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Happy summer! I hope yours is off to a great start, and I’m excited Cary Living can be a part of it. I hope to see this issue peeking out of your poolside tote or tossed in the car on your way to the beach. I think you’ll agree this issue is the ultimate in lighthearted summer reading!

For starters, nothing says summer like a generous scoop of sweet, delectable ice cream! Turn to page 26 for a quick guide to some of our favorite spots to indulge.

While you’re out and about, be sure to visit one of Cary’s enticing shopping destinations. On page 18, we showcase three that have managed to combine retail, dining and entertainment attractions with comfortable, attractive public spaces perfect for meeting friends or enjoying family outings.

As we send this issue to the printer, we can’t help but be caught up in the frenzy of World Cup Soccer that has gripped the country. On page 38, we cover our own Carolina RailHawks, a professional soccer team whose players have gone beyond practice and competition to help develop the skills and character of young athletes in our area.

For men of a certain age, fashion and style tend to slip down the list of priorities. For women who love them, the topic of disintegrating underwear or stained t-shirts often becomes a source of good-natured ribbing. Gentlemen, this is your wake-up call! Turn to page 58 for quick tips to looking and feeling your best, no matter your age.

As always, I want to thank you for your many letters and emails. Please continue to share your valuable feedback and great story ideas! We love hearing from you!

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18 the new age of shopping We take a look at some new shopping areas around town.

26 scream for ice cream There’s nothing better than some cold, creamy goodness on a sweltering day. Here we take you to a few of our favorite local spots.

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38 having a ball After reaching the peak of pro soccer, Cary’s Zack Schilawski is making his mark with his hometown RailHawks.

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52 mommy guilt?

How to survive, and let a marriage thrive.

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10 | ON THE SCENE – TECH 12 | ON THE SCENE – SPORTS 14 | Wine Review 24 | FASHIOn 34 | calendar of events 45 | DIY

58 Men’s life and style Is it time to get unstuck?

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Got a favorite spot in your yard for enjoying an ice-cold beer (or other beverage)? What if you could keep up to 24 cans in that spot, and know that you can pull out a cold one any time of year – without using ice or electricity? Check out the eCool underground beer cooler, which uses dirt in place of ice.

All you have to do is bury the cylindrical cooler – about a foot in diameter and three and a half feet tall – in the earth, keeping its storage tank beneath the surface and its retrieval system above. Then, fill it with 12-ounce cans and let the naturally cooler underground environment cool them down and keep them insulated.

Then, next time you want a beer in your favorite outdoor spot, pull up the lid

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and pull the top one out – it should be cold in summer and frost-free in winter. The non-electric pulley system inside the cylinder will continue to rotate cans to the top, in the order in which you loaded them.

The upside is an ecological approach to cooling your cans – save the earth while saving money on your power bill and shelf space in your fridge. The downside? It’s no more portable than a refrigerator, so you still have to go to the same place each time you want a cold one. But if you spend a good bit of the year in or near that spot, this might be worth the $369 it costs to order from http://eng.ecool.dk/.

Sure, this is a novelty item – something for the person who has everything – but, if you’ll excuse the pun, it’s still pretty dang cool.

SPORTS

By david droschak

Photograph © Rick Fisher’s Photography

photograph © Carolina Hurricanes Former Carolina Hurricanes’ General Manager hoists hockey’s most prized possession – the Stanley Cup – over his head following the team’s 2006 Cup victory.

But Rutherford went beyond the basics, was available to the media and fans, and helped create pride in a city once void of pro sports.

“I remember when I first got here, I would meet people they would say, ‘What are you doing here?’

And I would tell them and they still really didn’t even understood once I told them,” Rutherford said. “I knew at that point it was going to be a bigger challenge than I expected. It was just a matter of doing things piece-bypiece, step-by-step and getting into the community and getting to know people. Then they started to understand the game and we got people in the building.”

To put Carolina’s Cup victory in proper perspective, Photograph © NC State Athletics 12 teams in the league have yet to raise one of sport’s prized possessions, including franchises such as St. Louis, Buffalo, Vancouver and Washington.

“It is a funny thing because I probably haven’t even thought about it enough because of the job I’ve had.

You really don’t get to stop and reflect on anything,” Rutherford said. “When I ultimately retire I will reflect more on the impact it had here. For what we did when we started here, to get to the Cup Finals in 2002 and then to win it in 2006 and have an outside shot in 2009, that is pretty special for a smaller market team. And it gave a huge boost to this market.”

Rutherford admitted the Carolina GM position “started to wear on me” over the last 3-4 seasons, and his exit to Pittsburgh – one of the game’s elite franchises – comes on the heels of a five-year playoff drought in Raleigh.

“There is disappointment and some emotion in our fan base, and rightfully so,” he said. “That’s pretty standard in every market except for a couple of places Rutherford’s Hockey Passion when you miss the playoffs for that many years. But the and Mind Will Be Missed good thing is the fan base is here, the majority of people have stuck with us and there is still continued For better or worse – and there has been plenty of both for nearly two decades. growth in this market. There are really good days ahead Jim Rutherford has been the only general manager since the Hartford Whalers here for the Hurricanes.” were renamed the Carolina Hurricanes and moved here in the late 1990s.

For the 65-year-old Rutherford, he returns to a team Professional sports players and coaches come and go with regularity these he once played for 40 years ago, but he’ll keep his home days, and often GM’s follow suit. So, when Rutherford stepped aside this summer in North Raleigh and retire in the Triangle. at PNC Arena and abruptly accepted the same position in Pittsburgh, the end of a “You win together and you lose together; you have major era in the team’s history unfolded. your ups together, you have your downs together,” he said Sure, Rutherford oversaw trades, contract negotiations and a series of missed of the Hurricanes. “We’ve been fortunate that we’ve had a playoff opportunities – but if you peel back the onion, his impact on professional lot of good character players that came here, given everysports in the Triangle is profound. thing they’ve had; they’ve loved the market. I remember In 17 seasons here, the former NHL goalie was savvy enough to recognize when we first moved here, as soon as the season was over that the area needed a player who could perform on the ice and represent off of every player was gone in a day or two. Now, players stay it, and immediately signed future Hall of Famer Ron Francis as the face of the here all year round; players make their homes here when franchise. Less than two years later, Rutherford orchestrated a trade that swapped they retire. That’s kind of a trait of mine anyway, that family a disgruntled Keith Primeau for Rod Brind’Amour, who would become the team’s atmosphere, people sticking together.” captain and hoisted the Stanley Cup in 2006.

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WINEreview Gazela Vinho Verde

Palma Real Rueda Verdejo

Vinho Verde, Portugal

Rueda, Spain

Here’s a zesty, light and crisp white offering bright lime and pear flavors with subtle, spicy notes of ginger and even a hint of tangerine on the lively palate. Pure and clean, this is a truly refreshing wine.

One of the most exciting new whites from Spain, this 100% Verdejo is crisp and dry, with intriguing floral, citrus and mineral aromas and flavors. Fabulous complexity in an unoaked wine at this price! Enjoy with grilled seafood or lighter fare.

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By Michael Gallo, wine manager total wine & more, Crossroads Shopping Center

Cottesbrook Marlborough Sauvignon Blanc

Marlborough, New Zealand

Domaine Fontanyl Rosé de Provence

Conte Fini Pinot Grigio Alto Adige

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Alto Adige, Italy

This estate-bottled wine’s palate is well balanced and full with a long, crisp finish and fruity flavors. The magnificent bouquet combines intense aromas of gooseberry and citrus. Wine Spectator “Best Value”.

Great with sea bass, tuna and snapper.

Lively and fragrant, this beautiful Rosé from Provence shows alluring aromas of ripe berries and dark flowers. The flavors of ripe strawberry and wild cherry are presented in a sophisticated manner that preserves the character of the fruit, but in a dry, straightforward style.

This beautifully balanced Pinot Grigio from Italy’s Alto Adige region in northern Italy offers bright citrus fruit flavors with underlying mineral notes and a lengthy finish. It’s a perfect match for lobster and shellfish.

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GABF Bronze Medal 2011. Named for the central Cascade Mountains’ Whistling Pig Meadow. Pours a hazy yellow-orange color. Aromas of wheat and bread with lemony citrus hops. Flavors add a zesty lemon essence to the wheat and malt characteristics.

Crisp, Wheat, Citrusy, Bready, Light-bodied

Bronze Medal 2014 WBC. Pours with a deep golden color.

Plenty of hop bitterness balanced by malt sweetness in the aromas and flavor in the tradition of an English IPA. Extensive dry hopping imparts a floral and citrusy character. Nice!

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STONE CREEK VILLAGE

PARK WEST VILLAGE

WAVERLY PLACE

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The New Age of Shopping

By Christa Gala

These days, shopping centers are turning it up a notch, launching areas with lush green space, fountains, playgrounds and walking paths, turning the strip malls of yesterday into destinations for the whole family.

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Americans love to shop. We spend hundreds of billions annually on food, clothes, electronics, entertainment and household goods. We shop online and in person. And sometimes both – browsing on phones and computers only to show up in person to see and feel the product we’re interested in.

There’s a certain ambience to shopping in person, frankly. Catchy tunes, flattering lighting and creative displays. And now there’s more: common areas, community events, green space. We saw it first a few years ago when developers transformed Raleigh’s North Hills shopping center into “Midtown,” with a “Live, Work, Play” motto that embraces the idea of the shopping center as a destination for the entire day.

