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A NOTE FROM THE

Happy Holidays!

it is truly my favorite time of year! and that probably doesn’t come as a surprise to those of you who know me. For i love to shop. This is not a new habit; my mom would say that it started around the age of five.

The good news is that i would rather give than receive, taking it as my personal challenge to find the perfect gift for everyone on my list. This mission becomes a bit easier when you consider that because of my magazines, i am lucky enough to know the best places to shop and eat, from the Sandhills to the Triangle. if you can think of it, i can tell you where to find it. i’ve always used the excuse that the main reason for my unwavering dedication to shopping was to support my local advertisers (although i’m not sure the irS would agree), so the “Shop local” campaign just flat out made sense to me. but i didn’t have any idea just how much “cents” it actually made. did you know that the dollars we spend locally have a dramatic effect on our community? in “your gift matters”, christa gala looks at that impact – and you’ll be amazed at how much of every dollar you spend locally stays local. if you need inspiration for shopping locally, be sure to check out our annual holiday gift guide. This eight-page, pull-out shopping guide is filled with gifts ranging from $ to $ 000, with something for everyone on your list. and if you visit any of the businesses that advertise with us, or better yet, shop local and buy a gift from them, please let them know you saw them in Cary Living. This helps us continue to grow.

This issue is packed with everything you need to make this holiday season memorable, including ways to add a little sparkle to your holiday decorating and adorable, stylish holiday looks for kids. We’ve also gotten a few friends of Cary Living to share their favorite holiday recipes, guaranteed to be a delicious holiday treat. all this plus a lot more. as always, we want to hear from you – please continue to share your thoughts and story ideas with us.

gina pearce stephens

Publisher/Partner Midtown, Cary Living, Pinehurst & Southern Weddings 1 Six Forks road | Suite 20 | raleigh, nc 2 09 919- 2- 10 | gina@caryliving.com

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contents november | december 2010

16 22 May the holiday season fill your home with your heart with

love,

joy,

and your life with

– Betsy Wardle

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| your gift matters

Where will you buy your gifts this holiday season?

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| deck the halls

and more!

Local designers share their secrets for fun and festive holiday decorating.

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| glorious guest

bathrooms

Welcoming visitors with style and function.

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| men’s health

Your questions answered.

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| INitial impression

Monogramming etiquette for seasonal gift giving.

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laughter.

departments 52

| kids holiday fashion

Picture perfect holiday outfits.

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| hearth & home’s

bouNtiful feast

Seasonal recipes we look forward to year after year.

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| All I want for

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wine review chef’s corner calendar step by step healthy living sightings

Christmas is…

Holiday Beauty

A new season means new challenges for mind and body. Get expert tips on caring for yourself and beating stress so you can look and feel your personal best.

PLUS...Don’t miss our special pull-out Holiday Gift Guide for 2010!

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your gift matters The average American family spends about $1,600 on holiday gifts; where you buy matters just as much as what you buy.

By Christa Gala

Last year, my six-year-old son and I rode the train from Cary to Charlotte. It was an exciting journey except for one thing. We passed town after town with boarded storefronts. It made me sad. The communities were dying.

Then my thoughts turned selfish. What if people stopped coming to my husband’s business, Apex AutoWorks? What would we do?

I tried to quell my rising panic, but my mind went further. What if shoppers deserted local businesses en masse? Who would donate to the school raffle and sponsor little league teams? What would the Christmas parade look like with no local floats? Who would the high schools call when they needed someone to speak about entrepreneurship?

The fact is, local businesses weave the fabric that is our community. When you buy something locally – be it a service or a product – it matters. Let’s say you make a conscious decision to buy local holiday gifts this year. Everybody wins. The recipient gets something unusual (that maybe wasn’t made in China). You support the family behind the business. And, best of all, when you buy local, that money trickles down – back to you, actually. Don’t believe me? Keep reading.

Many blessings Mandy Becker, owner of Swagger Gifts in Cary’s Lochmere Pavilion, knows gifts. Somehow, the recession hasn’t touched her eight-year-old shop.

“We’ve increased our sales 20 percent for the last two years,” says Becker. “People never stopped purchasing from Swagger. Even in tough times, people still give gifts, just not as much. I think since they trusted us and knew we had all price points, they continued to buy from us.”

Becker realizes many local businesses aren’t as lucky. “I thank God every day,” she says. “I have many blessings; I know that. I’ve wanted to own a gift shop since I was 16. I love giving gifts, and I love making someone smile with a gift.”

And every year she holds a holiday open house and pesters her vendors to give her freebies. She charges $10 per person and each customer gets a big goodie bag and a preview of gifts from $2.50 to $250. Last year, Becker donat12 | caryliving.com

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ed all the proceeds, more than $2,000, to Life Experiences, a non-profit for adults with disabilities. This year, the proceeds will go to Nancy’s Butterfly Fund in honor of Nancy Cooper, a former client who died in 2008.

Becker’s client list tops more than 7,000 and she estimates she knows about 3,000 by name. “We know people’s moms who call for birthday gifts. We know kids, grandparents, aunts and uncles. I feel like I’m a bigger part of the community now that I’m a store owner.”

“You can get a $20 gift at Target or a $20 gift at Swagger, and at Swagger we’re going to wrap it and it’s going to look like more. Someone knows you went out of your way to get it,” Becker says.

Gift ideas: Monogrammed and personalized gifts, ceramics, jewelry, picture frames, yard art, books, ornaments, blankets.

First in fire As in heat, spice. Get a glass of water.

Yep, there really is an award for that. In 2009, Pepper Dog Salsa, in Apex, won the International Scoville Award, Scovie for short. Pepper Dog took first place in the all-natural category, judged on heat, flavor and versatility.

Pepper Dog Salsa is the brainchild of founders Tom and Ginger Molthen. The recipe is actually Tom’s; when he was laid off from the technology sector in 2005, friends and neighbors urged him to bottle his homemade salsa. Before he could get started he underwent an emergency surgery on his spine. It was a tough year.

Ginger, then a stay-at-home mom to the couple’s two kids, joined in and after

a lot of legwork, the label was born. Pepper Dog is now carried in 26 states and the Cayman Islands. The Molthens are big believers of the buy-local philosophy.

Pepper Dog buys ingredients from local farmers – peppers, tomatoes, spices – and uses local manufacturing and distribution companies as well.

“You’re not just buying it to support somebody, but because it’s your community and it’s where you’re from. You want your community to thrive and grow,” says Ginger, noting that buying local does require more effort. “If people could catch that vision just a little bit, the quality of life would be so much higher. It would make a huge difference.” The Molthens donate a lot of salsa – to schools, churches and food banks.

“This thing is standing on its own,” says Ginger. “It’s going to fly or not fly.”

It was soaring before the economy took a nose dive and company buyers got cold feet. Many of Pepper Dog’s best clients ordered less and paid later. “Inventory is so tight,” says Tom. “Everybody’s on hold a little bit.” As a result, Tom’s spent more time volunteering at Cary Christian, where his kids Sam, 10, and Emma, 7, attend school.

Faith is a big part of their life. On the back of every jar of Pepper Dog is printed: “Proverbs 3:5-6.” Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.

Stocking stuffers: Pepper Dog Salsa is $3.99 to $4.99 for a 12-ounce jar; available in mild, medium and hot at Whole Foods, The Fresh Market, A Southern Season, The Rusty Bucket and Food Lion.

Swagger Gifts’ Mandy Becker and Mary Madenspacher pose with an employee from Life Experiences, a non-profit for disabled adults and the sole beneficiary of Swagger’s 2009 Open House.

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How buying local saved one town The farming community of Hardwick, Vermont is often described as “hardscrabble.” The median income is 25 percent below average. That started changing in 2007 when the town’s 3,200 residents decided to promote its local food.

Small companies launched to sell tomatoes, peppers, cabbage, artisanal cheese, tofu and apple pie. The food was good! Tourists came to Hardwick. Unemployment went down; income went up. And the media noticed. The New York Times ran a feature story, Emeril Legasse talked about the town on his cooking show, and freelance writer Ben Hewitt published The Town That Food Saved: How One Community Found Vitality in Local Food, which discussed Hardwick’s plan and wondered if other towns could do the same.

Sharing life’s journeys J.M. Edwards Jewelry in Cary is a 25-year-old family-owned business. President Rose Edwards has been fascinated with jewelry since she was a child.

“Like so many children, I spent hours playing dress-up in my mom’s and aunt’s old clothing and jewelry,” says Edwards, who was born in Apex. “I have wonderful memories of shopping with my dad for the traditional Christmas gifts which usually were purchased from Holland’s Jewelers in Apex. Mr. and Mrs. Holland had the quintessential mom-and-pop jewelry store.”

Edwards graduated from college and pursued her career as a goldsmith designer, apprenticing with renowned designer Michael Chapman in Atlanta. She also took jewelry art classes through the Gemological Institute of America. She then worked for her husband’s jewelry store, BartleyEdwards, in North Hills.

Through that, Edwards learned everything she needed to know about the jewelry business, with the exception of one thing: the Internet.

“The Internet has had a dramatic impact on all businesses,” admits Edwards. “It was extremely frightening a year ago; however, I found that folks really want to see jewelry, hold it in their hand, and try it on before purchasing. Jewelry is such a personal item and a purchase typically has much more thought and emotion involved than other consumer goods.”

“The personal experience we share with our clients is special to each of us,” says Edwards. “From the first gift to the engagement ring to the birth of the first child, we’re able to share life’s journey with our clients like no other business. Unlike the big-box jewelry store, we are a family here and once a relationship begins, you have the same comfort of knowing we are here to take care of you and your family.”

Those relationships extend past her clientele. “My home and community are what make me who I am,” Edwards says. “We try to support as many community projects as possible. My biggest involvements are with Rotary International and Cary Visual Art.” Gift ideas: Silver jewelry mixed with gold; colored diamond jewelry and diamonds of different cuts, including rose cuts, diamond slices and briolettes. Engagement rings in unusual metals are popular as are platinum pieces accented with rose gold.

‘They insisted we stay’ When Noreen Bartley opened the Southern Charm Gift Boutique last year, it was intended for holiday shopping only. “We started it as a place that we were going to go for November and December, but Cary Towne Center customers were just insistent that we stay,” says Bartley, who lives in Cary with her husband and three children, ages five, eight and ten.

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Tom and Ginger Molthen with their Pepper Dog Salsa.

In fact, more than 200 customers signed a list wanting to be contacted if Southern Charm remained open. “It made me feel really good, especially with the economy the way it was,” says Bartley, who co-owns the business with LeeAnn Rose. “What we found is that people really like to support the local economy, the local artists, and they love to have unique gifts that are one-of-a-kind.”

Southern Charm delivers, featuring 65 North Carolina vendors who consign their wares. Ninety percent of the store’s inventory is handmade; the other 10 percent is collegiate items and brand-name collectibles.

Memory jars are gaining in popularity. The beautiful pottery comes with a notepad where people write memories of an event and stick them in the jar for the recipient. Bartley gave one to her mother-in-law last year after asking her kids to write down memories of their vacation with her. “She loved it. Every time she’s having a bad day, she opens it up and reads one of the notes and it makes her feel better.”

Many Southern Charm vendors give a portion of their proceeds to causes close to their hearts. One potter donates all of her proceeds to local autistic charities in honor of her autistic son.

Bartley has given gift certificates to many non-profits, including fundraisers for mental health causes.

Perhaps, best of all, local folks are making a living. “It’s so nice with the economy the way it is that these people have a way to make money,” says Bartley. “The local people really are supporting the local artists.”

Gift ideas: Marble tiles etched with N.C. landmarks, freeform pottery, jewelry, beaded glassware, memory jars, artwork, collegiate items, stocking stuffers. From $3 to $130.

The end result We know you can’t buy everything local. Sometimes it’s just not feasible. But a lot of times it is. Just think about it. A few times this holiday season, drive that extra mile, spend another 50 cents and keep our community vibrant. It really does matter. caryliving.com | 15

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deck and themore halls !

The excitement over the Christmas holidays reaches fever pitch as the final slice of turkey is eaten. Now it’s time to decorate! We asked local designers to share their

entryway designed by Floral accents.

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secrets for festive and fun looks for everything from the front door, to the mantle and the dinner table.

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Holiday Table | Ivy Cottage Designed and created by Lisa allen • Pull out all of your china, napkins, serving pieces etc. a few days before your event. Clean, count organize and iron ahead of time so that you have time for the fun stuff!

• It’s almost impossible to have too many candles and votives of differing sizes on your table. It’s all about the sparkle.

• A table square or table runner can really make your arrangement pop.

• Ribbon is an inexpensive and beautiful way to tie up your napkins.

• Gorgeous centerpieces are fun, but need to be practical.

Keep your arrangement low enough for people to talk over.

Vary the height of your overall arrangement and decorate using items of varying textures, patterns and complementary colors. example: glass ornaments, sprigs of pine or holly, pinecones etc.

• Make sure there is plenty of room for all dining necessities.

Keeping food on a buffet and passing can keep your table from becoming overcrowded.

• Set your table the day before your event – this really helps to prevent stress.

• Decorate your chandelier with beaded garland and beautiful ornaments hanging from each arm.

