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I’ve said it before: I don’t believe in making New Year’s resolutions. It may be because I’m not good at keeping them, but it’s never worked for me – setting lofty or unrealistic goals to accomplish something I haven’t been able to do in the last year. However, I do think the New Year is a good time to take stock of where you are, what’s good in your life and maybe even look at what’s missing. While I don’t make resolutions, I am a fan of committing to learn something new each year.

My grandmother learned to paint, took a computer class, and traveled to 48 of our great states in her 60s and early 70s.

Why is it that as children we’re willing to try anything without the fear of looking silly? And then again later in life we’ll do the same, but in the middle years – our 30s, 40s and 50s – most of us don’t venture out of our comfort zone. Midtown challenges you this year to learn something new. Check out “Outside The Comfort Zone” (p.22) as readers share how their lives changed when they stepped out of their comfort zone. If you try something new, let us know; we may want to share your story!

Last summer we told you about the PRTs (Personal Rapid Transportation) Kane Realty was considering for North Hills.

No story we’ve ever done has gotten as much reader feedback!

It’s clear Midtown residents are ready for a new way to get around Midtown as well as connect to the rest of the Triangle.

This community support/feedback spurred Midtown Raleigh Alliance to get behind a feasibility study that will look at the PRTs for beyond North Hills (p.26). Your feedback matters; I am on the Alliance’s executive committee, and everyone who has a business, lives or works in Midtown should join. This group’s sole purpose is make sure that Midtown continues to be one of the best places to live and work in the country.

Joining is a great way to get involved in your community.

This issue also unveils the winners of the 4th annual Midtown Magazine Diamond Awards. Thousands of you voted!

You let us know your favorites, and we’re sharing the results here in our fold-out section (p.28).

Let us know what you think of this issue of Midtown Magazine. Your opinions matter to us.

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contents j anuary/february

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features 26 oUTsiDE THE ComForT ZoNE

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28 2012 DiAmoND AWArDs

98 PoWEr iN NUmBErs

from acting classes to skydiving, people are pushing past their comfy place.

we toast the best of the best with our annual diamond awards, as voted on by you, our faithful readers.

35 THE miDLiFE mYTH

think you’re having a midlife crisis? maybe it’s time to think again

52 A TWisT oN THE TrADiTioNAL

thinking about adding contemporary touches to your traditional home? not sure where to begin?

59 PAiNTiNG WiTH GrEEN

it soothes, uplifts, and makes everything around it look good. no wonder it’s nature’s favorite color – and so popular with designers.

you raised your kids. now it’s time for you, right? there’s just one little problem. and it’s on your doorstep.

with so much need in our community, it can be easy to wonder how $25 can make a difference. thanks to the midtowne service league, you can stop wondering.

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if you’re nearing retirement, you’ve no doubt considered the health and wellness programs of many local communities. but what about the fun stuff?

114 mATTErs oF THE HEArT EsoPHAGUs

“heartburn,” actually, has nothing to do with your heart.

76 iNsiDE THEir CLosETs

with access to all the fashion they can imagine, the owners of some of the most fashionable shops in midtown seem quite lucky. curious as to what they treasure? take a look…

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don’t look now, guys, but valentine’s day is almost upon us.

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Ever watch two children play hide and seek? One has his eyes closed. Counting one-two-three. The other searches for a hiding place before the final announcement is levied. Ready or not, here I come. The seeker searches frantically. Crouched down, the hider wears a look that’s half terror and half joy. Every once in a while he gives himself away with laughter.

That nervous energy can fuel a locomotive.

Adults don’t get to feel that way often enough. I admit; the last time a butterfly fluttered my stomach was 10 years ago. Until recently, life was pretty much the same: work, family and spaghetti Sunday. Even my Netflix queue was predictable. But I decided to shake it up. Forget spaghetti Sunday. I was going to take an acting class. Not because I wanted to be an actress, but because I needed a break. A change. A challenge.

My sister and I enrolled in a scene study. No big deal: that was my thought when I sent the registration. That was my thought when I parked my car on the first night of class. That, however, was not my thought when I stepped into the theater. Even with the world’s kindest instructor (her favorite line was “you all are better than you think you are”) and understanding classmates, I was panicked!

Things didn’t get better when monologues were assigned.

Mine was originally written for a man, so I had to adapt. It took several reads to understand it, and many stumbles over words that can’t go into print here. (Let’s just say it referenced a male hippo’s anatomy.) I was allowed to change the wording, but I didn’t. The author intended it to be a certain way, and that was how I’d say it.

I wondered why I couldn’t just play a humdrum mom living in 2011 instead of this seemingly offbeat character. (Dull was something I could do easily!) But I rehearsed and started looking forward to the wacky lines. I liked being a character. I loved that this character was probably not a spaghetti Sunday kind of person.

Beyond the monologue, I liked spending time with my sister, playfully tormenting my husband about a love scene that wasn’t happening and realizing just how hard it is to act.

Acting class: it wasn’t the world’s biggest deal. But, for me, it was out of the ordinary. And it was an opportunity to risk a little humiliation, one of the top reasons people don’t break their comfort zones.

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“They say the number one fear is public speaking. I think that’s really fear of embarrassment, because if it was public speaking in front of 50 dogs or 100 babies [we wouldn’t be afraid of that],” laughs Dr. Susan Orenstein, a Triangle area psychologist. “We’re afraid of being judged and embarrassed. I think it helps to take that slowly.”

Orenstein often encourages her patients to find a supportive environment and teacher when trying new things. “The idea is to have a challenge for yourself that’s moderately challenging. Because if it’s too simple then you’re not going to feel proud…but if it’s too hard, that’s going to be too much stress,” she says.

John Averi, 50, left his comfort zone by happenstance. About 20 years ago he saw an ad for an “improvisation workshop.” Believing the experience would come in handy at work, he went to what he thought was a seminar about thinking on his feet.

“When I showed up…I found out it was an audition for a comedy troupe,” laughs Averi. “I did well enough that they

asked me if I would take the training to become one of the performers.”

He’d never even seen an improv show, but Averi stayed for a six-week session. He learned the games and structures of a comedy show. All was well until he got up on stage. “I would get tongue-tied [and] my brain would freeze,” says Averi, a software engineer.

When the decision makers told him he was too uptight to join the on-stage players, he wasn’t surprised. But he didn’t leave. Averi offered to take on the role of “Mr. Voice,” an off-stage announcer who worked with the players and did sound effects. It was a match. For almost 20 years he was “Mr. Voice” at Comedy Sports and, later, Comedy Worx.

“Whenever somebody introduces something into an improv sketch, the way you handle it is to say ‘yes’ regardless of how silly, or surprising or just wrong it sounds. You say ‘yes.’ And then you build on it,” explains Averi.

This philosophy spilled over into his daily life. “As with any job, people walk into my cube and tell me surprising

“I think it’s healthy for our identity to be able to see ourselves as people who can try new things…adapt to change…and learn at any age. I think all those things are healthy for emotional coping.” ~ Dr. Susan Orenstein, Orenstein Solutions things [such as] ‘hey, Bob’s out sick’ or ‘hey, that software you thought worked has a bug,’” he says. “It’s a simpler life to simply say, ‘yes…and.’ I may get thrown occasionally, but the recovery is always ‘yes…and.’”

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Flying past the comfort zone Melissa Bishop, 36, doesn’t try new foods. She’s a self-described cautious parent who sticks to her budget. But jump out of an airplane and skydive? Sure.

“When I was little I always wanted to try new things and it just carried over into adulthood,” says Bishop, a police officer who first tried skydiving when she was in her 20s.

While a desire to try new things put her in a plane, it didn’t take away her nervousness about skydiving. “I almost wanted to back out,” remembers Bishop. “[But] actually jumping out of the plane was easier than I thought it would be. I told the instructor I was ready to go…[and] he asked if I wanted to do flips on our way out.”

She said “yes” and flipped through the sky. “When you first jump out it’s a little cold, and you’re falling so fast that it’s hard to comprehend…then all of a sudden you pull the cord and the parachute opens up and you see the world in a whole new way,” says Bishop.

Today the experience is still with her. When stress pops up, she reflects on when she was “floating with the clouds” to put herself at ease. She also looks back with a sense of accomplishment. “I was able to follow through with something, and I feel like I did something that not everybody else in the world would do,” says Bishop.

The benefits of life outside the comfort zone Not everyone wants to skydive. Sometimes all it takes is a golf lesson or foreign language course to help people expand their comfort zones in a healthy way.

Here are some of Dr. Orenstein’s tips for approaching a new experience: Make sure your expectations aren’t too narrow. The goal doesn’t have to be to become a good actor, a fast runner or a brilliant painter. Learn for the sake of learning, appreciating a skill and leaving the experience with a funny story to tell. “If you broaden the goal…you appreciate that there are these other benefits,” she says. “Look at it like ‘what are the benefits other than being the best at something?’”

Pay attention to self-talk, how you “speak” to yourself internally. “You can be your biggest cheerleader or your biggest enemy, depending on what you say to yourself,” explains Orenstein.

Analyze the risk. “Listen to both sides…I think you want to have a dialogue because there are certain things that are too risky or too dangerous,” she suggests.

Remember the benefits of trying something new, such as preventing boredom and burnout; keeping yourself interesting to your partner and others; working the humility “muscle;” defining yourself as someone who is resilient; and creating new pathways in the brain.

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News Flash:

Personal Rapid Transit Update

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ast summer, we told you about Personal Rapid Transit (PRT), an energy efficient, environmentally friendly urban transit system being studied by Kane Realty Corporation as a method of transportation well suited to North Hills. The idea of a PRT system generated some of our most positive reader feedback to date!

“As Kane Realty moved forward with its study of a PRT system based at North Hills, there was increasing support for broadening the vision beyond North Hills,” says Douglas Vinsel, president of Duke Raleigh Hospital and chairman of the Midtown Raleigh Alliance. This includes helping iden-

tify ways that the circulators can enhance transportation in the Midtown area and serve as an interface to the transportation plans being developed for Raleigh and the greater Triangle area.

“Because Midtown Raleigh Alliance brings together business and community leaders, the Executive Committee felt our organization was well positioned to serve as an advocate and facilitator for the PRT initiative,” says Vinsel. Next steps include Ultra Global, the manufacturer of the PRT, presenting a broad feasibility study to the Midtown Raleigh Alliance early this year. Stay tuned for more information!

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Dine on classic French food made from wholesome ingredients in a most intimate setting.

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See and be seen both inside and out while indulging in some Best spot for a power lunch the of most delish food around. There’s no better setting to seal the deal.

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Lafayette Village

Readers love the locally-owned shop for the outstanding roasts and are also on board with its givingback business philosophy.

Take a vacation without leaving town just by enjoying the ultimate in al fresco dining that this European style village offers.

Best posh patio dining

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Antonio’s Gourmet Market

With hundreds of unique beers, daily specials, the famous “think while you drink” trivia bowl, this is the place to kick back and enjoy a cold one.

With the freshest seafood, the finest meats and cheeses, a top-notch deli, fresh breads and desserts, you’ll get just what you’re craving for lunch, dinner or any occasion.

Best take out

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Vinos Finos y Picadas

The selection of regional and domestic beers, wines and liquors will quench your thirst. But the custom, creative cocktails, such as the Tar Heel, the John Chapman and Queen Anne’s Revenge will get your attention.

An extensive selection of South American wines served with an accompaniment menu featuring meat & cheese platters, empanadas and desserts make this the ideal place to spend time with friends.

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Chick-fil-A North Hills Parents flock here for the fast, pleasant service, good food and some of the tastiest lemonade around.

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Midtown Beach Music Series

(North Hills Commons) It’s a standing shag date for readers, who show up every Thursday from April through August to dance into the night.

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This hot spot of activity is the premier choice when needing a hot spot.

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There’s nothing better for our readers than enjoying a salad, soup or scrumptious sandwich with the latest issue of Midtown.

Best place to read Midtown Magazine

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Sparians Bowling Boutique & Bistro Day or night, it’s bowling at a higher level. Check it out.

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Fox & Hound Pub & Grill

With over twenty TVs, your biggest question is which game to watch? Add in fabulous food and cold beer, and it may actually be better than being at the game.

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Marbles Kids Museum

This rainy day outing is sure to spark creative thinking as kids use their imagination to explore, build and play.

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With fourteen choices, comfortable seating, and a popcorn line that keeps moving, readers have made this their go-to theatre.

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For over forty years, Elaine Miller has been the go-to girl for antiques and estate jewelry.

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With a central location, beautifully constructed homes and an old neighborhood feel, it’s easy to see why everyone wants to live here.

Oaks at Fallon Park

BlueWater Spa Enter a serene and soothing world simply by walking through the door to this upscale med spa. A few minutes in here and you’ll be ready to bask in the glorious treatments.

Best relaxation/waiting room

Skin Sense

Need to recharge?

Readers love to indulge in the relaxing yet invigorating headto-toe treatments.

The place to get pampered.

Best overall pampering

Whether you run, bike, swim or do all three, FS Series is built for the fitness enthusiast, with a race nearly every weekend.

Best place to go in your running shoes

SAKS

Fifth Avenue

The name says it all. Readers love to get lost in the endless array of designers, stocking up on tried and true classics and the fashion of the moment.

Best place to splurge

North Hills Commons If you’ve been, you know. Surrounded by shopping, food, drinks and entertainment, it’s the prime spot for taking it all in.

Favorite people-watching spot

Best address (to live)

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Multiple entry points onto the Raleigh’s Greenway.

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midlife

MYTH Think you’re having a midlife crisis?

Maybe it’s time to think again.

BY ILLYSE LANE

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You may even know some of the players – men and women going through a supposed midlife crisis.

You know what we’re talking about. The scandalous affair, maybe some financial irresponsibility, a suddenly buff body, and, just perhaps, even the purchase of the cliché sports car.

But could it all be a sham? And if so, what’s really going on?

The Myth of the Midlife Crisis I know what you’re thinking. Of course a midlife crisis is real. Why else would some seemingly happy couple suddenly bite the dust? Why else would we hear about someone leaving their other half and children behind to go shack up with someone else? Why else would

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The stereotypical sports car may have just been masking the need for support during a midlife transition.

someone quit their job right when they were most likely faced with the most responsibility they had ever had?

Before you get too comfortable attaching a label to the situation, Dr. Jeff Krepps, a licensed marriage and family therapist, has some words of caution. “People have breakdowns, leave their spouse and their jobs. But the whole idea of the midlife crisis is now looked at by a lot of researchers and academics as not really valid,” says Dr. Krepps. Instead, it’s more about a midlife transition gone bad.

Dr. Krepps explains that life is full of transitions. Some are planned, such as going off to college, getting married, having a baby or deciding to leave a job. Some are set in motion by another person’s circumstances, such as a spouse getting laid off or the death of someone close. Some may begin with the little voice inside of your head. Regardless of what’s driving the transition, it’s common for it to be accompanied by a period of self-reflection, especially during midlife.

Reflecting on Reality “This is a time when you tend to look back on your life and wonder what do I like, what I am doing and where am I going,” says Dr. Krepps. Midlife is also a time when the days seem to revolve around routines and are jammed packed with responsibilities. And while there is comfort in settling into a groove, it can also at times make life feel somewhat monotonous.

Think about it. Even when you are most grateful and appreciative for all that you may have, haven’t there been those time when you question what exactly you are doing? You know, those times you’ve complained to a friend about your spouse, thought you couldn’t last another day at the office, or fussed that every single minute of your day seems to be accounted for by doing things for someone else? I mean, haven’t you ever thought: • Is this it?