It’s an idea whose time has come to Cary too, with the addition of three new shopping centers: Waverly Place, Stone Creek Village and Park West Village.

Waverly Place You might remember Waverly Place when it first opened in 1988 with its blue metal awnings and curved modern design. Back then it housed a Carmike Theatre and Harris Teeter. Later came Chi-Chi’s, Workbench, Red Hot & Blue and a host of other national brands and independents.

In the late 90s, the owners, Konover Property Trust, went out of business and the center struggled for a few years, says Jenn Olevitch, director of leasing at RP Realty Partners, the company that manages Waverly today.

Then, more changes.

“In 2005, Zapolski & Rudd bought the center with plans to create a mixed-use development similar to North Hills,” says Olevitch. “As they were putting their plans together for this upscale lifestyle center, they didn’t renew leases as they came up since they were planning to scrap the entire center.

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they were unsuccessful and the following year sold it to RP Realty Partners.

“RP originally thought it would tear it down as well; however once it looked at the infrastructure, the bones were good, but the blue roofs and the dysfunctional central area needed to go,” continues Olevitch.

The firm hired a local architect to redesign the facades of the building and a local landscaping firm designed “The Promenade,” a focal point of the center today as well as the gathering place for families for Waverly’s popular music series, Wind Down Wednesdays, as well as other events.

“Our Farmers Market kicked off in April and will run through the end of the year, says Olevitch.

(left to right) A night view of the infinity fountain outside of Menchie’s at Waverly Place. Thousands gather at Waverly for Wind Down Wednesdays, a live music series during the summer.

One to Watch…

Crossroads Shopping Plaza was one of the first shopping centers in Cary to bring us unfamiliar names – merchants like Old Navy, Marshalls and Bed, Bath and Beyond. Atlanta-based Ronus Properties, the owners since the center launched in the early nineties recently sold the 670,000-square-foot center for $91 million to Durham-based Kimco Realty Group.

No word yet on what, if any, changes consumers might see. Several retailers and restaurants have made their home there lately, including Noodles & Company, Starbucks, Tilly’s and Total Wine.

We’ll keep you posted.

“One of our signature events is “Snow Day,” where we bring in tons of snow and build sledding hills. On any given day Waverly is a hub of activity, from people out shopping to moms bringing their kids to the play area – which has a really cool splash pad for the kids,” Olevitch continues. “At night, the center boasts amazing colored fountains, gas fire columns and water and fire pits. It’s beautifully landscaped, and it’s a great place to hang out, stay and play, and shop and dine.”

One of RP Realty’s goals was to recruit merchants not already represented in the area. Waverly is anchored by Whole Foods Market and CineBistro – a luxury, dine-in movie theater. Other retailers include a drop-in daycare, an artist’s co-op that also provides lessons, a spa, kitchen store, cupcake bakery, paint-your-own pottery and a variety of restaurants, including Taziki’s Mediterranean Café, Fresca Café & Gelato, Enrigo’s Italian Bistro, Barberito’s Southwest Cantina, Toast Café and Triangle Wine Co. “People are excited about all of the new restaurants and retailers and love coming to Waverly for all of our events,” says Olevitch. “It’s such a great family-friendly place.”

Park West Village In late 2011, the first phase of Park West Village sprung up to replace a bunch of run-down pharmaceutical buildings in Morrisville, not too far from Preston Corners.

The second phase opened gradually in 2013.

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(left) Most of Park West’s community events are held on the stage and green area in front of Stone Theater – Park West 14. (below & right) Stone Creek Village shoppers often take their coffee or burgers outside to people-watch. The original developer, a landscape architect, implemented fountains, walkways and lots of seating.

is a reflection of our market demographic and the large need for a massing of retail, services, restaurants, entertainment and community events to serve this side of Cary and Morrisville.

Park West Village has surprised a lot of Caryites by attracting new national players, including Gander Mountain, Charming Charlie, Ulta, Pier One and Carters.

“The feedback we’ve received has been very positive. We had several requests for fashion, and with the recent openings of Chicos, White House Black Market, Vestique, Soma, Ulta and Charming Charlie, we have been able to successfully market these great retailers to our customer base and are looking to add to this amazing list soon,” says Brunner.

“For years we had requests for an organic grocery, and with Earth Fare coming in 2015, we’ll be able to fulfill a whole other need for healthy shopping and dining,” Brunner continues. “We take pride in listening to the community and strive to provide what they would like for their wish list.”

Park West Village has planned a steady schedule of community events this year.

It just wrapped up the Live the District Music Series, live music in April and May, held on the large stage and green area in front of Stone Theatre – Park West 14.

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It will host Harvest Nights in the District this fall, starting September 4th, as well as a Back to School Bash and a Fall Festival. The holiday event, Magical Winter Nights, was a real crowd pleaser last year.

“This is our second year producing the event in front of Stone Theatre, where we’ll also have live carolers, free train rides and story time with Santa,” says Brunner.

Restaurants sponsor charity fundraising events as well; Ruckus hosted a St. Baldrick’s event in April, and Firebirds is just wrapping up its event for Alex’s Lemonade Stand Foundation for Childhood Cancer.

Community events will continue in 2015 as Park West Village continues to develop.

“We’re working on a greenway and adding Wi-Fi around the center,” says Brunner. “There are also plans for more common seating areas with the next phase.”

Two new restaurants, Blackfinn Ameripub and Full Moon Oyster Bar, will open at the end of the summer and several mixed-use buildings will soon be built as well, offering additional fashion, accessory and service retailers as well as residential luxury loft apartments on the top floor.

Stone Creek Village This development came on the scene in 2006, located at High House and Davis

Drive. The original developer was a landscape architect, which may explain why Cary Living readers have voted it “Best People Watching Spot” in its annual Diamond Award competition.

The grounds at Stone Creek feature plenty of grass, flowers and trees, not to mention sidewalks, brick walkways, planters, benches and a beautiful fountain.

Shoppers tend to park themselves in these areas for a rest and to take it all in, says Stephanie Pisaris, property manager for Casto, Stone Creek’s owners.

“Most of the restaurants have outdoor seating, and our customers love to people watch and meet their friends and neighbors for coffee, listen to live music, sip on some

To learn more…

All three shopping centers have Facebook pages – a great way to learn about promotions and special events – or you can visit each center’s website: Waverly Place: waverlycary.com Park West Village: parkwestvillage.net Stone Creek Village: stonecreekvillagecary.com

great wine or enjoy a fantastic meal and just hang out,” says Pisaris. “Stone Creek Village is convenient for shopping, getting your hair or nails done, dropping off your dry cleaning or even just helping you get all of your other day-to-day chores taken care of. “ Stone Creek Village is anchored by Harris Teeter and complemented by a variety of shops and restaurants, including Tribeca Tavern, Kilwins, Love All Tennis, Woof Gang Bakery, The Pink Alli and Sip...a wine store, all of which draw traffic from the surrounding neighborhoods.

The Cary greenway system runs through the back of the development as well, providing a nice buffer.

Café Caturra offers live music on its patio every Thursday night, and Made Shop is offering Summer Camp Craft Classes for adults and kids all summer from 10am-1pm, with six daily crafts to choose from for $20 per session. Parents can drop kids off or join the fun.

There are also center-wide activities.

“We pride ourselves on tenant involvement and on our annual Family Fun Day Festival, which will happen again this fall,” says Pisaris. “All the tenants join together and help throw a special day for the residents of Cary with lots of free fun things, giveaways and music for the kids and adults.”

Stone Creek Village recently welcomed Guacamaya, a casual Mexican eatery, and is readying space for an existing tenant’s expansion.

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FASHION

BEAUTIFUL in

BLUE The color blue communicates significance, importance and confidence without creating somber or sinister feelings. Different shades of blue can have different meanings. Royal blue can represent superiority, and light blue can mean honesty and trustworthiness. Which blue are you?

Southern Charm Boutique

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You know you want to!

There’s nothing better than some cold, creamy goodness on a sweltering day. Here, a few of our favorite Cary spots – and a few beyond for those times when you don’t mind a little road trip.

The Soda Fountain at Ashworth Drugs Nestled in the heart of downtown Cary, you can’t help but feel you’ve gone back in time a bit as you lean against the soda fountain counter and think about whether you want a scoop, a float or a milkshake.

Not too long ago, Ashworth Drug expanded the fountain – from 30 seats to 50.

“Since we’ve increased that space, we can accommodate families and bigger groups of people,” says Paul Ashworth,

second generation owner. “We’re getting workers from the town and police officers as well as families with kids.”

There are eight flavors available, including classics like Butter Pecan, Mint Chocolate Chip, Coffee, and Cookies and Cream, not to mention a rotating flavor of the week. You can also indulge in old-fashioned orangeades and lemonades as well as lunch – hot dogs, chips, soda and grilled cheese.

It’s all about the nostalgia of another time, a slower pace. Ashworth Drugs was founded by the Adams family in 1931; Ralph and Daphne Ashworth bought it in 1957, and then son Paul took over in 1992.

Business is booming due to the relocation of the Farmer’s Market back downtown and traffic from nearby churches, schools and the train depot.

