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PINEHURST® magazine

NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2011 Sandhills Media Group, Inc. publisher Ronny Stephens Advertising Sales Regina Alston Myra Gammon creative director Travis Aptt art director Heath Hilliker graphic design Jennifer Casey contributing writers Christa Gala • David Droschak • Dan Bain Robyn James • Dolores Muller • Robert Gable Kate Turgeon • Kristy Stevenson • Mark Elliott Beverly Reddinger • Jeffrey White, MD • Brenda Bouser photography McKenzie Photography Jennifer Robertson Photography

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features 10 YEAR AFTER YEAR Whether passed down from family members or newly created, traditions shape the experience of the season. Take a look at four Sandhills residents and the ways they celebrate. 16 PARTNERSHIPS BOOST LOCAL BUSINESSES We talked to two local businesses, owned and managed by par tners, to find out what par tnership means to them. 19 HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE 22 A RINGING ENDORSEMENT At 90 years young, Peggy Kirk Bell is still swinging golf clubs, her living room replacing the practice tee for now as she recovers from two knee replacement surgeries.

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november/december 2011 contents 40 HOLIDAY DECORATING We asked local retailers for a few quick and easy tips to add some holiday cheer to the rooms that don’t usually get holiday decor. 44 WINTER FASHION With ever y season comes a new color palette. This winter is all about purple and teal!

in every issue 14 chef’s corner 32 calendar 43 book review 56 firsthealth spotlight 62 sandhills sightings

50 HOW WE AGE... What’s nor mal, what’s not? How to know when an aging spouse or parent is faltering and what you can do to help.

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There’s nothing like the sights, sounds and tastes of Christmas. Just about everyone who celebrates the holiday can name their favorite decorations, music and recipes. Whether passed down from family members or newly created, traditions shape the experience of the season. Here’s a look at four Sandhills residents and the ways they celebrate. BY KATE TURGEON

When tradition tempts taste buds Lorri Perini learned the hard way: don’t mess with tradition. “I decided to skip making the cinnamon rolls one Christmas and my daughters were much more disappointed than I’d expected,” she says. The annual tradition is back on the menu, though. Lorri’s top tip for the made-from-scratch rolls? Serve with hugs and kisses!

Lorri’s Family Christmas Cinnamon Rolls 2 yeast packages 2 Tbsp. sugar (raw sugar is a great substitute) 1 cup lukewarm water Mix and let stand for ten minutes. Scald one cup of whole milk and mix with: 1 cup sugar 1/2 cup butter (salted) at room temperature 1 cup warm water 1 tsp salt

Jennifer Massey’s Cabin Christmas Jennifer Massey may call Seven Lakes home, but Christmas morning has found her on the same patch of land in Sampson County for more than 30 years. As a child, she spent the holidays in a mobile home on her father’s family land, where they baked sweet potatoes, played Christmas music and listened to her father’s plan to one day build a cabin on the land. Four years ago he began to build. Soon the foundation was complete. And when the log cabin kit arrived, he started to cut a limb from a tree to make room for the transfer truck to pass through. While cutting the limb, he fell and fractured his hip. Six weeks later, he died from complications. “It was then up to us to carry out his dream and have the cabin completed,” says Massey. “We spent our first Christmas in the cabin the next year and I plan to carry on the tradition…it is a very special place to us. I feel daddy’s presence there.” To create that Christmas morning magic she grew up with, Massey has to adjust her holiday schedule a bit. For starters, Santa Claus visits Massey’s children at their home before Christmas. “[It] gives our family a day before traveling to enjoy some peaceful time together and the kids time to play with their gifts… yes, I have had some people say that Santa can’t come early – and maybe he can’t to their house – but he comes early to ours,” she says. “The kids love it.” They love their Christmas Eve traditions at the cabin, too. Along with Massey’s mother, the family bakes and decorates a birthday cake. “It was my idea as a way to remember the birth of Jesus as the real reason for Christmas,” she says. “I wanted to ensure that they do not forget the meaning of the holiday.”

Add yeast mixture 3 cups flour and 1 egg (beaten) Add about 4 more cups of flour, knead. Then add about 3-4 more cups of flour. Let it rise. (It should double in size.) Sprinkle flour on countertop to prevent sticking, and roll out dough until flat. Melt 1/2 to 1 cup butter and pour over dough. Add brown sugar and cinnamon (as desired) and spread over dough. Cut dough in half, then cut each half into strips, about 3-4 inches in width. Roll up each strip and place in cooking pan and let rise about 10 minutes. Bake at 350 degrees for 10-20 minutes, depending on your oven. For Icing: Put 1 pkg. cream cheese and about 1/8-1/4 cup milk in pan and heat until cheese melts. Add powdered sugar to taste and pour over rolls.

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3 4 1. Jennifer Massey’s family’s Sampson County log cabin was blanketed in snow for Christmas 2010. 2. Jennifer Massey celebrates Christmas with her children at the log cabin. It’s a tradition that she hopes to carry on. 3. Mickey Terzigni and his neighbors try to forget the cold and focus on a special brand of lakefront holiday magic.

4. Mickey Terzigni and a friend began the holiday boat tours for neighbors as a way to experience the holidays together. 5. Kami Brunson and her daughter Gabby (pictured) have made a tradition of selecting festive children’s clothing for the holidays.

Mickey Terzigni’s Festive Lake Holiday When Mickey terzigni and his wife Joan moved to Whispering Pines, they noticed what seemed to be a peculiar tradition. During the holiday season, lakefront residents put christmas trees and lighting on their docks. the terzignis had never seen anything like it, but they learned it had been happening for years. Mickey was impressed by how cheerful the lights and decorations looked against a lake backdrop. and, he says, it was especially beautiful when viewed from a boat on the water. “We thought, boy, this is really a nice sight and it’s too bad people can’t see it this way,” says terzigni. along with friend and neighbor charlie Blake, he decided to bring the enchantment to neighbors by planning boat tours. the admission? a toy for the toys for tots foundation. the first year about 200 toys were donated. the inaugural event, he says, was primitive but fun. Volunteers helped organize tours and get people with blankets draped over the shoulders onto the boats. “it gets cold on an open boat in December,” insists terzigni with a laugh. over the years a few things have changed. Blake passed away, but terzigni continued the tradition they started. While the number of attendees hasn’t grown much (it’s for residents only), the tours now start from a pavilion, where hot chocolate, cookies, hot cider and merriment are on the menu. From decorated palm trees to traditional trees and inflatable decorations (hello, huge snowman!), the mood is festive. a few years ago organizers decided to anchor a pontoon boat in the middle of the lake and decorate it, too. “We kinda tease the kids that it works because of a really long extension cord,” he says with a grin. XX | PinehurstMagazine.coM

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Kami Brunson: Mom on a Mission

Ask any mother.

There’s nothing like spending the holidays with a baby. Suddenly the gifts don’t matter nearly as much as showing Christmas tree lights to the little one or rocking baby to sleep while humming Christmas carols.

Ask any mother. There’s nothing like spending the holidays with a baby. Suddenly the gifts don’t matter nearly as much as showing Christmas tree lights to the little one or rocking baby to sleep while humming Christmas carols. Kami Brunson easily recalls her daughter Gabby’s first holiday season right down to the tiny baby clothing that she wore. “It was a crushed red velvet top and pants with green trim and a little reindeer embroidered on the chest…she looked so cute in it. I think it was the first time she wore something other than pink,” says Brunson. “I knew this would be her only first Christmas, so the outfit had to be perfect.” And finding the perfect holiday outfits for Gabby has become a tradition over the last three Christmas seasons. “I think your Christmas outfit should be something fabulous, because you will look back at the pictures forever. It should be comfortable, too, since Christmas does turn out to be a long day,” says Brunson. Her tips? Select at least two outfits for your child. (Stains and spills happen, even on Christmas.) Get to know your local business owner. (Brunson likes to shop at Belli Bambini in Southern Pines because of the personal attention she receives.) Don’t forget the pajamas. (Those early morning moments will be just as festive as the holiday dinner.) And, finally, if you’re on a budget shop for next year’s holiday outfit during this year’s after-Christmas sale. (Tuck it away and thank yourself later!)

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Panettone 1/4 cup dried currants 1/4 cup raisins 1 (.25 ounce) package active dry yeast 1 cup warm water 1/4 cup sugar 2 eggs 1 egg yolk 1/2 cup buttermilk 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 1 lemon zest only 1 orange zest only 1/4 teaspoon salt 4 cups all-purpose flour 1/2 cup marsala 1 tablespoon confectioners’ sugar 1 tablespoon butter, melted Parchment paper 1. Soak raisins and currants in Marsala overnight 2. In a non-reactive bowl, combine yeast, warm water and sugar. Let stand until yeast becomes active. 3. To the yeast solution, add eggs, buttermilk, vanilla, lemon zest, orange zest and salt. Mix well. Stir in flour 1/2 cup at a time until dough forms into a tacky ball. 4. Work the dough on a floured surface and knead for 5 to 10 minutes (you will need to add flour as necessary) to form a soft and pliable, but not sticky, dough. 5. Place dough in a large, lightly greased bowl. Cover and let the dough rise in a warm place until doubled. This should take about 1 hour. 6. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Spray a round 8-inch cake pan with non-stick spray and line with parchment paper. 7. Drain the fruit. Punch dough in bowl, transfer to floured surface, and knead in the fruit. 8. Form dough into a ball, place in the cake pan, cover loosely with a damp dish towel, and let the dough rise about 30 minutes. 9. Brush the dough with melted butter. 10. Bake for 45 minutes or until golden brown. 11. Dust with sugar.