• My relationship is at a standstill • Nothing excites me anymore • My best years are behind me • I wish I had someone else’s life The good news is that for most people, having these thoughts means nothing more than being stuck in a temporary rut, the key word in that sentence being “temporary.” “You shouldn’t panic if you can’t figure out what’s going on in your life and nothing seems to be making you happy,” says Dr. Krepps.

“It’s normal to be in a rut sometimes.”

Interestingly, sometimes being in a rut is exactly what you need to get motivated to venture down a different path. “A rut may just be indicative that it’s time to try something new, and embrace a transition,” says Dr. Krepps.

“And midlife transitions can go quite well, presenting an opportunity for positive change.” Think going back to school, switching careers, reconnecting with your spouse after your kids leave for college, or something as simple as beginning an exercise regime.” It can actually go so smoothly that you may midtownmag.com| xx

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not even realize you’ve gone through a transition until you reflect back on it.

Why Things Go Bad But when a transition doesn’t flow so smoothly, or when a rut lingers on, perhaps clouding the mind so the opportunity presented may not be properly seen, that bad behavior – the stereotypical midlife crisis piece – may rear its ugly head, as the outcome of an unsuccessful transition. And as you watch a person struggling with an unsuccessful transition, it may appear as though you’re witnessing impulsive behavior.

But that’s not always the case.

In a nutshell, it’s highly unusual for someone to just wake up one morning and decide to do something dramatic and life changing that will negatively impact others.

Instead, it’s far more likely that the person experiencing this type of behavior has been unhappy or questioning his or her role for quite some time. And somewhere along the way, this person has forgotten how to ask for and seek the help needed to get back on track.

But Dr. Krepps says to resist this temptation. Going at it alone is exactly the opposite of what you should be doing, as it can lead us into “crisis” mode. This is when it becomes imperative to seek support along the way. “Knowing what kind of support is available to you and, even more importantly, knowing what kind of support you are able to ask for can have a huge impact on moving through a transition successfully,” says Dr. Krepps. “All people fundamentally need to have one or two people that they can depend on. In a marriage, your spouse should be one of those people.” There’s also no harm in talking with a close friend or your family about what you’re feeling.

“This is also the time to challenge yourself to reconnect with the good in your life.”

Seek Support And here’s where it can get a little sticky. Let’s face it: it’s not always easy to share your deepest thoughts, especially when they may come across as critical or complaining. It can be easier to say nothing, and try to navigate through on your own.

See The Good “This is also the time to challenge yourself to reconnect with the good in your life – the good you may be taking for granted as you focus on what is not happening instead of what may be working,” says Dr. Krepps. And if it’s still hard to find the positive, recognize where you are for what it is – a crossroads.

Remind yourself that even though things are the way they are right now, it’s not always going to be that way, can help bring perspective to the situation.

And with perspective, it’s possible to see a midlife transition for what it could be. An opportunity for personal growth and adding definition to who you are. “Remember, life just doesn’t happen to you, you are not a passive recipient, but an active participant in what your situation is,” says Dr. Krepps.

Midtown Magazine encourages you to contact your physician if you feel you may be suffering from depression or any similar symptoms that are cause for concern.

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Going For Gold What do you get when you take six middle school boys who spend the school cross country season running against each other and put them on the same team?

Victor Swepson, head coach at Bethesda Christian Academy and coach at Triangle Champions Track Club (TCTC), a Durham-based running group with the mission of developing young runners’ skills and character, had watched his eighth grade son, Michal, battle it out for the top spot in meets all season. And he had a feeling that if he could get some of the boys Michal had been running against to join TCTC, they’d have the makings of a winning cross country team.

It was an idea head TCTC coach Donnell Mitchell, who also happens to be the father of two competitive runners at Cary Academy, was excited about. He knew that all the boys had set a goal of making it to the USA Track & Field Junior Olympics National Cross Country Championship. Many were planning on going as unattached runners. If they could instead be a part of a competitive team, their chances of advancing to nationals would be increased.

Soon, Sam Grelck of St. Michael School, Connor Lane of St. Timothy’s School and Joshua Zawada of Ravenscroft joined Swepson’s son, Michael, Mitchell’s son, Coleman, and

Coach Swepson (left) and Coach Mitchell (right) and the boys

Justin Gregory of Mills Park Middle School to finish out the TCTC Midget Boys Team. “I was planning to do USATF meets as an unattached athlete, but this gave me an opportunity to run with a team and hopefully have a shot at a national championship,” says Grelck.

And had a shot they did. Immediately, they set out with a mission to win, taking first, second, third, fourth and fifth place and the first place team award at the state association meet. They then did it again at the regional championship. The pressure was on to keep up the trend at the nationals, set for December 10th in Myrtle Beach.

But any pressure the boys felt heading into that final race was simply about making sure they didn’t let each other down. Their genuine, developing friendships fueled a fierce but friendly rivalry, with laughter and bantering, especially about who would take first on any given day, was always at the center of their dynamic. “It was inspiring to run with such great runners – every practice was like a race,” says Lane.

On race day, the boys walked away with the first place team award in their division, with four of the runners finishing in the top 25. No small accomplishment for a race that included 277 of the country’s best.

“There is so much that can be said about these boys, I’m surprised by how much they believed in their potential, and how they followed through, seeing it as clearly as we did,” says Mitchell. “Each one of the kids contributed to the win and to the team.”

While all the boys plan to keep running, they also recognize that in order to have a repeat performance, they’ll have to wait until 2013, when they are all able to compete in the same age division again. But they’re okay with that. “It’s been a great experience. This final race couldn’t have gone any better,” says Michal Swepson. “The only thing we can do is train harder for when the original team is back together.” midtownmag.com| xx

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MOVIES

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movies

One For The Money

Starring: Katherine Heigl, Jason O’Mara Rated: PG-13 Opens: 1/27/2012 Plot: Unemployed and newly-divorced Stephanie Plum (Heigl) lands a job at her cousin’s bail bond business, where her first assignment puts her on the trail of a wanted local cop from her romantic past.

Journey 2: The Mysterious Island

Starring: Josh Hutcherson, Dwayne Johnson Rated: PG Opens: 2/10/2012 Plot: Sean Anderson (Hutcherson) partners with his mom’s boyfriend on a mission to find his grandfather, who is thought to be missing on a mythical island.

Big Miracle

Wanderlust

Starring: Drew Barrymore, John Krasinski Rated: PG Opens: 2/3/2011 Plot: In small-town Alaska, a news reporter recruits his ex-girlfriend – a Greenpeace volunteer – on a campaign to save a family of gray whales trapped by rapidly forming ice in the Arctic Circle.

Starring: Jennifer Aniston, Paul Rudd, Malin Akerman Rated: R Opens: 2/24/2012 Plot: Rattled by sudden unemployment, a Manhattan couple surveys alternative living options, ultimately deciding to experiment with living on a rural commune where free love rules.

Safe House Starring: Denzel Washington, Ryan Reynolds, Robert Patrick Rated: R Opens: 2/10/2012 Plot: A rookie CIA operative goes on the run with a rogue former intelligence officer after a safe house comes under attack. Matt Weston (Reynolds) is a CIA agent just waiting for the perfect opportunity to prove himself, and a prime opportunity is headed his way when former agent Tobin Frost (Washington) has been captured after nearly a decade on the run. Now Weston’s only hope for getting out of this alive is to find out who’s gunning for them, and seek out someone he can trust before it’s too late.

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music

Future This (The Big Pink) Release Date: 1/17/2012 The Big Pink’s second album, Future This, commands attention throughout, with its genius gently sinking in like all good records should. The band worked with producer Paul Epworth (Adele, Florence & The Machine) to help them match their high ambitions.

The Stars Are Indifferent To Astronomy (Nada Surf) Release Date: 1/24/2012 This will be the sixth release from Nada Surf. This album continues the notion of music as an alternative reality, and songs as things you can keep by your side for inspiration and support.

Which is what makes Nada Surf a truly beloved band.

Pink Friday: Roman Reloaded (Nicki Minaj) Release Date: 2/14/2012 The winner of The 2011 Billboard’s Rising Star award announced that she’ll be releasing her new album, Pink Friday: Roman Reloaded, on Valentine’s Day in 2012. The album puts focus on the return of Roman Zolanski, one of Minaj’s alter egos that was first featured on her debut album, Pink Friday.

I Am Gemini (Cursive) Release Date: 2/21/2012 On February 21st, the band Cursive will resume their rocking ways together when their seventh full-length album, I Am Gemini, drops. To say the album has taken a turn toward the conceptual side would be an understatement. You’ll just have to listen to see for yourself.

All Of Me (Estelle) Release Date: 2/28/2012 A British star best-known for 2008’s “American Boy” (featuring Kanye West), Estelle has been dropping singles from her forthcoming third album for more than a year. Tracks frequently feature other MCs, such as Nas (on the “Boy”-ish “Fall in Love”) and Kardinal Offishall (the sexual grime-pop of “Freak”). midtownmag.com| 41

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apps

STAR WALK – 5 STARS ASTRONOMY GUIDE • $1.99

Star Walk enables you to point your iPhone at the sky and see what stars, constellations and satellites you are looking at in realtime. Please note, you will need a 3GS/4/4th gen iPod Touch for motion tracking, otherwise this app will be just a beautiful infopacked time-sensitive interactive star atlas that allows you to set your location manually to give you the most accurate picture.

WHERE’S WALDO?™ • $.99

The ultimate search and find adventure for all ages, as players scour the virtual globe in search of Waldo and his friends Wizard Whitebeard, Wenda and Woof, and Waldo foe, Odlaw.

In addition, there are hundreds of cleverly camouflaged items to find within the 12 different magical worlds.

APPBOX PRO: A SWISS ARMY KNIFE FOR YOUR DIGITAL LIFE • $0.99

If you consider your iPhone or iPod touch an extension of your brain (or perhaps the entire thing) you need this app. Forget about having to perform another calculation ever again, AppBox Pro will do that and many other things for you. Alarm clock with music play, date calculator, flashlight, holidays, mirror, ruler, and a translator are just a few!

MY WEDDING • $3.99

Attention, brides and grooms: Organize your wedding planning with the My Wedding App. A customizable wedding checklist app makes planning your wedding fun and easy when you are on the go! Task categories include attire, beauty, budget, catering, ceremony, florist and gifts just to name a few!

TINY WINGS • $.99

You have always dreamed of flying – but your wings are tiny. Luckily the world is full of beautiful hills. Use the hills as jumps – slide down, flap your wings and fly! At least for a moment – until this annoying gravity brings you back down to earth. But the next hill is waiting for you already.

Watch out for the night and fly as fast as you can.

Otherwise flying will only be a dream once again.

KRISPY KREME HOT LIGHT • Free

On a road trip or stuck at the office daydreaming about the mouth-watering goodness of a Hot Original Glazed® Doughnut?

Never miss another opportunity to get a Krispy Kreme doughnut Hot…Now...off the line.

PACKING PRO • $2.99

Packing Pro is a super-enhanced version of the popular, top-ranking Packing app. If you prefer more control over your whole packing experience, display options, a huge catalog, lots of sample lists and additional, built-in Expert assistance, then Packing Pro is for you!

GLASS TOWER 3 • Free

Glass Tower 3 is a game with physical collisions and gravity simulation. Gameplay seems to be easy at first. The tower is constructed of blocks which are different in size, shape and color.

In this highly addictive game, your aim is to break all blue blocks and to save as many red blocks as possible.

CHECKPLEASE – TIP CALCULATOR • $.99

Checkplease offers the following: Quick and accurate calculation of tip; Option to not tip on the tax; Handles coupons/discounts by tipping on the coupon amount so the waiter/waitresses don’t get short changed; Round tip, round total, and ability to always round up; Split the bill among multiple people; Uses your local currency or optionally pick a currency.

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BY CURT FINCH, North Hills Bookery

BOOKS books

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Price: $27.99 Available: 1/3/12

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2) LONE WOLF (Jodi Picoult) A life hanging in the balance...a family torn apart. A story about love and letting go.

Price: $28 Available: 2/28/12 3) Stay Close (Harlan Coben) Nobody writes thrillers better than Coben. They touch us where we live.

Price: $26.95 Available 3/20/12

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4) ARISE: Live Out Your Faith and Dreams on Whatever Field You Find Yourself (Clayton and Ellen Kershaw) Los Angeles Dodger pitcher Kershaw and his wife share what they have learned about making a difference in the world while living out God-given dreams.

Price: $17.99 Available: 1/11/12 5) Love in a Nutshell (Janet Evanovich and Kelly Dorien) A novel of suspense, sabotage, humor and lovable characters.

Price: $27.99 Available 1/3/12

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BEER

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beer

BY David Wrenn, Product Manager – World of Beer

GATEWAY KOLSCH Brewed by: French Broad Brewing Company.

North Carolina, US Style: Kölsch 5.30% ABV

Tasting Notes: Golden in color, with a refreshing crispness, pleasantly sweet malt finish, and distinctive German hopping.

DOGFISH HEAD PALO SANTO MARRON Brewed by: Dogfish Head Brewery.

Delaware, US Style: American Brown Ale 12.00% ABV

Tasting Notes: A highly roasty, and malty brown ale aged on the wood of the Palo Santo tree from Paraguay.

Price: $7/12oz. bottle

Price: $9/22oz. bottle

WEIHENSTEPHANER ORIGINAL BAYRISCH MILD (PREMIUM) Brewed by: Bayerische Staatsbrauerei Weihenstephan.

Freising, Germany Style: Dortmunder/ Helles 5.10% ABV

ST. BERNARDUS ABT 12

Tasting Notes: Mild aroma of fruit and bread.

Tastes of grain, spice and a bit of hops. Light and crisp. Easy to drink.

Brewed by: St. Bernard Brouwerij.

Watou, Belgium Style: Abt/Quadrupel 10.50% ABV

Price: $6/16.9oz. bottle

RODENBACH GRAND CRU Brewed by: Brouwerij Rodenbach.

Roeselare, Belgium Style: Sour Ale/Wild Ale 6.00% ABV

Tasting Notes: A blend of 1/3 young beer and 2/3 of beer aged 2 years in large oak vats. The more important proportion of oak matured beer

contributes to its fruity taste, complexity and intensity. The finish is worthy of a great wine.

Price: $22/25oz. bottle

Tasting Notes: A dark ivory coloured beer with a high fermentation. The show piece of the brewery.

Thanks to its soft and unconditionally genuine aroma, the beer can be smoothly tasted. The Abt has a very fruity flavor.

Price: $15/25oz. bottle

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REVIEWS

BY DAVID SENDALL, Assistant Manager – Total Wine & More

WINE wine

GREAT TO GIVE TS IF G E FOR H OR S AR E’S TI VALEN N DAY

JAVILLIER BOURGOGNE DES FORGETS

Vintage: 2008

CHATEAU DE CRUZEAU Vintage: 2005

Tasting notes: Loaded with ripe pear flavors and buttered toast overtone. This elegant, medium-bodied Chardonnay pairs best with all kinds of seafood

Tasting notes: Crushed berry on the nose, with hints of sweet tobacco and cedar.

Full – to medium-bodied with soft tannins and a coffee, toasty oak and ripe fruit aftertaste.

Price: $29.99/bottle

Accolades: 90pts, Wine Spectator Price: $34.99/bottle

DE MARGERIE GRAND CRU BRUT Region: Champagne, France Tasting notes: An elegant Grand Cru Rose made from a blend of 90% Pinot Noir and 10% Chardonnay, it is crisp and light, with a red fruit bouquet and pink hue. The palate is filled with red fruit and tiny bubbles that glide across the tongue.