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Mantle | Posh Interiors Designed and created by Stephanie Thayer and Jessica McCarthy • The natural or “green” look of the mantle design was inspired by my grandmother Vivian’s tradition of using fresh cut tree trimming and fruits for her annual Christmas spray.

• We created this look by combining faux and dried branches, sprigs, mosses and fruits. We started by placing our vases, stocking holders and large items first, then we layered sprigs of different faux ferns and topped with dried moss.

• Next we perched small birds on top of the mixture; you can purchase these at your local craft supply store. You can also use fresh or dried fruits to give the mantle a splash of color.

• Lighting was achieved by using different types of votives. To keep with our natural theme, we placed hand-painted gold votives into our branches. We added bold touches of red by adding the large votives at the base of the wreath.

• For our natural looking wreath, we started off by using a grapevine wreath. This style of wreath allowed us to easily add or remove branches as we went along. Then we glued dried moss to give this a great backdrop. We added faux eucalyptus branches in a circular motion.

To create more fullness and a pop of color, we added more dried leaves in different shades to accent our mantle. To top it all off, we incorporated dried orange slices for a bit of interest.

• Apothecary jars were used to anchor our mantle.

We added bright green moss to the bottom of the jars and then added some red potpourri. You can add potpourri, dried fruits or small ornaments to these jars!

• To bring out the beautiful gold in the fireplace, we chose gold stocking holders in the shape of pears.

For a bit of interest and a lot of fun we hung moss balls, attached to bright red ribbon to the stocking holders. You can purchase moss balls at your local craft supply store.

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Entryway | Floral Accents Designed and created by Gene Jackson • Think bright, when it comes to a front door design. Spotlights help during nighttime hours, but if your door is covered by a porch and you want it to show up from a distance, be careful not to make everything in the doorpiece dark.

• Place miniature lights in selected trees and schrubs or on topiaries flanking the door.

• The hot colors are the reds and bright greens with a touch of gliiter to capture the light.

• The tiny red jingle bells add sound as well as sparlkle cascading from the wreath.

• Choosing a variety of gorgeous ornaments to add into the piece gives it a classy look. This makes a stunning and festive combination.

• I like to weave contrasting ribbons through the greens.

Mixing greens such as long needle pines, cedars and firs creates texture and interest.

• Also if you have lanterns on each side of the door, adding coordinating pieces to them completes the look.

• For a bit of fun the large colorful nutcracker sentries keep a watch through the night.

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wine review |

By April Schlanger, Owner, Sip…a wine store

Holiday Spirits Splurge or Save? Isn’t that always the question? You are invited to Thanksgiving or a holiday party and you need to bring a gift. Wine is the easy answer, but how much should you spend?

Should it be red or white? Sparking or still? Carry this article around with you for a quick list of perfect party ideas. Cheers and Happy Holidays!

Splurge: NV Bugey-Cerdon, “La Cueille”, Sparkling, France: Sustainable Farming | $22.75 This is an unusual, but wonderfully delightful sparkling from the Savoie region in eastern France. A blend of 80% Gamay with 20% Poulsard, this deep rose wine tastes like wild strawberries.

A delightful aperitif with only 8% alcohol. Perfect with strawberry desserts, smoked salmon and soft, ripe cheese.

Splurge: 2008 Alois Lageder, “Beta Delta”, Chardonnay/Pinot Grigio, Alto Adige, Italy: Biodynamic | $20.99 A beautiful wine with lovely perfume aromas with mineral undertones.

Impressive throughout with white cherry and pineapple notes.

A perfect wine for herb roasted turkey, poached salmon and pork.

Steal: NV Sarao, Cava, Brut, Spain: Sustainable Farming | $12.99 Lovely bubbles with nicely delineated notes of fresh bread dough, apricot, Granny Smith apples and wet stone. This is the case you should stash in your house for last-minute gifts and guests.

Steal: 2008 Kuentz Bas, Alsace Blanc, Alsace, France: Biodynamic | $11.25 Silvaner, Chasseur, Pinot Blanc, Muscat. A lovely white with floral, dry pear, passion fruit and lime blossom aromas. A balanced wine with great depth. Lively pear notes and mineral tones. Perfect with chilled seafood appetizers and Thanksgiving dinner.

Splurge: 2008 L’Aventure, “Optimus”, Cabernet/Syrah/Petite Sirah, Paso Robles, California: Dry Farmed and Sustainable | $55.50 The Optimus is simply luscious. Integrated aromas of fir, graphite and acacia make an excellent nose. A focused attack of crushed flowers, geranium oil, cherries and plums wash over the palate, and finish with orange peel and toast. Velvety wine that will make any hostess ooh and ahh.

Splurge: 2008 Radio-Coteau, “La Neblina”, Pinot Noir, Sonoma Coast, California: Biodynamic | $52.50 Spanish for “fog”, la neblina rolls in from the Pacific Ocean, blanketing these coastal vines. This garnet-hued gem is generous with its aromatics, cherry, brown spice and forest notes. Youthful and well-structured, a dream bottle for every Pinot Noir fan. Lovely with turkey, lamb and salmon.

Steal: 2007 Three Saints, “Steak House Red”, Cabernet/Syrah/ Merlot, Santa Barbara County, California | $16.50 Lush and lively, this is a Cabernet blend that can really pull a meal together. Aromas of currant, cassis, cherries and spice. Rich and warm on the palate with divine tannins and great toasty notes. A perfect pairing with steak and grilled meats.

Steal: 2009 Ken Forrester, “Petit”, Pinotage, South Africa: Certified Sustainable | $8.99 A grafted variety Pinotage is a wonderful and often inexpensive substitute for Pinot Noir. Aromas of mulberries, plum pudding and cherries, supported by a smoky bacon nuance. Juicy and accessible, this wine will make turkey, pulled pork, smoked brisket and roasted salmon celebrate.

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chef mario recipes chef mario copy darcy brennan-huante Photography april maness photography

Get Ready for the Showdown

Hyped-Up Holiday Hors d’oevres that Will Leave Them Begging for More!

The season is here and the pressure is on! For a lot of us, this may be the one time of the year we really roll up our sleeves and spend extra time in the kitchen cooking our little hearts out to make an impression we hope will last until next year! Some of us have our flour-crusted cookbooks bookmarked to family favorites and some of us venture onto new turf, but it’s safe to say that our kitchens see a lot more of us in the last 45 days of the calendar year than probably at any other time.

We also seem to be required to bring food to more events this time of year – between the parties, school events, clubs and work socials, that’s a lot of face time for our crazed culinary creations. The key to making your creations memorable and enviable is simplicity, it’s adding that unique touch that creates your “wow factor”. It can be your plating, garnishing or just a fantastic flavor balance,

but presentation of any item is absolutely key. People eat with their eyes first, so if that warm brown chunky custard dish is divine, but looks like something else, it will probably be packed up and returned to you as “leftovers” at the end of the night. Garnish appropriately by adding unexpected pops of color and texture.

Just like any outfit, your garnish type and colors should complement your dish.

If red and green are your colors this season, think green bushy kale (washing kale in lukewarm water, Dawn dish soap and rinsed thoroughly will make it stay vibrant green) and a few grape tomatoes or red pepper shreds. For a winter wonderland scene, Daikon radish, blueberries and silver dragees (those little edible silver balls you see on cakes) are great accents.

Happy Holidays!

Ham, Cheese and Apple Toasters with Marmalade Mustard Makes about 24 pieces Marmalade Mustard 1 cup orange marmalade 1/4 cup Dijon mustard 1/4 cup whole grain mustard Mix marmalade, Dijon and whole grain mustard together, then set aside.

Toasters 1 baguette (check the bakery section of your grocery store) 1/2 stick of butter, melted Salt and pepper 1 pound of ham, sliced 1-2 Granny Smith or Fuji apples, sliced 10 oz chunk of Cracker Barrel Vermont sharp cheddar, sliced Slice baguette into 1/2 inch thick slices and place in a large bowl. Drizzle melted butter over baguette slices and toss so that the slices are coated with butter. Season with salt and pepper. Lay out slices on a foil-lined sheet pan in a single layer.

Toast in a 350 degree oven for about 10 minutes or until toast is golden.

Drizzle each baguette slice with some of the Marmalade Mustard. Divide up the ham, cheese and apples according to how many toaster slices you have and top each accordingly. Bake in the oven for about 8-10 minutes or until cheese is melted. Serve with Marmalade Mustard on the side.

Mini Muffulatta Sandwiches Makes about 24 mini sandwiches 1 cup spicy olives (or a mixture of your favorite olives) – get olives from an olive bar from your local supermarket (one with vegetables as well as peppers and olives) 1/4 cup capers 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 Tbsp fresh thyme, chopped 2-3 Tbsp olive oil 1 large crusty baguette 3/4 lb Italian cold cuts: we suggest a mix of Genoa salami, sopressata, capicola and/or ham 3-4 slices provolone cheese 1-2 tomatoes, sliced (depends on size) Leafy green lettuce Green olives with pimento for picks (you’ll need toothpicks) Place olives, capers, garlic, thyme and oil in a food processor and mix until the mixture is thoroughly chopped and spreadable. Use more oil if necessary to get things flowing in the processor.

Cut baguette in half lengthwise. Spoon olive mixture on both sides. Pile cold cuts on one side, then add the cheese, tomato and lettuce. Place the other side of the baguette on top. Place toothpicks along center of baguette top (about 24) and then slice baguette into sandwiches. Top each pick with an olive and garnish the platter with green kale for a beautiful, eye-popping presentation!

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Cous Cous & feTa CaKes wiTH manGo CHuTneY Makes 24 small cakes or 12 large cakes 1 tbsp olive oil 1 cup finely diced colored peppers (yellow, red and green) 1/2 cup red onion, finely diced 2 tsp garlic, minced 1 cup cous cous 1 1/4 cup hot chicken broth or water 1 cup feta cheese, crumbled 3 eggs, beaten 1/2 cup all-purpose flour salt and pepper to taste oil (for searing cakes) in a small sauce pan heat water or chicken broth. add olive oil in a medium size pan over medium heat. When hot, add peppers, onions, and garlic. sauté for about two minutes until vegetables start to soften. add the cous cous and mix. then add the hot liquid (again, chicken broth or water) to the cous cous and veggies and cover for 5 minutes. Fluff with a fork and then fold in the feta and beaten eggs. Mix well and fold in the flour.

Let cool.

Form mixture into desired sized balls and then flatten into cakes. heat a couple tablespoons of oil in a sauté pan and then sear the cous cous cakes (in batches) on both sides until golden. serve with Mango chutney.

Mango chutney Makes about 3 cups 2 tbsp olive oil 2 tbsp fresh ginger, minced 1 tbsp garlic, minced 1 tsp chili flakes 1 1/2 tbsp curry powder 2 diced bell peppers (one red, one yellow) 1 medium onion, diced 1 large, ripe mango, diced 1/4 cup brown sugar 1/4 cup honey 1/2 cup cider vinegar add olive oil in a sauce pan over medium heat.

When hot, add ginger, garlic and chili flakes. cook for about 1 minute and then add the curry powder. cook for another minute while stirring. then add peppers and onions and cook for another 3 or 4 minutes until the vegetables start to soften and let out their flavors. add the mango, brown sugar, honey and vinegar. simmer until liquid becomes thick, about 10-20 minutes. Let cool. can store in the fridge for up to a month!

sHrimp sTuffed CuCumBer Cups Makes about 24-36 cups 2-3 english cucumbers (*seedless english cucumbers are the best for cups because of the uniform size) 1 lb cooked shrimp, diced small 1/2 cup sour cream 2 tbsp mayonnaise 2 tbsp prepared horseradish (a little more or a little less according to your liking) 1 tbsp lemon juice 1 tsp Worcestershire sauce Dash of hot sauce salt and pepper to taste red peppers, diced scallions

peel cucumbers lengthwise to create stripes. trim the ends and slice cucumbers into 3/4 inch pieces. Use a melon baller to scoop out the center to make cups (a small spoon works if you don’t have a melon baller). in a bowl, mix together shrimp, sour cream, mayonnaise, horseradish, lemon juice, Worcestershire sauce, hot sauce, salt and pepper.

Lay out cucumber cups and fill each with the filling from above. slice the scallions thinly and on a bias. place 2 scallion slices on each cucumber cup and top with diced peppers.

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Knock knock! The holidays are arriving.

And they’re bringing guests. Odds are you’ll have one or two weary travelers at your front door this season. And like the good hostess you are, you want their experience to be as pleasant as the fresh scent of Fraser fir wafting from your living room.

The good news is that there are just a few things that really matter to a guest: an inviting guest bedroom and a bath that shines like the top of the Chrysler Building and functions like a dream. “A well turned-out guest bathroom is really important…making sure all essential toiletries are in place will prevent your guest from having to ask for things, possibly making them feel uncomfortable,” says Lisa Allen, owner of Ivy Cottage in Morrisville.

If you’re expecting visitors, resign from worrying over your master bedroom closet, kitchen pantry, laundry room and other spots that your guests are unlikely to spend time in. Instead, focus a fair amount of that priceless hostess energy on the guest bathroom. Wondering how to spruce it up quickly? Or maybe you’re interested in improving your home’s value while creating a space to rival the Ritz? Either way, Cary Living has expert tips to get you there.

Quick Fix The situation: You just hung up the phone. Surprise!

