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PINEHURST ® magazine

JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2012 Sandhills Media Group, Inc. publisher Jill Futch Advertising Sales Jill Futch Myra Gammon creative director Travis Aptt art director Heath Hilliker graphic design Jennifer Casey contributing writers Christa Gala • David Droschak Robyn James • Dolores Muller • Robert Gable Kate Turgeon • Mark Elliott • Michelle Kaiser photography McKenzie Photography

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features 10 MAKING LOVE LAST What’s the secret? We asked a few exper ts – three happily mar ried couples. 18 FAREWELL, CLUTTER! A little dose of de-clutter can go a long way. Pinehrust Magazine is here to help with solutions for improving some of the home’s messiest areas 22 FINANCIAL FINDS Investments, negotiating, planning and more… 26 EXCLUSIVITY INTACT Forest Creek: A National Draw For Golfing Purists 44 BLING! Check out the latest cocktail rings, necklaces, bangles, watches and fur

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januar y/februar y 2012 contents 50 OUCH! BACK PAIN Back pain. It strikes almost 80 percent of the population. Lear n its common causes, treatments and prevention. 52 LOVE LETTERS Joyce DeWitt and Tab Hunter to per for m in Pinehurst

in every issue 16 chef’s corner 35 book review 36 calendar 64 firsthealth spotlight 70 sandhills sightings

54 FORGET ABOUT IT... OR NOT The older we get, the more frequently our brain seems to lapse, is what we are experiencing nor mal? 58 LIVING LARGE Pinehurst Magazine talks with five local retirement communities, uncovering a lot of fun and a few surprises.

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Green

Seeing Remodeling experts offer tips, latest trends at March event BY DAVID DROSCHAK

Making every dollar count these days has spilled over into the Sandhills housing market, where residents are hungry for information and expertise on how to maximize real estate values, become more energy efficient and tap into the “green movement.” It can be difficult and time consuming gathering all the information needed to make the proper remodeling choices, so attending the Moore County Home & Garden Expo the first weekend of March at the Carolina Hotel – where more than 50 vendors will be present under one roof – should be on your 2012 “must-do” list. “We certainly offer a chance for education and the opportunity to talk to experts in their fields,” said Tom Panek, chairman of the annual expo that features every conceivable home product on the market. “People seem to be looking for more value because homes are getting smaller, and they are more expensive and tougher to build because of people’s tighter finances. There is also emphasis on green products at the show because that is the cutting-edge stuff and where the focus is trending.” Panek is encouraging those attending the expo on March 2-4 to also visit the Moore County Homebuilders Association Parade of Homes, which runs in conjunction with the expo, in addition to the following weekend. “The two events work together,” he said of the Inside and Out theme of the two events. “People can see something displayed in booths and then walk into a home and see for example how cabinets fit together. You can get the total picture.” What’s “hot” this year is open to debate, according to Panek, founder and owner of Dream Home Design. “I did everything last year from a bathroom that cost maybe a couple

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thousand dollars to a whole house remodel that ended up costing $250,000 and sold for 1 million,” Panek said. “With new construction people are looking at the energy savings, a lot of geothermal heat pumps, tankless water heaters and foam insulation. And then the trends in the kitchens and baths are totally different because folks are downsizing, so you are starting to see different kitchen designs that utilize space better.” The Parade of Homes concept, trendy in some of North Carolina’s largest and more populated counties, enters its fifth season in Moore County and offers a unique marketing opportunity for the area’s builders to display their spec construction. “Two years ago I had 400 people go through one of my homes,” said Jon Potter, president of Masters Properties, a custom home construction and remodeling firm. “This is great for local builders in a small community with a lot of retirees who may be looking to downsize or move up.” The cost to attend the expo is $5, which also includes entry to the Parade of Homes, which Potter says should include about 20-25 homes. “There will be some great homes to tour,” Potter said. “You can attend both functions and it gives you a chance to see how a home works inside and out,” added Panek. “If you go to the expo you can see the insides of homes – talk to cabinet makers, flooring and HVAC people – who actually build the structures. Then, when you go the Parade of Homes you get the opportunity to go out and see how this all comes together to make a home that you live in.”

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In the beginning, marriage seems easy, but a successful marriage can be elusive to even the most well-intentioned individuals. Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s the secret? We asked a few experts â&#x20AC;&#x201C; three happily married couples. Here are their stories. BY CHRISTA GALA

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“And stand together, Yet not too near together, For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in shadow.” from The Prophet, Khalil Gibran

Similar goals Jim and Lucille Buck, married 51 years

In 1960, Jim Buck proposed to his girlfriend Lucille Dennard while watching Bonanza, albeit during a commercial. At the time, both were grad students at Duke University. Buck went on to work in a prestigious career at the New York Stock Exchange for 35 years, but that didn’t stop his buddy from dubbing him Bonanza. Buck got the last laugh, though, because Lucille said “Yes.” The Bucks split their time between Pinehurst and New York City. They have three children and seven grandchildren. They are retired now from busy careers, he at the NYSE and she as a teacher and administrator for 35 years. Humor, a strong opinion and a positive attitude are on the list of what’s made their marriage work, but the characteristic at the very top: similar goals. “We had similar goals, and the star on that tree for us both was family and home,” says Lucille. “Jim was a busy professional man, but his staff was instructed to interrupt anything if I called or one of the children called. I had the same rule at the schools where I worked. “Jim feels strongly that marrying someone who has a similar intellectual ability and similar religious foundation is essential,” Lucille continues. “Jim is strong as a person; I am strong as a person. And all of our children are strong, as are their spouses and

“Life is important. Make the world better, even if it is only your little piece of it.” ~Lucille Buck their children. We stand holding heavy loads sometimes, together. I would pity a family member in our family who did not have an opinion and the voice to express it.” Laughter, too, has been important. “I have known Jim or myself to say something so completely absurd or incredible that the battle was over as tears of laughter ran down our faces,” Lucille says. “Humor is necessary to turn the tide or to create the perfect environment for living together.” When it comes to challenges, they’ve been plentiful. But the Bucks had trouble recalling them immediately. Lucille says: “A day or two later when we discussed this topic again, we remembered certain things.”

Jim and Lucille Buck on their wedding day and through the years.

In fact, the Bucks have weathered the death of a parent, colon cancer, job changes and more. “Why didn’t we think of these challenges right away?” Lucille wondered. “We decided it’s because we believe in living, moving on in life. We want that for our children as we face the end of our lives. We want to think that they are engaged with their families and professions, not moaning, whining or focused on sadness. Life is important. Make the world better, even if it is only your little piece of it.” Advice for engaged couples: “That which is important in marriage has not and will not change,” says Lucille. “You are joined for better and for worse, and it is your responsibility to make life together better to your best ability. Build a home with beauty that gives joy. Be thoughtful. Be silent at the times you most want to prove your point. Be affectionate. Laugh with ease. Affirm each other.” PinehurstMagazine.com | 11

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Flora Mae and Allen Perkins credit loving and respecting one another as just one of the secrets of their 60-year marriage. They met while teaching together in Broadway, NC and now live at Penick Village.

Love and respect Allen and Flora Mae Perkins, married 60 years Allen Kimery Perkins, 90, has no problem whatsoever remembering the number of houses he and his wife, Flora Mae, have lived in during their 60-year marriage. That’s five. “He has an excellent memory,” says Flora Mae. Allen adds: “I could tell you anything that happened during the Depression.” Flora Mae and Allen, who now live in Penick Village in Southern Pines, married on December 22nd, 1951. Their love bloomed gradually. “I was teaching in school in Broadway, which is near Sanford,” says Flora Mae. “He came there as principal, so we met during the time we were teaching there.” Allen says: “We didn’t fall in love at first sight, but as the months went by we became close to each other. We ate in the teacherage together sometimes, and then we started going places together and found out we were both mature and decided we loved each other and should get married.” Flora Mae took five years off from teaching to have the couple’s two girls. When the girls were babies, her mother became sick. Allen was a tremendous support. “He was there all the time,” she remembers. “I don’t really know how to express it. But I couldn’t have gotten through it without him. He has been by my side any time we’ve had any sickness or illness, and you know all families do.”

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“If we have any misunderstandings, we can settle them right quick and not carry them over.” ~Allen and Flora Mae Perkins

Family is the foundation of the Perkins’ marriage, along with respect for each other. “With the help of our families and faith, we’ve gotten through several challenges,” says Flora Mae. “We’ve always dealt with things by being open and talking about them, and not putting them on the shelf and trying to forget about things.” Neither one of them is stubborn, so rarely do tempers flare. “We can reason things out and discuss things together,” says Allen. Their faith is extremely important in the longevity of their marriage as well. They’ve been going to Brownson Memorial Presbyterian Church together for 45 years. “With our faith in God and our love for each other, we have a good feeling toward each other,” says Allen. “We know what to do and how to talk to each other. If we have any misunderstandings, we can settle them right quick and not carry them over.” The Perkins’ have four grandchildren and offer their best advice for marriage to them: “A deep love and respect for each other is important, as is doing things together,” says Allen. “Being in the same profession helps, too.” “Remember the values you’ve learned from your parents and grandparents; I’d also tell them to realize their faith will sustain them and be with them in the problems they might have ahead, and to have a lot of patience in dealing with the things that might come up,” says Flora Mae. “I would also tell them to find someone similar to their grandfather – someone who’s loving and caring and has good character.”

love “Have a lot of patience in dealing with the things that might come up.” ~Allen and Flora Mae Perkins

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“The deﬁnition of love in this case is how we behave towards one another. Are we ﬁrst in each other’s lives? Are we listening to each other and actually hearing what the other person is saying?” ~Severine Hutchins

love Best friends and faith Severine and Jeff Hutchins, married 17 years

Jeff and severine hutchins met in a calculus class at georgia tech more than two decades ago. Jeff thought severine was cute, and she saw beyond Jeff’s mismatched plaids and mullet. the two dated for five years before Jeff proposed – on a walk in the rain. today, Jeff is the ceo of Penick Village and severine homeschools the couple’s four children. it’s a busy life and challenges often come up, but the two have a positive attitude; we are best friends,” says Jeff. “We’ve also been blessed that both sets of our parents have set great examples in their marriages.” severine’s parents have been married 43 years and Jeff’s for 53 years. the couple also attributes a strong shared faith to the success of their marriage. “in our spiritual walks we understand that in order to do god’s work and will, we have to love one another,” says severine. “the definition of love in this case is how we behave toward one another. are we first in each other’s lives? are we listening to each other and actually hearing what the other person is saying? Do we respond instead of reacting to each other? our actions at all times, whether we are with each other or not, should represent at all times our love for each other.” the couple says they also laugh a lot and are more than willing to learn from those who’ve come before them. “We surround ourselves with great friends and hang out with our families,” says Jeff.