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Chocolate Hazelnut Biscotti Yield: about 12 cookies

2 1/4 cups all-purpose flour 1/2 cups cocoa powder 1 2/3 cups granulated sugar 1 teaspoon baking powder 1- 8 oz. jar L’Epicurien chocolate and hazelnut spread, or nutella 2 large eggs 3 egg yolks 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 3/4 cups hazelnuts 1/2 cups dark chocolate pistoles 1. In a bowl, blend the extract, eggs and chocolate spread together. 2. Place the first four ingredients in an electric mixer with a whip attachment. 3. Pour the wet ingredients into the dry. Mix on a slow speed until combined. 4. Mix in hazelnuts and chocolate. 5. Place the dough onto a floured surface and form the dough in the shape of a log. 6. Place the dough on a sheet pan lined with parchment paper. 7. Bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes. Remove and cool completely. 8. Slice the cookie loaf on the bias and re-bake on the cookies’ sides in the oven set at 350 degrees f until crispy to the touch. 9. Serve warm or cool and wrap.

White Chocolate, Cranberry & Almond Cookies Yield: 3 dozen cookies

4 cups all purpose flour 1 1/8 T baking soda 1 1/8 teaspoon kosher salt 12 oz butter, softened 2 1/4 cups light brown sugar 1 1/2 cups granulated sugar 4 eggs, whole 1 tablespoon vanilla extract 2 cups white chocolate pistoles 1 cup dried cranberries 1 cup marcona almonds 1. Sift together dry ingredients. 2. Place butter in a mixer. Whip until soft and light in color. 3. Add sugar and mix for about 1 minute. 4. Add eggs one by one, allowing each egg time to incorporate. 5. Slowly add dry ingredients. 6. Fold in cranberries, chocolate and almonds. 7. Spoon onto an a cookie sheet 8. Bake at 325 until done. 9. Cool. 10. Pour a glass of milk.

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Partnerships

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Local Businesses

Partner. The word itself draws numerous connotations. It could refer to a friend, a beau, a spouse, or a participant in a temporary alliance. It can be a nickname for a child. Sometimes, it’s even a friendly greeting for a stranger. In the case of a business, it can be a loaded word – does having a partner destroy one’s independence, or create strength through unity? Does it create obstacles, or overcome them? We talked to two local businesses – owned and managed by partners – to find out what partnership means to them, why they became partners, and what their results have been.

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Personal history one thing that helps is to have some sort of history or commonality with the individual(s) you are considering for a partnership. Jess Dishner and Marcel goneau, co-owners of construction, design and development firm goneau Dishner, have known each other for 20 years. They started out as friendly competitors, each of them working on similarly styled residential and commercial construction projects. “We admired each other’s work and enjoyed seeing each other do well,” Dishner says. Then goneau moved to Belize with his family to work on a large project, but the two stayed in touch, emailing project details and brainstorming about work they could do together. When that project was complete and goneau was planning his move back, he checked in with Dishner during a timely moment. “My partner had decided to semi-retire, so just when I was thinking of how to restructure, Marcel wrote to me,” Dishner relates. “It was the answer to my prayers. I believe that he was thinking that, too. So we began talking about combining our talents.” The co-owners at one eleven Main – a purveyor of home furnishings, accessories, antiques, gifts, and tabletop items in aberdeen – didn’t have as lengthy a history, but had plenty in common. “We were three moms who all enjoyed shopping for nice things and home décor, and looking for gifts for our friends, and we all decided to go into business together,” says Betsy Saye of her partnership with erin reVille and Julie Moore. relatively new to Moore county at the time, reVille and Saye missed their favorite shopping spots from before they relocated there. reVille says they spent many afternoons at the pool, discussing Pinehurst’s retail needs. “We were getting tired of traveling out of town to find the kinds of things we were looking for,” she says. The conversation turned serious when Saye and her husband began to consider business options for a building they owned. They had been renting it to other businesses, but when the last tenant moved out, Saye contacted reVille about pursuing their dream. They wanted at least one more partner to share the financial and time burdens, and they thought their mutual friend Moore would be a fun fit – so they pitched to her at a cocktail party, and a partnership was born. “It’s really worked out great,” says Moore, “because all three of us have similar tastes, but we all have areas of strengths and weaknesses, so we’re complementary of each other.”

Marcel Goneau (left) and Jess Dishner (right) offer a one-stop shop of design, development and construction in the same ﬁrm.

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Vive la difference That sense of complementing each other allows each partner to focus on specific facets of the business, knowing that another partner is handling other issues. For example, Dishner is free to focus on sales, contracts, and customer service while goneau handles the role of general contractor on the jobsite. “on days when Marcel is busy overseeing current jobs, I can meet with a new customer,” Dishner says. “I can give them my full attention while he gives his full attention to the job at hand. I am able to stay focused so they don’t feel like I’m being distracted – I’m not taking phone calls from sub-contractors, or worrying about whether a home’s windows are open in the rain, etc.” The same is true at one eleven Main, where each partner has her own special talents – reVille focuses on financial aspects and sales; Saye handles marketing, Pr and social media; and Moore is a natural at space-planning and design. Moore points out that the store itself is like a fourth partner, with its own customer appeal. “It’s on the historic register; it was originally the aberdeen hardware Store, and it’s celebrating its 100th year in 2012,” she says. customers enjoy browsing and being nostalgic about the old store, which has much of its original infrastructure in place – overhead stock ladders, tin-tile ceilings, the nail bin (which makes for a great display of small merchandise), the wooden floors, and more. “The building has a lot of character,” Moore says. “It’s fun to hear customers’ memories of it.” Both businesses have benefited from having owners with disparate backgrounds – when each partner offers different talents and backgrounds, the business as a whole has more to offer customers. reVille has been in sales since she was 15, vital experience for a retail operation. Dishner used to be a field artillery officer in the army, enabling him and goneau to connect with the many military clients in the Sandhills. Both builders are familiar with numerous home styles, for a formidable combined pool of knowledge. While some builders have to outsource design and construction, Dishner says, customers are impressed that goneau Dishner can handle both aspects, as well as real estate searches. goneau says customers seem to prefer the onestop-shop approach. “one reason people like a design and construction component is, it’s a simple, smooth-running process. It comes down to relationships, and that client being comfortable with who they’re working with, and being able to work through that process,” he explains. “a lot of clients see that as fewer headaches from the beginning, then they grow through the entire process of designing, building, moving.” one might think differences could create challenges when working together – such as obstacles to making management decisions – but both businesses say that hasn’t been the case. Moore says it’s been helpful to have three partners, in that the odd number makes it easy to resolve differences with a simple vote. “Most of our challenges come from when two people love something that we’re considering selling, but the other one doesn’t – and in that case, the third person gets overruled,” she explains. “With three, it usually resolves quite nicely – it always works out that at least two people feel the same, then we’re able to move on with no lingering grudges.” 18 | PInehurSTMagazIne.coM

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The historic building is like a fourth partner, providing a perfect setting for One Eleven Main’s mix of antiques, gifts and furnishings.

The differing skill sets also are key to a good working relationship, Goneau says, in that he and Dishner don’t step on each other’s toes. Trust is important in such a relationship, and both men say they have the utmost confidence in what the other is doing. When they happen to overlap, Goneau adds, it’s just a bonus. “There are many things we come together on, like being creative,” he says. “That’s the fun part. Where we have similarity, we come together and really take it to next level.” ReVille says differing opinions also are helpful when one partner needs to bounce ideas off the others, or simply to discuss day-to-day issues.

More hands on deck Another benefit is the simple fact that with a partnership, there’s always someone else to pitch in. One of the top complaints from most small business owners is the lack of free time – they spend so much time minding the store that they have no work-life balance. That hasn’t been a problem for Moore, ReVille and Saye, who combined have eight children, aged five-15. The partners try to keep regular schedules, so they know in advance when they will be needed at the store. According to Saye, when inevitable schedule issues have arisen, each partner has been able to take the time she needs without creating conflict. Moore says although they have some schedule overlap, they typically don’t work at the same time, and they split the workload evenly. “Personally, I couldn’t have done this by myself,” she says. The supportive nature of a partnership also adds to a sense of camaraderie, and all five owners enjoy having partners. “It’s been 100 percent positive,” says Dishner. “Every day is a joy to get together with Marcel to plan and brainstorm about our projects.” ReVille says she can’t imagine owning the store without two partners, and that it wouldn’t be as fun. Saye corroborates, “If we weren’t having fun, this wouldn’t be something we would want to come and do each day. A partnership brings it to that level.”

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90 a Ringing Endorsement Acclaimed Golf Instructor

Peggy Kirk Bell

Black & white photos provided by Pine Needles Lodge & Golf Club.

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“You can’t quit golf,”

Bell says with conﬁdence. “I can’t think of anything else to do…that’s why I got both knees done and my hip done 10 years ago.”

At 90 years young, Peggy Kirk Bell is still swinging golf clubs, her living room replacing the practice tee for now as she recovers from two knee replacement surgeries. Her balance has been somewhat compromised over the last year by the operations, but her sense of humor remains sharp, dry and downright hilarious. When asked if she might break something in her home along the 18th fairway at Pine Needles Lodge & Golf Club as she performs golf’s equivalent to shadow boxing, the Hall of Fame golf instructor had a quick-witted comeback. “I know where everything is, but some of my students would break things,” Mrs. Bell said with a grin. Her students … well … she loves each and every one of them. They’ve ﬂocked to the Sandhills by the thousands for nearly six decades since Mrs. Bell and high school sweetheart Warren “Bullet” Bell began to grow Pine Needles and Mid Pines into a world-class golf resort. The golf students – good, bad and anyone in-between – are the main reason Mrs. Bell is so determined to recover from her knee problems, to get back out to the range to start teaching again. “You can’t quit golf,” she says with confidence. “I can’t think of anything else to do … that’s why I got both knees done and my hip done 10 years ago. The Lord decides when you die, you don’t decide that. If I had to sit in a wheelchair, I would rather die. I’m getting better. I still lose my balance some, but I do exercises every morning. Oh, I’m going to do it. I better or I’ll be mad.” In addition to her daily living room swings, Mrs. Bell sits on the front of a golf cart, tees up a ball and hits half wedges. It’s ironic that regaining her balance – one of the keys to a smooth and efficient golf swing – is a focal point of her instruction. “That’s why so many poor players can’t hit it – because their balance is bad, they don’t use their legs right,” she says.