CASISANO COLOMBAIO BRUNELLO Vintage: 2003 Tasting notes: Offers wondeful aromas of black cherry, mineral, flowers and raspberry.

Full-bodied, yet balanced and silky, with lovely fruit and a long, flavorful finish.

Accolades: 92pts, Wine Spectator Price: $39.99/bottle

Price: $42.99/bottle

QUINTA DE VENTOZELO LBV Vintage: 2005 Tasting notes: This port has a deep ruby color, with plummy shades of purple and a

complex nose of black cherries, dark chocolate, vanilla and hints of oak.

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mirrors Mirrors can make or break a room’s look. When redecorating your home, it is essential to choose the right mirror. A low quality mirror hung as an afterthought when decorating can fall short of the fresh new look you were striving to create.

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The Shops of Baileywick (Bautista Interiors), $165

Eatman’s Carpets and Interiors, $1,899

Hunt & Gather (Glenwood Ave.), $550

Affordable Chic, $20

Nowell’s Contemporary Furniture, $369

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Recommended by Stacey Swecker of An Hour With Stacey, $4,500.

The Shops of Baileywick, $158

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Eatman’s Carpets and Interiors, $1,499

Nowell’s Contemporary Furniture, $379

Hunt & Gather (Bernard St), $139

Revival Antiques, $225

Hunt & Gather (Glenwood Ave), $425

Rodolfo Gonzales Interior Design, $2,615

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Hunt & Gather (Bernard St.), $295 Rodolfo Gonzales Interior Design, $6,185

Recommended by Stacey Swecker of An Hour With Stacey, $1,295.00 Revival Antiques, $145

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SHOWN: A-81 LOUNGE CHAIR UPHOLSTERED IN McGUIRE TEXTILE PHBL113 AND RKL-23 BEAD LAMP. 1.800.662.4847.

RODOLFO GONZALES INTERIORS

4381-105 LASSITER AT NORTH HILLS AVENUE RALEIGH NC 27609 T.919-573-4010 OPEN M-F 10-8PM SAT 10-6PM SUN 12-5PM

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A TWIST ON THE

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BY ILLYSE LANE

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THINKING ABOUT ADDING CONTEMPORARY TOUCHES TO YOUR TRADITIONAL HOME?

PHOTO FROM MCGUIRE AVAILABLE AT RODOLFO GONZALES INTERIORS

NOT SURE WHERE TO BEGIN?

Jeff Hudgins and Abbott Tompkins were ready for a change. A change to their living space, that is.

While they initially loved the traditional living room they originally put together, they noticed how rarely it was actually used.

“When we did use it, we realized people weren’t as comfortable as we would have liked them to be,” says Hudgins.

So they had the idea to transform the space from its traditional style to a more contemporary, comfortable feel while keeping it upscale. “It would be a great room to sit and visit with company, but not a room to lounge out and watch television in,” says Hudgins.

Fortunately for Hudgins and Tompkins, who happen to be co-owners of Hunt & Gather on Glenwood, it was a task they knew they could confidently tackle. But for us regular folks – that is, the people who have held true to a traditional design style and perhaps consider ourselves a little impaired when it comes to the mixing of styles – adding a contemporary touch to our home may seem like a daunting task.

But according to Rodolfo Gonzales of Rodolfo Gonzales Interior Design, it’s time to change our thinking. “You don’t have to do a major overhaul or break the budget to get the look you are striving for,” says Gonzales. “Using a rug, a piece of art, a cocktail table, a mirror or a chandelier is a way to make a tremendous difference in a room.”

With cleaner lines, less bulky, smaller scale pieces, and distinct hardware, contemporary pieces can be easily mixed with almost any design style, adding warmth and freshness to a room. “Think of contemporary style as a transitional contemporary design, not as a stark, modern statement,” says Gonzales. “True contemporary style will involve more subtle designs, softer colors and pattern.”

And if you’re concerned about breaking design standards by blending two distinct styles, it’s also time to change your thinking.

“There will always be purists who want a design style to be one way or another. In my opinion, things are a little more interesting when you shake it up a bit,” says Jerry Nowell, Jr. of Nowell’s Contemporary Furniture. “Good design, whether it’s designed 100 years ago or yesterday, is still good design.”

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THREE THINGS TO THINK ABOUT BEFORE YOU HEAD OUT, CONSIDER:

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What You Like “Take a look at Metropolitan Home, Dwell, or another shelter magazine to get a feel for what is out there and what resonates with you,” says Nowell. “Then, visit the stores in the area and talk with designers about what you like and what you are trying to do.” If you choose to work with an interior designer, expect he or she to ask questions about your lifestyle, show you examples and take you through the whole design process.

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Your Whole House Vision You may be thinking about one particular room, but consider the big picture. You ultimately want to tie the entire home together. “If you pick only one room, you can spend all your budget but have the house looked unfinished,” says Gonzales.

TYING IT TOGETHER TIPS: 1) Use the same wall color or flooring from room to room to make it fluid.

2) When you choose for one room, think of how the items will impact the rest of your house.

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3) Think about investing in items that can work in other places, keeping in mind that the rooms are connected.

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before

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GET-IT-RIGHT DECORATING STRATEGIES KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO DO? TRY THESE STRATEGIES, TRIED AND TRUE:

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Having just one contemporary piece can look odd, like an afterthought.

“As rule of thumb, use at least three elements in a room that cohere with one another, and make sure the scale works,” says Nowell.

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Fabrics and color can make a difference. Use colors in the same family and put colors that pop in groupings.

Use geometric shapes for a contemporary look, then add an inviting feel with collections, comfortable fabric, and personal items. “The minimalist contemporary style of a white four-foot-square coffee table with one red marble in the middle of it is gone. Fill that table with details that make you smile,” says Hudgins.

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The best way to find the room spark you’ve been missing it to love what you buy. Let these items be a reflection of your personality and bring your room together.

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It soothes, uplifts, and makes everything around it look good. No wonder it’s Nature’s favorite color – and so popular with designers. Here are a few of their favorites.

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Sherwin Williams “Haven” paired with Sherwin Williams “Antique White”. I would use the green as an accent rather than for the whole room.

Green is a refreshing and cheerful color, reminding us of the outdoors, and works in many rooms in the house. ~ Sarah Stauffer, Interior Harmony

I like...

Benjamin Moore “Stem Green”. It is clear and natural without being too bright or too dull. I tend to accent my rooms with touches of green...anything from plants and flowers to big fluffy silk pillows. I most often use neutrals like tan, khaki and beige paired with green. Also consider black or brown. ~ Betty Eatman, Eatman’s Carpets & Interiors

I like...

Benjamin Moore’s “Sleeping Angel”. It is a pale Old World green that is soothing to the eye in both daylight and at nighttime.

Great paired with accent colors like “French Quarter Gold” to take that Old World look to the next level or move it to the islands with punches of ”Raspberry Blush” for that tropical touch. ~ Jeffrey Hudgins, Hunt & Gather Glenwood

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Farrow and Ball’s “Olive” No. 13. This dusty, neutral, grayish green coordinates with practically any accent color. ~ Stacey Swecker, An Hour with Stacey

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If the old paint on your wall is flaking off, it’s a good idea to buy a paint scraper and get it out of the way. Once all the old paint is gone, sand the surface smooth, prime and your new paint will look great.

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Sherwin Williams “Hearts of Palm”. It is great for a living or dining room. A pretty accent for halls or foyers is “Ivoire”. eatmans_nd.pdf 10/10/11 3:41:16 PM ~ Dianne Thomson, Affordable Chic

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If you’re looking for paint in hightraffic areas, semi-gloss is the way to go. Shiny and durable, semigloss is a parent’s best friend.

I like...

Benjamin Moore “Sweet Spring”. It is crisp yet soothing. This chalky-gray-green functions as a delightful neutral with a little more interest than beige. It offers rest for a master bedroom, a spa feel for a bathroom, and sense of cleanliness for a kitchen with white cabinets.

Pair it with deep, cool colors like Benjamin Moore “Boca-Raton” blue for an earthy feel, use it as the perfect backdrop for dramatic pops of color like Benjamin Moore “Red Parrot”, or blend it with creams and browns for a sophisticated neutral effect. ~ Van Fletcher, Broker/Realtor – Oaks at Fallon Park/Allen Tate Company

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My favorite trick is to paint all of the trim in Benjamin Moore “Flowering Herbs”. What?

Green trim! Think of it as the frame around the canvas, and it grounds the canvas and is not so overused like white and cream trim. When I use this trim color, I paint my walls Benjamin Moore “Windham Cream”, “Monterey White” or “Putnam Ivory”, creating the most beautiful, calm backdrop for vibrant textiles and art in any abode. ~ Sandy Maccioli, Awesome Abode at Shops of Baileywick

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should I paint

my ceiling?

The ceiling is the fifth wall, and many designers feel that keeping the ceiling white is like “throwing a sheet over the room”. But there are a few things to consider before painting the ceiling anything other than white: Is your ceiling heavily textured?

In many old houses, the ceiling is patterned or “popcorned” making it very difficult if not impossible to paint. Also, painting it anything other than white will call attention to it, and maybe that’s not what you want.

Is your ceiling a smooth plaster?

If so, you should definitely paint it.

Is your ceiling really high?

If so, you can paint it virtually any color that goes with the rest of the room. If you’d like to bring the ceiling down visually, consider a color darker than your wall color or a warm color. Also consider adding crown moulding if it’s not already there. The moulding will also bring the ceiling down by calling your eye’s attention to it. And it really finishes the room.

Is your ceiling low or average height?

Consider painting it a tint of the wall color. If your walls are a medium green, then your ceiling would be the very lightest green on the color swatch, or even lighter (white with a dash of green).

Does your room have enough light?

Bright white ceilings do help bounce light back into the room, so if your room is already dark, pay special attention to the ceiling color. White can be used effectively, but light tints on the ceiling will also reflect light. Just avoid a ceiling color that is going to absorb all the light and leave the room dark. midtownmag.com| 63

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MENS’ GUIDE TO VALENTINE’S DAY

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Don’t look now, guys, but Valentine’s Day is almost upon us. Try not to panic!

True to the heart of an investigative journalist, I put myself in the most precarious of positions, all in the name of researching the perfect Valentine’s Day gift – I asked (and listened to) as many women as I could find.

That number turned out to be 15, and below are their answers to what I thought were the most pressing questions about the day. I hope this information gets you a Valentine’s Day kiss:

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WHAT SHOULD MEN KNOW ABOUT VALENTINE’S DAY, ROMANCE, AND/OR BUYING GIFTS FOR WOMEN? “Figure out something that is personal and meaningful for the two of you – it will mean twice as much and be way less stressful!”

- Jenny, 23, Domestic Partner “The only thing that really matters is that you put some actual thought into it, so we feel even an ounce special that day.”

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“It’s not about stuff, it’s about the thought that goes into a gift … the focal point should be a demonstration of your appreciation for your significant other. For instance, if your significant other is, I don’t know, a third-grade teacher, going out to a nice restaurant where there aren’t likely to be any children around would be pretty thoughtful.”

- Marlee, 25, Single “I don’t think any woman will ever turn down a sparkly piece of jewelry, new clothes, shoes, a bag, or an iPad, but I also think it’s the simplest gestures that mean the most.”

- Elsa, 42, Married

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“CLEAN THE HOUSE – it’s always better than any gift you could buy.”

- Valerie, 37, Married

“A Valentine’s Day gift should come from the heart, whether it’s taking me out for pizza and a beer or going away to a place that is warm and sunny. Just spending time with the one you love is the perfect present.”

- Ronda, 45, Married

“The best way for a man to be romantic is to do things or give gifts that show that he really knows his significant other. It shows that he’s really paying attention.”

- Emily, 32, Single

“Be a good listener when it’s the holidays ... women will mention things they like, just in passing. That’s when men should take mental notes....”

- Annette, 45, Married

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HOW IMPORTANT IS VALENTINE’S DAY? “Valentine’s Day isn’t a big holiday for either of us.

But seeing people that do make a big deal out of being lovey-dovey or getting stressed out about doing/ buying the right thing every year reminds me how lucky I am to be in a relationship where we feel comfortable enough with each other to skip all that.”

- Jenny, 23, Domestic Partner

“I think having designated days when you show your appreciation for your significant other is important.

Of course you should show this appreciation every day, but it’s nice to have a few special days where you do something extra.”

- Angela, 37, Married

“I love Valentine’s Day – one day when I make sure my kids and husband know how much I love them.”

- Ronda, 45, Married

“I really don’t think it’s all that special of a day, but it’s always a good idea to remind yourselves to keep your relationship fresh, and not put it on the back burner.”

- Annette, 45, Married

“Valentine’s Day is special because you see if your partner goes out of their way to make you feel loved.”

- Kate, 37, Married

“We’ve made Valentine’s Day about our kids now. We have a special dinner with them and extended family, complete with chocolate-covered strawberries and other desserts. Everyone puts their cards in a ‘mailbox’ the kids decorated. After dinner the kids deliver the ‘mail’ to everyone. It’s a great way for us to celebrate!”

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WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR VALENTINE’S DAY? “Just to be taken care of and spoiled a little. I work really hard, and having someone else take care of things would be lovely. (Also, I would love a massage.)”

- Marlee, 25, Single

“I don’t really want anything significantly expensive or big; just a nice, expressive card and an ‘I love you’ would work!”

- Linda, 29, Engaged

“The best gift I could get is a well-tidied, vacuumed house.”

- Valerie, 37, Married “I would actually like Hubby to be on the ball a week or two ahead, so it’s not so cheesy.”

- Kate, 37, Married

“I’d like to have a day to myself and a bit of cash to spend.”

- Shelley, 41, Married

“Being treated to a nice romantic dinner for two – no kids allowed!”

- Traci, 45, Divorced

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“Something romantic – a surprise homemade dinner by my husband with candles and wine, with a bath later that night.”

- Christine, 41, Married

“I don’t ever ask for anything on Valentine’s Day, but I usually get the most beautiful roses in the world from my husband and extra special gifts from my kids. I like to be surprised. Gifts mean so much more when they come from the heart of the giver – when a person truly knows you, they know what to give, and that is what makes me happy.

- Ronda, 45, Married

“If at the end of each day, we’re still married, in love and have pulled it off, we’re good. And if he really wants to give me a present, coming home to a clean house with no dishes in the sink and the laundry folded is as good as it can ever get.”

- Elsa, 42, Married

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WHAT WAS THE BEST VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT YOU EVER RECEIVED? “Probably one of the sweetest Valentine’s Day gifts I’ve gotten was a bouquet of origami flowers.”

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“I had a boyfriend who, one year, left a rose under the windshield wiper of my car while I was at work the night of Valentine’s Day, so that I found it when I left that night.”

- Emily, 32, Single

“We went to Grand Cayman on vacation, and I told Phil ON THE PLANE that I was going to pick out a piece of jewelry on this trip. So we go shopping, and I pick out a fabulous ring. Phil’s response: ‘Why would you want to spend so much money for a ring?’ I was ticked! He knew he had blown it. That whole trip he was all, ‘Let’s go back to town and get that ring.’ I wouldn’t let him buy me anything! Fast-forward seven months to Valentine’s Day – I open the box and IT’S THAT RING FROM GRAND CAYMAN! He had called the jewelry store, tracked the lady down that helped us, ordered the ring and had it sent to him at work. Best present EVER.” - Annette, 45, Married

“When my boyfriend and I went to see Rambo in the theater – we were supposed to go see Atonement, which just seemed more appropriate and romantic, but when we got to the theater we both agreed we were in the mood for a stupid action movie. Last year we played Putt-Putt with some single friends who didn’t feel like sitting at home alone, and that was great, too.”