They’ll be here tomorrow.

No worries. When it comes to a guest bathroom, it’s easy to sweat the small stuff. After you say your goodbyes, rush for the cleaning supplies and banish all that pesky dirt and grime. If there’s no time for new towels, grab your best set and give it a fresh wash.

Treat your guests to the little luxuries, such as quality candles, lotions and soaps from the Ivy Cottage.

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Before visitors arrive, stop by your favorite home shop for the little luxuries that count, suggests Allen. “I love to provide high quality hand soaps, body lotions and bath salts so my guests feel pampered,” she says. “If I’m feeling really energetic, I might put out a small vase of fresh cut flowers.”

Sounds easy enough, especially if there’s holly or vase-worthy greenery in your yard. While you’re cleaning and arranging, pay special attention to clearing as much counter space as possible. Guests love room to spread their belongings out, so set out essentials only.

Time is on your side The situation: You have two weeks notice, and you’re happy to spend a bit to get the look you like.

Two weeks may seem like a long time, but it can sneak up on even the hostess with the mostest. Doing a little bit every few

days may help reduce the stress that comes along this time of year. (Hiring a cleaning company may do the trick as well!)

Beyond what’s mentioned for the quick fix, Allen suggests adding hooks to the back of the door or installing a small shelf on the wall for additional storage. These hints are especially helpful for smaller spaces, which guest bathrooms tend to be. Keeping a light, airy and neutral look works well, too. “This never gets tiresome and is more soothing and relaxing…a lighter color palette will prevent the space from looking too closed in.”

For Ralph Townes, owner of Raleigh’s Draperies by Townes, a light and inviting guest bathroom is best. He encourages homeowners to add coziness with custom touches, such as a pleated shower curtain. “Customers look for treatments that are functional as well as attractive,” he says. Similar to how the right bedding lights up a bedroom, the ideal

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This Roman shade provides privacy over a garden tub, but may be pulled up to allow for natural light. The right draperies can add coziness and privacy to your guest bath, says Ralph Townes of Draperies by Townes.

shower curtain can instantly add a sprinkle of tranquility to the necessary function of the shower.

Looking for another way to add tranquility to function? Find the biggest and best bath towels you can afford. There’s nothing like a new fluffy towel, especially when your guest is getting out of the shower during the chilly winter months.

Bigger changes The situation: Great…a month to prepare! It’s beginning to look a lot like home improvement for Christmas.

The guest bathroom is clean, and the little luxuries are in place. And maybe your mind is turning to the bigger luxuries? If so, new window treatments could be the answer. If your bathroom has a window, you have to have these anyway and may as well have the right ones for your space. “Draperies add privacy and coziness to any bathroom,” says Townes. For example, he recommends a Roman shade for privacy over a garden tub. And when your guests need natural light more than privacy, they can simply pull the shade up under an outer valance that allows light to flood the room.

Townes cautions against using unfriendly fabrics in a guest bathroom, such as silks and fabrics that react poorly to humidity. Instead, he suggests cotton or cotton blends. Beware of heavy fabrics that may be more appropriate for dining rooms and other large spaces, he adds. “Heavy fabrics can be overpowering in a bathroom depending on its size,” says Townes.

Bathroom size is a top consideration for many elements, including lighting. “[Guest bathrooms] are typically smaller in size…a splurge to add charm and additional lighting would be a decorative ceiling mount fixture or mini chandelier,” says Laura

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Lighting can create instant style in a guest bathroom – think chrome finishes and sconces for a modern look, says Laura McMillan of The Home Center.

McMillan of The Home Center in Apex. She adds that these options work best when a bathroom ceiling is nine feet tall or more.

To freshen up lighting on a budget, McMillan suggests replacing the vanity lighting. Current trends include replacing them with sconces on both sides of the mirror, and adding new fixtures with popular finishes such as chrome.

When it comes to bulbs, McMillan says the highest wattage allowed is best. This way your guests may have maximum illumination in an unfamiliar room when it’s needed. Dimmers are also a great idea, she says, because they’re energy efficient and give guests total control to bring the lighting to a softer setting if they like.

Where there’s a will The situation: What guest bathroom?

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your kids to use the master bathroom while the guests are in town. If the children are moving out of their bathroom for a few days, remind them to pack up their toothbrushes, rubber ducks and favorite towels before the guests arrive. Planning ahead may avoid any uncomfortable Junior-is-waiting-outside-the-doorfor-his-toothpaste moments. Clearing away counter clutter and adding a night-light to the hallway outside the bathroom are considerate ways to welcome your guests, too.

No matter what situation you’re in, your guest bathroom is sure to sparkle, shine and welcome those close to you with a few of Cary Living’s tips for success. It’s easier than it may seem to remember what you appreciated when you were a guest in a hotel or a friend’s home, and apply that knowledge to your own guest bathroom. If you’re still wondering if it will look and function well for your visitors, Allen has one more idea: “I suggest getting ready yourself in your guest bathroom.” caryliving.com | 31

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NOVEMBER | DECEMBER 2010

11/3 – WATERCOLOR PAINTING. 1:30-3:30pm. The Nature of Art. 919-553-5633. www.TheNatureOfArtFrameShop.com.

11/3, 11/10, 11/17, 11/24, 12/1, 12/8, 12/15, 12/22, 12/29 – Support Group for Adult Children of Dependent Parents.

7pm. Jordan Oaks Independent Living, Cary.

919-387-8250.

11/4 – 3rd ANNUAL HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE. 4-8pm. Cute Buttons Gift and Paper Boutique.

115-A West Chatham St., Cary. 919-462-9618.

11/4-5 – CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE. Thurs-Fri 10am-5:30pm. Sat 10am-4:30pm.

Floral Accents & Interiors, 220 W. Chatham St., Cary. 919-460-9663.

11/5 – LATE NIGHT SHOPPING FOR MOMS. 6-10pm. PB&J Fun Factory, 5901 Fayetteville Rd., Raleigh. Free.

919-661-2738. www.pbjfun.com.

11/5-6 – FROM BRAHMS TO BACH – AND BACK AGAIN. 8pm. NC Symphony. Meymandi Concert Hall, Progress Energy Center for the Performing Arts, Raleigh. 919-733-2750.

11/6 – HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE AND WINE TASTING. 10am-6pm; wine tasting 11am-4pm.

The Paper Company, 5273 Sunset Lake Rd.; Southern Charm Boutique, 5261 Sunset Lake Rd. Sunset Lake Commons Shopping Center, Holly Springs.

11/6 – HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE. Sassy Blossom.

10am-5pm. 8304 Tryon Woods Dr., Suite 116, Cary. 919-854-5551. www.thesassyblossom.com.

11/6 – 3rd ANNUAL CRAFT FAIR. 8am-4pm.

First United Methodist Church. 402 N. Main St., Fuquay-Varina. www.fumcfv.org.

11/6 – FALL CRAFT FAIR & CHEF’S TASTING. 8am-1pm. Western Wake Farmers’ Market, Cary. www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org.

11/6 – HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE. 8am-5pm.

The Garden Hut, 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd., Fuquay-Varina. www.NelsasGardenHut.com.

919-552-0590.

11/6 – SWEET HOMEMADE HOLIDAY GIFTS. 1-3pm. The Nature of Art. 919-553-5633. www.TheNatureOfArtFrameShop.com.

11/6-7 – RALEIGH DANCE THEATRE PRESENTS STORYBOOK TALES. 11/6 11am & 3pm.

11/7 3pm. Fletcher Opera Theater at Raleigh’s Progress Energy Center for the Performing Arts.

919-834-1058. www.raleighdance.org.

11/7 – Daylight savings.

11/7 – HOLIDAY BOUTIQUE. 9am-2pm.

Beth Shalom, 5713 Yates Mill Pond Rd., Raleigh.

11/7 – 3RD ANNUAL STOP HUNGER NOW. Genesis United Methodist Church. 2:30-4:30pm; 6-8pm. 850 High House Rd., Cary. 919-467-2128.

11/11 – veterans day.

11/11, 12/9 – CAREGIVER SUPPORT GROUP. 5-6:30pm. SarahCare Adult Day Care Center at Lake Boone Trail. 2245 Gateway Access Point, Raleigh. 919-746-7050. www.sarahcare.com/Raleigh.

11/12 – BOY’S NIGHT OUT. 6-8pm.

PB&J Fun Factory, 5901 Fayetteville Rd., Raleigh.

Free. 919-661-2738. www.pbjfun.com.

11/13 – NEIGHBORHOOD TOY STORE DAY. 10am-5pm. PB&J Fun Factory, 5901 Fayetteville Rd., Raleigh. Free.

919-661-2738. www.pbjfun.com.

11/13 – PLANT WALK WITH NELSA. 11am. The Garden Hut, 1004 Old Honeycutt Road, Fuquay-Varina. www.NelsasGardenHut.com. 919-552-0590.

11/13 – LOCAL SAUERKRAUT AND SUNNY SAVINGS. 8am-12pm. Western Wake Farmers’ Market, Cary. www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org.

11/13 – BEADING 101. 1-3:30pm.

The Nature of Art. 919-553-5633. www.TheNatureOfArtFrameShop.com.

11/17 – LEARN TO MAKE BELGIAN CHOCOLATE. 10am-3pm.

The Nature of Art. 919-553-5633. www.TheNatureOfArtFrameShop.com.

11/18, 11/19-20 – ORCHESTRA SHOWCASE: BEETHOVEN’S “EROICA”. 8pm. 11/18: Memorial Hall, UNC-Chapel Hill. 11/19-20: Meymandi Concert Hall, Progress Energy Center for the Performing Arts, Raleigh. 919-733-2750.

11/20 – HOLIDAY CRAFT FAIR. 8am-2pm.

Resurrection Lutheran Church, Cary.

11/20 – ORGANIC WINES TASTING. 8am-12pm. Western Wake Farmers’ Market, Cary. www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org.

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11/20 – MODERN BABY EXPO. La Boutique for Kids Fashion Show. 11am. Exposition Center, Fairgrounds, Raleigh. 919-749-5368. www.LaBoutiqueforKids.com.

11/20 – HOLIDAY CARD MAKING CLASS. 10am-noon. The Nature of Art. 919-553-5633. www.TheNatureOfArtFrameShop.com.

11/20, 11/27 – TRIMMING THE TREE SEMINARS. 10:30am and 1:30pm. Free.

Floral Accents & Interiors. 220 W. Chatham St., Cary. 919-460-9663.

11/21 – FRIENDS OF THE PAGE-WALKER HOTEL WINTER CONCERT SERIES PRESENTS LITTLE WINDOWS. 4pm. Page-Walker Arts & History Center, 119 Ambassador Loop, on the Cary Town Hall Campus. $15. 919-460-4963.

11/21 – MARCH OF DIMES TRIANGLE SIGNATURE CHEFS AUCTION. Prestonwood Country Club, 300 Prestonwood Parkway, Cary.

919-424-2156.

11/23 – THANKSGIVING MARKET. 3-6pm. Western Wake Farmers’ Market, Cary. www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org.

11/24, 12/29 – Lift Luncheon for widows or widowerS. 12pm. Jordan Oaks Independent Living. 10820 Penny Rd., Cary.

919-387-8250.

11/24 – THANKSgiving day.

11/26-27 – HOLIDAY POPS WITH THE BROADWAY TENORS. Fri. 8pm, Sat. 3pm and 8pm. Meymandi Concert Hall, Progress Energy Center for the Performing Arts, Raleigh.

919-733-2750.

11/30, 12/4 – BOW MAKING CLASS. 11/30 6:30-7:30pm. 12/4 1-2pm. The Garden Hut, 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd., Fuquay-Varina. www.NelsasGardenHut.com. 919-552-0590.

12/1 – 2nd ANNUAL BLING NIGHT. 6-9pm.

ADORE Designer Resale. 4226 NW Cary Parkway, Cary. 919-481-3400. Adoreboutiques.com.

12/2 – Warm Winter Harvest Dinner.

5-9:30pm. Western Wake Farmers’ Market and Giorgio Restaurant, Cary. 4300 Cary Parkway. www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org.

12/2-4 – CARY ACADEMY HOLIDAY SHOPPE. 12/2 10am-5pm. 12/3 10am-5pm & 6:30-9pm.

12/4 10am-4pm. The Sports and Education Annex on campus. Holiday Hotline at 919-228-4653.

12/4 – WREATH MAKING CLASS. 10am-12pm.

The Garden Hut, 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd., Fuquay-Varina. www.NelsasGardenHut.com.

919-552-0590.

12/4 – ANGEL FLOOR CLOTH CLASS. 11am-2pm. The Nature of Art. 919-553-5633. www.TheNatureOfArtFrameShop.

12/9 – LADIES NIGHT. 6-8pm.

The Garden Hut, 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd., Fuquay-Varina. www.NelsasGardenHut.com.

919-552-0590.

12/11 – CAROL STEIN’S GARDENERS FORUM CELEBRATION. 11am. The Garden Hut, 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd., Fuquay-Varina. www.NelsasGardenHut.com. 919-552-0590.

12/11 – 5th ANNUAL JOLLY ELF TRAIL RUN. Bond Park, Cary. http://school.stmichaelcary.org.