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Best advice for engaged couples: “Understand that anything worth having takes work, and a great marriage takes work, but it’s fun work,” says Severine, adding that work comes in the form of listening, patience, understanding and sacrifice.

Worth the work The common denominators from these successful marriages seem to be faith, laughter, respect and, perhaps most important, a commitment from both sides to make it work. It’s a commitment not only to each spouse, but to the community and to the generations that come after. “We commit to learn and grow all the time,” Jeff Hutchins says. And the best part is sharing the results of that hard work and enjoying life’s journey together.

As Mark Twain put it: To get the full value of joy, you must have someone to divide it with.

Severine and Jeff Hutchins have been married 17 years and have four children.

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COPY & RECIPES BY MARK ELLIOTT, ELLIOTTS ON LINDEN PHOTOGRAPHY BY MCKENZIE PHOTOGRAPHY

ROOT VEGETABLES PHOTOS © MCKENZIE PHOTOGRAPHY

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MASHED... Some of my favorites A great way to enjoy a few root vegetables is pureed and blended with regular mashed potatoes. Make your regular version of mashed potatoes, then add a puree of your chosen root vegetable or a mix of root vegetables.

Parsnips

Rutabaga

Try adding a little curry powder or dice an apple and add just before serving

Add a teaspoon of sugar to the water

To make a puree of root vegetable • Peel and dice your chosen root vegetable. • Submerge with water in a large pot. Add salt and bring to a boil. Simmer the root vegetable until tender. • Drain and puree. • Mix in with your regular mashed potatoes.

White yams

Add some coriander and orange juice to the mix when the carrots are simmering

Great with a spoonful of horseradish added at the end

Turnips Add a dollop of whole-grain mustard

Carrots

Celeriac Add a little blue cheese

Remember to experiment with ratios: I like a 30/70 of potato to root vegetable

Root vegetable gratin

Roast beets, apples and goat cheese salad

1 Tbsp unsalted butter 3 cups heavy cream Salt and ground pepper, to taste 14 oz parsnips, peeled, thinly sliced 14 oz turnips, peeled, thinly sliced 14 oz sweet potatoes, peeled, thinly sliced 14 oz celery root, peeled, thinly sliced 8 oz Gruyère cheese, grated 1 Tbsp fresh thyme

2 lbs beets trimmed and washed 1/2 tsp salt 3 sprigs thyme 2 cloves garlic 2 Tbsp olive oil Favorite goat cheese 1 apple Favorite salad green (i.e. water cress, baby kale, arugula) Feel free to change out and blend different root vegetables

Method • Butter a 3-quart baking dish. • Layer the vegetables in the dish, making sure to sprinkle the cheese and season each layer. • Pour the cream over the top of the vegetables. • Place a piece of parchment paper over the dish (cut to form on the top of the dish); using the flat of your hand, compress. • Cover with foil and place in a moderate oven (350 degrees) and cook for about one hour. • Remove the dish from the oven. Remove the foil and parchment. Then use a firm spatula to compress the vegetables. • Return to the oven and cook until golden brown and tender, about 20 minutes.

Quick vinaigrette 1 cup olive oil 1 lemon, juice only 1 tsp Dijon mustard 2 Tbsp champagne vinegar Pinch salt 1 tsp thyme leaves

Method • In a non-reactive bowl blend the lemon juice, mustard and vinegar. • Slowly whisk the oil into the mustard base. • Add salt and thyme. *Vinaigrette will separate, just whisk prior to serving.

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Farewell,

Have you ever wasted 15 minutes searching for the television remote? A pair of scissors? A stamp? Even a pen can be hard to find in a storm of clutter. Life happens. And clutter doesn’t mean that you’re messy. Oftentimes, it’s simply an indicator that you lead a busy life. But what if it took 15 seconds to put your hands on the remote, pair of scissors or stamp? A little dose of de-clutter can go a long way. Pinehurst Magazine is here to help with solutions for improving some of the home’s messiest areas. BY KATE TURGEON 18 | PinehurstMagazine.com

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The kitchen. Hello, epicenter of family life. In many homes, the kitchen is more than just the place where one cooks. It’s for dining, homework and sorting mail. If you’ve forgotten what your countertops look like, consider these ideas: >>>Store things nearby where you need them. For example, keep coffee filters tucked away in the cabinet nearest to the coffee pot. >>>Take it one day at a time. Tackling your kitchen may be too big of a task for one day. Spread it out. For example, straighten cabinets on Monday, drawers on Tuesday and so on. >>>Visit your local organization store for tools, such as a tiered cabinet organizer and spice carousel, to give everything a space. >>>Throw away or recycle what you don’t need. Expired coupons, worn out baby items (your kids are in elementary school!) and other items need to move on. >>>Make de-cluttering a daily habit. (Hint: empty the sink each night.) It’s easier to deal with small messes every day than to clean a huge mess at one time.

Ideas from the pro:

When designed and used well, a butler’s pantry located off the main kitchen can be a homeowner’s dream. In this photograph, plate racks, dish divider drawers, roll-out trash bins and display shelves are solutions for keeping a butler’s pantry both functional and appealing. (Built by Harold Locklear of Locklear Cabinet & Woodwork Shop.)

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Living spaces. ever spend an evening watching television, playing on the laptop computer, paying bills and writing a grocery list? Living spaces see it all. here are a few quick hints for living spaces: >>>Is your living space filled with things that don’t belong? Find an attractive basket and when those items pop up in the living room, store them in the basket. once a week, ask a family member to return the items to where they belong. >>>Focus on your coffee table, the center of your seating and conversation area. Does it have a shelf on the bottom for storage of items such as magazines and books? Do you need drawers for storing things such as playing cards? Is there a flat, open surface on top for a vase of flowers? To keep remotes handy, look for a ready-made caddy or another solution. other items such as silver trays, woven straw baskets and ceramic bowls may be prefect for remotes, too. >>>Watch those shelves! each shelf should have a purpose, such as displaying books, pictures in frames or collectibles. Living room shelves aren’t the place to set your earrings, sunglasses or half-written thank-you notes. group collectibles together when possible and use containers as well to get the most of your shelves while keeping them visually appealing.

Ideas from the pro:

When you’ve taken the time and energy for extensive travel, create a space to remind you of those fun times. (It’s good for the soul and your home’s decor.) In these photographs, a custommade display designed for a homeowner’s upstairs loft is used to house items collected from countries around the world. The items are grouped and well organized. “Use of the glass doors, glass shelves and interior cabinet lighting enhance the collection,” says Locklear.

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The bedroom closet. Yes, it has a door. But you’re going to have to open it sometime. And when you do, wouldn’t you love to see your belongings arranged in a way that makes them easy to get to? To get the most out of your closet, keep these clutter-busters in mind: >>>Avoid the leaning tower of sweaters. Piles of soft clothes will tip over easily. Instead of the tower, use stacking shelves to keep things in order. >>>Make sure each piece of clothing is earning its keep. If you don’t love it, haven’t worn it or can’t fit in it, find the nearest donation center and tell it goodbye. >>>For all the clothes you do love, invest in a quality, matching set of hangers. They’ll look better and treat your clothes better as well. >>>Arrange clothes by groups, then by colors. For example, all the shirts go together. But within the shirts, there’s a group of black shirts, white shirts and so on. This makes it easy to find what you need and replace what’s missing.

Tip from the pro:

With custom design, a single walk-in closet (such as this one designed by Locklear) may be transformed into his and hers closets. In this photograph, two separate closet spaces are created from one closet. A tall center cabinet divides the closet and serves as storage space. Each side features a lockable safe drawer, four chest drawers and open shelving. “Additional space is achieved using both double and single hanging space, shoe racks and storage on top of closet units,” he adds.

For those on a budget, Locklear suggests a basic closet product made of melamine. Creative design and use of all available space is the best way to solve a storage problem, he says.

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$ FINANCIAL

FINDS

Investments, negotiating, planning and more … BY DAVID DROSCHAK

There is never a better time to stress-test your financial portfolio than during tough times. As unpleasant as the task may appear (comparable to a dentist visit), start looking at the cold, hard facts; begin investing wisely in your future and stop spending foolishly. Sure, all reasonable advice, but many of us can feel “lost” financially during turbulent economic times, easily falling deeper into debt without reinvesting in our future. It seems unreasonable to believe some of the best bargains are available now, and that we can indeed get ahead of the financial curve with sound guidance and a strategic wealth management plan.

Predicting the future is impossible. However, a financial vision in 2012 can pay off handsomely toward the path of retirement. “Most of our clients are experts at what they do and don’t necessarily want to be an expert at financial planning and investments,” said Dustin Hall, co-founder of Cary-based Hall & Burns Wealth Management, LLC. “To me, it is important to find someone you can trust and who truly is looking out for you, and who will look at risks and opportunities for your overall financial situation. Most people have other things they would rather be doing and aren’t going to be as proactive as a financial planner.”

Here are a few tips for 2012 to help get your “financial house” in order. Establish an emergency fund: This is generally a “cash” fund of between three to six months of your budget that can be tapped in case of a job loss or unforeseen expense, such as a major car repair or replacing your home’s air-conditioning unit. Relying on credit cards or planned loans are not good alternatives here. If a loan is needed, a home equity line of credit is optimal for income tax deduction purposes, and for lower interest rates. Understand the math: Recovering from a loss is not symmetrical. In other words, if you lose 40 percent, making 40 percent doesn’t necessarily get you back to even. You have to make about 66 percent. On the other hand, if you lost 15 percent it would take about 18 percent to get back to even. So, avoiding the big losses is essential.

Pay bills on time: A good credit score may not mean much to you now, but it will in the future if you’re looking for a car loan or purchasing a home and require a mortgage. If you’re having a difficult time paying some bills, drop your minimum payment until additional funds are acquired, or phone lenders and work through your financial problems. Sitting back and watching your credit score erode is not the answer. Double-check employer benefits: Don’t leave money on the table. If your employer offers a matching 401k plan, by all means participate to the max. Such a retirement program is a “forced savings” – a predetermined percentage taken out of your check that you won’t necessarily miss. Ditto for health benefits, life insurance, etc.

