FAMILY Magazine October 2014

October 2014 • Moms Just Know • Free

The Power of Other

Women

Pumpkin

Decorating

Made Easy:

You Are

10 No-carve Approaches For Halloween

Not a

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Fruit

7 Clever

Halloween Costumes

For Your Pregnancy

How to Nurture an

Introverted

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Things

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Being introverted doesn’t automatically mean you are shy. Visit page 16 to see how you can nurture your introverted child.

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Get into the Halloween spirit and dress up your baby bump. Try these fun costume ideas this year on page 24.

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2. Bonfires 3. Football & Soccer 4. Turning Leaves 5. Crock Pots 6. Sloppy Joe's

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Not all electric warmers are created equal.

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Have your child bring a flashlight with them when they go trick-or-treating. Get more safety tips on page 26.

7. Cider 8. Pumpkin Scent 9. Hayrides 10. The Perfect Jean

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Girlfriends are a must at any age. Visit page 30 to see why you should have a girls night more often.

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Stop thinking that you are a piece of fruit! Giving birth can be scary but visit page 18 to help ease your mind.

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Mommy and Daddy Family Craft

4 8 Things We Learned Making This Issue 4 Things We Love Right Now 5 Reader Testimonials 5 4Keeps Comic 7 Contributors 8 The FAMILY Month Calendar 20 Centerfold Calendar

9 You’ve Been BOO’ed Treat Box & Twine Wrapped Pens

Family Fun

Family Pregnancy

10 Visit Michigan City This Fall By: Titilayo Akhigbe

12 Be A Homeless Pet Hero By: Jillian Koeneman

14 Pumpkin Decorating Made Easy: 10 No Carve Approaches For Halloween

By: Jill Lebbin

Family Kids

16 How To Nurture An Introverted Child

18 You Are Not A Piece Of Fruit By: Meagan Church

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34 Pumpkin Apple Streusel Muffins

Movie & Book Reviews 38 Book Review: Red Ted Art: Cute & Easy Crafts For Kids

By Maggy Woodley Reviewed By: Sue Reber

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28 Dear Mom, If Parenting Seems Hard, You’re Doing Something Right By: Meagan Church

30 The Power Of Other Women By: Noelle Elliott

32 Product Testing: Electric Warmers By: Lara West

By: Noelle Elliott

By: Christina Katz

39 Movie Review: Halloween Films For The Whole Family

24 7 Clever Halloween Costumes For Your Pregnancy Belly By: Chaunie Bruise

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FAMILY contibutors Noelle Elliott is a social media junkie, blogger, writer and career woman. She lives in South Bend with her husband, four young sons and two chocolate labs.

Meagan Church is married to her highschool sweetheart and is the mother of 3 kids. She is a writer and children’s book author. She is also the brainpower of the online resource Unexpectant, exploring the realities of birth, babies and beyond

Lara West completed her degree in Elementary Education and has spent the last several years working as a ghost writer, completing manuscripts, children stories, research papers and article rewrites.

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Jack-O-Lantern Extravaganza, 7:00 P.M., Potawatomi Zoo

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Zoo Boo, 6:00 P.M., Potawatomi Zoo

ND vs Florida State, TBA, Tallahassee, FL

“House of Frightenstein” Haunted House, 6:00 P.M., South Bend Civic Theatre

Fit 4 Fall 5K Run/Walk, 8:30 P.M., Riverview Park, St. Joseph, MI

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To Give Out This Year

Don’t be the house that every kid wants to skip because your candy is sub par. Remember the days when you would get excited when your favorite candy bar was put into your trickor-treat bag? Pass along that excitement this year and give out these yummy sweets: 1. Fun Sized Chocolate Bars: Snickers, Twix, Hersey Bars, Etc.

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9. Swedish Fish 10. And if you want to be the BEST house to stop at: FULL SIZED CANDY BARS! 8

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FAMILY craft

You’ve Been Boo’ed Treat Box Materials: • Cereal Box or Any Recyclable Box Such as Mac ‘n Cheese, Pasta Box, Etc…

By: Jill Lebbin Photos: JIll Lebbin

Steps: 1. Cut down the sides of your box and around the front. Leave the back of the box so you can decorate it.

• Black Spray Paint • Decorations For boxHalloween Foam Stickers, Pumpkin Cut Outs etc…

2. Spray paint box and let dry.

• Scissors

4. Fill your box with treats!

3. Decorate box with stickers, cut outs and pictures.

Twine Wrapped Pens Materials: • Hot Glue and Hot Glue Gun • Baker’s Twine • Pen • Foam Stickers

Steps: 1. Put a dab of hot glue on the top of a new ball point pen.

2. Adhere the baker’s twine and wrap all the way around the pen making sure not to leave any gaps where the pen would show through.

3. Put a dollop of hot glue on the bottom to secure the baker’s twine 4. Add a dollop of hot glue at the top to adhere a Halloween foam sticker.

5. Enoy!

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FAMILY fun

Visit

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Michigan City This Fall By: Titilayo Akhigbe

s the summer slowly gives way to fall, it is imperative to find something to occupy the little ones (and one’s self), and the Michigan City area has an abundance of opportunities to keep busy, as long as one has an open mind and can be creative about having fun.

