our child when we don’t have the help of trusted family and friends to help. Here are a few suggestions to help you find the perfect sitter:

• Ask Around. Check with friends and family about who they use and

what they like about them. Ask the pediatrician's if they have any suggestions and if you have a child in school, see if their teacher, or a caregiver at church, can recommend someone. You can also try websites like care.com and sittercity.com if you’re not having luck on personal recommendations.

• Interview. Make a list of candidates and have a brief chat over the phone to get a sense of their personality and their availability. If that’s a go, then schedule a face-to-face interview. Ask the candidates to bring references and have your own list of questions, needs and expectations written up. You can choose to do this at your home or at a small café. A small café can be more relaxing but your home provides you with a great opportunity to watch how they interact with your children. • Follow Up. Your gut is a good indicator for many things but not going the extra step to confirm the feelings can make for a worrisome night out of second guessing. If you had good feelings about an interviewee, contact their references and inquire as to how satisfied they were with their work and about their relationship with the family. • Pay Well. We all know how the old saying goes, “You get what you pay for,”

and it holds true for babysitters as well. Discuss rates with other families in the area and work out a price that is both fair and reasonable. (And later, if you’re really happy with their work, it never hurts to give a friendly tip for a job well-done.)

• Test Run. Invite the babysitter to spend some time with the children. If you need to ease into leaving the children, plan a short solo trip to the library or go next door for tea for thirty minutes to an hour. If able, let your children tell you what they thought of the babysitter. You know you found a keeper when the sitter arrives on time with a smile, the children are well rested and love to talk about how funny the sitter is and the house is tidied up before they leave. 22

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hen my husband and I were on our honeymoon, we were sitting on the beach when a very pregnant woman walked by in a string bikini. After I got over the initial shock, I admired her courage. I was in the best shape of my life and still felt a little self-conscious exposing my midsection. I turned to my husband and his mouth had dropped in disbelief.

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To be completely honest, neither of us had seen a pregnant woman so far along baring her mid-drift in public, or in private for that matter. She owned it however, and dare I say, looked confident, sexy and beautiful. I envisioned myself someday wearing a cute bikini when I was expecting. That day has come and gone and I never lived up to the vision I had of myself as a pregnant goddess in a string bikini.

Cost

When I was invited to the beach or the lake I wore a maternity sundress. This proved to be very uncomfortable in the sand, and especially when I was so hot and needed to get into the water. During my fourth pregnancy, I finally gave in when a friend gave me her maternity tankini. Thank goodness, because swimming while pregnant is one of the most amazing experiences. The water gives a nice reprieve from carrying the extra weight. It felt amazing. After the long winter Michiana had, nothing should keep you from enjoying every moment of sunshine. There are so many options for maternity swimwear. Here are some tips for taking the anxiety out of getting into a swimsuit.

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Michiana has a plethora of places to shop but surprisingly very few options for maternity. Maternity swimwear is even more difficult. Thank goodness for the Internet. I did some research and the best places for maternity swimsuits this season are Oldnavy.com, Target. com and Destinationmaternity.com .

The cost of a maternity suit should not exceed what you would pay for a non-maternity suit. The average cost is around $40. However, some suits were as little as $19 and as much as $190. I don’t know about you, but a suit that cost more than my electric bill better make me look like the model wearing it. If you purchase a suit you like, you may get to use it for future pregnancies and, as you are about to learn, a few months (or years) after you have your children.

Style

There are three different types of maternity suits. Choosing the right one will make you feel confident and enjoy your summer.

Bikini

If you want to wear a bikini, then good for you! Own it! What you need to know, however, is that you need to get a bigger size than you think you should. Your belly isn’t the only thing that expands during pregnancy. Don’t make the assumption that because it is a bathing suit it will stretch to accommodate your growing body because it won’t.