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Cut to the chase: People tend to think they can recoup a loss using the same investment that caused the loss. What brought you down may not necessarily bring you back. It’s okay to sell a loser and put the proceeds back to work in another investment. Avoid looking in the rear view mirror or positioning your portfolio based on what has already happened. Investigate foreclosure property: Investing in real estate can provide nice returns during good times, but in this market can be a hidden gem. That’s especially true of foreclosures. Banks are not in the business of owning homes or real estate, so negotiate hard with them. If you can, pay cash, hold on to the property for about three to four years and then see what the “new” market brings. You may be pleasantly surprised by the return on your investment. Sharpen negotiating skills: The old sales adage of “the worst someone can say is no” applies to finances, too. If interest on your credit card is too high (anything over 15 percent), put in a phone call to try to lower the rate. Threaten to switch credit card companies if they won’t reduce the rate, and many times you’ll win out, especially if you’ve had the credit card for five or more years and have paid on time. The same goes for bank fees, large appliance and furniture purchases, etc. Wants vs. needs: Indentifying the difference between the two, then applying it to your everyday life is a must during tough economic times. You WANT the boat; you NEED to eat and pay the mortgage. Also, sit down and plan what income is coming in and what expenses are going out … and stay on a budget. If you WANT to add more movie channels in your cable that costs $29.99 per month, then look at dropping a similar expense, or don’t make the purchase. “The reality is that people perceive risk to be the highest now, when in reality it is actually much lower in terms of investing,” hall said. “we can’t control what happens in Washington, or on Wall Street or Main Street, but we can control how we prepare for and respond to the resulting gyrations in investment portfolios. Looking ahead is so important.” “People need to look at how their investments would perform in multiple economic scenarios-high inflation, unprecedented deflation, a weak dollar, a strong dollar, a strong expansion, a tough recession, or even some type of Black Swan event”. It is also important to go back to basics and put together a plan – a comprehensive plan that looks beyond the investment side. There are a lot of interdependencies that can exist between investments, income taxes and estate taxes that don’t necessarily come to light unless you do the planning. A true, comprehensive plan is going to look at things like insurance, estate planning, income taxes, employee benefits, etc.

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DOWNTOWN talk of aberdeen artists league

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Digital Art: Brushes, Brushes Everywhere but Not a Drop of Paint with JJ Love January 18, 10:00-3:00 $40 Learn how to manipulate digital brushes to create any brush stroke imaginable, and create your own brushes to be used for painting or stamping. All students must have their own laptop and a copy of Adobe Photoshop Elements (minimum).

Alcohol Ink Dreamscaping with June Rollins January 27, 9:00-12:00 $30 plus $5 supply fee Bring out your inner artist with a spirit of play using alcohol inks, a highly unpredictable but extremely forgiving, unconventional medium that has the look of stained glass. This class is suitable for beginners.

artistleague.org 129 Exchange Street 910.944.3979

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he completion of a stunning clubhouse at Forest creek golf club can be viewed as a major accomplishment for the nation’s private club sector, a part of the golf industry that has arguably struggled the most during three years of economic turmoil. the 43,000 square-foot clubhouse seemingly has it all – a library, private dining quarters, 11 swank suites and a veranda providing some of the best golf scenery across the sandhills. however, to Forest creek developer Barton tuck, the elegant white structure portrays a special message about the strength and uniqueness of the club’s membership – which includes such high-profile folks as nBa legend Michael Jordan and university of north carolina men’s basketball coach roy Williams.

PHOTOGRAPH © DAVID DROSCHAK

INTACT sure, the high-end private club secured 550 members over a 15-year period with two award-winning tom Fazio-designed golf courses and an expansive “stable-type” of men’s locker room that turns heads. Missing, though, was a place members could call home, gather for functions, throw back a few cocktails and dine on succulent steaks. the foundation was poured three years ago, but like many construction projects across the country, the infant stages of Forest creek’s clubhouse remained a cold slab of concrete. tuck, a veteran of more than 25 golf developments in nine states along the east coast and throughout the south, knew the importance of the clubhouse’s completion in order to show prospects progress – to retain members during a rough economic stretch. PinehurstMagazine.coM | 27

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The Forest Creek clubhouse veranda and second-floor suites offer a spectacular view of the 9th and 18th holes of the South Course and water that separates the two holes.

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With no bank loan feasible, Tuck decided on a bold move, a With a magnificent piece of unencumbered property bordering Pinehurst and Southern Pines, Tuck agreed to strategy that some golf developers across the state and nation had unsuccessfully attempted – he turned to his loyal membership to turn Fazio loose on more than 450 acres, giving the worldfund the project. renowned architect carte blanche on designing two courses “There was no financial institution that had any interest in before plotting the development. loaning to golf right now, much less for a clubhouse,” Tuck More than 90 percent of the private developments across the said. “So instead of trying to get five, 10 or 20 members and country at the time “squeezed in” its golf amenity around make it a huge amount of money on high-end housing, drawing premiums those individuals, we went to our on lot sales. entire membership. There have “We gave Tom a map for 465 acres and I kind of laughed at him been golf developments that have Quality is an understatement. Forest gone under who have tried to go to and said, ‘Don’t ever look at me and Creek is the only golf course community their membership to pay off bank say we could have done something in America with two layouts ranked among different,”’ Tuck said. “Being able debt and weren’t successful doing Golfweek’s Top 50 Best Residential Golf it,” added Tuck. “I don’t know of to go where he wanted to go gave Courses for 2012. another case like ours in the counhim the flexibility to exercise his try that has worked. That speaks to expertise and ultimately gave us the the value of the membership and quality that we’re lucky enough to have here. It worked out fantastic.” the members at this club.” Quality is an understatement. Forest Creek is the only golf Tuck refused to disclose how many members kicked in cash course community in America with two layouts ranked among in the form of a loan to the club, but said: “Let’s put it this way – it was not a majority, but it was a very strong percentage. It’s Golfweek’s Top 50 Best Residential Golf Courses for 2012. The North Course (opened in 2005) was ranked as the 36th best somewhat of a miracle to get this accomplished.” residential golf course in America for 2012, while the South It wasn’t the first time one of Tuck’s strategic decisions paid off Course (1996) was ranked 50th. in spades for Forest Creek. In the early 1990s, with golf real estate The rugged-looking North Course, accentuated with waste booming and Fazio-designed developments across the country drawing a premium for dirt, Tuck’s vision for two truly pristine bunkers and native grasses, has some teeth at 7,209 yards with golf courses wasn’t necessarily compromised by dollar signs. a slope rating of 144, including two par-3s on the back nine 28 | PinehurstMagazine.com

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that measure 212 and 215 yards. Meanwhile, the South Course has a more traditional Pinehurst feel with tall pines lining most fairways. Golfers also have an opportunity to settle the score further with a 19th hole, nicknamed the Hog Hole. “It’s a true golf destination place,” Fazio said of Forest Creek. “It happens to be fairly new, but it has that old-time feel. It is kind of like a modern-day of what Pinehurst was 100 years ago. It’s one of the unique, special places in golf. “I have a charity event every two years and bring people from around the country to different locations, and we play a two-day charity event on Fazio golf courses,” added Fazio. “We did it at Forest Creek a few years ago, and some of the people had never been to Pinehurst before; golf fanatics from the West Coast, the Northwest and the Southwest. They had always heard about Pinehurst but for some reason had never gotten there. After their experience they always ask: ‘When are we coming back here, when are we playing at Forest Creek again?’ And these are people who get to all the great places in the world.” Forest Creek has been selected by the United States Golf Association (USGA) to host the 2013 U.S. MidAmateur Championship in early October 2012. The Mid-Am will mark the first USGA championship for Forest Creek, though the club has previously hosted sectional qualifying for the U.S. Women’s Open and U.S. Girls’ Junior Championships. Forest Creek’s real estate is regarded as some of the best in the area, but it’s the “pure golf feel” that moves the meter among its prospective buyers. “We sell the sizzle before the steak,” added Chuck Cordell, the club’s director of marketing. “Someone will get interested because of the quality of the golf and play the courses and have dinner, and then we talk about real estate later because you do have to own property to be a member. Normally, that is the last piece of the puzzle, unlike most clubs, where people come in and start looking at real estate first. Here, that is often the last component.” PinehurstMagazine.com | 29

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Forest creek hasn’t been immune to the golf malaise in recent years. however, it has been positioned wisely in the marketplace, remaining an exclusively private venue. an equity membership remains at $75,000, and while the days of selling 40-50 memberships a year have passed, the club remains on pace to reach its cap of 750. “it is hard to be private,” tuck said. “the cost of being private from the get-go is very, very expensive. People do not realize how much money these type of clubs lose during the early years in trying to build the membership up. We were fortunate we were supported by some special people who liked the idea and we’ve been able to get a premium for our membership. there were lots of clubs throughout this country that were $200,000 five years ago to get in that are $25,000 and $50,000 today. it’s hard to have a truly private club…instead of just talking about it. “We chose not to discount just to try to bring people through the door,” tuck added. “We tried to maintain the quality. We have reduced real estate some, but not a great deal. integrity has been a hard thing to talk about in these times because everybody is having a hard time with these types of properties, but certainly those that maintain the quality of the project and the quality of the membership are going to come out stronger and better than those who have not.” cordell has started to see some substantial movement on the real estate side, saying interest rates are at all-time lows and there is a lot of “pent-up demand.”

“I showed up a year-and-a-half ago and saw what the program was, and that they were going to build units in the clubhouse, kind of like the old-time clubs did where they had rooms and places you could stay,” Fazio said.

“there are several factors that have contributed to potential members waiting to join and buy property here at Forest creek and other developments around the country,” cordell said. “some people are wanting to make sure the market is at six o’clock, while others are concerned about the general economic environment and the potential of another dip in the market. With that said, i have worked with several clients this fall who have bought houses, lots and memberships at Forest creek, and most have cited the fact they are buying now because they desire a certain lifestyle and do not want to wait any longer to start enjoying their dream. “Most people who can afford it are looking for the best club, courses and amenities they can find and that plays into our favor, also. our world-class amenities are all in place unlike some clubs around the country who are selling under the pretense that they will deliver clubhouses, fitness centers, practice areas, pools and tennis, etc. at a later date. We have 550-plus members who are enjoying Forest creek and all it has to offer right now.” 30 | PinehurstMagazine.coM

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Back to the spacious clubhouse, where Forest Creek’s passionate membership participation has been displayed in the form of 10 of the 11 suites (at more than $300,000 each) having been sold. One of the first buyers was none other than Fazio himself. “I showed up a year-and-a-half ago and saw what the program was, and that they were going to build units in the clubhouse, kind of like the old-time clubs did where they had rooms and places you could stay,” Fazio said. “I went up and looked at them and said, ‘Gosh, I’ve got to have one of these.’ What a great place to send your friends, my family, my boys… Sometimes you need excuses to get back to places. Fortunately for me, I’ve been to a lot of wonderful places, but the hard part is how do you get to all these places? And when you start getting older you starting thinking that time is going to run out if you don’t do these things. I had to do this, what a place to be.” “You’ve got to be proud to be in Pinehurst and the Sandhills because it’s such a wonderful place,” added Tuck. “And it’s wonderful to be looked at as being one of the better clubs in the community.”