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Accomplishments galore

Legendary golf instructor Peggy Kirk Bell, who has made her home in the Sandhills for more than half a century, turned 90 on Oct. 28th.

Mrs. Bell was certainly an accomplished player, winning the North & South Amateur at Pinehurst, the first LPGA Senior Championship and was a member of the 1950 USGA Curtis Cup team. She tells stories of hanging out with one of the top female athletes of all time – Babe zaharias – during the infancy of the LPGA Tour. “We hoped we would get a tournament back then,” Mrs. Bell said of the start of women’s professional golf. “Babe probably did more for the game because she was friendly; she would hit a good shot and turn to the gallery and say, ‘Don’t you boys wish you could hit it like that?’ That’s why Arnold Palmer was so great. He talked to the gallery and he looked around to find out who was there.” Mrs. Bell recalled playing with zaharias on the 1951 LPGA Weathervane Team, traveling to Europe to play against men. “There were no girls golf teams over there. We played the former Walker Cup players and we beat them,” she said. “I remember Babe beat this guy … he never even went down the 18th fairway, he just got in his car and left the course because she beat him.”

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“There are few people who are great at one thing,” said son-in-law Pat McGowan, “But it is extremely rare when you are great at two things.

Mom was a great player and she’s a great teacher.

While daughter Bonnie McGowan describes her mother as “ultra competitive”, Mrs. Bell’s accomplishments as a golf instructor and ambassador of the game overshadow her playing days. She is credited with starting the nation’s first golf schools for women at Pine Needles, received the Bobby Jones Award, the highest honor given by the USGA in recognition of distinguished sportsmanship in golf, in 1990, and was named PGA of America’s “First Lady of Golf” – a letter of congratulation from the White House in the numerous Pine Needles Lodge trophy cases honoring Mrs. Bell standing as a lasting tribute. Mrs. Bell has also overseen three U.S. Women’s Open championships at Pine Needles. “There are few people who are great at one thing,” said son-in-law Pat McGowan, himself a former PGA and Champions Tour winner. “But it is extremely rare when you are great at two things. Mom was a great player and she’s a great teacher. “The one thing that stands out about Mom is she’s so giving of her time,” he added. “She’ll just walk up to you anywhere – in town, at a restaurant or in the supermarket – and give you a tip about your swing. She’s a remarkably caring person.” Mrs. Bell normally heads to the local Taco Bell for her birthday, so she’s somewhat sheepish about a 90th birthday celebration weekend in her honor (November 18th-20th) with proceeds benefitting the Peggy Kirk Bell Foundation, helping fund a junior girls tour that bears her name. “Taco Bell is one of my favorite places. It’s cheap and quick,” she said. “I like that $1.19 price. Why would I be happy about turning 90? I guess the alternative is worse. Everybody who is 50 says they would love to be 90. I think you can have my 90.”

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“We turn out people here who understand the swing,” says Bell

Bell’s Teaching Techniques Mrs. Bell began giving golf lessons in the early 1950s, and at first did it for free. She recalled her first paid lesson was $2. Now, one of her top instructors, former LPGA major champion Donna Andrews, receives upwards of $150 per hour. Times have changed, and so has Mrs. Bell’s technique of reaching her pupils. At first, she balked at instruction, having to be prodded by her husband. “I was out there hitting golf balls across the second fairway and Bullet came out and said you’ve got to give a golf lesson,” Mrs. Bell said. “I told him, ‘I don’t know anything about teaching golf, I’m a player.’ He said, ‘Well, you know more than she does, tell her something.’ So, I went out there … and I told her everything I knew. She kept missing it and missing it. Finally after an hour and a half she asked, ‘Can we quit?’ I said, ‘You sure can.’ I’m sure she quit golf with all that information I gave her. I walked away saying, ‘I’m never going to do that again, I’m a player.’ I used to think you are supposed to be a teacher OR a player. But you better know how to hit it yourself, and that’s what I tell the young teachers. If you can’t show them how to do it, how can you expect them to do it? You’ve got to show them why it is so easy.” From that day on, Mrs. Bell vowed not to “overload” her students with too much information in a sport that has multiple moving parts. “I don’t think it’s hard to teach the golf swing,” Mrs. Bell said. “People have a hard time learning it because they want to hit that little ball, and it’s not a hit, it’s a swing.” That leads to another funny exchange Mrs. Bell recently had with a student having a tough time on the practice tee. “Donna came to me and said, ‘This woman is unteachable,”’ Mrs. Bell said. “I said, ’Well, we’ve got to do something with her.’ The woman almost fainted when I told her to take her boobs with her. She said, ‘nobody told me to do that’ and I said ‘do

it.’ When she hit the ball I almost fainted. She said she can’t wait to come back. She’ll probably bring somebody as bad as her but that’s OK, we’ll fix them. “We turn out people here who understand the swing. Some of them don’t even know the terms or how to run a golf cart when they get here. We have to teach them a lot, but the main thing is to get the rhythm … and the feel. I make them take practice swing after practice swing. Most people never use their feet. It’s because they start in a static position. I try to get them to be in motion. That woman who was unteachable; well she’s as happy as she can be and said she’s never had as much fun. That’s the secret to golf – having fun, not making it work.” Mrs. Bell still travels, mostly to see her eight grandchildren participate in various sporting events, including golf tournaments. In that group is Michael McGowan, one of the top players for the University of North Carolina. “It is amazing how she arises to the occasion,” said daughter Bonnie McGowan. “Activity is great. We keep her busy, keep her going to events. She is almost embarrassed that people make a big deal out of her. She is humble to a point of she doesn’t think she deserves any award. She’s just Mom to us. “She loves that everybody in the family plays golf. She lives for the grandkids now. She told my son she has to live long enough to see him win a Masters or a U.S. Open. That’s her thrill, seeing the next generation come. She has been without my dad since 1984, which is pretty amazing. They were so together, doing everything, building every building and picking out every drape and every carpet here. From the ground up they developed this whole facility, and for a while it was tough for her to come in here. But it is a nice reminder, and it’s great for her that we’ve all stayed involved with Pine Needles. It was worth all their toils.”

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Shopping Cristmas Hou1se at Weymouth Center

The annual Christmas House at Weymouth Center for the Arts and Humanities in Southern Pines, N.C. will welcome the public November 30th-December 3rd, 2011 for the third decade. This historic Georgianstyle mansion at 555 E. Connecticut Ave. is on the National register of Historic Places. This year’s Christmas House theme is “The Gift of Family and Friends.” Festivities start with a gala preview party Wednesday, November 30th, 6-9PM. Tickets for the various Christmas House events go on sale in October at the latest. For information call (910) 692-6261 or visit www.weymouthcenter.org, or e-mail weymouthcenter@pinehurst.net.

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The Fifth Annual

Top Hat and Tails Monday, December 5th 5:30 – 9PM At the Fair Barn in Pinehurst Solid black, solid white, and black and white adoptable cats and dogs are the evening’s main attraction, arriving at the Fair Barn in vehicles driven by the Sandhills chapter of the Antique Automobile Club of America and parading down a celebrity-style red carpet into the Fair Barn. For more information call 910.944.5098 or log on to www.aamcnc.org.

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JANE CASNELLIE & FRIENDS ART EXHIBIT | November 4-December 16 | Campbell House Galleries, Southern Pines | 910.692.2787, www.mooreart.org

LECTURE: REMBRANDT: PAINTINGS IN AMERICA | November 17 | 10AM | Weymouth Center | 910.692.2787, www. mooreart.org

THANKSGIVING WEEK AT BELL TREE TAVERN | 22nd: Joey Kennedy and Joshua, Open the 23rd, Open at 6PM on 24th, 25th: Tony Barnes, 26th: Adam Pitts | thebelltreetavern.com

ART IN THE PINES | November 18 &19 | 12-8PM & 10AM-5PM | Southern Pines Civic Club | 910.538.2110, http://www. facebook.com/artinthepines

CAROLINA PHILHARMONIC PINEHURST POPS SERIES: FIDDLER ON THE ROOF | November 23 | 8PM | Carolina Hotel | www.CarolinaPhil.org

TEST AND TUNE STREET DRAGS | November 19 | Rockingham Dragway | 910.582.3400

PINE NEEDLES-MID PINES TURKEY TRADITION | November 23-27 | Pine Needles and Mid Pines | 800.747.7272, 800.323.2114

“POPS CONCERT” & “CHRISTMAS IN NY” JAZZ CONCERT | November 23 & 25 | 8PM & 4PM | Pinehurst Resort | 910.687.4746, www.carolinaphil.org

SANDHILLS CENTRAL RAILROAD MODEL TRAIN SHOW | November 19-20 | NOON-4PM | Aberdeen Train Station | 910.692.7439

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BELL TREE TAVERNS NEW YEARS EVE DINNER | December 31 | thebelltreetavern.com

SOUTHERN PINES CHRISTMAS PARADE | December 3 | 10AM | www.southernpines.biz

AN EARLY AMERICAN CHRISTMAS AT MALCOLM BLUE FARM | December 10 | 1-4PM | Malcolm Blue Farm | 910.944.7558

CYPRESS BEND VINEYARDS CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE | December 3 | 12-6PM | Cypress Bend Vineyards | 910.369.0411

AFTERNOON TEA WITH THE VICTORIAN LADY & TEA WITH MRS. CLAUSE | December 13 & 17 | 2:30PM | Lady Bedford’s Tea Parlor | 910.255.0100

BRYANT HOUSE CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE | December 3-4 | 1-4PM | Bryant House and McLendon Cabin | 910.692.2051

MOORE ON STAGE - “A TUNA CHRISTMAS” | December 14-18 | 7:30PM, 18th: 2PM | Sunrise Theater, Southern Pines | 910.692.7118, www.mooreonstage.com

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Festival of Trees: Helping Children with Disabilities Grow Up to Be Ordinary!