Parks are a great place to let the children run wild, burn excess energy and generally get worn out enough to go down for a nap or for the night without a fight! Some of the more baby friendly parks have swings that a sitter can comfortably fit in.

Creek Ridge Park, for instance, has nature trails where you can walk and observe different plants in their elements. You get a good workout, and the children have a field day learning about the numerous plants you encounter on your journey.

Washington Park has a few slides and swings and is close enough to the

beach for a walk along the pier to the lighthouse if you have to push a stroller, or a walk along the shore if you prefer for the children to exert some energy. A walk along the shore is a great opportunity for collecting seashells, rocks, feathers and other rare gems in your child’s world that may not necessarily make sense to you. The idea is to allow them to get down and dirty with nature, and have fun while learning about their environment.

Washington Park Zoo is right across from the park and is quite an

adventure for little ones. It is just the right size for a full tour, and has slides for the children to take a break from observing animals. At designated times, children can also feed the wildlife birds. The most attractive part of this zoo has got to be the otter enclosure. It is surrounded by plexiglass and you can get very close to the animals and watch them play.

“Parks are a great place to let the children run wild, burn excess energy and generally get worn out!”

Pullman Field Park not only accommodates younger children, it also has a skate park for the older children. It is set up in such a way that there are open spaces in between the play areas, where parents can sit and watch their children at all times. This fun little park is the area’s best kept secret, with fairly new slides, swings, spinners, monkey bars and seesaws.

For structured play and educational entertainment, the local libraries have fall programs to entertain the little ones, and parent participation is highly encouraged.

Michigan City Public Library has story time for children from birth to five years old on Wednesday mornings. The first half hour is spent listening to stories, doing some warm up exercises, and the second half is spent working on a craft relating to the theme of the day.

If you don’t have the energy to load up the little ones for a drive somewhere, make it simple! Come up with a list of things that can be done in your area, and write them down, or cut out pictures of these things from the magazine.

Bundle the children up to protect them against the elements and take a walk in your own backyard or around your neighborhood.

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Be a Homeless

Pet Hero

By: Jillian Koeneman

As an animal lover, there is nothing more upsetting than the realization that you can’t adopt every

animal in need. Driving past the local animal shelter, watching a stray cat cross the street or looking at that adorable dog up for adoption that you saw on Facebook can cause even the strongest of us to grab for the tissues and reach into our wallets.

Donating financially to your local shelter or rescue is one of the best ways to help animals in need. But that are many other ways to help too!

According to the ASPCA there are 13,600 independent animal shelters nationwide that take in approximately 7.6 million companion animals (dogs and cats) per year. Most of these organizations depend on the good hearts of local volunteers for help. Check out these tips below to be a Homeless Pet Hero!  Instead of leaving that old blanket in your spare closest, donate it to your local shelter.

Shelters are always in need of more than just monetary donations, so before you throw out that desk chair or towel call up and see if they could make use of it!  Animals in shelters tend to have high anxiety levels. They’re in a new place, surrounded by new animals and faces, not to mention all the noise! These anxiety issues develop while these animals are looking for new homes and can deter prospective forever families from adopting them. Volunteering a little TLC can go a long way. Volunteering to walk pets or simply pet them for a while can help them distress and relax.  Are you a marketing wiz? A carpenter? A photographer? Do you paint houses or fix cars or even just have a lot of friends in the area? Why not volunteer your services at your local shelter? These facilities are usually understaffed and find it hard to focus on anything more than providing the best care for their animals. Help by spreading the word on social media, taking pictures of the adoptable pets, or even building scratch posts if that’s what your good at!

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 Fostering pets is also a great way to help out without the long term commitment pets require. Assimilating pets into your home can help get them adopted faster, plus they’re so much fun to have around!  Why not host a fundraiser? Hold a yard sale and donate the earnings. Have a bake sale. Organize a blanket drive or better yet, if you love to crochet or knit, grab a group of friends and have a blanket making party!  Get your pets spayed or neutered. There are so many animals in need in the United States and not enough room to care for them all. By spaying and neutering your pets, you are doing your part to control the pet population.

There are many ways that we can all help contribute helping pets in need. Ways that are fun, affordable, and time manageable. All it takes to be a homeless pet hero is a little outside-the-kennel thinking and a lot of heart.

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FAMILY fun

Pumpkin

Decorating Made Easy: 10 No-carve

Approaches For Halloween By: Christina Katz

Maybe you are a traditionalist. You grew up carving Jack-o-lanterns and you want your kids to follow in your footsteps. Who could blame you? Carving pumpkins is a gooey-messy-blast for the whole family. For many of us, it's a time-honored tradition.

But exploring other options isn't about turning pumpkin-carving into a Pinterest-perfect art form - it's about having fun decorating in a variety of ways. Why not try mixing things up this year?

Select pumpkin color and size according to taste and embellish away! You'll be amazed at how many looks a simple pumpkin can pull off. For best results, choose a pumpkin with a smooth, unblemished surface. Wash your pumpkin gently with mild soap and water and allow it to dry overnight before you begin decorating. Most of these looks work best for medium-sized to smallish pumpkins.