The 432-yard 15th hole on the North Course at Forest Creek Golf Club.

PHOTOGRAPH © PHIL WIGGINS

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SANDHILLS WOMAN’S EXCHANGE

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January 31 10AM-3PM 15 Azalea Rd, Pinehurst 910.295.4677

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The

TAO of TRAVEL:

Enlightenments from Lives on the Road

By Paul Theroux >> Houghton Mifflin Harcourt >> 285 pages >> $25

book review by Robert Gable

Wanting to look around, to see something new, to see what else is out there, is an integral part of being human. This sense of adventure is what made our ancestors strike camp and head out for parts unknown; it’s what made Columbus sail the Santa Maria west to the New World. This craving is hardwired into our genes, and “The grass is always greener…” is a cliché because we all feel that way. Paul Theroux examines this inborn craving in his insightful book THE TAO OF TRAVEL. Theroux is the perfect person to examine the desires of the rambling human. He follows in the tradition of great travel writers like Richard Burton going up the Nile, or Bruce Chatwin gallivanting around the globe. He’s written 15 travel books (and 28 works of ﬁction), taken train trips across China and India, sailed around Greece, and taught English in Africa. He reads about traveling, writes about traveling, and does traveling like only a few people can. His familiarity with all things travel gave him the idea to write about the “spirit” or the “way” of traveling. After the preface, Theroux presents his ideas over the course of 27 chapters. After every third chapter he includes “Travel Wisdom” from eight writers (Henry Fielding, Samuel Johnson, Robert Louis Stevenson, Evelyn Waugh and others). These writers have an interesting take on what it means to be a traveler. The book ends with the acknowledgments and an index of people and places. As he writes in the preface (subtitled The Importance of Elsewhere), “The wish to travel seems to me characteristically human: the desire to move, to satisfy your curiosity or ease your fears, to change the circumstances of your life, to be a stranger, to make a friend, to experience an exotic landscape, to risk the unknown…” Later he notes, “This book of insights, a distillation of travelers’ visions and pleasures, observations from my work and others’, is based on many decades of my reading travel books and traveling the earth.” (He’s not kidding: he’s been on the road almost 50 years and writing about his travels for more than 40 years.) His own preference for traveling is by train (as mentioned in the chapter “The Pleasures of Railways”). For him, the best way to get a feel for the land, to see the terrain, and talk to the people, is on a train. He feels that “The train can reassure you in awful places – a far cry from the anxious sweats of doom airplanes inspire, or the nauseating gas-sickness of the longdistance bus, or the paralysis that afﬂicts the car passenger.”

The various chapters are interesting because he collects nuggets of wisdom from writers about all kinds of travel. Planned and structured travel is one kind (the tour-guided trip that covers 12 countries in 14 days). Ad-hoc and unstructured (riding a yak across the Himalayas and bunking with the sherpas) would be another kind. The snippets he presents here follow strange customs, unique approaches to life, new ways of thinking, dangerous places, and imaginary places. You can pick this up, start anywhere, and find a pithy comment from all sorts of writers. The aspect of food is a pleasure – or peril – of traveling discussed in Everything is Edible Somewhere. If you visit the Eskimos, their “cuisine” could well be the worst-sounding food around: tree bark, bear foot or seal fin, anyone? It rivals eating howler monkey eyeballs out of their sockets, as Redmond O’Hanlon had to during his Amazon trip. (Chomping down monkey hands ranks pretty high on the revolting scale, too.) Then again, fine dining depends upon your particular culture. In America, you just don’t think of eating the family pet. In China, however, dog or cat is a delicacy. “Perverse Pleasures of the Inhospitable” explains that part of us which is drawn to secretly enjoying the traveler’s misfortunes (much like the morbid curiosity that makes you slow down as you pass a car wreck). He notes, “You don’t want to hear about the traveler’s fun; what keeps you reading is the traveler’s misery, outrage and near-death experience.” Theroux also includes people who think traveling is an expensive waste of time. (Dorothy when talking about Kansas would agree: there’s no place like home.) He includes the clever quote from Samuel Johnson and his opinion of the Giant’s Causeway: “Worth seeing? Yes; but not worth going to see.” People in this camp would argue you travel around the world to ultimately find the treasure is, and always has been, right in your own backyard. Theroux would conclude that travel gets you out of a rut. You can witness another culture and realize things don’t always have to be done the same old way. There is more than one way to skin a cat (especially in China...). By learning from other places, we can get ideas on how to make our lives at home even better. PINEHURSTMAGAZINE.COM | 35

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calendar januar y • februar y

LUNCH & LEARN – DERMAL INJECTABLES | January 4 | 12:301:30PM | The Laser Institute of Pinehurst | 910.295.1130, www.pinehurstlaser.com

THE ROOSTER’S WIFE - HARPETH RISING | January 15 | 6:45PM | Poplar Knight Spot, Aberdeen | 910.944.7502, www.theroosterswife.org

AFTERNOON TEA WITH JOYCE RHEELING | January 17 | 2:30PM | Lady Bedford’s Tea Parlor | 910.255.0100

BUSINESS NETWORKING MIXER & EXPO | January 19 | 5-7:30PM | National Golf Club, Pinehurst | 910.673.2260

ALDENA FRYE-FLOWER ARRANGING WITH NATURAL MATERIALS | January 31 | 10AM-12PM | Ball Visitors Center Sandhills Community College | Register 910.695.3882

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CHOCOLATE FESTIVAL | February 11 | 10AM-4PM | 4111Airport Road, Pinehurst | pinehurstchocolatefestival.vpweb.com, 215-0557

NC SYMPHONY - FIREBIRD | February 9 | 8PM | Pinecrest High School Auditorium, Southern Pines | 877.627.6724

THE ODD COUPLE | January 12-19 | Temple Theatre | www.templeshows. com, 919.774.4512

27TH ANNUAL HEART ‘N SOUL OF JAZZ | February 10-11 | 8PM | Cardinal Ballroom, Pinehurst Resort | 800.487.4653, www.mooreart.org

SPELLING BEE FOR LITERACY | February 16 | 7 PM | Owens Auditorium SCC | 910.692.5954, www.mcliteracy.com

A complete list of events throughout the Sandhills can be found on our website

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SOUTHERN PINES talk of southern pines Temple Theatre Main Ofﬁce (919) 774-4512 Box Ofﬁce (919) 774-4155 templeshows.com

The Odd Couple

Country Royalty January 12-January 29 by Jason Petty and Carolyn Martin Hank Williams and Patsy Cline were the two biggest names country music has ever seen. Their lives were both fascinating and tragic. The legacy they left is still felt to this very day. Along with a live 5-piece band, Jason and Carolyn will take you back in time to when these country giants ruled the airwaves.

February 16 - March 4 By Neil Simonf Compulsive neat freak Felix Unger is thrown out of his house by his divorce bound wife. He wanders aimlessly through the streets of New York, before gravitating to the apartment of his best friend, Oscar Madison. Worried that Felix will try something desperate, Oscar himself in the process of being divorced by his wife, invites Felix to move in with him. Within a few days, this mismatched pair is on the verge of mutual murder: Felix cannot abide Oscar’s slovenliness, while Oscar is driven insane by Felix’s obsession with cleanliness.

stars

An evening of

Dancing with the Sandhills

When: January 29th, 2012 Where: The Grand Ballroom, Carolina Hotel, Pinehurst NC Time: 5:00 pm Cocktails, 5:45pm Dinner Seating, 7:00pm Show Dress: Festive Party Attire

Please join us as local leaders in the community will compete for your vote on the dance ﬂoor to raise awareness of mentoring and the impact it has on helping children reach their potential and become successful in school and in life. This evening of dining, dancing and fabulous fun will benefit our two mentoring programs –Communities In Schools and Moore Buddies. To check out our daring couples, reserve your seat and to vote, please visit our website today at www.sandhillsstars.com or call Cynthia Bradley at 910-295-1072.

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Spelling Bee for Literacy Thursday, Feb. 16, 7PM SCC Owens Auditorium Join Moore County Literacy Council for an evening of wacky fun and fundraising. To enter a team, email Nita (b2n@nc.rr.com). To get tickets, phone MCLC (910)692-5954. To learn more about MCLC and the Bee, visit www.mcliteracy.com.

ALDENA FRYE-FLOWER ARRANGING WITH NATURAL MATERIALS January 31, 10AM-12PM Ball Visitors Center Sandhills Community College. Call to register 910.695.3882.

VALENTINEâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S DAY CHAMPAGNE & PETIT FOURS AT BELL TREE TAVERN February 14 www.thebelltreetavern.com

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Painted cross necklace Cameron & Co.

Kate Spade multi-strand necklace Monkee’s of the Pines

Diamond and sapphire drop earrings hawkins & harkness

Sterling silver stackable bracelets Eve Avery

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Pearl multi-strand necklace, Stackable pearl and gold bangles One Eleven Main Ithil Metal Works handmade bracelet, Liquid Silver bracelets Framer’s Cottage

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Michael Kors watches in gold and rose gold Monkeeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s of the Pines

Rhinestone and leather watch Cameron & Co.

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eight

heartiest WINES of winter

Seasons change and when they do, so do the wines that we drink. Unless you live in a climate like Arizona or Hawaii, your selection of wines probably changes when the mercury drops. Climate and food choices have a huge impact on which wine to drink.

In July, that stew or thick soup seems stifling, but in January it becomes comforting and warming. Certain characteristics of wine match specific seasons, and in cooler weather we are looking for weight, viscosity and complexity rather that lightness and acidity. Here are my eight favorites for The Heartiest Wines of Winter:

CONCANNON CONSERVANCY CHARDONNAY CALIF., 2009, approx. $12 “Jeez Louise, this is good, ripe, rich Chardonnay and an amazing deal. It starts with a Burgundian nose of slight oak and citrus, then dances with intense layers of pear, vanilla and caramel toffee, a healthy dose of defining minerality throughout.”

YALUMBA “Y” VIOGNIER AUSTRALIA, 2010 approx. $12 “Fresh and juicy, delivering an exuberant mouthful of lemon peel-accented pear, almond and apricot flavors that linger beautifully.”