- Jenny, 23, Domestic Partner “Surprise tickets to see the Titanic exhibit, lunch at 518 – and he lined up the sitter!”

- Kate, 37, Married

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WHAT WAS THE WORST VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT YOU EVER RECEIVED?

“A gift card for gas, or household items to clean with.”

- Christine, 41, Married

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“Lingerie.

Boys … that’s a gift for you, not the woman.”

- Valerie, 37, Married

“An apple peeler from my EX-husband.”

- Wendy, 42, (Re-)Married

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CONCLUSION...

“A bag of jelly beans. I usually get roses from The Fresh Market and a card that is never signed but sits on the counter for a few days until I file it away with all the other cards that he has bought and never signed. (No, I am not angry about this – no, not at all).”

- Kate, 37, Married

“Usually, I will receive chocolates and/or flowers, but unlike many women I know, I am not a fan of either.”

- Traci, 45, Divorced

There you have it. Ask 15 women, and you’ll get … 15 opinions. But there’s a common thread among them – put some thought into how you celebrate the day. Granted, I know we’re not that good at thinking (especially with regard to matters of the heart) but that’s okay, because each of us has access to the perfect source – our significant other. If you want to know what she wants for Valentine’s Day, ask her! If there’s one thing I discovered from my research, it’s that women are willing to share their opinions on this topic. And sometimes, asking is gift enough.

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NOTHING SAYS Consider enhancing your filet by wrapping it in bacon.

I suggest a cherry wood smoked bacon for a subtle smokey flavor.

I LOVE YOU

(AND I’M REALLY TRYING TO IMPRESS YOU)

LIKE MAKING DINNER FOR YOUR

VALENTINE!

We asked Paul Kellum, General Manager of The Meat House, his secrets for the perfect filet mignon dinner.

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PICKING A GREAT FILET MIGNON Filet mignon should be bright red, leaning towards a dark red shade. Never buy dark or gray meat. 2”-2½” is a great thickness for a good medium rare; anything thinner may overcook!

Always choose “prime grade”; this is the top 2% of all meat.

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SEASONING THE FILET Like all meats, a filet does need to be seasoned. As a filet, it has less fat than other cuts, so it’s a leaner choice – but as we have learned, fat is flavor. That being said, filet mignon has a delicate flavor and should be highlighted with salt and black pepper to bring out these natural flavors; and avoid using heavily flavored marinades.

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PREPARING IT INSIDE You can sear your filet in the oven at 500 degrees for 10 minutes. Remove from oven and turn oven down to 275 degrees.

Allow to cool down, then place filets back in on a rack for an additional 25-30 minutes, depending on size. If you are using a meat thermometer, look for an internal temperature of 135 degrees.

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Ravenscroft Chalet SoIree January 18 | 11am-2pm | Saks Fifth Avenue Triangle Town Center St. TImothy’s School – A Day In the LIfe for prospectIve parents January 18, 26 | 8:30-11am | 4523 Six Forks Road | sttimothys.org LES ENFANTS TERRIBLES – North CarolIna Opera January 19, 20, 22 | 8pm, 8pm, 3pm | Progress Energy Center | 919.068.8997 St. DavId’s School Open House January 19 | 7pm | sdsw.org St TImothy’s school MIddle School Student VIsItatIon Day January 23 | 4523 Six Forks Road | sttimothys.org

Follow the ChIld MontessorI School/ NurturIng Infancy ParentIng Class: BIrth-18 months January 12-February 23 | 6-8:30pm | 1215 Follow the ChIld MontessorI School Ridge Road | followthechild.org | 919.755.1150 Toddler-6th ProspectIve Parents January 25 | 9-10:30am | 1215 Ridge Road, GardenIng for Urban Spaces – Class 1 Raleigh | followthechild.org | 919.755.1150 January 14, 21, 28 | 10-11:30am | 5217 Atlantic Avenue | atlanticavenuegarden.com | ParentIng SerIes: MedIa and the $20 per class ChrIstIan WorldvIew January 25 | 7-8:30pm | North Raleigh United MARISA BARATELLI TRUNK SHOW Methodist Church | www.nrumc.org January 12-14 | Cameron Clothing | 919.420.0411 | www.cameronclothing.com

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February 14 ValentIne’s Day SaInt-Jacques ValentIne’s Day SpecIal DInner February 14 | 6112 Falls of Neuse Road | saintjacquesfrenchcuisine.com Les MIserables February 14-19 | Progress Energy Center | nctheatre.com Moon Over MIdtown for TrIangle FamIly ServIces February 17 | 7pm-12am | The Renaissance at North Hills | moonovermidtown.com Fat Tuesday MardI Gras BenefIttIng Meals on Wheels of Wake County February 21 | 6pm | North Ridge Country Club wakemow.org SaInt-Jacques CookIng Class February 22 | 4:30-6:30pm | 6112 Falls of Neuse Road | saintjacquesfrenchcuisine.com

Follow the ChIld MontessorI School Toddler-6th ProspectIve Parents February 22 | 9-10:30am | 919.755.1150 | followthechild.org IgnIted By Truth CatholIc Conference February 24-25 | 919.789.1428 | ignitedbytruth.com SpecIal OlympIcs NC Torch Run 5K February 25 | 8:30am | NC State Centennial Campus | ncstate5k.com Dress for Success CharIty Event February 23 | 6-8pm | Saks Fifth Avenue Triangle Town Center Artreach 4 KIds January 26 | 7-10pm | Artspace | artreach4kids.org Have an important event? We would love to hear about it. Please send the details of your calendar events to: gstephens@midtownmag.com.

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inside their closets By: ILLYSE LANE Photos: Gabriel NELSON

With access to all the fashion they can imagine, the owners of some of the most fashionable shops in Midtown seem quite lucky. So when asked to choose the two most prized possessions in their closets, it was no surprise that the initial reaction was, ”Only two?” I mean, with unlimited access to denim, dresses, shirts, shoes, bags, jewelry and slacks, how could you ever pick only two?

But with proper consideration, it became easier than they thought.

It is clear our local fashion mavens are loyal to their tried and true.

Most agree that having a true sense of style is buying what you love and then, wearing it. It’s not saving an item for a special occasion. It’s the ability to blend what’s hot with what you like, and making it work, again and again. It’s knowing you’ve always got a few go-to accessories that will finish any outfit and recognizing that even though there will always be a new piece worthy of an investment, true style is about being comfortable in the classics you love.

Curious as to what they treasure?

Take a look…

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Gena Combs and Chandler Woodall Norman, gena chandler

There’s no denying the chemistry between Gena Combs and Chandler Woodall Norman. It’s been a huge factor in the success of their shop. So it should only be expected that the two best friends consistently fall in love with similar styles. In this case, it’s their respective pair of their five-year-old Valentino python boots. The timeless, beautiful style of the flat, nude and black boots, combined with the fact that they are super comfortable, make them their go-to boots for fall.

To seal their forever together fate, both women opted for fur coats as their next item. But both have a very different story behind these most prized possessions.

For Chandler, the fur coat that was given to her by her aunt earlier this year is a constant reminder of the times she, her aunt and mother have spent together taking Norman’s girl cousins to New York. It’s a tradition that began years ago, and has carried over to the younger generation. “After our most recent trip, my Aunt Margaret sent me the coat as a gift.

It’s beautiful, with her name stitched into the coat. I always think of her when I wear it,” says Norman.

For Combs, her mother’s fur coat is the ultimate.

Seven years ago, Combs lost her mother to brain cancer.

Over the years, she has found comfort in anything that belonged to her. “My mom was my very favorite person,” says Combs. “This coat is so beautiful and it reminds me of her every time I wear it and see it.”

Harry Pollock, Varsity Men’s Wear

If you happen to bump into Harry Pollock, you’re certain to find him wearing one of his most prized possessions. His Cross pen, given to him by his wife 25 years ago, is always attached to his shirt. “Even when I am at the beach and have got on a tee shirt,” says Pollock. “It’s my favorite writing pen, and even though it’s beat up, it’s written a lot of business in my career. It’s part of me.”

On the other hand, his second favorite possession is one you will not likely see him in, unless, of course, you happen to stop by the house. “It’s my worn out pair of Topsiders. The sole is completely worn off, they look bad, I’d never wear them out, but I fail to give them up,” says Pollock.

Being that he is on his feet all day, slipping on his faithful Topsiders once at home is his signal to wind down and spend some time doing what he loves to do, which happens to be yard work. “It’s carried over from my days spent on the farm,” says Pollock. “It’s my escape.”

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Hayley Cushman, Hayley’s Boutique Hayley Cushman admits that when it comes to clothing, she has a new favorite every week. “But I don’t sell shoes,” says Cushman, with a smile. “Shoes are the one thing I still love to buy for myself.”

And Cushman seems to have a weakness for gold, glittery shoes. “I have five pair, and they are my favorites,” says Cushman. “To me, wearing these shoes means you are getting ready to dress up, have a cocktail and have a good time that evening. I always feel special when I put them on.” And it doesn’t hurt that the shoes go with nearly every sundress Cushman puts on.

Changing from sparkly to practical, Cushman swears by her hiking shoes. “I love to get dressed up and be super girly, but when I am not here, I loved to be outdoors. These shoes mean that I have checked out, and I have nothing to do except to enjoy being outside,” says Cushman.

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Carri Lawson, Anna & Alice

For Carri Lawson, it’s all about timeless pieces that can be paired with anything and worn at anytime. “Every woman should have a few classic pieces in her closet that she can build outfits around, dressy or casual,” says Lawson. And nothing yells classic more than diamond earrings and a Louis Vuitton bag.

“My diamond earrings, which are very simple but elegant, go with everything,” says Lawson. “And my Louis Vuitton bag, it’s great for travel and everyday. Plus it never goes out of style.” And ultimately, when she wears them, she feels as though they represent her, which is exactly how any woman wants to feel when she walks out the door.

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Barbara Bishop, CoolSweats

As the owner of CoolSweats, Barbara Bishop always has comfort on her mind.

As a matter of fact, it’s her number one priority when it comes to her closet. So to blend that comfort with fashion forward style, she first reaches for her new leopard boots from Main & Taylor, often pairing them with her favorite Christopher Blue stretch jeans.

To finish off her look, Bishop is partial to a handmade long pendant necklace that she wears everyday. “Accessories provide originality no matter what you put together,” says Bishop.

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Kristen Greczyn, Kristen’s Shoe Boutique

For Kristen, it’s the thought that counts. Especially when it’s coming from her husband. “My husband has never been able to surprise me, but he did last Christmas,” remembers Greczyn.

For this surprise, he went above and beyond, flying to Charlotte, driving to Southpark Mall and then heading into the Chanel boutique at Neiman Marcus, where he bought her a black quilted leather Chanel handbag. “He was so excited he kept the secret,” says Greczyn.

Her other most prized? The diamond earrings she received for her 40th birthday. For Greczyn, her two favorites are classics that add volumes to any look but will never go out of style – exactly what you want in a prized possession.

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Bryce Batts, Clothes Hound

There’s nothing quite like the loyalty a woman can develop for a great fitting pair of jeans. And Bryce Batts has a pair she couldn’t do without. Her Blank NYC Spray-on Skinny Jeans are worn with everything, from flats, knee high boots and ankle boots on the bottom to oversized tops, longer tunics and blazers on the top. “I probably wear them too much,” jokes Batts.

And while you may find her in those jeans more often than not, you’ll have to take her word for her other most favorite thing. “It’s a ring my grandmother gave me that I wore on my wedding day,” says Batts.

“My grandmother left the ring to me in her will and although I don’t wear it often, I love it and it definitely holds a dear place in my heart.”

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Kristi Hipple, C.T. Weekends When it comes to style, feel is essential for Kristi Hipple. And by feel we mean both soft to the touch and comfortable.

For Hipple, her black modal dress from Vivi – Italy takes the prize. “The fabric is soft and the silhouette is unconstructed, making it very comfortable. I can dress it up or down,” says Hipple. And the icing on the cake is that the dress is black, Hipple’s choice for a go-to color.

What better to wear over the dress than an incredible black wool coat from Devernois? “I love coats, but this is most special because it meets all the criteria listed above, but, even more importantly, I bought it on one of my first trips to Paris,” says Hipple.

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Ashley Harris, Vermillion

Part of Ashley Harris’ business philosophy has always been to get to know the designers she works with. So it only makes sense that her riding boots come from a generations old cobbler’s shop she and her husband discovered when visiting Madrid. “They are authentic riding boots that are now five years old,” says Harris. “I wear them a lot and they have acquired some dings and even some paint stains, but with these imperfections, the boots get more special to me.”

And speaking of getting to know the designers. Harris fell hard for a black Celine dress that came into the shop, so hard that after she sold it, she couldn’t get the hardto-find dress out of her head. “I couldn’t find another one through retail or wholesale channels, so I made it my mission to find the dress,” says Harris, who ultimately called Celine and developed a relationship with the woman who answered the phone. After a long search, Harris received the phone call she’d been waiting for, the call that let her know dress was on its way to her, where it’s become a staple part of her wardrobe.

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Ele Roberts, Love In Bloom

Ele Roberts has always been obsessed with fashion, “I zero in on certain brands that I feel like are having a moment,” says Roberts. Such was the case with the Burberry bag that she purchased at the then flagship Burberry store in London about 14 years ago. And while she initially felt so chic running around town carrying the stylish bag, it’s now become her go-to bag for outings with her little boy, making it both a classic and versatile piece.

Roberts had another moment when she tried on an ivory taffeta party dress from BCBG at Saks Fifth Avenue. She was shopping for her 40th birthday party, and as soon as she put it on, she knew. “It was so feminine and pretty. When I tried it on in the store, I gasped at my own reflection,” says Roberts, knowing the value of that gasp since it’s not the usual reaction we women have when shopping.

“That dress captured a moment and demonstrated a feeling. It was exactly how I wanted to feel when moving into a new decade.”

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Nancy Alinovi, Adore Boutiques

Nancy Alinovi is all about adding a little bit of glam to her look. So it’s no surprise that if her house was on fire, you’d find her running out holding her sky-high black suede booties, purchased a few years ago during a family trip to London. “Women ask me where I got them, men ask me how I walk in them, and the others, well, they just stare,” says Alinovi.

And to top off the glam factor, Alinovi opts for a sentimental favorite, a 1940s, heavy gold and diamond tasseled bracelet. The bracelet, given to her by a sister-in-law who inherited it from an aunt, seems to be crafted around a pair of diamond earrings that have been dismantled from their backs and combined with heavy rope chain. But the true value comes from what her sister-in-law said when giving her the surprise gift. “She said I deserved it because I was such a good mother,” says Alinovi. “That made me cry, for she had never said anything like that before to me.”

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Cheryl Reinert, Gigi’s Boutique

Cheryl Reinert remembers the time she spent working for Monet jewelry as being one of the most memorable periods in her life. And during that time, she invested in a chunky gold necklace and bracelet set that she loved.

“I held onto it over the years, keeping it boxed up, knowing that even though gold wasn’t always big, it would come back,” says Reinert.

Reinert was indeed smart in holding onto the classic set. These days, she gets to enjoy it again, whether she wears the two pieces separately or as a set. “When I wear it, it brings back that time that I enjoyed so much,” says Reinert.

