Sassy Magazine March 2013

MARCH 2013

NO11

"Women need food, water and compliments. And an occasional pair of shoes." -Chris Rock

Women in Technology The Queen Bee

Syndrome

Who Needs a

Life Coach?

Spring Trends '13

Social Media

Super Chic!

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MODEL: Maria Gonzalez Photography: CLASSIC IMAGE Photography Stylist: Maria Gonzalez

ON THE

MARCH

EVERY MONTH 04 Letter from the publisher 05 Contributors, Letter from the editor STUFF WE LOVE 06 Sassy Time 08 Heavy Metal SASSY MAKE-UP 10 A Fresh Look for Spring

By Bethza Seminario

SASSY FASHION 12 Spring 2013 Trends

By Kathy Friend

SASSY ADVICE FROM A BUSINESS COACH 14 Dear Charrise...

Answers from Charrise McCrorey

HEALTHY LIVING 16 MassagE Time

By Kimlee Jones

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Clean out the Fridge!

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Match Point

By James Sieradzki, M.D.

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Veins, Veins

An Expert Panel of Tips

Preventing Common Tennis Injuries

By Holly Kelly Sucharetza, MSN, NP-C

sassy DESIGN 24 Super Chic

By Andrew Skipper

adventures in sassydom 26 Who Knew?

By Jane Suter

Appetizing Recipe!

28 Simple Shrimp Scampi SASSY BUSINESS FEATURES 30 The Role of a Life Coach

By Lucas Miles

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Women in Technology

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Three Benefits of Social Media

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The Queen Bee Syndrome

By Jennifer Warfel Juszkiewicz

By Jillian Koeneman

By Jennifer Warfel Juszkiewicz

sassy connections 38 Staying Professional in a Social Media World

By Cyndy Searfoss

Sassy real life 40 For a Day Photography: CLASSIC IMAGE PHOTOGRAPHY

By Michelle L. Shirk, J.D.

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Spring Cleaning Basics

By Stephanie J. Salisbury

Pre-Planning for Busy Women

THE DATEBOOK 48 Sassy events to put in your datebook SCENE & BE SEEN 50 Read about events around town SASSY | MARCH 2013

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LETTER FROM THE

publisher

Photography: Classic image photography Makeup: Camellia Maalouf, Camellia Cosmetics Granger

Publisher & Editor-in-Chief: Betsy Tavernier Betsy@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

EXECUTIVE Editor: Stephanie J. Salisbury

Stephanie@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

Creative Promotions Manager: Jena Bontrager Jena@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

GRAPHIC DESIGN Manager: Zuzanna Zmud

Zuzanna@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com

MEDICAL EDITOR: Dr. Jesse Hsieh Distribution Manager: John Ferguson

Sassy & Lucky!

Whether you carry a rabbit's foot, a lucky penny, a message from a fortune cookie or a unique memento of something special in your wallet, I bet you have something with you at all times that gives you a sense of comfort or wisdom. The sassy gal just does things like that.

Every sassy gal I know has charisma, wit, charm, laughter, wisdom, class and a wee little bit of luck in her arsenal of great traits. She's full of life, she's savvy, she's a calculated risk taker and she's passionate - she's the gal we gravitate toward and the gal that enjoys life by making things happen.

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C'Mon, find that sassy inner-self gal this month, rub your lucky penny and go make things happen!

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LETTER FROM THE

editor

James Sieradzki, M.D., is a board-certified orthopedic surgeon with fellowship-training in sports medicine. He grew up in South Bend and attended St. Joseph High School. He graduated from Williams College and received his medical degree from Vanderbilt University. Dr. Sieradzki joined South Bend Orthopaedics in 2009. He also works as the team physician for the University of Notre Dame lacrosse teams.

Holly Kelly Sucharetza MSN, NPC, is a Nurse Practitioner currently

working in the Dermatology department at South Bend Clinic. She received her Bachelor's degree in Nursing and Nurse Practitioner's degree from Indiana University South Bend. Prior to becoming a nurse practitioner, Holly worked as a registered nurse in the cardiac catheterization lab at St. Joseph Regional Medical Center in Mishawaka, IN. Holly currently resides with her husband in Granger, IN.

Bethza Seminario is the Co-

Founder, creative director and head make-up artist of Bethza Professional Makeup Artist Studio in Elkhart,IN . At the beginning of her make-up career, she freelanced in Chicago and Indianapolis, was featured in local magazines, fashion shows and modeling agencies’ photo shoots. Her specialization on Editorial, Commercial and High Fashion Make-up inspired her to bring that style to her community and share the beauty of city fashion by creating her own cosmetic company, Nethyel Pro Beauty, at age of 26. Now Bethza is well-known in her community for helping other local artists and small businesses by organizing events and collaborating on numerous projects to create exposure while using her skills to see her community grow. You can learn more at www.bethza.com.

Jillian Koeneman (@jillianmk) founded Freshlime: Digital Marketing (www.freshlimemarketing.com) in 2010 in order to lead businesses to increased sales and greater brand awareness through social media marketing and other online vehicles. Koeneman is a Board Member of the Women Business Owners of Michiana and volunteers on the Marketing Committee for the Humane Society of Elkhart County. She also heads up all marketing for her husband’s new business, Anytime Fitness in Goshen.

Koeneman earned a degree in advertising and public relations from Michigan State University in 2004 and was a member of two National Championship Water Polo Teams.

Photography: Classic image photography Makeup: Camellia Maalouf, Camellia Cosmetics Granger

Hey, Girl!

So, I’m sitting here in my office listening to Spotify, working on social media and making important decisions like what’s going into the next few magazines and also what to have for lunch, and I’m thinking – how great is multitasking? How far we’ve come… not only can we, as women, do it all – we can usually do more than one of those things at the same time.

Ahh, but sometimes it’s great just to unplug. Relax, take a hot bubble bath, get a massage. What? Who has time for that? YOU do, my friend. In fact, there are so many benefits to relaxation and massage that you can’t afford not to. Check out Kimlee Jones’ article on this very subject, then schedule yourself for some ME-time, stat.

It’s time for so many updates come Spring. Not just spring cleaning, but revamping your wardrobe and your make-up with fresh, new colors and looks. Kathy Friend and Bethza Seminario give us some fantastic tips, and I even scrounged up a few ideas to help you conquer the barrier and start your spring cleaning. (Spoiler alert: margaritas are involved.)

Women are everywhere these days: we’re in technology, we’re entrepreneurs, we’re in charge of million dollar companies. We’re into social media, we play tennis, we’re in healthcare… and sometimes we all need a coach. Lucas Miles tells us what the role of a Life Coach is and how to utilize one in your own life for the best results. This month, Sassy touches on all of these subjects and more… dig in!

Did you know that our business coach, Coach Charrise, will answer YOUR questions? Send me an email and you might see your question answered in the next issue of SASSY Magazine!

Stay awesome, Stephanie

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THE SA S SY FACTORY

stuff we love

SASSY Time National Nutrition Month Begins

Stephanie’s Birthday (Executive Editor)

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Lose Weight, Find Health

St. Patrick’s Day

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Easter spells out beauty, the rare beauty of new life. –S.D. Gordon

Where man sees but withered leaves, God sees sweet flowers growing. –Albert Laighton

Sassy Reader Embarrassing Moments

To submit your embarrassing moments, email Stephanie@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com Awake, thou wintry earth; Fling off thy sadness!

Fair vernal flowers, laugh forth Your ancient gladness! --Thomas Blackburn

“After getting all dolled up for a first date, I put the finishing touches on my eyelashes and gave a last glance in the mirror. After I turned around, the mascara flew out of my hand and hit me in the face. Chalking it up to my usual clumsiness, I ran to get the door because my date had knocked.

When I opened the door, he looked at me quizzically and began making small talk, seeming rather uncomfortable. When I went to check myself in the mirror one last time, I saw a little black Hitler mustache where the mascara had hit me… I quickly wiped and reapplied lipstick, and we were on our way. We did not have a second date…” –Kelly “I had worked for three years at a coffee shop, answering the phone the same way every time it rang, with the name of the coffee shop and then my own name, and ‘how can I help you?’ At my new job as a receptionist at a doctor’s office, once the first week I accidentally answered the phone the old way and was mortified. The patient on the other end said, ‘sorry, I must have dialed the wrong number’… so I just went with it and said, ‘that’s okay! It happens!’” –Diana

Those have a short Lent, who owe money to be paid at Easter. –Benjamin Franklin 6 MARCH 2013 | SASSY

The Habits of Rabbits

Like deer, male rabbits are called ‘bucks’ and females are ‘does’.

Rabbits only sweat on the pads of their feet.

Pet rabbits tend to live much longer than those in the wild.

The longest rabbit ears ever measured were just over 31 inches.

Rabbits’ teeth never stop growing.

A rabbit’s gestation period is only roughly 30 days. No wonder they’re a symbol of fertility!

Three Fast DIY Projects

1. Paint your keys with nail polish to tell each one apart.

2. Using a white coffee mug and colorful Sharpie markers, make your own work of art.

Things to Do in March Start an indoor herb garden

Make a March Madness bracket and watch some b-ball Start your Spring cleaning list Have a March-arita party with your girlfriends 3. Use recycled paint cans decorated, stacked and glued together for shoe cubbies.

Celebrate Easter the right way: with church and chocolate!

Things Not to Miss on St. Patrick’s Day Green Beer

Corned Beef & Cabbage Smoked Salmon Irish Stew Saying the Old Irish Blessing (May the road rise to meet you…)

Limericks!

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Heavy Metal Sasha Capri

Sorella Boutique carries premium denim lines like Rock Revival. Here’s a medium wash cuffed capri with handsanding and small grindings on the front knee. Metallic embroidery with rhinestone studs are on the back pocket.

Sorella Boutique, Granger $138 574.855.1475

Irish Rockstar

Show your Irish spirit this St. Patty’s day with this rhinestone t-shirt! Special orders available; sizes Small - Large. Call Jules Boutique for available colors and styles!

Jules Boutique, Goshen $26 574.535.1119

Rings of Steel Mirror

Mundane metal washers are transformed into functional art, providing alternatives for brass workers who cannot afford the skyrocketing cost of raw metal in Moradabad, India. This imaginative mirror is a beautiful statement for any home.

Ten Thousand Villages, Goshen $115 574-533-8491

Heavy Metal with Sass and Class

Make your night out official in our peep toe 5.5� satin wedges with rhinestone bow and heel. It’s all sass and class from its slightly cushioned heel to its metal trim.

Flirt Boutique, Rochester $39.95 www.YourFlirtBoutique.com

Bud to Rose by Diddi

Contemporary jewelry designed for the modern woman with simple styles that are easy to wear and combine. Different materials like leather, suede, semi-precious stones, water pearls and metal give an edgy and feminine look.

Inspire Me!, South Bend 574.232.1798

SASSY

skin & make-up

By Bethza Seminario

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fter a harsh winter season, most women’s skin has suffered from dryness which creates unattractive flakiness, irritation and redness. On top of that, some women still get those T-zones which are so shiny and make us ask ourselves, “How do I fix ALL of this?”

Before considering following any trends this season, make sure you exfoliate your skin deeply by getting an at-home or salon deep cleansing facial. This will make sure that the skin surface gets rid of the dead skin cells and gives you radiant and fresh skin.

Let’s begin with this year’s Spring trends: First, flawless glowing skin for Spring is a must!

Dry to Normal Skin: Make your own blemish balm (BB) cream at home. With your fingers or using a brush, mix your everyday moisturizer with a little bit of your favorite liquid foundation and apply that mixture evenly all over your face and neck. This will help your complexion dramatically, because you will get the benefits of your own moisturizer (anti-aging, SPF, peptides, oil-free base) while also adding the amount of coverage you want.

Combination to Oily Skin: Apply an oil-free moisturizer all over your face and neck. Do not skip this! Then, apply a primer that will absorb excess oil from your T-zone and cheeks.

Now let your skin absorb the moisturizer and primer while you do your eye routine.

The colors for Spring 2013 are Sapphire, Jade and Vibrant Aqua!