1. Polk-a-dots Galore.

Mix Things Up This Halloween!

Some of these approaches may be easier for younger children than traditional carving. Others can save you time and headaches. They are all quite straightforward and promise artful results. Older kids will likely think exploring a variety of approaches to pumpkin decorating is cool. Who knows?

Maybe mixing things up will become your new family tradition.

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Give very young children a pumpkin and a pile of sticky felt circles. Show them how to adhere them to their pumpkin, and they will be happily entertained for quite some time.

Polk-a-dots are the simplest approach for the youngest in your clan, but you can also create a more traditional look using black felt shapes on an orange pumpkin.

2. The Glittering Globe.

Coat pumpkin in a layer of Mod Podge or white glue, then sprinkle entire pumpkin with glitter. Or mix a few glitters in advance for a multi-color look. If you want to do a variety of colors, coat only a portion of the pumpkin, then sprinkle glitter over just that portion. Catch extra glitter on newspaper and pour it back into container. Let sections dry between applications of new colors for best results.

3. The Painted Lady.

If you want your painted pumpkin to last, coat it with a layer of varnish or sealer first in a well-ventilated area. Flip pumpkin over onto a bowl or jar while you paint the bottoms first. When dry, flip it over to paint the rest.

Apply a couple of coats of acrylic paint.

Chalkboard paint works well on pumpkins.

Apply another coat of varnish to painted pumpkins for longest-lasting results. Leave chalkboard painted pumpkins unvarnished.

4. The Glitter-paint Combo.

If you want to mix things up a bit, follow instructions for painting your pumpkin.

Then, when completely dry, apply glitter to the pumpkin stem only. Or use blue painter's tape to create designs on pumpkin. Then apply glue and glitter for added sparkle.

5. All Wrapped Up.

Turn your pumpkin into a spider web by wrapping it randomly all over with thick white twine.

Then hot glue a large black spider onto the web to finish the look. For a mummified look, cut cheesecloth into long, wide strips. Fold strips to double thickness and spray with fabric stiffener. When dry, wrap strips around pumpkin, leaving top and bottom clean. Secure strips with hot glue. Hot glue googly eyes and wrap with a few more strips so eyes are peeking out. Cut away a thin mouth and dab inside with black paint. When dry, coat fabric with glow-in-the-dark craft paint.

6. The Doodle Work-of-art.

Teens and up who enjoy drawing will relish the opportunity to create temporary works of art on pumpkins using Sharpie markers. Supply them with a rainbow of colors or an array of black markers in various thicknes-ses. Sharpie art using black and colored markers works especially well on white pumpkins. And black markers of various thicknesses look great on orange pumpkins. Varnish afterwards for a longerlasting work of art.

Tips For The Traditional Jack-o-lantern Approach Send kids outside for scooping pumpkin guts to minimize the mess indoors. If the ground is wet, spread out a vinyl tarp that can be washed off with a hose. Cut the pumpkin open about three inches around the stem, scoop with a sturdy scooper. Really scrape pumpkins clean inside and they will last longer. Make carving safe for younger children by using sturdy pumpkin-carving tools rather than kitchen knives. Draw designs on the pumpkin with washable marker first, then follow your pattern for best results. When finished, spray pumpkin inside and out with Clorox Clean-up Cleaner With Bleach, so they will last longer.

Allow to dry thoroughly before adding candles or use flameless candles right away.

7. The Drippy Look.

Spread out newspaper or brown bags to catch any excess. Unwrap crayons in assorted colors.

You can either do a spectrum of colors or mix things up. Consider autumn colors on an orange pumpkin or ghoulish colors on a white pumpkin. Glue down crayons (just the top half) with points facing out and tipped slightly down around the pumpkin stem with a thick white nonflammable glue. Let dry. Set hair dryer to high and work your way around the crayons one at a time until they are melted to your satisfaction.

8. The Collaged Gourd.

Mod Podge works well for applying paper or fabric to pumpkins. Paint the stems ahead of collaging, if you want a more polished look.

Then choose tissue paper, old book pages, handmade paper, printed paper napkins, or fabric quilting scraps for best results. Cut material into squares or strips. When using strips, cut the ends into points so they will smooth easily.

Apply a layer of Mod Podge under and over material. Smooth materials with fingers as you go. Add embellishments like ribbon on dried pumpkin as you wish.

9. Bling-kin.

Paint pumpkin with two coats of paint. Then, starting at the stem, work your way down the sides of the pumpkin with gem stickers.

Create an evenly spaced over-all pattern or a dripping-with-gems look. Combine gems with an adhesive letter sticker, if you like, for a monogrammed look. Leave gems off the bottom so pumpkin stands flat.

10. Stamp-a-Pumpkin.

If you wish to change the color of your pumpkin, paint your pumpkin first, as described above. You can also paint your stem, if you like. To achieve a stamped look on your pumpkin, don't try to stamp directly on the surface. Instead, take white tissue paper and stamp it using archival quality ink with the image or images of your choice. Allow ink to dry thoroughly and then Mod Podge your tissue carefully to your pumpkin. Add additional collage elements to the top and bottom of the pumpkin to frame your stamp, if you like. Try using matching tissue paper or paper napkins around the top or bottom of pumpkin for a complimentary look.