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Julie Patel, Dapper Style House

As a designer, Julie Patel understands the thought, passion and energy that have to be poured into a design to make it come to life. So it shouldn’t be a surprise that the she has a very special place for the first dress that she made for her clothing line, Julkee. “It was my first design and is still my favorite. I still remember how excited I was when I finished it. And seeing it down the runway and how people reacted was one of the best feelings of my life,” remembers Patel.

Patel changes gears as she shares her next item, which also has sentimental value, but for different reasons. “I have an opal ring that my husband bought for me from Australia last year. It also happens to be my birthstone,” says Patel. It’s so special that when Patel thought she had lost it earlier this year, she burst into tears, considering the ring just as important as her wedding ring.

The good news? She found it.

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Kristi Koren, Monkee’s of Raleigh

Kristi Koren knows first-hand that when you’ve been searching for the perfect something, finding it is all the sweeter. She finally found her dsquared2 leather jacket after searching for a style that blended a little edginess with a feminine touch. With its sleek, classic fit, zipper sleeves and ruffles at the small of the back, the jacket is everything she was hoping for. “And since I bought the jacket in Europe when traveling with my husband, it also reminds me of our travels, which we love to do,” says Koren.

Her diamond stud earrings also conjure up sentimental memories, having been given to her as a Christmas gift by her then five-day-old son. “I could not believe his impeccable taste at such an early age,” laughs Koren. “Every time I wear them I am reminded of our first Christmas together.”

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Charlotte Harris, Charlotte’s

For Charlotte Harris, her two most prized possessions couldn’t have a more different story, with one being something she didn’t give much thought to when she bought and the other being something she carefully designed herself.

“I’ve had a black St. John’s knit evening suit for about 5 years, and I still love to wear it. It has a detachable bow on the collar; it’s classic,” says Harris. “If I can’t think of what to wear, I put that on, and I always get a lot of compliments.”

Harris put a lot more thought into a three-strand pearl necklace made of freshwater pearls she designed years ago, making it with invisible clasps so it can be worn opera length or as a double or triple strand. “It’s three separate strands with pearls that are ten millimeters each, making it versatile, great looking and something that goes with everything,” says Harris.

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You raised your kids. Now it’s time for you, right? There’s just one little problem. And it’s on your doorstep.

By christa gala

Have your kids returned home? Whether you’ve accepted them reluctantly or with open arms, here’s the question you should be asking yourself: Are you helping or enabling?

“There’s a big difference between helping a child and enabling him,” says Allison Bottke, author of Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents (Harvest House, 2008). “Helping is doing something for someone that he is not capable of doing himself,” says Bottke. “Enabling is doing for someone things that he could and should be doing himself.”

Why are the kids coming back?

The truth is, sometimes helping can unintentionally slip into enabling.

Kids returning home and/or needing help is a big issue in our country.

A poll by the National Endowment for Financial Education (conducted

by Harris Interactive in May 2011) reports 40 percent of non-student adults ages 18 to 39 live at home or recently did so. That’s 14 million “boomerang kids.” And 59 percent of parents reported providing partial or full financial support to the same group.

What’s going on? It’s complicated; there are multiple reasons for this great migration back home.

The economy: There’s no denying we’ve been in the worst recession since the Great Depression. Add to that most college students now leave school with crushing debt. In 1993, the average student borrowed $12,000 for his college career. In 2009, it was $24,000. One in three parents agrees that their kids are worse off than they were starting out.

High unemployment: Once kids graduate, they struggle to find jobs. The unemployment rate for 20- to-24-year olds in 2011 was 14.8 percent and 9.5 percent for 25- to-35-year olds.

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Family structure: For the past 30 years, the family structure has been more child-centered. Experts attribute this in part to affluent Baby Boomers wanting to provide their children more than they had.

The US is not the only country experiencing boomerang kids. In the US, if kids overstay their welcome, we might call them a “sponge” or a “mooch.” In Japan, they’re called “Parasite singles.”

In Italy, a Minister of Finance called them “bamboccioni” (big babies), receiving a hailstorm of criticism that he was out of touch, that many young people can’t earn enough in Italy’s economy to live on their own.

What does it mean?

Many young adults are doing their very best to get internships, gain experience, pay off debt and move out. But some don’t and become immobilized and unmotivated.

Either way, there’s a cost. The Harris Interactive poll says 26 percent of US parents have taken on debt to support their grown kids; seven percent have delayed retirement.

On the bright side, returning kids can bring families closer. A full 75 percent of those living at home contribute financially to the household; 42 percent help non-financially by cooking and doing household chores or babysitting for younger children.

On the not-so-bright side, some grown kids don’t do much at all.

Are you an enabling parent?

If you are enabling – doing things for your child he can and should be doing for himself – you’re actually disabling him for the future. Sometimes, Bottke says, tough love is the best love.

In her book, Bottke includes a list of questions to help parents recognize the difference between helping and enabling: • Have you loaned your child money repeatedly, seldom (if ever) being repaid?

• Have you paid for education and/or job training in more than one field?

• Have you finished a job or project he failed to complete himself because it was easier than arguing with him?

• Have you paid bills he was supposed to have paid himself?

• Have you accepted part of the blame for his addictions or behavior?

• Have you avoided talking about negative issues because you feared his response?

• Does your child have money for new clothes, nights out and video games but can’t afford to pay any bills?

• Have you begun to feel you’ve reached the end of your rope?

• Do you worry the financial burden is more than you can bear?

• Do you feel your marriage might be in jeopardy because of the situation?

• Have you noticed growing resentment in other family members regarding the issue?

“If you answered yes to several of these questions, chances are at some point in time you have enabled your adult child to avoid his own responsibilities – to escape the consequences of his actions,” says Bottke, whose book has sold more than 100,000 copies. “Rather than help your child grow into a productive and responsible adult, you have made it easier for him to get worse.”

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If you think you may have already slipped onto the “enabling” side, consider the following tips:

• Present a united front: Discuss with your spouse the expectations you’re willing to set and enforce – together.

• Set responsibilities and expectations. Your adult child will mature and gain confidence as he or she pays off loans, chips in for food and utilities, helps with chores or accepts a job (even one that’s not ideal).

• Gauge motivation. Young adults should be diligent in working, looking for work and helping around the house.

If they are, your assistance really is helping. They’re moving forward and wanting to move forward. If not, you might consider giving them 30 days to find a new place to live. It may sound tough, but it could be the motivation they need to get moving.

• Say “No” and mean it: Your grown child chooses his or her behavior and, by default, the consequences that go along with it. If you don’t “let” those consequences happen, the enabling continues. Saying “No,” especially revolver_jf.pdf PM to bailouts,11/17/11 allows3:24:01 the natural consequences to take place.

• No victims: A victim’s “role” pushes responsibility onto

someone or something else, making your adult child “powerless.” Call him or her on this if you see it. It won’t be a comfortable conversation, but it’s going to have to be done.

• Address their sense of entitlement: It’s a tough wake-up call, but your child might need two jobs, or even three, to achieve the standard of living they’re used to.

Remember with them how you started out, where you lived and how much money you made. They may need to accept they have to scale back and work multiple jobs or live with roommates for a few years. Don’t be afraid to talk about it.

• Push for a job: Finally, any job is better than no job, especially if your child’s job search seems to be stretching into the unforeseeable future. Employment creates momentum and opportunities; putting your child out there meeting contacts, learning new things and gathering information, which will lead to increased motivation and confidence.

independence: the best giFt Enabling is born out of our instinct for love, so don’t be too hard on yourself if you’re in this situation. That said, enabling handicaps our kids and actually causes us to fail on the task we want so much to achieve: to prepare our kids for the adult world, which includes financial solvency, smart choices and accountability.

Bottke says: “There’s an old saying, ‘You can’t paddle another man’s canoe for him.’ We’ve been paddling our adult children’s canoes for too long. It’s time they learned how to paddle for themselves.”

By not giving so much, you’ll be giving the best gift of all.

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In Sickness and in Stealth I Dan Bain, Green Around the Gills mail@danbain.net

t’s cold and flu season again, and as I write this, I have one or the other. I’m in the throes of some dreadful illness, but for the life of me, I don’t know which it is. I’ve never been able to tell the difference, and nobody – whether doctor, nurse or Internet search engine – has ever been able to clear the matter up. Unique definitions are as elusive as cures.

According to WebMD, “Cold symptoms usually begin with a sore throat, which usually goes away after a day or two. Nasal symptoms, runny nose, and congestion follow, along with a cough by the fourth and fifth days. Fever is uncommon in adults, but a slight fever is possible. Children are more likely to have a fever with a cold.”

On the other hand, “Flu symptoms are usually more severe than cold symptoms and come on quickly. Symptoms of flu include sore throat, fever, headache, muscle aches and soreness, congestion and cough.”

So it comes down to severity and speed of development – two subjective matters. I don’t know about you, but when I have either of these illnesses, I tend to think it’s about as severe as is humanly possible – as if I could die at any moment. As for how quickly it builds, I never notice – either I’m sick, or I’m not.

Some other distinctions have to do with headaches, fever and muscle soreness – listed as flu symptoms. But they’re apparently not exclusive, as WebMD also published a handy chart that describes headaches and

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fever as “rare” with a cold, and aches and pains as “slight” with a cold, but doesn’t rule out either. In fact, the definition above admits that fever is “possible” with a cold.

The chart lists “extreme exhaustion” as the one differentiating symptom, describing it as “early and prominent” under “flu” and “never” under “cold.” Sorry, but I’m not buying what they’re selling – I’m exhausted when I’m sick, period. Come to think of it, I’m exhausted when I’m well. I have a feeling everyone reading this is, too, as we all have that disease known as “life.” (Not to mention my sleep apnea.) In fact, if they can guarantee that a person is “never” exhausted with a cold, then sign me up!

Somebody please give me a cold, so I can perk up a little.

Discounting the “exhaustion” claim, the other symptoms listed are possible with either cold or flu. Not that it matters, since there’s no cure for either. There’s just a slew of medicines to abate the symptoms – and even those can’t make up their minds.

Go check out the cold/flu aisle in your favorite pharmacy. First, read the cold medications. Next, the flu medications.

Check out the symptoms that each one claims to treat – can you tell a difference?

Yet there are probably “cold” and “flu” varieties offered under the same brand name – one company, the same symptoms, two products. They’re guaranteed to make a profit in either case. (That’s a symptom of another disease, known as “marketing.”)

Yet we go back, year after year, paying doctors to diagnose an illness that can’t be differentiated from another one (neither of which can be cured by a doctor, anyway). That must drive them crazy, but they persevere – I’ve never heard of one telling a patient not to bother making an appointment, to instead just stay at home and sleep it off. That would deprive them of a co-payment, and then they might not be able to afford to play the back nine.

What this proves to me is, words are inadequate to describe our physical ailments. Try conveying what pain is like.

You can’t. I bet you anything that during this time of year, a doctor sees 15 patients a day with the same illness, but gets 15 completely different descriptions of it.

There’s no objective way to describe an illness if you’re the one who has it.

The human body is essentially a random collection of chemicals that have become self-aware; toss a new chemical into the mix, and that awareness breaks down – and that’s just from recreational chemicals, like martinis. Infiltrate said collection with another living organism – a virus or bacterium – and who knows what our minds are likely to produce? Nothing accurate, I’d wager.

Even the standards of language fail when it comes to being sick; we can’t agree on the names we give these things, or the grammatical rules that apply to them. Why does a person have a cold, but the flu? Can’t we standardize on which article to use?

Technically, it should just be “flu” with no article at all – whether definite or indefinite. That’s because “flu” is short for “influenza” and you wouldn’t say, “I have the influenza.” That sounds a little too hillbilly – sorta like, “Mama’s got the gangrene.”

Come to think of it, if we insist on applying articles to those two illnesses, shouldn’t they be the other way around?

There’s only one kind of cold, but numerous strains of influenza – I’m thinking somewhere in the hundreds, but I’m not feeling well enough to face Google right now – so why isn’t it the cold and a flu? Probably because the person who first described them was too feverish to think straight.

There are other language anomalies when it comes to being sick. Why do we say we “caught” a cold? To catch something, doesn’t one have to make a concerted effort? I’ve never caught a cold; I’ve always been too busy trying to stay out of their way.

And why do we say that so-and-so “gave” us their cold? That’s not a nice gift. And how do we know the exact source, anyway? That drives me nuts – that someone is petty enough to blame someone else for their illness, when it’s probably their own fault for not having washed their hands enough. News flash, blamers – it’s virtually impossible to know in retrospect the exact moment when you were infected, or where the germ came from. Odds are good it came from a doorknob, anyway, so don’t look to me for a scapegoat, just because I’m the only one you remember coughing last week.

By the way, when you’re feverish, do your cheeks flush? Do they ever get that way when you’re healthy? Neither do mine, so I don’t understand why we want to feel “in the pink” – seems to me, that’s a sign of being sick.

And why do we say we’re “under the weather” when we’re sick? What makes that different from any other time?

Weather is the state of the atmosphere, so by definition, aren’t we always under it, regardless of how we feel?

It also confuses me when someone says they’re not feeling “up to par.” If you’re not up to par, then you must be under par, and isn’t that a desirable place to be? Ask any golfer.

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By Illyse Lane

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With so much need in our community, it can be easy to wonder how $25 can make a difference.

Thanks to the Midtowne Service League, you can stop wondering.

There are days Darlene Gardner feels a bit concerned. As the owner of Lovely Lady, a private service providing wigs, hats, scarves and prosthesis to women undergoing chemo and radiation, she has long known that her business wasn’t going to allow her to retire early. But the truth is there are many months when she’s lucky to break even, let alone come out on top.

But as timing would have it, Midtown resident Jeannette Johnson became aware of her plight. And realized she could be in a position to help Gardner continue to make a difference.

Johnson turned to a group of women that she knows very well. A group of women who found themselves with extra time, a group of women unified to making a difference in their community.

Not ones to sit around, Johnson and her friend, Marilyn Santacana, were quite receptive when neighbor Debra Guerrero approached them with a thought. “I had been listening to an NPR report highlighting a group of people who got together to do things for their community, giving small amounts of money on a monthly basis,” says Guerrero. “I realized that there are tons of people like us who don’t have thousands of dollars to give in a philanthropic way, but if we could give a little each midtownmag.com| xx 27

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swoopingmake in toa difference Since 2007, the Midtowne Service League has made a positive impact in our community by getting involved with diverse service opportunities. Just take a glimpse at this impressive list: • Quarterly dinner for the women at the Helen Wright Women’s Center • Tutoring at Douglas Elementary School • The Community Garden at Douglas Elementary School • The Green Chair Project • The Purple Elephant Project • Interfaith Food Shuttle • Lovely Lady • InterAct • Provided gas cards for families in our community who travel to Duke/UNC hospitals for treatment • Contributed funds for Iraqi family (sponsored by a neighborhood family) fleeing the Middle East after helping the US troops • Painted the exterior of the Eastgate Park clubhouse • Knit baby hats for WakeMed Hospital • Provide holiday food baskets for Urban Ministries • Senior Grocery Bag project at Capital Towers • Back Pack Buddies Program • Help individual families (who are brought to our attention through social workers in our neighborhood) with donations of household goods/appliances/money

month to help someone less fortunate, the impact on our communities would be significant.”