I can see many of you asking yourselves, “How am I going to rock these colors at the office and still look professional?” Simple! You do not have to use these vibrant shadows all over the eye at the same time with colored eyeliner.

If you choose the shadow, get a light, shimmery version of any one of these colors and apply it lightly at the bottom inside corner of your eye. It will add a nice colorful twinkle.

If you cannot live without eyeliner, there are two easy ways to do this without looking too overdone. Place the eyeliner either on the waterline or on your top lash line. After adding any of these colors, complete the eye look with your regular routine of neutral shadows. Your brows need to be groomed and shaped as well. Leave them thick and well-arched and fill them out with a taupe-toned powder or pencil to warm them up if needed.

After your eyes are done: Grab your concealer and apply a very small amount of it under your eyes to brighten up your eyes. This will also give you a cleaner look. Also, apply it on the bridge of your nose. For those with combination-to-oily skin, you can use a pore-refining matte foundation after your concealer in case you do not like using a liquid foundation.

Now, grab your blush and smile. This Spring, go for an apricot-toned blush to give you the freshness needed on your cheeks.

Highlighter time! Use your brush or fingers and apply above your cheekbones and under your brows to emphasize the high points of your face.

Wait, almost done! Finally, powder your T-zone and under your eyes with a translucent powder or powder foundation to seal that area. You do not want any magic you have done to be moving around or coming off. Also, grab your favorite light-toned lip gloss or lipstick. Keep the whole look fresh by adding a peach or pink nude tone for your lips during daytime. Add a more brightly-toned lip color to quickly transform your day look to nighttime.

Have fun this Spring ‘13 by playing with colors and bringing out the Top Model in you!

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Spring 2013 Trends

fashion

Wear it now and later

By Kathy Friend

The world is exploding in emerald, sage and lusty chartreuse – neon green with so much yellow in it. It is an explosive green that, if one could watch it moment by moment throughout the day, would grow in every dimension. ~ Amy Seidl

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right vibrant colors, life, a new beginning, thoughts of Spring Break and new cute clothes might all be part of our daydreams about spring! Don’t you get the itch to add new spring clothes to your closet the second you start seeing the new trends in magazines and on Pinterest?

Here are some ways to curb your insatiable spring clothing appetite when the weather isn’t cooperating:

NEW COLORS

First, check out the new colors of the season. Pantone named Emerald Green as THE color of the year. It is being paired with some really cool tones of greyed jade and poppy red.

Wear it Now: One easy way to feel a little springy is to bring in some of the season’s hottest colors into your current winter/early spring (weather appropriate) wardrobe. Add layers of t-shirts and cardigans with scarves. Try this look on the weekends.

Wear it Later: Go all out with trendy pairings! Start a ‘spring trend’ board on Pinterest and start pinning your favorite looks. When the weather breaks, mimic the looks on your board. Take a look at my board at pinterest.com/kathyfriend/ spring-2013-trends.

BOOTS

Are you a boot-a-holic? This season, some of the most on-trend looks show boots with spring clothing.

Wear it Now: With your jeans or leggings and layer on the sweaters and scarves.

This is a great look for a weekend sporting event or coffee with the girls.

Wear it Later: Pair your favorite boots with a cute new spring dress or colorful skirt. Don’t forget those cardigans; you might need one in early spring! One spring boot trend to keep an eye on is the gladiator style sandal boot.

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Nanette Lepore Spring/Summer 2013

COLORED DENIM

Colored and printed denim is a trend that is here to stay. It is an easy way to bring some life into your wardrobe with one simple piece. And let’s be real, who doesn’t want more jeans?

Wear it Now: Pare your favorite spring-hued denim back with a neutral like tan, blue, grey, black or white. Add your favorite boot and *poof*: you are a walking trend board!

Wear it Later: Bring on bright colors! The bright neon trend is great when it’s worn as denim.

A fun look with bright colored jeans is a striped tee.

STRIPES and DOTS

Who doesn’t love stripes and dots? This season stripes and dots are back with a vengeance!

Railroad stripes, jailhouse stripes, candy stripes all the way to polka dots of all varieties. You name it, you’ll be able to find it in stores!

Wear it Now: Use stripes as an accessory – as the added detail to your outfits. Use striped shirts under sweaters or to complement deeply textured skirts. This is a trendy go-to look for every day.

Wear it Later: Let the stripes speak! The stripes should be the focal point of your outfit.

Wearing all black and white and maybe mixing polka dot (or possibly floral) and stripes will be very trendy. Need a little color? Add in a hot colored necklace – maybe something in Emerald?

RUFFLES

Nothing makes a girl feel more ladylike than a few ruffles. The ruffle trend this season takes a more subdued tone than what we’ve seen in the past.

Wear it Now: Most of the ruffled pieces this season will be in distinct spring lightweight fabrics. To bring some of this trend forward in your wardrobe, pair it with strong winter pieces like a chunky knit fisherman’s sweater, or maybe sweater tights or leggings and granny boots.

Wear it Later: Embrace this girly look with layers of necklaces and a simple tee. Of course, it will be easy for you to dress this look up with a simple cardigan. Try adding a skinny belt in a contrasting color over the cardigan.

WALKING SHORTS

This season, you will see walking shorts from designer brands from the top down. They are a great modest and age-appropriate way to look pulled together without having to wear trousers or a skirt. Think of the walking shorts as another workday option, and Sassy gals always need more options!

Wear it Now: Walking shorts as a skirt? Yeah! Pull on some funky textured or patterned tights and a chunky sweater. This makes a fun look for a weekend movie or for running errands.

Wear it Later: You will love dressing up your walking shorts this spring! Think Taylor Swift’s style of classic cuteness and don a great pump or wedge and tee.

WHAT TO BRING INTO SPRING

Don’t mourn the loss of your favorite winter pieces. Bring them into spring!

SEQUIN SKIRT – In the winter, you were wearing your sequins in the day or evening. Try transitioning your favorite sparkly skirt into spring by pairing it with cowboy boots and a denim shirt.

Keep them as the ‘wow’ pieces in your wardrobe. Try it with a perfect white button-up blouse for a fun girls’ night, or with a simple t-shirt for daytime. On your feet: a cute ballet flat, of course!

DENIM SHIRT – A great denim shirt will be the best investment you will make in your wardrobe. Layer it under cardigans and use it as a jacket over dresses. Plan to keep this shirt in your closet when spring arrives; just roll the sleeves past your elbows, turning it into a short sleeve top. Layer over a long tank and tie it up just above your waist.

SWEATER VEST – What, you don’t have a sweater vest? WHY? It is a fun piece that will add some ‘wow’ to outfits that need that little something extra. Layer over tees or cardigans, belt over skinny jeans and leggings. Try it with a walking short and tank top this spring. When you don’t know what to wear, pull on your favorite leggings, cowboy boots, a tunic tank top and your sweater vest.

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THE SA S S FACTORY

advice from a business coach

Dear Charrise...

Have a co-worker who’s driving you batty? A boss who just won’t listen to reason? Or maybe you’re wondering if this is your time to breakout and show the business world what you’re really made of – but you don’t know exactly how to go about it. Sounds like you need some sound business advice! Send your questions to Charrise, our SASSY business coach, and have them answered here. It’s time to get a fresh perspective!

I’m a single mom, and I adore my two children ages 2 and 5. It’s important to me to advance my career, and there are times I feel like a wishbone being pulled at both ends. It seems everyone wants a part of me, and there isn’t enough of me to go around. How can I be a great mom AND build a fulfilling career at the same time?

Charrise Says It can really be a challenge to juggle so many competing priorities. One strategy is to constantly ask yourself this very key question: “What is important NOW?” This will help you to do the things that drive your most critical priorities and keep you from getting caught in the weeds (doing things that suck up your time and aren’t really important).

You could open a new chapter to your life: one that involves more fulfillment with your work than ever before. You are meant to add value to the world through your gifts and talents. There is a reason you’re worried you’ll be bored!

Another option is to commit to a life of philanthropy and volunteering. There are many great causes that would benefit from your talent. Some people retire on the couch and die soon after because their spirit is extinguished. You don’t want that, I’m guessing.

Some people think of all the things they will do when they retire, and mistakenly believe none of them are possible UNTIL they retire. Which of those things can you do right now? What if you built an exciting life while you’re still young and healthy enough to enjoy it?

I’m going to guess that you have taken on a ‘Superwoman’ mentality. If that’s true, consider what you’re trying to prove. Many women are battling a persistent belief that they aren’t worthy, so they try valiantly to prove otherwise by saying ‘yes’ to too many things. This is the classic overachiever syndrome.

Consider eliminating the trivial things from your life. Focus on what matters most and, when you get overwhelmed, remember there is always enough time if you’re prioritizing correctly. It may be that, at times, your children need you more than your job does, and vice versa. Be open to accepting that life brings an ebb and flow.

Your legacy generally doesn’t improve simply by moving up the career ladder.

People will remember you for the way you lead your whole life. The quality of your relationships, in the end, is what truly matters.

I’m a woman in my late 50s and looking toward retiring in the next few years. I’m healthy financially and still have a lot of energy, and I’m worried I might be bored if I retire. What should I do?

Charrise Says Why are you planning to retire? What if your best work is still ahead of you? What if you live to be 100, which is more likely now than ever before? There are really no rules about these things. I would suggest you take a look at the work you’re doing and decide if it’s really what you want to be doing. If not, that is your next task.

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My kids have both graduated from college and have made their way in the world. Due to some unfortunate circumstances in my sons’ life, he has had to move back in. I have found myself falling into my old ‘mom’ ways. How do I balance supporting him while making sure he continues to be independent?

Charrise Says It’s interesting how often this happens, actually. We want our children to grow up to be independent adults and, yet, we go into a brief mourning period when they become independent and leave our home. Then, sometimes, they need a soft place to land for a while and we get to readjust our lives one more time as they move back in. Irony at its finest!

It’s very difficult to not allow him to come back home, as a mom. I know this firsthand. Our instinct is to nurture and fix and love without condition. We want our babies (even though they are grown) to be safe and their basic needs to be met.

It’s safe to say that these situations are usually temporary, unless it gets too easy and comfortable for them to stay at home. The terms of his stay must be clearly defined. It’s useful to treat him like the adult he is; even though he was mothered by you when he was young, now what he needs is responsibility and accountability. It may require some tough love, too.

Consider having one of the clearest conversations you’ve ever had with him. Set limits to the amount of caretaking you will do. Create a financial agreement that

challenges him to become financially independent.

You will need to treat him like an adult even though when he’s out late you will worry. He will need to treat you with respect, being considerate of the fact that you are his mom (and you will worry)!

It’s a new landscape you’re navigating, and it will help to see it that way rather than recreating what you used to have together. Old patterns will not support independence and, ultimately, that is the greatest gift we can give to our children.  Charrise McCrorey is a Certified Transformative Coach, business consultant, writer, and speaker. She works with individuals and business leaders worldwide, with offices in Elkhart and Chicago. She is a catalyst for assisting others in creating a magnificent life and rewarding work.

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SASSY

healthy living

Massag E Time

By Kimlee Jones

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time? What does that look like? What does that even mean? I can’t possibly take time now! Both girls have volleyball, not to mention piano for one and violin for the other right after school. I went to work early so that I could leave early enough to get them to where they need to be on time. If I’m lucky, I can maybe sneak off to the supermarket while they’re busy and get some things for dinner. That way, I can start cooking as soon as I get in the house (because I feel guilty about eating out again).

You may have noticed that different massage styles like Swedish, Deep Tissue, Sports and Reflexology are popular at different times. Sometimes it’s difficult to tell whether each was just part of a passing fad or the latest, greatest massage technique. An even more important question is, how can you tell whether the latest style will actually help you? Styles used in massage therapy range from long, smooth strokes to short, percussive strokes. Some therapists use oils and lotions; others do not. Most massage therapists have clients unclothe for a massage, but some do not. A massage can last anywhere from five minutes to two hours.