12/16 – GUYS NIGHT. 6-8pm. The Garden Hut, 1004 Old Honeycutt Rd., Fuquay-Varina. www.NelsasGardenHut.com. 919-552-0590.

12/19 – FRIENDS OF THE PAGE-WALKER HOTEL WINTER CONCERT SERIES PRESENTS MOUNTAIN AIRES. 4pm. Page-Walker Arts & History Center, 119 Ambassador Loop, on the Cary Town Hall Campus. $15. 919-460-4963.

12/25 – Christmas Day. 12/28 – NEW YEAR’S MARKET. 3-6pm.

Western Wake Farmers’ Market, Cary. www.WesternWakeFarmersMarket.org.

Send us your events Community events you would like published in the calendar can be emailed to myra@caryliving.com.

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Men’s Health Your Questions Answered

BY ILLYSE LANE True story. The morning I was assigned this story was the morning I returned from my brother-in-law’s funeral. A healthy father and husband who died in his sleep at the ripe old age of 50. Yes, you read it correctly.

This loss set off a temporary wave of panic among the men in our family. They wondered if they’d been remiss in ignoring those persistent aches and pains. They contemplated if they should have been more honest with their doctors, confessing their poor diets and overindulgences. They mentally reviewed their family history, wondering if they’d be next.

Now, they have answers. Cary Living had the chance to connect with a few of our local experts. Five doctors with enough diverse experience to cover nearly every inch of your body. We asked them to shed some light on a few of the most popular topics in men’s health. To dispel some of the myths, eliminate any confusion, highlight the important and share some of what the average man needs to know. Let’s start with a sensitive topic.

THE TRUTH ABOUT ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION You say: I’m fine. I just need that little blue pill once in a while.

Besides, I’ve been stressed out and tired lately.

The Experts Say: First, you are not alone. Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a problem that affects 18 million men in the United States alone. It can be especially common if you have diabetes or are obese. When should you be concerned? If it is a recurring issue and it’s happening with frequency such as a few times a month.

Can’t You Just Call In A Prescription? Unfortunately, ED is more than being stressed out, tired or even having problems in your relationship. “ED is a barometer of overall health that can be an indicator of more serious life-threatening conditions such as heart disease, diabetes and prostate cancer,” says Dr. Brent Sharpe of North Carolina Urological Associates. If accompanied by a decrease in interest, selfesteem issues or anxiety, it could also be a symptom of depression or low testosterone.

The Heart Attack Connection: “Evidence that links heart disease and ED

has been mounting during the past several years. In one study, 65% of men who experienced a heart attack had erectile dysfunction and no history of heart disease,” says Dr. Sharpe. Additionally, it has been documented that men experience their first heart attack about three years after their first signs of ED, making it an early warning sign of cardiovascular disease.

Dr. Sharpe explains that because the penile arteries are much smaller than arteries of the heart, evidence of cardiovascular disease can manifest first as ED symptoms, long before other symptoms occur, putting you at risk for a vascular event. And, while heart attacks may be the first thing to pop into your mind, remember that strokes are also vascular events. “ED could be your first indicator that there’s a bigger problem,” says Dr. Richard Daw of Wake Heart and Vascular Associates.

Takeaway: The good news is that when identified, ED can be cured and more serious cardiovascular events can hopefully be averted. So don’t be embarrassed. And don’t procrastinate. Be willing to go to your doctor and make sure there’s nothing else going on.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF DEVELOPING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A FAMILY PHYSICIAN You Say: I’m too busy to go to the doctor. I’ve got knee pain because I overdid it being weekend warrior. And the pain in my chest at night is just indigestion or stress.

The Experts Say: “The fact is, most men go to the doctor only when they’re convinced they are dying,” says Dr. David Adams, Board Certified Family Physician. Here’s the thing. The majority of the time, you’re not dying. The majority of the time, there’s an explanation for your ailment. And there’s no easier way to get answers than by developing a relationship with a family physician or internist.

Know This: “If you are having persistent issues of any kind and have not had a physical in a while, see your doctor,” says Dr. Adams.

A relatively healthy young man with no risk factors – no tobacco use, obesity, high blood pressure or family history – may forgo the annual physical and instead go in once every few years for a physical exam and blood work. As you get older, if any risk factors are present, or if you are on medication, see your doctor annually.

About Those Risk Factors: The key to good health is good habits, all in an effort to eliminate risk factors. While certain factors such as family history cannot be escaped, there are other ways to take care of yourself: • Eliminate tobacco products: This is the single most preventative factor for a whole variety of health issues. It’s so detrimental to your health that it almost negates the value gained by implementing all the other healthy living habits, such as good eating and exercise. Even a current smoker can reduce his risk by quitting.

• Lower your cholesterol: You may be a candidate for medication, but you can also lower your cholesterol through a healthy diet and exercise.

• Eat a healthy, low fat diet: Include plenty of fruits and vegetables.

• Exercise: Just moderate exercise a few times a week can help.

• Reduce stress: Sure, it’s easier said than done. But stress does take a physical and emotional toll on the body. Exercise is a wonderful way to let it go.

• Increase sleep: It’s a common misconception that as we get older, we need less. Ideally, most of us need at least six to eight hours a night.

What About Vitamins? The most important vitamin to take is the one you’re deficient in. If you are concerned, see your doctor.

Takeaway: Establishing a relationship with a physician and going in to get a physical will give you a baseline of your health, so if there are any significant changes, your doctor will be able to respond quickly.

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THE MEANING OF SCREENING… AND HOW IT’S DIFFERENT THAN A DIAGNOSIS You say: I turned 50 and I’m getting my first colonoscopy. What if they find something?

The Experts Say: Are you having symptoms? If not, don’t panic. “It’s important that people understand the difference between screening and diagnosis, as well as the benefit of both,” says Dr. William Bobzien III of Waverly Hematology Oncology. “During a screening, you’re looking for a test that has both high sensitivity, meaning that if the condition is there, it can be found, and high specificity, meaning that if something if found, what is the likelihood that it is the disease.” If symptoms are present, you are instead looking at a potential diagnosis and you will be referred to a doctor who can help make that diagnosis.

So what is recommended?

• Colonoscopy: The American Cancer Society recommends that every man, beginning at age 50, have one, and this recommendation is based on the assumption that you have no symptoms. If you have a family history, talk to your doctor about beginning screenings earlier.

“It may be that you begin at an age 10 years earlier than the age of the person who was diagnosed,” says Dr. Bobzien. So if your father was diagnosed at the age of 50, you begin at 40.

• PSA (Prostate Specific Antigen) Test: The American Cancer Society leaves the decision to screen for prostate cancer is between you and your doctor. “For the average, healthy male, this should be considered starting at the age of 50,” says Dr. Charles Eisenbeis of Cancer Centers of North Carolina. If you are at higher risk for prostate cancer, which includes African Americans and men who have a first-degree relative such as a father, brother or son diagnosed with prostate cancer at an early age (younger than age 65), these discussions should being at the age of 40 or 45, depending on how many first-degree relatives have been affected.

The Only Time It’s OK To Ignore the Guidelines: If you have symptoms, regardless of age, proceed directly to your physician.

And What If They Find Something? If you are referred to a specialist based on symptoms or screening results, it is important to understand that it may or may not be something to be concerned about. “A good family physician is doing his job in getting further tests and there are lots of things it could be,” says Dr. Bobzien. While it could turn out to be something, it could also turn out to be a non-problem or a trivial problem. If a problem is found, it will be identified, evaluated, and you’ll be referred to a specialist.

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WHAT IF IT’S CANCER?

Getting a Diagnosis: First, try to remain calm. “Hearing the words ‘you have cancer’ can be scary. However, it is important to keep in mind that many cancers are treatable, and many people are living satisfying and productive lives, even with a cancer diagnosis,” says Dr. Eisenbeis.

Information Overload: In addition to family and friends who will offer advice, it may be tempting to immediately turn to the Internet for more information. “While there are certain useful sources of information, there is also information that can be misleading or incorrect,” says Dr. Eisenbeis. Instead go to your doctor for specific details on your cancer. It is also a good idea to keep a notebook with questions for your doctor, so that when you meet, you don’t have to try to remember everything you want to ask.

The First Visit: Your initial visit should include a thorough discussion of the diagnosis, including treatment options and both the short-term and longterm prognosis. A key part of this will be staging your diagnosis, includes determining if the cancer is localized or has spread. “It is important to determine if you can cure it or if you are trying to control it,” says Dr. Bobzien. If there is a need for additional testing, this will also be discussed.

Treatment: “The treatment of cancer is changing dramatically, with novel drugs and treatments being introduced at a rapid pace. Many of these new treatments are more effective against cancer, but have fewer or less severe side effects when compared to the treatments available even 10 years ago,” says Dr. Eisenbeis. Treatment plans are specifically tailored not only to the patient’s cancer type, but also to his personal goals and wishes.

In general, most cancer treatment, including both chemotherapy and radiation therapy, can cause fatigue. Nausea and loss of appetite are also common. The specific treatment plan will include a plan for how to deal with these symptoms if they arise. Questions you should be asking include: • How often the treatments are given?

• What should I expect on treatment days?

• Are there any medications to prevent side effects?

• What can be done if side effects occur?

• Who do I call if I’m having problems?

• What are the expectations of treatment?

• What kind of testing schedule will be implemented to determine if the treatments are working?

• What are the options if the recommended treatment doesn’t work?

Takeaway: Feel confident that if you are diagnosed with cancer, you will receive compassionate care that is on the cutting edge of modern medicine, with your medical oncologist working to coordinate and manage your care.

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I’M WORRIED ABOUT A HEART ATTACK OR STROKE You say: I’m a walking time bomb. I’m going to have a heart attack or stroke out.

The Expert Says: Good for you for making the connection between the heart and the brain. “Understanding that a stroke is a heart attack of your brain can help you understand the risk factors,” says Dr. Daw. This connection also extends to a risk for a vascular event in your extremities. Once you understand the connection, it also makes it easier to understand what you can do to prevent a vascular event.

Understanding Atherosclerosis: When plaque develops in the arteries, the hardening of the arteries occurs. This is a disease called atherosclerosis. Atherosclerosis in the heart is called coronary artery disease and is the most common cause of heart attacks. When atherosclerosis is found in the arteries that supply blood to the brain, it may cause a stroke. If found in arteries in other parts of the body, such as the pelvis and legs, it can cause poor circulation, slower healing of skin injuries, and erection problems. Atherosclerosis is very common in people over the age of 65.

Preventative care: If you are healthy with no symptoms or history, your physical exam conducted by your general internist will encompass preventative care. This will include blood work with a full lipid profile, a cholesterol breakout and a discussion of any risk factors. Outside of the doctor’s office, Dr. Daw stresses the importance of physical activity,

stress management, a healthy diet, managing a healthy weight, and if you are a smoker, quitting. If you are at risk, have symptoms or have had physical findings of a heart attack or stroke, a specialist will perform diagnostic tests.

Importance of Aspirin: The benefit of aspirin for those at risk for a vascular event has long been reported. What is recommended? “If you are an at-risk male over the age of 45, a dose of about 81 mg a day is beneficial,” says Dr. Daw. The key word in that statement? At-risk.

Additionally, if you are experiencing heart attack or stroke symptoms, take an aspirin as you call 9-1-1.

Treating Heart Disease: A major part of treating atherosclerosis and coronary artery disease involves lifestyle changes such as quitting smoking along with medications to help reduce high cholesterol, control high blood pressure, and manage other factors that increase a person’s risk of heart attack, stroke, and other complications.

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SUSPECT A HEART ATTACK OR STROKE? The American Heart Association recommends calling 9-1-1 if you notice one or more of these signs: Heart Attack Warning Signs • Chest discomfort: Usually in the center of the chest that lasts for a few minutes, or that goes away and comes back. It can feel like uncomfortable pressure, squeezing, fullness or pain.

• Discomfort in other areas of the upper body: May include one or both arms, the back, neck, jaw or stomach.

• Shortness of Breath: May occur with or without chest discomfort.

• Other signs: May include a cold sweat, nausea or lightheadedness.

Stroke Warning Signs • Sudden numbness or weakness of the face, arm or leg, especially on one side of the body.

• Sudden confusion, trouble speaking or understanding.

• Sudden trouble seeing in one or both eyes.

• Sudden trouble walking, dizziness, loss of balance or coordination.

• Sudden, severe headache with no known cause.

UNDERSTANDING CHOLESTEROL High cholesterol is one of the major controllable risk factors for coronary heart disease, heart attack and stroke. While overall level of your cholesterol is important – less than 200 is the desired number – it is also important for your doctor to evaluate the components of your cholesterol: low density lipoproteins, high density lipoproteins, and triglycerides. These are the American Heart Association’s Guidelines for the components of cholesterol: Components

Description

Desired level*

LDL

The “bad” cholesterol. Too much can build up in the artery walls, resulting in atherosclerosis.

Optimal: Less than 100 Near Optimal: 100-129

HDL

The “good” cholesterol. High levels seem to protect against heart attack.

Low levels (less than 40 mg/dl) increase the risk of heart disease.

60 and above

Triglycerides

People with high triglycerides often have high cholesterol and LDLs, as do people with heart disease and diabetes.