Together, the three formed a plan. It was an idea that focused on finding volunteer opportunities that would directly benefit the community in which they lived. Not only would the group go out and complete the service projects, but they would also help fund them through a suggested $25 per month donation – a donation that would not be a burden financially, yet would allow them to have working capital for projects. And considering that their Quail Hollow neighborhood had recently been given the “Midtown” label, they chose a perfect name: Midtowne Service League.

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Whether they’re volunteering with the neighborhood park or planting a vegetable garden at Douglas Elementary School, the women of the Midtowne Service League are dedicated to seeking opportunities to help in our community.

All you need is a paint brush and a bucket of paint to begin making a difference. Here, one member touches up the Eastgate Park clubhouse.

“It began with the three of us, knocking on our neighbor’s doors, asking if they wanted to get involved,” remembers Johnson.

“Suddenly, we had a group of 12.” And all it took was those 12 women, each with a different perspective and various contacts, to spring into action.

“When we first started, our meetings were about brainstorming, where we asked if anyone heard about anything,” says Johnson. But through their networking, the Midtowne Service League quickly learned that there was no shortage of needs in the community, and in true snowball effect style, one project would naturally flow into another.

“A few years ago, we went down to InterAct to deliver party supplies such as paper goods, banners and favors for the children’s monthly birthday party,” recalls Santacana. “We then became aware that there was a recurring need for the basics that we often don’t even think about, such as underwear.” They’ve been working with InterAct ever since.

The same holds true for Lovely Lady, where Gardner has been the fortunate recipient of well-needed funds, allowing her to continue to do what she feels she has been called to. “Every time the Midtowne Service League has done something, it has been exactly at the time I needed it,” says Gardner. “They are an answer to a prayer.”

These days, whether the ladies are helping deflect travel costs for a neighborhood family with a sick child, planting a garden at the neighborhood elementary school that will give its students firsthand experience with growing food and helping to distribute it to the hungry across our community, or cooking gluten-free delights to help with Meredith College’s Special Pops Prom, a dance for special needs students, it is clear the league of 30 is touching lives across our city. And some of the founding members are very much in awe that they’ve been able to achieve so much. “It’s funny, when we finally sat down and came up with the list of all the ways we have gotten involved, we thought, ‘wow, we’re so proud of us,” jokes Johnson.

Considering how much enjoyment the women get from both the volunteer experiences and the friendships that have developed as a result of their work, Guerrero hopes that other areas across Raleigh will want to set up similar types of service groups. “If there were ten groups like the Midtowne Service League in Raleigh, just think of what we could do,” says Guerrero. midtownmag.com| 101

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BY CHRISTA GALA

By kate turgeon

Magnolia Glen emulates lodgelike feel, built with the Arts & Crafts era in mind.

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f you’re nearing retirement, you’ve no doubt considered the health and wellness programs of many local communities. But what about the fun stuff? Like the food? The campuses?

Inviting family to dinner? Those things matter

too, especially if you want to live your best life. Here, Midtown Magazine talks with three local communities, uncovering a lot of fun and a few surprises.

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good eaTs You’d be surprised how good the food is – from your Southern favorites to specialties from all over the globe, often prepared by award-winning chefs.

Your stomach never had it this good.

Garden Café a big hit Kathleen Loescher, marketing and relocation coordinator at Springmoor Life Care Retirement Community, says the community’s new dining plan is a big hit with residents. “Residents used to receive one meal a day in the dining room as part of their monthly service fee,” Loescher says. “Recently, we changed this to have the same monetary value, but now it works more like a declining balance, since we have a few different options available.

“We’ve opened the Garden Café that serves breakfast, lunch and dinner as well as snacks, sodas and ice cream,” she continues. “It’s open longer hours than the dining room and it’s a more relaxed atmosphere; the residents just love it. It’s a great area for them to bring their families, especially the grandkids.

“There are always celebrations on the horizon that our family members love; like our Christmas at Springmoor Gala Dinner. It’s a special meal the residents look forward to every year, and the Springmoor administrative staff helps with the serving. It’s followed by a special evening performance, typically. We have a similar Summer Gala, usually in June or July.”

Order from a full menu If you like restaurant-style dining, the meal program at Magnolia Glen in Raleigh offers a full menu and tableside service. “Our restaurant-style dining program allows for residents to be flexible and remain independent; there are no scheduled mealtimes or assigned seating,” says sales director Sarah Suite. “Our dining room is open for breakfast and reopens for dining from noon to 7pm. Our residents are able to maintain their independent lifestyle with being able to dine when they choose.”

Southern favorites As the community relations manager at Capital Nursing and Rehabilitation Center, Kimberly Weisgal gets a lot of good feedback on the food.

There are a few dishes that always come out on top.

“Capital Nursing is famous for its fried chicken and pancakes, but of course not on the same plate! We also have special holiday dinners and invite family members to come and spend the holidays. Residents can also utilize our special rehabilitation dining area to have a family dinner with their family.” midtownmag.com| xx 27

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Residents can grow their own food on Springmoor’s 42-acre campus. Surpluses are donated to the Food Bank of Eastern North Carolina.

surpluses to the Food Bank of Eastern North Carolina – several hundred pounds of fresh produce. We also have a putting green, bocce and croquet court.”

The campuses So, what’s the lay of the land? Big and roomy or small and cozy? As you might have guessed, there’s something for everyone.

Lodge-like with walking trails Magnolia Glen was designed with the Arts & Crafts era in mind and a has a lodge-like feel. The grounds match that setting. “We are very fortunate to back up to historic Brookhaven Nature Park,” says Suite. “There are walking trails into the park from our property, including a leveled sidewalk that winds throughout the grounds. A gazebo, birdhouses, benches and heavily wooded landscape are features of our 12-acre campus.”

Grow your own food “Springmoor’s campus is 42 acres, so we have plenty of room to walk and stroll the grounds,” says Loescher. “We have walking trails as well as areas for resident gardening. In fact, for the past several years, our residents have been donating their gardening

Hosts community events “Capital offers two areas for patients to enjoy the outdoors and to visit with their family and friends,” says Weisgal. “The facility often conducts community events in these spaces.”

Amenities you’ll say yes to There’s never a dull moment unless that’s how you want it – at least that’s what we discovered. When it comes to amenities, these communities get really creative.

Meeting demands “Skilled nursing facilities have truly changed over the years, and this is definitely due to the changing faces we see in this setting,” says Weisgal of Capital Nursing. “Patients are younger, seeking elective surgeries. Sixty-five is truly the new 45, and that means more upscale amenities – flat screens, cable, refrigerators.

“Our staff works hard to accommodate special requests such as a favorite snack or soft drink,” Weisgal continues. “The customer service mentality, while always present at Capital, has taken on a new perspective. We realize if we do not provide what patients demand, they have choices and someone else will provide it for them.”

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Weisgal adds the activities coordinators keep folks active as well. The current oldie but goodie: Bingo.

Help with insurance “One thing unique to Springmoor is our onsite clinic that operates five days a week, staffed with physicians from Raleigh Medical Group,” says Loescher. “Residents don’t have to use our doctors, but we see that many find it very convenient that they are located under the same roof. We also provide insurance assistance, which we find people enjoy so much. Our insurance department handles the filing and tracking of all medical insurance claims.

The residents just go to their appointments, drop off their related paperwork, and our staff handles the rest.”

There’s fun stuff too, including bridge groups and book clubs and many other events hosted by residents. Springmoor sponsors a wide variety as well. “Just today we had Aquatics, Aquacise, Cardio Circuit Training, a scheduled shopping trip to Falls River Books, a craft bazaar, Music Appreciation and Chapel Choir Rehearsal, and this was a fairly quiet day,” says Loescher.

Go for a swim “Residents really enjoy our professor-led Scholar Series and book clubs, the fitness center, and taking a dip in the heated indoor pool,” says Sarah Suite of Magnolia Glen, adding the pool is available to residents seven days a week with a full-time instructor. “We also have onsite physical, occupational and speech therapy.”

Fitting in You’re not in high school anymore, so why does the idea of moving suddenly make you feel like the new kid all over again? It’s pretty normal, actually.

And you’re not alone. Here’s what you can do: Be open to meeting new people “We have a resident welcoming committee that is fantastic at helping new residents find ways to get involved,” says Loescher of Springmoor. “They make sure everyone feels welcome because they know firsthand what it’s like to move to a new place.”

Ask questions “When someone initially moves in we connect them with a ‘Welcome Buddy,’ a resident who knows our lifestyle and has lived here awhile,” says Suite of Magnolia Glen. “The intent is to help orient the new resident, to get him or her involved and to answer questions. We’ve recognized this connection often softens the transition by being able to talk with someone who 106 | midtownmag.com

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Take the time to visit, says Kimberly Weisgal of Capital Nursing and Rehabilitation, and notice how the staff interact with residents.

has already experienced such a move. We, as a management team, are also responsible for easing the transition by connecting with them individually and including them in a new resident luncheon.”

Take the time to visit “The best way for a prospective patient to feel more comfortable about coming for rehab is to visit, to talk with the rehab team and nurses,” says Weisgal of Capital Nursing and Rehabilitation. “Look at the staff; are they happy and look like they enjoy what they’re doing? That’s what’s truly important when looking for a rehab facility, the staff. The staff makes up the personality of the facility, and it’s the staff ’s expertise that will make a patient’s stay positive, generating a good outcome for the patient and most importantly, a safe discharge home.

“Capital offers a pre-registration program for seniors who are planning elective surgery,” Weisgal continues. “This program allows them to visit the facility and with staff and to learn more about what

to expect from rehab when they arrive at the facility. We find this is a comfort and makes the surgery process less stressful because they have a plan and know where they are getting care following a hospital stay. Once the senior chooses Capital, we ask for their surgery date.

Following the surgery, a member of the Capital team visits with the senior in the hospital and is available to answer questions and help coordinate a transfer to the facility. We provide them with a reservation confirmation so they are assured a room is waiting for them.”

What might surprise you In most cases, our sources have worked in the care community industry for many years. We wondered what surprised them when they started working in these Midtown communities.

“The emotional attachment to our residents,” says Weisgal of Capital Nursing.

“I was surprised at how close everyone is, both staff and residents,” says Loescher of Springmoor. “We have a fairly large community, but you wouldn’t realize it taking a walk around. Staff and residents know each other by name. The community really feels like family.”

Sarah Suite of Magnolia Glen: “The friendliness and longevity of the staff and how quickly you become part of the Magnolia Glen family; residents and staff are all so welcoming and friendly.”

Change can be good Change has always been inevitable, but as we age it may become necessary to keep – or even increase – our quality of life. We’re fortunate to have communities in Midtown that provide excellent care as well as opportunities to engage with others and learn new things, helping us to live our very best life.

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Klausie’s Pizza, named after owner Mike Stenke’s three-year-old son, serves authentic Detroit-style pizza. Stenke wants the City of Raleigh to relax its current ordinance on food trucks.

oday’s food trucks are urban, edgy and really, really delicious. Not to mention popular. Tens of thousands follow food trucks on Twitter and Facebook, not to mention literally – hopping in the car to hunt them down. It’s the latest mini-adventure.

Food trucks are also controversial, especially in Raleigh. Durham welcomes them with open arms. The City of Raleigh imposes some restrictions and also requires a permit from the property owner where the food truck will be parked, requiring paperwork and fees.

Despite all the brouhaha and the challenges of being on the road, the food is always the winner.

Klausie’s Pizza A line forms in anticipation of the Klausie’s Pizza truck. As it rounds the corner, lights, tassels and all manner of decoration swing from the truck’s rearview mirror. Once parked, owner Mike Stenke jumps out to start the generator, reaching back inside to haul out two chest coolers brimming with ice-cold sodas and water. The crowd inches forward, and ordering commences.

Klausie’s, named after Stenke’s nearly three-year-old son, serves Detroit-style pizza, with cheese all the way to the edge, the sauce on top. The fat in the cheese permeates the crust, creating a unique buttery base for the toppings and sauce. Stenke recently added cheesy garlic bread to the menu as well – it’s a big hit.

On the road almost 18 months, Stenke’s motivation for launching Klausie’s is relatively simple.

“I couldn’t afford to open a restaurant,” he shrugs. “But more than that, I finally wanted to take charge of my own destiny. For too long I’d been working at other restaurants. I also worked in the information technology (IT) field for a while, but a job would end and I’d be out of work. So I decided it was time to take charge and try this.”

“This” is working out pretty well. Stenke does a solid business on the road, both at festivals and regular spots, including RTP office parks and NC State’s Centennial Campus.

His most recent venture is a dinner pickup service he dubs “faster than fast food.” Customers call ahead, order the pies (whole pies only) and give Stenke the approximate time they’ll arrive. “We’ll have the order to your car within one minute,” he says. “If we don’t make that mark, we owe you a pizza half off.”

At press time, stops were scheduled near the Forum buildings on Six Forks Road, Wake Forest Road and possibly Peace Street. Although Stenke is blazing forward, there are challenges to running a food truck. Like the heat and the cold. The lack of space. Or being parked on an incline. “It’s a big challenge just being creative enough and resilient enough to handle the conditions that these trucks operate in,” says Stenke.

“The biggest challenge is there are no instructions on how to do this,” he continues. “You have to wing it. You have to get very creative and find ways to convince people to walk up to a truck they’ve never seen before and order food from it.

In March, the City of Raleigh will review its current ordinance for food trucks. Stenke’s got his fingers crossed. “I want them to relax the law,” he says. “I hope they see that food trucks really are a business.”

-----> Visit www.klausies.com for more info.

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A line forms outside the Only Burger truck as these lucky kids waste no time tasting their first Only Burger.

Only Burger It’s a cold, windy day as we wait for the Only Burger truck at a business park. A small group of young men wait with us. One, Nick Reinke, proclaims that Only Burger makes the best burger he’s ever had. He’s convinced his colleagues to give it a try. “I follow Only Burger on Twitter,” Reinke says. “Sometimes I’ll drive to RTP just to eat one.”

Only Burger’s claim to fame is Montana-raised, antibiotic and hormone free beef ground fresh daily. There’s also the buttered, steamed buns and hand-cut peppery fries. Only Burger owner Brian Bottger says the time for food trucks has come. He watched the craze unfold a few years ago on the West coast when he went out to help his parents rebuild after a house fire.

The Only Burger truck was originally purchased at the end of 2007 by two friends of Bottger’s. He knew they were struggling to turn a profit with the truck, but while in California Bottger stumbled upon a few articles that made him think the venture could work.

“Out there I was reading the Los Angeles Times, and the food truck scene in LA was starting to change,” says Bottger. “This was a change in the model, from the traditional taco truck that sits in a parking lot somewhere day in and day out versus the mobile scene. That was really what caught my attention.”

When Bottger returned to Raleigh, he offered to buy Only Burger and in February of 2008, Bottger took over operations, relaunching Only Burger on the campus of Duke University under a temporary contract.

“That got us going. Then school came to an end for the summer, and I just had to start figuring out what to do with this thing. I started taking it down to the Farmers Market and anywhere there would be a good crowd to see if we could sell our product and show it off.”

Soon, Only Burger was involved in park openings and festivals. “It rolled along like that,” says Bottger. “We literally just parked on street corners, downtown, across from the library and the YMCA, trying to find a good location where people could spot us.”

Today, Bottger has a bricks-and-mortar location in Durham, which has inspired him to travel more often to Raleigh, Cary and Morrisville with the mobile Only Burger. Like Klausie’s, he’s a regular on Centennial Campus at NC State and at Rebus Works on “First Fridays,” an art fair located on Kinsey Street the first Friday of every month from six to 10pm. Rebus Works also occasionally hosts a Food Truck Rodeo, which draws huge crowds.