CHEVALIER DU PASTEL SAUTERNES BORDEAUX, 2009, approx. $16 (375ml) “This wine is adorned with a very pure, rich nose of pineapple, honey, acacia and lime cordial. The palate is harmonious, clean and precise. Honeyed fruits towards the rounded, pear and mandarin infused finish. Very fine.”

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PLUNGERHEAD ZINFANDEL LODI, 2009, approx. $17 “A decently made old-vine Lodi zinfandel that’s smooth and soft, with enough clove, cinnamon and brambly character to stand out and be paired with a range of smoked, grilled and marinated meats and other full-flavored food.”

SEIGNEUR DE FONTIMPLE VACQUEYRAS RHONE, FRANCE, 2009, approx. $20 “Fleshy and forward, with succulent plum and blackberry fruit laced with black tea and dark chocolate notes. this has a nice smoldering finish.”

KAIKEN ULTRA MALBEC ARGENTINA, 2009, approx. $22 “the palate is deep, saturated and layered, with dark berry and raisin flavors along with fig, spice and chocolate. Very rich and softly built; best if you like richer reds. Drink now.”

CASTELLO BANFI BELNERO TUSCANY, 2008, approx. $41 “Delivers an attractive mix of cherry, sage and pepper flavors, with muscular tannins adding structure. Shows very good length. think grilled steak. Primarily Sangiovese. Drink now through 2014.”

CROFT FINE TAWNY PORT PORTUGAL, approx. $16 “Ripe, sweet red berry fruit flavors and nuances of roasted nuts come together in this approachable, supple young port, ending on a fresh note of balanced tannins in a mellow finish.”

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Its causes, treatments and prevention BY KATE TURGEON

There’s that nagging back pain. You mention it to a friend and the questions begin. Where does it hurt? When did it start? Is it like a stabbing pain or more dull and steady? On a scale of one to 10, really, how much does it hurt? Your mind goes back to yesterday, last week or even last month. Maybe you lifted a heavy box the wrong way. You did a lot of driving and didn’t get much rest. It’s hard to pinpoint the exact cause, but you know it’s changing your life. Gym time isn’t as enjoyable, and you’re avoiding the grocery store and other usual destinations. You’re not alone. About 80 percent of the population will experience low back pain – the most common type of back pain – at some point in their lives. It’s the second most common reason that Americans see their health care provider. And it’s the number one cause of activity limitation in people younger than 45. Some back pain is acute and will go away on its own within a day or so. However, other pain is chronic and lasts much longer.

Causes

What caused that achy back? While each situation is different, there are some causes that medical professionals see often: • Poor posture. The culprit? Slouching for long periods of time. • Weak core muscles. • Repetitious movement. This may mean repeated lifting at work or home. It can also mean sitting at a desk for long periods of time. • Weight. Of course, a person doesn’t have to be overweight to have low back pain. But here’s where weight does matter: extra pounds will affect your ability to recover. And obesity stresses the back. • Strain or injury (such as an injury from a car accident). • Aging/Arthritis. • Herniated disc. • Compression fractures. • Illness. 50 | PinehurstMagazine.com

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Causes of low back pain can be complex, and feeling better is almost never a matter of simply holding your shoulders back.

Treatments Like causes, treatments vary by the individual, which is why it’s best to seek advice on your situation from a doctor or physical therapist. Things can be complex, and feeling better is almost never a matter of simply holding your shoulders back. Forget cookie-cutter solutions. each problem is unique and requires its own assessment. For example, some people have a ﬂexion bias (better with sitting; worse with standing), others have an extension bias (worse with sitting; better with walking). Tender points and tightness are other problems. According to WebMD, most low back pain may be treated with basic first aid. That means resting for a day or two, but trying to get up and active as soon as possible. The website also suggests that people with low back pain try: • Walking • Exercise (using a speciﬁc, core-stabilizing routine) • Massage • Acupuncture • Spinal manipulation

Reduce your risk of low back pain by: Maintaining a healthy weight. Exercising regularly. Lifting heavy objects carefully. Source: American College of Physicians

Good to know

If your back feels fine, you’re probably looking for that proverbial “ounce of prevention.” Consider this advice for preventing low back pain: • If you have a desk job, get up every 20 to 30 minutes to walk around. • Bend over backward. Literally. We spend so much time sitting, which is, really, bending forward for the spine. So if you did the opposite a few times by safely bending backward, that would help. • Lie down on your stomach from time to time and prop yourself up on a couple of pillows. Use the “tummy time” to read. • Add Pilates or yoga to your routine when possible. • Walk on ﬂat surfaces and swim when possible. • Avoid sit-ups. They’re not good for the spine. PIneHurSTMAGAzIne.cOM | 51

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and Joyce DeWitt perform to r te n u H b a T in Pinehurst

Talk about ringing in a new year. The Judson Theatre Company kicks off its inaugural season by bringing screen icon Tab Hunter and television favorite Joyce DeWitt to the stage in Love Letters, a play written by A.R. Gurney that was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize for drama. Pinehurst Magazine talked to DeWitt about the play, her career and the opportunity to work with Hunter. BY KATE TURGEON

PM: Tell readers about Love Letters. Joyce: It’s a very funny, romantic and touching play. It centers on two characters, Melissa Gardner and Andrew Makepeace Ladd the third. (Joyce quips his name in a serious tone and then giggles.) And it uses the epistolary form – that of letter writing – and the two actors sit side by side and they read the notes, and the letters and the cards that have been exchanged between them for nearly 50 years. They discuss their shared desires, and their disappointments and their dreams. They’re friends from little-kid time, from grade school on through adult life. And this sort of love that they have for each other is sort of pulsing underneath everything else that happens in their lives. It’s quite a marvelous piece of writing.

PM: Do you like your character, Melissa? Joyce: She’s very interesting. I like her a lot. She’s brave; and she’s a tell-it-like-it-is, take-no-prisoners and honest kind of human being. Andrew is a bit more conservative and plays by the rules, and she plays outside them. PM: How long have you known Tab? Are you excited to work with him? Joyce: Tab and I met on tour with neil Simon’s play Chapter Two - in 1980. He’s one of my favorite people on the planet; he’s just a delicious human being. Beautiful to watch. Wonderful on stage. [Working on Love Letters with him] is the end of a happy desire that started a number of years ago. I’m thrilled that he was available to do it. If people would care to see Tab and I together, this is it.

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PM: People recognize you from Three’s Company, but have you done more television work or stage work in your career? Joyce: Stage. I started working on the stage at 13. By the time I did Three’s Company, I’d already been a working actress for about 13 years. PM: Have you been to north carolina before? How do you feel about performing here? Joyce: My aunt, my father’s sister, and my cousin and her family do live in north carolina…so there are many reasons why this is a special opportunity. My experience in north carolina in seeing my family there is that people are so lovely…so it’s a very kind environment. It feels like a wonderful place to do a play that’s both touching and funny. I’ve not been to Pinehurst, but I know that it’s famous both for being enormously beautiful golf country and horse country. And I don’t think that you could put Tab Hunter in any area of the world that would make him happier than horse country. That’s actually how he was discovered...through his passion with horses. He was working in a stable in Hollywood.

My experience in North Carolina in seeing my family there is that people are so lovely…so it’s a very kind environment. ~Joyce DeWitt

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PM: In addition to working with Tab, you’ll be working with director Daniel Haley and executive producer Morgan Sills, who is originally from Pinehurst. How did that come about? Joyce: Morgan and I met several years ago when I was doing rose in Gypsy...[later] we re-encountered each other in new York quite by accident. He was talking to me about the inaugural production for the Judson Theatre company, and it was going to be Love Letters, and wondered if I’d be interested. [Later] I met Daniel… we all chatted and felt good about it. Morgan started to investigate Tab’s availability and it all came together. You just never know what life will deliver. PIneHurSTMAGAzIne.cOM | 53

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When the story broke that Tennessee women’s basketball coach Pat Summit had early onset dementia, the news networks went reeling. And for those of us at home, listening to her son state that one of the warnings was that she went from misplacing her keys once a day to three times a day, well, we took a big gulp and thought, “uh-oh”.

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The fact is many of us misplace our keys on a regular basis. I do it so often that when I actually find my keys in the spot they’re supposed to be, I’m genuinely surprised. And I know I’m not alone in my forgetfulness. An informal survey of both my male and female friends found that many of us often forget the name of the person we just met, the title of the movie we saw on our last date night, where we parked the car and whether or not we turned off the stove. Many of us leave sticky notes on the bathroom sink and the frige reminding us about an early meeting and even though we sometimes make lists for our lists, we still forget to grab that extra gallon of milk at the store. One friend confessed to only remembering that she’d forgotten to serve the broccoli she’d prepared with dinner upon discovering it the following morning, when she opened the microwave door to heat up some breakfast sausage. And it seems that the older we get, the more frequently our brain seems to lapse, making us wonder, is what we are experiencing normal?

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The Age Factor The answer is yes. Age-related memory loss is not only normal, but it is to be expected. And though it’s easy for us to acknowledge that the body ages – those extra few pounds, those wrinkles and that thinning hair make it hard for us to miss – it can be more difficult to accept that our brain also changes. The fact is that as we age, we lose brain cells and experience age-appropriate atrophy. We still form memories and new connections, but the process of remembering is slower. While there is no hard and fast rule as to when our slowing down may occur, neurologists agree that generally, we see the first shifts between the ages of forty and fifty. We then may see another decrease during the next decade, between the ages of fifty and sixty. So, if we’re thinking about enrolling in a college course, be prepared. It will likely take us more time to process the information than the average 20-year old sitting beside us.

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All Forgetfulness is Not Created Equal

Tips to Remember Better

EXPERTS offer the following tips to help us remember better:

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The key is recognizing when this slowing down is occurring at a much higher rate than what is considered normal. And what is normal? Experts state that it’s normal to have a lapse when you forget someone’s name or something you were supposed to do, and then, remember later on. It’s when a person is having trouble recalling information, forgetting things that they should know how to do, or asking for the same information over and over that there is cause for concern. For example, let’s say I’m getting ready to leave the house with my husband when I realize that I have once again misplaced my keys. With normal memory loss, I would retrace my steps, searching for them. And even if I received a phone call in the middle of my search and got temporarily distracted, ideally, upon hanging up, I should be able to recall what I was doing in the first place – searching for my keys so I could leave the house. But, if I was struggling with a more serious type of memory loss, I may forget to continue my search for the keys once hanging up the telephone. I may begin doing something completely unrelated, such as picking up the book I’ve been reading. And when my husband asks me what I’m doing, I would not recall that I had been both searching for my keys and planning on going out. While the above example could be indicative of early onset dementia, experts caution against jumping to any conclusions. There are dozens of reasons why you can have memory loss, including infections, brain cancer, medications and depression. And with early onset dementia, it’s not just forgetfulness. There may also be lack of concentration, a language dysfunction that involves more than forgetting a word, impaired judgment, behavior changes, and an inability to take care of daily activities. The bottom line is that if we’re concerned, or someone that knows us well (a spouse, child, or caregiver) is concerned, it makes sense to see your physician.