Normal: Less than 150 Borderline High: 150-199 *in milligrams per deciliter of blood

SO WHAT’S NOW? There’s a lot of information out there. And you should read and learn so you can be as educated as possible about your health. But as you read, keep in mind that as soon as one study comes out singing the praises of a new treatment, medicine, supplement or regime, another study is sure to take its place, stating just the opposite. “Medicine is not a clear-cut science.

Everything has to be interpreted in light of relation to the family history, patient history, personal history and lifestyle,” says Dr. Adams. So stay on top of your health by talking with your doctor about what is best for you.

And if there is a problem, don’t be frightened of what might be. Instead, find out what the problem is and what you can do about it. “We are fortunate to be in an area with very competent doctors, including some fantastic medical schools. You have lots of options,” says Dr. Bobzien.

Editor’s note: Always consult with your doctor regarding your health.

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Initial Impression Monogramming Etiquette for Seasonal Gift Giving

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Blue Tiger Gifts (left)

As the perfect gift for that special child in your life, we recommend Rufflebutts – a modern version of the ruffled diaper or baby bloomer from childhood long ago.

This woven cotton item can be personalized in infant sizes 3-6m, 6-12m, 12-18m, 18-24m and in toddler size 2T. These bloomers will bring a smile to your face as your little one fashionably waddles through the holidays. $20-$30.

The art of monogramming and personalizing your belongings is a long-standing tradition that remains fervent through commercial change in style and fashion. The motif of overlapping or combined letters says that you are proud of your name or family history. The design can be playful, whimsical, flamboyant, traditional, elegant or understated – and seen on everything from letterhead to towels, bags, shoes, jewelry, purses, glassware, soap, candles and car windows.

Traditionally noted with a cursive or script font for women and a stately, block font for men, the chosen design of your personal monogram is a reflection of your personality exemplifying elegance, class and diction.

Historically, the monogram was used as a royal signature. Romans and Greeks used them on coins to identify their rulers. By the Middle Ages, artisans began to use them to sign their work. The higher class Victorians adapted the monogram for personal use as a symbol of their place in society. Although there have been periods in history when single initial monograms and two-letter monograms were preferred, the three-letter monogram has come to symbolize today’s standard. Rules of use are now flexible, but for the purist there are a few standards.

“There is nothing that cannot be engraved as long as it is done tastefully and correctly,” says Etiquette and Protocol Consultant Lu Ann Rudolph (luannely-rudolph.com). In engraving, the wife’s name is first, followed by the husband’s name – Lu Ann and Neil Rudolph, for example. If in doubt, it is always proper to use the last initial. And in bestowing that perfect gift, Rudolph recommends the following monogramming etiquette:

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Cute Buttons Gift and Paper Boutique Are you looking for something to put your name on this yuletide? Consider a personalized cutting board for seasonal flair, and select your color and pattern to make it fanciful and stylish. Chopping cheese or rolling sausage balls for your holiday soiree can be fun on a cutting board that’s made just for you. These items make the perfect personalized gift – or to display in your own kitchen. $55.

Women – The conventional consists of three letters with a larger letter in the middle flanked by two smaller ones on each side. Traditionally, the larger letter represents the last name, the smaller letter on the left represents the first name and the smaller letter on the right represents either the middle name or maiden name. Example: Lauren Ann Smith’s monogram would read LSA. If Lauren marries James Robert Barbour, she drops her middle name and keeps her maiden name. Lauren Smith Barbour’s new monogram would read LBS. In cases where women do not take their husband’s last name, his family name is generally still used for monograms.

Men – The traditional monogram for a man is horizontal. Each letter is the same height and appears in the same order as the actual name, i.e., first name, middle name, last name. Example: James Robert Barbour’s monogram would read JRB. The exception to this rule is with cufflinks, the monogram should read JBR with the last name initial larger.

Couples – When the bride takes the groom’s last name, the monogram should read bride’s first name, last name, and groom’s first name so that the man is never separated from his surname. However, it is completely up to the couple to decide how they’d like their married initials to appear, so it’s always a good idea to ask. Example: Lauren Ann Smith marries James Robert Barbour, and

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Invitation Box Keep the tradition and expression of timeless personalization alive with a custom stamper by Noteworthy Collections. Each stamp is individually designed with your style in mind and features a personal or married monogram paired with a home address, favorite phrase or motif. The pictured item features a large family name monogrammed initial followed by the family’s address below an ornate floral design – perfect for marking your belongings, stamping envelopes as a seal, or creating personalized stationery. $39.

their blended monogram becomes LBJ. For couples with his and hers separate bathrooms, it is acceptable to give towels with his initials and her initials.

Life Partners – Example for those who are retaining both last names: Adam Brown & David Smith’s monogram would read ABSD or BS. Children – As a precautionary measure, an infant’s or child’s first name should never be visible in public. This includes return labels, car windows, clothing, and book bags.

With a single letter initial monogram, it is wise to ask the recipient how they want the monogram to read. For last names with an apostrophe or “Mc,” use the

The Sassy Blossom One of our favorites is Paparte’ personalized gifts, where you always have the “write name.”

From noir travel mugs and ink pens that we can print your name on in just five minutes, you just choose the pattern (from popular favorites such as damask, zebra, and argyle) and tell us the name. A great personalized gift for home or office that can be nicely boxed with a decorative ribbon. And for our sassy touch, be sure to ask for free gift wrap. $10 - $18.

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Southern Charm Boutique Gorgeous blue pine serving trays (13.5” x 19.5” x 3”) are a popular new product for us. Also referred to as beetle kill pine, blue pine is recycled wood from trees harvested off the floor of Northern Colorado’s forest. The color variations are magnificent, and we will laser engrave with a name, initial, sentiment or verse free of charge.

These make excellent wedding, anniversary or Christmas gifts. $89.

Swagger Gifts A treasure – with children’s names or a favorite verse, this pendant represents the heart of a mother. Moms have been asking us for years if we had anything that could be monogrammed to represent their children.

Worn on a chain or as a charm on a bracelet, this will be an heirloom piece. Also great for a couple’s monogram with wedding date, inspirational saying, or grandma’s pendant. Starting at $99.

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first letter of the last name. Example: for O’Reilly, use “O” in the monogram, for McDonald, use “M.” Here are a few additional suggestions: Accessories for Women – With jewelry, handbags, bath wraps and the like, use the first letter of her first name.

Glassware, Soap, and Candles – Use the first letter of the last name of the woman, man or couple.

Stamps, Embossers, and Towels – For a woman, you can use either the first or last initial, but the trend leans more towards the former. If the stamp is for a man or couple, however, Rudolph suggests using the first letter of the last name.

The Paper Company How do you make a Vera Bradley gift even better?

Try adding a monogram in a coordinating color. At just $7, an embroidered monogram in your choice of block or script lettering will be ready for pick-up in just 2-3 days. Choose solid color handbags and travel pieces in microfiber or nylon, or select from the wide variety of colors and styles available in Vera Bradley’s signature collection. $8-$140.

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The holiday season is peppered with fun dress-up occasions…whether it’s seeing the Nutcracker or a visit to Grandma’s, your “little” lady or gent will look picture perfect in these great holiday styles found at local boutiques!

1 Emma is wearing an adorable Bailey Boys trio. This 3-piece set includes a white-cord stocking angel dress with ruffled pants, along with a fuschia and white striped scalloped turtleneck, $92. Accessorized with a matching Bailey Boys bow, $12. Bailey is wearing the matching big sister Bailey Boys 2-piece tunic stocking set with fuschia and white polka dot pants, $66. Accessorized with a matching Bailey Boys bow, $14. Picture perfect for the holidays! Available at Pattywhacks.

2 Nicole is looking stylish in this lollipop black knit dress with multi-colored fabric swirls, $52. Topping off the look are these sweet and sassy hot pink patent leather boots by Amiana, $98. All available at Polka Dots/Be-Tween for Girls.

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6 7 3 Alessandra is wearing the holiday skirt set and Mia is wearing the matching knit dress from Young Colors, respectively retailing for $58 and $52 in stores, but only $36 and $31.50 at La Boutique for Kids.

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5 Alessandra is wearing a paisley jumper with collar blouse by Le’ Za Me, retailing for $70, but only $35 at La Boutique for Kids.

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6 Mia is wearing a fleece reindeer jumper with onesie by Bonnie Jean, retailing for $36, but only $22.50 at La Boutique for Kids.

7 Nicole is sassy yet sophisticated in this ruffled black dress coat and hat by Biscotti. Coat $82, hat $32. Hot pink patent leather boots by Amiana, $98. Available at Polka Dots/Be-Tween for Girls.

8 Davis is wearing the matching brother Mulberry Street Santa face long-all, $74, with a white turtleneck by LeTop, $12.

Available at Pattywhacks.

9 Nicole is wearing a fun and funky bell sleeve dress from Haven Girl with sequin accents and a groovy print, $52. Perfect for dress or play are these hot pink patent leather boots from Amiana $98.

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Several bottle colors available. These make wonderful Christmas or Hostess gifts.

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BOUNTIFUL FEAST ...just like mom used to make

By KriSTy STEvEnSon

consider what the holiday season would be like without nostalgic foods and beverages. Picture your favorite gathering – can you smell the goodness of mom’s kitchen or hear the clink of glasses raised in celebration? regardless of the dates you celebrate, this time of year is all about the savory sentiments of days gone by. From cocktail parties to cookie exchanges, it’s the series of dishes we look forward to each year, the recipes we pass down from generation to generation, and the calories we are only willing to consume because ‘tis the season. i grew up in milwaukee where the outdoors were often a glistening white by this time, so cold that your nose and

fingertips went numb after just a short time in the elements.

To return to a warm hearth filled with the sweet aroma of holiday cooking always made everything seem that much more delectable. Holiday music echoed throughout the house, punctuated by the crackle of the old phonograph and lights a-twinkle against a darkening sky. The kitchen was always bustling with the creation of treats for family, friends and neighbors.

Following are some show-stoppers shared by our readers. Send us your Thanksgiving through new year’s family favorites, and we’ll post them on our website. cheers!

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FRENCH TOAST CASSEROLE

Breakfast from Melanie Lewis kids love this dish, and it’s good for the holidays because you can prepare it the night before.

2/3 cup packed dark brown sugar 2 tbsp butter 2 tbsp dark corn syrup Cooking spray 1 1/2 cups 1% low-fat milk 1/2 cup egg substitute 1 tsp vanilla extract 1/4 tsp salt 1/8 tsp grated orange rind 2 large eggs 6 (1 1/2-inch thick) slices french bread Combine ďŹ rst 3 ingredients in a small, heavy saucepan over medium heat. Cook 5 minutes or until bubbly and sugar dissolves, stirring constantly. Pour sugar mixture into bottom of a 13x9 inch baking dish coated with cooking

spray. spread mixture evenly over bottom of pan. set aside; cool completely.

Combine milk and next 5 ingredients (through eggs) in a large shallow bowl; stir with a whisk. dip 1 bread slice in milk mixture; arrange bread slice over sugar mixture in dish. repeat with remaining 5 bread slices. Pour any remaining egg mixture over bread slices. Cover and refrigerate overnight. in the morning, preheat oven to 350 degrees and bake for 30 minutes or until lightly browned.

Place 1 bread slice, caramel side up, on each of 6 plates. top with whipped cream or toasted pecans if desired. serves 6.

CARAMEL CORN

Snack/party favor from Kevin Dietzschold this is a great treat to share during fall football or holiday open houses.

24 cups of popped popcorn 1 cup nuts (optional) 2 sticks margarine 2 cups light brown sugar 1/2 cup light corn syrup Pinch of salt 1/2 tsp baking soda

Pop popcorn and add nuts if desired. Preheat oven to 250 degrees. in a large saucepan, bring sugar, corn syrup, butter and salt to a rolling boil over medium heat. boil for 5 minutes, remove from heat and stir in baking soda. Pour over popcorn, mix well to coat. bake for one hour, mixing thoroughly every 15 minutes. spread caramel corn on wax paper to cool. serves 24.

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GOAT BRIE RAMEKINS WITH TOMATO CONCASSÉ & HERBS

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Appetizer from Sandra Gutierrez, food writer, cooking instructor and author of the new southern latino table by The University of North Carolina Press. for large crowds, make this in a casserole dish. sandra likes to divide it into tiny ramekins, though, so guests can dip in the bread and enjoy every bit. You can find brie-style goat cheese at trader Joe’s, Whole foods, or at A southern season. if you have a hard time locating it, you may substitute regular soft goat cheese or try a camembert or brie.

ORANGE-CRANBERRY RELISH

Side dish from Julie Jarvis Although not fans of cranberry sauce, Julie and her family love this dish.

2 cans jellied cranberries 1/4 to 1/2 cup orange juice 1 tbsp grated orange rind 1/2 tsp ground cloves 1/2 tsp ground nutmeg 1 tsp cinnamon

stir/cook over medium heat until blended. delicious as a side with turkey or served on bread like a jam.

May be served hot or cold and may be reheated. serves 8.