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FAMILY kids

How to Nurture an Introverted

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f you looked up “social” in the dictionary, there might just be a photo of my oldest son. Our doorbell is broken due to the constant ringing. Neighborhood friends stopping by to see if he can play and he always wants to. He is in his element when he is around friends.

Then there is my second son. They are less than two years apart in age and social opposites. Neighborhood friends don’t ask if my second son would like to join them in a game of football. There have been times when children have come over when my older son wasn’t home. I explain that my second can play, yet they decline the offer.

It is heartbreaking for me. My sons have very different interests but they have enough things in common to enjoy each other’s company.

It is important that they develop their own friendships but why does it have to be at the expense of someone’s feelings? In this case, mine.

When those incidents have happened, I find myself overcompensating by being his playmate. I ask if he wants to play a board game or take the dog for a walk. Usually he retreats to his room to play alone.

By: Noelle Elliott Perhaps I was the one who had been pushing him to be social in a setting he was not comfortable with. I have spent so much time wanting him to fit in, yet wanting him to stand out. Was it possible he could enjoy his time being alone?

The kids in our neighborhood were not being mean, they knew that he just doesn’t appear to be having fun when they have played in the past.

It had never occurred to me that a child would prefer solitude. A relative suggested that he might be an introvert. I immediately took offense. I always thought of an introvert as someone who was shy or socially awkward. I know now that I was misinformed.

Simply put, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people. It made sense that my son had a great time with friends at school, but preferred to be alone at home.

“The best thing as parents, we can do is accept our children they way they are and not try and force them to confirm to societies standard of what is normal or acceptable.”

At school he has found a niche of good friends. They like the same things and whenever they are together they have a blast.

Although he might not have a piece in the friendship puzzle of our neighborhood, he has certainly found a place for himself at school.

As a mother, I have spent the majority of my time wanting my child to be accepted. Starting from an early age I set up play dates, and signed him up for sports. I was expecting him to be social because that is what made me happy as a child.

One day as his brother was out playing football and he was, yet again, alone in his room, I decided to take him hot chocolate to comfort him. When I opened the door I was shocked by what I saw.

He was happily playing on the floor with his Legos. He wasn’t upset at all. In fact, he was very content.

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According to a recent book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, Susan Cain argues that we live in a culture that is biased against introverts. The extroverts are the ones who are considered assertive and outgoing and successful.

I misunderstood his preference to be alone as his reaction to rejection.

The truth is, he didn’t want to play with his brother’s friends, at least not at that moment. There is nothing wrong with that. The best thing as parents, we can do is accept our children they way they are and not try and force them to confirm to societies standard of what is normal or acceptable.

If you think your child is introverted or if you notice that they prefer to play alone at times, there are several ways you can encourage this without attaching a negative stigma with it.

Offer your child the option to play alone part of the day.

This allows a typical introverted child a chance to regroup.

Don’t worry if they retreat to their room after a sporting event or a busy day.

I always thought that my son was upset when he would disappear into his room after we had a great time at a school function.

Although he did enjoy his time surrounded by several people, he naturally gravitated to the familiar and comfortable surrounding of his room.

Don’t view this as a negative trait.

Sometimes introverted children are the most focused children you will know.

Don’t let them hear you call them shy.

In some cases, your child may be shy but in some cases they may not be. If they hear you making an excuse as to why they don’t want to join a group of friends playing soccer, they will label themselves with a trait that is not viewed in a positive light. They could carry this label throughout their live.

If your child is hesitant to try new things, introduce them gradually.

Acknowledge their attempt to step out of their comfort zone and praise them for trying something that is very difficult for them to do.

Seek a professional opinion.

It is easy to diagnose yourself or a person close to you. But, unless you know for sure what or if something is causing this behavior, you can’t begin to help them.

Asking a family doctor for referrals may be the first step in helping your child grow.

Enjoy an enchanting afternoon with your family and the Sugar Plum Fairy at Southold’s Nutcracker Tea! Indulge in sweets and savories in the breathtaking ambiance and historic atmosphere of the Palais Royale.

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FAMILY pregnancy

You Are

Not a

By: Meagan Church

Piece of

Fruit Words every pregnant woman needs to hear!

“Before I was even pregnant, the thought of giving birth was terrifying. I was certain there was no way something the size of a watermelon was going to come out of me without ending in my untimely death,” said Nicole Klemp, as she recalled her birth experience.

Let’s face it; Nicole isn’t the only one who has felt that way. And, the movies don’t do much to help ease our concern. How many peaceful birth experiences have you seen portrayed on the big screen? Probably none, right? Instead you see women screaming until their vocal cords bleed, while swearing off sex for the rest of their lives.

In reality, birth can be scary. Sure, there’s the whole pain thing, but there’s also the thought of your body stretching in ways that seem, well, impossible and even unnatural.