The Focus Factor So what about my friend who left her broccoli in the microwave overnight? She didn’t remember it was in there until the next morning, when she ended up staring straight at it as she went to pop in the sausage. Should she be concerned? The answer is no. For once she discovered the broccoli, she immediately knew why she had forgotten about it. ”I had turned the sound option off on the microwave when we had guests, so it wouldn’t be noisy. Without the bell, I didn’t think about the cooking cycle being over,” she says. “And, when the broccoli was cooking, I headed off to multitask, doing emails and such.” The key word in that sentence is multitask. The truth is, while it can be considered a gift to juggle multiple tasks at the same time, it also contributes to our forgetfulness. Neurologists agree that temporary memory lapses, especially those in our recent memories, can be made worse by distraction. And it can be even more challenging with age.

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Consider that our memory works like a file cabinet. First, our brain registers new information. Then, it gets filed away. However, if we don’t file properly because we aren’t focusing our full attention on what we’re doing – we put our cell phone down but don’t notice where we placed it, we impulsively leave the kitchen to take care of something in the garage, we look at a text message while the receptionist tells us our new appointment time, we’re preoccupied by bad news when someone is talking to us or we’re simply bored during a conversation – recent information may not get stored. Therefore, when we go to retrieve it, it’s just not in there.

Remember Better Fortunately, with just a little effort, we can improve our memories. An easy first step is making an effort to pay attention. When talking with someone, practice active listening by concentrating on what is being said. And when it comes to completing even the tiniest of tasks, take the time to devote your attention to what you’re doing at that moment. While we can’t fight Father Time, making positive lifestyle changes can also help us to remember better. Staying active, eating a healthy diet, getting organized and challenging our brains are just a few ways we can help keep our memory strong. And if you’re worried about forgetting these tips, relax. Just look at the previous page. We’ve written them down for you.

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LIVINGLarge If you’re nearing retirement, you’ve no doubt considered the health and wellness programs of many local communities. But what about the fun stuff? Like the food? The campuses? What to do when the grandkids visit? Those things matter too. Here, Pinehurst Magazine talks with ﬁve local communities, uncovering a lot of fun and a few surprises. BY CHRISTA GALA

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GOOD EATS You’d be surprised how good the food is – from your southern favorites to specialties from all over the globe, often prepared by award-winning chefs. Your stomach never had it this good.

The Culinary Cup two years running – and a bar to boot. Penick Village recently opened a new dining room that offers grill and bistro dining. administrators were a little dubious at first, wondering if residents wouldn’t prefer something more formal. But it’s a hit! “the residents really love it,” says Phil Martinello, marketing director at Penick Village in southern Pines, a ministry of the episcopal Diocese. “they also love the bar area being part of their dining experience. and with our culinary team winning the culinary cup two years in a row, we have expanded our menu to include a wide variety of meals. however, the residents still really love our fried chicken! i can attest to that.”

Don’t forgo the tiramisu the Village at Brookwood offers both informal and formal dining as well as top culinary accolades. “our chef is the winner of the 2009 triad chef of the Year,” says Patty scotten, director of marketing at the Village at Brookwood in southern Pines. “our residents enjoy our formal dining since it has a varied menu that caters to the sophisticated palette. it’s also nice because we have a tavern and beer and wine service at your table. By the way, the tiramisu is divine!

You won’t go hungry “our meals are served in a dining room with entrée options for all three meals,” says elizabeth ragsdale, community sales manager at Fox hollow senior Living community in Pinehurst. “snacks are also offered three times a day to each resident.”

Lots of choices “creativity, innovation and flavor are emphasized in our regional and seasonal menus,” says tressa hogan, sales and marketing manager of carolina house in Pinehurst. the menus emphasize in-house baking and fresh ingredients. “in fact, we get the most feedback on our culinary programs, including our homemade desserts,” hogan adds. “We also have optimum Life healthy entrees that comply with american heart association guidelines. and resident requests and recipes are added to menus within ten days.”

Considering a move? Think about… Penick Village: Providing independent living, assisted living, nursing care and now a new home health program. the latter enables folks to live somewhat independently in their unit a little longer. For more information, contact Phil Martinello or Julie tampa at 692-0382 or 692-0386 or visit www.penickvillage.org for more info. The Village at Brookwood: Providing independent retirement, assisted living, memory support and skilled nursing as well as a service in independent living called ViP, Village independent Plus, which provides daily, intermitted supportive services in your home or apartment. For more information, contact Patty scotten at 336-570-8440 or visit www.villageatbrookwood.org. Elmcroft Assisted Living and Memory Care: Providing assisted living and memory care services. the campus consists of two buildings, one that focuses on assisted living care with 46 apartments and one that focuses completely on memory care, called heartland Village, with 34 apartments. For more information, call Mary hannah Vaughan at 910-692-4928 or visit http:// elmcroftal.com/southern_Pines_assisted_Living_ communities_southern_Pines_senior_care.html. Carolina House: Providing personalized assisted living and memory care; does allow third-party visitation from community home health and hospice services. residents currently number 57 in 42 apartments total, 30 in assisted living and 12 in memory care. For more information, contact executive director terri robinson at 910-235-0700 or visit http://www.brookdaleliving.com/carolinahouse-of-pinehurst.aspx. Fox Hollow Senior Living: Providing assisted living and alzheimer’s care; currently with 77 residents. For more information, contact elizabeth ragsdale at 910-695-001 or visit www.foxhollowslc.com.

Stamp your Passport

Elmcroft Ireland Passport Meal

“once a month we have a ‘Passport’ meal where we feature a meal from a different country such as ireland, china or France,” says Mary hannah Vaughan, community relations director at elmcroft assisted Living and Memory care in southern Pines. “We have so much fun; we decorate according to the country, and each resident has a passport that we stamp at each of these special meals. consistently the meal we get the most positive feedback on is a southern favorite: Fried chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy, and green beans and biscuits with peach pie for dessert.” PinehurstMagazine.coM | 59

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THE CAMPUSES

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So, what’s the lay of the land? Big and roomy or small and cozy? As you might have guessed, there’s something for everyone.

Penick Village sits on 38 acres, bordering Weymouth House and the adjacent Weymouth Nature Preserve. “So there are plenty of opportunities to not only walk the gardens of the house, but the Preserve itself,” says Martinello, marketing director. “We also provide free membership to the fitness center as well as a free golf package.”

“The grounds of Elmcroft are one of our best features,” says Vaughan. “In Heartland Village (the memory care building), we have two beautiful secure courtyard areas that our residents are free to enjoy at any time. There is also an inviting front porch where our residents frequently sit with staff and talk about the past, their families and current events. Vaughan continues: “In our assisted living area, there is a sidewalk for those who would like to take a stroll, a beautiful courtyard and greenhouse for gardening and a front porch lined with beautiful white rocking chairs.”

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“Our grounds contain slightly less than 50 acres and house 110 apartments and 43 garden homes,” says Scotten of The Village at Brookwood. “There is still room for future development. We have a lovely fountain pond with walking paths on a well-lit campus. We also have campus sports, including shuffleboard, Bocce ball, chipping and putting, billiards, power and gentle walking, cornhole toss, ping-pong and chair volleyball.”

FUN STUFF WITH THE GRANDS When your grandkids and other family come to visit, what’s on the agenda? They’re ready for action and fun. What about…

“Our grounds are tucked back on a cul-de-sac surrounded by pines,” says Ragsdale of Fox Hollow. “The outdoor area features raised garden beds and a long stretch of patio with a variety of flowers and plants. Residents who enjoy walking have a feeling of safety and are able to enjoy nature at its best.

Walking and gardening “The Pinehurst Trail runs right behind our community,” says Hogan of Carolina House. “We have a sidewalk around the entire community for convenience and safety. It’s great for those walking in groups. We also have beautiful courtyards adjacent to both our assisted and memory care communities. These areas are gardened by our residents through our Life Enrichment Program.”

Splash! “Grandkids are welcome to join in the Life Enrichment program; however, we find the pool is the all-time favorite,” says Scotten of The Village at Brookwood.

Wii games “We have a room set up for the Wii computer games that are not only popular with the children but with the residents as well,” says Martinello of Penick Village. “Our library also has a children’s section with books and videos that the visiting grandchildren can peruse.”

Picking veggies from the garden “We have lots of activities for the kids, including Xbox and various children’s CDs, puzzles, board games, cards, Play-Doh, coloring books and paints,” says Hogan of Carolina House. “There are also three parlors for residents and family members to gather and watch TV. The residents love to show off the garden currently planted with collards, onions, radishes and year-round lettuce.”

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AMENITIES YOU’LL SAY YES TO There’s never a dull moment unless that’s how you want it – at least that’s what we discovered. When it comes to amenities, these communities get really creative.

Work it out “We have an indoor, heated saltwater pool so residents can enjoy swimming or exercising without worrying about damage to their skin, hair or clothes,” says Scotten of The Village at Brookwood. “The Wellness Center also has an aerobics room and resistive equipment room. The resistive equipment is controlled by air pressure so residents are not picking up heavy weights to make adjustments. We also have an on-site Wellness Coordinator who works personally with residents.” Scotten continues: “Our close connection to Elon University is great too; our residents stay involved through the cultural arts program, sports programs, lecture series’ or Life@Elon, the new lifelong learning program for people age 50 and older.”

Lots of in-house services “There are so many amenities at Fox Hollow, including housekeeping, laundry and a beauty shop,” says Ragsdale. “We also offer in-house physical, occupational and speech therapy to all residents. There is also a small group of Bridge players and there are a lot of chefs and artists here who enjoy baking the team a cake or cupcakes.”

Room for lots of folks “We now have our own cinema and a state-ofthe-art ‘Grand Hall’ where we can seat more than 300 people for chorus, concert and theatrical events,” says Martinello of Penick Village. “Our Tai Chi classes are popular, too. We know it’s important to provide a wide spectrum of activities, so we take folks to the symphony, in addition to having musicians here in our new hall. And not to leave the men out, we have men’s breakfasts with guest speakers as well as men’s outings.”