One Piece

There are numerous options with this suit. You can chose from strapless, halter and regular tops. My advice would be to avoid stripes. Chose a pattern that is bright and colorful. My first instinct is to choose black, but that is kind of boring, and you aren’t fooling anyone thinking that it will make you look slimmer. Go big or go home.

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I saved the best for last. The options with a tankini are endless. You can choose a little skirt for more coverage or a traditional bottom. You can mix and match patterns with a solids or wear a halter with a string bottom. The options are endless! The reason I like the tankini is because of the convenience it provides in the ladies room. You will be visiting the ladies room at least ten times every hour. Trying to pull a wet one-piece over a pregnant body is like putting an elephant in spanx. It is not easy. Once the baby arrives, a tankini will also come in handy when you are not quite ready to get back into a bikini. It also will help to make nursing more convenient.

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Pregnancy is not a good reason to avoid having fun in the sun. Get out and enjoy it and don’t worry too much. A little kiss from the sun will only enhance your already glowing self.

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FAMILY pregnancy

The Benefits of a

Birth Class

By: Meagan Church

Giving birth is a natural process, so are birthing classes really necessary? If it’s natural, shouldn’t your body know what to do already? Perhaps, but the truth is that modern women are typically far removed from the birthing process until they experience it for themselves, which can make them feel lost and confused when labor sets in. “I often ask parents where they have learned about birth,” said Jessica Stackowicz, found of Sacred Birth Services, which includes childbirth education and doula services. Their answers are usually the same: Internet, movies and their mom or friends. The problem there is that the Internet is not always a reliable source, movies depict dramatic, horrifying birth scenes that are nothing like the real thing and the stories usually shared are the horror stories. All of this equates to fear—fear of pain, fear of birth. And in the moment that fear sets in, the power every mother has over her body, her baby and her birth is lost.” Childbirth classes are designed to help women better understand how to be active participants in the labor and delivery process, and to learn what to expect from the time the first labor pain hits to when the baby is breathing his first breath. “All expecting parents can benefit from childbirth classes, whether they are expecting their first or eighth, and whether they are hoping for a natural birth, an epidural or a cesarean,” Jessica said. “The day you give birth to your child—or witness the birth of your child—will be one of the most memorable days of your life. Being knowledgeable and familiar with the process decreases stress, which decreases fear and allows you to be more present and confident.”

The following are only a few benefits of taking a childbirth class: Education

Childbirth classes inform women of what they might feel physically and emotionally during the different stages of labor, how a woman’s body births a baby, pain management options and more. “First time parents are embarking on a journey into a great deal of information, which brings up many questions,” Jessica said. “My goal is to provide easily accessible, evidence-based information on how to have a safe, healthy and positive birth experience.”

Bonding

Childbirth classes create an opportunity for the mother and father to bond with one another and for the father to begin bonding with the baby. “Birth classes not only offer a chance for couples to set a few hours aside to spend time together, but to also learn about how dad can support mom and be an active birth partner. Out of all the people on their birth team (their doula, nurse or provider), he is the expert on her. It is not uncommon for dads to feel overwhelmed, anxious or helpless during birth, but having a few skills to support mom can 26

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make a world of difference, and ultimately create a more positive experience for both him and mom,” Jessica said. “The entire birth experience can create a deeper bond between a mother and father. If he feels confident in how to support her and is not held back by fear, then her birthing needs are met and she is empowered and they both emerge with a profound love and respect for each other.”

Birth Planning

Options exist when it comes to labor and delivery from home birth to hospital, medicated or all natural. A pregnant woman needs to explore what she hopes for in a birth experience. Being educated on the different possibilities will help her realize what she wants and will help her create a birth plan, so she can better speak with her midwife or doctor about her desires. “Through birth classes, expecting mothers have the opportunity to explore the many benefits and risks of birth practices and to begin to develop their desires for their own birth experience,” Jessica said. “The birth experience will have a profound effect on the mother and her family, which is why it

is so important for women to know what they want and to be empowered to make decisions to achieve a safe, healthy and positive birth.”