Then there’s the fact that random strangers will be looking at your lady bits and the possibility of, ahem, bodily excretions involuntarily finding their way out of your body and into the delivery room for everyone to see. It’s easy for women to consider all of this and think, “Can we bring back that whole twilight sleep thing where I magically forget all parts of labor and delivery, and wake to holding a precious bundle of joy?”

“The truth is our bodies are pretty awesome.”

But, here’s the thing every pregnant woman needs to know: “Your body is not a lemon.”

If you don’t believe me, just ask Ina May Gaskin who originally made that statement. If you haven’t heard of her, she’s pretty much the most famous midwife in the United States (Google her, if you don’t believe me). She knows her stuff and she has made a career of encouraging women to realize that their bodies are not lemons and that they are capable of experiencing natural, beautiful and oftentimes very peaceful births.

In a society where we hear that our bodies are broken or ugly or need improvement, we need to remember these words. In a country that has an over 30 percent c-section rate (the World Health Organization recommends the rate be under 15 percent), this can be a fact that women don’t hear often enough, if at all. Oftentimes our society and even doctors don’t tell women otherwise. Instead, they perpetuate the dialog that discourages women from realizing just how awesome their bodies actually are. As for Gaskin, her midwifery practice at The Farm has maintained a c-section rate below two percent. So, perhaps she knows something about women and lemons.

The truth is our bodies are pretty awesome.

I mean they can grow little humans. And, sometimes they grow more than one little human at a time. And your uterus that protects those little humans starts out the size of a pear, but it expands about 500 times from its original size over the 40-ish weeks of gestation. Then within a month after birth, it returns to its pre-pregnancy size. Our bodies can nourish those little humans, while they are still inside and even afterwards through breast milk. In fact, our bodies are so awesome that the breast milk we create changes over time to meet the nutritional needs as our babies grow and change. We don’t have to take any special pills or drink any magic potions to make this possible; it just intrinsically and instinctively happens.

Now, I understand that there is a time and a place for certain birth interventions. I know that c-sections can and do save lives.

And, I’m not saying that natural birth is the only way to go. But, I do know that many women fear birth. They fear what will happen to their bodies. They question whether or not they are capable of doing it.

They wonder how a watermelon will ever find its way out of them.

“You are more capable than you realize.”

So, if you are pregnant, ignore those negative voices, whether they are internal or external. Instead, do your research. Get the facts. Learn about birth. Find a midwife or physician who practices evidence-based care, not convenient care.

And, even beyond birth, remember that your body is not a lemon. You are not a lemon, or any other fruit for that matter.

You are more capable than you realize.

Pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and motherhood can be downright tough and exhausting both physically and mentally.

But hear these words: YOU CAN DO IT. You were wonderfully made and designed to do it. You are not broken. The truth is you’ve been given a pretty awesome body that has been designed to do some really incredible things. Believe in it. Believe in yourself. And, leave the lemons to lemonade.

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– L.M. Montgomery

“I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.”

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Fall Choral Concert,

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Thursday

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Breastfeeding Support Group,

Julie Andrew’s 79th Birthday

“The word ‘nerd’ was first coined by Dr. Seuss in ‘If I Ran The Zoo.’”

10:00 A.M., Bendix Woods County Park

Fall Home School Program: Leaves Are Lovely!,

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Marian High School 50th Anniversary Celebrations,

6:00 P.M., Bendix Woods County Park

Make your own scarecrow and hayride at Bendix Woods,

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4th Annual Amish Acres Corvette Rally,

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9:00 P.M., St. Patrick's County Park: Brown Barn

Brownie Girl Scouts: Wonders of Water,

3:30 P.M., Notre Dame

ND vs Standford,

8:30 P.M., Riverview Park, St. Joseph, MI

Fit 4 Fall 5K Run/Walk,

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3:30 P.M. The Lerner Theatre,

3rd Annual Choral Tapestry,

6:00 P.M., Potawatomi Zoo

Zoo Boo,

7:00 P.M., Newton Park

Newton Parks Annual Halloween Walk,

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8:00 A.M., Mancino’s, Plymouth

Freedom Park Car Show,

6:00 P.M., South Bend Civic Theatre

“House of Frightenstein” Haunted House,

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10:00 A.M., St. Patrick's County Park: Hurwich Shelter

Portraits in the Park,

3:30 P.M., Notre Dame

ND vs North Carolina,

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Housewives Day

Alton Brown Live!-The Edible Inevitable Tour,

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“Witch and ghost make merry on this last of dear October’s days.”

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Tai Chi

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Monthly Meditation Yoga,

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Rainbow Web,

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Puffy Paint Pumpkins,

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According to the National Retail Federation, Americans will spend as much as $2.6 billion on Halloween costumes per year.

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The Great ZooBoo,

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Big Bird One World One Sky,

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Halloween is a favorite event around here and what better excuse to have some fun with your baby bump this fall than a holiday that involves free candy? Get in the spirit with these fun ideas to accessorize your bump.