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FITTING IN You’re not in high school anymore, so why does the idea of moving suddenly make you feel like the new kid all over again? it’s pretty normal, actually. and you’re not alone. here’s what you can do:

“Join, join, join.” “Whether it’s a campus sport, an exercise class, a committee or an event, jump right in,” says scotten of the Village at Brookwood. “that’s how you meet people and begin to form the relationships that last.”

“Give it a chance.” “i think it’s the responsibility of both the community and the new resident to get involved,” says Vaughan. “at elmcroft, we have a welcoming committee that consists of a group of residents who are responsible for inviting new residents to group activities during their first couple of weeks. But it’s up to the new resident to say yes and give it a chance. i can’t count how many times the residents of elmcroft have told me that they were very nervous about leaving their home and how they didn’t really want to come to live here...then i hear them say they didn’t expect they would make so many new friends and they wish they had made the move sooner.”

“Ask questions.” “reach out and schedule a personalized visit,” says hogan of carolina house. “stay for lunch, meet the residents, join or volunteer with the life enrichment program, and, most importantly, ask questions.”

Accept invitations “new residents don’t have to wait long to feel at home,” says Martinello of Penick Village. “the residents are very welcoming and invite new arrivals to dinner as well as to their residences. there are also plenty of activities and volunteer programs to help new residents get acclimated.”

Accept help “change can be difficult, especially for some seniors; our goal is to learn about each resident as an individual and encourage the appropriate activities and involvement,” says ragsdale of Fox hollow.

SECOND WIND DREAMS “at elmcroft, we have a program called ‘second Wind Dreams,’” says Vaughan, “where we make a dream come true for a resident each month. our most recent was for Bubby scotti, an avid baseball fan. our healthy Lifestyles Director, roger Brittingham, along with his son Kevin, took Bubby to atlanta to see an atlanta Braves game. other dreams have included visiting the n.c. zoo, participating in a basketball practice and taking a resident to a race in rockingham. the second Wind Dreams program has allowed us to think outside the box to enhance the lives of our residents.”

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WHAT MIGHT SURPRISE YOU In most cases, our sources have worked in the care community industry for many years. We wondered what surprised them when they started working in the Sandhills. “Without a doubt, our ministry,” says Martinello of Penick Village. “We are a retirement community, yes, but one with a heart and soul. We’re truly set up to listen and take each individual or couple’s situation on its own merit. We believe that cookie cutters are only for cookies!”

The personal touch “How personalized the delivery of service is rendered,” says Scotten from The Village at Brookwood. “I had always worked for larger communities where service tended to be a little generic. All types of services at The Village are very consumer-centered. With its small size, The Village offers a real depth and breadth of services.”

The people “Every day that I come to work I am greeted by someone who I’ve grown to love,” says Vaughan of Elmcroft. “I share the day with people I enjoy talking to and laughing with. What also surprised me was how hopeful and secure the residents of Elmcroft make me feel – they lived through being parents, through careers, through retirement, through becoming grandparents, and they made it and are still happy and having fun.”

“IT’S LIKE FAMILY” “What surprised me the most was how home-like the community looked and how friendly not only the associates were, but the residents too,” says Hogan. “And this is true to this day. Carolina House is like one big family.”

Around the world “Each month our Life Enrichment program has a different theme in which we do special activities surrounding that theme,” says Hogan of Carolina House. “This year has been Amazing Places of the World. During the month of November we celebrated Parthenon, Greece and next it will be the Northern Lights in Canada. Examples of these celebrations can be found in our cultural expressions (a Greek wedding, for instance), Action Station (making stuffed grape leaves) and our monthly Celebrations Lunch where most recently residents enjoyed Greek dishes prepared by our chefs.”

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“It’s kind of a lift to see someone standing there who has gone through this, getting them to understand that once they go home they can have a much better life than they had before surgery,” Seiberling says.

ecause the effects of anesthesia were playing tricks on his short-term memory at the time, David Seiberling never quite got the name of the Zipper Club member who slipped into his hospital room after his triple bypass four years ago. He has no trouble recalling his visitor’s message, though. “He talked to me in a very positive way about getting through this (open-heart experience),” Seiberling says. “He talked about the importance of a positive attitude in allowing yourself to go forward.” Eventually, Seiberling started visiting with open-heart patients himself. He now spends a part of every Sunday with men and women who have just had surgery and, like his own visitor in March 2007, he shares a story of common experience and hope. “It’s kind of a lift to see someone standing there who has gone through this, getting them to understand that once they go home they can have a much better life than they had before surgery,” Seiberling says. “That’s the reason the Zipper Club works. I’ve been there. When I tell people that, and they see me standing there with a little color in my face, it makes everything a little more valid.” Each of the 14 groups that meet regularly at FirstHealth Moore Regional Hospital tries to make shared experiences “a little more valid” by offering education as well as support. They reach people with a variety of medical conditions. For people who are trying to give up tobacco, there’s the FirstQuit tobacco-cessation group. There is also a stroke group, a post-polio group, a fibromyalgia group, a cancer group, even a group for breast-feeding mothers and a Behavioral Services group for veterans of military operations dealing with posttraumatic stress disorder.

According to Ashley Atkinson, of FirstHealth Corporate Education, people who attend support groups meet peers who have traveled the same medical journey and have similar medical goals. Some also seek and find a “sounding board” for their thoughts and concerns. Each group is special in its own way, Atkinson says – not only in the disease- or condition-specific information that is shared, but also in the way participants react and respond to each other. “They come together in a common desire for support and education,” she says. People dealing with grief and loss find support and solace in groups, too, and the Grief Resource & Counseling Center at FirstHealth Hospice & Palliative Care has offered many support groups throughout the years. According to Tina Gibbs, associate director of FirstHealth Hospice, some offer information provided in a single session while others meet continuously, on a monthly or semi-monthly basis, over an extended period of time. Groups help people who have experienced similar losses work their way through different stages of the grief process, says Gibbs. Some target specific groups of people – men only, for example, or children or teens. ”These groups give people an opportunity to come together who share a common situation,” says Gibbs. “They have suffered a loss and are looking for information and support to help them cope with the changes they are going through.” PinehurstMagazine.com | 65

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All support groups, those focused on specific diseases as well as those dealing with grief and loss, allow their participants to develop bonds. “Friendships often result,” Gibbs says. “The group environment helps people realize that they are not alone in what they are going through and that there are resources available to help them.” That is especially true of the Zipper Club, one of FirstHealth’s oldest support groups. Now Moore Regional’s interim chief nursing officer, Cheryl Batchelor, R.N., was a clinical nurse specialist when she helped organize the group shortly after the start of the hospital’s open-heart program nearly 20 years ago. “The Zipper Club grew out of a desire of a few community members who wanted support for these patients during and after open-heart surgery,” she says. “The ability of Zipper volunteers to share their patient experiences with others provides both emotional and practical support.” A retired band director whose heart problems were discovered during a work-up prior to surgery for prostate cancer, Seiberling says many of the open-heart patients he has encountered throughout the years are anxious for the shared companionship that support groups provide. Discussing common experiences is “very healthy for them,” he says. “It makes them feel much more alive to be able to connect with somebody.”

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thank you with musical composition Zipper Club volunteer David Seiberling is a musician, conductor and teacher, a professional who has moved effortlessly from high school to university and community bands. He is also a composer and longtime admirer of “March King” John Philip Sousa. When Seiberling decided to thank four doctors for the care he received for two significant health issues several years ago, he turned to Sousa for inspiration. “When Sousa wanted to honor somebody, he would write a march,” Seiberling says. Seiberling did the same, dedicating his “C.H.U.K.” march to urologist Robert J. Chamberlain, Jr., M.D.; cardiologist Joseph F. Hakas, M.D.; Padiwath C. Ung, M.D., a specialist in internal medicine; and heart surgeon John F. Krahnert, Jr., M.D. “They are wonderful doctors and good people, and they did a lot for me,” Seiberling says. “This was my way of saying ‘thank you.’” Seiberling’s composition-inspiring medical episode began during a regular checkup with Dr. Ung, who sent him to Dr. Chamberlain for follow-up on a rising PSA. When a biopsy indicated prostate cancer, Seiberling was scheduled for surgery. A pre-surgical exam indicated a problem with his heart, however, so Seiberling went to Dr. Hakas. Dr. Hakas conducted several tests and then sent Seiberling to Dr. Krahnert for open-heart surgery, a triple bypass, in March 2007. Four months later, Dr. Chamberlain used the da Vinci Robotic Surgical System to remove Seiberling’s cancerous prostate. Both surgeries went very well. “I was playing golf within seven weeks (of the heart surgery),” Seiberling recalls. “In August, I was in Los Angeles on vacation.” Several hundred people attended the

July 4, 2007, premiere of Seiberling’s “C.H.U.K” (pronounced “Chuck”) march during a Carolina Hotel performance of the Moore County Concert Band. Dr. Hakas and Dr. Krahnert were in the audience and were honored by the tribute. “Mr. Seiberling is a very talented man, and the march is a testament to that,” Dr. Hakas says. “More impressive is his community service with the Concert Band and his frequent performances on trombone for our many churches. His positive outlook is infectious and always inspirational.” “It is enough gratification to see our patients doing well when we take care of them,” says Dr. Krahnert. “It’s a bonus when they thank us and appreciate what we did. David obviously took it to another level. His kind comments during his introduction of the music were very special to me as well.” Seiberling, who recently “retired for the third time,” spent 24 years as director of bands at Union Pines High School before two separate teaching stints at UNC-Pembroke. He has written other marches, but is especially proud of the “C.H.U.K.” composition – not only for its personal inspiration, but also for a teasing reference to Dr. Krahnert during the section dedicated to the veteran heart surgeon. The few measures occur near the end of the piece – a brief but recognizable variation on “Mack the Knife.”

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Yoga BY MICHELLE KAISER, HOT AND HEALTHY YOGA

ilent suffering. The trembler. Soul loss. Combat fatigue. Soldier’s heart. Estar roto. Heimweh. These are just a few of the names given to PTSD through the history of man and war. The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs reports that Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) occurs in about 12 to 20 percent of veterans of the Iraq war and six to 11 percent of veterans of the Afghanistan war. Yet nearly half of Afghanistan and Iraq veterans treated by the Department of Veterans Affairs suffer from mental health issues, and PTSD is the most common, affecting nearly 200,000. Researchers are also finding that combat troops are more likely to grapple with “survivor’s guilt” and moral conflicts from their time in the war zone. These issues can also lead to the development of PTSD. As one PTSD sufferer reported, “I don’t want to remember, but I can’t seem to forget.” PTSD is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying or traumatic event. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and anxiety as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event. There are many avenues for treatment through medications and psychotherapy. A little known treatment for PTSD that is beginning to receive much more attention is yoga. A recent study done by the U.S. Department of Defense in conjunction with Harvard Medical School has shown veterans who participated in yoga classes with meditation and breathing, done twice a week, for 10 weeks, had improvement in their symptoms.