Experience

Childbirth classes aren’t just for first-time parents. “Experienced parents can benefit from classes as a refresher on the whole birth experience,” Jessica said. “Every birth is different and new studies on birth practices are always being released.” Evidence-based care and practices are always evolving, so to get the most current information, a refresher course can be helpful.

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In the end, it never hurts to be prepared for the most memorable experience in a woman’s life. As Jessica said, “Birth has the potential to be a sacred, transformative experience. Women carry their birth story with them forever. My hope is to empower women through knowledge and trust in their bodies, so that they may carry joyful stories of their own incredible strength.”

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FAMILY pregnancy

Dealing with C-Section

Depression By: Allison Boelcke Smith

hen you’ve had your heart set on a specific birth plan, having to deliver your baby via cesarean section can be devastating. C-sections are becoming more common, at around 32% of all births, according to the CDC’s March 2010 report, Recent Trends

in Cesarean Delivery in the United States. However, women who had C-section deliveries may feel all alone when hearing others’ vaginal birth stories because they often miss out on traditional first moments. Below are some tips on how to deal with the depression or guilt over a C-section in order to accept and move on in a healthy, positive manner:

1. Acknowledge and Allow Your Feelings

Don’t brush off your feelings or allow yourself or others to dismiss them as “just being hormonal.” Whether you feel angry, guilty, disappointed or like you “didn’t really give birth,” your emotions are valid. Admitting your feelings to yourself and others is the first step to figuring out how you can overcome them. Keeping your true thoughts about your C-section bottled up inside of you may make you more likely to lash out about other things. A new baby already comes with a great deal of stress, so the tension of trying to “keep it together” and act like you’re fine will eventually become too much to handle.

2. Celebrate the Blessings

Talk about what went right with your labor and delivery. Remind yourself that the very first thing you did for your baby was endure a serious surgery and physical recovery in order to ensure they had a safe entrance into the world. Even if it’s just something small and humorous, any positive thing you can focus on will help you move past your negative feelings about having had a C-section. Maybe the controlled setting of the 28

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operating room and knowing how long the surgery would take, versus the unknown variables of vaginal delivery, settled your mind. Think of your C-section delivery as being yet another example into just how unpredictable parenthood can be.

3. Get Support from Other Moms

Family and friends can only offer so much comfort if they themselves have never shared your C-section experience. With close to one-third of births being C-section deliveries, there are many mothers who know what you’re going through. Talking to other moms, such as through an online group, who have had dealt with the emotional recovery of a C-section may offer you the support you need to deal with your feelings or even give you tips on what worked for them. Even just knowing that what you’re going through is normal may make you feel better.

4. Take Care of Yourself

A C-section is serious abdominal surgery so make sure you’re allowing yourself to recover. Although your new baby’s needs will come ahead of your own, ignoring doctor’s orders and not properly resting or taking care of your needs can result in physical pain that will just exacerbate your emotional pain. Even if you’re past the

initial surgery recovery, don’t try to be Super Mom – allow others to help or simply put off some of those household chores if you’re exhausted or not eating right. Your physical and mental health are essential in you being the best parent possible. If you’re too stressed, you won’t be able to effectively deal with any lingering emotions from your C-section, which can result in a vicious cycle of affecting your current relationships and thus adding more emotional baggage.

5. Be Prepared with a Response

Just because you’ve gotten to the point of being accepting of your C-section delivery doesn’t mean that there won’t be triggers that could potentially upset you. Take back the control and have a response ready in case of insensitive remarks from other people about your C-section. For example, if someone comments about you “not really giving birth” you can be ready to respond humorously “It sure felt like it” rather than getting flustered and upset.

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1. Check out the cows, goats, bunnies and more. Kids and adults alike love wandering through the livestock barns at the fair. If you linger long enough, you’ll probably run into a friendly owner willing to introduce you to his or her animals. If not, you can attend a judging to get a closer look at your favorite pig or chicken.