Does this sound similar to your daily grind? That’s because its commonplace in today’s society for women to stretch ourselves to the limit by meeting the demands of all that is required of us. Why is it that we can make time for everyone and everything except ourselves? What we need to do is take a ‘chill pill’ and relax. Relaxation, the relief of bodily or mental work through rejuvenation, is the very thing that allows us to complete everything on our ‘to-do' list. Some of us pride ourselves on how much rest we didn't get in order to complete our daily tasks. It’s as though we delight in running on empty to get things done.

Before you can decide which massage style is best for you, you need to ask yourself a question: do you simply want a massage for relaxation and stress control? Or do you need symptom relief or help with a certain health condition?

Before booking a massage, let the therapist know what you're looking for and ask which style(s) the therapist uses. Many use more than one style. The therapist may even customize your massage, depending on any particular needs or goals you might have.

Well, our bodies say otherwise.

Relaxation is a key component to our very survival of these daily demands. I was recently vacationing at a resort and was wooed into getting a relaxation treatment through a special deal. I wasn’t sure about it, but thought, “What could it hurt?”

How right I was! I felt immediately like the world had stopped and movement was merely a suggestion, not a real option. What was this feeling of euphoria that I felt almost guilty for experiencing? I was hooked and there was no turning back.

Upon returning home, I vowed to make some time for ME! …and massage and relaxation therapy were just what the ‘doctor’ ordered.

I began researching massage/relaxation and found a great resource in WebMD. com. They say, “Massage has been practiced for thousands of years. Today, if you need or want a massage, you can choose from among 80 massage therapy styles with a wide variety of pressures, movements and techniques. These all involve pressing, rubbing or manipulating muscles and other soft tissues with hands and fingers. Sometimes even forearms, elbows or feet are used.”

According to a 2007 American Massage Therapy Association survey, almost a quarter of all adult Americans had at least one massage in the previous year and they have a wide range of reasons for doing so. More and more people are recognizing the health benefits of massage including relief from symptoms or to heal injuries, to help with certain health conditions and to promote overall healthy living and wellness.

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Less personal contact is where relaxation therapy comes in. It allows you to take time to free your mind and transport yourself out of your stresses through mental manipulation of the senses by the use of words, visualizations and breathing techniques. When we continue to habitually conform to our stressfilled environment, we slowly lose the ability to relax effectively, and must be retrained. Strangely enough, it takes practice to learn how to relax. However, the benefits of both massage and relaxation therapy are immediate unlike many other remedies for healthy living, and that’s what we love about it the most.

Since you don’t have to wait for the results of these therapies, there’s nothing to it but to do it! In a review of the scientific literature on the relationship between stress and disease, Carnegie Mellon University psychologist Sheldon Cohen found that stress is a contributing factor in human disease and, in particular, depression and cardiovascular disease. With stress being such a major contributor to many illnesses, it’s really not about how much time you can afford to spend; rather, can you afford not to spend time on yourself? So, spend some time creating new norms by adding ‘ME Time’ to your schedule and conquer your day in a more relaxed way. You’ll be so glad you did. 

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We found three experts to answer your questions. This month, we’re cleaning out the fridge! Find out what a Mom, a Professional Organizer and a Dietitian all have to say!

MOM-ON-THE-GO: Amberly Nichols, a Michiana native, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the proud mother of two boys. She and her husband, Mike, live in Granger.

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Schedule the cleaning for the day before the trash comes so that all the stinky stuff doesn't putrify in the trash can.

Clean right before a grocery trip so that what you have or don't have is fresh inyour mind.

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My leftovers usually get three days max. I don't know if there's any scientific validity for tossing things at three days, but that's my ‘ick’ factor.

Go through condiments at least once a month to get rid of anything you've opened but haven't used. (Unless it's got a crazy long expiration date. No one uses an entire bottle of ketchup every month. Do they?) I've discovered that this is especially useful in the case of things like pickles or olives that just taste gross if they haven't been used once they've been opened.

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Keep all the little restaurant condiments in a little Tupperware container and go through that at least every couple of months. Nothing is nastier than old sweet and sour sauce.

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PROFESSIONAL ORGANIZER: Laura Beckley of WonderJunk Organizing is northeast Indiana’s newest professional organizer, and she specializes in hoarding! She has had many jobs over the years: military, Girl Scout volunteer, retail and restaurateur to name a few. Each has required a high degree of organization, and is something Laura loves to do. It has only made sense for her to put that experience, along with her college degree, to work for others.

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Take a good look at how the shelves are positioned. If they are still in the same position as when the fridge was delivered, by all means, switch it up!

See what works best for you!

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Repurpose the drawers and compartments. Crispers don’t have to be used for produce. They are great for storing individually packaged snacks for the kids or your collection of gluten-free flours.

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Think out of the (ice)box! There are many things that should never be stored in the refrigerator in the first place: potatoes, sweet potatoes, garlic, onions,

DIETITIAN: Kara Rowe is a Registered Dietitian and Certified Diabetes Educator at the South Bend Clinic. She is a graduate of Purdue University with a B.S. in Dietetics and M.B.A. from Indiana Wesleyan University. She is passionate about health and wellness and focuses on developing realistic tips individuals that can be incorporated into their lifestyle.

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Fruits and vegetables have higher moisture content and should be kept at slightly higher temperatures than meat or dairy products. Store them in the crisper.

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Monitor fruit for ripeness. Simply removed bruised pieces from fruit to prevent further spoilage, but toss if it is moldy.

Discard cooked vegetables after three to four days.

Store eggs and milk in the coldest part of the refrigerator and not in the door where it would be susceptible to warmer air.

Use fresh or raw meat within three to four days of purchase. A red or brownish color is normal and has to do with the amount of oxygen it has come into contact with. Throw it out if it doesn’t smell right.

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Butter, cheese and apples absorb odors from other foods. Keep these items separate from foods that give off odors such as cabbage.

winter squash, bananas and avocadoes. Most fruits don’t need to be in the fridge unless they’ve been cut or they are ripe and you are trying to get a couple more days of shelf life out of them.

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Still need more space? You can also move condiments like ketchup, mustard, pancake syrup and vinegars to the pantry.

Stack it up! Can stackers keep the cans of soda from falling over and rolling to the back while utilizing the dead space between the cans and the shelf above.

Hard-working Susan! A Lazy Susan is great for those small jars and bottles that get pushed to the back and forgotten! They also keep you from having to empty the shelf in order to reach something all the way in the back.

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Leftovers. When storing leftovers, package them so they are easy to graband-go for lunches, and put them at eye level in the fridge so you don’t forget them.

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Moo-ve It Down! Always place raw meat in a shallow dish in the lowest part of the refrigerator so the juices don’t contaminate other food.

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Preventing Common

Tennis Injuries Part I: Upper Body Injuries James Sieradzki, M.D

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laying tennis on a regular basis can help maintain or improve balance, mobility, agility, strength and fitness. As an aerobic activity, it helps burn calories. It’s also a pleasant social activity, allowing friends to play and compete year-round in area indoor and outdoor racquet facilities.

By Andrew Skipper But tennis can be a very high impact and demanding sport. No matter what your skill level of play is, the repetitive nature of tennis puts your body under severe stresses, especially in the knees, ankles, lower back, arms and shoulders. The American Orthopaedic Society for Sports Medicine reports that two-thirds of all tennis injuries are due to overuse and the other one-third to a traumatic injury or acute event.

Overuse injuries occur as a result of stress on the muscles, joints and soft tissues over time. These injuries most often occur as we age and our bodies begin to feel the wear-and-tear of years of activity. Extremely active athletes who haven’t given past injuries enough time to heal can also suffer from overuse injuries.

These injuries often begin as a small, nagging pain but can grow into serious injuries if they aren’t properly treated early on. The good news is that such injuries can be prevented with some changes to technique and the use of proper equipment.

Your goal is to have a healthy, active and injury-free lifestyle! In this article we will explore some of the more common upper body tennis injuries and also discuss injury prevention methods and treatment options.

Tennis Elbow

The most common overuse injury is ‘tennis elbow’, a condition that comes from constant strain on the elbow joint and overuse of the tendons and muscles around it. These muscles are the most used when the tennis ball impacts the racquet. The inflammation is caused by prolonged gripping activities such as weight lifting, playing certain musical instruments, digging in the garden, driving and racquet sports.

Symptoms include minor and localized pain in the joint and restricted movement in the wrist. The pain may increase when the fingers are fully straightened or the wrist is bent backwards. Many players find themselves with tennis elbow after practicing and playing with poor technique, including using wet balls or racquet strings that are too tight.

Gripping either too hard or for too long can also bring on the pain. Make sure your racquet grip is the correct size for your hand. If it is too small, it will cause you to grip too hard. Make sure you take regular breaks during a match and stretch the

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muscles which work over the wrist by doing ‘limp wrist’ and ‘policeman halting traffic’ type stretches. Proper muscle strengthening and a regular warm-up routine will help decrease the chance of getting tennis elbow.

Stop all activities that cause the pain and use the RICE (Rest, Ice, Compression, Elevate) treatment method to reduce pain and swelling. Conservative treatments are often all that is needed for a full recovery of tennis elbow which usually resolves in a few days to a few weeks. If elbow pain lasts more than a few days despite rest and conservative treatment, you should see a physician for an evaluation.

For those who have suffered from tennis elbow in the past, it may be a good idea to wear a tennis elbow compression strap. They work by preventing the muscles that run along the outer side of the forearm from contracting fully, thus reducing the strain on the elbow.

Rotator Cuff Tendonitis

Tennis shoulder injuries are mostly due to the demand placed upon the shoulder motion during the serve and overhead stroke. Because the game of tennis can become competitive and power-oriented, the body is required to perform at the highest level. The forces generated during overhand motions of a tennis serve can equal up to 120 percent of a person’s body weight, slamming through the shoulder.

The rotator cuff is a group of muscles, primarily in the rear of the shoulder, whose main function in tennis is to stabilize the shoulder and decelerate the arm after striking the ball. While these small muscles are serving an important protective function for the shoulder by stabilizing it, they must do so while working in opposition to powerful muscles such as the chest.

The first signs of rotator cuff problems include weakness in the shoulder, pain when lifting the arm over the head or simply moving the arm forward to shake a hand. If severe enough, tears can develop in the tendons, which may limit your range of motion. If you experience pain while lying on your shoulder at night, this is a sign. With rotator cuff injuries, you may also feel sharp pains up and down the arm with motion.

Tendinitis is inflammation (redness, soreness and swelling) of a tendon. In tendinitis of the shoulder, the tendons of the rotator cuff become inflamed and irritated. This is often a result of being pinched by surrounding structures. This injury can be mild or severe, depending on how long you go before having it treated.

Range-of-motion exercises using a resistive band will help to strengthen the tendons and muscles of the shoulder. You may want to consult with a tennis instructor about the proper mechanics for your serve and overhead strokes.

With the first signs of shoulder problems, rest, ice and anti-inflammatory medicines will be most helpful. If the soreness and pain does not subside in a few days, a doctor’s examination may be necessary; this may involve an injection of cortisone and an MRI. If the injury is severe enough and there are tears in the tendons, surgery may be needed to repair the damage.

Shoulder Bursitis

Tendinitis is often accompanied by inflammation of the bursa sacs that protect the shoulder. An inflamed bursa is called bursitis. In the shoulder, frequent overuse of the rotator cuff muscles can cause the bursa to get ‘impinged’ between the muscles and the bony prominence of the shoulder, leading to inflammation. This causes pain whenever the arm is raised.

Signs of these conditions include slow onset of pain in the upper shoulder or upper arm and difficulty sleeping on the shoulder. Tendinitis and bursitis also cause pain when the arm is lifted away from the body or overhead.

For tennis players, attention must be paid to flexibility, strength and endurance of the shoulder muscles. Shoulder stabilization exercises can also help prevent impingement. In addition, any increases in the amount of training or competition must be gradual so as not to overload the shoulder. The first goal of treatment is to reduce the amount of inflammation through temporary rest or immobilization of the shoulder. Nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) such as ibuprofen may relieve the pain and inflammation. Physical therapy may also be helpful. If the inflammation does not respond to the initial treatment, it may be necessary to draw out fluid from the bursa and inject corticosteroids. Surgery is rarely required.