“The train depot has gotten a lot busier with people making connections here, particularly early morning connections,” says Ashworth. “It’s not uncommon to have groups of people waiting when we open in the morning.” >> www.ashworthdrugs.com caryliving.com | 27

Menchie’s Frozen Yogurt Fill your Menchie’s cup to the brim or just a tad with a wonderful array of flavors – fourteen daily – and then take in the newly designed Waverly Place in Cary if you haven’t already.

Menchie’s owners Beth and Brian Sloss love the location. “The Promenade, waterfalls, firepits, playgrounds and splashpad make it a unique and exciting venue,” says Beth Sloss.

In July and August, sample Raspberry Pomegranate Sorbet, Watermelon Sorbet, Creamy Peanut Butter, Cookies & Cream, Rock-Salted Caramel and Strawberry-Banana, among others. All yogurt is natural and contains no high fructose corn syrup. There’s even a Menchie’s dairy farm where the founders of the chain raise their own cows: farm-to-table frozen yogurt.

Don’t forget the toppings.

Menchie’s is known for its topping bar, which includes everything from the typical (Oreos, fruit, nuts) to the creative (boba juice poppers, caramel turtles and mini sour crawlers). Yogurt cups are weighed and cost 49 cents an ounce.

Bring a friend and take advantage of Menchie’s summer special – buy one, get one free - 32oz Mobile Mix To-Go ($5.00). >> www.menchies.com/frozen-yogurtshops/frozen-yogurt-waverly-place-nc 28 || caryliving.com caryliving.com 28

Nearly 1.53 billion gallons of ice cream are produced annually in the U.S., generating more than $10 billion.

Source: USDA: National Agriculture Statistics Service

Pelican’s Get your shaved ice SnoBalls through the window (drive-thru or walk up) at the Pelican’s on Williams Street in Apex or in Cary on Jones Franklin Road. Open since 2001, Pelican’s is known for its New Orleans-style shaved ice in more than 100 flavors – from Dill Pickle to Dreamsicle.

If you’re calorie-conscious, a small SnoBall won’t derail your day with just 150 calories; SnoBalls have no high fructose corn syrup or gluten either.

Can you say guilt-free?

But if you want to indulge (and who doesn’t?), give the SnoCream or homemade ice cream a try.

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Porter Farms and Nursery Located off Hwy 42 in Willow Spring, Porter Farms and Nursery sells fresh fruits and veggies – whatever happens to be in season – as well as a variety of homemade ice cream.

Porters uses its own fresh fruit to flavor its ice cream when possible. Strawberry and peach are seasonal favorites.

Porter’s has a loyal following, and many say the ice cream is so good because it’s made from fresh milk from the nearby Jackson Dairy Farm, family-owned since 1806. The cows feed in organic fields, which makes the ice cream naturally organic.

Popular flavors often have a Southern flair, including Banana Pudding, Strawberry Cheesecake, Caramel Apple Crunch, Cotton Candy, and Honey Almond. >> www.porterfarmsandnursery.com

W rth The Drive Sunni Sky’s Homemade Ice Cream If Good Morning America and the Food Network didn’t think Angier was too far to travel for fantastic ice cream, then how can we complain about a 40-minute drive?

Sunni Sky’s Homemade Ice Cream

Sunni Sky’s features more than 120 flavors of homemade ice cream. And on a busy summer night, it takes between 12 and 14 employees to serve guests and keep the line moving. Ice cream is made every single day and often folks come just to watch the process, but of course they end up getting a cone.

Sampling is encouraged. The Sunni Sky’s motto: “When in doubt, sample it out.”

Consider trying Coconut Cookie, Burnt Sugar, Whiskey, Baked Alaska and Rice Krispy Treat. Even with all of those whimsical flavors, chocolate is still the bestseller, says Sunni Wilson, daughter of owner Scott Wilson and namesake of the store.

Sunni Sky’s Homemade Ice Cream

Porter Farms and Nursery

If you really want to stretch your comfort zone, consider trying “Cold Sweat,” a spicy-hot ice cream made with all kinds of peppers and hot sauces – but you have to sign a liability waiver. It’s that hot. Cold Sweat is so popular, there’s now a sequel flavor: Exit Wound.

Sunni Sky’s also encourages customers to mix flavors and create their own specialty items – or try one of its floats, shakes or Avalanches (the latter is 16 ounces of ice cream blended with the topping of your choice). >> www.sunniskys.com

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OF EVENTS

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“Making Ripples” by Artist Sonia Kane July 1-August 27 Free reception, July 11, 6:30-8:30pm Bond Park Community Center | 150 Metro Park Dr. | Cary | www.SoniaKaneArt.com July 3rd Fireworks July 3 | 7:30-10pm Fireworks begin at 9:30pm Morrisville Community Park www.ci.morrisville.nc.us

Independence Day Celebration July 3 | 6-9pm 820 S. Main Street, Fuquay-Varina www.fuquay-varina.org Ten Little Indians & Evil Under the Sun July 3 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

Independence Eve Performances July 3 | 6:30pm www.townofcary.org Olde Fashioned Fourth of July July 4 | 9am-12:30pm www.apexnc.org July 4th Pancake Breakfast July 4 | 8am-9:45am www.ci.morrisville.nc.us

Roll or Stroll to THREE Farmers’ Markets in Cary This summer Advocates for Health in Action (AHA), the three farmers’ markets in Cary, and the Town of Cary are partnering to promote biking and walking to the markets through the Roll or Stroll campaign. The Cary Downtown Farmers’ Market, the Waverly Farmers’ Market and the Western Wake Farmers’ Market are each encouraging their shoppers to take part in active transportation to the markets.

The Cary Downtown Farmers’ Market is offering a $5 Market Bucks coupon for shoppers who walk or ride to the market, and the Western Wake Farmers’ Market will enter those who walk or bike to market into drawings for a market tote bag.

The Roll or Stroll flier features a map highlighting the neighborhoods, greenways and sidewalks near the markets.

All of the markets feature vendors selling seasonal, locally grown fruits and vegetables and artisan foods. Check their websites for details on vendors, events and more. www.advocatesforhealthinaction.org www.caryfarmersmarket.com www.WaverlyFM.com www.westernwakefarmersmarket.org 34 | caryliving.com

Independence Day Olde Time Celebration at Bond Park July 4; events start at 7:30am Fred G. Bond Metro Park www.townofcary.org July 4th Celebration July 4 | 3-10pm Koka Booth Amphitheatre www.townofcary.org July 5th July 5 | 5-9:30pm Sugg Farm Park | 2401 Grigsby Ave. Fireworks begin at 9:15pm www.hollyspringsnc.us A DOLL CAMP FOR AMERICAN GIRLS – Soda Shop Adventure July 7-11 | 9am-1pm M-F The Historic Polk House | Raleigh polkhouse2@bellsouth.net

Sorcerer & The French Connection July 11 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org Art After Dark July 11 & August 8 | 5-9pm www.fvartscouncil.org NCMA Summer Movies July 11, 18, 25, 26 August 1, 8, 15, 16, 22, 23 North Carolina Museum of Art www.ncartmuseum.org MOVIES BY MOONLIGHT: THE LEGO MOVIE July 11 Koka Booth Amphitheatre www.boothamphitheatre.com

Paint Along Art Class – Seahorse July 12 | 10am-Noon Kidz Celebrate | Raleigh www.kidzcelebrate.com NCMA Summer CONCERTS July 12, 19, 26 & August 2, 9 North Carolina Museum of Art www.ncartmuseum.org Fan Appreciation Day with free movies July 12 The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org American Idol Live!

July 13 Durham Performing Arts Center www.DPACnc.com/CoolSummerNights Marc Cohn July 13 | 8pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040, ext. 224 aaron@carolinatheatre.org

And So It Goes July 9 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

Make Art, Not Waste Bohemian Bash July 17 | 6-9:30pm Cypress Manor | Cary www.bohemianbash.com

Paint & Sip Art Class – Ocean Scene July 10 | 6:30-9pm Kidz Celebrate | Raleigh www.kidzcelebrate.com

The Milk Carton Kids July 17 | 8pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040, ext. 224 aaron@carolinatheatre.org

Oak City 7 (OC7) July 10, 24 & August 7, 21 | 5-10:30pm Raleigh City Plaza | Downtown Raleigh www.raleighcityplaza.com

Pickin’ in the Plaza July 17, 31 & August 14, 28 | 5-10:30pm Raleigh City Plaza | Downtown Raleigh www.raleighcityplaza.com

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Second Chance Pet Adoptions 14th Annual Auction for the Animals July 18 | 7-11pm Prestonwood Country Club | Cary www.AuctionForTheAnimals.com

A DOLL CAMP FOR AMERICAN GIRLS – Parties Galore July 28-August 1 | 9am-1pm M-F The Historic Polk House | Raleigh polkhouse2@bellsouth.net

MOVIES BY MOONLIGHT: THE HUNGER GAMES: CATCHING FIRE July 18 Koka Booth Amphitheatre www.boothamphitheatre.com

Whatever Happened to Baby Jane? & Mildred Pierce August 1 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

Kidz Night Out – Madagascar July 19 | 6-10pm Kidz Celebrate | Raleigh www.kidzcelebrate.com Procol Harum July 19 | 8pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040, ext. 224 aaron@carolinatheatre.org

MOVIES BY MOONLIGHT: DESPICABLE ME 2 August 8 Koka Booth Amphitheatre www.boothamphitheatre.com Club Carolina with Rich Robinson August 8 | 8pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040, ext. 224 aaron@carolinatheatre.org