2. Go on a corn dog/slushy/funnel cake crawl. Everyone’s got a favorite fair food, whether it’s a snow cone or elephant ear. This year, keep things interesting by purchasing your most-loved item from three or four different vendors throughout the day and comparing the different versions to determine whose corn dog/slushy/funnel cake receives top marks. Needless to say, you’ll feel better at the end of the crawl if you make this taste testing adventure a group activity!

3. Discover your next hobby. In the age of Pinterest, classic DIY skills such as sewing, canning and woodworking seem to be experiencing a revival. Many county fairs also offer more modern project categories like digital photography, scrapbooking and gift-wrapping. Get inspired by browsing handcrafted creations created by talented area residents.

4. Start your engines. Whether or not you’re a “car person,” it can be exciting to watch big, noisy vehicles in action. Get in on the four-wheeled fun by attending a demolition derby, tractor pull or monster truck show. Note that these events can be almost deafening, so be sure to research your options for ear protection before the big night. 5. Pick up a free yardstick or fly swatter. Most area fairs have commercial buildings housing a variety of companies and non-profits promoting their products and services. Many of these businesses advertise by passing out freebies such as fans, bottled water, pens or candy. Plus, you may learn about a great new local spot or volunteer opportunity. 30

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6. Dance to the music. Whatever your musical preference, you’re likely to find something to listen to at one of Michiana’s fairs this year. The Berrien County Youth Fair will host Scotty McCreery and Travis Tritt, while the St. Joseph County 4-H Fair will welcome Randy Houser and Bret Michaels. You can buy tickets to see Danielle Bradbery or 3 Doors Down at the Elkhart County 4-H Fair. Many other paid shows are also available along with plenty of free musical entertainment. Plan ahead – shows featuring big names often sell out quickly. Travis Tritt

3 Doors Down

7. Catch a ride. As soon as you walk through the fair’s entrance gates, your kids will probably be clamoring for a ride on the swings or a trip down the giant slide. This year, why not join them, at least for a spin on the merry-go-round? It’s practically guaranteed to make you feel like a kid again! If your family plans to spend a lot of time riding, check your fair’s website ahead of time for pricing, as ride wristbands are typically a better value on some days than others.

9. Stroll the midway after dark. Even if you can’t muster up the courage to board a single ride, lights, sounds and cooler temperatures combine to make the midway a mesmerizing place at night. Grab a bag of cotton candy and enjoy wandering and people watching.

8. Watch kids show off their skills. Perhaps the best part of visiting the county fair is seeing young farmers and craftspeople showing off their skills. Be sure to make time to watch a youth goat show or cakedecorating competition. These kids deserve some recognition for all their hard work.

Sources:

St. Joseph County 4-H Fair www.4hfair.com Elkhart County 4-H Fair www.4hfair.org Cass County Fair www.casscountymifair.com 10. Enjoy quirky entertainment options. Michiana’s county fairs provide visitors with some offbeat ways to have fun. At the St. Joseph County Fair, you may be able to catch a frog jumping contest or “tractor square dancing” display. Elkhart County fairgoers can enjoy a corvette show as well as a talent competition exclusively for performers ages 62 and older. Try to snag a fair schedule in advance to see what will be going on during your visit.