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Bump In The Road

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If you have other up as your on the fun by dressing them les? Pickles? favorite “cravings.” Popsic s! les The possibilities are end

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For the less creative among us (cough, cough), I love the ide a of going as a Magic 8 ball. Jus t use a basic black T-shirt and sla pa number 8 on a big white stic ker on your bump and you've got yourself a clever costume.

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Hauntingly Successful Halloween Night Trick-or-Treat! It’s time to gather the fun-sized

candies and the ghost and witch decorations because Halloween is right around the haunted corner. While your young ones assemble their Ninja Turtles and Frozen costumes, take the opportunity to educate them on the following safety tips while out on the spookiest of eves.

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Bring a flashlight: With our streets as dark as they are, a flashlight is a necessity for walking unharmed up and down the haunted streets of Michiana. When the sun sets, be sure to turn the bright lights on to guide trick-or-treaters down the spooky trails. Plus, how else are we supposed to find the best candy?!

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Weather appropriate costumes: The weather in Michiana is never pin-point on which makes it difficult to know what type of costume your child should wear.

A couple of years ago our kids were able to enjoy 60 degree weather then last year kids had to endure cold rainy temperatures. The week before the big day, check the weather and dress them appropriately.

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Travel in groups: Encourage your children to go out on Halloween with a large group. If still in elementary and even middle school, an adult should accompany the kids on their hunt for the King Size bars. High schoolers need to be careful as well and joining a large group with oversized pillow cases is a great way to ensure Halloween night safety.

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Candy: Remind your little goblins and ghouls to only eat sealed treats.

Open wrappers, if even a slight tear, can be a sign of tampering and is not worth the risk.

Go through your child’s bag of goodies to make sure all treats are fresh from the store and have no sign of outside handling.

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Curfew: Establish a time for trickor-treaters of all ages to be home. This year, Halloween falls on a Friday night which presents more of an opportunity for trouble as students do not have school the next day.

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Dear Mom, If Parenting Seems Hard, You’re Doing Something Right By: Meagan Church

Dear Mom, I'm going to let you in on a little secret: if this parenting gig seems hard, you’re doing something right.

The thing about parenting is that to do it right, you simply need to show up. But, even showing up can be difficult. Take for example the newborn stage. Sure, sleeping eight (or more) solid hours is much preferred to being woken every couple of hours to a screaming infant who needs a new diaper and to be fed. It’s hard to fumble through the darkness, half-asleep, trying to comfort your infant’s cries when you wish it was as simple as hitting a snooze button to bring quiet to the world once again. But, you show up.

You get up. You wake up (kind of) and meet your baby’s needs. And then you pour yourself an extra cup of coffee in the morning.

Likewise, you show up when your toddler greedily swipes his playmate’s toy. Or, when your youngest believes that whining is the appropriate form of communication. Or, when your daughter attempts to leave the house in shorts that cover as much as swimwear. Or, when your teenage son believes he deserves to go to that party without adult supervision.

Parenting is hard work. It takes patience and fortitude. And it’s not always enjoyable. Yes, the sweet old lady in the grocery story who tells you to enjoy every moment because it goes by quickly would like you to believe that it’s all rainbows and unicorns. The diaper commercial wants you to feel that newborns are sweet coos and gentle gurgles. But don’t forget that they are trying to sell you something. They are selling an experience that may happen from time to time, but surrounding those moments are tears and cries and frustrations on both the part of the baby and the parent.

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As for that old woman, while she might be correct that time does go more quickly than we sometimes realize or hope, her selective memory has condensed those long-ago moments to display only the highlight reel.

She may not have had Google back in her early motherhood days, but if she had, you can bet she would’ve been searching for ways to remove permanent marker from her floral wallpaper or how to get a marble out of her precious son’s nostril.

Just like grandma’s highlight reel, it’s easy to look at someone’s social media feed and think that they have it all together. Their kids must’ve come out of the womb angels.

Their kids never argue. They haven’t created a Pinterest board devoted solely to cleaning items destroyed by children. They have never needed a doctor to extract a small object from one of their child’s nostrils.

But remember what you’ve seen is a selection of their lives. Don’t let someone else’s highlights make you question your everyday efforts. Those filtered Instagrams and glossy magazines may make parenting look easy and may cause you to question what you’re doing wrong. The truth is that parenting isn’t easy.

It’s simple, but not easy.

Parenting is simple. It means loving your children and guiding them through their formative years, but it’s rarely ever easy to do that.

Showing up may seem simple enough, but when we are parents, we are required to do it again and again, at inconvenient times and surrounding matters we’d rather avoid. But it’s our job. It’s hard in the middle of the night.

It’s hard in the middle of a restaurant. It’s hard when the length of shorts creeps ever upwards.

It’s hard when that marble goes missing.

Your everyday may not be filled with highlight reel-worthy material, and certainly not rainbows and unicorns. No one’s is. But when you keep showing up and keep doing the part that is simple, you’re doing your job well.

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The Power of Other Women

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hen I was in high school, Friday nights meant sleepovers. Two or three of my friends would choose a house and we would spend the night together so we could talk, laugh or just hang out. I didn’t realize how important this was until I stopped doing it.