Victor/Victoria & What’s Up Doc? August 19 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org Mommie Dearest & The Women August 20 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

A DOLL CAMP FOR AMERICAN GIRLS – Dolls and Their Accessories July 21-25 | 9am-1pm M-F The Historic Polk House | Raleigh polkhouse2@bellsouth.net

Grease & All That Jazz August 8 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

Paint & Sip Art Class – Jelly Fish July 24 | 6:30-9pm Kidz Celebrate | Raleigh www.kidzcelebrate.com

Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons August 9 Durham Performing Arts Center www.DPACnc.com/CoolSummerNights

Priscilla, Queen of the Desert & Polyester August 21 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

Return to Oz & Something Wicked This Way Comes July 25 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

Pat Metheny August 9 | 8pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040, ext. 224 aaron@carolinatheatre.org

MOVIES BY MOONLIGHT: GREASE Sing-A-Long August 23 Koka Booth Amphitheatre www.boothamphitheatre.com

MOVIES BY MOONLIGHT: CAPTAIN PHILLIPS August 9 Koka Booth Amphitheatre www.boothamphitheatre.com

NEEDTOBREATHE August 24 Durham Performing Arts Center www.DPACnc.com/CoolSummerNights

North Carolina Gay & Lesbian Film Festival August 15-24 | Various times The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

Lyle Lovett & His Large Band August 27 Durham Performing Arts Center www.DPACnc.com/CoolSummerNights

Cary Gallery of Artists RECEPTION July 25 | 6-9pm Show runs through August 26 Cary Gallery of Artists | Ashworth Village 200 S. Academy St. | Suite 120 | Cary www.caryqalleryofartists.org | 919.235.2035 MOVIES BY MOONLIGHT: NOW YOU SEE ME July 25 Koka Booth Amphitheatre www.boothamphitheatre.com “Coffee with the Artists” July 26 | 11am-Noon Cary Gallery of Artists | Ashworth Village 200 S. Academy St. | Suite 120 | Cary www.caryqalleryofartists.org | 919.235.2035 Paint Along Art Class – Pink Flamingo July 26 | 10am-Noon Kidz Celebrate | Raleigh www.kidzcelebrate.com

3 Doors Down Acoustic August 17 Durham Performing Arts Center www.DPACnc.com/CoolSummerNights Fried Green Tomatoes & Legend of Billie Jean August 18 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

The Lost Boys & The Witches of Eastwick August 29 | 7pm The Carolina Theatre | Durham 919.560.3040 ext. 232 jim@carolinatheatre.org

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BALL After reaching the peak of pro soccer, Cary’s Zack Schilawski is making his mark with his hometown RailHawks

By Kurt Dusterberg

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and soon he landed another opportunity.

Leaving MLS and coming to the North American Soccer League meant a step down to Division II pro soccer, but Schilawski made the adjustment quickly.

“It was tough at first, but I had a lot of close friends who were playing for the team here,” he says. “It’s been the best thing for me. In a different way, it’s ended up being very fulfilling and enjoyable.”

This season, Schilawski started fast with the RailHawks, scoring three goals in Carolina’s first three games. Now in his third season with the RailHawks, he knows the benefits of playing in Cary go far beyond the cheers of the crowd.

“You pour so much energy and focus into the game, and sometimes things don’t go your way,” he says. “Instead of letting those frustrations get to you, it’s nice to have a network of people who can get your mind off of it.

“I struggled with that a little bit in Boston, being away, missing family trips and weekends. I have an older brother who has a daughter, and I get to see her way more now.”

If it seems like Schilawski has a good head on his shoulders, it would make sense given his academic smarts. His mother and father both taught at Cary High School. When it is mentioned that he finished second in his high school class, he hedges just a little, unsure if he finished number two.

“Let’s go with third,” he says with a smile. “I don’t want to get an email from the guy who was second.”

Regardless, it’s another way that Schilawski has made the most of his skills.

Photograph © New England Revolution

In the spread-out world of professional soccer, where players span the globe to find a team, it’s pretty remarkable that Cary native Zack Schilawski has a home with the Carolina RailHawks.

“I like playing in front of my parents and my older brother,” Schilawski says.

“I’ve got a lot of roots here. All my grandparents, aunts and uncles live in the Cary and Raleigh area and love to watch me play.

It’s great to talk to them after the game and know they’re supporting me.”

Schilawski, a 27-year-old striker, enjoys all the comforts of home as the RailHawks make their way through the season playing at WakeMed Soccer Park in Cary. As if knowing the lay of the land weren’t enough of a perk, he had already achieved a once-in-a-lifetime moment on his home field. Playing for Wake Forest in 2007, he scored with 13 minutes remaining to defeat Ohio State in the NCAA College Cup Championship.

“That’s a big memory that sticks out in my entire soccer career, winning the national championship,” he says. “We were a really close team and a really good team.

Every time I step on this field, it certainly crosses my mind.”

If Schilawksi’s cozy hometown gig seems too good to be true, well, there is a bit of a disheartening back story.

After a standout career with the Demon Deacons, Schilawski was selected ninth overall in 2009 by the New England Revolution of Major League Soccer (MLS), the top professional league in North America. In his home debut in Boston, he scored a hat trick.

“I’m certainly very proud of it,” he says, reflecting on his three-goal performance against Toronto FC. “I earned every minute I got up there. I was one of the more consistent players on our team.”

For a while, it was a dream life.

“I grew up in Cary and lived here my whole life, so if nothing else, it was a great experience to get out and live in a different city and see different things,” he says.

“But the team was young and didn’t have a lot of success.”

After a little more than two seasons, Schilawski was released by the Revolution.

“You get acclimated to the business right away. If you’re not winning games, a lot of new faces start showing up. We got a new coach and he pretty much cleaned house. I wasn’t part of his plans.”

But Schilawski kept in touch with RailHawks assistant coach Dewan Bader,

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(above) Schilawski, who grew up in Cary, controls the ball for the Railhawks. (left) Schilawski was selected in the first round of the Major League Soccer draft by the New England Revolution.

“I have to give 100 percent credit to my parents,” he says, noting that his father taught English, while his mother taught math. “They demanded that I be well rounded. If I’m doing something, I do it to the best of my ability, no matter what it is.”

Those classroom smarts quickly translated on the high school soccer field.

“He was, by far, the smartest player I ever coached,” says Mike Dunphy, his coach at Cary High School. “He was always taking snapshots with his eyes. He wasn’t the fastest player on the field, but he was so creative, so dangerous.”

At Wake Forest, he earned a degree in biology. He’s not sure how that will play into his future, but that’s fine. There’s still plenty of soccer left to play, whether it’s in front of his friends and family, or there’s another adventure in Major League Soccer down the road.

“If it was in the cards and I got the right opportunity, I would consider going back.

I loved every second of it. I wish it had gone longer. But I was able to make my mark in some small way and put my name in the history books. Just as a fan of the game, it was really cool just to be a part of that league.”

Even now, Schilawski gets an occasional taste of MLS soccer. The RailHawks have posted three wins against MLS competition in the US Open Cup over the past two seasons. If he can’t join ‘em, he can beat ‘em.

“Those are the memories that will be special when I’m done,” Schilawski says.

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For Carolina RailHawks players,

growing the game matters The Carolina RailHawks are in the midst of their eighth year of existence, in some ways firmly entrenched in the Triangle sports landscape.

And yet, every so often, you will hear someone say with surprise, “I didn’t know we had a pro soccer team here.”

Such is the state of soccer in the United States. To those who play or follow the game, the RailHawks are a fixture, playing at WakeMed Soccer Park in Cary.

“I really believe in this area as a soccer hotbed,” says RailHawks striker Zack Schilawski, who played at Cary High School and Wake Forest University. “I just think it gets overlooked a bit. It’s an area that’s going to keep growing.”

The RailHawks play in North American Soccer League (NASL), the Division II of the United States professional soccer hierarchy. To use a baseball analogy, the NASL is the AAA of American soccer. As such, the RailHawks must do more to market the team than release a schedule and wait for the fans to flow through the turnstiles.

The way they make that mark on the community is unique among professional sports. The RailHawks are partnered with the Capital Area Soccer League (CASL), operating the elite level of their soccer programs. Several of the RailHawks players serve as coaches.

“The coaching that kids are getting now at nine and 10 years old is far advanced from what I was getting at that age,” says Austen King, who played CASL soccer growing up and now coaches U9 and U10 teams. “You’ve got guys on the team here and guys that played in Europe and MLS who are coaching these kids, as opposed to parents, who coached me. You’re exposed to the finer points of the game earlier. It’s amazing to watch some of these kids play. They’re phenomenal.”

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Photograph © Carolina Railhawks

The connection between the kids and the pro athletes is beneficial to both. Although there is no salary cap in the NASL, most players earn between $15,000 and $30,000 per year, sometimes with housing provided. Still, it’s a modest living.

Kupono Low has played for the RailHawks since their inception, scoring the team’s first goal on opening night in 2007. As a coach, he is a well-known figure among local kids.

“It’s something I did when I was in college,” Low says.

“I would be an assistant at junior college. Then I would do personal training. Toward the off season, there are players who will need some extra income. You can’t have a full-time job, and coaching is a seasonal job.”