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FAMILY mommy & daddy

Dear Mom,

By: Meagan Church

Who Needs Encouragement…

or a Nap

Dear Mom, So, let me ask, how is motherhood going? Is it what you expected it to be? Is it all you imagined or hoped? Or, are you getting tired of hearing that these are the best years of your life, so enjoy them? Let’s face it, motherhood isn’t easy. It’s a constant barrage of ups and downs, highs and lows with some in-betweens. But no one really tells you that up front, do they? You announce you’re pregnant and it’s all excitement and congratulations, but no one says, “Hey, you’re going to be exhausted. You’ll be peed on, pooped on and puked on, and maybe all at once. You’ll be so tired that you’ll want to take a nap instead of a shower, even if it has been three days since you last bathed. Your memory will disappear and so will your alone time. So, have fun with that.” Some days you may feel like no one prepared you for what was to come, that they lied to you and conspired to trap you into this parenting thing. It begins with late night feedings and endless diaper changes, but it doesn’t end there. It continues through two year old tantrums and right on through to teenage defiance. It’s exhausting, isn’t it? But you know what? If you’re tried, you’re doing something right. If you care enough to jump into the trenches, giving all of yourself to the point of exhaustion, then you’re doing well. The best things in life aren’t always easy. They take time and effort, and if there is anything that parenting requires, it is both of those things. You may be worn out, but when you care enough to pour yourself into the lives of those little ones you’re raising, 32

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then you are actually succeeding at this parenting thing. Sure, those sweet, poetic baby shower cards might not mention how mentally taxed you will feel and how downright discouraging parenting can be at times. But, don’t lose sight that at the center of what you’re feeling is a deep and profound love for those kids who you are shaping and guiding. Yes, you may be tired of pulling marbles out of orifices they have no place being or reminding them of how to speak politely. You may long for an uninterrupted bathroom break or a bathroom that doesn’t smell like a family of raccoons has taken up residence there. You may miss sleeping through the night or remembering where you left your car keys. You may long for weekends that aren’t spent at the ballpark or weeknights when you don’t feel like a taxi driver. But don’t let the frenzy take your focus off what really matters.

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So, let me ask again, how is motherhood going? Is it crazy, frustrating and difficult at times? Definitely, but don’t let that make you miss the beauty of it all. Don’t miss the depth found in the simple moments, the belly laughs and the cuddles. Don't let busyness or frustration rob you of what really matters. I know you’re probably tired of hearing this, but like it or not, these years are fleeting. All of these good, bad and in between moments are passing you by. They aren’t easy and they don’t last forever. The cuddles will become less frequent and the bathroom breaks more private. Remind yourself of that on the good days and especially on the bad.

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Product Testing:

Trash Bags

& Sandwich Bags

By: Lara West o save or not to save? I know. It’s an overused cliché, but I tend to get all Shakespearian in my mind when I’m considering saving money on an off brand (or private label) product, or spend a little more on the pretty packaged name brand product. Without trying the two there is no way to know if one is really better, or if they both do the job exactly the same.

If I save money upfront, and the product fails to perform then I’ve actually lost more money than if I would have spent the little bit extra in the first place. My goal is to save you money and time by comparing brands of identical products and telling you exactly how well they did or did not perform. I went through my kitchen to find a couple items that I might be able to save a penny on. For pantry staples such as aluminum foil and wax paper, don’t let the pretty packaging trick you into a twenty minute debate. These store brand items are every bit as reliable as their more expensive counterparts, and you can feel pretty confident buying whichever of these is on sale for the lowest price.

Going a bit further into that pantry, I’ve compared the effectiveness of trash bags and sandwich bags:

Trash Bags. . I noticed trash bags had large gap in pricing. For instance,

there is a box of 70 Glade bags for around $13 and a box of 130 store brand bags for a little less than $12. Although the choice should be obvious, I usually find myself debating (for far too long) over quantity vs. quality. The difference between the two is extreme enough to make you wonder if you’re going to be cleaning your floors every time you take the trash out or not. Here’s what I found. Both bags held all the trash my family managed to stuff in them and neither of them leaked when being carried through the house. However, the name brand bags felt slightly thicker giving me a higher confidence when struggling to pull it out of the can. I also found that the cheaper bags failed to “grip” around the top of my trashcan and I was constantly pulling the bag up to keep food from actually landing in the can itself.

Recommendations: With the exception of the store brand bag not staying up, both brands performed as I hoped a trash bag would. I wasn’t a fan of fearing a rip and coddling the cheaper brand out of my can. If you don’t mind pulling the bag up around the rim and going a little easier pulling the bag out of the can (or not stuffing it as full as my house does), then you could easily save the few bucks on the least expensive bags, but I’m spending the extra money to save myself from cleaning my trash can out daily. 34

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Sandwich Bags.