In March of 2005 the founder of Central Mass Yoga and Wellness, Inc. started a class specifically for combat veterans, this program is known as the Yoga Warrior Program. This program is an evidencebased sensory enhanced Hatha yoga methodology developed to prevent or alleviate symptoms of combat stress (COSR) or posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). A study was conducted using this program with military personnel stationed in Kirkuk, Iraq. The study published in the January 2012 Journal of Occupational Health, was a formal collaboration between Yoga Warriors/Central Mass Yoga, the U.S. Army Institute of Surgical Research (USAIR) and Jon Greuel, Major, USAF, Principle Investigator.” Yoga Warriors incorporates “positive affirmations” and inspirational readings into the practice allowing the nervous system to work from both the “bottom up” (using the power of the body to influence the mind) and “top-down” (using the power of the mind to influence the body). The cognitive-behavioral technique of repeating positive statements affirms the underlying strength of the individual and nurtures more positive thoughts, attitudes and experiences to promote health and well-being. Teachers of the Yoga Warrior not only have their certification in yoga instruction (minimum of 200 hours) but 16 CEU’s through Yoga Warrior. Teachers are taught to be observant of their students’ reactions and adhere to a range of precautions in working with traumatized individuals. Hot and Healthy Yoga studio understands and respects the desire for anonymity with this class. Class times are not published for this class on our website or printed schedule. For information regarding the Yoga Warrior class please contact Hot and Healthy Yoga studio.

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Ringing in the Ears...

Can ANYONE

STOP It? Many people, at some point in their lives, experience a tempoaray ringing sensation in their ears. For most, it is simply a short-term annoyance. For others, however, the sounds can be so overwhelming that it seems to take over their life. Here are a few common questions about tinnitus.

What is tinnitus?

Does tinnitus case me to not hear well?

Tinnitus is simply the word for sounds that originate from within our ear or head. In other words, it is a sound that you hear that nobody else does. Some describe it as ringing, buzzing, hissing, or even like the ocean. Tinnitus is not a disgnosis; it is a symptom.

No, in fact it can be just the opposite. It is generally the fact that you are not hearing well that causes your ears to produce tinnitus noises. That is why it is so important to get your hearing tested if you are experiencing tinnitus.

What causes tinnitus? The exact causes of tinnitus remain somewhat of a mystery, but there are several things which can contribute. Hearing loss, particularly that caused by noise exposure, often brings on tinnitus. Excessive use of caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, asprin, diuretics and antibiotics can also cause tinnitus. Ear infections can sometimes contribute, and even wax on your eardrum can make ears ring.

What can I do about it? Again, the first step is to get your hearing tested. Also, you need to talk to your doctor or pharmacist about any medications you may be taking. It may require some lifestyle changes. Sometimes “masking” devices are recommended, which help cover up tinnitus. Most individuals with hearing loss and tinnitus who wear hearing aids report reduction or elimination of tinnitus. A recent breakthrough comes from advanced hearing instruments that make use of fractal technology and offer a harmonic sound program called “Zen”. This type of program generates soothing sounds and shows great promise as a sound therapy tool to relax the patients and distract their attention from their tinnitus.

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bleeding pines of turpentine A history of the Sandhills, depicted through story, music and dance, was presented at the Owens Auditorium on November 5th in the production of Bleeding Pines of Turpentine. 1. Dancers: Mimi Healy, Kylie, Elisa & Erin Arauz, Diana Turner-Forte, Kira Arauz, Veronica Boboige and Micalla Wilkson. 2. Writer and producer Ray Owen. 3. Actress Abigail Dowd. 4. Together-N-Unity choir.

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holiday party and open house On December 8th the Moore County Historical Association celebrated the season with its annual Holiday Party and Open House at the Shaw House in Southern Pines. 1. Historical Association president Steady Meares, Sue Pockmire and past president Joy Wise. 2. Bill Snelgrove as Squire Shaw, Carolyn & Colonel Vaughn. 3. Ruth Whiaker, Sarah Mathews and Elizabeth Henderson. 4. Kelly Hinson, Clemm & Dorothy Shankle and Bob Stewart.

christmas at weymouth Christmas at Weymouth began with a gala on November 30th. The 23-room Boyd home was decorated for the holiday season and music and refreshments were served during the four-day event. 1. Event co-chairman Jean Neil and Kathy Evans. 2. Jack & Diane McCarthy with Sally & Ed Frick. 3. Hope & Michael Price and Ted & Pat Dawes. 4. Rita McKay, Mallory Hickey and Diana Farr. 5. Susan & Norman Zanetti. 6. Ralph & Vivian Jacobson. 7. Joan Latta and Anne Howell. 8. Richard & Susan LaPato with Mary Ann & Dick McCrary.

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horse farm tour

On October 16th the 2011 Horse Farm Tour was held to benefit Prancing Horse, Inc, the center for therapeutic horseback riding.

1. Old Goat Farm owners Bill & Camilla Holmes with Frank Rowley. 2. Franz, Stefanie, Hailey & Adysen Robinsons. 3. David & Hailey Price. 4. Pat Newsome & Dale.

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top hat and tails On December 5th, Animal Advocates of Moore County (AAMC) held its biggest fundraiser – Top Hat and Tails...Puttin’ on the Ritz at the Fair Barn in Pinehurst. Monies raised by AAMC help animals in need. 1. AAMC president Susan Vance and Director of Operations Barb Sheperd. 2. Sandy William and adoptable Wrigley. 3. Connie Sutton, Billie Ertter, Ron Cole, Lori O’Maille. 4. Little Miss Noel Hannah Davis, Miss Moore County Summer Hennings and Carolina Princess Kendall Hilliard.

pinehurst garden club 30th anniversary On October 19th the Pinehurst Garden Club had a luncheon at the Pinehurst Members Club to celebrated its 30th anniversary. 1. President Molly Rowell with 2011 scholarship recipient Aviva Michelle Lee. 2. Members with 15 or more years of service to the garden club: Peggy Schirmer, Gay Griffith, Carol Van Zanten, Betty Hurst, Jean Gauthier, Dolores Muller, Helen Brissette and Alice Wood. 3. Donna May, Sally Bold-Frick and Marge LaVoie. 4. Mary Jane White, Estelle Menke, Alice Campbell and Sue Mitchell. 5. Sue Maguire, Peggy Lucey, Alice Burrell, Cookie Kremer and Ronnie Ogden. 6. Susan Zanetti, Carole Barber and Victoria Flaherty. 7. Pat Tomasetti, Linda Donnelly and Eleanora Voelkel. PinehurstMagazine.com | 71

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christmas carriage parade The Moore County Driving Club held its 25th Annual Christmas Carriage Parade in Southern Pines on December 10th. 1. Santaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s elf drives Mr. & Mrs. Claus and Florene Maroncelli. 2. Abby Shultes and Mary Ellen Bailey. 3. Candy & Bill Carden driving Mike and Ike. 4. Lou Ann Sebolt and Desi.

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creative christmas table On November 20th the Moore County Extension and Community Association held their Creative Christmas Table event at Little River Farms Resort. Proceeds provide scholarships to Sandhills Community College culinary students. 1. Agnes Evans, Cookie Kremer, Pud Kent and Carolyn Register. 2. Barbara Rueb, Julie Gilbert, Karen Gilbert, Annette Smith, Diane Koltunovich and Diane Weaver. 3. Barbara Brando and Bunny Sinclair. 4. Emilie & Jim Simeon. 5. Jane Waldemar, Peggy Hicks and Celia Rector. 6. Karyn Ring, Pam Garty & Lynne Phifer. 7. Hartley Fitts and Mary Chriscoe. 8. Marilyn Grube, Jane Jackson and Cindy Burton.

phi beta kappa wine tasting On November 2nd the North Carolina chapter of Phi Beta Kappa hosted a wine tasting at Elliotts on Linden. The event raised money for scholarships. 1. Event organizers Ann McAllister and Sharon Berkshire. 2. Liz Denman, Elizabeth Kimsey, John Owen and Russell McAllister. 3. Jane & Pete Moss. 4. Dick Berkshire, Henry Brown and Marcie & Peter Hill.

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animal advocates wine gala

On October 12th The Fresh Market in Southern Pines hosted the Animal Advocates of Moore County Wine Gala. 1. Animal Advocates Director of Operations Barbara Shepard and President Susan Vance. 2. Frank & Linda Guerra and Maureen Tkacz. 3. Jonathan & Liz Richmond with Ed, Barbara & Elizabeth Tem.

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miles for mira Raising money to provide guide dogs for visually impaired children is the mission of Mira Foundation USA. On October 29th the 3rd Annual Miles for Mira fundraiser was held at Sandhills Community College. 1. Judging the best Halloween costume for children and dogs was Peggy Baldwin and Dr. Beth Lyerly; with them is Mira executive director Beth Daniels. 2. Panera Bread provided breakfast: Brandon & Leanne Bassett and store manager Peter Ross. 3. Two of the recipients of guide dogs: Darcie Jordan and her dog Navy and Michael Moore & Robbie. 4. Timothy Egan & Davy.

santa visits toy shop On November 25th, Santa visited the Little Toy Shop in Southern Pines. He was able to hear first-hand what the children wanted for Christmas. 1. Trena Gaupp, Santa, Rhys Blevins & Zane Bonsal. 2. Garrison, Quinn, Kate, Emma, & Jeff Mullis with Rachel Levy. 3. Ella & Christine Hall. 4. Jason & Jennifer Koepp with Santa. 5. Cindy, Amelia & Kevin Fetzner. 6. Jennifer, Violet & Ireland Roberts. 7. Hale & Josh Hunt with Santa. 8. Santa with Jenny Ihrig. PinehurstMagazine.com | 73

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Assorted cupcakes C Cups Cupcakery

Kate Spade ring Monkee’s of the Pines

great VALENTINE’S gifts Diamond ring Hawkins & Harkness

Forever Love, artficial rose Le Feme Chateau

Lollia bath products The Shops of Fairway Village

Wine stopper and stand Opulence of Southern Pines

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