Cesar Elizondo played for the Costa Rican national team before coming to Carolina.

While youth soccer now has a foothold all over the country, professional soccer in North America is still trying to win widespread appeal. Players in MLS make six-figure salaries, with an allowance for larger contracts that do not count against the league’s salary cap. If nothing else, the gap in pay between the two leagues suggests that the RailHawks and their brethren around the NASL bring a special humility to their job.

“The truth of the matter here in the United States is, unless you’re a designated player for a MLS team, you’re not making enough to survive for the rest of your life,” King says. “These guys are here because they love to play and they have aspirations of playing at a higher level.

Naturally, you want to give that love back.”’

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Photograph © Carolina Railhawks Kupono Low has been with the Railhawks since the franchise began playing in 2007.

Landing any spot on a professional team is a difficult endeavor. There are elite players and professional leagues all over the world.

For every player like Low who has found a long-term home with Carolina, there are many more like Cesar Elizondo, a secondyear attacker for the RailHawks. A former

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Costa Rican national team player, Elizondo was playing professionally in Thailand when he placed a call to RailHawks coach Colin Clarke, looking for a better opportunity.

He didn’t get rich coming to the United States, but he found a way to stay in the game.

“We are always looking for the same thing

as the football players and basketball players,” Elizondo says. “Sometimes, it’s not the year for you to make some money, but you have to work hard to try to find it. If it’s not here, it might be somewhere else. You have to work and train as hard as you can.”

The low pay and the instability of finding work are obvious drawbacks in the professional game, but somehow the soccer community turns that into a positive. It’s an obvious benefit for youth soccer that kids are being coached by the best players in the world. But the favor is returned when the kids support the RailHawks – and help the professionals keep their soccer dreams alive.

“We get a lot of support here from the local clubs,” Austen says. “Most of our guys have reached the point where they realize they have a larger role to play. We have a community to be thinking about. We’re ambassadors for the game locally, and we have to develop those relationships.”

And maybe add a few more memories along the way – the kind that money can’t buy.

“All these guys would play this game for the rest of their lives if they could,” Austen says. “I certainly would. You want to get the best out of what you’re given.”

DIY

By christa gala & stacy cathey

This one’s for the birds You’ll need:

With summer in full swing, there’s nothing better than sharing your outdoor space with a little wildlife (okay, some wildlife).

We love looking out our windows to see finches, cardinals, blue jays and sparrows stopping in for a bite or a drink, so we came up with a charming bird bath or feeder to invite these feathered friends to hang out for a while. This bird bath took about 30 minutes to make and cost about $35.

YOU’LL NEED: • Vine wreath • Terra cotta or clay saucer • Jute string You’ll find these vine wreaths all over, including craft stores, for between $15 and $20. Next we bought our “base,” a 12-inch painted clay saucer (the dish that goes underneath the big flower pot), for $13, but you can likely find an unpainted saucer for less.

You want your saucer to fit securely on top of the wreath, so take the wreath with you when buying the saucer.

We embellished the rim of our saucer with flat stones in blues and greens (found at a dollar store), securing them with superglue.

Next, take your jute string (found at craft stores) and cut four pieces, about one yard each. Take all four strands and tie a knot about two inches down. Fold the top strings over to form a loop and knot the strings again over the first knot. You should have a loop or a hanger for your bird bath.

• Beads/stones (optional) • Superglue

Go ahead and hang your loop on something sturdy, preferably where you’d like to display the bird bath.

If you want to add beads to the strands (optional), now is the time to do it. Thread a few beads on each strand, tying a small knot underneath the beads to keep them from moving around.

Take one of the four strings hanging from your loop, and tie it to a strong, thick vine in the wreath. Take a second string and secure on the opposite side. The last two strings will be secured in the same fashion. Think of your wreath as a clock face. You’ll want to tie each string at the “15 minute” quadrants, steadying the wreath by eye and hand until it’s hanging the way you want it.

Place your decorated saucer in the center of the wreath. The saucer can either rest on the top of the wreath or fit snugly inside the center. Fill with water or bird seed. Bon Appétit, bird friends!

>>Email us at jennifer@caryliving.com with your DIY suggestion.

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Tomatoes, Corn & Summer Welcome to the great state of North Carolina, where fresh local produce is abundant and each season brings new tasty treats to tantalize your taste buds! One of our favorite pairings is fresh North Carolina corn cut right off the cob and juicy colorful tomatoes, which not only taste delicious together, but create a natural color ‘POP’ that is a feast for your eyes and your tummy!

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Watermelon, Fresh Corn and Tomato Salad Serves 8 Ingredients 3 cups Watermelon, diced 1 cup Yellow grape tomatoes, cut in half or quarters 1 cup Red grape tomatoes, cut in half or quarters 2 cups Cooked fresh corn, cut off cob 1 cup Red grapes, cut in half 2 Radishes, sliced 1 Cucumber, sliced 1/2 cup Red onions, sliced 1/2 cup Crumbled feta cheese 1/4 cup Pistachios

Balsamic brown sugar reduction

(*See recipe below) Directions Decoratively arrange watermelon, tomatoes, corn, grapes, radishes, cucumbers, red onion, feta and pistachio on a plate. Drizzle with balsamic brown sugar reduction and serve.

Balsamic Brown Sugar Reduction Ingredients 1 cup Balsamic vinegar 1/4 cup Brown sugar Directions In a small pot add balsamic vinegar and brown sugar. Bring to a boil over medium-high heat then reduce to simmer and cook until liquid is thick, about 4-5 minutes.

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Macho Gazpacho with Fresh Corn 8 servings Ingredients 6 cups V8 juice 1 tsp Garlic 2 oz Crusty whole wheat bread, cut into small chunks 3 Tbsp Red wine vinegar 3 Tbsp Balsamic vinegar 1 tsp Ground cumin 2 Tbsp Fresh basil 1/4 cup Cilantro Directions Mix all ingredients together using a hand blender; set aside.

Ingredients 1 cup Tomato 1 Cucumber 1 Red pepper 1 Green pepper 1 cup Celery 1 Ripe mango 1 Large apple 2 cups Fresh corn

Salt and pepper Directions Cut all of your produce into a small dice and add it to the V8 mixture, served and enjoy!

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Pan Seared Salmon with Succotash Serves 4 Ingredients 4 (6 oz) Fillets of salmon 2 Tbsp Olive oil 4 cups Arugula

Ground black pepper Salt For the Succotash 2 Thick slices of bacon, finely diced 2 cups Fresh green peas 1/2 cup Red onions, finely diced 1 pint Grape tomatoes, cut in half or quarters 3 ears Fresh cooked corn, cut off cob Directions In a deep skillet, add the bacon and cook over medium heat until browned. Add the peas, red onion, grape tomatoes and corn. Toss in skillet and remove from heat. Place in a bowl and set aside. Wipe out skillet and place over medium heat for 3 minutes. Coat salmon with olive oil and season with salt and pepper. Place in skillet and increase heat to high. Cook for 3 minutes. Turn salmon over and cook for 5 minutes, or until browned. Salmon is done when it flakes easily with a fork. Place a handful of arugula on each plate. Transfer salmon atop arugula, and garnish with succotash.

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Cheffed Up Caprese Salad Serves 4 Ingredients 6 Fresh tomatoes 8 oz Fresh mozzarella Fresh Whole basil leaves Directions Cut the tomato into quarters. Place 2 wooden skewers on each side of the tomato and slice the tomato in an angled V cut toward the center until the knife hits the skewers. Turn the tomato and repeat on the other side.

Remove the wedge and repeat 3 or 4 times. Place the wedges back together, then slide to form a wing.

To Build Arrange the tomato wings on a plate.

Place the mozzarella in the center of the tomato wings. Arrange the basil leaves on top and serve! (*TIP: You can drizzle with a balsamic reduction if desired.)

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Susan Orenstein’s 15-year-old son is a big fan of the Noodles restaurant. Huge supporter. He asks to go at least once a week. One night as they sat across the table from each other and ate … well … noodles, her inner psychologist made an emotional check-in. She asked him if they spent enough time together.

He paused. And then answered, “yes … and maybe even too much.”

It’s a moment she remembers with clarity.

Was it a revelation? Maybe not. Today’s mothers spend more than four times the amount of playtime (or “quality time”) with their children than mothers did a generation ago. The numbers for dads are rising, too.

“Our parents didn’t play with us,” laughs Orenstein about her own childhood.

For the most part, it’s probably true. A 2010 study

by Dr. Oriel Sullivan found that in 1975 moms spent, on average, between eight and 21 minutes a day actively playing with their children. Compare that to mothers from 2000, who spent an average of 51-86 minutes a day playing with their children.

Think about today’s 2014 mom. She dutifully plans and partakes in a family bike ride on a greenway. Helmets?

Check. Reusable (and sometimes monogrammed) water bottles? Check. Smart phone to record part of the little adventure and send it to grandpa? Check.

The 1975 bike outing, on the other hand, was probably mom and dad inside the house reading while the kiddos rode their bikes through the neighborhood.

Wild abandon? Check.

Before setting down this magazine and hunting for the editor’s email address, please know: we aren’t discouraging parents from playing with their children.

No one is suggesting that you didn’t enjoy a round of Crazy 8s with your mom and dad. And 1975 mommy with her 14-minute daily average? No judgments here.