2 cups peeled and seeded plum tomatoes, chopped (use a serrated potato peeler) 12 oz brie-style goat cheese (with rind) 4 cloves of garlic, minced 2 tsp chopped fresh rosemary 2 tsp chopped fresh thyme 1/4 cup chopped fresh italian parsley 1 cup extra virgin olive oil sea salt freshly ground black pepper Crusty artisan bread Preheat the broiler. in a medium bowl, combine the tomatoes, garlic, rosemary, thyme and parsley. Add the olive oil and combine well; season to taste with salt and pepper. divide between 6 small ramekins. using a piece of dental floss (not flavored), cut 6 equal rounds of the goat’s cheese, placing each over the tomato mixture in each ramekin. season the tops of the cheese rounds with a pinch of sea salt and freshly ground pepper. set the ramekins on a large baking sheet and place them under the broiler until the tops of the cheese rounds are golden and the cheese has melted. Crack some more fresh black pepper directly on the cheese and serve hot with plenty of crusty bread. serves 6.

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APPLESAUCE CAKE

Dessert from Margaret Burke A classic from my gram. this dessert is very rich, so slices should be small.

2 1/2 cups cake our 2 cups sugar 1 1/2 tsp baking soda 1 1/2 tsp salt 3/4 tsp cinnamon 1/2 tsp cloves 1/2 tsp allspice 1/4 tsp baking powder 1 1/2 cups canned applesauce 1/2 cup water 1/2 cup shortening 2 eggs 1 cup raisins 1/2 cup chopped walnuts

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. grease 13x9x2 inch pan or two round layers. blend all ingredients at low speed for 30 seconds; continue beating on high for 3 minutes. Pour into pans and bake (oblong pan, 60-65 mins; layers, 50-55 mins). serves 12. browned butter frosting: heat 1/3 cup butter in saucepan until delicate brown. blend in 3 cups powdered sugar, 1 1/2 tsp vanilla, and 2 tbsp milk. beat until smooth and of spreading consistency.

BEAN SAUSAGE CASSEROLE

Vegetable from Virginia Walker Although known for her sweets, this is a favorite virginia likes to make for her family and church friends.

1 cup celery, chopped 1 large onion, chopped 1 pound sausage (Jimmy dean preferred) 2 tbsp yellow mustard 1 can tomato soup 1 cup brown sugar 1 can lima beans, drained 1 can green beans, drained 1 can wax beans, drained

1 can kidney beans, drained 1 can pork & beans, drained 1 small can tomato paste sautee celery, onion and sausage. Add mustard, tomato soup and brown sugar and mix. then add all ďŹ ve types of beans and the tomato paste. Pour into 13x9 inch baking dish, top with bacon slices (optional), and bake at 325 degrees for one hour. serves 10-12.

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An Evening of Illusions and Celebration Annual Scott-Free Event Benefits Local At-Risk Children Recently the Scott-Free Scholarship Foundation and its supportive community gathered for their 3rd annual event to celebrate another successful year, in which it sent 57 at-risk children to summer camp programs. The illusion-themed event, held on October 16th at the Mirage Nightclub in downtown Raleigh, dazzled guests with acrobatic dancing, body painting, magic, a silent art auction, raffle prizes and exotic gourmet food. Mayor Charles Meeker even dropped by to voice his support.

Funds generated from the event will allow Scott-Free to continue pairing local at-risk children with summer camp programs. Since its inception in 2008, Scott-Free and its camp partners have successfully sent 125 kids to camp.

Along with over 20 camp partners from the North Carolina coast to the mountains, Scott-Free is providing kids with all kinds of unique experiences. The camps specialize in sports, theatre, science, music, cooking, computer animation, dance and more. Scott-Free works with both day camps and residential camps. Partner camps help out financially with either discounted or donated camp spots, but Scott-Free also pays the full fare for some camps in order to ensure that a child is paired with a camp that matches his unique interests and abilities.

The raffle drawing was a highlight of the evening. Prize packages included an Apple iPad, a 42” flat screen TV courtesy of Jack Hoile of Legacy Wealth Strategies, a weekend getaway at the Umstead Hotel & Spa, season tickets to local theatres, Caro-

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lina Hurricanes tickets, gift certificates and more.

Johnson Lexus of Raleigh was a tremendous supporting sponsor. They provided valet parking, car wash gift vouchers and radio advertising leading up to the event.

The event’s entertainment lent an air of drama and theatre. Zahra of Airborne Aerials in Fayetteville thrilled with her acrobatic aerial dancing. Foxy Moxy Liquid Art Body Painting, from Winston-Salem, created an amazing display of artistic skill with their work on a model provided

by Raleigh’s Models For Charity organization. Illusionist Enrico Leoni kept everyone entertained and amazed.

The diligent work of onsite photographers Bob McAllister and Amy Jarrett ensured that this will be an evening to remember. The food, catered by The Mirage was both visually beautiful and delicious.

DJ 100dBs of Brooklyn provided his services for the second straight year. He also produced the 2010 ScottFree Mix, a CD given to all who attended. Man Mur Shoe Repair of Hillsborough Street offered complimentary shoe shines throughout the evening.

Scott-Free’s success is realized thanks to the support of an enthusiastic and generous community. Together, it provides children with an opportunity to explore the possibilities of their own abilities, dreams and desires by exposing them to life outside their own surroundings. Many more children will get this opportunity next year thanks to the supporters of Scott-Free and the 2010 Scott-Free Event.

A gift is most precious when given under no obligation and received without any expectation “Journeys Urging Mammoth Possibilities” dba “Scott-Free” is a 501(c)(3) tax exempt non-profit organization

P.O. Box 19681 Raleigh, NC 27619-9681

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holiday beauty All I want for Christmas is…

By Kate Turgeon

You packed away sundresses and capri pants in favor of corduroys and boots. World Cup soccer is just a memory as football and basketball grab the attention. And those yearnings for iced tea and summer salads have given way to cravings for comforting grilled cheese and hot tomato soup.

Most of us aren’t wearing, watching or eating the same things we did just a few months ago. So why are some of us treating our bodies the same way and using the same products? The advent of winter means that our hair, skin, minds and bodies are braving the season’s change, too. Add holiday stress and many of us find ourselves feeling and looking about as merry as a burnt-out light on a Christmas tree.

It’s time to light up again! Join Cary Living for a look at common problems and their solutions. Faster than you can say Noel, you’ll be surviving the holidays in style and comfort. After all, when

you’re looking and feeling your best, it’s easier to celebrate all the joyfulness that’s around.

Problem: Dry, lackluster skin When Cary Living asked area spa owners and skin care experts for their take on the biggest problems people face this time of year, the answer was the same again and again: dry, dull skin. Yes, the summer glow is no more, and people are searching for ways to get soft, beautiful skin despite the cooler outdoors and heated indoors.

“A great secret during the winter months is to always wear a face primer with or without makeup,” says Dana Sullivan, manager at The Spa at Miller-Motte. “The ingredients in primers help to create a nice barrier during the cool, dry weather. We happen to love Glo Minerals face primer.”

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When cold weather hits and holidays bring stress, it’s important to know your skin type and choose the proper treatments and products. Pictured are products from The Spa at Miller-Motte, which offers brands such as Biotone, Biofreeze, Glotherapeutics, ARC Skincare and Eminence Organic.

For many people, a facial is just the right pampering.

First, speak to your skin care professional or dermatologist to determine your skin type, which can help you decide on treatments and products. Facials, which come in a wide array of types, can be wonderful for cleansing and caring for the skin, and they often come with a shoulder and chest (“décolleté”) massage, too.

For those in need of deep, lasting hydration, a triple oxygen intensive facial may be the right choice, says Nina Milano, owner of La Therapie Spa at Preston. Milano’s favorite skin tip for this time of year is to clean skin with a good almond oil, followed by your favorite cleanser. “[It will] make your skin so soft, not dry and dehydrated like it could be after just a cleanser,” she says.

Esthetician Toni Caraway says dry skin is a fact of life for her, due in part to the time she spends running outdoors during the winter months. Her answer to this common problem? “Nothing beats microdermabrasion for dry, flaky skin,” says Caraway, who works at Nirvelli Day Spa. “It’s a deep, exfoliating, noninvasive treatment that lifts away dead skin cells and smoothes fine lines… skin will be bright and radiant with no down time.”

Problem: Aches, Pains and Stress Carry four shopping bags around for any length of time, and you’re not doing your arms or back any favors. Add to that the countless hours spent on your feet baking and accommodating family members, and you have a perfect storm of aches, pains and stress.

What’s a Christmas elf to do? Step off the beloved holiday track and find some quiet time. At Syeni Spa, cosmetologist Miranda Welch recommends 75 minutes of bliss, or as it’s named on the spa menu – the hot stone massage. “[It] promotes deep muscle and tissue relaxation, releases toxins and pain, alleviates stress and improves circulation,” says Welch. And if stress reduction isn’t good enough, there’s more good news – that improved circulation will add a youthful glow to your face. caryliving.com | 63

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Quick Pre-Party Pick-Me-Ups! Big holiday gathering and one day (or less!) to prepare? Check out these speedy ways to look and feel your best.

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Just because another year is drawing to a close doesn’t mean you can’t look more youthful than ever. Sas Sukkasem of Eminence Day Spa suggests a blueberry detox peel or lime stimulating mask for brighter skin.

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Get glossy with glossing shine enhancer. “This will bring out the color of the hair…leaving it smooth and extremely shiny. We also follow up with a blow-out and partial up-do.” – Shawn Kekel, Von Kekel Salon Spa Ask any hostess; letting someone else help is the key to enjoying your party! And the key to enjoying your holiday is just the same – let someone help! Consider a make-up application or facial to remove dead skin cells, says Dana Sullivan, spa manager at The Spa at Miller-Motte.

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At La Therapie Spa at Preston, it’s cleanse and exfoliate for partyperfect skin. Add an oxygen and vitamin boost to a facial for extra benefits, says spa owner Nina Milano.

Who doesn’t want to be the radiant woman at the soiree? Think exfoliation, says esthetician Toni Caraway of Nirvelli Day Spa. “One of my favorites is the Glo Enzyme by Glo Therapeutics. The cranberry and pomegranate treatment not only smells delicious, but it’s loaded with antioxidants that your skin craves,” she adds.

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Pick up a new hair product. Stylist Anna Smith suggests Agadir Oil products for nourishment, moisture and shine. “Their spray oil cuts drying time while protecting your hair…your hair gets less thermal damage,” says Smith, who owns Studio 180 Salon.

Pick up a new skin product. The pros at Syeni Spa like Bioelements, specifically the Urban Detox (a topical antioxidant serum) and lipidloaded Recovery serum, which helps hyper-pigmentation.

Tis always the season! Study after study shows that people feel happier when they give time, money and support to those in need.

Consider giving blood, volunteering your time or making a donation to your favorite charity. Really, what shows better on your face than true joy?

Agadir Oil products: A Studio 180 Salon beauty secret for hair that’s moisturized, nourished and shiny.

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There’s nothing wrong with taking a break from the hustle and bustle of the holidays. For many, a quiet and tranquil visit to the spa will work wonders for mind and body. At Syeni Salon and Spa, it’s all about relaxation.

But maybe your stress comes from worry about fitting into your party dress or those pesky pounds that the camera seems to add. If so, Sas Sukkasem, owner of Eminence Day Spa, says there’s a way to lose inches from hard-to-target areas of the body. The Ion Magnum – which the spa’s website describes as “the ultimate painless workout” – can subtract inches and add confidence, she says. Other technology at Eminence includes the Nano Perfector, which targets wrinkles.

Other tips for stress management: yoga, nature walks, meditating in a peaceful place, applying calming essential oils, listening to soothing music (nix the boisterous Christmas tunes for a bit), playing with a beloved pet and watching the ocean waves. (Source: The Skin Type Solution by Dr. Leslie Baumann.)

Problem: Dry, dull hair and itchy scalp You wear it every day: your hair. It’s not like a least-favorite sweater you can hide away in your closet. Making beautiful, healthy hair a priority is easier than ever, even during the changing seasons and hustle and bustle of the holidays.

“Typically, during these months, people tend to turn the heat on in their homes which, as we know, can cause hair and skin to become more dry,” says Shawn Kekel, owner of Von Kekel Salon Spa. Static, flyaway hairs and diminished shine are other problems caused by missing humidity, he adds. Kekel’s solution? Hydrate from head to toe. “A couple of Aveda products that would be beneficial – Dry Remedy shampoo and conditioner…and for dry scalp…Aveda’s Scalp Benefits shampoo and conditioner,” he says.

Itchy scalp is a problem too, says Anna Smith, owner of Studio 180 Salon. “Colder temperatures and holiday stress can cause itchy scalp, but we have a few remedies that can help,” says Smith. “A moisturizing scalp treatment works wonders.” Taking home a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner can really make a difference as well. Smith recommends Aquage Biomega.