Preparation is Key

All of these injuries are easily avoidable with proper preparation and equipment.

Always take time to warm up and stretch. Research studies have shown that cold muscles are more prone to injury. Warm up with jumping jacks, stationary cycling, or running or walking in place for 3 to 5 minutes. Then slowly and gently stretch, holding each stretch for 30 seconds.

Proper racquet selection and grip size play a significant role. Smaller heads and excessive string tightness require the forearm muscles to exert more force which can lead to tennis elbow. Choose less-stiff graphite-type racquets with large heads that expand the impact area. The stiffer the racquet, the larger the force transmitted to the arm. Also, string your racquet less tightly... the tighter the strings, the higher the force and more chance to increase injury.

The grip should be comfortable and not too small. The best way to choose grip size is to measure the distance from the crease of your palm to the tip of the ring finger. A grip that is too large or too small can increase wrist-muscle fatigue.

Wear tennis shoes with good support to prevent ankle injuries. For added support, wear two pairs of socks or specially padded tennis socks. To prevent blisters on your hands, dry your racquet handle frequently.

And don’t forget proper training and listen to your body. ‘No Pain, No Gain’ is not a proper mantra for playing sports. If a body part is sore or swollen, something is wrong. You need to evaluate your training routine and make appropriate changes to avoid long-term injury. The body needs proper cool-down between high intensity workouts. Stretch, drink plenty of liquids and allow your body to rest properly before your next tennis match. 

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By Holly Kelly Sucharetza MSN, NP-C

What Are Spider Veins and Varicose Veins?

Spider veins, also known as roadmap veins, are tiny dilated vessels that show through the skin. They increase in size over time, may be red, blue or purple, and commonly occur on the legs or face. They take their name from the spider web pattern created.

Varicose veins, on the other hand, are large, bulging, twisted, dilated blood vessels that can be raised above the skin’s surface and have a ropelike appearance.

They can appear anywhere on the body, but you’ll usually notice them on the legs and ankles.

Normal, healthy veins carry blood to the heart through a series of muscle contractions and one-way valves that close as blood flows to prevent backflow.

Defective valves allow backflow, leading to pooling of blood, which increases pressure within the vein and eventually weakens the vessel walls. This weakening results in bulging, twisting and swelling: in short, a spider vein or varicose vein.

Typically, spider veins do not cause problems other than being not-so-pretty.

Varicose veins, however, can potentially become problematic in addition to their appearance. They may cause aching, cramping or swelling in the legs. The affected area may throb, burn or tingle. Your skin might change color and become itchy, too.

Normal Vein

Varicose Vein

Who Gets Them?

Though men and women both can develop spider veins and varicose veins, women are twice as likely to find them popping up. About 60% of all women experience spider veins or varicose veins, much of which is due to heredity.

Professional women such as nurses or teachers, or others with jobs that require standing for long periods of time, find an increased risk as well. You might also find that age, obesity, lack of exercise, trauma to the leg (fracture or surgery), pregnancy or hormone changes (which can weaken vessel walls), or previous history of a blood clot contribute to the likelihood as well. Sun exposure breaks down collagen, which leads to thinning of the skin, exposing the underlying vessels. A great amount of sudden weight loss can actually lead to exposure of the underlying vessels.

So, What Can I Do About It?

There are many treatment options available, the least invasive of which includes the use of compression stockings during the daytime, which increase the blood flow back up to the heart and can alleviate pain in the legs. Avoiding sitting or standing in one place for long periods of time, and be sure to elevate your legs a few times a day at or above the level of your heart to help increase circulation and decrease swelling. Getting plenty of exercise will help keep muscles toned and keep weight down so that blood may flow more freely.

Surgical removal, called ligation and stripping, was once regarded as the most effective treatment, but has been largely replaced by newer, less invasive approaches. (Harvard Women’s Health Watch, 2012) Ligation and stripping is still used when varicose veins are too large and don’t respond well to other methods.

This can be achieved with either general or local anesthesia, making an incision, tying off and removing the problematic vein. Usually no hospital stay is required, and most patients can return to work in a few days. This is about 90% successful.

Sclerotherapy is another minimally invasive procedure involving a series of injections of a chemical irritant, either a liquid or foam, that permanently closes unwanted spider veins and small varicose veins. This method requires a high degree of technical skill as discoloration, pain, itching, ulceration and growth of new spider veins and varicose veins can occur. The solution used is highly caustic to surrounding tissue, and accidental injection outside of the vessel can lead to serious side effects. After sclerotherapy treatment, spider veins usually disappear in within six weeks, while varicose veins can take three or four months to respond.

Laser light therapy, intense light pulse (ILP), and radiofrequency ablation destroys spider veins and small varicose vein with heat. A small laser fiber or catheter is placed inside the vein, delivering pulses of light or radiofrequency within the venous wall. The heat causes scar tissue to form, eventually closing the vessel. Studies suggest that laser therapy is effective 98% of the time, while radiofrequency success rates are comparable to vein surgery but with less risk and

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pain. These methods are sometimes a more attractive alternative to injections. Laser and light therapy take longer to work than sclerotherapy (usually a year or two for complete disappearance of the vessels) and usually take more than one session. Side effects can include discomfort during the procedure, discoloration (temporary or permanent) and blisters might form in the treatment area, too.

How Do I Know if Treatment Is Right For Me?

There are pros and cons with all types of spider vein and varicose vein therapies. Obviously, you want the unsightly things removed so you’ll have clear, beautiful skin everywhere on your body. However, patients with acute inflammation or swelling should be evaluated for underlying blood clots, especially if they've had a history of blood clot formation. Adverse reactions to anesthesia are always a possibility.

Pregnant women should defer treatment until after delivery. Those with diabetes and peripheral vascular disease are at higher risk of developing non-healing wounds. As with all procedures, risks of infection, bleeding, scarring and recurrence should be discussed with your physician. It is important to keep in mind that most cosmetic procedures are not covered by insurance and can become costly. Your doctor will discuss the most appropriate therapy, post-therapeutic care, recovery time and follow up.

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There is nothing better than walking into a room and instantly feeling sexy! Lifestyle expert Andrew Skipper reveals how the curves of a table, the material of a chair or the perfect lighting can help enhance the atmosphere of any space and leave you and your guests feeling tre' chic!

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When redecorating my living room, I wanted it to flow with the rest of the house, yet still have its own identity. This room is an addition from the 1960s and had awful dark paneling on the walls. Rather than rip it all out, I painted it a deep gray and decided to add contrast with white trim. The stage was definitely set for a modern chic vibe. I knew that I would be using this room for entertaining, primarily in the evening, so I wanted it to feel hip and young, but not juvenile. A few modern pieces like the faux crocodile chairs give the sitting area a fresh look, while antiques mixed throughout the room add an ‘inherited’ air of sophistication. My favorite thing is to have friends over for cocktails in this room. At night when the lights are dimmed, candles lit and jazz music is playing, you just want to put on a stylish outfit, pour a drink and let the party begin! 

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This zinc topped table from Tade' is the perfect blend of hard and soft. The iron legs are perfectly curvy, making it both masculine and feminine at the same time.

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Drum Roll, Please...

The drum style shade on this mod lamp will take the hip-factor up in any room! It's textured chrome base is glamorous without being girly. Put a pair of these on the console table and watch your space go from bleak to chic!

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verywhere I look I see the headlines: Forty and FABULOUS! and 40 is the New 30! How wonderful the media loves my age group so much. But there are also a few not-so-awesome changes that occur on this road to fifty, that few Forty is the New Pink writers will ever cover. I plan to remedy that situation here.

So, grab a glass of merlot, snuggle up on the sofa in your fuzzy socks and prepare to be reassured that you are not the only one experiencing the strange bodily changes that are the hallmark of living four decades on this planet. It all begins with a cake.

As I blew out the candles on my 40th birthday, without warning, my boobs hit the floor like a pair of Ugg® boots. My bottom, in an act of solidarity, then lurched to the ground. It was shocking. Especially since, one day earlier, everything was in its proper position. But that’s what happens. Gravity leads to gravitas. Yet, it’s not all bad. So what if I now have to use a winch to roll up my Ta-Tas?I just began buying steel-belted bras. Isn't modern technology amazing? Like these new Spanx I just bought. They instantly hoisted my rear end back into place, and I can now bounce a quarter four full feet off my backside. It’s like a trampoline back there.

As I blew out the candles on my 40th birthday, without warning, my boobs hit the floor like a pair of Ugg® boots.

But my face? Now that's a different story.

Apparently, my neck and eyes are shrinking. Or maybe my skin is expanding.

I dunno. Either way, I'm getting wrinkles. And my neck? I imagine it will soon resemble a Galapagos turtle. But no worries – I heard my skin won't get really loose until my 70s and, by then, I won’t even remember to care. What is totally freaking me out are the pimples I thought I ditched in high school that have now returned for a glorious reunion. I kid you not. However, that's not even the worst part. When I turned 43, a teeny-tiny bump appeared on my neck. I thought it was a mole or another stupid pimple, so I ignored it. A few months later that blemish had turned into a gherkin! Scared out of my mind it was a tumor, I raced to the doctor. Know what it was? A skin tag. She charged me $600 to use a toenail clipper to remove this conjoined twin from my body. Then she told me these wee nubs will probably start sprouting in my arm pits, on my chest and wherever else the little gremlins decide to set up shop. GACK! The good news was I had found a

physician, because…

I now seem to be going to the doctor A LOT. The short list of reasons include: Pap smears, breast exams, bone-density checks, glaucoma screenings, skin evaluations and thyroid tests. In a nutshell, I have been scanned and probed more intensely than an alien abductee. Of course, I don't dare mention this to anyone because I'm just not old enough. Based on my personal observations, it is only considered appropriate to openly discuss ‘conditions’ and ‘procedures’ after the age of 60.

Then you can blather on and on about them. And, if you're my mother-in-law, preferably over family dinners. Nothing goes better with meatloaf and gravy than a good, old fashioned, blow-by-blow colonoscopy story.

However, even this I can endure.

What truly drives me bat-bleeping crazy is my eyesight. For some reason, I am now unable to read a menu, e-mail or text message unless it is in size 72 font. So, I bought reading glasses. I try to convince myself they are a trendy accessory but, secretly, I rue these magnifiers. And why is it, the moment I take them off, they vanish? It's maddening.

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Like my muffin-top.

Yup, no matter how little I eat these days, nothing allows me to lose weight. I would go so far to say that if I ate only one Tic Tac® a day for a solid month, I would gain 28 pounds. It must be because I'm shrinking. Yeah, you read that right, SHRINKING! Thank you, gravity and osteoporosis.

One day soon, I fear, I will wake up and be as tall as a Chihuahua.

On the bright side, if I put all of these weird maladies together and compare them to the insane physical changes that happened to me as teenager, my 40s will be a snap – weird body glitches and all. Which makes me believe I really am Forty and Fabulous! like the magazines say. And, if I could just find my reading glasses, I would devour every wonderful word. 

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Simple Shrimp Scampi 2 sticks real butter 1 lb. cooked salad shrimp (small) ½ box butter crackers crushed (Club, Ritz, etc.)

2 T lemon juice 1 T garlic powder ½ t salt ½ t white pepper Preheat oven to 275 degrees.

Over medium heat, melt butter in saucepan.

Slowly place shrimp into butter and coat completely.

Add cracker crumbs, lemon juice, salt, white pepper and garlic powder into saucepan.

Scrape all ingredients into 9X9 casserole.

Cover with foil and bake for 35-40 minutes.

Scoop into small individual bowls and serve.

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Life Coach Success, Order, and Personal Harmony

By Lucas Miles

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iring a life coach can be a big decision. As a coach, this individual will intimately walk with you every step of the way as you journey towards accomplishing your dreams and overcoming all obstacles. Life coaches typically excel at not merely giving advice but, more importantly, helping you arrive at truth and right decisions through introspection and asking the right questions. Life coaches help you to see problems differently, discover new solutions and opportunities and overcome the limiting beliefs in your heart that are often responsible for holding you back. As the name implies, life coaches ‘do life’ with you, which makes the decision of hiring a coach that much more important.