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There’s just this icky thing out there called mommy (and sometimes daddy) guilt and Orenstein, a licensed psychologist at Orenstein Solutions in Cary, says it’s fairly common. Not everyone has guilt about not spending enough time with his or her children. But, for those who do, it can be a real concern.

For some, mommy guilt may be a result of dual-career families and a focus on parentbaby attachment (think baby slings and cosleeping.) These two movements happened around the same time, Orenstein says, and left a lasting impression on many people.

While dads certainly aren’t exempt from guilt, it’s more common for mothers to feel guilty, she adds. Maybe it’s because of pregnancy and those early, biological connections. Or maybe it’s because people rarely ask men if they are going back to work full-time after a baby is born.

“The good news is people are more aware of children’s needs today,” Orenstein says.

“The bad news is that there are mixed loyalties such as careers, families and marriage … and there’s this tension of ‘how do we do it all?’”

Nurturing children is a wonderful

intention, she says. But sometimes the pressure to be a good parent can cause unintentional consequences such as neglecting oneself or partner.

“We were excited about our pregnancy, but also very naive about how much our lives were about to change,” new mom Abby Hudson remembers.

She and her husband, Ted, talked about making an effort to make time for each other after their daughter Ellie was born. Three months after her arrival they took their first date night.

“I remember this one! We went out for dinner and drinks … the whole time we felt like something huge was missing,” Hudson says.

There were days when she would drive from Raleigh to her job teaching fourth grade in Chapel Hill and spend 30 minutes in the car crying that she was away from her daughter.

“I was so worried about missing out on some of Ellie’s ‘firsts’ … [but] it was important to remind myself that what I was doing was for the good of my family,” she says.

“After a while it got easier.”

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Abby Hudson and her husband, Ted, enjoy family time with their daughter Ellie. To keep their marriage healthy, however, they arrange time for date nights and vacations as a couple. Do they feel guilty? “Honestly ... no,” she says. “We spend so much time together during the week and during the days on weekends that one night a month for just the two of us doesn’t make me feel guilty.”

More than a year later, there’s not much room for guilt. Hudson and her husband even took a trip to San Francisco together. “I think it’s healthy to remind yourself what life was like when it was just you two. It keeps things fresh,” she says. “I will say, though, when we were in the airport waiting to come home, we sat in silence for about an hour and looked at pictures and videos of Ellie.”

Hudson adds that her “therapy” happens when she visits with friends who are going through similar stages of life. Sometimes all it takes to shed any possible guilt is a good conversation with a friend, or finding the right group to belong to or blog to read online.

But not everyone has reached the point of non-guilt. Orenstein says it’s not uncommon for parents to focus so much on their children that they lose themselves or their marriage.

“I hear that all the time,” she says.

“I think people think, ‘I can put that [marital relationship] on hold and he’ll still be there or she’ll still be there [after the kids get older.]’ But that’s really not true.”

When guilt is causing one partner to focus too much on the children, there are often warning signs that a marriage is suffering. Orenstein says there may be a problem if a spouse is …

Snappy or sarcastic toward partner Often silent Frequently engaging in activities that don’t involve partner No longer trying to connect Checking out Overreacting to seemingly small things

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Dr. Susan Orenstein says not all guilt is bad. Rather, there’s rational (or healthy) guilt and irrational (or unhealthy) guilt. Away on business 20 days a month? That’s rational guilt. Feeling guilty because you brought a prepared grocery store veggie tray to the party, when someone else turned celery, cucumbers, tomatoes, spinach and carrots into a veritable floral garden scene via Pinterest? Yeah, that’s unhealthy guilt.

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Here’s how to handle the

U NHEA L T H Y STUFF Make time for yourself Make time for your spouse. It’s okay to miss one of your child’s activities in favor of date night or even a quiet walk.

Re-frame Instead of feeling guilty about the mini-vacation with your spouse, realize it’s good for your kids to see an affectionate marriage. Instead of feeling guilty that you missed the bedtime routine, remember it’s important for your kids to know they have a parent who goes to the gym because it’s a healthy habit.

Don’t compare This is one Orenstein feels strongly about. “It’s always a trap to compare yourself to other parents,” she says. “We really never know what people are going through.”

Give others the benefit of the doubt In a way, this is the opposite of comparing oneself to someone he or she envies. “Don’t compare up or down,” Orenstein says.

“But see that everyone has struggles. Genuine concern for someone is okay of course … practice compassion.”

“It’s hard to make sense of how something little turns into something big,” she says. “Something else is going on if there’s overreaction.”

In the end, it’s important to notice what aspect of life is suffering and be ready to do something about it. “We’re so attuned to our kids and all the dangers out there,” Orenstein says. “It’s important to make sure we have time for ourselves, our partners and our children. Think of it like a three-legged stool. If one of the legs is broken, it can’t stand.” caryliving.com | 55

PEOPLE You Should Know

Fifty years and counting After 50 years in the classroom, Cary High School English teacher Jo Ann Hines Duncan, “The Duncanator” to her students, weighs in on kids today and the joys of teaching.

By CHRISTA GALA When Jo Ann Hines Duncan first started teaching in 1964 in Hampstead, NC, she was hired as an English teacher, but taught a variety of subjects.

“In the early years of my career, teachers had to fill in where there was a need,” says Duncan. “As a double major in English and history, I began teaching English, civics, US History and World History. I even taught one French II class. My Southern drawl did not work well with French.”

A surprise and honor Duncan was recently presented with the prestigious Order of the Long Leaf Pine

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award, a recognition by the governor as a North Carolinian with a proven record of extraordinary service to the state. The award was presented by NC Senator Tamara Barringer in May at the beginning of the Senior Night ceremony at Cary High School.

“I think this venue was chosen because I have been a senior class sponsor for over 30 years, so because it was a surprise, everyone knew I would be there working with the seniors before the ceremony,” says Duncan.

Bolstering other teachers Duncan has a definite pattern of helping

others during her career. She has taught Teacher Apprenticeship at Cary High since 1994 in an effort to encourage high school seniors to choose teaching as a career, designing the course in partnership with NC State University.

For eight years, she was a visiting instructor at the university, teaching a sophomore level class for students entering Teacher Education. And for the past 25 years, she’s been a Mentor Trainer for the Wake County Public School System.

The teaching profession is often ripe with stories of professional burnout, but Duncan is still going strong.

“I am sustained by the energy that dominates the total school environment,” she says. “No day is the same, and there is always something happening. The students keep me entertained; they keep me engaged in being the best I can be; they keep me feeling that I’m making a difference in at least some of their lives.”

Having fun Speaking of the students, Duncan finds their motivations haven’t changed much. Most seek peer approval and thrive with praise and affirmation. They want someone in their lives who cares about them, and they thrive on stability even though they often fight against it, pushing the limits.

“The Duncanator” is a name given affectionately by her students; one of Duncan’s teaching rules is to have fun in the classroom.

“Laugh together and often,” Duncan says. “And I keep the expectations high.

I tell students all the time, ‘If it were easy, we wouldn’t do it.’ Our task is to move forward, not to stand still and take the easy way out.”

Another Duncanator-ism: ‘Hang with me, and I will make you smart.’ Duncan is a big proponent of practicing and learning by doing, so her students do a lot of writing, a subject with which some struggle. Then, new paragraph after “published.

“I share with them that writing is difficult for me and for most writers,” says Duncan. “I share stories from writers whom we read who speak of the amount of time, hard work and struggles they face before a manuscript is published.

Most of all, however, I try to lead them to ownership of their work,” Duncan continues. “I praise efforts and growth along the way. I work with them one-on-one to get them over hurdles, and I try to give authentic evaluations so they will seek and trust my judgment.”

‘Carrying the mantle’ Duncan credits her colleagues with giving her a common collective of what the classroom experience needs to be.

“They have inspired me to think about teaching not as a job, but as my mission,” she says. “I have been fortunate in that I have had among my models and mentors the very best. I can’t let them down. I have to carry the mantle for all of them, for those who will come after me and for all the young people I have taught and continue to teach.”

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men’s life and style I s I t Ti m e T o Get Unstuck?

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Perhaps you had a vague inkling this was true, but now there is proof: In a 2013 study commissioned by a British healthcare organization, men admit to giving up on their appearance and general fitness at around age 46, a full 13 years before women. Married men even confessed to losing interest in looking good about 26 months after the wedding.

The men surveyed said they simply preferred comfort over style and had an increasing reluctance to keep up with anything trendy.

Cary Living consulted with local fashion stylist Suzanne Libfraind for some insight into these statistics and strategies to overcome them.

Cary Living: You have worked as a stylist for 20-plus years. In what ways do men differ from the women you have worked with?

Libfraind: Women tend to be more reflective. They will read an article and take away something they can apply to their lives. Unless a man sees a need, he will read the article just for the information or entertainment.

Men are clearly able to make informed choices and to transition through all the various phases of their lives, from college to jobs to dating, but when it comes to wardrobe choices and style, those things are typically a lower priority for them. The male clients I’ve worked with have often hesitated because they just weren’t motivated to change, or they felt constrained by their budget. Another difference I see is women really embrace the process.

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Cary Living: What are the biggest style challenges for men over 40?

Libfraind: There are exceptions of course, but a lot of men don’t see wardrobe as a continuous process. If they’re married, they’ve often had spouses do the shopping for them. They receive staples as holiday or birthday presents, and they might fill in gaps as needed, but they can become very complacent in their routine. I have clients whose priorities change only when they’ve experienced a significant loss, like the death of a spouse, or a major life change such as a career move or a dramatic weight loss or gain.