. I found that all brands worked just as effectively no matter the cost. This is one of those products where it’s going to seal and going to contain your child’s lunch box goodies exactly the same. I preferred the expensive ones with the “zipper” top, but not enough to pay more for them. The cheaper bags sealed just as easily for me.

Freezer Bags. There is a slight price

difference in brands for freezer bags. They are a bit thicker than “regular” bags to help protect your food from freezer burn but unlike their sandwich bag counter parts, there was a surprising difference between the performances of the two bags. To test the two brands, I put the same amount of meat from the same tray into each bag and into the same freezer at the exact same time. Surprisingly, the store brand freezer bags are not only easier to seal with one pinching swipe, but there are actually less ice crystals on the meat in the store brand bags than in the name brand bags.

Recommendations: Buy whichever regular sandwich bags are cheapest at the time you need them, because they both performed equally. I’d look to the store brand for your freezer bags, though. They simply outperformed the commercial brand and they were easier to seal.

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Special Section Back to School Guide

By: Katie Carter Believe it or not, the school year will be here before you know it! Savor the last few weeks of summer-trade in the bedtimes for bonfires and schedules for swimming pools and get a head start on back-to-school shopping now. Teachers will assuredly remind you of the school year essentials: pencils and pens, calculators and crayons, as well as Target’s entire art supply aisle. Don’t forget these, sometimes overlooked, items that are sure to contribute to a successful and fun school year.

Assignment Books: These daily calendars prove to be useful for student organization. Your child can creatively personalize their own while keeping track of assignments, due dates and extracurricular activities.

Reusable Water Bottles: This popular accessory also makes snack-packing and lunch-making more economical! Pick a fun color, decorate with stickers and remind the kids to fill it up a few times a day to stay hydrated.

Tennis Shoes: Not only are they a fashion statement, but a good

pair of tennis shoes ensures the comfort and safety of your playful student throughout the many activities, practices and recesses that are sure to flood the school year.

Backpack: Many schools are doing away with lockers so a sturdy, roomy backpack is becoming more and more of a necessity. Try Dick’s Sporting Goods for a variety of JanSport® backpacks which tend to be the longest-lasting and most practical brand around! Folders: As a student and now, as a tutor, I find folders to be the most effective organizational tool to keep different subjects separated. Find different colors and designs, label them and fill them up! Keep one side for homework and assignments and the other for class notes. USB Flash Drive: With the prevalence of computers, a USB “stick” is a handy accessory for students to carry with them. These serve as easy ways to transport files to and from school and can save a great deal on paper!

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Add these items to your shopping list and your little student will be all set! Don’t forget to budget some money and time for a back-to-school treat for Mom! Schedule a tea date or wine night with friends and say cheers to another school year!

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FAMILY book reviews

Daddy Lost His Job By Jennifer Moore-Mallinos Reviewed By: Hannah Matteson, Children’s Services Associate

For many families the struggle to make ends meet is a familiar one. Unemployment, underemployment and other unexpected challenges can arise without warning. Such situations often bring great stress upon a family, for both the parents and children. Daddy Lost His Job is a picture book written from the perspective of a young girl whose father is laid off. The girl expresses her thoughts and concerns through the months of unemployment as her family works through the resulting changes. The book both shows the struggles of money concerns and displays the courage and hope that can be found in the midst of those difficulties. The story walks through a child’s questions and fears and shows ways that a family can work together to face them. The parents search for jobs and stretch their money, while not giving in to the pressure of money.

Mom and Dad find ways to have affordable fun with their children, and not give up even when they are discouraged. The girl and her brother discover how to discern between needs and wants, to use money frugally and that their family can still love each other deeply, regardless of their circumstances. In words that children can understand, this story beautifully illustrates how a family can rise to the occasion during financial challenges, steps to face the difficulty together and know this trial will pass and good can come from it. Daddy Lost His Job shows children a story of hope and is an excellent resource for parents.