Let me acknowledge from the start that having a life coach isn’t for everyone.

Most coaches work on retainers and expect commitment and accountability from their clients, something for which you may or may not be prepared. Individuals that struggle to take responsibility for their life, resist change and think they always know best probably aren’t quite ready for the level of transparency and trust that exists in a successful coaching relationship. But, for those who are ready to become the person they want to be no matter what it takes, there is no better decision than hiring a life coach. Here are a few things to consider as you get ready for a new level of personal growth.

Successful People Have Coaches – Since I’ve been coaching, I’ve had the

opportunity to talk with actors, writers, pastors, major pageant winners, business owners, recording artists and athletes. Besides a high level of work ethic, the one thing that all of these people have in common is that they have a coach. Tiger Woods’ golf game was shaped by his father. Michael Jordan may have been good at basketball before, but he attributes much of his development and success to his coach, Phil Jackson. This doesn’t mean that you have to be a star actor or athlete to benefit from a coach, it simply illustrates that coaches play a key role in living and maintaining a life of success.

It’s All About Order – I have the opportunity every day to work with highly

creative and driven people, most of whom know exactly what they want to do – they just aren’t sure how to get there. It’s about order. Like any good recipe, a successful outcome isn’t always about having all the right ingredients, but we must learn how to mix these ingredients in the right order to arrive at the desired

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outcome. My job as a life coach is to help people order their steps (and to help them know which steps to throw out) in such a way to arrive at the life of their dreams.

Coaches Keep Your Life in Tune – Coaches can’t live your life for you, but they can help keep it in tune. Essentially, success is as simple as living, on the outside, what you desire on the inside. This is what I call harmonizing your life. Effective coaches help you to listen to your inner voice in order to help shape your outward decisions and choices.

Harmonizing your life in this way brings not only tremendous productivity, but oftentimes a new level of personal happiness and satisfaction.

Are you ready to become the person you want to be? If so, you may greatly benefit from a coaching relationship. Seek a coach who takes time to understand your goals and helps you set a clear path towards your preferred future. Remember, at the end of the day, a coach can’t make someone successful, but they can give you the tools and the accountability to succeed. 

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Women in Technology At the Root of Growing STEM Opportunities

By Jennifer Warfel Juszkiewicz When you think of a math or science geek, what image pops to mind? Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Richard Feynmann? Steve Urkel?

Why don’t we think of Ursula Burns, the mechanical engineer who is now the CEO of Xerox? Or Ginni Rometty, a computer scientist and mechanical engineer who is also the president and CEO of IBM? Perhaps it’s because women are still so rare in science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM) fields that they haven’t become household names.

A report on the issue of women in STEM fields published in 2010 by the American Association of University Women (AAUW ) explores the current situation. In particular, the report points out that women are often misperceived as less competent than their male counterparts. There also exists the unhelpful stereotype that positions in STEM fields are too ‘masculine’.

However, the report also has hope for the future: “If women and men in science and engineering know that this bias exists, they can work to interrupt the unconscious thought processes that lead to it.” And, while progress may not be as speedy as some would hope, women do comprise an increasing percentage of graduates in STEM programs, and they are changing the perceptions of those currently working in the field.

Two women who serve as models for the potential of STEM fields are Pam Stefancic and Stella Stephens. Stefancic is a biochemist for Siemens Healthcare in Elkhart where she’s worked for the past 14 years. Stephens is a working information technology specialist also pursuing a Master’s degree in Information Technology from Northwestern University. Both are confident, strong women who enjoy their work. Their perspective on the field is, in many cases, far more positive than that of the AAUW. 32 MARCH 2013 | SASSY

Starting at the Beginning

According to a 2009 article in the journal Advances in Gender and Education

by Jennifer C. Madigan, women have historically been more associated with careers in areas related to caretaking, which includes teaching and nursing.

Many of the earliest educational institutions founded in this country for women only had programs in these areas, not math or non-caregiving sciences.

Young women were guaranteed more opportunities after the Education Amendments Act of 1972. This Act included Title IX protection for students against discrimination based on gender but, as late as the 1990s, studies showed contemporary gender discrimination still exists in elementary and high school classrooms. The most noted work was Myra and David Sadker’s 1994 “Failing at Fairness: How America’s Schools Cheat Girls.” They wrote that, “Today’s schoolgirls face subtle and insidious gender lessons, micro-iniquities that appear seemingly insignificant when looked at individually but that have a powerful cumulative impact. These iniquities chip away at girls’ achievement and self-esteem.”

The Sadkers went to numerous classrooms and studied the ways teachers interacted with students. In many cases, the teachers – both male and female – noticed, responded to and encouraged the male students far more than the females. Oftentimes, the teachers weren’t even aware that they were favoring the boys over the girls. The boys were generally more aggressive in getting attention, more animated and more confident. While the Sadkers’ work has been heavily criticized, teachers today cannot go through a good teaching program without learning about how to mediate gender bias in their classrooms.

Stefancic says that she never experienced this discrimination during her education. Rather, she was always encouraged in her interests: “I have always

loved the sciences. I think it was my high school teacher, Mr. Swanson, who made me decide to go into biology. He was a great teacher.” Similarly, Stephens credits her strong female role models – her mother and grandmother – for her decision to follow her STEM interests.

Stephens, even though she is young, has worked as a technology consultant, served as a project manager at a noted public school system and is now working at a green transportation company based in Chicago. She laughs when I ask her if she’s ever faced gender discrimination at work.

Lesley Farmer’s 2008 book “Teen Girls and Technology: What’s the Problem, What’s the Solution?” would argue that Stefancic and Stephens are lucky.

Farmer explored how gender stereotypes still affect girls’ relationships to STEM fields today. Many adults assume that young people already know how to use technology, so there’s no reason to teach them. Farmer says that this assumption is unfounded and counterproductive. While young girls and boys are equivalently capable of using and exploring technology when in elementary school, “in middle school that picture changes. In mixed-sex settings, girls will often let boys take the lead, and girls are less likely to take high school technology-related courses.” They are also less likely to pursue math and science courses in college, Farmer claims.

“I remember one customer who came in with a problem on his laptop. When I accessed his control panel in a different way, he tried to correct me. Eventually, though, he realized I knew what I was doing and I was able to help him.” She also notes that her co-workers don’t always trust her to be competent when they first meet her. This may have as much to do with her youthful appearance as her gender. “I remember one co-worker who didn’t have much confidence in me; then I was promoted,” she recalls.

“A lot of women think math is hard, or it’s a guys’ job, but it’s not,” says Stephens.

“I tell my niece to do what she wants with her life; not to let people talk her out of it, especially when it comes to her scholastic interests.”

Stefancic agrees that women shouldn’t feel pressured to switch career tracks just because of stereotypes or percentages: “My graduating class for Medical Technologists in 1980 was about 70% women. When I was teaching the Med Lab Techs at Ivy Tech in the 90s, it was closer to 50/50. Where I work now is about 50/50. I don't think my gender had any bearing on my decision to become a Med Tech. I studied the class schedule before I decided to major in it, I did not study the demographics.”

In The Field

So, let’s follow Stefancic’s lead and set aside the troubling but changing demographics and study the work itself. USA Today ranked the best jobs in the US for 2012, taking into account salary, security and manageable work-life balance. What’s in the top 10? Dentist, registered nurse, pharmacist, computer systems analyst, physician, database administrator, software developer, physical therapist, web developer and dental hygienist. All ten are in the STEM fields, and many don’t require a lifetime of school loans. Most require a four-year degree, and some have additional advanced degree or certification options. They all have potential for growth and are not geographically limiting.

The Future of STEM

The STEM fields continue to grow, as will women’s involvement in them. To keep this progress on track, the AAUW recommends ensuring young women have role models like Stefancic and Stephens – successful women who love their careers. We should also take personal responsibility and examine our own biases; that way, we can be more careful not pass them on to the young women in our lives.

These young women should also be encouraged to develop their math and science skills while in school. After all, as Stefancic testified, one teacher can make a world of difference in a young person’s life and career.

And this isn’t just for young women or children. If you or someone you know is thinking of going back to school, don’t hesitate from considering STEM fields.

In 2009, Indiana received a federal grant to promote more STEM opportunities in the workforce. Part of the initial plan was to establish STEM Centers for Excellence through WorkOne Centers and area educational institutions. You can learn more about the opportunities at STEMWorksIndiana.org.

Stephens has one more piece of advice for all women, especially those trying to break through in technology: “Men sometimes seem more confident on the job, openly noting their role as project leader or contributor. Women are more generous, often crediting a whole team for a project, even if they have done a great deal of the work. Even I’ve caught myself doing this. We need to change that behavior. We need to act confident if we want to be seen as competent. We need to take credit for our work.” 

Those who work in STEM fields can often, as Stefancic and Stephens show, move into different industries while still working in similar jobs. Stefancic looks back on her jobs in education, hospitals and at Siemens as one of the great benefits of her work. Also, as her spouse’s job is less mobile, her skills gave her family more flexibility. “I have had so many wonderful experiences in my various jobs,” she reflects, “and I have grown so much because of those experiences.”

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by Jillian Koeneman

Social media has taken our world by storm and there is no turning back. It isn’t a fad; it’s here to stay. According to Comscore: The State of Social Media, 18% of the time spent online is spent on social media sites and that number is consistently increasing.

Throw the misconception that only young people are using social media out the window. The newest studies from Pew Internet: Social Networking and Edison Research show that 69% of adults are active on social media, and the fastest growing segment are people who are 45-54 years-old.

Right now, at this very moment, your target customer is active online. They are surfing and researching, gathering information and forming opinions. They are searching for you AND for your competitors. Are you present in the conversation or is it going on without you? I don’t know about you but, as a business owner, I most certainly want to be a part of that conversation. I want to listen and be present. I want to be helpful and build relationships.

If you are not actively engaging in social media, you may as well be writing your marketing message, stuffing it in a bottle and throwing it out to sea. Or perhaps you could use smoke signals to get the word out about your products or services?

Maybe go door-to-door to engage with your potential customers?

Okay. Yes, I am being sarcastic, but it’s absolutely true: Social media has drastically changed the way we do business and connect with potential customers, and that’s a good thing for both customers and businesses.

Social media allows for authentic, two-way communication to take place on a mass level. This leads to better products and services, as well as happier, more loyal customers.

Social Media Expert Erik Qualman said it best: “Social Media isn’t a fad, it’s a fundamental shift in the way we communicate. The ROI [Return on Investment] of social media is that your business will still exist in 5 years. We don’t have a choice on whether we do social media, the question is how well we do it.”

It’s important to note that social media is just as important for businesses who cater to other businesses (B2B) as it is for businesses who target consumers (B2C). While the tools and tactics may be different, the benefits are still the same.

The benefits to actively engaging in social media for business are truly endless.

Here are the top three reasons that small businesses should leverage social media to grow:

1. Visibility:

Having your product and services in front of your target audience in the space that they are more receptive is undoubtedly the most important benefit of utilizing social media. In fact, 88% of small businesses believe exposure is the

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biggest benefit of using social media. The increased reliance on the Internet has led to a more informed, empowered group of customers. Customers research products and services they are interested in long before they ever pick up the phone or walk into your business. By being active online through social media you are, in essence, ‘fishing where the fish are’.

• 91% of experienced social marketers see improved website traffic due to social media campaigns and 79% are generating more quality leads.

If you aren’t already engaging in social media, there is no better time than right now. Here are some things to keep in mind as you get started: Start small and work your way up.

Master one or two tools before you move onto the next. (Tip: A Facebook Business Fan Page is often the best place to start) Listen first, talk second.

• 47% of customers are somewhat likely to purchase from a brand that they follow or like.

Understand that social media is not free. It takes time and effort. You will get out of it what you put into it.

• 80% of US social network users prefer to connect with brands through Facebook. (Stats from The Social Skinny: 99 New Social Media Stats for 2012)

Always be willing to change and learn as the social web is always evolving.