“We do get invited to Raleigh quite a bit,” says Bottger. “But Raleigh hasn’t made it easy on us.” Bottger understands the fear that restaurant owners have – he’s got a restaurant now, too – but he thinks the fear is unfounded. Food trucks are more like mobile caterers than restaurants, he says.

“I own a restaurant and a truck now, and I just don’t see the two being the same,” says Bottger. “Our business model for this truck is to go to locations where restaurants aren’t sustainable, whether it’s an office park or a special event in a single location that doesn’t have food. From a business perspective, there’s no reason for me to ever set up in front of or near somebody’s restaurant.”

-----> Visit www.onlyburger.com for more info.

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(left) Nate Adams takes an order while parked at Big Boss Brewery in Raleigh. (right) Juicy Buns, Veggielings and Porkedame.

Chirba Chirba Outside Big Boss Brewery in North Raleigh, folks make two lines – one for the brewery tour and one for the steaming Chinese dumplings made by four guys in a canary-yellow truck, Chirba Chirba.

Chirba Chirba has been on the road just four months. Nate Adams is one of the four owners. “Team Chirba has a pretty diverse background,” he says. Indeed. Adams worked in the restaurant industry; another owner was an engineer, one a teacher and one an event planner. Three have quit their day jobs to focus on Chirba Chirba. Of the four owners, three have Asian backgrounds. Adams was raised in Taiwan.

“Dumplings are my favorite food,” he says. “We all bonded over Chinese food, and we’ve been making homemade dumplings for years. We had an idea for a dumpling shop back in college, but food trucks are a great beginning because they have such a low start-up.”

A dumpling is minced meat and finely chopped veggies wrapped in a thin piece of dough and typically boiled or steamed. Chirba Chirba offers Porkedame, a traditional dumpling made with seasoned pork and edamame wrapped in a steamy dough pocket, and Juicy Buns, a dumpling with soup inside. Another favorite is the Veggielings, vegan dumplings with Chinese mushrooms and Asian greens, served with a sweet and spicy pineapple salsa.

Relatively new in the food truck business, Adams is still trying to

figure everything out, including the city ordinance passed in September.

“It’s a new law and everybody’s trying to figure out what needs to be done,” Adams says. “We got our Raleigh license and we’d like to see more businesses take the lead of Big Boss Brewery and contact us. It makes it much easier. The private property owners have to fill out the paperwork, and that stops a lot of people. They have to really want it.”

Some businesses are realizing that when people turn out for the food trucks, they also patronize the business sponsoring it. Many folks from the Chirba Chirba line got in the brewery tour line when they finished their dumplings.

“I love my new job,” says Adams. “I go out and I feed people. It’s amazing the response that we get, and it’s amazing how a couple of food trucks together can take an empty community space and make it a place to go.”

-----> Visit www.chirbachirba.com for more info.

What can you do?

The City Council revisits the current food truck ordinance in March, says Mike Stenke, owner of Klausie’s Pizza. If you’d like to see food trucks have a fighting chance in Raleigh, or not, voice your opinion by emailing all city council members and the mayor at citycouncilors@raleigh.gov.

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SOUP and the city

Decades of comfort-food experience warm a growing city

BY KATE TURGEON

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iping hot soup has done a lot for humanity.

In the dead of winter it offers us comfort, warmth and even respite from the common cold. But, love and romance? Mary Lu Wooten has seen it happen. Well, almost.

“Gary Brown makes our cream of mushroom soup, which I’ve had women propose marriage to him over…but he’s already a married man,” laughs Wooten, who has owned Side Street on North Bloodworth Street for 32 years.

Chef Brown and Wooten collaborate on many of the restaurant’s popular soups, from black-eyed pea and ham soup to “Edgecombe County” style Brunswick stew, which is a nod to Wooten’s hometown.

The soups, she says, are made from what’s in the kitchen that needs to move. Drippings from beef tenderloin or roast beef mean that it’s time for French onion soup. And when there’s an abundance of mushroom sauce, she adds bacon-wrapped chicken, ham and wild rice for a hearty helping of smoky chicken and rice. Spoonful by spoonful, customers are sipping it up. Creamy tomato and basil soup (and its adaptation, creamy tomato and dill) is a favorite, especially when served with a toasted cheese or pimento cheese sandwich.

Bowls of soup are ideal for Wooten’s post-holiday customers who are looking for a little relief for their wallets following a season of spending and gift giving. But saving a little at the register is just a part of it. Really, it’s about how

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Creamy tomato and basil is a customer favorite at Side Street Cafe, especially when it’s served with a toasted cheese or pimento cheese sandwich.

At Seaboard Cafe inside Logan’s, winter weather means warm bowls of comforting soup, such as this vegetable beef soup served with a green salad. Feeling more like bread? Try it with a jalapeno cheddar cornbread muffin.

soup makes them feel. “It’s comforting and really takes the chill off their bones,” she says.

About a mile away, customers inside Seaboard Café at Logan’s Trading Company are looking for bowls and cups of comfort, too. Their favorites include vegetarian vegetable (often called “veggie veggie”), tortilla, chicken noodle and West African peanut soups.

In the kitchen, chef Rafael Sanchez stirs a pot of beef vegetable soup, which registers a toasty 176 degrees on a thermometer. Sanchez introduces new recipes to the café’s owner, Rick Perales, and together they serve up both traditional and ethnic-inspired soups, such as Mexican pinto bean and Mexican lentil and sausage, a hearty soup that’s made using Sanchez’s grandmother’s recipe.

“I think a lot of my customers are really, really adventurous,” grins Perales, a third-generation Mexican-American who opened the café about 20 years ago. Back then the only soup he knew how to make was From the recipe box…

Tex-Mex chili. It’s still on the menu, but no longer stands alone. At For nearly 30 years Deborah Ferebee has least three soups are offered each cooked up soups and sandwiches in her day, says Perales, sometimes four. restaurant, Sunflower’s Café and Catering. “[Soup] kind of warms the soul…

Recently she opened the kitchen door at her and it goes down really good,” West Peace Street eatery to share a triedsays Perales, whose soups are often and-true recipe with Midtown readers. paired with bread, sandwiches and salads. His recommendations: Potato Leek Soup grilled Jamaican ham sandwich serves about 6 with sweet and sour red bean soup, Ingredients jalapeno-cheddar corn bread 3 Tbsp unsalted butter muffins with beef vegetable soup, 1 onion, diced and split-pea and ham soup with a 2 leeks, trimmed, washed and thinly sliced pumpkin muffin.

4 garlic cloves, smashed No matter which combination 3 cups chicken stock warms your soul, the downtown 4 cups red potatoes, diced Raleigh area has plenty of choices ½ cup sour cream when it comes to soup, stew and ½ cup Parmesan cheese, shredded chili. Forget the chilly temperatures, White pepper to taste and the fork for that matter. When Parsley, chopped (optional) a piping hot bowl of comfort is on your mind, find a favorite eatery Directions and start working a soup spoon.

Sautee onion, leeks and garlic in butter.

Who knows? Finding your favorite Add chicken stock and potatoes, and simmer could be love at first sip. until potatoes are tender. Stir in sour cream,

Parmesan cheese and white pepper. Garnish with chopped parsley.

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matters of the heart

esophagus

“heartburn,� actually, has nothing to do with your

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If you think heartburn is related to the cardiovascular system, you’re not alone. It certainly sounds like it has something to do with the heart.

But, it’s actually your digestive system that suffers when you have heartburn.

“Heartburn is a misnomer,” explains Richard A. Pierce, M.D., Ph.D., a surgeon at Duke Raleigh Hospital. “Its official, medical name is gastroesophogeal reflux disease, or GERD for short.” It’s also commonly referred to as acid reflux.

To add to the confusion, heartburn is actually a symptom of GERD. But, the two terms are often used interchangeably, so people use “heartburn” synonymously with “GERD.” Whatever you call it, the condition is the abnormal passage of stomach acid into the esophagus, or swallowing tube, that results in a burning sensation behind the breastbone. The esophagus runs behind the heart, so heartburn sufferers feel the burning sensation in or near their hearts. But, it’s not actually your ticker that’s burning.

Dr. Pierce describes the intestinal tract as “a series of tubes, reservoirs and valves.” He said, “Your LES, or lower esophageal sphincter, is a muscular valve that opens to allow food to pass into the stomach, and then closes. Or, it’s supposed to close. But, sometimes, the LES stops functioning properly. When it becomes too loose, it allows stomach fluid to go back into your esophagus.” That’s what heartburn is.

If you have reflux, it may be your parents’ fault. There is a genetic component to the ailment. “But, those people often get reflux early in life, like in their teens,” said Dr. Pierce. In other cases, there are foods and habits that can cause the LES to relax. Coffee, chocolate, nicotine and alcohol are the likely culprits in these cases.

The condition can be exacerbated by eating spicy foods. Being overweight can also contribute.

Reflux can be painful. But, it’s not always harmful. It can, however, sometimes be made worse by conditions that require surgical correction.

A hiatal hernia is one such condition. Dr. Pierce explains, “The diaphragm is the large muscle that separates the abdomen from the chest and allows us to breathe. The esophagus has to pass through an opening in the diaphragm to get down to the stomach. That opening, called a hiatus, can stretch a little and let the upper portion of the stomach pooch up into the chest. Other abdominal organs can be pushed up, too, if the hole gets too big.”

Hiatal hernias, like all hernias, do not get better on their own. They only get bigger. “We often see them when they’re very large,” said Dr. Pierce. “By that time, it may have become a paraesophageal hernia, which is a larger and more complex hiatal hernia. Surgery is the only way to fix that.” Shortness of breath and early satiety (fullness) can all be indications of a paraesophageal hernia. So can bleeding inside the stomach.

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Treating the symptoms Heartburn can often be treated by neutralizing or reducing the production of acid in the stomach. Alternatively, surgery is sometimes required to “rebuild” the LES and prevent the reflux of all fluid from the stomach into the esophagus.

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to cut back. Quitting smoking is one of the best things you can do for your overall health, and it helps in the case of reflux, too. And, minimizing alcohol intake helps.”

Don’t take a snooze right after you eat. If you lie flat on your back shortly after a meal, the fluid from your stomach is more likely to flow into your esophagus. The doctor tells his patients to avoid eating large, heavy meals, especially late at night. Reflux sufferers would do well to eat dinner at 6pm. or so, and then turn in for the night around 10pm.

Also, “elevate the head of the bed a little,” advised Dr. Pierce. “When you angle it up, it allows gravity to keep the fluid down in the stomach.”

Besides the burn, there are other symptoms of reflux. “A splash of fluid in the back of your throat if you bend over to pick something up is one indicator,” said Dr. Pierce. A bad taste in the back of mouth that Dr. Pierce describes as “metallic or sour” is another potential indicator.

Tightness in the chest may be another symptom, but that can also be a sign of something more serious – like a heart attack – so don’t hesitate to see a doctor if you experience this. Some people have trouble swallowing, which may be another sign.

Finally, some patients come to Dr. Pierce with

Medications: The next step

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changes in their voice, vocal cord irritation, chronic sinusitis or recurrent pneumonia.

Pulmonologists and ENT docs will refer their patients when they suspect reflux.

If left untreated, reflux can lead to more serious conditions. Chronic exposure of the esophagus to gastric stomach contents can result in difficulty swallowing and a symptom called dysphagia. When that happens, the lower portion of the esophagus may have formed scar tissue, and it makes the patient feel as though food is sticking part way down the esophagus.

If lifestyle modifications don’t help with reflux, then it’s time for medication. There are three classes of meds to treat reflux.

The first class is the most common – the widely advertised antacids available overthe-counter. You know their names: Maalox, Mylanta, Tums, Rolaids. They are fine for “every now-and-then use,” said Dr. Pierce.

If an antacid doesn’t work, the next drugs to try are the histamine blockers. Common names for these drugs include Zantac, Pepcid and Tagamet. They help block the production of acid. “These can work just fine and are generally safe,” said Dr. Pierce. “But, they can lose their effectiveness over time.”

The strongest class of drugs is the proton pump inhibitors (PPIs). “These include Prilosec, Nexium and a new one called Dexilant,” said Dr. Pierce. “These are the strongest things we have to treat reflux.

People need to take them daily. Some people find they need to take them twice a day.”

PPIs may be the last-resort medication, but they are extremely common. In fact, Dr. Pierce said they are the highest-selling class of drugs in the United States. It’s a multibillion dollar industry. “Drug companies know they’ve got a patient for life, because this

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stuff doesn’t get better on its own,” he said.

“If it’s bad enough, patients will have to treat it for the rest of their lives.”

PPIs carry some risks. The main one is increased likelihood of osteoporosis, especially in women. And, there may be a slightly increased risk of esophogeal cancer. That’s unlikely, but it’s worth considering because it’s a cancer that’s hard to treat and often deadly.

The surgical option Extreme reflux can lead to irritation of the esophagus, or esophagitis. A condition called Barrett’s esophagus can also result, where the lining of the esophagus transforms into tissue that’s like the lining of the small intestine. Eventually, dysplasia can result, which is a precursor to esophageal cancer.

“If you need a PPI once or twice a day, it’s time to see a gastroenterologist or surgeon,” he said. “Once you’re taking daily medication, you probably need a better diagnosis. You likely need an endoscopy, which is where we look at the esophagus with a scope and take a biopsy.”

When medicines don’t work or stop working, surgery may be the answer.

Four groups of people make good candidates for surgery. “The first are patients who are taking PPIs but don’t have good control over symptoms,” said Dr. Pierce.

“The second are patients with control over their symptoms, but who want to get off a daily medication. Third are patients with other anatomical problems – such as a hiatal hernia. The surgery can correct both problems at once. The fourth class is patients with documented changes to the esophagus, such as esophagitis or Barrett’s esophagus.”

Surgery ranges from a relatively quick ablation to a procedure called a fundoplication, which is performed laproscopically. Most patients need to spend one night in a hospital after surgery and eat a pureed diet for two weeks. The good news: the surgery is highly effective. “After five years, 90 to 95 percent of patients are still off their medication for heartburn,” said Dr. Pierce.

Bottom line: Don’t take reflux lightly.

“If you have occasional symptoms that you’re treating well with an antacid or histamine blocker, that’s probably OK,” said Dr. Pierce.

“But, if you’re having symptoms more than once a week or if your medication isn’t working, you need to see a doctor.”

Matters of the esophagus, while not always as serious as matters of the heart, should still be taken seriously.

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Weight Loss Appetite Control Aging muscles Healthy Brain Function

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Blood Sugar Control

Lean Muscle Mass

Not Just for Bodybuilders

Bone and Hair Health

by carter & laura dalton, GNC at North hills

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aybe you’ve heard about the regimented body builders who snatch, grab and gulp down protein shakes three times daily in addition to meals. Or you’ve been one of the dieters who gobble down protein bars (and shun pasta) in hopes of quick weight loss. It’s easy to understand the excitement.

High protein diets have been shown to be one of the quickest avenues to muscle gain and weight loss. but even if your goal is not to be massive or to lose 30 pounds, listen up. Protein is an important component of every cell in the body, and many of us are not getting enough. the science Hair and nails are mostly made of protein. your body uses protein to build and repair tissues. It makes enzymes, hormones, and helps lower insulin levels in the blood. Protein is an important building block of bones, muscles, cartilage, skin and blood. The body uses the amino acids found in protein for healthy brain function; without them, the brain cannot produce enough neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, which is one of the chemicals that regulates mood. While the daily protein

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intake for an average person is only 50-70 grams, many of us fall short and don’t realize it.