Quick Fixes • • • • • •

Consider wearing colors you have never worn before.

Splurge on new frames. Updated eyewear or sunglasses can instantly give a man a more youthful and vibrant appearance.

Choose a new belt with a textured finish or interesting buckle.

Treat yourself to sharp-looking footwear. Make sure you have a weekend loafer, or opt for a casual lace-up vs. the same old sneakers.

Whether formal or informal, invest in a classy watch.

Men have fewer opportunities to accessorize than women; a handsome watch is a must-have.

Find a signature cologne that lifts your mood, and don’t limit it to special occasions. Every day is a special occasion!

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You can’t go wrong with classics. Today’s seersucker is the ultimate classic, especially in the South, but today’s designers have adapted the fabric and cut to be more modern.

Invest in a classic blazer with double vents. Important: remove the threaded tacks from the back of blazers and jackets, and carefully remove outer sleeve labels from suits. Yes, I’ve seen these left in place out in public – off the rack doesn’t mean immediately ready to wear!

Choose a flat front or single pleat in trousers for a more stylish silhouette.

Don’t borrow your son’s clothing. If you’re over 40, tight, low-rise jeans should be avoided. Trying too hard is almost as bad as not trying at all.

Avoid colors that make you look flat or sallow.

For most complexions, that includes mint green, ecru, pale yellows, melon and gray.

Don’t get stuck in a rut. Ask your barber or stylist for an updated haircut.

Care for your skin. For men, that includes daily cleansing, moisturizing and sunscreen.

Men – Ask Yourself These Questions • • • • • •

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Does your wife or partner frequently ask you to purge old, tattered, torn or stained clothing?

Do you wear the same few pants and shirts week after week?

Take a close look at your collars and pants hems – are any of them frayed?

Are the soles of your shoes worn through, or are the tips worn or discolored?

Has it been longer than five years since you replaced your socks and underwear?

Has it been so long since your last wardrobe purchase that you have no memory of it at all?

If you answered yes to two or more questions, it may be time for a wardrobe reboot!

“The majority of men I work with are most receptive when the process is goal-oriented and efficient. Instead of shopping all over town, I take them to one or two places where I’ve done my homework ahead of time and have coordinated garments pulled and ready and waiting for them.”

- Suzanne Libfraind, Wardrobe Consulting

Cary Living: How do men’s lives change for the better when they make healthier lifestyle choices and more informed style and wardrobe choices?

Libfraind: We all make daily choices that can, over time, impact the security and success of our jobs, our friendships, and even our marriages. When one spouse is paying attention to diet and exercise and is making an effort to remain physically attractive, it can actually cause friction in an unhealthy marriage. I think a lot depends on how we communicate. When a spouse is encouraging, patient and positive, the message is always easier to absorb.

I see it with my clients all the time. One of the most caring things you can say in an intimate relationship is “I want to grow old with you.” When that’s the reason you’d like your partner to eat healthy or be more active, the conversation is coming from a loving place. Each spouse can be independent and have their own interests and hobbies, but ideally, in the best of marriages, you do have shared priorities. Looking and feeling your best is a goal that married couples can work on together. When it comes to career and other lifestyle factors, I find that men who have taken the time and effort to build a wardrobe for their many activities save time and experience less stress in their daily lives. They feel more relaxed when a calendar item pops up, because they know that whether it’s a dinner date with another couple, a neighborhood barbecue or a Sunday graduation brunch, their closet is already stocked with just the right pieces. A casual Friday at work doesn’t find them in tattered shorts and t-shirts, and that translates to more confidence and a better reception among both coworkers and superiors.

Suzanne Libfraind is the owner of Wardrobe Consulting, a Raleigh-based firm that offers fashion expertise throughout the state. For more information, visit www.wardrobeconsulting.biz. caryliving.com | 61

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Six Tips

You may be focused on getting in shape at the gym, but take a break this fall and spend some time on your financial fitness.

Here are six tips to help get your investment portfolio into prime condition.

For Achieving Financial Fitness

1. Shed the weight of extra accounts.

It’s not unusual to acquire multiple retirement accounts over the years, especially if you’ve changed jobs several times. Consider consolidating them to simplify the management of your investments. If you have retirement assets with a former employer, it could be to your advantage to roll them over to

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your own IRA and achieve more control over how your money is invested. Consolidating accounts may also make it easier to monitor the performance of your investments and gives you the opportunity to ensure they’re properly allocated.

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2. Bulk up your retirement savings.

Have you given enough weight to what you’ll need in savings to retire comfortably? Are you taking full advantage of employer matching contributions and maxing out your IRA each year? In 2014, you have until April 15th to contribute $5,500 (or $6,500 if you’re over 50) to a traditional IRA. Sock away as much as you can to build your retirement nest egg.

3. Grow stronger.

The fluctuating financial markets impact industries and individual investments differently, and often in ways that are difficult to predict. You can strengthen your portfolio by making sure your investment dollars are spread across a variety of investments. With diversified investments, your overall portfolio is not as likely to be derailed should one investment topple in value. Rather than trying to pick individual stocks and time the market, consider pacing yourself with systematic investments and think long-term.

4. Achieve the right balance.

In light of the fickle nature of financial markets, even a wellbalanced portfolio can look different than what you may have expected over time. Therefore, it’s wise to periodically assess the volatility of your investments across and within asset classes (stocks, bonds and so forth) and rebalance your portfolio to achieve the desired asset allocation. A financial advisor can help you apply asset allocation strategies, and may have access to tools that will help you decide what may be a good match for your risk tolerance and goals (see tip #6).

5. Trim your waste.

The Internet has made it easy to securely monitor your financial affairs while also helping to minimize paper waste.

Question every printed piece you receive related to your portfolio. Is it absolutely essential to receive a paper statement? Do you really need to print that 100-page prospectus?

Review the options provided by your financial institution and take advantage of their green initiatives if you’re comfortable managing your accounts online. With regard to your personal paper trail, keep in mind that your tax records and supporting documents should be maintained for seven years, while credit card statements can be tossed after a year. When disposing of documents, always use a shredder to keep your personal information safe from identity theft. Follow this advice, and your file cabinet will be slimmer in no time.

6. Enlist a personal trainer for your finances.

Like many activities, managing investments is more fun – and potentially more productive – when you have a knowledgeable person by your side. A skilled financial advisor can guide you through simple exercises to help improve your investment fitness and cheer you on in pursuit of your financial dreams and goals. Together you can apply disciplined strategies designed to strengthen your investment portfolio and help you get in the best financial shape of your life. caryliving.com | 63

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FARMFRESHGIFTS Angelina’s Kitchen Angelina’s Kitchen is a family owned and operated restaurant located in Pittsboro, Chatham County.

We currently offer a small sit-down restaurant as well as a full line of prepared packaged food that we distribute at area farmers markets and at our shop. Our mission is to provide healthy whole foods made with as much small sustainable farm ingredients as possible at affordable prices. Our meals highlight local, seasonal ingredients providing nutrient-dense food to our customers. We are fortunate to be located in the midst of so many small sustainable farms and take every opportunity to support these farms!

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Start your Saturday morning shaking hands with our farmers and vendors who bring you local, healthy, fresh products each week, rain or shine.

Double T Farm Double T Farm started 17 years ago when, Tom Kumpf took over his parents garden with the goal of one day having his own farm. After 13 years in the classroom as a middle and high school Social Studies teacher, Double T Farm became a full-time reality thanks to their dedicated CSA customers and burgeoning locavore movement. Tom is a dedicated organic grower who always looks at nature as providing the answers rather than trying to bend it to his will. With a laser-like focus on soil and plant health, our mission is to provide food that is fresher and more nutritious than anything else you can buy. We believe that healthier soil leads to healthier people and communities. Your health is your greatest wealth!

Kalawi Farm Kalawi Farm is in Eagle Springs and has been growing peaches in the Sandhills for more than 20 years. Peach season begins in May every year and can last through early September. We have many different varieties, each of which have different ripening dates and are only available for seven to ten days while at peak ripeness.

We will have peaches and homemade peach ice cream (YUM!) every Saturday at the market, and every day at the stand on the farm, through the end of August.

Fiddlehead Pottery Trish Welsh of Fiddlehead Pottery has been selling pots at several farmers markets for the last four years and is on her second season as a regular vendor at Western Wake Farmer’s Market. She enjoys making products for the market such as berry bowls, honey pots, salad bowls, coffee mugs, vases, pitchers and cheese trays. She also sells a variety of functional and decorative pottery items for the home, table and garden decorated in earth-toned glazes with botanical themes. Custom items for weddings, showers, teachers gifts and anniversaries are also available.

The Farm Fairy Ten years ago The Farm Fairy was born as a way to live a simple life eating fresh, healthy food that we would produce.

Besides the bees, the garden and the bread, we started making artisan aged cheeses in summer 2013 and this is how Piemonte Cheese was born. Our cheeses are made using raw milk, so a process of aging for at least 60 days is a must. We age our cheese in the cheese cave we built in our backyard. The whole process involves time and patience, stirring, cutting, shaping and aging, hand washing and turning…those are ancient techniques where the word handmade takes a real meaning.