Be authentic and transparent.

Don’t ‘sell’ on social media; seek to build relationships.

2. Trust:

People tend to buy from businesses they know and trust. This is known as the “Know, Like, Trust” cycle. Social media provides the perfect platform for your customers to get to know you, like you and what you stand for and, ultimately, trust you. If they can trust you then they will buy from you. Success in business is all about building long-term relationships with your customers and stakeholders.

A strong relationship will pay off over time because your audience will get to know, like and trust you.

Learn as much as you can about effective social media strategies and tactics so that you can apply them to your own business. If you don’t have time, delegate the task out to one of your qualified employees or hire a pro.

Make 2013 your most successful, profitable year yet by learning to leverage the social web! 

90% of people trust online recommendations from people they know; only 14% trust traditional TV advertisements. (Socialnomics Social Media Video 2013)

3. Generate Leads and Boost Sales:

Social media is one of the most cost-effective tools, when used consistently and properly, to increase profits and bring in new customers. It’s also the most easily tracked and measured.

Companies who blog generate 88% more leads than those who don’t.

(Hubspot) A whopping 77% of companies acquired customers from Facebook. (Business 2 Community) Social media users are willing to pay a 21% premium for brands that deliver great service through social media. (The Social Skinny: 99 New Social Media Stats for 2012)

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The Queen Bee Syndrome Female Bosses: Sisterhood or Betrayal?

By Jennifer Warfel Juszkiewicz

While many of us assume that the strides made by the waves of feminism over the last fifty years has lead to a sweeping Sisterhood of the Working Woman, this isn’t always the case. While there are many great female bosses, there are also cases we don’t often talk about – cases where a female boss or co-worker damages our career out of personal spite.

You should know that, if you’ve experienced this, you’re not alone. A 2011 Today article stated that 95% of women felt that, at some point in their career, another woman had undermined them. The same article reported that women who report to female bosses also had higher cases of a variety of medical conditions than if they had male bosses; depression, headaches, heartburn and insomnia were all on the list.

Why do we sometimes fight against each other instead of alongside each other?

One argument is that female supervisors can feel threatened by their younger female co-workers, to the point where they demean or punish them. It’s a glass ceiling upheld by women, for women. A 1973 study named such a supervisor a ‘Queen Bee’ and she’s been a stock character in movies such as “The Devil Wears Prada” and “Working Girl”.

However, Catalyst, a consortium that researches and supports women in the workplace, has findings that argue against the Queen Bee Syndrome. “The notion that women executives are Queen Bees who are unwilling to support other women needs to be put to rest,” says Catalyst President and CEO Ilene Lang.

So, what’s the real story? Let’s find out.

Where are the Women?

One factor to keep in mind when considering the possibility of a plague of Queen Bees is that there are far fewer female ‘bosses’ than male. A recent article in Newsweek reported that, while women today are completing higher education in record numbers, they aren’t equally represented in positions of power: “As of 2012, women accounted for only 16% of partners at the country’s largest law firms and 15% of senior executives at Fortune 100 firms. They constituted only 10% of the country’s aerospace engineers, 7% of its Hollywood directors and 16% of its congressional representatives. And they still earn, on average, only 77 cents to every man’s dollar.”

That being said, does the rarity of female bosses speak more to the fact that they are keeping each other from getting to the top, that patriarchy is still holding strong or that there are other factors in play? The author of the Newsweek article, Debora Spar, argues that a woman’s need to do everything – keep the house, raise the kids, be fit, be fashionable and be a career woman – can sometimes keep her from being able to do any of these as well as she would want.

In any event, the number of female to male bosses must somewhat undermine the idea that there are so many Queen Bees holding back others that they are complicating the career trajectories of an entire gender, right?

In the Field

What do actual women say about the issue? Clearly, we can’t use the women’s real names or places of employment but, from our research, women do have the sense that ‘sisterhood’ isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Marjory, who has worked in higher education, reported that her female coworkers often felt so threatened by their female boss that they would come to her crying. “I would have to reassure them that it wasn’t their fault, but there wasn’t much more I could do,” she recalls. “I just didn’t want them to feel alone.”

Kelly, who works in a local chain corporation, reported that while she wasn’t undermined by her female boss, a female peer damaged her career, spreading rumors to her boss, other department heads and coworkers. No documenting of the abuses could remedy the complications.

During a brief period when I worked in an entry-level finance job, I had a college degree, which put me in an equal pay bracket to my more experienced, older female supervisor. When my co-worker learned, from an unknown source, that we were paid equally, she began giving me the more complicated work, yet resisted training me, and made snide remarks to other co-workers. While I tried for months to reconcile the situation, I finally reported her behavior to the human resources department.

I certainly believe the Queen Bee Syndrome exists. And, while I can’t verify its prevalence, I can certainly sympathize with its victims.

Bullies in the Workplace

First, we need to know the behavior when we do see it. The best definition I’ve found that explains my own experiences with poor female bosses and co-workers was from a site by the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services about bullying in schools (stopbullying.gov). They define bullying as “unwanted, aggressive behavior. . .that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally and excluding someone from a group on purpose.”

Perhaps you can think of a co-worker who has spread rumors about your inadequacy, ensured that you not be involved in a special project or slighted your work at staff meetings? If we consider this bullying, we can use some of the same lessons to learn how to handle it.

Begin by giving the other person some benefit of the doubt. Maybe what I’m perceiving as bullying is more complex than a co-worker disliking or feeling threatened by my competence. While I am certainly going to keep documentation, I’m also going to try to talk to her first.

Try to note her workspace and ask about her family, her pets, her interests. Share appropriate information about yourself. Do this politely and during designated break times, but see if you can become a human being to her rather than an annoyance or interloper. The bullying website would translate this as keeping the lines of communication open.

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Similarly, take some responsibility for yourself. Most of us have our gossipy or catty moments, but we need to do our best at work not to foment discontent. If you hear one of your co-workers being unkind to or about another, see if you can intervene politely and stop the rumors in their tracks. Don’t be a party to viciousness.

Finally, if the situation is clearly one in which another co-worker has a personal grievance against you, talk to someone else – preferably someone in HR. Talking to other co-workers can backfire, but HR is generally an independent, trained department that can handle such issues. The more documentation you provide (e-mails, testimony from others who witnessed an incident, dates of behavior), the better, but try to be fair as well. Also, don’t wait too long. After all, if your credibility is being maligned, you need to have your own side of the story on record early.

Lesson From History

Remember learning about the first women’s rights convention in the United States? Elizabeth Cady Stanton and other leaders created a document called the “Declaration of Sentiments”, modeled after the more famous Declaration composed only seventy years prior. The text begins, “We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men and women are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights” (italics mine). Cady Stanton condemned men and patriarchy for their treatment and oppression of women. She outlined issues of divorce, rights to property, education, societal position and voting.

The document also stated that men “had monopolized nearly all the profitable employments, and from those [a woman is] permitted to follow, she receives but a scanty remuneration. He closes against her all the avenues to wealth and distinction which he considers most honorable to himself.”

This document is not outdated. Now that women have reached the levels of education and political power that enable them to attain these “avenues of wealth and distinction,” we are beholden to each other not to repeat the faults of those against whom Cady Stanton wrote.

As Debora Spar said in Newsweek, “Making a world that is better for women . . . demands that women work together. . . Over the decades, this collective goal has been lost, replaced by the individual struggles that now compel most women.” This must change.

We need to be kind, generous and supportive to each other. And we need to help those who are coming behind us to have opportunities as well. 

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Staying Professional in a Social Media World

By Cyndy Searfoss

Facebook. Twitter. YouTube. Instagram. Pinterest. LinkedIn. Google+. We friend, we follow, we tweet, we like, we pin, we connect, we comment. But when our personal and professional lives blur, how do we avoid missteps that could not just prove embarrassing but could result in being fired? Blundering into the inappropriate is a huge risk… and it’s something every professional with a social media account should recognize – and resist.

Alec Hosterman, Senior Lecturer in Communication Arts at IU South Bend’s Raclin School of the Arts teaches a course in Cyberculture. He was recently invited to be part of the State of the Union White House Social for followers on social media to watch President Obama’s State of the Union Address live from the White House, and then participate in a panel discussion with officials about the vision and policies presented.

Starting with himself as an example, he said, “Delineating the personal versus the professional is difficult. My professional life is intertwined with my personal life – I am never really ‘off ’ in public. If a student sees me, they often say ‘Hello, Dr. Hosterman’ and I respond in that role, albeit probably not dressed up in my normal academic garb.”

One tactic he recommends is using different accounts for different aspects of your life. He noted, “I don’t friend every student who sends me a request on Facebook.

If the maturity to differentiate the Facebook Alec from teacher Alec isn't there, I'm not clicking ‘approve.’"

He also uses some tools only for his professional life: “I have a YouTube page dedicated just to academic videos that I use in class or share online. I look at the different social media as having different purposes… that's how I keep them straight in my head.”

Sherina Gonzalez is a sales professional who has encountered some of the pitfalls of social media. “I love that Facebook lets me keep in touch with all my friends and family locally, as well as immediate family in New York and Georgia and friends in Texas, Colorado and Canada. But on the opposite end, I have found myself in the same boat as others: accepting the obligatory ‘friend requests’ from random co-workers and employers, or ultra-conservative and uptight family members, all of whom I would much rather not have to worry about seeing my updates. In most cases, the privacy settings on Facebook are immediately put in place: my current employer doesn't see my status updates at all, and some of

my co-workers and family members are put into groups that are excluded from seeing my posts.”

But even with those in place she noted, “I have experienced the repercussions that come with unintentionally posting something that was offensive, blasphemous or controversial to SOMEone. With that drama under my belt, I have not only limited my social media posts but also have been smarter about choosing which boards I post certain things to… in the instance I feel I want to be more outspoken than usual, I use Twitter. You know what they say: Facebook connects

you to the people you went to high school with; Twitter connects you to people you wish you went to high school with! Fortunately, those who I wish I went to high school with include the likes of Jim Gaffigan, Dane Cook, The Rock, Jimmy Fallon and Pink. Turns out, they are less concerned if I decide to retweet something with the occasional swear word or controversial picture attached.”

Unfortunately, there are few hard and fast rules regarding what can be considered inappropriate. Anything that includes racism, nudity, illegal activities and rudeness are out of bounds but what could be considered inappropriate for a person who works as a church secretary could be perfectly acceptable behavior for someone working in a graphic design organization. Here are some general tips to keep in mind as when you post, comment, pin, like, etc.

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• Post with care. Think if you’d want your current boss, future boss – or even your grandchildren – to read or see what you’re about to post.

• If you put it out there, expect it to live forever... even deactivating or deleting your account doesn’t guarantee your pictures, videos and comments will disappear. They remain on the social media provider’s servers indefinitely and can resurface.

• Read and follow your company’s employee handbook, particularly if it includes rules on social media usage. Caveat: social media in the workplace is new territory and still being defined. Can an employer or potential employer make you log into your Facebook account so they can view your profile?

It depends. Some states (although not Indiana or Michigan at this time) have made it illegal. It’s risky territory for both employee and employer. The best tactic may be to find out why you’re being asked to log in and try to defuse any fears they have about your online behaviors.

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By Michelle L. Shirk, J.D.

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

For young children, the answers to this question seem limitless. However, growing up brings with it a series of difficult choices, and practical concerns eventually drive many of us to give up our childhood aspirations of becoming astronauts, ballerinas and rock stars.

Even if you love your chosen career, you may occasionally find yourself wondering, What if? Fortunately, thanks to the classes and experiences detailed below, it’s not too late to give your dream job a try – at least for a day.

1. Marine Mammal Trainer – If you dream of swapping deadlines for dolphins, consider signing up to be a Trainer for a Day at Chicago’s Shedd Aquarium. “You literally pull on a pair of tall rubber boots and go behind the scenes,” explains Maggie Hassler, Shedd’s Coordinator of Communications & Public Relations.

According to Hassler, program participants can expect to enjoy activities such as participating in a beluga training session or scrubbing the algae in a marine habitat.