You are cordially invited to care for 320 Sandhills Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Center kids! Celebrate the beginning of the holiday season in style! Join Sandhills Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Center November 8- 13 at The Carolina Hotel in Pinehurst for the 15th Annual Festival of Trees. For more information about the 15th Annual Festival of Trees, visit www.festivaloftrees.org.

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Grab you running shoes! Turkey Trot November 19th www.active.com or www.ďŹ rsthealth.org/turkeytrot

Reindeer Fun Run December 3th www.reindeerfunrun.com

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HOLIDAY decorating We spend loads of time decorating the living and dining room for the holiday season. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t forget all the other rooms! We asked local retailers for a few quick and easy tips to add some holiday cheer to the rest of the house.

bedroom | bathroom | kitchen

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You and your guests will enjoy a festive bathroom. Add some festive towels and candles to spread the cheer!

Spice up your bedroom with new frames, pillows and holiday scents!

add cute christmas pillows by Pekin handicraft to your already chic bedding. Cameron & Co.

this aromatique “smell of christmas” candle will look festive and smell great in your bathroom. Cameron & Co.

Who wouldn’t love to dry their hands on these embroidered anali towels? they come in a variety of designs to ﬁt your holiday decor. Opulence Of Southern Pines

nest makes this relaxing elton John holiday candle. You can get it in classic, votive or even 3-wick! Opulence Of Southern Pines

these boxwood frames make great decor! Just hang them on your wall and admire! they are like wreaths for your bedroom! Aldena Frye Floral Design

this large, distressed candle pillar with beaded accent will look great on your vanity. Framer’s Cottage

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The kitchen always ends up being a gathering place – why not add a touch of holiday flair! Who wouldn’t want to wash their dishes in Mandarin Vetiver scented dish soap? this line of caldera cleaning products has everything from hand soap to dish soap! Opulence Of Southern Pines

happy everything plate by coton colors is great for the holiday season, but can be used for many other occasions since the santa attachment comes off and can be replaced with a different one! Cameron & Co.

need to really make a statement? this rustic tray with candle pillars and bowl full of glass balls will deﬁnitely do just that! Framer’s Cottage

these ﬂoral arrangements will look great on your kitchen island surrounded by your hoiday dinner. even better, they are silk, so you can use them year round if you like! Aldena Frye Floral Design 42 | PinehurstMagazine.coM

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book review by Robert Gable

The

PLAYFUL BRAIN:

By Richard Restak, M.D. with Puzzles by Scott Kim >> Penguin Group >> 304 pages >> $26.95

The Surprising Science of How Puzzles Improve Your Mind

the human brain is one of the most amazing machines ever created. the thinking brain is what separates mankind from every other creature on our planet. it recognizes a problem, frames a problem, and ultimately solves a problem. (some say it continually creates new problems in the process of solving old problems.) if we’re going to overcome humanity’s common concerns, it will be our brains that do it. how do we keep our brains active, alert, and agile? THE PLAYFUL BRAIN goes over the latest findings on how to do that. richard restak is a neuroscientist who has written numerous books about the human brain. his extensive research (this is his 19th book) has taken him far and wide to find out what it is that makes the brain tick. this (and his previous book THINK SMART: a neuroscientist’s Prescription for improving Your Brain’s Performance) led him to seek practical answers for keeping our brains functioning at their peak. We can keep keen and sharp even as we live longer – provided we keep mentally active, just as we have to keep physically active. after the introduction, he presents his findings over the course of 14 chapters, followed by the conclusions, acknowledgments, resources, and an index. three main sections, “Memory,” “Perception” and “cognition” cover what our brains can do. then each chapter explores a different brain function and suggests ways to strengthen that function by working at puzzles. as restak notes in the introduction, during the course of his years of research, “gradually i became convinced that puzzles can help enhance specific brain functions and, as studies suggest, actually help ward off mental deterioration.” as he put together this book, “…i would identify and write about those brain functions that inevitably undergo decline unless deliberate efforts are taken to enhance them. included here are concentration, memory, fine motor skills, visual observation, logic, numbers, vocabulary, visual-spatial thinking, imagination and creativity. then scott [co-author] would develop puzzles aimed at engaging and challenging each of these mental functions.”

restak also includes the science behind improving brain function, but not so much to bore the general reader. scott Kim, who has been devising “mindbenders and brainteasers” for years, helps keep the reading fun. the more you try puzzles, the better you get at solving them. in summary: “our overall goal is to help our readers make maximum use of each of their brain functions and thereby achieve what psychologists refer to as cognitive complexity: richer, increasingly nuanced perceptions, longer-lasting memories, and more accurate responses to people, situations and events.” the authors present some interesting ideas here. For instance, perceptual skill learning (such as dancing or parallel parking on a crowded street) is something that you have to practice. so is determining a real rembrandt from a fake one, or taste-testing a good wine, or distinguishing the smell of a good perfume. they cover things that interfere with memory: interruptions of attention; our level of alertness (whether we’re sleepy or hyper); irrelevant information (which can overwhelm us); and emotions. also of note: testing is necessary and actually results in greater learning. they state: “You cannot simply learn something, never test your ability to retrieve it again, and then expect to retain that information over the long term.” this is good for anyone wanting to keep their minds engaged. Doctors have long touted the beneﬁts of physical activity to stave off muscle deterioration. restak shows that mental activity is just as important. Whether it’s sudoku for logical thinking or crossword puzzles for vocabulary, you need to “use it or lose it” when it comes to brainpower, too. some good practical advice is here, too. the authors give you a “top ten” list of tips for solving puzzles: read the instructions twice. assess the challenge. try something. Persist. Be systematic. Be efﬁcient. simplify. Draw a diagram. change your strategy (take a break, reread the instructions, work backward, or change your focus). and lastly, if you still can’t solve it, get help. it just so happens these tips represent a good approach to solving any of life’s problems.

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fashion purple itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s all about

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With every season comes a new color palette. This winter is all about purple and teal! These local shops show us what they have in store for the holiday season. turquoise in 18kt gold ring and elizabeth showers 18kt Lapis and turquoise chandelier earrings. Fiskin & Fiskin

italian leather handbag. Le Feme Chateau

casual and comfortable. Yala Bamboo Dreams versatile teal dress with Dream sacks leggings. Opulence

natural Life scarf. One Eleven Main

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Suncloud polarized sunglasses. Eyemax One-of-a-kind pendant slide. Boulder opal, Tanzanite and Apatite in 14K yellow gold. Designed by Gemma Gallery

Picadilly 3 piece teal dress, gold evening bag with crystal accent, gold and rhinestone bracelet and crystal teardrop and gold bead necklace. Lookinâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; for Linda

Teal handbag, Hand-made round rodells with silver pearl necklace. Glam Salon and Accessory Boutique

Madison Marcus sheer overlay tunic, It skinny jeans, Henri Lou suede handbag and Jeweled stretch ring. Village Fox Boutique

Shirl Reese and Harlow clutchs, Susan Shaw necklaces and bracelet and twist style necklaces and earrings. One Eleven Main

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cut Loose velvet shrug in grape, cut Loose cami with velvet trimisda legging in bitter sweet, Big Buddah clutch and Danielle stevens monogram necklace. Morgan Miller

5.15ct amethyst with .33 ct. tW diamond surround and on shank set in two-tone gold ring. Hawkins and Harkness

italian leather handbags. Le Feme Chateau

elizabeth McKay elizabeth, chocolate chevron shirt and Joy Flare leg in Dazed. Monkeeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s of the Pines

Judson Loude neckties and nick Price button-down shirt. One Eleven Main

Matching scarf, gloves and ear muffs set. smart screen gloves lets you use your touch screen devices. available in an array of colors. The Shops of Fairway Village

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Mod-o-Doc 100% cotton slub with ďŹ ne ribbing, top and pant shown in purple shadow with a true grit white turtleneck. CoolSweats

Many Belles Down urple Dress with feather belt, headband and cuff. Marie & Marcele

Prada purple sunglasses. Eyemax

tulle cardigan tie-waist sugar plum sweater, Michael stars sleeveless top, Joes color Me skinny jeans in emerald and cross necklace and accent chain. Denkerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s

Kerisma purple sweater, Michele garrett Laster necklaces and ring and tusk silver envelope bag. Eve Avery

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it’s all about

Seriously, ladies, you can’t have a great winter outfit without a great pair of boots. Here are some of our favorites for winter.

Frye Paige riding Boot Monkee’s of the Pines

Madeline leather with stretch back Cameron & Co. Matisse thornbird Boot in steele suede Denker’s

hunter original tall gloss in magenta with cuffed welly sock Monkee’s of the Pines

tory Burch Blaire Mid heel Monkee’s of the Pines the sofft, Belfast in stone taupe suede Monkee’s of the Pines

Kors Michael Kors, cyrah Boot in suntan Monkee’s of the Pines

nichole Black Flat Boot Cameron & Co. Dirty Laundry rumple stilz Brown Leather tie Back Boot Denker’s

restricted Derby Boot with removable heel strap Denker’s

Dolce Vita tall Brown Buckle Boot The Village Fox

Frye strappy shirley riding Boot Monkee’s of the Pines Valdini tall Black Wedge heel suede Boot The Village Fox 48 | PinehurstMagazine.coM

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L’amour brown patent shoes with velvet bow Belli Bambini

2h knit sweater with matching hat with colorful dots Belli Bambini

kiddos don’t forget the

Check out these must-have kids winter and holiday outfits!