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H E A LT H Y

LIVING

ACUPUNCTURE for Women’s Health

By TOBY HELMSTETTER, LAC | TrianglE acUPUncTUrE clinic | WWW.TrianglEacUPUncTUrEclinic.com Women are amazing. We have entire industries

depression, anxiety, infertility and problems during

cine with modern understandings of the delicate

devoted to our health, longevity and well-being.

pregnancy are all issues we treat with great regular-

balance between the endocrine system, immune

We’re bombarded with information on how to stay

ity. Women come to us because the conventional

system, digestive system and the mind. This is what

fit, healthy, young, beautiful, pain-free, calm, happy

route – taking hormone replacement therapy or

allows acupuncture to help women who suffer from

and sexy! There are tips on how to keep a clean and

birth control, trying assisted reproductive technolo-

pre-menstrual symptoms like migraines or acne; or

safe house, how to delegate, cut back on our stress

gies to get pregnant, going on anti-depressants

women enduring hot flashes, insomnia or mood

and have happy relationships. And all this informa-

– hasn’t helped them completely gain the results

swings; women who have tried IVF and haven’t

tion is there because there’s a need for it. We have

they need to achieve their goals. Whether a woman

been able to conceive; women who are pregnant

too much to do, we expect so much of ourselves,

wants to go the ‘natural route’ or wants something

with terrible morning sickness or back pain; women

and we love all the people we’re here to take care

to enhance what she’s already doing with the help of

who have been on anti-depressants but still suffer

of. In spite of this, or maybe because of this, many

her doctor, acupuncture has the ability to bridge the

from symptoms.

women suffer from health conditions that can seri-

gap toward a healthy and balanced life.

The beauty of acupuncture is that it doesn’t

ously get in the way of our ability to do all we’ve

How does acupuncture help? The first and

just treat symptoms, it encourages balance in the

set out to do. And because of its popularity among

most widely-recognized way is that acupuncture is

whole person so that they themselves can change

people like Oprah, Dr. Weil, and Dr. Oz, acupunc-

relaxing. This helps combat the most insidious con-

the condition from within. This is done by connect-

ture has been recognized as a viable way to treat

dition that affects women: stress. More specifically,

ing the dots between all the symptoms – no matter

many of these conditions.

acupuncture has been used for thousands of years

how many or seemingly unrelated they may be – and

Acupuncture and Chinese medicine offer a

to address the many different conditions women

addressing the root of the problem, the person as a

natural approach to treating conditions that spe-

face. And modern advances in acupuncture, includ-

whole. As a safe, natural and effective alternative,

cifically affect women. At our clinic, we often see

ing clinical research, have created points of integra-

acupuncture has so much to offer women on their

women who are at (or near) the end of their rope.

tion in the various arenas of women’s health. Today’s

journey toward creating and maintaining health and

Pre-menstrual syndrome, peri-menopause, acne,

acupuncturists combine their skills in ancient medi-

balance, no matter where they are in their lives.

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H E A LT H Y

LIVING

Pulling Onto the Side of the Road:

FAMILY TIME

By BRIAN PURNELL, M.ED., LPC, NCC, ACS | JoUrnEy THroUgH liFE, Pllc | WWW.JoUrnEyTHrU.com When you drive a car down the road it takes some skill, and sometimes you

in her vocabulary, and it enhanced my yearning for learning. My expanded vo-

need to pull onto the side of the road to take a break or get the attention

cabulary helped me communicate better with my teachers, who, you guessed

of the passengers in the vehicle. As we approach the holidays, many in the

it – were adults as well.

American culture take time to give thanks, tumble in leaves, eat lots of turkey,

However, one or two times taking these steps is not enough. The main

throw snowballs, give gifts and, yes, have a lot of family time. However, even

ticket is consistent involvement: reading a bedtime story to your preschool

prior to that, do we need to pull onto the side of the road and take some time

child, getting involved in PTA, volunteering at your child’s school once a month,

for ourselves and for the family? Research by the Department of Education

discussing your children’s progress with teachers and helping your school to

reports that those children that have family time:

set challenging academic standards. Become an advocate for better educa-

• Get better grades and test scores.

tion in your community and state and insist on high standards of behavior for

• Graduate from high school at higher rates.

children and attendance at the local school board meeting.

• Are more likely to go on to higher education.

Family involvement is also one of the best investments a family can make.

• Are better behaved and have more positive attitudes.

Students who graduate from high school earn, on average, $200,000 more in

When parents and families get personally involved in education, their

their lifetimes than students who drop out. College graduates make almost $1

children do better in school and grow up to be more successful in life. Sounds

million more!

like common sense, doesn’t it?

Yet parental involvement is the most overlooked aspect of American edu-

sTePs yoU can Take To imProVe The family Time

cation today. The fact is, many parents don’t realize how important it is to get

P family meeTings

involved in their children’s learning. As one Cary resident father said when he

Surprisingly, there is another aspect that is missed in the culture that we live

began to read to his daughter every day and discovered that it improved her

in and that is the importance of family meetings. These Friday night or Satur-

learning, “I never realized how much it would mean to her to hear me read.”

day morning meetings can help the children become more involved in family

Other parents would like to be involved, but have trouble finding the time.

decisions:

Everything doesn’t have to be time-consuming. For example, I remember my

• Develop leadership skills. The first opportunity where a child learns to

mother putting words on the board in the kitchen that she was learning to use

be a leader is at home with the family. Children tend to behave like their par-

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ents; they learn how to deal with situations and conflict from their parents.

• Help children learn how to listen to others.

• Provide an open forum for children to share disagreement.

• Learn to become more independent with decision-making.

P Use TV wisely Academic achievement drops sharply for children who watch more than 10 hours of television a week, or an average of more than two hours a day. Parents can limit the amount of viewing and help children select educational programs. Parents can also watch and discuss shows with their kids. This will help children understand how stories are structured. During your family meetings, turn off all televisions and phones so the family feels that all parties are involved in the process. Great family movie suggestion: Cheaper By the Dozen (1950).

P Establish a daily family routine with scheduled homework time Studies show that successful students have parents who create and maintain family routines. Make sure your child goes to school every day. Establish a regular time for homework each afternoon or evening, set aside a quiet, well lit place, and encourage children to study. Routines generally include time performing chores, eating meals together and going to bed at an established time.

P Talk to your children and teenagers – and listen to them, too Talk directly to your children, especially your teenagers, about the dangers of drugs and alcohol and the values you want them to have. Set a good example. And listen to what your children have to say.

Such personal talks, however uncomfortable they may make you feel, can save their lives.

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Don’t Give Up on Obtaining a Natural, Beautiful Smile

By DR. GREGORY MAYES | PrESTon DEnTal cEnTEr Due to finances or circumstance, many adults didn’t have the op-

the most effective tool to align teeth. Six Month Smiles uses the

portunity to get their teeth corrected when they were kids. And now,

same gentle movement as regular orthodontics, but because it’s

those adults may be self-conscious of their crooked or uneven teeth.

only straightening the crooked teeth, it can be done much faster

They don’t laugh, and they smile with their lips closed. Appearance is

than regular braces.

important in today’s society, and everyone wants to have a nice smile when they greet friends, acquaintances and business associates.

Regular orthodontics can often take years, and few adults

What’s more, Six Month Smiles uses tooth-colored braces and wires. This makes them inconspicuous, so it’s very hard to see that you even have them.

want to wear shiny metal braces for that long. Others are con-

Another advantage is the financial aspect. Because treatment is

cerned about expense, or that corrective procedures will be too

shorter and requires fewer visits to the orthodontist, the overall cost

invasive. Would you believe there’s a cosmetic solution that’s safe

can be much less than with regular orthodontics, aligners or veneers.

and affordable, and fits easily into your lifestyle? coUld yoU be a candidaTe? a reVolUTionary combinaTion

Not every patient is a candidate for Six Month Smiles. You must un-

Six Month SmilesTM combines proven orthodontic techniques,

dergo a consultation where a dentist or orthodontist will evaluate

contemporary materials, and an innovative philosophy to gently

your teeth and your bite. But here are some basic criteria:

straighten teeth in an average of six months!

For people who don’t need functional correction – in other words, if you don’t have a problem with your bite – braces are

• Age 15 or older • No bite correction needed • Front teeth crooked, crowded, spaced, or overlapping

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Some Common Questions People are often skeptical or surprised about the way Six Month Smiles work, because it seems almost too good to be true! Here are some common questions that are asked.

• How can this work in such a short time?

First, Six Month Smiles focuses on the teeth that are visible in your smile. The technique’s goal is straightening these teeth, which requires less movement than fixing an overbite, crossbite or underbite. They combine this approach with special nickel titanium wires to move your teeth quickly and safely.

• What kinds of materials are used?

Metal isn’t that attractive.

The braces that are attached to the teeth are tooth-colored, so they can barely be seen.

The nickel titanium wires are also toothcolored, which makes them nearly invisible.

So it’s nothing like wearing regular braces.

• What about comfort? If it’s faster, does it hurt more?

The Six Month Braces technique is a low-force method. We don’t “tighten” braces to get the teeth moving – that’s not necessary. The mechanics are the same as standard orthodontics.

The acceleration comes from the focus, not the procedure. It’s faster because it focuses on the appearance of the teeth, not the function.

• Do I have to worry about damage to my teeth or gums with Six Month Smiles?

Believe it or not, there may be even fewer risks with Six Month Smiles than with traditional orthodontics. This is because the forces used are lighter, and because teeth are seldom extracted. Generally speaking, though, the risk of issues like root damage are no higher than with traditional orthodontia.

• If I use Six Month Smiles, can I skip having a retainer?

Any time teeth are straightened or moved in any way, a retainer must be used to keep their new position. Depending on your personal preference and situation, you’ll have several choices, including a removable or bonded retainer.

It’s exciting to know that you don’t have to live with crooked or poorly spaced teeth and that there are affordable, discreet and fast solutions to give you a brilliant, healthy smile.

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W e st e r n Wa k e Fa r m e r s Ma r k e t

butterfly gardening class

On September 25th, 512 pounds of fresh, local market foods were collected for the Triangle Farmer Foodshare Challenge. Lots of potatoes, apples, lettuces, squash, meats, eggs, bread and more were loaded into InterFaith Food Shuttle trucks and delivered to area shelters and pantries.

The Garden Hut’s own Susan Jarman taught a free Butterfly Gardening class for children in September.

S assy Blossom G rand Opening

Sassy Blossom held their grand opening on Saturday, August 28th. Food, fun and fabulous giveaways were enjoyed by guests. The first 50 customers received a $10 gift card!

5th annual golf tournament

p b & j f un fac to ry g r a n d o p e n i ng PB&J Fun Factory held their grand opening and ribbon cutting on Friday, August 20th.

Their new showroom is three destinations in one: Brunswick billiard dealer and game room super store, Step2 center and toy store, and a new inflatable playground. They are located on 401S in Raleigh.

Tom O’ Brien R adio Show at Backyard Bistro

Fans enjoyed the kick off of the Tom O’Brien Radio Show at its new location, Backyard Bistro, just across from Carter Finley Stadium.

Fans received the opportunity to submit questions for Coach O’Brien to answer on-air.

The 5th annual Triangle Down Syndrome Network charity golf tournament took place on Saturday, October 2nd at The Golf Club at Chapel Ridge in Pittsboro. The golf tournament continues to raise money to develop an independent living community in the Triangle area of North Carolina.

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April ManesS • 919.621.8529

B r a i n B a l a nc e G r a n d O p e n i ng Brain Balance Achievement Center of Cary held a ribbon cutting ceremony on August 31st at their new location in Cary.

The grand opening included book signings and a number of lectures by Dr. Robert Melillo, author of Disconnected Kids.

E minence Day S pa Eminence Day Spa celebrated their 1st Anniversary Gala on September 9th at their location in Cary. Guests enjoyed food, prizes, free demonstrations and package discounts.

TRUNK SHOW On October 15th, DownTown Knits hosted a Trunk Show with Esther Rodgers of JazzTurtle Creations, a local fiber artist. Esther demostrated and talked about her core spinning technique and displayed her yarns, fibers, accessories and knitted items.

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in the next issue of

january | february 2011 WESTERN WAKE WEDDINGS

if you are planning a wedding for next year, don’t miss our 2011 Western Wake Weddings guide. Cary Living shows you the newest looks for everything from wedding invitations and flowers to photographers and wedding gowns.

REFRESH YOUR HOME

the holiday decorations will soon be gone and your home will be back to normal. this is a perfect time to spice things up! it’s not expensive, it’s not hard. it’s all about accessories! local designers share their secrets for rotating accessories.

RETIREMENT

it’s a 10-letter word that either describes the best years of your life or panic!

We introduce you to the best of the best in retirement communities and offer you tips on making retirement the best years of your life.

PLUS LOTS MORE…

every issue

• SIGHTINGS • HEALTHY LIVING TIPS • CHEF’S CORNER • CALENDAR OF EVENTS • TALK OF THE TOWN • & MUCH MORE!

look for the january | february edition on shelves the first week of january.

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Our cover story for this issue is “Your Gift Matters.” And it does.

If you choose your gift thoughtfully, it shows you’re paying attention. That you care.

Price holds no place in thoughtful giving. Whether you spend a little or a lot, it doesn’t matter. A carefully chosen gift shows simply that you thought about that person sincerely.

Of course the key to thoughtful giving, and often the frustration, is in the search.

Cary Living has ideas. For jewelry lovers, charms and charm bracelets are a great way to give thoughtfully. Monogrammed and engraved pieces are also meaningful. Consider having a family heirloom piece remade.

For school-age kids, it’s all about the latest technology. The National Retail Federation predicts video gaming systems such as Wii or Playstation will be favorites again in 2010. Systems cost a few hundred dollars, but games can be had for $50 or less.

Consider purchasing an experience, too – gift cards to bounce houses, roller rinks, movie theaters or paint-your-own pottery places. Or plan a day together with an outing followed by pizza and ice cream. Kids want our time more than anything.