She says the 4-hour program “gives a great idea of what it is really like to be a marine mammal trainer even if it’s just for one day.” The Trainer for a Day program costs $325 for members, $350 for non-members.

In addition to Trainer for a Day, Shedd offers other Extraordinary Experiences including a Beluga Encounter and Behind-the-Scenes tour. For those who may be price-sensitive, Hassler recommends the aquarium’s Penguin Encounter. The $59.95 adult price tag includes a 30-minute up-close experience with a penguin, 4x6 photo, admission to the aquarium and special exhibit ‘Jellies’, and tickets to the aquatic show. Due to the popularity of Shedd’s Extraordinary Experiences, Hassler recommends contacting the aquarium to sign up at least two months in advance. Head to www.sheddaquarium.org for more information.

2. Cake Decorator – Have you ever watched cake decorators go head-to-head on Food Network Challenge and thought, “I could do that”? A Wilton Method cake decorating class may be your opportunity to prove it. Per Wilton.com, in Course 1: Decorating Basics, students will be taught “the best way to decorate, step by step.” Covered topics include, ‘How to Bake a Great Cake for Decorating’, ‘Icing consistency’ and ‘Printing and Writing on a Cake’. Wilton decorating courses are currently taught at a number of stores in the Michiana area. To read more about Decorating Basics and find a class that works with your schedule, visit www. wilton.com/classes/decorating-basics.cfm.

3. Astronaut – Many of us grew up with fantasies of floating around weightlessly while drinking Tang and eating dehydrated ice cream. Although NASA’s space shuttle fleet has been retired, a weekend filled with simulator training, model rocket building and spaceflight history at the Adult Space Academy should satisfy any urge to sample life as an astronaut. Becoming a Space Academy graduate will also provide fascinating fodder for cocktail party conversations for years to come.

At $549 per person, this adventure isn’t cheap, but the price does include meals

and lodging at Huntsville, Alabama’s U.S. Space & Rocket Center. Go to www.spacecamp.com/adult for full program details.

4. Artist – Were your kindergarten finger paintings worthy of display at MOMA? It may be time to further cultivate your artistic talents right here in Michiana.

The South Bend Museum of Art’s extensive lineup of adult classes includes offerings in Ceramics, Drawing, Painting, Fibers/Weaving, Jewelry and Photography. “You really can link into a whole community of people that are interested in the creative process and creating art,” says Peg Luecke, the museum’s Director of Marketing. Many classes are appropriate for beginners with no previous art experience, according to Luecke. “We really try to meet people at whatever level they are.”

Prices range from $155-$190 per 8-week session, with a 20% discount for museum members. While the idea of carving out a weekly block of class time may seem daunting if you’re already juggling a busy workload, don’t discount the potential benefits of exercising your creativity. Luecke advises, “A lot of people discover that they’re just happier when they’re creating art.” The museum’s spring session will start the week of April 8, says Luecke. Look for class times and descriptions at www.southbendart.org.

5. Paleontologist – Many kids experience at least a brief stage of dinosaur obsession. If yours never ended, it’s not too late to live out your paleontology dreams. Those heading west to visit family or tour Yellowstone should consider tacking on some time to Dig for a Day with the Wyoming Dinosaur Center in Thermopolis, WY. This museum offers guests a 9-hour dig site experience including orientation, transportation, tools, and lunch for $150 per adult.

Learn more about this program at www.wyodino. org/dig-for-a-day.

Remember, it’s never too late to live your dreams, even if it’s just for a day! 

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March 2013 Events 1Guysthrough 17 & Dolls

South Bend Civic Theatre, South Bend

“Guys and Dolls” has been described as the perfect musical comedy. A colorful world of gamblers and their gals take the stage as SBCT presents its first production of this classic of musical theatre. Tunes like “Guys and Dolls,” “Luck Be a Lady” and “Sit Down, You’re Rockin’ the Boat” make this a surefire bet for entertainment! Tickets are $18-21. To reserve tickets or get more information, call 574.234.1112 or visit www.sbct.org.

2Spring Celebration

College Mennonite Church, Goshen

William Woys Weaver is a contributing editor of Mother Earth News and author of Heirloom Vegetable Gardening. He has done extensive research on local food history and heirloom seed saving. Michiana Master Gardeners of Elkhart County will host Dr. Weaver at our 14th annual Spring Celebration. There will be opportunities to visit education booths before the program and during a refreshment break. The doors will open at 12:30 PM. Goody bags will be given to the first 120 attendees. Ticket outlets include Martin's Pet and Garden in Elkhart, McIntosh Nursery in Goshen and North Central in Nappanee. $10 advance; $12 at door. Reservations can be made by calling the county extension office at 574.533.0554. For more information, visit www.michianamastergardeners. com and click Spring Celebration.

5Beginning Excel

Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown

Computer Services is offering a free class in Beginning Excel 2010. Patrons will learn how to create a workbook by entering and manipulating data, doing simple computations, and naming and saving files. Patrons will need to bring a flash drive or purchase one from the library. This class is intended for those with Beginning Computing and Beginning Internet experience. Registration is required and is happening now. 6:15 PM. For more information and registration, contact Computer Services at 574.259.5277 EXT 273.

6Lose Weight, Find Health

Lakeland Regional Medical Center, St. Joseph, MI

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The following listing includes events around town.

Always call ahead for updates.

programs available for losing weight and maintaining a healthy weight for years to come. The Lakeland Comprehensive Weight Loss Center specializes in working with each person to create a customized lifestyle plan, including medical weight loss management through diet or bariatric surgery, nutrition counseling, individualized exercise programs, and monthly support groups. 6:30 PM to 8:30 PM. For more information, call 269.687.4673 or visit www.lakelandhealth.org.

7Spring Fashion Show

Uptown Kitchen, Granger

Featuring fashions from Inspire Me! and make-up and hair by Salon Rouge. Drink and dinner specials from Uptown Kitchen. Reservations accepted on Open Table. 6:30 PM. For more information, call 574.968.3030.

IUSB Jazz Ensemble

Campus Auditorium, IUSB, South Bend

Consisting of student and community musicians, the jazz ensemble performances feature pieces arranged by members of the ensemble and fantastic solos. $5 to $9. 7:30 PM. For more information, call 574.520.4203.

8Maple Syrup By Moonlight

Bendix Woods County Park, New Carlisle

Take a guided twilight tour through the sugar bush, learn how to tap a tree by lantern light and observe maple syrup being made (weather permitting).

Then, enjoy a hot beverage and dessert made with pure maple syrup while warming in the shelter.

Registration and payment are required by March 4.

(Min. 10/Max. 50) $3.50 per person. 7 PM to 9 PM. For more information, call 574.654.3155.

9Trivia Night at the Museum

Studebaker National Museum, South Bend

All galleries will be open for touring. Test your knowledge on 100 questions of general trivia in ten exciting categories. Grand prize will be $300 to the winning team. A cash bar will be provided and feel free to bring your own meal, snacks or munchies. 5:30 PM doors open. Trivia begins at 7 PM. To register your team, call the Museum at 574.235.9714, or mail your registration with payment to the Studebaker National Museum, 201 S. Chapin St., South Bend, IN 46601. $150 entry fee per team (may have up to ten players per team). For more information, call 574.235.9067.

St. Mary’s Trivia Night & Silent Auction

Student Lounge, St. Mary’s College, Notre Dame

Scholarship fundraiser for local women attending Saint Mary's; $150 for 10-person team includes dinner; dinner and auction start 6 PM; trivia starts 7 PM; $200 first prize! Sponsored by SMC South Bend Alumnae Club. For more information, call 574.339.4929.

10 Music For Missions

Century Center, South Bend

Free Christian Concert. Music for Missions is reaching out to the community sharing music of Christ to help support our missionary friends from other countries.

Open to the public. For more information, call 574.532.5323.

Piano Competition Winners’ Recital Kroc Center, South Bend

Winners from the 18th Annual Hartman Stickley Piano Competition will give a free public performance in the Kroc Center Auditorium. The competition is sponsored by the South Bend Area Music Teachers Association and underwritten by the Elnora Hartman Stickley Scholarship Fund. The competition is open to precollege students ages 4-18. Brochures and applications can be found on the South Bend Area Music Teachers Association website at www.sbamta.org. Concert is at 2:30 PM. For more information, call 574.271.0625.

13 Friends’ Writing Group

Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown

The Friends’ Writing Group welcomes writers of every genre and experience level. If you enjoy writing poetry, prose, essays or letters, attend the meeting to share tips and techniques with other writers.

9:30 AM to 11:30 AM. The Friends’ Writing Group is sponsored by the Friends of the Mishawaka-PennHarris Public Library. For more information, contact Reference Services at 574.259.5277 EXT 218.

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Heritage Roundtable: The Beardsley Family, Ruthmere and Elkhart Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown

Bill Firstenberger, Executive Director of Ruthmere in Elkhart, will discuss the Beardsley Family, Ruthmere and Elkhart in the Spencer Gallery. Built in the early 1900s by Albert and Elizabeth Beardsley, Ruthmere is a 3-story Beaux Arts mansion made with brick and limestone. Today it is an historical museum open to the public. 7 PM. The Mishawaka American Heritage Roundtable is sponsored by the Friends of the Library. If you have questions, please contact Dave Eisen at 574.259.5277 EXT 300.

15 St. Paddy’s Tent Party & Pub Tour Downtown South Bend

Kick-off your St. Patrick's Day celebrations in downtown South Bend on Friday, March 15 with live music and festive food and drink. Admission to the annual Tent Party is just $5 and will get you access to the popular pub tour free of charge. The Tent Party will be held in the parking lot between Wayne St. and Western Ave. (off Michigan St.) in downtown South Bend. The lot is close to CJ's Pub and Club Fever. 21 and over! For more information, call 574.282.1110.

16 Leprechaun Leap

Pete’s Tavern, Simonton Lake, Elkhart

This annual polar leap into Simonton Lake benefits United Cancer Services of Elkhart. Leaping or watching, $20 will get you into the party! For more information, visit www.elkhartcancer.org.

All-You-Can-Eat Breakfast

Greene Township Community Building, South Bend

Supports Lions’ Club charities. Good eats and fellowship with your neighbors. $7 adult; $3.50 children 5-12; free under 5. At the Community Center: 24600 Roosevelt Road. 7 AM to 10:30 AM. For more information, call 574.289.9365.

Ballet Chicago in “Spring Swing” Lerner Theatre, Elkhart

The program, a mix of classical ballet and contemporary dance will include Dan Duell’s River Suite Metamorphosis by local choreographer and Conservatory teacher, Dawn Deahl, and George Balanchine’s stunning masterpiece Serenade.

The program will also feature a premier work by Ted Seymour, Chicago-based choreographer and dancer with the Suzanne Farrell Ballet. The dance community is growing in the Michiana, and the Conservatory of Dance is thrilled to collaborate with Ballet Chicago to bring this program to the Lerner Theatre. $10 - $20. 7:30 PM. For tickets or more information, call the Lerner Box Office at 574.293.4469 or visit TheLerner.com.

17 Hannah’s House Master Salonathon Master Salon, Granger, IN

Join Master Salon in the Capital Cove Plaza (across from the Notre Dame Federal Credit Union) on SR 23 for an afternoon of pampering! For a donation of $20, you will receive your choice of a designer haircut (no requested stylist, please!), a spa manicure, an express pedicure or an upper body massage. Refreshments and raffles will also be available. Reservations are accepted by calling 574.277.6721. Walk-ins are also accepted! 1 PM to 3 PM.

Bicycle Swap Meet

Pinhook Park, South Bend

This annual event is sponsored by the Michiana Bicycle Association (MBA) and the Northern Indiana Mountain Bike Association (NIMBA). There is no

charge for buyers or sellers. Anyone is welcome to bring bicycle related items to sell. Sellers should arrive between 11 AM and 11:30 AM to set up.

Buyers should arrive between 12 PM and 2:30 PM. First-come, first-serve for table space. For more information, call 219.324.3459.