Peaches ‘n cream purple bubble dress Belli Bambini

Luli & Me onesie outﬁt Belli Bambini

cheetah jacket with belt by chabre Belli Bambini le.top brown velour dress with white faux fur collar Belli Bambini

Funtasia! too... blue horse embroidered toddler set Belli Bambini Blue Banana pink stripe t-dress with leggings Belli Bambini PinehurstMagazine.coM | 49

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What’s normal, what’s not? How to know when an aging spouse or parent is faltering and what you can do to help.

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Here’s the good news:

e W A w SO OLD! in fact, our planet has never played host to so many people over the age of 65. More than 40 million people over age 65 live in the united states, and an inﬂux of aging Baby Boomers will continue to add to the total, according to the u.s. census Bureau. the not-so-good news is that just because we’re living longer doesn’t necessarily mean we’re living better. With increased age comes the increased chance for medical conditions, interactions between the medications used to treat them and, quite simply, a decline both physically and mentally. unfortunately, the person in decline often doesn’t realize it or doesn’t want to; but it’s important for friends, spouses or adult children to notice because many conditions can degrade quickly and lead to a poor quality of life as well as a poor prognosis. here are a few red ﬂags. BY CHRISTA GALA

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‘Speak up!’ Hearing loss is undoubtedly the most frustrating, easily fixed red flag you might find. The most maddening aspect is the denial involved.

Kate tuomala, an audiologist and owner/ founder of audiology of the sandhills, shines a little light on the subject. “hearing loss is a sneaky, invisible impairment,” tuomala says. “the vast majority of hearing loss is very gradual in onset. as a general rule, the individual with hearing loss is not aware of any sensory changes taking place. the loss is perceived first by family or friends.” in fact, it usually takes between seven to eight years from recognition of a problem to a proper evaluation. this is due in part to its gradual onset, but also to the stigma. “hearing loss is universally thought of as a condition of aging,” says tuomala. “if you have a hearing loss, you must be old, and if you get a hearing aid, you must be really old. another reason for denial is the many horror stories associated with past hearing aid technologies. everyone remembers grandma’s hearing aid that used to squeal in church, or the obtrusive behind-the-ear hearing aid.” so much has changed. the technology we enjoy in computers, phones and cameras has made its way to hearing devices. “today, hearing aids come in all shapes and sizes, all ranges of technology choices, and a wide price range from $700 to $3500,” says tuomala.

“available routinely now are miniature behind-the-ear, open-fit devices. We also have deep canal custom devices and extended wear (24/7) hearing aids that stay in place two to three months at a time,” tuomala continues. “For every type and severity of hearing loss, there is a unique hearing device solution. today, hearing devices are fully automatic, individually programmed, updatable, inconspicuous and comfortable.” tuomala’s best advice: “the auditory mechanism is complicated and intricate, and a university-trained audiologist should be the gatekeeper of good hearing recovery solutions. an individual should spend time carefully choosing a hearing healthcare provider, and then the patient and provider together will navigate through the varied choices and come to a superior hearing solution.”

A home in disrepair We all want to live independently. But maintaining a home – including paying the bills, doing laundry, buying groceries, picking up prescriptions, cooking and mowing the yard – can be hard to keep up with regardless of age. those chores and errands take time, energy, motivation and good health. if a person lives alone and their home is unusually cluttered and unclean, that’s another red flag, says elizabeth ragsdale, community sales manager for Fox hollow senior Living, which provides both assisted living and specialized dementia care. But also take time to look at the person. is he or she wearing the same clothing? has he lost weight? Lost interest in bathing? (this happens sometimes when people are afraid of falling). are bills being paid on time? is medication being filled and taken regularly?

Here are a few behaviors that indicate an individual might have hearing loss: • Misunderstanding some words • asking people to repeat • elevated volume levels on tV and radio • complaining that people “mumble”

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Answering those questions is what helped Phil Martinello make a tough decision for his parents. Martinello is the marketing director at Penick Village, a ministry of the Episcopal church and a continuing care retirement community in the Sandhills that offers independent living as well as assisted living and skilled nursing. With 23 years in the elder care business, Martinello figured he’d have a relatively easy time talking to his own parents, but found that simply wasn’t the case. “It wasn’t easy for me,” says Martinello, whose mother had Parkinson’s for 19 years. “I was presenting my case delicately at the kitchen table, and my mom

said to me, ‘You have to promise you’re not going to put me in a nursing home.’ With my involvement in this business, I knew where she was heading. That was very painful for me. And I remember distinctly telling her, ‘Mom, I can’t make that promise.’ Martinello continues: “My dad said, ‘I’m going to be the caretaker. I promise I’m going to take care of your mother.’ But ultimately the job becomes very difficult for the caretakers, sometimes more so for them than the person they’re caring for. Sometimes the caretaker’s health digresses faster than the person they’re caring for. It was a very difficult situation.”

Below, warning signs that indicate a memory evaluation: • Repetitive and frequent questions, such as “What day is it? Why are we going here?” • Not being able to remember the names of people or common objects • Misplacing objects every day • Paying bills twice • Forgetting to turn off the stove • Paranoid (ie: thinks someone stole wallet if they can’t find it) • Sudden agitation or aggression 52 | PinehurstMagazine.com

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Memory The big white elephant of aging that people really don’t want to talk about is dementia. It’s scary for everyone involved, and it can often be confusing. The biggest question: Is dementia the same thing as Alzheimer’s Disease? Dr. Sangeeta Varanasi runs the Memory Disorders Clinic at the Pinehurst Medical Clinic, and she says dementia is basically a symptom. It can be caused by disease, including thyroid problems, depression and vitamin deficiency. But it is most often caused by Alzheimer’s Disease. So Alzheimer’s is a specific cause while dementia is a general symptom. As recently as 10 or 20 years ago, dementia often dismissed as someone becoming “senile.” Senile dementia is no longer recognized in the medical community. Here’s the deal: As you age, your memory will slow down, but it’s not normal for your higher thinking abilities to desert you. “The issue that everybody has as they get older is that there is memory slowing, when you’re trying to think of a person’s name or the name of a book you like,” explains Dr. Varanasi. “When you’re 20, it just comes right away. But as we get older, from the 20s to the 80s, your memory slows down some.”

But the information you’re looking for will usually pop into your brain eventually. That’s normal. What’s not normal is losing high-functioning abilities – like balancing a checkbook, writing the correct amount on a check or participating in a discussion, giving your opinion or arguing a point. “In aging, you should not lose your ability to defend your point of view in politics or religion,” says Dr. Varanasi. “If you have a discussion with your spouse or father or mother, they should still be able to defend their point if they were able to do that before.” Dr. Varanasi says highly educated people are often quite skilled at hiding dementia symptoms because they were so high functioning earlier in life, that if they lose some of it, it’s simply not as noticeable as quickly. There’s no doubt Alzheimer’s Disease is scary. By the time a person is 85 years old, he or she has a 50 percent chance of developing the

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disease, says Dr. Varanasi. and while there is a genetic component, many alzheimer’s cases are spontaneous, meaning there was no family history. (incidentally, breast cancer works much the same way. although there’s a genetic component, 80 percent of cases result with no family history). the very best thing any caretaker – spouse, adult child, friend – can do if they notice someone with dementia symptoms is to get him to a doctor right away and to go with him to help convey information to the doctor. “You want early diagnosis” says Dr. Varanasi. “any little sign, and you need to get evaluated. in fact, there are a lot of people who come to my clinic who have had a baseline memory test.” Much like women get a baseline mammography at age 40, Dr. Varanasi suggests seniors get a baseline memory test at age 65. there are several medicines on the market now – aricept®, namenda®, exelon® and razadyne® – that can stabilize people with the disease. “these medicines all work better when you start them early,” says Dr. Varanasi. “the best these medicines can do most of the time is keep you stable. if you come to see me in the moderate stage of memory loss, i can never get you to mild. You want to be diagnosed at mild so you can stay at mild.” Dr. Varanasi’s best advice: “if you put your head in the sand about this problem it doesn’t go away; it only gets worse. if you don’t get treatment, the memory continues to decline; if you do get treatment you can have stability, at least, which is really important.”

How to treat someone with memory issues Mary hannah Vaughan, community relations director at elmcroft assisted Living and Memory care in southern Pines, has worked in the memory care field for more than 10 years and acknowledges that it can be difficult. “i have worked with many people who were diagnosed early with alzheimer’s type dementia and were given the time and had the ability to accept their condition,” says Vaughan. “i have found that these individuals tend to be very open to care and accepting that they need memory care. i have also worked with individuals who did not realize that they had a memory disorder and were very frustrated and didn’t understand why they needed care. the way each individual is affected by the disease is specific to the individual. “When you go into the conversation you must expect that you may answer the same question 10 times,” continues Vaughan. “You may talk about something that never happened. You may talk about something that happened 30 years ago, and you may talk about someone who is deceased like they are still alive. When you are talking about all of these things, remember to validate the person’s feelings to make them feel heard and loved. if i could name one thing that’s positive about having a memory disorder, it’s that you are able to live in the moment. You live in the moment of being happy, or wanting to sing or dance, you live in the moment of being mad and getting over it quickly.” Vaughan’s best tip: as a caregiver, if you start to get frustrated, seek help. “taking care of someone day after day, having the same conversation day after day, can really wear on you as a caregiver. By taking care of yourself, and giving yourself a break, you allow yourself to become a better and more loving caregiver for your loved one.”