Once I was married, it was very rare, if ever, that I had quality time with girlfriends. Sure, we had book clubs, or dinner parties but we never just let our guard down and hung out in our pajamas. We went home with our husbands. Paid our babysitters and life went on.

My husband and I have a great relationship. He is understanding, open and truly my soul mate. With that said, he is still a man. There are just certain things he has a hard time understanding and certain interests that he has no desire to explore. The topic of celebrity fashion for example, is something that he would like to remain excluded from.

I miss my girlfriends. Facebook, texts, email just cannot compare to a good long conversation with a girlfriend. I have had the same best friend since I was nine. Our lives are very different, and we live in

By: Noelle Elliott After I had children, finding time to just sit and chat became more and more difficult. I found myself in a girlfriend drought. I became depressed and, even worse, slipped into a post partum spiral of despair I couldn’t articulate. My husband thought my sudden change in mood was due to exhaustion. That was true, however there was more to it that I hadn’t yet recognized.

I spent a lot of time alone with my two young sons. I had what I call a “duck persona.” On the surface, a duck looks like they are calmly floating along but if you get a glimpse of their legs underwater; they are in a furry of paddling just to stay a float. To most people, I looked like I was doing just fine, but inside I was panicked, scared and just trying to stay afloat. I had a hard time articulating my feelings to my husband.

It wasn’t until a friend of mine brought us dinner. She saw what I didn’t.

She asked if I wanted to come over when my husband got home, just to get out of the house. She had brought over dinner, so I didn’t have to worry about that. I had pumped enough milk to feed the baby, and I really couldn’t come up with a good enough excuse not to.

Having an empathetic and nonjudgmental group of women is the hidden super power that every mother needs. different states. She is single and travels all over the world, but we still keep in touch almost daily. A few years ago we had an opportunity to go to Australia together. If you are unfamiliar with the flight length, it is a four-hour flight from Chicago to Los Angeles, followed by a 15hour flight to Sydney.

We talked the entire time and when we landed we talked some more.

At the end of our ten-day trip on the 20-hour trip home we continued to talk. Women in general just like to share every detail of their life and most of their friends are more than interested in listening to it.

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That evening I arrived to her house and we sat down on the couch. It only took three minutes of being in her company to completely break down. We didn’t really speak; she just held my hand, stroked my hair and provided an endless supply of tissues as I cried my eyes out. I cried without even knowing what I was crying about. I got angry and dropped the “F” bomb. Just being in the presence of another women whom I trusted was all I needed to finally let out all of what was going on beneath the surface.

In college, I learned about a tradition that the Bara people in Madagascar used when a mother lost a child. She retreated to a hut on top of a hill where other women would greet her. She spent as long as she needed in that hut. It is called a wailing hut. A place where mothers felt free to express the guttural pain of losing a child surrounded by women who provide the cloth to soak up their tears.

As women, we spend so much time comparing ourselves to each other. Which only jeopardizes our strength. The real power comes in the form of understanding and can only be achieved when we stick together.

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My friend never judged me, or eluded that I was a bad mom or couldn’t handle it.

She just supplied the much-needed net when I felt like I was falling. She was my wailing hut. She later told me that she just instinctively knew I needed a girlfriend to talk to and she was right.

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Arrange a wine night. Invite them to come over in their yoga pants, t-shirts and ponytails to just hang out, drink wine and talk.

Having an empathetic and nonjudgmental group of women is the hidden super power that every mother needs.

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Product Testing:

Electric Warmers By: Lara West

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here is nothing quite as nice as welcoming a friend into your house and witnessing them sniff the air in a delighted way, and tell you how lovely your home smells. Ok, there might be one thing that makes this scenario even better, and that is knowing you spent your money wisely on those wax cubes.

Electric warmers have replaced the burning flame candle in many homes. The warmer has become a popular choice to decorate the smell due to two huge safety features that it offers. One is that wax doesn’t get scorching hot because of the low wattage of the bulbs. This is nice when you have to worry about little children fingers getting dipped into the wax, (let’s be honest- wax finger tips was the coolest thing ever…and still might be.)

The second, and what is probably the best selling feature of the warmer, is the greatly reduced risk of a home fire. You can actually leave the house without worrying about the air from the vent moving the curtain over the flame, or about the cat’s tail catching fire when it inevitably jumps on the counter and gleefully rubs against the bright heated warmer. You also get to enjoy the wonderful aroma right when you walk in the door after a long day.

My stash of scented wax bars is well over 50 different scents. (Yes, I am an addict!) I’ve remained loyal to a certain popular brand that my friends serve as independent sales consultants for, but I have become aware to the varying price ranges at other stores. So, I’ve tested three waxes from different places- of different price ranges- to be sure I’m not over spending on making my house smell delicious.

For this test, I used one cube of cinnamon scented wax from each pack.

I monitored how long it took for each brand to begin scenting the room to which had the strongest scent, the longest lasting scent and how easily they cleaned up from inside the warmer to change them out.