19 Quarterly Craft: Windsock Creation

Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Bittersweet Branch

Visit the Bittersweet Branch Library and make your own windsock. Formerly known as the Craft of the Month Group, the group is now meeting quarterly to accommodate patrons’ busy schedules. This program is open to teens and adults. Children aged 7 and up may attend with an adult helper.

Registration is not required. 4 PM to 6 PM (visit anytime during these hours). For more information, call the Bittersweet Branch Library at 574.259.0392.

Simple Statistics

Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown

Computer Services is offering a free class in Simple Statistics for Excel. (Beginning Excel experience is required.) Patrons will learn how to do simple descriptive statistics, such as those used in business.

Registration is required and begins March 12. 6:15 PM. For more information and registration, contact Computer Services at 574.259.5277 EXT 273.

20 Mom/Son Dance

Palais Royale, South Bend

The 11th Annual Mom/Son Dance is for Moms & Sons ages 3 to 12. Experience a night of elegance “Under the Sea” with dancing, refreshments and a keepsake photo. Register at the O’Brien Recreation Center, online or by phone using Visa/MasterCard. Space is limited, register early! 6 PM to 8:30 PM. $16 per person. For more information, call 574.299.4795 (daytime) or 574.299.3482 (evenings).

New Music Ensemble

Campus Auditorium, IUSB, South Bend

Devoted to different perspectives of the piano, this concert will include music for solo, duo, and fourhand piano all from the 20th and 21st centuries. $5 to $9. 7:30 PM. For more information, call 574.520.4203.

Rebecca Hazelton Poetry Reading Hammes Book Store, Notre Dame

Hazleton is a graduate of the University of Notre Dame and will read from her new collection of poems, Fair Copy. This collection repeatedly questions the veracity of memory—sometimes toying with the seductiveness of nostalgia while at other times pleading for the real story. Composed of acrostics from lines by Emily Dickinson, the collection retains a direct and recurrent tie to Dickinson’s work, even while Hazelton deftly branches off into new sonic, rhythmic and conceptual territories. FREE. 7:30 PM. For more information, call 574.631.7526.

21 Logan Nose-On Luncheon Century Center, South Bend

Back in 1988, Logan came up with the idea of selling green noses to raise awareness and money for local people with disabilities. In addition to merchandise sales, they also host the Logan Nose-On Luncheon annually. This year the speaker is Josh Sundquist.

For more information, visit their website at www.logancenter.org.

Women of Hope Luncheon and Silent Auction Morris Park Country Club, South Bend

Hannah's House cordially invites you and your friends to the Women of Hope luncheon and silent auction. We will be honoring the late Diane Killilea, founding board member of Hannah's House and our featured guest speaker will be Paqui Kelly, cofounder of the Kelly Cares Foundation: A Playbook for Hope. Proceeds will go to support the work of the Bridge of Hope program, a church-based approach to ending homelessness for single mothers. $45.

11:30 AM to 1 PM. For more information, visit www.maternityhomewithaheart.org

Business-to-Business Shop & Greet

Gillespie Conference Center, Hilton Garden Inn, South Bend

Your Business Needs Fans is proud to announce a unique Business-to-Business Showcase with the specific purpose of promoting and supporting Michiana Area businesses. Sign up now as a vendor or plan to attend and market yourself to new customers and business partners. In the spirit of encouraging ‘shopping’ at the event and with paid admission, all attendees, sponsors and vendors will be given B2B Bucks to spend at the event. B2B Bucks will be cashed out at the end of the event for real cash. Special happenings at the event will include a Vendor Pep Rally, B2B Door Buster Specials, a Salute to Michiana, a B2B Shop Michiana Tribute and a ‘Fashion for Success’ Demonstration.

Cash bar. Admission is $15 with $10 back in B2B bucks. 2 PM to 7 PM. For more information, contact KarenKEnterprises@sbcglobal.net or call 574.344.8895.

Dance Exposition

Upstage, IUSB, South Bend

Featuring beautifully choreographed performances by the talented dance faculty and IU South Bend Dance Company, comprised of auditioned students.

7:30 PM. $5 to $9. For more information, call 574.520.4203.

Best in Show Fashion Show Beiger Mansion, Mishawaka

Inspire Me! offers a Fashion Show at the Beiger Mansion with friends Pet Palace and Salon Rouge.

Light appetizers and cash bar, clothing, accessories, dog and cat items available for purchase, live music, door prizes, raffle and special guests! Proceeds from ticket sales to benefit the Humane Society of SASSY | MARCH 2013

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March 2013 Events The following listing includes events around town. Always call ahead for updates.

St. Joseph County. $25 donation. 6 PM to 9 PM. For more information or to RSVP, call Nancy Deneen at 574.255.4726 EXT 225.

23 Free Tax Assistance

Mishawaka-Penn-Harris Library, Downtown

Volunteers from the University of Notre Dame and St. Mary’s College will be offering free tax assistance for qualifying individuals in the Spencer Gallery.

Students will help taxpayers whose 2012 income is $40,000 or less. Unemployed taxpayers whose 2012 earnings were at or below $40,000 prior to collecting taxable unemployment benefits will also be served.

Assistance is available on a first-come, first-served basis. 1 PM to 4 PM. For more information, contact Reference Services at 574.259.5277 EXT 218.

Notre Dame Glee Club Concert

DeBartolo Performing Arts Center, Notre Dame

The Notre Dame Glee Club presents its Spring Concert. The program will feature classical choral music for men's voices along with spirituals, folk songs and barbershop harmony. $3 to $10. 8 PM. For more information, call 574.631.2800.

24 Poetry Den

Merrimans’ Playhouse, South Bend

A community based safe stage for the spoken word.

To entice your ears, expand your thinking and inspire your soul. Open mic session to include a featured guest poet. The event is for ages 16 and up, $5 cover charge at the door. You are free to bring snack food and beverages. 6 PM to 8 PM. Contact mapblair@ yahoo.com for more information and to sign up for your performance. For more information, call 574.210.9320

27 Beer 101

O’Rourke’s Public House, South Bend

Learn about different beer, local breweries, and find a new favorite! $15 per class includes sample flight, one beer and appetizers. For more information, call 574.251.0355.

28 Pre-Diabetes Class

Lakeland Community Hospital, Niles, MI

A FREE program designed for those at risk for developing type-2 diabetes! This two-hour class will help people with higher-than-normal blood sugar levels learn about lifestyle changes which may help 46 MARCH 2013 | SASSY

them avoid or delay the onset of the disease. During the first hour, a registered nurse will guide you through the disease process of diabetes and introduce healthy lifestyle changes. The final hour will be spent with a registered dietician who will suggest meal selections that can help you maintain your health and manage your weight. Class size is limited, please call for availability. 1 PM to 3 PM. For more information, visit www.lakelandhealth.org.

30 Kelly Crimaldi Cancer Benefit The Elks Lodge, Elkhart

Friends and Family of Kelly Crimaldi will be holding a benefit to help cover medical expenses. Kelly is 20 years old and fighting brain cancer. The ticket price includes dinner and music with a cash bar. There will be silent auctions, raffles including a 40" LCD TV, 50/50 and gaming in the basement. Kelly has named her tumor ‘George’.

Her motto is she is "living with cancer, not dying from it".

Please come out and help this special family. Tickets can be purchased at the door, or at Crimaldi's restaurant on Jackson Street in Elkhart. $20. 6 PM to Midnight. For more information, call 574.361.1429.

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Spring Cleaning Basics Pre-Planning For Busy Women

By Stephanie J. Salisbury

R

ight about this time of year, I start to go crazy when I walk into my house. It seems I have a million projects that never get done, clutter that just piles up like an episode of Hoarders and an entire corner of my garage that’s dedicated to a yard sale that never seems to happen. When it gets this way, I find the best solution is to get out a notebook, a pen and a margarita and tackle first things first.

1. Drink the margarita.

2. Pour another margarita.

3. Write down the top three things I HAVE to accomplish for this year’s Spring Cleaning before my brain explodes.

4. Designate two large boxes for SORTING and SELLING. 5. Put any piece of clutter that isn’t where it’s supposed to be into the SORTING box.

6. Put any piece of clothing, rogue McDonald’s toy or random gadget into the SELLING box.

7. Drink the second margarita.

8. Delegate: make the kids and the husband sort their own things and clean their own rooms/spaces/man-caves.

9. Make a Monday through Friday list of what you’ll work on each day to make some headway.

10. Make a game of it: reward yourself for each hurdle you clear with 10 minutes of ‘me-time’.

After you’ve given yourself a good outline of what you want to accomplish, you’ll be more easily able to put things into perspective. Perhaps dusting isn’t your thing – someone in your household can surely take on that particular task. Maybe you have laundry piling up – could be time to teach your teenage son to separate the delicates from the work clothes, turn a dial and add some detergent. We’re hardwired to be in control of everything, but sometimes it’s best to delegate a few tasks here and there, and remember NOT to micromanage. The only thing worse than having to do a new chore is being told you didn’t do it right, especially when there’s no ‘right’ way to do it – just the way you’re used to doing it. Give yourself and your family members some leeway to learn and grow. Eventually, you’ll have a little more free time and they’ll be more likely to jump in when something needs to be done without you even having to ask.

Stop rolling your eyes. I said, ‘EVENTUALLY’!

And remember, when you do get around to having that yard sale, the extra pennies will make it all worthwhile.  SASSY | MARCH 2013

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A Rosie Place presents The Sweethearts’ Ball The 1st annual Sweethearts’ Ball to benefit A Rosie Place on February 15th at the Palais Royale was a smashing success.

Couples danced the night away with entertainment by Blammo! in a romantic setting created by Cher Goggins from Merry Me Events! . The honorees of the evening, Myron & Rosie Noble, began the first dance. J.J. & Marissa Grover, parents of a fragile child, spoke passionately about the impact A Rosie Place has had on their family. A Rosie Place is a pediatric hospital in South Bend designed to assist medically fragile children and their families.

The event raised awareness and over $100,000 to support these special families and the variety of programs that are offered. To find out more about the medically fragile children and A Rosie Place, contact Executive Director Tieal Bishop at 574.315.6283 or visit their website at www.arosieplace.org.

Photo Credits: Peter Ringenberg

Dr. Steven Spliger and wife Wai Mun (ballroom dancers)

Lora Rozzi with husband Bill, and their daughter, Elena Rozzi Wack

Tieal Bishop with Myron & Rosie Noble, honorees

Mark Ferency, Teresa Ferency, Dave Hardy, Heather Pond

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SASSY Magazine promotes Michiana’s cultural offerings, personalities, attractions and local businesses, with a special emphasis on non-profit organizations’ events and activities. We expect this section of SASSY to grow significantly, and we’d like your help to get it rolling!

Please send us some of your favorite photos from your organization’s or charity’s best events and fundraisers.

They just may make the next issue of SASSY Magazine!

We prefer snapshots of people that are full of life and enjoying the moment, so please send them our way: stephanie@MichianaFamilyMagazine.com.

The 1st annual Awake & Alive Hope Gala The 1st annual Awake & Alive Hope Gala was held at Bread & Chocolate in the Old Bag Factory. The event included desserts, wine, live entertainment, a silent auction, a presentation from Awake & Alive and an opportunity to give hope to the children of Ethiopia. This event provides funding for the Bright Future Academy which was founded by Awake & Alive in partnership with an Ethiopian organization called Bright Future. The Academy currently holds 35 students but will be increasing to 65 students for the 2013-14 school year. The event helps fund the school, two meals a day and medical screenings and care for students and family members. Live entertainment was provided by Elizabeth Woodworth and Juan Moya, Goshen College students.

Photo Credit: Jessica Lynn Photography

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The little things are important to us.

When it comes to your newborn’s health and safety, the little things are probably pretty important to you, too. Which is why we offer a Level 2-B Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, along with certified neonatologists and experienced neonatal nurse practitioners right here in our Special Beginnings Maternity Center. This way, you can be sure that should a situation arise, we’ve got the right people in place, ready to help. Because when it comes to watching over your little one, no amount of caring is too big, or too small.

To schedule a personalized tour of the Special Beginnings Maternity Center, call 574-523-3444.

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