Find out more… Resources

Memory Disorders Clinic, Pinehurst Medical Clinic: www.pinehurstmedical.com 910-235-3200 Audiology of the Sandhills: www.sandhillshearing.com 910-692-6422 Firsthealth Hospice Foundation 910-695-7510 54 | PinehurstMagazine.coM

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Talking it through If an older person you care about is struggling with something, sit down and talk about it – and be prepared for all kinds of reactions, says Tressa Hogan of Carolina House of Pinehurst, a Brookdale Senior Living Community that offers personalized assisting living as well as dementia care at its Clare Bridge community. “Most seniors feel a sense of losing control when questioned about their personal health or physical issues and, yes, in defense of themselves can react with denial of the situation,” says Hogan. “No one likes losing their independence, but age takes its toll. The time to talk and plan is now, when plans can be made proactively. Conversations should be kept positive, and with the loved one in control. Being proactive with discussions rather than waiting for an acute situation may prevent resentment and fear for both the caregiver and senior.” Martinello, who talked through the issue with his own parents, adds: “The main issue is you show them respect. You have to sit down with them and ask them for their advice and opinions instead of making decisions for them. They need to have their voice heard even if you think what they’re saying might be a little odd or a little off balance.” Ragsdale, of Fox Hollow Living, has one last piece of advice: “A doctor can also help families out in this situation and be an advocate; the doctor can speak to the parent and say, ‘You can no longer be home alone, it’s not safe.’ I remind children to act on that alone. When a doctor says it’s time, it’s typically past time.”

Care enough The best thing about getting involved – and we know it’s hard – is that when you address whatever issues the senior you care about is facing, it’s likely your action will improve the quality of his or her life. Plus, it shows you care. And that means a lot.

Penick Village: www.penickvillage.org 910-692-0300

Elmcroft of Southern Pines: www.elmcroftal.com 910-692-4928

Fox Hollow Senior Living: www.foxhollowslc.com 910-695-0011

The Village at Brookwood: www.villageatbrookwood.com 800-282-2053

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Hospice House fills longstanding need for Moore County community The rich history of hospice in Moore County can be attributed in many respects to the volunteers who started the organization in a Southern Pines dining room more than 30 years ago and to the hundreds of men and women who have kept it vital throughout the years. Working alongside a specially trained professional staff, volunteers continue to play an important role in local hospice service with the opening of the long-anticipated FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care campus north of Pinehurst. They work throughout a three-building campus that is highlighted by an 11-bed Hospice House, an acute-care facility that began accepting patients in October. “A lot of people have been working on this for a long time,” says Hospice Director Charlotte Patterson, R.N. Patterson was one of a handful of volunteer nurses who offered their services to the original Sandhills Hospice while also working full time at what was then Moore Memorial (now FirstHealth Moore Regional) Hospital. She has been director of FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care for the past dozen years.

Organized in the mid-1970s by people who held many of their meetings around Jim and Mary Tart’s dining room table in Southern Pines, Sandhills Hospice took its first patient in 1980. Like many of the group’s early supporters, the Tarts had medical backgrounds. Mary was a registered nurse; Jim, a cardiologist. As an original member of the Sandhills Hospice Board of Directors, Mary Tart has a place in local hospice history that she shares with others like former nurses MaryLee Schulte, Linda Moore and Irene Pace; and Drs. Donald Schulte, David Allen, Alfred Siege and William Hollister. According to MaryLee Schulte, that early group was guided by a shared purpose. “Unlike today, when current Medicare guidelines define what will be done and how, we had no guidelines, but were driven by doing what was done for patients and families with the support of Hospice of North Carolina and the success of other start-up hospices across the state,” she says. “There was a goal, and everybody was working toward that goal. We did what we did, because it was the right thing to do.”

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“This is a need this community has had for years, and there are a lot of people who recognized that need. It supports current services as part of (FirstHealth’s) continuum of care, and it’s been a long time coming.” – Dr. Ellen Willard

Sandhills Hospice began its work with one paid employee, a nurse who served as patient care coordinator, in a social worker’s office in the hospital. Eventually, the operation graduated to two rooms and a storage closet in the hospital’s former nurses’ residence and later to locations on Highway 5 and on May Street in Southern Pines. Before the recent move to the new campus and for more than 20 years, hospice activities were directed out of a building on Pinehurst’s Aviemore Drive that was built expressly for hospice purposes. Except for a couple of brief respite periods, Dr. Allen, a medical oncologist, served as the organization’s medical director. His successor was Dr. Ellen Willard, the medical oncologist and hematologist who still holds the post. ”I have been hoping for this (new Hospice House) for so long,” Dr. Willard says. “This is a need this community has had for years, and there are a lot of people who recognized that need. It supports current services as part of (FirstHealth’s) continuum of care, and it’s been a long time coming.” When Sandhills Hospice merged with FirstHealth of the Carolinas on April 1, 1996, the organization became known as FirstHealth Hospice. Several years later, in an effort to illustrate the role that pain management and symptom control play in hospice care, the name was changed to FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care. Early planning for the new campus was already under way. Nestled on 32 acres of wooded, lake-front property off Highway 15-501, a partial gift from former owners James and Michelle Kirkpatrick, the campus site was previously the location for an RV campground. Central to the new campus is the 16,000-square-foot, acute-care Hospice House. “The Hospice House is for patients who need treatment that can’t be provided at home and that might previously have been provided in a hospital setting,” Dr. Willard says. “These patients need medical treatment and access to skilled personnel as opposed to residential beds for (end-of-life) custodial care.”

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Another building on the campus houses the FirstHealth grief Resource & Counseling Center and administrative and professional staff offices. Available to anyone in the community, grief Resource & Counseling Center services and programs are open to anyone dealing with life-altering illness or facing the death of a loved one as well as those who have already suffered a loss. Tina gibbs, now associate director of FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care, joined the organization in 1995 as a social worker and soon recognized that bereavement care was just as much a hospice issue as patient care. “By early 2000, I was getting tons of calls from the general public in need of counseling and groups related to grief and loss issues,” gibbs says. “We started doing additional offerings as I could manage.

Tina Gibbs, now associate director of FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care, joined the organization in 1995 as a social worker and soon recognized that bereavement care was just as much a hospice issue as patient care.

It was soon getting so busy that I was able to put a proposal together to hire someone to work directly in the program, which later became the grief Resource & Counseling Center.” Three full-time and one half-time counselors currently facilitate 106 support groups and offer counseling services to hundreds of individuals – from young children to older adults – each year. The third building on the Hospice Campus is a free-standing, non-denominational chapel intended for individual reﬂection as well as functions

Since its inception, FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care has been supported by the community through contributions to support operations and ensure that the highest level of care is available to anyone who needs end-of-life care regardless of their ability to pay. For more information on how to support FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care through memorials, bequests or other estate planning, please call the FirstHealth Hospice Foundation at (910) 695-7510. 58 | PINeHURSTMAgAzINe.COM

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related to Hospice-provided services. Capacity for the 1,000-square-foot building is 50 seated people. Pinehurst resident Charlie McWilliams, who serves on the Board of Trustees of the FirstHealth Hospice Foundation, chaired chapel fundraising efforts. He says a chapel was always a part of the “master plan” for the Hospice campus, but was not originally scheduled for the first construction phase. “The chapel was more of a dream for the whole campus,” he says. As financing for the two primary buildings fell quickly into place, however, campus planners began to recognize the immediate need for a place where patients and their visitors could spend time in quiet reflection or where services memorializing family or community grief and loss might be held. “The chapel is primarily designed for people to go and reflect,” McWilliams says. “When you lose a loved one, there are times when you just want to be by yourself and you need a place to do that.” As is often the case, the people providing hospice services sometimes find themselves on the receiving end of hospice care. Schulte’s husband and McWilliams’ wife were briefly hospice patients. So was Tart’s mother. “Having actually used it for support with my mother, I know what it means to this community” says Tart. “It’s been a blessing for so many people who have terminally ill family members. To have watched it grow is just wonderful.” “It’s not a place where you want to be,” McWilliams says, “but it’s a place where you can be and know that your loved one will be comfortable.”

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all season long follow these simple strategies:

Winter is truly a magical time of the year. Our calendars are filled with parties and festivities, beautiful attire and family gatherings. Our hair, on the other hand, doesn’t always follow suit. Dry, damaged locks and static electricity can make most of us want to give up and don hats the entire season. Don’t just blame the cold; indoor heating, which can be extremely drying to the hair, is also a culprit. It’s best to take a preventive approach by adding moisture to the hair at the first signs of cold weather. A moisturizing sulfate-free shampoo and conditioner are an excellent way to combat these issues. If you have fine or limp hair, it may be best to use a weekly moisturizing treatment instead of a daily conditioner; using a small amount of a weightless styling product such as a smoothing ﬂuid will also combat the frizzies. If you have thick hair, use a daily regimen of moisturizing shampoo and conditioner along with a pomade or an emollient to tackle ﬂy-aways.

Also, don’t underestimate what a professional color and cut can do to solve your winter hair troubles. Today’s professional color products add a lot of moisture to the hair, and trimming those damaged ends can help you achieve a beautiful sleek look. This is the time of the year when getting a professional clear glaze for extra shine and a beautiful style is very popular and can be just what you need to top off that fabulous outfit. So there’s no need to have dull, ﬂy-away hair this season. Invest in the right products and a good routine, and you’ll go out with full confidence knowing you look your best.