Open Year-Round | (December - March) 9:30am-Noon | (April - November) 8am-Noon Please check www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org for weekly guest educators and musicians.

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Look, Listen and Feel…

A guide to managing your hand pain

by Chet Deshmukh, MBA, OTR/L, OT(C), CPC, CHDA | TherAccess, PLLC

Did you know that the “bumps on your hand”, the “clicks and pops” and “tingling or tightness” can be a sign of arthritis, ligament injury or nerve compression?

We subject our hands to a lot of stress and strain each day, and yet, it is a miracle that we don’t injure ourselves every time we cook, play or work. Over a period of time these sudden and/or repetitive forces can damage the delicate structures in our hands.

Second only to our facial expressions, our hands support our ability to communicate with others. We use our hands for sign language or to play musical instruments.

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surgical procedures that continue to carry the risk of secondary complications.

For those with such hand injuries, this article can provide a guide for understanding the benefits of occupational therapy – both as an effective alternative to hand surgery, and a key component in recovering from surgery.

Who Is a Candidate for Therapy Rather Than Surgery?

The decision to employ therapy or seek surgery is generally determined by clinical evaluations by your therapist and your physician. When we suffer a traumatic injury that results in damage to bones, blood vessels, nerves or severe trauma to tendons, the only way to address the problem is through surgical intervention. However, surgery can fix only the physical damage from the trauma. You will need to begin therapy soon after surgery to help gain lost movement,

increase strength, improve sensation, and facilitate fine motor coordination in the hand.

Why Occupational Therapy?

Occupational therapy is a non-invasive, safe approach to healing. In most cases, therapy will facilitate early recovery of injured tissue and help you develop proper body posture, alignment and function. And therapy is not just for certain age groups or professions. We treat hand injuries in children, young adults and adults. Musicians, athletes and professional sports players are one area of specialty. We understand movement and how the body recovers.

We also understand how important it is for a musician to be able to play that melody or for a gymnast to be able to perform a complex maneuver. We focus on improving handwriting in children and for joint protection for active gardeners who may have some arthritis in their joints. Most work-related injuries that occur from being at a desk all day long and working on computers can be treated before the problems result in permanent damage.

When Should You Seek Treatment?

In most cases, it is cost-effective and more rewarding to start therapy while the body is able to recover naturally. For early recovery and to prevent irreversible changes, ask your primary care physician or your orthopedic specialist for a referral to an occupational therapist who specializes in the management of hand and upper extremity injuries; your therapist will perform a

thorough assessment of the strength, range of motion, dexterity and sensation in your hand and upper extremity. He or she will coordinate with your physician to keep them informed of your progress and facilitate return to work if you were injured at work. In the case of a workers’ compensation injury, you want to play an active role in your recovery process. Ask your case manager to help you find a therapy clinic that specializes in hand injuries.

What Is Involved in Treatments to Manage Hand Disorders?

Treatment for hand and upper extremity injuries may involve use of Physical Agent Modalities (PAM) such as hot packs and cold packs, therapeutic ultrasound equipment to deliver localized deep heat or to break up scar tissue, iontophoresis to deliver pain medications, and custom splints and braces to help support or assist movement of the joints.

Where Should You Seek Treatment?

Occupational therapy is available at outpatient clinics that specialize in the hand and upper extremities. Medicare has increased coverage for occupational therapy to $1,920 through March 15th, 2015, which means you can get coverage for services provided by an occupational therapist in an outpatient therapy facility that specializes in managing your hand pain.

Don’t wait! Schedule your first evaluation and start taking care of your hands. Most surgeons don’t like performing surgery unless they have to!

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by Ann Marie Sochia, MS, LPCA, CHT, NLP | Waves of Change

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Our relationship to food is fundamental and reflects our thoughts and attitudes about life, our surroundings, and ourselves. Mindful eating is the practice of deliberately paying attention to what you are eating, in the present moment. It also means choosing to consume foods that are nutritious for your body and pleasing to all your senses (hearing, sight, smell, taste and touch).

Here is a simple yet easy way to experience mindfulness right now. Put the magazine down for just a moment, and pay attention to your body. Notice how it feels – is it hot or cold?

Do you have a pulse sensation anywhere? Are you feeling one part of your body more than another? Simply allow yourself to notice how you feel in the present moment. Don’t judge it, just be aware of it. At its simplest, this is being mindful.

Basically, mindful eating is the opposite of: 2 eating for the sake of eating 2 eating to satisfy some emotion such as stress 2 eating for celebrations 2 eating just because you are bored As a daily practice, mindful eating helps bring us to an awareness of our personal thoughts, actions and emotions, and the impulses that drive us. It also allows us to better understand why we are eating that second plate of pasta, when we are full but feeling stressed, or why we ‘have to have’ cake as a reward cary welcome_jf 12/9/11 1:58:06 PM for a success at work. By eating with mindful attention, we are more likely not to overeat or eat for emotional reasons. By cary welcome_jf 12/9/11 1:58:06 PM being mindful, we are better able to control our portions and stay healthier. When an individual directs his/her awareness to cary welcome_jf 12/9/11 1:58:06 PM12/9/11 cary welcome_jf 12/9/11 1:58:06 PM cary cary welcome_jf 1:58:06 PM welcome_jf 12/9/11 1:58:06 cary welcome_jf 12/9/11 1:58:06 PM eating mindfully, the food often tastes better, lasts longer, and cary welcome_jf 12/9/11 cary 1:58:06 PM cary welcome_jf 1:58:0612/9/11 PM welcome_jf 1:58:06 PM welcome_jf 12/9/11 1:58:06 cary PM12/9/11 is more enjoyable overall.

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5 tips for mindful eating Here are some tips to help you enjoy your food more while eating enough to satisfy your nutritional needs and maintain a healthy body.

1. Understand there is no right or wrong way to eat your food; however, there are different degrees of mindfulness related to your experience with the food.

2. Become aware of how, when and why you are eating certain foods.

3. Take time to enjoy eating, and get to know your food – the taste, smells, temperature, texture and color of the food.

4. Pay attention to your physical hunger, and satisfy your need to eat before you overeat or choose foods that are not good for you.

5. Choosing mindfully to eat a small popcorn at the theater will be more satisfying than indulging in the supersized box.

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PASSPORT to HABITAT

Cary residents Karen Swoboda and Liz Eubanks chaired the second Passport to Habitat fundraiser on April 26th. The event included a tour of newly completed Habitat for Humanity homes in White Oak Villas in Apex, followed by a party at the Cary ReStore. Guests enjoyed food, beverages and live music, and helped raise $18,000 to support affordable housing in Wake County.

JDRF hope gala

On April 26th, 350 guests joined together at North Ridge Country Club for JDRF Triangle/Eastern NC Chapter’s most prestigious event, The Hope Gala. The annual event raises funds for the improvement of lives of those living with type1 diabetes, and ultimately for a cure.

The elegant evening was chaired by Chris LaTurno, Wells Fargo, and honor Don & Barbara Curtis and Curtis Media. The evening raised over $800,000 for type 1 diabetes research.

Photos Š Renee Sprink Photography

GRAND OPENING CELEBRATION

Moon and Lola held its grand opening celebration on April 25th.

The ribbon cutting was followed by sips, sweets and shopping by the guests.

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ANNUal open house

The Oaks at Salem held its annual open house on April 27th.

Vendors were on hand to meet with brides and future clients.

Guests enjoyed wonderful food, cake and drinks as they toured the facility and grounds.

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21st Annual Spring Daze Arts & Crafts Festival

Triangle Charity Polo Classic

Bond Park in Cary held the 21st Annual Spring Daze Arts & Crafts Festival on April 26th. The festival was filled with wonderful arts and crafts, favorite festival foods, community based civic groups handing out information on things to get involved with, and entertainment.

The Triangle Area Polo Club hosted its first charity classic on June 8th at MacNair’s Country Acres. The event showcased both the sport’s re-emergence here and the local charity Guiding Lights Caregiver Support Center, which helps people who take care of a loved one for an extended period of time. The event raised $50,000 to support the work of Guiding Lights Caregiver Support Center.

WIND DOWN WEDNESDAY

mayor’s address

Wind Down Wednesdays continues its third season at Waverly Place! Bull City Syndicate performed on May 28th. Join Waverly Place every Wednesday evening from 6-9pm on the Promenade for this free and exciting, family-friendly concert series!

Mayor Harold Weinbrecht gave the State of the Town Address at SearStone on June 17th. The mayor discussed current Town activities and initiatives, as well as providing updates on the Cary Arts Center, The Cary Theater, the “Cary On” economic branding initiative, and other civic issues. caryliving.com | 73

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10 ANNUAL RUN THE QUAY

On June 7th, the Fuquay-Varina Chamber of Commerce offered its 10th Annual Run the Quay road race, which included an inaugural 10K race! This trio of races was held in historic downtown Fuquay-Varina.

Local Bands perform in Raleigh

Young Cardinals, American Gonzos and The Great American Witch Hunt performed on May 15th at the Pour House Music Hall in Raleigh.

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CHATHAM STREET CHOWDOWN

The Town of Cary held its first food truck rodeo, Chatham Street Chowdown, on June 22nd in Downtown Cary. Fifteen Triangle area food trucks, plus Fortnight Brewing Company of Cary and Chatham Hill Winery of Cary lined the streets, with seating areas and music from local performers throughout the event.

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