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Criteria

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Dollar Store

Started Scenting

22-24 Minutes 20-22 Minutes

Strength of Scent

Strongest

Second Strongest Weakest

Length of Scent

12 Hours

12 Hours

6 Hours

Clean-Up

Easy

Easy

Easy

28-30 Minutes

The specialty wax took a few minutes longer than the commercial purchase to begin freshening the room, but it was far superior in strength. The commercial brand from the store lasted as long as the specialty scent, but it was not nearly as strong at any point in time. The dollar store wax failed to meet the standards set by the other two, but it did offer a fresh smelling room for a short period of time. Each of the waxes were easily discarded into the trash can and wiped clean with a paper towel.

Recommendation: This product really boils down to a couple different preferences.

You can save a bit of money by picking up a commercial brand bar of wax from the supermarket. It will do the job, but if you are really looking for a powerful burst of aroma (especially to fill larger rooms), then you will want the specialty bar.

However, if you’re not really into altering the natural smell of your home, but you want to impress the occasional guests for an evening, then you can pick up the dollar store wax. It had a nice smell, it just took longer to become effective and wasn’t useful for as long.

Another important thing to consider is the type of scents you are looking for. The largest selection of scents is going to come from the specialty brand, as I was only able to find two scents at the dollar store and three scents at the supermarket.

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Pumpkin Apple Streusel Muffins Ingredients • 2 ½ Cups All-Purpose Flour • 2 Cups White Sugar • 1 Tablespoon Pumpkin Pie Spice • 1 Teaspoon Baking Soda • ½ Teaspoon Salt • 2 Eggs, Lightly Beaten • Cup Canned Pumpkin Puree • ½ Cup Vegetable Oil • 2 Cups Peeled, Cored And Chopped Apple • 2 Tablespoons All-Purpose Flour • ½ Cup White Sugar • ½ Teaspoon Ground Cinnamon • 4 Teaspoons Butter

Directions 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees and lightly grease an 18 muffin cups or use paper liners.

2. In a large bowl, sift together 2 ½ cups all-purpose flour, 2 cups sugar, pumpkin pie spice, baking soda and salt. In a separate bowl, mix together eggs, pumpkin and oil. Add pumpkin mixture to flour mixture; stirring just to moisten. Fold in apples and spoon batter into prepared muffin cups.

3. In a small bowl, mix together 2 tablespoons flour, ¼ cup sugar and ½ teaspoon cinnamon. Cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs. Sprinkle topping evenly over muffin batter.

4. Bake in preheated oven for 35 to 40 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into a muffin comes out clean.

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FAMILY book reviews

Red Ted Art: Cute and Easy Crafts for Kids

By Maggy Woodley Reviewed By: Sue Reber, Children’s Supervisor Bittersweet Branch of the Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Public Library

Make memories with your children, and unleash their hidden artistic talents with cute and easy craft ideas from Maggy Woodley. Red Ted Art: Cute and Easy Crafts for Kids is a great resource to have on hand when you want to do crafts with your children.

Included are projects for children of all ages using recycled or inexpensive materials. Use this book for ideas and create your own new and different projects with your children. You can make darling walnut mice, clothes peg people, superheroes, fingerprint cards and many more. The craft projects introduce children to different art techniques such as, printing, painting and sewing.

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Crafting helps develop motor skills in young children, and can also be used as a tool to teach counting, patterns or even learning their colors. There are many teaching moments that will come up while you craft with your children. When children create they are developing their imagination and learning to explore the world around them. Children also gain confidence in finishing a project that they create themselves.

Remember, it does not matter how the project turns out- it is the time you spend with your children creating and discovering the world of art together.

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FAMILY movie review

Halloween

Films

For The Whole Family Happy Halloween! And this year,

By: Cole Pollyea!

By: Cole Pollyea

my advice to movie-loving families is simple: save your beloved Carpenter flicks—“Halloween,” "The Thing" (my personal favorite horror film), you know the sort—for after the kiddies, worn out after their long night of trick-or-treating, go to bed. Instead, watch one of these carefully chosen films—in no particular order—, all of which ensure a tear-free, nightmare-absent, enjoyable night. And get this, the older members of the family can enjoy them too!

Coraline

Coraline is, by far, my favorite spooky family film. This movie had me at the edge of my seat, gazing in awe at the mesmerizing effects paired with the genius script, throughout almost the entire duration. From scene one to the end, this movie intrigues. There’s no doubt about that.

The Nightmare Before Christmas

BeetleJuice

BeetleJuice! BeetleJuice!

Beetlejuice! The more times you say it, the more times you want to watch it. Back when Blockbuster was hot, I persisted that my father took me to re-rent it some six or seven nights in a row. Director Tim Burton makes exceptionally eccentric films, so just hold on for the ride (if at any time you feel like ditching it). Its artistic edge sets it above the crowd.

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This is the third Burton film I decided to throw on this list. The reason? Well, I have a threeyear-old brother who adores this film, I (a soon-to-be 16 yearold) am completely intrigued with it and my father, the same.

The generational gaps that it effortlessly closes is just one of the many reasons to recommend this film; it’s also only one among its many virtues.

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Monster House

Monster House is traditional family fun. I’m fairly certain that it airs annually on Cartoon Network— so take advantage of this, because it’s an intricate concept that is brought to life by playful animation and engaging characters.

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