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Beautiful Although aging is great, it inevitably brings about some not-so-great changes – especially to our eyes. BY JEFFREY WHITE, MD OPHTHALMIC PLASTIC SURGEON AND AESTHETIC SPECIALIST, CAROLINA EYE ASSOCIATES

“Patients typically start to notice these changes in their 30s and 40s, and they become more prominent as we age,” says Dr. Jeffrey White, a partner at Carolina eye Associates, PA in Pinehurst and one of just 500 oculoplastic surgeons in the world. “Typically, as skin loses its elasticity, wrinkles may form, and the skin may stretch out and begin to hang over the lashes. The brows or lids may develop a droop, or patients may develop bags under their eyes.” Definitely not so great. “There is also a descent of the fat pads over the cheeks, and this can give jowling and folds around the mouth and nose. In addition to gravity taking an effect on the face, chronic sun damage is also something we see as patients age,” continues Dr. White. “This may show in the form of pigmented spots on the skin or redness over the cheeks.” These days you can age gracefully without aging passively. Carolina eye offers many cosmetic procedures. “My specialty involves procedures to correct eyelid malpositions, reconstructions after removals of skin cancer and cosmetic procedures to rejuvenate the aging face. We offer both surgical and non-surgical procedures and we tailor these to each individual patient.” “We also offer several different laser treatments to treat a wide variety of aging changes,” says Dr. White. “Laser genesis is typically recommended for shrinking pores and improving the overall skin tone. This treatment may

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also help with redness of the cheeks and fine lines. ‘IPL’ is another common laser that works well alone or in conjunction with laser genesis; it focuses on lightening pigmented blemishes to even skin tone and coloring. “The genesis and IPL lasers are excellent for skin health and are convenient for patients because they have no downtime after a treatment,” continues Dr. White. And then there’s The Pearl Laser, a resurfacing laser that treats many of the signs of aging; however, it’s a more aggressive treatment and that typically requires up to a week of recovery. “I believe The Pearl gives you more bang for the buck, but it is more invasive,” says Dr. White. “The last laser procedure we offer is the Titan laser for firming the skin. It works by heating the deeper layers of the skin to stimulate collagen growth, thereby tightening the face over the next three to six months. It is excellent for patients with minimal sagging of the skin or those that are not yet ready for a surgical procedure.” If you’re looking for a dramatic change, surgery is another option offered at Carolina eye, including upper and lower lid blepharoplasty procedures as well as endoscopic brow lifts. “These procedures can dramatically improve the appearance of the eyes,” says Dr. White. “These are excellent options for both men and women who feel their outward appearance looks tired or old compared to how they feel inside.” It’s great to look as good as you feel.

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friends of the library book sale On August 18th, 19th and 20th the Friends of the Library held a book sale at the Carthage library. Used books and gift baskets were sold to raise money for additional books and children’s programs.

1. Sharon McDonald and Jean Slate with the gift baskets. 2. Jill Smith and Charlotte Monroe. 3. Christiana & Marissa Fuller.

dixie youth baseball world series The Dixie Youth World Series of Baseball took place August 13th through the 21st. Sixteen teams from 11 states competed in the world series championships at Hillcrest Park in Carthage. 1. Dianne & Louis Owens and Dalton & Melissa Mims. 2. The Louisiana 10-year-old Dixie Youth baseball team and their coaches. 3. Ty & Tim Allred.

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west pine elementary pet responsibility graduation

On September 1st the opening reception for the art exhibit titled “Four Friends: abstract to realism” was held at the Hastings Gallery at Sandhills Community College.

On August 31st the 4th grade year-round students at West Pine Elementary School celebrated their graduation from the Pet Responsibility Program. Representatives from K2 Solutions were the guest speakers and provided K9 demonstrations.

1. Four friends: artists Sharon Ferguson, Marie Travisano and Laurie Deleot. Not present was Marilyn Vendemia. 2. Chris, C.J. & Rebecca Dunn. 3. Willie & Kim Sobat with Billie Ertter.

1. The Pet Responsibility Committee. 2. Ashleigh Williams, Darrell Hagan, Phillip Manivong and John Whitlock and dog “Sally” from K2 Solutions with Angela Zumwalt.

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cool sweats 10th anniversary On September 9th CoolSweats celebrated their 10th anniversary. This fabulous clothing shop is located in the Village of Pinehurst. 1. Owners Bruce & Barbara Bishop and their daughter Brittany Renner. 2. Shopping are Kandi Davis and Carole Sisson. 3. The J. McLaughlin trunk show representatives Josephine Winters, Patricia Lloyd and Sara-Peyton McCormick.

fresh market juvenile diabetes fundraiser On September 10th the 17th Annual Juvenile Diabetes fundraiser was held at Fresh Market in Southern Pines. 1. The children helping with the fundraiser. 2. Cooking hot dogs were Dick Baird and Jody Foyles. 3. Alanna Young and Tayla Hinesley.

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kitchen tour The 18th Annual Kitchens...and Moore tour was held on September 8th. Six homes were on the tour and the proceeds from the event benefit youth development programs. 1. Faye Sumner, Luanne Nicholson, event chairman Carolyn Register, FSC Extension agent Agnes Evans and Rose Gaynor. 2. Formerly of Specialty Cafe – “Natural Chef” Maggie Gartman and Holmes Hall. 3. Food from Elliotts on Linden was served by Mark Elliott, Matthew Hadden and Linda Allen to Linda Piechota and Patti Friedman.

beacon ridge golf and luncheon On September 12th a golf tournament and luncheon was held at the Beacon Ridge Golf Club to raise money for the Susan G. Komen North Carolina Triangle Affiliates to fight breast cancer. 1. Chairman Carolyn James with event organizers Janice Sargert and Sandy McDermott. 2. Ellen Leslie and Olga Manning. 3. Nita Hartless, Mary Hauck, Georgia Pallnow and Dorothy Martin. 4. Ellie Lyons, Jan Mitchell, Ruth Shannon and Marlyn MacDonald. PinehurstMagazine.com | 63

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dog show The Moore County Kennel Club’s Two-Day all breed dog show was held on September 17th and 18th at the Pinehurst Harness Track.

raymond james seminar On September 14th Raymond James Associates presented a seminar about annuities at the Senior Enrichment Center.

1. Jane & Bob Forsyth, Corporal Wesley Stamper, Beth Dowd and show chairman Janet Dalton. 2. Brent Tedder, Diane Hutson and best of breed winner “Chief”. 3. Parson Russell terrier – “Fuzzy”.

1. Gerhard Hergenhahn chats with Brianna Dillon and Mark Hollingsworth of Raymond James. 2. Mary Kiloustian, Charlotte Hensley, Betty Davis and Elinore McCaskill. 3. Kathleen Voltz.

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volunteer of the year

The Given Memorial Library and Tufts Archives held a volunteer thank you get together at the library in Pinehurst on September 15th.

On September 20th the Moore County Schools presented the 8th Annual Eileen Vansant Volunteer of the Year Awards at a luncheon held at Weymouth Center in Southern Pines.

1. Volunteer of the Year Charlie Eichhorn with his wife Lulu and Given Library Executive Director Audrey Moriarty. 2. Friends of the Library: Rosemary Zuhone, Rachel Trahern, Judy McCaffrey, Jan Torgersen and Betsy Laflin. 3. Gary Strohl, Susan Sanders and Pat Corso.

1. Tim Lussier, Advisor, Community Relations for Moore County Schools, presents a special award to Linda Hubbard. 2. Volunteer of the Year Nancy Kling with Molly and Vansant family members Buzz Vansant and Linda Damron. 3. Lisa Scott, Damon Clark and Cathy McRae. 4. Rose Cooper and Seth Power.

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The Moore County Choral Society, now in its 37th year, held its first rehearsal of the season on September 20th. Over 100 voices from all walks of life make up this nonprofit organization. 1. Eric Kopecky, artistic director Anne Dorsey, Mary Ann Young and Barbara Schramm. 2. Shirley Reardon, Martha DeVault, Alice Hollingworth and Mary Byrne. 3. Meredith Fawke and Judy Woodward.

carolina philharmonic gala On September 23rd the Carolina Philharmonic held its 2nd Annual Gala at the Fair Barn in Pinehurst. It was a magical evening of fine food and fabulous music. 1. Maestro David Michael Wolff, with performers Young Mee Jun and Marina De Ratmiroff and tenor Melvin Ezzell. 2. Event chairman Kay Wildt and co-chair Mary Beth Thomas. 3. Izabela Spiewak and Yang Xi. 4. Helen & Felice Schielaci, Elizabeth Koeckert and Marilda Siemers.

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arts council wine gala On September 20th the Fresh Market in Southern Pines hosted a wine gala for the Moore County Arts Council. Wine stations and an array of appetizers sold at Fresh Market were available for sampling. 1. Nina Edmonson with event chairman Connie Petrillo. 2. Fresh Market assistant manager Jonathan Hall and manager John Craven. 3. Ron Cole, Arts Council Director Chris Dunn and Billie Ertter. 4. Carol Johnson.

family fall festival On October 8th the Sacred Heart Church held its first Family Fall Festival. The event, sponsored by the Knights of Columbus, had something for all ages. 1. Father Ed Burch and Ginny Heerema. 2. Erica, Jonathan, Andrew & Kate Brower. 3. Tommy Moore and Bob Wirick. 4. Daniel Gualteros and friends. PinehurstMagazine.com | 65

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RETIREMENT GUIDE We talk to local retirement communities and share what you need to know.

2012 WINTER ACCESSORIES Pinehurst Magazine’s Fashion Guide features fabulous accessories to keep you cozy and glamorous.

Time to clear the clutter It’s that time of year, time for resolutions. Did you resolve to clean house? This article will help you reorganize.

FINANCIAL UPDATE We’re still not out of the financial woods yet, but things are looking up. Our experts explain! PLUS MEMORY We share tips and tricks on how to improve it!

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY JENNIFER ROBERTSON

1. Silver pinecone candle holder from ALDENA FRYE FLORAL DESIGN adds a festive touch to any room. $20 each, candle not included. 2. Locally designed and available at FRAMERS COTTAGE, this fabulous necklace by MM Design can be worn short or long with Italian beads that can create a one-of-a-kind gift. Available in sterling silver or gold filled. Starting at $120. 3

3. Art and leather, the perfect combination. These hand-painted leather handbags by Magnifique are a great gift item we found at LOOKIN’ FOR LINDA. $98 4. Who wouldn’t love a pair of designer sunglasses from EYEMAX? These Ed Hardy glasses come in many different styles – we’re sure you’ll find the perfect pair. Style shown $199

5. Give the gift that gives beautiful, glowing skin at home or on the go…the Clarisonic Complete Sonic Skin Cleansing System comes in travel and full sizes. Available in a variety of colors at THE LASER INSTITUTE OF PINEHURST! $149 - $225. With any Clarisonic purchase in November or December receive a FREE small area of laser hair removal!