Along with fat and carbohydrates, protein is a “macronutrient,” meaning that the body needs relatively large amounts of it. The body does not really store protein, and therefore has no reservoir to draw on when it needs a new supply. So when customers tell me they get plenty of protein because they scarf down an eight-ounce filet at dinner, it’s time to talk! And getting in your protein can make a “sizable” difference, literally.

Your body has to work much harder to digest it compared to carbs, so it boosts metabolism and aids in fat loss. Now we’re talking my language!

Active Aging Adults (formerly known as Senior Citizens!)

Each decade, older adults lose about three percent of their lean body mass, mostly muscle. This incremental loss of strength (called sarcopenia) can be a danger, increasing the risk of hospitalization as years go by. One warning sign that muscle, not fat, is disappearing: the all-too-familiar sagging of skin over areas of normal muscle deposit, like the legs and arms.

Protein Drinks – not so scary What do you eat for breakfast? Cereal, fruit, oatmeal, yogurt? Or the very popular…nothing? Those are all healthy choices (except for “nothing”, obviously) but not high in protein, unless you are buying protein-rich cereal or Greek yogurt. So what can we do? For many of you, life is about running around. Eating out is expensive – or unhealthy. The answer: protein shakes!

Yes, some of you may have grimaced as you read that, but let me tell you, protein shakes have come a long way, baby! Some are higher in fiber, taste like chocolate milk and actually MIX WELL. Get a shaker cup and it’s a low-sugar, tasty breakfast, or a low-cal way to satisfy a mid-afternoon sweet tooth. Protein supplements are cost-effective, an average serving costing less than beef, seafood or chicken. And they are portable, so you can bring them just about everywhere.

Here’s the basic breakdown of protein powder. Generally, a scoop is about 20 grams of protein; you can use more or less depending on your needs.

Whey protein is:

Casein protein is:

*A protein found in milk

*The main protein in milk

*Fast-absorbing (isolate) or slower absorbing (concentrate)

*Slowest-absorbing

*In your body for a shorter time

*In your body for a longer time

*A good supplement after workouts & snacks

*A good supplement to take before bed

There are so many choices it can get your head spinning, so discuss your options with a knowledgeable sales associate. One type of whey protein, Amplify Smoothie by NDS Nutrition, is a favorite because it has a combination of slow/medium/quick absorbing proteins, is gluten-free and 99% lactose free.

Soy, hemp and pea are popular vegetarian options for protein, though as stand-alone drinks, some find their taste to be on the gritty side. I am one of those people! These would be great options to add into a fresh fruit smoothie. If you are the industrious kind, grab a blender and try the following: 8oz of milk (dairy, soy or almond), 1 scoop of protein, ½ banana and 1 Tbsp peanut butter (this is the only way I can eat only 1 Tbsp of peanut butter!). If you want low carb, use unsweetened almond milk & no banana. Need extra calories? Add more peanut butter and/or a scoop of ice cream. It is INCREDIBLE!

Some parents love the smoothie option because they can “sneak” in some great stuff (i.e. flaxseed, fruits and veggies) that won’t be detected by finicky kids. Mine BEG for our smoothie bar every time they are here.

They have no idea what they’re really drinking! So start this year with a strong body. It will thank you for years – and years – to come!

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The Skin You Live In M a k e i t M o r e Ra d i a n t w i t h a K i n d e r, G e n t l e r M i c r o d e r m a b ra s i o n

by Michele Kindberg, Aesthetica Face & Body

J

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And, it used to be.

But, Dermasweep™, introduced in the last several years, has made the cosmetic procedure more effective – and more pleasant. The old-school style of microdermabrasion might have been likened to sandblasting. The process got results, but it was often painful and uneven. Dermasweep™ gets better results and with much less redness, mess and irritation.

That’s because the process uses a bristle-tip technology and a vacuum instead of the crystals and diamond tips used with other machines.

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What can it do for you?

The results of all microdermabrasion, including Dermasweep™, are subtle. As with any beauty or health regimen, the more you do it, the better the results. But, you’ll notice a difference within a few days.

It is incorporated into a facial; it’s like a super-exfoliation. The procedure impacts the look and feel of your skin, because microdermabrasion works on pigmentation and texture. There’s a glow and suppleness to the skin. Because the treatment encourages collagen growth, it makes the skin firmer and more toned.

Some clients choose to have the procedure done just on their faces, but most have their necks and décolletage treated, too.

What can you expect?

You should expect an overall relaxing experience. Dermabrasion should be, after all, part of a facial.

Your aesthetician should ask you questions about your skin and general health before ever beginning a treatment. If your provider doesn’t ask you what you might be allergic to or what medications or supplements you’re on, then volunteer the information. Your aesthetician should be able to customize a treatment to fit you.

Before undergoing any treatment on your face, ask for a trial run on your forearm. That will give you an idea what it feels like and tell you how your skin will react.

While there may be some mild redness immediately after the procedure, you can return to work or most normal activities right after a session.

Is it right for you?

Most people begin to consider dermabrasion and similar procedures in their thirties. Those of us in that demographic have the most to gain from it.

Anyone who has sun-damaged skin, fine lines, hyperpigmentation – known more commonly as age spots, enlarged pores, blackheads or acne scars is a good candidate for treatment. The procedure works wonders for the fine lines that come with aging, as well.

It’s not for everyone. It’s contraindicated for people with active acne. People with certain other medical conditions should probably avoid this treatment, but there are many other options worth considering.

As we age, dead skin cells don’t slough off naturally. We have to help them along.

Dermasweep™ does that – and in the gentlest way possible.

Remember, it is never too late to have great skin.

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Raleigh Rescue Mission Gets the “Diamond” Treatment On November 3rd, Diamonds Direct Crabtree hosted its Holiday Charity Event benefitting the Raleigh Rescue Mission.

All of the profits from the private event were donated to the organization, which has served over 700,000 homeless people over the last 50 years. Their mission is to change lives by ministering to their physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.

Special thanks to the local businesses that helped make this event possible: • Cameron Bar & Grill • Fresh Affairs • KC & Carmen from Rush Radio 106.1 • Leith Porsche

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MIDTOWN There’s no other date on the calendar devoted to affairs of the heart, so come Valentine’s Day most of us go all out – each in our own way – to show those we love what they mean to us. This year, instead of wearing your heart on your sleeve, think about rolling up your sleeve and giving the gift of life to someone you’ll never meet.

DID YOU KNOW?

• Less than 38 percent of the U.S. population is eligible to give blood • Only about 5 percent ever donate blood • Of those who donate, more than 50 percent give just one time • Blood cannot be manufactured – it can only come from generous donors So have a heart, Midtown – come join Duke Raleigh Hospital and the Midtown Raleigh Alliance in making the gift of a lifetime.

Duke Raleigh Hospital Valentine’s Day Blood Drive 11:30am to 4pm

MAKE A DATE Donation is by appointment, and takes about an hour to an hour and half. To reserve your preferred time, contact Kathryn at 919.954.3385 or DRAHBloodDonations@duke.edu.

FIND YOUR WAY Enter the Duke Raleigh Hospital campus using the main entrance at 3400 Wake Forest Road. Take an immediate left and drive straight to the parking deck.

You will see the Red Cross Blood Mobile parked in front of the hospital. After parking, return to the main entrance of the hospital to sign in.

Thank You for Choosing to Donate!

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Photos of Duke Raleigh Gardens

Bravo, Amy Levine Outstanding in the Field #2, Joseph Cave

DUKE RALEIGH HOSPITAL The expression of everyday life through visual art has the power to touch our hearts, open our minds, reduce stress and promote healing. It’s no surprise, then, that Duke Raleigh Hospital has filled its lobby, hallways and patient areas with colorful art, but it may be Midtown’s best-kept secret that they welcome everyone to come experience their extensive collection, made possible by Laura Raynor and the Duke Raleigh Hospital Guild.

Tour highlights include nine commissioned oil paintings that celebrate Raleigh scenes; rotating exhibits along the hallways; local landmarks that stand out from a stunning 9'x20' mural; and Hidden Hands of Healing, with its 85 hands made from surgical grade stainless steel into angel wings, depicts the caring hands of the operating room staff.

Visit the public gardens at Duke Raleigh Hospital in every season, with the stunning collection of 40 garden portraits, photographed by Ronnie Padgette, lining the same-day surgery entry hallway.

ARTSOURCE FINE ART & FRAMING GALLERY Knowing the experience of visual art is deeply personal lies at the heart of ArtSource owners Sharon Tharrington and Nancy McClure’s invitation to: • Browse the Collection – Next time you’re looking for something new or different to do, take an art break.

• Try One on For Size – Works of fine art can be taken home on a trial basis or leased, to be certain the purchase you make will be a treasure forever.

• Wrap One Up to Take Home – When you’ve made your selection, set it off to the best advantage with custom framing, delivery, and installation by the ArtSource team.

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RENAISSANCE RALEIGH NORTH HILLS HOTEL Rich and sensual, visual art has the power to create the finest hospitality experience. Midtown’s world-class Renaissance Raleigh Hotel showcases a collection entirely by North Carolina artists that will leave you breathless.

Wright Brothers’ Wings, Thomas Sayre

The lobby features majestic work by Thomas Sayre, Ben Owen II and Gayle Stott Lowry, distinguished artists whose works are in the permanent collection

of the NC Museum of Art. Sayre’s evocative lighting sculpture interprets the Wright Brothers’ wings, and his terrazzo and natural stone medallion reflects the topography of our state and the historical grid of our capital city.

With over 900 pieces of framed artwork selected for the opening of the hotel, guest rooms feature limited edition art, rather than posters, and meeting spaces are filled with original artwork that reflects the very best of our North Carolina spirit, refinement and creativity.

Exhibition art lines the walls of the corridor outside the ballroom and throughout the mezzanine level, featuring works by artists such as Graham Auman, Mike Rooney, Libby Smart, and the current showing by Bob Rankin.

Fiji Fish, Bob Rankin

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Jerry’s Artarama Holly Park Shopping Center Practice may make perfect, but be sure to take time to learn from experts. You won’t have to travel far. Midtown’s own Jerry’s Artarama makes it easy with 32 Artist Workshops scheduled during January and February.

Sertoma Arts Center Shelley Lake Park

Midnight Shadows, Bob Timberlake

THE FINISHING TOUCH Voted best place for picture framing, Flink’s Framing & Fine Art offers high quality, handmade framing that costs less than you’d imagine, and has recently been named a local dealer for Bob Timberlake.

Pick up a copy of Raleigh Parks & Recreation Department’s Leisure Ledger, and you’ll find a wealth of art class options for all ages from preschool art for Mini Monets and Petite Picassos to advanced training in every art form imaginable for youth, teens and adults.

BRING OUT THE MASTER IN YOU Visit Midtown Chiropractic, and you’ll find yourself surrounded

by Dr. Brett Hightower’s artwork. Chiropractic, like painting, is a science and Erin at Night, Brett Hightower an art…not always about output, it is the process that matters most. Hightower began by copying what he liked, and one day realized that he tended to paint under stress, when he should be doing other things.

Intrigued, he built a studio on his house, undertook academic methods of painting, and immersed himself in the intricacies of painting the human form.

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LIFE

EYE ON

MIDTOWN

Midtown Raleigh is the place where city living meets traditional community, a distinctive place defined by its walkable 24/7 urban center at North Hills and the surrounding area of longestablished neighborhoods, thriving businesses, schools, churches, parks and gathering places.

The story of Midtown is an intriguing blend of voices – those of new arrivals from urban areas all over the world, others from the earliest days of Midtown’s emergence, and those whose bold vision is transforming our thriving community into a premier destination for commerce, culture, lifestyle, education and leisure activities

Midtown: The Goldilocks of North Carolina Living When my wife and I left Southern California six years ago, we were looking to find the perfect place to call home, a friendly place, but not so small that it felt claustrophobic.

We wanted a vibrant and robust city, but not so big as to feel anonymous.

We wanted the walkability of a village and the spaciousness of the suburbs. In other words, like Goldilocks and the Three Bears, we didn’t want something too big, or too small. We wanted something just right.

And we found it in Midtown Raleigh. ~ Damon Circosta, President, Lakemont Swim & Tennis Club

New Kids on the Block

Let the Good Times Roll

It’s a rhythm that’s as natural as breathing, the easy way friends and neighbors in the Quail Hollow community celebrate the pleasures of the day.

Most afternoons you’ll find folks out walking the neighborhood, catching up on the latest news and enjoying the sunshine. What stands out is seeing so many children in a neighborhood that traces its roots back to the day when Raleigh roads ended at the Beltline, giving rise to woods filled with wild quail. No accident, the name Quail Hollow.

And so it goes, generation to generation, in a Midtown neighborhood where getting to know your neighbors is as simple as stepping outside to enjoy the pleasures of the day.

It really doesn’t get much easier or more fun than rolling across North Hills in the six-passenger electric Shuttlebug for a progressive dinner with friends.

Having decided to go with our favorite courses – appetizers and dessert – our stops included Vivace for mojitos, stuffed fried olives, and a symphony of cheeses, Coquette for a round of French wine, Belgian beer and escargots, and on to Flights at the Renaissance where we enjoyed the Chef ’s sublime hot cheesecake.

As we rode away into the night, it was unanimous. The food, while memorable, had been upstaged by the Shuttlebug. Next time you’re at North Hills, be sure to give it a try by hopping on board or calling for a ride at 919.369.4089.

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We take you inside the state’s best spas for a look at their most unique and most popular treatments.

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On December 10th, Goldmine Jewelry Shoppe hosted a Trollbead designer for a glass-blowing demonstration. Shoppers got a 7/21/11 12:46:52 PMwhile chance toladyfingers_so.pdf learn more about Trollbeads getting a little Christmas shopping done.

On December 8th, Charlotte’s at North Hills hosted a Sylvia Benson Trunk Show. Guests enjoyed shopping the latest trends in jewelry design.

JEWELRY SHOW

On December 7th, Vermillion hosted a vintage jewelry show featuring Carole Tanenbaum’s personal jewelry collection.

Fashion guru Ellen Carey was on hand to answer questions for the two day event.

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TRIANGLE SPOKES KICK-OFF PARTY

On November 30th Triangle Spokes Group hosted a fundraiser at Lonerider Brewery.

All of the funds raised in the live auction were used to buy 500 bikes for Triangle kids.

On December 16th, the Dermatology Center of Raleigh celebrated the holidays by offering free expert mini-seminars on skincare and makeup, gifts and specials to help their clients look their best for the holidays and beyond.

RALEIGH ROUNDUP

On November 11th, The Red Sword Guild hosted the Raleigh Roundup at the Kerr Scott Building. Guests donned cowboy hats and boots to “Give Cancer a Boot”. This yearly event 11/21/11 includes ajen liverobertson_jf.pdf and silent auction, dancing and 3:05:38 food from some of the Triangle’s best restaurants.

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On November 5th, Saks Fifth Avenue and Lux Salon treated guests to a “Take a Walk on the Luxurious Side� fashion show. Proceeds from the event benefitted Myself: Together Again Project.

On November 5th, 100 volunteers from Kisco (residents, staff and family members) made 1200 brown bag lunches and distributed them to the homeless in Moore Square Park as part of a project with Brown Bag Ministry. In addition, the three Raleigh Kisco communities, Magnolia Glen, Woodland Terrace and Abbotswood at Stonehenge, raised more than $7000 for Brown Bag Ministry.

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