FAMILY student book reviews

Million-Dollar Throw By: Mike Lupica

Reviewed By: Nick Bradley, Incoming Freshman at Edwardsburg High School In the book Million-Dollar Throw, for Nate Brodie, football is life. The 13-year-old from Valley, Massachusetts is a huge fan of the New England Patriots. His favorite player is star quarterback Tom Brady. Brodie (aka “Brady”) is the starting QB for the Valley Patriots, and is known as “the boy with the golden arm” for his fantastic throws and great sportsmanship. But football is more than just a game for Nate; it’s a chance to get away from the daily grind of school and hang out with his friends.

dollars could definitely help his family. His dad has had to work two jobs after he was laid off, and his mom works at a gift shop and volunteers at the hospital. In addition, they have had to put their house up for sale, the only home Nate has ever known.

However, football has now taken on a more important meaning. Shortly after his 13th birthday, Nate, his mom and his best friend Abby McCall make a trip to SportStuff, where Nate is finally able to buy the limited edition autographed Brady football for which he’s been saving up. It’s there where he learns about the contest, “The SportStuff Million-Dollar Throw.” The winner of the contest was going to get the chance to make one throw, from thirty yards away through a twenty-inch hole, at halftime of the Patriots Thanksgiving night game against the Colts. It’s a one-in-a-million chance, but Nate wins the contest and a shot at to come up huge. While excited about getting the opportunity to go to Gillette Stadium, he knows that this is the most important throw of his life. If he wins, the million

To add to Nate’s worries, his best friend has her own troubles. Abby, a talented artist who creates vivid, colorful paintings, has a form of retinitis pigmentosa, a condition that causes complete blindness. Nate wants the best for her and tries to continue to be optimistic, the same way she is for him. As Nate deals with these difficult changes and as Thanksgiving night creeps closer, the pressure to make the million-dollar throw begins to affect him on the field and he wonders if he will be able to achieve his goal of winning not just one but two championships. I would recommend this book to other young readers because people can relate with the sports involved in the book. In addition, others can relate by going through hardships and battling through them.

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FAMILY movie review

The Fun(est) Summer Movies By: Cole Pollyea

’m a huge fan of Steven Spielberg. His films are engaging, adventurous and innovative. Of all, I’d confidently write Jaws up as my favorite, and on a hot summer night after spending the day at the beach, my family decided to watch the movie. My father and I were the only ones who enjoyed it, as my brother resigned for the night early on, and my mother woke from her slumber every five minutes to say that “this is the worst movie ever” or “this is so boring”. So, maybe Jaws and other long, meaty, adventurous motion pictures aren’t the most ideal for family summer movie nights. What is then? That’s the purpose of this article. Before signing your family up for a letdown of a night, take a gander at this list. Any family of any ages can agree that these are some of the fun-est summer movies ever, and if they can’t now, they will soon.

1. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off While “Bueller” is a film that is quoted and cherished throughout the entire year, in order to maximize the fun, a summer viewing can do no harm (to say the least).

4. Adventures in Babysitting This film has been remade and ripped off many times but nothing can beat this classic attempt at filming a babysitting job gone wrong—in the city!

2. Goonies “Heyyyy youuu guyyss!” Yeah, we’re all here, we’re all listening and we’re all counting on both hands the amount of times we’ve watched “Goonies” in the past year. What a great film!

5. Clue “Clue” is a classic example of gritty, vintage, exciting, artistic filmmaking and the movie never fails to entertain. It’s a mind toying, fascinating film with a facet of hilarity which makes it all the more enjoyable.

3. Karate Kid I’m not a huge fan of the remake, so kick it back with the original, kickbutt, inspiring movie that brings out the fighter in all of us! THE

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