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diamonds

are purchased at

Christmastime (31 percent) than during

any other holiday or occasion during the year.

6. MCLENDON HILLS EQUESTRIAN CENTER offers guided trail rides. These certificates make the perfect stocking stuffer! $80 single rider; $60 per person for multiple riders.

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7. Prepare the perfect appetizer with this 2-piece porcelain Brie/Camembert baker from GREEN GATE GOURMET. The set includes cranberry and almond toppings & recipes. Yum O! Brie not included. $40

8. Happy Everything plate from CAMERON & CO. These adorable plates have all kinds of interchangeable decorations, from Santa to birthday cake. Small $41.99, Large $120 (includes 1 attachment) 9. This lovely sterling silver ring from GEMMA GALLERY comes in a variety of gorgeous colors – and at $150 each, you might as well buy her two or three!

10. MONKEE’S OF THE PINES has these awesome, colorful Echo touch gloves that allow you to use your touch screen devices such as the iPhone or iPad. Makes a great stocking stuffer! $32 11. Adore her with gold when you say I Love You with this wide contemporary hand-forged yellow gold flexible link bracelet we found at HAWKINS & HARKNESS! She’ll be yours forever! $2,290 12. Bring the outdoors in this holiday season with these unique moss accented picture frames we found at ONE ELEVEN MAIN. Adorned with red or brown bows, your family photos with will be all dressed for the occasion. $46

13. As seen in O, The Oprah Magazine! This collection of 18 original fun fragrances from TokyoMilk, with such mischievous names as Let Them Eat Cake and Dead Sexy, are packaged with arresting little images tucked away in the bottle. Find these and other products at DENKERS! $11-$31 PinehurstMagazine.com | 3

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THETOP WINES

parties FOR

HOLIDAY

With the holidays upon us, thoughts turn to entertaining: neighborhood get-togethers, office parties or even the yoga class social! Wine continues to gain popularity as the alcoholic drink of choice for entertaining, edging out distilled liquor and beer. So what are our criteria when we need to choose wine for our gathering?

VALUE Whether it’s for a small or large group, you want a good value in your choice. You need a good bang for the buck since it’s going to be a larger purchase than buying for just yourself.

INTEREST You want your party to stand out in the whirlwind of the holidays, and every little thing helps. Picking eclectic wines rather than the same old usual well-known brands adds interest to the party. Your guests will be pleased to have tried something new and learned about a new wine.

MASS APPEAL You want unusual wines, but you also want all your guests to enjoy them, so choosing wines that are an “acquired taste” might not be a great idea. Your ultimate goal is that every guest enjoys your selections.

Here are our seven best choices that fit the bill! BACKHOUSE PINOT NOIR, CALIF., approx. $8 The best Pinot Noir at this price in California. Dry and silky, with raspberry, cola and black tea flavors.

LEESE FITCH CABERNET SAUVIGNON, CALIF, approx. $12 The scent cherries, blackberries and coffee complement its smooth tannins, tucked in and soft, a lilting acidity.

PINETTI PINOT GRIGIO, ITALY, approx. $7 Super clean and crisp, with apple, pineapple and lemon aromas and flavors. Medium-bodied, with fresh acidity. Long finish. White pepper aftertaste.

OPERA PRIMA PINK MOSCATO, SPAIN, approx. $8 This one is low in alcohol with a gorgeous pale pink color and a hint of apricot and peaches. Serve it in a chilled flute!

LANDING PLACE CHARDONNAY, SONOMA, approx. $9 Grown in sustainably certified vineyards and produced in a solar-powered, carbon neutral winery, this wine is mediumbodied with lively flavors and an elegant finish.

KIILA CAVA BRUT, SPAIN, approx. $8 This sparkling wine from Spain is the polar opposite of the Moscato – it’s very dry and brisk, with a bright beam of acidity. MARC ROMAN MALBEC, FRANCE approx. $8 Fantastic black currants, full-bodied, silky tannins, and no oak.

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Christmas cards are sent annually in the United States.

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14. Make it personal with this Danielle Stevens gold monogrammable necklace from MORGAN MILLER. Etch a personal message to make this a one-of-a-kind gift. Multiple styles. $92

15. JEUNESSE AESTHETICS has the perfect stocking stuffers, or use them yourself to create that radiant holiday look. Minis of Eye Gloss, Cream Blush, and Pure Gloss for lips from Iredale mineral makeup. $15-$27 16. Warm and foxy colorful art deco scarfs by echodesign can be found at THE VILLAGE FOX BOUTIQUE. $48

17. She’ll love you even more when she unwraps these stackable sterling bracelets with precious stones from FISKIN & FISKIN! Rubies & Garnets …White Sapphires & Turquoise…oh my!! Up to $550 each. 18. In style and organized, this 4-pocket envelope clutch in an array of colors can be found at one of the new boutiques in Southern Pines, MARIE AND MARCELE. $25

19. Rise & shine to an NC breakfast basket with some of the best products North Carolina & Elliotts Provision Co. have to offer. With items from Old Mill of Guilford, Goat Lady Dairy & Betty Lou’s Vineyard Pantry. ELLIOTTS PROVISION COMPANY can build a basket to satisfy even the hardest to buy for. 20. Stunning…from Murano Italy! Exquisite colors. Italian style & craftsmanship make these lightweight, easy-to-wear earrings, bracelets and chokers the perfect gift! Exclusively designed and available at LE FEME CHATEAU. $39-$99

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WRAPIT up2 There are plenty of alternatives to the store- bought snowman paper – many wrappings can be found around the house. You can also buy neutral craft paper and decorate the packages with greenery and pinecones, or even your own printed designs. Instead of expensive ribbons, try baker’s twine, yarn or even leather. Here are a few fun ideas to try!

Who needs bows? Pinecones and holly are even better! Just attach them with wire to your ribbon. And don’t forget the designer craft paper!

This package uses decorative craft paper and gold ribbon. The bow is made of gold wire and glass beads. Just twirl the wire around a pencil and stretch, then slide on your beads!

This package is wrapped in plain brown packaging paper, adorned with handmade ceramic ornaments (that are a gift in themselves) and a ribbon of leather rope.

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21. Add some sparkle with a colorful crystal broach or pendant from GLAM SALON SPA & ACCESSORY BOUTIQUE. Glam up any outfit this holiday season! $38

22. INVITATIONBOX.COM invites you to make your mark with the Noteworthy Snap Stamp. For $38.99-$47.99, this stamp base allows you to customize stationery with multiple interchangeable face designs.

23. This Rosemary Mint Holiday Gift set from THE REFINERY SALON features Aveda’s Gift of Refreshment, Rosemary Mint shampoo, conditioner and body moisturizer. This set retails for $35.

24. COOLSWEATS…Comfortable and cozy is this outfit! Waffle hoodie, deep vee sweatshirt and zip funnelsweatshirt. 100% super soft cotton! Available in many colors and sizes S thru XL.

25. EVE AVERY bracelets & rings. These stunning pieces are made by a local jewelry artist and would be a fabulous addition to any outfit!

26. The healthy choice for Christmas, this yoga package from HOT AND HEALTHY YOGA includes: Yoga mat, yogitoes Hot and Healthy t-shirt and one week unlimited yoga for 1 month. $125 27. Donate $50 to the Boys and Girls Club this holiday and receive $350 off Juvederm® from the #1 provider of Juvederm® in the Triangle. BLUE WATER SPA.

28. Your guests will be impressed as you serve your holiday treats on this Black Florentine wooden tray, or gift it to your favorite hostess with the mostest! Find it at THE SHOPS OF FAIRWAY VILLAGE. $42.95

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30. The soft glow of candlelight emits forth from sparkling glass with a gorgeous quilted texture. This candle from TWIGS & RAGS has a comforting blend of fresh balsam and oak moss combined with the essence of cedar wood, cinnamon and eucalyptus. 31. Silhouette ornaments from RSVP are very in and make the perfect gifts. Bevelled glass with hand-applied silver moldings surround these lithographed silhouettes, originally hand cut with 18th & 19th century paper backgrounds. $22 and up.

32. Stimulate your baby’s senses with Sophie la giraffe. Born in France in 1961 and made with natural rubber, this is the perfect gift for the littlest on your list. Get it at BELLI BAMBINI. Squeaky giraffe $22, teething ring $19

33. Custom cupcakes make a great gift that everyone will love. Available in a variety of flavors (even cheesecake!) from C-CUPS CUPCAKERY. 34. Rest easy and comfortably with this luxurious travel pillow by Duxianna. Known for quality and comfort, Duxianna is the perfect gift for the traveler. Get it at OPULENCE OF SOUTHERN PINES. $105 35. Clay pots by Nicholas Bernard of Scottsdale, Arizona, are among the works of art included in Lee Hansley Gallery’s annual One Hundred Under 1000. exhibition in Raleigh, NC. Visit WWW.LEEHANSLEYGALLERY.COM for details and other great gift ideas.

36. An American Christmas tradition & collector’s item, Byers Choice Ltd. carolers. Handcrafted in the USA and now available at THE POTPOURRI in Pinehurst. $62-$68

IRONWOOD CAFE With an Ironwood Cafe gift certificate you can have your dinner on the patio under the magnolia tree and enjoy the water fountain with flames! THE WINE CELLAR & TASTING ROOM A Wine Station gift card of any denomination allows your recipient to come to The Wine Cellar and sample the premier wine selections in the Napa Technology Wine Stations.

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TEMPLE THEATRE Temple Theatre gift certificates make the perfect holiday gift! Available in any amount.

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