For younger kids, Elmo Live! ($60) is predicted to be one of the top gifts this year as is the Fisher Price™ Kid-Tough Waterproof camera ($100). For a teachable gift, consider the ATM Machine Bank from YOUniverse ($24.99). It’s a mini-ATM machine bank that counts a child’s money as he or she makes a “deposit” or a “withdrawal.” It’s a great way to teach kids to save.

While national trends are fun to watch, you can also keep your dollars local this holiday season. On these pages, we’ve featured some of our favorite gifts from local business. So your holiday dollars – the average family will spend $1,600 this season – can do double-duty, bringing smiles to the recipients and to our local entrepreneurs.

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1. Barbour Wax Cotton Jacket – Classic Beaufort. Medium weight 6oz Classic country waxed jacket in Sylkoil. Corduroy collar with zip-in liners. Ashworth Clothing

6. Indulge loved ones or yourself this season with one of Aveda’s gift sets. Exclusively at Von Kekel Salon Spa. Lafayette Village, Cary and North Hills

2. More than just knobs – these pieces are jewelry for your cabinets. Hand-blown glass, gemstones, and even real fur.

Unique designs! $27-$44 each. The Top Drawer

7. 100% cotton, lightweight and colorful. These two-piece sets are great for cool nights lounging at your mountain resort. $48.

Cute Buttons

11. “Catch the Fever” with this stunning Europen layered Amethyst necklace matched together with an extravagant 18k gold diamond and amethyst ring. Scarlet O Boutique

3. From our family to yours, we are baking made-from-scratch breads for holiday gifts to give your friends and clients.

Great Harvest Bread Company

8. Hats, scarfs, gloves, socks and sweaters... just a few ideas of what you can give to your family and special friends. Gift certificates or ready-made items available. DowntownKnits

12. Gift the gift of comfort and home. Interior and landscape design consultations starting at $75 – inside or out. Let’s create your definition! Defining Design

4. Pick up something unusual, like this custom-made lamp.

We offer lovely and unique things that are sure to please this holiday season. Petersons’ Consigning Design

9. The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition. This gift set includes a North Pole pixie-elf, hardbound children’s book and keepsake box. $32. Pattywhacks

13. All that sparkles and shines. .85 carat total diamond weight. Handmade platinum pendant by Ron Lodholz. $3,000. Stonehaven Jewelry Gallery, Ltd.

5. Cinnamon and Vanilla Aromatherapy Massage – Combining elements of Shiatsu, Reflexology and Swedish massage, aromatic oils. $65 (savings of $20). Nirvelli Day Spa

10. Ladies fashion watch with mother-of-pearl dial and faceted crystal. Cubic zirconia bezel and end caps with leather suede strap. $95. Elaine Miller Collection

14. 14 carat yellow gold earrings containing citrine weighing 2.85 carat total weight accented by a double halo of white diamonds and cognac brown diamonds. Diamonds Direct Crabtree

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17. Acrylic recipe boxes and ice buckets are functional, pretty, and can be personalized while you shop! Recipe boxes: $24 (includes cards, dividers and personalizing). Ice buckets: $45 (includes ice tongs and personalizing). The Paper Company 18. The home of The Tom O’Brien Show and Canes Corner, Backyard Bistro is your No. 1 sports headquarters in the Triangle. Serving burgers from the Angus Barn butchers,

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award-winning BBQ and St. Louis-style ribs. Gift cards available for the holiday season. Backyard Bistro 19. Have the next guy’s night out at your house and enjoy a game on the Kicker Foosball. $449. PB&J Fun Factory 20. This softly draping fringed shawl with rich shades of burnished copper, terra cotta and chocolate brown is handwoven by artisans in India. $48. Ten Thousand Villages 21. This Itatlian designed diamond link bracelet has approximately 3.2 carat total diamond weight. Set in 18k white gold.

The perfect “go to” bracelet. $1,995. Elaine Miller Collection

22. We offer a huge variety of estate and vintage jewelry including pieces by Kramer of New York, Lisner, Winard and other highly collectable designers. KnB’s Marketplace 23. Vintage Chanel black lambskin purse in pristine condition.

With a chevron quilted pattern, gold hardware and a leather tassel, this is the perfect gift for any fashionista. $979.99.

ADORE Designer Resale Boutique 24. Treat someone you love to some TLC for the holidays.

Facials, relaxing massages, full and half day spa packages.

Pamper that special someone on your gift list. Syeni Salon & Day Spa

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16. Every Trollbead has its own story, for endless possibilities to create unique and personal jewelry. Handcrafted from the finest quality raw materials. Each bead is a treasure to behold.

Starting at $26. Swagger

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25. Give the gift that keeps on giving! Chef Mario’s personal chef meal delivery packages start at just $185 for dinner for two for five days! Chef Mario

26. The London Valance adds elegance to any room.

The amount of fabric, trims and labor prices vary depending on the size of the window. Draperies by Townes 27. Monogrammed baby blanket. Monkey, butterfly, froggy and more! Can be personalized for the sweet angel on your Christmas shopping list. $12 + $7 monogram. La Boutique for Kids 28. 8-16 ounce monogrammed jar candles can be personalized with a name or initials. Crackling wick candles available from $24.95-$32.95. Southern Charm Boutique 29. Make your mark with the Noteworthy Snap Stamp.

This stamp base allows you to customize stationery with interchangeable designs. $38.99-$47.99. InvitationBox.com

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30. Festive Christmas sleigh filled with sparkling ornaments and artificial evergreens. $89.50. Floral Accents 31. Take advantage of our winter installation special!

All contracts signed by December 31st, 2010 will receive a 5% discount – up to $5,000 off! Pool Professionals 32. Special holiday 30 minute mini-sessions for $49.

Call for details. April Maness Photography 33. Real South Sea Pearl & Diamond Earrings. 10 x 9.5mm detachable pearls on diamond hoops. 14k white gold. $749.

Two earrings for the price of one. Elaine Miller Collection 34. Beauty starts within...a handbag insert and accessory that will change the way you live. The ultimate handbag organizer can easily be moved from one handbag to another. $20-$65.

Kristen’s Shoe Boutique

35. Get that jump start on the New Year and give someone you care about a gift card from Metabolic Research Center.

Our physician-designed weight loss programs work where others have failed! Metabolic Research Center...

Weight Loss Specialists 36. Everyone enjoys air hockey, add style to your family game room with the Great American Power Hockey Table. $2,195. PB&J Fun Factory 37. Handmade in Italy, the Red Hot is a throwback to retro glamour in the Jee Vice collection. Embraced by celebrities such as Anne Hathaway, Katherine Heigl and Rihanna.

Doctors Vision Center, Cary 38. Trunki – children scoot along on their luggage through the airport. Lightweight and sturdy carry-on sized suitcase serves as luggage, riding toy, and transport for kids on the go!

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45. Customized gift baskets for any tea lover include a teapot, their favorite teas, Savannah Bee Honey and gourmet chocolates or tea cookies. From $25. Tin Roof Teas (formerly TeaGschwendner)

41. Sterling silver blue topaz ear pendants and sterling silver blue topaz and iolite ring. Retail from $255 to $2,940. J.M. Edwards

46. Ballet and Ballet Exercise classes designed for adults. Train with Carolina Ballet’s Margot Martin to obtain a sculpted ballet body. Class gift cards from $20. The Raleigh School of Ballet

42. Buy one pair and get 50% off second complete pair of prescription glasses. Discount cannot be used with insurance benefits. Family Eye Care of Apex

47. Pepper Dog Salsas are all-natural, delicious salsas perfect for dipping or to add spicy flavor to any dish. Special gift crates are available. Pepper Dog Salsa

43. Decadent chocolate makes a big impression with those on your holiday gift list. Handmade chocolates and more! Gifts of all sizes. Chocolate Smiles

48. Hoe hoe hoe your way to the Garden Hut’s Christmas Shop! Chubby cute ceramic Santa, snowman and penguin ornaments. Great gifts to warm hearts and create smiles. $10.99. Garden Hut

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49. Miller-Motte College Holiday Special. Buy a $75 gift certificate for our clinic, get a free $25 gift certificate.

Miller-Motte College 50. Discover the Biomega breakthrough-Volume for fine hair, Silk for coarse hair, or Moisture for dry hair. Stop by Studio 180 Salon for a free sample! $16 each. Studio 180 Salon 51. Hand beaded evening purse in elegant flame stitch pattern.

Black bugle beads and gold and pewter tone beads. Evening bags starting at under $100. Elaine Miller Collection 52. Tory Burch travel, cosmetic, and jewelry bags. Many different sizes, fabrics and patterns. Lightweight & easy to pack.

Pick just one or a set. From $55. Monkee’s of Raleigh 53. Give the gift this holiday of refinishing that antique your loved one has been wanting to have refinished. Restore them to a new finish! Gift certificates available. Rosario’s Restorations

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40. Filigree Monograms are gorgeous, a hot fashion trend and classic! Carefully carved from sterling silver, you will enjoy wearing your filigree monogram pendant forever! From $89. Swagger

44. The Iron Man™ Pinball Machine brings you action and adventure in the Super Hero™ Marvel style. $4,995. PB&J Fun Factory

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54. Silver Spoons Jewelry. This unique butterfly pendant was inspired by the ends of spoon patterns from the 1800s. A stunning addition to any collection. $59. Ivy Cottage Collections

58. Bernina 830 makes gorgeous gifts this year with a sewing and embroidery system with technology so advanced, the exprience of sewing on it is simply luxurious. Elegant Stitches

63. Need a great personalized gift? Check out our pitcher and glasses. Available in any combination of colors. Pitcher and glasses can be sold separately. $35. Polkadotz

55. Blast back to the 80s with the full-size Multi Arcade.

It has 60 classic video games like Galaga, Ms. Pac Man, Donkey Kong and more. $2,495. PB&J Fun Factory

59. Pavé Diamond Huggie Earrings with aproximately .95 carat total diamond weight set in 14k white gold. Just right to wear all the time! $749. Elaine Miller Collection

64. Give the gift of a delicious and memorable meal with a gift card to your neighborhood butcher. Each $25 card purchase receives a $5 card for yourself or take 20% off your total gift card purchase for your whole staff. The Meat House

56. Bi-weekly cleaning service from Dust and Mop. 12 visits in 6 months for $1,450 ($1,750 value) Based on average home with 3,000 sq. ft. or less. Dust and Mop

60. The LifeStyle Grand Walk-In Kitchen from Step2 will make any professional chef jealous. $259.95. PB&J Fun Factory

57. The perfect stocking stuffer or gift for all the little girls on your list. Colorful and yummy headbands are made out of recycled candy wrappers. $12. Polka Dots/Be-Tween

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61. Got hockey? Play like the professionals do with the Signature Stick Hockey. $1,295. PB&J Fun Factory 62. Casual but elegant finials and birds. Beautiful gold distressed finish has a Tuscan feel. $15-33. Come see our unique and affordable home décor. Lilly’s

65. Accent your little black dress with a handwoven silk clutch.

This zippered clutch is embellished with a stylish colorful silk rose. $28. Blue Tiger 66. Give the gift of redesign with an in-home redesign consultation, $150. Our interior designers/stagers will advise you while bringing out your personal style! Real-estage

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67. The Conveyor Play Structure is a dream come true. It will keep your kids busy for hours. $2,295. PB&J Fun Factory

69. Nature illuminated by these low voltage ivory dragonflies with 60 lights. $49. Riverview Galleries 70. Signature James Boyce Collection. A fragrance collection designed by Traci Arntsen and professional chef James Boyce.

Gourmet kitchen worthy, perfect for any room. La Therapie 71. Our Embellish Your Story Frames make the perfect gift for this holiday. Choose your frame, then choose your magnets to accessorize the frame! Frames priced at $14.99 and magnets starting at $7.99. Sassy Blossom

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73. Alexis Bittar warm grey “Deco” hinged bracelet. This stunning piece makes a great statement. Alexis Bittar Collection, starting at $39. Elaine Miller Collection 74. Disconnected Kids. Great for any parent or grandparent of a special needs child. $16. Brain Balance Achievement Centers 75. Interior Redecorating Services. We’ll use the pieces that you already own to give your home a fresh, new feel!

Call today about our decorating services and gift certificates!

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76. Our handcrafted wine cork sets make the perfect hostess gift during the holidays. They will think of you everytime they entertain! $10 each. Southern Charm Gift Boutique 77. Gift baskets filled with organic and biodynamic wine, beer, soda, soap, candles, gourmet chocolate and coffee. Gift certificates available. Sip…a wine store 78. Graham Cracker Delites – graham crackers dipped in rich milk chocolate, pecans and tiny rice crisp. One dozen per box for $5. KP Kandies 79. The Spa Goodie Bag and Beyond organic gift set includes a loofah to buff, cleanse and nourish the skin, along with some classic exfoliating products. $49. Eminence Day Spa

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68. Grey “pearl” necklace with gem studded gold stations.

Fabulous necklace by Alexis Bittar. Alexis Bittar Collection starting at $39. Elaine Miller Collection

72. Designed with love and passion, the Jealous, is the latest style in the iconic Jee Vice Collection. This luxurious style is sure to make any woman that wears it feel special. Doctors Vision Center, Brier Creek

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